What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting | Adoption, Foster parent, Foster care, Adopting

If the college admissions process feels overwhelming… you're not alone. And if you're a foster or adoptive parent? There are even more layers to navigate. This week on What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting, I had the absolute honor of sitting down with Cynthia Nash, a college admissions and financial aid coach with over 20 years of experience at top-tier universities like Northwestern and Vanderbilt- and friend, this conversation is packed with gold. Cynthia has helped students earn millions in scholarships and grants, including: • Five students admitted to Vanderbilt- four on full rides • Three students at Johns Hopkins- two attending completely free • A Posse Scholar at Middlebury- with all four years fully covered And that's just the beginning. Whether you're parenting a child from foster care, adoption, or not—you'll walk away from this episode equipped with tools and insight to help your teen step into a future they didn't think was possible. In this episode, we talk about: • How to navigate the college admissions process with clarity • How foster and adoptive kids need different support • Where to find scholarships and financial aid that most families miss • The power of vision, mentorship, and strategy in shaping a child's future • And why education can be one of the most powerful generational tools of healing Whether your child is in 9th grade or nearing graduation- this episode will give you real steps, renewed hope, and a fresh vision for what's possible. Now, grab your cup of coffee, get comfy, and let's dig in! XO, Christine Marie

This week on What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting, I had the absolute honor of sitting down with April Ficklin, a TBRI® Practitioner, adoptive mom, and the Director of Family Support Services for Flourishing Families of South Carolina. April brings both professional wisdom and personal experience to this conversation. Her work is centered on helping adoptive families find real connection, healing, and hope through Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI) and her heart for trauma-informed care is nothing short of powerful. In this episode, we talk about: • The realities adoptive families face behind closed doors • How trauma impacts connection and what we can do about it • Why adoptive moms often feel unseen, and how to change that • How April is equipping families and organizations across South Carolina • And how faith plays a vital role in every part of this healing journey Whether you're new to adoption or knee-deep in the hard parts, this conversation will remind you that healing is possible and you don't have to do this alone. ☕ Now, grab your cup of coffee, get comfy, and let's dig in! XO, Christine Marie

In this episode of What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting, I'm sitting down with my friend Rebecca Del Pozo- an adoptee, an adoptive mom, and a fierce advocate for families who've walked this road from every angle. This conversation is honest, vulnerable, and deeply encouraging. Rebecca doesn't just talk about adoption- she's lived it in every form. From the unexpected twists and tender moments to the hard decisions and holy perspective shifts, she shares how the Lord has used adoption to shape her family, her faith, and her purpose. If you've ever wrestled with the "why" behind your story, or wondered if you're the right person for the calling in front of you, Rebecca's story will meet you right where you are- and lift your eyes higher. ☕ Now, grab your cup of coffee, get comfy, and let's dig in! XO, Christine Marie

Welcome back to the What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting podcast! I'm Christine Marie — adoptive mom, former foster parent, and biblical mindset coach — and today's guest is someone whose voice and impact in the foster care space cannot be overstated. I'm honored to sit down with Dr. John DeGarmo, founder and director of The Foster Care Institute, international speaker, best-selling author of 10 books, and foster/adoptive dad to over 60 children. Dr. DeGarmo has worked alongside child welfare agencies across the globe and is a leading voice for system change and trauma-informed parenting. In this conversation, we dive into the realities of foster care that few are willing to talk about — from the mental health crisis and over-medication of foster youth to the growing burnout among caregivers. We also talk about practical tools and mindsets that can help foster and adoptive parents stay grounded, effective, and full of hope even in the hardest seasons. Whether you're currently fostering, considering it, or simply want to better support foster families in your community, this episode is packed with insight, encouragement, and truth. ☕ So grab your coffee, get comfy, and let's dig in. XO, Christine Marie

This one is for the foster and adoptive parents carrying the weight no one sees—who keep showing up, even when it feels like everything is falling apart. Today, I'm sitting down with Devin Schubert—an adoptive dad of three—for a conversation about the cost of obedience, the depth of trauma, and the God who restores what we thought was lost forever. After adopting his son, Devin walked through five years of chaos: -Explosive trauma -Daily police calls -System after system that failed -And the heartbreak of watching his marriage fall apart When his wife left, Devin stepped into solo fatherhood, determined to fight for his son—alone. Until the fight nearly killed him.  Diagnosed with trauma shock  Given 3 months to live Flat on his back, ready to give up, Jesus walked in and said: “You left the 99 to save the 1. Now I'm giving you the 99 to tell your story to the nations.” And now—four years later—his son is being reunited with him and moving back home in just 4 months. This episode is a story of resilience, radical love, and full-circle redemption for every parent who's ever wondered, “Is it worth it?” Tune in now and be reminded: God sees your sacrifice. He restores what was lost. And the story isn't over yet. ☕ Grab your coffee, get comfy, and let's dig in. XO, Christine Marie

Today, I'm joined by the incredible DJ Noble, a former radio host, teacher, and long-time foster parent with a powerful 15-year journey that spans across Virginia and Kansas. In this episode, we're talking about the REAL side of foster care—the emotions, the relationships, the red tape, and the redemption. Together, we unpack: ✨ What it's like navigating two different state systems ✨ How to honor and embrace biological families ✨ The impact fostering can have on your own bio kids ✨ Practical advice for navigating relationships, grief, and growth DJ brings so much wisdom—not just from his professional background in sociology, urban affairs, and theology—but from living this life every single day. With his wife, Sanna, they've raised two biological sons and fostered dozens more. Right now? They've got three boys in their home and are still showing up with heart, humor, and purpose. This conversation is full of real talk, practical insight, and encouragement for anyone currently fostering or considering the call. Listen now to hear how DJ balances faith, family, and fostering—and why the way we view biological families could change everything. Check out DJ's podcast “Off The Grid” at www.IndiesCollective.com for more of his powerful voice and mission. ☕ Grab your coffee, get comfy, and let's dig in! XO, Christine Marie

Welcome back to the What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting podcast — a Christ-centered space for foster and adoptive moms navigating the complex, beautiful, and often messy journey of parenting children from hard places. I'm Christine Marie, an adoptive mom and certified Biblical mindset coach, and I'm so thankful you're here. In this powerful episode, I'm joined by Nicole Barlow — fellow adoptive mama of six, Host of Foster Parent Well podcast, TBRI® practitioner, and wellness coach — as we dive into the heart of trauma-informed parenting. Nicole shares her family's story of adopting through foster care and how Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI) became the game-changer in helping her children heal. If you're new to TBRI, it's a trauma-informed, connection-centered parenting model designed to meet the needs of children who have experienced abuse, neglect, or trauma. It helps parents build trust, strengthen attachment, and bring safety and regulation to kids from hard places. Nicole offers practical tools, mindset shifts, and powerful encouragement for adoptive and foster moms who are feeling overwhelmed or unsure of how to help their children heal. Whether you're considering foster care, currently fostering, or in the thick of post-adoption life, this episode will bring hope, clarity, and a renewed sense of purpose. ☕ Now, grab your cup of coffee, get comfy, and let's dig in! XO, Christine Marie

***SENSITIVE CONTENT WARNING.*** In this powerful episode of the What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting podcast, I sit down with Joseph Pedroza, a man whose story will leave you speechless. His journey is one of pain, resilience, and divine transformation—a true testimony to the power of God's redemption. Joseph's childhood was marked by deep trauma—placed in foster care, experiencing horrific abuse after adoption, and facing multiple arrests both as a youth and as an adult. He endured some of life's darkest moments, but his story didn't end there. A life-changing encounter with the Holy Spirit radically transformed his life, setting him on a path of healing, faith, and restoration. Together, we dive deep into faith, healing, and the adoption journey. Joseph opens up about discovering his true identity in Christ and how that revelation brought him incredible breakthrough. If you're navigating the complexities of foster care, adoption, trauma, or your own healing journey, this episode is for you. ✨ Get ready for a raw, eye-opening conversation about faith, resilience, and stepping into the fullness of who God created you to be.

Welcome to the What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting podcast! I'm Christine Marie, an adoptive mom and former foster parent, and I'm so glad you're here. In today's episode, I'm joined by James McLamb, the visionary founder and CEO of Generation Youth, known as America's Youth Coach. With a background in Agricultural Education and Youth Development Leadership, James has dedicated his life to empowering and transforming the lives of young people. As a dynamic speaker, trainer, and the acclaimed author of Tomorrow's Youth, James has a remarkable ability to connect with and inspire the next generation. His impact extends even further through The Generation Youth Show, a record-setting podcast where he shares powerful insights and interviews that motivate countless listeners. Beyond speaking and coaching, James is an innovator in youth development. He has pioneered groundbreaking programs like the Ziglar Youth Certification and the Generation Youth Coach Certification, equipping young individuals with the tools and confidence to thrive. But today, we're diving into a deeply personal side of his journey—his experience with private adoption. James opens up about the challenges, triumphs, and unexpected blessings of adopting his two children. This conversation is a powerful testament to faith, trust, and the unconditional love that forms a family. Join us as we explore the intersection of faith and adoption, offering encouragement and insights for those on a similar path. Whether you're considering adoption, in the midst of the journey, or simply looking for inspiration, this episode is for you! ☕ Now, grab your cup of coffee, get comfy, and let's dig in! XO, Christine Marie

Welcome to my latest episode of the "What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting" podcast. I'm excited to share this heartwarming conversation with my special guest, Steve Wormer—a proven leader who embodies integrity, strength, and compassion in every area of his life.   Steve's journey is nothing short of inspirational. He was a proven leader in corporate america, is the executive director of a nonprofit organization, and served in three churches, currently ministering at The Memphis Church. Following Jesus drives everything he does, and he's dedicated his life to helping others process unhealed emotions like unforgiveness, bitterness, anxiety, and relationship challenges. As a John Maxwell-certified speaker, coach, and trainer, Steve not only shares his powerful personal story but also reveals his eight steps for getting unstuck and taking the next steps toward achieving one's dreams. During this episode, Steve opens up about his unique path—from a turbulent youth to becoming a devoted husband, father, speaker, author, and executive director of the nonprofit “Hurt to Hope.” He candidly discusses the heartache he and his wife Rebecca faced, including five miscarriages and six failed adoption attempts, before God blessed them with three amazing children through adoption. His testimony is a moving reminder that prayer, persistence, and faith can transform even the most challenging circumstances into a story of hope. I am so excited for you to hear his story today and I am confident you will be as inspired as I was. ☕ Now, grab your cup of coffee, get comfy, and let's dig in! XO, Christine Marie

Welcome to the What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting podcast—a space created to provide guidance, encouragement, and real talk for foster and adoptive moms navigating the challenges of the system. In this episode, we're tackling one of the biggest struggles in this journey: fear. It's so easy to let worry and uncertainty take over, but today, I'm sharing how to shift from a fear-based mindset to one grounded in love and trust in Jesus. With experience fostering 77 children, I've learned firsthand how overwhelming this path can be. But I've also learned how to surrender control, release the stress, and find true peace in God's plan—no matter what comes our way. You'll walk away from this episode with practical strategies to break free from anxiety, build unshakable faith, and create a home filled with grace and peace. You're not in this alone—let's do this together! ☕ Now, grab your cup of coffee, get comfy, and let's dig in! XO, Christine Marie

Welcome to the "What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting" podcast! I'm Christine Marie, your host. In addition to being a biblical mindset coach and a former foster parent of 10 years, I'm also an adoptive mom to our two beautiful daughters. I know firsthand the ups and downs of the foster care and adoption journey, and I'm here to help you navigate it with confidence and faith. Having cared for 77 foster children, I'm passionate about sharing real, practical insights to support you on this path. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Rondregus Underwood, also known as Mr. U, who shares his incredible journey of growing up in foster care and aging out of the system. We have a raw and honest conversation about how he defied the odds, avoided becoming another statistic, and overcame unimaginable challenges to become a successful adult, author, and inspirational speaker. He opens up about discovering his passion for fashion and modeling, proving that resilience, faith, and determination can turn adversity into something greater—even when the odds are stacked against you. We'll also dive into the importance of breaking cycles, building resilience, and the role of supportive adults in shaping the lives of foster youth. Rondregus' testimony is a powerful reminder that faith and community have the ability to transform lives. If you're in the foster care or adoption world—or even just considering it—this episode is packed with encouragement, hope, and practical wisdom from those who have walked this journey before you. No matter where you are in your fostering or adoption journey, this episode will give you insight, tools, and encouragement to help both you and your child thrive.

In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Caroline Leaf, a communication pathologist, audiologist and clinical neuroscientist, to explore the powerful concept of neuroplasticity and its impact on healing trauma in children. Dr. Leaf specializes in psychoneurobiology research, has published 19 bestselling books in 24 languages, has over 50 million downloads on her award winning podcast, "Cleaning up the mental mess," and over 9 million downloads on YouTube. She runs research trials in mental health and publishes in scientific journals. She speaks to diverse audiences around the world including neuroscience and medical conferences and TEDx. Today, we are discussing mental health diagnosis in foster and adoptive children, if healing is possible for them and ways to help facilitate regrowth of new healthy brain pathways.  Learn about the groundbreaking techniques outlined in Dr. Leaf's book, "How to Help Your Child Clean Up Their Mental Mess," and discover practical strategies to create a nurturing environment for your child. You can find the book bundle discussed in todays episode by following this link: https://drleaf.com/collections/product-combo-deals/products/how-to-help-your-child-clean-up-their-mental-mess-hardcover-brain-ee-plush-toy-brain-ee-coloring-book Whether you're new to fostering or have been on this journey for years, this episode provides essential tools and encouragement to help you, and your child thrive. Dive into the conversation and gain insights that will empower you to make a positive impact on your child's mental health and well-being. The book I personally recommend to foster and adoptive parents, which also helped me in my healing journey is found at this link:  https://drleaf.com/collections/books/products/cleaning-up-your-mental-mess To see all the incredible resources that Dr. Caroline Leaf has available, this is the link to her website: https://drleaf.com It was such a blessing to have Dr. Leaf on the podcast today. I pray she blesses you as much as she has blessed me today.   Thank you for being here, Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.   XO-Christine Marie   After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster and adoptive mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection. https://www.facebook.com/groups/fostercareandadoptionforchristianwomen

Looking back there is a few very pivotal lessons I wish I didn't have to learn but I am so thankful to share them with you today. These are the top 5: 1. How does your foster child's  behavior reflect on your parenting.  2. Chronological age vs. emotional age. 3. Your feelings are valid. 4. Being authentically you. 5. Putting your family first.  There are so many more lessons that I learned but these five that are foundational to the journey you are now on. After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster and adoptive mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.   https://www.facebook.com/groups/fostercareandadoptionforchristianwomen Thank you for being here. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.   XO-Christine Marie        

Today is a very special episode as we welcome the first guest to the show and recognize them as a Foster Parent Impactor.   Not only has he personally impacted my life but also those of hundreds of foster children.  He is a successful entrepreneur and we are honored to have him sharing his powerful story today. He shares about his challenging upbringing in an abusive home, his path to success in business, and his profound encounter with faith that changed everything.    I hope you find his story just as inspiring as I do.    After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster and adoptive mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.   https://www.facebook.com/groups/fostercareandadoptionforchristianwomen Thank you for being here. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.   XO-Christine Marie   More about our Podcast Guest: Ray Higdon is the CEO of the Higdon Group. Ray has shared the stage with world renowned thought leaders, including Tony Robbins, Les Brown, Robert Kiyosaki, Bob Proctor, Gary Vaynerchuk, Magic Johnson and many more. Ray is currently co-mentoring with best-selling author and leadership expert John Maxwell in the Higdon Maxwell Mentorship Program, an elite mastermind group for high achievers.   You can connect with him at:   https://www.facebook.com/rayhigdonpage https://www.instagram.com/rayhigdon/ https://faithoverfearlive.com/  

Welcome to the "What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting" podcast, hosted by Christine Marie, a biblical mindset coach, previous foster parent of 77 children and adoptive mom of 2.  This episode dives into the complexities of adopting through the foster care system, addressing common concerns and providing insights into balancing the journey with grace and faith. The topic today is if adopting a child through the foster care system is an option for most families and what you need to know if considering this path. We are discussing the importance of setting boundaries, understanding the needs of your family, working with a mentor and trusting Gods timing in the process.  If you are struggling right now as a foster or adoptive parent, I am so thankful that you found this episode. I want you to know that you are not alone. You are seen, valued, loved and known. After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster and adoptive mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection. https://www.facebook.com/groups/fostercareandadoptionforchristianwomen Thank you for being here. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. XO-Christine Marie If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts. This will help others just like you to find my podcast and be encouraged along their journey: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333

On today's episode, we will talk about the emotional highs and lows, the moments of judgment, and the lessons of grace. It wasn't until I had fully exited the world of foster care that I truly looked back and analyzed my heart's posture. Knowing the intimate stories of the 77 children that entered our home and the hundreds more that I helped mentor the families of; my heart was broken. It in a place of judgement towards the biological families of these foster children. I wrestled between anger, disappointment, pain and it all settled into disapproval of how hard the lives of these children were.  It ended up filling my heart with exactly the opposite of what led me to become a foster parent.  My hope in sharing all of this with you today is that you will embrace the 4 tips I share with you and that it will help you to stay in a place of Grace, acceptance and Gods love through your foster care and adoption journey.  If you are struggling right now as a foster or adoptive parent, I am so thankful that you found this episode. I want you to know that you are not alone. You are seen, valued, loved and known. After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster and adoptive mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection. https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting Thank you for being here. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. XO-Christine Marie If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts. This will help others just like you to find my podcast and be encouraged along their journey: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333  

Whether you are a foster parent hoping to adopt, already adopted or a long-term foster parent, this episode is for you if you struggle with anxiety, overwhelm and desire to keep Jesus at the center. I will share vulnerably several ways that I tried to maintain control and perfection while battling anxiety and worry. I had found myself fully shifted into a mindset of striving to control every aspect of our foster care and adoption process. In turn, I lost myself along the way. I didn't understand the importance of the 5 people I surrounded myself with and who and what I was rooting my beliefs in. If you are struggling right now as a foster or adoptive parent, I am so thankful that you found this episode. I want you to know that you are not alone. You are seen, valued, loved and known. After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster and adoptive mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection. https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting Thank you for being here. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. XO-Christine Marie If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts. This will help others just like you to find my podcast and be encouraged along their journey: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333  

Welcome to the What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting podcast show. If you're a foster mom on the journey to adoption, already adopted, or somewhere in the middle, you're in the right place.  Today, I will take you on the journey of deciding to continue with my podcast. Over the past 2 months, God has been refining and pruning my heart and showing me how to more completely depend on Him. If you are struggling right now as a foster or adoptive parent, I am so thankful that you found this episode. I want you to know that you are not alone. You are seen, valued, loved and known. After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster and adoptive mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection. https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting Thank you for being here. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. XO-Christine Marie If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333 Seph Schlueter - Counting My Blessings: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZjWYgq9QfM  

On today's episode, we will conclude this 2 part series and talk about parenting children with attachment disorders. We will cover 6 key points to helping foster children feel safe and secure, comforted and supported, connected, experience consistency, feel encouraged and help you as the foster parent maintain boundaries in the foster home. All of these will help in developing bonds with your children, maintain emotional regulation, and handle behavioral issues effectively. We will also discuss the importance of self-care and refilling your emotional cup. I will share my tips to building a balanced routine that not only supports the needs of the children but also the mental and physical needs of everyone in the home.  You can find the workbook that supports this 2 part series in my foster parent group on Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.   So, go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. XO-Christine Marie If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333  

In this episode which is part 1 of a 2 part series, we talk about attachment disorders commonly observed in foster and adopted children. Attachment disorders relate to the bond children form with their primary caregiver right from birth, which significantly impacts their behavior. Children subjected to neglect, abuse, or abandonment often develop attachment disorders. We will discuss the 5 basic human needs that, when unfulfilled, can lead to these disorders. In this episode, focusing on children raised in foster or adoptive care, we explore the attachment styles they typically develop. Their experiences with neglect or inconsistent parenting often result in distinct attachment styles affecting their social interactions. We delve into avoidant, fearful, and anxious attachment styles, emphasizing their unique patterns of behavior, emotional response, and potential struggles in forming relationships. The ultimate aim is to help these children develop a secure attachment style, fostering trust in others and a positive self-image. To achieve this, we must first understand the signs and symptoms of attachment disorders. Identifying behaviors that can be linked to attachment disorders such as food issues, manipulative tactics, group setting difficulties, learning delays, and chronic anxiety. This episode is a comprehensive guide to recognizing, understanding, and addressing the unique needs of foster and adoptive children suffering from attachment disorders. By deciphering the root cause of these behaviors, you can respond to your child's needs effectively, fostering an environment that promotes their growth. Stay tuned for the next episode, equipped with practical tips for parenting children based on their attachment style and disorder. After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.   So, go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. XO-Christine Marie If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333 Join the inner circle community of like-minded mamas at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting  

In this episode, we are going to dive into a lesser-discussed aspect of foster care: the mental health diagnoses of the foster children and then the topic of medication. When you become a foster parent, you often have to navigate the often-overwhelming world of mental health care. I personally, know that I wasn't prepared for the level of complexity and at many times needed to make tough decisions without the understanding needed to do so. You too, may find yourself walking through a reality of kiddos with multiple diagnoses and then ultimately, medication. So, lets prepare you heart and mind for what's at stake. It is possible that medications could hinder the healing that could happen for these children. Without knowing the entire history of a child, that is where we have a powerful tool that we have the ability to use in navigating these tough decisions. Prayer and Discernment.  My heart for today's episode is that you add Prayer and Discernment to the process of making these decisions with and for your foster children.  After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.   So, go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. XO-Christine Marie If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333 Join the inner circle community of like-minded mamas at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting Follow me on Instagram at:  https://www.instagram.com/its.christinemarie        

There is a dire need for emotional support in the foster parent community – a need that often is neglected resulting in overwhelming isolation and unfortunate situations. I will be vulnerably sharing one of the hardest lessons I learned as a foster parent while fostering and how it impacted the emotional struggles I faced. This episode will cover the importance of support systems, self-care and accessibility to emotional outlets and professional help to recharge and rejuvenate.  My 20/20 hindsight vision since exiting the foster care world has been profound. Including the misconceptions about what I thought was my foster parent role and how I should have been maintaining a professional relationship with the caseworker vs. a peer relationship.  I pray this is an enlightening episode for anyone involved or interested in the journey of foster parenting. After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.   So, go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. XO-Christine Marie If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333 Join the inner circle community of like-minded mamas at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting Follow me on Instagram at:  https://www.instagram.com/its.christinemarie    

Join me today in an insightful edition of 'What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting' podcast, as we unravel the complexities of self-sabotaging behaviors prevalent among foster children. Dealing with challenging behaviors can seem perplexing, but understanding the root causes can pave the way towards significant change. Diving deep into the neuroscience behind these actions, the episode unveils how traumatic experiences, subconscious mind, and fear of failure contribute to self-sabotage. We will discuss the importance of brain-reprogramming, offering hope for both foster parents and foster children. Discover how empathy, open conversations, and practical strategies can aid in reshaping the child's mind, moving them from self-preservation responses to healthier alternatives. With perseverance and care, caregivers have the power to turn the tide and positively transform lives. Tune in for practical tips and words of encouragement for your foster care journey. After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources, connection and to find out more about 1:1 coaching.   So, go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. Christine Marie If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333 Join the inner circle community of like-minded mamas at:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting Follow me on Instagram at:  https://www.instagram.com/its.christinemarie  

Difficult Foster parenting lessons: Losing my personal identity, how I reclaimed it and practical tips for you on your journey. Today's episode is definitely at the top list of things I wish I knew prior to becoming a foster parent. All of the coulda, woulda, shouldas are popping up in my memories as I talk through this with you today. It also makes me wonder how many other foster mama friends feel the pressure to want to be perfect, do everything the right way and push themselves to the brink of exhaustion on a daily basis? I am hoping this episode will act as almost a bumper guard for you and practical things you can put in place immediately.  After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.   So, go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. Christine Marie If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333 Join the inner circle community of like-minded mamas at:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting Follow me on Instagram at:  https://www.instagram.com/its.christinemarie  

29% of people who were asked, believe that foster families take in so many foster children because they are doing it for the money.    The other day, I saw a video that confirmed that people do believe this and it was upsetting but also validation that it needs to be discussed. In this episode, we are going to break this down, and talk about perception vs. reality. Why do some children receive a higher level of care payment and how to know what you're supposed to pay for with this money.    Money can be an uncomfortable conversation for foster parents and especially when you're stepping out into this for the first time. We're also going to talk about the difference between an income and a stipend and why it matters.    After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over to my private Facebook group and share what you believed about this topic before today's episode and then after you listened. Did it shift your perspective or do you see things differently now?   So, go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333 Join our Facebook community of like-minded mamas at:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting Follow me on Instagram at:  https://www.instagram.com/its.christinemarie   article cited: https://youthlaw.org/news/foster-parents-who-are-they-and-what-are-their-motivations

Understanding the different types of attachment disorders in foster children is critically important to understanding how to best parent them. There are 4 different types of attachment disorders that we will discuss on today's episode. I will also share a list of strategies to help your foster child begin adjusting to your home and family.  We will cover many topics in today's episode including clear boundaries, patience and grace, creating routines for your children, the importance of play, being trauma informed, support for the foster parent, celebrating every small win and my upcoming membership group. I would love for you to head on over to my private Facebook group after you listen to this episode and share which strategies you use in your home and add to the list of what you find important. I truly believe it is possible to help foster children begin to attach and find healing from their trauma and you are such an important part of this. So, go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333 Join our Facebook community of like-minded mamas at:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/its.christinemarie/

Does affording Christmas gifts for your foster children overwhelm you? Are you not sure how to navigate the busy season and also remain present with your foster/ adoptive and biological children? Are you wanting to help more kiddos than just the ones in your home but not sure what to do or where to begin? Adding foster children to your home during the holidays can be overwhelming but it definitely doesn't need to be. In today's episode, were going to talk about where to find resources, planning for a busy Christmas and how to choose the right gifts for the children in your home.  Were also going to talk about how you can make a bigger impact and help more foster children in your own community. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in. If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333 Join our Facebook community of like-minded mamas at:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/its.christinemarie/  

Are you wanting to adopt, feel called to adopt a child or grow your family through the foster care system? When I wanted to grow our family through adoption, it all seemed so overwhelming, and I didn't know how to navigate such a complicated system. I can't wait to share with you, 3 ways that may help shorten your journey.  In this episode, I discuss several websites and how you can utilize them in your journey.  www.adoptuskids.org  www.adoptamericanetwork.com www.raisethefuture.org www.wiaa.org I hope todays episode brings your 1 step closer in your adoption journey, helps your find more peace in choosing a direction and lessens the overwhelm. If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333 Join our Facebook community of like-minded mamas at:   What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting | Facebook Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/its.christinemarie/      

I know I have experienced this and wish I knew what to do when this happened. Foster parenting can be such an emotional journey and having a good relationship with your childs caseworker absolutely makes it easier. Today I will be sharing tips with you so you can begin the relationship in the right way and plan for success. We will also discuss what to do when you have tried everything and it's not working.  I also have an announcement at the end of the episode today that I am so excited to share with you.  If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/what-to-expect-while-fostering-and-adopting-adopting/id1701306333 Join our Facebook community of like-minded mamas at:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/its.christinemarie/    

If you are a new foster or adoptive parent, you definitely don't want to miss this episode.  I will be sharing my top 5 tips that you can implement immediately to help you have a less stressful and more emotionally connected holiday season. As a previous foster parent of 10 years and taking in 77 foster children, we had a lot of holiday events and experiences to practice what worked and what didn't work. I am skipping over all the things that didn't work and sharing the top things that did work.  We will be discussing solutions for all ages and developmental milestones.  I would love to know if you implemented any of these tips and if so, which worked best for your family and children.  If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on the app that you found me on. Then, I would love for you to join our Facebook community of likeminded mamas at:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting I am so thankful you found me and can't wait to hear about your journey. Christine Marie

She was 3 when she moved to our home as a foster child. When she became available for adoption, over 100 families applied to adopt her. Thankfully we were chosen as her forever family and she became our daughter when she was 5. She was the perfect child so I never imagined we would face the challenges that we did. As I share the journey with you today, I hope you find hope and encouragement in the journey.  If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review and then join our Facebook community of like-minded mamas at:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting You can also now follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/its.christinemarie/  

I remember the one thing that worried me the most as a foster parent and that was the thought of being accused of abuse or neglect. Once it happened, it sent my mind spinning because I didn't know what to do. I felt overwhelmed with emotions and had no one to ask because my certifier suddenly couldn't discuss anything with me.  Would I be found guilty of abuse? Would this go on my record? Would I be able to adopt? Do I need to hire an attorney? I certainly didn't have anyone to help me navigate these complicated questions so I am thankful we get to dig into this today. I will be sharing what happens when you have an allegation, how long the investigation takes and what does Founded, unfounded and unable to determine actually mean.   If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review and then join our Facebook community of like-minded mamas at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting   You can also now follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/its.christinemarie/  

I got the call asking me to take him in as a foster care placement when he was 6. I had no idea the level of care that he would require but I was willing to try. The caseworker warned me that this would be a challenging case because of his level of abuse and neglect but I didn't know what I didn't know. She told me that he had non-verbal autism (ASD), was labeled as feral and was extremely traumatized.  When I picked him up from a Mcdonalds parking lot, we never imagined the growth and transformation that would happen within a period of 6 years.  This is our story.  If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on the app that you found me on. Then, I would love for you to join our Facebook community of likeminded mamas at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoexpectwhilefosteringandadopting I am so thankful you found me and can't wait to hear about your journey. Christine Marie

It's the biggest first decision that every potential foster and adoptive parent makes, and it sets the trajectory for the beginning of your journey. It absolutely matters. Have you ever wondered if there was a right number of kiddos you should take in as a first-time foster parent? Have you wondered what age range to choose, or should you be open to all ages? Is there a right number and if so, how do I know?  Maybe you're already a foster parent and haven't had a child placed with you that is on the path towards adoption. Do you take in more children? How do you know when the right time is to add another child? It can be an overwhelming decision when you aren't sure who to ask. If you're anything like I was, you're ready and eager to begin the journey of foster care and adoption.   If you have had or have these questions, this episode is perfect for you. We will talk about statistics with each age group, time requirements for first time foster parents and appointments you want to set up for your new foster child.    If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review on the app that you found me on. Then, I would love for you to join our Facebook community of likeminded mamas at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoeexpectwhilefosteringandadopting   I am so thankful you found me and can't wait to hear about your journey. Christine Marie  

Do you have a vision of the perfect child you wanted to adopt? Are you a foster parent or in waiting to adopt a child?  Have you imagined what your foster care journey would be like or maybe you're in the middle of it right now? If any of this sounds like you, this episode is for you.  I remember when I dreamt of bringing home our forever daughter. I imagined what she would look like, be like and who she would become. I thought my love would be enough to erase all of the hard things she had gone through. When it wasn't, it sent me into a tailspin.  There's a better way through and I am so excited for you to begin to set a vision. No matter where you are in your journey, you can hit the pause button and create vision with God. Are you ready to begin living intentionally and with purpose? Go grab your cup of coffee and let's get started. If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review and then join our Facebook community at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoeexpectwhilefosteringandadopting    

CANS stands for the Child and Adolescent Needs and Strengths assessment. Understanding CANS will help you to best serve the child or teen placed in your home as a foster placement. It will also help you know the purpose behind the assessment being done. I have carefully marked this episode as explicit because it discusses sensitive topics that may not be suitable for young ears to listen to.  If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review and then join our Facebook community of like-minded mamas at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoeexpectwhilefosteringandadopting     You can find more information on CANS at: The Child and Adolescent Needs and Strengths (CANS) – Praed Foundation

Todays episode is vulnerable. I'm sharing my own mental health diagnosis' with you and giving you tools to help thrive as a foster parent. It's filled with so many lessons that I learned in the 10 years we spent as foster parents. Learning these lessons was absolutely not easy and I pray that by sharing them with you, it will make your journey so much easier. If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review and then join our Facebook community of like minded mamas at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoeexpectwhilefosteringandadopting   You can also find the Spiritual Gifts test I shared on todays episode at: https://spiritualgiftstest.com/ Blessings, Christine

Learning these lessons was absolutely not easy and I pray that by sharing them with you, it will make your journey so much easier. ❤️ If you found this episode helpful, I would love for you to leave me a review and then join our Facebook community of like minded mamas at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoeexpectwhilefosteringandadopting   Blessings, Christine

Is there a cure for Reactive Attachment disorder in children who have been adopted or are in foster care? How common is this Diagnosis and what are some of the symptoms? On this episode, we're going to discuss some of the feelings of being a Mom to a child who has the dx.    I can't wait to hear what you think!   You can connect with like minded mamas in our private facebook group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoeexpectwhilefosteringandadopting/

Becoming a foster parent wasn't something I had planned and honestly, neither was becoming an adoptive parent but God absolutely had other plans. I can't wait to share my story with you and see if you see any of you in the details.  After 10 years of fostering, 77 foster kiddos and our 2 daughters through adoption, I am so excited to begin to share our story. To connect, please head over to my FB page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whattoeexpectwhilefosteringandadopting/

Are you struggling with constant overwhelm and have way more questions than answers while navigating the foster care system? Are you feeling like you're losing yourself while trying to help your foster child or heal your adopted children? Do you feel completely ill-equipped with the needs of the kiddos in your home and fall asleep every night feeling like a failure? What if you had the tools to navigate the complexities of the foster care system, your own personal coach as you begin the adoption journey and insights into helping your adoptive children heal? All while balancing life as a Mom, Wife and the driven overachiever that I know you already are. Hi new friend, I'm Christine Marie. Christian Mindset coach, Mom of 4- Adoptive Mom of 2 and previous foster parent of 77 children in 10 years. I can't wait to share with you everything I have learned as both a Foster and Adoptive Mom… and yes, still learning.