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In this episode of "Sex Advice for Seniors," I'm thrilled to welcome back a remarkable advocate for the sexual rights of disabled individuals. The last time we spoke, Maria Cyndi had recently launched an Instagram channel and a Substack. Unfortunately, she felt compelled to shut them down after facing harassment and unwanted attention from individuals fetishizing her disability. However, she has now courageously decided to relaunch her platforms, fighting back against prejudice and speaking her truth unapologetically.Maria's prominence as one of the few women writing about sexual pleasure and disability has inspired her to dedicate more time to her craft. She's now focusing on her writing, contributing guest posts to prominent blogs, and participating in an upcoming anthology.Join me as we explore the challenges Maria has faced, her unwavering determination to reclaim her body and identity, and her invaluable advice for disabled individuals navigating their sexuality. Maria's story is a powerful testament to the importance of understanding sexual well-being and disability, and her voice is one we all need to hear.Chapters01:02 Maria Cyndi's Journey into Advocacy01:55 Challenges of Online Advocacy05:14 Writing and Contributing to Anthologies08:34 Transitioning to Full-Time Writing10:21 Navigating Social Media and Community13:47 Reclaiming Pleasure and Overcoming Trauma15:31 The Impact of Education on Sexuality17:43 Reclaiming Identity and Intimacy20:34 The Ongoing Journey of Healing and Communication22:20 Navigating Relationships and Disability24:28 The Importance of Open Communication26:10 Exploring Sexuality and Consent29:18 Finding the Right Tools for Pleasure30:47 Breaking Stereotypes: Disabled People and Sex33:32 Media Representation of Disabled Sexuality36:23 Creating Inclusive Spaces for All39:00 The Need for Diverse Narratives in MediaNow's here the bit about me:Hi, I'm Suzanne — the proud host of Sex Advice for Seniors and a 365-days-a-year champion for the right of older folks to experience sexual pleasure. No matter your age, size, shape, or the state of your knees, hips, back, you should feel free to embrace your sexuality. If you don't wanna have sex anymore, that's cool. But if you do? You absolutely shouldn't feel ashamed about it.I'm on a mission to smash one of life's last, stubborn taboos: the idea that older people can't be sexy or sexual. SCREW THAT.Every week, come rain or shine, I record at least one podcast where I sit down with an expert on sex, dating, or relationships. Let's just say I've met some seriously cool people and learned a lot. (I'm not saying I deserve an honorary degree, but if someone wants to give me one, I'll graciously accept. Just putting that out there).My podcasts are free for all listeners, but for my discerning readers who enjoy a little extra spice in their lives, I offer paywalled posts. These juicy extras might include sex toy reviews (yes, I test them all myself, so don't say I don't go the extra mile), personal stories from my sexploits, or deep dives into more intimate topics.If you're a paid subscriber, you'll also receive my 32-page booklet, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life,' and gain access to a private chat room where me and my readers swap stories, share tips, and ask questions. All this for what I think is a very reasonable £6.99/month—or, if you're feeling savvy, you can snag the Senior Discount with an annual subscription at £49.99/year.So, whether you're here for the laughs, the learning, or just the libido boost, welcome aboard. Hey, but don't take it from me. Here's what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”“Love the honesty and humour and the vulnerability too.”“I like that you acknowledge so openly and joyously that older people can still want and need sexual satisfaction. And that it can be better and more satisfying than when you were younger! But we also need open, honest, non judgemental advice in order to get the most out of sex in later years.”Sex Advice for Seniors is a proud reader-supported publication. Every single penny goes toward helping me continue to serve up expert advice and wisdom from some of the world's leading voices on sex and ageing. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

If you want to supercharge the intimacy in any relationship, think about the asks that you don't ask.   In this episode, I will teach you how to name those asks, how to deshame them, and how to present them in a way that leads to greater closeness with your friends, with your family, in your love relationship, and with yourself.   Listen For: 01:59 Asking as an act of self-love 09:25 How unspoken needs harm connection 16:15 Self-honoring exercises you can try 20:45 Why big asks reveal relationship truth 21:52 Awkwardness, risk, and intimacy growth   SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS   Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one click   CONNECT WITH KEN: Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | X

Is the way you're timing sex actually sabotaging your chances of getting pregnant?If you've been told to wait for your LH peak or cram in sex every single day, you could be unknowingly hurting your fertility. In this episode, Dr. Katie Wood breaks down why both too much and too little sex can backfire—and how to reset intimacy so it's not just timed, but truly supportive for conception.In this episode, you'll...– Learn the ideal sex frequency during your fertile window to boost conception chances– Discover how stress, performance pressure, and "fertility sex burnout" can impact hormone balance and sperm quality– Get practical ways to reduce tension, reconnect with your partner, and bring joy back into intimacy while trying to conceiveHit play to discover the fertility sweet spot for sex frequency—and how to make conception feel more aligned and less like a chore.

Around the same time my Advantages of Age colleague Rose Rouse and I were herding together amazing women for our Fabulous & Flamboyant Bus Tour, another trailblazer, Maryjane Fahey was kicking off her own movement called Glorious Broads. Armed with equal parts chutzpah and charm, she prowled the streets of New York, boldly and brazenly stopping any woman who looked remotely interesting. Her mission? To get their story, snap their photo, and showcase them on her website, Glorious Broads (she's now also on Substack).Her goal is as audacious as her approach. As she puts it: “To be the home of funny, unconventional, uncompromising broads over 50… I want to inspire women to say, ‘I WANNA BE THAT BROAD' — and watch fear-mongering about age go extinct in my lifetime. Let roaring into age prevail.”And honestly, can we just take a minute to stand up and cheer for that? Because who doesn't want to roar into age like a rock star instead of tiptoeing in like a timid church mouse?During our chat, we covered just about everything under the sun—like the rollercoaster ride of navigating love and relationships after 50, why confidence is the ultimate power move (at any age, but especially when you're older), and how to keep your libido alive and kicking, no matter what your age. Maryjane shared with me a great quote from one of her Glorious Broads about being older and trying to get yourself going again if you feel out of practice with sex. She said: “I may not be able to make alll the positions I used to, but my mouth still works.”00:00 Introduction to Glorious Broads and Positive Ageing03:49 Reinvention and Embracing Change07:15 Navigating Love and Relationships After 5009:30 Common Misconceptions About Aging11:34 Sexuality and Libido in Older Women15:40 Confidence and Attitude Towards Aging20:26 Barriers to Enjoying a Great Sex Life28:45 The Importance of Self-Care and Health30:18 Embracing Visibility and Rejecting InvisibilityNow's here the bit about me:Hi, I'm Suzanne — the proud host of Sex Advice for Seniors and a 365-days-a-year champion for the right of older folks to experience sexual pleasure. No matter your age, size, shape, or the state of your knees, hips, back, you should feel free to embrace your sexuality. If you don't wanna have sex anymore, that's cool. But if you do? You absolutely shouldn't feel ashamed about it.I'm on a mission to smash one of life's last, stubborn taboos: the idea that older people can't be sexy or sexual. SCREW THAT.Every week, come rain or shine, I record at least one podcast where I sit down with an expert on sex, dating, or relationships. Let's just say I've met some seriously cool people and learned a lot. (I'm not saying I deserve an honorary degree, but if someone wants to give me one, I'll graciously accept. Just putting that out there).My podcasts are free for all listeners, but for my discerning readers who enjoy a little extra spice in their lives, I offer paywalled posts. These juicy extras might include sex toy reviews (yes, I test them all myself, so don't say I don't go the extra mile), personal stories from my sexploits, or deep dives into more intimate topics.If you're a paid subscriber, you'll also receive my 32-page booklet, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life,' and gain access to a private chat room where me and my readers swap stories, share tips, and ask questions. All this for what I think is a very reasonable £6.99/month—or, if you're feeling savvy, you can snag the Senior Discount with an annual subscription at £49.99/year.So, whether you're here for the laughs, the learning, or just the libido boost, welcome aboard. Hey, but don't take it from me. Here's what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”“Love the honesty and humour and the vulnerability too.”“I like that you acknowledge so openly and joyously that older people can still want and need sexual satisfaction. And that it can be better and more satisfying than when you were younger! But we also need open, honest, non judgemental advice in order to get the most out of sex in later years.”Sex Advice for Seniors is a proud reader-supported publication. Every single penny goes toward helping me continue to serve up expert advice and wisdom from some of the world's leading voices on sex and ageing. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

This week, I had the absolute pleasure of speaking with Dakini Leah, founder of Living in Tantra and a true ray of sunshine from Grand Junction, Colorado (even if she admits she misses tea with clotted cream).We dove headfirst into the world of Tantra—what it is, what it isn't, and why it's definitely not just about long orgasms or bizarre religious rituals, thanks in no small part, to its association with Sting. Here's a sneak peek at what we covered:* Erectile Dysfunction: Or as I prefer to call them, “unreliable erections.” We explored how Tantra can help men embrace this stage of life without shame, and even turn it into an opportunity for deeper intimacy.* Soft Lingam Techniques: We got into the nitty-gritty of why even a non-erect penis is still an incredible source of pleasure - Leah calls it ‘the wand of light'.* Libido Changes in Women: We talked about how midlife doesn't mean the end of sensuality—in fact, it's just the beginning of a richer, more radiant connection with yourself and your partner.* Grieving the Old You: Both Leah and I opened up about the process of letting go of who we used to be and embracing the new, more self-assured versions of ourselves. We agreed it's not always easy, but it's so worth it.This episode is packed with practical tips, heartfelt moments, and lots of laughs (because let's face it, sex after 50 is full of surprises). Plus, Leah shares free tantric exercises you can try tonight - be sure and check out her website.Grab a cup of tea (or a glass of wine), settle in, and enjoy our chat!00:00 Introduction to Tantra and Personal Journeys02:48 The Essence of Tantra: Beyond Sexuality05:39 Tantra for Midlife: Embracing Change and Sensuality08:26 Unreliable Erections: A Tantric Perspective11:23 Navigating Libido Changes in Women14:24 The Importance of Self-Discovery in Relationships17:01 Exploring Joy and Connection in Relationships19:29 The Role of Tantra in Aging Gracefully22:19 Grieving and Embracing New Selves25:19 Conclusion: The Journey of Tantra and Self-Acceptance Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Perry Burns was just 13 when his once-in-a-lifetime trip on an RAF plane ended in a devastating crash. It left him with burns over nearly half his body. In this gripping conversation with Olly, Perry relives the moment he thought he'd died; the fireball he escaped; and the chain of miracles that saved his life... He shares the pain of recovery, the power of one relentless teacher, and how love helped him rebuild. —----------------------- Meanwhile, in The Zeitgeist, Ollie Peart is on a mission to Make Running Fun.  While apps like VoiceMap offer self-guided audio tours you can create (and sell!), and GoodGym adds community purpose to your jog, his true champion is Zombies, Run!, a thrilling, GPS-triggered story game where undead hordes chase you into cardio greatness... and, it seems, makes Olly Mann sweat buckets around the Regent's Park Running Track. —----------------------- Elsewhere, Alix Fox - fresh from National AIDS Trust fundraiser Drag Raise - is back to answer listener's sex and relationships questions in The Foxhole. This month:  What actually happens at sex-themed swingers holiday resorts, like Hedonism in Jamaica, and what should prospective travellers bring with them to the hotel?  With the help of Sex Advice for Seniors' Suzanne Noble, Alix reveals all…  —----------------------- Finally, our record of the month is the folktastic ‘Cow Song' from The New Eves

On this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had the absolute pleasure of chatting with the brilliant Avivah Wittenberg-Cox, author of Late Love: Mating in Maturity. We dove into everything from relationships after 50, to why women are leading the "gray divorce" trend, to the surprising ways men and women experience this stage of life differently. This stage of life—what Avivah calls Q3—isn't about decline. It's about reinvention, exploration, and finally putting yourself first. Whether you're single, married, or somewhere in between, it's about finding what works for you.And for those of you who feel like the dating pool at this age is too small, just remember: It's not about quantity, it's about quality. There are good ones out there—you just have to know what you want and go for it.If you're curious about how to navigate love, sex, and relationships in later life, this episode is a must-listen. Avivah and I covered so much ground, and I promise you'll walk away feeling inspired (and maybe even ready to shake things up in your own life).You can buy Avivah's book: Late Love: Mating in Maturity here.Avivah's website is here.Thanks for listening, and let me know what you think!00:00 Introduction to Late Love02:54 The Journey of Finding Love in Later Life05:37 The Impact of Divorce on Women08:30 Redefining Relationships in Midlife11:34 Sex and Relationships in Later Life14:09 The Quest for Happiness and Self-Discovery16:56 Gender Dynamics in Ageing20:00 Challenges in Finding Love23:04 The Role of Confidence in New Relationships25:46 Navigating the Dating Landscape28:39 The Importance of Self-Love31:28 The Gendered Experience of Leaving Relationships34:25 Conclusion: Embracing New PossibilitiesThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sexf you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ In this data-packed episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily sits down with social psychologist and Kinsey Institute researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller to break down what science actually tells us about our sexual fantasies, kinks, and casual hookups. This conversation is full of insights that will make you rethink what's "normal" in bed, and help you embrace your desires with more compassion and clarity. Dr. Lehmiller reveals the most common sexual fantasies (hint: kink is more mainstream than you think) and explains what our fantasies say about our emotional needs and life history. We explore the truth about gender differences in fantasies, how to safely explore kink and consensual non-monogamy, and research on why some people thrive with casual sex while others don't. This episode covers practical tips for talking about fantasies with your partner without shame or pressure, plus why self-awareness (not fantasy content) is the key to sexual fulfillment. Whether you're curious about exploring fantasies, navigating open relationships, or just want to understand the psychology of desire, this conversation brings research and real talk together in a way that's both validating and thought-provoking. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction & The Kink Revolution 4:07 - Fantasy vs Reality: The Threesome Gap 11:43 - Why Gay Men Have Better Threesomes  18:17 - What Gay vs Straight Men Really Have in Common  25:04 - The Kinsey Scale & Sexual Fluidity Explained  31:20 - Friends with Benefits: What Actually Works  35:00 - The Couples Vibrator Study Results  37:45 - Dutch Sex Education: What America Gets Wrong  44:13 - How to Talk to Kids About Masturbation  48:51 - Quickfire Questions: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice

Join renowned Sexpert Vida Carey for “The Climax Consultant – Priceless Sex Advice!” on Tuesday, July 1st, on the Monte & The Pharaoh YouTube Channel! This week, Vida will discuss the pros and cons of sex toys. She will talk about and dispel the male apprehension surrounding ‘sexcessories.' Vida is quite the orator, and she is coming your way every Tuesday at 8:30 p.m.! When it comes to sex talk shows, there is some pretty stiff competition, but The Climax Consultant promises to come out on top! #climaxconsultant #sexpodcast #vidacarey #sextoys

When I first heard about The Phoenix, I wasn't entirely sure what to expect. The name alone conjures images of grandeur—something mythical, rising from the ashes. Turns out, that's pretty fitting. It's a device designed to breathe new life into men's sexual health, and Dustin Wolff, the co-founder of Launch Medical, joined me to explain how it all works.Dustin is one of those people you warm to immediately—enthusiastic, knowledgeable, and genuinely motivated by a desire to help people. He explained how his journey began in a wellness clinic in Los Angeles, where he saw countless men struggling with performance issues. The solution at the time was in-clinic sound wave treatments, but they were expensive, awkward, and not exactly accessible to everyone. That's when Dustin started to wonder: could this technology be brought into the home? And so The Phoenix was born.The concept is simple but fascinating: soundwaves break down plaque buildup in blood vessels, improving blood flow and addressing one of the root causes of erectile dysfunction. It's a non-invasive treatment, safe to use at home, and—importantly—avoids the embarrassment of a clinical setting. Dustin described it as “a tool in your toolkit,” emphasising that it's not a magic fix but part of a broader commitment to health and wellness. Think of it like going to the gym—but for your… well, you get the idea.One thing that stood out was the range of people using The Phoenix. It's not just for older men with erectile dysfunction—Dustin mentioned younger men in their 30s and 40s, even biohackers and fitness enthusiasts, who are using it to stay ahead of the game. It's about optimisation, performance, and, ultimately, confidence. Of course, there are challenges. Marketing a legitimate medical device for sexual health isn't easy in a world where taboos are still alive and well. Dustin shared that even platforms like Shark Tank weren't willing to feature the device because of its “adult” nature. It's frustrating, especially when you consider how essential this kind of innovation is. We also spoke about the bigger picture—how The Phoenix fits into a holistic approach to wellness. Diet, exercise, and overall health are all part of the equation. Dustin admitted he's not a saint (he's partial to pizza and ice cream on Sundays), but he emphasised the importance of balance. It's not just about treating symptoms; it's about fostering long-term health and vitality.The Phoenix is more than a device—it's part of a larger shift in how we think about aging, intimacy, and wellbeing. And while the road ahead might be challenging for Dustin and his team, it's clear they're making a real impact. If nothing else, The Phoenix is helping men regain confidence and connection in their relationships, and that's something we can all celebrate.For those curious, I'd recommend checking out their website. It's a fascinating innovation, and who knows? It might just be the spark you—or someone you know—needs.Launch Medical are offering Sex Advice for Seniors Listeners $100 off the Phoenix if you use code SUZ100. Click here.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Sexual Health Technology02:59 The Phoenix Device: Concept and Development06:03 Understanding the Treatment Protocol09:08 The Importance of Overall Health11:59 Cost Comparison: Phoenix vs. Clinic Treatments15:03 Marketing Challenges in Sexual Health18:04 Insurance and Regulatory Challenges18:39 Navigating Regulatory Challenges in Health Tech21:49 The Rise of Preventative Medicine24:01 The Phoenix: A Tool for Sexual Health27:29 Combining Technologies for Optimal Results30:12 Pioneering a New Era in Home Health DevicesIf you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better SexYour subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Join renowned Sexpert Vida Carey for the World Premiere of “The Climax Consultant – Priceless Sex Advice!” on Tuesday, June 24th, on the Monte & The Pharaoh YouTube Channel! Ms. Carey has been the co-host of the “Sex Symbols” podcast since October 2023, which can be heard on iHeart Radio and other audio platforms. Some of her classic episodes include “Box Lunches and Other Ways To Eat Your Snack”, “Car Sex and How Not to Get Arrested”, and “Sword Swallowing and Other Party Tricks.” Vida is quite the orator, and she is coming your way this Tuesday at 8:30 p.m.! When it comes to sex talk shows, there is some pretty stiff competition, but The Climax Consultant promises to come out on top! #climaxconsultant #sexpodcast #vidacarey

I've known Sam Evans, owner of sexual pleasure shop JoDivine.com for nearly 20 years, back to when she first launched her shop with her husband, and gifted me a toy to try out and review on my first blog, suzanneportnoy.com.Since then, Sam has become a popular spokesperson on social media, advocating for women's sexual health, especially during one's menopausal years. As a former nurse, she has more knowledge than many others in the sex toy industry, and as a result, she receives hundreds of enquiries from women who are confused or received poor information when struggling with menopausal conditions such as vaginal atrophy, recurrent UTIs, low libido. In response, she has written numerous articles related to women's and men's sexual health, which you can read on the JoDivine website.I was keen to catch up with Sam to dive into the often-overlooked topics of menopause, sexual health, and the importance of quality sexual wellness products. We discussed the challenges faced by menopausal women, the significance of vaginal estrogen, and the latest innovations in sex toys. Our conversation emphasised the need for awareness regarding product ingredients and the importance of community education in navigating sexual health. Sam is offering Sex Advice for Seniors subscribers a discount on any products in the store:Your 10% discount code is SAS210 (£5 minimum spend on full priced products excluding P&P) ENDS 25/8/2500:00 Introduction and Background01:55 Menopause and Sexual Health05:58 Vaginal Estrogen and Its Importance09:56 Sex Toy Innovations and Trends12:03 Navigating Sexual Health Products19:58 The Importance of Ingredient Awareness26:07 Community Engagement and EducationIf you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better SexYour subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Exposing toxic Christian sex advice (especially from guys like Larry Solomon)—don't let faith-based myths destroy your marriage.

Imago Relationship Theory claims we all have a mental "dating app" in our subconscious where the algorithm is secretly set to "parental lookalike mode."Essentially, we swipe right on people who remind us of our parents—because why not add a sprinkle of childhood trauma to the romance cocktail, right? Shan Marchant is a couples therapist and relationship expert, who you might recognise from the BBC's Point of View, or her writing for Metro.She uses Imago Relationship Therapy, after witnessing its ability to repair and revive her own 13+ year relationship. During our conversation we delve into why we often choose partners who resemble one or both of our parents as these familiar traits spark chemistry, but the twist is that we're not just looking for love; we're signing up for a self-improvement bootcamp. According to Harville Hendrix and his partner Helen, who invented Imago, relationships are less about happily-ever-after and more about healing those childhood wounds. So, if your partner seems oddly familiar, congratulations—you've matched with your Imago! Time for the work to begin…You can find Shan here: https://www.shanmerchant.com/If you enjoy our conversation, let me know!00:00 Introduction to Imago Therapy and Its Concepts02:55 Navigating Power Struggles in Relationships06:13 The Importance of Prioritising Your Partner08:48 Recognising Relationship Patterns and Taking Action11:56 Reigniting Desire and Intimacy Over Time14:57 Understanding Infidelity and Its Implications18:11 The Role of Couples Therapy in Modern Relationships20:59 Building Emotional Intelligence in Relationships23:56 The Journey of Self-Acceptance and Affection26:57 Conclusion and Resources for CouplesIf you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better SexYour subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

SHOW NOTES: Sexual preferences, emotional attachment, relationship advice, commitment, emotional connection, personal growth, dating challenges, confidence, relationships, self-improvement, modern dating, communication and more ... In this episode of M and Friends we debate dating, relationship, love AND sex and take ANONYMOUS QUESTIONS from women and ask a panel of men who wanted to honestly answer -even if it hurts.  #7 is one hell of a good time as well as insightful -we think women will walk away glad they listened and will have gotten what they listened for : ))) This episode is PACKED with real talk, real answers and real moments - aaaand real laughter. AS ALWAYS we hope that this real talk creates your own topic of conversations with friends and partners in life to help nurture genuine relationships, self awareness and emotional awareness ESPECIALLY in an AI WORLD. CAST: MJAIE, MIKE, MEHDI, JACKSON   Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the Conversation 00:59 Masturbation and Frequency 02:31 Impact of Porn on Men 06:04 Understanding Good and Bad Sex 09:58 The Concept of 'Good' and 'Bad' Pussy 14:55 The Role of Emotional Connection in Sex 20:01 Vulnerability and Relationships 24:59 Advice for Women in the Bedroom 30:00 Navigating Sexual Preferences and Experiences 33:35 The Importance of Connection in Intimacy 39:01 Kissing: The Gateway to Good Sex 44:53 Understanding Personal Hygiene and Preferences 50:41 The Role of Chemistry in Relationships 55:41 Taste and Sensation: The Experience of Intimacy 58:22 Understanding Male Perspectives on Relationships 01:00:04 The Complexity of Commitment and Cheating 01:00:59 Dating Dynamics: Age and Maturity 01:05:02 Breakups and Self-Discovery 01:06:00 The Impact of Age Differences in Relationships 01:09:57 Body Count: Perspectives and Expectations 01:15:00 Personal Hygiene and Health in Relationships 01:19:02 Expectations and Pressures on Women 01:23:00 Faking Orgasms and Emotional Attachments 01:24:14 Understanding Communication Differences Between Genders 01:27:43 The Impact of Communication Styles on Relationships 01:31:38 Exploring Attitudes Towards Anal Sex 01:35:08 The Complexity of Sexual Preferences and Relationships 01:40:39 The Importance of Self-Love and Personal Growth 01:48:29 The Influence of Social Media on Modern Relationships 01:49:30 The Importance of Commitment and Routine 01:51:17 Seeking Deeper Emotional Connections 01:54:01 Understanding Emotional Stunt and Growth 02:00:10 The Role of Past Experiences in Relationships 02:02:47 Building Confidence and Taking Action 02:10:04 Navigating Modern Dating Challenges 02:19:02 Closing Thoughts and Future Conversations 02:14:59 Contact Information and Business Promotion   M and Friends is a hilarious and fiery talk show segment of Love and Lies Podcast in a round table REAL TALK setting going over fun debates, dating advice, relationship tips and sex discussions. M and her friend group and a mystery guest navigate life on each show. Rich in laughter and a feel-good time, the topics are something to consider for all. A question is taken from the listeners who seeks advice on life or love. M gives her power coaching thoughts, while the girls give their opinion and our lucky male gives a man's POV. The cast takes on one vocabulary word to see who knows it and its meaning while listeners and cast learn together! OF COURSE sex comes up A LOT and so does relationships as M is a professional sex coach. Really anything can happen here and its all captured. Let's GOOOOO!! Unplug from the pressures of the world around you and chill with M and Friends.   ABOUT LOVE AND LIES PODCAST: LIFE COACH and lighthearted host ❤M'JAIE MANGUS❤ in her provocative talk show covers topics that range from sugar daddies, suicide to success and everything in between! Guests opt in to be anonymous or not so anonymous in order to share the truth and empower listeners. SIGNATURE ANONYMOUS INTERVIEWS are modeled after Oscar Wilde's quote, “If you give a man a mask he will tell you everything”. In these interviews the guests remain anonymous and tell all. LOVE AND LIES PODCAST was inspired by Mjaie's life and love coaching practice. These episodes are NOT coaching sessions but are interviews hosted by Mjaie and with people whom she finds fascinating and feels their story will educate us, aid us in progress to understand one another while breaking down barriers as we set aside judgment for a better self and world. M and Friends is brought to you by Love and Lies Podcast and is pure entertainment for listeners as guests go over debates and advice. WANNA SUBMIT A QUESTION FOR OUR SHOW? NEED ADVICE? WANT TO CONFESS (WE KEEP IT ANONYMOUS): You may contact our studio by email:LoveAndLiesPodcast@gmail.com for more information.   Mjaie Mangus: Certified Life and Sex Coach, Behavior Specialist, Host, artist, columnist for RUNWAY Magazine    THANK YOU FOR LISTENING! SOCIAL MEDIA: *NEW: JOIN US ON LOCALS WHERE WE ARE UNCENSORED, GIVE EXCLUSIVE BEHIND THE SCENE FOOTAGE, HELP US CREATE INTERVIEW QUESTIONS, GIVE-A-WAYS, CAN BECOME A GUEST ON M AND FRIENDS AND MORE!   " Our favorite place to be with you is on LOCALS" - Mjaie   ALL SOCIAL MEDIA @ LOVE AND LIES PODCAST   ALL SOCIAL MEDIA @ MJAIE MANGUS   THANK YOU FOR LISTENIG AND WE LOVE YOU!

Go for a second try... Not Father's Day but it's Father's Day... Katie's little agro kitty... Katie finds an article from the 1900's and boy did it not age well... Sometimes you have to read between lines people... Don't adjust your socks or bra in public if you are a lady... Don't discuss sex in bed... How to find a women's urethrae in real life... You need to be a sexpert... Katie doesn't want to deal with any virgins... There are a lot of psycho women in Florida... When Katie was recruited to be a prostitute... Navigating very seedy places... The Key to a hot honeymoon is separate beds... Consent still applies... Women shouldn't have sex on her period or the man might get an std... If you use tampons you could break your pussy... If you masturbate your tits will not grow... Punching someone in their chest hole... You must have pink panties with ruffles... Katie hits some buttons again... How to tell if your husband hates you... Another man arrested for stealing pool floats and having sex with them... Only Fans model has sex with 50 men on her wedding night, filming it, getting caught by her husband and now divorced... Good old fashioned pump and dump... The secret hole Katie says men have that they really don't have... Punch a fascist... Goodbye Maddie, we'll miss you!

Shownotes   The best and worst sex ideas of 2025 The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone Why safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic The biggest sexual problems people face Dr. Emily's take on why people cheat How sex is a multi-layered experience   Bio   Emily Morse is a doctor of human sexuality and host of the award-winning #1 sexuality podcast, “Sex With Emily,” which has been on air for two decades. She's a MasterClass instructor on sex and communication and the bestselling author of Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ & Own Your Pleasure. Emily has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes and Men's Health and has been featured by The Today Show, Conan, Entertainment Tonight, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Bustle and others.   Dr. Emily's mission is to liberate the conversation about sex and pleasure. Her candid conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives.   Learn more about Dr. Emily and find her work on her website.   Timestamps   00:00:41 - Guest introduction 00:02:20 - What made you so good at talking about sex 00:04:43 - If you can't talk about something, then you can't have an empowering relationship to it 00:10:31 - Sign up for Layla's newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:11:28 - Layla sexts with ChatGPT 00:14:31 - The worst sex ideas of 2025 00:17:42 - Every human is a magical universe 00:20:50 - Layla talks about her dating journey as a single woman 00:26:14 - The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone 00:26:56 - The key to how Layla healed her unworthiness 00:31:57 - Even the experts are still human 00:33:41 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification  00:36:53 - Layla and Dr. Emily drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™ 00:41:36 - Why Layla created MOOD Sexy Supplements 00:43:30 - Dr. Emily shares about her journey with somatic therapy 00:47:28 - Safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic 00:48:20 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:49:09 - What are the biggest sexual problems people face 00:54:56 - Do people who don't practice sacred sexuality experience spirituality during sex? 00:57:30 - The divine is there in every moment, winking at you 00:58:27 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside ⁠Crystal Pleasure⁠ 00:59:30 - Dr. Emily talks about why people cheat 01:08:31 - Sex is a multi-layered experience 01:13:40 - How ecstasy amplifies your manifesting powers 01:20:07 - Conclusion

Austin Cresap is therapist specialising in sex therapy and sex education in Seattle, Washington, and Hawaii.In this conversation, she shared some fantastic ideas and practical tips for making intimacy easier, more playful and that takes the pressure out of who initiates sex. She talked about using a secret signal, like a coffee cup, to indicate interest in intimacy. Austin also introduced the "No, but…" approach, as a way of overcoming the challenge of mismatched libidos - a more thoughtful way to reject an act without rejecting your partner, keeping the connection intact.For me, preparation is a big part of intimacy. Whether it's putting on something that makes me feel attractive, doing my hair, or just mentally getting into the mood, it's all part of the process. I also made the case for scheduling intimacy and we discussed why it's not unromantic. As we discussed, we schedule everything else in life, so why not prioritise time for connection? What really resonated with me was how creativity can transform intimacy. Whether it's playful signals like the coffee cup, role-playing, or simply planning ahead, it's all about keeping things fresh and fun. As Austin pointed out, these approaches help couples navigate busy lives and different arousal styles, making intimacy less about spontaneity and more about meaningful connection. You can find Austin at:http://www.icameheretotalktherapy.com00:00 Introduction to Sex Advice for Seniors01:54 Exploring Intimacy and Nonverbal Cues12:20 Understanding Female Hormones and Sexuality19:33 Cultural Perspectives on Aging and Sexuality26:00 The Pressure of Performance in Sexual Relationships30:10 Creative Approaches to IntimacyIf you enjoyed our conversation, let me know! I love to hear from my listeners (and it doesn't happen often enough). If you've found any of the tips on this or any of my shows helpful, a review on iTunes would go a very long way.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

One of the perks of my job is having the opportunity to try out a multitude of sex toys, many of which made it into my booklet and the people behind their creation. Suki Dunham is the co-founder of OhMiBod, one of my sponsors, and is a pioneer in a predominantly male industry. During our conversation, we talk about her early days as a sex tech entrepreneur, the challenges of marketing sexual health products and the future of sex toys, especially around the integration of AI. I'm a great believer that sex toys are there to enhance sexual pleasure and aren't in competition with penises and vaginas but rather a way to increase stimulation, especially at an age when both women and men may find it difficult to orgasm. All the OhMiBod products are incredibly well made and safe, and there are even toys such as the LoveLife Rev that Suki has designed especially for people with arthritis who may find more traditional toys challenging to grip. Suki is offering Sex Advice for Seniors followers: USE CODE SAFS20 for 20% off of Lovelifetoys.com.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better SexYour subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Indigo Stray Conger has been a therapist since 2008 and has completed over a decade of therapeutic training. She is one of less than ten AASECT certified sex therapists at a supervisory level in the state of Colorado.During our conversation, we delve into what somatic psychotherapy entails and also the role of EMDR in trauma healing, and the challenges of intimacy in relationships.As we discuss, trauma can turn up in relationships in many forms can impact on both the psychological and physical barriers to intimacy, which can prevent singles and couples from fully exploring the many ways to experience sexual pleasure.EMDR is a tool I have used myself to try and overcome phobias and also behaviours that don't serve me well. If you're unfamiliar with the technique, EMDR, or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is most commonly used to treat PTSD, but now is used to solve a range of issues. It involves recalling the traumatic episode, or the particular fear, and then through specific eye movements and some other type of stimulation (talking, for example), the brain reprocesses the memory and reduces its significance in your mind. It may sound woo-woo, but it's actually not and very quickly can help in situations where the traumatic episode is quite specific (at least, that was my own experience).We also touch on the importance of consent, proper sex eduction and how sexual orientations such as asexuality and demisexuality are gaining recognition.You can find Indigo here:https://milehighpsychotherapy.com/meet-the-therapistsIf you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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What happens when you're no longer having sex in a relationship and is there a space for a different type of intimacy when sexual intercourse is no longer present in it.This is the topic I discussed with Leora Lightwoman, whom I have met previously, both on the show and in real life! As a tantric practitioner, Leora is familiar with meeting couples whom struggle with sexual desire but want to remain intimate with each other.We delve into the liberation from traditional sexual roles, the importance of redefining sexual energy and connection, and the need to create space for intimacy. Leora emphasises curiosity and mystery in long-term relationships, the challenges of communication, and the significance of making intimacy a priority. She also highlights the importance of playfulness, devotion, and honouring the body as it changes, ultimately celebrating transformation and new beginnings in sexual relationships.I enjoyed hearing her practical tips for how to build and sustain a close relationship with one's partner. Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new and well received 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

If you're not a frequent TikTok user, you may have missed the buzz around the hashtag #bushtok, a lively debate about whether to embrace a full lady garden, opt for a Hollywood (take it all off), or go Brazilian (leave a small landing strip).Most of the women weighing in on this debate are younger, many of whom likely grew up in the shadow of pornography. Let's be honest, unless you're into vintage 70s ‘Behind the Green Door' type material, pubic hair is rarely seen on performers. This cultural backdrop fuels the assumption that pubic hair serves no purpose (which it absolutely does) and, therefore, should come off.But the resurgence of the bush signals a shift. Women are waking up to the idea that they do have a choice when it comes to their pubic hair, and many are choosing to keep it.For us older women, it's a different story. Some of my friends have never touched it, while others prefer to take it all off. In Cap d'Agde, the naturist village I've often visited in France, the trend is clear: French women of all ages go for the full Hollywood, total hair removal, no matter what their age. In fact, it's rare to see anyone there with pubic hair, as both men and women have embraced the completely hairless look.This week on the podcast, I sit down with Sam Feldman, author of Hookups, Hiccups, and Happenstances, to share our opinions on pubic hair. And let me tell you—you might be surprised by where Sam stands on it all!Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.”Hookups, Hiccups, and Happenstances is a collection of erotic short stories that capture the spirit of the era when attitudes toward sex were being redefined. Set in the wild, libertine world of the 60s and 70s, Sam's stories follow the character of Butch, a man admired by both men and women for his unapologetic embrace of sexual freedom. The book explores encounters that celebrate human desire, autonomy, and mutual pleasure, offering a refreshing and boundary-pushing perspective on relationships.You can buy it here.Find Sam on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sam.l.feldman Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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Once whispered about in hushed tones, the topic of painful penetration is finally finding its voice. It's surprising, as well as alarming, how many women endure this struggle in silence, putting up with traditional sexual intercourse through gritted teeth, simply because it hurts too much.For older women, pain during penetration is often blamed on hormonal change but it's not just about biology. There's the fear that can be as a result of trauma, an accident, for example, that can make penetration feel like an insurmountable hurdle. And it doesn't matter whether it's a partner or something as clinical as a speculum; the result is the same. For some, like my guest Dr. Amanda Olson, it was an accident so severe it turned intimacy into agony. Her journey, though, led her to something remarkable: retraining as a pelvic floor therapist and founding Intimate Rose, a company that creates vaginal dilators and other tools designed not just to heal, but to rediscover pleasure.When Amanda and I spoke, we dived headfirst into the subject of dilators - how they work, who they help, and why they matter. We explored their role in managing conditions like vaginismus, that frustratingly misunderstood tightrope between mind and body. Amanda explained how combining dilators with carefully guided exercises can be life-changing, transforming what once felt impossible into something empowering.But here's the issue that comes up so often during my podcast conversations which is that so many women struggle to access this kind of support. Why? A shocking lack of education among healthcare professionals. The resources are there, the tools exist, but too often the system leaves women fumbling in the dark, feeling dismissed or ashamed for even asking.It's a conversation long overdue, and one that's only just beginning.If you have enjoyed this podcast, please comment, subscribe, share. The more people I can reach about how to enjoy sex in later life, the more likely I am to help remove the stigma around this topic. 00:00 Introduction to Intimate Health Solutions02:54 Understanding Vaginal Dilators06:05 Addressing Pain and Mobility Issues09:02 The Role of Breathing Techniques11:59 Supporting Emotional and Physical Healing15:06 Collaboration with Healthcare Professionals17:59 Advocating for Sexual Health21:01 Impact of Cancer on Sexual Health23:52 The Importance of Early InterventionThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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Bob Mizek-Menopause for men and I connected through Substack, where he's been sharing his journey following prostate cancer surgery. His writing tackles the highs and lows of that experience including dealing with medical professionals of varying skill levels and learning to advocate for his own sexual health.What I truly admire about Bob is his raw honesty. He's candid about the challenges he's faced, both in the bedroom and beyond. From navigating treatment options to rethinking assumptions about menopause and hormonal changes, Bob's journey has been one of growth, resilience, and discovery. He openly discusses how his illness has deepened the bond with his partner, especially in how they communicate about sex.Bob's determination to ensure other men don't feel overlooked or ignored, as he once did, is inspiring. He's now writing about his own version of the "Male Menopause," exploring the impact of significant hormonal changes, and inviting others to join the conversation. You can follow his insightful and moving reflections on Substack.Thank you, Bob, for your honesty and generosity in sharing your story with the Sex Advice for Seniors audience!Please leave a comment or a question as we'd love to hear your thoughts and please do share if you found our conversation of value.Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new and highly regarded 32 page booklet, Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will improve as a result!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources that will help you to become a better lover. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

What you'll learn in this episode:✅ How to notice a disconnect between you and your partner sexually and then communicate it! Work with me and transform your sex life:https://stephanieganowski.typeform.com/to/Fm6LGfa9Sign up for Sex Meditations here:https://meditations.supercast.com

In this episode, I reconnected with my former co-host, the wonderful Zoe Kors. Though we've never met in person, she feels like a kindred spirit, and I absolutely love her to bits!.It had been months since our last chat, but like old friends, the conversation flowed effortlessly. I was eager to catch up and hear what she's been up to since we last recorded together, back when another former co-host Peter Marriott joined us.As always, we had plenty to talk about - sex, relationships, and dating in later life. We touched on the role of sexologists in helping couples navigate their sexual life, often having gone through couples therapy, and the fascinating impact they can have.Zoe's been working on a memoir, as have I, and we traded stories about the highs and lows of writing about our personal lives. It's a challenge to create something deeply honest yet engaging for readers and know where to draw the line when it comes to saying too much, or too little.We wrapped up by sharing our plans and aspirations for the future. It was a joy to catch up, and I hope you enjoy the show. If you do, please leave a comment. We love hearing from our listeners!00:00 Reconnecting and Reflecting on Change02:58 The Role of Sexuality in Therapy05:54 Navigating Sexuality and Relationships09:05 The Journey of Self-Discovery12:01 Embracing Aging and Sexuality15:01 Writing and Creative Expression18:03 The Importance of Community and Connection21:03 Life Transitions and Personal Growth23:53 Curating a Joyful Life26:59 Future Aspirations and RetreatsThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

What actually goes on when you attend a session with a sex therapist and what are some of the tools they use to try and help singles and couples to overcome their challenges around sex. After a hundred or more episodes, in which I suspect I have overlooked many of the practical aspects of sex therapy, I decided to use my conversation with Dr. Denise Renye to get into the nitty gritty of her profession.We begin by addressing the natural nervousness many of her clients feel when stepping into therapy for the first time. Dr. Renye reassures us that this is completely normal and shares practical tools to help ease into the process, creating an environment where they can feel safe and understood. She then introduced me to the "Wheel of Consent," a powerful tool that clarifies how we can navigate our desires and boundaries. We also talked about the practice of sensate focus, a method that encourages couples to reconnect with their partner by focusing on touch and sensation rather than performance. This approach invites them to shift their attention toward presence and shared experiences, helping to reignite the spark in their intimate lives. She reminds us that intimacy isn't about perfection—it's about being present with one another.We also explored the importance of setting boundaries, a vital part of building trust and safety in any relationship. Dr. Renye guided me through ways we can establish and respect boundaries, helping us create relationships that feel secure and fulfilling. For those of us who may struggle with performance anxiety, she introduces the "4D Wheel," a tool designed to help us reframe our anxieties and approach intimacy with curiosity and compassion.I hope you find these tools useful and would encourage you to find out more about them. You can find Dr. Denise Renye here.00:00 Understanding Sex Therapy02:47 Navigating Nervousness in Therapy06:08 The Wheel of Consent Explained08:55 Comparing Consent Tools11:46 Sensate Focus and Its Benefits14:52 Re-engaging with Intimacy18:07 Exploring Boundaries in Intimacy20:59 The 4D Wheel and Performance Anxiety24:00 Resources for Sexual Health27:07 Closing Thoughts on IntimacyDr. Denise Renye has specialised training and has worked directly with people in the areas of sexuality, relationships, states of consciousness, psychedelic integration and intimacy. She holds several degrees and accreditations. You can find out more about her here.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors I had the pleasure of speaking with fellow Substacker Ally Iseman, a relationship coach and self-proclaimed non-monogamy nerd, about the nuances of ethical non-monogamy and its implications for older adults exploring new relationship dynamics. This is an area in which I'm too familiar, having been in several relationships, both serious and casual, in which monogamy was not part of the construct. And I am now in a situationship, which has some degree of flexibility around it.We delved into the importance of communication in relationships, particularly when considering non-traditional structures like polyamory and swinging. Ali emphasised that understanding and articulating one's needs and boundaries are crucial, regardless of the relationship style. Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.We also discussed the challenges and misconceptions surrounding non-monogamy, such as jealousy and societal expectations, and how these can be navigated through open dialogue and self-awareness. Although monogamy comes with its own particular challenges, so do relationships that may involve multiple partners.Our conversation highlighted the potential for personal growth and fulfilment through exploring different relationship dynamics, especially later in life when individuals may seek new experiences or have different emotional and physical needs.Chapters00:00 Exploring Non-Monogamy and Relationships09:58 Communication in Non-Monogamous Relationships20:10 Understanding Jealousy and Compersion30:04 Navigating Relationship Dynamics in Later LifeYou can find Ali here:If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Midlife is a wild ride. One minute I feel grounded and radiant, the next I'm wondering what the hell I'm doing with my life (usually while wiping dog puke off the couch at 5am). Sound familiar? In this solo episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on what it really means to feel sexy in the midst of changing hormones, shifting identities, and those “WTF is happening?” moments. If you've been feeling disconnected, tender, or just plain tired, I've got you. Inside this episode, I share:  ✨ How I move through the highs and lows of midlife ✨ The body image voice that popped into my head—and how I shut it down ✨ Why pleasure and rest are my non-negotiables right now ✨ What it means to step into your “second spring” with softness and strength ✨ The rituals and reminders that help me feel sexy again (even when I'm a mess) If you've been craving honesty, permission, and a gentle nudge back to yourself—this one's for you. Tune in now and give yourself the gift of remembrance. You are sexy. You are sacred. You are enough — just as you are.

Who do you turn to for the advice between the sheets? A doctor? A podcast? Your bestie? Well, we are here to analyze the best and worst places to find the secret sauce for lovers. We have poured over the books on our shelves...okay, we looked at one book and we have distilled the wisdom down to 31 minutes of our signature hot takes. So lay back, turn us on, and let's have a conversation.Send us a text

I'm always intrigued by what inspires ‘sexperts' to help others navigate the challenges within their sexual relationships. For many I've met, their journey into this field is often deeply personal, shaped by their own experiences and struggles.In this recent conversation, intimacy coach Anna Marti, whom I have met before, shared her path to becoming an intimacy coach. Her journey was profoundly influenced by her experiences with trauma in relationships, particularly with a long-term partner who had a traumatic sexual history. Their shared effort to rediscover sexual pleasure and connection ultimately motivated Anna to pursue a career as a counsellor and learn how to heal others who found it difficult to move on from their traumatic past.Our discussion delved into the cultural influences on sexuality, the critical role of communication in intimacy, and the importance of redefining pleasure beyond conventional ideas of sex. Anna highlighted the value of bridging body and spirit, dispelling misconceptions about intimacy, and embracing playfulness in relationships.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Intimacy Coaching03:01 Understanding Trauma and Relationships05:59 Exploring Sexuality and Cultural Influences08:56 The Role of Communication in Intimacy11:51 Redefining Sex and Pleasure15:06 Bridging Body and Spirit18:02 Misconceptions About Intimacy21:11 Finding Playfulness in Relationships23:54 Key Takeaways on Connection and HealingYou can find Anna here: https://annamarti.comThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Today, we're turning up the heat because we have the internet's resident sexpert in the house—the one and only Dr. Tara. She's the fearless, no-filter voice behind the LuvBites Podcast, co-host of Loveline, and the author of How Do You Like It?—the ultimate guide to getting what you want (in bed).So, we're asking all the questions you really want answered—the worst sex advice still haunting the internet, the biggest intimacy killers on dating apps, and the red flags that scream “run” in the bedroom. And, of course… we need to settle the age-old debate: can bad sex ever be fixed? We're also diving into first-date chemistry, the truth about body count convos (do they actually matter?), and the one thing that instantly makes someone unforgettable in bed.If you're loving the conversation, hit that like button, drop a comment with your thoughts, and hit subscribe for more unfiltered dating talk on First Round's on Me! ✨For detailed show notes, navigate using the timestamps below:2:08 Why Don't We Get What We Want?4:36 Sex Education12:37 Do Body Counts Matter?16:01 Ridiculous Dating Rules 19:24 Sexy First Date Moves?24:50 Kinks30:15 Marriage & Sex31:19 Five Year Hump36:30 Dating Apps38:38 How Much Connection Can We Manage?Download FROM: https://firstroundsonme.co Instagram: / firstroundsonme TikTok: / firstroundsonmeapp Joe: https://www.instagram.com/firstroundsonjoe/Hannah : https://www.instagram.com/hannah_glasby/Dr. Tara: Pre-Order Dr. Tara's Book: https://www.abramsbooks.com/product/how-do-you-like-it_9781419776434/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/?hl=en Website: https://www.bennyhartinc.com/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaZulY7f53EUUgOtXf4DAwlUteO6eoT1hW1LOUgIgvRXDKbZ6oGy4JPfth8_aem_9RjHd7Cl4vnt3lMF4g8Tjw

It was great to welcome back Amara Charles to Sex Advice for Seniors, a relationship and sexual empowerment expert and best selling author of three books. I really love this woman - she has a wonderful calm energy about her and she positive lights up when she talks about her work.In this episode I was keen to delve into the practise of concept of Quodoushka, which represents the fusion of energies to create a greater whole. Amara is an expert on this ancient practise, having written a book about it, and believes there are nine male and female genital anatomy types--such as Coyote Man or Buffalo Woman. I know it all sounds very woo woo, but when Amara is talking about it, it actually makes perfect sense because I certainly have known men who liked to howl like a coyote during sex (I used to worry he would wake up the neighbours). Amara discusses the three essential pillars of ageless sexuality: embodied presence, resonant communication, and sexual alchemy. Through personal stories and insights, we explore how understanding one's genital anatomy can enhance sexual experiences, the importance of acceptance in pleasure, and the potential for growth and vibrancy in sexuality as one ages. Ultimately, I'm a great believer in that whatever system works in helping us become closer, more intimate, with our partner(s), the better. And Amara has certainly witnessed, as we discussed, the transformative power using Quodoushka can have on our clients.If you'd like to find out more about Amara visit her website:https://amaracharles.com/https://www.youtube.com/@amaracharles7203Here Mystic Rapture Couples Intimacy Retreat is being held in Costa Rica May 3-10, 2025. It sounds AMAZING. Chapters00:00 Introduction to Kodoshka and Amara Charles10:32 Understanding Genital Anatomy Types22:53 The Third Pillar: Sexual AlchemyThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

One of the recurring topics in my conversations with older people is how to navigate a sexless relationship, especially when one person in the partnership wants more sex than the other. Having spent the last four years of my own marriage celibate, I am familiar with this dynamic. In my case, my sexual dissatisfaction was not defined by my ability to orgasm (which I had always taken control of) but more of an inability to communicate my desires and a lack of vernacular around sex and overall confidence to even know how to start the conversation.In my conversation with sexologist Renée Yvonne we discuss the challenges of navigating sexless relationships, the importance of communication about desires, and the need for understanding female pleasure. We explore how sexual satisfaction impacts overall well-being and the emotional toll of unmet sexual needs. Renée shares her experiences and insights as a certified sex counsellor, offering practical advice for couples to enhance intimacy and connection.There's no age-specificity when it comes to learning how to talk about sex. Whether with a new partner or in a long-term relationship, we can all benefit from improving our communication skills in this area. 00:00 Navigating Sexless Relationships09:55 Communication and Desire20:01 Understanding Female Pleasure29:57 The Impact of Sexual Satisfaction on Well-beingYou can find Renée Yvonne here:www.thegensexologist.comrenee@thegensexologist.comListen to previous episodes of her The Gen SeXy Podcast here.Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Lara and Aquaman are back with a brand-new episode of Pussy Church, and this week, we're talking all things orgasm. A new study reveals that prioritizing your pleasure actually makes you come more—so why aren't we all doing it? Plus, we're diving into Luigi's alleged sex tape scandal (yes, that Luigi), and we share our do's and don'ts for your next threesome. Amen.Check out the Tales Of Lara substack here. 

Rose Rouse is the editor of the social enterprise Advantages of Age and Now magazine on Substack, which we founded together back in 2016 to challenge the media narrative around ageing. She also happens to be one of my good friends.We share many of the same views on ageing, believing that getting older doesn't mean being "past it." We both enjoy wearing flowers in our hair from time to time, shopping sustainably, exploring out-of-the-way places, and generally being curious about life.However, when it comes to relationships, we're quite literally miles apart. I prefer the men I'm involved with to be within a 30-minute to one-hour proximity, while Rose has been in a decade-long relationship with a man who lives about six hours away. I'm not very monogamous, whereas she is deeply monogamous.I thought it would be fun to explore what it's like to have a "living together apart" (LTA) relationship and how Rose has managed to make it work for so long—especially when health issues arise, for example. We ended up diving deep into the topic, so much so that by the end she said to me, “And we didn't even get to the sex part!”That's true—we didn't. So, I suspect we'll have to revisit that in another episode. (I try to stick to 30 minutes to keep things engaging and prevent boredom from setting in.)You can follow and subscribe to Rose's own Substack, thespirited70something.00:00 Introduction to Unique Relationships01:12 The Beginning of Rose and Asanga's Journey06:19 Maintaining Emotional Connection11:22 Balancing Independence and Commitment15:06 Celebrating a Decade Together19:38 Navigating Aging and Future Challenges24:04 Family Dynamics and Relationship Growth25:11 Mature Love and Personal Growth27:24 The Decision to Share a Bed30:54 Conclusion and Future PossibilitiesThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my upcoming guide Getting Started with Sex Toys, a chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber!Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £9.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

This episode is inspired by a man who called Ms Erika for cuckold advice. He wanted to know how to talk to his girlfriend about his desire to explore being a cuckold. In this episode you'll hear about his specific situation, what Mistress Erika told him to do and then you'll find out what happened!Topics include:Myths about cuckolds: this man doesn't have a small penis, isn't turned on by humiliation, and they already have a great sex life.How a phone sex Femdom finds out the difference between fantasy conversation and a request for real life advice.Some differences between cuckolding, swinging and an open relationship.Exhibitionist / voyeur fans in the sex sceneSome of the things a woman worries about before becoming a hot wife or cuckoldressCommunication tips for alternate lifestyles like cuckolding, BDSM, kink or actually any successful relationship, even the vanilla ones.How to bring up your cuckold desires. What to do when you don't hear an immediate, clear answer to your cuckolding request.Some of the practical advice centers around talking about STD testing, personal safety with new partners, etc.Finally, what happened with this couple? Find out in this episode.Mistress Olivia's personal blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika's personal blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy

In this episode of 'Sex Advice for Seniors', me and somatic psychotherapist Erica Shershun, Author of Healing Sexual Trauma Workbook, discuss the pervasive issue of sexual trauma, particularly in light of recent high-profile cases such as Gisele Pelicot. We explore the impact of rape culture, the importance of recognising trauma symptoms, and effective healing techniques. Subscribe for honest, stigma-free sex advice for people who refuse to let age define their desires. Receive the weekly podcast direct to your inbox. ;)Erica shares insights from her work with trauma survivors, addressing common misconceptions about trauma and healing, and introduces her new guided journal aimed at helping individuals navigate their healing journey.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Sexual Trauma Awareness01:48 The Impact of Rape Culture13:17 Healing Techniques for Trauma Survivors22:52 Recognising Trauma Symptoms26:51 Misconceptions About Trauma and Healing28:56 New Resources for Healing Sexual TraumaErika's new Healing Sexual Trauma Guided Journal is available now via Amazon."I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."Want to go deeper? Join The Intimacy Insider Membership for exclusive advice, unfiltered stories, and expert reviews that will transform the way you experience intimacy.

Do you struggle to talk to your partner about sex without feeling awkward or afraid of rejection? You're not alone. Even the most confident, high-achieving women can freeze up when it comes to expressing their desires. In this episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I'm sharing practical tools and word-for-word scripts to help you navigate these conversations with confidence, clarity, and ease—without making your partner defensive or shutting down. You'll discover:

Darlaine and I have met before, and in this conversation we talk openly and honestly about the challenges of sexual health, especially for women after breast cancer. We shared some of our personal experiences and talked about how hormonal treatments can impact intimacy, as well as the importance of taking care of vaginal health. We also discussed how lifestyle choices can make a big difference, busted a few myths about feminine hygiene products, and looked at environmental factors that contribute to breast cancer. For me, the biggest takeaway was how much we need better education and support when it comes to sexual health, especially for women as we get older.Chapters02:57 Personal Experiences and Challenges05:54 Exploring Sexual Health Post-Breast Cancer09:02 The Importance of Vaginal Health12:01 Understanding Hormonal Treatments15:02 The Impact of Lifestyle on Sexual Health18:05 Debunking Myths About Feminine Hygiene Products20:58 Environmental Factors and Breast Cancer24:01 Navigating Intimacy and Aging26:53 Addressing Sexual Health Concerns29:52 Conclusion and Future ConversationsHere's what others have to say:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table after dessert with good friends, giving voice to what some of us have been feeling and thinking for ages!""Love the dialogue, love the subject, will be a devoted listener!!Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

It was great to have Ena Xena back on the show, recently back from a winter in Goa and glowing. The last time she was on the programme we talked briefly about her work in ‘Human Design' - a set of energy types that helps us to understand how to show up in the world, and how others relate to us. Similar to the astrological chart, in that energy types are defined according to birth date, time and place (only three months before your actual birth occurs). “Human Design offers a map of your unique genetic design, with detailed information on both conscious and unconscious aspects of yourself.”In this episode, we discussed Ena's forthcoming workshops - one on Human Design and the other about Full Body Orgasms (where you are fully clothed!).These will be taking place on the Union Canal, London, from 23rd February - 1st March and are entirely FREE, funded by the London Borough of Kensington & Chelsea.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Human Design and Workshops03:04 Exploring Human Design Energy Types06:11 Understanding Relationships through Human Design09:01 The Role of Energy in Relationships11:55 Full Body Orgasm Workshop Overview14:50 Navigating Sexual Energy and Confidence17:53 The Importance of Communication in Relationships21:02 Normalising Conversations about Sexuality23:46 Conclusion and Workshop DetailsThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

One of the perks of my ‘job' is occasionally being offered incredible freebies I can't refuse. My massive sex toy collection is one example, and another is the post I wrote about a sensual massage I received from Colin Richards.After nearly two hours of being massaged and sensually stroked by the country's leading sensual masseur, I felt as though I'd just returned from a week-long holiday (one where I'd been liberally coated in oil). It was divine, and I was eager to catch up with him to hear about his latest venture—a web-based channel for those who enjoy both giving and receiving sensual massage.While it may seem niche, more and more people, especially later in life, are exploring sensual massage as a way to revive their libido, deepen their connection with a partner, and fully embrace pleasure. In the world of massage, however, advertising these services can be tricky, as they often sit somewhere between adult work (even though penetration is typically not involved) and traditional massage.That said, the sensual masseurs I've met take their work very seriously, ensuring that clients' boundaries are respected and that the experience aligns with what the client is seeking.Currently, the networking platform operates as a Telegram chat group called Intimacy Matters. This is described as “the first phase of creating a networking platform to unite sensual massage lovers and general sensualists.”Colin explains: “To qualify to join, you should take great pleasure in giving and receiving erotic intimacy or, ideally, have some experience in sensual massage. You should appreciate intimacy and connection during sex. Empathy, authenticity, and being a good person should form the core of your values.”To get access too the chat group you must complete the Application Form00:00 Introduction to Sensual Massage and Community Building05:58 Creating a Safe Space for Intimacy12:03 Exploring Consent and Boundaries in Sensual Experiences18:11 The Future of Intimacy and Sensuality for Older AdultsYou can find Colin Richards at:Facebook; https://www.facebook.com/IntimacymattersTwitter; https://twitter.com/IntimacyMattersWebsite: https://www.intimacymatters.co.ukColin is a member of The Association of Somatic & Integrative SexologistsThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Guys, have you lost the spark in your sex drive? If that's you, you are not alone! Libido is a complex issue. There are so many reasons that male libido can falter, from stress and physical factors, to relational issues in your marriage. But for every factor, there are also solutions.  Learn the steps to uncover what's driving your lack of drive so you can revive the desire. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  The physical, mental and emotional health factors that affect sex drive  Tips to unpack the issue together in healthy ways  Is there a place for medical advice in understanding libido? Challenging the cultural myths about aging and sex drive  Steps to starting a helpful conversation about improving libido    Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide  Main takeaway: Husbands, have you lost the passion? Physical, mental and emotional factors all impact your sex drive but you can reignite the spark and enjoy God's gift of sex in marriage.  Questions to Discuss:  Dr. Kim said that things like depression, anxiety, financial stress, relational tension or past trauma can reduce libido. Are any of those affecting your sexual relationship today? What would you like to experience more of together in your sexual relationship?  What can you do together to make that happen?    QUOTES  “If you've got problems from the past that affect you in the present, you need someone to help you work through that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “When the assumptions got on the table, we realized they were wrong. That made such a huge difference.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Low libido doesn't indicate cheating or porn addiction, it's usually more complex than that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling The longer you let it go, the worse it's going to get. - Dr. Kim Kimberling   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Congrats to our Awesome Marriage of the Year - Brett and Megan Hamilton! To learn more about National Marriage week, visit their website HERE.  Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut' Sexy BUNDLE! Don't let negative assumptions tear you apart. Use our Free Printable 15 Better Assumptions to Make About Your Spouse to nurture a healthy mindset  Get Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!  

I have a very large sex toy collection, most given to me for free. When friends have come over and seen the overspilling box of toys next to my bed, the most common reaction is, “Wow, how do you find the time to use all of that?!'“ Here's the thing: testing out sex toys is a job like any other, and nobody knows that better than my guest, Ralph Greco. He has been reviewing toys for websites, magazines like Hustler, and anyone else willing to pay him for over a decade. As a result, I suspect he has a much larger toy collection than I do. I don't envy him for that, though, because toys take up space, are mostly not recyclable, and we have only so many erogenous zones for which a vibrating device can enhance our pleasure.Ralph is very funny and it was great to dive into the world of sex toys and our respective experiences using them. For those who have not been initiated into the world of sex toys, Ralph and I discuss how to get started, what does or doesn't make a sex toy useful, the growing interest in prostate play amongst older men. We also touched on what to do when you have accumulated too many toys - is it OK to sell them on secondhand toy/underwear/pantyhose sites?We we also delve into the evolving landscape of men's pleasure products, discussing the shift in perception towards adult toys for men. And we debate the balance between simplicity and complexity in product features, while humorously contemplating the future of pleasure with the potential rise of robotic companions.00:00 Introduction to Naughty Writing and Erotica06:01 Exploring Prostate Play and Older Men13:57 The Challenge of Toy Accumulation and Disposal19:12 Exploring Men's Toys: A Shift in Perception25:31 Safety and Quality: The New Standards in Adult ToysThousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now.Ralph's New Book is out on Valentine's Day! It's called Sex: Everything You Didn't Know You Needed to Know and is co-authored with M. Christian. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

SMNTY continues flipping through the history and impact of women's magazines, this time focusing on diet culture and sex advice in this classic episode.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Dildo Whisperer has a recent sex adventure that inspired this week's topic. Find out how Romaine was injured during sex and learn about the most common sex injuries. How many times has Ajay been injured during sex? More times then he wants to admit!  Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

Dr. Delaney is joined by Laura Kastner, PhD, a clinical psychologist and author of multiple parenting books. Together, they delve into strategies for talking to our teens about sex and not letting taboo or embarrassment get in the way of what can be vital conversations. Covering topics such as consent and alcohol they emphasize the significance of being an 'askable parent' through encouraging open conversation and not being afraid to talk plainly about what can be perceived as delicate or awkward topics for both teens and parents.     Featured Expert Laura Kastner, PhD   Books Wise-Minded Parenting Getting To Calm: Cool-headed strategies for parenting tweens and teens The Launching Years: Strategies for Parenting from Senior Year to College Life The Seven-Year Stretch: How Families Work Together to Grow Through Adolescence   Time Code 00:00 Introduction to the Screenagers Podcast 00:37 Meet Dr. Laura Kastner: Expert on Parenting Teens 00:48 The Importance of Open Communication 01:13 Challenges in Discussing Physical Intimacy 02:19 Addressing Taboos and Difficult Topics 03:27 Psychological Immunization and Early Conversations 04:48 Practical Tips for Parents 05:28 Real-Life Examples and Focus Groups 08:45 The Role of Humility in Parenting 10:28 Discussing Consent and Alcohol 17:30 Concluding Thoughts and Resources