Podcasts about sex advice

What I Discussed With Dr. Jenn Kennedy...- The two problems that bring most couples over 50 into sex therapy, and why embarrassment keeps them away for so long.- Why an unreliable erection doesn't mean the end of pleasure, and what "pivoting" actually looks like in bed.- The surprising sensitivity of a soft penis, and why porn has left us all badly under-educated.- Why sex that "feels like sandpaper" is so common after menopause, and the fixes that work within weeks.- The generational reason women over 50 feel funny about keeping lube by the bed.- Why the low-desire partner usually doesn't dislike sex. She dislikes the sex she's having.- How pressure turns desire into obligation, and what brings real desire back instead.- The two words that reignite relationships after decades together.Show NotesIs it okay to say things aren't working in the bedroom? That's the question, according to my guest, that couples are silently asking as they walk into her office. Erections that have become unreliable. Sex that hurts. Desire that seems to have packed up and left. Most people wait years before saying any of it out loud.In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jenn Kennedy, clinical sexologist, licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of The Pleasure Project in Santa Barbara. Jenn works with couples and individuals in their 50s, 60s and beyond, and she's refreshingly frank about what she sees: bodies that change with age, partners drowning in shame about it, and simple fixes that nobody has bothered to tell them exist.What I love about this conversation is how practical it gets. We talk about what to do in the actual moment an erection doesn't arrive. We talk about vaginal estrogen, the treatment that clears up painful sex in weeks, and why so many women have never heard of it. And we land on Jenn's most freeing insight: the partner who has "gone off sex" usually hasn't gone off sex at all. She's gone off sex where her pleasure comes last.Whether you're partnered, dating or somewhere in between, this episode is full of things you can actually use. Including, for the men, the simplest question in the entire universe. Ask it daily. Then listen to the answer.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Dysfunction and dissatisfaction are the two main reasons couples over 50 seek sex therapy.- Pivoting to what feels good keeps shame out of the room, and often brings things back.- Sensitivity doesn't disappear with an erection.- Painful sex after menopause is common, treatable and nothing to be ashamed of.- Lube is not a failure.- Vaginal estrogen can transform painful sex in weeks, yet many women are never told about it.- Pressuring a low-desire partner creates obligation, not desire.- The low-desire partner often enjoys sex.- Desire lives in play, curiosity and banter, not in routine.About the GuestDr. Jenn Kennedy is a clinical sexologist and LMFT specialising in sex and couples. In 2023, Dr. Jenn launched The Pleasure Project, which is dedicated to helping us all have a better sex life.  She hosts a podcast called Pleasure Project: Sex & Relationships and offers small group intensives for women and couples. She recently launched a self-guided intimacy course for women and owns a 9-person group therapy practice called Riviera Therapy. Dr Jenn has been quoted in Redbook, Reader's Digest, Forbes Health, DailyOm, Shondaland, Parade, Allure, Yahoo!, and others. She is often tapped to discuss intimacy and sexuality for therapists and physicians.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesWhy Long-Term Couples Drift Apart, and the Simple Habit That Brings Them Back: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-couples-lose-the-spark-and-howThe Simple Practice That Brought Intimacy Back After 20 Years: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-waiting-to-feel-in-the-mood-doesntBonus Live: The Relationship Lesson That Ends So Much Conflict: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/bonus-live-the-relationship-lesson This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed With Aine Rock…- Why having the "perfect" life on paper doesn't always mean you're living the life you truly want.- The surprising difference between being happy, being comfortable and feeling genuinely alive.- Why losing intimacy often starts long before couples stop having sex.- How reconnecting with pleasure can become the first step towards rebuilding your entire life.- Why women often don't know what they want in bed—and how to begin discovering it.- What happened when Áine and her husband experimented with opening their marriage before deciding to separate.- Why small daily pleasure practices can create profound shifts in confidence, creativity and relationships.- How learning to say both "yes" and "no" transforms intimacy at every stage of life.And much more...Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:20 What Does It Mean to "Blow Your Life Up"?04:00 Happy on the Outside, Lonely on the Inside07:00 Opening a Marriage—or Ending It?11:00 Rediscovering Yourself Through Dating16:00 Why Women Struggle to Express Desire20:00 What Is Erotic Alchemy?24:00 Reclaiming Pleasure Without Leaving Your Life28:00 Self-Pleasure, Rituals and Knowing Your Body33:00 Final Thoughts on Living More FullyShow NotesHave you ever caught yourself thinking, "Is this really all there is?" Not because your life is falling apart, but because everything looks fine on the surface—and yet something inside you feels quietly disconnected.It's a question many people never admit out loud, particularly women who have spent decades caring for partners, children and everyone else before themselves. When you've built the life you thought you were supposed to want, it can be deeply unsettling to realise you're still longing for something more.In this episode, I'm joined by author and coach Áine Rock, whose new book Blow Your Life Up explores what happens when we stop living by other people's expectations and begin listening to our own desires. After leaving a long marriage, Áine embarked on a journey of rediscovering pleasure, intimacy and identity—not simply through dating, but by learning to understand herself in an entirely new way.What I love about this conversation is that it isn't really about leaving a marriage. It's about asking better questions. What brings you joy? What makes you feel alive? What have you been putting off because you've convinced yourself it's too late—or because you've spent so long putting everyone else first?Whether you're happily partnered, recently divorced or simply wondering what your next chapter might look like, this episode is a gentle reminder that pleasure isn't selfish. It can be the beginning of coming home to yourself.Listen, learn and enjoy.Key Takeaways- Feeling unfulfilled isn't the same as being unhappy.- Long-term relationships can lose emotional and sexual intimacy without obvious conflict.- Reconnecting with your own desires often starts before reconnecting with a partner.- Pleasure is about much more than sex—it includes creativity, rest and self-expression.- Opening a relationship isn't always the answer if deeper intimacy is missing.- Learning what you want requires curiosity and practice.- Clear communication about pleasure creates better intimacy.- Self-pleasure can help women better understand their own bodies.- Small rituals can reconnect you with your sense of aliveness.- It's never too late to redesign your life around what truly matters.About the GuestÁine Rock is an author, coach and facilitator who describes herself as the Modern Priestess of Pleasure. Through her writing, workshops and coaching, she helps women reconnect with desire, pleasure and authentic self-expression after years of living according to expectations rather than personal truth. Following the end of her 15-year marriage, Áine developed a body-centred approach to helping women rediscover intimacy, confidence and what she calls their "erotic aliveness". Her latest book, Blow Your Life Up: The Wild Art of Wanting More, explores how listening to desire can become a catalyst for profound personal transformation.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesBonus Live: The Relationship Lesson That Ends So Much Conflict - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/bonus-live-the-relationship-lessonWhy Long-Term Couples Drift Apart—and the Simple Habit That Brings Them Back - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-couples-lose-the-spark-and-howThe Simple Practice That Brought Intimacy Back After 20 Years - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-waiting-to-feel-in-the-mood-doesnt This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed With Malia Lazu…- Why so many women spend years putting everyone else's needs before their own—including in the bedroom.- What the "pleasure gap" reveals about women's sexual satisfaction and why the issue goes far beyond orgasm.- How shame, social conditioning and unrealistic expectations stop women from asking for what they truly want.- Why learning what gives you pleasure is the first step towards better intimacy with a partner.- How creating emotionally safe spaces allows women to explore sexuality without judgement.- Why being single, child-free or choosing unconventional relationships can be deeply fulfilling later in life.- How letting go of outdated ideas about ageing can open the door to greater confidence, curiosity and sexual freedom.- Why stopping the habit of "faking it" could transform not only your sex life, but your relationship with yourself.And much more... Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction01:10 Why Malia Created Sunflower Spa04:30 The Pleasure Gap and Why Women Fake Orgasms08:00 Shame, Safety and Talking Honestly About Sex12:30 Why Women Need Spaces to Learn from Each Other15:30 Challenging Myths About Sexuality After 5018:00 Being Child-Free, Single and Sexually Confident22:00 Decentring Men and Redefining Relationships27:00 Why Self-Pleasure Builds Better Relationships32:00 Final Reflections: Grace, Purpose, Power and Pleasure Show NotesWho told us that getting older meant becoming quieter, less visible or less interested in pleasure?For many women, the second half of life brings an unexpected opportunity—not simply to rethink relationships, but to rethink the stories we've been telling ourselves for decades. Stories about worthiness, desire, ageing and what we're supposedly allowed to want.In this episode, I'm joined by entrepreneur and community organiser Malia Lazu, founder of Sunflower Spa, a women-centred space dedicated to healing sensuality, confidence and belonging. Rather than seeing pleasure as something frivolous or self-indulgent, Malia argues that it's deeply connected to how we value ourselves and the choices we make throughout our lives.Together we explore why so many women continue to fake satisfaction, remain silent about their needs or feel guilty for putting themselves first. We also discuss what happens when women begin to challenge those assumptions—whether that means exploring self-pleasure, embracing life without children, questioning traditional relationship expectations or simply becoming more honest about what feels good.What stayed with me most is the reminder that pleasure isn't really the destination. It's often the by-product of feeling safe, respected and fully present in your own body. And perhaps that's something we become better at as we age—not despite getting older, but because of it.Because the greatest freedom may not be finding someone else to choose us. It may be finally choosing ourselves.Listen, learn and enjoy. Key Takeaways- Pleasure begins with self-awareness, not with a partner.- Many women fake satisfaction because they struggle to communicate their needs.- Emotional safety is essential for fulfilling intimacy.- Social conditioning continues to shape women's sexuality throughout life.- Self-pleasure helps people understand what they genuinely enjoy.- Relationships shouldn't leave you emotionally exhausted.- Growing older creates opportunities to redefine intimacy and partnership.- Being single or child-free can be deeply fulfilling.- Honest communication benefits both partners.- Self-worth and sexual confidence are closely connected. About the GuestMalia Lazu is an entrepreneur, community organiser and the founder of Sunflower Spa, a women-centred community focused on healing, sensuality and belonging. After years leading businesses and working with major organisations, Malia shifted her focus towards creating spaces where women can explore pleasure, identity and self-worth without shame or judgement. Through workshops, community events and educational resources, she encourages women to reconnect with themselves, embrace authentic relationships and redefine what fulfilment looks like at every stage of life. About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it. Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com Want More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring Related EpisodesBonus Live: What Great Sex Looks Like After 50 - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-sex-advice-738Bonus Live: Does Pleasure Really Get Better With Age? - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-and-avivahDesire Doesn't Retire: The Secret Sex Lives of People Over 60 - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/getting-down-and-dirty-with-kathy This is a public episode. 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There is so much bad sex advice out there. And, sadly, a lot of people hear it, try it and things end up worse than they were.Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie has been a leading expert on this since the early 90s and on today's episode of Turned On With Sue And John, she addresses a lot of the bad advice, and sets the record straight on what DOES work!Including new sex ideas to hear things up and the wet and wild upgrade using fruits! And she'll introduce you to the "gum job" a candy that actually helps you give a better blow job!We're also going to send Hollywood to the naughty corner because a lot of what it has taught us is just... Well... Hollywood fiction.For our swinger friends - a new mega-swinger-centre is being built - we'll tell you where and we'll also tell you how to explore it FREE! You're welcome!This week's sex in the news includes a man arrested for stealing and then trying to re-sell boner pills at one of the largest swinger hot spots in the world, and a strongman who not only pulled car with his dick, he did it while his dick was on fire.And, a question about face sitting from someone worried that her partner may suffocate.Finally, our friends from the Adult Fun Superstore in Ottawa Canada (adultfun dot ca) introduce us to the new Delightful Vulva And Breast Pump from Shots!We're online @ www.turnedonpodcast.comOn Fetlife: TurnedOnPodcastJohn on Fetlife: MegahurtsEmail Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

#tinderdate  #firstdates  #datingcoach  Watch this Interview Live: Click Here Why does dating feel so hard for men today? Marcus Norman sits down with Maureen Pound, author of How to Get Laid on Tinder for Men, for a raw talk on what women want, online dating, intimacy, and the modern rules of connection. SUBSCRIBE  @GentlemanStylePodcast   more honest conversations about dating,and leveling up your relationships! In this episode, dating coach and author Maureen Pound peels back the layers of modern dating, sex, and relationships from a woman's perspective. You'll learn why vulnerability is hot, how to stand out on dating apps, when (and how) to make the first move, and what actually matters most to women looking for a real connection. Plus: How women feel about s*x, communication in the bedroom, and why being present beats playing games. Whether you're tired of swiping, struggling with rejection, or just want to improve your dating and relationship skills, this conversation is for you. Marcus Norman is the creator and host of Gentleman Style Podcast, where real conversations about culture, dating, business, faith, and personal growth happen weekly. Marcus brings curiosity and candor to every episode, helping men and women level up in every area of life. Maureen Pound is a dating coach, speaker, and author of How to Get Laid on Tinder for Men. She specializes in helping men overcome modern dating challenges, communicate better, and build authentic relationships—on and offline.  https://www.amazon.com.au/How-Get-Laid-Tinder-Men-ebook/dp/B09XNZ1B4R

I keep hearing the same story from people who are looking for love later in life: they want a relationship that feels good, but they're not always sure how to tell the difference between real compatibility and a temporary rush of attraction.In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with dating and relationship coach Sandy Weiner, chief love officer at Last First Date, TEDx speaker, author of Choice Points in Dating, and host of the Last First Date podcast. We talk honestly about why so many people second-guess themselves in dating, why the spark can be misleading, and how to build a relationship that actually lasts.podcastmarketingmagic.What Sandy shares is practical, refreshing, and deeply useful for anyone navigating dating after 40, 50, or 60. We get into attachment styles, self-trust, boundaries, and the difference between chemistry that fizzles and connection that grows over time.Getting started with sex toys?GITM PLAYBOOK has a fabulous range of toys, plus a handy guide to help you pick the ones that suit you best.Use my code: SUZANNE20 for 20% off.ABOUT SUZANNE:Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast, one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.CONNECT WITH SUZANNE:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWANT MORE?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringFollow Sandy Here:Website https://lastfirstdate.com/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/lastfirstdateInstagram https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@LastfirstdateChapters:0:00 Chemistry vs compatibility in dating after 501:16 Meet Sandy Weiner, dating coach and founder of Last First Date2:37 How dating motivation changes for women vs men after 403:09 Why women over 50 second-guess themselves in dating7:38 How long does it take to really know someone you're dating?8:04 What it means to be a woman of value in later life dating9:35 How to identify your non-negotiables and real deal breakers10:08 Sandy's three pillars for confident dating10:41 Why your values get flexible when you like someone (and what to do about it)12:46 Dating in your 50s vs your 20s and 30s: what actually changes13:20 How to state your standards early without being difficult14:10 Why chemistry is harder after 50 and how to recalibrate attraction16:50 Dating after 50: body image, confidence, and doing the inner work18:26 Does therapy make someone a better partner?19:14 Why dismissing people based on checklists costs you great relationships21:31 EQ vs IQ in dating: what emotional intelligence actually looks like23:44 How chemistry develops through shared experience (and what kills it)25:47 Why coffee dates kill attraction and what to do instead28:35 What travel reveals about a partner's real personality32:06 Sandy's one piece of advice for seniors navigating dating and relationships today This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

I host an uncensored girl talk with Tanya, Peekaboo, Curly Vixen, Amelia, and R about what we'd whisper to our 20-year-old selves after years of sexual experience and discovering the lifestyle. We talk about learning what good sex actually is, asking for what you want instead of taking what you can get, and communicating both desires and boundaries. We share different backgrounds—early vs. late sexual starts, religious upbringing, marriage and kids young—and how shame, jealousy, and possessiveness affected relationships and friendships. We discuss confidence and body acceptance, phases in desire, kink and power dynamics, porn/internet exposure, and pressure around things like squirting and consent. I also mention my upcoming Hedonism trip, our Girl Talk Spotify playlist, and we end with Amelia plugging that she's single. 00:00 Uncensored Girl Talk Intro 00:12 Breaking the Censorship Ice 00:53 Advice to Our 20s Setup 02:10 R on Learning Desire 04:27 Lifestyle Lessons and Jealousy 06:13 Amelia on Exploring More 08:49 Peekaboo on Sex vs Red Flags 11:04 Tanya Letter to 20-Year-Old Self 14:03 Curly Vixen Confidence and Settling 18:29 Host Body Image and Pleasure 20:39 Discovering Kink Layers 22:14 Owning Your Needs 22:39 Teaching Better Lovers 26:36 Squirting Pressure Consent 28:41 Sex Friendship Possessiveness 30:10 From Religious Upbringing 34:13 Finding Lifestyle Clubs 35:54 First Sex Club Reality 37:25 Aging Wild Sex Lives 38:35 Body Confidence Hedo Trip 40:38 Wrap Up Plugs Teasing *description written with the help of AI* Check out my friends fan pages: ⁠https://linktr.ee/TUFriends Content mentioned in this episode: 1. Full details on my upcoming trip to Hedonism: https://youtu.be/Ur17F07o8-s?si=8Zylao0zspfnVQPL 2. Spotify playlist of all my girl talk episodes: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1zlr22uIm8OPG9MDdqIWWP?si=025680bf09774f38 ***** Get your free Swinger Lifestyle Starter Kit - learn what to expect, common mistakes to avoid, and how to walk into a sex-positive space without feeling out of place:

What if intimacy in later life isn't really about sex at all?In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with George Goulburn, a straight male escort in his 50s, who works with women in their 50s, 60s, 70s, and even 80s.What he shares challenges almost every assumption about escorting, desire, and connection in later life.Far from quick, transactional encounters, George's clients are seeking something deeper: emotional connection, safety, touch, and the chance to feel seen and desired again, often after years or even decades without intimacy.We explore what women really want as they age, how confidence and sexual identity evolve, and why honest conversations about desire are still so rare.This episode is honest, surprising, and deeply human, and it might just change how you think about intimacy in later life.Getting started with sex toys?GITM PLAYBOOK has a fabulous range of toys, plus a handy guide to help you pick the ones that suit you best.Use my code: SUZANNE20 for 20% off.ABOUT SUZANNE:Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.CONNECT WITH SUZANNE:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.comWANT MORE?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringCONNECT WITH GEORGE:Website https://www.georgegoulburn.com/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/georgegoulburnofficialYouTube https://www.youtube.com/@George_GoulburnFacebook. https://www.facebook.com/george.goulburn.2023Chapters:00:00 Introduction: Why this conversation matters00:25 Meet George: A male escort for women over 5003:20 Why intimacy takes time, not just sex08:30 Who hires male escorts and why11:20 What women really want16:00 Do clients fall in love?18:40 Ethical non-monogamy and dating life21:40 Creating safety, trust, and consent27:40 Myths about male escorts29:00 Why older women don't want “perfect” bodies31:20 Why we struggle to talk about sex34:20 Sex with older virgins: a hidden reality35:50 The real outcome: confidence and self-worth This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Most couples say their relationship is their top priority—but their time, energy, and attention often tell a different story.In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I'm joined by relationship coach and Relational Life Therapy practitioner Monica Tanner to explore what really keeps long-term couples connected, emotionally and sexually, well into their 60s, 70s, and beyond.We dive into Monica's surprisingly simple “3% rule” - a powerful framework for maintaining intimacy, connection, and communication without needing to overhaul your entire life. We also unpack why resentment builds in long-term relationships, how health challenges affect sexual intimacy in older adults, and whether it's truly possible to change relationship patterns after decades together.If you're navigating love, sex, and connection in later life, this episode offers practical, realistic tools you can start using today.What You'll Learn:·       The “3% rule” for relationship success and why small time investments create big intimacy gains·       How to maintain emotional and sexual connection in your 50s, 60s, and 70s·       Why resentment in long-term relationships is often unspoken desire·       The daily habit that keeps couples from drifting apart over time·       How illness, aging, and health issues impact intimacy... and how to adapt·       Why couples delay important conversations about sex, needs, and expectations·       Whether it's possible to change deeply ingrained relationship patterns later in lifeKey Topics & Keywords:Sex advice for seniors, intimacy after 60, relationships in later life, sexual health for older adults, maintaining intimacy in long-term relationships, marriage advice for older couples, communication in relationships, emotional connection in aging, sex and aging, overcoming resentment in relationships, relationship coaching, Relational Life Therapy, intimacy after illness, rekindling connection in later lifeAbout Monica Tanner:Monica Tanner is a relationship coach, Relational Life Therapy practitioner, and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast. She helps couples create deeper connection, better communication, and lasting intimacy - no matter how long they've been together.Connect with Monica:·       Website: https://www.monicatanner.com/·       Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-and-intimacy-tips·       Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monitalksmarriage·       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/monica.tanner2·       YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@secretsofhappilyeverafterListen & Follow Sex Advice for Seniors:If you enjoyed this episode, follow Sex Advice for Seniors for honest conversations about sex, intimacy, and relationships in later life. Share with a friend who might need this reminder: your relationship deserves to be a priority... at any age. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

The wonderful Amara Charles and I talk about how to design your sexual life as you age. How to experience pleasure, and what if an ageing body isn't broken, but is simply done performing?Can later life sex become freer, wiser, more playful and more intimate than the sex we had when we were younger? Listen and find out!Go to amaracharles.com to learn more about Amara's work.Subscriber to Sex Advice for Seniors to hear about my weekly Substack Lives, my regular podcast . Paid subscribers also receive posts of a more intimate nature. :)Ready to Go Deeper?Upgrade to unlock more confidence, clarity, and pleasure in your intimate life.As a paid subscriber, you'll get:✨ Full access to my sexy stories

He was 22, drunk, and couldn't get an erection. That night followed him for the next decade.In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, Tom Jenkins, author of The Drunk Gambler with Erectile Dysfunction, joins me for one of the most honest conversations I've had about ED. We get into addiction, performance anxiety, why Cialis wasn't the answer, and the lifestyle overhaul that actually worked. Tom's story is younger than my usual guests, but the patterns he describes- shame, silence, treating the symptom instead of the cause show up at every age.If you've been too embarrassed to have this conversation, this is a good place to start. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

The most romantic gay dating story I've heard all year involves a popped tire, a mechanic, and a 70-year-old man on his way to a first date.This week on Sex Advice for Seniors, I sat down with Anthony Canapi, CEO of Best Man Matchmaking, the only US matchmaker working exclusively with gay men. He's also a psychotherapist, which matters more than you'd think when the people coming to him are 60, 70, or even older.Follow Anthony here:WebsiteInstagramIf you're struggling with unreliable erections, check out my new program:https://www.stayfirmprogram.comReady to Go Deeper?Upgrade to unlock more confidence, clarity, and pleasure in your intimate life.As a paid subscriber, you'll get:✨ Full access to my sexy stories

Your setback is not your ending.Sometimes the hardest seasons create the strongest people.This episode is a real conversation about resilience, rebuilding, and rising stronger after life knocks you down.Our guests, Jennifer Merifield Personal Excellence Mentor & Master Integration Coach, helping you dismantle old identities, expand your receiving capacity, and actually become the happiest version of yourself you imagine. www.JeniferMerifield.comSuzanne Noble Host of Sex Advice for Seniors and author of the bestseller, 'The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker."www.sexadviceforseniors.comMia Frankl is a powherful leader for the everyday woman. Her Coaching Practice is founded on spiritual expansion, emotional intelligence, body awareness and simplicity for business and life. www.powHerFullinc.comFrank Iglesias is the entrepreneur high-level investors trust when precision matters and results need to scale. He's a real estate strategist who doesn't just navigate the unpredictable but rather converts it into predictable profit.Eric Mangold, Founder of Argosy Wealth Management and host of Man in Search of Gold Podcast. Sandra Pelley - The Sandini -  The Inner Dragon-  That shift transformed pressure into service and made my current level of visibility possible. www.SandraPelley.comBuilding the leading visibility ecosystem that transforms experts into recognized authorities—through podcasting, publishing, and speaking. Visibility Blueprint at www.VisibilityBeforeBreakfast.com

Hello hello! Welcome back to the Owning Your Sexual Self Podcast! This week's guest is the incredible Suzanne Noble, host of the wildly popular podcast Sex Advice for Seniors and one of the most refreshing voices out there when it comes to sex, ageing, pleasure, and relationships. Suzanne brings honesty, humor, confidence, and so much lived experience into this conversation as we talk about what it really looks like to stay curious, connected, and sexual later in life. In this episode:Sex and sexuality after 50 and 60How menopause can impact desire and arousalThe stigma around older adults being sexualThe myth that sexuality has an expiration dateHow sex can become longer and more intentional with ageRedefining relationships later in lifeExploring kink, BDSM, and sexual creativity later in lifeThank you so much for listening! Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!**This episode is sponsored by Instant Hydration. Visit InstantHydration.com and use my exclusive code RACHEL33826 for 40% off your order!**Connect with SuzannePodcast - Sex Advice for SeniorsWebsite - SexAdviceforSeniors.comSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Two things can be true at the same time. I am grateful to be alive long enough to go through menopause. I am also furious about how little we are told about what happens to our genitals as we age.This week on Sex Advice for Seniors, after nearly 200 episodes, I finally said the words “clitoral atrophy” out loud. Mindset and lifestyle coach Tanya Leake joined me to walk through what actually happens. Falling estrogen thins the tissues. Blood flow drops. The clitoris becomes less sensitive, takes longer to wake up, and sometimes goes quiet. In some cases, the hood fuses over the head of the clitoris. There is a name for it. Clitoral adhesion. Most women have never been told this is a thing. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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Key Topics: Her entry into the adult industry and the journey from corporate marketing/PR to performer. Using marketing expertise to build her personal brand, engage fans, and grow a successful OnlyFans platform. The role of her tattoos and aesthetic in defining her unique brand as a tatted and busty performer. Award nominations celebrating her body confidence, big ass, and inked look. Choosing collaborations and standout projects with major studios. How her personal growth has shaped views on sex, relationships, intimacy, and connection. Staying connected to Taiwanese roots and heritage while being a global traveler who's visited 56 countries. Maintaining authenticity online and in her public persona. Recent kinks, fetishes, and unexpected discoveries in her sexuality. Dream collaborations and tips like her approach to blowjobs. Self-care routines, staying inspired, and balancing risks in her career. Favorite sex position (missionary for intimacy), sub/dom preferences, and memorable sexual stories. Transition surprises from corporate life to adult entertainment. Takeaways: Listeners gain insights into Connie Perignon's rapid rise as a confident, tattooed Taiwanese performer who brings marketing savvy and genuine authenticity to the adult space. Her emphasis on body positivity, personal connection in scenes, and strategic branding offers valuable lessons for creators. Connie's story highlights the power of owning your unique look and background while embracing both the business and pleasure sides of the industry, making this a must-listen for fans of bold, real-talk conversations about sex work and self-expression.

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Many men who grew up in conservative households never received a sex education. Instead, they got silence, or shame, or a marriage arranged before they knew what desire even was. That silence can follow them for decades.This week on Sex Advice for Seniors, I talk to Joe Bains, a London-based biohacker and tantra practitioner, about what seven years at a tantra school taught him about intimacy, orgasms, and why your health is the biggest aphrodisiac there is.Joe came from a background where sex simply didn't exist as a conversation. Now he's multi-orgasmic, and he has a lot to say about how you get there.Here's what we cover:* Why biohacking is just optimisation, and why it matters more to your sex life than you think* What “internal orgasms” actually are and how men learn to have them* Why health is the single most powerful driver of desire at midlife* How “how you do anything is how you do everything” applies directly to your sex life (even sweeping the floor!)* What it takes to escape a background of total sexual silence and start againFollow Joe here:WebsiteYouTubeFacebookLinkedInReady to Go Deeper?Upgrade to unlock more confidence, clarity, and pleasure in your intimate life.As a paid subscriber, you'll get:✨ Full access to my sexy stories

Key Topics: Growing up on the East Coast and how her background shaped her personality and presence. Her transition from exotic dancing to camming, content creation, and adult film. Why she refers to herself as a “sexual athlete” and the discipline behind her work. The importance of communication and chemistry in building strong on-screen performances. Navigating multiple areas of the adult industry and choosing the right projects. How platforms like OnlyFans have shifted power and opportunity for creators. Her creative process behind filming, editing, and producing her own content. Mainstream crossover moments, including hosting the AVN Awards. Balancing a bold public persona with a more low-key personal life. Her advocacy for sex work and perspective on the future of the industry. The role of dirty talk, confidence, and presence in creating unforgettable scenes. Maintaining energy, passion, and longevity in a demanding career. Her goals moving forward and the legacy she hopes to leave behind. Takeaways: Listeners get an inside look at what it means to truly master your craft in the adult industry through Romi Rain's lens. With years of experience across multiple platforms, she brings a grounded yet unapologetic perspective on sex work, creativity, and personal branding. Her approach is equal parts discipline and desire, proving that success in this space isn't accidental, it's built. Beyond the performance, Romi's voice as an advocate and her commitment to living authentically make this episode a standout conversation about longevity, power, and owning your narrative. 

Send us Fan MailPlease stop fucking us hard. Seriously. That's the message — and if you heard it in Suzanne Noble's voice during this episode, you already know why it hit so hard.Suzanne is the host of Sex Advice for Seniors — nearly 200K followers, 180+ episodes, and the most unfiltered voice on intimacy and aging out there. She and I got into everything: why your arousal pattern changes after 50 and what to do about it, what men in their sixties are getting wrong in bed (and the one thing they could change tonight), why women who spent decades having duty sex are now retiring from it entirely, the swinging scene from a queer woman's perspective, dating younger men, and why the women having the best sex of their lives right now are the ones who finally stopped performing.If you're over 50, send this to a friend. If you're under 50, send it to yourself for later. Desire doesn't retire — unless you let it.Find Suzanne on Substack at: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/Check out her website at: https://suzannenoble.co.uk/

Most couples dealing with erectile dysfunction have no idea what else to do. So they rely on pills, which turns sex into a performance. Nobody's having pleasure. They're just trying to recreate what worked when they were 17.This week on Sex Advice for Seniors, I talk to Amy Color, intimacy and relationship coach with 20 years of experience, about why couples therapy so often makes things worse, what intimacy actually means, and why penetration is a man's least effective move. She built her entire method because she couldn't find anyone who could help her own marriage. Now she turns couples around in six weeks.Here's what we cover:* Why couples therapy can feel like “a slow, expensive divorce.”* The real difference between love, sex, and intimacy* Why is erectile dysfunction quietly destroying men's lives* How to explore whole-body pleasure that actually works at midlife* Why scheduling intimacy isn't unromantic. It's how you make it happenFollow Amy here:* Instagram* Facebook* LinkedIn * YouTube* Amy's TED TalkReady to Go Deeper?Upgrade to unlock more confidence, clarity, and pleasure in your intimate life.As a paid subscriber, you'll get:✨ Full access to my sexy stories

What are the rules of dating after 50, and why do we need to rewrite them? Enter Suzanne Noble, a UK-based writer, speaker, and podcast host focused on midlife reinvention and sexuality. She co-hosts Sex Advice for Seniors, a candid podcast challenging taboos around aging and intimacy. Suzanne is also the author of the erotic memoir The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker, exploring love, desire, and dating later in life.In this episode:The biggest myths about dating and sexuality after 50How women can rebuild confidence when re-entering the dating world later in lifeHow online dating has changed the landscape for midlife relationshipsWhat a “last first date” means when you're dating with intention in your 50s, 60s, or beyondConnect with Suzanne Noble & Sex Advice for Seniors:Instagram: https://instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors Facebook: https://facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors YouTube: https://youtube.com/@sexadviceforseniors Website and Free Gift 0 Most Overlooked Secrets for Better Sex after 50 : https://sexadviceforseniors.com ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear ►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ► TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lastfirstdate1►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at https://getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  

There's a side effect of prostate cancer surgery that almost no one warns men about – until it hits them in the bedroom. I've had more than one partner discover something was seriously wrong only after they lost their erections, and I've since learned they're far from alone.This week on Sex Advice for Seniors, I talk to Jon Plate from Nordic Stem Cells about what he calls the “silent aftershock” of radical prostatectomy and why so many men are left to quietly grieve their sex lives while everyone tells them they should just be grateful to be alive. We also get into a new stem‑cell approach that claims to do more than just offer another pill or pump.Here's what we cover:* The hidden sexual fallout of prostate cancer surgery* Why doctors gloss over erection problems – and how that feels for men* Shame, ageism, and why older couples stop asking for help* A stem‑cell treatment that aims to fix the cause, not just the symptoms* What men and partners should be asking before and after surgeryReady to Go Deeper?Upgrade to unlock more confidence, clarity, and pleasure in your intimate life.As a paid subscriber, you'll get:✨ Full access to my sexy stories

Season 6, Episode 735: A Genuine Discussion of Intimacy and Sex. From Marine to Intimacy Guide: Andre Lazarus discusses topics on Pleasure, Vulnerability, Shedding Shame, and Connection with podcast host Ruan Willow. Rarely does a career pivot feel this surprising and this necessary. Andre Lazarus went from U.S. Marine to somatic intimacy guide, and the journey took a full decade of witnessing profound healing breakthroughs before he truly found his calling. Andre shares how his work (grounded in the Somatic method) helps everyone from trauma survivors to couples navigating alternative relationships. He's perhaps best known for appearing on the U.K. television series Virgin Island as a professional surrogate partner, bringing these conversations into public view in a way that actually matters. What does it really mean to feel safe enough for genuine pleasure? How can we be more authentic in our intimacy? Andre argues that safety isn't something a partner provides for you. It's your own responsibility, built through boundaries that are dynamic and require constant, intentional practice. Andre addresses male vulnerability, which is less commonly discussed. Men, he explains, often struggle deeply with reconnecting to vulnerability, and that disconnection blocks pleasure entirely. He also breaks down his three-pillar framework: open community conversation about sex, attunement to a partner, and aftercare. He also talks about how men have tradtionally talked about sex from their own perspective, leaving women, women's bodies, sensations, and women's pleasure out of the conversation, which has collectively skewed our culture's view of sexuality to the male experience and perspective, and erroneously perpetuated that this also applies to women. This is total lie and a very common, and toxically pervasive, misconception. Humans are finally looking at women's pleasure and experiences with sex, but it will take time to permeate the general populus to break the male centered myths. The more we talk about this the better! Topics discussed: Sexuality as Our Birthright and Vulnerability Safety is Your Personal Responsibility Setting Boundaries and Saying No Listening to Your Body's Signals Beyond Penetration: BDSM Exploration and Sensation Slowing Down and Redefining Sexual Pleasure Understanding How Our Desires Develop Breaking Free from Sexual Shame Sexual Performance Issues in Male and Female Bodies Self-Pleasure and Sexual Shame in Childhood Taking Responsibility for Your Own Pleasure Why We Shame Sexual Tools Helping People Find Intimate Connection on Television Finding Your Joy and Sexual Authenticity Exploring Different Experiences With One Toy Connect with Andre: Today, Andre balances private coaching, workshops, and a men's online course on sexual communication with growing media visibility, including the upcoming second season of Virgin Island.   Website: https://www.coming-closer.com/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/coming-closer/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandre/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@comingcloserwithandre Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/comingcloserwithandre?_rdc=1&_rdr# Media profile: https://www.guestsonair.com/profile/andre-lazarus PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJh Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠⁠ Ruan's book in order: directly from Ruan https://payhip.com/b/pMxn3 Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing LLC. All Rights Reserved. Andre's Bio: Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognised voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has followed an unconventional path: from serving in the U.S. Marines to guiding people through the complexities of intimacy and desire. That breadth of experience gives him a distinctive perspective on courage, vulnerability, and human connection. He is best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner helping participants confront intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists. The program drew national attention, and Andre's presence on screen highlighted how intimacy work is not about performance but about safety, consent, and the courage to connect. Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre supports individuals and couples across a wide range of needs: men facing midlife performance concerns, survivors of trauma seeking safety, long-term partners wanting to revive passion, and those exploring alternatives such as ethical non-monogamy. Equally, he works with couples committed to monogamy who want to strengthen trust and rediscover each other. His approach, rooted in the Somatica® Method of sex and intimacy coaching, emphasises learning through the body and replacing shame with curiosity. While Andre has also taught workshops introducing kink and alternative practices, he situates them within a broader conversation: how people of all backgrounds can embrace intimacy as part of their wellbeing. His message consistently comes back to honesty, communication, and self-awareness as the foundations for connection.

Season 6, Episode 734: A Genuine Discussion of Intimacy and Sex. From Marine to Intimacy Guide: Andre Lazarus discusses topics on Pleasure, Vulnerability, Shedding Shame, and Connection with podcast host Ruan Willow. Rarely does a career pivot feel this surprising and this necessary. Andre Lazarus went from U.S. Marine to somatic intimacy guide, and the journey took a full decade of witnessing profound healing breakthroughs before he truly found his calling. Andre shares how his work (grounded in the Somatic method) helps everyone from trauma survivors to couples navigating alternative relationships. He's perhaps best known for appearing on the U.K. television series Virgin Island as a professional surrogate partner, bringing these conversations into public view in a way that actually matters. What does it really mean to feel safe enough for genuine pleasure? How can we be more authentic in our intimacy? Andre argues that safety isn't something a partner provides for you. It's your own responsibility, built through boundaries that are dynamic and require constant, intentional practice. Andre addresses male vulnerability, which is less commonly discussed. Men, he explains, often struggle deeply with reconnecting to vulnerability, and that disconnection blocks pleasure entirely. He also breaks down his three-pillar framework: open community conversation about sex, attunement to a partner, and aftercare. He also talks about how men have tradtionally talked about sex from their own perspective, leaving women, women's bodies, sensations, and women's pleasure out of the conversation, which has collectively skewed our culture's view of sexuality to the male experience and perspective, and erroneously perpetuated that this also applies to women. This is total lie and a very common, and toxically pervasive, misconception. Humans are finally looking at women's pleasure and experiences with sex, but it will take time to permeate the general populus to break the male centered myths. The more we talk about this the better! Topics discussed: Sexuality as Our Birthright and Vulnerability Safety is Your Personal Responsibility Setting Boundaries and Saying No Listening to Your Body's Signals Beyond Penetration: BDSM Exploration and Sensation Slowing Down and Redefining Sexual Pleasure Understanding How Our Desires Develop Breaking Free from Sexual Shame Sexual Performance Issues in Male and Female Bodies Self-Pleasure and Sexual Shame in Childhood Taking Responsibility for Your Own Pleasure Why We Shame Sexual Tools Helping People Find Intimate Connection on Television Finding Your Joy and Sexual Authenticity Exploring Different Experiences With One Toy Connect with Andre: Today, Andre balances private coaching, workshops, and a men's online course on sexual communication with growing media visibility, including the upcoming second season of Virgin Island.   Website: https://www.coming-closer.com/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/coming-closer/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandre/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@comingcloserwithandre Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/comingcloserwithandre?_rdc=1&_rdr# Media profile: https://www.guestsonair.com/profile/andre-lazarus PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJh Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠⁠ Ruan's book in order: directly from Ruan https://payhip.com/b/pMxn3 Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing LLC. All Rights Reserved. Andre's Bio: Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognised voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has followed an unconventional path: from serving in the U.S. Marines to guiding people through the complexities of intimacy and desire. That breadth of experience gives him a distinctive perspective on courage, vulnerability, and human connection. He is best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner helping participants confront intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists. The program drew national attention, and Andre's presence on screen highlighted how intimacy work is not about performance but about safety, consent, and the courage to connect. Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre supports individuals and couples across a wide range of needs: men facing midlife performance concerns, survivors of trauma seeking safety, long-term partners wanting to revive passion, and those exploring alternatives such as ethical non-monogamy. Equally, he works with couples committed to monogamy who want to strengthen trust and rediscover each other. His approach, rooted in the Somatica® Method of sex and intimacy coaching, emphasises learning through the body and replacing shame with curiosity. While Andre has also taught workshops introducing kink and alternative practices, he situates them within a broader conversation: how people of all backgrounds can embrace intimacy as part of their wellbeing. His message consistently comes back to honesty, communication, and self-awareness as the foundations for connection.

Suzanne called in to discuss her experience swinging at different times throughout her life. Tune in to hear her discuss the guy she dated after her divorce who got her into swinging and the stuff she tried with him, the next guy who made all her fantasies come true and the specific things she wanted to experience, when and why she eventually got sick of swinging, the negative side of the Lifestyle she experienced, her fiftieth birthday fantasy that come true, how and why at 60 she decided to get back into swinging and why she wasn't into the clubs anymore, how she went back to visit Cap d'Agde in France solo and exactly what goes down there, the fantasies that she lived out that she enjoyed the most and why, the HRT she is on and how it helps her, how her libido changed over time and how she is gets in the mood and how what turns her on have changed, the kinda of guys she dates now and what she's looking for plus a whole lot more, Her podcast Sex Advice for Seniors GET A COPY OF THE STRICTLY ANONYMOUS BOOK! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY HERE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  To see HOT pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠strictlyanonymouspodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed.   Sponsors:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.quince.com/strictlyanon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — For premium quality Quince clothing plus FREE shipping and 365 day returns! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LOADBOOST.COM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — To get 10% off LOAD BOOST by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2614-anonymous —⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click here to take the quiz and  get your personalized roadmap to sexual happiness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Get 10% OFF your first month of Bluechew GOLD! Use code: STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me! Instagram  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ X  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Everything else: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's no cut-off point when it comes to understanding what you like in bed as my guest on this week's podcast, Kathy Kay, discovered. Kathy is, for those who know their podcasters, the wildly successful New York based host of the Strictly Anonymous podcast and what a treat it was to have her come on Sex Advice for Seniors.Over 11 years, she has been collecting anonymous sexual confessions. Over 1300 of them and guess what? (She makes my 180+ episodes seem pedestrian, in comparison!). The over 60s are consistently her most surprising guests, with many in their 70s confessing that it was only recently they discovered their sexual preferences.There's a couple in her new book, Secret Sex Lies of Total Strangers, who met after their spouses died and built a sex barn in their backyard. In their 70s. Neither of them saw it coming and they're having a blast.Here's what we cover:* Couples in their 70s having the best sex of their lives* The sex barn story you won't forget in a hurry* Why open relationships are often closer than conventional ones* Men with decades of secrets and what finally changes at 50* Why desire grows as you get older, not the other way roundTo see exclusive photos of Kathy's female guests, gain access to her private Discord channel where conversations get extra naughty, hear anonymous confessions, and receive all episodes early and ad-free, listeners can join the Strictly Anonymous Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcastKathy's book, Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers—a collection of short, super sexy, true stories—is now available for pre-order. Get a copy here.To join SDC and receive a free trial, click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or visit SDC.com and use code 37712.Call the Confessions Hotline at 347-420-3579 (available 24/7). All voices are changed to ensure anonymity.Follow along:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=enWebsite: http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/All links: https://linktr.ee/StrictlyanonymouspodcastMy new program for men with Erectile Dysfunction. Check it out here, current introductory offer only $49.99 https://www.stayfirmprogram.comUnlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You'll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you're ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.More than ever, I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you are able. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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Panelists give tips on how to increase pleasure when you're super stressed. Host Karen Yates delivers her Sermon on the Pubic Mound on getting grounded. And the audience tells us the weirdest places they've had sex. From our Seventh Anniversary show October 12, 2025. The October live show's main show sponsor was Rowan Tree Counseling. On this episode:Matthew Amador, therapistDr. Jennifer Litner, sex therapistZeuben Painter-Edington, surrogate partnerHost Karen Yates  - host, somatic sex educator, energy workerWant more Wild & Sublime? Join The Afterglow for bonus content and Wild & Sublime goodies! Or show your love for sex-positive podcasting: Leave a lil' tip!Check out our new line of tees and accessories! Be wild & sublime every day! Shipping discounts for orders over $50.Do you feel stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.Get tickets to our Valentine's Kick Off in Chicago! Burlesque, standup and lively conversation about sex. Sunday Feb 8 at 6pm at the Lincoln Lodge! Tickets here!Support the showFollow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Can a marriage survive infidelity?This week I spoke with Renelle Nelson, a licensed marriage and family therapist who's spent 11 years specialising in affair recovery. She helps couples rebuild after betrayal, when everything's shattered and nobody knows where to start.Turns out infidelity isn't just sex outside the marriage. It's anytime you go outside your relationship to get pleasure that should be shared within it. Money. Communication. Emotional affairs. Physical ones. Renelle prefers the word “betrayal” because it's more accurate. You break contracts you didn't realise you'd signed.Here's the thing nobody talks about: it's not a male sport anymore. In her practice, men and women cheat in equal numbers. Women are leaving marriages after raising kids, after becoming empty nesters. The emotional labour falls heavily on them. Sometimes an affair is escape from domesticity. Not dissatisfaction. Escape.So what does affair recovery actually look like?Different from regular marriage counselling, for starters. More talking won't prevent betrayal. More sex won't prevent it. More date nights won't prevent it. The only things that stop betrayal are communication and not wanting to do it. That's it.Renelle's approach: you can't heal what you can't reveal. She works with the person who cheated first. Who did they become? What need were they trying to meet? Then she works with the person who stayed. Both deserve healing. Neither caused the affair, but both are responsible for their part in the marriage moving forward.I asked whether opening a relationship after betrayal ever works.Her answer was direct: it doesn't. Couples who open relationships successfully do so from trust and solid foundation. Starting that journey on a lie, with one partner settling because they can't keep the other person faithful, almost always fails. If you can't communicate basic needs with one person, adding more people just multiplies the chaos.My favourite bit? Renelle's seeing younger couples come to therapy after dating a month, maybe two. They want to learn how to communicate before problems arrive. They're treating therapy as education, not crisis management. They want enhancement, exploration, education, eroticism. That last one matters most.Eroticism is what's missing in long-term relationships, she said. When it leaves, people turn to porn. When you think you know everything about your partner, desire dries up.Literally.As Renelle put it: “When you think you know it all, that means you dried up. You're not getting hard or wet.”Fair point.What Matters* Women cheat just as much as men now. The numbers are equal.* Affair recovery heals individuals first, then the relationship.* You can't heal what you refuse to reveal. Truth comes before repair.* Opening relationships after betrayal rarely works. Trust must exist first.* Eroticism sustains long-term desire. Mystery matters more than familiarity.* Younger couples seek therapy as prevention. That's actual progress.Check out these resources from Renelle:The Pleasure Agenda: Couples Edition Undated PlannerPleasure After Betrayal: Aftercare Edition Undated PlannerThe Couple's Connection DeckConnect with RenelleWebsite https://renellenelson.thinkific.com/InstagramFacebookUnlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You'll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you're ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscribe This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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If you've been in a long-term relationship for years (or decades), there's a good chance this sentence will feel uncomfortably familiar: “We haven't had sex in years, and I don't know how to fix it.”That's exactly why this week's episode of Sex Advice for Seniors hits such a very familiar nerve for me, because it speaks to my own experience.My guest, Elana Auerbach, didn't come on the podcast with a tidy theory or a list of bedroom “tips.” She came with something far more useful: a lived solution and I'm all about practical ways to fix everyday problems. After nearly twelve years of frustration, mismatched desire, and quietly building resentment in her marriage, Elana and her husband found their way back to intimacy through something surprisingly simple: a weekly, scheduled pleasure practice she now calls The Sure Thing .Yes, scheduled sex. You know, the type of sex I harp on about infinitum. In fact, as I openly shared in the conversation, putting intimacy in the diary can be deeply liberating. When the time is protected, there's no negotiating, no wondering if tonight is “the night,” no mental load filled with grocery lists or laundry. The body and brain get advance notice: this time is for pleasure. For many women, especially as we agem anticipation alone can gently press our internal intimacy accelerator, much like a car long forgotten in the garage. Once neglected and dust-covered, it's now a vehicle we've chosen to repair, restore, and bring back to life.What makes Elana's approach refreshing is that it removes performance pressure entirely. The intention isn't orgasm. Sex isn't mandatory. Penetration isn't the goal. The only aim is to deepen intimacy, pleasure, and connection. Sometimes that leads to sex. Sometimes it doesn't. And paradoxically, that's exactly why it works.A big turning point in the episode is the discussion around responsive desire - the very normal experience of not feeling “in the mood” until touch, closeness, or sensual context begins. Many older women assume their libido has disappeared when in reality it's simply waiting for the right conditions. A kiss on the neck. Lying in bed together. Holding hands. Small things that let the nervous system relax and say, oh, yes, this feels good.Perhaps most powerful of all is Elana's insistence that this practice doesn't depend on having a willing partner. There's a “solo Sure Thing” too, a reminder that pleasure, connection, and kindness toward our own bodies are not things we earn through relationship status.If intimacy has quietly slipped out of your life, this episode is a hopeful place to start. And if you think scheduled pleasure sounds unromantic, you might just discover it's the most freeing thing you've tried in years.

What do we learn about sex when no one talks about pleasure?In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, clinical psychologist Dr. La Keita Carter (Dr. L) joined me for a powerful, honest conversation about sex, silence, and the myths surrounding women of colour and intimacy. We explore how cultural messages, shame, and generational “don't bring a baby into this house” rules shape sexual desire, relationships, and self-worth, often long into adulthood.Dr. L breaks down the difference between sexual interest and sexual activity, why so many women feel obligated to have sex they don't want, and how the “strong woman” stereotype leaves little room for softness in the bedroom.A thoughtful, eye-opening discussion about pleasure, power, and why whatever we're silent about often carries the most shame.

Dr. Delaney is joined by Laura Kastner, PhD, a clinical psychologist and author of multiple parenting books. Together, they delve into strategies for talking to our teens about sex and not letting taboo or embarrassment get in the way of what can be vital conversations. Covering topics such as consent and alcohol they emphasize the significance of being an 'askable parent' through encouraging open conversation and not being afraid to talk plainly about what can be perceived as delicate or awkward topics for both teens and parents.   Please note this episode features discussion of mature themes and is intended for an adult audience.   Featured Expert Laura Kastner, PhD   Books Wise-Minded Parenting Getting To Calm: Cool-headed strategies for parenting tweens and teens The Launching Years: Strategies for Parenting from Senior Year to College Life The Seven-Year Stretch: How Families Work Together to Grow Through Adolescence ‍ Additional Resources Screenagers Website Bring Screenagers to Your Community   Time Code 00:00 Introduction to the Screenagers Podcast 00:37 Meet Dr. Laura Kastner: Expert on Parenting Teens 00:48 The Importance of Open Communication 01:13 Challenges in Discussing Physical Intimacy 02:19 Addressing Taboos and Difficult Topics 03:27 Psychological Immunization and Early Conversations 04:48 Practical Tips for Parents 05:28 Real-Life Examples and Focus Groups 08:45 The Role of Humility in Parenting 10:28 Discussing Consent and Alcohol 17:30 Concluding Thoughts and Resources

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As we age, the complexities of love and intimacy evolve, often leading to challenges that can impact our relationships. In this episode of “Sex Advice for Seniors,” I engaged in a candid conversation with clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Stewart, exploring the intersection of mental health, retirement, and sexual relationships among older adults. One of the key themes we discussed was the profound effect of mental health on sexual relationships, particularly for men in later life. Dr. Stewart pointed out that many older adults experience a crisis of identity after retirement. For instance, men who have defined themselves by their careers may struggle with feelings of depression and aimlessness post-retirement. This shift can lead to challenges in intimacy, as depression can diminish sexual desire. Dr. Stewart emphasised that it's difficult to engage in a fulfilling sex life when one is battling feelings of inadequacy or sadness.Ageing is a complex journey that affects our relationships in profound ways. As Dr. Stewart highlighted, understanding the interplay between mental health, medication, and intimacy is vital for older adults. Open communication, empathy, and a willingness to explore new forms of intimacy can help partners navigate the challenges that arise as they age together. By fostering understanding and connection, couples can maintain vibrant, fulfilling relationships well into their later years.Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber. You'll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. If you're ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with volleyball legend Gabby Reece—professional athlete, podcast host of The Gabby Reece Show, entrepreneur—to talk about the unsexy truths that actually keep long-term relationships alive. Gabby pulls no punches as she reveals her controversial "48-hour sex rule," and how treating sex like going to the gym (just get your shoes on and show up) has sustained their passion for decades. This conversation dismantles the romanticized version of marriage and replaces it with raw honesty about vulnerability, stoicism almost ending her relationship, and why "misogynists are bitches" but real masculinity is powerful, protective, and tender. Gabby shares her four rules for keeping an alpha male happy (hint: food and sex made the list), the farmer versus flower dynamic that prevents resentment, and why her self-care hierarchy puts herself first, her relationship second, and her kids third—unapologetically. In this episode, you'll learn: • The 48-hour sex rule works—scheduling sex isn't sexy, but it's sexier than one partner begging and the other constantly rejecting; Gabby and Laird have sex every other day, and she admits she strategically loads her calendar the day after because she "doesn't have to answer to anyone" • Clear the decks daily to avoid divorce—Laird confronts everything immediately (every look, tone, word) so resentments never build; Gabby credits this practice with saving their marriage after years of her being too stoic nearly ended it • Understanding the farmer vs. flower dynamic—sometimes one partner is in the spotlight (the flower) while the other supports (the farmer), and the roles switch; when one person is always the farmer, resentment builds and relationships suffer • Real masculinity isn't misogyny—true masculine strength includes compassion, protection, and tenderness; we've trained men to feel bad about their masculinity, and bringing kindness (not anger) while setting boundaries helps everyone thrive • You have the goods—ask for what you want—Gabby's advice to young women about sex is radical: stop performing, start demanding your pleasure, and remember that good sex is about mutual understanding, not just one person's orgasm More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily's favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you'll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let's get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let's text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Common Confidential  Use code SEXWITHEMILY! https://commonconfidential.com/s/sexwithemily Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:21 - The Challenge of Bringing More Play Into Life 7:06 - 28 Years Together: Gabby's 3 Keys to a Strong Marriage 9:03 - Clear the Decks: Daily Communication That Saves Relationships 14:19 - Farmer vs Flower: Understanding Relationship Roles 22:48 - Why Self-Care Isn't Selfish (Especially for Moms) 28:34 - Lifting Weights: The Real Anti-Aging Secret for Women 29:04 - The 4 Rules for Keeping Your Partner Happy 39:18 - The 48-Hour Rule 42:26 - When You're Doing It for Them (And Why That's OK) 50:01 - Biggest Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice for Young Women

In this conversation, I speak with psychotherapist and sexologist Suzannah Weiss about women's sexual health, the challenges we face, and why it's so important for us to advocate for our own needs. We discuss her book Eve's Blessing, which explores how pain has been normalised in women's lives and why healthcare systems need to respond more effectively. We also talk about empowerment, objectification, and the vital role of consent, especially in the context of sexual assault. Together, we explore how women can navigate their sexuality post‑menopause and the importance of finding healthcare providers who truly support us.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Sex Advice for Seniors01:21 Eve's Blessing: Women's Sexual Health and Pain05:30 The Importance of Healthcare in Women's Sexuality10:11 Subjectified: Empowerment and Objectification17:29 Healing Through Narrative: Sexual Assault and Consent23:05 Navigating Sexuality Post-Menopause26:45 Conclusion and Resourceswww.suzannahweiss.comhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1549106https://www.amazon.com/Eves-Blessing-Uncovering-Pleasure-Behind/dp/1509566171/https://www.amazon.com/Subjectified-Becoming-Subject-Suzannah-Weiss/dp/150956019XUnlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber. You'll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. If you're ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Today on Sex Advice for Seniors, I'm speaking with Dr. Tammy Nelson, a sex and relationship expert, psychotherapist, author, and host of The Trouble with Sex. Tammy joins me from Los Angeles to talk about her book Open Monogamy, a title that grabbed me immediately. We explore what “open” and “monogamy” can mean today, why relationship agreements are no longer one‑size‑fits‑all, and how couples can navigate changing needs, fantasies, jealousy, and long‑term desire with honesty, integrity, and transparency.In an era where traditional relationship models are being challenged, Dr. Tammy Nelson's concept of “open monogamy” is gaining traction. This innovative idea invites couples to explore their commitments openly, redefining what monogamy means in today's world. I'm curious to know - what does commitment mean to you?00:00 Introduction to Open Monogamy02:32 The Concept of Open Monogamy05:31 Navigating Relationship Changes08:17 Communication in Relationships11:03 Defining Monogamy and Non-Monogamy14:01 Jealousy and Relationship Dynamics16:33 The Role of Appreciation in Relationships19:35 Fantasies and Their Impact on Relationships22:26 Conclusion and Key TakeawaysYou can find Dr. Tammy Nelson here.Browse Dr. Tammy Nelson's eBooks here.Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber. You'll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. If you're ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Suzanne Noble joins me for a raw, funny, direct conversation about dating, sex, kink and honesty after 50. You hear what dating looks like in the UK versus the US, why so many men think they are going to be the one to “fix” your orgasm, how porn shapes expectations, how women think about body image as we age, and why younger partners are on the rise. Suzanne breaks down the UK's kink culture, why dominatrixes are fully booked, and how to explore safely. We also talk about jealousy, non-traditional relationships, safety on dating apps, catfishing, and why so many of us refuse to shave our pubic hair for a man. This episode is candid, smart, and packed with insights about midlife dating and sexual confidence.Timestamps:In this episode: 00:00 Holiday masterclass offer00:35 Welcome intro and episode setup01:18 Are Brits more open about sex02:22 The UK's kink history and boarding school culture03:58 How early life stages shape sexual dynamics05:20 BDSM clubs and the UK Femdom scene06:35 Why kink is built around control, not intercourse07:40 Are Brits really more open than Americans08:32 Dating men who listen to the podcast09:48 Younger men and orgasm expectations10:42 Why people hide their curiosity about sex11:30 Porn influence, squirting, and sexual performance myths12:45 The rise of sexual repression in America13:40 Dating younger partners and why it appeals to women14:55 Midlife relationships, jealousy, and complexity16:05 Opening relationships and personal boundaries16:58 How to stay safe while dating after 5018:10 Spotting catfish and bot profiles19:22 When a profile is too good to be true20:15 Shifting into body image and aging21:00 Feeling confident naked as you age21:48 When men do not match their claimed fitness22:25 Grooming norms. Pubic hair expectations in the UK23:05 Saying no to grooming requests you do not want23:42 Early experiences with kink24:30 Why experience matters for safety in kink25:10 Learning impact play in community spaces25:35 Closing thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Suzanne Noble is the Co-founder of Startup School for Seniors, co-host of Sex Advice for Seniors, and jazz & blues pro singer.

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card!  ⁠⁠⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ Sponsored by Je Joue ⁠https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST⁠ Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ⁠ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description Jordana Abraham and Jared Freed from the U Up? podcast join Dr. Emily for a lively conversation about navigating modern dating without losing your mind. They kick things off with dating horror stories—including Jared's epic backwards fall off a patio chair that took out a sandwich board and a heat lamp. The conversation dives into why so many dates feel like obligations instead of opportunities. Jared and Jordana explain the "sure, I'll go" trap—how settling for matches that are just "fine" leads to boring dates and dating burnout. They emphasize trusting your gut and only going on dates when you're genuinely excited, not just because you feel like you should. They tackle dating app fatigue, discussing why some people thrive on apps while others find them soul-crushing. The key insight: it's about how you use them. Treating apps like a binge-worthy Netflix show instead of something you check in on intentionally (like one hour a week) kills the fun and makes everything feel transactional. The episode includes a listener question about a toxic long-distance relationship where a 22-year-old woman keeps breaking up and getting back together with an insecure boyfriend who constantly asks "are you still into me?" Jared and Jordana break down why this is a mismatch built on drama rather than trust, why her friends are right to be concerned, and how to choose which friends to actually listen to when it comes to relationship advice. They wrap with quickfire questions about turn-ons, turn-offs, what makes good sex, and the number one thing everyone should know: just because the sex is good doesn't mean the relationship is good. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 4:32 - Why "Sure, I'll Go" is Ruining Your Dating Life 10:09 - Dating App Profile Tips That Actually Work 12:43 - The Truth About Casual Sex on Dating Apps 18:13 - Are You Too Picky or Protecting Your Peace? 20:15 - The Ick Factor: When Small Things End Relationships 24:24 - Friend Zone Reality Check: When They're Not Into You 30:20 - Age Gap Sex Anxiety: Why He's Holding Back 33:24 - Toxic Long-Distance Relationship Red Flags 37:40 - Five Quickies: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had the pleasure of speaking with the remarkable Dr. Susan Campbell—psychologist, relationship coach, and author of Getting Real, The Couple's Journey, From Triggered to Tranquil, and many more. Susan is in her 80s and in a loving relationship with a partner also in his 80s, and we had an open and wonderfully honest discussion about what sex, intimacy, and connection look like in our later years. She shared how she met her partner online in their mid‑70s, what makes their relationship thrive, and how they've both redefined pleasure as their bodies continue to change with age.Susan's approach to intimacy is warm, playful, and I enjoyed our conversation immensely. We talked about how scheduling “love dates,” using mirrors, dancing, experimenting with new erogenous zones, and finding humour in the realities of ageing all help keep things fun and sensual. She reminded me that sex doesn't have to mean penetration to be satisfying - it's about staying curious, laughing together, and remaining open to new ways of giving and receiving pleasure. She even confessed that her orgasms are better than ever at 84, which gives all of us something to look forward to!What struck me most about Susan is her combination of wisdom and vulnerability. She spoke beautifully about accepting physical changes, supporting a partner through cognitive decline, and finding meaning and intimacy even as we experience loss. Her philosophy is all about honesty, compassion, and embracing life as it is — laughter, limitations, lust, and all. It's truly inspiring to see what intimacy in your 80s can look like when you stay connected through communication, humour, and love.00:00 Introduction to Aging and Sexuality02:40 Navigating Online Dating in Later Life05:32 The Evolution of Intimacy and Sexuality08:04 The Importance of Communication in Relationships10:47 Building Confidence and Resilience in Dating13:45 Exploring Sexuality Beyond Penetration16:15 The Role of Humor and Playfulness in Intimacy19:07 Addressing Vulnerability and Loss in Aging21:48 Intentionality in Sexual Relationships24:26 Exploring Alternatives to Penetrative Sex27:08 Creative Approaches to Intimacy29:46 The Power of Vulnerability and Honesty in RelationshipsHi, I'm Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,' pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life'* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later lifeI'm grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.Thousands of people are saying, I'm so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn't have the confidence to do it. If you'd like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe.Hey, but don't take it from me. Here's what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card!  ⁠⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Sponsored by Je Joue https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Liz Moody—bestselling author, podcast host, and the woman who turned her life around from severe agoraphobia to help others level up their lives with science-backed strategies. The morbid exercise that Liz swears by for making better decisions in bed and everywhere else—and why thinking about your 85-year-old self might be the permission slip you need to stop worrying about how your thighs look in those pants. Why "friends with benefits" might mean something completely different to you than it does to your partner—and the crucial conversation most couples skip before slapping labels on their relationship (spoiler: this applies to marriage too). The biggest myth about what makes someone "good" in bed, and why Liz believes your sex life can transform no matter where you're starting from. That one body part you've never considered an erogenous zone—until Liz reveals hers and suddenly you're rethinking everything you thought you knew about turn-ons. The real reason habits fail (hint: it's not about willpower)—and why letting go of routines that once served you doesn't make you a failure, it makes you self-aware. Plus: the conversation starter deck that's saving marriages by getting couples on the same page about money, desire, childhood trauma, and the question "how much do you need to feel safe?" that revealed way more than Liz expected. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:00 - The 100 Ways Framework: Spring Cleaning Your Life 5:00 - Think About Your Death: The Power of Zoom-Out Perspective 8:07 - Micro Workouts: Movement for Mental Health, Not Body Size 9:55 - Rewire Your Brain for Happiness: The 5-Second Joy Practice 16:00 - Be the CEO of Your Household: Weekly Relationship Meetings 18:30 - Sex Starts When You Wake Up: Micro Intimacy Throughout the Day 21:47 - Why Communication Makes Sex Better After 15 Years 28:12 - Let Your Partner Surprise You: Breaking Free from Old Resentments 30:00 - Your Personal Bill of Rights (Including Sexual Rights) 32:05 - The Orgasm Gap: Why 20 Minutes is Normal 36:24 - Body Confidence: Your Body is for Living, Not Looking 42:01 - Boundaries as Energy Protection (Not Just Saying "No") 49:51 - Friends with Benefits to Dating: Defining Your Relationship 56:28 - Lightning Round: Biggest Turn-Ons & Sex Advice

Lorraine & Trish meet relationship therapist & author Dr Kalanit Ben-Ari, who has spent 20 years helping thousands of couples navigate the emotional rollercoaster of sustaining a happy, loving and fulfilling life together. What to do if you suspect your partner's having an emotional affair, questions to ask if they no longer seem like the person you married, & the five words that will get your communication right back on track. Plus: ‘What are you going to do about your wrinkles?' How Lorraine responded when asked that very question!!Contact: hello@postcardsfrommidlife.comInstagram: @postcardsfrommidlifeJoin our private Facebook Group here www.postcardsfrommidlife.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you want to supercharge the intimacy in any relationship, think about the asks that you don't ask.   In this episode, I will teach you how to name those asks, how to deshame them, and how to present them in a way that leads to greater closeness with your friends, with your family, in your love relationship, and with yourself.   Listen For: 01:59 Asking as an act of self-love 09:25 How unspoken needs harm connection 16:15 Self-honoring exercises you can try 20:45 Why big asks reveal relationship truth 21:52 Awkwardness, risk, and intimacy growth   SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS   Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one click   CONNECT WITH KEN: Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | X

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ In this data-packed episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily sits down with social psychologist and Kinsey Institute researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller to break down what science actually tells us about our sexual fantasies, kinks, and casual hookups. This conversation is full of insights that will make you rethink what's "normal" in bed, and help you embrace your desires with more compassion and clarity. Dr. Lehmiller reveals the most common sexual fantasies (hint: kink is more mainstream than you think) and explains what our fantasies say about our emotional needs and life history. We explore the truth about gender differences in fantasies, how to safely explore kink and consensual non-monogamy, and research on why some people thrive with casual sex while others don't. This episode covers practical tips for talking about fantasies with your partner without shame or pressure, plus why self-awareness (not fantasy content) is the key to sexual fulfillment. Whether you're curious about exploring fantasies, navigating open relationships, or just want to understand the psychology of desire, this conversation brings research and real talk together in a way that's both validating and thought-provoking. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction & The Kink Revolution 4:07 - Fantasy vs Reality: The Threesome Gap 11:43 - Why Gay Men Have Better Threesomes  18:17 - What Gay vs Straight Men Really Have in Common  25:04 - The Kinsey Scale & Sexual Fluidity Explained  31:20 - Friends with Benefits: What Actually Works  35:00 - The Couples Vibrator Study Results  37:45 - Dutch Sex Education: What America Gets Wrong  44:13 - How to Talk to Kids About Masturbation  48:51 - Quickfire Questions: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice