Through The Fires

Intro: - Matthew Del Negro is a professional Actor (Goliath, Scandal, The West Wing, Teen Wolf, and The Sopranos) - One of the stars of the Netflix hit Huge In France which launched on April 12th - Podcast host: 10,000 Nos with Matthew Del Negro, in which he sits down with high achievers in all walks of life to discuss their hard-fought journeys to where they are now, - Since launching his podcast, he has become one of the faces of Perseverance and Resilience Convo: - His journey from D1 lacrosse at Boston College to being an actor. - Started in the acting business with zero connections. - After a couple big breaks (cousin Brian on the The Sopranos) had to go back to bartending before gaining real momentum in Hollywood. - Maintaining marriage and kids with this business - Podcast/speeches/ perseverance message - How his struggles after Goliath led to role in Huge in France - Frequently requested to deliver keynotes on Perseverance and Resilience, as it pertains to his own journey and the challenges that face institutions and individuals. - He has also written, produced and directed for film and is currently developing a feature script about a hard-charging, lone wolf motivational speaker who eventually learns to take his own advice after hitting rock bottom.

Joe Sheehey Who: Founding Partner & CEO of Cured Nutrition, www.curednutrition.com Host of The Cured Collective Podcast Was a top ranked Men’s Physique competitor, online fitness coach Story: Went to college for aerospace engineering Lost himself in drugs and alcohol Landed his first job at the biggest defense contractor in the world Became depressed and suicidal while finishing college Isolated to pull his life together Found competitive fitness and built a community Took a leap of faith and quit engineering to be a cannabis entrepreneur Built a 1+mil company in less than a year Continue to discover myself every single day What is the “Entourage Effect” Takeaways: I am far more capable than anything I could have ever imagined I have the ability to give myself the permission to do anything I want with this life I am the hero of my own story

- Owner of, Santa Barbara based, Strength Incorporated - 4 Olympic Distance triathlons and The Arnold Sports Festival - The Importance of brotherhood - Addiction, and coming out of the darkness - Chris, literally, turned right instead of left one night and how it changed his life forever - How important fitness is to every part of life - How he went from doing cocaine in the morning to losing 100+ pounds and being a competitive athlete - What he is doing now with his Phoenix Transformation Experience

Intro Actor Producer Animal activist recently did a lot of good work rescuing horses from the Woolsey fire in LA Sober Kundalini Yoga student About Join me as I talk to Billy McNamara about: His road into the entertainment industry. The quick rise to stardom The up and downs of the business His path to and into long-term recovery from alcoholism The crazy story about the recent Malibu fires in Southern California and how he saved two horses, literally, walking through the fires. We finish by talking about what sobriety looks like for him

Natalie's Journey - My dad was my coach. I was born into the sport and it was my life. - Was the only sport I knew and did. Until senior year high school was on a hip hop team haha but we don’t have to talk about that. - Freshman year, the day before my first college meet I was pulled into the coaches office and said I couldn’t compete. Then said I couldn’t travel with the team. All year. Because of my SAT scores. That was a devastating time - Captain of the team my senior year college - After college I was ready to start new. Do something other than gymnastics. Little did I know I would go downhill fast. - A few months of partying going crazy after gymnastics I found myself sitting at a crossroad.... literally in my car. Saying “now I know why people kill themselves” basically I thought to myself that I had no reason to be on this earth. I didn’t know anything but gymnastics. - I didn’t really focus on my studies because I went to college for gymnastics basically. So I had a hard time getting a job - Finally got some help. Got myself together. Moved from CT to Boston and new life began. - Remembered the determination, drive and skills I had that I used in my gymnastics to helps be successful. Then used them towards a line of work - I found my purpose. Helping other former athletes through their transition into life after sport. - I am here today!

How to navigate the work parties, family trips, in-laws, friendsgiving, and stressful situations. Strategies to use when people harass you about not drinking. What to say when someone asks why you might not be drinking, or  just drinking less.  

How to avoid the self pity trap. Ways to get out of it if you do get sucked in. The dangers of staying at your pity party.

Take Action Tuesday I wanted to be and behaved like a rockstar for far too long. It was my identity. It was what I thought attracted people to me. It was actually what was pushing people away and I was digging myself deeper, and deeper into a hole of alcoholism.

- Owner of BairFit, go check out his website www.bairfit.com - Weekly blogs about fitness, mindset, nutrition, his journey Topics - Journey through depression and social anxiety to become an industry expert and helping others get in great shape without fitness running their life. - My fitness journey: finding the happiness I was chasing in helping a client succeed, NOT in my own gym success - ”If-then” thinking - Struggles with social anxiety - The importance of vulnerability - Shifting how you define yourself from external to internal - Importance of "creating space" daily - Meditation/ ”getting out of your head”/being present - Detaching yourself from your thoughts - Positive self-talk - The faults you see in others are often your own insecurities reflected back at you - Anxiety and depression: where did that come from? Feeling like I wasn’t good enough. That I had to be the best for anyone to love me. Wanting only to impress people. Didn’t think they would love me if they could see my flaws/I was vulnerable. Takeaways - Detach yourself from your thoughts/feelings: realize that these thoughts/feelings are not who you are. - Thinking of the voice in your head as a bad roommate, realizing how up and down it is, and just not true. - The importance of vulnerability to building real relationships. Thinking of it as putting a piece of yourself out there, making it a  “building block” for a relationship, which the other person usually reciprocates. - Looking for happiness internally instead of externally. Looks, validation from other people, social media, etc. is all temporary, and very fleeting. It will never make you happy for long. You must find the things internally that you love/value in yourself.

ABOUT:- I am a ball of energy and a hurricane of happiness that is here to serve you - Founder of Michael Arnold Coaching where her slogan is Make Shift Happen. - Co-author of the soon to be released book "Drowning in Addiction: Sink or Swim" - Fur mommy to two hilarious little weiner dogs. Story: - acceptance of my disease (it was never just one drink) - living fear of judgment - being an actor putting on a show- so many secrets- so much shame- the show needed to end - actually loving myself- feeling all the feels - the GIFTS of sobriety: gratitude everyday, attention to detail, actually LIVING - community- find your tribe and surround yourself with people that support you - dealing with my past and making amends and being okay if people didn't accept it - going to Harmony and having all the staff be in recovery, I honestly don't believe I would've been as successful as I am if I had to talk to a therapist that didn't go through addiction like I did. Harmony's staff new me. They really made me feel okay and that I wasn't a bad person Takeaways - my past is my greatest asset - I do not judge. love and tolerance is my code - sobriety is and always will be #1- if I don't have my sobriety then I don't have anything - I have faith- I know the universe has my back. I do good- good shit happens

13 Daily Happiness Habits   1) Be a good human Just don’t be an asshat. Hold the door for the lady behind you, the child behind you, the man behind you, THE PERSON behind you. 2) Forgive quickly Not forgiving and holding onto the anger or whatever negative emotion you’re experiencing is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. 3) Be honest It’s true what you were told all of your childhood, honesty is the best policy. That is all. 4) Judge less When you judge someone you’re actually judging yourself. Let that sink in. Doesn’t feel to nice. 5) Exercise Because science. If you want to get into the details here send me a message and we’ll take a deep dive as my man @bedroskeulian likes to say. 6) Eat like you love yourself Unless you’re under the age of 11-ish, you know what feels good when you eat it and what doesn’t. Eat the things that make you feel good. 7) Don't have a victim mindset You are not a victim. IT may feel comfortable and easy to slip into being one, but it will not help you at all. 8) Show gratitude, always Also, because science. It is proven that writing a gratitude list actually creates new neural pathways in your brain. 9) Drink enough water This is necessary for survival, but it also helps with energy, brain power and mood. 10) Be open to change Everything is always changing anyway, so there’s really no use in fighting it. 11) Be patient, but don't wait Patience is mindful, waiting is mindless. 12) Speak well of others No matter who it is speak well of them. Sometimes fewer words is better. 13) Smile more than you frown Smiling just like yawning is contagious. The more you smile the more people around you will smile and the happier everyone will be. Bonus happiness tip: Accept every moment as if you chose it. Because you did.

Austin Cooper   -Personal Development Coach   -Founder of Sober Evolution, everything from clothing -> events -> to one on one life coaching   -Creator of The Sober Experience which has and event coming up in a few weeks in St. Petersburg, FL   -He’s been featured on ABC’s 20/20   -Owner of Peachy the Pig   -I started drinking at 15 which turned me from being shy to “life of the party” -I started prioritizing my life around alcohol and drugs when I started college -I dropped out of college twice -I became extremely depressed and anxious and self medicated by using alcohol and various drugs -I saw an old friend/drug dealer of mine decide to go to treatment on a Facebook post and witnessed him build his life which inspired me and opened me up to the idea of getting sober -My family gave me an intervention -I spent 22 days in rehab and treated it as a learning camp which allowed me to focus and become confident in building my life. -Soon after treatment, I got healthy, started figuring out my goals and went back to school to get my real estate license. -Through accomplishing things early on, I realized that I could accomplish anything. This excited me enough to start my own influential company, Sober Evolution -Some other accomplishments of mine that have only been possible due to my recovery include: winning a legit athletic trophy, starting my own business, being featured on ABC’s 20/20, getting any job I interviewed for, moving to Florida, creating sober events.3-5 takeaways:-Fears don’t usually come true. They are only a figment if our imagination. -As long as we strive to learn and grow each day, we can overcome just about any obstacles. -The things we want most in life are usually right outside of our comfort zones. -Sober isn’t boring -Each hardship we have in life can be the greatest learning experiences as long as we open our minds to that fact and seek knowledge from those experiences.

Don't give in for what you want now, for what you really want. "If you give in once, you'll give in twice" -Sir Alex Ferguson Giving in once, will lead to giving in again... sooner than later. The reason for this is that, first, you tell your brain that it's ok to give in. Second, you're going to realize that giving in once isn't THAT big of deal, and nothing really happened. But... The more you give in, the more you give in. Just like an itch, the more you itch the more you scratch, the more you itch. The trick is, make a plan to have those moments where built in. Plan for the cheat meal, the drinks on the weekend, whatever it is that you want to do, just plan for it.

A little about who I (Sam Morris) am. A little about how I got to where I am. A little about what to expect from Through The Fires.

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- Nick is a Peak Performance Coach who helps people unlock their full potential. "We are after all, the sum of our Daily Habits." - Nick Elvery - Nick is the host of the wildly successful Daily Habits Podcast - He is a sought after speaker on the subject of building lasting change and - The creator of the SuperCharger Academy which is his flagship course that arms his clients with the tools to becoming unstoppable in achieving what’s most important to them.  - Nick battled with hard drug and alcohol addiction for over a decade. - Overcoming this life threatening adversity gave him the insight into what it takes to create lasting change and build habits that stand the test of time. Topics - My story of addiction. - Why people fail to make permanent change. - Why mindset is the final frontier for becoming unstoppable. - What overwhelm is caused by and what to do about it. - How our past affects or present results. Hear about: -How Nick went from motorcycle chases in Cambodia to being a leading expert on peak human performance. -What causes "overwhelm" and what to do about it. -Why mindset is so important and how to master it. Get in touch with Nick:www.NickElvery.com www.DailyHabits.co.uk http://bit.ly/superchargeracademy

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