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Why do so many of us feel alone? Why do we feel alone even when we are with other people? Where does this feeling of loneliness come from? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they always feel lonely. I discuss the feeling of loneliness, how it is present for so many of us, and how we can begin to heal, feel, and process feeling lonely. My intention for this episode is to offer you a new view on feeling lonely as well as help you to feel less alone, no matter where you are on your healing journey. I also give a life update, and discuss my own healing journey.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:15Life Update: 4:07Listener Question: 16:54Outro: 41:27For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/106For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Why is it that our head understands that a relationship is over but our heart still struggles to let it go? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener moving through the break up grieving process. I talk about the grief we feel at the end of a relationship and how so often the grief stage lasts longer than we expect it to. I offer a new view on healing from a broken heart and why this process will take as long as it's going to take, and that there is nothing wrong with that. My intention is to assist you in feeling less alone, letting go of judgement around your situation, and offering you a few tools to help you grieve the end of your relationship.TimestampsIntroduction: 0:15Question: 1:24Outro: 17:36For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/105For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In this episode I outline my Self-Love System and the 6 pillars for practicing self-love. By practicing the self-love system, you will learn how to love yourself one step at a time. Through self-love you will remember your worth, enoughness, and lovability, and feel confident attracting the love you are seeking. My intention is to assist you in remembering your own worth and helping you to feel confident in finding love. TimestampsIntroduction: 0:15Poem: 2:21Question: 3:436 Pillars of Self-Love: 9:01Outro: 25:20For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/104For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In this episode we talk about self-love. I answer a question from a listener who wants to know how do you love yourself if you can't remember a time when you ever loved yourself. I also talk about why so many struggle with self-love and why self-compassion is the key. I also share a poem I wrote and that can be found on my website.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:15Poem: 2:20Question: 3:28Outro: 19:22For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/103For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Join special-guest Erica Wernick and I as we discuss self-trust and following your intuition. In this episode we get honest about our own struggles with self-doubt, and how it can be really hard to trust ourselves. Erica and I discuss that following our hearts often triggers fears, but we continue to follow our inner guidance anyways because we have found that it leads to happiness and fulfillment. We also discuss how we both have learned to trust ourselves before it's logical, how trust triggers our fears, and why I'm done with people pleasing and am leaning into my villain era.TimestampsIntroduction: 00:15Discussion on Self-Trust: 2:43Outro: 54:19More about Erica Wernick: Erica has spent over a decade living her dream designing graphics for television. You can see her work on hit shows like Glee, Superstore, and most recently, This Is Us. Bestselling author of Meant For This: The Mindset And Strategy To Achieve Your Most “Impossible” Dreams, Erica has developed a reputation for helping people access their inner greatness and achieve the goals that used to feel out of reach. Erica's debut TV special will be streaming worldwide soon!For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/102For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know whether they need to feel guilty for cheating on someone they aren't technically dating? We will explore the feelings of guilt and learn why avoiding difficult conversations with partners and lovers can lead to unforeseen difficulties down the road. By the end of this episode, you will have a new view on guilt and new tools for processing guilt and handling tough situations in relationships.TimestampsIntroduction: 00:15Listener Question: 1:15Outro: 22:37For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/101For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In honor of New View Advice's 100th episode, Amanda Durocher gives a behind-the-scenes look into why she started the podcast and what she has learned on her healing journey. Amanda discusses her passion for helping trauma survivors and anyone seeking guidance along any type of healing journey. This episode features questions about starting new view advice, entrepreneurship, and the continued support of the new view advice community. Thank you to everyone in the New View Advice community for your support as we reach 100 episodes!TimestampsIntroduction: 00:15Questions: 1:18Outro: 27:18For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/100For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In this episode, Amanda Durocher discusses imposter syndrome and why these feelings often have nothing to do with your current job or situation. Imposter syndrome is often a form of self-sabotage and self-doubt and we don't even realize it. By the end of this episode, you will learn to embrace self-kindness and identify the root causes from your past that are causing you to feel like an imposter at work.TimestampsIntroduction: 00:15Listener Question: 1:26Outro: 24:36For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/99For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

This episode focuses on the partners and loved ones of survivors of sexual assault rape, and sexual trauma. Sexual violence impacts more than just the survivor and it is so common for the loved ones to feel overwhelmed, scared, angry, alone, and confused. In this episode, I will outline six steps for how to support a loved one who has experienced sexual trauma and also the importance of helping yourself throughout this process. My intention is to support you in learning more about the experience of being a sexual assault survivor and also assist you in navigating this difficult situation. After this episode, I invite you to check out the episode shownotes for this episode (link below). Also, if you are a survivor of sexual violence, I invite you to share this with loved ones so they can learn how to better support you throughout your healing journey.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Listener Question: 02:06Outro: 26:27For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/98For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In this episode we dive into the fear of putting yourself out there and the fear of abandonment, and how to begin to identify the root causes for these fears and how to heal. I answer a listener question from someone who enjoys being alone, but still struggles to put themselves out into the world authentically. They desire connection, but fear being left all alone or unaccepted. I discuss abandonment and how it is often connected to self-abandonment, and how these moments throughout our life can leave an impact on us and our hearts. My intention is to help you to see that vulnerability can be scary, but it's also really courageous. You deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin. My hope is that through this episode you see your own bravery and feel inspired to be yourself. There's no one like you and you deserve to express yourself in your own unique way.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Listener Question: 01:45Outro: 24:21For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/97For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

What do we do when we develop romantic feelings for a friend and they don't feel the same? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is in love with their best friend and they don't know what to do. I discuss how to navigate this situation, steps to gain clarity around the relationship, how to be honest with yourself and your friend, and how to decide if you should remain friends or let the relationship go. My intention is to help you to access your feelings and connect back to yourself so you can have confidence in what is best for you. Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Listener Question: 01:32Outro: 23:00For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/96For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In this episode I reflect on the healing journey and what that means to me. I spend time talking about how healing is a journey of transformation and how healing transforms our life for the better. This episode is here if you are looking for some inspiration, hope, or a new view on the healing journey.For episode show notes & transcript, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/95For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

This episode is about how to develop emotional maturity as an adult. Have you begun developing self-awareness but realized there are some immature patterns you'd like to change? Or have you noticed that in certain relationships you can be emotionally immature? Or do you struggle to handle or process your emotions? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who read the book Adult Children on Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C Gibson and not only saw their parents' behaviors in the book, but through self-reflection they realized they too possess some of these immature behaviors. In this episode, I outline 4 steps on how to develop emotional maturity. My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to build emotional maturity, embrace your humanity, practice self-compassion, and lean into feeling your feelings.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Listener Question: 2:07Outro: 23:36For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/94For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Are you curious about EMDR and wonder if it could help you on your healing journey? Have you tried it and wonder why it may not be working the way you expected? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who is starting EMDR and wants an honest opinion from someone who has done EMDR before. I talk about my own experience with EMDR and share 7 things I wish I knew before starting EMDR. My hope is that for anyone considering EMDR or currently in the process this episode will help you to better understand how EMDR can help to desensitize the really intense feelings attached to the memories of traumatic events, but also how EMDR may fall short in other areas. Full disclaimer - this episode is based on my own experiences using EMDR over the last 5 years. I am not a medical professional and this is not medical advice.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:14Listener Question: 02:08Outro: 23:01For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/93For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Are you looking to heal from generational trauma but feel guilty moving forward? Are you afraid that by moving forward you could be forgetting the very real struggles of your ancestors? Are you afraid if you don't continue to talk about it, then you are not honoring your family? This is a follow up episode 90: Generational Trauma: How to Heal the Impact of Family & Parental Trauma. In this episode, I focus on how to honor our ancestors and their experiences, while letting go of the guilt for leaving behind their suffering and trauma. Healing generational trauma involves taking the wisdom, lesson, and pearls from our ancestors, and being comfortable leaving behind the suffering. In this episode, I discuss how and why we honor our ancestors, and how doing this will help us to free ourselves of the guilt and shame so many of us are carrying. I discuss how generational trauma often feels like baggage and what we can do to begin to let go of that heavy burden.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Honoring Our Ancestors Teaching: 01:57Outro: 22:54For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/92For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Many women experience feeling naive throughout their life and one way this happens is through dating abusive and harmful men. In this episode, we are going to explore how and why women can end up in a pattern of dating “bad” men and not even know why it is happening. Today I am answering a question from a listener who grew up without a male role model and now finds herself in a pattern of dating men who hurt her. My intention for this episode is to help you to see that there's nothing wrong with you, why you should have love and empathy for yourself, why many women feel naive, and how to start changing the pattern so you can attract good partners.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:14Listener Question: 1:12Outro: 22:39For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/91For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Generational trauma can feel like a heavy burden, but so many people, myself included, feel guilty and shameful for feeling anything other than positive feelings and gratitude towards their family and cultures. Today I will be discussing generational trauma and how to heal from the impact of our parents and family's unresolved trauma. We will focus on trauma that is passed down from our parents to us and how we can begin to break the cycle so we do not pass that trauma onto future generations. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who sees the impact of their parents' unresolved trauma on their life and wants to break the cycle in order to not impact future generations with this trauma. My intention is to help you begin your journey to healing generational trauma through a three step process I outline throughout the episode.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:14Listener Question: 1:37Outro: 26:46For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/90For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

So many of us struggle to feel confident in who we are, and often feel insecure. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know why they have low self-esteem and how can they begin to build confidence. In this episode, I will share learnings from my own experiences healing my self-esteem, insecurities, and self-worth. I share four areas where I think many people's insecurities and low self-esteem originate, and I also discuss four steps for building confidence in your own life. My intention for this episode is to assist you in healing your insecurities and building your self-esteem and self-worth one step at a time. You deserve to feel secure and confident in who you are. My hope is that after you listen to this episode you will feel empowered to take steps towards your building confidence in yourself. I also share a poem at the beginning that helped me on a day recently when I was feeling insecure. I hope you enjoy!Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:15Poem: 01:54Listener Question: 04:25Outro: 34:00For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/88For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Today I will be discussing why vulnerability can be so challenging men (and all people). In this episode, I answer a question from a man who is struggling to be vulnerable with his wife and feels defeated and angry by her criticisms of him. In this episode, we will learn about how society and culture impacts male vulnerability and how women can often have unrealistic expectations of men. This episode is about honoring the male experience and we'll discuss how to ask your partner to honor your feelings. I also discuss how women (who are in romantic partnerships with men) can begin looking at their own patterns around men and their expectations of men in relationships.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Listener Question: 02:52Outro: 38:59For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/88For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!Mentioned in this episode:New Support Group for People Who Have Been Cheated On!This new support group for people who have been cheated on starts this February 16, 2024! Learn more at: newviewadvice.com/supportgroup

Do you ever find yourself feeling triggered by feeling like a third wheel? Do you struggle to hang out with your couple friends? Or do you even end up fighting with friends because you don't want to be a third wheel? In this episode, I will be answering a question from a listener who has been single for awhile and enjoys time alone, but struggles with feeling like a third wheel. In this episode I will be helping this listener to dive deeper into their insecurity of not feeling like they are enough, when boundaries are what we need vs when boundaries are too rigid, and processing feelings of jealousy, sadness, and not fitting in. My intention for this episode is to help you to bring self-awareness to your triggers around being a third wheel, understand why you feel the way you do, and begin to free yourself from hard feelings and past experiences in order to feel more secure in the present.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Listener Question: 01:46Outro: 26:33For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/87For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Perseverance is important on the healing journey because it reminds us of our strength when life feels challenging. In this episode, I explain perseverance and how resilience and delayed gratification can help you to continue to move forward. I also discuss my own healing journey and how I have learned to persevere over time, and that perseverance and hard work were not qualities that came naturally to me, but skills I developed throughout healing.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Why Perseverance Is Important for Healing Journey: 2:49Outro: 23:16For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/86For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Welcome to Season 4! In honor of this new season, I wanted to share a love letter I wrote to the New View Advice Community. New View Advice would not be possible without all your love and support, so today I wanted to take a moment to thank you from my heart to yours. I hope you enjoy. Sending you all my love.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Love Letter: 01:00Outro: 4:24For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/85For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Do you feel insecure in female friendships? Do you sometimes find it easier to be alone or with men than with other women? Do you find yourself feeling jealous, competitive, or mistrusting of women? If so, you may have a female friendship wound. In this episode, we discuss how to heal the female friendship wound. I'll be answering a question from a listener looking for advice on unhealthy female friendships. This listener recently went through a friendship break up, and sees a pattern, but doesn't know where to start. She has struggled throughout their life to keep female friends. As women, we all desire deep connection with other women, and my intention for this episode is to assist you with healing the female friendship wound, become aware of where your friendship patterns originated from, grieve past friendships, and begin to embrace friendships from a heart-centered and empowered place.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Listener Question: 02:07What is the female friendship wound: 4:215 Steps for Healing the Female Friendship Wound: 17:54Outro: 33:51For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/84For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Do you find yourself having fearful thoughts and living life in fear? Do you struggle with anxiety or always fear that bad things are going to happen and you have no control? In this episode, I'll be discussing what to do when we are living life with fear, general anxiety, or anticipatory anxiety over things that we can't predict or control. I'll be answering a question from a listener who is struggling with feeling like they are afraid of everything and always coming up with worst case scenarios (such as constantly thinking about a loved one dying). My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to move out of fear-based thinking and into loving thoughts that will help you be more peaceful and grounded in your day-to-day life. We will also discuss where fearful thoughts come from, why we have so many fear based thoughts, and fear vs love.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Question: 02:00Steps to Overcome Fear: 11:37Outro: 30:33For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/83For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!Mentioned in this episode:Dry January Journey Starts January 1, 2024!To learn more about the Dry January Journey visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/dryjanuary

Do you find the holidays overwhelming and stressful? Do you have a hard time setting boundaries? Do you find yourself hoping that the holidays will just get over with rather than finding ways to enjoy this time of year? In this episode, I will be answering a question from a listener who struggles with the holidays because of people pleasing tendencies and being an empath. I talk about what it means to be a people pleaser and where this pattern often originates from, and what it means to be an empath and why many people pleasers are also empaths. I will also be outlining 5 steps that I recommend for overcoming stress and overwhelm this holiday season. My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to find balance this holiday season and feel joyful and excited for the holidays.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Question: 01:505 Tips: 14:32Outro: 40:36For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/82For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In this episode, we discuss how to make a relationship work when you love your partner, but their parents disapprove because you are from a different religion or culture. I answer a question from a listener who is struggling after a break up. Her and her ex broke up because his family did not approve of her because she is from a different culture. They have struggled to communicate about the problem and now she wants to know if she should wait for him or if it's time to move on. My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to navigate familial relationships when you are both from different cultures, backgrounds, and religions, learn to communicate effectively, and how to confidently decide what is best for you, waiting for your ex or moving on.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Question: 01:30Outro: 27:18For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/81Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In this episode, I discuss why disappointment hurts so much and why it can feel like failure or a punishment. I answer a question from a listener who is having difficulty navigating a disappointing year that has them feeling down and defeated. We will learn how disappointment is often our psyche's way of telling us that we have unrealistic expectations or that we are attached to a future outcome rather than living in the present. My intention for this episode is to help you in understanding that although disappointment can really hurt, it's not a punishment or a bad thing and that it is actually an opportunity to get honest with yourself and realign your life to the present moment.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:00Question About Disappointment: 1:44Outro: 26:28Episode Shownotes: https://www.newviewadvice.com/80Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

It is so common for wounds and beliefs from your teen years to continue negatively impacting your adult life and relationships. In this episode, we learn about your inner teenager, the types of false beliefs that we create in our teenage years, and why the root of many of our adult problems are actually based on those untrue beliefs about life that we developed in our teen years. My intention for this episode is to assist you in connecting back with your inner teenager so that you can identify and heal your inner teenager and start living your best life.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Inner Teenager Discussion: 2:23Outro: 34:18For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/79Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionMentioned in this episode:Support Group for People Who Have Cheated on a Partner Starts November 14, 2023!To learn more about the 6-week support group for people who have cheated in a relationship, visit my website at newviewadvice.com/supportgroup or email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com

This episode is about healing from sexual assault and rape, and specifically focused on the question, “How do you rebuild your sense of self-worth after experiencing sexual assault or rape?” After sexual trauma, many survivors continue to suffer from lingering feelings of low self-worth, fear, anxiety, depression, and feeling stuck or lost. In this episode, I am going to dive into self-worth, why your sense of self-worth is impacted by sexual assault and rape, and how to begin the process of rebuilding your self-worth one step at a time.New Support Group for Sexual Assault & Rape Survivors starts November 16! Learn more here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/supportgroup Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Question 1: 2:16Outro: 25:46For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/78Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Denial is a common defense mechanism, especially after being cheated on by a romantic partner. Many of us are often left wondering whether we are being honest with ourselves. In this episode, I answer two listener questions, one from a listener who is conflicted after finding out that their partner cheated again, and one from a listener who wants to know why she keeps making excuses for her partner's infidelity. My intention for this episode is to help you to begin to bring awareness to denial in your own life so that you can stop the pattern, learn to trust your feelings and intuition, and start taking actions and healing. This episode is focused on infidelity, but is relevant for anyone who often wondering whether they are denying their feelings and emotions.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Question 1: 2:35Question 2: 28:28Outro: 40:53For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/77Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!Mentioned in this episode:Support Groups for InfidelitySupport groups for infidelity are starting this November 2023. - People Who Have Been Cheated On - Starts 11/13 - People Who Cheated on a Partner - Starts 11/14 Learn more here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/supportgroup

Have you ever felt like you aren't enough? Have your parents ever asked why aren't you smarter, more athletic, or more like your siblings? Or have you ever felt like you aren't good for your partner or to be in a relationship? Or maybe you feel like you just can't ever get it right at work? In this episode, we will discuss why so many of us struggle with not feeling like we are enough. We will discuss the tough feelings you may feel and identify the root cause for these beliefs. My intention for this episode is for you to feel less alone and to help you start healing your core wounds because you deserve to feel worthy and enough.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Why Do I Feel I'm Not Enough?: 02:09Outro: 39:43For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/76Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Rejection can feel as painful as physical pain and not only impact your self-esteem, but also can lead to feelings of loneliness, disappointment, embarrassment, or shame. The fear of rejection can be overwhelming and can have other impacts on your life as well. In this episode, I discuss rejection, what rejection is, why it is so painful, and how to heal from feeling rejected in relationships. I also answer two listener questions: one from someone who recently felt rejected by someone they had been spending time with and someone else who felt rejected after getting physical with someone. By the end of this episode, you will learn how to start processing your past feelings of rejection or your fear or rejection so you can learn to trust again and show up in the world as your best authentic self.Timestamps ⏱️Rejection Overview: 1:59Question 1: 23:06Question 2: 33:35Outro: 47:13For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/75Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Grieving the death of loved ones is always difficult, but it presents the opportunity to learn more about life and ourselves. In this episode, I talk about my experiences with grief and three lessons grief has taught me in my own life. I also answer two listener questions. One question from a listener who wants to know if it's normal for grief to cause a person to rethink many aspects of their life and a second question from a listener grieving the loss of a dog. In the second question, I also discuss the 7 stages of grief.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:003 Lessons I've Learned from Grief : 3:49Question 1 (Reevaluating Life After Grief): 13:38Question 2 (Death of a Pet): 26:20Outro: 37:11For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/74Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

How do we forgive ourselves when we betray someone else's trust? How do we heal the feelings of anger, resentment, and self-judgement? How do we learn to trust ourselves again? In this episode, I answer two questions about how to rebuild trust in relationships and also with ourselves. I also discuss the importance of self-care when we are healing from hurting loved ones and why it is important to become self-aware regarding our actions. I also give a life-update at the beginning of the episode for anyone interested in what I've been up to between seasons 2 and 3. TIMESTAMPSIntro: 00:15Life Update: 2:27Question 1: 13:52Question 2: 33:07Outro: 45:48For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/73Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!Mentioned in this episode:Sober October JourneySign up for the Sober October Journey starting October 1, 2023 at newviewadvice.com/soberoctober

Hey Beautiful Souls! I am so excited to announce that season 3 of New View Advice will be launching on September 27. Topics to look forward to include forgiving ourselves after breaking someone's trust, processing rejecting, healing grief, discussing the female friendship wound, sexual assault, infidelity, and more! Follow the podcast where ever you listen to episodes to never miss an episode!Learn more about the podcast: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

New View Advice is now on summer break! Episode 72 was the last episode of season 2. I will be returning this fall with brand new episodes for Season 3! Thank you so much for listening to New View Advice, I am so grateful for everyone who listens. Thank you for your continued support.If you are interested in submitting a question, please email me at newviewadvice@gmail.com or visit my website. If you are looking for extra love and support on your healing journey, I am still offering one-on-one session. Learn more here.Sending you all my love!

This week I have a special guest, Dorothy Johnson, Breakup Coach and host of the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast. Dorothy shares her own relationship experiences and why she knows it is possible to heal and get over an ex. We also discuss why time isn't always the answer when healing from a break up, and why self-love is so important when healing from an ex. We also answer listener questions, including how to move on, when to set boundaries, why the length of grieving is different for everyone, and what to do when your ex moves on and you find yourself missing them.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/72Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

When it comes to religious and spiritual trauma, religious institutions, spiritual leaders, and family dynamics can lead to hurtful or abusive experiences that can leave lasting impacts. In this episode, we are going to discuss how to start healing from religious/spiritual trauma and empower yourself to develop your own relationship with a higher power (if you choose to do so). I will also talk about my own experience with religion and my path to reconciling my own core truth vs. my family's. I also answer a listener question about someone who cheated on their partner and is experiencing “catholic guilt.”For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/71Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionMentioned in this episode:Journal Prompts Workbook: Healing from Being Cheated OnLearn more about the Journal Prompts Workbook: Healing from Being Cheated here: Onhttps://www.newviewadvice.com/store/p/journal-prompts-workbook-healing-from-being-cheated-on

Following the Covid-19 pandemic, many people still struggle with pandemic hangover, the lingering emotional and mental health side effects from pandemic. In this episode, you are going to learn that healing from a pandemic hangover is similar to healing grief and you will also learn the steps necessary to heal from the anxiety and depression that you likely felt during those uncertain times. My mission for this episode is to assist you in healing your lingering and unresolved feelings from the covid-19 pandemic so that you can show up as your authentic self in the post-pandemic world. I also answer a listener question about how to heal from a post-covid rut.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/70Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

Cheater's guilt and shame are common feelings after infidelity, but are often misunderstood by social media and the movies. In this episode, my intention is to explore why the feelings of guilt and share arise after someone cheats on their husband/wife/partner and my approach to processing the hard feelings so that you can focus on self-forgiveness and compassion. The first listener question is from someone who still feels unbearable guilt even though their partner forgave them for a drunken one night stand. The second listener question is from someone struggling with self-compassion and forgiveness after cheating on their partner. By the end of the episode, I hope you have a new view on infidelity.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/69Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a 5 star rating and a review!

Emotional abuse in romantic partnerships, families, and friendships can be scary and confusing because many forms of emotional abuse are subtle and committed by people we love. In this episode, my intention is to bring awareness to emotional abuse by discussing what it is, common warning signs, discuss what gaslighting is and why some people gaslight, and how it can look different in every relationship. I also answers two listener questions about healing from emotional abuse in relationships with romantic partners.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/68Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a 5 star rating and a review!

Trust in a relationship is built over time, but can be lost in a moment. When trust is broken, for example with infidelity/cheating, the feelings of betrayal can be intense and people often develop trust issues. But how do you re-learn how to trust yourself and your intuition? In this episode, you will learn how to start healing from the betrayal so that you can begin rebuilding trust in your relationship and with yourself. I also answer two questions, one from someone who keeps having their trust broken and feels like it is their fault, and another from a listener wondering if they can trust themselves to decide if they can trust someone who cheated on them.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/67Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a 5 star rating and a review!

The Father wound consists of unresolved feelings, pain, and wounding caused by your relationship with your father or a fatherly caregiver. Informally known as “Daddy Issues”, people downplay its impact on mental health for sons and daughters. In this episode, I explore the father wound, identify the root causes and symptoms of the father wound, and how it can impact your adult relationships. My mission for this episode is to help you bring awareness to your relationship with your father or father figure and teach you how to start healing your wound so that you stop playing out unhealthy patterns in your current relationships. I also answer a question from a listener whose father was absent and a question from a listener healing from an emotionally distant father after a divorce.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/66Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a 5 star rating and a review!

Many of us who struggle with self-doubt feel alone and the feelings of self-doubt, uncertainty, and anxiety can be debilitating and all-consuming. The truth is everyone experiences self-doubt at one point or another. In this episode, I discuss what self-doubt is, where self-doubt comes from, and 4 tips for overcoming and healing self-doubt.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/65Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a 5 star rating and a review!

Unrequited love occurs when one person “loves” someone who does not love them back. Unrequited love feels difficult so difficult to heal because there are real feelings of rejection and heartbreak. In this episode, I explore the underlying root causes of unrequited love and explain how to heal these hard feelings so that you can embrace the potential for real love in the future. I also answer a listener question from someone who loves a coworker who does not love them back.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/64Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a 5 star rating and a review!

Healing from infidelity involves learning how to process hard feelings. This is true for people who have cheated and been cheated on in a relationship. In today's episode, I answer a question from someone who is processing guilt after cheating in a relationship and another question from someone looking for advice on how to handle conflict after infidelity.Timestamps:Introduction 0:00Listener Question 4:22Listener Question 23:23For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/63Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a 5 star rating and a review!

Healing from a broken heart is challenging and many people struggle with moving on after a breakup because they feel depressed and alone. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is searching for healing after the end of a relationship and another question from someone who is looking for advice on how to heal after a breakup with no closure.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/62Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a 5 star rating and a review!

Disassociation can sound scary and overwhelming, but is actually much more common than we think. Disassociation is a trauma response and can become a patterned response to stress and overwhelm, and often looks like disengaging and disconnecting from the present moment. In this episode I talk about what disassociation is, why it's nothing to be afraid of, and how to begin healing. I discuss my own process with disassociation and the returning of traumatic memories. I also answer a listener question from someone who is moving through the process of having memories return and wants advice if they should tell their partner or continue to keep this a secret.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/61Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

Healing from sexual assault and rape takes time, patience, and a lot of support. In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who is deciding whether or not to press charges in regards to their sexual assault. I also answer a question from someone who was recently raped and is having many feelings and does not know where to start. This is the third episode I have done on healing from sexual assault and rape. Please listen to episodes 46: Healing Sexual Trauma: Recovering from Sexual Assault & Rape through Healing One Layer at a Time and 8: Healing from Rape & Sexual Assault: Learning to Love Ourselves Again After Sexual Violence for more teachings and to learn more.If you or someone you know is struggling to heal from sexual assault, call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or visit https://www.rainn.org/ to learn more. Please take care of yourself.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/60Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

Self-compassion is an important tool for not only healing trauma and heartbreak, but also for living a happy life. In my own life, I have found self-compassion to be crucial when I am feeling sad, lost, upset, and self-critical. In today's episode, I define self-compassion, share self-compassion practices, and discuss acclaimed author Kristen Neff's three elements of self-compassion.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/59Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

Workplace anxiety occurs when we feel anxious or stressed because of demanding jobs or confrontational coworkers and bosses. The symptoms of workplace anxiety can also have negative impacts on our family and personal lives. In this episode, I explain what work anxiety is, discuss the process for identifying the causes/triggers, and provide tools to help ease and heal work anxiety. I also answer a listener question from someone struggling with imposter syndrome and another person who loves their job but gets anxious around their boss.For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/58Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question