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Send us Fan MailRound two isn't just possible — it might be the best sex she's ever had. Even if you already finished, even if you finished before she did, the night isn't over. This episode is the full playbook for the second half: the real science of the recovery window, why it's more in your control than you think, what to do the moment you soften, and the one thing to do in round one that makes going again effortless.What you'll learn: ✔ Why you naturally last longer in round two — and how to use it ✔ The 90-second mistake that sours the whole night ✔ How to keep her climbing while you come back ✔ What to do the moment you soften — so it's a switch, not a stop ✔ The one thing to do in round one that makes round two effortlessFirmtech Ring (ANNETTE15 for 15% Off): https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedettiWomanizer for the Enhance (ANNETTE15 for 15% Off): https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerHow to Stay Hard When You Have Slow Sex: https://youtu.be/iHqgEO1BDU0Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailMistress Marley — professional dominatrix, financial domination specialist, and founder of Haus of Dominance, where she's taught over 10,000 students — breaks down what men are actually paying for, what submission really means, and how to explore giving up control in your own bedroom.In this episode:What a dominatrix actually does — and what a real session looks likeWhy the loudest "alpha males" online are her biggest clientsThe difference between submission and weaknessHow women can find their inner dominant (starting with yourself)How to bring power play into your bedroom — or find a professional the right wayFind Mistress Marley: https://www.servemistressmarley.com/More: https://www.thechocolatedomme.com/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailAnal is one of the most searched sex topics on the internet — and one of the least talked about in actual bedrooms. Everyone's curious. Almost nobody's saying it out loud.This episode is for both of you: the woman who's curious and never said it, and the partner who wants to ask without making it weird. The conversation (including the ten seconds that decide everything), the safety rules nobody explains properly, why her body is genuinely wired to love this, and the five steps from curious to craving it — on her timeline, built around her pleasure.What you'll learn: ✔ How either of you brings it up — and how to handle a shamey response without shutting down ✔ The safety rules that make or break it: lube, bases, one-direction, and what never to use ✔ The two-muscle anatomy that makes patience the entire technique ✔ The "wearing trick" most couples skip — and why it's the step that makes everything workSubscribe for new episodes on desire, pleasure, and becoming the partner she can't stop thinking about.Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailYou've felt it. That moment mid-sex when she goes somewhere you can't follow. She's still moving — but she's gone. It's called dissociation. It's not about you, it's not about attraction, and it's not permanent.Vanessa Cushing — AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and founder of Cushing Counseling and Sex Therapy Pro — breaks down what's actually happening and how to bring her back. And this one took a turn I didn't expect: men dissociate too. It just looks completely different.In this episode:The signs she's checked out — and the very different signs he hasThe five gears of touch: pinpoint exactly where she leavesThe "safe trust position" every couple needs before they need itHow to retrain your nervous system to stay presentFind Vanessa Cushing Here: https://www.cushingcounseling.com/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we break down the 5-step Mouth & Hands technique for blended orgasms—a simple, intentional way to combine oral and manual stimulation so the experience feels more connected, more consistent, and more intense.Most people switch between techniques instead of combining them. But when you learn how to coordinate your mouth and hands, everything changes in how her arousal builds and how her body responds.I walk you through: Why switching between techniques can interrupt pleasure  How blended orgasms work in a practical, understandable way  The 5-step method to bring mouth and hands into sync  How to stay connected to her responses instead of guessing If you've ever felt like you were doing a lot but not getting the reaction you expected, this episode will shift how you approach foreplay entirely.Link to the Womanizer Enhance Code ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerCatch my Edging Episode: https://youtu.be/vhuayH9cBzYGet 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan Mail Two bi women. One podcast. A real guide to better sex built from the inside out. Bi women know something about pleasuring women that most people never figure out. Because they've been on both sides — they know what it feels like to receive, and they know what it takes to give it well. That combination is a cheat code. And today we're handing it over.Samia Mounts — queer, non-binary writer, actor, and host of Happy Slut podcast — joins me to share what bi and pan women know about the female body, desire, and pleasure that most people spend a lifetime missing.In this episode:The insider knowledge bi women carry that nobody else has access toWhat women actually need to feel pleasure — and what most people never stop doing wrongWhat she's not telling you during sex — and whyThe specific moves bi women use that most people have never even consideredHow to have better sex tonight using what we know from both sides

Send us Fan MailUp to 60% of women have fantasized about being dominated — and almost none of them have said it out loud.This one's for the men who want to deliver what she's been replaying in her head and never asked for. Five spanking fantasies, the psychology behind each, and exactly how to make them land sexy instead of awkward — including how to talk about it first, how to keep it safe, and the aftercare most men skip.What you'll learn: ✔ How to bring it up so she actually says yes — and why consent makes her let go ✔ Where it's safe, where it's never safe, and how to build intensity the right way ✔ The over-the-knee punishment-and-praise loop she craves most ✔ The anticipation move nobody talks about — and why aftercare is non-negotiableSubscribe for new episodes on desire, pleasure, and becoming the partner she can't stop thinking about.Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailHe's googling it at 2 AM and erasing his search history. Because he still thinks wanting to be pegged means something about who he is. It doesn't. And tonight we're blowing that myth wide open.Interest in pegging among straight men is up 200% according to Feeld's 2025 annual report. Not in some dark corner of the internet — on mainstream dating apps. Men are putting it on their sexual bucket lists, bringing it up on second dates, and still going silent when it matters most. Today I sat down with Luna Matatas — sex and pleasure educator with over two decades of experience and the creator of Peg the Patriarchy — to talk about what pegging actually is, what men are really asking for when they ask for it, and what women get out of strapping it on.In this episode:What pegging is — and what it isn'tWhy wanting to be pegged says nothing about his sexualityThe prostate: what it is, where it is, and why men are missing outWhat women actually get out of giving it — physically, emotionally, eroticallyHow to have the conversation with your partner without killing the moodA step-by-step guide to the first time — positions, lube, pace, and what not to doWhy men who've been pegged say it makes them better lovers

Send us Fan Mail82% of women don't reliably come from penetration alone. Here's what's actually missing — and the five moves that fix it.If she's never finished while you're inside her, it's not her body and it's not yours. It's anatomy. And once you understand it, everything changes.What you'll learn: ✔ Why the clitoris has to be fully aroused before penetration even starts ✔ How to change your angle so her clitoris gets contact on every stroke ✔ Why you keep losing her right when she's about to get there — and how to stop ✔ The one thing that's been missing from penetration her entire lifeSubscribe for new episodes every week.

Send us Fan MailShe's not hiding her book because she's embarrassed. She's hiding it because what she's reading is giving her something her sex life isn't — and nobody's asking what that means for your relationship.Romance is the fastest-growing category in print. 51 million units sold in the last year. One in four NYT hardcover fiction bestsellers was romantasy. Women aren't casually reading this stuff. They're consuming it. Today I sat down with Carolyn Hood — certified sex therapist, licensed clinical social worker, and author of Sex Begets Sex: Reclaiming Desire as an Act of Female Empowerment — to decode exactly what's going on.In this episode:What dark romance, romantasy, and smut are actually giving her that real life isn'tWho's reading it — and why the numbers point straight to moms and long-term partnersThe porn parallel nobody wants to say out loud (but we say it)How to use her book to open a conversation you've both been avoidingWhy innuendo and anticipation are the low-effort moves with the highest return3 things you can do tonight to bring the heat from the pages into your bedroom 

Send us Fan MailA listener wrote in: "I'm 47 years old and going through perimenopause. Previously I would orgasm with my husband 90-95% of the time. Now I only orgasm 5-10% of the time."She's not alone. Roughly half of all women experience orgasm changes during perimenopause — and almost none are told why or what to do about it. This episode covers the physiology behind the shift, the medical options most women don't know exist (including why the FDA just reversed 20 years of warnings about hormone therapy), and the five moves that bring pleasure back.What you'll learn: ✔ The three physical changes during perimenopause that directly affect orgasm ✔ Why the FDA removed the black box warning from HRT — and what that means for her ✔ How to find hormone therapy providers online, including estrogen and testosterone ✔ Why her foreplay timeline has shifted and how to adjust ✔ How to relearn her body together after decades of knowing what worked ✔ Why taking the orgasm off the table is paradoxically what brings it backJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan Mail97% of adults have sexual fantasies. Less than a third ever act on them. The fear is almost never accurate — and in this episode, we're closing the gap between what you want and what you actually do.I'll be honest: role play has always given me the ick. So I brought in Emma Velicski — romance author and founder of Saturday Box, the company turning kink and role play into a game you can actually play with your partner — to figure out why so many of us freeze, and how to finally get started.We get into:What role play actually is (it's broader than you think)The real reason couples who want to try it never doWhy it feels like a performance — and how to turn it back into playThe "cheap knockoff" fear nobody names out loudExactly how to start tonight, no costume requiredFind Emma and Saturday Box at https://saturdaybox.com/ Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailMost men have tried to make this happen. Most have done it wrong. And almost none of them understand what's actually going on in her body when it does.This episode covers the real anatomy behind this response, why the technique most men learned from the internet actually works against them, the one thing she's going to say in the moment that most men completely misread, and why relaxation — not force — is what makes this possible.What you'll learn: ✔ The anatomy behind this response that most men have never been taught ✔ Why the most common technique is the reason it's not working ✔ The conversation you need to have before you try anything ✔ The one sentence she'll say that changes everything — and what to do when you hear it ✔ Why what you do after matters just as much as the technique itselfJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailYou never signed a purity pledge. Maybe you never set foot in a church. But the rules got in anyway — through locker rooms, movies, the way women around you were talked about, the bodies that got shamed. And now they're in your bedroom, quietly wrecking everything.Today I'm talking with Erika Smith — award-winning sexuality educator, 25 years in the field, and creator of the Purity Culture Dropout program — about the specific ways purity culture shows up in men who consider themselves good allies. Men who want their partners to have orgasms. Men who are still, without knowing it, making it impossible for her to ask for what she wants.We get into:Why she can't tell you to stop — even when she wants toThe "good girl/bad girl" split that's killing your sex life right nowHow penis-centered sex became the default (and what it's costing both of you)The porn conversation that's destroying otherwise healthy relationshipsWhere to start if you want to actually change what's happening in your bedroomThis one's for the men who are trying. And the women who love them.Find Erika at: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/the-purity-culture-dropout-programJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailYou can take her to a regular orgasm. Or you can take her to one she'll be thinking about for weeks. Edging is the difference.In this episode, I'm breaking down 5 moves for how to edge her with your hands until she begs you to let her finish. The four signs that tell you she's at the edge. How to pull her back without losing her. Why each climb gets faster. How many edges actually work. And how to let her finish in a way that triggers a rolling orgasm she's never had with anyone.This episode also addresses something most edging content ignores: what to do with a partner who struggles to orgasm at all. I'm one of those women, and I'm walking through how to build toward edging when she can't easily get to the edge in the first place.We're covering: → The 4 science-backed signs she's about to come → The pull back — and why stopping completely ruins everything → How to bring her back up faster each time → The 3-edge rule and when to break it → The release that triggers a rolling orgasm → How to use toys like the Womanizer Enhance, Womanizer Duo, and We-Vibe Rave 2 to extend the experienceWhether you're doing this with a partner who comes easily or one who's never been able to with you — this episode changes the game.Toys mentioned in the episode can be found at the links below. Use my code ANNETTE15 for 15% OffWomanizer Premium 2: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-premium-2Womanizer Enhance: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-enhanceWomanizer Next: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-nextWomanizer Next Duo: https://womanizer-north-america.sjv.io/vDxxjAWomanizer Blend: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blendJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailMost men learned foreplay from porn. And porn doesn't do foreplay — it does a sped-up, skip-to-the-good-part performance that taught an entire generation that touching a woman is just a formality. She's lying there wondering why she isn't feeling it. It's not her. It's the script.Today's guest has spent 17 years collecting real-world data on exactly what porn got wrong — and what women actually need. Cindy Gallop is the founder and CEO of MakeLoveNotPorn, the world's first real-world sex platform, former Advertising Woman of the Year, and one of the most talked-about TED speakers in history.In this episode:Why porn turned foreplay into a formality — and what she actually needs insteadThe 3-word cheat sheet every woman wishes her partner hadWhy lube and toys aren't optional — they're the whole gameHow to talk about sex in bed without killing the moodWhat real-world sex actually looks like versus the porn performanceWhy good foreplay starts way before anyone gets nakedFindy Cindy Here On Substack: https://dearcindy.substack.com/p/yes-you-really-can-ask-me-anythingAll of Cindy's Links: https://linktr.ee/cindygallopJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailMost partners use one move with their hands. There are dozens. And most men have never heard of the deeper spot that changes everything.This episode is a complete guide — how to prep your hands so she actually wants them on her body, the five named techniques that produce completely different sensations, the two internal spots most partners don't know exist, and the combination move that gives her something she literally cannot give herself.What you'll learn: ✔ Why prepping your hands is foreplay (and most men skip it) ✔ How to build her response before you ever go where she wants you ✔ My top 5 techniques by name — circling, figure 8, broadening, cupping, the Hail Mary ✔ The two internal spots and what each one responds to ✔ The combination that gives her something no toy and no other body part can ✔ The finishing rule — and when to throw it out because she told you toJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailAlpha male culture is teaching men to dominate, never ask, never show need — and it is quietly destroying their sex lives. Today I'm joined by James Harris, licensed mental health therapist, US Army veteran, and founder of Men to Heal, who has spent a decade watching this play out in real relationships. He's not here to shame men — he's here to give them what the alpha podcasters never do: the actual truth about what makes women want you.What you'll learn:What alpha culture is actually teaching men about sex — and why it backfiresWhy performing masculinity in bed kills pleasure for both peopleThe difference between sex and intimacy — and why it matters for your orgasmWhat vulnerability in a man actually does to a woman's desireHow to undo the conditioning — starting tonightWhether you're the man in this dynamic, the woman watching him disappear into it, or the partner who's been waiting for him to wake up — this one's for you.

Send us Fan MailYou went soft during sex. She felt it. And the next thing you did probably made it worse.Every man loses his erection. Most panic, apologize, or shut down — and that reaction does more damage than the erection loss ever did. This episode gives you the five exact moves that keep the moment going, keep her turned on, and get your body back without the shame spiral. Plus: why your erection is one of the earliest warning signs of heart disease, diabetes, and hormonal imbalance — and the tool that actually tracks it.What you'll learn: ✔ The move that stops both your spiral and hers at the same time ✔ How to redirect to her pleasure so she barely remembers you went soft ✔ Three sentences that save the moment (and the one she actually needs to hear) ✔ Why the erection that comes back is almost always stronger — and how to let it ✔ The cock ring that keeps you firm during sex and tracks your health between sessions ✔ Why your erection is a vital sign and when it's time to talk to your doctorThis episode features the FirmTech TechRing and RingMate — the tools I trust and would want my own partner using.

Send us Fan MailNobody told us what to do with them. Sex ed skipped them entirely. And somewhere along the way, women just... stopped thinking about them. Until now.Three women sit down and go fully, honestly, hilariously there — what we actually find attractive, what we've been getting wrong, and the moves that will genuinely change what happens in your bedroom tonight.We're getting into:Why so many women are low-key intimidated by them (and how to fix that)The grooming conversation nobody's having — including the Nair tipHow to know he's close without asking a single questionThe cupping trick that speeds everything upWhat we actually want to call them (drop it in the comments

Send us Fan MailThe Praise Kink episode was one of my biggest videos ever — and your comment section proved you're ready to go deeper.I pulled five questions I kept seeing and I'm giving you the real answers. Research, specifics, and the stuff I didn't have room for the first time around.✔ What to call her when "good girl" doesn't fit — honorifics, worship titles, and why they work ✔ Can you flip the praise kink and use it on men — and what does that look like inside the kink ✔ How to actually build a verbal vocabulary when you've been silent your whole sex life ✔ Why praise kink might be the most powerful tool for women in menopause ✔ How to introduce praise kink — whether you've been together two months or twenty yearsListen to Praise 5 Praise Kink Moves Part 1 Here: https://youtu.be/HW5PQANI09YJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailShe Stopped Wanting You & The Orgasm Gap Is Why (Here's the Fix!)She didn't lose interest in sex. She lost interest in sex that never worked for her. Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons — award-winning psychologist, Emory University professor, and author of Good Sex — breaks down the real data behind the orgasm gap, why it slowly kills a woman's desire, and exactly what closes it.Why 75% of women have faked it (and what that's really costing you)The script both men AND women buy into that kills her desire over timeWhy lesbians are finishing at 88% — and what straight couples can learn from itThe mental load connection nobody talks aboutHow mutual masturbation rewires the whole dynamicWhat to do tonight to start closing the gap for good

Send us Fan MailIt's Masturbation May — and I'm giving you the practice that will upgrade your sex life more than any new position, any new toy, any new technique.Mutual masturbation. Touching yourselves at the same time, in the same bed, watching each other.It removes the pressure to deliver an orgasm. It builds the connection most couples are missing. It shows you exactly what works on each other's bodies. And it lets you both discover new pleasure together.What you'll learn: ✔ Why this practice fixes the orgasm pressure problem most couples have ✔ The exact words to suggest it without making it weird ✔ The starting position that makes it feel intimate instead of exposing ✔ The face-to-face position that builds connection most couples are missing ✔ The hand-on-hand technique that teaches your partner's exact pressure and rhythm ✔ How to use this practice to discover new types of orgasms togetherMy Guide to Best Couple's Sex Toys For Mutual Masturbation: https://talksexwithannette.com/the-best-couples-sex-toys-for-mutual-masturbation/Pair this with my 365 Days of Orgasms series for full tutorials on G-spot, A-spot, blended orgasms, and every other technique I reference: Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailPlease stop fucking us hard. Seriously. That's the message — and if you heard it in Suzanne Noble's voice during this episode, you already know why it hit so hard.Suzanne is the host of Sex Advice for Seniors — nearly 200K followers, 180+ episodes, and the most unfiltered voice on intimacy and aging out there. She and I got into everything: why your arousal pattern changes after 50 and what to do about it, what men in their sixties are getting wrong in bed (and the one thing they could change tonight), why women who spent decades having duty sex are now retiring from it entirely, the swinging scene from a queer woman's perspective, dating younger men, and why the women having the best sex of their lives right now are the ones who finally stopped performing.If you're over 50, send this to a friend. If you're under 50, send it to yourself for later. Desire doesn't retire — unless you let it.Find Suzanne on Substack at: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/Check out her website at: https://suzannenoble.co.uk/

Send us Fan MailDoes she grab your hair like she forgot her own name? Does she text you at 2 AM the next day because her body won't stop replaying it? If not, the gap between what you're doing and what would make her lose her mind is just 7 moves nobody ever taught you.This episode gives you 7 moves she's never felt before. Not because they're complicated — because nobody teaches past the basics.What you'll learn: ✔ You're only hitting 20% of her nerve endings — the tongue fix that changes that ✔ Why your hands are either doing nothing or making it worse ✔ The counterintuitive pull-away that doubles her body's response ✔ A 30-second temperature trick with no toys and no planning ✔ The angle change she's never experienced in her entire life ✔ Why your silence is actively working against you ✔ One look — three seconds — that she'll remember longer than the orgasm itself

Send us Fan MailThere are one night stands you forget before you've brushed your teeth — and there are one night stands you're still thinking about years later. Today we're breaking down the difference.Zachary Zane — author of Boy Slut, Men's Health sex columnist, and Grindr's official sex and relationship expert — joins me to map out exactly how to have a one night stand that actually lives up to the fantasy. From the mental prep most people skip, to where to find the right person, to what happens in the room that makes it unforgettable — we're covering every stage.We get into: → The honest conversation you need to have with yourself before you go out → Where to find casual sex based on your gender, orientation, and vibe → How to communicate what you want without killing the momentum → Why one night stands can be MORE intimate than relationship sex → The aftercare that turns a hookup into a core memory instead of a regret → Safety tips every woman needs before leaving with a strangerPlus — we both share our own one night stand stories, because we've been there. A lot.

Send us Fan MailYou watched How to F*ck Slower. You tried it. Then you lost your erection and panicked. This is the fix.Slowing down is the single best thing you can do for her pleasure — but nobody talks about what happens to you when you do it. Your brain speeds up, your body gets nervous, and you lose the one thing you need to stay in the game. This episode breaks down exactly how to stay hard, stay present, and become the man who can go slow without flinching.What you'll learn: ✔ Why slowing down triggers erection loss — and how to override it |✔ The metronome technique that keeps you steady and hard ✔ Why your erection is a vital sign and how to start treating it like one ✔ The tech I personally use and recommend for erection qualityUse code ANNETTE15 on the Tech Ring and Ring Mate : https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti

Send us Fan MailMost couples stumble into bed hoping their bodies will figure it out. They don't. Because nobody's talking about who's leading, who's surrendering — or whether you're both fighting for the same role.Today's guest is Sarah Perry — certified somatic sex educator, sexological body worker, and founder of Haven Space Coaching. She holds a master's in psychology and a background in women, gender, and sexuality studies. Sarah works with people through the body to help them understand what they actually want in bed without the shame.We're breaking down:What dominant and submissive energy actually means (hint: it's not what you think)How to figure out your default — and why it changes with different partnersWhy "feminine energy = submissive" is killing your sex lifeThe 5-minute game that'll tell you exactly who you are in bedHow to stop the awkward bedroom guessing game for goodFind Sarah Perry: Instagram: @havenspacecoaching Website: https://www.havenspacecoaching.com/

Send us Fan MailYou've been misreading her in bed. The loudest sounds she makes? Those aren't for her. Research shows the majority of women vocalize to speed up his finish — not because they're in pleasure. Meanwhile, the sounds that actually mean she's deep in it? Most men miss them completely.In this episode, I break down the five real sounds she makes during sex — what each one actually means and the exact move to make when you hear it. This isn't theory. This is a playbook.

Send us Fan MailWhat is bimboification — and why are so many people hiding it? Sex and relationship coach Niki Davis-Fainbloom breaks down one of the most misunderstood fetishes out there, where it comes from, and how to explore it in your relationship without the shame spiral. Because the fetish isn't the problem. The shame is.What bimboification and cross-dressing fetishes actually areThe real link between bimboification and dragHow shame drives desire underground — and the damage it doesHow to tell your partner and actually have it go wellLow-stakes ways to explore it together

Send us Fan MailShe's not withholding. She's not checked out. And it has nothing to do with how long you've been together.Here's what's actually happening: every time you touch her, kiss her, pull her close — she can feel that it has a destination. And when desire always has a destination, she stops being in the moment and starts managing the arc. So she waits. Every time.What she's craving is a partner who is just as hungry for the moments between sex as he is for sex itself. That shift — when she finally feels it — changes everything.In this episode I'm giving you five specific moves that build her desire from the inside out. Before sex. During sex. After sex. All of them designed to do one thing: make her want to be the one who starts it.✔ The kiss that makes her think about you all day — before 9am ✔ How to drop charged moments into your day that build heat without asking for anything ✔ What women who have sex with women know about pleasure that most men don't ✔ How to be her pleasure dom — and why the giving is the getting ✔ The 20-minute window after sex that determines whether she initiates next timeThis is the episode she's going to send to you. And the one you're going to watch twice.

Send us Fan MailYou think you know what a fetish is — leather, feet, something you scroll past. But the cultural conversation leads with the weird and skips the why. Today we're flipping that.Jessica Renard — licensed professional counselor, sex therapist at StorieBrook Associates, and a therapist who works directly within the kink communities in Georgia — breaks down the fetishes that actually show up in relationships and the therapist's office. What's happening in the brain, the body, and the relationship when someone has one? And what do you do when you or your partner has a fetish?time stamps: 0:00 Intro 5:30 Difference between fetish, kink, & paraphilia 6:20 How does a fetish form and who has them 12:00 Foot Fetish 15:00 Age Play 18:14 Pet Play 22:44 Attraction to Clowns 28:00 Attraction to people with amputations 33:00 Adult Baby Diaper Fetish 36:00 Somnophilia & Dormaphilia 42:00 Human Furniture 48:00 Erotic HypnosisFind Jessica on Patreone: https://www.patreon.com/cw/jrsexAnd Here: https://www.storiebrook.com/Team/jessica-renard-lpc

Send us Fan MailMost men are completely silent during sex. And that silence is costing you more than you realize.Surveys suggest that roughly 3 out of 4 women say verbal affirmation during sex increases their arousal and orgasm intensity. But it's not just about saying nice things — it's about pairing specific words with specific physical moves at exactly the right moment. That combination does something to her body that neither one can do alone.In this episode, I'm giving you 5 praise kink moves — each one a phrase paired with a physical technique — that make sex better for both of you. And by move 5, you'll understand why she starts initiating.What you'll learn: ✔ Why "good girl" does more than an hour of thrusting ✔ The word + touch combinations that trigger arousal she can't fake ✔ How to use praise during edging to create the most intense experience she's ever had ✔ The 60-second move after she finishes that makes her want you again

Send us Fan MailIs he a sex addict — or does he just want it more than you? The term gets thrown around constantly, but most people have no idea what it actually means. In this episode, I sit down with marriage and family therapist Kate Logan — who specializes in compulsive sexual behavior at the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles — to finally draw the line between high libido, kink, and genuine sexual compulsivity.We get into:What separates a sex addict from someone who just really loves sexWhy infidelity doesn't equal addiction — and why that label can do real damageHow shame and secrecy fuel compulsive sexual patternsThe kink vs. addiction confusion that's quietly destroying relationshipsWhat's actually underneath sex addiction (it's not what you think)What treatment looks like — and why the goal is never abstinenceIf you've ever wondered whether your own patterns — or your partner's — cross a line, this episode gives you the framework to actually figure it out.Find Kate Here: Kate Logan, AMFT - CENTER FOR HEALTHY SEX

Send us Fan MailShe's thought about faking it. Statistically, she probably has.Between 58–80% of women have faked an orgasm — not once, but regularly, with partners they actually cared about. Most of those men never knew. If you want to be the exception, this episode is for you.This isn't about blame. It's about understanding what actually creates faking — and the specific things you can do to change it.What you'll learn: ✔ The 6 real reasons women fake it (none of them are what you think) ✔ Why "just ask her what she wants" is not actually a solution ✔ The specific moves that make honesty feel safe enough to happen ✔ How to stop being the man she performs for and become the man she actually wants

Send us Fan MailMen's sexual shame doesn't look like what you think. It's not about a secret kink. It's the guy jackhammering away thinking that's what success looks like. The one who won't make eye contact. The one who avoids dating entirely — not because he doesn't want connection, but because his nervous system won't let him get close.I sit down with Alex Gear — men's intimacy anxiety coach who never experienced sober sex until he got sober three years ago — to unpack what sexual shame is actually doing to your sex life and what you can do about it starting tonight.In this episode:Why "lasting longer" and "going harder" has nothing to do with her pleasureThe porn script that's overriding what his partner actually tells himHow shame shows up as shallow breathing, no eye contact, and mechanical sexAvoidance tactics in dating and relationships — how to spot themMindful masturbation as a tool for rewiring shameWhat women can do in the moment when things stall3 takeaways to start improving your intimate life tonightFind Alex: @intimacyanxietyalex on Instagram

Send a textShe's been waiting for you to figure this out.For a huge number of women, watching a confident man willingly submit to her is one of the most erotic experiences that exists. Not a weak man — a man who is secure enough to give her complete control and trust her to lead.This episode is about real submission. Not performing. Not topping from the bottom. Actually letting go.What you'll learn:5 specific ways to submit that she'll never forgetWhy real submission requires more confidence than dominanceHow to give her control without losing yourselfThe psychology behind why this creates intense desireSafety, consent, and nonverbal signals for power exchange

Send a textShe didn't lose her desire. She quietly quit it. Sex therapist and author Colette Jane Fehr joins Annette to break down why women emotionally and erotically check out of relationships long before anyone notices — and what it actually takes to come back. If you've been going through the motions, or you've watched your partner disappear and had no idea why, this one's for you.In this episode:*What quiet quitting your sex life actually looks like in the bedroom*Why emotional disconnection kills physical desire — and which goes first*The real reason dead bedrooms happen (it's not about sex)*How resentment builds from the smallest swallowed moments*The one question that cracks a relationship back open*How to know if quiet quitting has gone too far — and the signs it's not too late*Three things you can do tonight to start coming back

Send a textShe's thought about it. More than once. Maybe every time.And she's decided you'll never know — because asking feels impossible, and hoping you'll figure it out on your own hasn't worked.This episode is about the five dominance moves women consistently fantasize about and almost never get. Not because their partners wouldn't do them, but because no one ever taught them what real dominance actually looks like.This is for the men who want to be the person she feels safe enough to surrender to. And for the women who've been waiting for someone to just… lead.What you'll learn: ✔ 5 specific dominance moves that bypass her overthinking entirely ✔ Why most men never try these (and how to do them without being told) ✔ The exact mechanics — where to put your hands, what to say, when to stop ✔ Why dominance isn't about being rough — it's about being deliberate 

Send a textShe didn't set out to build a six-figure business. She got pregnant — and discovered one of OnlyFans' most profitable and least talked-about kinks.Australian mom and content creator Emily Mai joins Annette to talk about what actually happens when a woman refuses to become sexually invisible after motherhood. We're getting into pregnancy kinks, lactation content, belly fetishes, and the real psychology behind why society loses its mind when mothers stay sexually embodied — and profitable.This one goes places most people won't.In this episode:Why pregnancy exploded Emily's subscriber count overnight — and who almost killed itWhat men actually want from pregnancy content (it's not what you're imagining)Why other mothers became her harshest critics — and her honest, unflinching take on whyHow she structures her day as a full-time creator and fully present momHer 3 tips for anyone thinking about starting their own content business

Send a textShe's thought about it. More than once. Maybe a hundred times.And she's decided you'll never know.Not because she doesn't trust you — because she's been taught her whole life that wanting certain things makes her too much. This episode is about the five kinks women most commonly carry in silence, the shame that keeps them there, and what you can actually do to become someone it feels safe to tell.What you'll learn: ✔ The 5 kinks women fantasize about and rarely share — and the real psychology behind each one ✔ Why erotic shame is the actual barrier (not trust, not desire) ✔ What CNC fantasy really is — and what it is not ✔ Specific things you can do to create safety without putting pressure on her 

Send a textMost people think relationships fail because someone stopped trying, cheated, or they just picked wrong. But what if relationships follow a predictable pattern — and most of us are sabotaging them at the exact same stage without even knowing it?In this episode, I sit down with Thais Gibson — founder of Personal Development School, bestselling author, and one of the world's leading experts on attachment theory — to break down the six stages every relationship moves through, why most collapse at stage three, and what your attachment style is actually doing to your love life, your desire, and your ability to stay.I also get personal. About the patterns I've repeated. About staying in relationships I should have left. About what it took to finally see myself clearly enough to stop.If you've ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different person — this episode is your answer.What you'll learn: Why chemistry isn't compatibility and what actually drives attraction • The six stages every relationship moves through • Where most relationships die and why • What your attachment style is doing to your sex life at every stage • How to actually change your attachment style in 90 days • Why doing the work together is the only thing that saves a relationshipFind Thais at https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ — free attachment quiz at the link

Send a textMost men assume she just doesn't enjoy it. Most women wonder why they want to sometimes and absolutely don't other times.The truth is more interesting — and more fixable — than either of them thinks.In this episode, sex and intimacy coach Annette Benedetti breaks down the psychology and neuroscience behind female desire, and gives you 6 specific, research-backed things you can do to shift the dynamic entirely.This isn't about pressure, persuasion, or performance. It's about understanding how desire actually works — and showing up differently because of it.In this episode:Why most men have been trying to create desire the wrong way (and what actually works)The neuroscience of the sexual "brake" — and why removing pressure is more powerful than adding stimulationThe difference between feeling wanted and feeling chosen — and why it mattersWhat the research on couples actually shows about reciprocity and desireWhy your nervous system is either creating safety or shutting her down — before you've touched herThe one move most men make the moment she starts responding — and why it kills everythingThis episode is for: ✔ Men who want to understand their partner's desire better ✔ Women who've been trying to figure out why their desire feels inconsistent ✔ Anyone who wants a deeper, more connected intimate relationshipYour Guide To Giving Her Good Oral: https://youtu.be/r7mJrSu_KRs

Send a textWhat if orgasms were about more than just pleasure?In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I'm joined by Venus O'Hara—author, sexual wellness expert, and host of the Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast—to explore the O Method, also known as orgasmic manifestation.We break down:What orgasmic manifestation actually is (and what it isn't)How sexual energy can be used for intention, confidence, and changeWhy pleasure isn't just instant gratification—it's powerHow to start if masturbation feels awkward, shame-filled, or unfamiliarWhether you need to orgasm for the practice to workWhy this matters especially for women navigating trauma, midlife, or desire shiftsEven if you don't believe in manifestation, you'll still get orgasms out of it. And you might rethink what pleasure is really for.You can find Venu Here: https://www.venusohara.org/You can order her book Orgasmic Manifestation Here: https://www.venusohara.org/orgasmic-manifestation

Send a textMost advice about sexual attraction is either vague, manipulative, or flat-out wrong.This episode isn't about tricks, lines, or “alpha” posturing. It's about what actually creates sexual attraction — in real bodies, real moments, and real connection.In this episode, I break down five specific things that reliably make women feel sexually attracted, based on psychology, nervous-system science, and what women consistently respond to — not what dating culture thinks they should.You'll learn:Why attraction dies when desire gets turned into hesitationHow to express interest in a way that feels confident and safeWhat overstaying the moment does to desire (and why less really is more)How presence, timing, and responsiveness matter more than performanceWhy attraction isn't about convincing someone — it's about how you show upThese aren't manipulation tactics. They're behavioral shifts that create clarity, tension, and genuine pull — without pressure, games, or crossing boundaries.If you've ever wondered why things start strong but lose heat, or why connection doesn't always turn into desire, this episode will change how you understand attraction — and how you move inside it.

Send a textThis Talk Sex With Annette topic takes the show back to its roots when it was just a girl's sex talk podcast.For too long, women's most honest conversations about sex have happened in whispers — in group chats, locker rooms, and over wine when no one's listening.But what happens when we stop whispering?In this episode, I sit down with writer and pleasure activist Tash Doherty, the bold voice behind Miseducated, to talk about what women really say about sex when you're not in the room — and why it changes everything when we take the mic.We dive into:• The orgasm gap and why it still exists • Pegging, anal equality, and rewriting the sexual script • Why women fake orgasms (and why it hurts everyone) • How speaking openly about sex transforms relationships • What men need to understand about female pleasureThis isn't just about women talking about desire. It's about rewriting the rules of sex — for everyone.If you've ever wondered what women really think about sex… this episode is your invitation to find out.Check out Tash's Intimacy Journal Here: https://www.tashdoherty.com/shopFind her on Substack: https://misseducated.substack.com/

Send a textTouching her breasts should feel erotic — but for a lot of people, it ends up feeling rushed, mechanical, or oddly disconnected.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I break down 9 ways to touch her breasts that most guys skip — not because they don't care, but because no one ever taught them how breast pleasure actually works.We'll talk about:why grabbing and squeezing too fast shuts her body downhow timing and pressure matter more than intensitywhen nipple stimulation feels good — and when it doesn'thow to tell if her body is opening or bracingand how to make breast play feel grounding, erotic, and deeply pleasurableThis episode is explicit, educational, and focused on real bodies — not porn scripts or performance pressure.If you want breast play to feel better, more connected, and more arousing for both of you, this is where to start.

Send us a textWith the Epstein files back in the headlines, many people are noticing a shift in desire and connection. This unscheduled drop explores how collective stories of abuse and betrayal impact the nervous system — and why libido is often the first thing to go quiet when safety feels uncertain.In this episode, we talk about:Why desire can shut down during moments of collective traumaHow the nervous system responds to perceived threatRecognizing triggers as they happen in the bodyHow to protect your relationship with pleasure without forcing itWhy intimacy doesn't belong to abusers — it belongs to us

Send us a text Two years ago, this topic became one of my most-listened-to episodes—so we're bringing it back.In Part 2, I'm joined by two sex-positive women from different age groups to answer the questions men keep asking and go deeper than before.We cover:What women actually think about penis sizeWhy confidence matters more than lengthHow oral, grinding, toys, and anal play often matter more than penetrationCommon mistakes that quietly kill desireReal, practical tips for having great sex regardless of sizeWe also kick things off with a clear, medically accurate guide to measuring penis length and girth, because many men think they're “small” when they're not.Honest. Sex-positive. No shame—just real talk.Here is your link to episode part  1: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/episodes/14322290

Send us a textWhy do so many women lose interest in sex—and why is the blame so often placed on them?In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, Annette is joined by Dr. Trina Read to unpack what women are really saying when they say, “I just don't want sex anymore.”We talk about:Why low desire is often a reasonable response, not a personal failureHow pressure, routine, and male-centric sex shut down arousalWhat's happening in the body and mind during long-term relationshipsWhy orgasms alone don't guarantee satisfying sexSmall, practical shifts that help women reconnect with desireThis episode is for:Women questioning their libidoPartners who want to understand what's beneath the surfaceAnyone tired of being told to “fix hormones” instead of fixing the experienceBy the end of this conversation, you'll have a clearer, shame-free framework for understanding women's desire—and how to start changing it.

Send us a textIn this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I'm breaking down three specific positions that are more orgasm-friendly by design—because they support anatomy, nervous system regulation, and clitoral engagement instead of rushing straight to penetration and hoping for the best.And I want to be clear right from the start: This episode exists because my audience voted for it.Every week, I run a poll on my YouTube channel where you help decide which how-to I cover next. If you want a say in future topics, make sure you're subscribed on YouTube and signed up for my e-newsletter—that's where the voting happens.In this episode, you'll learn:How angle, pacing, and connection dramatically change orgasm likelihoodThree positions that support female orgasms without relying on speed or forceHow to use eye contact, sensual touch, and clitoral stimulation without breaking flowThis episode is for women, their partners, and anyone tired of feeling like orgasms are random, rare, or out of reach.Links to products in the podcastWe-Vibe Melt 2 (Discount EXPLORES15 15% Off): https://wevibe-north-america.sjv.io/bOezRbThe Peach Toy Review (Discount EXPLORES15 15% Off): https://youtu.be/tm6r87jv6PsThe Peach Toy: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/womanizer-peach