Podcasts about busyness

On the night Jesus was born the angel told the shepherds, "Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people."  The Christmas season may not always feel like good news. Busyness, difficult circumstances, emotional struggles, and more can make this time feel like anything but good news.   This brief Christmas meditation shares how the angels' declaration of good news applies to everyone, even you, even in the difficulties of real life right now. Merry Christmas from all of us at Dr. Carol Ministries! Dr. Carol loves to hear from you! You can leave a confidential comment here. 

It seems as though we are so busy and have no time for anything or anyone. We just keep in a hurry!

In this important episode, Sean talks about the danger of allowing busyness to drown out our intimacy with God. This was a warning shared with him by a mentor of his, and now he is sharing this important message with us!

Welcome back to All Things Considered CX. In this episode, host Bob Azman is joined by Chander Sharma, a seasoned global executive, leadership advisor, and author, to unpack the real challenges large organizations face in today's fast-moving business landscape.Drawing from decades of experience across industries and continents, Chander shares powerful insights on how leadership, culture, and organizational clarity shape business transformation and customer experience. The conversation centers on his book, Busyness to Business, and its practical 5P framework—Purpose, Process, People, Practice, and Perspective—a model designed to help leaders cut through noise, eliminate unproductive busyness, and refocus on what truly drives value.Along the way, Bob and Chander explore real-world examples, including the “Amazon effect,” Walmart's turnaround, and leadership lessons from icons like Satya Nadella and Warren Buffett. The discussion is packed with actionable takeaways for executives and customer experience professionals who want to lead with intention, align their teams, and adapt to constant change.You'll also learn about a free benchmarking resource that helps leaders assess how aligned and effective their organizations truly are. If you're looking to elevate your leadership approach and sharpen your customer focus, this is an episode you won't want to miss.

Welcome back to All Things Considered CX. In this episode, host Bob Azman is joined by Chander Sharma, a seasoned global executive, leadership advisor, and author, to unpack the real challenges large organizations face in today's fast-moving business landscape.Drawing from decades of experience across industries and continents, Chander shares powerful insights on how leadership, culture, and organizational clarity shape business transformation and customer experience. The conversation centers on his book, Busyness to Business, and its practical 5P framework—Purpose, Process, People, Practice, and Perspective—a model designed to help leaders cut through noise, eliminate unproductive busyness, and refocus on what truly drives value.Along the way, Bob and Chander explore real-world examples, including the “Amazon effect,” Walmart's turnaround, and leadership lessons from icons like Satya Nadella and Warren Buffett. The discussion is packed with actionable takeaways for executives and customer experience professionals who want to lead with intention, align their teams, and adapt to constant change.You'll also learn about a free benchmarking resource that helps leaders assess how aligned and effective their organizations truly are. If you're looking to elevate your leadership approach and sharpen your customer focus, this is an episode you won't want to miss.

"Prepare your Schedule"Luke 2:5-7; Luke 3:3-6Advent SeriesPastor Nate ClarkeDecember 14, 2025Christmas Eve Candlelight service is Wednesday, December 24th at 4:30pmHow should Christians respond to wickedness in the world? https://youtu.be/2OJUIM9YRwAVirginia's proposed Constitutional amendments on Abortion & Marriage - How to VOTE BIBLICALLY: https://youtu.be/Y8z8xTFsOn8Have you heard the news about the FUTURE of Oasis Church?https://www.oasischurch.online/futureSERMON NOTES:- Luke 2:5-7- Luke 3:3-6- Prepare Your Schedule- “If the devil cannot make you bad, he will make you busy.” Corrie Boom- Galatians 5:22-23- “Busy is not godly. Busyness can be an ego trip; it can be showing off. We want to appear indispensable.” Elisabeth Elliot- “Beware of the barrenness of a busy life.” Oswald Chambers- Busy:   - frantic   - reactive   - hurried- Mark 5:22-34- Full:   - Intentional   - Prepared   - Selective- “We must allow ourselves to be interrupted by God.” Dietrich Bonhoeffer- Luke 10:38-42- Luke 2:5-7- Luke 3:4- Luke 3:5-6- God will find a place to reveal Himself. Will He find it in your life or have to go elsewhere?Oasis Church exists to Worship God, Equip the believers, and Reach the lost.We are led by Pastor Nate Clarke and are located in Richmond, VA.Stay Connected:Website: https://oasischurch.online Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oasischurchva/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OasisChurchRVA/

Sæunn happens to be one of the most respected cellists in the world, performing with orchestras like the Los Angeles Philharmonic, BBC Symphony, and Iceland Symphony, and in venues like Carnegie Hall, Barbican, and Suntory Hall, to name just a few accolades. She's basically one of the best out there, for those who find language like that easier to understand.  But what makes Sæunn stand out beyond her accolades are the challenges she throws at accepted narratives both in the classical music world and beyond.  Sæunn is the kind of kindred spirit I don't have to circle around or soften edges for. There's an immediate intellectual and emotional honesty and shared language that allows us to get straight to the heart of the matter without performance. This was her first reappearance on Tapasya Loading since lockdown.  The last time we spoke, the world was paused.  And both of us have stepped away from academia as full-time identities since, and re-examined calendars from a  different lens as performing artists as well.  A central thread in this chat is our shared fascination, and frustration, with how many co-artists remain passively locked into inherited industry narratives.  So we talk candidly about how many of these myths get internalized, shape behaviour, and how difficult it can be to step outside them without feeling like we're risking our worth. We reflect on the assumption of being ‘busy' being the same as being ‘good', and the fear and freedom that comes when we're no longer chasing multiple forms of what are essentially external sources of validation.   Complete Episode https://www.saeunn.com/ www.findTL.com   Explore coaching + courses for independent artists:   holisticmusicianacademy.com   Work with me:   → C.I.A.R. self-paced course: https://holisticmusicianacademy.com/page/ciar   → HMA group coaching & 1:1 mentorships https://holisticmusicianacademy.com/page/coaching

Do you ever find yourself pushing too hard, moving too fast, or refusing to slow down? Pastor Jeff teaches on how God never asks us to live at an unhealthy pace in order to fulfill His purpose. 

Welcome to the Personal Development Trailblazers Podcast! In today's episode, we're talking about how to find joy when life feels busy, overwhelming, and nonstop.Dr. Susan Amato-Henderson retired in 2023 from her first career with over 25 years of experience as a Psychology faculty member at an institution of higher education. She holds a Ph.D. in Experimental Psychology. She loved mentoring students, so opted to pursue certification as a life coach upon retirement.  She has now been coaching for 2+ years, and is loving every minute of it!  Very generally, her mission is to assist clients in finding their true joy!  Susie states “I was close to 50 when I finally found my true joy in life, and life now is unbelievably different from my “pre-joy” life!” As she looks back, it is with clarity that she recognizes that people often don't know what they are missing, or that they have never experienced. As she reports, “My normal was normal, I never questioned it until things fell apart!” Therefore, her coaching goal is to let clients know that a joyful life is theirs to have with some hard work and resiliency skills!Susie guides individuals toward personal and professional success. As the Founder of Sisuzy Coaching, she specializes in career transitions, mindset shifts, and adaptive capacity.  Adaptive capacity is a relatively new term used in this context, and is, essentially, one step beyond the notion of resilience. Adaptive capacity is the ability to transcend adversity and emerge stronger than before, whereas resiliency is getting through the challenges unscathed. Life demands resilience, the ability to survive even the most negative experiences, but those who adapt based upon those experiences have the upper edge. This is what she hopes to share with clients, the ability to persevere and adapt. To achieve this goal, she infuses mindfulness skills throughout most of her coaching experiences, as learning how to effectively regulate emotions and anxiety is a skill that, unfortunately, is often missing in people. Connect with Susan Here: https://www.instagram.com/susie_ah/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558690847434www.linkedin.com/in/susanamatohendersonwww.sisuzy.comGrab the freebie here:Newsletter sign up: https://forms.gle/oSxzDDmv4p7xLVDv5Free mindfulness workshop sign up: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfEETiZEZZwJvMfC0QfUAImvZXo-D6Tc4mNUjH6XfsfKSMptQ/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=115781956269457685892===================================If you enjoyed this episode, remember to hit the like button and subscribe. Then share this episode with your friends.Thanks for watching the Personal Development Trailblazers Podcast. This podcast is part of the Digital Trailblazer family of podcasts. To learn more about Digital Trailblazer and what we do to help entrepreneurs, go to DigitalTrailblazer.com.Are you a coach, consultant, expert, or online course creator? Then we'd love to invite you to our FREE Facebook Group where you can learn the best strategies to land more high-ticket clients and customers. QUICK LINKS: APPLY TO BE FEATURED: https://app.digitaltrailblazer.com/podcast-guest-applicationDIGITAL TRAILBLAZER: https://digitaltrailblazer.com/

In this episode I finally say what many of we introverts have known for quite some time. The cult of busyness is over. At least it is for me and I suspect many of you are more than ready to join me. We introverts have been bullied by hustle culture into believing that our pace, our boundaries and our need for clarity make us weak or uncommitted. Utter nonsense. I explore how this 'always on' culture damages our thinking, erodes confidence and traps us in a cycle of panic and overwork. More importantly, I offer the practical shifts that allow us to reclaim our cognitive space and step back into our personal power. If you are ready to trade chaos for clarity, this one is for you.   ** Key Points ** Protect Thinking Window Challenge Performative Busyness Reclaim Cognitive Clarity #FlourishingIntroverts #Introverts #ClarityOverChaos   *** Resources *** Visit https://hub.flourishingintroverts.com/resourcesp for tools and resources mentioned during the podcast. You'll find my gift, Seasonal Sanity Savers (2025) perfect for this time of the year, sign-up here: https://hub.flourishingintroverts.com/sss/  

Last episode, we helped you recognize that you are too busy. So what do you do about it? In this episode, Chad shares four practical and powerful ways you can dial down your busyness and move closer to a sane and fulfilling life. Audio Production by Podsworth Media - https://podsworth.com 

Advent // Peace Our Whole Existence is Ravaged by ConflictIt's in Our World...It's in Our Nations...It's in Our Cities...It's in Our Communities...It's in Our Homes...It's in Our Hearts and Our Minds... Peace Means So Many Different Things to Different PeoplePeace May Be Ease from Conflict...Peace May Be Ease from Noise...Peace May Be Ease from Torment...Peace May Be Ease from Busyness...Peace May Be Ease from Pain... For Some People It May Be Found in A Treaty…For Some It May Be Found in a Place…For Some It May Be Found in An Embrace…For Some It Is Found in a Symbol…For Some It Is Found in Solace…For Some It Is Found in A Smile… Some Think It Is Accomplished by Negotiation...Some Think It Is Accomplished by Meditation...Some Think It Is Accomplished by Separation...Some Think It Is Accomplished by Location...Some Think It Is Accomplished by Reconciliation...Some Think It Is Accomplished by Medication... But for Most of Our World it Remains an Elusive State of Being... God Has Come, and He Has Provided a Lasting Peace for Us! Not Just a Fleeting Moment or an Elusive Dream... Romans 5:1 (NIV)“Therefore, being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.” God Loved Us So Much that He Sent His Son to Redeem Mankind and Restore Our Peace with Him.  Judges 6:23-24 (NIV)“But the Lord said to him, ‘Peace! Do not be afraid. You are not going to die.' So, Gideon built an altar to the Lord there and called it The Lord is Peace.” 2 Thessalonians 3:16 (NIV)“Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.”

"God's Rest is the Cure for the World's Busyness", Will DuVal | 12/7/25 by West Hills Church

Pastor Brian helps us take an honest look at the frenzy that December so easily becomes—and how often busyness steals the very peace, joy, and presence our souls are craving. What if the life we actually want is on the other side of slowing down? Come explore the invitation Jesus gives us to step off the “busyness crazy train” and rediscover a pace that leads to calm, clarity, and spiritual life this Christmas season.

Pastor Brian helps us take an honest look at the frenzy that December so easily becomes—and how often busyness steals the very peace, joy, and presence our souls are craving. What if the life we actually want is on the other side of slowing down? Come explore the invitation Jesus gives us to step off the “busyness crazy train” and rediscover a pace that leads to calm, clarity, and spiritual life this Christmas season.

TRANSCRIPT video1290704010 Gissele : [00:00:00] Was Martin Luther King Jr. Right? Does love have the power to turn an enemy into a friend? Does it have the power to heal? We are creating an inspiring documentary called Courage to Love. The Power of Compassion explores the extraordinary stories of individuals who have chosen to do the unthinkable, love and forgive even those who have caused the most deep harm. Through their journeys, we will uncover the profound impact of forgiveness and love, not only on those offering it, but also on those receiving it. In addition, we’ll hear from experts who will explore whether loving compassion are part of our human nature and how we can bridge divides with those we disagree with. If you’d like to support our film, please donate at www MAI tt R-I-C-E-N-T-R e.com/documentary. [00:01:00] Hello and welcome to The Love and Compassion Podcast with Gissele. We believe that love and compassion have the power to heal our lives and our world. Don’t forget to like and subscribe for more amazing content. Today we’re talking about not feeling good enough and what we can do to start feeling better. Our guest today is Sabrina Trobak Based out of Fort St. John BC Canada is a registered clinical counselor and author of the book, not Good enough, understanding Your Core Belief in Anxiety. She’s also a clinical supervisor, public speaker, and holds a master’s degree in counseling psychology. Before establishing her practice, she dedicated over 20 years to education, serving as a teacher, vice principal, school counselor across three school divisions. Sabrina, has extensive training in addressing trauma in its effects on daily life, [00:02:00] including anxiety and the core beliefs. Of not being good enough, not important, not valued. Her counseling agency Trobak. Holistic counseling aims to help individuals identify, challenge, and transform these core beliefs into being good enough, important enough, and value. Please join me in welcoming Sabrina. Hi, Sabrina. Sabrina: Hi. Nice to be here. It’s nice to meet you. Gissele : Oh, nice to meet you too. Thank you for being on the show. I was wondering if you could start by telling the audience what sort of led you to do this sort of work? Sabrina: I always wanted to be a teacher, you know, even in kindergarten, I was the kindergartner helper that helped other kids tie their shoes. Just was always something I wanted to do is be a teacher. Towards the end of my teaching career, I was a school counselor. And even as a teacher, I was a learning assistant teacher, so I did a lot of work in smaller groups, working more individually with students. So you get [00:03:00] to create a much deeper connection because you’re working one-on-one as opposed to a class size of, you know, 25, 30, 35, whatever it might be. And so then I went into counseling. Same thing. You really get to build that relationship. And then I went to a workshop on suicide. That was looking at suicide, more of a symptom of that core belief. Feeling not good enough. Not important, not valued. At the end of the workshop, I just thought, this is what I need to do. So the presenter, Tony Martins taught me his model of therapy. I quit teaching and started my own private practice, which really uses that as the focus point. So really going back and helping people understand and support and challenge that core belief. I started my own private practice in 2010. And within about six months I had a waiting list and I hated having to turn people away. The model I practice where we’re really addressing that core belief is a long-term model of [00:04:00] therapy. So a lot of my clients are with me a year and a half, two years, sometimes even longer. And so I decided to write the book not good enough as a way to provide a resource for people who can access counseling for whatever reason. Gissele : That’s beautiful. Thank you. And reflecting on your teaching experience, did you find that students were suffering from not feeling good enough? And do you think that’s changed? Sabrina: Students, teachers, parents, administration, support staff? Yeah, it’s kind of a worldwide thing. You know, I think it’s been there for a really long time. I think what we’re seeing a difference in is. People are talking more about mental health. So rather it being this thing that we just kept down and suppressed and pretended wasn’t an issue. Now we’re talking about it and the problem with that is we don’t necessarily know what to do with it now that we’re talking about it. So it seems like it’s kind of imploding all over the place. But you know, I think it’s been going on forever and [00:05:00] ever, and ever and ever. In fact, your core belief develops based on your parents’ core belief. If your parents’ core belief was not good enough, not important, not valued, they can’t really teach you anything else. So that means that was that generation. Well, where did they get it from? Their generation, and it just kind of goes on and on and on and on. Gissele : I really appreciated that you said that. ’cause that has been my experience that we are just now vocalizing the fact that we have these feelings. And to some people it’s like, we didn’t have these things before. That’s just simply not true. It’s just that now it’s feeling safer to talk about it. We want to address the issues and want to understand where this sort of came from. I wanted to really. Touch on the concept of not good enough. Because at least in my experience, I wasn’t that sort of person that criticized themselves. I didn’t say call myself a loser. My not good enough actually showed up in a very different way, in a [00:06:00] very covert way. I would say in terms of limiting my dreams or really negative thinking in terms of like catastrophizing. how does not feeling good enough show in different people? is there specific patterns or is it just very different depending on the person? Sabrina: I think the main pattern is it holds you back. it doesn’t allow you to feel content, feel peaceful, feel confident. That would be a common pattern, but what that can look like can vary significantly. Also, the degree of your core belief can play a significant role as well. You might be feeling, you know, actually pretty good enough, important and valued just once in a while. That not good enough, not important, not value comes up. All the way to the other where really everything, every thought you have is reinforcing and supporting that not good enough, not important, not valued. So it can look like a variety of different ways. We get clients who come into counseling for all kinds of different things. [00:07:00] Relationship issues, anxiety, depression. They can’t really sleep. They’re having nightmares. Pornography gambling, alcohol, drugs, cheating, lying you name it, all kinds of different things. What we say is. These aren’t really the problem. These are the symptoms of that core belief. If your core belief is not good enough, not important, not valued, you need to distract, but you’re gonna be going to things that allow you to distract that ultimately end up reinforcing that core belief because it gives you something to beat yourself up over. Hmm. So it can look like a variety of different behaviors For sure. Gissele : Do you ever see people with like health issues? Sabrina: Oh, all the time, for sure. Mm-hmm. Stomach issues, headaches, sore aches and pains. What happens when with that core belief not good enough? it creates a lot of self-doubt and insecurity. Anxiety is lack of [00:08:00] confidence. Not believing in yourself. You can handle something. A lot of people think anxiety is about the trigger, right? I have anxiety of driving on the highway. If it really was about driving on the highway, then no one would be driving on the highway. So it’s not about that. It’s about my belief and my ability to handle it. So if I believe I can handle driving on the highway, I’m not gonna have anxiety. If I can’t, I believe I can’t handle it. I will have anxiety. So that anxiety, that self-doubt, every time we go into anxiety, that fight, flight, freeze, adrenaline gets dumped into our body. That gives us that boost of energy to fight or to run away. But if I’m creating all of this anxiety in my head through my own thoughts, or it’s creating a sense of danger, I think I’m in danger, but I’m not really in danger. It’s the catastrophizing thoughts, the negative thoughts, the beating yourself up, the what if scenarios. Every time you go into that fight, flight, freeze, that adrenaline, that energy has to come from somewhere.[00:09:00] So what happens is it zaps all of our non-vital organs. Stomach, bladder, pancreas, kidney, liver, skin all of our non-vital organs get zap of energy. So if you have really high anxiety where you’re going into this fight, flight, freeze response, hundreds of times a day, you are going to see a physical impact. Absolutely. You know, if your stomach is being zapped a hundred times a day, don’t expect it to digest food properly. That’s, it’s just not gonna work. Gissele : Oh, thank you for that. I really appreciate that. That also got me to think about my experiences with trust. I used to have huge trust issues ’cause I was raised with like, my parents also had views and trauma and, it was when I realized that I didn’t trust myself to deal with people’s betrayal, not necessarily trusting the other people, that things shifted for me. It was me realizing that it was like, oh, this is about me. This isn’t about them. And their behavior, whatever they choose to do, is [00:10:00] entirely up to them. if they choose to betray me, well then that’s their choice. But it was about me. What are some things that can help someone become more aware of whether or not. They’re not feeling good enough. Sabrina: You know, I think that one, the one that you just kind of said where you don’t trust, you think you can’t trust in other people. Anything where you’re doing, where you’re focusing on others, blaming others caring to others, people pleasing for others, judging others, gossiping about others. All that time that you spend focusing on other people is all time. You’re not spending on yourself. Why is that? It’s usually because that core belief is there. We don’t like ourselves, we don’t wanna deal with it, so we’re focusing on all these outward things. As long as you’re fo focusing outward, there’s likely a bit of that core belief going there, and it’s not gonna get better until you focus more inward. Gissele : Mm, [00:11:00] yeah. To what extent do you feel like the systems we’ve created also perpetuate that, continue that belief? So not only the belief that kids were taught from their parents, but also when entering in these different systems that we have created. Sabrina: You know, I think a, a lot of our systems are very symptom based. So, you know, I have anxiety. Okay, we’ll do these things to deal with the, anxiety you have depression. Okay, we’ll do these things to deal with the depression. You have anger, okay, here’s some anger management strategies, rather than really looking at why is it there in the first place. What’s fueling those things? So our society in general often has a very bandaid, approach. Just put a bandaid on it. But if you have a wound and you just put bandaids on top of bandaids, on top of bandaids, that wound doesn’t just not heal. It gets worse, it gets more infected, it becomes more painful. It creates more stress, more anxiety. [00:12:00] And so we really need to take that bandaid off. But our society, you know, even medical right? I have a sore throat, they just address the throat rather than looking at is there something going on that’s feeding that right? Yeah. our, policing system is all very reactive and again, very kind of punitive and system based rather than really what’s going on here, what’s feeding all of this underlying stuff. Gissele : Yeah, and I think it comes from the separation from within ourselves, right? Like not really understanding or seeing ourselves holistically and our separation from each other and from nature. And I think that’s kind of why we have these systems. Sabrina: And I think part of why we even have that system is because if I deal with the surface doesn’t create a lot of emotion. Mm. If I go a bit deeper, ooh, that creates more emotion, vulnerability, fear. Abandoned. Lonely. I don’t like to feel those emotions, so keep it surface. Minimal emotions have to play. One of the [00:13:00] big things that drives that core belief and a big issue in our society is. We don’t really feel our emotions again, I think we’re getting better at talking about them, but now it’s almost like, oh, I’ve got emotion. I need to stop rather than I’ve got emotion. I need to feel it so I can move through it. And so that emotion piece is massive. We keep things very surface, so we don’t really have to feel. Gissele : Yeah, absolutely, as children, some of us were taught like, don’t feel or only limit the scope of emotions. You can feel these emotions are okay, these emotions are not. And this took me a long while to realize that the reason why my emotions were limited, at least by my parents and people in my life. They didn’t have the emotional girth to be able to hold space for my difficult feelings. So they did not teach me how to hold space for my difficult feelings and how to hold space for my kids’ difficult feelings. And so it was a journey where I really had to understand and it took me shifting my [00:14:00] perspective because I think originally I felt it was my fault, right? As I got older and became a parent, I realized, oh, they didn’t have the space, so they had to squash my emotions in order for them not to feel uncomfortable because they couldn’t cope with it. Sabrina: If I’m as a parent, if I don’t like to feel my emotions, now my child is feeling emotion, well that creates emotion in me, but I don’t wanna feel my emotions, so I need to shut my child down. It’s okay. It’s not really that big of a deal. It’s fine. You’ll get over it. You know, you’re worrying about nothing. Minimize, minimize, minimize, which is teaching your child shut down and suppress their emotions as well. Where did they learn it from? Right. You know, if we’re not learning how to feel our emotions, we are learning how to suppress our emotions. Gissele : Yeah. Yeah. And then that comes out in a different way, in the worst parts of my journey in learning to love myself and, step into that worthiness was I realized a pattern I had some unexpected things [00:15:00] happen in my life that were shocking to me. they had such a traumatic effect that I would actually, with my negative thinking, create negative experiences so that I could control them. does that make sense? Speaker 3: Mm-hmm. Gissele : but I wasn’t aware that I was doing that, So that uncertainty was very frightening for me and it’s very frightening for very many people. I’m just curious as to your thoughts about that. Sabrina: You know what I think uncertainty. Again, what feeds that is that core belief. So we can have all kind of experiences happening. If I don’t believe I can handle them there, there’s gonna be a lot of stress over all these situations. But if my core belief is good enough, important and valued, whatever comes up, I think o okay. I got it. this isn’t gonna be easy. This is gonna be a lot of work, but I can handle it. I can figure it out. But when there’s that uncertainty and that self-doubt often, rather than again, working inward on what do I need to do to build my confidence? We work look outward on how do [00:16:00] I control these things. And of course you can’t control anything but yourself. So you may have these things under control for a period of time, but eventually things are gonna collapse and then you can go, oh, see, no one cares reinforces and support’s not good enough. So as long as you’re using control as a way to try to. Try to kind of handle situations. It, it’s not gonna be highly successful. It’s about within yourself, building that confidence within yourself. Mm-hmm. Gissele : What has been your experience with surrender? I have found in my life and my experience that the more I surrender, the less resistance I have to things, the less I need to control. the more things work out, sort of in a very smooth way. does surrender have a role Sabrina: what we kind of refer to it as is responsibility. Do I have responsibility in this? If I do, then what’s my role? If I don’t, then it’s okay to me, for me to just remove [00:17:00] myself from it. And so we wanna look at that. if I have something that I do need to be accountable, I will take accountability for my part. But I’m not gonna worry about taking accountability for everyone else’s part. And if I have someone in my life who refuses accountability over and over and over again, then I need to learn from that and realize my expectations for this person need to look very different. Maybe I choose not to have them in my life. Maybe I do. But those boundaries look a bit different rather than constantly trying to get them to take responsibility. I realize that that’s not my place. I need to just figure out me. That’s it. Hmm. Gissele : Are there any sort of behaviors that don’t outwardly seem as issues of not being good enough but are or might be? Sabrina: Busyness is a big one. You know, it’s almost a bit of a bragging rights in our society to be busy, right? Oh, I’m so busy. I got this activity, I got this, I got my kids, I got this, I got this, I got [00:18:00] this. Busyness is not good. Mm-hmm. Busyness is a distraction. As long as I’m, again, running around focusing on all these things, you know, out in front of me, that’s all time I can use to avoid and distract from what’s really going on within me. So we often see that as a pretty significant symptom. Same with control. Micromanaging. A lot of people may see that as a healthy coping strategy, but it really is not a healthy coping strategy. You know, when we look at coping strategies, one of the things we talk about is, you know, a coping strategy in itself is not really healthy or unhealthy. It’s how I choose to use it, right? Mm-hmm. So if I go out and have a drink of wine with, you know, a couple girlfriends once every couple weeks or whatever, it’s probably a healthy coping strategy. But if I’m drinking because I’m feeling emotions and I need to numb everything, and I’m drinking way too much, and it’s damaging relationships. Then it’s more of an [00:19:00] unhealthy coping strategy. So we really need to look at why are we using it, if we’re using it so that at the end we feel good, we feel content. It makes us feel proud of how we’re handling things. It’s allowing us to feel our emotions sort through things. Probably healthy coping strategy. Unhealthy usually is used to the extreme, either way too extreme or we shut it off and don’t do it at all. Like exercise Now I’m not exercising at all. And so it’s used to the extreme. It’s used to escape and avoid dealing with things. It’s used to numb our emotions so we don’t have to feel our emotions. It ultimately, after we do it, we feel guilt, bad regret, reinforcing and supporting. Not good enough, not important, not valued. So rather than looking specifically at the behavior, we need to look at why am I using it? That’s gonna give you more idea of which core belief you are reinforcing. Gissele : So what do you think the role of compassion is in [00:20:00] helping somebody go through the difficult emotions? Because as a person who has done it, who sat with probably the most challenging emotions that she has faced, a lot of the fears, it can feel really overwhelming. What helps people sort of titrate or stay in it long enough to get to the other side of it? Sabrina: You know, I think like most things, it’s really about practice. The more you practice it, the more comfortable it becomes. You know, with a lot of my clients that are in their thirties, forties, fifties, you know, my oldest clients are in their seventies. They’ve spent decades avoiding feeling emotion. And so how do you start to feel emotion where that doesn’t feel absolutely overwhelming? ’cause most of them are full up with emotion. So the thought of feeling emotion is just too much. So we always go back and start very, very small. You know, I have a emotions list on my website, but really if you Google Emotions list, you’ll, you’ll find a hundred of them. I tell my clients, print them off, [00:21:00] put them all over your house. Then when you start feeling angry, overwhelmed, just kind of off like something’s bothering you, pick up the emotion list and just read through it. The emotions that you are feeling, you’ll recognize. So now you’re starting. Don’t even have to say it out loud, just read it. So you allow yourself to feel the emotion just a little tiny bit. Doesn’t feel quite as overwhelming. Then after you’ve done that a few times, then you can say the words out loud. ’cause even saying sad out loud creates a bit of sadness. So now I’m feeling a bit more confident. I keep using that for a while, then I get to that place where I can just stop and think about what I’m feeling in the moment. But it takes time and practice. You gotta build that up. So I think a big part of compassion is. Confidence. I have to believe in myself. I can handle being compassionate to myself and to others. Once we build that confidence, then that compassion almost just seems to more just kind [00:22:00] of naturally flow because we can let our own defenses down and really just be present and in the moment with ourselves or with others. Gissele : so thank you for that. I really appreciated that. what are some of the things or signs that will help them know that they’re changing, for example, that they’re starting to feel more good enough? Because I think sometimes we are very good at saying, these are the signposts of things that aren’t working, but what are some signposts of things where people are like, yeah, you know what? Things are changing. You’re changing. Sabrina: You don’t feel as stressed at the end of the day. Mm-hmm. You’re sleeping a little bit better, you smile a bit more. Mm-hmm. You are open to other people’s opinions, thoughts. criticism, feedback you’re not as defensive. You’re able to kind of just listen to what someone else is saying. You’re getting better at feeling your emotions and sorting through your emotions. You are [00:23:00] using more healthier coping strategies that at the end of it, you feel proud of yourself. Right. Whether it’s going for a walk or listening to music or doing some journaling, at the end of it, you feel like, wow, I, you know, I, I handled that really well. You are more patient, you are more calm. you are more open to other people’s suggestions. All those kind of things are suggesting you believing more in yourself. You can handle more. That means that core belief is shifting. You’re willing to take risks, try new things, listening to podcasts, different things like that where you’re stepping outta your comfort zone, creating new opportunities and experiences. Gissele : Yeah. Yeah. Somebody that I was talking to was saying that they’re gonna take two things that make them uncomfortable, like two risks a day. I thought that was pretty cool. Like a pretty cool idea to become more, much more comfortable with discomfort, right? Sabrina: For sure. [00:24:00] Remember, anxiety is lack of confidence, not believing in yourself. You can handle something, so every time you try something new. There should be more anxiety because it’s something you haven’t done before. Mm-hmm. Right. Even just building your confidence in taking risks and trying something new where now, oh, it’s scary, but I know I can handle it. ’cause I’ve stepped outta my comfort zone many times as well. One of the things we say in this model of therapy is nothing really stays the same. Yeah. So if you are not challenging and stepping outta your comfort zone, it’s getting smaller and smaller and smaller and smaller. Gissele : Yeah. Thank you for mentioning that. I’ve had many conversations with different people in my life and one of the things it’s like. I don’t like to say pick your hard but it is sort of like that if you face your, difficult emotions now, later on, it gets easier. The more that you choose from fear, the more you constrict and constraint, the smaller and smaller and smaller your world becomes. And it [00:25:00] feels much more difficult to do it. Later on do you find that your older clients tend to struggle a little bit more or is it just sort of buried? Sabrina: Well, okay. That’s a good question. So a lot of it is buried, but once we start opening it up, then yeah. And one of the things that the older clients have to recognize and acknowledge. Is the hurt they’ve caused to their adult children, their grandchildren, maybe even their great grandchildren, whereas someone who’s in their twenties and thirties, they haven’t had nearly enough time to hurt as many people. And so there’s not as much of that kind of responsibility piece with it, for sure. you know, hurt people, hurt people. So if I was hurting, the chances that I did things to hurt other people is really, really high. Part of the counseling that we do is we need to acknowledge it and sort through that. ’cause as long as I’m carrying a bunch of stuff where I’ve hurt other people, why would I believe I have the right to a happy content life? it’s not [00:26:00] balanced. So I need to deal with all those things that I’ve done to hurt people in order to really, truly heal. Hmm. Gissele : Yeah. And that’s very powerful. Shame and guilt can feel really overwhelming, right? people that don’t know how to regulate their emotions will do almost anything to avoid the feeling of shame, right? Because underneath there there’s a belief that you won’t be loved. And so what helps people work through the whole concept of shame? Sabrina: You know, I think shame loves not good enough and not good enough loves shame. They just feed off of each other for sure. And so it often is this thing that we’ve done that we feel bad about doing, and rather than just acknowledging it and addressing it, and understanding why we made the choices that we did. We just hold onto it. and as long as you’re carrying a lot of shame, you’re not gonna feel happy and content in your life. they just don’t balance out. Shame is significant. So one of the things you wanna do is, first, manage some of those other emotions. [00:27:00] Get better at feeling, you know vulnerability, loved, connected powerless, vulnerable, unheard and then start looking into the shame after you’ve had some experience feeling some of those other ones. If you start off with shame it’s almost too overwhelming and we just end up shutting it off. Then you have to acknowledge and allow yourself to feel that, take responsibility for the actions that created that shame, and then you can start to kind of move on. You know, guilt’s another one. a lot of us were raised with parents who used guilt as a parenting coping strategy. So it’s ingrained in our head that we just automatically feel guilty about everything because that’s how our parents tried to control our behaviors. So that’s a really ingrained thinking pattern more than an emotion. It is a thinking pattern. Mm-hmm. The good thing about that is we can go back and change it. The definition we use of guilt is [00:28:00] not living up to someone’s expectations, usually our own. Hmm. So once I challenge those expectations and change the expectations, the guilt goes down. So, for example, if I was always taught, you never say no, you please everyone don’t ever wanna upset or make anyone else unhappy. That’s my pattern of thinking, sacrifice to make everyone else happy. But now I’m thinking I wanna have a voice. I wanna start saying, no, I wanna start taking care of myself. Well, those collide. Yeah. I can’t say no and make everyone else happy. So I have to change and adjust my expectations. So my expectation now is I need to be respectful when I say no, but it is okay if I have a voice and it is inconvenience or awkward for the other person. That’s for them to figure out. Now as I tell myself that I’m not gonna feel guilty because I’m expecting that this may be uncomfortable for them, and that’s okay. That [00:29:00] guilt dissipates guilt’s more of a thought than it really is an emotion. Gissele : Mm-hmm. Yeah. You mentioned the difference between thoughts and emotions. And, and this is just my perspective, I usually find that. All emotions begin with a thought. So you usually have a thought first, which you have interpreted, and then some somehow have a big emotion about or not. Right? And so is it accurate that The habits that are formed from just your thoughts are easier to manage than ones that are based on thoughts and emotions. Sabrina: That’s how emotions are created. So what happens is we have a thought that creates a chemical reaction that we then feel physiologically in our body creating the emotion. Our thoughts create our emotions. So the good thing about that is if I’m feeling really anxious and I challenge and control my thoughts, the anxiety goes away. Speaker 3: Mm-hmm. Sabrina: Right? If I’m [00:30:00] feeling really angry and I can stop and go, what are my thoughts? And I can realize, oh yeah, those thoughts are gonna create anger, challenge, and change those thoughts, the anger goes away. So neutral thoughts gonna create neutral emotions. But if we’re having thoughts of people hurting us, of feeling taken advantage of feeling you know, of being unappreciated, that is going to create emotions that we then feel physiologically in our body. Gissele : Mm-hmm. you mentioned that whole concept of not good enough. Where does self-love fit into the whole concept of good enough? Sabrina: the more you feel good enough, important and valued, the more you feel loved and content, right? Our kind of end goal is that contentment. You just feel peace within yourself. you love yourself. I’m always a bit cautious around the word love. Because it has been warped in many situations. Yeah. I’ve heard [00:31:00] clients tell me love means taking abuse. Mm-hmm. Love means sacrificing myself to not cause any, issues. Love means keeping secrets. Yeah. Right. Then we have the other extreme where we say, I love you now almost too much. It’s almost like, hi. Like I’ll say, oh, you know I love you. Oh, and I love spaghetti. Well, Gissele : yeah. Sabrina: So what does that really mean? So I think we need to even be aware of what is my definition of love? Is it a healthy definition or is it more of an unhealthy definition? And then what? What else does that look like? Contentment. Peace, calm thoughts. You know it, you’ve gotta define it. love is almost a bit of that symptom word. We need to go deeper. We’ve gone through generation, you know, my parents were never said, I love you. Never said it at all. and didn’t have to, didn’t create any emotions. But now we still don’t wanna say feel emotions, so now we [00:32:00] say, I love you a thousand times. So it really still doesn’t create a lot of emotion. Mm-hmm. So I find that balance and really be careful of what that word means to us, for sure. Gissele : Mm-hmm. Yeah. Thank you for that. And so using whatever different term you’re gonna use, as long as you’re getting at the same thing which is about thriving, I think is really important. You mentioned that anxiety is lack of confidence. What’s depression? Sabrina: they go together in a cycle, right? Mm-hmm. So anxiety is that fight, flight, freeze on guard, ready to attack. Well, you can only do that for so long and it’s exhausting. So then we kind of slip into the depression where I just don’t have to feel anything. I can curl up in a bit of a ball. I don’t have to deal with anything, but then that kind of passes I feel a bit better. So I come out of that, but now I’m in that fight flight freeze again. So we often see depression and anxiety often working together in a cycle for sure. Depression, you know, is [00:33:00] another way of reinforcing and supporting that not good enough if I feel not good enough. Not important, not valued. What’s the point? Why bother? So, you know, just like we talked about how that core belief can present in alcohol, drugs, gambling, anxiety is one. Depression is one as well. Gissele : I also wanted to emphasize the fact that, you know, the work that you’re doing is focusing on people feeling good enough from within. Many people try to find it from outside, whether it be through overworking, like you mentioned, through acquiring all the things they think they should have or by acquiring love from outside. What sort of the mindset shift that needs to happen for people to realize that? It’s something that they can give to themselves from within versus from without. Because if you look at this world, everything in this world that we teach is get it from the external. Sabrina: if my core belief is not good enough, not important, not [00:34:00] valued, I don’t believe I have much to offer even to myself. But if I get it in a car, a big house, if I get a new dirt bike, if I have the best, whatever it is mm-hmm. Then I’ll be good enough. Speaker 3: Mm-hmm. Sabrina: As long as you’re looking externally, you’re not going to find it. But if I don’t believe in myself, I don’t really believe that I have it within even myself. So I think that’s one of the first stages, is really becoming more aware of where is my core belief at. How much do I really give myself that opportunity to feel good enough, important and valued. Once you become aware, even just becoming aware starts to develop that core belief good enough, important and valued. ’cause now you know what’s there and you’re willing to challenge it. Honestly, if I don’t think I can even handle doing that, I’m not going to. So once we even start to become aware of it, that core belief is shifting. Once that core belief shifts, then we can continue to build on it little tiny step at a time where we start to find more of our own worth and [00:35:00] value within ourselves. As we do that, we just naturally start to kind of look more inward and don’t worry so much about the outside stuff. Hmm. Yeah, yeah. Gissele : But the journey towards. Shifting from not feeling good enough to feeling good enough can sometimes feel very challenging, right? Because you are dealing with difficult emotions. What are some of the things that keep people moving forward? Sabrina: it can be absolutely terrifying, you know? Mm-hmm. I’ll say to my clients, going through and challenging and changing this core belief is going to be one of the hardest things you’ve ever done. The only thing maybe harder is living the way you’ve been living. Yeah. Right. But the only way to really keep is you gotta let all that stuff out. Well, letting all that stuff out sucks. Mm-hmm. It is lot fun. It’s terrifying. It’s a lot of work. It’s exhausting, but going very, very [00:36:00] slow helps you build confidence so you feel more in yourself. You can handle it. Reminding yourself that to heal, I gotta let this out. The more you let it out, the better it is. You are never going to feel emotion that you aren’t carrying. So if there’s emotion there, let it out. Mm-hmm. Every time you do that, it gets a little bit easier and you feel a bit better. Right? Mm-hmm. We have a good cry. We always feel a bit of a sense of relief the next day. Continuing to do that. They work hand in hand. So as you practice, you’re learning more, you’re understanding more, but you’re also feeling better, feeling more content, feeling more good enough, important and valued, feeling more pride. So they feed off of each other and you can continue to move forward. But they’re definitely, I know for my clients, every single client, there are days where they think I don’t wanna do this. Like, what’s the point? You said I was gonna get better? I feel worse than I did before. Because you’re in it, right? Part of moving and getting healthy [00:37:00] is you may have a bit of an idea of what you wanna work towards, but you haven’t figured out how to get there yet. That is frustrating, but you have to keep practicing and practicing and practicing hope. You know, I think hope is okay for a period of time, but we need much more than hope. You know, if I’m going hiking in the Outback and I say to my guide. Do you know where we’re going? And he says, I hope so. I’m probably not going with them. Right. And so hope can can get us over that lip a little bit, but we need to have a plan. We need to have practice behaviors so we know what we’re doing, not just hoping. Gissele : Mm-hmm. And you know, as you were talking, I was thinking People who have done hard things, the people that overcame, you know, the Holocaust, they saw themselves beyond that experience. They might have died, but they needed to see themselves beyond that experience. So there is an element of belief that you can do it. There is that element [00:38:00] of desire to say, I don’t know how, I don’t know when, when I’m gonna get through this, this hurdle. What do you think the role of affirmations are in helping people gain more confidence and feel more good enough? Sabrina: You know what, again, it can be a surface level thing, right? I can tell myself a thousand times that I am good enough, but if I don’t believe it, it’s not going to do any good. So what we talk about with all those kind of. Tools is, it really is just a tool. It’s up to you how much you wanna apply it. So I can have an affirmation that I say, I, you know, I stick on a sticky note on my bathroom and I see it every day. But we all know after about five days, we don’t even really notice it there anymore. It’s not, gonna be of benefit, but if I’m using that affirmation to remind myself, to reframe my thinking, to challenge myself, to see things differently. Then they can have an impact. So it’s not so much about the tool, it’s about how [00:39:00] am I using it? Am I using it to make changes to believe in myself or am I using it to actually beat myself up? Gissele : Yeah. Yeah. Are there any other tools that you think that are helpful in helping people start on their journey? Sabrina: I think there’s two really important pieces. First one is breathing. So when we’re going into that fight, flight, freeze response, and we’ve got adrenaline being dumped into our body, we also have a chemical called cortisol being dumped into our brain. Cortisol stops us from thinking we can’t use logic and reason, understand consequences feel our emotions. It has a massive impact in our brain. Breathing stops that fight, flight, freeze response from happening. So if I’m in danger, we often hold our breath shallow breathing. When I take nice deep breaths, my brain goes. Oh, we’re not in danger. And so it is a really effective tool in helping to stop and [00:40:00] break that fight, flight, freeze response from happening. What I usually say to my clients is don’t wait until your anxiety is a 10 outta 10 to breathe. You definitely need to Breathe outta 10, outta 10, but start breathing regularly throughout the day. It just brings everything back down. So breathing is a really, really effective coping strategy for sure. But the other one is make a plan. Remember, anxiety is a lack of confidence. Well, if I have a plan of how I’m gonna handle something, I’m going to feel way more confident in handling it. So a lot of times we have those worry thoughts, those what if scenarios, we just let them repeat over and over and over and over and over in our head. We say, take that thought, write it down on a piece of paper and figure out what do I do if this happens? Once we have a plan, we realize, oh, I could handle it. That anxious thought goes away. If it’s still there a little bit, it’s gonna be much less. But then you [00:41:00] just remind myself, no, I just do A, B, and C, and I would handle it. Even taking that to worst case scenario. Right. So, you know, let’s say I’m working with a student who is worried about failing a test. Speaker 3: Mm-hmm. Sabrina: So we can make a plan about what do you do to not fail the test. But that’s not the worry thought. The worry thought is what if I fail? So what if, if you fail your test, what do you do? You talk to the teacher, you know, you see if you can rewrite, you study more for the next ones. You do really well on your presentations so that you are bringing your markup, okay, so I can handle failing this test. Worst case scenario, what if I fail the whole course? So what do you do? You retake it. Maybe you drop out and you start working. Even the worst case scenario we could handle. So once we start making a plan, we can really help believe in ourselves more that we would handle it. [00:42:00] Might not be fun, might not be great. I probably won’t even be very graceful in doing it, but it will happen. We are way more resilient than we give ourselves credit for. You. Think about all the experiences you’ve been through in your life. You’ve survived them ’cause you’re here now. Mm-hmm. We need to stop and look at that. I’ve handled all these things. Can I handle failing a test? Yep. Probably. Mm-hmm. Won’t be fun. Mm-hmm. It’s gonna create emotion that I don’t wanna feel, but yeah, I can handle it. Speaker 3: Mm-hmm. Sabrina: So I think those are two really important strategies. Breathing and make plans. Mm-hmm. Gissele : Is there a level of detachment that should happen when you create a plan? during the time. When I was challenged the most creating that plan might’ve introduced a lot of resistance in me if it didn’t come through the way that I had planned. And so I think that would’ve generated a little bit more fear in me. Is there a level of detachment or maybe different options that would’ve helped and [00:43:00] the other thing that would probably have arisen in me was well, I’m feeding that experience. I’m saying that that’s gonna happen. Sabrina: Yeah. Right. Well, well, and the problem is, you probably are already thinking that’s gonna happen a thousand times in your head. Yeah. So let’s just acknowledge it and say, okay, what do, if it happens? Mm-hmm. With a lot of our anxious thoughts, they never even really happen. So we don’t even have to put the plan into place. But in knowing we have a plan builds confidence, which means those anxious thoughts are going to go down. You know, when we first start doing it, well, I think even after we’ve been doing it for a really long time. We can have a plan and the chances that it’s gonna go exactly the way our plan is, is laid out not very high. That’s just not the way life works. Mm-hmm. So the first few ones can be, frustrating, but after you’ve made plan 10, 15, 20 times, you start realizing, okay, I can adapt that piece and I can challenge that piece. And I never even thought about that, but I figured out how to handle it because it’s not even really about the plan. It’s about [00:44:00] building confidence, helping me realize I got this, I can handle it, I can figure it out. And so over time, that happens. But the, the plan is often more thought based than emotion based. It doesn’t have to be, but often it is. It’s more, you know, I’m thinking through more than I am really feeling through. Gissele : Hmm. I was just thinking of a quote that I had heard about how people with good mental health are people that are the most flexible. Flexible and flowing who are willing to go with life. It’s not that life doesn’t give you adversity or things don’t happen. it’s the willingness to be flexible and the ability to bend. And it really is the people that are the most in resistance and struggle the most, or the people that are want to control and are not. Able to adjust, Sabrina: right? More. My core belief is good enough. The more confident I’m gonna be. So the more, no matter what comes up, I got it. I’ll figure it out. Core belief, not [00:45:00] good enough. More insecurity. I don’t trust in myself that I can handle any of these things, so it’s gotta go exactly like plan. Mm-hmm. And so it’s, it’s building that we, you know, we don’t want that plan to be like a routine where it has to go A, B, C, D. It’s more about how do I handle these kind of scenarios and building that confidence rather than creating more rigid plans. For sure. Gissele : Yeah. And that flexible and flowing can make you feel like. Right. Because when you stop controlling things in your life, there’s an openness, there’s a sense of, oh, I don’t have to do all of that. I don’t have to control life anymore. I can just allow it. And that doesn’t mean that things aren’t gonna happen. You know, there’s a difference between pain and suffering, right? Everybody experiences pain, whether we choose to. Suffer is optional. Like when I think about my experiences, many times I [00:46:00] experienced pain, but I was the one who was causing myself suffering by repeating those same thoughts and constricting and all of that stuff. But it’s hard for us to acknowledge that we are doing that to ourselves. Right? Right. Sabrina: It’s that responsibility piece. I think same with the word stress, right? People often talk about how everything is so stressful. You create your own stress. If you go into it thinking, I can’t handle this, yeah, you’re gonna be stressed out. But if you go in feeling confident, knowing that no matter what comes, you’ll figure it out and you will handle it. It’s not as stressful. there are varying things for sure, something really significant happen. It may create more stress than other things, but if we’re really stressed all the time, you are creating your own stress by how you are thinking about how you’re gonna handle the event. Not the event itself. Gissele : Hmm. Yeah. Thank you. So I wanted to give you an opportunity to share where can people find you? Where can they work [00:47:00] with you? Tell us a little bit more about your book. Sabrina: Sure. So my book is not good enough. Understanding Your Core Belief and Anxiety. It’s available on Amazon’s. It is a handbook. So you’re reading about core belief and in general, but then you do an activity where you’re applying that information to your own personal experiences. So it’s a, a book about self-reflection, learning more, understanding more about your core belief, and then how is it, you know, showing up in your life. And then what do you do? What are some things you can do to challenge yourself? To start to feel more and more good enough, important and valued. I am also on on most social media. I am Sabrina Trobak on YouTube and on LinkedIn. I am NGE. So not good enough. Understand. NGE_Trobak on Instagram and NGE_CoreBelief on TikTok. And then I’m on Facebook as well in [00:48:00] Trobak holistic counseling. Mm-hmm. Wonderful I have a website, http://www.trobakholistic.org. On my website is a page to my book. It’s got a blog section, which is just short, two to four minute reads about everything. Also got a link, a page that links all of the podcast interviews that I’ve done as well. Gissele : Hmm. Beautiful. So one final question. I ask this of all my guests. What is your definition of love? Sabrina: I, I would say my definition of love is. Probably just one word. Acceptance. Mm-hmm. Acceptance of self and others. And, and sometimes that means giving love and sometimes that means moving on. Gissele : Hmm. I like that. I like that. Even acceptance of situations. Right. If you have the confidence to believe that you can overcome anything, it’s just acceptance. Beautiful. Thank you so much, Sabrina, for being on the show and for sharing your wisdom with [00:49:00] us, and thank you to those who tuned into love and compassion with Gissele Stay tuned for another episode.

Busyness may look normal, but it's quietly draining your marriage emotionally, physically, spiritually, and sexually. In this episode, Scott, Derek, and Gabrielle unpack why most of our busyness is a choice, how to discern when to say yes or no, and practical ways to create margin, live on mission, and protect what matters most at home.Scriptures:Romans 12:1-2Ephesians 5:15-17Matthew 16:25Genesis 2:25Questions to Discuss:1. What are some of the reasons you and your spouse are overly busy in your lives and schedule?2. What is the cost of your busyness to your marriage and family? (i.e., health, money, intimacy)3. Which of your current commitments are true needs and which are really choices that reflect your lifestyle preferences or fear of missing out?4. Who in your community group or trusted circle needs to speak into your level of busyness and help you evaluate your commitments?Resources:Podcast - More Than Roommates, Episode 41 - Why Busyness Might Destroy Your Marriage (feat. Gary Thomas)Podcast - More Than Roommates, Episode 31 - Too Busy to Get Busy (Part 2 of 3 in a series on marital intimacy)Book - Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, by Peter ScazzeroBook - Practicing the Way, by John Mark Comer

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Some people move through life telling you they are always busy.They never have enough time.Everything is urgent.Everything is falling apart.And then there are others who somehow… make time.Even when life is chaotic.I live in this strange duality myself.Part of me feels the constant pressure:“I need to get this done. I need to do that. I'm behind.”And the other part of me knows:Things unfold at their own pace.Very little truly changes with panic.Building the R3ciprocity Project has made this even clearer.I never feel like I have enough time.Between research, teaching, service, family, health, and trying to build something new — the whole thing feels messy.Yet I carve out fifteen or twenty minutes every day to keep moving forward.Not because it's efficient.But because one small step a day is the only real way anything gets built.Most people misunderstand this.Busyness is a feeling.Progress is a practice.The world will always try to make you frantic.People will project their anxiety onto you.You will feel scattered, behind, inadequate… until you realize:The only thing you can ever do is take the next small step.No multitasking.No rushing.No magic.Just a calm, stubborn commitment to something that matters to you.Whatever you are working on:Stop letting “busy” control your life.Pick one small thing.Do it today.Everything else unfolds on its own.

This episode starts with an apology and an update. It's been a wild stretch—hospital visits, birthday mishaps, broken teeth, truck trouble, cows and pigs headed to the processor—but also a lot of grace and gratitude.Adam shares about Lady Haylee's recent medical scare during pregnancy, the prayers from patrons, and what it's like to walk through real uncertainty as a husband and father. The guys reflect on how quickly life can tilt from “normal” to “barely holding it together,” and yet how God can still anchor everything in hope and gratitude.Over whiskey (a Pseudo Sue malt from Iowa), Adam and David shift into the main topic: spiritual blindness—how easy it is for men to be convinced we're right, standing for the truth, and yet be totally off the mark.Drawing from Scripture, the lives of the apostles, St. John of the Cross, Aquinas, and even Dante, they explore:In This Episode:Real-life trials and gratitudeHaley's hospitalization and recoveryKids' birthdays, chipped teeth, and car troubleHow chaos at home can either crush us or deepen our trust in GodMiracles, doubt, and the desire for “proof”“If God would just give us a miracle, evangelization would be easy”The everyday miracles we ignore: the Eucharist, confession, conversionsWhy even those who saw Jesus' miracles still doubted and fledSpiritual blindness in the apostles and in usPeter's “I'll never deny you” moment—and the fall that followedThe apostles missing who Jesus really is, even after years of walking with HimLooking back on friendships and seasons of life and realizing, “I was blind to how unhealthy that really was”How our culture and attachments distort our judgmentBringing politics into our faith and letting ideology outrank the GospelThe overworking dad: when “providing” becomes an excuse to avoid the harder work of fatherhoodAttachment to success, busyness, and being “the guy” who makes everything happenThe “theology guy” who knows tons about the faith but never actually prays or servesSt. John of the Cross and Aquinas on blindness of mindDisordered attachments as a cause of spiritual blindnessMisapplying first principles and deforming prudenceWhy ignorance isn't always innocent—especially when it's chosenDante, betrayal, and why some wounds cut so deepWhy Dante places traitors and betrayers at the bottom of hellThe pain of realizing someone you trusted was not who you thoughtHow misplaced trust in people can tempt us to distrust GodPractical ways to grow in spiritual clarityDaily (or even twice-daily) examination of conscienceHonest fraternal correction and asking your friends to tell you the truthLiving a real ascetical life: fasting, temperance, and taming appetitesSubmitting your judgment to the Church instead of making yourself the standardTurning to the sacraments—especially confession and the Eucharist—for renewed visionAlong the way, you'll also hear:A story about accidentally using cardamom instead of cinnamon on a first dateThe strangely satisfying joy of a perfectly vacuumed game roomThe quiet fulfillment of husbandry—raising animals, caring for land, and stewarding what God has givenThis episode is an invitation to ask hard questions:Where am I convinced I'm right, but might be deeply wrong?What am I attached to that clouds my judgment?Who do I trust enough to tell me what I don't see about myself?If you've ever looked back on a season of life and thought, “How did I not see

In this episode, Pastor Ben Smith explores the story of Cain's descendants and reveals how it's possible to achieve success, build a legacy, and experience prosperity—yet remain entirely outside the presence and blessing of God. Genesis 4:17–24 presents a striking contrast between remarkable human advancement and deep spiritual emptiness, showing how worldly accomplishments can distract us from what truly matters.Pastor Ben highlights two major warnings from the passage:• The Busyness of Building for Nothing — how investing in things that cannot last leaves us empty.• Foolish Confidence — how prosperity without God leads to pride, moral compromise, and a false sense of security.This message challenges listeners to consider where their confidence, priorities, and pursuits truly lie. Are we chasing achievements that won't endure, or seeking the lasting joy found only in a right relationship with God? Through the example of Cain's line and the transformation of Zacchaeus, this episode reminds us that authentic purpose comes not from what we build, but from whom we belong to.Listen and be encouraged to pursue what endures—and to guard your heart from the distractions of purposeless prosperity.Key Scripture: Genesis 4:17-24Speaker: Pastor Ben SmithSeries: GenesisFormat: Expository SermonFind Out More:Ben Smith is the pastor of Central Baptist Church, Waycross, GA.Additional podcasts, books, and downloadable PDFs of Pastor Ben's sermon outlines and manuscripts are available at http://bensmithsr.org.You can find information about Central Baptist Church at cbcwaycross.org. This sermon was originally preached on 11/16/2025.

Many founders stay stuck in the space between yes and no, not because of timing, money, or strategy, but because of resistance disguised as logic. In this powerful solo episode, Jerome Myers speaks directly to high performers who feel called to their next chapter yet hesitate to move. He breaks down the most common objections founders use to delay meaningful growth and reveals the deeper fears beneath them—from the discomfort of pausing long enough to feel, to the fear of being truly seen without the armor of achievement.  Jerome also opens up about his own experience with the Founder's Exit Paradox and the identity unraveling that happens once success goes quiet. This episode serves as a mirror, a challenge, and an invitation to stop circling the life you want and begin stepping into it with clarity, alignment, and courage. [00:00–02:18] Sitting in the Gray Space Founders hesitate not because of time or money but because of quiet resistance Resistance dresses itself up as logic, busyness, and “reasonable” excuses The episode frames the work ahead: naming the fear so it stops running the show [02:19–04:45] The Five Surface Objections (and Their Real Meaning) “It's not the right time” really means, “I'm scared to slow down and feel” Busyness becomes a shield protecting founders from their inner truth Pretending everything is fine becomes exhausting — and unsustainable [04:46–07:02] The High Performer's Dilemma: “Will This Work for Me?” Strategy solves business problems, but it doesn't heal identity problems Founders fear inner work because it requires vulnerability The Intensive works differently than a playbook — it goes to the root [07:03–09:28] Trust, Fatigue, and the Fear of Hope “I need to talk to my advisor” often signals lack of self-trust “I need a break” reveals survival mode, not true rest The deeper fear is hoping for change and being disappointed again [09:29–12:32] The Founder's Exit Paradox Founders fear being seen without their achievements as armor Jerome shares his own unraveling after leaving his $20M division Success becomes identity — titles, applause, income, roles The question underneath everything: “Who am I without what I built?” [12:33–17:32] Choosing Your Next: The Real Invitation Speaking desires out loud dissolves guilt and activates clarityRemoving the founder mask leads to alignment, wholeness, and freedom Staying stuck is a decision — so is choosing your next chapter The Next Intensive becomes a turning point where founders finally feel alive again Key Quotes: “Vulnerability is not exposure. It's access. It's how you access clarity, connection, meaning, and fulfillment.” — Jerome Myers “Staying Stuck Is a Decision”— Jerome Myers Join industry leaders shaping the future and secure your spot at the Exit Planning Summit today! https://exitplanningsummit.com/speakers Ready for your next chapter?Start Your Assessment Now

Pathfinder Church | November 23, 2025 | Dion GarrettSo often we're afraid that we don't have enough resources to secure a safe, happy life. We're always looking to stash away a little bit more for a rainy day, gain more insight, and improve our safety net. But when will it ever be enough to bring us peace?Website | https://pathfinderstl.orgOnline Giving | https://pathfinderstl.org/givePodcasts | https://pathfinderstl.org/podcastsFacebook | https://facebook.com/pathfinderstlInstagram | https://instagram.com/pathfinderstlSt. John School | https://stjls.orgContact Us | churchinfo@pathfinderstl.org

What if your sugar cravings, need to clean, urge to call a friend, or desire to put on a movie while working aren't just procrastination—but your nervous system desperately trying to help you avoid drowning in emotions that feel too intense to face? In this mini episode, Dr. Aimie gets vulnerable about discovering a new level of chronic functional freeze in herself—sharing the exact moment she found herself staring at chocolate muffins on a grocery app, salivating, recognizing her body was scrambling to decrease the intensity of overwhelm. This episode reveals something critical about stored trauma: what looks like busyness or distraction is actually your biology's attempt to create distance when stress feels bigger than your capacity. And recognizing these patterns is the first step to having choice instead of falling into them unconsciously. In this episode you'll hear more about: The capacity equation: Why overwhelm and freeze kick in when the stress you're experiencing feels so much bigger than your current capacity—it's not a choice, it's your body going into protection mode to keep you from drowning The chocolate muffin moment: Dr. Aimie's raw account of craving chocolate muffins while on a carnivore diet, recognizing her nervous system was reaching for sugar to numb panic—and the biology of why sugar and gluten bind opiate receptors just like Vicodin to decrease emotional pain The pattern of disconnection: How chronic functional freeze shows up as avoidance of emotions through creating distance—sugar cravings first, then calling friends to focus on them instead of you, then cleaning and organizing anything to avoid sitting still with the stress Why high performers miss their freeze: How being productive and getting stuff done can mask storage trauma in your body—you look fine to everyone else while struggling internally with focus, efficiency, and feeling stuck trying to push through The distraction cascade: What happens when your nervous system can't get the chocolate muffins—it moves through the list: call a friend (focus on their needs), clean something (create busy work), put on a movie (split your attention), go to bed early (escape it all) The biology of avoidance behaviors: Understanding that reaching for distractions isn't weakness or poor discipline—it's your nervous system literally scrambling for anything that will decrease intensity so you don't feel like you're drowning in your inner emotions Why it looks healthy but isn't: How going to bed early, cleaning, and helping friends can appear like self-care and productivity when they're actually signs of freeze response—trying to run away and create distance from what feels too big From no choice to real choice: How recognizing these patterns as messages from your body creates space for different decisions—before awareness, you were falling into chocolate muffins and distractions; after awareness, you can see what your body really needs (to know you're going to be okay) The growth edge opportunity: Why being at your edge in overwhelm isn't doom and gloom—it's actually your opportunity to expand capacity so you can hold more stress without going into freeze, transforming your relationship with the freeze response entirely The patterns of pain and protection: Where to find the full framework in Chapter 9 of The Biology of Trauma, including disconnection, perfectionism, push-through philosophy, chronic fatigue, and autoimmunity as predictable patterns of stored trauma Your busyness isn't always about being busy. Sometimes it's your nervous system trying to save you from drowning. But here's the truth: when you can recognize the chocolate muffin craving, the urge to clean, the need to focus on someone else, or the desire to split your attention with a movie as messages from your body—not failures or weaknesses—you gain choice. You can ask, "What do I really need right now? What is my body trying to tell me?" That recognition is powerful. That's what transforms freeze from something that controls you into something you move through, knowing you'll be okay and that this edge is actually your growth edge.

In this episode of Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, host Pragya sits down with Rafael Pinho, CFA, co-founder and CFO of TD Pine Advisors, to unpack a brutal but necessary question for every founder. Is your company actually valuable, or just busy. Rafael breaks down the real drivers of business value in today's volatile market. Predictable cash flow, capital efficiency, conservative forecasting, and smart use of AI. He explains the concept of the value gap. The difference between what your business is worth today and what it could be worth if you stop over-indexing on vanity metrics and start running with financial clarity. If you are a founder, investor, or operator trying to navigate fundraising, exits, or sustainable growth, this conversation gives you a straight-talking framework to think less like a revenue chaser and more like a value creator. About the Guest  : Rafael Pinho, CFA is the co-founder and CFO of TD Pine Advisors, where he helps owners of privately held businesses understand what their companies are truly worth and how to close the gap between current value and potential value. With deep experience in financial strategy, valuation, and capital allocation, he works with founders to build predictable cash flow, resilient business models, and credible paths to scale or exit in complex markets. Key Takeaways  : The value gap is the space between what your business is worth today and what it could be worth if it were less dependent on the founder and built on predictable, repeatable cash flow instead of one-off wins. Revenue and valuation got heavily conflated during the 2021-2022 boom. Long term, cash flow, consistency, and resilience drive value more than raw top line growth. Investors are increasingly rewarding three things. Predictability of revenue and earnings, healthy profitability with solid margins, and credible long term growth tailwinds in the market the business serves. Founders who run their companies “by the bank balance” are flying blind. A rolling 13 week cash flow view plus a 12 month forecast and budget dramatically increases decision making clarity and investor confidence. Hidden value often sits in under-served markets and new channels that founders are too conservative or busy to explore. A structured, budgeted experiment can safely unlock those opportunities. AI should be treated as an efficiency and productivity lever, not a magic growth trick. Used well, it improves margins and scalability and that directly impacts long term business value. Avoid recency bias. Do not assume last month's spike or crash is the new normal. Anchor your planning in fundamentals and conservative assumptions rather than emotional reactions to recent numbers. 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Discover how trauma lives in the body—and how the vagus nerve, nervous system shutdown, and somatic healing explain why stillness can feel unsafe. Through the Biology of Trauma® lens, Dr. Aimie shares the trauma response sequence and the Essential Sequence needed to heal stored trauma without overwhelm. If we've ever felt like we can't stop moving—like sitting still feels unsafe—this episode helps us understand why. I share Jess's story, a 45-year-old marketing director whose chronic busyness protected her from an 8-year-old's stored terror. When her 17-year-old daughter said, "Mom, we never really got to be together," Jess knew something had to change. We'll explore how nervous system dysregulation shows up as high-functioning exhaustion, emotional disconnection, and perfectionism. We'll see how trauma becomes biology—and why our body holds on until it feels safe enough to let go.   In this episode you'll learn: [00:00] Why a "good childhood" doesn't guarantee a nervous system free of trauma [02:15] How Jess's busyness, weight gain, and exhaustion were signs of stored trauma [06:40] Why stillness feels unsafe when the body equates pausing with overwhelm [09:10] Thinking vs feeling: how living in your head blocks somatic trauma healing [12:45] The real definition of trauma: overwhelm inside the body, not just events [16:05] Startle → stress → freeze → shutdown: the trauma response sequence in the nervous system [18:40] How the vagus nerve turns overwhelm into a whole-body shutdown response [21:20] Overwhelm as biology: fatigue, gut issues, emotional eating, and chronic anxiety [24:05] Why somatic work can retraumatize you if you don't feel safe first [26:30] The essential safety sequence: safety → support → growth into calm aliveness [28:15] How Jess used the Foundational Journey to break the cycle with her daughter   Main Takeaways: Trauma Happens Inside the Body: Trauma isn't defined by events—it's what happens inside of us when overwhelm outpaces our capacity to cope. Overwhelm Is Trauma Biology: When the size of the problems we face feels bigger than our resources, our nervous system shifts from stress into trauma—leading to freeze, shutdown, and hopelessness. Chronic Busyness and Perfectionism Can Be Functional Freeze: What looks like overachieving may actually be a protective response. Our body may be using busyness to avoid stored pain. The Vagus Nerve Makes Trauma Physical: It carries the signal of shutdown throughout our system—leading to fatigue, gut issues, disconnection, and a loss of aliveness. We Must Follow the Same Path Out That We Took In: Skipping straight to calm never works. True healing follows this path: Safety → Support → Expansion. Healing Breaks Generational Patterns: Jess's journey shows what becomes possible when we regulate our nervous system and choose presence over protection.   Notable Quotes: "Trauma isn't what happened to us—it's what happened inside of us". "Busyness kept me safe. It kept me from drowning in emotions I couldn't process". "We have to follow the same path that our body took." "Our body holds its truth. Our mind tells us what it wants us to hear." "Safety first, then Support, then Expansion. You cannot skip the sequence." "Our body needs safety to come out of shutdown. Until we create that, it will stay closed."   Episode Takeaway: Trauma isn't about what happened—it's about what overwhelmed our nervous system and pushed it into survival mode. Chronic busyness, perfectionism, and emotional disconnection are often signs our body is still trying to protect us. But when we follow the Essential Sequence—Safety, then Support, then Expansion—we can safely access and resolve what our body has been holding. Healing becomes possible when our body finally knows it's safe to feel, to rest, and to be present.   Resources/Guides: Take the Attachment Pain Quiz: Discover your attachment patterns and how they show up in your nervous system Attachment Trauma Healing Roadmap: Get your personalized roadmap for healing attachment wounds Foundational Journey - If you are ready to create your inner safety and shift your nervous system, join me and my team for this 6 week journey of practical somatic and mind-body inner child practices. Lay your foundation to do the deeper work safely and is the pre-requisite for becoming a Biology of Trauma® professional.    Related Episodes: Episode 36: How to Integrate Somatic and Parts Work Part 2: Mind-Body Dialog Questions with Dr. Aimie Apigian Episode 37: How to Integrate Somatic and Parts Work Part 2: Mind-Body Dialog Questions with Dr. Aimie Apigian   Your host: Dr. Aimie Apigian, double board-certified physician (Preventive/Addiction Medicine) with master's degrees in biochemistry and public health, and author of the national bestselling book "The Biology of Trauma" (foreword by Gabor Maté) that transforms our understanding of how the body experiences and holds trauma. After foster-adopting a child during medical school sparked her journey, she desperately sought for answers that would only continue as she developed chronic health issues. Through her practitioner training, podcast, YouTube channel, and international speaking, she bridges functional medicine, attachment and trauma therapy, facilitating accelerated repair of trauma's impact on the mind, body and biology. Disclaimer: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical, psychological, or mental health advice to treat any medical or psychological condition in yourself or others. This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your own physician, therapist, psychiatrist, or other qualified health provider regarding any physical or mental health issues you may be experiencing. Comment Etiquette: I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Please share and use your name or initials so that we can keep this space spam-free and the discussion positive

In this conversation, Marshall and Nick discuss the evolving landscape of automotive detailing, focusing on the rise of ceramic coatings, the impact of AI on content creation, and the importance of quality products in the detailing industry. They explore the challenges faced by small business owners, the misconception of busyness versus profitability, and the significance of having a structured approach to detailing. The discussion also touches on the maintenance of electric vehicles and the necessity of choosing the right products for optimal results.Chapters00:00 The State of Automotive Journalism02:52 The Impact of AI on Content Creation06:12 The Evolution of Detailing Practices09:10 The Role of Social Media in Car Culture12:01 Pad Washing Techniques and Preferences15:07 Insights on EVs and Maintenance17:56 Kia Paint and Detailing Solutions22:00 Optimizing Detailing Techniques27:58 The Business of Detailing: Profitability vs. Busyness32:33 Understanding Profitability in Business39:34 The Myth of Busyness in Business46:00 Maximizing Efficiency Over Cost-Cutting

Global Outreach Director Marissa Armit reflects on a busy ministry trip to Nairobi, Kenya, realizing the need to slow down and listen for God's voice in the stillness. She encourages creating rhythms of prayer and journaling to hear Him.

We've been taught that being busy means being successful — but what if it's actually holding us back? In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher talks with performance optimization expert and author Peggy Sullivan about how to escape “time poverty” and achieve more by doing less.Peggy shares how leaders can recognize the traps of constant hustle, eliminate low-value activities, and replace them with purpose-driven priorities. From tackling meeting overload to setting better boundaries and aligning time with values, this conversation offers practical steps to shift from burnout to balance — and from busyness to true productivity.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It's packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human. Want more from our conversations on the show? Subscribe to the R@W Notes Newsletter! It's where I share top takeaways from our guests, the resources that fuel their success, and my personal insights on how we as leaders more human. And we need more human. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Sign up today to keep your leadership journey on the right path. And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Pathfinder Church | November 16, 2025 | AJ MasticIn life we know that the people who make something of themselves tend to move fast and have many irons in the fire. To have a significant life it seems like busyness is a must; a sign that we're on the right track. We know that laziness is a certain path to insignificance, but what if the same risk can be found in constant busyness?Website | https://pathfinderstl.orgOnline Giving | https://pathfinderstl.org/givePodcasts | https://pathfinderstl.org/podcastsFacebook | https://facebook.com/pathfinderstlInstagram | https://instagram.com/pathfinderstlSt. John School | https://stjls.orgContact Us | churchinfo@pathfinderstl.org

Do you know how to pray? Do you feel you have an effective prayer life? Would you like to have a deeper connection to God? This Sunday, as Pastor Jeff resumes our sermon series on the life of Moses we will study a passage that offers wonderful insights for how to have a deeper, more meaningful, more powerful prayer life.

JOIN THE 7 DAY RESET - ▶️ www.therebuiltman.com/7dayreset   In episode 302 of The Rebuilt Man, Coach Frank Rich exposes the hard truth most men never hear about porn addiction: you're not stuck because you're weak or broken—you're stuck because you're trying the wrong solutions.   Men often turn to blockers, therapy, praying harder, more discipline, or even more sex… hoping something external will fix an internal identity conflict. But the reality is this:   Porn addiction is not about behavior. It's not about self-control. It's about identity.   Frank breaks down the seven most common strategies men use to quit porn—and explains why each one fails to create real, lasting transformation:   Porn blockers & accountability software Blockers protect boys. Identity transforms men. Therapy focused only on the past Understanding pain doesn't rewire patterns or change behavior. Reading the Bible & praying more Praying harder doesn't rewire neural pathways—action does. Men's groups & 12-step programs Comfort doesn't change you. Identity does. White-knuckling, willpower, or NoFap You cannot fight a neurological addiction with sheer grit. Trying to quit or "staying busy" Staying busy is not healing—it's avoiding. Having more sex or getting into a relationship This isn't a lack-of-sex issue—it's a dopamine and identity issue. Frank then lays out the only path that actually leads to sustainable freedom:   Identity transformation powered by structure, purpose, discipline, and brotherhood.   This episode will challenge you, encourage you, and give you a clear next step toward freedom.   KEY TAKEAWAYS Most men aren't stuck in porn because they're weak. You're not broken, and God has not abandoned you. Blockers protect boys; identity transforms men. Understanding your pain doesn't fix your patterns. Praying harder won't rewire your brain. Comfort and community alone don't create transformation. You can't out-grit a neurological addiction. Busyness is a distraction, not healing. Porn addiction isn't about sex—it's about emotional escape. Identity transformation is the ONLY path to long-term freedom. Call to Action: If you're tired of waiting for motivation to show up and ready to start building real structure and freedom in your life — join the FREE 7-Day Porn Reset today. ▶️ www.therebuiltman.com/7dayreset   – Follow Coach Frank: IG - https://www.instagram.com/coachfrankrich   YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@CoachFrankRich   Website - https://www.rebuiltrecovery.com/homepage

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 1870: Alli Worthington explores how chronic busyness drains our peace, purpose, and presence, offering a clear-eyed guide to escape the cycle of constant striving. By confronting the lies that keep us overwhelmed, she empowers us to reclaim margin, intentionality, and joy in everyday life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://goinswriter.com/breaking-busy/ Quotes to ponder: "Busy is a drug that a lot of people are addicted to." "When we are always busy, we miss the most important moments of our lives." "I wasn't addicted to success. I was addicted to striving."

Welcome back to The Beard Laws Network! This week on "Stay Outta My Fridge," 4 Fridge Mistakes You're Making Every Day. The crew was so busy dealing with family chaos that we didn't have time to record a brand-new episode! So, enjoy this epic compilation we're calling the "LOST EPISODE". This high-octane recap combines three of our most requested past videos into one show! You'll get the full breakdown of the legendary Hershey PA Pig Roast, the absurdity of our amateur Lawnmower Racing adventure, and an honest look at the busy life causing all this family chaos. If you're looking for an unfiltered, non-beard related podcast about real-life mayhem and fun events like the Pig Roast and Lawnmower Racing, this is it! New episodes of STAY OUTTA MY FRIDGE drop every Thursday! Follow us on Instagram: @beardlaws Hit that subscribe button for more best sports moments podcast episodes, fun food reviews, and family-friendly content! Friends of the show: Live Bearded - https://livebearded.com Yellow Leaf Hammocks - https://www.yellowleafhammocks.com/products/the-vista Shinesty - https://shinesty.com/?ref=beardlaws Want your fridge roasted? Share your weirdest item in the comments for a future Fridge Detective segment! Like, share, and subscribe to join the Stay Outta My Fridge community! Your support helps us grow! Stay curious with Beard Laws Studio—Stay Outta My Fridge: Your go-to for family entertainment! If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a 5-star review on your favorite podcast app! It's the best way to help our family show reach more people.This has been The Stay Outta My Fridge Podcast, your source for family comedy, snack reviews, and '90s nostalgia.Find us on social media The Stay Outta My Fridge Podcast is a part of the Bleav Network. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

A crowded calendar can look like success, but what if it's hiding slow service, low-yield work, and profit slipping through the cracks? We pull back the curtain on the “packed restaurant” illusion and share a clearer measure of health: dollar-per-hour production. By focusing on adjusted production per hour, you can design days that hit your goals on purpose, not by accident, and reclaim time without sacrificing revenue.We get specific about how to shift from busy to profitable. You'll hear the simple math that compares an eight-hour day of fillings to a four-hour block of crowns—and why the latter can be four times more profitable in half the time. We dive into DPH block scheduling, setting minimum dollar values for key slots, and limiting low-dollar procedures so your schedule tells the truth. We also tackle the hidden cost of cancellations: the empty operatory that quietly halves profitability. From pre-collecting and firm policies to waitlists and same-day rescue protocols, we show how to protect high-value time and stabilize your week.Learn how to make more money on less days!  Register for the 3 Day Virtual Practice Freedom event at https://www.dentalpracticeheroes.com/freedom Take Control of Your Practice and Your Life We help dentists take more time off while making more money through systematization, team empowerment, and creating leadership teams. Ready to build a practice that works for you? Visit www.DentalPracticeHeroes.com to learn more.

In this episode of The Steward Chair, Sandy Moll, leader of Advanced Business Solutions, Jeremiah 2911 Capital, and several other ventures, shares her journey of faith-driven leadership, exploring how "chasing God, not busyness" drives meaningful, long-term success. We discuss how Sandy stewards multiple companies while working three days a week, her counter-cultural strategy of growing a business 100% through service, and why she believes "work-life balance" doesn't exist when your work is part of your life's purpose. This conversation provides actionable takeaways for leaders committed to stewardship, integrity, and impact. Key Takeaways Stewardship Through Surrender: Sandy's leadership is founded on "chasing God". She starts each day in silence, asking God for direction, which allows her to manage numerous responsibilities without being consumed by "busy-ness". Growth Through Service: Advanced Business Solutions has grown entirely through relationships and service, not traditional marketing. Sandy's focus is on serving clients well and asking, "Who else can we help?". Work-Life Integration: Sandy reframes the "work-life balance" debate. She believes that if you are doing the work God put you on earth for, it isn't separate from your life—it's an integrated part of it. Resources Mentioned Visit https://www.abs-core.com/ Follow ABS on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/ABSThrive/ Follow Sandy on at LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandymoll/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SandyJMoll Join the ConversationThe Steward Chair is about equipping and inspiring business leaders to build organizations that stand the test of time. If this episode resonated with you, share your biggest takeaway and tag us on LinkedIn: Chat With Leaders Media https://www.linkedin.com/company/chatwithleaders/ and End of the Line Productions https://www.linkedin.com/company/end-of-the-line-productions/. Elevate your podcast, company meeting, or industry event strategies to better engage stakeholders and drive meaningful growth! Visit ChatWithLeaders.com to learn more about how we can help.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Busyness and distraction are rampant in our culture. Listen to this story about Jesus and his two friends who were sisters.(Luke 10:38-42 NLT)As Jesus and the disciples continued on their way to Jerusalem, they came to a certain village where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home. Her sister, Mary, sat at the Lord's feet, listening to what he taught. But Martha was distracted by the big dinner she was preparing. She came to Jesus and said, “Lord, doesn't it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.” But the Lord said to her, “My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.”Martha just knew she was in the right, didn't she? She was busy fixing a meal for a room full of hungry people and growing impatient with her sister for leaving her to do all the work. Imagine her surprise when Jesus told her that Mary was actually in the right place doing the right thing. … The Bible says Martha was distracted while Mary was discovering. … Notice Jesus's choice of words, translated into English, of course. There is only one thing worth being concerned about. And Mary has discovered it.Today, there are things you have to do and things you need to do. But to stay on the path of finding who you are in Christ requires setting aside some to-do list stuff and do what Mary did—intentional time to sit and listen to Jesus. In stillness.Listen AgainMartha was distracted by the big dinner she was preparing. She came to Jesus and said, “Lord, doesn't it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.” But the Lord said to her, “My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.”Imagine the Lord words from this scripture directed to you today, “My dear friend, you are worried and upset over all these details! There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Discover it.”Let's pray together: “Lord Jesus, remind me, help me take the time to stop life and listen, to not be distracted, but discover more of You, to discover more of me. As above, so below.”

I explore what Kierkegaard and others have identified as a primary antithesis of simplicity - busyness. A huge thanks to Seth White for the awesome music!Thanks to Palmtoptiger17 for the beautiful logo: https://www.instagram.com/palmtoptiger17/Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/thewayfourth/?modal=admin_todo_tourYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTd3KlRte86eG9U40ncZ4XA?view_as=subscriberInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theway4th/ Kingdom Outpost: https://kingdomoutpost.org/My Reading List Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/21940220.J_G_ElliotPurity of Heart is to Will One Thing: https://www.religion-online.org/book/purity-of-heart-is-to-will-one-thing/The Anxious Generation: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/171681821-the-anxious-generation Thanks to our monthly supporters J Phillip Mast Laverne Miller Jesse Killion ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Pathfinder Church | November 9, 2025 | Dion GarrettOne of the benefits of staying really busy is that when we have lots of things that require our focus, it can help us put unresolved stuff out of mind. When we have emotional baggage we haven't dealt with, it can seem like a win to move our attention past it, but in doing so, what if it's not defeated, but lying dormant?Website | https://pathfinderstl.orgOnline Giving | https://pathfinderstl.org/givePodcasts | https://pathfinderstl.org/podcastsFacebook | https://facebook.com/pathfinderstlInstagram | https://instagram.com/pathfinderstlSt. John School | https://stjls.orgContact Us | churchinfo@pathfinderstl.org

99% of lawyers feel too busy and overwhelmed.This episode of The Free Lawyer is about the “busyness trap” that dominates the legal profession and how lawyers can break free from it.Gary explores the cultural, technological, and psychological causes of this problem. From constant connectivity and billable-hour pressure to perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and the addiction to external validation.He outlines the hidden costs of constant busyness: damaged health, strained relationships, decreased effectiveness, and missing out on life itself. Gary challenges the belief that busyness equals success, urging lawyers to see it as a problem, not a badge of honor.Get the Values Alignment Guide ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://upbeat-trailblazer-9238.kit.com/1604bbf4cb⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Take the Free Lawyer Assessment garymiles.net/the-free-lawyer-assessment Learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.garymiles.net/break-free⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Schedule a complimentary discovery call: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-call⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqcfaTWo17uxmYS9hfAdiaQ

Pathfinder Church | November 2, 2025 | Doug MaussWhen life gets overwhelming and out of hand, one primal reaction deep in our “lizard brain” is to take action; ANY action! Life's problems usually don't get solved by ignoring them; we have to act and take control – but what if the default instinct to “plow ahead” and take control of “all the things” actually perpetuates our deep fears of losing control?Website | https://pathfinderstl.orgOnline Giving | https://pathfinderstl.org/givePodcasts | https://pathfinderstl.org/podcastsFacebook | https://facebook.com/pathfinderstlInstagram | https://instagram.com/pathfinderstlSt. John School | https://stjls.orgContact Us | churchinfo@pathfinderstl.org

In this episode of The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex, we uncover why most entrepreneurs don't fail because of bad ideas—they fail because they waste time. Paul shares how working 80–100-hour weeks in law enforcement taught him that being busy doesn't mean being productive. True success isn't about doing more—it's about doing what matters most.

Busyness defines our culture—but should it define the Christian life? In this episode, we examine the modern obsession with productivity, explore what Scripture says about time and purpose, and ask how believers can resist the trap of constant activity that leads nowhere. What does it mean to work hard without losing sight of holiness, rest, and true fruitfulness in Christ?#BusyForWhat #ChristianPodcast #FaithAndCulture #BiblicalWisdom #RedeemingTheTime #ChristianLiving #WorkAndRest #Discipleship #BibleStudy #Proverbs26 #TruthMatters #ChurchAndCulture #ChristianLife #JesusChrist #GospelCentered

Pathfinder Church | October 26, 2025 | AJ MasticIf you add up all the things we “should” do to fulfill all of our vocations, responsibilities, and goals, the list gets VERY long. If we stay organized and work hard on our tasks, there are times when we can feel like we're on top of everything, but that feeling is rare and fleeting; something in life always goes out of balance. When we know that at any given point there's an area of life that we're not giving enough attention to, how can we keep from feeling like a failure?Website | https://pathfinderstl.orgOnline Giving | https://pathfinderstl.org/givePodcasts | https://pathfinderstl.org/podcastsFacebook | https://facebook.com/pathfinderstlInstagram | https://instagram.com/pathfinderstlSt. John School | https://stjls.orgContact Us | churchinfo@pathfinderstl.org

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3784: Courtney Carver invites us to reclaim our time and peace by becoming "gentle warriors," intentionally rejecting the glorification of busyness in favor of presence, gratitude, and calm. Through simple shifts like silencing notifications, asking better questions, and embracing solitude, she shows how we can trade overwhelm for a more meaningful and spacious life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://bemorewithless.com/manifesto/ Quotes to ponder: "I will work with people who want my best, not my busiest." "Ban the word 'busy' and see what it feels like to talk about your life differently." "The opposite of a busy life isn't a lazy life, it's a full life." Episode references: Digital Detox (National Day of Unplugging): https://www.nationaldayofunplugging.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3783: Courtney Carver invites us to quietly rebel against the chaos of modern life by becoming “gentle warriors” who prioritize presence, health, and heartfelt decisions over constant productivity. Her powerful reflections offer a compassionate roadmap for reclaiming time, energy, and connection in a world obsessed with doing more. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://bemorewithless.com/manifesto/ Quotes to ponder: "Asking for help is a sign of strength. Asking for help builds relationships." "If you can draw the line with your heart, you can take a stand with a smile." "Your no doesn't need a lengthy explanation or apology." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Scott Becker explores three states of being idle, busy, and busy with purpose.

In this personal growth podcast episode, host Monica Packer and author Catherine Price dive deep into how to be happier through the science and practice of true fun. They explore what gets in the way of joy, like perfectionism, guilt, and endless responsibilities and share small, practical steps to rediscover your spark. Whether you're seeking personal development, curious about daily habits that actually improve your life, or searching for the best podcasts for self improvement, this conversation will leave you inspired to bring more playfulness and self-compassion into your days. Perfect for moms craving self care for mothers and anyone learning how to stop being a perfectionist, this self help podcast reminds you that personal growth and development don't have to be serious, they can start with a little fun. Listen to the full episode here: https://www.aboutprogress.com/blog/you-need-to-have-more-fun Sign up as a Supporter to get access to our private, premium, ad-free podcast, More Personal. Episodes air each Friday! More for Moms Conference Leave a rating and review Check out my ⁠workshops⁠! Follow About Progress on YOUTUBE! Book Launch Committee Free DSL Training Full Show Notes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices