Relationships at Work - the Employee Experience and Workplace Culture Podcast

This is part 2 of a 4-part conversation on the work leaders need to do to incorporate belonging in the workplace with author and research Dr. Beth Kaplan. Each episode explores a different theme—clarity, self-awareness, team dynamics, and workplace culture.Before we can lead others into belonging, we need to start with ourselves. This episode explores how self-worth, trauma, and emotional safety play a foundational role in how we show up as leaders. We look at the internal work required to foster belonging—not as a reward for performance, but as a decision to value who we are.

Belonging isn't the same as fitting in—and the difference matters. In this episode, we define what belonging truly is and how most organizations misunderstand or misuse the term. We explore why clarity around belonging matters and how vague values and misaligned language can erode trust and workplace culture.

In this episode of Relationships at Work, we explore what it truly means to speak boldly in the workplace—and why it's more about connection than confrontation.Joining us is Verna Myers, renowned inclusion strategist, author, and former Netflix VP of Inclusion Strategy. She shares powerful lessons on how to challenge harmful behaviors, speak truth to power, and communicate across difference with clarity and courage. From managing emotions to knowing when to pause, Verna offers strategies for bold communication that builds trust—not fear.

This is part 4 of a 4-part series on leading through high pressure at work, with licensed psychologist Dr. Janna Koretz. Each episode explores a different theme—clarity, self-awareness, team dynamics, and workplace culture.Tired of waiting for HR or leadership to fix your toxic work culture? Dr. Janna Koretz gets real about what organizations won't do for your mental health—and how you can still thrive. We dig into the power of micro-shifts, how to lead by example, and why “playing the game” sometimes isn't avoidable. For leaders trying to be human in high-demand workplaces, this episode is a guide to navigating culture without losing yourself.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

This is part 3 of a 4-part series on leading through high pressure at work, with licensed psychologist Dr. Janna Koretz. Each episode explores a different theme—clarity, self-awareness, team dynamics, and workplace culture.High pressure leadership isn't just about surviving stress—it's about not spreading it. Dr. Janna Koretz shares how leaders can show up differently in tense environments and still support performance. You'll learn how self-regulation, calm communication, and empathy can ripple through a team—even if no one else is doing the work. Whether you're managing during crisis, growth, or daily chaos, this episode offers practical ways to lead without losing your people.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

This is part 2 of a 4-part series on leading through high pressure at work, with licensed psychologist Dr. Janna Koretz. Each episode explores a different theme—clarity, self-awareness, team dynamics, and workplace culture.Ever climbed the career ladder—only to realize it's leaning against the wrong wall? Dr. Janna Koretz explains how values misalignment—not lack of resilience—drives burnout in high pressure jobs. In this episode, we explore how self-awareness, flexible thinking, and small mindset shifts can transform your mental health, even when your workload won't change. For leaders, professionals, and perfectionists wondering “Why doesn't this feel good?”—this one's for you.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

This is part 1 of a 4-part series on leading through high pressure at work, with licensed psychologist Dr. Janna Koretz. Each episode explores a different theme—clarity, self-awareness, team dynamics, and workplace culture.What does “high pressure” actually mean in the workplace? In this episode, Dr. Janna Koretz—licensed psychologist and founder of Azimuth Psychological—joins host Russel Lolacher to reframe how we define stress at work. From Amazon warehouse workers to C-suite execs, no role is immune. You'll hear why blanket definitions don't work, how our relationship to pressure is deeply personal, and why even successful professionals end up burned out and lost. This is a must-listen for anyone navigating toxic hustle culture, performance anxiety, or leadership overwhelm.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Change is constant—but connection doesn't have to suffer.In this episode of Relationships at Work, Russel Lolacher explores how leaders can build trust and protect the employee experience during times of change. Guest Dr. Devann Steele shares how transparency, empathy, and values-based communication can make or break your leadership.Learn how to:Avoid silence during uncertaintyCommunicate even when you don't have all the answersLead with “we” instead of “me”Match your messaging to the scale of changeCare for yourself while caring for your teamFor leaders navigating change, this is the communication episode you didn't know you needed.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It's packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Forget the posters and buzzwords—real culture change starts with behavior, not branding. In this Relationships at Work episode, Kyle McDowell shares how principle-based leadership can reshape toxic or misaligned cultures by setting consistent expectations for how people work and lead. We explore how to create change at the team level (even without CEO buy-in) and why principles can ripple through an entire organization—and even into our personal lives.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Great teams don't just work together—they challenge each other, support each other, and hold each other accountable. In this episode of Relationships at Work, Kyle McDowell explains how embracing challenge and setting clear expectations builds deeper trust, stronger team bonds, and long-term alignment. From confronting resistance to leading by example, this is a masterclass in principle-based team leadership.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Leadership isn't a title—it's an inner journey. In this Relationships at Work episode, Kyle McDowell shares why self-reflection is the essential first step to leading with integrity and impact. We talk about ego, self-awareness, the “mirror of truth,” and how knowing your blind spots isn't weakness—it's leadership strength. If you want to lead others, you have to lead yourself first.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

What is principle-based leadership—and how is it different from values or mission statements? In this episode of Relationships at Work, Kyle McDowell, bestselling author of Begin With We, shares how leaders can gain clarity by establishing a framework for how teams behave, collaborate, and succeed. We explore the origin of his 10 WEs, why clarity fuels accountability, and how leaders can set the tone for excellence—by defining the how, not just the what.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

This is part 1 of 6 of our Workhuman LIVE series. In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher is joined by workplace culture and leadership expert Jason Lauritsen to explore the real obstacles leaders face when trying to build meaningful connections at work. From poor relationship training to fear of feedback, Jason breaks down why so many managers get connection wrong—and what to do about it.We talk about the role of self-awareness, why cultural misfits suffer in silence, how trust is lost through delegation, and what connection really means in leadership. If you're looking to improve employee experience, boost psychological safety, and become a more human-centered leader, this episode is for you.

This is part 4 of a 4-part series on reputation management with Charlotte Otter, author of We Need New Leaders. Each episode explores a different theme—clarity, self-awareness, team dynamics, and workplace culture.Culture is shaped by what leaders do—not what's written on the walls. In this culture-focused conversation, Charlotte Otter joins Russel Lolacher to explore how reputation exposes the health of workplace culture. From social media transparency to unwritten norms and cross-functional relationships, they discuss the reputational risks leaders face when they don't match their messaging with their behavior.✅ How culture and reputation are interconnected ✅ Why unwritten norms influence perception ✅ Managing reputation during change and missteps ✅ The role of consistency and communication in culture-buildingAnd connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

This is part 3 of a 4-part series on reputation management with Charlotte Otter, author of We Need New Leaders. Each episode explores a different theme—clarity, self-awareness, team dynamics, and workplace culture.Reputation isn't built behind closed doors—it's forged in everyday moments with your team. In this episode, Charlotte Otter shares how leaders gain or lose trust through their behavior, and how a bad reputation can create a fear-based culture that kills innovation. Together with Russel Lolacher, she breaks down how psychological safety, vulnerability, and honest feedback are essential for leadership success.✅ How fear damages culture ✅ Why vulnerability is key to recovery ✅ Leading with consistency and empathy ✅ What your team actually remembersAnd connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

This is part 2 of a 4-part series on reputation management with Charlotte Otter, author of We Need New Leaders. Each episode explores a different theme—clarity, self-awareness, team dynamics, and workplace culture.Before you manage your reputation—know yourself. In this episode, Russel Lolacher and Charlotte Otter explore how self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and personal responsibility form the foundation of a strong leadership reputation. Drawing from Charlotte's work with executive clients and her book We Need New Leaders, they discuss why personal brand, inner work, and behavioral alignment are essential for leadership growth.✅ Why self-audit is difficult but necessary ✅ The impact of therapy, coaching, and lived experience ✅ How triggers and empathy shape leadership reputation ✅ What personal brand has to do with your careerAnd connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

This is part 1 of a 4-part series on reputation management with Charlotte Otter, author of We Need New Leaders. Each episode explores a different theme—clarity, self-awareness, team dynamics, and workplace culture.What is reputation in the workplace—and how should leaders define and manage it? In this clarity-focused episode, Russel Lolacher speaks with Charlotte Otter, reputation strategist and author of We Need New Leaders, to uncover the fundamentals of reputation management. From the definition used by scholars to the realities of perception, this episode breaks down the importance of consistency, narrative, and trust for every leader.✅ What reputation is (and isn't) ✅ How perception drives opportunity ✅ Why leaders need clarity on their narrative ✅ The role of values and the “say-do” gapAnd connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Unseen. Unheard. Unappreciated.It's the feeling behind the sighs, the silence, and the sudden sick days. And according to research, it's one of the top reasons employees leave.In this replay episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher explores the all-too-common experience of feeling undervalued at work—and the leadership blind spots that let it happen. Backed by Gallup and Workhuman data, he shares the nine warning signs that your employees may not feel seen or supported, from subtle disengagement to visible burnout.You'll learn:What behaviours signal an employee feels disconnected or dismissedWhy “quiet quitting” might be more about leadership than lazinessHow under-recognition is a silent killer of retention and trustWhat actions leaders can take to reestablish connection and careThis episode is a call to stop missing what's right in front of us—and start leading with intention before it's too late.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Conflict doesn't always show up as yelling matches or angry emails. Sometimes it's silence in a meeting, a passive-aggressive Slack message, or the word “fine” said through gritted teeth. In this replay episode of Relationships at Work, we're digging into the real roots of workplace conflict—and how to better recognize, prevent, and resolve it.I'm joined by Carol Bowser, a workplace conflict expert, mediator, speaker, and former employment lawyer who's spent decades helping organizations navigate tough conversations. Together, we explore how conflict lives in hybrid and remote work environments, why “win-win” might set the wrong expectations, and how leaders can read the emotional room—even when it's on Zoom.You'll learn:Why trust breaks down before conflict shows upHow power dynamics and organizational culture shape tensionThe one question every leader should be asking to avoid conflict escalationWhat it actually means to resolve conflict (spoiler: it's not always kumbaya)If you've ever struggled to address tension on your team, felt unsure about when to step in—or stepped in too late—this episode is your leadership toolkit for navigating the uncomfortable with more clarity and connection.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It's packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

In this solo episode, host Russel Lolacher shares a personal and pivotal shift in the Relationships at Work podcast—introducing a new episode format designed to better serve leaders who want to improve workplace culture, build meaningful connections, and avoid leadership blind spots.You'll learn the why behind the change, how the show has evolved from a simple curiosity into a transformative leadership resource, and what to expect going forward: ✔️ Four themed episodes each week—Clarity, Relationship with Self, Relationship with Team, and Organizational Culture ✔️ Bite-sized leadership insights you can actually use ✔️ Friday solo episodes with mindset nudges to reflect and rechargeIf you've ever asked, “What does leadership really look like day to day?”—this episode is for you.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Leadership can be isolating—even when you're constantly surrounded by people. In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher speaks with licensed psychologist, executive coach, and TEDx speaker Dr. Adam Dorsay, author of Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the Four Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love.They explore why loneliness in leadership is so common, how disconnection silently affects workplace culture, and what organizations can do to foster genuine human connection at work.Dr. Dorsay brings insights from neuroscience, psychology, and his own work with executives and tech professionals to break down the four types of connection—and how self-connection forms the foundation for psychological safety, belonging, and trust on teams.

Leadership can be incredibly lonely—especially when the people above you aren't actually leading. In this solo episode of Relationships at Work, Russel Lolacher explores the hidden loneliness of good leaders and what to do when you're surrounded by hierarchy, but not support.You'll hear:Why great leaders often feel disconnected in toxic or stagnant systemsThe toll of misaligned leadership expectations on mental healthWhy building community sideways—not just upward—is essentialThree actionable ways to build or find your leadership networkIf you're a people-first leader frustrated by the lack of leadership around you, this episode is your reminder: you're not alone—and your leadership community may be closer than you think.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Becoming a leader for the first time can feel like being dropped into the deep end—especially in a remote or hybrid world. In this episode of Relationships at Work, principle of The Collective Good LLC Britt Hogue joins Russel Lolacher to explore what new leaders often get wrong, and how intentional leadership can build trust and team connection, even when everyone's not in the same room.They discuss:How remote work exposes lazy leadership habitsWhy relationship-building must be intentionalWhat new leaders should prioritize in their first 90 daysHow culture starts with consistent action, not just messaging

It's easy to label. It's harder to understand.“Our culture is toxic.” “That leader is horrible.” “This system is broken.”But are they? Or are we missing the nuance and context that give us the real story? In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher challenges the rise of black-and-white thinking in leadership and workplace culture. He explores how embracing nuance and context isn't just helpful—it's essential for meaningful, human-centered leadership.With real-world examples and actionable strategies, you'll learn:Why binary thinking breaks down effective leadership.How to ask better questions before making assumptions.What situational awareness actually looks like in practice.This episode is a call to leaders to get curious, stay present, and stop letting oversimplified narratives drive decision-making.Because great leadership doesn't live in absolutes. It lives in the grey.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher welcomes Fabrice Desmarescaux — McKinsey partner, leadership advisor, and author of The Art of Retreats — to explore how ancient wisdom can help solve very modern leadership challenges.Fabrice draws from a range of traditions, from Eastern philosophies like Taoism and Buddhism to Western teachings and monastic practices, to show how leaders can reconnect with purpose, presence, and clarity in a fast-paced, performance-driven world.

At Workhuman LIVE, experts and thought leaders shared practical insights on the future of work—uncovering hidden potential, redefining psychological safety, and building resilient teams equipped for change. In this episode of Relationships at Work, I break down the biggest takeaways across leadership, DEI, artificial intelligence, and resiliency. Learn how brave spaces challenge comfort, why AI demands clean data, and how true resilience is built through preparation and growth.Discover insights that will help you lead with purpose and transform your workplace culture. Tune in.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

In this episode of Relationships at Work, we're diving into the almost-forgotten power of handwritten communication with Amy Weinland Daughters, award-winning author of Dear Dana and passionate advocate for intentional connection.Amy shares how a simple handwritten note can redefine relationships in the workplace, cutting through the noise of digital communication to create moments that are tangible, memorable, and deeply personal. We explore how these small gestures of appreciation can override mistakes, build trust, and even boost retention, all with just a pen and a few minutes of time.Discover why handwritten notes are more than just ink on paper—they are symbols of care, recognition, and leadership that last far beyond the moment they're received.

We've all heard it before—promises of change, assurances of action, and commitments to improvement from leaders. But too often, words are mistaken for progress. In this episode of Relationships at Work, we're diving into the dangerous gap between talking and doing in leadership. When leaders say, "We're working on it," but nothing changes, trust erodes, and relationships suffer. We explore real-world scenarios like resolving workload issues, addressing toxic behavior, and improving feedback loops, and we provide actionable steps leaders can take to ensure their words match their actions. Because in leadership, talking isn't enough—doing is what matters.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

In this episode of Relationships at Work, I sit down with Amri B. Johnson, executive advisor, organizational consultant, and founder of Inclusion Wins, to explore what it truly means to systemize inclusion. We break down his Emergent Inclusion System—an approach that goes beyond checkboxes and surface-level DEI initiatives to create lasting, impactful change in the workplace.Amri shares how organizations can operationalize inclusion through everyday practices, empowering skilled operators to carry the message forward, and building resilience that strengthens through adversity. We also discuss the importance of cultural intelligence, accountability through action—not just mandates—and how real inclusion is built into the DNA of how we work, lead, and connect.If you're looking to understand how to make inclusion sustainable, actionable, and transformative, this episode is your blueprint.Listen now and discover:How inclusion systems create lasting impactThe role of cultural intelligence in driving changePractical ways to operationalize inclusion dailyWhy accountability is a shared, ongoing processJoin us as we reimagine what inclusion can—and should—be.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It's packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

When we show up to work, we bring expectations—with how we'll be treated, how we'll grow, and how we'll be led. But what happens when the person responsible for our development… isn't really a leader at all? In this solo episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher unpacks the frustration that comes when leadership expectations crash into the reality of untrained, unresponsive supervisors. He offers tangible advice for how employees can lead up when support is lacking—and how real leaders can better manage the expectations placed on them by staying curious and communicative. Because not every manager is a leader, but every leader has the opportunity to rise to the challenge.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

What does it mean to be a neuro-fit leader? In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher is joined by trauma-sensitive, polyvagal-informed leadership and neuro coach Mallory Meyer to unpack the real power of nervous system regulation in leadership. Together, they explore why leaders can't think their way to better leadership — they have to feel it. Mallory shares how neuro-fitness supports emotional agility, improves decision-making, and helps leaders show up with authenticity and calm in high-stress environments. They also discuss: – Why resilience gets misused in the workplace – What co-regulation looks like in teams – Tangible tools to reset your nervous system in real-time – The connection between diversity, performance, and embodied leadership – How modeling neuro-fitness can shift organizational culture from the inside out If you're tired of performative leadership advice and ready for something rooted in humanity, science, and practical tools, this episode delivers.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It's packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

After 250 episodes of exploring leadership, workplace culture, and the human side of work, certain truths just won't stay quiet. In this solo episode, host Russel Lolacher reflects on the six most consistent, hard-earned lessons that keep showing up — no matter the industry, the title, or the team. From the emotional impact of leadership to the systems that silently shape it, these are the truths every leader needs to face if they want to do better, lead better, and build workplaces worth staying in. This isn't a checklist — it's a challenge.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

urpose isn't a poster on the wall — it's an everyday practice. In this episode of Relationships at Work, Dr. Alise Cortez joins Russel Lolacher to explore how leaders can move beyond surface-level engagement and truly ignite meaning, connection, and inspiration in the workplace.Drawing from her research in logotherapy, workplace meaning, and leadership development, Alise shares: ✅ Why leaders must first be inspired by their own lives ✅ How to embed purpose into workplace culture from onboarding onward ✅ The critical role of recognizing and rewarding kindness, empathy, and courage ✅ How relationships can elevate — or erode — a sense of meaning at work ✅ What to do when your purpose no longer aligns with your workplace ✅ Practical ways leaders can grow people into their fullest potentialThis isn't about slogans or vision statements gathering dust. It's about operationalizing humanity in how we work, lead, and connect — every single day.Whether you're a leader ready to elevate your team, or an employee looking to reconnect to your own sense of purpose, this conversation will give you the tools — and the hope — to start.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It's packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

We've all heard the classic career question: “What's your five-year plan?” But in this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher flips it on its head—asking leaders to consider their five-year plan for their employees. Why? Because true leadership isn't reactive—it's intentional, strategic, and supportive. Russel explores how leaders can align employee growth with organizational goals, share industry insights, and build flexible development roadmaps. It's time to turn career conversations into shared journeys, not solo missions.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

What if the way we talk about work is limiting how we lead it?In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher sits down with Graham Abbey—Chief Executive of Farleigh Performance and Professor in Practice at the University of Bristol Business School—for a deep dive into complexity in today's organizations. From metaphors that reveal our worldview to the mechanical mindset still dominating leadership, Graham challenges how we think about control, purpose, ambiguity, and personal growth.Together, they explore:Why leadership isn't about control—but about creating the conditions for emergenceHow metaphors and narratives quietly shape relationships at workWhy organizations may be capping our growth instead of nurturing itThe generational evolution in complexity thinkingA practical acronym for building complexity capacity: H.A.R.D.If you've ever felt like your workplace is running on outdated metaphors or you're stuck solving the same problems over and over, this conversation will reframe how you see leadership—and what's possible.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It's packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Caring makes you a better leader. But what happens when it starts to hurt?In this solo episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher explores the emotional toll of leadership when we care too much. While empathy and passion can strengthen our connection with teams, they can also lead to burnout, blurred boundaries, and frustration—especially when others don't seem to care as much.Russel shares the signs of compassion fatigue and offers practical ways to protect your mental health while staying engaged as a leader. If you've ever felt like you were carrying the weight of your workplace on your shoulders, this episode is for you.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher sits down with Derrick Mains — speaker, consultant, and CEO of The Process Fixer — to dive into the power of building human-centered systems at work. Derrick shares why most businesses are unintentionally designed for failure, the hidden costs of command-and-control leadership, and how shifting from goals to aims can unlock unprecedented performance.From real-world stories about industrial fans and sticky notes to lessons from WWII shipbuilding and Japanese manufacturing, Derrick makes the case for structure over chaos, fresh perspectives over legacy thinking, and why we urgently need a new version of capitalism — one that actually supports people.Whether you're a leader looking to fix broken systems or someone wondering why your workplace feels harder than it should, this conversation will challenge what you think you know about efficiency, accountability, and culture.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It's packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

You've defined your values. But are you still living them — or just assuming you are?In this episode of Relationships at Work, we unpack the overlooked side of values in leadership. Not the usual “define your top five” — but the deeper, messier question of alignment. Are your values still showing up in how you lead, decide, and interact? Or have they quietly drifted out of sync with your environment… and yourself?This episode explores how to test your values at work, why misalignment sneaks up on us, and how self-awareness and situational awareness play a critical role in staying grounded as a leader. Because living out of sync with your values doesn't just affect you — it erodes trust, clarity, and the culture you're trying to build.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

In this episode of Relationships at Work, Russel chats with Sean Vassilaros, CEO and co-founder of Kanny, about what's missing from hiring—and it's not experience or skills. It's character.Sean dives deep into how character—not personality—drives behavior, shapes culture, and ultimately determines long-term success in the workplace. He shares why traditional hiring tools like resumes and references are fundamentally flawed, how peer-driven feedback can bring accountability to both employees and hiring managers, and why data-backed character insights could be the future of leadership and culture.We talk:Why 75% of hires are still mis-hiresHow character traits like humility and accountability can be measuredThe rise of “Character Intelligence” as a cultural north starCreating development plans from day oneWhat Glassdoor reviews reveal about accountabilityOne question you should ask in every work relationshipIf you've ever made a bad hire, been burned by a toxic teammate, or want to build a team of high-character humans—this episode is for you.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It's packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

In this episode, we explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways curiosity gets shut down in organizations—and the cultural cost of those missed questions. From assumptions that mask deeper issues to leadership habits that stifle innovation, Russel digs into how curiosity impacts employee retention, decision-making, and growth. You'll hear real-world examples, warning signs to watch for, and practical ways leaders can model and build a curiosity-driven culture.Because when curiosity isn't baked into the culture… progress gets left behind.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher sits down with renowned business philosopher and bestselling author Anders Indset to unpack the leadership philosophy behind his book The Viking Code: The Art and Science of Norwegian Success.Anders explores how the values rooted in Norwegian culture have shaped a new model of leadership—where individual excellence and collective support are not at odds, but essential partners. He discusses how self-trust, intrinsic motivation, and brutal honesty can transform workplace relationships and performance. Plus, we dive into the role of ego, the danger of over-optimization, and how to navigate the uncertain future of AI and leadership.

As leaders, we often talk about the power of curiosity—but what happens when that curiosity is turned on us? In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher explores what it really means to be open to questions, pushback, and challenges from our teams.This isn't about ego—it's about emotional intelligence, active listening, and building a culture where curiosity is welcomed in all directions. Because leadership isn't just about giving answers—it's about creating space for better ones to emerge.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Leadership isn't about checking boxes — it's about showing up with intention, clarity, and connection. In this episode of Relationships at Work, Russel chats with Pete Steinberg — executive coach, speaker, former national rugby coach, and author of Leadership Shock — to explore the real work behind authentic leadership.Pete challenges the myths around “bringing your full self to work,” shares how authenticity drives sustainable leadership (and prevents burnout), and reveals why success often leads to leadership shock. He also breaks down the power of feedback loops, relationship-first priorities, and the intentional systems leaders need to grow.Whether you're climbing into your first leadership role or navigating the C-suite, this conversation is your playbook for aligning who you are with how you lead.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It's packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Retention is often seen as an elusive workplace metric, but what if it wasn't? In this episode of Relationships at Work, Russel Lolacher shares his firsthand experience of leading and retaining the same team for 12 years. He dives into the framework that made it possible—P.E.R.F.O.R.M.—a leadership approach grounded in personal connection, empowerment, and meaningful work. Learn why retention isn't luck but the result of deliberate leadership, and why calling it a "unicorn" completely misses the point.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Respect isn't just a workplace buzzword—it's the foundation of trust, engagement, and culture. Yet, too many leaders overlook its impact, mistaking civility for true respect. In this episode, Dr. Gena Cox joins Russel Lolacher to break down why respect is the missing piece in leadership, how it directly affects employee engagement, and why HR isn't responsible for fixing workplace culture—leaders are.They dive into: ✅ The difference between civility and real respect ✅ How leaders unknowingly erode trust in their organizations ✅ Why toxic cultures thrive when respect is absent ✅ The simple, daily actions leaders can take to foster respectIf you want to create a workplace where people feel seen, heard, and valued, this episode is a must-listen.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It's packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

A vision and mission statement should be more than just corporate wallpaper—they should inspire, align, and drive meaningful action. Yet, most employees can't even recall theirs. In this episode of Relationships at Work, we dive into why so many organizations treat vision and mission as checkboxes rather than powerful tools for motivation and strategy. We explore what makes a great vision and mission statement, how they can transform engagement and decision-making, and the real cost of getting them wrong. If you want your team to care about the work they do, it starts with giving them something worth believing in.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

In this thought-provoking episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher sits down with Nigel Thurlow, co-creator of The Flow System and former Chief of Agile at Toyota, to break down the hidden dangers of how we incentivize leadership.We discuss: ✔️ How financial incentives can backfire and create toxic leadership ✔️ The difference between responsibility and accountability in leadership ✔️ Why many employees don't want leadership roles—and how to change that ✔️ The real question leaders should ask: If you stopped paying people, would they still follow you? ✔️ Why "productivity theater" is ruining workplace culture ✔️ How distributed leadership can fix broken incentive systems

Every job is a communication job. Every leader is a communicator—whether they realize it or not. But too often, organizations mistake speaking at people for real communication. In this episode, we break down the difference between broadcasting information and fostering true understanding.Drawing from insights on leadership, engagement, and workplace culture, we explore how great leaders ensure they're communicating—not just talking. From the power of two-way dialogue to practical ways to measure communication effectiveness, this episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to improve their leadership impact.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Leaders often think relationships are built on instincts, but what if they're actually built on systems? In this episode, executive and leadership coach Trevor Timbeck challenges the idea that relationship-building is purely emotional or intuitive. Instead, he breaks down how intentional systems—like structured feedback loops, proactive communication, and even remembering birthdays—can create stronger, more meaningful connections at work.We dive into:✅ Why every relationship already has a system, whether you realize it or not✅ How leaders can shift from passive to proactive relationship management✅ The power of feedback as a system (and why most leaders fail at it)✅ How personal and professional relationships thrive on predictability and intentionBy the end of this conversation, you'll see relationships not as random but as repeatable, improvable systems that can transform workplace culture and leadership success.

In this mini-episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher dives into a tough but necessary conversation—why organizations need to stop passing the buck on bad leadership. Russel explores the hidden dangers of shifting problematic leaders to new roles without accountability, the ripple effects on workplace culture, and how teams often feel forced to "recommend" toxic leaders just to be rid of them. With a simple A.I.M. framework—Admit, Identify, Manage—Russel highlights how leaders and organizations can take responsibility, confront leadership blind spots, and foster real growth. It's time to stop hiding leadership issues and start fixing them—because while they're under your roof, they're your responsibility.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

In this episode of Relationships at Work, Danielle Smeltzer, founder and CEO of Awarely Embodied Leadership, dives deep into the transformative power of trauma-informed leadership. She challenges conventional leadership narratives, revealing how emotions—like stress and even anger—serve as vital signals from our nervous system, not weaknesses to suppress. Danielle explains why curiosity is the cornerstone of self-awareness and how leaders can use it to build healthier, more empathetic workplaces.We explore the myths around stress and burnout, the importance of co-regulation in team dynamics, and why trauma-informed leadership isn't just another buzzword—it's a lifelong practice. Danielle also shares practical insights on how leaders can balance empathy with accountability, break free from the "quick-fix" mentality, and truly connect with their teams on a deeper, more human level.If you're a leader seeking to foster more meaningful connections while navigating the complexities of modern work, this conversation is for you.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It's packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime