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Send us Fan Mail97% of adults have sexual fantasies. Less than a third ever act on them. The fear is almost never accurate — and in this episode, we're closing the gap between what you want and what you actually do.I'll be honest: role play has always given me the ick. So I brought in Emma Velicski — romance author and founder of Saturday Box, the company turning kink and role play into a game you can actually play with your partner — to figure out why so many of us freeze, and how to finally get started.We get into:What role play actually is (it's broader than you think)The real reason couples who want to try it never doWhy it feels like a performance — and how to turn it back into playThe "cheap knockoff" fear nobody names out loudExactly how to start tonight, no costume requiredFind Emma and Saturday Box at https://saturdaybox.com/ Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailMost men have tried to make this happen. Most have done it wrong. And almost none of them understand what's actually going on in her body when it does.This episode covers the real anatomy behind this response, why the technique most men learned from the internet actually works against them, the one thing she's going to say in the moment that most men completely misread, and why relaxation — not force — is what makes this possible.What you'll learn: ✔ The anatomy behind this response that most men have never been taught ✔ Why the most common technique is the reason it's not working ✔ The conversation you need to have before you try anything ✔ The one sentence she'll say that changes everything — and what to do when you hear it ✔ Why what you do after matters just as much as the technique itselfJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailYou never signed a purity pledge. Maybe you never set foot in a church. But the rules got in anyway — through locker rooms, movies, the way women around you were talked about, the bodies that got shamed. And now they're in your bedroom, quietly wrecking everything.Today I'm talking with Erika Smith — award-winning sexuality educator, 25 years in the field, and creator of the Purity Culture Dropout program — about the specific ways purity culture shows up in men who consider themselves good allies. Men who want their partners to have orgasms. Men who are still, without knowing it, making it impossible for her to ask for what she wants.We get into:Why she can't tell you to stop — even when she wants toThe "good girl/bad girl" split that's killing your sex life right nowHow penis-centered sex became the default (and what it's costing both of you)The porn conversation that's destroying otherwise healthy relationshipsWhere to start if you want to actually change what's happening in your bedroomThis one's for the men who are trying. And the women who love them.Find Erika at: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/the-purity-culture-dropout-programJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailYou can take her to a regular orgasm. Or you can take her to one she'll be thinking about for weeks. Edging is the difference.In this episode, I'm breaking down 5 moves for how to edge her with your hands until she begs you to let her finish. The four signs that tell you she's at the edge. How to pull her back without losing her. Why each climb gets faster. How many edges actually work. And how to let her finish in a way that triggers a rolling orgasm she's never had with anyone.This episode also addresses something most edging content ignores: what to do with a partner who struggles to orgasm at all. I'm one of those women, and I'm walking through how to build toward edging when she can't easily get to the edge in the first place.We're covering: → The 4 science-backed signs she's about to come → The pull back — and why stopping completely ruins everything → How to bring her back up faster each time → The 3-edge rule and when to break it → The release that triggers a rolling orgasm → How to use toys like the Womanizer Enhance, Womanizer Duo, and We-Vibe Rave 2 to extend the experienceWhether you're doing this with a partner who comes easily or one who's never been able to with you — this episode changes the game.Toys mentioned in the episode can be found at the links below. Use my code ANNETTE15 for 15% OffWomanizer Premium 2: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-premium-2Womanizer Enhance: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-enhanceWomanizer Next: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-nextWomanizer Next Duo: https://womanizer-north-america.sjv.io/vDxxjAWomanizer Blend: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blendJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailMost men learned foreplay from porn. And porn doesn't do foreplay — it does a sped-up, skip-to-the-good-part performance that taught an entire generation that touching a woman is just a formality. She's lying there wondering why she isn't feeling it. It's not her. It's the script.Today's guest has spent 17 years collecting real-world data on exactly what porn got wrong — and what women actually need. Cindy Gallop is the founder and CEO of MakeLoveNotPorn, the world's first real-world sex platform, former Advertising Woman of the Year, and one of the most talked-about TED speakers in history.In this episode:Why porn turned foreplay into a formality — and what she actually needs insteadThe 3-word cheat sheet every woman wishes her partner hadWhy lube and toys aren't optional — they're the whole gameHow to talk about sex in bed without killing the moodWhat real-world sex actually looks like versus the porn performanceWhy good foreplay starts way before anyone gets nakedFindy Cindy Here On Substack: https://dearcindy.substack.com/p/yes-you-really-can-ask-me-anythingAll of Cindy's Links: https://linktr.ee/cindygallopJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailMost partners use one move with their hands. There are dozens. And most men have never heard of the deeper spot that changes everything.This episode is a complete guide — how to prep your hands so she actually wants them on her body, the five named techniques that produce completely different sensations, the two internal spots most partners don't know exist, and the combination move that gives her something she literally cannot give herself.What you'll learn: ✔ Why prepping your hands is foreplay (and most men skip it) ✔ How to build her response before you ever go where she wants you ✔ My top 5 techniques by name — circling, figure 8, broadening, cupping, the Hail Mary ✔ The two internal spots and what each one responds to ✔ The combination that gives her something no toy and no other body part can ✔ The finishing rule — and when to throw it out because she told you toJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailAlpha male culture is teaching men to dominate, never ask, never show need — and it is quietly destroying their sex lives. Today I'm joined by James Harris, licensed mental health therapist, US Army veteran, and founder of Men to Heal, who has spent a decade watching this play out in real relationships. He's not here to shame men — he's here to give them what the alpha podcasters never do: the actual truth about what makes women want you.What you'll learn:What alpha culture is actually teaching men about sex — and why it backfiresWhy performing masculinity in bed kills pleasure for both peopleThe difference between sex and intimacy — and why it matters for your orgasmWhat vulnerability in a man actually does to a woman's desireHow to undo the conditioning — starting tonightWhether you're the man in this dynamic, the woman watching him disappear into it, or the partner who's been waiting for him to wake up — this one's for you.

Send us Fan MailYou went soft during sex. She felt it. And the next thing you did probably made it worse.Every man loses his erection. Most panic, apologize, or shut down — and that reaction does more damage than the erection loss ever did. This episode gives you the five exact moves that keep the moment going, keep her turned on, and get your body back without the shame spiral. Plus: why your erection is one of the earliest warning signs of heart disease, diabetes, and hormonal imbalance — and the tool that actually tracks it.What you'll learn: ✔ The move that stops both your spiral and hers at the same time ✔ How to redirect to her pleasure so she barely remembers you went soft ✔ Three sentences that save the moment (and the one she actually needs to hear) ✔ Why the erection that comes back is almost always stronger — and how to let it ✔ The cock ring that keeps you firm during sex and tracks your health between sessions ✔ Why your erection is a vital sign and when it's time to talk to your doctorThis episode features the FirmTech TechRing and RingMate — the tools I trust and would want my own partner using.

Send us Fan MailNobody told us what to do with them. Sex ed skipped them entirely. And somewhere along the way, women just... stopped thinking about them. Until now.Three women sit down and go fully, honestly, hilariously there — what we actually find attractive, what we've been getting wrong, and the moves that will genuinely change what happens in your bedroom tonight.We're getting into:Why so many women are low-key intimidated by them (and how to fix that)The grooming conversation nobody's having — including the Nair tipHow to know he's close without asking a single questionThe cupping trick that speeds everything upWhat we actually want to call them (drop it in the comments

Send us Fan MailThe Praise Kink episode was one of my biggest videos ever — and your comment section proved you're ready to go deeper.I pulled five questions I kept seeing and I'm giving you the real answers. Research, specifics, and the stuff I didn't have room for the first time around.✔ What to call her when "good girl" doesn't fit — honorifics, worship titles, and why they work ✔ Can you flip the praise kink and use it on men — and what does that look like inside the kink ✔ How to actually build a verbal vocabulary when you've been silent your whole sex life ✔ Why praise kink might be the most powerful tool for women in menopause ✔ How to introduce praise kink — whether you've been together two months or twenty yearsListen to Praise 5 Praise Kink Moves Part 1 Here: https://youtu.be/HW5PQANI09YJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailShe Stopped Wanting You & The Orgasm Gap Is Why (Here's the Fix!)She didn't lose interest in sex. She lost interest in sex that never worked for her. Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons — award-winning psychologist, Emory University professor, and author of Good Sex — breaks down the real data behind the orgasm gap, why it slowly kills a woman's desire, and exactly what closes it.Why 75% of women have faked it (and what that's really costing you)The script both men AND women buy into that kills her desire over timeWhy lesbians are finishing at 88% — and what straight couples can learn from itThe mental load connection nobody talks aboutHow mutual masturbation rewires the whole dynamicWhat to do tonight to start closing the gap for good

Send us Fan MailIt's Masturbation May — and I'm giving you the practice that will upgrade your sex life more than any new position, any new toy, any new technique.Mutual masturbation. Touching yourselves at the same time, in the same bed, watching each other.It removes the pressure to deliver an orgasm. It builds the connection most couples are missing. It shows you exactly what works on each other's bodies. And it lets you both discover new pleasure together.What you'll learn: ✔ Why this practice fixes the orgasm pressure problem most couples have ✔ The exact words to suggest it without making it weird ✔ The starting position that makes it feel intimate instead of exposing ✔ The face-to-face position that builds connection most couples are missing ✔ The hand-on-hand technique that teaches your partner's exact pressure and rhythm ✔ How to use this practice to discover new types of orgasms togetherMy Guide to Best Couple's Sex Toys For Mutual Masturbation: https://talksexwithannette.com/the-best-couples-sex-toys-for-mutual-masturbation/Pair this with my 365 Days of Orgasms series for full tutorials on G-spot, A-spot, blended orgasms, and every other technique I reference: Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

Send us Fan MailPlease stop fucking us hard. Seriously. That's the message — and if you heard it in Suzanne Noble's voice during this episode, you already know why it hit so hard.Suzanne is the host of Sex Advice for Seniors — nearly 200K followers, 180+ episodes, and the most unfiltered voice on intimacy and aging out there. She and I got into everything: why your arousal pattern changes after 50 and what to do about it, what men in their sixties are getting wrong in bed (and the one thing they could change tonight), why women who spent decades having duty sex are now retiring from it entirely, the swinging scene from a queer woman's perspective, dating younger men, and why the women having the best sex of their lives right now are the ones who finally stopped performing.If you're over 50, send this to a friend. If you're under 50, send it to yourself for later. Desire doesn't retire — unless you let it.Find Suzanne on Substack at: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/Check out her website at: https://suzannenoble.co.uk/

It's a busy Soccer Over ThereWe look at the promotion madness in the lower divisions in England- on multiple fronts...Some folks are looking to pick up franchises over there as well- and may be based in the USWe look at the dire situation with reffing in ItalyAnd a regular season send-off for a Liga MX legend...PLUS PICKS OF THE WEEK!!!!

Send us Fan MailDoes she grab your hair like she forgot her own name? Does she text you at 2 AM the next day because her body won't stop replaying it? If not, the gap between what you're doing and what would make her lose her mind is just 7 moves nobody ever taught you.This episode gives you 7 moves she's never felt before. Not because they're complicated — because nobody teaches past the basics.What you'll learn: ✔ You're only hitting 20% of her nerve endings — the tongue fix that changes that ✔ Why your hands are either doing nothing or making it worse ✔ The counterintuitive pull-away that doubles her body's response ✔ A 30-second temperature trick with no toys and no planning ✔ The angle change she's never experienced in her entire life ✔ Why your silence is actively working against you ✔ One look — three seconds — that she'll remember longer than the orgasm itself

Send us Fan MailThere are one night stands you forget before you've brushed your teeth — and there are one night stands you're still thinking about years later. Today we're breaking down the difference.Zachary Zane — author of Boy Slut, Men's Health sex columnist, and Grindr's official sex and relationship expert — joins me to map out exactly how to have a one night stand that actually lives up to the fantasy. From the mental prep most people skip, to where to find the right person, to what happens in the room that makes it unforgettable — we're covering every stage.We get into: → The honest conversation you need to have with yourself before you go out → Where to find casual sex based on your gender, orientation, and vibe → How to communicate what you want without killing the momentum → Why one night stands can be MORE intimate than relationship sex → The aftercare that turns a hookup into a core memory instead of a regret → Safety tips every woman needs before leaving with a strangerPlus — we both share our own one night stand stories, because we've been there. A lot.

Send us Fan MailYou watched How to F*ck Slower. You tried it. Then you lost your erection and panicked. This is the fix.Slowing down is the single best thing you can do for her pleasure — but nobody talks about what happens to you when you do it. Your brain speeds up, your body gets nervous, and you lose the one thing you need to stay in the game. This episode breaks down exactly how to stay hard, stay present, and become the man who can go slow without flinching.What you'll learn: ✔ Why slowing down triggers erection loss — and how to override it |✔ The metronome technique that keeps you steady and hard ✔ Why your erection is a vital sign and how to start treating it like one ✔ The tech I personally use and recommend for erection qualityUse code ANNETTE15 on the Tech Ring and Ring Mate : https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti

Send us Fan MailMost couples stumble into bed hoping their bodies will figure it out. They don't. Because nobody's talking about who's leading, who's surrendering — or whether you're both fighting for the same role.Today's guest is Sarah Perry — certified somatic sex educator, sexological body worker, and founder of Haven Space Coaching. She holds a master's in psychology and a background in women, gender, and sexuality studies. Sarah works with people through the body to help them understand what they actually want in bed without the shame.We're breaking down:What dominant and submissive energy actually means (hint: it's not what you think)How to figure out your default — and why it changes with different partnersWhy "feminine energy = submissive" is killing your sex lifeThe 5-minute game that'll tell you exactly who you are in bedHow to stop the awkward bedroom guessing game for goodFind Sarah Perry: Instagram: @havenspacecoaching Website: https://www.havenspacecoaching.com/

Send us Fan MailYou've been misreading her in bed. The loudest sounds she makes? Those aren't for her. Research shows the majority of women vocalize to speed up his finish — not because they're in pleasure. Meanwhile, the sounds that actually mean she's deep in it? Most men miss them completely.In this episode, I break down the five real sounds she makes during sex — what each one actually means and the exact move to make when you hear it. This isn't theory. This is a playbook.

So many things in the Old Testament Levitical laws pointed forward to actions and characteristics of the future Messiah, Jesus. The passover lamb was a foreshadowing of Jesus; that's why it was killed without any bones being broken, just as Jesus- despite all the things He suffered- had no broken bones. The sabbath rest principle in the 10 commandments was fulfilled by Jesus, who is our sabbath. To sabbath means to do no work; we can do know work to earn our place in heaven because we trust in the work that Jesus did.And even the priesthood itself pointed forward to Jesus. Hebrews 4:14 tells usWe have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God.But wait a minute. The Old Testament priesthood was given specifically to the tribe of Levi. Only Levites could be priests. Yet when God sent the Messiah, He did so through the tribe of Judah.That actually doesn't make much sense, since everything else lines up so perfectly. And it creates a problem- how could the Messiah be our priest if He wasn't from the priestly tribe?The priest was supposed to represent the people before God. The priest offered up the sacrifices to appease God's wrath on sin. And Jesus did that by offering up Himself. We understand, I hope, the significance of all that- except how could Jesus fulfill that part of the Old Testament law if He wasn't qualified to be an Old Testament priest?We'll answer that question today on the God and His Prophets podcast.Watch these episodes at my Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@LukeTaylorPodcastsNeed to get in touch with me? Reach me at GodAndHisProphetsPodcast@gmail.comIf you're looking for a Bible study podcast that goes deep into the major and minor prophets, God and His Prophets offers a verse by verse Bible study through these powerful Old Testament writings. Each episode explores the prophecy in the Bible, from the Book of Ezekiel study and later in Zechariah, helping listeners in understanding prophetic books and seeing their relevance today. We also connect the prophets' words to end times Bible teaching and highlight connections to Revelation, giving you a Christian Bible commentary that equips you for spiritual insight and growth.

Send us Fan MailWhat is bimboification — and why are so many people hiding it? Sex and relationship coach Niki Davis-Fainbloom breaks down one of the most misunderstood fetishes out there, where it comes from, and how to explore it in your relationship without the shame spiral. Because the fetish isn't the problem. The shame is.What bimboification and cross-dressing fetishes actually areThe real link between bimboification and dragHow shame drives desire underground — and the damage it doesHow to tell your partner and actually have it go wellLow-stakes ways to explore it together

Send us Fan MailShe's not withholding. She's not checked out. And it has nothing to do with how long you've been together.Here's what's actually happening: every time you touch her, kiss her, pull her close — she can feel that it has a destination. And when desire always has a destination, she stops being in the moment and starts managing the arc. So she waits. Every time.What she's craving is a partner who is just as hungry for the moments between sex as he is for sex itself. That shift — when she finally feels it — changes everything.In this episode I'm giving you five specific moves that build her desire from the inside out. Before sex. During sex. After sex. All of them designed to do one thing: make her want to be the one who starts it.✔ The kiss that makes her think about you all day — before 9am ✔ How to drop charged moments into your day that build heat without asking for anything ✔ What women who have sex with women know about pleasure that most men don't ✔ How to be her pleasure dom — and why the giving is the getting ✔ The 20-minute window after sex that determines whether she initiates next timeThis is the episode she's going to send to you. And the one you're going to watch twice.

Send us Fan MailYou think you know what a fetish is — leather, feet, something you scroll past. But the cultural conversation leads with the weird and skips the why. Today we're flipping that.Jessica Renard — licensed professional counselor, sex therapist at StorieBrook Associates, and a therapist who works directly within the kink communities in Georgia — breaks down the fetishes that actually show up in relationships and the therapist's office. What's happening in the brain, the body, and the relationship when someone has one? And what do you do when you or your partner has a fetish?time stamps: 0:00 Intro 5:30 Difference between fetish, kink, & paraphilia 6:20 How does a fetish form and who has them 12:00 Foot Fetish 15:00 Age Play 18:14 Pet Play 22:44 Attraction to Clowns 28:00 Attraction to people with amputations 33:00 Adult Baby Diaper Fetish 36:00 Somnophilia & Dormaphilia 42:00 Human Furniture 48:00 Erotic HypnosisFind Jessica on Patreone: https://www.patreon.com/cw/jrsexAnd Here: https://www.storiebrook.com/Team/jessica-renard-lpc

Send us Fan MailMost men are completely silent during sex. And that silence is costing you more than you realize.Surveys suggest that roughly 3 out of 4 women say verbal affirmation during sex increases their arousal and orgasm intensity. But it's not just about saying nice things — it's about pairing specific words with specific physical moves at exactly the right moment. That combination does something to her body that neither one can do alone.In this episode, I'm giving you 5 praise kink moves — each one a phrase paired with a physical technique — that make sex better for both of you. And by move 5, you'll understand why she starts initiating.What you'll learn: ✔ Why "good girl" does more than an hour of thrusting ✔ The word + touch combinations that trigger arousal she can't fake ✔ How to use praise during edging to create the most intense experience she's ever had ✔ The 60-second move after she finishes that makes her want you again

Send us Fan MailIs he a sex addict — or does he just want it more than you? The term gets thrown around constantly, but most people have no idea what it actually means. In this episode, I sit down with marriage and family therapist Kate Logan — who specializes in compulsive sexual behavior at the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles — to finally draw the line between high libido, kink, and genuine sexual compulsivity.We get into:What separates a sex addict from someone who just really loves sexWhy infidelity doesn't equal addiction — and why that label can do real damageHow shame and secrecy fuel compulsive sexual patternsThe kink vs. addiction confusion that's quietly destroying relationshipsWhat's actually underneath sex addiction (it's not what you think)What treatment looks like — and why the goal is never abstinenceIf you've ever wondered whether your own patterns — or your partner's — cross a line, this episode gives you the framework to actually figure it out.Find Kate Here: Kate Logan, AMFT - CENTER FOR HEALTHY SEX

Send us Fan MailShe's thought about faking it. Statistically, she probably has.Between 58–80% of women have faked an orgasm — not once, but regularly, with partners they actually cared about. Most of those men never knew. If you want to be the exception, this episode is for you.This isn't about blame. It's about understanding what actually creates faking — and the specific things you can do to change it.What you'll learn: ✔ The 6 real reasons women fake it (none of them are what you think) ✔ Why "just ask her what she wants" is not actually a solution ✔ The specific moves that make honesty feel safe enough to happen ✔ How to stop being the man she performs for and become the man she actually wants

Send us Fan MailMen's sexual shame doesn't look like what you think. It's not about a secret kink. It's the guy jackhammering away thinking that's what success looks like. The one who won't make eye contact. The one who avoids dating entirely — not because he doesn't want connection, but because his nervous system won't let him get close.I sit down with Alex Gear — men's intimacy anxiety coach who never experienced sober sex until he got sober three years ago — to unpack what sexual shame is actually doing to your sex life and what you can do about it starting tonight.In this episode:Why "lasting longer" and "going harder" has nothing to do with her pleasureThe porn script that's overriding what his partner actually tells himHow shame shows up as shallow breathing, no eye contact, and mechanical sexAvoidance tactics in dating and relationships — how to spot themMindful masturbation as a tool for rewiring shameWhat women can do in the moment when things stall3 takeaways to start improving your intimate life tonightFind Alex: @intimacyanxietyalex on Instagram

Send a textShe's been waiting for you to figure this out.For a huge number of women, watching a confident man willingly submit to her is one of the most erotic experiences that exists. Not a weak man — a man who is secure enough to give her complete control and trust her to lead.This episode is about real submission. Not performing. Not topping from the bottom. Actually letting go.What you'll learn:5 specific ways to submit that she'll never forgetWhy real submission requires more confidence than dominanceHow to give her control without losing yourselfThe psychology behind why this creates intense desireSafety, consent, and nonverbal signals for power exchange

Send a textShe didn't lose her desire. She quietly quit it. Sex therapist and author Colette Jane Fehr joins Annette to break down why women emotionally and erotically check out of relationships long before anyone notices — and what it actually takes to come back. If you've been going through the motions, or you've watched your partner disappear and had no idea why, this one's for you.In this episode:*What quiet quitting your sex life actually looks like in the bedroom*Why emotional disconnection kills physical desire — and which goes first*The real reason dead bedrooms happen (it's not about sex)*How resentment builds from the smallest swallowed moments*The one question that cracks a relationship back open*How to know if quiet quitting has gone too far — and the signs it's not too late*Three things you can do tonight to start coming back

Send a textShe's thought about it. More than once. Maybe every time.And she's decided you'll never know — because asking feels impossible, and hoping you'll figure it out on your own hasn't worked.This episode is about the five dominance moves women consistently fantasize about and almost never get. Not because their partners wouldn't do them, but because no one ever taught them what real dominance actually looks like.This is for the men who want to be the person she feels safe enough to surrender to. And for the women who've been waiting for someone to just… lead.What you'll learn: ✔ 5 specific dominance moves that bypass her overthinking entirely ✔ Why most men never try these (and how to do them without being told) ✔ The exact mechanics — where to put your hands, what to say, when to stop ✔ Why dominance isn't about being rough — it's about being deliberate 

Send a textShe didn't set out to build a six-figure business. She got pregnant — and discovered one of OnlyFans' most profitable and least talked-about kinks.Australian mom and content creator Emily Mai joins Annette to talk about what actually happens when a woman refuses to become sexually invisible after motherhood. We're getting into pregnancy kinks, lactation content, belly fetishes, and the real psychology behind why society loses its mind when mothers stay sexually embodied — and profitable.This one goes places most people won't.In this episode:Why pregnancy exploded Emily's subscriber count overnight — and who almost killed itWhat men actually want from pregnancy content (it's not what you're imagining)Why other mothers became her harshest critics — and her honest, unflinching take on whyHow she structures her day as a full-time creator and fully present momHer 3 tips for anyone thinking about starting their own content business

Send a textShe's thought about it. More than once. Maybe a hundred times.And she's decided you'll never know.Not because she doesn't trust you — because she's been taught her whole life that wanting certain things makes her too much. This episode is about the five kinks women most commonly carry in silence, the shame that keeps them there, and what you can actually do to become someone it feels safe to tell.What you'll learn: ✔ The 5 kinks women fantasize about and rarely share — and the real psychology behind each one ✔ Why erotic shame is the actual barrier (not trust, not desire) ✔ What CNC fantasy really is — and what it is not ✔ Specific things you can do to create safety without putting pressure on her 

Send a textMost people think relationships fail because someone stopped trying, cheated, or they just picked wrong. But what if relationships follow a predictable pattern — and most of us are sabotaging them at the exact same stage without even knowing it?In this episode, I sit down with Thais Gibson — founder of Personal Development School, bestselling author, and one of the world's leading experts on attachment theory — to break down the six stages every relationship moves through, why most collapse at stage three, and what your attachment style is actually doing to your love life, your desire, and your ability to stay.I also get personal. About the patterns I've repeated. About staying in relationships I should have left. About what it took to finally see myself clearly enough to stop.If you've ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different person — this episode is your answer.What you'll learn: Why chemistry isn't compatibility and what actually drives attraction • The six stages every relationship moves through • Where most relationships die and why • What your attachment style is doing to your sex life at every stage • How to actually change your attachment style in 90 days • Why doing the work together is the only thing that saves a relationshipFind Thais at https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ — free attachment quiz at the link

Send a textMost men assume she just doesn't enjoy it. Most women wonder why they want to sometimes and absolutely don't other times.The truth is more interesting — and more fixable — than either of them thinks.In this episode, sex and intimacy coach Annette Benedetti breaks down the psychology and neuroscience behind female desire, and gives you 6 specific, research-backed things you can do to shift the dynamic entirely.This isn't about pressure, persuasion, or performance. It's about understanding how desire actually works — and showing up differently because of it.In this episode:Why most men have been trying to create desire the wrong way (and what actually works)The neuroscience of the sexual "brake" — and why removing pressure is more powerful than adding stimulationThe difference between feeling wanted and feeling chosen — and why it mattersWhat the research on couples actually shows about reciprocity and desireWhy your nervous system is either creating safety or shutting her down — before you've touched herThe one move most men make the moment she starts responding — and why it kills everythingThis episode is for: ✔ Men who want to understand their partner's desire better ✔ Women who've been trying to figure out why their desire feels inconsistent ✔ Anyone who wants a deeper, more connected intimate relationshipYour Guide To Giving Her Good Oral: https://youtu.be/r7mJrSu_KRs

Send a textHere are some exterior encounters with the topic off goodnessWe need to be holy, and let Christ radiate from within usWe can highlight the good fruits of the Christian traditionWe need to confront scandals, possiblyWe need to confront the topic of evil in the world, possiblyWe need to confront people's bad experience of the church, possibly

Send a textWhat if orgasms were about more than just pleasure?In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I'm joined by Venus O'Hara—author, sexual wellness expert, and host of the Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast—to explore the O Method, also known as orgasmic manifestation.We break down:What orgasmic manifestation actually is (and what it isn't)How sexual energy can be used for intention, confidence, and changeWhy pleasure isn't just instant gratification—it's powerHow to start if masturbation feels awkward, shame-filled, or unfamiliarWhether you need to orgasm for the practice to workWhy this matters especially for women navigating trauma, midlife, or desire shiftsEven if you don't believe in manifestation, you'll still get orgasms out of it. And you might rethink what pleasure is really for.You can find Venu Here: https://www.venusohara.org/You can order her book Orgasmic Manifestation Here: https://www.venusohara.org/orgasmic-manifestation

Send a textMost advice about sexual attraction is either vague, manipulative, or flat-out wrong.This episode isn't about tricks, lines, or “alpha” posturing. It's about what actually creates sexual attraction — in real bodies, real moments, and real connection.In this episode, I break down five specific things that reliably make women feel sexually attracted, based on psychology, nervous-system science, and what women consistently respond to — not what dating culture thinks they should.You'll learn:Why attraction dies when desire gets turned into hesitationHow to express interest in a way that feels confident and safeWhat overstaying the moment does to desire (and why less really is more)How presence, timing, and responsiveness matter more than performanceWhy attraction isn't about convincing someone — it's about how you show upThese aren't manipulation tactics. They're behavioral shifts that create clarity, tension, and genuine pull — without pressure, games, or crossing boundaries.If you've ever wondered why things start strong but lose heat, or why connection doesn't always turn into desire, this episode will change how you understand attraction — and how you move inside it.

In this episode from a few years ago, we wandered through Arabic poetry and prose and talked about many different forms of literary love: regretful love, unreciprocated love, bad love, vengeful love, liberating love, married love. We read this poem by Núra al-Hawshán: “O eyes, pour me the clearest, freshest tearsAnd when the fresh part's over, pour me the dregs.O eyes, gaze at his harvest and guard it.Keep watch upon his water-camels, look at his well.If he passes me on the roadI can't speak to him.O God, such afflictionAnd utter calamity!Whoever desires usWe scorn to desire,And whom we desireFeeble fate does not deliver.”The Núra al-Hawshán poem, translated by Moneera al-Ghadeer, has a modern musical adaptation on YouTube produced by Majed Al Esa.Yasmine Seale's translation of Ulayya Bint El Mahdi. This poem and others were set to music on the album “Medieval Femme.”Do'a al-Karawan (“The Nightingale's Prayer”) by Taha HusseinI Do Not Sleep, Ihsan Abdel Kouddous, trans. Jonathan SmolinThe Cairo Trilogy, Naguib Mahfouz (1956-57)Al-Bab al-Maftouh (The Open Door) Latifa al-Zayyat, trans. Marilyn Booth (1960) All That I Want to Forget, by Bothayna Al-Essa, translated by Michele Henjum.Rita and the Rifle, Mahmoud Darwish, made into a song by Marcel Khalife. Ode to My Husband, Who Brings the Music by Zeina Hashem Beck Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send a textThis Talk Sex With Annette topic takes the show back to its roots when it was just a girl's sex talk podcast.For too long, women's most honest conversations about sex have happened in whispers — in group chats, locker rooms, and over wine when no one's listening.But what happens when we stop whispering?In this episode, I sit down with writer and pleasure activist Tash Doherty, the bold voice behind Miseducated, to talk about what women really say about sex when you're not in the room — and why it changes everything when we take the mic.We dive into:• The orgasm gap and why it still exists • Pegging, anal equality, and rewriting the sexual script • Why women fake orgasms (and why it hurts everyone) • How speaking openly about sex transforms relationships • What men need to understand about female pleasureThis isn't just about women talking about desire. It's about rewriting the rules of sex — for everyone.If you've ever wondered what women really think about sex… this episode is your invitation to find out.Check out Tash's Intimacy Journal Here: https://www.tashdoherty.com/shopFind her on Substack: https://misseducated.substack.com/

Send a textTouching her breasts should feel erotic — but for a lot of people, it ends up feeling rushed, mechanical, or oddly disconnected.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I break down 9 ways to touch her breasts that most guys skip — not because they don't care, but because no one ever taught them how breast pleasure actually works.We'll talk about:why grabbing and squeezing too fast shuts her body downhow timing and pressure matter more than intensitywhen nipple stimulation feels good — and when it doesn'thow to tell if her body is opening or bracingand how to make breast play feel grounding, erotic, and deeply pleasurableThis episode is explicit, educational, and focused on real bodies — not porn scripts or performance pressure.If you want breast play to feel better, more connected, and more arousing for both of you, this is where to start.

Send us a textWith the Epstein files back in the headlines, many people are noticing a shift in desire and connection. This unscheduled drop explores how collective stories of abuse and betrayal impact the nervous system — and why libido is often the first thing to go quiet when safety feels uncertain.In this episode, we talk about:Why desire can shut down during moments of collective traumaHow the nervous system responds to perceived threatRecognizing triggers as they happen in the bodyHow to protect your relationship with pleasure without forcing itWhy intimacy doesn't belong to abusers — it belongs to us

Send us a text Two years ago, this topic became one of my most-listened-to episodes—so we're bringing it back.In Part 2, I'm joined by two sex-positive women from different age groups to answer the questions men keep asking and go deeper than before.We cover:What women actually think about penis sizeWhy confidence matters more than lengthHow oral, grinding, toys, and anal play often matter more than penetrationCommon mistakes that quietly kill desireReal, practical tips for having great sex regardless of sizeWe also kick things off with a clear, medically accurate guide to measuring penis length and girth, because many men think they're “small” when they're not.Honest. Sex-positive. No shame—just real talk.Here is your link to episode part  1: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/episodes/14322290

Send us a textWhy do so many women lose interest in sex—and why is the blame so often placed on them?In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, Annette is joined by Dr. Trina Read to unpack what women are really saying when they say, “I just don't want sex anymore.”We talk about:Why low desire is often a reasonable response, not a personal failureHow pressure, routine, and male-centric sex shut down arousalWhat's happening in the body and mind during long-term relationshipsWhy orgasms alone don't guarantee satisfying sexSmall, practical shifts that help women reconnect with desireThis episode is for:Women questioning their libidoPartners who want to understand what's beneath the surfaceAnyone tired of being told to “fix hormones” instead of fixing the experienceBy the end of this conversation, you'll have a clearer, shame-free framework for understanding women's desire—and how to start changing it.

Send us a textIn this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I'm breaking down three specific positions that are more orgasm-friendly by design—because they support anatomy, nervous system regulation, and clitoral engagement instead of rushing straight to penetration and hoping for the best.And I want to be clear right from the start: This episode exists because my audience voted for it.Every week, I run a poll on my YouTube channel where you help decide which how-to I cover next. If you want a say in future topics, make sure you're subscribed on YouTube and signed up for my e-newsletter—that's where the voting happens.In this episode, you'll learn:How angle, pacing, and connection dramatically change orgasm likelihoodThree positions that support female orgasms without relying on speed or forceHow to use eye contact, sensual touch, and clitoral stimulation without breaking flowThis episode is for women, their partners, and anyone tired of feeling like orgasms are random, rare, or out of reach.Links to products in the podcastWe-Vibe Melt 2 (Discount EXPLORES15 15% Off): https://wevibe-north-america.sjv.io/bOezRbThe Peach Toy Review (Discount EXPLORES15 15% Off): https://youtu.be/tm6r87jv6PsThe Peach Toy: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/womanizer-peach

Send us a textWe talk about blowjobs like they're a performance — like there's a “right way,” a secret move, or something you're supposed to magically know.But most advice doesn't actually make oral sex feel better. It just makes people anxious.In this episode, I'm joined by Girls Gone Deep for a real, explicit, shame-free conversation about giving oral sex that actually feels incredible — without porn scripts, pressure, or performative nonsense.We talk about: – Where confidence actually comes from – Why enthusiasm matters more than technique – Communication during oral (yes, during) – Givers vs receivers: etiquette, consent, and boundaries – Rhythm, variety, and why switching it up matters – Circumcised vs uncircumcised anatomy – Positions that make oral easier (and hotter) – What people get wrong about “being good at it”This episode is explicit, honest, and deeply sex-positive — meant to help you enjoy giving and receiving without anxiety or shame.Find Girls Gone Deep On Their Website: https://www.girlsgonedeep.com/Find them on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/girlsgonedeeppod

Send us a textForeplay shouldn't feel inconsistent.If you've ever taken your time and still felt like her body wasn't fully responding — this episode is for you. And if you've ever wanted to be into it but felt tense or distracted instead, this one's for you too.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I break down 9 foreplay moves most guys skip — not because they don't care, but because no one ever taught them how arousal actually works.We'll talk about why foreplay “sometimes works,” what's really happening in the nervous system when desire shuts down, and how to lead her body into arousal without rushing, pressure, or performance.This isn't about tricks or trying harder. It's about pacing, presence, and learning how to keep desire open instead of overwhelming it.Here is the link to my Yoni Massage tutorial: https://talksexwithannette.com/how-to-give-a-yoni-massage/Here's How to touch a clit: https://talksexwithannette.com/20-incredible-ways-to-touch-a-clit/

Send us a textIn this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we explore why solo pleasure is becoming a major cultural shift—and how it's actually improving partnered sex, not replacing it.Joined by Sarah Tomchesson, Certified Intimacy Coach and Director of Marketing at Magic Wand, we break down insights from the 2026 Sexual Wellness Trends Report based on data from 1,000 participants. The findings reveal how solo sex supports desire, confidence, nervous system regulation, and deeper intimacy with partners.We cover:Why solo sex is increasing across generationsHow pleasure-focused practices improve partnered sexWhy orgasm isn't the goal—and why that leads to better sexSimple ways to start a solo pleasure practice that supports real connectionThis conversation blends culture, science, and real-life experience to reframe pleasure as a powerful tool for better sex and stronger relationships.

Send us a textLosing an erection during intimacy is far more common than people admit — but what you do next is what actually defines great lovers.In this episode, I walk you through exactly what to do when an erection is lost, how to stay confident and connected in the moment, and how to continue sex in a way that still deeply satisfies her.Because sex isn't penetration-based — it's presence-based.This is a grounded, science-informed how-to that shows you how to:Respond calmly instead of panicking when arousal dropsStay erotically present instead of pulling awayShift the moment so intimacy doesn't collapseRedefine sex beyond penetrationSatisfy her in ways that women actually rememberWe'll also talk about why pressure shuts arousal down, how adaptability builds desire, and why confidence isn't about performance — it's about leadership in unexpected moments.

In this episode, I want to dive deep into one of the most overlooked patterns that keeps us stuck in stress, cravings, and self-sabotage: the scarcity mindset.I'll help you understand how fear, stress, and the feeling of “not enough” shows up in every area of your life — your money, time, energy, body, health, and relationships — and why awareness is the first step toward breaking cycles of emotional eating and unwanted habits.1. What Scarcity Really MeansScarcity is more than money. It's that “not enoughness” that creeps into our thoughts and decisions. I often see it in myself and my clients as:Not enough time, not enough money, not enough worthinessDoing things for everyone else but not for yourselfThe inner critic telling you you're not thin enough, smart enough, or good enoughScarcity is linked to being in protection mode, where your nervous system is constantly scanning for threats and lack.2. Fear is the Root of ScarcityI want you to know — fear isn't bad. It's your brain's signal to guide you toward filling a perceived lack. But when we ignore or numb fear (with food, distraction, or avoidance), we get stuck in a loop of stress and self-sabotage.Here's what I notice:Fear, stress, worry, shame, and doubt all come from scarcityEmotions are here to give us messages, not punish usWe have four primary emotions: fear, anger, sadness, and joy — everything else is a combination3. Hormonal Consequences: Cortisol and InsulinI want to explain why first-order thinking happens and why cravings hijack us:Cortisol: Released when we feel fear or stress. It drives impulsive decisions and hijacks our self-controlInsulin: Our storage hormone. It stores energy and suppresses fat release — especially triggered by stress eating, refined carbs, and late-night snacksUnderstanding how these two hormones interact with fear and scarcity helps explain why cravings, overeating, and stalled fat loss happen — even when we know better.4. From Awareness to ActionHere's what I want you to do:Notice scarcity thoughts and fear triggersStop numbing or avoiding uncomfortable emotionsSee fear as your guide pointing to opportunities and choicesPractice second-order thinking: consider the consequences before actingKey TakeawaysScarcity isn't just about money — it's a lens through which we see the worldFear is not your enemy; it's a signal to guide decisionsStress eating and cravings are tied to cortisol and insulinAwareness and emotional regulation are your first step toward freedomJournal PromptsWhere do I notice scarcity thoughts in my life right now?How do I typically respond to fear or stress?What habits do I use to numb uncomfortable emotions?How might I create a moment of second-order thinking next time I feel a craving or stress?What small actions can help me shift from protection mode to safety mode today?Closing Message from MeScarcity and fear are not weaknesses — they are signals. When we understand our nervous system, our hormones, and our emotional patterns, we can replace self-sabotage with conscious choices and reclaim our sense of safety, freedom, and abundance.

Episode Highlights With CourtneyWhy this conversation is so important right now, and why 74% of adults are obese or overweight and over 50% of kids areNon-alcoholic fatty liver disease didn't even exist decades ago, and it's now rampantHer own journey into health and wellness The biggest offenders and contributors to why we're seeing this drastic rise60% of Americans' diets are coming from ultra-processed foodsThe real problem with food dyes and the sneaky places they're hidingLinks between food dyes and behavioral issues, cancer, and why most countries have banned themWhy glyphosate is such a big problemMisleading food labeling and the illusion of choice The real deal on vegetable oils and how these are impacting our food supply Look at what has changed so much in the last 50 years in our food supply- our genes don't change that fast20% of Americans' calories come from seed oilsThe role of big agriculture and government subsidiesUnderstanding GMOs and how they impact usWe're only as healthy as our soil is Count chemicals, not calories- why we are overfed and under nourished Two great films on this: Common Ground and Kiss the Ground Resources We MentionHer InstagramRealfoodology - WebsiteRealfoodology - PodcastCommon Ground DocumentaryKiss the Ground DocumentaryMy Health Forward - Regenerative Farms