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SHOW NOTES: Sexual preferences, emotional attachment, relationship advice, commitment, emotional connection, personal growth, dating challenges, confidence, relationships, self-improvement, modern dating, communication and more ... In this episode of M and Friends we debate dating, relationship, love AND sex and take ANONYMOUS QUESTIONS from women and ask a panel of men who wanted to honestly answer -even if it hurts.  #7 is one hell of a good time as well as insightful -we think women will walk away glad they listened and will have gotten what they listened for : ))) This episode is PACKED with real talk, real answers and real moments - aaaand real laughter. AS ALWAYS we hope that this real talk creates your own topic of conversations with friends and partners in life to help nurture genuine relationships, self awareness and emotional awareness ESPECIALLY in an AI WORLD. CAST: MJAIE, MIKE, MEHDI, JACKSON   Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the Conversation 00:59 Masturbation and Frequency 02:31 Impact of Porn on Men 06:04 Understanding Good and Bad Sex 09:58 The Concept of 'Good' and 'Bad' Pussy 14:55 The Role of Emotional Connection in Sex 20:01 Vulnerability and Relationships 24:59 Advice for Women in the Bedroom 30:00 Navigating Sexual Preferences and Experiences 33:35 The Importance of Connection in Intimacy 39:01 Kissing: The Gateway to Good Sex 44:53 Understanding Personal Hygiene and Preferences 50:41 The Role of Chemistry in Relationships 55:41 Taste and Sensation: The Experience of Intimacy 58:22 Understanding Male Perspectives on Relationships 01:00:04 The Complexity of Commitment and Cheating 01:00:59 Dating Dynamics: Age and Maturity 01:05:02 Breakups and Self-Discovery 01:06:00 The Impact of Age Differences in Relationships 01:09:57 Body Count: Perspectives and Expectations 01:15:00 Personal Hygiene and Health in Relationships 01:19:02 Expectations and Pressures on Women 01:23:00 Faking Orgasms and Emotional Attachments 01:24:14 Understanding Communication Differences Between Genders 01:27:43 The Impact of Communication Styles on Relationships 01:31:38 Exploring Attitudes Towards Anal Sex 01:35:08 The Complexity of Sexual Preferences and Relationships 01:40:39 The Importance of Self-Love and Personal Growth 01:48:29 The Influence of Social Media on Modern Relationships 01:49:30 The Importance of Commitment and Routine 01:51:17 Seeking Deeper Emotional Connections 01:54:01 Understanding Emotional Stunt and Growth 02:00:10 The Role of Past Experiences in Relationships 02:02:47 Building Confidence and Taking Action 02:10:04 Navigating Modern Dating Challenges 02:19:02 Closing Thoughts and Future Conversations 02:14:59 Contact Information and Business Promotion   M and Friends is a hilarious and fiery talk show segment of Love and Lies Podcast in a round table REAL TALK setting going over fun debates, dating advice, relationship tips and sex discussions. M and her friend group and a mystery guest navigate life on each show. Rich in laughter and a feel-good time, the topics are something to consider for all. A question is taken from the listeners who seeks advice on life or love. M gives her power coaching thoughts, while the girls give their opinion and our lucky male gives a man's POV. The cast takes on one vocabulary word to see who knows it and its meaning while listeners and cast learn together! OF COURSE sex comes up A LOT and so does relationships as M is a professional sex coach. Really anything can happen here and its all captured. Let's GOOOOO!! Unplug from the pressures of the world around you and chill with M and Friends.   ABOUT LOVE AND LIES PODCAST: LIFE COACH and lighthearted host ❤M'JAIE MANGUS❤ in her provocative talk show covers topics that range from sugar daddies, suicide to success and everything in between! Guests opt in to be anonymous or not so anonymous in order to share the truth and empower listeners. SIGNATURE ANONYMOUS INTERVIEWS are modeled after Oscar Wilde's quote, “If you give a man a mask he will tell you everything”. In these interviews the guests remain anonymous and tell all. LOVE AND LIES PODCAST was inspired by Mjaie's life and love coaching practice. These episodes are NOT coaching sessions but are interviews hosted by Mjaie and with people whom she finds fascinating and feels their story will educate us, aid us in progress to understand one another while breaking down barriers as we set aside judgment for a better self and world. M and Friends is brought to you by Love and Lies Podcast and is pure entertainment for listeners as guests go over debates and advice. WANNA SUBMIT A QUESTION FOR OUR SHOW? NEED ADVICE? WANT TO CONFESS (WE KEEP IT ANONYMOUS): You may contact our studio by email:LoveAndLiesPodcast@gmail.com for more information.   Mjaie Mangus: Certified Life and Sex Coach, Behavior Specialist, Host, artist, columnist for RUNWAY Magazine    THANK YOU FOR LISTENING! SOCIAL MEDIA: *NEW: JOIN US ON LOCALS WHERE WE ARE UNCENSORED, GIVE EXCLUSIVE BEHIND THE SCENE FOOTAGE, HELP US CREATE INTERVIEW QUESTIONS, GIVE-A-WAYS, CAN BECOME A GUEST ON M AND FRIENDS AND MORE!   " Our favorite place to be with you is on LOCALS" - Mjaie   ALL SOCIAL MEDIA @ LOVE AND LIES PODCAST   ALL SOCIAL MEDIA @ MJAIE MANGUS   THANK YOU FOR LISTENIG AND WE LOVE YOU!

Go for a second try... Not Father's Day but it's Father's Day... Katie's little agro kitty... Katie finds an article from the 1900's and boy did it not age well... Sometimes you have to read between lines people... Don't adjust your socks or bra in public if you are a lady... Don't discuss sex in bed... How to find a women's urethrae in real life... You need to be a sexpert... Katie doesn't want to deal with any virgins... There are a lot of psycho women in Florida... When Katie was recruited to be a prostitute... Navigating very seedy places... The Key to a hot honeymoon is separate beds... Consent still applies... Women shouldn't have sex on her period or the man might get an std... If you use tampons you could break your pussy... If you masturbate your tits will not grow... Punching someone in their chest hole... You must have pink panties with ruffles... Katie hits some buttons again... How to tell if your husband hates you... Another man arrested for stealing pool floats and having sex with them... Only Fans model has sex with 50 men on her wedding night, filming it, getting caught by her husband and now divorced... Good old fashioned pump and dump... The secret hole Katie says men have that they really don't have... Punch a fascist... Goodbye Maddie, we'll miss you!

Shownotes   The best and worst sex ideas of 2025 The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone Why safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic The biggest sexual problems people face Dr. Emily's take on why people cheat How sex is a multi-layered experience   Bio   Emily Morse is a doctor of human sexuality and host of the award-winning #1 sexuality podcast, “Sex With Emily,” which has been on air for two decades. She's a MasterClass instructor on sex and communication and the bestselling author of Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ & Own Your Pleasure. Emily has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes and Men's Health and has been featured by The Today Show, Conan, Entertainment Tonight, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Bustle and others.   Dr. Emily's mission is to liberate the conversation about sex and pleasure. Her candid conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives.   Learn more about Dr. Emily and find her work on her website.   Timestamps   00:00:41 - Guest introduction 00:02:20 - What made you so good at talking about sex 00:04:43 - If you can't talk about something, then you can't have an empowering relationship to it 00:10:31 - Sign up for Layla's newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:11:28 - Layla sexts with ChatGPT 00:14:31 - The worst sex ideas of 2025 00:17:42 - Every human is a magical universe 00:20:50 - Layla talks about her dating journey as a single woman 00:26:14 - The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone 00:26:56 - The key to how Layla healed her unworthiness 00:31:57 - Even the experts are still human 00:33:41 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification  00:36:53 - Layla and Dr. Emily drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™ 00:41:36 - Why Layla created MOOD Sexy Supplements 00:43:30 - Dr. Emily shares about her journey with somatic therapy 00:47:28 - Safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic 00:48:20 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:49:09 - What are the biggest sexual problems people face 00:54:56 - Do people who don't practice sacred sexuality experience spirituality during sex? 00:57:30 - The divine is there in every moment, winking at you 00:58:27 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside ⁠Crystal Pleasure⁠ 00:59:30 - Dr. Emily talks about why people cheat 01:08:31 - Sex is a multi-layered experience 01:13:40 - How ecstasy amplifies your manifesting powers 01:20:07 - Conclusion

Austin Cresap is therapist specialising in sex therapy and sex education in Seattle, Washington, and Hawaii.In this conversation, she shared some fantastic ideas and practical tips for making intimacy easier, more playful and that takes the pressure out of who initiates sex. She talked about using a secret signal, like a coffee cup, to indicate interest in intimacy. Austin also introduced the "No, but…" approach, as a way of overcoming the challenge of mismatched libidos - a more thoughtful way to reject an act without rejecting your partner, keeping the connection intact.For me, preparation is a big part of intimacy. Whether it's putting on something that makes me feel attractive, doing my hair, or just mentally getting into the mood, it's all part of the process. I also made the case for scheduling intimacy and we discussed why it's not unromantic. As we discussed, we schedule everything else in life, so why not prioritise time for connection? What really resonated with me was how creativity can transform intimacy. Whether it's playful signals like the coffee cup, role-playing, or simply planning ahead, it's all about keeping things fresh and fun. As Austin pointed out, these approaches help couples navigate busy lives and different arousal styles, making intimacy less about spontaneity and more about meaningful connection. You can find Austin at:http://www.icameheretotalktherapy.com00:00 Introduction to Sex Advice for Seniors01:54 Exploring Intimacy and Nonverbal Cues12:20 Understanding Female Hormones and Sexuality19:33 Cultural Perspectives on Aging and Sexuality26:00 The Pressure of Performance in Sexual Relationships30:10 Creative Approaches to IntimacyIf you enjoyed our conversation, let me know! I love to hear from my listeners (and it doesn't happen often enough). If you've found any of the tips on this or any of my shows helpful, a review on iTunes would go a very long way.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

One of the perks of my job is having the opportunity to try out a multitude of sex toys, many of which made it into my booklet and the people behind their creation. Suki Dunham is the co-founder of OhMiBod, one of my sponsors, and is a pioneer in a predominantly male industry. During our conversation, we talk about her early days as a sex tech entrepreneur, the challenges of marketing sexual health products and the future of sex toys, especially around the integration of AI. I'm a great believer that sex toys are there to enhance sexual pleasure and aren't in competition with penises and vaginas but rather a way to increase stimulation, especially at an age when both women and men may find it difficult to orgasm. All the OhMiBod products are incredibly well made and safe, and there are even toys such as the LoveLife Rev that Suki has designed especially for people with arthritis who may find more traditional toys challenging to grip. Suki is offering Sex Advice for Seniors followers: USE CODE SAFS20 for 20% off of Lovelifetoys.com.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better SexYour subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Indigo Stray Conger has been a therapist since 2008 and has completed over a decade of therapeutic training. She is one of less than ten AASECT certified sex therapists at a supervisory level in the state of Colorado.During our conversation, we delve into what somatic psychotherapy entails and also the role of EMDR in trauma healing, and the challenges of intimacy in relationships.As we discuss, trauma can turn up in relationships in many forms can impact on both the psychological and physical barriers to intimacy, which can prevent singles and couples from fully exploring the many ways to experience sexual pleasure.EMDR is a tool I have used myself to try and overcome phobias and also behaviours that don't serve me well. If you're unfamiliar with the technique, EMDR, or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is most commonly used to treat PTSD, but now is used to solve a range of issues. It involves recalling the traumatic episode, or the particular fear, and then through specific eye movements and some other type of stimulation (talking, for example), the brain reprocesses the memory and reduces its significance in your mind. It may sound woo-woo, but it's actually not and very quickly can help in situations where the traumatic episode is quite specific (at least, that was my own experience).We also touch on the importance of consent, proper sex eduction and how sexual orientations such as asexuality and demisexuality are gaining recognition.You can find Indigo here:https://milehighpsychotherapy.com/meet-the-therapistsIf you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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What happens when you're no longer having sex in a relationship and is there a space for a different type of intimacy when sexual intercourse is no longer present in it.This is the topic I discussed with Leora Lightwoman, whom I have met previously, both on the show and in real life! As a tantric practitioner, Leora is familiar with meeting couples whom struggle with sexual desire but want to remain intimate with each other.We delve into the liberation from traditional sexual roles, the importance of redefining sexual energy and connection, and the need to create space for intimacy. Leora emphasises curiosity and mystery in long-term relationships, the challenges of communication, and the significance of making intimacy a priority. She also highlights the importance of playfulness, devotion, and honouring the body as it changes, ultimately celebrating transformation and new beginnings in sexual relationships.I enjoyed hearing her practical tips for how to build and sustain a close relationship with one's partner. Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new and well received 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

If you're not a frequent TikTok user, you may have missed the buzz around the hashtag #bushtok, a lively debate about whether to embrace a full lady garden, opt for a Hollywood (take it all off), or go Brazilian (leave a small landing strip).Most of the women weighing in on this debate are younger, many of whom likely grew up in the shadow of pornography. Let's be honest, unless you're into vintage 70s ‘Behind the Green Door' type material, pubic hair is rarely seen on performers. This cultural backdrop fuels the assumption that pubic hair serves no purpose (which it absolutely does) and, therefore, should come off.But the resurgence of the bush signals a shift. Women are waking up to the idea that they do have a choice when it comes to their pubic hair, and many are choosing to keep it.For us older women, it's a different story. Some of my friends have never touched it, while others prefer to take it all off. In Cap d'Agde, the naturist village I've often visited in France, the trend is clear: French women of all ages go for the full Hollywood, total hair removal, no matter what their age. In fact, it's rare to see anyone there with pubic hair, as both men and women have embraced the completely hairless look.This week on the podcast, I sit down with Sam Feldman, author of Hookups, Hiccups, and Happenstances, to share our opinions on pubic hair. And let me tell you—you might be surprised by where Sam stands on it all!Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.”Hookups, Hiccups, and Happenstances is a collection of erotic short stories that capture the spirit of the era when attitudes toward sex were being redefined. Set in the wild, libertine world of the 60s and 70s, Sam's stories follow the character of Butch, a man admired by both men and women for his unapologetic embrace of sexual freedom. The book explores encounters that celebrate human desire, autonomy, and mutual pleasure, offering a refreshing and boundary-pushing perspective on relationships.You can buy it here.Find Sam on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sam.l.feldman Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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Once whispered about in hushed tones, the topic of painful penetration is finally finding its voice. It's surprising, as well as alarming, how many women endure this struggle in silence, putting up with traditional sexual intercourse through gritted teeth, simply because it hurts too much.For older women, pain during penetration is often blamed on hormonal change but it's not just about biology. There's the fear that can be as a result of trauma, an accident, for example, that can make penetration feel like an insurmountable hurdle. And it doesn't matter whether it's a partner or something as clinical as a speculum; the result is the same. For some, like my guest Dr. Amanda Olson, it was an accident so severe it turned intimacy into agony. Her journey, though, led her to something remarkable: retraining as a pelvic floor therapist and founding Intimate Rose, a company that creates vaginal dilators and other tools designed not just to heal, but to rediscover pleasure.When Amanda and I spoke, we dived headfirst into the subject of dilators - how they work, who they help, and why they matter. We explored their role in managing conditions like vaginismus, that frustratingly misunderstood tightrope between mind and body. Amanda explained how combining dilators with carefully guided exercises can be life-changing, transforming what once felt impossible into something empowering.But here's the issue that comes up so often during my podcast conversations which is that so many women struggle to access this kind of support. Why? A shocking lack of education among healthcare professionals. The resources are there, the tools exist, but too often the system leaves women fumbling in the dark, feeling dismissed or ashamed for even asking.It's a conversation long overdue, and one that's only just beginning.If you have enjoyed this podcast, please comment, subscribe, share. The more people I can reach about how to enjoy sex in later life, the more likely I am to help remove the stigma around this topic. 00:00 Introduction to Intimate Health Solutions02:54 Understanding Vaginal Dilators06:05 Addressing Pain and Mobility Issues09:02 The Role of Breathing Techniques11:59 Supporting Emotional and Physical Healing15:06 Collaboration with Healthcare Professionals17:59 Advocating for Sexual Health21:01 Impact of Cancer on Sexual Health23:52 The Importance of Early InterventionThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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Bob Mizek-Menopause for men and I connected through Substack, where he's been sharing his journey following prostate cancer surgery. His writing tackles the highs and lows of that experience including dealing with medical professionals of varying skill levels and learning to advocate for his own sexual health.What I truly admire about Bob is his raw honesty. He's candid about the challenges he's faced, both in the bedroom and beyond. From navigating treatment options to rethinking assumptions about menopause and hormonal changes, Bob's journey has been one of growth, resilience, and discovery. He openly discusses how his illness has deepened the bond with his partner, especially in how they communicate about sex.Bob's determination to ensure other men don't feel overlooked or ignored, as he once did, is inspiring. He's now writing about his own version of the "Male Menopause," exploring the impact of significant hormonal changes, and inviting others to join the conversation. You can follow his insightful and moving reflections on Substack.Thank you, Bob, for your honesty and generosity in sharing your story with the Sex Advice for Seniors audience!Please leave a comment or a question as we'd love to hear your thoughts and please do share if you found our conversation of value.Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new and highly regarded 32 page booklet, Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will improve as a result!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources that will help you to become a better lover. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

What you'll learn in this episode:✅ How to notice a disconnect between you and your partner sexually and then communicate it! Work with me and transform your sex life:https://stephanieganowski.typeform.com/to/Fm6LGfa9Sign up for Sex Meditations here:https://meditations.supercast.com

In this episode, I reconnected with my former co-host, the wonderful Zoe Kors. Though we've never met in person, she feels like a kindred spirit, and I absolutely love her to bits!.It had been months since our last chat, but like old friends, the conversation flowed effortlessly. I was eager to catch up and hear what she's been up to since we last recorded together, back when another former co-host Peter Marriott joined us.As always, we had plenty to talk about - sex, relationships, and dating in later life. We touched on the role of sexologists in helping couples navigate their sexual life, often having gone through couples therapy, and the fascinating impact they can have.Zoe's been working on a memoir, as have I, and we traded stories about the highs and lows of writing about our personal lives. It's a challenge to create something deeply honest yet engaging for readers and know where to draw the line when it comes to saying too much, or too little.We wrapped up by sharing our plans and aspirations for the future. It was a joy to catch up, and I hope you enjoy the show. If you do, please leave a comment. We love hearing from our listeners!00:00 Reconnecting and Reflecting on Change02:58 The Role of Sexuality in Therapy05:54 Navigating Sexuality and Relationships09:05 The Journey of Self-Discovery12:01 Embracing Aging and Sexuality15:01 Writing and Creative Expression18:03 The Importance of Community and Connection21:03 Life Transitions and Personal Growth23:53 Curating a Joyful Life26:59 Future Aspirations and RetreatsThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

What actually goes on when you attend a session with a sex therapist and what are some of the tools they use to try and help singles and couples to overcome their challenges around sex. After a hundred or more episodes, in which I suspect I have overlooked many of the practical aspects of sex therapy, I decided to use my conversation with Dr. Denise Renye to get into the nitty gritty of her profession.We begin by addressing the natural nervousness many of her clients feel when stepping into therapy for the first time. Dr. Renye reassures us that this is completely normal and shares practical tools to help ease into the process, creating an environment where they can feel safe and understood. She then introduced me to the "Wheel of Consent," a powerful tool that clarifies how we can navigate our desires and boundaries. We also talked about the practice of sensate focus, a method that encourages couples to reconnect with their partner by focusing on touch and sensation rather than performance. This approach invites them to shift their attention toward presence and shared experiences, helping to reignite the spark in their intimate lives. She reminds us that intimacy isn't about perfection—it's about being present with one another.We also explored the importance of setting boundaries, a vital part of building trust and safety in any relationship. Dr. Renye guided me through ways we can establish and respect boundaries, helping us create relationships that feel secure and fulfilling. For those of us who may struggle with performance anxiety, she introduces the "4D Wheel," a tool designed to help us reframe our anxieties and approach intimacy with curiosity and compassion.I hope you find these tools useful and would encourage you to find out more about them. You can find Dr. Denise Renye here.00:00 Understanding Sex Therapy02:47 Navigating Nervousness in Therapy06:08 The Wheel of Consent Explained08:55 Comparing Consent Tools11:46 Sensate Focus and Its Benefits14:52 Re-engaging with Intimacy18:07 Exploring Boundaries in Intimacy20:59 The 4D Wheel and Performance Anxiety24:00 Resources for Sexual Health27:07 Closing Thoughts on IntimacyDr. Denise Renye has specialised training and has worked directly with people in the areas of sexuality, relationships, states of consciousness, psychedelic integration and intimacy. She holds several degrees and accreditations. You can find out more about her here.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors I had the pleasure of speaking with fellow Substacker Ally Iseman, a relationship coach and self-proclaimed non-monogamy nerd, about the nuances of ethical non-monogamy and its implications for older adults exploring new relationship dynamics. This is an area in which I'm too familiar, having been in several relationships, both serious and casual, in which monogamy was not part of the construct. And I am now in a situationship, which has some degree of flexibility around it.We delved into the importance of communication in relationships, particularly when considering non-traditional structures like polyamory and swinging. Ali emphasised that understanding and articulating one's needs and boundaries are crucial, regardless of the relationship style. Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.We also discussed the challenges and misconceptions surrounding non-monogamy, such as jealousy and societal expectations, and how these can be navigated through open dialogue and self-awareness. Although monogamy comes with its own particular challenges, so do relationships that may involve multiple partners.Our conversation highlighted the potential for personal growth and fulfilment through exploring different relationship dynamics, especially later in life when individuals may seek new experiences or have different emotional and physical needs.Chapters00:00 Exploring Non-Monogamy and Relationships09:58 Communication in Non-Monogamous Relationships20:10 Understanding Jealousy and Compersion30:04 Navigating Relationship Dynamics in Later LifeYou can find Ali here:If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Midlife is a wild ride. One minute I feel grounded and radiant, the next I'm wondering what the hell I'm doing with my life (usually while wiping dog puke off the couch at 5am). Sound familiar? In this solo episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on what it really means to feel sexy in the midst of changing hormones, shifting identities, and those “WTF is happening?” moments. If you've been feeling disconnected, tender, or just plain tired, I've got you. Inside this episode, I share:  ✨ How I move through the highs and lows of midlife ✨ The body image voice that popped into my head—and how I shut it down ✨ Why pleasure and rest are my non-negotiables right now ✨ What it means to step into your “second spring” with softness and strength ✨ The rituals and reminders that help me feel sexy again (even when I'm a mess) If you've been craving honesty, permission, and a gentle nudge back to yourself—this one's for you. Tune in now and give yourself the gift of remembrance. You are sexy. You are sacred. You are enough — just as you are.

Who do you turn to for the advice between the sheets? A doctor? A podcast? Your bestie? Well, we are here to analyze the best and worst places to find the secret sauce for lovers. We have poured over the books on our shelves...okay, we looked at one book and we have distilled the wisdom down to 31 minutes of our signature hot takes. So lay back, turn us on, and let's have a conversation.Send us a text

I'm always intrigued by what inspires ‘sexperts' to help others navigate the challenges within their sexual relationships. For many I've met, their journey into this field is often deeply personal, shaped by their own experiences and struggles.In this recent conversation, intimacy coach Anna Marti, whom I have met before, shared her path to becoming an intimacy coach. Her journey was profoundly influenced by her experiences with trauma in relationships, particularly with a long-term partner who had a traumatic sexual history. Their shared effort to rediscover sexual pleasure and connection ultimately motivated Anna to pursue a career as a counsellor and learn how to heal others who found it difficult to move on from their traumatic past.Our discussion delved into the cultural influences on sexuality, the critical role of communication in intimacy, and the importance of redefining pleasure beyond conventional ideas of sex. Anna highlighted the value of bridging body and spirit, dispelling misconceptions about intimacy, and embracing playfulness in relationships.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Intimacy Coaching03:01 Understanding Trauma and Relationships05:59 Exploring Sexuality and Cultural Influences08:56 The Role of Communication in Intimacy11:51 Redefining Sex and Pleasure15:06 Bridging Body and Spirit18:02 Misconceptions About Intimacy21:11 Finding Playfulness in Relationships23:54 Key Takeaways on Connection and HealingYou can find Anna here: https://annamarti.comThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Today, we're turning up the heat because we have the internet's resident sexpert in the house—the one and only Dr. Tara. She's the fearless, no-filter voice behind the LuvBites Podcast, co-host of Loveline, and the author of How Do You Like It?—the ultimate guide to getting what you want (in bed).So, we're asking all the questions you really want answered—the worst sex advice still haunting the internet, the biggest intimacy killers on dating apps, and the red flags that scream “run” in the bedroom. And, of course… we need to settle the age-old debate: can bad sex ever be fixed? We're also diving into first-date chemistry, the truth about body count convos (do they actually matter?), and the one thing that instantly makes someone unforgettable in bed.If you're loving the conversation, hit that like button, drop a comment with your thoughts, and hit subscribe for more unfiltered dating talk on First Round's on Me! ✨For detailed show notes, navigate using the timestamps below:2:08 Why Don't We Get What We Want?4:36 Sex Education12:37 Do Body Counts Matter?16:01 Ridiculous Dating Rules 19:24 Sexy First Date Moves?24:50 Kinks30:15 Marriage & Sex31:19 Five Year Hump36:30 Dating Apps38:38 How Much Connection Can We Manage?Download FROM: https://firstroundsonme.co Instagram: / firstroundsonme TikTok: / firstroundsonmeapp Joe: https://www.instagram.com/firstroundsonjoe/Hannah : https://www.instagram.com/hannah_glasby/Dr. Tara: Pre-Order Dr. Tara's Book: https://www.abramsbooks.com/product/how-do-you-like-it_9781419776434/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/?hl=en Website: https://www.bennyhartinc.com/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaZulY7f53EUUgOtXf4DAwlUteO6eoT1hW1LOUgIgvRXDKbZ6oGy4JPfth8_aem_9RjHd7Cl4vnt3lMF4g8Tjw

It was great to welcome back Amara Charles to Sex Advice for Seniors, a relationship and sexual empowerment expert and best selling author of three books. I really love this woman - she has a wonderful calm energy about her and she positive lights up when she talks about her work.In this episode I was keen to delve into the practise of concept of Quodoushka, which represents the fusion of energies to create a greater whole. Amara is an expert on this ancient practise, having written a book about it, and believes there are nine male and female genital anatomy types--such as Coyote Man or Buffalo Woman. I know it all sounds very woo woo, but when Amara is talking about it, it actually makes perfect sense because I certainly have known men who liked to howl like a coyote during sex (I used to worry he would wake up the neighbours). Amara discusses the three essential pillars of ageless sexuality: embodied presence, resonant communication, and sexual alchemy. Through personal stories and insights, we explore how understanding one's genital anatomy can enhance sexual experiences, the importance of acceptance in pleasure, and the potential for growth and vibrancy in sexuality as one ages. Ultimately, I'm a great believer in that whatever system works in helping us become closer, more intimate, with our partner(s), the better. And Amara has certainly witnessed, as we discussed, the transformative power using Quodoushka can have on our clients.If you'd like to find out more about Amara visit her website:https://amaracharles.com/https://www.youtube.com/@amaracharles7203Here Mystic Rapture Couples Intimacy Retreat is being held in Costa Rica May 3-10, 2025. It sounds AMAZING. Chapters00:00 Introduction to Kodoshka and Amara Charles10:32 Understanding Genital Anatomy Types22:53 The Third Pillar: Sexual AlchemyThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

One of the recurring topics in my conversations with older people is how to navigate a sexless relationship, especially when one person in the partnership wants more sex than the other. Having spent the last four years of my own marriage celibate, I am familiar with this dynamic. In my case, my sexual dissatisfaction was not defined by my ability to orgasm (which I had always taken control of) but more of an inability to communicate my desires and a lack of vernacular around sex and overall confidence to even know how to start the conversation.In my conversation with sexologist Renée Yvonne we discuss the challenges of navigating sexless relationships, the importance of communication about desires, and the need for understanding female pleasure. We explore how sexual satisfaction impacts overall well-being and the emotional toll of unmet sexual needs. Renée shares her experiences and insights as a certified sex counsellor, offering practical advice for couples to enhance intimacy and connection.There's no age-specificity when it comes to learning how to talk about sex. Whether with a new partner or in a long-term relationship, we can all benefit from improving our communication skills in this area. 00:00 Navigating Sexless Relationships09:55 Communication and Desire20:01 Understanding Female Pleasure29:57 The Impact of Sexual Satisfaction on Well-beingYou can find Renée Yvonne here:www.thegensexologist.comrenee@thegensexologist.comListen to previous episodes of her The Gen SeXy Podcast here.Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Lara and Aquaman are back with a brand-new episode of Pussy Church, and this week, we're talking all things orgasm. A new study reveals that prioritizing your pleasure actually makes you come more—so why aren't we all doing it? Plus, we're diving into Luigi's alleged sex tape scandal (yes, that Luigi), and we share our do's and don'ts for your next threesome. Amen.Check out the Tales Of Lara substack here. 

Rose Rouse is the editor of the social enterprise Advantages of Age and Now magazine on Substack, which we founded together back in 2016 to challenge the media narrative around ageing. She also happens to be one of my good friends.We share many of the same views on ageing, believing that getting older doesn't mean being "past it." We both enjoy wearing flowers in our hair from time to time, shopping sustainably, exploring out-of-the-way places, and generally being curious about life.However, when it comes to relationships, we're quite literally miles apart. I prefer the men I'm involved with to be within a 30-minute to one-hour proximity, while Rose has been in a decade-long relationship with a man who lives about six hours away. I'm not very monogamous, whereas she is deeply monogamous.I thought it would be fun to explore what it's like to have a "living together apart" (LTA) relationship and how Rose has managed to make it work for so long—especially when health issues arise, for example. We ended up diving deep into the topic, so much so that by the end she said to me, “And we didn't even get to the sex part!”That's true—we didn't. So, I suspect we'll have to revisit that in another episode. (I try to stick to 30 minutes to keep things engaging and prevent boredom from setting in.)You can follow and subscribe to Rose's own Substack, thespirited70something.00:00 Introduction to Unique Relationships01:12 The Beginning of Rose and Asanga's Journey06:19 Maintaining Emotional Connection11:22 Balancing Independence and Commitment15:06 Celebrating a Decade Together19:38 Navigating Aging and Future Challenges24:04 Family Dynamics and Relationship Growth25:11 Mature Love and Personal Growth27:24 The Decision to Share a Bed30:54 Conclusion and Future PossibilitiesThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

This episode is inspired by a man who called Ms Erika for cuckold advice. He wanted to know how to talk to his girlfriend about his desire to explore being a cuckold. In this episode you'll hear about his specific situation, what Mistress Erika told him to do and then you'll find out what happened!Topics include:Myths about cuckolds: this man doesn't have a small penis, isn't turned on by humiliation, and they already have a great sex life.How a phone sex Femdom finds out the difference between fantasy conversation and a request for real life advice.Some differences between cuckolding, swinging and an open relationship.Exhibitionist / voyeur fans in the sex sceneSome of the things a woman worries about before becoming a hot wife or cuckoldressCommunication tips for alternate lifestyles like cuckolding, BDSM, kink or actually any successful relationship, even the vanilla ones.How to bring up your cuckold desires. What to do when you don't hear an immediate, clear answer to your cuckolding request.Some of the practical advice centers around talking about STD testing, personal safety with new partners, etc.Finally, what happened with this couple? Find out in this episode.Mistress Olivia's personal blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika's personal blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy

In this episode of 'Sex Advice for Seniors', me and somatic psychotherapist Erica Shershun, Author of Healing Sexual Trauma Workbook, discuss the pervasive issue of sexual trauma, particularly in light of recent high-profile cases such as Gisele Pelicot. We explore the impact of rape culture, the importance of recognising trauma symptoms, and effective healing techniques. Subscribe for honest, stigma-free sex advice for people who refuse to let age define their desires. Receive the weekly podcast direct to your inbox. ;)Erica shares insights from her work with trauma survivors, addressing common misconceptions about trauma and healing, and introduces her new guided journal aimed at helping individuals navigate their healing journey.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Sexual Trauma Awareness01:48 The Impact of Rape Culture13:17 Healing Techniques for Trauma Survivors22:52 Recognising Trauma Symptoms26:51 Misconceptions About Trauma and Healing28:56 New Resources for Healing Sexual TraumaErika's new Healing Sexual Trauma Guided Journal is available now via Amazon."I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."Want to go deeper? Join The Intimacy Insider Membership for exclusive advice, unfiltered stories, and expert reviews that will transform the way you experience intimacy.

Do you struggle to talk to your partner about sex without feeling awkward or afraid of rejection? You're not alone. Even the most confident, high-achieving women can freeze up when it comes to expressing their desires. In this episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I'm sharing practical tools and word-for-word scripts to help you navigate these conversations with confidence, clarity, and ease—without making your partner defensive or shutting down. You'll discover:

Darlaine and I have met before, and in this conversation we talk openly and honestly about the challenges of sexual health, especially for women after breast cancer. We shared some of our personal experiences and talked about how hormonal treatments can impact intimacy, as well as the importance of taking care of vaginal health. We also discussed how lifestyle choices can make a big difference, busted a few myths about feminine hygiene products, and looked at environmental factors that contribute to breast cancer. For me, the biggest takeaway was how much we need better education and support when it comes to sexual health, especially for women as we get older.Chapters02:57 Personal Experiences and Challenges05:54 Exploring Sexual Health Post-Breast Cancer09:02 The Importance of Vaginal Health12:01 Understanding Hormonal Treatments15:02 The Impact of Lifestyle on Sexual Health18:05 Debunking Myths About Feminine Hygiene Products20:58 Environmental Factors and Breast Cancer24:01 Navigating Intimacy and Aging26:53 Addressing Sexual Health Concerns29:52 Conclusion and Future ConversationsHere's what others have to say:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table after dessert with good friends, giving voice to what some of us have been feeling and thinking for ages!""Love the dialogue, love the subject, will be a devoted listener!!Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

It was great to have Ena Xena back on the show, recently back from a winter in Goa and glowing. The last time she was on the programme we talked briefly about her work in ‘Human Design' - a set of energy types that helps us to understand how to show up in the world, and how others relate to us. Similar to the astrological chart, in that energy types are defined according to birth date, time and place (only three months before your actual birth occurs). “Human Design offers a map of your unique genetic design, with detailed information on both conscious and unconscious aspects of yourself.”In this episode, we discussed Ena's forthcoming workshops - one on Human Design and the other about Full Body Orgasms (where you are fully clothed!).These will be taking place on the Union Canal, London, from 23rd February - 1st March and are entirely FREE, funded by the London Borough of Kensington & Chelsea.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Human Design and Workshops03:04 Exploring Human Design Energy Types06:11 Understanding Relationships through Human Design09:01 The Role of Energy in Relationships11:55 Full Body Orgasm Workshop Overview14:50 Navigating Sexual Energy and Confidence17:53 The Importance of Communication in Relationships21:02 Normalising Conversations about Sexuality23:46 Conclusion and Workshop DetailsThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

One of the perks of my ‘job' is occasionally being offered incredible freebies I can't refuse. My massive sex toy collection is one example, and another is the post I wrote about a sensual massage I received from Colin Richards.After nearly two hours of being massaged and sensually stroked by the country's leading sensual masseur, I felt as though I'd just returned from a week-long holiday (one where I'd been liberally coated in oil). It was divine, and I was eager to catch up with him to hear about his latest venture—a web-based channel for those who enjoy both giving and receiving sensual massage.While it may seem niche, more and more people, especially later in life, are exploring sensual massage as a way to revive their libido, deepen their connection with a partner, and fully embrace pleasure. In the world of massage, however, advertising these services can be tricky, as they often sit somewhere between adult work (even though penetration is typically not involved) and traditional massage.That said, the sensual masseurs I've met take their work very seriously, ensuring that clients' boundaries are respected and that the experience aligns with what the client is seeking.Currently, the networking platform operates as a Telegram chat group called Intimacy Matters. This is described as “the first phase of creating a networking platform to unite sensual massage lovers and general sensualists.”Colin explains: “To qualify to join, you should take great pleasure in giving and receiving erotic intimacy or, ideally, have some experience in sensual massage. You should appreciate intimacy and connection during sex. Empathy, authenticity, and being a good person should form the core of your values.”To get access too the chat group you must complete the Application Form00:00 Introduction to Sensual Massage and Community Building05:58 Creating a Safe Space for Intimacy12:03 Exploring Consent and Boundaries in Sensual Experiences18:11 The Future of Intimacy and Sensuality for Older AdultsYou can find Colin Richards at:Facebook; https://www.facebook.com/IntimacymattersTwitter; https://twitter.com/IntimacyMattersWebsite: https://www.intimacymatters.co.ukColin is a member of The Association of Somatic & Integrative SexologistsThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Guys, have you lost the spark in your sex drive? If that's you, you are not alone! Libido is a complex issue. There are so many reasons that male libido can falter, from stress and physical factors, to relational issues in your marriage. But for every factor, there are also solutions.  Learn the steps to uncover what's driving your lack of drive so you can revive the desire. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  The physical, mental and emotional health factors that affect sex drive  Tips to unpack the issue together in healthy ways  Is there a place for medical advice in understanding libido? Challenging the cultural myths about aging and sex drive  Steps to starting a helpful conversation about improving libido    Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide  Main takeaway: Husbands, have you lost the passion? Physical, mental and emotional factors all impact your sex drive but you can reignite the spark and enjoy God's gift of sex in marriage.  Questions to Discuss:  Dr. Kim said that things like depression, anxiety, financial stress, relational tension or past trauma can reduce libido. Are any of those affecting your sexual relationship today? What would you like to experience more of together in your sexual relationship?  What can you do together to make that happen?    QUOTES  “If you've got problems from the past that affect you in the present, you need someone to help you work through that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “When the assumptions got on the table, we realized they were wrong. That made such a huge difference.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Low libido doesn't indicate cheating or porn addiction, it's usually more complex than that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling The longer you let it go, the worse it's going to get. - Dr. Kim Kimberling   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Congrats to our Awesome Marriage of the Year - Brett and Megan Hamilton! To learn more about National Marriage week, visit their website HERE.  Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut' Sexy BUNDLE! Don't let negative assumptions tear you apart. Use our Free Printable 15 Better Assumptions to Make About Your Spouse to nurture a healthy mindset  Get Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!  

I have a very large sex toy collection, most given to me for free. When friends have come over and seen the overspilling box of toys next to my bed, the most common reaction is, “Wow, how do you find the time to use all of that?!'“ Here's the thing: testing out sex toys is a job like any other, and nobody knows that better than my guest, Ralph Greco. He has been reviewing toys for websites, magazines like Hustler, and anyone else willing to pay him for over a decade. As a result, I suspect he has a much larger toy collection than I do. I don't envy him for that, though, because toys take up space, are mostly not recyclable, and we have only so many erogenous zones for which a vibrating device can enhance our pleasure.Ralph is very funny and it was great to dive into the world of sex toys and our respective experiences using them. For those who have not been initiated into the world of sex toys, Ralph and I discuss how to get started, what does or doesn't make a sex toy useful, the growing interest in prostate play amongst older men. We also touched on what to do when you have accumulated too many toys - is it OK to sell them on secondhand toy/underwear/pantyhose sites?We we also delve into the evolving landscape of men's pleasure products, discussing the shift in perception towards adult toys for men. And we debate the balance between simplicity and complexity in product features, while humorously contemplating the future of pleasure with the potential rise of robotic companions.00:00 Introduction to Naughty Writing and Erotica06:01 Exploring Prostate Play and Older Men13:57 The Challenge of Toy Accumulation and Disposal19:12 Exploring Men's Toys: A Shift in Perception25:31 Safety and Quality: The New Standards in Adult ToysThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now.Ralph's New Book is out on Valentine's Day! It's called Sex: Everything You Didn't Know You Needed to Know and is co-authored with M. Christian. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Ken and I had a conversation last year about his relatively new business focused on supporting men with erectile dysfunction. His goal was to help them navigate the U.S. healthcare system and address their challenges in achieving and maintaining an erection.Having experienced this issue firsthand and struggled to find a helpful healthcare provider, Ken wanted to save other men the time and effort. He wanted to work with them to understand their circumstances and experiences, ultimately providing a tailored recovery pathway.Unfortunately, as we discussed in the show, he found it challenging to reach potential customers, who, I suspect, felt too ashamed to discuss their sexual health with another man who lacked a PhD, despite being a fully qualified sexologist and training with the Dr. Rachael Institute. Our conversation delves into the stigma surrounding ED, the role of lifestyle and health in managing the condition, and the need for men to advocate for their sexual health. We also explore societal expectations of masculinity and the performative nature of male sexuality, as well as advancements in ED treatments and the importance of a holistic approach to health. Ken emphasises the need for open conversations about ED and the resources available to help men navigate their sexual health challenges.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Erectile Dysfunction01:24 Ken's Personal Journey with ED03:17 Understanding the Underlying Causes of ED05:12 The Role of Lifestyle and Health08:03 Advocating for Sexual Health10:28 Breaking the Stigma Around ED12:00 Marketing Challenges in ED Coaching13:54 Societal Expectations and Masculinity16:50 The Performative Nature of Male Sexuality19:31 Advancements in ED Treatments22:21 The Importance of Holistic Health25:20 Navigating ED as a Lifelong Journey29:03 Conclusion and Resources for EDhttps://www.healthysexualitywithken.com/

SMNTY continues flipping through the history and impact of women's magazines, this time focusing on diet culture and sex advice in this classic episode.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Dildo Whisperer has a recent sex adventure that inspired this week's topic. Find out how Romaine was injured during sex and learn about the most common sex injuries. How many times has Ajay been injured during sex? More times then he wants to admit!  Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

OMG, I love this woman! The last time Susan Bratton was on the show, we dived into all things related to sex and intimacy, including non-monogamy. Since then, she has appeared on ‘Diary of a CEO' with Steven Bartlett, so she's gone even more into the stratosphere than she was before, and I feel blessed to have her here talking to me. Steven calls her the ‘Orgasm Queen' but, for me, Susan's knowledge about sex and intimacy go way beyond the orgasm. For this episode, we decided to focus specifically on pumping, of which Susan knows her stuff, as you'll find out!Until about a year ago, I had no clue what pumping was. I vaguely remember seeing ads in the back of comic books as a kid, claiming that men could increase the size of their penis with a large cylinder-like apparatus.After chatting with several urologists on the show, who mentioned pumps to help men regain erections post-prostate surgery and clitoral pumps for older women seeking increased blood flow to their genitals, my partner and I decided to buy pumps and give them a try. I have to admit that, while I don't use it often, my partner really enjoys it and has definitely noticed an increase in girth and the ability to maintain his erection. Plus, it's pretty kinky to watch a partner pump and vice versa, a sentiment Susan and I both agree on!On a more serious note, studies are now being undertaken to determine the effectiveness of pumping for men with erectile dysfunction and nerve damage through surgical procedures. Anecdotal evidence suggests that pumping can help restore blood flow to the penis (and the clitoris) meaning greater sensitivity and more pleasureable sex. In short, if you're an older guy, than you should be pumping 3 - 4 times per week and there's nothing shameful or dangerous about pumping when used correctly. And, here, for the first time is our video conversation!!Here are some of the products we featured:FirmTech MaxPR cock ring. Use my Code NOBLEDISC20 for 20% off. Buy here.GRO N SHOW Men's Pump Package LadyPumpStimulate Red Light Pump AccessoryAndroDEEP Penile Extender for Length:Chapters00:00 Introduction to Penis Pumps02:58 Understanding the Mechanics of Pumping06:05 The Kinky Side of Pumping09:08 The Benefits of Clitoral Pumping12:02 Pumping as Self-Care15:04 The Science Behind Pumping18:00 Choosing the Right Pump21:00 Normalizing Pumping for Men24:02 Conclusion and Future Perspectives28:00 Understanding Erectile Dysfunction and Treatment Options30:45 The Role of Red Light Therapy and Traction Devices34:49 The Importance of Nitric Oxide for Sexual Health40:54 Tools and Techniques for Enhancing Sexual HealthSex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported podcast, weekly newsletter with random notes, erotic stories and observations about sex, dating and relationships in later life. Paid subscribers benefit from accessing all the paywalled content (podcasts and posts over two weeks old), naughtier-than-usual posts, joining me on Chat, supporting all my voluntary work with academics, doctors and health professionals in shaping how we talk about sex and intimacy issues with older adults. It's only £4.99/month or £49.99/year. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Laurie Stone is author of six books, most recently "Streaming Now, Postcards from the Thing that is Happening," longlisted for the PEN/Diamonstein-Spielvogel Award. She writes the Substack "Everything is Personal.”When I read Laurie's Stone Substack article about her decision to marry her long-term partner Richard at 78, following a brief two-week engagement, I knew I had to contact her. It was subsequently covered in the ‘Vows' section in the New York Times. Laurie and I have many mutual friends, mostly other writers and creative types, which led me to suspect her choice to marry was likely more thoughtful and less conventional than the typical “we've been together so long, we might as well.”Just three weeks earlier, at a friend's Christmas party, I had encountered another writer in her fifties, someone I had met a few times, who had recently announced her engagement to her partner of five years. (I'm sensing a micro-trend here). She expressed surprise at the mixed reactions from friends, ranging from “Well, I guess someone has to” to “Congratulations, how wonderful.”I might have asked her if her decision was based purely on romance, to which she appeared taken aback and said “Yes, of course.” I explained that after my most recent partner passed away, I became acutely aware of my lack of agency, particularly in not being able to communicate directly with his doctors or stay informed about his declining health. It had left me feeling frustrated and angry.This experience highlighted for me the emotional difficulties of being partnered but not married in the traditional sense, helping me understand some of the complexities involved and why deciding to marry when you're no longer in your 20s or 30s, is not always a romantic one. I have to admit I'm cynical about romance, having not had the best track record when it comes to long-term relationships and my own decade-long marriage was not filled with joy, and so I am curious as to why anyone would consciously choose to ‘tie-the-knot' when my age. But I'm also a great believer in the old cliche, ‘To each, to his own,' and have several friends who have been happily married for decades, so clearly it does work for some people, only not for me! In any case, I'm not going to spoil some of the many interesting observations about love and marriage that Laurie shared with me during this discussion but only to say I hope you will enjoy our conversation as much as I did.Laurie is hosting her next workshop on taking risks in your writing to which you are invited to attend if you become one of her paid subscribers. It's taking place on 25th January 3 - 4 pm EST. The cost for a year is $37.50 and $3.75 a month making it one of the least expensive Substacks on the platform. “It's uniquely literary, funny, sexy, and feminist.” To RSVP, please write to: lauriestone@substack.com (once you become a paid subscriber)00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Guest10:41 The Wedding Experience: A Unique Perspective16:04 Reflections on Marriage and Practical Considerations22:33 Writing and Personal Experiences: The Creative Process30:52 Closing Thoughts and Future PlansSex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported podcast, weekly newsletter with random notes and observations about sex, dating and relationships in later life. Paid subscribers benefit from accessing all the paywalled content (podcasts and posts over two weeks old), joining me on Chat, supporting all my voluntary work with academics, doctors and health professionals in shaping how we talk about sex and intimacy issues with older adults. It's only £4.99/month or £49.99/year. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Delving Into the Sexual RevolutionIn this lively chat, I had the pleasure of interviewing Sam Feldman, the very engaging and funny author of 'Hookups, Hiccups and Happenstances.' We delved into the juicy bits of the sexual revolution, shared a few personal tales about intimacy, and had a good old chinwag about why communication is absolutely vital for keeping long-term relationships ticking along.Sam shared some cracking insights from his own life, including how health can sometimes be a bit of a party pooper when it comes to sexuality, and the sheer joy of date nights. He cheekily reminded us that age is just a number—definitely not a barrier to having a right good time in the bedroom or beyond!Takeaways:* The sexual revolution brought significant changes in women's empowerment (both good & bad)!* Personal experiences shape the narratives in erotic literature.* Health challenges can impact sexual intimacy but can be adapted to.* Ethical non-monogamy was practiced before the term existed.* Date nights can enhance connection and intimacy in relationships - no matter what your age!Chapters00:00 The Sexual Revolution: A Historical Perspective06:03 Personal Experiences and Ethical Non-Monogamy12:08 Maintaining Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships17:50 Adapting to Change: Health and Sexuality24:05 The Importance of Communication and ConnectionSex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To pledge your support, help keep this going and for me to spend more time promoting the joys of sex and intimacy for older adults, consider becoming a paid subscriber. A little goes a long way.Hookups, Hiccups, and Happenstances is a collection of erotic short stories that capture the spirit of the era when attitudes toward sex were being redefined. Set in the wild, libertine world of the 60s and 70s, Sam's stories follow the character of Butch, a man admired by both men and women for his unapologetic embrace of sexual freedom. The book explores encounters that celebrate human desire, autonomy, and mutual pleasure, offering a refreshing and boundary-pushing perspective on relationships.You can buy it here.Find Sam on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sam.l.feldman Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Dr. Delaney is joined by Laura Kastner, PhD, a clinical psychologist and author of multiple parenting books. Together, they delve into strategies for talking to our teens about sex and not letting taboo or embarrassment get in the way of what can be vital conversations. Covering topics such as consent and alcohol they emphasize the significance of being an 'askable parent' through encouraging open conversation and not being afraid to talk plainly about what can be perceived as delicate or awkward topics for both teens and parents.     Featured Expert Laura Kastner, PhD   Books Wise-Minded Parenting Getting To Calm: Cool-headed strategies for parenting tweens and teens The Launching Years: Strategies for Parenting from Senior Year to College Life The Seven-Year Stretch: How Families Work Together to Grow Through Adolescence   Time Code 00:00 Introduction to the Screenagers Podcast 00:37 Meet Dr. Laura Kastner: Expert on Parenting Teens 00:48 The Importance of Open Communication 01:13 Challenges in Discussing Physical Intimacy 02:19 Addressing Taboos and Difficult Topics 03:27 Psychological Immunization and Early Conversations 04:48 Practical Tips for Parents 05:28 Real-Life Examples and Focus Groups 08:45 The Role of Humility in Parenting 10:28 Discussing Consent and Alcohol 17:30 Concluding Thoughts and Resources

One question that often comes up is how to make dating easier for men and women seeking serious relationships.From my experience, finding a man who wants regular sex and understands female anatomy is far less challenging than finding one who desires a deep, meaningful connection beyond just physical intimacy.I've been a virtual Facebook friend of Shakti Sundari for several years. During that time, I've watched her navigate relationships with men who were clearly incompatible, trying to make things work despite the odds. After taking a break due to family responsibilities, she moved to Glastonbury and settled into the community, which required some adjustment.Recently, over the past three months, she's been documenting her reengagement with dating on her Facebook profile. She expresses a desire to flirt, have fun, and eventually find a proper adult relationship. I've thoroughly enjoyed reading her long, detailed posts. Shakti has a wonderful curiosity and an open energy. Unlike many women I've spoken to who find the online dating scene disheartening and have given up, I can sense that Shakti is still in the process of figuring it all out and wants to help others to find the ‘conscious connection' they are seeking too.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber to receive sexy stories and sex toy reviews, helping me to support more older people to have pleasurable sex.While she's still navigating all of this, and being an educator for a significant period of time, teaching tantra, amongst other disciplines, she has decided to hold a series of workshops to offer women and men, during separate events, the opportunity to share their thoughts on the dating world, their experiences and with the hope of gaining more clarity in themselves and their online profiles in how they express themselves and what they are seeking in a partner.She's offering two online introductory events in January (more if there's demand): on Wed, Jan 15th & Sat, Jan 18th, 2025Both will follow the same format. There'll be a maximum of 20 participants per session. Every woman is warmly welcomeGathering #1When: Wednesday, 15th January, 7-9pmWhere: Online via zoomRegistration: £11 via this PayPal link (please select friends & family payment option):https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/shaktisundarilove/11You can find all the information about the Conscious Dating Collective Workshops here: Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this chat, I had the pleasure of speaking with Sydney Zwicker about the many aspects of pelvic health, especially for women. We explored the emotional and physical connections tied to pelvic health and why women often seek support. It was fascinating to discuss the importance of addressing both physical issues and emotional trauma.Sydney shared her holistic approach to healing, which includes various bodywork techniques and the vital role of creating a safe space for women to reconnect with their bodies. We also touched on men's experiences, the significance of communication in intimacy, and the need to rethink societal narratives around menopause and women's health. * Pelvic health discussions are vital for women of all ages.* Emotional stories are intertwined with physical health.* Women often seek help for physical pain, emotional trauma, or spiritual disconnection.* Healing requires addressing both physical and emotional aspects.* Techniques include bodywork, visualization, and somatic coaching.* Men also experience pelvic health issues and need support.* Intimacy can exist without sexuality, focusing on connection.Sound Bites* "You can't separate a woman from her story."* "The body is not out to get us."* "There's no shame in the healing process."* "Men need this work too."* "Intimacy doesn't have to involve sexuality."* "Communication is a practice."Chapters00:00 Introduction to Pelvic Health Conversations01:23 Understanding Pelvic Health and Emotional Connection02:36 Pain Points and Reasons for Seeking Help04:31 The Interplay of Physical and Emotional Health06:30 Techniques for Healing and Body Awareness08:11 Expanding the Scope: Working with Men10:45 The Importance of Emotional Maturity in Healing12:12 Navigating Touch and Intimacy15:40 The Need for Non-Sexual Intimacy18:00 Communication and Intimacy in Relationships21:45 The Role of Elders and Wisdom in Sexuality24:28 Menopause: A Rite of Passage27:56 Reframing the Narrative Around Menopause30:22 The Purpose of Menopause in Evolution32:22 The Dangers of Medical Interventions35:54 The Importance of Body Awareness and Educationhttps://www.zwickerhealingarts.com/https://www.instagram.com/zwickerhealingartsSex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of "Sex Advice for Seniors," I had the pleasure of chatting with Bel de Lorenzo about something intriguing: vaginal gymnastics or pompoir training, as it's sometimes called. This practice isn't just about fun; it's all about enhancing pelvic floor strength and boosting sexual pleasure. And the best news is you don't need to be an Olympiad or have any special skills to become an expert.We dove into why understanding the pelvic floor is so important and explored various techniques and exercises that anyone can try, no matter their starting point. Bel highlighted that training can be not only beneficial but also enjoyable—who knew working on your pelvic floor could be so engaging?We also touched on the importance of rest and recovery in any training regimen and discussed how tools and toys can elevate the experience. It was a fascinating conversation, full of insights that can help boost libido, confidence, and overall well-being. You'll find a discount code at the end for Bel's Vaginal Gymnastics programme. I'm curious to try it myself and will be filling you in on how my training goes!Key Takeaways* There's always something new to learn about sex.* Vaginal gymnastics can enhance dexterity and pleasure.* Kegel exercises are just the beginning of pelvic floor training.* Using fingers can help understand pelvic floor movements better.* A strong pelvic floor can alleviate incontinence issues.* Training can lead to heightened sensitivity and pleasure during sex.* You can start pelvic floor training at any age or fitness level.* Rest and recovery are crucial for muscle growth and strength.* Training can enhance libido and sexual confidence.* Making training fun is essential for consistency.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Vaginal Gymnastics05:58 Exploring Techniques and Exercises12:12 Benefits Beyond Pleasure18:05 The Connection Between Sensation and Training24:10 Enhancing Libido and Confidence29:54 Conclusion and Program Detailswww.gohddess.comCoupon code SA4S gets them 25% off on the program, it is a one-time fee for life.YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@gohddessReddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/pompoir/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@goh.ddess Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Sexologist Chris Hands and I met a few months ago but the recording was mangled, so it was great to catch up with him again and talk about the intricate dynamics of men's groups which Chris has run for several years and the pervasive influence of toxic masculinity. Our discussion delved into the cultural perspectives on sexuality, particularly among older individuals, and how these attitudes shape our experiences.We explored the role of dance as a profound means of connection, highlighting the benefits of practices such as Biodanza and Five Rhythms in fostering intimacy and vulnerability within the realm of dating. It became clear that modern relationships are rife with complexities, especially given the disconnection many individuals, particularly men, experience in today's society.The impact of the pandemic on our social connections cannot be overstated, as it has prompted a significant redefinition of relationships in later life. We addressed the challenges posed by societal norms in dating, emphasising the emotional dynamics at play. Ultimately, as with most of my conversations with experts, it's all about learning how to communicate within relationships and the importance of sharing perspectives without attributing blame or anger.takeaways* Men's groups have evolved but often become negative.* Toxic masculinity is pervasive and affects relationships.* Cultural differences influence perceptions of sexuality.* Dance can create physical connections and intimacy.* Biodanza offers a unique way to connect with others.* Vulnerability in dating is increasingly challenging.* Older individuals often withdraw from discussions about sexuality.* The pandemic has exacerbated feelings of isolation.* Creating a supportive community is essential for connection.* Engaging in group activities can help bridge gaps in understanding. Many men feel disconnected and lonely in today's society.* The pandemic has exacerbated feelings of isolation and anxiety.* Older adults are redefining what relationships look like for them.* There is a growing desire for non-traditional relationship structures.* Both men and women are seeking companionship without the constraints of traditional dating.* Emotional dynamics in relationships require time and understanding to develop.* Societal expectations often hinder genuine connections between people.* Communication is key to navigating relationship challenges.Sound Bites* "Let's just rewrite the rule book."* "Men often just want to fix things."* "I don't do drama anymore."Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Background02:54 Men's Groups and Their Evolution05:56 The Impact of Toxic Masculinity08:59 Cultural Perspectives on Sexuality11:54 The Role of Dance in Connection15:08 Exploring Biodanza and Five Rhythms18:11 Navigating Vulnerability in Dating21:45 The Disconnect in Modern Relationships24:06 The Impact of the Pandemic on Social Connections27:02 Redefining Relationships in Later Life29:56 Challenging Societal Norms in Dating33:09 Understanding Emotional Dynamics in Relationshipshttps://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-hands-health2fit Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

It seems obvious, but rarely discussed, is the relationship between how our parents conceive us and how this can significantly influence our sexual energy and development. This topic is important, as it highlights the deep-rooted connections between our childhood experiences and adult intimacy. And yet, I suspect for most of us, considering our parent's role in how we approach our sexuality is yet another one of those topics that may bring up shame or resentment or a myriad of emotions, which help to suppress feelings of sexual desire or longing.The Influence of Parents on Sexual EnergyIt's fascinating to consider how shame and guilt from parents can disrupt a child's natural arousal and sexual development. These early impressions can create patterns that affect relationships later in life. Certain life stages are critical for developing a healthy understanding of sexuality, and disruptions during these times can have lasting effects.Communication in RelationshipsOne of the pressing issues we discussed is the lack of communication about sexual needs within relationships. Partners often carry imprints from childhood, yet they may not fully understand how these affect their intimacy. As we noted, “The partner does not know what your imprints are,” emphasizing the need for open dialogue about desires and experiences.Physiological Changes and Body AwarenessPhysiological changes that occur in both women and men can also alter sexual experiences. Understanding these changes is essential for fostering intimacy. Body awareness plays a crucial role in sexual health; grounding therapy, for instance, helps individuals connect their energy flow with their sexuality. “Grounding is down to earth sexuality,” we agreed, highlighting its importance in enhancing intimate connections.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.Navigating Survival BehaviorsWe touched on how survival behaviors from childhood can hinder adult relationships. These ingrained patterns can manifest as barriers to intimacy, making it essential to recognize and address them. “When women close their vagina, men close their heart,” we noted, illustrating how emotional and physical barriers are intertwined.Releasing Stress for Improved IntimacyLastly, we discussed how releasing stress through body awareness can significantly improve intimacy. By cultivating a greater understanding of our bodies and recognizing the impact of childhood experiences, we can pave the way for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.https://www.rodeparel.nl/https://www.facebook.com/maya.kerstan.3 Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Navigating the world of dating and relationships as a sexual assault survivor presents unique challenges and opportunities for growth. In this episode, Shelly shares how her best advice for navigating dating and intimacy for those of you who have experienced sexual assault. She describes how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety, explores the benefits of being single for healing, and how to recognize the difference between feelings rooted in past trauma versus present-day awareness. Shelly also speaks on how acknowledging and accepting the sexual assault survivor part of ourselves is crucial for genuine self-expression and healing, as well as for building healthy relationships and intimacy. From the complexities of sexual relationships to the importance of quiet moments in fostering intuition, this episode provides a thoughtful approach to embracing all parts of your identity as a sexual assault survivor, and gives tangible tips and advice. Follow me on TikTok and Instagram @shamelesslyshelly + @situationshiptosoulmate

What do Taylor Swift, a clown car, and seasonal porn have in common? They all somehow make it into this week's episode of Your Mileage May Vary! Just Mike and me today, and we're diving into the strange, hilarious, and occasionally bleak corners of sex, relationships, and the modern world. We kick things off with a look at the awkward politics of swinger approaches, including Mike's firsthand confusion at a Lake Tahoe bar that was definitely not what he expected. Then we analyze why Taylor Swift's music might be your secret weapon for attracting 20-something women (pro tip: encyclopedic knowledge of “All Too Well” is apparently a game-changer). Along the way, we discuss whether AI-generated porn is the future of personal fantasies, and whether we'd even want that future in the first place. From there, we pivot into listener questions, tackling the problem of queefing, and a curious case of someone who can masturbate 15 times a day but can't seem to finish during sex. As always, our takes are a mix of irreverent humor and the occasional moment of accidental insight—plus a surprising amount of advice on how not to ruin your marriage over a cushion. Stick around to the end, where we contemplate the ultimate “bro gift” (it's not what you think), seasonal porn costumes, and why some people are oddly dedicated to writing heartfelt comments on Reddit porn. This is an episode where our tangents are as good as the main course, so grab your headphones, settle in, and join us for another wild ride. Twitter: @ymmvpod Facebook: ymmvpod Email: ymmvpod@gmail.com

Lara and Aquaman are back with a special confessions episode of Pussy Church, and trust us, it's steamy! Follow Lara on her quest to gospel about sex, worship erotic art, and dive into your juiciest questions. This week, we're talking what fantasies are actually normal, what to do if you're tangled up with your cousin's ex, and what really turns you on. Expect unfiltered advice, and a little sinful fun. Amen. 

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Do you want to have better sex?Or even know how often you should be having sex – according to research?Today, Dr. Rena Malik, MD is in the house to answer all of your uncomfortable sex questions.Dr. Malik is an absolute powerhouse who is known for her viral, no-shame, straight-to-the-point advice on how to have the best sex of your life. She is a top urologist, pelvic surgeon, and sexual health expert – and she's here today giving you the truth, based on medical research, on things like G-spots, orgasms, libido, and even erectile dysfunction. You'll also learn the single biggest thing that you are getting wrong in your sex life, according to one of the top urologists in the country.Dr. Malik is an assistant professor at the University of Maryland School of Medicine and the Director of Female Pelvic Medicine & Reconstructive Surgery. She is also a researcher who has published over 100 peer-reviewed research articles, multiple review articles, and book chapters.You're going to want to share this conversation and all the juicy details with every one of your friends, and most importantly, your significant other.Great sex starts today.For more resources, including links to Dr. Rena Malik's research, website, and social media, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked this research-packed episode, you'll love listening to this episode next: The #1 Neuroscientist: After Listening to This, Your Brain Will Not Be the Same.Connect with Mel: Watch the episodes on YouTubeGo deeper with Mel's free video course, Make It HappenFollow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast InstagramMel's TikTok Sign up for Mel's personal letter Disclaimer