Locker Room Talk & Shots Podcast

Send us Fan MailAlpha male culture is teaching men to dominate, never ask, never show need — and it is quietly destroying their sex lives. Today I'm joined by James Harris, licensed mental health therapist, US Army veteran, and founder of Men to Heal, who has spent a decade watching this play out in real relationships. He's not here to shame men — he's here to give them what the alpha podcasters never do: the actual truth about what makes women want you.What you'll learn:What alpha culture is actually teaching men about sex — and why it backfiresWhy performing masculinity in bed kills pleasure for both peopleThe difference between sex and intimacy — and why it matters for your orgasmWhat vulnerability in a man actually does to a woman's desireHow to undo the conditioning — starting tonightWhether you're the man in this dynamic, the woman watching him disappear into it, or the partner who's been waiting for him to wake up — this one's for you.

Send us Fan MailYou went soft during sex. She felt it. And the next thing you did probably made it worse.Every man loses his erection. Most panic, apologize, or shut down — and that reaction does more damage than the erection loss ever did. This episode gives you the five exact moves that keep the moment going, keep her turned on, and get your body back without the shame spiral. Plus: why your erection is one of the earliest warning signs of heart disease, diabetes, and hormonal imbalance — and the tool that actually tracks it.What you'll learn: ✔ The move that stops both your spiral and hers at the same time ✔ How to redirect to her pleasure so she barely remembers you went soft ✔ Three sentences that save the moment (and the one she actually needs to hear) ✔ Why the erection that comes back is almost always stronger — and how to let it ✔ The cock ring that keeps you firm during sex and tracks your health between sessions ✔ Why your erection is a vital sign and when it's time to talk to your doctorThis episode features the FirmTech TechRing and RingMate — the tools I trust and would want my own partner using.

Send us Fan MailNobody told us what to do with them. Sex ed skipped them entirely. And somewhere along the way, women just... stopped thinking about them. Until now.Three women sit down and go fully, honestly, hilariously there — what we actually find attractive, what we've been getting wrong, and the moves that will genuinely change what happens in your bedroom tonight.We're getting into:Why so many women are low-key intimidated by them (and how to fix that)The grooming conversation nobody's having — including the Nair tipHow to know he's close without asking a single questionThe cupping trick that speeds everything upWhat we actually want to call them (drop it in the comments

Send us Fan MailThe Praise Kink episode was one of my biggest videos ever — and your comment section proved you're ready to go deeper.I pulled five questions I kept seeing and I'm giving you the real answers. Research, specifics, and the stuff I didn't have room for the first time around.✔ What to call her when "good girl" doesn't fit — honorifics, worship titles, and why they work ✔ Can you flip the praise kink and use it on men — and what does that look like inside the kink ✔ How to actually build a verbal vocabulary when you've been silent your whole sex life ✔ Why praise kink might be the most powerful tool for women in menopause ✔ How to introduce praise kink — whether you've been together two months or twenty yearsListen to Praise 5 Praise Kink Moves Part 1 Here: https://youtu.be/HW5PQANI09YJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailShe Stopped Wanting You & The Orgasm Gap Is Why (Here's the Fix!)She didn't lose interest in sex. She lost interest in sex that never worked for her. Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons — award-winning psychologist, Emory University professor, and author of Good Sex — breaks down the real data behind the orgasm gap, why it slowly kills a woman's desire, and exactly what closes it.Why 75% of women have faked it (and what that's really costing you)The script both men AND women buy into that kills her desire over timeWhy lesbians are finishing at 88% — and what straight couples can learn from itThe mental load connection nobody talks aboutHow mutual masturbation rewires the whole dynamicWhat to do tonight to start closing the gap for good

Send us Fan MailIt's Masturbation May — and I'm giving you the practice that will upgrade your sex life more than any new position, any new toy, any new technique.Mutual masturbation. Touching yourselves at the same time, in the same bed, watching each other.It removes the pressure to deliver an orgasm. It builds the connection most couples are missing. It shows you exactly what works on each other's bodies. And it lets you both discover new pleasure together.What you'll learn: ✔ Why this practice fixes the orgasm pressure problem most couples have ✔ The exact words to suggest it without making it weird ✔ The starting position that makes it feel intimate instead of exposing ✔ The face-to-face position that builds connection most couples are missing ✔ The hand-on-hand technique that teaches your partner's exact pressure and rhythm ✔ How to use this practice to discover new types of orgasms togetherMy Guide to Best Couple's Sex Toys For Mutual Masturbation: https://talksexwithannette.com/the-best-couples-sex-toys-for-mutual-masturbation/Pair this with my 365 Days of Orgasms series for full tutorials on G-spot, A-spot, blended orgasms, and every other technique I reference: Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailPlease stop fucking us hard. Seriously. That's the message — and if you heard it in Suzanne Noble's voice during this episode, you already know why it hit so hard.Suzanne is the host of Sex Advice for Seniors — nearly 200K followers, 180+ episodes, and the most unfiltered voice on intimacy and aging out there. She and I got into everything: why your arousal pattern changes after 50 and what to do about it, what men in their sixties are getting wrong in bed (and the one thing they could change tonight), why women who spent decades having duty sex are now retiring from it entirely, the swinging scene from a queer woman's perspective, dating younger men, and why the women having the best sex of their lives right now are the ones who finally stopped performing.If you're over 50, send this to a friend. If you're under 50, send it to yourself for later. Desire doesn't retire — unless you let it.Find Suzanne on Substack at: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/Check out her website at: https://suzannenoble.co.uk/

Send us Fan MailDoes she grab your hair like she forgot her own name? Does she text you at 2 AM the next day because her body won't stop replaying it? If not, the gap between what you're doing and what would make her lose her mind is just 7 moves nobody ever taught you.This episode gives you 7 moves she's never felt before. Not because they're complicated — because nobody teaches past the basics.What you'll learn: ✔ You're only hitting 20% of her nerve endings — the tongue fix that changes that ✔ Why your hands are either doing nothing or making it worse ✔ The counterintuitive pull-away that doubles her body's response ✔ A 30-second temperature trick with no toys and no planning ✔ The angle change she's never experienced in her entire life ✔ Why your silence is actively working against you ✔ One look — three seconds — that she'll remember longer than the orgasm itself

Send us Fan MailThere are one night stands you forget before you've brushed your teeth — and there are one night stands you're still thinking about years later. Today we're breaking down the difference.Zachary Zane — author of Boy Slut, Men's Health sex columnist, and Grindr's official sex and relationship expert — joins me to map out exactly how to have a one night stand that actually lives up to the fantasy. From the mental prep most people skip, to where to find the right person, to what happens in the room that makes it unforgettable — we're covering every stage.We get into: → The honest conversation you need to have with yourself before you go out → Where to find casual sex based on your gender, orientation, and vibe → How to communicate what you want without killing the momentum → Why one night stands can be MORE intimate than relationship sex → The aftercare that turns a hookup into a core memory instead of a regret → Safety tips every woman needs before leaving with a strangerPlus — we both share our own one night stand stories, because we've been there. A lot.

Send us Fan MailYou watched How to F*ck Slower. You tried it. Then you lost your erection and panicked. This is the fix.Slowing down is the single best thing you can do for her pleasure — but nobody talks about what happens to you when you do it. Your brain speeds up, your body gets nervous, and you lose the one thing you need to stay in the game. This episode breaks down exactly how to stay hard, stay present, and become the man who can go slow without flinching.What you'll learn: ✔ Why slowing down triggers erection loss — and how to override it |✔ The metronome technique that keeps you steady and hard ✔ Why your erection is a vital sign and how to start treating it like one ✔ The tech I personally use and recommend for erection qualityUse code ANNETTE15 on the Tech Ring and Ring Mate : https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti

Send us Fan MailMost couples stumble into bed hoping their bodies will figure it out. They don't. Because nobody's talking about who's leading, who's surrendering — or whether you're both fighting for the same role.Today's guest is Sarah Perry — certified somatic sex educator, sexological body worker, and founder of Haven Space Coaching. She holds a master's in psychology and a background in women, gender, and sexuality studies. Sarah works with people through the body to help them understand what they actually want in bed without the shame.We're breaking down:What dominant and submissive energy actually means (hint: it's not what you think)How to figure out your default — and why it changes with different partnersWhy "feminine energy = submissive" is killing your sex lifeThe 5-minute game that'll tell you exactly who you are in bedHow to stop the awkward bedroom guessing game for goodFind Sarah Perry: Instagram: @havenspacecoaching Website: https://www.havenspacecoaching.com/

Send us Fan MailYou've been misreading her in bed. The loudest sounds she makes? Those aren't for her. Research shows the majority of women vocalize to speed up his finish — not because they're in pleasure. Meanwhile, the sounds that actually mean she's deep in it? Most men miss them completely.In this episode, I break down the five real sounds she makes during sex — what each one actually means and the exact move to make when you hear it. This isn't theory. This is a playbook.

Send us Fan MailWhat is bimboification — and why are so many people hiding it? Sex and relationship coach Niki Davis-Fainbloom breaks down one of the most misunderstood fetishes out there, where it comes from, and how to explore it in your relationship without the shame spiral. Because the fetish isn't the problem. The shame is.What bimboification and cross-dressing fetishes actually areThe real link between bimboification and dragHow shame drives desire underground — and the damage it doesHow to tell your partner and actually have it go wellLow-stakes ways to explore it together

Send us Fan MailShe's not withholding. She's not checked out. And it has nothing to do with how long you've been together.Here's what's actually happening: every time you touch her, kiss her, pull her close — she can feel that it has a destination. And when desire always has a destination, she stops being in the moment and starts managing the arc. So she waits. Every time.What she's craving is a partner who is just as hungry for the moments between sex as he is for sex itself. That shift — when she finally feels it — changes everything.In this episode I'm giving you five specific moves that build her desire from the inside out. Before sex. During sex. After sex. All of them designed to do one thing: make her want to be the one who starts it.✔ The kiss that makes her think about you all day — before 9am ✔ How to drop charged moments into your day that build heat without asking for anything ✔ What women who have sex with women know about pleasure that most men don't ✔ How to be her pleasure dom — and why the giving is the getting ✔ The 20-minute window after sex that determines whether she initiates next timeThis is the episode she's going to send to you. And the one you're going to watch twice.

Send us Fan MailYou think you know what a fetish is — leather, feet, something you scroll past. But the cultural conversation leads with the weird and skips the why. Today we're flipping that.Jessica Renard — licensed professional counselor, sex therapist at StorieBrook Associates, and a therapist who works directly within the kink communities in Georgia — breaks down the fetishes that actually show up in relationships and the therapist's office. What's happening in the brain, the body, and the relationship when someone has one? And what do you do when you or your partner has a fetish?time stamps: 0:00 Intro 5:30 Difference between fetish, kink, & paraphilia 6:20 How does a fetish form and who has them 12:00 Foot Fetish 15:00 Age Play 18:14 Pet Play 22:44 Attraction to Clowns 28:00 Attraction to people with amputations 33:00 Adult Baby Diaper Fetish 36:00 Somnophilia & Dormaphilia 42:00 Human Furniture 48:00 Erotic HypnosisFind Jessica on Patreone: https://www.patreon.com/cw/jrsexAnd Here: https://www.storiebrook.com/Team/jessica-renard-lpc

Send us Fan MailMost men are completely silent during sex. And that silence is costing you more than you realize.Surveys suggest that roughly 3 out of 4 women say verbal affirmation during sex increases their arousal and orgasm intensity. But it's not just about saying nice things — it's about pairing specific words with specific physical moves at exactly the right moment. That combination does something to her body that neither one can do alone.In this episode, I'm giving you 5 praise kink moves — each one a phrase paired with a physical technique — that make sex better for both of you. And by move 5, you'll understand why she starts initiating.What you'll learn: ✔ Why "good girl" does more than an hour of thrusting ✔ The word + touch combinations that trigger arousal she can't fake ✔ How to use praise during edging to create the most intense experience she's ever had ✔ The 60-second move after she finishes that makes her want you again

Send us Fan MailIs he a sex addict — or does he just want it more than you? The term gets thrown around constantly, but most people have no idea what it actually means. In this episode, I sit down with marriage and family therapist Kate Logan — who specializes in compulsive sexual behavior at the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles — to finally draw the line between high libido, kink, and genuine sexual compulsivity.We get into:What separates a sex addict from someone who just really loves sexWhy infidelity doesn't equal addiction — and why that label can do real damageHow shame and secrecy fuel compulsive sexual patternsThe kink vs. addiction confusion that's quietly destroying relationshipsWhat's actually underneath sex addiction (it's not what you think)What treatment looks like — and why the goal is never abstinenceIf you've ever wondered whether your own patterns — or your partner's — cross a line, this episode gives you the framework to actually figure it out.Find Kate Here: Kate Logan, AMFT - CENTER FOR HEALTHY SEX

Send us Fan MailShe's thought about faking it. Statistically, she probably has.Between 58–80% of women have faked an orgasm — not once, but regularly, with partners they actually cared about. Most of those men never knew. If you want to be the exception, this episode is for you.This isn't about blame. It's about understanding what actually creates faking — and the specific things you can do to change it.What you'll learn: ✔ The 6 real reasons women fake it (none of them are what you think) ✔ Why "just ask her what she wants" is not actually a solution ✔ The specific moves that make honesty feel safe enough to happen ✔ How to stop being the man she performs for and become the man she actually wants

Send us Fan MailMen's sexual shame doesn't look like what you think. It's not about a secret kink. It's the guy jackhammering away thinking that's what success looks like. The one who won't make eye contact. The one who avoids dating entirely — not because he doesn't want connection, but because his nervous system won't let him get close.I sit down with Alex Gear — men's intimacy anxiety coach who never experienced sober sex until he got sober three years ago — to unpack what sexual shame is actually doing to your sex life and what you can do about it starting tonight.In this episode:Why "lasting longer" and "going harder" has nothing to do with her pleasureThe porn script that's overriding what his partner actually tells himHow shame shows up as shallow breathing, no eye contact, and mechanical sexAvoidance tactics in dating and relationships — how to spot themMindful masturbation as a tool for rewiring shameWhat women can do in the moment when things stall3 takeaways to start improving your intimate life tonightFind Alex: @intimacyanxietyalex on Instagram

Send a textShe's been waiting for you to figure this out.For a huge number of women, watching a confident man willingly submit to her is one of the most erotic experiences that exists. Not a weak man — a man who is secure enough to give her complete control and trust her to lead.This episode is about real submission. Not performing. Not topping from the bottom. Actually letting go.What you'll learn:5 specific ways to submit that she'll never forgetWhy real submission requires more confidence than dominanceHow to give her control without losing yourselfThe psychology behind why this creates intense desireSafety, consent, and nonverbal signals for power exchange

Send a textShe didn't lose her desire. She quietly quit it. Sex therapist and author Colette Jane Fehr joins Annette to break down why women emotionally and erotically check out of relationships long before anyone notices — and what it actually takes to come back. If you've been going through the motions, or you've watched your partner disappear and had no idea why, this one's for you.In this episode:*What quiet quitting your sex life actually looks like in the bedroom*Why emotional disconnection kills physical desire — and which goes first*The real reason dead bedrooms happen (it's not about sex)*How resentment builds from the smallest swallowed moments*The one question that cracks a relationship back open*How to know if quiet quitting has gone too far — and the signs it's not too late*Three things you can do tonight to start coming back

Send a textShe's thought about it. More than once. Maybe every time.And she's decided you'll never know — because asking feels impossible, and hoping you'll figure it out on your own hasn't worked.This episode is about the five dominance moves women consistently fantasize about and almost never get. Not because their partners wouldn't do them, but because no one ever taught them what real dominance actually looks like.This is for the men who want to be the person she feels safe enough to surrender to. And for the women who've been waiting for someone to just… lead.What you'll learn: ✔ 5 specific dominance moves that bypass her overthinking entirely ✔ Why most men never try these (and how to do them without being told) ✔ The exact mechanics — where to put your hands, what to say, when to stop ✔ Why dominance isn't about being rough — it's about being deliberate 

Send a textShe didn't set out to build a six-figure business. She got pregnant — and discovered one of OnlyFans' most profitable and least talked-about kinks.Australian mom and content creator Emily Mai joins Annette to talk about what actually happens when a woman refuses to become sexually invisible after motherhood. We're getting into pregnancy kinks, lactation content, belly fetishes, and the real psychology behind why society loses its mind when mothers stay sexually embodied — and profitable.This one goes places most people won't.In this episode:Why pregnancy exploded Emily's subscriber count overnight — and who almost killed itWhat men actually want from pregnancy content (it's not what you're imagining)Why other mothers became her harshest critics — and her honest, unflinching take on whyHow she structures her day as a full-time creator and fully present momHer 3 tips for anyone thinking about starting their own content business

Send a textShe's thought about it. More than once. Maybe a hundred times.And she's decided you'll never know.Not because she doesn't trust you — because she's been taught her whole life that wanting certain things makes her too much. This episode is about the five kinks women most commonly carry in silence, the shame that keeps them there, and what you can actually do to become someone it feels safe to tell.What you'll learn: ✔ The 5 kinks women fantasize about and rarely share — and the real psychology behind each one ✔ Why erotic shame is the actual barrier (not trust, not desire) ✔ What CNC fantasy really is — and what it is not ✔ Specific things you can do to create safety without putting pressure on her 

Send a textMost people think relationships fail because someone stopped trying, cheated, or they just picked wrong. But what if relationships follow a predictable pattern — and most of us are sabotaging them at the exact same stage without even knowing it?In this episode, I sit down with Thais Gibson — founder of Personal Development School, bestselling author, and one of the world's leading experts on attachment theory — to break down the six stages every relationship moves through, why most collapse at stage three, and what your attachment style is actually doing to your love life, your desire, and your ability to stay.I also get personal. About the patterns I've repeated. About staying in relationships I should have left. About what it took to finally see myself clearly enough to stop.If you've ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different person — this episode is your answer.What you'll learn: Why chemistry isn't compatibility and what actually drives attraction • The six stages every relationship moves through • Where most relationships die and why • What your attachment style is doing to your sex life at every stage • How to actually change your attachment style in 90 days • Why doing the work together is the only thing that saves a relationshipFind Thais at https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ — free attachment quiz at the link

Send a textMost men assume she just doesn't enjoy it. Most women wonder why they want to sometimes and absolutely don't other times.The truth is more interesting — and more fixable — than either of them thinks.In this episode, sex and intimacy coach Annette Benedetti breaks down the psychology and neuroscience behind female desire, and gives you 6 specific, research-backed things you can do to shift the dynamic entirely.This isn't about pressure, persuasion, or performance. It's about understanding how desire actually works — and showing up differently because of it.In this episode:Why most men have been trying to create desire the wrong way (and what actually works)The neuroscience of the sexual "brake" — and why removing pressure is more powerful than adding stimulationThe difference between feeling wanted and feeling chosen — and why it mattersWhat the research on couples actually shows about reciprocity and desireWhy your nervous system is either creating safety or shutting her down — before you've touched herThe one move most men make the moment she starts responding — and why it kills everythingThis episode is for: ✔ Men who want to understand their partner's desire better ✔ Women who've been trying to figure out why their desire feels inconsistent ✔ Anyone who wants a deeper, more connected intimate relationshipYour Guide To Giving Her Good Oral: https://youtu.be/r7mJrSu_KRs

Send a textWhat if orgasms were about more than just pleasure?In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I'm joined by Venus O'Hara—author, sexual wellness expert, and host of the Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast—to explore the O Method, also known as orgasmic manifestation.We break down:What orgasmic manifestation actually is (and what it isn't)How sexual energy can be used for intention, confidence, and changeWhy pleasure isn't just instant gratification—it's powerHow to start if masturbation feels awkward, shame-filled, or unfamiliarWhether you need to orgasm for the practice to workWhy this matters especially for women navigating trauma, midlife, or desire shiftsEven if you don't believe in manifestation, you'll still get orgasms out of it. And you might rethink what pleasure is really for.You can find Venu Here: https://www.venusohara.org/You can order her book Orgasmic Manifestation Here: https://www.venusohara.org/orgasmic-manifestation

Send a textMost advice about sexual attraction is either vague, manipulative, or flat-out wrong.This episode isn't about tricks, lines, or “alpha” posturing. It's about what actually creates sexual attraction — in real bodies, real moments, and real connection.In this episode, I break down five specific things that reliably make women feel sexually attracted, based on psychology, nervous-system science, and what women consistently respond to — not what dating culture thinks they should.You'll learn:Why attraction dies when desire gets turned into hesitationHow to express interest in a way that feels confident and safeWhat overstaying the moment does to desire (and why less really is more)How presence, timing, and responsiveness matter more than performanceWhy attraction isn't about convincing someone — it's about how you show upThese aren't manipulation tactics. They're behavioral shifts that create clarity, tension, and genuine pull — without pressure, games, or crossing boundaries.If you've ever wondered why things start strong but lose heat, or why connection doesn't always turn into desire, this episode will change how you understand attraction — and how you move inside it.

Send a textThis Talk Sex With Annette topic takes the show back to its roots when it was just a girl's sex talk podcast.For too long, women's most honest conversations about sex have happened in whispers — in group chats, locker rooms, and over wine when no one's listening.But what happens when we stop whispering?In this episode, I sit down with writer and pleasure activist Tash Doherty, the bold voice behind Miseducated, to talk about what women really say about sex when you're not in the room — and why it changes everything when we take the mic.We dive into:• The orgasm gap and why it still exists • Pegging, anal equality, and rewriting the sexual script • Why women fake orgasms (and why it hurts everyone) • How speaking openly about sex transforms relationships • What men need to understand about female pleasureThis isn't just about women talking about desire. It's about rewriting the rules of sex — for everyone.If you've ever wondered what women really think about sex… this episode is your invitation to find out.Check out Tash's Intimacy Journal Here: https://www.tashdoherty.com/shopFind her on Substack: https://misseducated.substack.com/

Send a textTouching her breasts should feel erotic — but for a lot of people, it ends up feeling rushed, mechanical, or oddly disconnected.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I break down 9 ways to touch her breasts that most guys skip — not because they don't care, but because no one ever taught them how breast pleasure actually works.We'll talk about:why grabbing and squeezing too fast shuts her body downhow timing and pressure matter more than intensitywhen nipple stimulation feels good — and when it doesn'thow to tell if her body is opening or bracingand how to make breast play feel grounding, erotic, and deeply pleasurableThis episode is explicit, educational, and focused on real bodies — not porn scripts or performance pressure.If you want breast play to feel better, more connected, and more arousing for both of you, this is where to start.

Send us a textWith the Epstein files back in the headlines, many people are noticing a shift in desire and connection. This unscheduled drop explores how collective stories of abuse and betrayal impact the nervous system — and why libido is often the first thing to go quiet when safety feels uncertain.In this episode, we talk about:Why desire can shut down during moments of collective traumaHow the nervous system responds to perceived threatRecognizing triggers as they happen in the bodyHow to protect your relationship with pleasure without forcing itWhy intimacy doesn't belong to abusers — it belongs to us

Send us a text Two years ago, this topic became one of my most-listened-to episodes—so we're bringing it back.In Part 2, I'm joined by two sex-positive women from different age groups to answer the questions men keep asking and go deeper than before.We cover:What women actually think about penis sizeWhy confidence matters more than lengthHow oral, grinding, toys, and anal play often matter more than penetrationCommon mistakes that quietly kill desireReal, practical tips for having great sex regardless of sizeWe also kick things off with a clear, medically accurate guide to measuring penis length and girth, because many men think they're “small” when they're not.Honest. Sex-positive. No shame—just real talk.Here is your link to episode part  1: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/episodes/14322290

Send us a textWhy do so many women lose interest in sex—and why is the blame so often placed on them?In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, Annette is joined by Dr. Trina Read to unpack what women are really saying when they say, “I just don't want sex anymore.”We talk about:Why low desire is often a reasonable response, not a personal failureHow pressure, routine, and male-centric sex shut down arousalWhat's happening in the body and mind during long-term relationshipsWhy orgasms alone don't guarantee satisfying sexSmall, practical shifts that help women reconnect with desireThis episode is for:Women questioning their libidoPartners who want to understand what's beneath the surfaceAnyone tired of being told to “fix hormones” instead of fixing the experienceBy the end of this conversation, you'll have a clearer, shame-free framework for understanding women's desire—and how to start changing it.

Send us a textIn this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I'm breaking down three specific positions that are more orgasm-friendly by design—because they support anatomy, nervous system regulation, and clitoral engagement instead of rushing straight to penetration and hoping for the best.And I want to be clear right from the start: This episode exists because my audience voted for it.Every week, I run a poll on my YouTube channel where you help decide which how-to I cover next. If you want a say in future topics, make sure you're subscribed on YouTube and signed up for my e-newsletter—that's where the voting happens.In this episode, you'll learn:How angle, pacing, and connection dramatically change orgasm likelihoodThree positions that support female orgasms without relying on speed or forceHow to use eye contact, sensual touch, and clitoral stimulation without breaking flowThis episode is for women, their partners, and anyone tired of feeling like orgasms are random, rare, or out of reach.Links to products in the podcastWe-Vibe Melt 2 (Discount EXPLORES15 15% Off): https://wevibe-north-america.sjv.io/bOezRbThe Peach Toy Review (Discount EXPLORES15 15% Off): https://youtu.be/tm6r87jv6PsThe Peach Toy: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/womanizer-peach

Send us a textWe talk about blowjobs like they're a performance — like there's a “right way,” a secret move, or something you're supposed to magically know.But most advice doesn't actually make oral sex feel better. It just makes people anxious.In this episode, I'm joined by Girls Gone Deep for a real, explicit, shame-free conversation about giving oral sex that actually feels incredible — without porn scripts, pressure, or performative nonsense.We talk about: – Where confidence actually comes from – Why enthusiasm matters more than technique – Communication during oral (yes, during) – Givers vs receivers: etiquette, consent, and boundaries – Rhythm, variety, and why switching it up matters – Circumcised vs uncircumcised anatomy – Positions that make oral easier (and hotter) – What people get wrong about “being good at it”This episode is explicit, honest, and deeply sex-positive — meant to help you enjoy giving and receiving without anxiety or shame.Find Girls Gone Deep On Their Website: https://www.girlsgonedeep.com/Find them on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/girlsgonedeeppod

Send us a textForeplay shouldn't feel inconsistent.If you've ever taken your time and still felt like her body wasn't fully responding — this episode is for you. And if you've ever wanted to be into it but felt tense or distracted instead, this one's for you too.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I break down 9 foreplay moves most guys skip — not because they don't care, but because no one ever taught them how arousal actually works.We'll talk about why foreplay “sometimes works,” what's really happening in the nervous system when desire shuts down, and how to lead her body into arousal without rushing, pressure, or performance.This isn't about tricks or trying harder. It's about pacing, presence, and learning how to keep desire open instead of overwhelming it.Here is the link to my Yoni Massage tutorial: https://talksexwithannette.com/how-to-give-a-yoni-massage/Here's How to touch a clit: https://talksexwithannette.com/20-incredible-ways-to-touch-a-clit/

Send us a textIn this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we explore why solo pleasure is becoming a major cultural shift—and how it's actually improving partnered sex, not replacing it.Joined by Sarah Tomchesson, Certified Intimacy Coach and Director of Marketing at Magic Wand, we break down insights from the 2026 Sexual Wellness Trends Report based on data from 1,000 participants. The findings reveal how solo sex supports desire, confidence, nervous system regulation, and deeper intimacy with partners.We cover:Why solo sex is increasing across generationsHow pleasure-focused practices improve partnered sexWhy orgasm isn't the goal—and why that leads to better sexSimple ways to start a solo pleasure practice that supports real connectionThis conversation blends culture, science, and real-life experience to reframe pleasure as a powerful tool for better sex and stronger relationships.

Send us a textLosing an erection during intimacy is far more common than people admit — but what you do next is what actually defines great lovers.In this episode, I walk you through exactly what to do when an erection is lost, how to stay confident and connected in the moment, and how to continue sex in a way that still deeply satisfies her.Because sex isn't penetration-based — it's presence-based.This is a grounded, science-informed how-to that shows you how to:Respond calmly instead of panicking when arousal dropsStay erotically present instead of pulling awayShift the moment so intimacy doesn't collapseRedefine sex beyond penetrationSatisfy her in ways that women actually rememberWe'll also talk about why pressure shuts arousal down, how adaptability builds desire, and why confidence isn't about performance — it's about leadership in unexpected moments.

Send us a textEvery January, men promise to fix their bodies and stop worrying about performance in bed. But what if trying harder is actually the problem?In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we dive into the 2026 Sex Reset for Men with sex and relationship coach Caitlin V, host of Good Sex on Discovery+ and HBO Max, and author of Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger.We explore why performance anxiety disrupts confidence, arousal, and connection, how the nervous system plays a bigger role than most men realize, and what actually helps men feel confident and present in bed again.This episode is for men ready to move out of performance mode—and for partners who want better, more connected intimacy in 2026.Find out more about Caitlin V Here: https://caitlinvneal.com/harder-better-longer-stronger-the-book/

Send us a textMost people think they know how the clitoris works. They don't.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I break down the one clit move that quietly kills orgasms—and the simple shift that changes everything.We're talking about why overstimulation backfires, how the nervous system actually responds to touch, and what creates arousal that builds instead of shuts down.If orgasms feel inconsistent, muted, or harder to reach than they used to be, this episode will change how you think about pleasure.

Send us a textIn 2022, I made a decision that changed my life.I committed to 365 Days of Orgasms — and what began as a personal experiment became a radical return to pleasure, embodiment, and self-trust.In this episode, I'm inviting you into a new version of that journey for 2026:365 Days of Orgasms: Pleasure Is the Resolution.This is not a challenge.It's a daily pleasure practice and an erotic journey designed to help you reconnect with your body, your desire, and your sense of aliveness — without pressure or performance.*Throughout the year, we'll explore:*Orgasm as awareness, energy, and emotional release*G-spot, A-spot, and blended pleasure pathways*How desire returns when the body feels safe*How pleasure deepens confidence, creativity, and connection*How erotic energy expands into the rest of your lifeThis journey is designed for Everyone.Here's all you need to do:Subscribe to this podcast and follow me on social media — that's where I'll be sharing daily guidance, reflections, and weekly practices.Bookmark this page:

Send us a textWhen sex starts feeling like work, it's not because desire is broken.It's because the body has learned to brace.In this episode, I teach a five-minute pleasure practice that helps the body relax out of performance mode and back into genuine arousal — without pressure, goals, or trying to “make” anything happen.This is the exact kind of practice I'll be guiding inside 365 Days of Orgasms, my upcoming daily pleasure journey for 2026.You'll learn:Why many women stop wanting sex even when attraction is still thereHow goal-oriented touch shuts arousal downThe nervous-system reason sex starts to feel draining instead of nourishingA simple, repeatable five-minute practice you can do solo or with a partnerHow steady, non-demanding touch helps desire return naturallyWhy this approach trains partners to become better lovers without learning more “moves”This practice is especially powerful if sex has started to feel heavy, pressured, or avoidable — or if you've noticed pulling away, shutting down, or feeling disconnected when erotic touch begins.You'll also hear how this work becomes the foundation for deeper pleasure, internal arousal, emotional release, and embodied connection inside 365 Days of Orgasms — a year-long invitation to explore pleasure without pressure.No performance. No fixing. Just five minutes of touch the body can actually receive.

Send us a textEvery year we promise ourselves more sex, better performance, or more confidence — and every year those goals quietly fall apart.In this episode, I'm joined by sex educator Goody Howard to talk about a different approach to sexual resolutions for 2026 — one that focuses on intention, education, and pleasure that actually lasts.This isn't about pressure or porn-inspired goals. It's about setting sexual intentions that support your body, deepen intimacy, and create better sex, not just more of it — in and out of the bedroom.In this conversation, we explore:Why “more sex” usually isn't the answerWhat actually helps sexual goals stickHow education and intention lead to better intimacyA more realistic, embodied way to think about sexual growth in 2026If you're ready for a smarter, more grounded approach to your sex life in the new year, this episode is for you.Find Goody here: https://www.instagram.com/askgoodyThe Peach toy: https://youtu.be/tm6r87jv6Ps

Send us a textIf you've ever worried that pleasure depends on size, this episode will completely change how you think about intimacy.In this video, Annette breaks down three sex positions that feel incredible—no matter your size—because they work with anatomy, angle, rhythm, and the nervous system, not performance pressure.This is not about going harder, deeper, or faster. It's about understanding what actually helps bodies respond, relax, and experience more pleasure.You'll learn:Why size is rarely the reason intimacy doesn't feel greatHow angle and positioning matter more than depthThree positions that increase comfort, connection, and sensationHow to enhance partnered pleasure safely using supportive toolsWhy reducing anxiety and pressure makes pleasure more accessible for both partnersThis episode is educational, body-positive, and focused on connection over performance—designed for anyone who wants intimacy that feels better, not more stressful.More How-Tos on Missionary: https://youtu.be/sYgwo-0DDKwWomanizer Enhance Review: https://youtu.be/PHivDXUnL3EFirmtech Tech Ring: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiFirm Tech Ring Review: https://youtu.be/n9nCYX3VAZ4Intimacy wedge: https://lovehoneyus.sjv.io/GKeMN2

Send us a textWhat if the best sex of your life starts after 50?In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I'm joined by the sex educator behind Taboo to Truth, Karen Bigman to talk about why women over 50 are becoming more confident, more curious, and more sexually adventurous than ever.We break down the myths about aging and desire—and explore how self-knowledge, confidence, and freedom from old expectations create a powerful midlife sexual glow-up. From bolder communication to increased curiosity around pleasure and exploration, this conversation reframes sex after 50 as expansion, not decline.If you're a woman over 50—or you love one—this episode will change how you think about desire, intimacy, and what's possible next.Because your sex life isn't behind you. It's just getting started.

Send us a textWhy does it feel like everything is working… until it suddenly isn't?You're touching her. She's aroused. She's close. And then—her body pulls away, the moment disappears, and the orgasm never lands.In this episode, intimacy coach Annette breaks down the most common mistake people make with their hands that actually stops orgasms instead of creating them—and why trying harder often makes it worse.This isn't about fancy techniques or doing more. It's about pressure, rhythm, consistency, and restraint—and understanding how the body actually responds to touch.You'll learn:Why hands are one of the most powerful (and most misused) tools for orgasmHow changing stimulation too often interrupts climaxThe difference between arousal and overloadWhat to do when it's working—and why that's the moment most people mess it upHow to create the conditions where her body can finish what it startsIf you've ever thought, “I was doing everything right… so why did it stop?” This episode will answer that.No shame. No gimmicks. Just clear, grounded guidance on how to touch with confidence—and stop unintentionally interrupting pleasure.

Send us a textAre politics turning people on more than we realize?Today on Talk Sex with Annette, we're diving into a surprising and fast-growing fantasy showing up in bedrooms, dating apps, and long-term relationships: the political humiliation kink — when opposing beliefs become part of a consensual power-play dynamic.In this episode, I sit down with acclaimed psychosexual therapist and sex educator Gigi Engle to unpack why this trend is rising right now, how emotional tension becomes erotic tension, and how couples can explore fantasy safely without crossing real-life boundaries.We break down:✨ Why political tension can create unexpected attraction✨ The psychology behind power-play role dynamics✨ How to talk about fantasies with a partner (without chaos!)✨ What to avoid if you and your partner truly disagree politically✨ Signs this fantasy is playful — and signs it's NOTYou can find Gigi here: https://www.missgigiengle.com/

Send us a textWant to take your oral intimacy skills from “pretty good” to absolutely unforgettable? In this episode, I'm breaking down the advanced rhythm, pacing, and attunement techniques that cause full-body reactions, deeper connection, and those moments where she completely loses control.This isn't about flashy moves or performance pressure. This is about understanding the science of her arousal, her nervous system, her breath, and the rhythm patterns that help her body relax, build intensity, and let go.You'll learn: ✨ Why steady rhythm creates stronger pleasure responses ✨ How to read her breath, tension, and micro-movements ✨ The psychology behind anticipation and sensory focus ✨ What not to do if you want to keep her in the moment ✨ How to hold a rhythm long enough for her body to take overIf you want to feel more confident, more attuned, and more skilled in creating intimacy that stays with her long after it's over, this episode is for you.

Send us a textTalking about kink doesn't have to be awkward — in fact, when you do it right, the conversation itself becomes part of the turn-on.In today's episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we're breaking down how to explore kink with a partner in a way that feels safe, connected, and genuinely exciting… long before anything physical happens.I'm joined by Lisa Opel, pleasure coach at Joy Club, author, educator, and speaker who teaches people around the world how to navigate desire, boundaries, and curiosity with confidence. Together, we're diving into why negotiation is one of the most misunderstood parts of kink, and how it can actually build trust, intimacy, and erotic tension.You'll learn: • How to talk about new desires without making things uncomfortable • What to say when you're nervous to bring something up • How to explore fantasies in a judgment-free way • Why negotiation can become its own form of foreplay • Tools for building trust, safety, and connection before you try something new • How to start small, communicate clearly, and create a deeper, more playful dynamicWhether you're a beginner exploring kink for the first time or you've been curious for years, this episode gives you the exact language, mindset, and steps to talk about your desires in a way that brings you closer — not farther apart.Find out more about Lisa at: Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Experience the Pheromone Advantage at 15% off  with my code LRT15Use code LRT15  at Eyeoflove.com And you'll get 15% off pheromone powered perfumes, colognes, and more. Check out my Diaries on OF. Enjoy exclusive access to intimacy video how-tos, guided self-pleasure meditations, and more!https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/ Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a textMost people think climax is one quick moment — but her body is capable of so much more. Rolling orgasms are deeper, longer waves of pleasure, and once she learns this rhythm, intimacy changes for both of you.In this episode, I break down how to help her stay in sensation longer, understand her arousal curve, and use the Kiiroo Pearl 3 to build the rhythm that allows rolling orgasms to unfold naturally. This is a skill anyone can practice, solo or partnered, and it can reignite desire and make intimacy feel easier, hotter, and more connected again.You'll learn: • what rolling orgasms are • how to build her arousal rhythm • how breath, depth, and movement shape the experience • how she can carry this into partnered intimacyIf you want more intimacy tips, hit Like and Subscribe.

Send us a textIn this episode, we're breaking down exhibitionism — why being watched can feel exciting, how to tell if it's your kink, and simple ways to explore it without making things awkward.I'm joined by Laura Desiree, creative director of Sanctum and a powerful voice in performance and desire. We cover:✨ What exhibitionism really is ✨ Why being seen can amplify pleasure ✨ Signs it might be your kink ✨ How to try it safely (solo or partnered) ✨ Tips for beginners, from mirror work to first-time eventsIf you've ever been curious about being watched—or just want to understand the psychology behind it—this is your Exhibitionism 101.