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How does a woman get so far away from herself without even realizing it?It rarely happens all at once.It can happen slowly, through years of taking care of other people, saying yes when you want to say no, ignoring what your body is telling you, keeping the peace, meeting expectations, and becoming really good at being who everyone else needs you to be.Until one day, you realize you're not entirely sure what you need anymore.In this episode, Janell sits down with Angela Obert, business development expert and owner of Network Connection Minnesota, for a deeply personal conversation about people-pleasing, codependency, self-abandonment, identity, and what it takes to rebuild a relationship with yourself.Angela shares openly about her own experience with codependency and how she began recognizing the ways she had changed or abandoned parts of herself to please, help, or fix others. She and Janell also explore why “doing the work” doesn't mean old patterns disappear, and how transformation can look less like eliminating those parts of yourself and more like changing your relationship with them.They talk about:How people-pleasing can become self-abandonmentWhy old patterns can still show up after years of personal growthWhat rebuilding self-trust actually looks likeWhy keeping small promises to yourself mattersThe difference between consistency and perfectionHow the nervous system can keep familiar identities and patterns in placeLearning to listen to the signals your body is sendingWhy uncomfortable emotions, including anger, need space to be feltHow to begin separating what you genuinely want from what you've been conditioned to wantWhy being physically “in the room” can create something another podcast, book, or program simply can'tUltimately, so much of this conversation comes back to one thing:The relationship you have with yourself.And perhaps coming back to yourself isn't about reinventing who you are.It's about remembering.

What does it actually mean if you have migraine with aura vs. migraine without aura—and should that distinction determine how you approach treatment?In this episode of the Headache Doctor Podcast, Dr. Taves explains why visual disturbances, light and sound sensitivity, numbness, and other neurological symptoms can feel alarming, but focusing entirely on those symptoms may keep you from asking a more important question: What's making the system so sensitive in the first place?You'll learn:What migraine aura can look and feel likeWhy some people experience aura without significant head painHow the trigeminal cervical complex processes signals from the head, face, and neckWhy migraine symptoms can vary dramatically from person to personHow the jaw, occipital nerves, and upper neck may contribute to the pain pathwayWhy chasing individual symptoms can lead to a cycle of trigger avoidance and symptom managementPlus, in Ask the Headache Doctor, Dr. Taves answers questions about treating the upper neck with cervical instability and why Botox may work for migraines for years before seemingly stopping.

This one's a step back to look at the big picture, because a lot of the Gen Xers I talk to are too busy living life to see it.Three things are colliding at once.Corporate is chaos. It's not your age, it's your expense. Somebody can do half your job for half the price, and that's who gets picked. Getting laid off is one thing. Getting back in is the real problem. Look around your own network if you don't believe me.The savings math. The generation before us had pensions. We got a 401k and a how-to video. Roughly half of Gen X has nothing put away, and the typical household isn't close to what 30 years actually costs.Longevity. This is the good news. If you take care of yourself there's a real chance you're looking at 30 or 40 more years, healthy and active.Put those three together and it doesn't add up.I'm not doing this to scare anybody. It's not a prediction, it's already happening. But there are two ways to react. You can treat it as a sunset and ride it out. Or you can treat it as the start of a second adult lifetime, which is the way I'm choosing to look at it.The back half of this episode is the part that matters: you already have everything you need to generate income on your own. The skills, the experience, the problem solving. What's in the way is unlearning what corporate taught you, and the fact that we make making money way more complicated than it needs to be.In this episode:Why it's your expense, not your ageThe musical chairs problem, and why the chairs aren't coming backPensions versus the 401k handoffWhat 30 or 40 more years actually costsWhy gig work is the wrong answerLow friction, high margin income, and what that actually looks likeWhy the first dollar outside corporate changes everythingTIMESTAMPS00:00 — Welcome, and why I'm zooming out this week01:20 — Naming it: Gen X has a math problem01:42 — Two ways to react: sunset, or jumpstart02:05 — Musical chairs, and why they're pulling five at a time02:25 — Part 1: It's not your age, it's your expense03:40 — Getting laid off isn't the problem. Getting back in is.04:20 — The professional athlete parallel04:46 — Part 2: How prepared are we, really05:05 — They got pensions. We got a how-to video.06:00 — The savings numbers nobody wants to look at07:05 — How few of us actually have a pension07:45 — Part 3: Longevity, and why it's genuinely good news08:45 — Putting all three together09:15 — This isn't a prediction. It's happening now.09:55 — The good news: you already have what you need10:30 — Seventeen income streams, and why I'm not special11:05 — Why it's not Uber and it's not DoorDash11:45 — The real blocker: unlearning corporate12:45 — Low friction, high margin income13:40 — Go sell that first dollar14:05 — Don't bet on another 20 years in corporate14:45 — The opportunity sitting in your own backyard15:05 — Don't replace your job with a worse version of it16:00 — What changed inside the community16:25 — Nobody's judging you (my TikTok debut says hi)17:35 — The better you are, the more at risk you are18:20 — What the 20-somethings figured out that we didn't18:45 — How to reach meLINKS AND CTAThe Collective Now focused entirely on the thing most people are stuck on: making money outside of corporate. A group of Gen Xers figuring it out together. https://trp-collective.circle.soEverything else https://BrettTrainor.comQuestions or episode ideas? Email me: bt@bretttrainor.comIf the show's useful to you, hit follow wherever you listen.GenX, laid off over 50, ageism at work, corporate layoffs, retirement math, 401k, longevity, second act, making money outside corporate, career change over 50, side income, Gen X retirement crisis

Have you been applying and applying to wildlife jobs or experiences only to hear nothing back? That's exactly what happened to Dylan Karl despite having a degree from a prestigious university specializing in wildlife, a Master's degree, years of experience, and a wildlife biologist certification from The Wildlife Society. Dylan had seemingly everything, yet, he was applying to 30-50 jobs every season, but nothing was landing. Dylan's story is even more unique. Dylan was one of my Successful Wildlife Professional students, and when I first started working with him, he was working in a wildlife job, but unhappy. He felt that although he was technically involved in wildlife work mitigating damage at airports, he wasn't having the impact he wanted, and felt like he was spending a lot more time killing wildlife rather than saving it. So Dylan decided to join the Successful Wildlife Professional program and get help. And it paid off almost instantly! Within two months of the program, he applied for and got his dream job of working with Mexican wolves. This was a huge win and we were both so excited for his future! Because of these incredible results, I knew I had to have him on the Fancy Scientist podcast to share. But when I interviewed him, I was surprised he was no longer working there! It turns out that his story took an unexpected turn. Unfortunately, it's not uncommon for reality to not match up with expectations in our field… Dylan had always imagined himself as a bridge between wildlife and people, helping manage conflict and promote coexistence. But what he thought was a non-lethal position in Arizona turned out to not be so non-lethal after all, due to pressure from ranchers pushing for the lethal removal of federally protected wolves. This didn't sit right with him, and that misalignment caused him to rethink what he actually wanted out of his career.Luckily, he had the tools he learned from the Successful Wildlife Professional to lean back on. He used the trainings on understanding the jobs and workplaces and personal exercises to uncover his own desires and strengths to re-identify his dream job. He combined this with the wildlife-specific protocols in the application section to write competitive cover letters and resumes for his new dream path. He now works as a Preserve Management Assistant for the prestigious The Nature Conservancy in northwestern Minnesota, helping to manage approximately 300,000 acres of tallgrass aspen parklands through tools like prescribed burns and seed spreading. Every morning he wakes up feeling like he's taking care of the animals he loves' homes.Dylan also gives a behind-the-scenes look at what it's like to work at the Nature Conservancy and what prescribed fire management actually looks like, including how burning 400 acres of land can transform a smothered wetland into one teeming with native wildflowers, frogs, fish, and water birds just a month later. After the interview, I break down the key takeaways so you can apply them to your own path, including why "proven experience" beats just experience, why knowing your end goal changes everything, and why the workplace you choose matters just as much as the work itself.Specifically, we talk about:Dylan's winding path from watching Steve Irwin as a kid in Cincinnati to managing 300,000 acres with The Nature Conservancy in MinnesotaHis experiences with the Peace Corps, the Cincinnati Zoo, wind turbine curtailment, spotted owl research, and USDA Wildlife ServicesWhat it felt like to be in a position that looked good on paper but isn't aligned with your valuesHow you can still work in wildlife, but not feel like you are following your dream or having the impact you wantThe gap between the Steve Irwin version of a wildlife career and what most wildlife jobs actually look likeWhy sending 30 to 50 applications a season and taking the first offer isn't a career strategyWhat caused Dylan to break through and land his dream job on Mexican wolves within a couple of monthsHow Dylan used The Successful Wildlife Professional to get clear on what he actually wanted and land the Nature Conservancy jobHis tips for landing a job with The Nature Conservancy, including why seasonal positions are the right entry pointHow prescribed fire is used as a conservation tool, and what it's like to return to a burned unit a month later and find it thriving with lifeThe spotted owl courtship behavior story you didn't know you neededAnd more!Jumps Links3:28 Meet Dylan Karl4:50 Dylan's Winding Career Path5:24 Working at The Nature Conservancy6:26 Prescribed Fire & Conservation11:40 Dylan's Education & Background15:25 Peace Corps, Zoo Work & Master's Degree18:45 Working for USDA Wildlife Services22:51 The Non-Lethal Wolf Job That Wasn't24:19 Landing at The Nature Conservancy27:37 Is There a Bait & Switch in Wildlife Careers?31:46 Why Dylan Joined Successful Wildlife Professional32:36 Carpet Bombing Applications & Career Misalignment35:32 Finding His Dream: Habitat Management40:31 A Moment of Success in the Field42:36 What Makes Dylan a Fancy Scientist45:20 The Owl That Defended Her Mate46:49 How to Get a Job at The Nature Conservancy49:18 Is the SWP Program Worth It?Dream of being a wildlife biologist, zoologist, conservation biologist, or ecologist? Ready to turn your love of animals into a thriving career?

Send us Fan MailThis week we're joined by illustrator, studio owner, and self-described “friendly dad” Brad Woodard of Brave the Woods (and the massively popular kids' channel Brave Kids Club). We get into how a pandemic side project turned into a YouTube channel with hundreds of thousands of subscribers, what happened when a nature short went unexpectedly viral, and why Brad dropped “art” from the channel name.Brad also shares his approach to teaching kids to draw, how he balances giving them structure with leaving room for their own creativity, and why so many kids stop calling themselves “artists” somewhere around second or third grade.We also talk about texture, and why too much texture can sometimes mask a weak drawing. Plus a candid conversation about what it actually takes to keep a creative business afloat when you're juggling client work, a studio, two YouTube channels, books, and a podcast: including the reality of what a kids' channel with millions of views actually pays.All that and more when you listen to this episode:Where the idea for Brave Kids Club came from How one viral short changed the direction of the channelWhy dropping “art” from the name helped the channel growHow Brad teaches kids to draw with structure while protecting their creativityWhy kids stop identifying as “artists” The difference between running a solo illustration practice and calling it a studioWhat Brad's dream illustration projects actually look likeWhy teaching and sharing your process can position you as an expert, even before you feel like oneThe “reps, not results” mindset for showing up on social media without burning outConnect with Brad WoodardInstagram: https://instagram.com/brave_the_woodsBrave the Woods: bravethewoods.comBrave Kids Club: https://www.youtube.com/@TheBraveKidsClubMentioned in this episode:Creative Slash Podcast“Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman” by Richard FeynmanWild KrattsJason MunnMark Kistler / Imagination StationThe Monster Project Emily Ballsley on the Creative Slash PodcastThe Ocean Explorer's Drawing Guide for KidsThe Dinosaur Explorer's Drawing Guide for KidsThe Nature Explorer's Drawing Guide for KidsConnect with Katie & Ilana from GoodtypeGoodtype WebsiteGoodtype on InstagramGoodtype on YoutubeWe wrote a book! Grab a copy and sign up to access the audiobook when we release it!Love The Typecast and free stuff? Leave a review, and send a screenshot of it to us on Slack. Each month we pick a random reviewer to win a Goodtype Goodie! Goodies include merch, courses and Kernference tickets!Leave us a review on Apple PodcastsSubscribe to the showTag us on Instagram @GoodtypeFollow us on Tiktok @lovegoodtypeLearn from Katie and IlanaGrab your tea, coffee, or drink of choice, kick back, and let's get down to business!

In today's episode, I sat down with Matt Schreiber — diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes in March of 2025 with a blood sugar of 480 and an A1C of 13.1 — and walked away from this conversation genuinely inspired.Matt spent months feeling exhausted, losing weight, constantly thirsty, and running out of steam ten minutes into a workout. It took his girlfriend finally saying enough is enough and dragging him to urgent care for everything to come to a head. He walked out of the ER with a Type 1 diagnosis, a crash course in insulin, and a choice to make about how he was going to live with this condition.Eighteen months later, his A1C is 5.9. He's playing ice hockey. He completed his first 10K. And he's managing Type 1 with MDI and a CGM while continuing to train the way he always has — without letting diabetes set the boundaries for what he can and can't do.We get into what his diagnosis actually looked like, why urgent care initially gave him metformin instead of insulin, how he navigated exercise and blood sugar management as a competitive athlete, what his experience with a GLP-1 medication was like, and the three pieces of advice he'd give every person with Type 1 diabetes right now — whether they were diagnosed last week or twenty years ago.This episode is proof that you are bigger than Type 1 diabetes.

In episode 502 of The Reformed Brotherhood, Tony and Jesse begin what promises to be a multi-part deep dive into the Parable of the Good Samaritan — one of the most culturally embedded and theologically rich stories Jesus ever told. But before a single character hits the Jericho road, the hosts ground listeners in something easily overlooked: the charged context in which this parable is told. A lawyer — trained, confident, adversarial — steps forward not to learn but to test. What follows is a masterclass in how Jesus turns the law back on those who wield it as a weapon. This episode covers Luke 10:21–36, explores the covenant of works and covenant of grace, the noetic effects of sin, and why the Good Samaritan is far more than a lesson in being a helpful neighbor. Buckle up. Key Takeaways The lawyer's question is self-contradictory from the start. Asking "what must I do to inherit eternal life?" smuggles a works-righteousness assumption into the very grammar of the question. Inheritance by definition is received, not earned. Jesus does not give the lawyer a new paradigm — He reorients him to the true one. The covenant of grace is not a New Testament innovation. It runs through every Old Testament covenant administration. The lawyer should have already known this. "Do this and you will live" is not a Pelagian concession. Christ is holding out the law's own terms — perfect, total, unrelenting obedience — not to suggest it is achievable, but to expose its impossibility and drive the lawyer (and us) to the only alternative: mercy. "Desiring to justify himself" is more complex than it first appears. Tony argues that the desire to fulfill the covenant of works is not inherently wicked — it is the misguided belief that one can which is the problem. This distinction creates room for reading Christ's response as genuinely merciful instruction, not merely rebuke. The noetic effects of sin mean accurate theology can be deployed in service of self. The lawyer knows the right answers and still uses them to avoid repentance. Correct doctrine alone does not save. The fundamental human problem is not ignorance — it is the will's bondage and the heart's self-love. The parable is primarily Christological, not merely ethical. Jesus is the Good Samaritan. The story is not first about mercy ministry; it is about who binds up our wounds when we are left for dead on the road, unable to save ourselves. The priest and the Levite are not exonerated by their ritual obligations. Considerable ink has been spilled trying to justify their passing by on grounds of Levitical purity concerns. The parable refuses that exit. Everyone in the story — and everyone listening — already knows what the right thing to do was. Key Concepts The Covenant of Works Is Not a Black Box One of the more quietly important arguments Tony makes in this episode is that the covenant of works was never meant to be mysterious or inaccessible. When Jesus responds to the lawyer's question by asking, "What is written in the law? How do you read it?" — He does so with a visible assumption: there is a clear, knowable answer, and the lawyer should be able to give it. And he does. Love God completely, love your neighbor as yourself. The covenant of works was always coherent and comprehensible. The problem has never been that its demands were obscure. The problem is that no one — save the Mediator — has ever kept them. Jesus is not introducing a new ethical framework. He is forcing the lawyer to confront a standard he has always known and has never met. The Lawyer as a Warning to Reformed Christians Jesse closes the episode's first movement with a pointed and personal application that cuts across theological self-satisfaction. The lawyer is not a caricature of ignorance — he is a portrait of someone with accurate, affirmed theological knowledge who instinctively deploys it in the service of self-justification the moment he senses conviction. Jesse names this directly as a danger particularly acute in Reformed circles, where doctrinal precision can become a subtle mechanism of self-defense rather than an occasion for repentance. The Reformation's great recovery of grace must not become a new form of the very disease it diagnosed. Knowing the right words about total depravity, the covenant of grace, and the mediator does not exempt anyone from the need to actually be humbled by them. Theology is not armor against repentance — it is, rightly received, the road toward it. Context Is Not Just Setup — It Is Part of the Lesson Tony and Jesse both emphasize that Luke 10:21–24 is not merely throat-clearing before the real content begins. The theological statement embedded there — that the Father has hidden these things from the wise and revealed them to little children, that no one knows the Son except the Father or the Father except the Son and those to whom the Son chooses to reveal Him — is the hermeneutical key to everything that follows. The lawyer approaches Jesus as one rabbi testing another. But Luke has already told his readers that this is not a conversation between equals debating interpretive options. It is the Lawgiver being questioned by someone who does not recognize Him. The parable that follows is not just an answer to a legal question. It is a revelation — the kind that only happens when the Son chooses to give it. Memorable Quotes You do not want to pit the law against the one who has given the law, the one whose character is represented in the law — because you're always going to get owned, and you'll get owned before you realize you've just gotten owned on multiple levels. - Jesse Schwamb Jesus is trying to sort of reorient them back to the true paradigm of grace that is present under all of the Old Covenant administrations. It's not so much a matter of developing a new framework and imposing it on this guy. It's really trying to say, 'Listen — think about this for a second. Think about the fact that, yes, you know you have to love the Lord your God with your whole heart, your whole soul, your whole strength, your whole mind, and you have to love your neighbor as yourself. You've answered correctly. If you can do those things, you will live.' — with the subtext: and of course you cannot possibly do those things. - Tony Arsenal The fundamental human problem is not primarily ignorance, but the will's bondage and the heart's self-love. It's a problem no amount of correct discipline or doctrine alone can fix apart from some kind of regenerating grace — which is exactly what Jesus is going to illustrate for us in the mercy he's about to display in this parable. - Jesse Schwamb Full Transcript Tony Arsenal: [00:00:00] This parable is not primarily about us figuring out how to do mercy ministry. Like, that's important. It's probably an outcome of this. It's probably something for us to think about. But really, this is actually Christ saying, like, "Hold on a second here, dude." Like, "Let's just think about this." Do you need someone who is going to tell you to pick yourself up off your bootstraps and cross to the other side of the street and leave you to your own devices? Or do you need someone who's gonna throw you on their donkey, who's gonna bind up your wounds, who's gonna pay the innkeeper, and is gonna pledge to pay everything that is owed for your salvation? Right? That's not too on the nose here, I think. Welcome to episode 502 of The Reformed Brotherhood. I'm [00:01:00] Jesse  And I'm Tony, and this is the podcast with ears to hear. Hey, brother.  Jesse Schwamb: Hey, brother. Well, we've got a big one to talk about on this episode. We're marching further and further into all of the glorious parables Jesus told as part of His teaching. And as you and I kind of joked before we began, I mean, what did you call it? Did you say this is, uh, the big daddy?  Tony Arsenal: It's the big daddy, one of the big daddy parables.  Jesse Schwamb: It's one of the big daddy parables. Now, this one is probably second maybe only to the prodigal son. Yeah But in terms of its ubiquity and its kind of just common knowledge in culture, this one ranks right up there. And before I reveal what it is, which you may already know, I was thinking how so many times we look at the Beatitudes as expression of a master class in Jesus teaching the law, and I think that's true. But as I was reading and thinking about this particular parable, I thought, "I don't know. I think this one is, uh, right up there," because [00:02:00] this is like law on law. It's double law. Yeah It's law coming back at the law giver who's trying to use the law to test Jesus, and then Jesus tests him with the law that He himself gave His people. It's... I'm already getting too excited- ... and we've got something to do before we get there. But we're talking about the parable of the Good Samaritan. And so I can't imagine, can I just make a prediction up front? I, you know where I'm going with this, and probably everybody else does. Uh, this is gonna be like two conversations-  Tony Arsenal: At least ...  Jesse Schwamb: probably.  Tony Arsenal: Yeah, at least two.  Jesse Schwamb: Is that fair? Because I realize we, of course, wanna get to the parable itself, and oh, my goodness, how much ink has been spilled. Even going back to, like, if you read, like, Augustine or, like, the early church, like the Patristics, the Church Fathers, there are so much that could be said, and maybe some stuff that just shouldn't be said about all the allegorical potential intent here about these characters. But [00:03:00] there's so much amazing stuff that happens in the opening of this, that's not just the setup, but it is its own lesson, and I'm real excited actually to talk about that with you before we even get into, like, all the good stuff that everybody expects that you wanna talk about. So we're gonna do it all. Tony Arsenal: Yeah.  Jesse Schwamb: We're gonna do it all, but it'll take time.  Tony Arsenal: Yeah. I'm interested to see if we're even on the same page about where to start reading, 'cause I, I think we might not be, and that's gonna be fun. So we'll, we'll let it fly and see what happens. It'll be our own little, uh, podcast game.  Jesse Schwamb: But, uh, I think- Well, I mean, we're gonna be in Luke chapter 10, but I guess to your point, we should be starting in Luke chapter one to get to this. Yeah.  Tony Arsenal: Exactly. But  Jesse Schwamb: we, we do have to back up quite a bit, and I was gonna ask you about that. Yeah. But I, apparently we're just gonna play that on the fly and see where we go.  Affirmations Denials Segment Jesse Schwamb: But of course, the Reformers had their five solos. Chalcedon had its, what, seven withouts. We've got opinions, and we're just as confident about ours, so of course it's time for affirmations, denials, where we affirm something that we think is good or awesome or [00:04:00] we wanna recommend, and we deny, again, something that is not so great or maybe just plain annoying. So before we talk about the Parable of the Good Samaritan, Tony, what do you got for us on this episode? Are you affirming with something, or are you gonna come in with a denial?  Tony Arsenal: Well, I've got two affirmations. That's fine. One is just- I will allow it ... a declaration of joy, and one is, like, a real affirmation. I, I just can't... It would be remiss of me not to share with our podcasting family that my son August and my daughter Adeline, uh, joined the visible church today as- Hear, hear ... uh, non-communicant members. Uh, Augie and Addie were baptized on the 16th of August of 2026, uh, into the visible church, into the name of Jesus Christ. Uh, was, it was just a great service. Um, it's funny because I've been- been talking with Augie. One of the thing with toddlers when you're doing something big like this is you kinda have to talk about it and practice and rehearse, rehearse it and, and get them ready for it. And up until maybe, like, I don't know, three days [00:05:00] ago, every time it would come up he would be saying, "I don't wanna be baptized. I don't wanna be baptized." And, um, you know, I, I, I, you know, I don't wanna force him to do something, but also, like, I make him eat vegetables. But, um- ... he, I, I think it was nerves, and I think something clicked in his head and all of a sudden he was very excited to be baptized. So, um, it was great. We've been talking about, you know, what baptism is, God's promise to you that if you trust him he'll save you. And so today he- Right ... he was like, "God's gonna make a promise to me to save me." So he was very excited. Nice. And he did a great job just standing quietly and listening to the pastor talk. Uh, and Addie was, was, was just a beautiful little girl, and she, um, she loved it as well. So that's just a bonus affirmation. I don't know that I could get through a podcast without gushing over that.  Glorify App and Devotionals Tony Arsenal: Uh, but the, the affirmation I have, uh, this is an, an app that I think some of our listeners may have heard of. Um, some may roll their eyes at it, to be honest with you. Um, I stumbled on this because, uh, you have an Oura Ring, don't you, Jesse? Jesse Schwamb: I do.  Tony Arsenal: You [00:06:00] do, yeah. So for those who don't know, an Oura Ring is like a little wearable ring that's like a, almost like a fitness tracker, but it tracks biometrics, pulse rate, temperature, all these different things, sleep. Um, there's a startup, uh, that has been doing a GoFundMe or a funding kind of thing for, uh, what they're calling like a Christian version of an Oura Ring. So it does a lot of the same things, sleep tracking, basic biometric tracking. Hmm. But it also has like alerts built in, and it's tied into an app that they use for devotionals. So it'll, it'll remind you to pray. It'll remind you, you know, bring you to an app to do a devotion. But the app it uses is a standalone app that I looked up, and it's called Glorify. Have you ever heard of this app before this evening? I have heard of  Jesse Schwamb: this, yeah.  Tony Arsenal: So Glorify is just a small devotional app. Uh, it's not much different than you would expect based on the name. It is connected to this, uh, to this Glorify ring, which again is, is sort of like an Oura Ring tied into this app. But this app basically is, is [00:07:00] designed to help you complete short daily devotional exercises, and they're usually very brief. They're based on a very brief, um, a very brief passage of scripture. Today's passage, uh, c- there's a quote. So today's quote is from Dietrich Bonhoeffer. It says, "True love does not consist in finding the perfect person, but in faithfully loving an imperfect one." Not sure why this devotional app is using a romance, uh, quote from Bonhoeffer of all people. But that was today's. Um, and the passage is Proverbs 5:15-17. So it's a, it's a devotional based on two verses, which is fine. So you read the passage. There's a very brief devotional on that passage, and then sort of a guided prayer, and they have both premium and free models. The premium model includes like you can listen to the devotional, you can listen to the prayer. Um, but just for example, today's prayer, it, it's very simple. "Loving Father, thank you for, uh, thank you because you're faithful and unchanging. In a world [00:08:00] marked by broken promises, disposable relationships, you remain the same. Teach me to reflect that faithfulness in my relationships. Help me to love with perseverance, grace, and commitment following the example of Christ. Protect marriages, strengthen families, restore what needs healing. May every relationship be marked by respect, truth, and genuine love. Shape in me a heart of integrity that honors you in both the small and significant choices of life. In Jesus' name, amen." So I think what I love about this, and this, I mentioned last week that there was, this is kind of like, sort of like the fluffy evangelical devotions. Like- Right ... there's not a ton of like solid doctrinal meat- But like, it's still nourishing. And sometimes we need a little bit of help. Sometimes we don't know what to pray, we don't know what to read, we're not sure. Sometimes in, I think in our Reformed circles, we feel like if we're not reading large portions of scripture and reading deep theological treaties or long, complex devotionals, that we're really not doing anything, and that's just not the [00:09:00] truth. So I've been using this in addition to other devotional studies I'm doing. I don't do it every day. I mean, there's some like streak functionality, kinda like habit tracking type stuff that's built into it. Um, but it's nice. It's nice to be able to pick it up, read a very short scripture, a brief devotional thought, and then have some guided prayer. I know one of the reasons I don't pray as often as I ought to is because I struggle to know what and how to pray. So even having some written prayers, I mean, this is why the Psalms are good, things like the Valley of Visions are good. Um, having some pre-written prayers that you genuinely pray but you're not having to come up with in the moment can really help. Right. So the app is called Glorify. I know it's available on iPhone. I'm not sure about Android. I'm sure it probably is. I'm sure they wanna have a pretty broad ecosystem. Um, and, and it's good. Again, it's, it's not anything fancy. It's not anything like super technical. Uh, and as I kind of alluded, like some of it's a little weird. Um, I, I didn't read the proverb. I think maybe the proverb is about romantic relationships, why they're, why they're tying in that, um, Bonhoeffer quote in, in the prayer. [00:10:00] But, um, even that, like it's pretty innocuous. And the quotes, like you don't have to read the quotes. It's not like you have to have to do that. Um, you could jump in, just read the scripture or just read the devotion and just do the prayer and you would be fine. So check it out. It's called Glorify, available on iPhone for sure. I'm pretty sure it's on, on Android. And maybe it's something you add daily, you know, this kinda thing like you do when you're on the bus or you're waiting at the grocery store, something quick you can do when you might be wasting that time just sorta sitting around or scrolling Twitter. Again, Twitter's fine. You can use your leisure time as you see fit. But if you wanna fill it with something like this, something that is more spiritual, then this would be a good option to just add a little bit of, uh, a little bit of nourishment to your diet where you might not otherwise be getting it  Jesse Schwamb: I have no proof of this, but I just keep saying it anyway. It might be that we're living in the golden age of really great- ... daily worship resources. Like, something to actually cultivate, not just, like, a devotional nugget, but something that actually leads you into a pattern and a habit of [00:11:00]worship, giving your attentive focus on Jesus. And I love that. So, uh, uh, 'cause I was just thinking, like, I was trying to look back on some of our past affirmations here. We've talked about the book Walking in Faith. I just gave everybody Awake My Soul last week. You're coming in with the Glorify app. I- we've talked about Dwell, if not recently, we've talked about that for some time. It's like a great Bible reading app, and there's lots and lots of new features, by the way, coming out on that- Yeah that are fantastic. And then, yes, all these other great prayers. I, I see, like, these books on prayer, like, actually, I'm sorry, like, prayer books, I guess, as, like, a great way to kinda... It's like a jumper for your car. You know what I mean? Like, just gets you started. What a, what a lovely thing to come into a place and have a launching pad. And I've been using a lot of Into His Presence, which is a collection of Puritan prayers, sometimes because, for instance, this just happened, where I wanted to pray for someone who was just going through a rough time, a good friend of mine. And I went to that place to kinda start and frame, knowing that I was gonna sit down with him and pray, how I might be able to do that well and [00:12:00] effectively. And these things are just, like, really phenomenal resources. It's just an amazing time to have all these things at our disposal. So that's another great option. It's, it's really more about, like you and I have talked about, Tony, like, whatever gets us into that pattern, whatever gets us, like, authentically experiencing under our own volition, coming in the discipline of sitting before God in daily worship with that expression being pretty broad in its representation- Yeah is to really include something of devotional time in the scriptures, memorization, metabolation, metabolizing. Metabolation, I'm just gonna make that up as, like- ... what happens when you, when you take the scripture and metabolize it into your own life. Meditating on it and, you know, again, maybe looking through the confessions and creeds that have shaped our distilled understanding of what the scripture teaches so that we're enhancing and edifying our mind. We're also engaging the heart, and then we're engaging God and ourselves in communication with Him through prayer. I'm all for anything [00:13:00] that gets us into those rhythms, reminds us of the importance of them, and like we talked about last week, makes it so that when we think about what it means to be married to Christ, so to speak, it's not just about whipping out some kind of marriage certificate to prove that, but that we actually have a frame and a behavioral pattern that fits a married person, that- Yeah how they act, how they think, how they behave, how they communicate, they're never too far away from their lovely spouse in some way or another. And so I think that these tools are great ways to get us exactly into that kind of mindset and practice.  Tony Arsenal: Yeah, absolutely. And like I said, like, I think- In our Reformed circles, we can, you know, we, we tend to be maybe a little eggheaded, and we, we tend to be a little more intellectual and, and a little more, I don't know, studious. And there's nothing wrong with that. Um, but I think sometimes it can breed a sort of, uh, elitism and arrogance. Sure. Uh, this is a perfectly valid devotional tool. Yes. Mm-hmm. And, and I think, [00:14:00] you know, kinda like the old adage, like, well, what's the best translation of scripture? Well, whichever one you're gonna read. Exactly. Like, what's the best devotional tool? Whichever one you're gonna use, whichever one's actually gonna bring you into the Word, uh, on a, on a regular basis. Um, and again, like, two verses of the scripture is two verses of the scripture that you might- Right ... not have other spent time, otherwise spent time reading. And it really is short enough, and it saves your progress. Like, you can do, you can do the quote in the morning, and then you can check the scripture on the way to the, you know, the word work, on a stoplight or whatever. Um, if you have the, the paid subscription, you can listen to this stuff, you know, on the, the bus or whatever. Um, so check it out. Glorify app, they have a ring they're making. It's in funding, I guess, if you wanna check it out, you can check that out too. I am neither affirming nor denying whatever this Glory ring is, Glorify ring. But, um, but yeah, the app is great. The, the app is free, and it's, it's worth even just checking out and adding once in a while to your day  Jesse Schwamb: The glory ring or the glorify ring sounds like almost too Tolkien, even for me  Tony Arsenal: Yeah. Yeah. It's the one ring to rule all of your devotions. [00:15:00] Uh, and in the, and in the morning bind them. Jesse, save me from the trail I was about to go on, and, and I was gonna speak in the language of Mordor, I think, on accident. Uh, save us from this. What are you affirming or denying?  Jesse Schwamb: That's  Tony Arsenal: beautiful. Please tell me it's the language of Mordor. Elvish AI and Music Pick Jesse Schwamb: Uh, no, but can I just say at the risk of really taking us really far afield so early on, which is not necessarily off-brand for us, I have done this... I, I don't know if I should be ashamed by this or I should be excited by this. But- ... um, the Elvish tongue in the Tolkien universe-  Tony Arsenal: Oh, no. ...  Jesse Schwamb: is like, there's several... If you're super nerdy, you'll know there's like several different kind of iterations or formulas of it, and there's no, like, official language like Klingon, but there ha- it has been studied, and basically, like, it's kind of like the Eugene Peterson of the language. Like, there's, like, just kind of a dynamic equivalent or an expression of words. Anyway, all that to say- ... there's several languages that, uh, Microsoft Copilot will just not [00:16:00] translate because it says, like, "This one, this language doesn't actually exist. There's not enough for me to do anything." Let me tell you something. Tolkien Elvish is not one of those languages, and I actually built an agent, because I have a coworker who can, uh, who can appreciate all this stuff, that takes a text, translates it into this kind of academic high-level Elvish from Tolkien, and then translates it back to English. That makes anything you're saying way better and far more poetic and just absolutely amazing. So if you wanna have some fun, go and do that with whatever your favorite AI model is. Anyway, that's free of charge. Real quick, my affirmation is more music. It just turns out I've found this band, and I've been listening to them a lot. The band's name is Thronebreaker, which is just a phenomenal name, I think, for any group. Uh, it's amazing. Uh, th- this is... I'm gonna read you their description from Spotify. It just says, "Thronebreaker is Christian metalcore built for the bruised, the doubting, and the ones still fighting their way home." And what I've really been [00:17:00] loving about them is it is kind of like Wolves at the Gate adjacent. It's really lovely music. It is melodic, so it's, there's not just that there's that kind of hard edge, but that is present in it. But, uh, the music is really lovely and beautiful, and in part that's because they're going through this, like, drip of releasing music where they're taking, like, old hymns or maybe songs if you're of a certain age like I am of kind of childhood Sunday school- And they're taking the lyrics, not the melody, and they're reimagining them. So they have two versions of Jesus Loves Me that they just released. They have the old We're Gonna Cross, a song called Glory to the King Most High. These songs are just saturated with gospel. Like, they're just all power, all encouragement, and all authority represented in Jesus Christ. They're incredible, and I've j- where I've, what I've been really blessed by is these two versions of Jesus Love Me are just fantastic. Like, they're orchestral. There is a children's kind of chorus at one point, and it got me [00:18:00] singing that song again, and really, maybe to what you were saying before, Tony, like sitting in those three words, which are really phenomenal words to hear. And so I have been surprised at how moved I've been by what really I, I first understood, of course, as a children's song with simple truth that seems, you know, depending on how long you've known some part of the gospel, obvious. And yet I found them all new again, and a, a really lovely way of just sitting in the truth of God in music that I didn't expect to find. So if you're interested in any of that or maybe just curious of what it would sound like if a Christian metalcore band took Jesus Loves Me and turned it into their genre, then honestly you should just go check out Throne Breaker. I mean, you pretty much have to at this point.  Tony Arsenal: I, I don't ever have anything to add to your musical affirmations or denials, 'cause I, I just don't. What I do have to add is that Throne Breaker actually sounds like some sort of really [00:19:00] amazing, like, mace-type weapon in Lord of the Rings. Yes.  Jesse Schwamb: Yes,  Tony Arsenal: it does. Or like a big hammer that a dwarf carries. And I would also like to say that if you ask Google Gemini to translate something into Tolkien English, it not only will do it, it will tell you how to pronounce it.  Google Elf: A ava aini Ilai amel i trona se.  Tony Arsenal: What do you think that was, Jesse?  Jesse Schwamb: No idea.  Tony Arsenal: First of all, that was elevated Quenya, a Quenya. Yes.  Jesse Schwamb: Yes, that's  Tony Arsenal: the one. Classic Quenya.  Jesse Schwamb: Yes.  Google Elf: A leta Ilai amel aima.  Tony Arsenal: I would be willing to bet... Actually, let's do this.  Jesse Schwamb: Ugh.  Tony Arsenal: Uh, we don't give out prizes very often. Uh, I will say to anyone who can tell me what that is, the first person that emails, uh, or, or goes into the Telegram chat, we'll do this. We'll be professional podcasters and drive people to one of our channels. Here we  Jesse Schwamb: go.  Tony Arsenal: The first person who goes to our telephone, our Telegram chat and tells me what that [00:20:00] means, what that, uh, Elvish means, will get a Reformed Brotherhood T-shirt.  Jesse Schwamb: Oh, that is big.  Tony Arsenal: Yeah.  Jesse Schwamb: That-  Tony Arsenal: So I'm gonna, I'm gonna play it one more time.  Jesse Schwamb: Okay, here we go. Everybody listen. Every- All right, pull over. Stop your vehicles. Here we go.  Google Elf: A leta Ilai amel aima.  Tony Arsenal: There it is, everybody.  Jesse Schwamb: I'm not being a cry- I have a guess, but I, I, I wanna try to win the T-shirt, so I'm gonna- Yes ... wi- withhold. All right. Uh, yeah, that's, that's super fun. Did it, um... Did you also translate it back into English from that  Tony Arsenal: just to see- No, I'll do that later, 'cause that would give away the, that would  Jesse Schwamb: give away the prize. Yeah, it's, it's... We'll have to save that for next week, because that, that is the fun. It creates, like, what I was doing to, to have fun with this coworker is take very technical, like, work-related emails, and I would send it through. It would go through that iterative process, and I actually loved how it, it was talking. Like, it wa- this was an email about risk, and it, it gave, like, these beautiful grand metaphors that didn't sound corny or cheesy. That's the beautiful thing. That's amazing. It [00:21:00] was like true Elvish. Like, you were just like, "I wish I spoke that way all the time about, about risk." And it, like I said, it wasn't just like... You could, you could obviously throw something in and be like, "Make this Shakespearean," or, you know, "Make this, you know, sound like, you know, Milton." This is way better. This is way better, because it's not, like, actually trying to manipulate what you're saying. It's takes, like, the dynamic equivalent of what you said, then translates it back with way more kind of poetic infrastructure while maintaining, like, the essential meaning that you have. I'm, I'm selling this too hard. Everybody just has to go out and try it. So, all right, you know what's at stake here, but here's how you have to win this. If you want a chance, if you want a chance at winning this, you gotta go to t.me/reformedbrotherhood, t.me/reformedbrotherhood, and that link will take you to the Telegram app and our little corner of it, and you're gonna find there's a bunch of chats there. You gotta go to the affirmations or denials chat, and then you gotta put in what is the translation of what Tony just played.[00:22:00] I just love... Isn't it amazing, though, that, like, y- as you discovered, there's more than one version of Elvish available? Yeah. And they do differentiate between the various kinds. This is a big deal. I learned there are actually scholars who have, like, again, filled in kind of like the details of the language- Oh, yeah taking as a basis what Tolkien had there. Yeah. So I think that this is the best. We couldn't have conceived of this if we'd actually tried and planned for it, so-  Tony Arsenal: It's true ...  Jesse Schwamb: it's just better that it all happened in, in real time. It's true. And, and speaking of which, I think now we get to have the fun of figuring out, uh, where in Luke chapter 10 are we gonna begin? Or should we just start in Luke 1 and just let's see how far we can get reading  Tony Arsenal: in this- I could have, I could have Google Gemini read it in elevated Kenya, Quenya I did try to get it to put it in Sindarin, and it wouldn't do it for some reason. I'm not sure. Maybe this anti-Sindarin bias in Gemini,  Jesse Schwamb: man. Disappointing.  Tony Arsenal: It's disappointing.  Jesse Schwamb: Dis- disappointing. So let's kick off some Good Samaritan talk, which again, I think is gonna take us [00:23:00] through maybe in the next couple of conversations, in part because, like I said, we're not even gonna start at, uh, verse 25 because there is so much more that needs to be said, I think, before that. Tony Arsenal: Yeah. Yeah. I, I think actually the proper place to start this, and I, I'm guessing Jesse probably, whether he was there or not, he probably figured out where I was going, uh, over the course of the last 20 minutes or whatever. Um, I actually think the proper place to start, at least one of the proper places to start, is in verse 21. Yeah. Um, and I- we'll talk about why that is. And I'll... I'm gonna read here, um, 21, uh, through the end of the parable. Uh, and this is Jesus talking. He says in this, uh... Well, it, this is, um... Yes, uh, I'll just read it here. "In the same hour He rejoiced in the Holy Spirit and said, 'I thank you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, that You have hidden these things from the wise and understanding and revealed them to little children. Yes, Father, for such was Your gracious will. All things have been handed over to Me by My Father, and no one who knows who the Son is except... No, no one knows who the Son is [00:24:00] except the Father, or who the Father is except the Son, and anyone to whom the Son chooses to reveal Himself.'" Then turning to the disciples, he said privately, "Blessed are the eyes that see what you see. For I tell you that many prophets and kings desired to see what you see and did not see it, and hear what you hear and did not hear it." And behold, a lawyer stood up to put him to the test, saying, "Teacher, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?" He said to him, "What is written in the Law? How do you read it?" And he answered, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength, and with all your mind, and your neighbor as yourself." And he said to him, "You have answered correctly. Do this and you will live." But he, desiring to justify himself, said to Jesus, "And who is my neighbor?" Jesus replied, "A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and he fell among robbers who stripped him and beat him and departed, leaving him half dead. Now by chance a priest was going down that road, and he saw him and passed on the other side. So likewise a Levite, [00:25:00] when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. But a Samaritan, as he journeyed, came to where he was, and when he saw him he had compassion. He went to him and bound up his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. And he set him on his own animal and brought him to an inn and took care of him. The next day he took out two denarii, gave them to the innkeeper, saying, 'Take good care of him. Whatever you, whatever more you spend I will repay you when I come back.' Which of these three do you think proved to be a neighbor to the man who fell among the robbers?" And he said, "The one who showed him mercy." Jesus said to him, "You go and do likewise."  Jesse Schwamb: I think you're right, of course, to back us up into verse 21 because I don't want to keep saying it's always a setup, but Jesus is certainly giving us like the right context in which... Well, Luke of course is the author here and as he's explaining the teaching of Jesus, he does so well to start out with some irony that we don't realize is gonna be ironic until we get to the, to verse 25 [00:26:00] when we realize who's testing Jesus, who's setting this all up. So this idea that the Holy Spirit, everybody rejoicing in the Holy Spirit and the knowledge and the wisdom, the intelligence that's revealed through the Holy Spirit to all of these lesser people and in particular here emblematic the infants That here we have kings and rulers, and in this case, this beloved scholar of the law, who all have this adventure in missing the point. They think, in fact, they're looking for the one who is to set them free, and they can't even see that it's Him who is before him. And yet, incidentally, God has already revealed all these things to the lowest, to the ones who are the most humble, the meek, the mild, the down and outs, the ones who are weak by the view of everybody else. And so it's amazing that if we just kinda, again, like blow past it into, like, just all the characters, we don't see that the teaching starts actually well above this, that even everything we're about to understand, that unfolds in our lives, ev- every spiritual incarnation and insight that we have [00:27:00] first starts with God himself in his revealing it to us both in his general revelation, but of course, in the specific revelation of his teaching. So I like that you started us there, because I, I'm with you. That's where this whole thing launches off, right?  Tony Arsenal: Yeah.  Parables Reveal and Conceal Tony Arsenal: Yeah, and as we come into when we very, like very start of this, uh, series, the, the parable series, Jesus sort of embeds a theology of parables into this introduction, right? Or I should say Luke does. But this, uh, this is written a- as though all of this is occurring as sort of one event. Right. And likely it was, right? So sometimes, uh, in the Gospels, events are kind of, like, moved next to each other for thematic reasons. It's possible that that's the case. It seems like this may have actually just been one, one teaching, and I'll, I'll talk about why that is in a second here. Um, but at the very least, this is placed next to each other in the Gospel almost as, like a, "Here's the theology of parables. Now, here's actually that happening in real [00:28:00] time."  Jesse Schwamb: Yes.  Tony Arsenal: And then also, like, a parable kinda demonstrating it, right? So the theology of the parable here is that there are many prophets, kings who desire to see what it is that, that, uh, uh, the disciples are seeing, right? And all things have been handed over to the Father or to, to the Son, by the Father, and no one knows who the Son is except the Father. No one who knows who the Father is except the Son, and anyone to whom the Son chooses to reveal, right? So the, the theology of parables here presented in Luke is that the parable itself is being used as a way to reveal the Father and the Son to those whom the Son chooses to reveal it to. The Lawyer as the Fool Tony Arsenal: And that leaves us with this lawyer, um, sort of playing, playing the fool in almost like a dramatic sense, right? In a lot of drama, there's kind of like the fool character who's sort of like the foil or the idiot of the thing who's, who's unaware and is almost like made an example of, right? Um, I, I can't think of any examples off the top of my head, but there's often a character in a play who's like, uh, it's [00:29:00] almost like the opposite of the everyman, right? The everyman in a, in a play- Right ... or in a movie is sort of like the outsider who things gets explained to, and he's sort of the proxy for, for the audience. Um, I think like, um, Hawkeye in Avengers is kind of the everyman. He's sort of just like this regular dude swept up in this thing, and oftentimes he's the one that, uh, the big characters are explaining things to. And really what that is is the big characters are explaining that to the audience through this proxy. There's also this concept of the fool in a lot of these plays or movies who's sort of like the dummy, the idiot of the play, who things are explained to, and it's still a way to explain it to the audience, but the character doesn't get it. And so that's kind of, kind of the role that this lawyer is playing in this, this narrative here. He, he steps forward. He's like, "What must I do to inherit eternal life?" Jesus answers his question, and then in this like sort of like stunning moment of, like unawareness, he's trying to justify himself. He says, "Well, who is my neighbor?"[00:30:00] As though that's a question that needed to be asked, right? I think, like, we sort of think of it as like, "Oh, yeah, that's a valid question." I actually don't think it is. Like, it's pretty obvious, in the Old Testament at least, who your neighbor is. It's the people who live immediately with you. It's the other people of Israel. It's the people in your immediate concentric circles, the people you have direct access to. Um, and so then Jesus explains it through this parable, and whether or not he gets it at the end, I guess is maybe a little bit unclear. We can talk about that as we get there. But at least in the beginning, he's portrayed as this sort of, like, fool who doesn't understand what Jesus is saying, and then this parable is taught. So it's this theology of, um, revelation to those whom it is intended to, and further obscuring from those it's intended not to, not to illuminate, which is identical. Uh, maybe it's a different flavor of the same thing, but it's the same thing as what Matthew had and what Jesus taught- Right ... in Matthew with the parables. Jesse Schwamb: Right. It definitely is, again, illustrating, again, God's divine prerogative. I think you really have to do a lot of theological gymnastics [00:31:00] to try to work yourself out of a place here that says, like, "Well, this, this knowledge is accessible to all people."  Tony Arsenal: Right.  Jesse Schwamb: That if somehow we just work hard enough, study hard enough, come even before God with the right attitude or do the right things, that somehow all this will be made plain to us, and that's certainly not the truth here. In fact, again, the ironic setup is you have this lawyer asking this question, which creates this strange contrast because here's a man trained in the law, and he approaches the very wisdom of God to test him while the little children already perceive what this fool cannot. So it's irony upon irony, and then I, I like what you're saying. I think, and we'll get to this to anticipate a bit, I'm reading this as he's hoping that the answer to whom is my neighbor, just like he- he's received the affirmative from Jesus saying, "Yes, you understand. Go and do these things. This is life," and we'll get to all of what that means, I think, as well in terms of the covenant of works and the covenant of grace. But I think he's hoping that the definition of neighbor is gonna mean that he has [00:32:00] already accomplished the thing then, so that if there's somehow- Yeah ... he could just set the right boundaries. He could say, "Ah, yeah, I'm already good then, Jesus. I already, already did all that stuff." So- It's wild to me that it, it all starts with, of course, like some kind of scribal specialist in the Torah, of course, likely some kind of Pharisee by theological alignment. And as I'm looking at the notes here, what I find particularly stunning as we start this out is that Luke, of course, is able to speak several times in this parable to the intent. And so he says right away with great kind of fanfare and description that the intent here from this scribal Torah person was to test or to tempt, which is the same verb used of Satan's temptation of Christ and of Israel's testing of God in Deuteronomy 6, which of course Jesus is gonna quote here later on. So it's not, of course, like sincere inquiry, like you're saying. It, it is like adversarial probing. It is like really profound setup. It is dripping with like [00:33:00] ulterior motive. It's seeking to expose Jesus as either like heterodox or as diminishing the law's demands. And I think we've talked about this before, so Tony, correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm pretty sure in one of the previous parables we talked about sometimes how these get set up with this kind of weird like oxymoronic setting. Inherit Eternal Life Debate Jesse Schwamb: So like this question of se- uh, uh, itself, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?  Tony Arsenal: Yeah.  Jesse Schwamb: It's like more than just theologically revealing. Biblically it's self-contradictory, 'cause of course like we talked about inheritance, I think actually when we went through the, the parable of the prodigal. By definition, that's received, of course, on the ba- basis of relationship or promise. It's not earned by performance. And if the inheritance comes by a law, it no longer comes by promise, right? I think that's like Galatians. So the lawyer's question already portray- portrays like some kind of weird works righteous paradigm. E- even if you think he's really after trying to understand the true intent of God's heart [00:34:00] behind the law, he is assuming at least in this question that eternal life is some kind of wage that he can earn rather than a gift to be received by grace through faith. And that's a fundamental error that the entire subsequent exchange, including the parable, is designed to expose. It's both, like you're saying, Tony, he has not learned yet what it means to be in the kingdom of God. He's outside of that, and so he's trying... Now Jesus is bringing in this corrective action, as it were, set up in a story, but he's gonna turn the law on him, which, which I don't wanna get too excited about that yet. But he's... But essentially, here we have somebody who's the expert in the law trying to leverage the law by way of force against the one who he does not understand has all leverage and authority over him, and is in fact the law giver himself So he's gonna, Jesus is gonna drive him to see his own ability to keep the law that he claims to honor, and that's more than just brilliant. This is what the law does. You do not wanna pit the law against the one who has given the law, the [00:35:00] one whose character is represented in the law, because you're always going to get owned, and you'll get owned before you realize you've just gotten owned on multiple levels, and I think that's what basically unfolds here. Tony Arsenal: Yeah. Yeah, I, I have a little bit of a different take on the, the word inherit here. Um, I don't think what you're saying is wrong, um, but I think there's a little different flavor here, and actually, I, I think it, it still sort of propels us forward to the conversation we have to have, um, about the law and the gospel and the covenant of works, the covenant of grace. The, the Greek that lays under this word is, uh, it's a compound word of the word for, like, lot or portion and the word for law. And so, so the, this force of the word is more along the lines of, like, what shall I do to have a legal right to eternal life? Like- Right ... inherit, I think we hear inherit, and we think of, like, um, like what you get when someone dies, and so, like, obviously there's nothing you do to earn it, and that's certainly an element of the way this [00:36:00] word is used in some instances. I think reading this and kind of how, how the rest of the text plays out, this lawyer is coming forward and he's like, "What do I need to do to have a rightful legal claim to eternal life?" Right? We might even be able, and this is where it comes into the covenant of grace, covenant of works k- kind of paradigm. We might even be able to say that what this lawyer or this person comes forward to ask Jesus is, how do I gain, how do I gain the benefits of the covenant of works, right?  Jesse Schwamb: Right.  Tony Arsenal: Yep. That's language that was developed later that's not, not, like, biblical language in terms of, like, the actual language within the text, but that's the force of what he's saying. What must I do to be a rightful legal... Uh, what must I do to have a rightful legal claim on all of the blessings of the covenant of works, is really the question that's here. And so Jesus' answer is so instructive- Right ... 'cause what he says is, "Well, what's written in the law?" Like, he, he basically says, like, "Well, you should be able to tell me, teacher- Exactly of [00:37:00] the law, like, what, what needs to happen there." And there's an assumption on Christ's part that, like, there is an answer. I think sometimes, sometimes we, we, uh, we make an error in thinking that the covenant of works was never attainable, that it's somehow this, like, um, it's almost like a black box. Like, nobody could know what we have to do to, like, obtain eternal life. That's absolutely not the assumption Jesus makes. Jesus not only knows that there's an answer, it's such a straightforward answer that he expects this scribe to be able to answer it, right? And the scribe can, right? The scribe says, "Well, you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, your soul, your mind, your strength, and your neighbor as yourself," right? The summary of the law. Just good old classic Westminster larger, shorter catechism. Where's the law summarily comprehended? Summarily comprehended in the Ten Commandments. And then, then again, I don't know the questions exactly, but then it also, like, says, like, "Where does Christ summarize this?" Well, you should love the Lord your God, and you should love your [00:38:00] neighbor as yourself, right? Covenant Works and Grace Tony Arsenal: So the, the lawyer comes forward and says, "What do I need to do to have a legal right to all of the blessings of the covenant of works?" Christ says, "Well, what do you think?" He says, "Well, you obey the entirety of the law." And he says, "You've answered correctly. Do this. Obey the entirety of the law and you will live." So the parable itself doesn't necessarily speak to this law, gospel, covenant of works, covenant of grace paradigm. The, the parable is used to show that not only does this lawyer know what is required of him, but that he won't do it.  Jesse Schwamb: Right.  Tony Arsenal: And I think that's really key, because even in the parable, within the parable itself, there are these figures that know what they should do, right? I, I think, um, we'll get into it, but there's a lot of ink spilled on almost like, um, explaining [00:39:00] why the priest and the Phar- phar- and the, the Levite almost like did the right thing by going to the other side of the room, and it points to like, well, their priestly and Levitical responsibilities, if they touch a dead body, like they can't do those things, and those things are so important. Like, there's a lot of ink spilled trying to almost explain why what they did is right, when the point of the parable is that actually we all know what the right thing to do in that sense was. And even the most righteous people in the mind of the hearers, the Levites and the priests, the most righteous people, even they don't do what they're supposed to do. Jesse Schwamb: Right.  Tony Arsenal: This, this paradigm, this gospel law paradigm, law gospel paradigm, this covenant of works, covenant of grace paradigm, is so baked into the very like fabric of, of human thought that it's just there. And Christ takes this time to point out to this lawyer, like, "You know what's expected of you." And so that's why the phrase desiring to justify himself is so key [00:40:00] here. I actually think that the, the, the I don't wanna go so far as to say, like, that this person was regenerated in the midst of this conversation, 'cause I don't know that. But I actually think that there's a forward movement of this lawyer as he interacts with Christ that is optimistic. I'm optimistic about it, right? Right. He starts out trying to test Jesus, then he star- then he moves to having a desire to justify himself. I think we hear that, we read that, desiring to justify himself, we automatically think that that's a negative thing. But if we think about justifying himself in terms of what he's talking about, how do I fulfill the obligations of the covenant of works, that's not a bad thing to wanna do. Right. It's not bad to wanna obey God's law and to lay claim to His promises. It's a misguided notion of something we can't accomplish, but in itself, desiring to justify himself is to desire to fulfill the obligations of the covenant of works. That's not necessarily a bad thing. And so I think this is a merciful, a merciful [00:41:00] teaching on Christ's part. He's trying to instruct this guy to say, "Look, you can't do it. And even if you could do it, you wouldn't do it. So let's, let's talk about mercy instead and what that looks like." And that's where we get to kind of the end of the, uh, the end of the parable.  Jesse Schwamb: And again, we have to remember that we know that the intent here is actually to test or try Jesus, so He's certainly being merciful by using this opportunity not to just put him on blast, but to actually provide true instruction. And of course, like, that was, to some degree, this turning the question back would've been, like, a rabbinic pedagogical technique, but theologically, this is what floors me, is from the jump, Jesus refuses to let this man treat Him merely as one more voice among competing rabbis. Yeah. Instead, He holds that lawyer to the standard of God's own revealed word by, like you said, asking not just what does it say, but how do you read it? Mm-hmm. He's pressing not just for, like, some kind of recitation, but for the lawyer's own understanding and application, and Jesus is gonna hold him [00:42:00] accountable to his own hermeneutic. So by, by the time we get the answer, we know as readers, and all those present would've understood, he already knows the right answer, and he's not ignorant to God's requirements. He already summarizes the whole moral law correctly, encompassing both tables of the Decalogue. And so I think that does lead us then to this statement that we probably should spend a little time on, like, do this and you will live, like you introduced for us. Like, what does that even mean? Because i- it's not, like, in my view It's not like a Pelagian or Arminian concession that law keeping actually saves. I mean, it is the covenant of works principle stated truly inexorably that the law as law does promise life to perfect obedience. But that's the exact problem. I, I like what you said that it's not as if we can't understand what it would be to comprehend or contemplate this perfect law and what it means to fall under the covenant of works. It's just that he also presents for us at the same time this covenant of grace in which life is [00:43:00] granted freely through faith in the mediator who alone fulfills all of these laws' demands. So it's wild in this back and forth that's happening here where it's... I don't even know if it's fair to say this is like the most incredible subtext ever. I'm imagining trying to process this in real time and realizing everything that's being said, not just listening to what's being said and like the technical answers going back and forth. But I think like you said, that the Spirit even here is at work, I would like to believe, in the life and at the heart and the mind of this lawyer who's bringing forward this question with nefarious intent first to test and to undermine, and then is being drawn in almost inexorably into this debate to more profound understanding about a covenant based on works that cannot be accomplished, uh, in perfect obedience except through the mediator who organizes and distributes liberally this covenant of grace to his children for whom he has accomplished at least passively and then actively in his obedience in life and death. And so Jesus' reply is, I [00:44:00] think, thus a very genuine like if that functions to expose an impossibility. I, I don't think he's teaching salvation by works here, of course. He is holding out the law's own terms so that the lawyer and everybody else listening, and even us as well, can discover through this narrative which is about to happen the impossibility of self-produced righteousness, which again is what this gentleman is theologically all about. He's trying to justify himself. And that is precisely the pedagogical strategy like Paul uses later when he systemizes all of this by saying that the law was our guardian or school master until Christ came in order that we might be justified by faith. I think- Yeah ... and it's only because God is good to us and we might sit in some of this teaching, I think this is all in play. So, so I ask you, like, have I gone too far with all this? Like, how much do you think in the real time was being processed? And maybe that's a horrible question to ask because we know the Spirit does this work of illumination and enlightenment, and we're on the other [00:45:00] side of this and have this time to sit and to kind of parse and to really kind of just be pickled in all of this. But there's so much happening here, right?  Tony Arsenal: Yeah. Yeah. Uh, maybe I'll answer the question a, a little bit of a different way. I think, um- We often can think about Old Testament religion, if we wanna kinda call it that. We think about Old Testament religion as though it was totally uniform and, um, entirely legalistic. Right. Uh, my- the, the listener is gonna panic a little bit when I say this, so please don't freak out, but I, I think N.T. Wright, uh, and some of the new perspective on Paul stuff is a, a little bit helpful in this, in that it gives us a foil to sorta push against. Yes. The new perspective on Paul is this idea that, um- Paul was not saying that Judaism was legalistic and Christianity is a grace-based religion, right? He, m- [00:46:00] um, N- NPP is not, is saying, um, Paul was not correcting New or Old Testament religion. And where they go wrong is that they say that Paul actually retains this concept of covenantal faithfulness, covenantal nomism fidelity. Uh, where I think, where I think they're right is that this idea that, like, the Old Testament religion is entirely legalistic and Paul was just sort of correcting that, I think that's way too simplistic. And the reason I say that is that the Mosaic Covenant for, you know, w- and predominantly this podcast is coming from a sort of Westminster Confession of Faith Presbyterian perspective, give or take, right? The, the broad Reformed tradition would say that the, the Mosaic, uh, covenant, the Davidic Covenant, all of the covenants of the Old Testament, and we can break them up in all sorts of different ways, but all of the covenants of the Old Testament, [00:47:00] um, with maybe the exception of the Noahic Covenant, and there's some debate about that, all of those are They're not just, like, supporting structures for the covenant of grace, but they actually are the covenant of grace in various administrations. If that's true, and of course we believe that it is, if that's true, then the people of those covenants understood that on some level. Right. Right? So to think that, like, people under the administration of the covenant of grace somehow thought that they were operating under a legalistic framework doesn't make any sense. Jesse Schwamb: Yeah,  Tony Arsenal: that's true. So, so where I think that applies here is I think this person coming forward, it's not as though the concept of the covenant of grace... Again, that's language that we would develop later, but the concept that God graciously saves His people by the counsel of His own will, apart from their works of righteousness, apart from their meritorious effort, that God [00:48:00] simply extends His grace and conveys the cov- the blessings of the covenant of works to those who trust in the mediator, those who trust in the one to come, the, the forthcoming serpent-crushing seed, right, if you wanna use- Right language from Genesis 3. The, the idea that God simply graciously conveys the blessings of the covenant of works to those people Um, that's not something that's alien to the Old Testament, right? It's not alien to the, even to the Mosaic economy. The most law-based of all of the Old Testament, um, covenants, even that starts with the concept that these people are God's people who he redeemed out of Egypt, right? Right. The redemption out of Egypt comes before the giving of the law, and the giving of the law is a result of the redemption out of Egypt. So to think that this lawyer comes forward, and again, this had been sort of corrupted and distorted and had become a very works-based, uh, [00:49:00] meritorious-based understanding. But the idea that this framework of a covenant of grace is totally alien to this guy just doesn't, it just doesn't, I think it doesn't play. And so I think rather than us read this as I think sometimes we do, of Christ as kind of like giving this guy, trying to give this guy an entirely new paradigm, or like the rich young ruler is very much a parallel kind of situation. We read this, this guy comes forward, he's like, "What do I gotta do to earn eternal life?" Christ is like, kinda basically says like, "Well, you dum-dum, you can't. And I'm gonna demonstrate for you that you can't by- Right ... taking sort of like this situation that you can't possibly believe that you fulfilled and telling you to fulfill it." That's the outcome of this. We'll get to that when we get to the end of the parable. Um, he's not trying to give them a new paradigm. He's trying, in my opinion, he's trying to sort of reorient them back to the true paradigm of grace that is present under all of the Old Covenant administrations. So it's not so much a matter of like [00:50:00] developing a new framework and impli- like imposing this new framework on this guy. It's really trying to say like, "Listen- Think about this for a second, dude. Think about this, right? Think about the fact that, yes, you know you have to love the Lord your God with your whole heart, your whole soul, your whole strength, your whole mind, and you have to love your neighbor as yourself, right? You've answered correctly. If you can do those things, you will live. With the subtext, which I think is what you're getting at, the subtext of, like, and of course you cannot possibly do those things. Right. Right. So what's the alternative, my friend? The alternative is not justifying yourself by somehow identifying who the person is that you have to love the most. The, the, the, um, the... Well, we'll get this when we get to the parable itself, but the, the alternative is... This will be interesting, 'cause I'm not sure that we... I don't know where you are on this, but, um, the alternative is that there's someone out there who shows us mercy. [00:51:00] Right. There's someone out there who takes care of our need despite our total inability to do so. Jesse Schwamb: That's right.  Tony Arsenal: That's the alternative to the covenant of works, is the covenant of grace. I m- maybe I'm, like, hinting at it too much, so I'll just say it. Like, Jesus is the Good Samaritan, right? Like, there's something for us to learn about our own justification here and our own- Right ... like, um, our own need to be merciful, to treat people as our neighbors. But just like we talked about when we talked about, like, what does the least of these mean, this parable, uh, I'm totally, like, burying the lede for next, next week, but that's fine. This parable is not primarily about us figuring out how to do mercy ministry. Right. Like, that's important. It's probably an outcome of this. It's probably something for us to think about. But really, this is actually Christ saying, like, "Hold on a second here, dude." Like, "Let's just think about this." Do you need someone who is going to tell you to pick yourself up off your bootstraps and cross to the other side of the street and leave you to [00:52:00] your own devices? Or do you need someone who's gonna throw you on their donkey, who's gonna bind up your wounds, who's gonna pay the innkeeper, and is gonna pledge to play- pay everything that is owed for your salvation? Right? That's not too on the nose here, I think. Right. And, and I really look forward to, like, unpacking that, although maybe we don't need to now, but I think, like, this parable is so much more about how salvation works than it is about, like, what it means to have a good neighbor and to be a good neighbor. I think we get bogged down in that, and I just am really excited to talk more about, like, what I think this parable actually gets at.  Jesse Schwamb: I agree, and it's happening in the contex

Do you ever wonder why something feels like “common sense” to you—but another person genuinely doesn't see it the same way?In this episode of Live & Be Great with Latonya McDonald, MS, I unpack the programming behind what we believe: the messages we absorb from family, culture, religion, race, gender, education, trauma, relationships, media, and the systems around us.Not all programming is bad. Some of it protects us. Some of it helps us survive. But some beliefs eventually need to be questioned—especially when they begin affecting our relationships, our safety, or the way we treat other people.We talk about the difference between understanding someone's programming and excusing their behavior, why patterns still matter when evaluating safety, and why individual behavior must still give us evidence.I also share some of my own experiences with deprogramming, including how I had to reconsider my beliefs around corporal punishment, take accountability for behavior I once participated in, apologize, and choose differently moving forward.In this episode, we explore:Why “common sense” is not actually common to everyoneHow family, culture, religion, trauma, and systems shape our beliefsWhy understanding someone's programming does not eliminate accountabilityHow to recognize patterns without assuming every individual is identicalWhen curiosity helps—and when it becomes a way to avoid an answer you don't likeWhy shame can make people fight harder to protect an old belief systemHow to tell the difference between someone's potential for change and the evidence they are giving you right nowWhy your past has witnesses—and how changed behavior becomes evidence of real growthHow to have difficult conversations without making the goal simply proving that you are rightI also walk you through the Live & Be Great Method:Be Seen.Name the Pattern.Understand the Why.Choose on Purpose.Live & Be Great.Because understanding someone's programming gives you context. What they do with new information gives you evidence. And what you do with that evidence is where your discernment, boundaries, accountability, and choices come in.00:00 — Everybody Is Programmed—Including Me06:15 — Before I Judge the Belief, I Want to Understand Where It Came From10:36 — Patterns Matter, but Individuals Still Give Us Evidence20:29 — Toxic Relationships: Why “Just Leave” Isn't Common Sense22:24 — Curiosity Should Help You Find the Answer—Not Avoid It28:24 — Critical Thinking Means Being Willing to Be Wrong33:24 — Shame vs. Accountability: What Happens When You Know Better?35:57 — My Story: Corporal Punishment, Programming, and Repair40:42 — Your Past Has Witnesses: What Real Change Looks Like47:53 — The Live & Be Great Method: Be Seen, Name the Pattern, Choose on Purpose51:01 — What You Can Expect If You Work With Me52:45 — Don't Just Tell Them to Leave + Free Safety Resource53:37 — Final Reflection: Grace, Accountability, and Choosing on PurposeIf someone you love may be in a toxic or abusive relationship, I'm currently developing:Don't Just Tell Them to Leave: A Practical Guide to Helping a Loved One Leave a Toxic or Abusive Relationship SafelyJoin the waiting list and access the free Before-You-Act Safety Checklist here:https://liveandbegreat.com/dont-just-tell-them-to-leaveYou do not have to wait for the full book to begin thinking through safer first steps.National Domestic Violence HotlineCall: 800-799-SAFE (7233)Text: START to 88788https://www.thehotline.org/Give yourself permission to question what you were taught, examine the evidence, choose on purpose, and not just live—but Live & Be Great.

What if the way you say I love you has nothing to do with flowers or a beautifully written card? In this episode, I walk you through what everyday acts of love have to do with ADHD clutter and the piles that build up at home.In this episode, I talk about a reel I posted called saying I love you in ADHD, and why so many people saw themselves in it. I talk about the ADHD traits that shape how we love and how we forget, and why clutter overwhelm gets read as proof that we don't care enough. I also talk about how much of what we own arrived here through love, and what that does to our decisions.In this episode, you'll learn:Why doom piles keep appearing in the same corner of the same roomWhat the reel about saying I love you in ADHD touched in so many peopleWhy ADHD hyper focus can turn one passing comment into three hours of researchWhat the gap between caring deeply and executing consistently looks likeWhy just ‘put it away' can be unhelpful advice for an ADHD brainHow to notice the everyday acts of care you've never counted as loveWhat to ask yourself about sentimental items you're scared to let go ofWhy the object isn't the relationship, even when the memory is strongWhy executive functioning explains the gap between what you intended and what happenedIf you've been searching for sentimental clutter answers, home organization help, or honest conversations for ADHD women, this episode is your invitation to look at your home with more kindness and less blame.Here's to noticing the small ways we love the people around us,CarolineJoin me for ADHD Doom Piles Decoded, my free live workshop for women with ADHD who can't understand why keeping their homes tidy is so much harder than it should be: https://go.carolinethor.com/adhd-workshopThanks for listening! For more organizational motivation, support and free resources:Join my online membership Clutter Free CollectiveJoin my podcast Facebook group Living Clutter Free Forever Podcast: KonMari® Inspired Organizing | FacebookVisit my website www.caroline-thor.com Come and say 'hi' on Instagram @caro.thor Follow me on Facebook @carolineorganizer

Send me a message If all your lead gen happens online through ads and social media, you're leaving money on the table as a real estate agent. Not because online doesn't work. It's incomplete.There's a whole other lever most agents never pull, and it costs you nothing but a little bit of your time and comfort zone.I'm talking about actually getting out into your community and being a normal human being. Your kids' jiu-jitsu practice. The farmers market. HOA meetings. Places you'd never think of as "lead gen," because they're not. That's exactly why they work.This episode breaks down why in-person relationship building is the medium to long term unlock most agents skip completely, and 20+ specific places to start.In this episode:Why online lead gen alone only captures part of the business you could haveThe exact mindset shift: you're not pitching, you're just being a person people likeWhy what you do for a living naturally comes up in conversation, so you never have to force itThe story of a local agent who built his entire reputation just by being a great neighbor, and still gets listings from it 5 years later20+ real places and events to start showing up: rec leagues, HOA meetings, farmers markets, PTA, dog parks, and moreWhy this isn't a short-term fix, and why that's exactly the pointGo get involved. Meet one more person a day. Give it six months, twelve months, and watch what happens.

This week's episode is part of a series of replays while I'm on vacation (or "holiday," as they say in Europe!). Rita and I pulled together some of our favorites—and yours—to share while I'm away. With over 250 episodes to choose from, there's a good chance you haven't heard this one, and if you have, maybe it's just the reminder you need this week. Enjoy, and I'll be back with you before you know it!In this episode, I'm walking you through a realistic book publishing timeline—from first idea to finished book launch. Whether you're planning to self-publish or go hybrid, this guide will help you understand what takes how long, what tasks overlap, and how to create a schedule that fits your life.Here's what we'll cover:How long writing the first draft actually takesWhat editing involves and how to plan for itAll the moving pieces in the publishing processWhat your launch timeline should really look likeWhy rushing rarely leads to great resultsAnd two timeline options to help you plan your own path: a 12-month sprint or an 18-month steady marathon.

What happens when caring about someone becomes fixing them, worrying about them, rescuing them—or feeling responsible for how their life turns out?In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, I explore enmeshment and the subtle ways we can lose ourselves by becoming overly focused on the people we love.I share how this pattern has shown up in my own relationships with my children through fixing, worrying, rescuing, and trying to prevent difficult outcomes.We'll talk about:What enmeshment actually looks likeWhy fixing, worrying, and rescuing can feel like loveHow the Inner Controller fuels over-involvementThe difference between support and rescueWhy being needed can become part of our identityHow to separate what belongs to us from what belongs to someone elseHow to remain connected without abandoning yourselfHealing enmeshment does not mean becoming detached or loving someone less.It means learning:I can care about you without carrying you.I can support you without controlling you.I can remain connected to you without disconnecting from myself.Because becoming free to be your true self also means allowing the people you love to be free to live their own lives.

Why are you a Christian? Why do you pray? Why do you go to church? What is your WHY for giving your life to Christ? For the blessings? To escape the devil and his evil machinations? Like Why??????Welcome to my thought today thanks to a clip my sister, Bunmi shared with me. Click to find out more. You know, at some point, we need to know what our answers to the above questions are.

As summer winds down and back-to-school season approaches, it's easy to look back and wonder...Did I do enough?Did we make enough memories?Did my kids have the summer they deserved?Did I somehow miss the mark?If you've been carrying those thoughts, this episode is for you.In today's solo episode, Jacqueline shares an honest reflection on the pressure moms often put on themselves during the summer—from trying to create magical memories to balancing work, childcare, businesses, and everything in between.Whether you're a working mom, a stay-at-home mom, or somewhere in the middle, this conversation is a reminder that your worth isn't measured by Pinterest-worthy adventures or perfectly planned summers.Your kids don't need a perfect summer.They need you.In this episode, we'll talk about:Why moms feel so much pressure to "win" summerThe comparison trap of social mediaWhy working moms and stay-at-home moms are both carrying invisible loadsHow to redefine what a "successful" summer really looks likeWhy back-to-school can be a fresh start for moms, tooHow creating community for yourself is just as important as creating memories for your kidsIf this conversation encouraged you, I'd love for you to share it with another woman who may need to hear these words today.✨ Learn more about Her Village or join our email community at joinhervillage.co

Why retirement, whether it's the literal kind or one you haven't named yet, doesn't automatically hand you the fulfillment you've been waiting for.There's something in the water lately. Laurie keeps having the same conversation, over and over, with women in their mid-to-late 50s who are planning to retire in 2027. And she loves it for them, genuinely. But there's a question she can't help asking right after she says "bravo" — and it's the question this whole episode is built around.That question: how do you want to spend the rest of your life? Not the checklist version. The feeling version. And almost every time, she gets a blank stare back.This episode digs into why that blank stare happens (hint: decades of fulfillment tied to applause and approval will do that to a person), tells the story of the "laundry pile test," and makes the case for testing your retirement dreams now, in small pieces, instead of waiting for the retirement party to find out if they actually fit.What we cover:Why Laurie's been hearing "something in the water" — a wave of high-achieving women all planning retirement in 2027The question she can't help asking right after she says "bravo": how do you want to spend the rest of your life?Why "everyone I know who's retired says they don't know how they had time to work" isn't actually an answerThe real question underneath it all: how do you want to feel when you're not working, and what does a perfect day look like?Why she's not asking you to build a checklist or a minute-by-minute plan, and what she's actually asking for insteadThe mechanism: why validation and external approval have quietly run your fulfillment for decades, and what happens when that supply disappearsThe laundry pile story: the retired client whose biggest win is that she's finally caught up on laundry, and why Laurie is skeptical that's the win it looks likeWhy "a clean floor and an empty hamper are not a life plan"Why Laurie loves the in-between time: the season where you still have a job, a marriage, a kid at home, but you're starting to ask what's nextWhy literal retirement (a job) and metaphorical retirement (a marriage, a city, a life you've outgrown) run on the exact same emotional playbookWhy we put our dreams and goals on a pedestal for decades, and what that does to them by the time we finally "arrive"The dress-rehearsal idea: testing your retirement dream in small pieces now, before you've quit anythingWhy waiting until "after the retirement party" to start living the life you've been dreaming about sets you up for a shockThe two questions Laurie wants you to ask yourself this week, and the one small thing she wants you to do about themQuotable moments"You can retire from your job, but you can't retire from yourself.""A clean floor and an empty hamper are not a life plan.""It's very difficult to take a hard-charging, high-achieving woman out of a high-stress environment and move her to the point of her day, of her week, of her month that she has no laundry pile.""We've made retirement this very precious season because we've been working towards it with this idea that we'll just figure it out once we get there.""If we don't dip our toe into that proverbial pool we think we wanna be swimming in, then that fulfillment we've been delaying, we might be surprised to find out it's not coming in the way we think it is after we retire.""I feel like you can take the attorney out of the law firm, but you can't really take the law firm out of the girl.""You are a high-achieving, wildly successful woman. You owe it to yourself to make the second half of your life as exciting and as impactful as you have made the first half."Laurie's ask for this episode Laurie wants to know your biggest takeaway from this episode.→ Email here here→ DM her on InstagramResources + links mentionedBEST LIFE Mastermind — Last change to join the Mastermind! Founding member applications open now, launching September (2 in-person retreats: Sun Valley, ID in September + Civana Wellness Resort & Spa, AZ in February)1:1 coaching — Book a call hereConnect with Laurie

Send Gemma a messageMany women tell me they know what an unhealthy relationship feels like but they're much less certain about what a healthy one should feel like.In this episode, I walk you through nine signs that you're building a healthy, emotionally available relationship during the early stages of dating.Rather than focusing on red flags, we explore the aspects that signal emotional safety, healthy attraction and genuine compatibility.In this episode you'll learn:What healthy attraction actually feels likeWhy uncertainty is normal in the early stages of datingThe importance of relationships developing graduallyWhy emotional consistency mattersHow to recognise emotional safetyWhen physical intimacy is most helpful for building a healthy relationshipWhy staying true to yourself is essentialThe role of autonomy, authenticity and emotional availabilityWhy healthy love often feels different from schema-driven chemistryIf you've ever wondered whether a relationship is moving in a healthy direction, this episode will help you better understand what to look for and what healthy love actually feels like.Work With MeLove Wisely Group Coaching – my flagship group coaching experience for women ready to break long-standing relationship patterns and create healthier, more secure relationships.Join the Priority List - we start again in September!!https://www.drgemmagladstone.com/LoveWisely_WaitlstSupport the show

What happens when the wounds of childhood follow you into adulthood—and God begins revealing what you've spent decades trying to forget?In this powerful and deeply personal episode of the Rooted in Christ Podcast, Eric sits down with author, speaker, Marine Corps veteran, and mentor John Jarman to discuss his incredible journey from childhood trauma, abuse, and brokenness to healing, freedom, and purpose through Jesus Christ.John shares how growing up in an abusive home left him carrying hidden wounds for decades, including having little memory of much of his childhood. Through counseling, discipleship, mentorship, and a surrendered relationship with Christ, God began exposing the strongholds that had shaped his life and guiding him toward lasting freedom.Together, Eric and John discuss the importance of vulnerability, mentorship, mental health, spiritual warfare, and the sanctification process that every believer walks through. This conversation is filled with hope for anyone who feels trapped by their past and wonders if true healing is possible.In this episode, you'll discover:How childhood trauma can impact adulthood in unexpected waysWhy healing often requires both spiritual and practical supportThe role mentorship plays in breaking strongholds and finding freedomWhat true surrender to Christ looks likeWhy vulnerability is essential for growth and healingHow counseling can be part of God's healing processThe connection between mental health, faith, and discipleshipPractical encouragement for those struggling with shame, fear, or unresolved painJohn's story is a powerful reminder that no matter how broken your past may be, Jesus can redeem it and use it for His glory.If this episode encouraged you, please like, subscribe, and share the Rooted in Christ Podcast. Every share helps us reach more people with the hope, healing, and truth found in Jesus Christ.---Want to be a guest on Rooted In Christ? Send Eric Stephens a message on PodMatch, here:https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1759833790503730c0e0ceb0e

You do not need to buy another property to build a six-figure Airbnb business.In this episode, Sarah and Annette break down the path they would take if they were starting with one property in 2026 and wanted to make $100K. Their answer is not buying more doors, taking on more debt, or jumping into rental arbitrage. It is co-hosting.Before you manage someone else's property, your own listing needs to be performing. Sarah and Annette walk through the numbers, systems, and standards that need to be in place first, including cost per reservation, pricing strategy, booking funnel performance, and guest experience.Then they explain how co-hosting works, what the math looks like, why it carries less risk than arbitrage, and what you need before taking on your first client.If you already run a strong short-term rental, this episode will help you see how your current property can become the proof of concept for a bigger business.In this episode, you'll learn:Why co-hosting can be a faster path to $100K than buying another propertyHow to use your own listing as your proof of conceptWhy every host needs to know their cost per reservationWhat the $100K co-hosting math actually looks likeWhy co-hosting carries less risk than rental arbitrageWhat brand standards, contracts, and onboarding fees need to be in placeFive steps to start building a co-hosting businessResources Mentioned: Apply for Strategic Host!

You do not need to buy another property to build a six-figure Airbnb business.In this episode, Sarah and Annette break down the path they would take if they were starting with one property in 2026 and wanted to make $100K. Their answer is not buying more doors, taking on more debt, or jumping into rental arbitrage. It is co-hosting.Before you manage someone else's property, your own listing needs to be performing. Sarah and Annette walk through the numbers, systems, and standards that need to be in place first, including cost per reservation, pricing strategy, booking funnel performance, and guest experience.Then they explain how co-hosting works, what the math looks like, why it carries less risk than arbitrage, and what you need before taking on your first client.If you already run a strong short-term rental, this episode will help you see how your current property can become the proof of concept for a bigger business.In this episode, you'll learn:Why co-hosting can be a faster path to $100K than buying another propertyHow to use your own listing as your proof of conceptWhy every host needs to know their cost per reservationWhat the $100K co-hosting math actually looks likeWhy co-hosting carries less risk than rental arbitrageWhat brand standards, contracts, and onboarding fees need to be in placeFive steps to start building a co-hosting businessResources Mentioned: Apply for Strategic Host!

Most people think therapy is about reducing anxiety, managing depression, or learning better coping skills. Those things matter—but they're only the beginning.In this episode, I walk through the four levels of healing that I believe every person should understand. From symptom relief and emotional regulation to personality reorganization and the restoration of personhood, I explain how healing deepens over time and why every stage serves a purpose.I'll help you identify where you are in your own journey, what growth looks like at each level, and how to know whether your current therapeutic work is helping you move forward. Along the way, I share personal stories from my own healing, discuss the importance of secure attachment, explain why some therapists are equipped for deeper work than others, and describe why I believe the highest aim of therapy is not simply symptom management—but the restoration of the human person.Whether you're currently in therapy, considering it, or simply interested in understanding yourself more deeply, I hope this conversation gives you both a roadmap and hope.In this episode we discuss:The four levels of healing and how they build on one anotherWhy symptom relief is only the beginningEmotional regulation, boundaries, and changing the way we thinkHow trauma shapes personality—and how personality can changeSecure attachment and what it actually feels likeWhy deep healing requires patience, trust, and skilled guidanceThe difference between changing your behavior and restoring your personhoodWhy I believe the goal of therapy is to help us become fully humanAs always, healing begins by facing reality and embracing our humanity.Follow Vanessa: https://www.instagram.com/vanessathetherapist/Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/theworkofbeinghuman/

For two decades, Miranda Spivak covered government and land-use fights for the Washington Post. In this episode, she pulls back the curtain on how local governments avoid scrutiny, why wealthy landowners and developers often get a pass on the rules, and how the boom in data center construction is reshaping communities with little public input.Miranda explains what she calls the "secrecy industrial complex" — the web of closed-door deals, vague public notices, and bureaucratic friction that keeps ordinary residents from knowing what's happening in their own backyards. She also talks about the collapse of local news coverage, why that decline directly correlates with less civic participation, and what "accidental activists" look like when they discover a project that will change their community forever.Topics covered:Miranda's career investigating government secrecy at the Washington PostHow the decline of local news enables corruption and disengagementWealthy landowners and developers dodging zoning and environmental rulesThe data center boom and its environmental costsHow communities organize and fight back — and what "doing it right" looks likeWhy supporting local journalism matters for democracyMiranda is the author of Backroom Deals in Our Backyards (The New Press).Backroom Deals | SubstackBackroom Deals in Our Backyards - The New PressMiranda Spivack | WebpageBarrett Gruber | LinktreeThe All About Nothing: Podcast | LinktreeClick here for Episode Show Notes!As always, "The All About Nothing: Podcast" is owned and distributed by BIG Media LLC!Check out our network of fantastic podcasts!Click Here to see available advertising packages!Click Here for information on the "Fair Use Copyright Notice" for this podcast.Mentioned in this episode:ZJZ Designs - Friendly and NostalgicCheck out ZJZ Designs now for original and nostalgic prints!ZJZ DesignsCheck Your Voter RegistrationVisit https://theallaboutnothing.com/voter to check your registration! It takes less than 2 minutes. Do it now!BIG Media Copyright 2026BIG Media LLC

In this episode of Time to Reset, Penny Zenker sits down with addiction expert Amber Hollingsworth, founder of Put the Shovel Down, to discuss functional alcoholism, denial, and the communication strategies that actually help someone change. Rather than relying on confrontation, blame, or emotional reactions, Amber explains why influence—not force—is the key to supporting someone struggling with alcohol addiction. Together, they explore how emotional intelligence, strategic communication, and understanding human psychology can create meaningful change in relationships, leadership, parenting, and recovery. Whether you're supporting a spouse, family member, friend, or simply want to become a better communicator, this conversation offers practical insights that extend far beyond addiction. In this episode you'll learn: What functional alcoholism really looks likeWhy people stay in denial about alcohol addictionThe biggest mistakes families make when trying to helpHow empathy creates more influence than criticismWhy natural consequences are more effective than punishmentCommunication techniques that reduce defensivenessHow beliefs shape addictive behaviorsLeadership and parenting lessons that apply to every relationship If you've ever wondered how to help someone with alcohol addiction—or how to influence positive change without creating resistance—this episode is for you. Subscribe to Time to Reset for conversations that help you gain clarity, reset your mindset, and lead with greater intention.Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://pennyzenker360.com/positive-productivity-podcast/

In this episode, we're joined by Dr. Joy Berkheimer, Phd, LMFT, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Dating Coach, author, speaker, and Chief Sexologist at The Sexual Wellness Awards. We get into the nitty gritty of relationships, intimacy, sensuality, sex, and the mental load and emotional labour so many women carry in their relationships. I truly loved this juicy conversation, enjoy queens! What we cover: What sensual yoga entails and looks like in practiceWhy women specifically are so often disconnected from their sensualityHow a woman eases into connectionWhat "goddess status" isThe impacts of the mental load and emotional labour women carry in relationshipsAdvice for people who stay too long or who have the same relationship patternWhat intimacy is and what healthy intimacy really looks and feels likeWhy women struggle to enjoy sex even with someone they loveHot, practical tips around sex and intimacyThe exploration of tantric and chakra workConnect with Dr Joy:Instagram: @glowyourgoddessYouTube: Dear Dr JoyWebsite: www.joyberkheimer.comConnect with me:Instagram: @beccnichollsTiktok: @beccanichollsWebsite: www.beccanicholls.comSubscribe to my email listYouTube: BECCAIt would mean the world to me if you would subscribe, rate and review this podcast to help support the show. If you enjoy this podcast, share it on your stories and tag me or share it with a friend. Let's build this community, together! ⚡️

William and Celine are back on the pod and somehow even more worth watching!Maggy sits down with the internet's fave couple to talk about what balance looks like in love and life behind their content. They share moments of insecurities, doubts, and feeling lost in the 7 years of being together.Turns out the couple everyone wants to be is still figuring it out too.In this episode you'll learn:What a healthy long term relationship actually looks likeWhy vulnerability is harder for some people than othersHow insecurities show up in relationships and what to do with themHow to balance a public facing relationship privatelyWhy keeping score is the fastest way to damage a relationshipHow to maintain your identity when you're half of a public coupleWhat to do when your partner shuts down instead of opening upWhy balance in a relationship is never 50/50How to support a partner who's lost their directionFollow William: @williamsenggFollow Celine: @sl_celineThis episode is brought to you by LANEIGE Malaysia and their new Balance Mode collection, because balance isn't just a relationship thing. It's a skin thing too. Find out more at your nearest Laneige boutique.Head Over Heels for Balance Mode with Laneige is happening on 31st July 2026. Catch Maggy, William, and Celine for a live podcast session you don't want to miss.Sign up for a spot here: @theheadoverheelspod----------------------------------------------------------------------Hosted by Maggy Wang, this podcast is where real talk meets real life — messy, mundane, and everything in between.From everyday struggles to smashing through stigmas, we know you're here for the unfiltered conversations. There will be laughter, there will be awkward silence and maybe some tears.One thing's for sure: You won't get enough. So kick off your shoes (or heels), grab a seat and #letsgetheadoverheelsLet us know if you enjoyed this episode and found it helpful! We wanna hear what YOU want to do & talk about next. NEW WEEKLY HOH EPISODES EVERY THURSDAY AT 6PMFollow us on:Instagram: @theheadoverheelspodMaggy: @themaggywang

This episode is not about scaring you. Fear does not produce good health decisions. It produces paralysis, or overreaction, and neither of those is what I am after for you.This episode is about something different. It is about helping you understand that what your body is doing right now, however subtle it feels, is communicating something about your future. And that the gap between where you are today and where you could be in ten years is significantly influenced by what you do in the window you are currently in.Today I am getting concrete. Three areas where waiting carries the highest cost. Three areas where earlier action produces outcomes that later action simply cannot replicate. Autoimmunity. Hormonal and metabolic dysfunction. Brain health.Inside this episode, we cover:Why autoimmune disease does not begin at the diagnosis, and what research shows about the window that precedes itThe three-hit model of autoimmune development, and why two of the three hits are modifiableHow the metabolic mess becomes the immune mess, and what that chain reaction actually looks likeWhy the word "just" has cost more women more years of their health than anything else: just hormones, just stress, just aging, just perimenopauseThe actual physiology of how adrenal strain, cortisol dysregulation, gut compromise, and sex hormone decline create one tightening knot over timeWhy brain reserve is the area I feel the most urgency about, and what is actually happening underneath before the symptoms appearThe glymphatic system, estrogen, insulin resistance, and BDNF: what these have to do with your cognitive futureThree patient stories: one autoimmune, one hormonal and metabolic, one brain health, all with the same throughlineGenetics loads the gun. Lifestyle pulls the trigger. That is true for all three of these areas. And none of them are outside your influence, especially in the window you are currently in.This is not just about feeling better now. The person you will be at 60, 70, 80, the function you will have, the clarity, the independence, the capacity to show up fully for your life. That future is being shaped by the inputs happening right now.Share this episode with one woman who has a family history that scares her. Family history is information. It is not a sentence. But only if you act in the window it opens.Your next steps are below:✨ Free Guide: 9 Hidden Signs Your Metabolism Is Stuck in Survival Mode www.drkaceywallace.com/hiddenmetabolicmess✨ Adrenal Optimization Test (see your cortisol rhythm + DHEA clearly) www.drkaceywallace.com/innercalm✨ Hair Tissue Mineral Analysis www.drkaceywallace.com/htma✨ The Anchored Journey (application)https://anchoredtowellness.com/anchored-journey✨ Get the book: You Are Not Fine www.youarenotfine.com✨ Dr. Kacey's Corner Newsletterwww.drkaceywallace.com/newslettersignupSupport the show

Send us Fan MailMistress Marley — professional dominatrix, financial domination specialist, and founder of Haus of Dominance, where she's taught over 10,000 students — breaks down what men are actually paying for, what submission really means, and how to explore giving up control in your own bedroom.In this episode:What a dominatrix actually does — and what a real session looks likeWhy the loudest "alpha males" online are her biggest clientsThe difference between submission and weaknessHow women can find their inner dominant (starting with yourself)How to bring power play into your bedroom — or find a professional the right wayFind Mistress Marley: https://www.servemistressmarley.com/More: https://www.thechocolatedomme.com/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

You know that feeling when you're at the end of your rope, but you push a little further anyway because you assume there's more fuel left in the tank? In this solo episode, Dr. Shivani breaks down why that instinct, so common in women, is quietly setting the stage for burnout, hair loss, and even autoimmune disease.Using the story of her friend Rima, whose autoimmune diagnosis showed up right after a devastating divorce, and her client Amy, who lost half her hair with no dermatology treatment able to reverse it, Dr. Shivani explains the Ayurvedic concept of ojas, your body's vital reserve, and why running on empty for years eventually forces the body to shut down non essential systems one by one.This episode also gets personal. Dr. Shivani shares what happened to her own body after a mold exposure, a book launch, and a TEDx talk collided in the same season, and what her acupuncturist told her that changed how she thinks about resilience.WHAT YOU'LL LEARNWhy women wait until they hit empty to refuel, while men stop at a quarter tank, and what that pattern costs the body over decadesWhat happens physiologically when you run on fumes for too long, using the exact mechanics of a car's fuel pump as the analogyWhy the body deprioritizes hair, skin, gut function, hormones, and libido when it senses depletion, and why that is not randomThe real story behind Rima's autoimmune diagnosis and why it appeared exactly when it didWhy Amy's hair loss could not be solved with dermatology treatments alone, and what actually needed to happen insteadWhat ojas, rasa, and agni mean in Ayurveda, and why they matter more than any supplement or treatmentWhy vata season in midlife requires you to slow down right as your body is asking for more support, not lessThe moment Dr. Shivani's own acupuncturist reframed what resilience actually looks likeWhy rhythm, not more effort, is what rebuilds a depleted systemThe simple, low cost daily practices that begin restoring your reserves without adding anything to your to do listThe Inflammation Codehttps://www.amazon.com/dp/140199699X?tag=usalinktagdefault-20&th=1&psc=1&geniuslink=trueUse code CODE15 for 15% off your first order7-Day Inflammation Detox Challengehttps://www.7dayinflammationdetox.com/Work with Dr. Shivani / Free Discovery Callhttps://shivanigupta.com/

The LinkedIn algorithm changed, and the way it measures your reach is nothing like it used to be. In this episode, we break down the new math of LinkedIn reach... why likes barely count anymore, why saves and dwell time now drive distribution, and why a smaller, sharper account can suddenly out-reach someone many times its size.If your posts feel like they are disappearing into the void, this one explains exactly what shifted and what to do about it.Here is what we cover:Why LinkedIn's AI now reads engagement in percentiles instead of raw numbersWhy a single save can carry several times the impact of a likeWhy dwell time is the one signal you cannot fake, buy, or trickWhy relevance now beats follower count, so a small account can beat a big oneHow service professionals already own the most save-worthy content there is, sitting right inside their client workThis is the version of LinkedIn that finally rewards real expertise over vanity metrics. If you are a coach, consultant, or service provider trying to turn content into actual clients, you will want to hear this.Want to put it into practice? Join our free 3-day workshop, Clients on Command: The LinkedIn Content Roadmap, July 27 to 29 at 12 PM EST. Save your seat here: Clients on Command Workshop: Your LinkedIn Content RoadmapDon't forget to follow the show so you don't miss future episodes, and share this one with a fellow service pro who needs to hear it.

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You've been told you pivot too fast. This research suggests your timing might be right.A 2024 Royal Society paper tested how long people stay in a depleting resource before moving to a new one, using a model from ecology called the marginal value theorem. The prediction was that ADHD traits would cause people to leave too soon.The data found the opposite. ADHD participants left patches closer to the mathematically optimal point and ended up with more total reward. Skye and Robbie break down the bias built into the original prediction and what it means for telling the difference between a smart pivot and flailing.What We Cover:The 2024 study and the foraging game researchers builtThe marginal value theorem and what "optimal" leaving looks likeWhy the prediction assumed ADHD would underperformWhat the actual results showed about exit timingHow to tell a strategic pivot from impulsive flailingIf you're an entrepreneur with ADHD who's tired of being asked “Why don't you just hire/make a system/delegate?”  We've gotchu! Click here for a free copy of my 5-year-tested Focus Filter. Instant relief for work-related overwhelm.Find out what's holding you back. I'll personally build you a simple plan to fix it. Click here to grab one.Join my Focused Balanced Growth Program. If you're tired of getting blank looks in masterminds full of neurotypical advice, this is for you. Weekly Monday Motivation sessions, plus content you can binge or dip into for strategies specific to you. Apply here.Your Business Operations Built for Your ADHD Brain. Feel like you can never really delegate because you can't explain how to do it? Struggling to hire someone who feels like a natural fit for your business? Let us handle it for you. We specialize in using our years of ADHD research and practical support to act as your fractional COO, handling the back-end operations in a way that feels light and keeps you focused. Learn more here.

Part 2 of a 3-part delegation series. You handed something off, it came back wrong, and you took it back — the problem wasn't your team. Lia breaks down the three non‑negotiables every leader must set before delegating: clear outcomes, decision boundaries, and verification rhythms. Practical handoff language, a quick checklist, and scripts to delegate effectively without lowering standards.In this episode you will learn:Why delegation fails before the handoff even starts -- and the specific step most leaders skipThe three non-negotiable categories: presentation, timing, and what success looks likeWhy establishing standards upfront is the opposite of micromanagingHow to structure check-ins that keep you in the loop without hoveringWhat "done" really means -- and how to align your definition with your team member'sHow to stop the cycle of people bringing things back halfway through instead of finishingDownload my FREE guide to making hard conversations with your team easier at liagarvin.com/convoLooking for support for yourself of your team? I've got you covered.Explore manager training, leaders keynotes & offsites, and 1:1 advisory, or my 90-Day-COO program for business owners who want simple systems that actually work.I transform teams from cost centers to profit centers with practical tools and research-backed strategies that make managing EASIER.Get all the details at: www.liagarvin.comContact: liagarvin.com/contactEmail: hello@liagarvin.comFollow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lia.garvinWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Lia.Garvin--© 2026 Lia Garvin / Managing Made Simple

I've been told more than once that the real leverage point in a church is the pastor. Get the pastor healthy, and everything else will follow. I don't buy it. In this episode, we're talking about why pastors matter, why ordinary people matter too, and why healthy churches are usually built by lots of people growing, participating, and taking ownership together.In this episode, we're talking about:Why we've put so much pressure on pastorsThe role ordinary people play in a healthy churchWhat shared ownership actually looks likeWhy participation matters more than observationHow healthy churches are built togetherRESOURCES MENTIONEDJoin the Network for $6 for your first month here!Join our free Facebook CommunityGet the Ministry Bundles here!Support the showSUBSCRIBE & REVIEWIf you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts! Your support helps us reach more people -- just like you -- in small churches who need to hear this.

Andy joins the Doomer Friday crew for a wide-ranging discussion on the Disclosure Forum, the reaction to the event, the role of new UFO organisations, and whether the public is being prepared for genuine disclosure or a heavily managed version of it.We get into the tone of the Forum, the awards, the lack of truly new information, and the bigger question of what these events are actually trying to achieve. The conversation also turns to whistleblowers like Matthew Brown and Dylan Borland, possible executive action around protections, the rumours of a UFO “czar”, and whether any future disclosure process will prioritise truth, accountability, or control.This one goes deep into amnesty, historical crimes, classified reality, national security, the threat narrative, global disclosure, and whether the world would actually change if the truth finally came out.A huge thanks to the Doomer Friday team for having me back on.Topics include:The Disclosure Forum reactionWas the event serious enough?Awards, optics and public trustWhistleblowers and legal protectionMatthew Brown, Dylan Borland and VanguardThe possibility of a UFO czarControlled disclosure vs full disclosureAmnesty, accountability and hidden crimesWould the public care about the cover-up?Is “reality classified”?The threat narrative and national securityWhat disclosure could actually look likeWhy the world may not change overnightCheck out Dans show - https://www.youtube.com/@OFAMpodcastCheck out Clints show - https://www.youtube.com/@NightShiftActualCheck out Pavels show - https://www.youtube.com/@psicoactivopodcastCheck out Xanders show - https://www.youtube.com/@TheDreamlandMotel

If your body already has powerful systems designed to repair and protect you, are your daily habits helping switch them on... or working against them?Dr. Valter Longo is a professor and director of the Longevity Institute at USC, one of the world's leading researchers on aging, nutrition, and lifespan, and the author of The Longevity Diet and his latest book, Fasting Cancer. His path into this work is an unusual one. He started as a jazz performance major, chasing rock guitar, and walked away the moment they told him he had to direct a marching band. What pulled him toward aging traces back to being five years old, in the room when his grandfather died, and a question that lodged in him and never left: what if little things can make such a big difference?That question became a career. Longo walks Dr. Michael Gervais through the science of living to 110, a number drawn from two real people he followed personally, and the trade-off at the heart of aging: the body can pour its energy into growth and reproduction, or into protection and repair, but not both at once. From there he challenges one of the loudest narratives in health and performance today, the push for high protein, laying out why he believes most people are eating far more than the research supports, and what a safer balance actually looks like.The conversation moves into the work Longo is best known for: fasting-mimicking diets, why he says fasting on its own doesn't mean anything, and how cycles of eating less may activate the body's own repair and regeneration. He and Mike explore what this could mean for cancer, where Longo is careful and precise about what the science does and doesn't yet show, and they close on what it takes to unlearn a foundational belief when the evidence stops holding up. Mike opens up about how this conversation pushed against a narrative he'd carried his whole life, and why he wanted to have it anyway.In this conversation, we explore:Why aging and cancer are deeply connected, and what that means for preventionThe trade-off between growth and protection that shapes how we ageWhy Longo believes most people eat far too much proteinWhat a safer, mostly plant-based protein balance looks likeWhy fasting on its own is a meaningless word, and what to do insteadHow fasting-mimicking cycles may trigger the body's repair and regenerationWhat the science does and doesn't yet show about food and cancerWhat it takes to unlearn a belief when the evidence stops holding upIf you've ever wondered whether your daily choices are quietly helping or hurting the systems meant to keep you well, this conversation offers a science-backed place to start thinking about your health and lifestyle.A note from the team: This episode doesn't exist in a vacuum. Over the last several months, Mike has had numerous conversations on health, nutrition with world-renowned experts like Dr. Gabrielle Lyon, Dr. Jason Fung, and Dr. Tim Spector, among others. These are all rich conversations that at times hold conflicting advice and guidance. We encourage you to listen to all of them, and as always, consult your doctor on what practices are best for you. Health, nutrition, and longevity are all deeply intertwined with living a life of full potential, and we're committed to having these great conversations with world experts on these subjects. Keep commenting with what's working in your life, keep passing these onto your friends, and as always keep pushing the frontiers of your own performance!Links & ResourcesSubscribe to our Youtube Channel for more conversations at the intersection of high performance, leadership, and wellbeing: https://www.youtube.com/c/FindingMasteryGet exclusive discounts and support our amazing sponsors!Go to: https://findingmastery.com/sponsors/Subscribe to the Finding Mastery newsletter for weekly high performance insights: https://www.findingmastery.com/newsletterDownload Dr. Mike's Morning Mindset Routine: findingmastery.com/morningmindsetFollow on YouTube, Instagram, LinkedIn, and XDr. Valter Longo's Books: The Longevity Diet and Fasting CancerSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Doc,Father's Day has me thinking about something we don't talk about nearly enough.Men can experience postpartum depression too.In this episode, I'm diving into paternal postpartum depression, why it often goes unrecognized, and how it can show up in ways that look very different from what we typically expect. Because when a husband suddenly becomes withdrawn, irritable, distant, or seems completely disconnected after a baby arrives, the internet is usually quick to label him as lazy, selfish, or worse.Sometimes that's true.Sometimes it's not.As an OB/GYN and perinatal mental health specialist, I was surprised when I first learned that about 10% of new fathers experience postpartum depression, and that number jumps dramatically when their partner is struggling too.This conversation isn't about excusing harmful behavior.It's about understanding the difference between a struggling partner and a bad one.It's about making room for nuance.And it's about protecting something I care deeply about: your marriage.In This Episode:What paternal postpartum depression actually looks likeWhy men's symptoms often show up differently than women'sThe hormonal changes fathers experience during pregnancy and postpartumHow social conditioning affects men's mental healthThe danger of labeling every struggling husband as "trash"Why understanding creates opportunities for healingMy philosophy: Self first. Marriage second. Kids third.This is a conversation about compassion, awareness, and giving families the tools to thrive together.

Is purpose at work as straightforward as we've made it out to be? In this episode of the Digital HR Leaders podcast, David Green is joined by Jessica Zwaan, VP People Strategy and Operations at Leapsome and author of Built for People and Purpose and Work, to explore what the research actually tells us about purpose at work — and what that means for how HR shows up for people. Join them as they discuss: Why treating HR like a product function changes the questions you askWhat the research on purpose at work really reveals, and why the reality is more nuanced than the narrativeWhat purpose washing is, how it happens, and what it can look like in practiceWhat a more grounded alternative to purpose-led culture could look likeWhy really knowing your people is the foundation of all of itHow perceptions of HR are evolving, and what's driving that shift This episode is brought to you by Leapsome - the people-first HR platform that connects performance, engagement, and HR operations in one place, so you get a complete picture, not half the story. See it in action at leapsome.com/demo. Resources: Built for People by Jessica Zwaan Purpose and Work by Jessica Zwaan People over Perks, the Leapsome Community Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Should you try to fix your parents? Most people spend years trying. Here's what actually works — and what's just making it worse.In this candid Q&A episode, Barb and Michelle get into three questions that don't have easy answers:— Should you try to fix your parents (or your adult kids)? — Does emotional connection get harder the bigger your family gets? — How do you apologize to your kids without losing your authority as a parent?Barb — who's spent 40+ years in therapy and recovery — breaks down the fix/control/compare trap that keeps most families stuck, why apologizing to your kids is actually a power move when done right, and what it really means to "let go" of a parent who hurt you (hint: it's not what the internet tells you).Michelle brings the adult-child perspective — including the quiet role reversal that happens when you start parenting your own parents, and why that's more common (and more complicated) than anyone admits.In this episode:The fix/control/compare framework Barb uses dailyWhy big families often produce invisible kids — and what that costs themHow to apologize to your child without becoming a doormatWhat "letting go" of a difficult parent actually looks likeWhy your parents were "raised by cavemen" — and why that context changes everythingSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When we last heard from Milica, she was in Northern France and just a few days into her ride from London to Croatia. In this update, she reflects on what the bike adventure has actually looked and felt like across the weeks in between. Milica shares about:What her worst day on the road looked likeWhy keeping yourself fed is actually one of the most important things you can do out thereWhen a bad day turned into a genuinely good oneWhy she loves AustriaInsights from  riding solo across EuropeCycling into Croatia knowing her family had to flee the same villages she's now riding through freelyFollow Milica's adventures via her instagram page - @2Wheels1Milikov Check out Old Man Mountain's new Manzanita Handlebar Cradle  Support the showBuy me a coffee!I'm an affiliate for a few brands I genuinely use and recommend including:

Welcome back to Raising Confident Girls. In this episode, Melissa Jones explores something many moms notice when school ends: their daughter suddenly seems different. Maybe she's moodier, more emotional, more withdrawn, or surprisingly happier and more relaxed.Melissa explains why these shifts are often a normal part of emotional decompression after months of academics, friendships, activities, and social pressures. What can look like attitude, boredom, clinginess, or withdrawal is often a girl's nervous system adjusting to a new season.In this episode, we explore:Why girls often react differently when school endsWhat emotional decompression can look likeWhy some girls seem heavier emotionally while others seem lighterHow to respond with connection instead of immediately trying to fixWhy emotional safety matters during transitionsSimple ways to support your daughter as she settles into summerJoin Melissa for a reassuring conversation about helping your daughter navigate the transition into summer with understanding, patience, and connection.Download the Quick Tips PDF of today's episode for future reference.If you know a parent who could benefit from this conversation, share this episode with them! Let's work together to raise the next generation of confident girls.We are looking for special people like you to help send a Girl to camp this summer. If you feel it in your heart, please click the link here. Every donation, no matter the size helps!Melissa's Links:• Website • Instagram • Facebook• TikTok• LinkedIn

This week, Corrine Malcolm and Keely Henninger open up the Coaches Corner for a listener-driven grab bag of training questions.How to find the right trail shoe without wasting a ton of moneyWhat the path into coaching can actually look likeWhy the real “magic formula” for improvement is usually a lot less glamorous than people want it to be.They also talk through high-volume training, stage-race prep, strength work for ultrarunners, immune function and RED-S, and the very real emotional crash that can follow a big race. It's a practical and wide-ranging episode with specific advice for the regular trail runners trying to train smarter, recover better, and make sense of all the noise.Follow Us:Join Feisty at the Grand Traverse in Duluth, MN on October 3rd! Use code FEISTY20 for $20 off when you register at https://feisty.co/events/the-grand-traverse/@feisty_media@trail.societySupport our Partners:Injinji: use code  Trailrun15 to get 15% off at https://www.injinji.com/ProBio: Use code Trail20 for 20%-off orders (30%-off + free shipping w/ subscriptions) at https://www.probionutrition.com/rabbit: Visit https://www.runinrabbit.com/ use code: JUNEBUNNY10 for 10% off.

Addiction affects millions of people, yet it remains one of the most misunderstood and stigmatized medical conditions. This week on SHE MD, Mary Alice Haney sits down with Dr. Sarah Wakeman, a nationally recognized addiction medicine specialist, Harvard Medical School faculty member, and leading advocate for evidence-based addiction treatment.Dr. Wakeman shares how her experiences treating patients revealed a troubling reality: people struggling with addiction are often treated very differently than those with other chronic illnesses. Together, they explore why addiction is a medical condition, not a moral failing, and what needs to change in healthcare, policy, and public perception.The conversation also dives into alcohol use, women's unique health risks, pregnancy, breast cancer, and the growing body of research on how alcohol impacts long-term health. This episode is an eye-opening discussion about stigma, recovery, compassion, and the power of treating addiction with science instead of judgment.Subscribe to SHE MD Podcast for expert tips on PMOS, endometriosis, fertility, hormonal balance, mental health, and more. Share with friends and visit SHE MD website and Ovii for research-backed resources, holistic health strategies, and expert guidance on women's health and well-being.SponsorsKa'Chava: Treat yourself to the flavor and nutrition your body craves. Go to kachava.com and use code SKINNY for 15% off your first order. Use code SHE MD at checkoutOsea: Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SHEMD at oseamalibu.com. Myriad: Go to GetMyRisk.com to learn more about hereditary cancer testing and how you can use Myriad's virtual care option for fast, at-home testing - no office visit required.Peloton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push and GO. Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.comDavid: Buy 4 cartons of Protein Bars and get the 5th free when you go to davidprotein.com/SHEMD.What You'll LearnWhy addiction is a chronic medical conditionHow stigma impacts addiction treatmentWhy women experience alcohol differentlyThe link between alcohol and breast cancerAlcohol's effects during pregnancyCommon myths about addiction recoveryWhat evidence-based addiction care looks likeWhy compassion improves outcomesThe role of trauma in substance use disordersHow to support someone struggling with addictionKey Timestamps00:00 Why Alcohol Is More Dangerous Than Most People Think03:02 What Alcohol Actually Does To Your Brain06:48 Why Some People Become Addicted Faster Than Others10:42 The Science Behind Alcohol Cravings14:56 When Drinking Becomes A Real Problem18:37 Why Addiction Changes Your Brain22:14 Women & Why Alcohol Affects Them Differently26:03 Alcohol, Anxiety & The Sleep Problem30:21 Signs You May Need To Cut Back Drinking37:05 The Best Treatments For Alcohol Use Disorder41:36 New Medications That Reduce Alcohol Cravings44:43 Why Menopause Makes Alcohol Harder To Tolerate45:37 Teens, Alcohol & Parenting Conversations46:42 The Biggest Protective Factors Against Addiction53:05 Why Scare Tactics Fail Teenagers57:39 How To Help Someone With Alcohol Problems58:35 Why Tough Love Usually Doesn't Work01:01:17 Supporting Loved Ones Without Enabling01:07:58 Questions To Ask Yourself About DrinkingKey TakeawaysAddiction should be treated like any other chronic illness, with evidence-based medical care and long-term support.Stigma and judgment often prevent people from getting the treatment they need.Many people with addiction have histories of trauma, adversity, or significant life challenges.Alcohol carries real health risks, including an increased risk of breast cancer, even at lower levels of consumption.Women metabolize alcohol differently and may experience greater health impacts than men.Recovery is possible, especially when treatment is rooted in science, compassion, and individualized care.Language matters; how we talk about addiction can either reinforce stigma or support healing.Understanding addiction as a medical condition is essential to improving care and saving lives.Guest BioDr. Sarah Wakeman is a nationally recognized leader in addiction medicine, a graduate of Brown University, and a faculty member at Harvard Medical School. She is double board-certified in Internal Medicine and Addiction Medicine and serves as the Program Director of the Massachusetts General Hospital Addiction Medicine Fellowship.Throughout her career, Dr. Wakeman has been at the forefront of transforming how substance use disorders are treated, advocating for evidence-based, compassionate care that replaces stigma with science. She has helped develop innovative treatment programs, mentored the next generation of addiction medicine specialists, and worked to expand access to life-saving care for patients across the healthcare system.As a physician, educator, and national thought leader, Dr. Wakeman is passionate about changing the conversation around addiction; helping people understand that substance use disorder is a medical condition, not a moral failing, and that recovery is possible with the right support and treatment.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode we'll talk about:Why ambition and assignment look similar from the outside but feel completely different on the insideHow to discern which one you've been operating fromWhy ambition without assignment leads to success that doesn't sustain youHow assignment redefines what productivity faithfulness and impact actually look likeWhy letting ambition serve the assignment instead of lead it changes everythingHow to build from what God ordained instead of what the world celebratesAnd more… CONNECT WITH ME…→ Instagram — @mattgottesman→ My Substack — mattgottesman.substack.com → Apparel — thenicheisyou.comRESOURCES…→ Recommended Book List — CLICK HERE→ Masterclass — CLICK HEREWORKSHOPS + MASTERCLASS:→ Need MORE clarity? - Here's the FREE… 6 Days to Clarity Workshop - clarity for your time, energy, money, creativity, work & play→ Write, Design, Build: Content Creator Studio & OS - Growing the niche of you, your audience, reach, voice, passion & incomeOTHER RELATED EPISODES:Faith Isn't Knowing the Whole Path… It's Taking the Next Honest StepApple: https://apple.co/3MB62IuSpotify: https://bit.ly/4rZw3RN

Even after trust is rebuilt, many couples still struggle to feel deeply connected.In this episode, Alana and Hali, Choose Recovery Services coach, explore the hidden barriers to intimacy after betrayal trauma — including nervous system dysregulation, vulnerability fears, protector parts, and power dynamics in recovery.You'll learn:What true emotional safety looks likeWhy conflict isn't always the problemHow co-regulation strengthens intimacyThe next stage of healing after stabilizationIf you want to connect deeper with your partner, consider joining us for our Rise and Renew couples retreat in Costa Rica this summer. If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register by May 31st to get our early-bird pricing - $600 OFF!Register Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

Small group instruction is a common part of math classrooms—but when it comes time to actually sit down with a group of students, many teachers are left wondering what they should be doing. Should you reteach the lesson? Provide more practice? Or try something completely different?The answer isn't about creating a whole new lesson. Instead, effective tier 2 instruction is about helping students access the same rigorous math as their peers—but with the right supports in place. By using formative assessment to understand where students are along the concrete, representational, and abstract continuum, teachers can provide targeted scaffolds that move students forward. The key is not lowering expectations, but removing barriers so every student can engage with the learning.In this episode, you'll explore:What tier 2 math instruction should (and shouldn't) look likeWhy small group time isn't about reteaching the same lessonHow to use the CRA (concrete, representational, abstract) model effectivelyWhat it means to provide “access” to grade-level mathHow to decide when students are ready to move onThe role of high-quality instructional materials and manipulativesIf you've ever wondered what to actually do during small group time in math, this episode will give you a clear and practical way to support students without lowering expectations.We built a simple Math Coherence Compass to help district and school leaders make aligned decisions around math—without adding another initiative. Get your free copy and training here https://makemathmoments.com/compass/Not sure what matters most when designing math improvement plans? Take this assessment and get a free customized report: https://makemathmoments.com/grow/ Math coordinators and leaders – Ready to design your math improvement plan with guidance, support and using structure? Learn how to follow our 4 stage process. https://growyourmathprogram.com Looking to supplement your curriculum with problem-based lessons and units? Make Math Moments Problem Based Lessons & Units Show Notes PageLove the show? Text us your big takeaway!Empower Your Students (and Teachers) Using A Professional Learning PlanThat Sparks Engagement, Fuels Deep Learning, and Ignites Action! Book a time to chat with our team to see how we can help you achieve your math goals! https://makemathmoments.com/plan/Are you wondering how to create K-12 math lesson plans that leave students so engaged they don't want to stop exploring your math curriculum when the bell rings? In their podcast, Kyle Pearce and Jon Orr—founders of MakeMathMoments.com—share over 19 years of experience inspiring K-12 math students, teachers, and district leaders with effective math activities, engaging resources, and innovative math leadership strategies. Through a 6-step framework, they guide K-12 classroom teachers and district math coordinators on building a strong, balanced math program that grows student and teacher impact. Each week, gain fresh ideas, feedback, and practical strategies to feel more confident and motivate students to see the beauty in math. Start making math moments today by listening to Episode #139: "Making Math Moments From Day 1 to 180.

Send us Fan MailFood allergies can feel incredibly overwhelming for parents — especially during infancy when introducing new foods for the first time. What does a true allergic reaction actually look like? And what should families know about new treatment options for food allergies?In this episode, Dr. Jessica Hochman sits down with allergist Dr. Akansha Ganju of Latitude Food Allergy Care to discuss the latest science around food allergies, eczema, early allergen introduction, and oral immunotherapy (OIT).They discuss:Why early allergen introduction mattersThe connection between eczema and food allergiesWhat mild vs severe allergic reactions look likeWhy many first food reactions in babies are usually mildCommon misconceptions about food allergy testingHow OIT works and which children may benefitThe role of Xolair in food allergy treatmentWhy food allergy treatment is changing rapidlyThis episode is packed with practical advice, reassurance, and evidence-based guidance for families navigating food allergies.To learn more about Dr. Ganju and Latitude Food Allergy Care, visit:Latitude Food Allergy CareInstagram:Latitude Food Allergy Care InstagramYour Child is Normal is the trusted podcast for parents, pediatricians, and child health experts who want smart, nuanced conversations about raising healthy, resilient kids. Hosted by Dr. Jessica Hochman — a board-certified practicing pediatrician — the show combines evidence-based medicine, expert interviews, and real-world parenting advice to help listeners navigate everything from sleep struggles to mental health, nutrition, screen time, and more. Follow Dr Jessica Hochman:Instagram: @AskDrJessica and Tiktok @askdrjessicaYouTube channel: Ask Dr JessicaIf you are interested in placing an ad on Your Child Is Normal click here or fill out our interest form.-For a plant-based, USDA Organic certified vitamin supplement, check out : Llama Naturals Vitamin and use discount code: DRJESSICA20-To test your child's microbiome and get recommendations, check out: Tiny Health using code: DRJESSICA The information presented in Ask Dr Jessica is for general educational purposes only.  She does not diagnose medical conditi...

You built something people love. Running the business of it is a different problem entirely.Dani Donovan is the creator of The Anti-Planner, a self-published ADHD productivity workbook that generated over $1 million in its first year and has now sold more than 115,000 copies with a 4.9-star rating. She built it without a business plan, without onboarding documents, and without a team that had done any of this before.In this conversation, Dani explains how a single ADHD comic from 2018 nearly never got posted, how a business coach's field guide exercise became the product she actually needed, and what happened when she had to tell 28,000 pre-order customers their books were running late.We also get into the part nobody warns you about: what hiring looks like when there are no SOPs, no infrastructure, and no clear handoff between the creative work and the operational side of the business.This is a conversation about the hidden cost of scaling creative ADHD-led businesses — and why building the thing is often easier than building the systems around it.What We Cover:How Dani designed The Anti-Planner around what she actually used instead of what productivity systems were “supposed” to look likeWhy she turned down traditional publishing and protected creative control over the productThe pre-order strategy that generated 42,000 orders across two launchesWhat happened when she had to email 28,000 customers about delayed orders — and why almost nobody asked for refundsWhy scaling an ADHD-led business gets operationally difficult long before it looks successful from the outsideConnect with Dani Donovan:Website: https://anti-planner.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/danidonovanTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@danidonovan P.S. Losing work because the admin layer around your business can't keep up with you? Invisible Systems is a 90-day done-for-you sprint where I (Skye) extract the processes from your head, build the operating layer, and find the right person to run it. Six spots left at the founding price, book a call at invisiblesystem.co

Are you helping… or are you overfunctioning?This week Amie is joined by psychotherapist and relationship expert Terri Cole to talk about the hidden emotional pattern so many women live inside: high functioning codependency.This conversation is especially powerful for women navigating betrayal trauma, divorce, parallel parenting, emotional exhaustion, and the deep work of rebuilding boundaries.Listen to learn:Why strong women become overfunctionersHow betrayal trauma fuels codependent patternsWhat boundaries actually look likeWhy self-trust starts smallHow to stop rescuing everyone around youWhat healing really requiresConnect with Terri: website, InstagramTake the boundary quizGet the HFC Toolkit Chapters01:51 Meet Terri Cole05:18 Defining High Functioning Codependency13:01 Anticipatory Anxiety Control19:30 Boundaries Quiz26:27 What Am I Tolerating?31:07 VIP Section Relationships39:45 Mourning the Dream43:43 Chosen Me MindsetRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***

In this episode, Dr. Aditi Nerurkar, a Harvard physician, stress expert, and author, breaks down the science behind stress and burnout, what's actually happening in our brains when overwhelmed, and the actual tools to do something about it. Dr. Aditi explains how you can be burned out without even realizing it, why toxic resilience is ruining us, and the effect that doomscrolling has on our brains. Plus, she shares her five science-backed and cost-free resets to rewire your brain in a busy world.Key Takeaway / Points:Dr. Aditi's personal story from a stressed patient to a leading stress expertThe difference between good stress and bad stress (and why zero stress isn't actually the goal)What modern burnout really looks likeWhy 74% of people have at least one feature of stress or burnout right nowThe resilience myth: why you can be deeply resilient and completely burned out at the same timeWhat doomscrolling and information overload is actually doing to your brain and how to create digital boundaries that stickThe concept of "Popcorn Brain" and revenge bedtime procrastination Why women are more likely to experience burnoutOrder The 5 Resets: Rewire Your Brain and Body for Less Stress and More Resilience HEREFollow Dr. Aditi:Instagram: @draditinerurkarWebsite: www.draditi.comFollow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogersSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogersYouTube: Cameron Rogers

You know the good girl. She follows the rules, makes everybody proud, does everything she's supposed to do. She is me, and I have a feeling she might be you too. This episode was inspired by a recent keynote I gave in California, and I'm bringing it to the podcast because we don't talk about this enough: what it actually costs you to keep playing by everyone else's rules. We're going deep on the cultural conditioning that keeps women — especially Latinas — playing small, the moment I got laid off at 27 and felt relief instead of grief, and the solo trip to Puerto Rico that completely rearranged my life.If you've ever felt the tension between who you are and who you've been expected to be, this one is for you.WE GET INTO:The question you need to sit with: has your ambition ever felt like too much?Growing up in a Latino household where stability was the whole planGetting laid off at 27 — and why it felt like freedom, not failureWhy entrepreneurship doesn't fit our cultural script (and why that's okay)The conditioning that keeps women dimming their lightThe lie we keep getting fed: that wanting more is selfishMy solo trip to Puerto Rico and the question that changed everythingChoosing alignment over approval — and what that actually looks likeWhy being the first also means being the blueprintKEY TAKEAWAYS:Security is an illusion. Jobs are not guaranteed — so if nothing's guaranteed anyway, why are you playing small?Your visibility is not arrogance. It is leadership. Full stop.When women make money, everything changes. Ambition isn't selfish — it's the most generous thing you can do.The people questioning you aren't villains. They're just scared. Their definition of success was built around survival.Stop asking "what should I do?" Start asking "what would my life look like if I actually trusted myself?"If you're the first, you're also the blueprint.TAKE THE NEXT STEP:Yo Quiero Dinero Private MembershipRead my book, Financially Lit!Leave me a voicemailThis episode of Yo Quiero Dinero was produced by Heart Centered Podcasting. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.