Podcasts about get your marriage on

What happens when you realize your spouse still loves you—but doesn't really like you? After 20 years of marriage, that's the realization Matt Sallas faced. In this episode, Matt shares how addiction, obligation-based sex, and emotional disconnection nearly destroyed his marriage—and the framework that helped rebuild trust, attraction, and intimacy. We discuss emotional safety, emotional masculinity, the difference between reluctant and enthusiastic consent, and Matt's simple "Sex Sequence" for creating a marriage both spouses genuinely enjoy. In this episode: • The difference between love and like in marriage • Why emotional safety matters more than most couples realize • The hidden cost of obligation-based sex • Matt's 3-step Sex Sequence framework • How emotional masculinity strengthens intimacy • The "Always Be Dating" mindset Resources: Matt's relationship survey: untoxicatedsurvey.org Matt's podcast: https://un-toxicated.com/ Get Your Marriage On events: https://getyourmarriageon.com/events Spark'd app:    Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.  

Most people think being a good spouse means being selfless, accommodating, and easygoing. But what if those same habits are quietly creating resentment, frustration, and disconnection? In this episode, we're joined by Stu Murray, a men's leadership coach, to discuss the "Nice Guy Pattern"—the tendency to suppress your own needs, avoid conflict, and hope your partner will magically figure out what you want. Together we explore: • What covert contracts are and why they create resentment • Why people-pleasing often leads to less intimacy, not more • How unspoken expectations damage emotional safety • The connection between honesty, desire, and attraction • Why many men struggle to express what they really want • Practical steps to stop self-abandoning and start showing up authentically If you've ever thought, "After everything I do, why don't I feel appreciated?" this episode is for you. You'll learn how greater honesty, responsibility, and authenticity can create stronger connection—and often more intimacy—in your marriage. Episode Resources Come cruise with us this fall! Don't miss out on the International Lovemaking Day Challenge going on now in the Intimately Us app! Find Stu on Youtube (https://www.youtube.com/@iamstumurray) and Instagram: @iamstumurray   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Most couples never learned how to talk about sex — let alone create a deeply connected, passionate relationship that lasts decades.In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig sits down with Dan Purcell, founder of Get Your Marriage On, coach to hundreds of couples worldwide, host of a podcast with 1.7M+ listens, and creator of intimacy tools used by over half a million couples.Together they unpack:• Why many men grow up believing sex is shameful or dangerous• How porn, secrecy, and performance pressure quietly damage intimacy• The surprising difference between spontaneous vs. responsive desire (and why this changes marriages)• What healthy masculine sexuality actually looks like• Why “duty sex” destroys connection• The hidden ways couples accidentally make intimacy worse• How to rebuild trust, passion, vulnerability, and play inside long-term relationships• Why great sex isn't luck — it's something couples can intentionally buildIf you've ever wondered:“Why does intimacy feel disconnected?”“Why do I feel rejected?”“Why did our sex life disappear?”“Can marriages actually get better after years together?”This conversation is for you.About Dan Purcell:Dan and his wife Emily founded Get Your Marriage On with a mission to help millions of couples create stronger marriages through fun, deeply connected intimacy. Dan is working toward his PhD in Clinical Sexology, has coached couples around the world, hosts a top relationship podcast, leads retreats and workshops, and created the popular Intimately Us and Just Between Us apps.

Better sex isn't just about what happens in the bedroom. In this episode, Dan sits down with Zach Watson to unpack the hidden emotional and mental work happening inside many marriages — and why it has such a powerful impact on intimacy. They talk about invisible labor, mental load, emotional safety, and the loneliness that can build when one partner feels like they're carrying everything alone. Zach shares practical ways couples can better share responsibility, communicate more clearly, and create more trust and partnership at home. You'll also hear: Why "helping" can sometimes create more frustration The difference between doing a task and owning it How emotional labor affects desire and connection Why empathy matters so much in sexual intimacy Simple ways couples can work more like teammates This episode is honest, practical, and full of moments that will help you better understand your partner — and yourself. Episode Resources  Thriving Together: How to Share the Mental Load in Marriage  (GYMO Guide) Get ready for International Lovemaking Day with Intimately Us! Come cruise with us! Zach's Free Mental Load Basics Skool Community Find Zach on Socials: @zachmentalloadcoach (Instagram) and @zachthinkshare (Facebook)   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

This is Part 2 of a special two-part series exploring the difference between having sex and making love. If you haven't listened to Episode 300 yet, go start there—it lays the foundation for everything we talk about in this episode. In this episode, we move from understanding the difference… to learning how to actually create more meaningful, connected intimacy in your marriage. You'll hear from: Dr. Alexandra Stockwell on shifting from transactional sex to deeply relational intimacy Trevor Hansen on attachment, safety, and why slowing down changes everything Ali Bullock on communication, nervous system regulation, and building connection outside the bedroom We talk about: Why sex doesn't always need to be deeply emotional to be good How to move out of "checkbox sex" into something more connected The role of safety, vulnerability, and communication Why what happens outside the bedroom matters most This episode is about learning how to bring more heart, presence, and connection into your relationship—one small moment at a time. More about our guests: Dr. Alexandra Stockwell is an intimate marriage expert and the host of  The Intimate Marriage Podcast and the author of Uncompromising Intimacy. Trevor Hanson's mission is to help people with an anxious attachment style become secure. You can find him on Instagram and his website.   Aly Bullock is a licensed marriage and family therapist and communication coach and has reached millions with her widely-followed Instagram account.  Resources and Events: We invite you to explore our Get Your Marriage On coaching program. Get ready for our men's and women's groups starting up again in May!   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

This episode is a special one—episode 300. That feels really meaningful to me. I'm grateful you listen, share the podcast, and care enough about your marriage to keep showing up for these conversations. I really do celebrate you and your commitment to building a strong, intimate, passionate marriage. For this milestone episode, I wanted to do something a little different. So I turned it into a personal research project around a question I've been pondering for a long time:

What if low libido, fatigue, brain fog, mood changes, or sexual dysfunction aren't just "part of getting older"? In this episode, Dan talks with family nurse practitioner Shelly Wilkinson about hormones, libido, insulin resistance, and the role whole-body health can play in sexual wellness. Shelly shares her personal story, what led her into hormone education, and why she believes many men and women are missing an important piece of the puzzle when it comes to energy, desire, and long-term health. They talk about common signs of hormone imbalance, what questions to ask when seeking help, why libido issues are often more complex than we think, and how physical health and relational health can work together to improve intimacy. If you're in midlife and noticing changes in energy, mood, desire, or sexual function, this conversation (and the one just previous to this epsiode in this mini series) will help you navigate the next steps. In this episode, you'll hear: Why low libido may not be only a relationship issue Common symptoms that can point to hormone concerns The connection between hormones, energy, and sexual health Questions to ask before working with a hormone provider Why both spouses may need to look at their health, not just one How physical wellness can support emotional and sexual intimacy Check out more about Shelly and her clinic here: http://wasatchmedicalspa.com   Resources and Events: We invite you to explore our Get Your Marriage On coaching program. Get ready for our men's and women's groups starting up again in May! We have one more spot available on our cruise! We'd love to have you join us!   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Low libido, erectile dysfunction, hormone imbalance, and sexual frustration in marriage are often treated like isolated problems. But what if they're actually connected to something much bigger? In this episode of the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast, Dan sits down with Dr. Jerry Dugger to talk about the link between physical health and sexual health. They discuss testosterone, estrogen, cortisol, thyroid, gut health, inflammation, sleep, stress, and why the body has to be understood as a whole system. You'll also hear practical insights on how better health habits can improve desire, energy, confidence, and connection in marriage.   Resources and Events: We invite you to explore our Get Your Marriage On coaching program. Get ready for our men's and women's groups starting up again in May! We have one more spot available on our cruise! We'd love to have you join us!   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.  

What does your nervous system have to do with your sex life? More than you might think. In this episode, Dan sits down with nervous system specialist Morgan Starr-Riestis, who explains why feeling safe in your body is one of the most important ingredients for great intimacy. Many couples assume sexual problems are about technique, desire differences, or communication. But often the real issue is something deeper: our nervous systems are stuck in fight, flight, or shutdown. Morgan shares how our bodies are wired for safety, how dysregulation can show up in the bedroom, and why learning to regulate yourself can dramatically change your intimate connection. You'll learn: • Why safety is the foundation of pleasurable sex • The difference between actual safety vs perceived safety • How shame, pressure, and expectations dysregulate the body • Simple daily practices that help regulate your nervous system • Why trying too hard to orgasm can sometimes make it harder • How to identify the underlying need behind recurring relationship patterns Morgan also shares practical exercises couples can try right away to build safety and connection in everyday moments. If sex sometimes feels stressful, pressured, or emotionally loaded, this episode will help you understand what your body is trying to tell you—and how to work with it instead of against it. You can find Morgan on all socials with the handle @mind.psy.guidance Resources and Events: We invite you to explore our Get Your Marriage On coaching program. For a limited time, you can try it free for 30 days and get access to coaching sessions and our full course library. We also have an opening due to a cancellation at our upcoming couples retreat, and one more spot available on our cruise! We'd love to have you join us!   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Marriages rarely fall apart because of one big moment—they erode through small daily disconnections. In this episode, Dan sits down with author Lindsay Maestes to talk about how couples can rebuild connection, overcome sexual shame, and create a stronger marriage through intentional daily habits. They discuss faith and sexuality, emotional labor, foreplay outside the bedroom, and why openness and vulnerability are essential for great intimacy. Plus, Lindsay shares a fun "black belt" sex tip to help couples add novelty and excitement to their relationship. Resources and Events: We invite you to explore our Get Your Marriage On coaching program. For a limited time, you can try it free for 30 days and get access to coaching sessions and our full course library. We also have an opening due to a cancellation at our upcoming couples retreat, and one more spot available on our cruise! We'd love to have you join us!   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Shame is a universal emotion — and for many Christians, sexual shame is one of the hardest to overcome. In this deeply honest conversation, I'm joined by Natalie Hamblin as we explore how sexual shame quietly divides marriages, and how couples can move toward sexual wholeness instead. We talk about: How shame creates emotional and physical distance Why hiding parts of yourself fractures intimacy The difference between guilt and shame How faith and sexuality actually belong together How to reframe sex as God-given and good What to do if shame from your past is haunting your present marriage The power of education and communication And how Natalie and her husband moved from fear to deep connection And if sexual shame is something you're actively working through, I invite you to explore our Get Your Marriage On coaching program. For a limited time, you can try it free for 30 days and get access to coaching sessions and our full course library. We also have an opening due to a cancellation at our upcoming couples retreat! We'd love to have you join us!   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Today on the Awesome Marriage Podcast, we're joined by Dan Purcell, creator of Get Your Marriage On! and the Intimately Us app. Dan is passionate about helping Christian couples build stronger, healthier marriages through better communication, playful intimacy, and gospel-centered connection. In this conversation, we explore the powerful link between spiritual and sexual intimacy in marriage. From God's design for sex to common misconceptions, practical habits, and healing struggles in the bedroom, Dan shares how faith and intimacy were always meant to work together. This episode offers encouragement and actionable wisdom for couples who want to honor God while cultivating deeper passion, joy, and closeness in their marriage.   Episode Highlights: Experiencing really good sex in marriage requires living with virtue. What works in marriage will change over time. You must be willing to adapt together. Repair work is most of the work in marriage.  Quotes from this Episode: This is a gift from God. He gave it to us to enjoy. You can't love a person you don't know. The more honest we can be about things, the better our marriage will be. Sex can be really fun. It can be incredibly replenishing. It can be good for your health. You want to get to a place where you're at ease talking about sex.    Questions Worth Discussing: What part of this conversation felt most relatable to where we are right now? Did anything we heard make you think differently about how our faith and our intimacy connect—or even just spark a new thought? What's one small way we could be more intentional with each other this week—emotionally, spiritually, or physically?   Mentioned in this Episode: Get to know Dan Purcell Listen to the Get Your Marriage On! With Dan Purcell podcast Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Make sex better for both of you- by romancing your spouse the way they actually desire. Check out this month's Sexy Bundle: His and Hers Romance Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Want to see what God's Word says about sex and intimacy? Check out Embracing the Gift of Sex in Marriage: Looking Through a Biblical Lens Part 1 If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our Sexy Bundle: His and Hers Romance

Today on the Awesome Marriage Podcast, we're joined by Dan Purcell, creator of Get Your Marriage On! and the Intimately Us app. Dan is passionate about helping Christian couples build stronger, healthier marriages through better communication, playful intimacy, and gospel-centered connection. In this conversation, we explore the powerful link between spiritual and sexual intimacy in marriage. From God's design for sex to common misconceptions, practical habits, and healing struggles in the bedroom, Dan shares how faith and intimacy were always meant to work together. This episode offers encouragement and actionable wisdom for couples who want to honor God while cultivating deeper passion, joy, and closeness in their marriage.   Episode Highlights: Experiencing really good sex in marriage requires living with virtue. What works in marriage will change over time. You must be willing to adapt together. Repair work is most of the work in marriage.  Quotes from this Episode: This is a gift from God. He gave it to us to enjoy. You can't love a person you don't know. The more honest we can be about things, the better our marriage will be. Sex can be really fun. It can be incredibly replenishing. It can be good for your health. You want to get to a place where you're at ease talking about sex.    Questions Worth Discussing: What part of this conversation felt most relatable to where we are right now? Did anything we heard make you think differently about how our faith and our intimacy connect—or even just spark a new thought? What's one small way we could be more intentional with each other this week—emotionally, spiritually, or physically?   Mentioned in this Episode: Get to know Dan Purcell Listen to the Get Your Marriage On! With Dan Purcell podcast Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Make sex better for both of you- by romancing your spouse the way they actually desire. Check out this month's Sexy Bundle: His and Hers Romance Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Want to see what God's Word says about sex and intimacy? Check out Embracing the Gift of Sex in Marriage: Looking Through a Biblical Lens Part 1 If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our Sexy Bundle: His and Hers Romance

We don't just want sex. We want sexual experiences that move us. We want to walk out of the bedroom different than when we walked in. But somewhere along the way, sex can become… predictable. Scripted. Routine. In Part 1 of my guest appearance on Charlene Byers's podcast, we cover the following: The truth about sexual desire discrepancy (and why it's not a problem) How performance pressure quietly kills connection Two different reasons we give pleasure, and why one of them doesn't work What men and women are most turned on by What men and women are turned off by You'll also hear one of my own vulnerable marriage missteps and what it taught me about anxiety, meaning-making, and true intimacy.

(If you haven't listened to Part 1 yet, go back. It lays the foundation for everything we're about to discuss.) Because in Part 2, we get real . . .  In this continuation of my conversation with Charlene Byers, we explore: Why honesty is the foundation of erotic intimacy What integrity looks like in marriage What gets you stuck in roommate syndrome and resentment The "losing strategies" couples use without realizing it We also talk about small daily habits that simmer connection and how to rebuild intimacy when things feel distant. This one might stretch you—in a good way. And it'll give you language and motivation to start the conversations that lead to better connection (in and out of the bedroom). Resources and Events Don't miss this amazing opportunity to love and make love with your spouse better, TONIGHT! Next Level Loving: A Virtual Intimacy Getaway (Feb 13-14): https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps: https://getyourmarriageon.com/our-apps/ Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program: https://getyourmarriageon.com/program/ Get Your Marriage On Cruise: https://getyourmarriageon.com/cruise/ We had a cancellation for our retreat in the spring! Snatch this spot while you can! https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/ Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

 With Valentine's Day, just around the corner, I've been thinking a lot about what does it mean to really love my wife, and to love well?  In this bonus episode, we pulled a favorite clip from our archive with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, therapist-turned-coach, longtime mentor, and returning guest on the podcast, in which we asked her: "What does it mean to cherish your spouse?" Her answer is thoughtful, wise, actionable, and hopeful as she teaches how to build truly loving marriages. Resources and Events Don't miss this amazing opportunity to love and make love with your spouse better! Next Level Loving: A Virtual Intimacy Getaway (Feb 13-14): https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps (Valentine's Intimacy Challenge started on Feb 1!): https://getyourmarriageon.com/our-apps/ Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program: https://getyourmarriageon.com/program/ Get Your Marriage On Cruise: https://getyourmarriageon.com/cruise/ We had a cancellation for our retreat in the spring! Snatch this spot while you can! https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Dan Purcell of the Get Your Marriage On podcast to discuss her book That We Might Have Joy and the role of eros energy—the aliveness that emerges when couples stop running their marriages from fear, control, and ego. Through stories from the book—like Samuel, whose fear of sexual feelings kept him stuck, and Bradley, whose relentless pursuit of sex was driven by shame—Dr. Jennifer shows how sexual repression doesn't make us more spiritual. It just keeps us fragmented.

Why does desire often fade in long-term relationships — even when couples deeply love each other?Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingIn this episode, EJ and Tarah are joined by Dan Purcell, founder of Get Your Marriage On, to explore why intimacy can start to feel pressured, routine, or emotionally distant over time. If you've ever wondered why connection doesn't automatically follow commitment, or why closeness can suddenly feel anxiety-producing instead of natural, this conversation offers a deeper explanation.Together, they unpack how expectation, anxiety, and unspoken pressure quietly erode connection, and why many couples try to fix intimacy by focusing on the act itself rather than the emotional and nervous-system conditions that make closeness possible.Dan shares insights from his own marriage and his work helping couples move beyond obligation and routine, including why:Desire cannot be forced or scheduled into existenceCloseness often shuts down when there is pressure or expectationMany couples confuse validation with true connectionAnxiety around vulnerability can lead partners to disconnect without realizing itEmotional safety must come before deeper physical closenessThey also discuss practical ways couples can rebuild connection gradually, including slowing down, creating moments of presence, and learning to tolerate closeness instead of rushing past it.This episode is especially helpful if:Intimacy feels tense or disconnectedOne partner feels pressured while the other feels rejectedYou miss feeling close but don't know how to get back thereYou want to rebuild connection without blame or shameThis is a grounded, honest conversation about intimacy in real relationships — not quick fixes, but what actually helps couples feel close again over time.

Dan Purcell is an intimacy coach and the host of the Get Your Marriage On! podcast. Sheri and Matt ask Dan about taboo subjects around sexuality, safety, enthusiastic consent, desire discrepancy, reactive arousal, stress, and shame. For all of Dan’s resources, go to GetYourMarriageOn.com. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don't really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey. You've got this, and we've got you.

What if ADHD isn't a bug in your marriage — but a feature? In this episode of the Get Your Marriage On Podcast, I sit down with Kamden Hainsworth, an ADHD coach and host of the Busy Brained Saint, to unpack how ADHD uniquely impacts desire, intimacy, novelty, rejection sensitivity, and emotional regulation in marriage. Kamden shares her mid-life burn out, late ADHD diagnosis, and how understanding her brain completely transformed her marriage and sex life. Together, they explore why ADHD can amplify desire differences, why boredom feels unbearable in intimacy, how rejection sensitivity dysphoria shows up in sex, and how novelty can be a powerful connector (when done with trust and communication). Whether you're the ADHD partner or married to one, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical insight into building a more playful, honest, and deeply connected sexual relationship. Resources  101 Ways to Initiate Sex The Sexploration List Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program: https://getyourmarriageon.com/program/ Men's Only and Women's Only Cohorts (starting this week): https://getyourmarriageon.com/events/ Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps (Valentine's Intimacy Challenge coming up!): https://getyourmarriageon.com/our-apps/ Guest Links Kamden ADHD coaching Instagram: @kamden_adhd @thebusybrainedsaint   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOrder Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizWhat if the problem isn't how often you're having sex — but how present you are when you're together?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah Kerwin sit down with Dan Purcell, intimacy educator, founder of Get Your Marriage On, and host of the podcast by the same name. Together, they explore what Dan calls “Eyes Open Intimacy” — a way of approaching sexual and emotional connection that prioritizes presence, safety, and genuine attunement over performance or obligation.This honest, vulnerable conversation dives into why many couples feel disconnected even when they're having sex, how anxiety and shame show up in the bedroom, and why true intimacy begins before anything physical happens.Dan shares powerful insights from his own marriage and years of coaching couples, offering practical tools that help partners slow down, regulate their nervous systems, and reconnect in ways that feel safe and meaningful.Get Your Marriage On... Dan PurcellSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

What separates good intimacy from exceptional intimacy? In this special year-end compilation, we round up the most powerful "Black Belt" sex and intimacy tips of 2025, the next-level insights that don't come from technique alone, but from presence, awareness, confidence, communication, and desire. Featuring clips from some of the most impactful guests of the year, this episode explores how slowing down, tuning into your body, cultivating emotional safety, embracing confidence, and deepening awareness can transform your sexual connection. Whether you're looking for practical ideas or profound mindset shifts, this episode invites you to go deeper, with yourself and your spouse. Resources and Events Apply for the Get Your Marriage On! Program: getyourmarriageon.com/program In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can apply to get on the waitlist!) NEW Get Your Marriage On! Cruise: October 2026  Valentine's Day Weekend Virtual Retreat Men's and Women's Only Cohorts starting in January!    Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

If you've ever felt not good enough, feared rejection, or found yourself reacting in ways you don't even understand, this episode is for you. Marriage & family therapist Trevor (Art of Healing by Trevor) explains why so many couples get stuck in cycles of pursuit, shutdown, anxiety, and disconnection — and the emotional transformation required to break free. This conversation is raw, restorative, and deeply practical. In this episode you'll learn: Why fear of abandonment and "I'm not enough" beliefs show up in marriage The two classic patterns: people-pleasing pursuer + shut-down withdrawer How emotional safety outside the bedroom changes intimacy inside it How to work with your inner child to create real healing A step-by-step framework for emotional transformation How secure partners show up differently in sex, connection, and conflict Why awareness alone isn't enough — and what actually creates change Guest Links Instagram: @theartofhealingbytrevor Website: theartofhealingbytrevor.com Resources and Events Apply for the Get Your Marriage On! Program: getyourmarriageon.com/program In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can apply to get on the waitlist!) NEW Get Your Marriage On! Cruise: October 2026  Valentine's Day Weekend Virtual Retreat Men's and Women's Only Cohorts starting in January!    Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

En este episodio del podcast, la Dra. Finlayson-Fife conversa con Dan Purcell del podcast Get Your Marriage On. Hablan sobre... - Las 3 etapas del desarrollo sexual y cómo llevar su matrimonio al siguiente nivel - La importancia de cultivar la energía erótica en la relación - Cómo pasar de tener relaciones sexuales a una conexión profunda a través del acto de hacer el amor

What if one photo session could shift the way you see your body and the way you show up in your marriage? Today's guest, Lindsey of Beloved by Lindsey, is a boudoir photographer who helps women confront insecurities, dismantle shame, and increase their confidence, spirituality, and body image. In this episode you'll learn: How a conservative Southern Baptist girl unexpectedly became a boudoir photographer Why boudoir isn't vain or pornographic The transformation women experience when they finally see what their spouse sees How increasing self-confidence affects your marriage What happens in a boudoir session How to break the generational negative self-talk cycle A powerful technique for body-neutrality and self-acceptance Tips for husbands who want to suggest boudoir to their wives Lindsey's "black belt sex tip" for deeper intimacy and better communication*   We're so excited to have Lindsey join us on our upcoming cruise as our in-house (in-boat?) boudoir photographer! It's optional, but included in the total price of your cruise. You get to take away a fabulous momento from your sexy and intimate getaway! Apply to join us: https://getyourmarriageon.com/cruise/ *If you'd like some questions to ask your spouse (like Lindsey's tip), check out this post with 29 spicy questions!   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Can "being good" actually get in the way of good sex? If you have spent your life "trying to be good," but still struggle to create a deep intimate connection with your spouse, you're not alone. In this episode, we talk about how to move beyond "good-boy/good-girl syndrome" and into the inherent goodness God designed in sexuality. If you grew up believing that sexual thoughts or desires were dangerous, shameful, or spiritually risky, this episode will help you see your sexuality through an entirely new lens—one grounded in joy, creativity, emotional connection, and spiritual maturity. You'll learn: Why chastity and fidelity aren't restrictions—they're keys to true sexual freedom How your motivation for sex changes when obligation is removed Why the "dirty" parts of sex might be the very things that sanctify your marriage How embracing paradox and playfulness makes intimacy deeper and more meaningful This is an episode for every couple longing to move from anxiety-driven sex to soul-expanding intimacy. Resources and Events: Apply for the Get Your Marriage On! Program: getyourmarriageon.com/program In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can apply to get on the waitlist!) NEW Get Your Marriage On! Cruise: October 2026  Valentine's Day Weekend Virtual Retreat Men's and Women's Only Cohorts starting in January! Stand by for more information coming soon!

Purchasing and wearing lingerie can often be surrounded by comparison, insecurity, and pressure, but it doesn't have to be! In this episode, Melina Weekes of Dainty Lace shares how fabrics, colors, mindset, and small daily practices can help women feel genuinely beautiful and confident in their own skin. Whether you're brand-new to lingerie or wanting to rekindle confidence in your marriage, this episode offers practical, uplifting guidance rooted in self-worth and connection. In this episode, we cover: How comparison keeps women (and men) stuck  The way different fabrics influence how you feel and why that matters in intimacy How to discover your color season and why the right tones instantly boost confidence Why lingerie isn't "just for the wedding night" How Christian women can reclaim confidence without compromising values Lingerie shopping as a husband Melina's surprising "black belt sex tip" (hint: it involves cowboys

Most couples think intimacy is about communication or affection, but there are actually two different types of intimacy operating beneath the surface of every marriage. Chances are, you've only been using one of them… and it's the one that keeps you stuck. In this episode, we break down the difference between other-validated intimacy and self-validated intimacy, and why shifting what type you develop can change everything about how you talk, connect, and experience sex in your marriage. In this episode, we cover: What the two types of intimacy actually are Why one leads to emotional gridlock Why the other opens the door to deeper connection How validation (or lack of it) affects both emotional and sexual intimacy Real-life examples from couples who transformed their connection The spiritual root of self-validated intimacy How your emotional reactivity is shaping your marriage Five practical ways to build self-validated intimacy today If you've ever wanted deeper conversation, more ease, or a more meaningful sexual connection, this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air. Resources and Events: Apply for the next Get Your Marriage On! Program: getyourmarriageon.com/program In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can apply to get on the waitlist!) NEW Get Your Marriage On! Cruise: October 2026  Valentine's Day Weekend Virtual Retreat Men's and Women's Only Cohorts starting in January! Stand by for more information coming soon!

In today's episode, Dr. Corey Allen joins us for a deep dive into fictional, but incredibly common, marriage scenarios that reveal surprising truths about desire, conflict, and emotional maturity. We explore how sexual and relational struggles aren't mistakes—they are intentional invitations to grow up, become more courageous, and see our spouse more clearly. In this episode, we cover: Why sexual struggles are built into the work of marriage How meanings—not the issue itself—drive most conflicts How to own your part in the marriage Why many husbands unconsciously hedge their investment The danger of "minimum requirement" sex What real married love is What is actually better than "being happy" in marriage If you're ready to see your marriage challenges from a whole new angle, this episode will change the way you think about intimacy and growth and the purpose of marriage.  Links Mentioned: Apply for the next Get Your Marriage On! Program: getyourmarriageon.com/program Learn more about Dr. Corey Allen: SMR.fm (Sexy Marriage Radio) Events: In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can apply to get on the waitlist!) NEW Get Your Marriage On! Cruise: October 2026    Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.  

Money and intimacy have more in common than most couples realize. In this episode, we sit down with financial coach Dan Ockey to talk about financial intimacy — how the way you manage money together reflects the way you handle trust, communication, and teamwork in every other area of your marriage (yes, even the bedroom). You'll hear Dan Ockey's incredible story of turning debt, secrecy, and shame into a story of honesty, unity, and freedom — and how money challenges can actually strengthen your relationship if you face them together. In this episode: How financial habits mirror sexual habits in marriage Why secrecy and pride around money create the same distance as sexual disconnection Simple mindset shifts that restore trust and teamwork If you've ever argued about money, felt shame around spending, or struggled to get on the same page with your spouse — this episode will help you see finances not as a source of stress, but as a powerful tool for connection and intimacy.

Welcome back to another episode of Man vs Marriage! Let's get real — this one hits home for a lot of marriages. Ever find yourself wondering, “Why does my wife seem to control every part of our sex life?”This dynamic can be deeply frustrating and cause real division between you and your spouse. When one partner holds the power over intimacy, it can create a cycle of resentment, distance, and disconnection.Before long, sex becomes routine — a physical act with little emotional connection. That's not what marriage was designed to be.In this episode, we unpack why this control dynamic shows up, what's really going on beneath the surface, and how you can move from frustration to freedom, understanding, and intimacy.This conversation isn't about blame. It's about growth, communication, and intentional love. Because when you live, love, and communicate with purpose — everything changes.

What happens when your marriage feels impossible to sustain—but you believe God still has a plan? In this powerful episode, we sit down with author and speaker Laurie Krieg, who shares her story of navigating a mixed-orientation marriage, wrestling with faith, desire, trauma, and the transformation that followed. In this episode, we cover: Laurie's honest story of same-sex attraction and her decision to marry a man What it means to trust God when your marriage feels “impossible” Trauma, Jesus, and the healing process Practical ways to love your spouse through pain What Christians can do better to love and support LGBTQ+ individuals and families This episode will stretch your compassion, deepen your faith, and remind you that every marriage—no matter the struggle—can be a place of redemption and growth.   Resources:

In this episode of Get Your Marriage On!, we're diving into gridlock—the moments in marriage where no matter what you choose, it feels like you lose. These conflicts can leave you wondering if you married the right person or why your spouse can't see things your way. But conflict itself isn't the problem—how you handle it is. And since sex is often the biggest source of gridlock, it can also be the greatest opportunity for growth and deeper intimacy. We'll explore a real-life example of what happens when one spouse pressures the other with their sexual fantasies, and how that cycle of placating, resentment, and withdrawal can be transformed into honest intimacy instead. By the end, you'll see how even sexual disagreements can become invitations to stretch, grow, and build a more passionate, connected marriage.

What if you and your spouse chose one area of your relationship to focus on—and committed to it for 30 days straight? That's the heart behind our tradition at Get Your Marriage On called Sextember—a month dedicated to intimacy, playfulness, and connection in marriage. In this episode, I share the surprising backstory that inspired Sextember, including a 30-day experiment that transformed not only one woman's marriage but also her happiness and even her appearance. You'll hear how this idea grew into a challenge for couples everywhere, why September is the perfect time to reset patterns, and how you and your spouse can join in this year. Plus, I'll tell you about our upcoming Virtual Getaway: The Anatomy of Arousal—a spicy, nourishing, two-day experience you can enjoy together from home or a hotel. If you're ready to have fun, grow closer, and see the before-and-after difference in your marriage, this episode will show you how to make Sextember your best month yet!

What does white rice have to do with pornography? I know that sounds like a strange question, but stick with me here because this analogy completely changed how I understand what pornography does to our relationships. I'll also share a more compassionate, Christ-centered approach to overcoming pornography habits that doesn't rely on shame or willpower alone. Here's what we'll cover together: • The surprising history of rice and what happens when you strip away the "bran" - and how this perfectly illustrates what pornography does to sexuality • Why shame, hiding, and secrecy actually prevent us from growing and healing • How to embrace your full sexual nature alongside your spouse instead of in isolation • A more nuanced view on sexual imagery, arousal, and discernment that might surprise you If you've been struggling with pornography or if it's affected your marriage, this episode will offer you hope and a more loving way forward. Because here's what I've learned: building a marriage that's deeply nourishing - body, heart, and soul - requires us to understand the difference between empty calories and real intimacy. Let's dive in.  

Oral sex is one of the most powerful ways to bring your wife pleasure—and deepen your intimacy. In this episode, we share 12 practical, respectful, and fun tips to help husbands confidently and lovingly master cunnilingus. You'll learn what works, what to avoid, and how to create unforgettable, connected experiences in the bedroom. Whether you're new to this or want to up your game, this episode is for you.

Male sexuality is just as complex and rich as female sexuality. I was recently invited to talk about what I wish women knew and understood about male sexuality on Tanya Hale's podcast, she's given me permission to share that with you here on my podcast. So on this episode, we debunk a lot myths we have around understanding male sexuality and paint a more optimistic and uplifting view of what male sexuality is and the blessing it can be to a marriage. We explore how men express love through sex, why emotional connection and sexual desire are so intertwined for them, and how reframing men's sexuality can help us show up more equally in intimate relationships (Don't miss out on part 2 where  we talk about how sometimes validation drives sexual desire, obligation sex, penis vulnerability, and what it means to create a truly equal and safe sexual space in marriage. ) Next steps . . .  Check out the Intimately Us app , our Free Masterclass, or our FREE facebook group.   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Welcome to Part 2 of my conversation with Tanya Hale!  We talk about the pressure men feel around performance, why their penis can be such a vulnerable topic, and how couples can build a sexual relationship that's validating fun and deeply connecting, especially as bodies and marriages evolve over time.  (If you missed part 1, we explored how men express love through sex, why emotional connection and sexual desire are so intertwined for them, and how reframing men's sexuality can help us show up more equally in intimate relationships.) Next steps . . .  Check out the Intimately Us app , our Free Masterclass, or our FREE facebook group.   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.  

When it comes to sexual arousal, many of us reach for that excited, giddy, sometimes silly, sometimes serious, joyful, fulfilling feelings in the company of someone else that matters so much to us. And how do you create a marriage relationship where there's room for two people to have a voice? And how do you create a sexual relationship where both people are excited and happy to be a part of it? Today's guest is Dr. Steven Snyder. He is a sex therapist from New York City, and the author of the book Love Worth Making, which I highly enjoyed. And I feel priviledged to host him on this podcast. Here's what you'll learn in the episode: Why the sexual feelings we crave matter to you  A two-step approach to finding it easier to connect to sexual motivation What "lazy sex" is and how you could put it to action in your own life, especially if you're busy The importance of this concept called "simmering" to foster desire  The surprising difference between giving and taking pleasure Note that this is a part one, so don't miss out on part two (available now!)  *** If you'd like some more support in your marriage, and would like some coaching from our  coaches, check out our program. And don't forget about our FREE facebook group.   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Welcome to part two of my conversation with Dr. Steven Snyder! In part one, we explored why sex is more than just physical--it's deeply emotional, even regressive (meaning you kind of get a little dumber and a lot happier when you're aroused). And we discuss why the best sex often begins with an awareness and emotional presence. In part two, we'll be diving back into this conversation. You'll get to hear about how to put all these pieces in real life, specifically about his two-step framework and, simmering, which we'll talk about. You'll hear stories from couples, who have put these actions into practice and we'll unpack how to deal with desire discrepancies in your marriage. Lastly, we'll figure out how to break free from performance pressure and how to make love worth having in what Dr. Steven Snyder calls lazy sex or simmering.  And of course, don't forget to check out Part 1! *** If you'd like some more support in your marriage, and would like some coaching from our  coaches, check out our program. And don't forget about our FREE facebook group. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Let's be honest. Sexual fantasy is a weird part of being human. In this episode with my guest and fellow Get Your Marriage On coach, Amy Langford, we tackle real listener questions about sexual fantasy in marriage — the kind that stir up curiosity, shame, arousal, and everything in between. What does it mean when you're turned on by something that goes against your values? What if your spouse says they don't have any fantasies? Is it wrong to mentally engage with fiction or past experiences during sex? We talk about meanings in fantasies, how you can talk about them, and how you can use them for the good of your marriage.  Whether you're feeling confused, conflicted, or just curious, this episode is for you. *** If you'd like some more support in your marriage, and would like some coaching from mysef, Amy or our other coaches, check out our program. And don't forget about our FREE facebook group.

Are there lessons we can learn from those that have gone through marital infidelity and use those lessons to improve our marriages today? I personally haven't dealt with this, but I know of many people that have just experienced the great heartache and the trouble that's come through infidelity in their marriage. So today I sat down with a longtime friend of mine and fellow marriage coach, Andrea Giles. She's experienced firsthand the heartbreaking reality of infidelity in marriage in her first marriage years ago. But she's come through it today able to help thousands of women work through the challenges associated with infidelity, as well as teaching many others how to affair-proof their marriages. Today you'll hear her emphasize the importance of prioritizing truth over peace, being honest with oneself, and creating a relationship where both partners can thrive fully. *** Don't miss out on our upcoming International Lovemaking Day challenge! Join this 9-day challenge to improve intimacy, connection, and fun in your marriage (and maybe even win a prize). All the details are in the Intimately Us app. The fun starts Sunday, June 1!   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Sexuality between men and women can get complicated because we experience it so differently. And until we can begin to understand and accept those differences, and then learn to work with them rather than fighting against them, we will struggle to find the connection and intimacy that a great sexual relationship has to offer us. In this podcast I am speaking with Dan Purcell, a life coach and Christian couples sex expert about what women may not know about men's sexuality. You can find more of Dan on his popular podcast Get Your Marriage On. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #281 Mid-Life Sexuality with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #337 Sense of Self and Our Sexuality #345 Men's Sexuality and Intimacy with Sione Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

 In this episode, I'm getting specific with actionable tactics while answering questions about the following: how to grow closer together emotionally overcoming body image concerns as it relates to sex. why women fake orgasms enhancing sexual intimacy with sex toys what the research says about pornography use and its impact on couples  exploring role play in relationships, and most importantly, keeping the erotic energy alive and long-term marriage relationships.  I was a guest on a podcast titled From Mrs to Ms with Andrea. This was a fun, unscripted conversation and with her permission, I'm sharing a portion of that conversation with you today. We need your input! In a few weeks, I'll be doing another question and answer episode specifically on the topic of sexual fantasies as it relates to Christian couples and long-term marriages. And if you have a question you'd like me to prepare for that episode, please reach out to me on Instagram via direct message or send me an email (getyourmarriageon@gmail.com). I'd love to answer it on an upcoming episode. As always, if you and your spouse are looking to take intimacy in your marriage to the next level, check out my Get Your Marriage on Program, or contact me or my team about private coaching opportunities. I'm here for you to help you and your marriage grow stronger and closer and have a lot more fun together intimately. Lastly June 9th (that's 6/9 on a calendar) is a special day! It's the birthday of the Intimately Us app. It also International Love Making Day, and we want to celebrate with you with a fun challenge June 1-9! Download the Intimately Us app for all the info. We're going to have a challenge starting on June 1st, leading up to the ninth. And we have a lot of special prizes and lots of fun for you and your spouse.  Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.  

This episode is all about priming your mind and relationship for great sex.  Years ago, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, who is my guest on this episode today, made her first appearance on my podcast, (and if you want to listen to it, it's episode number 50). What she taught me then about the mental load made a deep impression on me. The mental load as it's often called, is this invisible, never ending to-do list, that is usually carried more by the wives than husbands in marriages, even if both spouses are working. It is the ever present mental load of things that are still works in progress that occupy the back of our mind. Not surprisingly, the mental load issue carries its effects into the intimate relationship, and this is what we get to explore today in depth on today's episode with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. I read her recently published book called A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load For More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex. We especially get to explore the great sex portion of her book in this episode. :-) I hope you enjoy this episode with Dr. Morgan Cutlip! *** Our team has put together a great resource to help you tackle the mental load in your relationship! And it's on sale for the month of May. Check it out! As always, if you're looking for help to take your marriage to the next level, check out our Get Your Marriage Program. Let us help you be the next success story!   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Women's bodies and brains undergo large changes during puberty, childbirth and menopause. Just like how sexuality hasn't been talked about much in previous generations, at least not in a positive light, menopause also hasn't been a free topic of conversation.  It might be a bit funny that a dude is doing an episode about menopause, but I'm really curious about this amazing natural process that women undergo. And I'm not the only one. We often have questions in our private Facebook group. I admit, with a little bit of humor, that most of the comments are from husbands desperate for answers, wondering where their wives libido went after she experienced menopause symptoms. We'll address this question among many others in this episode as I talk with my friend and fellow marriage and sex coach, Alisa DiLorenzo. She and her husband Tony, are the hosts of the incredible One Extraordinary Marriage Show and the author of several books. Coming up . . .  Our wonderful small group men's and women's coaching programs start May 6th! Spots are limited to just 10 people per group, so sign up now to ensure your spot! Trust us, this program is intimacy changing!   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

 Ever play the game "Two Truths and a Lie"? (A person makes three statements, and you guess which two are factual and which one is false.) Well, we get to play that game today on our episode with my guests Sheila Wray Gregoire and her husband Keith (return guests to the Get Your Marriage On Podcast). The Gregoires completed extensive research, surveying thousands of Christian couples, and recently published their findings in a new book called The Marriage You Want. I've read this book and I think it's really well done, so I invited the Gregoires onto the podcast to share it with you. We talk about a lot of topics: sexual intimacy (of course), finances, sharing the mental load, and more. I hope you walk away from this episode with a few new insights and fresh ideas to improve intimacy and connection in your own marriage. And if you'd like a little extra help, myself and my team would love to meet with you and coach with you in our Get Your Marriage On Program. And as always, don't forget to check out the Intimately Us app. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

*disclaimer* This episode includes discussions on pleasure and anatomy. If you're not comfortable with your little ones hearing these details, consider popping in your headphones or saving it for a private moment. Most couples struggling with mismatched sex drives think the problem is obvious—one person wants it more, and the other wants it less. But what if that's not actually the issue?

Send us a textDan Purcell from Get Your Marriage On is back for Part 2 of our deep dive into marital intimacy! In this episode, we're pushing the conversation even further—getting Dan's take on introducing porn into marriage, the impact it can have on connection, and whether it helps or harms intimacy. We're also exploring the power of role play in keeping the spark alive and how couples can step outside their comfort zones in a way that strengthens their bond.And just for fun—we're playing a spicy "Would You Rather" game that'll have you thinking (and laughing) about your own relationship dynamics!If you loved Part 1, you won't want to miss this one! Tune in for expert insights, honest takes, and a few surprises along the way.

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