Podcasts about teen years

GET EXCLUSIVE MENTORSHIP WITH LEIGH https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/mentorship   Academics is often what brings many families to homeschooling. But then, we realize that so much else is important in our parenting and the home education years. One topic that keeps coming up lately, even in conversations with my grown children, is the balance between rules and relationship with parents and children. And we can easily default to focusing on one over the other. But, in raising our children and reading tons of books, along with the guidance in Scripture, James and I have worked hard to find that balance. Today's episode scratches the surface of this topic and I hope that it is an encouragement for you to lean in to where God is calling you to make adjustments in parenting your homeschool children. ♥ Leigh   RECEIVE LITTLE BY LITTLE HOMESCHOOL CONFERENCE UPDATES: https://littlebylittlehomeschoolconference.subscribemenow.com/   LITTLE BY LITTLE HOMESCHOOL CONFERENCE INFO:  https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/conference   DESIGN YOUR FAMILY'S UNIQUE HOMESCHOOL THAT YOU'LL LOVE! https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/blueprint   SIMPLIFY YOUR MEAL PLANNING https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/meal   CREATE YOUR HOMESCHOOL FAMILY'S HOME TASK SYSTEM https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com/tidyhome      Website -  https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com Newsletter -  https://littlebylittlehomeschool.subscribemenow.com/ Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/homeschoollifestylecommunity  Follow - https://www.instagram.com/littlebylittlehomeschool/ Connect - info@littlebylittlehomeschool.com   Listen to these related episodes: 10. How to NOT Dread Parenting and Homeschooling the Teen Years: 4 Steps to Being Intentional Before the Teenage Years    172. 5 Ways to Help Instill Faith in Your Homeschool Child and Why It Is Worth the Time    310. My Best Advice For Raising Boys Of All Ages And What To Do With Bad Attitudes In The Teen Years 

Clayton’s guest is author of ‘Parenting Ahead: Preparing Now for the Teen Years’. Kristen Hatton has some encouraging words for all parents in that they don’t have to fear the teen years! Tune in to hear about laying the groundwork so that having honest conversations, setting reasonable limits, and exploring issues of the heart becomes a part of the family culture, preparing both you, as the parent and your children for the next stage.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.Question:  I wish I had known what to expect when a child with trauma hit the teen years. Maybe a book suggestion of what to expect or resources on what may show up and how to handle it. Puberty and the teen years have hit our family HARD. I also notice other families with adopted children going through the same or similar things. ~Rebecca from KansasResources:Therapy Resources for Adoptive, Foster, and Kinship FamiliesCenter for Parent and Teen CommunicationParenting in the Eye of the Storm: The Adoptive Parent's Guide to Navigating the Teen YearsSupport the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building

What does it really take to guide a teenager toward independence in an ever-changing world? From managing IEPs and beginning transition planning at 14 to fostering self-awareness and skills for adult life, the journey is layered with challenges and growth. Parents like today's guest, Natasha Robertson grapple with teaching social media safety, addressing emotional needs, and balancing day-to-day struggles with long-term goals. The process is both exhausting and inspiring, requiring patience, persistence, and firm advocacy. While the tools like coaching, therapies, and community support help, the weight often falls on families to navigate complex systems, such as educational frameworks and disability services. For teens, building independence means developing judgment, learning routines, and understanding boundaries in a digital age. For parents, like Natasha, it means preparing them for emotional, financial, and social self-reliance while ensuring basic skills are mastered. Are we as a society truly equipping these families and teens with the tools they need, or are we still leaving them to figure it out in isolation?[00:00 - 08:34] Evolving Services and Self-AdvocacyRealizing that past trial-and-error with therapies informs current decisionsThe child's ability to describe symptoms (e.g., stomach pain, insomnia) guides interventionsEmphasizing the shift from purely parent-led advocacy to incorporating the teen's direct feedbackPreparing for ongoing changes in support needs as the child advances academically and socially[08:35 - 15:47] Navigating the Teen YearsAddressing the impact of puberty and hormonal shifts on behaviorConsidering new social interactions and the need for structured supportImplementing coaching strategies for everyday routines (e.g., chores, picking out clothes)Recognizing that independent living skills build gradually through guided practice[15:48 -28:40] Managing Digital BoundariesEstablishing phone usage restrictions (e.g., set times) to protect against late-night browsingFinding monitoring tools (apps that flag concerning words) to balance privacy and safetyRealizing that direct honesty about monitoring builds trust with teensCoaching the teen on responsible online communication and the risks of oversharing personal data[28:41 - 53:19] Caregiver Self-Care and ResilienceCarving out small daily moments for personal relaxation (e.g., a movie break or foot soak)Relieving stress by connecting regularly with supportive friendsObserving that the teen's increased coping skills allow the caregiver to pause before interveningTrusting the cumulative impact of years of therapies and interventions[53:20 - 1:01:50] Dr. G's TakeAwaysContact Natasha Robertson n.robinson8@gmail.com.Additional Resources MentionedCommunity Living Supports: Services that assist with daily living skills and social engagement.Individualized Education Program (IEP) & Transition Planning: Formal educational plans that outline services and future goals for adolescents.Career-Connect Programs: Local agencies or initiatives that help teens explore job training, résumé building, and employment opportunities.Book: A teen parenting guide by Dr. Ken Ginsburg, titled Congrats, You're Having a Teen, referenced for positive perspectives on adolescence.

257. Mother Daughter Relationship During Teen Years and Beyond with Sandra Stanley and Allie Stanley Cooney   "Love never fails." 1 Corinthians 13:8a NIV   **Transcription Below**   Sandra Stanley received her Bachelor of Science degree from Georgia Tech and Master of Arts from Dallas Theological Seminary. Sandra has a heart for foster kids and foster families, as she and Andy have been foster parents since 2010. Her ministry passion is promoting foster care in the local church. Much of her time these days is spent working on various writing projects and continuing her involvement with Fostering Together, the foster care initiative of North Point Ministries. Connect with her online:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrawstanley  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sandra.w.stanley/   X: https://twitter.com/sandrawstanley   Website: https://www.sandrastanley.com/   Allie Stanley Cooney graduated from Auburn University with a degree in Communication. She completed the North Point Residency program and simultaneously earned a Masters of Christian Education degree from Dallas Theological Seminary. With a decade of experience guiding students along their spiritual journeys, Allie is passionate about empowering middle school, high school and college students to embrace a life devoted to following Jesus wholeheartedly. She has a heart for middle school and high school students and can often be spotted at any number of local coffee shops pouring into girls in those seasons of life.   Connect with her on socials: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alliekaycooney   X: https://twitter.com/alliekaystanley    Questions and Topics We Cover: How can understanding the three potential relationship stages help these daughters navigate relationships with friends and with boys? When we coach our daughters through developing friendships, what questions do you suggest we ask for clarification and what Scripture do you share for understanding our responsibility within friendships? I love how you both emphasize alone time with Jesus. How can we learn and apply this?   Other Episodes Mentioned from The Savvy Sauce: 200 Planting Seeds of Faith in Our Children with Courtney DeFeo 196 Parenting for the Relationship with Sandra Stanley   Related Episodes on The Savvy Sauce: Parenting the Prodigal Child And God's Desire For Redemption With Mother-Daughter Duo, Claire Stanfill and Tindell Baldwin Effective Parenting for Toddlers Through College with Wife, Mother to 8, and The Exchange Founder, Elizabeth Pehrson Intentional Questions to Ask Our Kids with Susan Seay 207 Cultivating Character in Our Children with Cynthia Yanof 212 School Series: Benefits of Homeschooling with Jodi Mockabee 217 Tween/Teen Females: How to Navigate Changes during Puberty with Dr. Jennifer Degler 220 Cultivating Healthy Family Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman   Thank You to Our Sponsor: Leman Property Management Company   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review on Apple Podcasts, and subscribing to this podcast!   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV)   Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   **Transcription**   Music: (0:00 – 0:08)   Laura Dugger: (0:09 - 1:46) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Duggar, and I'm so glad you're here.    Leman Property Management Co. has the apartment you will be able to call home, with over 1,700 apartment units available in Central Illinois. Visit them today at lemanproperties.com or connect with them on Facebook.    I am so excited to get to host these guests, Sandra Stanley and her daughter, Allie Stanley Cooney. They have co-authored this amazing book entitled, Meet Me in the Middle, and throughout it I just loved their sense of humor. I appreciated their witty comments that had me laughing in the middle of their stories, but I also appreciate the practicality this book has to offer.   If you think back, Courtney DeFeo was a previous guest and we discussed the treasured Bible study, which is a great thing for mothers to walk through with their tween daughters, maybe girls of approximately ages 10 to 12, so I'll make sure and link that episode in the show notes, but today's book that we're kind of emphasizing is really good as that next step to highlight perhaps with your junior high or high school daughter. It's a beautiful book because you get really both real perspectives of the mother and the daughter from two drastically different angles, and that's kind of what our conversation is gonna look like today as I get to interview mother-daughter duo, Sandra and Allie. Here's our chat.   Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, Sandra and Allie.   Sandra Stanley: (1:59 - 2:03) Thank you for having us.    Allie Stanley Cooney: Thank you for having us. We're excited to be here.   Sandra Stanley: We really are.   Laura Dugger: (2:04 - 2:13) Well, I would love for us to just begin with the two of you sharing some of the hardest and sweetest phases that you've walked through in your own mother-daughter relationship.   Sandra Stanley: (2:14 - 4:00) Okay, well, let's see. Allie, this is funny and this kind of weaves through probably every question, but we are wired very differently from each other, and I am more analytical, efficient, organized, you know, all that. Allie is so creative and just spontaneous, and she is the best content creator and all of that kind of stuff, and I obsess over the details of did I capitalize everything and spell everything, and so while that has been amazing in this project working together because we kind of, you know, can just sort of coach each other along in our strengths, there were some times along the way in when she was growing up that that would just naturally cause some clashes, and that is mostly on me because I have a hard time understanding why efficiency didn't make it to the fruits of the spirit list, and you know, in parenting, efficiency is not the goal. The relationship is the goal, and I would switch those sometimes and err on the side of trying to be efficient, so often when we had those difficult times, it was on me, not her, because of all that kind of stuff, so the sweetest part, though, is she has always inspired me.   Even when she was a kid, she just had a maturity and a desire to have an intimate relationship with the Lord from an early, early age, and I think she just challenged Andy and me both in our just our personal walks with the Lord and authenticity and a bunch of things like that, so it's been a sweet relationship, and we pretty much talk all day long.   Allie Stanley Cooney: (4:00 - 4:34) Yeah, I was gonna say the sweetest season, I think, is definitely this one because I had a baby girl about two years ago, and I remember holding my baby girl for the first, second, third time, whatever, and just like, I love her so much, I'm so overwhelmed, and then looking at my mom and being like, wait a minute, you've loved me this much this whole time? Like, that's crazy. So I think getting to be a mom and doing this project together and all the things, I think this season has been definitely one of the sweetest for sure.   Laura Dugger: (4:34 - 5:07) I think that's very encouraging to anybody raising children in their home, but with your book, there were so many topics for mothers and daughters, but I'd love to first focus on this one section that you title, Finding Your People, and it's where you're talking about relationships, especially with friends and with boys, and so Allie, how can understanding the three potential relationship stages help these daughters navigate relationships with friends and with boys?   Allie Stanley Cooney: (5:08 - 7:43) Yeah, definitely, so how our book is laid out, a little bit of context, my mom wrote the first eight chapters to the moms, and then I wrote the back eight chapters to the girls, and we go through these different topics, and one of the topics, like you said, is friends and boys, so when I was thinking about that chapter, there's some, I feel like when you're in middle school, when you're in high school, friends and boys, that's what you're thinking about, that's what you care about, that's what probably you want to read about if you're gonna have to read something, so I wanted to break this down in a way that it's not natural for, you know, middle schoolers and high schoolers to think about, so we break down the three, the three potential stages, stages, that's what I'm looking for, we break down the three stages and let them know that in each stage of a potential relationship, you're called to love, and so the first stage is just before you enter into this relationship, or before you become really close friends, when you're kind of thinking through, is this something I want, is this something that will be good for you, asking the questions like, does this person make me more like Jesus, is this person a good influence, will this person help my life be better, or will it ultimately make it worse, and what does it look like to navigate that season really well, and then the next season is when you're in the relationship, and how can you love that person well while also honoring yourself and honoring that person, and then the last one I think is my favorite, because I think we forget about it potentially, and obviously a lot of our relationships, my best friend that I met in middle school is still one of my very best friends, but a lot of relationships that you have in middle school and in high school, they tend to go away, so there is a stage that is after the relationship, whether that's a breakup, or you just kind of drift apart, whatever that looks like, and the reminder that we're still called to love, because I know culture especially is like, breakup, you should just say horrible things about them, and trash them, and if anybody's friends with them, then you can't be friends with them, and I think the reality is, no, even when the relationship is over, you're still called to love them, and that doesn't mean you need to be with them, or anything like that, but it does mean being kind about them, being thoughtful, being gentle, even when you're no longer in that relationship, so I think that's something that students don't really think about, once the relationship is over, it's like moving on, yeah, you're not called to anything anymore, so yeah.   Laura Dugger: (7:44 - 8:13) I love it, and you really highlight the scripture in 1 Corinthians 13, and so even though your lessons there were directed at daughters, there's something for each of us to learn for relationships, and Sandra, I'd love to hear from your side too, when we're coaching our daughters through developing friendships, what questions do you suggest we ask for clarification, and what scripture do you share for understanding our responsibility within friendships?   Sandra Stanley: (8:14 - 10:28) Yes, great question. Well, and Allie talked about the structure of the book a little bit, you know, that we have eight topics. I write eight to the mom's. She writes eight to the girls, in the middle is the meet me in the middle section, where they come together, and where they can have these conversations, so that's the time when maybe we are talking about, okay, what is a good friend, you know, what does a good friend look like, what are some characteristics of someone that you want to be friends with, and that you want to see every day, and do life together with, what are those characteristics, what makes a lifelong friend, you know, what's the difference between a short-term friend and a long-term friend, what causes friendships to be short-term, you know, what are the things that can cause one to end, and another big question that we talk about is, do you, and do I, and this all applies to us too, not just to the girls, so when we're doing this meet me in the middle section, and having these conversations, this is a two-way conversation, and I think as moms, it's so important for us to be, you know, authentic, and to dive in and say, yeah, I kind of still struggle with this too, but do I want to become more like this potential friend, that's a big question, is there, you know, is this a person that I want to be like, because scripture is clear in Ephesians 5, “He who walks with the wise becomes wise, and companion of fools suffers harm.” That's an important thing to talk about with our kids. You are going to become more like the people that you spend time with. Another question is: Is this somebody I want to introduce my mom and dad to? I remember there were talking with our middle son years, you know, after college, after he was already married. He said, you know, I always knew, this is not a person for me, if I knew it wasn't someone that I would want to bring home and introduce to you and dad, or to Allie. You know, is this somebody that I want Allie to be friends with for the next bunch of decades, so you know, is this somebody I want to introduce my family to, and so we do take a deep dive into 1 Corinthians 13, the love chapter, Allie asked the girls to circle the characteristics of love, I asked the moms, hey, play along, circle the characteristics of love, let's talk about what it really looks like to love, and let's talk about what it really looks like to have friends who are lovely, and who we want to spend more time with.   Laura Dugger: (10:29 - 10:58) There's so much wisdom in that, and then I think one of your secret sauces, just as a family in general, is your practical teaching, and so if we're taking this even further, let's dive in, it's between pages 64 and 65, but there are a few quotes that I'd love for you to unpack, and one of the first ones is, don't trade what you want most for what you want in the moment.   Sandra Stanley: (10:59 - 11:01) Right, right, do you want to talk about that?   Allie Stanley Cooney: (11:01 - 11:43) Yeah, so I think it's really easy, especially when you're in middle school and high school, and you want to be popular, and you don't want to be left out, and you might want to have a boyfriend, and the reality is, if you just zoom back a little bit, you know, it's like, okay, what do you ultimately want? You ultimately want a healthy family, you ultimately want things in the future, and unfortunately, in middle school and high school, there are certain decisions that you can make that can ultimately compromise what you ultimately want, and so I think having that wisdom and that forethought of, why don't you even think about what you want? Like, have you ever sat down and thought about what you want in your future?   Let's do that together, and then back it up from there, and then see if you're making decisions that will lead to that.   Sandra Stanley: (11:44 - 12:55) Yeah, I think so, and the good thing about the book is moms can contextualize some of this to the age of their daughters, so if it's an older daughter, and she's in a relationship where, you know, there's likely to be some struggle with, you know, how far do I go physically, you know, what are my standards going to be, is all that, to relate to all that, this particular quote is such an important thing to talk about.   Don't trade what you want most for what you might want in the moment, and that speaks, you know, really loudly to a physical relationship, and one of the good things about doing this meet-me-in-the-middle-with-a-daughter is you can have these conversations ahead of time, before there's a face, you know, that we're talking about, or a particular boyfriend or friendship. We can have these conversations early, and then when these things come, we can go back and go, hey, remember what we talked about, about don't trade what you want most for what you want in the moment? Let's just, I want you to go on this date, but I want you to remember that, you know, the decisions that you're gonna make now, they're gonna impact what your future is gonna be like, and the story that you're gonna tell, so that was, that was just kind of what we were, had in our minds as we talked about, don't trade what you want most for what you want in the moment.   Laura Dugger: (12:55 - 13:06) Well, then you follow it up with, don't let your future be negatively influenced by people who won't even be in your future, and I think that kind of...   Allie Stanley Cooney: (13:07 - 13:41) I remember that clicking when I was in high school. I remember, I was dating a guy, and I was like, no, I don't want to marry him, like, no, like, that'd be crazy. What?   And then I'm like, why am I dating him? Like, yeah, I don't want anything, I don't want my friendships impacted, like, I don't want to push my friendships away because I'm spending more time with him. Like there's so many things other than just physical boundaries, which obviously that's a huge one too.   But even aside from that, people who aren't going to be in your life long-term do have the potential to affect your future. So I think that's a really important one too.   Sandra Stanley: (13:41 - 14:28) And affect the relationships that you want to carry into your future. Your good friends, you know, the people that you want to spend time with. So that's a really important one, I think.   And these are great conversation topics. You know, even if you write it on a card and hand it to your daughter and say, hey, let's talk about what this looks like. Don't let your future be negatively influenced by people who won't even be in your future.   And this is where the mom in the conversation that they're having in the meet me in the middle section can talk about a relationship that she can remember having that she thought was going to be forever. And it was, you know, seven months of her life. And then it was over.   So having those opportunities to have these conversations with our girls is so important. And these two particular quotes are really important to talk about ahead of time.   Laura Dugger: (14:29 - 14:52) Certainly. And it just circles back to even Allie, those three things that you were talking about earlier, those three stages, your conclusion in that section is love never fails. And so if we actually are loving in the way the list of first Corinthians 13 love list, then that is hopefully going to set our daughters and us as mothers up for success.   Sandra Stanley: (14:52 - 14:53) Absolutely.   Laura Dugger: (14:54 - 16:57) Let's take a quick break to hear a message from our sponsor. With over 1,700 apartment units available throughout Pekin, Peoria, Peoria Heights, Morton, Washington, and Canton. And with every price range covered, you will have plenty of options when you rent through Leman Property Management Co.   They have townhomes, duplexes, studios, and garden style options located in many areas throughout Pekin. In Peoria, a historic downtown location and apartments adjacent to the OSF Medical Center provide excellent choices. 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So there was one particular day, she was at school, and I had been in her room doing something and realized, wow, this is kind of off the chart messy.   And so when she gets home, we're gonna have to have a conversation about this whole thing. So fast forward, we get to the afternoon, Allie's upstairs, and I know she's up there in her room, so this will be a good time. And I wasn't always the best at picking my approach or my timing, but I did work on it.   So by the time she was in high school, I think I was better maybe at that. She might not think so. But anyway, so anyway, so I walk in her room and I look, and she's sitting on the floor, just furiously typing.   And she goes, mom, before I can even say anything, mom, my girls are going into high school, I'm getting ready to leave to go to college, and there's just some things I need them to know. So I'm writing Allie's rules for high school. And she said, let me read them to you.   So she starts reading this list. And with every single one, my heart just started, I mean, I just started melting into the messy floor with her because I thought this is so much more important. If I were to describe the bullseye on the target in parenting, it would have nothing to do with the clean room.   It would have everything to do with the character of her heart. And as she was writing and reading me these rules, I thought this is Allie's heart on display. And it just kind of was a life changing moment for me.   And then I asked her if I could put it on my blog. I was actively blogging at the time. And she's like, sure, nobody will see it.   So you can put it on your blog.   Allie Stanley Cooney: (19:09 - 19:09) Cute little blog.   Sandra Stanley: (19:09 - 19:37) And as it turned out, it went viral and was all over the place and radio shows in the mornings and all that. On the first day of school, back to school in Fulton County in Atlanta, there was the Burt Show, I think it's still show, Burt Show, a radio show, drive time show. And he was reading them, reading them off.   And everybody in his studio was all commenting on each one of them. So as all of Fulton County is driving to school, Allie's rules for high school were being read to them.   Laura Dugger: (19:38 - 19:45) Wow. I mean, I guess knowing the list, it doesn't surprise me that it would go viral.   Allie Stanley Cooney: (19:46 - 19:48) And I- Surprised me, for sure, yeah.   Laura Dugger: (19:49 - 19:59) Well, I envision mothers and daughters even listening to this conversation together. I do wonder if my daughters would love to pause and go back and say, remember, mark of good parenting is not a clean room.   Sandra Stanley: (20:00 - 20:03) So- Right, they're gonna bookmark that statement, yeah.   Laura Dugger: (20:04 - 20:10) I was guilty of that too, growing up. But Allie, would you be willing to share some of those rules with us?   Allie Stanley Cooney: (20:10 - 21:44) Yeah, no, I'd love to. Well, I will say, so I was going into high school as the small group girls that I was leading. No, no, sorry, I was going into college while the small group girls I was leading were going into high school.   And there was just a lot of things I wanted them to know and to remember and things we had talked about and things that maybe I had learned the hard way or watched my friends learn the hard way. So I will say, hearing them go, like I didn't write them for everybody to hear them. You didn't write them for a universal audience.   No, I think I would have written them differently, but it's sweet now and I'm glad. So I'll just read a couple. I won't do all of them because there's 20 in the book.   But one, surround yourself with people who build you up, not with people who tear you down. Have an accountability partner and be willing to tell her everything. Emphasis on her.   Yep, be so, so, so, so, so, so careful about who you date. This one's my favorite. I don't know why, I just, I really, this one hits home.   If you're wondering if you should break up with him, break up with him. That's the one I learned the hard way. Yep.   Pray, pray, pray. Don't ever forget how much you need God. Have a quiet time.   It may seem like a hassle, but it will help you stay close to God. Be nice to your parents. They love you and want what's best for you.   So if you disagree with them, just remember that they're a lot smarter than you. Sorry about that. Never be afraid to say no.   When you fall on your face, get back up. There's a bunch more, but the last one is one of my favorites and it's selfies are for faces. That sounds like a good one.   Sandra Stanley: (21:44 - 21:49) That was such an insightful one just for girls to hear. Silly. You know, you do a face, a face.   Allie Stanley Cooney: (21:49 - 21:52) I mean, it was mostly like an inside joke.   Sandra Stanley: (21:52 - 22:03) So there were several that were inside jokes for them, which didn't make fun and didn't make a lot of sense on the radio to drive time in Fulton County, but they made it all funny and fun.   Allie Stanley Cooney: (22:03 - 22:05) So that's a couple of them.   Laura Dugger: (22:05 - 22:17) I actually thought that was one of my favorites as well. It was put in a succinct way. And at that time, you were just a few years ahead of them.   And so hearing that from you lands differently than hearing that from mom.   Allie Stanley Cooney: (22:18 - 22:18) Yeah.   Laura Dugger: (22:19 - 22:35) But Allie, you're kind of explaining, it was one of those decisions, if you reverse back a little bit, can you share, you write that it was one of the best decisions to grow your faith. And it's something pretty replicable that I'm hoping others will grasp onto as well.   Allie Stanley Cooney: (22:35 - 23:12) No, and that was, if I'm remembering correctly, what I wrote in there, there's a couple of things, but deciding to be a middle school small group leader when I was in high school was probably the best decision I made for my faith because it caused me to take it really seriously. It made me realize, oh, the decisions I make aren't just going to affect me, it's actually now gonna affect these girls. I remember having a moment where I realized, okay, I don't wanna make any decision where I'm gonna be tempted to lie to these girls about it.   Cause you know, middle school girls, they asked me everything.   Sandra Stanley: (23:13 - 23:13) No boundaries.   Allie Stanley Cooney: (23:13 - 23:46) And they were all in my business. And so realizing like, okay, I don't wanna make a decision where if they ask me, which they will, I don't want to be tempted to lie to them. So what did those decisions look like?   What would I be proud to tell them? And ultimately what decisions do I want them to make when they're in high school? So it not only drew me a lot closer to Jesus, cause they also would ask me theological questions and like faith questions.   And I was like, I don't know, let me dive in. But also it was a really cool accountability that I really loved having in high school.   Sandra Stanley: (23:47 - 24:21) This is really one of the things that we've done for a long time in our church. And that is allow our high school students to partner with an adult to lead these small groups. And it just has, it has impacted all three of our kids in their faith journey.   And again, to Allie's point, a big part of it is accountability. Like, oh my goodness, I don't want my girls or my guys to, I don't wanna do something that's gonna cause me to either have to lie or that would be disappointing to them. And so I think it was a, I think it's a great part of the program, yeah.   But so volunteering, always huge.   Laura Dugger: (24:22 - 24:32) Agreed. And to get our students into ministry where they get to experience leadership early on, I think that's so profoundly impactful for faith.   Sandra Stanley: (24:32 - 24:33) That's exactly right, yes.   Laura Dugger: (24:34 - 24:59) Well, and something else that both of you emphasize, which I especially appreciated, was spending alone time with Jesus. And Allie, you were saying that we have to incorporate foundational beliefs and practices into our lives, specifically through two steps, learning and applying. So, will you elaborate on both of those parts?   Allie Stanley Cooney: (25:00 - 26:11) Yeah, so I, yeah, I mean, that's how we grow our faith. We can't have a faith if we don't know anything, and then we can't really have a faith if we're not putting what we know into practice. So, the learning really just looks like reading your Bible.   You know, it looks like it's those really obvious, quote unquote, steps. If you go to church, you've listened to the message and you take in the information about Jesus and about scripture and about God and about who you are and about who people are, and that's you're learning. You have to learn, you have to take in the information.   And then the second one is when you put it into practice, you know, you actually live out what scripture says, you live out what you're learning in church, you love the people around you well, you root yourself and establish yourself in the love of Jesus and who he says you are, and you walk in your identity. So, it's so multifaceted and there's a lot to it, but ultimately, if you can break it down and tell the girls, hey, we learn, and then we take what we learn and we do it, and that's how you grow your faith. And even when it gets hard, you keep going.   And even when people push back, you keep doing it, you keep learning, and you keep applying. And ultimately, that's how your faith grows.   Sandra Stanley: (26:12 - 26:20) And that is how a Jesus follower consistently follows Jesus. So, it's such an important thing. Yeah, absolutely.   Laura Dugger: (26:21 - 26:52) Well, and even one example of that, you first of all say, keep continually putting truth in front of you, but then you go a step further and you say, well, even before that, spend a little bit of time thinking about the best way to keep truth in front of you. And you challenge readers to consider the routines and rhythms of their normal day and see where they can put important truths in. So, do either of you have an example of how you do that in your own life?   Allie Stanley Cooney: (26:53 - 27:54) Yeah, and it's looked really different throughout my life. And I think I wanna give permission to these girls that it's okay if it looks different than somebody else, because we learn and we feel close to our heavenly father in different ways than everybody else and in different seasons of life. So, I remember when I was in middle school, I had a devotional, and it was very story-based.   It was like made up stories, but it had something to learn at the end of it. It had a moral and it was always Jesus-centered, and it was always about simple things like generosity and gratitude. And reading stories for me was how I connected with God.   And then as I got older, I started reading scripture for myself and I'm a huge journaler. So now my time looks a lot like reading scripture and journaling and then journaling some more and then reading scripture. And that's kind of where I find my time with the Lord.   Yeah, but it's definitely changed over time.   Sandra Stanley: (27:54 - 31:31) I would say that mine has changed in different seasons of life too. When you're single and you've got lots of flexibility and time, it really looked one way for me. It was morning and it was longer and all of that.   In the parenting seasons, it looked different throughout that journey when the little ones, I would try to get up before them and try to get my quiet time in, but it really did. It ebbed and flowed in the amount of time I was able to spend and all of that. In this season, I have more time.   And for me, it's always been better in the morning. I know some people are better at night and that's fine. For me, it's been morning, and I just have to have my space, my particular place that I go with all my quiet time materials there.   And when I'm there, it just, the distractions are minimal. And that's because that's just my place to be alone with my heavenly father. I've got a little spot to pray and a spot to sit and read and study.   And so that's what it looks like for me. I am so often asked by moms; do we make our kids have a quiet time? Do I make my middle school son or my middle school daughter or high school daughter have a quiet time?   And I always say, no, you don't need to make them do it. But I suggest three things. You model it, you encourage it, and you make it easy.   You model it, you encourage it and make it easy. So, I, my kids saw me and Andy having quiet times their whole childhood. And again, it looked different, different seasons, but they knew that we both spent time in the word and in prayer.   And that just modeled it for them. So, it was something that they just grew up kind of assuming is a given, which is a good thing, but you can also encourage it. And that's one of the things that we did was we just helped them as they got older, figure out what does this look like for you?   You know, what kind of, are you a morning person? Are you an evening person? Is this gonna be, you know, just helping them figure out best times and best practices and all that for their personality and temperaments.   And then making it easy. We always made sure our kids had age-appropriate Bibles in every season, starting when they couldn't even read little picture Bibles that were their own. We wanted them to have their own Bible and never remember a time that they didn't have their own.   And so we just made sure that, you know, different seasons of their lives, they had age appropriate Bibles. And one of the things that I did, and this is just a kind of a, maybe a little fun thing, their Easter baskets every year, while, you know, it always had some chocolate bunnies, you know, and all the normal Easter basket things, I always made sure that there were quiet time tools in their Easter basket that were age appropriate and, you know, proclivity appropriate based on what they liked. And, you know, one of our sons was a reader, one wasn't so much a reader, but if it was about an athlete and the athlete's testimony, they would both read that.   So, I would put all kinds of different things for Allie, journaling stuff, pens, colored pencils, just anything that I thought would encourage their journey in a quiet time. That was my big time to do that. And then of course, other times of the year, we would add some things, but model it, encourage it, make it easy.   And that's the best way to set your kids up to maybe make this as a habit. And even when they don't, nagging isn't gonna help, so don't nag, you know, don't nag under the guise of I'm just reminding them, but model it, encourage it in the appropriate ways and then make it easy.   Laura Dugger: (31:31 - 31:48) And I even thought there was additional practical wisdom that you shared within that section, just encouraging the mamas, guard your time. And how do you see that intentionality tying over into our time with the Lord?   Sandra Stanley: (31:48 - 34:00) Definitely it ties over. I think, you know, as we think about motherhood and Allie is experiencing this now, there's a whole other layer of busyness that gets added to your life. It's almost like the things on your calendar double.   And then as they get older, it's even more and more intense as they get older, because everybody, you know, has jobs. So, in this season with these moms of middle school and high school girls, they might be having their first little jobs or and your other kids also. So anyway, it's just a busy season and our time is limited.   So, we always say, Andy and I say this all the time to parents, your time is limited. So, you've got to limit what you do with your time. And when you make it a priority to have that time alone with your heavenly father, that's one of your biggest yeses.   And then they're just going to be some no's in different seasons. I call them categorical no's in different seasons of parenting. When the kids were little, I had all these categories of things that are just a no for now.   This might be a yes for later. It's a no for now. So, things like I'm doing now, like writing projects or speaking, or, you know, just stuff like that were no's when my kids were young, because those are so time consuming.   And so those were no for now, but not forever categories of things. So, I would say to moms and to daughters, you know, your time is limited. So, you've got to limit it.   And so, you know, pay attention to what the most important things are. And I would say, go so far as to say calendar those things, put those things on your calendar and treat them like appointments. Because typically the mom is the calendar keeper for the whole family.   And what we put on our calendars, what we actually do. And so I've always used my calendar that way to make sure that the most important things are on the calendar, even little things like call my grandmother, you know, back during those seasons, because I would get busy and, you know, two weeks would go by and, you know, I knew my time with her was limited. So just even little things like that I've always calendared.   And I think our quiet time may be something we need to calendar and give it a time slot. And, you know, for me, again, I'm the efficiency person. So that just works for me.   That doesn't necessarily mean that's for everybody, but it works for me.   Laura Dugger: (34:00 - 34:23) I think that's so good, Sandra. Thank you for sharing. And the two of you wrote about a couple really helpful words in a different section that was titled Family is Forever.   So, can you speak to the roles that gentleness and gratitude play in creating an enjoyable family culture? Yes.   Allie Stanley Cooney: (34:23 - 34:31) Yeah, well, I feel like a lot of girls feel like they don't have a lot of control within their family dynamics.   Sandra Stanley: (34:31 - 34:34) So, this was the topic on family in the book.   Allie Stanley Cooney: (34:34 - 36:07) So, you don't choose your family. You're not choosing what you're having for dinner. You're not choosing your curfew or your classes.   A lot of times in that season, it can feel like there's no control. And so, I wanted to give the girls a couple things that, hey, you do have a choice in these and you do control these as far as it depends on you. And so those things were appreciation, forgiveness, and gentleness.   So, appreciation, you can choose to appreciate your family. You can choose to appreciate your mom. You can choose to say thank you to the people around you for what they do.   Forgiveness, you choose to forgive. And then gentleness. This came a lot from my relationship with my brothers specifically.   How is the youngest of three? Of the youngest, I have two older brothers, and they were mean. Not gentle.   They were mean. And so, learning like, hey, they want you to respond in aggression. They want you to get angry.   That's kind of- They want a reaction. They want a reaction from you. And so responding in gentleness is actually how you deescalate the situation.   And I think that those things, it kind of gives girls like, oh, I'm not totally helpless. I'm not totally out of control. I can actually choose these things and I can choose to do them or not.   And I can see how it positively affects the family or if I choose not to do them, how it negatively affects the family. And we all have ownership in the family culture and vibes and feelings. And so, I think that helps the girls kind of have a grasp on something in their family.   Laura Dugger: (36:08 - 38:01) That's so good. And even, not that either one is more important for the other, but I really was thinking that sets children apart if they are grateful. And that sets parents apart if they are gentle and both are obviously encouraged in the Bible.   So I just thought that was incredible how you drew that out.    Do you love The Savvy Sauce? Do you gain anything when you listen?   Did you know that the two ways we earn money to keep this podcast live is through generous contributions from listeners and from our paying sponsors? That means we can promote your business and you're still supporting The Savvy Sauce. It's a win-win.   Please email us today at info@thesavvysauce.com to inquire about pricing for sponsoring each episode. Thank you for your consideration. And Sandra, you've been a previous guest.   I'll make sure and link to that episode in the show notes. That was about parenting, even starting with younger age children, which was wonderful. But Allie, this is my first time getting to meet you.   So, I'll share with you too. Your dad was actually my first pastor after I became a believer. So, I remember him preaching a series on better decisions, fewer regrets.   And he would challenge us to ask ourselves a question. I think I'm getting this right. In light of my past experiences, my current circumstances and my future hopes and dreams, what's the wise thing to do?   And so, as we're nearing the close of our conversation, would you like to share, after absorbing all this information from the conversation and from your book, now what? What is the wise thing to do?   Allie Stanley Cooney: (38:01 - 39:57) Yeah, so our last chapter is on decision-making because I do think all of it kind of points to the decisions and we point back to Philippians 4, where Paul is saying, now put it into practice. Everything you've learned, everything you've seen, all of these things, it's time to put it into practice. And so, pointing these girls and pointing these moms to stop in a moment and ask themselves exactly what you just said.   Okay, in spite of my past and my present and my future, what is the wise thing to do? What is the thing that will lead to healthier relationships? What is the thing that will lead to less regret in the future?   And I think it's even just a choice to stop and just ask that, because a lot of times we just go, go, go. We don't have time to stop to really think through anything, but the idea of, okay, before we make a decision, let's actually stop and ask ourselves, what is the wise thing to do? And it's not always gonna be popular.   It's not always gonna be easy. And sometimes you might be the only one doing it, but I know in my experience, and even when I was in high school, I went to public school, so I was surrounded by a lot of people who weren't making the wisest decisions and they were my friends and realizing, okay, I'm gonna, even though it's not popular, even though they might laugh at me, even though this might not go well for me, I know what I want my future to look like and therefore I'm gonna do the right thing. I'm gonna say no, or I'm gonna say yes, or I'm gonna do whatever I know the right thing to do is and just trust that it's gonna be okay and trust that my close friends will stick by me and my family will stick by me and they'll be proud of me. And so I think it's hard to do in the moment, but if you have that filter and if you stop and ask, then I think it's really, really great for you and your future.   Sandra Stanley: (39:58 - 41:46) And for moms and daughters to have this question in their back pocket as these things roll out, as hard decisions come along, it's just really important to ask what is the wise thing to do? And I think an approach for parenting in general, but especially for these moms of middle and high school girls, an approach and part of a conversation is, hey, Allie, I love you so much. And my goal is for you to get to the end of these middle school years or the end of these high school years with as few regrets as possible.   So, we're gonna get in the habit of asking this question, what is the wise thing for me to do? What is the wise thing for me to do in this situation? And the second question we talk about in that decision-making chapter is what story do I wanna tell?   When all of this is said and done, when this decision, even this one decision, when this is over and I'm on the other side of it, what is the story that I will want to tell? I think I'm gonna make that decision based on that. So those two questions, what is the wise thing to do and what story am I gonna wanna tell?   Those are big, big conversation pieces for moms and daughters to have and for moms and kids in general and dads and families to have, what's the wise thing to do and what story do you wanna tell? Because we wanna get them to a place where they have as few regrets as possible and God can certainly use our regrets, He can use our stuff. We're not gonna be perfect.   We are not gonna always get it right and we're not always gonna make the wise decision. And I think us being honest and chatting with our kids about decisions we didn't make that were the right ones that we might carry a little bit of baggage around on at the appropriate time and in the appropriate way, we can have those conversations with our kids and let them know, hey, I'm not perfect and I'm not expecting you to be perfect but let's get in the habit of asking these questions because they will cause us to have fewer regrets on the other side.   Laura Dugger: (41:47 - 41:53) So, good and it really puts you on the same team which you are when you're having these conversations.   Sandra Stanley: (41:53 - 42:18) And sometimes your kids don't feel that. They don't feel like we're on their team. They feel like we aren't because we don't want them to have fun or we don't want them to have freedom or whatever.   And it really does. These conversations do emphasize, hey, I am on your team and I am only saying no to this because I am so for you. And I think these conversations set us up for that.   Laura Dugger: (42:19 - 42:27) Well, you've shared some wise questions. Would you also be willing to share the prayer that Allie, I believe you prayed through high school?   Allie Stanley Cooney: (42:28 - 42:36) Yes, the prayer is give me the wisdom to know what's right and the courage to do what's right, even when it's hard and even when I have to do it by myself.   Sandra Stanley: (42:36 - 43:23) We started praying that for our kids before they even knew what we were saying. When they were toddlers, we were praying this prayer with them. And as they got older, that's when we tacked on the end, even if I'm the only one, even if I'm doing it by myself.   Because as you get older and you get into middle school and high school, sometimes you feel like you're the only one. And we celebrated like crazy when we caught our kids making a hard decision and especially if they were the only one. So, when we saw them making wise decisions, we didn't always catch it, but if we did, we wanted them to know this is to be celebrated because what's rewarded is repeated.   And we wanted to reward our kids for making those tough decisions. And I think Allie carried that on with her all the way through, so.   Laura Dugger: (43:24 - 43:36) Love that so much. And really, it's such a joy to learn from both of you. Can you tell us where to go after this conversation where we can continue learning from the wisdom of each of you?   Sandra Stanley: (43:36 - 43:56) Thank you. Yeah, the book is anywhere that you buy books, you know, on Amazon, all of the different places where you buy books. My website, sandrastanley.com has lots of links. Instagram, Allie Kay Cooney, yeah. So we're talking about it a lot these days, just in the season of talking about maybe in the middle.   Laura Dugger: (43:57 - 44:13) Love it. Well, you may know that I have one final question for you because we are called The Savvy Sauce because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge. And so as my final question for each one of you today, what is your savvy sauce?   Sandra Stanley: (44:14 - 45:04) You go. Okay, I'll start first. I think, Laura, it really is my calendar dictates my life.   But again, that's kind of a personality thing. But for me, if I don't get it on my calendar, it may or may not get done. So for me to put the biggest, most important things on my calendar, it just makes life more smooth for me.   So, I use my calendar for everything. There was a season where I even calendared exercise because it was a crazy season. I thought if I don't put it on here, I'm not gonna do it.   I have a rhythm with that now, so it's a little bit easier. But even things like making sure I'm checking in with my mom and dad, because they are in there getting to their late eighties and, you know, just little reminders of things that are most important that I don't wanna miss, that are easy to miss when I get busy, I just use my calendar for everything.   Allie Stanley Cooney: (45:05 - 45:51) Yeah, I think, I don't know if this is exactly what you mean, but recently, I wanna be off my phone more because it's just everyone's addicted to their phone. So, I got this thing called a brick, and I saw it on Instagram, ironically. But you can tap your phone onto it, and it basically shuts down any app other than whatever apps you want.   And the whole thing is you're turning your phone back into a tool and not a distraction. And it's pretty much changed my life. Because I'll sleep with it on brick, and then so I can't wake up and just like be on my phone.   So, then I have to like intentionally undo it to go on Instagram or do whatever. And then I just keep it bricked. And so, I'm not just scrolling, and it's been really, really helpful.   Laura Dugger: (45:52 - 46:21) I love it, those are so wonderful. And God has just blessed both of you with so many gifts, but I'm seeing so much wisdom, so much beauty in both of you, but your generosity to share because you have a unique family situation and are very well known. And yet you just are giving of yourselves through the time here, through the knowledge and wisdom that you shared in your book.   So, I want to say thank you for a thousand things, but thank you for being my guest today.   Sandra Stanley: (46:21 - 46:26) Thank you for having us. We really appreciate it. This was very fun.   Yeah.   Laura Dugger: (46:27 - 49:41) One more thing before you go. Have you heard the term gospel before?   It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you. But it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there is absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So for you and for me, it means we deserve death and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior. But God loved us so much, he made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life we could never live and died in our place for our sin. This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus.   We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished if we choose to receive what He has done for us. Romans 10:9 says, “That if you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” So would you pray with me now?   Heavenly Father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you. Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life?   We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.   If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me, so me for him. You get the opportunity to live your life for him. And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason.   We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So you ready to get started? First, tell someone.   Say it out loud. Get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes & Noble and let me choose my own Bible.   I selected the Quest NIV Bible and I love it. You can start by reading the book of John. Also, get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ.   I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps, such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you. We want to celebrate with you too, so feel free to leave a comment for us here if you did make a decision to follow Christ. We also have show notes included where you can read Scripture that describes this process.   And finally, be encouraged. Luke 15:10 says, “In the same way I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” The heavens are praising with you for your decision today.   And if you've already received this good news, I pray you have someone to share it with. You are loved and I look forward to meeting you here next time.

Ah the past!It's a wonderful time where the sun shone all the time and nothing cost more than a fiver!NOT!Our teen years were mainly confusing, crazy and hard but our music tastes were set on its path in our teen years. So we are joined by TopHead Nancy as we countdown our Top 10 songs from our teen years!Here's all our Gubbins - SOCIAL MEDIAwww.twitter.com/toptenpodswww.instagram.com/toptenpodswww.facebook.com/toptenpodsEMAILGet in touch with us right here:toptenpods@hotmail.comPATREONCome and support the podcast at Patreon for some great rewards including -BE A GUEST ON YOUR OWN EPISODES VIDEO PLAYLISTS FOR EVERY EPISODEEXCLUSIVE TTTOAP BADGEEPISODES 5 DAYS EARLY AND AD FREE!www.patreon.com/toptenpodsEPISODE LINKSApple: apple.co/3ica0FySpotify: spoti.fi/3BRhkypYouTube: https://bit.ly/3jQETisMERCH https://www.podcastmerch.co.uk/170026-top-10-of-anythingLINKTREEhttps://linktr.ee/toptenpodsBUY US A COFFEEhttps://ko-fi.com/toptenpodsSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/the-top-ten-of-anything-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Raising teens is messy—and that's okay! In this episode, I dive into the book Positive Discipline for Teenagers by Jane Nelsen, sharing how you can stay connected, set boundaries, and foster independence during these challenging years. I talk about how brain development, social-emotional growth, and individuation shape your teen's behavior—and why nurturing a strong relationship is key. Whether you're new to Positive Discipline or just need a refresher, tune in for insights, real-life stories, and practical tips to support your teen's journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Understanding Emotion Dysregulation and BPDIn this enlightening episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore emotion dysregulation, particularly focusing on its connection to borderline personality disorder (BPD). Fresh from his New Zealand trip, Bill joins Megan to share expert insights into why some individuals experience intense emotional reactions and how this impacts relationships.The Brain-Emotion ConnectionBill and Megan delve into the neurological aspects of emotion dysregulation, discussing how brain structure influences emotional responses. They explore research about brain development and its role in managing emotions, offering hope through evidence that therapeutic interventions can create positive changes.From Childhood Through AdolescenceThe discussion examines how genetic predisposition, early childhood experiences, and parent-child relationships shape emotional regulation abilities. Bill and Megan provide valuable insights for parents struggling to distinguish between typical teenage behavior and potentially concerning patterns, while exploring how media and social networks can reinforce unhealthy emotional patterns.Questions we answer in this episode:What is emotion dysregulation and how does it relate to BPD?How can parents distinguish between normal teenage emotions and concerning behavior?What role does brain structure play in emotional regulation?Can emotional regulation skills be improved through therapy?How do early childhood experiences impact emotional regulation?Key Takeaways:Emotion dysregulation is a key component of BPD but can be managed with proper treatmentBrain structure plays a crucial role in emotional regulationEarly childhood experiences significantly impact emotional regulation abilitiesThe teenage years present a critical window for developing emotional regulation skillsMedia and social networks can reinforce unhealthy emotional patternsThis episode provides essential insights for parents, mental health professionals, and anyone seeking to understand emotional regulation better. Bill and Megan offer practical, science-based information while maintaining a compassionate perspective on managing big emotions.Links & Other NotesCOACHING & CONSULTATIONConsultation (1-hour)Coaching: Live LabBOOKSThe Big Book on Borderline Personality DisorderThe Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness Planner for FamiliesCOURSESConflict Influencer™ ClassHigh Conflict Legal Dispute Resolver CertificationARTICLESKeep the Conflict Small (with managed emotions)OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal of therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:39) - Emotion Disregulation (02:18) - Catching Up (05:53) - Big Emotions and BPD (07:31) - Correlations (08:27) - Quick Shifts (17:54) - Anger Management Classes (19:03) - Teen Years (21:16) - Deciding What's Normal (27:41) - If You're the Parent (29:34) - Media Influence (32:29) - Bottom Line (33:01) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Anger Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

Hi Dads…If you have an adolescent daughter, today's episode of The Dad Whisperer Podcast is just for YOU. I've titled it: TURNING THE TURBULENT TEEN YEARS INTO TRIUMPH! As you know, I've spent decades counseling and mentoring teenage girls and I absolutely LOVE this age! Today I'm giving you some surprising and helpful insights into what she's experiencing developmentally so you can better connect with her during this incredible time in her life.

In today's episode, Lisa and Cheree dive into the evolving journey of parenting as our children step into their teen years. They explore how to shift from being the constant instructor to becoming an active listener, fostering deeper heart connections with our teens. You'll hear personal stories and honest reflections on the challenges and joys they've encountered as their own kids navigate adolescence. Together, they unpack the importance of letting go, trusting God in the process, and staying intentional in this new season. May this conversation inspire you to approach these teenage years with hope, grace, and excitement.

Did you know that you can use every day moments with your kids to teach them about Jesus? Join Danny & Rebecca as they sit down with Gracia Olivas to talk about the practical ways she teaches her kids about Jesus. Later, we answer a question from a listener who wants to when her and her husband should tell their kids that one of them was previously married. Click here to receive Danny's book, Seven Traits of Effective Parenting, for a gift of any amount! Click here to check out Gracia's instagram, @rootedinmore, for great practical ways to teach your kids about Christ! Click here to sign up for Family Reading of Scripture, for free, from Focus on the Family! Click here for Launch into the Teen Years from Focus on the Family! Click Here to Support the Show! We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

The tumultuous waters of parenting tweens and teens can often feel like trying to keep a ship afloat in a storm. In this episode of the Where Parents Talk podcast, Lianne Castelino delves into the significance of mindfulness and intentional communication as crucial tools in fostering strong relationships with our adolescents --- with her guest Kristen Manieiri.Maneiri, a conscious living coach, shares her insights on how hormonal changes during these years can lead to emotional upheaval, both for parents and children. We explore the delicate balance of maintaining independence while ensuring our kids feel supported in their emotional health, particularly in the face of bullying and the pressures of social media. By emphasizing the importance of discipline and consent in relationships, we aim to equip parents with practical strategies for nurturing open communication and healthier dynamics in this challenging stage of development.Takeaways: Mindfulness is key for parents to navigate their child's hormonal changes and emotional health, fostering better communication. Establishing rituals can enhance connections with tweens and teens during their journey to independence and self-discovery. The interplay of device usage and social media can affect mental health; parents should engage in these discussions with their children. Practicing consent in relationships is crucial, helping kids understand boundaries and respect in their interactions. Creating a supportive environment helps prevent bullying and promotes emotional and mental well-being among adolescents. Parents should model mindfulness to encourage their children to communicate openly about difficult topics, fostering trust. This podcast is for parents, guardians, teachers and caregivers to learn proven strategies and trusted tips on raising kids, teens and young adults based on science, evidenced and lived experience.In this podcast, we explore the impact of hormonal changes, device usage, and social media on discipline, communication, and independence.You'll learn the latest on topics like managing bullying, consent, fostering healthy relationships, and the interconnectedness of mental, emotional and physical health.Links referenced in this episode:whereparentstalk.comkristenmanieri.com

Ryan and Thatcher talk what it's been like for him as a teen, how he stays faithful to Jesus in his decision making.

On this episode of the Brainy Moms podcast, we dive into the emotional and practical aspects of parenting teens, focusing on the importance of flexibility, trust, and communication. Dr. Amy and Dr. Jody interview educator, author, and mom of 5 Amy Betters-Midtvedt who highlights the challenges faced by parents as their kids grow, the necessity of establishing boundaries with technology, and the value of teaching effective friendship skills to create healthy social connections. We discuss being flexible in parenting teenagers, navigating social media and privacy for teens, understanding and coaching friendships among teens, managing household responsibilities collaboratively, creating a bank of trust based on individual needs, and managing the emotions around the transition to an empty nest.  About Us:ABOUT US: Brainy Moms is a parenting podcast hosted by cognitive psychologist Dr. Amy Moore. Dr. Amy and her rotating co-hosts bring listeners conversations with experts on topics in parenting, child development, education, psychology, mental health, and neuroscience. Listeners leave with tips and helpful advice for helping moms and kids thrive in life, learning, and relationships. This episode is co-hosted with Dr. Jody Jedlicka.CONNECT WITH US: Website: www.TheBrainyMoms.com Email: info@TheBrainyMoms.com Social Media: @TheBrainyMoms Our sponsor's website: www.LearningRx.comSandy's TikTok: @TheBrainTrainerLadyDr. Amy's brand new IG: @DrAmySaysGraceDr. Amy's website: www.AmyMoorePhD.com

FINAL DAYS! RESET AND REFRESH WITH REIMAGINE YOUR HOMESCHOOL https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/homeschoolreset   Picking out and using curriculum in homeschool is a lot of fun. And it should be! But, there is so much more to these years than the lessons. Whether it's pressure from your homeschool state regulations, your own school experience, or voices of family and friends, most of the focus is on creating the modern school system within your home. The methodology and mindset creeps in easily. But what if homeschool was about something much more than lessons, multiplication tables, essays, and transcripts? That would mean you are missing out on something huge if you only focus on those. Let's bust the notion that homeschool needs to be solely about subjects and what lessons were accomplished this week. Today is your day to begin a reset of your homeschool! ♥ Leigh     REIMAGINE YOUR HOMESCHOOL: The 2025 Homeschool Reset You Need! ONLY AVAILABLE UNTIL JANUARY 10, 2025 https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/homeschoolreset     Website -  https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com Newsletter -  https://littlebylittlehomeschool.subscribemenow.com/ Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/homeschoollifestylecommunity  Follow - https://www.instagram.com/littlebylittlehomeschool/ Connect - info@littlebylittlehomeschool.com   Listen to these related episodes: 227. The Number One Key To Successfully Homeschooling Your Children Kindergarten Through High School     236. Use This System So You Know What To Do On The Bad Homeschool Days    275. 5 Tips On How To Increase Your Patience With Your Homeschooled Children    142. How To Build The Best Bond With Your Homeschool High Schooler: Motherhood and The Teen Years 

Xannie, Madhurima, Georgette, Céline, Jack and Hak Ja discuss the struggles teens face with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and explore how friends and family can offer vital support. The Bunch share personal experiences, emphasizing the importance of open communication, understanding, and creating safe spaces for those in need. Join us as we break the stigma surrounding mental health, provide actionable advice, and remind viewers that they are not alone in their battle. Check out our other videos on BPD and Teen Years from Season 5: Surviving BPD as a Teen: The Struggles You Don't See - The BPD Bunch S5E6: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3UGXimql25gPK7DNDgKrMv?si=nrNZ28qFSnevhNBFnbWWRA The Pain of Growing Up With BPD: How Teenage Struggles Shape Us: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yRNu1yjz7e6MrsmARBTBd?si=1rhbJzsUQYm7BbR3UtHQRQ

Join us on this emotional journey as Xannie, Madhurima, Georgette, Céline, Jack and Hak Ja discuss the often-overlooked experiences of those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) during their teenage years. The Bunch share their raw and candid stories, revealing the struggles, misunderstandings, and missed opportunities for help they faced. From feeling lost and isolated to the impact of family dynamics and the stigma surrounding mental health, this conversation sheds light on the realities of living with BPD as a teen. Whether you're struggling with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode is here to offer insight, understanding, and hope. Check out our other videos on BPD and Teen Years from Season 5: Surviving BPD as a Teen: The Struggles You Don't See - The BPD Bunch S5E6: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3UGXimql25gPK7DNDgKrMv?si=nrNZ28qFSnevhNBFnbWWRA The Pain of Growing Up With BPD: How Teenage Struggles Shape Us: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yRNu1yjz7e6MrsmARBTBd?si=1rhbJzsUQYm7BbR3UtHQRQ

In this emotional episode of the Surviving Siblings podcast, host Maya Roffler welcomes Heather, who shares the devastating story of losing her brother Casey to gun violence. Heather takes listeners on a journey through their close sibling bond, the tragic circumstances of Casey's death, and the lifelong impact of his loss. She opens up about navigating grief, seeking answers, and finding healing over the 30 years since Casey's passing. Heather's story is one of heartbreak, resilience, and hope, as she reflects on her journey to honor Casey's memory and find strength amid unanswered questions. In This Episode: (0:00:10) - Introducing Heather and Casey's Story Maya introduces Heather, who shares her journey as a surviving sibling and tells the story of her brother Casey, whom she lost to gun violence at 18 years old. (0:01:33) - Heather's Family Dynamics Heather reflects on her family growing up, her father's military background, and her close sibling bond with Casey, the middle child in their family of three siblings. (0:02:54) - Casey's Protective Nature Heather recalls her relationship with Casey, his protective personality, and the deep connection they shared as siblings. (0:06:18) - Casey's Teen Years and Struggles Heather shares how family challenges, including her father's alcoholism, influenced Casey's teenage years, leading him to the wrong crowd and struggles with substance use. (0:12:14) - The Night of the Tragedy Heather recounts the heartbreaking night Casey was shot and how he was brought home alive by his friends, leading to a chaotic and tragic turn of events. (0:18:37) - The Aftermath at the Hospital Heather describes the shocking moments in the hospital, Casey's brief responsiveness, and the devastating decision to donate his organs. (1:03:00) - Heather's Transformational Dream Heather describes a vivid dream of Casey shortly after his death, which brought her comfort and a sense of peace, affirming his continued presence in her life. This episode is a testament to the strength it takes to survive the loss of a sibling, especially under tragic circumstances. Heather's story is both heart-wrenching and inspiring, offering hope and solidarity to those on a similar journey. This episode is sponsored by The Surviving Siblings   Connect with Heather:  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@heatherleigh1977   Connect with Maya: Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingsiblingspodcast/ Maya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mayaroffler/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivingsiblingspodcast Twitter: https://x.com/survivingsibpod Website: thesurvivingsiblings.com Facebook Group: The Surviving Siblings Podcast YouTube: The Surviving Siblings Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheSurvivingSiblingsPodcast  

This week on the podcast, we're joined by Julie Tenner - an Intimacy and Relationship Therapist, mum of four, and cofounder of the Nourishing the Mother podcast. Julie shares her insights into the emotional challenges of parenting through the tween and teen years and how the many changes can impact your relationships with both your kids and partner.In this episode we discuss:> The emotional shifts and grief parents experience as their children become more independent and how the relationship changes.> Practical ways to foster connection with tweens and teens while honouring their independence.> The power of gratitude and appreciation in transforming your partnership when resentment over the imbalance of the mental load and the feeling of being on opposite teams has taken over.> Simple tips to prioritise your partner and maintain intimacy in the chaos of family and everyday life.Tune in for valuable tips and heartfelt advice on staying connected to your loved ones during the challenging but rewarding tween and teen years. This episode is full of strategies to strengthen your family bonds and rekindle your relationship with your partner. Don't miss it!You can find access to Julie's Couples Advent Calendar here.Want to hear more from Julie? You can find her at her website, Instagram, Facebook and podcast.This episode is proudly sponsored by my membership, the Natural Super Kids Klub. If you would like to become a member of the Klub to get more helpful resources to help you raise a happy and healthy family click here and pop your name on the waitlist. If you loved this episode, leave me a review! I would really appreciate it. Also, let me know your biggest takeaway from this episode by sending me a direct message on Instagram @naturalsuperkids or shoot me an email at jessica@naturalsuperkids.com.

In this Episode, Adam and Myself revisit our turbulent teen years—full of drama, growth, and lessons learned. Honest, raw, and sometimes hilarious, it's a journey through the chaos of growing up. Link to subscribe to Free weekly behind the scenes newsletter: https://stuartironscoach.kartra.com/page/behindthescenes

Every child has been created by God with a uniqueness, but there tends to be a few overarching themes when they are separated by gender. It can become easy to be frustrated with boy behavior. They tend to puzzle us as homeschoool moms. But, what if instead of seeing what they do as an annoyance, we look at it differently? Today, I am sharing my top tips that I've learned and employed as a homeschool mom to grow my boys into young men and not just merely survive, but to thrive as their mother. Find a few moments of quiet or put on those noise canceling headphones and get ready to look at your boys differently after this episode. ♥ Leigh     JOIN THE MENTORSHIP PROGRAM https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/mentorship    DESIGN YOUR FAMILY'S HOMESCHOOL WITH YOUR HOMESCHOOL BLUEPRINT https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/blueprint    CREATE YOUR HOME TASK SYSTEM WITH THE TIDY HOME https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com/tidyhome     Website -  https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com Newsletter -  https://littlebylittlehomeschool.subscribemenow.com/ Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/homeschoollifestylecommunity  Follow - https://www.instagram.com/littlebylittlehomeschool/ Connect - info@littlebylittlehomeschool.com   Listen to these related episodes: 10. How to NOT Dread Parenting and Homeschooling the Teen Years: 4 Steps to Being Intentional Before the Teenage Years   62. Practical Tips and How to Approach the Homeschool High School Years with Teen Boys and Interest-Led Learning    97. How to Build the Best Bond With Your Homeschool Middle School Age Child: Motherhood and the Tween/Early Teen Years    142. How To Build The Best Bond With Your Homeschool High Schooler: Motherhood and The Teen Years    235. Raising Boys In Today's Culture With Durenda Wilson: How A Homeschool Mom Meets The Challenges Through All The Ages 

What happens when your childhood wounds never heal? In this episode, Xannie, Georgette, Céline, Madhurima, Jack and Hak Ja explore the roots of borderline personality disorder (BPD) and how growing up with unmet emotional needs, difficult family dynamics, and trauma shaped their lives. Building on our conversation from Wednesday's episode, we share personal stories of feeling out of place, shuffled around, and struggling to transition from adolescence to adulthood. If you've ever questioned why you feel so deeply or why you can't shake certain scars, this conversation will resonate. Join us as we unpack the painful experiences that still echo in adulthood and share our journeys toward understanding and healing. Nov 23th we'll be back with a new discussion topic, Living with more than one personality disorder. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can be especially challenging for teens as they navigate emotions, relationships, and the pressures of adolescence. In this video, Xannie, Georgette, Céline, Madhurima, Jack and Hak Ja share their earliest memories of BPD symptoms during teenage years. We also discuss the relationships most impacted by BPD in adolescence, and the advice we wish we could give to our teenage selves! If you or someone you know is struggling with BPD in their teenage years, this video offers valuable insights for navigating this challenging period. Come back on Friday as we wrap up this topic, with a discussion on childhood events we believe contributed to developing BPD Nov 13th we'll be back with a new discussion on what it's like to live with more than one personality disorder. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

Struggling to find the right support when living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can feel isolating and frustrating—especially when facing a healthcare system that sometimes falls short. In today's episode, Xannie, Carys, Darren, Jack, Solène and André share stories of timed they've felt dismissed, misunderstood, and ignored by providers. Building on our conversation from Wednesday's episode, we chat about everything from overlooked symptoms, to recognizing when to reveal what information. Whether you're on this journey yourself or supporting someone with BPD, tune in for insights and practical advice on getting the care you deserve. Nov 6th th we'll be back with a new discussion topic, BPD in Teen Years. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

Struggling to navigate the mental health care system with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? You're not alone! In this episode, Xannie, Carys, Darren, Jack, Solène and André share personal experiences and practical strategies for advocating for yourself when navigating mental health care. Discover how to effectively communicate with healthcare providers, the importance of having a trusted advocate, and tips for making the most of your appointments.Join us as we explore:- Common challenges faced by those with BPD when seeking help- The balance between being assertive and avoiding being dismissed- Why having an advocate can lead to better outcomes- Personal stories of resilience and the importance of finding the right therapistWhether you're newly diagnosed or have been managing BPD for years, our insights can help you on your mental health journey. Come back on Friday as we wrap up this topic, with a discussion times we have felt dismissed by a provider. Nov 6th we'll be back with a new discussion on BPD in Teen Years. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

No one starts something with the intention of quitting. And that especially applies towards parents making decisions about their children. Of course, homeschooling is included in that! So, if no one plans to quit, why are there numbers of families doing just that? Could your family be next? Over the past decade, I've observed a few trends and one of them is the when, who, and why behind walking away from homeschooling. I thought that this should be brought to light and openly discussed so that you can combat this possibility on a personal level. Let's break it down and see what exactly leads to quitting, but then I've got hope for you to stay the course...I promise not to leave you hanging with bad news! ♥ Leigh     DESIGN YOUR FAMILY'S HOMESCHOOL WITH YOUR HOMESCHOOL BLUEPRINT https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/blueprint    CREATE YOUR HOME TASK SYSTEM WITH THE TIDY HOME https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com/tidyhome   JOIN THE MENTORSHIP PROGRAM https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/mentorship      Website -  https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com Newsletter -  https://littlebylittlehomeschool.subscribemenow.com/ Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/homeschoollifestylecommunity  Follow - https://www.instagram.com/littlebylittlehomeschool/ Connect - info@littlebylittlehomeschool.com   Listen to these related episodes: 125. 6 Warning Signs You Are About to Burnout As a Homeschool Mom    128. Top Reasons You Keep Changing Your Homeschool Curriculum and How to Stay Consistent With What You Have    227. The Number One Key To Successfully Homeschooling Your Children Kindergarten Through High School    142. How To Build The Best Bond With Your Homeschool High Schooler: Motherhood and The Teen Years    

Have you thought about the fact that your children are home with you and a bit of a captive audience at this point? It's true! And that means you can focus not only on academics, but on building their character too. Which means that to do that, it needs to be a focus for your daily lessons. With all the years of homeschooling and launching two of my children into the world, I have zero regrets of the time we focus on character training. And some days, it was the main goal for the day because it mattered more than the geography lesson. Grab a pen and paper and get ready to analyze your goals after this episode! ♥ Leigh   GET YOUR TICKET FOR LITTLE BY LITTLE HOMESCHOOL CONFERENCE www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com/conference   DESIGN YOUR FAMILY'S HOMESCHOOL WITH YOUR HOMESCHOOL BLUEPRINT https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/blueprint    CREATE YOUR HOME TASK SYSTEM WITH THE TIDY HOME https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com/tidyhome   JOIN THE MENTORSHIP PROGRAM https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/mentorship    Marilyn Boyer's Character Concepts: https://characterconcepts.com/store/ Character Building For Families Vol. 1 by Lee Ann Rubsam https://rstyle.me/+jNZJb6Qdhpx6fp8VqlHk_A September & Co https://septemberandco.com/collections/character         Website -  https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com Newsletter -  https://littlebylittlehomeschool.subscribemenow.com/ Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/homeschoollifestylecommunity  Follow - https://www.instagram.com/littlebylittlehomeschool/ Connect - info@littlebylittlehomeschool.com   Listen to these related episodes: 172. 5 Ways to Help Instill Faith in Your Homeschool Child and Why It Is Worth the Time    159. Want Your Spiritual Life to Grow as a Homeschool Mom? 2 Important Habits to Consider Adding    10. How to NOT Dread Parenting and Homeschooling the Teen Years: 4 Steps to Being Intentional Before the Teenage Years 

Facing big life transitions? Feeling overwhelmed? Riding changing hormones? Trying to figure out how to be your true self with pressures from all directions? Seeking deeper answers to life's questions? We all grapple with these core life issues, and we have so much to learn about how to parent teens holistically through these waters. Edgar Cayce gave a series of readings for a girl between the ages of 12-19. Corinne Cayce, MA ACC, and Dr. Arlene DiJamco use these readings as a case study to illuminate core guiding principles found in the Edgar Cayce readings on how to raise teens.

Are you feeling out of your depth as you navigate the teen years? My son, Noah, just turned 13, and I have noticed a definite shift in some of the dynamics of our relationship. That's why I'm so grateful for experts who can help me!   Amie Anger is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and mom of 6 kids ranging from 11-18 years old. She has a Bachelor's in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and two years of post-graduate fellowship training at the Yale Child Study Center through the Yale School of Medicine. Amie has been a private practice clinician specializing in child and family counseling for the past 17 years. Listen in to hear Amie's 3 takeaways for how to enjoy these tricky teen years! For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 303: How to Talk to Teenagers // Brooke Romney 358: Creating Golden Moments with Teenagers // Saren Eyre Loosli 367: 3 Ways to Create Lasting Bonds with Your Kids // Mike Westover (Rachel's Dad!) Annoucements: Parenting Advice for Teenagers Playlist Sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off with your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. ***

Is fighting and arguing a regular occurence in your home? Are you trying to maintain the peace in your home and encourage good relationships among your children? Do you desire for your homeschool children to be the best of friends as adults? Well, it all starts and ends with mom and dad. You get to choose what this looks like in your home during their childhood. Eventually, they will make their own choices, but those can be greatly affected by their upbringing. I'm sharing from my own personal experience of changing the story when it comes to sibling relationships and how my husband and I helped to ensure great friendships among our children, all in today's episode. ♥Leigh   JOIN THE MENTORSHIP PROGRAM https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/mentorship   GET YOUR TICKET FOR LITTLE BY LITTLE HOMESCHOOL CONFERENCE www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com/conference   DESIGN YOUR FAMILY'S HOMESCHOOL WITH YOUR HOMESCHOOL BLUEPRINT https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/blueprint    CREATE YOUR HOME TASK SYSTEM WITH THE TIDY HOME https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com/tidyhome     Website -  https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com Newsletter -  https://littlebylittlehomeschool.subscribemenow.com/ Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/homeschoollifestylecommunity  Follow - https://www.instagram.com/littlebylittlehomeschool/ Connect - info@littlebylittlehomeschool.com   Listen to these related episodes: 10. How to NOT Dread Parenting and Homeschooling the Teen Years: 4 Steps to Being Intentional Before the Teenage Years    88. Homeschool Teens and Friends: How to Balance Their Need For Friendship With Your Family's Goals    140. Break the Phone Addiction: Stop Letting It Control Your Homeschool Day    172. 5 Ways to Help Instill Faith in Your Homeschool Child and Why It Is Worth the Time   

Parenting teenagers can be challenging, but if we understand what is normal and start teaching skills during the pre-teen years, we can maintain a positive relationship with our teenagers and prepare them for success.  Marcus Aurelius Higgs is a communication coach for parents of preteens.  You can reach Marcus at his website https://marcushiggs.com.  Some of the highlights Marcus shares:The pre-teen years are bridge stage that can change the directory of a child's whole lifeTeen years are "break through" years of changing between looking inward toward family and turning outward to the world.Understanding normal development helps parents and pre-teens better navigate the changes they experienceTrust is built over timeHow to help a pre-teen or teen develop a strong sense of identityHow to overcome communication issues between parents and teensHow to help pre-teens and teens gain skills to manage their emotionsEmotions are valid, it's our behavior that we need to controlParents model correct behavior.  You can't be what you can't see.Autonomy supportive parentingDo it with them, not for them.How to teach problem solving skillsWe are the stories we tell ourselvesVirtue spotting - seeing the good in themANTS - automatic negative thoughtsHelping parents transition from being a child's "manager" to the "guide on the side"Teenagers don't communicate fairly - parents need to set the tone and literally be "the adult in the room"How to create small pockets of time to listen and connectYou make time for the things that you care about - put it in your calendarHow to repair and reconnectAnd morePlease share, subscribe, leave a rating and review, visit the Linda's Corner website at lindascornerpodcast.com and/or follow on youtube, facebook, instagram, and pinterest @lindascornerpodcast. Thanks!Also please visit the Hope for Healing website at hopeforhealingfoundation.org for free resources to increase happiness, build confidence and self esteem, improve relationships, manage stress, and calm feelings of depression and anxiety.   Become the champion of your own story as you overcome your challenges.

This episode is part of the "Special Connection Series"5 episodes, released every day this weekThe focus is all on lowering conflict with our emotionally intense kids by connecting instead of correcting5 topicsFocus on the Relationship, Not the BehaviorsWhy Emotionally Intense Kids Feel DisconnectedStop Conflict in it's TrackReframing Discipline and BoundariesBuilding Connection in Small Family MomentsGo listen to the previous and next episodes for all the information and subscribe on the website to get the Magazine that complement those 5 episodes with short takeaways versions of the episode, so you can refer back to them more easily, insight from guests of the podcast and an opportunity to join the Connected Family experiment next week.Today's topic : Focus on the relationship, not the behaviorWe'll explore how traditional parenting advice often focuses on controlling behavior, but we're here to shift the focus to building a strong and understanding relationship with our unique kids first.Join the Connected Family experiment September 30th to October 6thJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Jen Canobbio is a successful psychotherapist with her own private practice for over a decade, and in the last year has expanded into coaching and have created a 'teen empowerment coaching program' as a means of proactively protecting teen mental health rather than always working from a reactive place of healing trauma.Here's where to find more:https://www.facebook.com/groups/teentoolboxhttps://www.facebook.com/jen.wallacecanobbiohttps://www.instagram.com/jencanobbiocoachinghttps://www.jencanobbiocoaching.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-wallace-canobbio-lcsw-274…___________________________________________________________Welcome to The Unforget Yourself Show where we use the power of woo and the proof of science to help you identify your blind spots, and get over your own bullshit so that you can do the fucking thing you ACTUALLY want to do!We're Mark and Katie, the founders of Unforget Yourself and the creators of the Unforget Yourself System and on this podcast, we're here to share REAL conversations about what goes on inside the heart and minds of those brave and crazy enough to start their own business. From the accidental entrepreneur to the laser-focused CEO, we find out how they got to where they are today, not by hearing the go-to story of their success, but talking about how we all have our own BS to deal with and it's through facing ourselves that we find a way to do the fucking thing.Along the way, we hope to show you that YOU are the most important asset in your business (and your life - duh!). Being a business owner is tough! With vulnerability and humor, we get to the real story behind their success and show you that you're not alone._____________________Find all our links to all the things like the socials, how to work with us and how to apply to be on the podcast here: https://linktr.ee/unforgetyourself

BUY THE SLOW LIVING BOOK HERE! Today we are talking about the last phase in our Slow Parenting Series, the adult years and estrangement.Estrangement happens later in life when a family member cuts off another family member. This could be an adult child deciding to distant themselves from a parent or relative. Many times it is because the adult child is attempting to protect themselves.So... how do you keep your children from becoming estranged from you?Clinical psychologist Lindsay C. Gibson wrote the book "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" where she talks about the four types of difficult parents. I am sharing with you more detail on these parenting types and how they can lead to estrangement in the adult childhood years. The emotional parentThe driven parentThe passive parentThe rejecting parentThere are many ways to prevent them from becoming estranged, one of the most simple is having good communication. Say your sorry, show humility, and really work on yourself! Learn more about the four types of parents from Lindsay C. Gibson in her book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.Want to go back and listen to all of the episodes in the Slow Parenting Series? Ready, set, go!Episode 5 - Teaching Your Children to Slow DownEpisode 138 - Slow Parenting Series: Intro Episode 140 - Slow Parenting Series: Mindful Kids and Newborn StageEpisode 144 - Slow Parenting Series: School Age Readiness Episode 145 - Slow Parenting Series: Teaching Emotional Regulation to Children Episode 148 - Slow Parenting Series: The Tween and Teen Years with Amylee, the Productive Mama Want to know more about living a slowed down life?!Simple Shortcuts to Peace Course - https://stephanieodea.com/peaceNew Year, New You Mini Challenge - https://stephanieodea.com/newyouJoin me for my LIVE Masterclass - https://stephanieodea.com/masterclass/Website - https://stephanieodea.comBlog - https://stephanieodea.com/blog/Slow Living Podcast - https://stephanieodea.com/podcastSpeaking Opportunities -

Renee Cook from the Everyday Homeschool Podcast joins Andrew Pudewa and Julie Walker to talk about adding other creative writing assignments that build on Structure and Style® methods and ideas. Andrew and Julie also address diagramming sentences, motivating a reluctant student, and using Structure and Style for Students in a dual enrollment course. Be sure to listen for encouragement and ideas as you start a new school year. Referenced Materials Everyday Homeschool Podcast Renee Cook Structure and Style for Students: Year 3 Level B How to Write a Story by Lee Roddy Where are they now? Taylor Bennett: Porch Swing Girl But . . . but . . . but . . . What about Grammar? audio talk by Andrew Pudewa Fix It!® Grammar Mastery Learning, Ability Development, and Individualized Education audio talk by Andrew Pudewa "You Don’t Have to Like It" article by Andrew Pudewa Principles of Motivation audio talk by Andrew Pudewa Kumon Learning Facebook: Institute for Excellence in Writing (IEW) Curriculum (official) Hacking High School: Rethinking the Teen Years audio talk by Andrew Pudewa Podcast 385: Hacking High School, Part 1 Structure and Style for Students: Year 1 Level C Dual Enrollment with Christian Halls International Magnum Opus Magazine Link to Episode 440 Video If you have questions for Andrew, send them to podcast@IEW.comPerhaps your question will be answered at the next Ask Andrew Anything (AAA). If you have questions about IEW products or classes, contact customer service at 800.856.5815 or info@IEW.com

I'm so delighted that Belynda Smith is back on the podcast, after she interviewed me about The Emotional Life of Babies in episode 151. Belynda is an Aware Parenting instructor and a Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor. She is also the Editor of my trilogy of books. In this episode, Belynda shares about her passion for – and deep experience with – the vital importance of receiving lots of listening if we are wanting to listen to our children's feelings. Belynda shares about the details of Listening Partnerships, which is a term from Hand in Hand Parenting and which offers specific parameters to create deeper safety and healing. Belynda shares about her experience of coming to Hand in Hand Parenting when her children were in early childhood, after experiencing both frequent night waking (every 40 minutes) and, once her second child was born, her own unexpressed feelings starting to bubble up. She shares the breakthrough experiences she had when she first came across Hand in Hand Parenting, and when she had her first session with a Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor and Trainer, Ann Hefferan, which inspired her to go on and become a Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor herself. Belynda shares about the next part of her journey, and discovering Aware Parenting. She also talks about the process of having lots of LP support when editing the books. She shares about her experience of Aware Parenting and sleep and her teens, and the subtle difference between Hand in Hand Parenting and Aware Parenting with sleep. We also discuss what we experience is the vital foundation in parenting. Belynda has a new free offering on play coming up. She also has a monthly online listening circle and offers 1:1 Aware Parenting support. You can find out more about her and her work at https://belyndasmith.com.au/ and https://belynda-smith.newzenler.com/aware-parenting

In this episode of Embracing Enough, I'm joined by my friend Gary, who's here to share his journey of navigating adolescence as a teenage boy. In this episode, Gary and I dive deep into the highs and lows of those teenage years—insecurities, friendship groups, first loves, and all the messy emotions that come with growing up. We talk about how those experiences shaped him, not just as a man, but as a father today. Gary's story is a powerful reminder that the challenges we face as teenagers have a lasting impact, influencing how we show up in the world and in our relationships. Whether you're a parent, reminiscing about your own teenage years, or just curious about the male perspective on growing up, this conversation is one you won't want to miss. So tune in as we explore the complexities of adolescence from a boy's perspective and discover how those early experiences continue to shape us in unexpected ways. Don't forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. And as always, keep embracing the journey of reconnecting with your inner teenager. Until next time, take care!

BUY THE SLOW LIVING BOOK HERE! I'm joined today with a very special guest, Amylee Holler Udell aka The Productive Mama. She is a wife and mom to 3 girls and has created an amazing resource for parents! Amylee was one of those mamas who had home births, used cloth diapers, and homeschooled. Now she uses her experience to inspire new moms.Today we are talking all about the tween and teen years. We are diving into all of your burning questions around:ConsequencesSocial mediaCell phone rulesQuality time as a familyChoresGrateful kids become awesome adults. Helping your young children appreciate what they have jumpstarts their growth into teens who can have give-and-take conversations and develop sincere compassion for others. These are all baby steps to adults that people want to be around! Amylee is sharing this series of reflections, prompts, and templates to help you model thankfulness to your kids and build a culture of gratitude in your family. Grab it HERE! Looking for a cell phone playbook to use in your family? Download Amylee's cell phone rules HERE! Want to know more about living a slowed down life?!Simple Shortcuts to Peace Course - https://stephanieodea.com/peaceNew Year, New You Mini Challenge - https://stephanieodea.com/newyouJoin me for my LIVE Masterclass - https://stephanieodea.com/masterclass/Website - https://stephanieodea.comBlog - https://stephanieodea.com/blog/Slow Living Podcast - https://stephanieodea.com/podcastSpeaking Opportunities - https://stephanieodea.com/speaking/Coaching Opportunities - https://stephanieodea.com/coaching/Courses - https://stephanieodea.com/courses/Contact - stephanieodea.com/contact/

*** Download the Homeschool Curriculum Guide for Free @ KatieHedrick.com/CurriculumGuide ***   There are sooooo many curriculum options out there that it can leave a homeschool mom's head spinning! I mean… Have you ever found yourself staring at your laptop at 2 am, comparing Gather Round with Campfire Crew… at which point your eyes are glazed over and your brain is numb. The next thing you know, you're posting in a homeschool FB group, desperately asking strangers for their opinions because it's so HARD to decide between the two options… (I've been there!)  Let me say… there is a method to the madness! There are actually some simple, solid strategies for HOW to pick a curriculum that your entire family will love. Join my sister, Dori and me on the podcast today as we discuss cracking the curriculum code. (I promise it will make your life a little easier!) We're also sharing our curriculum stacks for the year. Go ahead and press play on this fun, and helpful conversation!    ————— Find this Episode on the Blog | KatieHedrick.com/198  —————   Homeschool Goodies You Should Know About!  Apply for a Homeschool Mom Scholarship to Receive 1/2 Off your First Steps to Homeschool™ Tuition **Application Period ENDS AUGUST 1** | FirstStepsToHomeschool.com    Check out the Step-by-Step Path to Homeschooling (and Download your Free Curriculum Guide!) | TeachMeToHomeschool.com    Grab a Seat at my (Free!) Class - Homeschool 101: Making so Easy that ANY Mom can Get Started! Register here | KatieHedrick.com/Homeschool101    ————— Resources Mentioned in this Episode:   Masterbooks Main Website | https://Masterbooks.com    Overview Video of Masterbooks America's Story 1, 2, and 3 | https://youtu.be/sS0toy0Wg28?si=1XEr_JCf6lsL0bjA   All About Reading | https://KatieHedrick.com/AllAboutLearning     World Watch | https://KatieHedrick.com/WorldWatch     CSB Bible | https://amzn.to/3S9iCP4    The Biggest Story Bible Story Book | https://amzn.to/3Y56xyi    Overview Video of Notgrass History From Adam to Us (World History Curriculum) | https://youtu.be/ChQipi0l6-k?si=LdXkeCQRlkKw1L0D    Squishy Body | https://amzn.to/3Scy2lx    Honey for a Child's Heart | https://amzn.to/3S4LGak   Teaching Textbooks Math | https://www.teachingtextbooks.com    Overview Video of All About Reading | https://youtu.be/oed3azXlj1g?si=-F3U5lOilTgRcnJt    “The Times Machine” Math Book | https://amzn.to/3W62KOp   Launch into the Teen Years by Focus on the Family | https://store.focusonthefamily.com/launchintotheteenyears   “Guy Stuff” | https://amzn.to/4d1CDyV   IEW Structure and Style for Students (Writing Program for Middle School & High School) | https://www.katiehedrick.com/sss    Podcast Episode #195 featuring Andrew Pudewa | https://katiehedrick.com/195    Gather Round Unit Studies | https://gatherroundhomeschool.com   “The Art of Poetry” | https://amzn.to/3S4bpjm   “Anne of Green Gables” | https://amzn.to/3XYMz8d   A Tour of Our Homeschool Space | https://youtu.be/8ysymYWvSUw?si=4v0gRm0dOUAKllYb  

It's a tough topic this week - parental grief. Sascha Demerjian is here from The Grief House and beautifully intertwines personal stories with information.   We don't only grieve for people that we've lost. Sascha explains that we also grieve for expectations, narratives, & ideas - sometimes beliefs we didn't even realize we were holding. We talk about how meaningful it is to have somewhere safe for the messiness of grieving and how we can resist wanting to jump in and fix things when others are hurting. It comes back to trusting the process. Remember that when our adolescents “launch,” they aren't done growing & learning - they keep growing all through adulthood, just like we do. Grief doesn't end, but bringing it to light & sharing with a community makes a big difference. Takeaways from the show We get to witness our teens' stories & narratives, not create them  Letting go of some beliefs in favor of a better relationship We grieve for ideas & expectations, not just people we lose  Holding deep faith & trust that our adolescent's lives are going to unfold just the way they are supposed to  “Don't make it worse”  Working through your grief & worries with a therapist  Enabling vs. empowering  Grief doesn't end  Bringing things out to the light & the power of community For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You might be many years away from graduating your child from homeschool, but can I tell you from personal experience that the time will begin to fly by? And before you know: you'll have a young adult stepping out into the world. One of the reasons you have decided to homeschool is to build relationships in your family. And once they are done with their homeschool academic years, that doesn't have to end. It does shift into a new season, but you can still have a great bond with your child. Today's episode is me sharing from my highs and lows and the mistakes that I have made in the past few years in hopes that my journey gives you insight into what's ahead for you. ♥ Leigh   SEE IF THE MENTORSHIP PROGRAM IS THE RIGHT FIT FOR YOU https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/mentorship   DESIGN YOUR FAMILY'S HOMESCHOOL WITH YOUR HOMESCHOOL BLUEPRINT https://littlebylittlehomeschool.com/blueprint    CREATE YOUR HOME TASK SYSTEM WITH THE TIDY HOME https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com/tidyhome     Website -  https://www.littlebylittlehomeschool.com Newsletter -  https://littlebylittlehomeschool.subscribemenow.com/ Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/homeschoollifestylecommunity  Follow - https://www.instagram.com/littlebylittlehomeschool/ Connect - info@littlebylittlehomeschool.com   Listen to these related episodes: 82. How to Build the Best Bond and Relationship With Your Homeschool Elementary Age Child: Motherhood and the Younger Years    97. How to Build the Best Bond With Your Homeschool Middle School Age Child: Motherhood and the Tween/Early Teen Years    142. How To Build The Best Bond With Your Homeschool High Schooler: Motherhood and The Teen Years    168. When Your Homeschool Child is Ready to Move Out: How Does Mom Move On? 

Ellen Galinsky is a respected and renowned expert in child development, and in this episode, she discusses crucial issues she has researched and worked on directly in supporting healthy cognitive, social and emotional development in children and teens. Barry and Dave discuss a range of developmental issues with Ellen and their relevance in understanding and supporting autistic and neurodivergent individuals and their families. Find out important resources on our website

In this episode of The Gateway to Joy Podcast, we continue our series on The Call to Motherhood (www.elisabethelliot.org/motherhood). We share Gateway to Joy radio programs: - Val - Q & A The Teen Years - Val - Courtship with Walt-1 We also hear from special guest: - Rachel Saint --------- Special thanks to Mike Dize and the Bible Broadcasting Network. Theme music: John Hanson. Visit www.ElisabethElliot.org for more lectures, devotionals, videos, Gateway to Joy programs, and other resources.