Modern Intimacy

In this enlightening episode of "Get Naked with Dr. Kate," we welcome Pamela Madsen, the visionary behind Back to the Body. Together, Dr. Kate and Pamela dive deep into the world of embodied sexuality, desire, and vulnerability. Pamela shares how women can reclaim their pleasure and sovereignty by embracing their eroticism and shedding the shame that often surrounds sexual exploration. This conversation touches on the significance of immersive practices, the challenges of arousal imprints, and how sexual healing transcends the bedroom to affect all areas of life. Tune in for an empowering discussion that will leave you inspired to reconnect with your body and embrace your authentic desires. For more information about Pamela Madsen, you can find her here: Website: https://backtothebody.org Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepamelamadsen/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Kate and renowned author, Soraya Chemaly, explore the misconceptions and dangers of resilience, highlighting the lack of social care and the value of care in society, highlighter in her new book: The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth After Trauma. Some of the key points include: - Resilience can be misconstrued and work against us when there is a lack of social care and value for care in society. - The concept of resilience has become detached from science and has proliferated as an ideology. - The science of resilience has biases and limitations, particularly in relation to gender and vulnerable populations. - Healing and resilience are not solely individual endeavors, but require community, relationships, and reflection. - Traditional notions of masculinity can hinder resilience and adaptability to change. - The idea of bouncing back to a pre-trauma state is a myth, and healing involves assimilating experiences and evolving as individuals. Rigid notions of masculinity can be harmful and lead to a lack of resilience. - Marginalized communities may overcompensate in one area to compensate for marginalization in another. - Cultivating an embodied awareness of our environments is important for resilience. - Resilience should be viewed from a relational perspective, emphasizing interconnectedness. -- Soraya Chemaly is a renowned journalist, activist, and author. Her work focuses on the words we use, the images we make, and how to act to build a better world. Her work will make you think, and give you plenty to talk about! Get Soraya Chemaly's books here: The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth After Trauma Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger Follow Soraya Chemaly: Instagram: @rageandresilience Website: https://www.sorayachemaly.com ____________________________________

In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri and Brooke Brownlee, APCC (Clinical Associate at Modern Intimacy) discuss a listener question, about how to navigate a partner's inflation fetish. They address questions about what an inflation fetish involves, how to ensure safety during activities, and how to support a partner's interests without feeling uncomfortable. They also debunk myths surrounding inflation fetishes and provide resources for further exploration. Takeaways - It is common for partners to have mismatched sexual interests, and it is important to approach these differences with curiosity and support. - Engaging in inflation activities can be safe as long as there is consent, communication, and awareness of potential risks. - Supporting a partner's inflation fetish does not require personal arousal, but rather a willingness to understand and participate in a way that feels authentic. - Myths surrounding inflation fetishes, such as associations with child attraction, should be debunked to promote understanding and acceptance. - Self-exploration, open communication, and seeking resources can help navigate and introduce inflation fetishes into the bedroom. Keywords #inflation #inflationfetish #partnership #partnersupport #safety #resources Read More: What Does It Mean to Have an Inflation Fetish? by Brooke Brownlee, APCC https://www.modernintimacy.com/what-does-it-mean-to-have-an-inflation-fetish/ The Juicy Round World of Blueberry Porn, by Samantha Cole, Vice https://www.vice.com/en/article/wjmjqw/the-juicy-round-world-of-blueberry-porn ____________________________________

ADHD can impact so many different aspects of a person's life…including in the bedroom! On this week's episode of Get Naked, Dr. Kate is joined by Alexandre Fraysse to discuss how to navigate living with ADHD (or loving someone with ADHD) and the ways that it may show up in the bedroom.  Together, they unpack: • Tips for taking accountability  • Sharing tasks in partnership • Recommendations when you're stuck in a “functional freeze” • The role ADHD plays in the bedroom And so much more! Alexandre Fraysse is an ADHD coach for professionals who specializes in helping his clients master their lives and natural gifts, empowering them to become unstoppable forces of nature in their professional and personal lives. Through creating personalized strategies and providing unwavering support, Alex's clients transform their lives, harness their strengths, and conquer any obstacles in their way.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you embrace sex positivity if you grew up surrounded by social messaging filled with shame? Dr. Tara is ready to help you answer this question, and share her journey to sex positivity as well! This week on Get Naked, the doctors are in session – Dr. Kate and Dr. Tara sit down to discuss: • First sexual experiences • Defining sex positivity • Unpacking the judgement and backlash that sex positive individuals face (and why) • The macro- and micro-communications about sex and so much more! Dr. Tara is the internet's resident sex expert for GenZennials, on a mission to show that women can at once be sexual, intellectual, and powerful. She is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton, an award-winning researcher, the TV host of Celebs Go Dating, an award-winning sex researcher, a TEDx speaker, host of the Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast, and an in-demand sex and relationship coach based in Los Angeles. On TikTok, Dr. Tara is sharing bite-sized nuggets of wisdom to an audience eager to step into their power in sex, life, and beyond. Translation: she's making some serious moves destigmatizing sex, and having a blast while doing it. Sponsor: Lume - use code GETNAKED for 15% off your first purchase at LumeDeodorant.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever had a stressful day, filled with seemingly never ending tasks, and found yourself recoiling at the advances of your partner? If yes, you may be, as author Amanda Montei coins it, touched out. Amanda joins Dr. Kate in the studio this week to discuss this concept of being “touched out”, and the ways that it can permeate into our intimate and familial relationships. Together, the two explore: • The surprises one may encounter when entering motherhood • Being in recovery while becoming a mother • Weaponized choice in parenthood • The division of labor in households And so much more. Amanda is the author, most recently, of Touched Out: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent & Control. She is a contributing writer for New York Times Magazine, and her work has also appeared at The Cut, New York Times, Elle, Time, Slate, and many others. She writes the newsletter Mad Woman. A special thank you to this week's sponsor, SEED! Support your gut this summer with Seed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic. Go to Seed.com/GETNAKED and use code 25GETNAKED to get 25% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can you ever be truly prepared to be a parent? And how can fathers show up for their sons to ensure that they grow up with emotional maturity? On this week's episode of Get Naked, Eli Weinstein joins Dr. Kate to discuss the in's and out's of parenting, especially when it comes to navigating fatherhood.  Together, the two unpack:  • How weaponized incompetence may be used in parental dynamics • The lack of role modeling for fatherhood that many men face • How postpartum may impact men • Tips for new fathers and so much more! Eli Weinstein is a Licensed Clinical Social Work Therapist who has worked in multiple settings, including psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. Eli has honed his skills of CBT, ACT, positive psychology, and other therapy techniques to reach a grasp of the inner workings of the human mind. His mission is to use his experience, expertise, and voice to help empower individuals and let them know the life they hope for is possible. A very special thank you to this week's sponsors, SEED and VIIA Hemp! Support your gut this summer with Seed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic. Go to Seed.com/GETNAKED and use code 25GETNAKED to get 25% off your first month. Head to Viiahemp.com and use the code GETNAKED to receive 15% off + one free sample of their award-winning gummies. (21+). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is anal s-x only for gay men? Is it riskier than other types of s-x? Does it cause incontinence? These are just a few of the ASSumptions that Dr. Evan Goldstein debunks on this week's episode of Get Naked with Dr. Kate. Anal play can be daunting for some, especially if you have no idea where to begin, or you've been poorly educated around the topic (or not educated at all)! Luckily, Dr. Evan Goldstein and Dr. Kate are here to help untangle some common myths surrounding all things butt related. Together, the two break down: • Common misconceptions around anal • How to begin training your sphincter • Exploring the body in an interoceptive way and much more! Dr. Evan Goldstein is the leading anal health expert in the United States, founder of Future Method, and one of the few surgeons in the world whose practice, Bespoke Surgical, is dedicated to treating and restoring the human butt. He has been featured in national publications including GQ, Well+Good, Men's Health, Cosmopolitan, New York Magazine, Forbes, Fast Company, Out, and Shape; is a popular podcast guest; and in demand as a speaker for both medical and sex-positive industries. His first book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In Between is now available – buy it here. A special thanks to this week's episode sponsor, VIIA HEMP! Head to Viiahemp.com and use the code GETNAKED to receive 15% off + one free sample of their award-winning gummies. (21+). Take your passion and pleasure to a whole new level with High Love from VIIA Hemp! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're exploring all avenues of empowerment this week, from female friendship to being a "Free Agent", bonobos vs. chimps, and even exploring age hypogamy relationships. Wednesday Martin, Ph.D. joins Dr. Kate on this week's episode of Get Naked to talk about: • Recent studies on female friendship and the crucial role it plays in women's lives • The benefits of decentering men • Bonobos, chimps, and the key differences of their social structures (including what we can learn from bonobos) • Why younger men reported wanting to be with older women • The concept of new masculinities And truly SO much more! By the end of this episode, you may be asking yourself, "How can I live more like a bonobo?" Wednesday Martin, Ph.D. has been a writer and social researcher in New York City (and now Los Angeles) for over two decades. Her writing explores gender, parenting and motherhood, popular culture, and female sexuality. Her memoir, Primates of Park Avenue, is a hilarious, touching, and insightful look into the exotic world of Manhattan motherhood. Her book Stepmonster, a finalist for the prestigious Books for a Better Life Award, is widely considered the “go-to” source for stepmothers, adult stepchildren, therapists and others who seek a uniquely candid, interdisciplinary, cross-cultural and comprehensive look at the topic. You can check out more of Wednesday's work by visiting her website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've been on TikTok or Twitter, chances are you've come across Girthmasterr, the Australian adult content creator who has made quite a splash with his – well – generous anatomy. This week on Get Naked, Girthmasterr joins Dr. Kate in the studio to open up about his experience entering the adult content industry and his sudden rise to fame. Together, they discuss: • The double standard of s-x work between men and women • The behind-the-scenes of creating adult content scenes • STI health & s-x work • Parasocial relationships & p0rn exposure and much, much more. Girthmasterr is an award winning adult actor and content creator that has collaborated with some of the biggest names in the p0rn industry. He has appeared in Rolling Stone, Daily Beast, Slate, and The Cut, as well as many more publications and is one of the top creators on OnlyFans. A special thank you to this episode's sponsor, LUME Deodorant! Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code GETNAKED at LumeDeodorant.com! #lumepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Get Naked, Dr. Kate sits down with Modern Intimacy's Digital Media Coordinator Claudia Vera to answer your pressing questions about sexuality and relationships! Together, they three listener questions: • Why is it that I can't get aroused unless someone is watching? • My partner has a fantasy about having a threesome with me... is he not sexually satisfied with me? Will he still desire me? • Why do we (in the beginning of a relationship) feel the need/desire for sex, but then after awhile it goes away? Do you have a question you want Dr. Kate to answer on the podcast? Send it to QUESTION@GETNAKEDPODCAST.COM or fill out this Google form for the chance to have your question featured on the podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As technology has advanced, so has the ability to harness images without consent – this is where deep fakes and AI generated images enter the picture.   On this week's episode of Get Naked, Dr. John Delatorre joins Dr. Kate to break down WHY image-based sexual violence is so damaging, how it appears in our culture today, and the small but meaningful ways we, as individuals, can intervene.   Together, they unpack:   • The implications of distinguishing the real from the fake via AI image • What may compel someone to engage in creating deep fakes • The dehumanization of celebrity as an object for consumption • The Taylor Swift AI lawsuit and controversy that followed • The role of fear and anger in deep fake perpetrators   and so much more!    John Delatorre, Psy.D. is a licensed psychologist in Texas, Arizona and New York State. He provides therapy and assessment for a variety of concerns, including providing interventions to the severely mentally ill, individuals with significant trauma histories, and crisis interventions/de-escalation. A special thank you to this week's sponsor, LUME Deodorant! Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code GET NAKED at LumeDeodorant.com! #lumepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In your day to day life, how often do you do something for yourself? Do you incorporate pleasure into your routine, or do you find yourself yearning for some moments of intention? On this week's episode of Get Naked, Bedside host Tatiana Fogt returns to the podcast to talk about how a person can build a sustainable (and accessible) pleasure practice into their daily lives. Together with Dr. Kate, the two explore: • Identifying the significance between rest and pleasure • How to escape from constantly being in a "doing" mindset • Exploring what brings you joy by tapping into childhood • The myth of needing to "earn" pleasure and so much more! Tatiana is the brilliant creator and host behind Bedside, a charting podcast series unpacking the intricacies of modern love, dating, relationships, and all things sex. By chatting with sexperts, therapists, innovators, thought leaders & more, she's on a mission to make sexual wellness more accessible and approachable Be sure to join the waitlist to grab a copy of Tatiana's latest journal here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is an incel? What leads a person to become an incel? And what does it mean to be black-pilled and red-pilled? On this week's episode of Get Naked with Dr. Kate, Dr. Kate is joined by Brendan Kwiatkowski, an educator, researcher, and speaker specializing in the social-emotional development and well-being of boys and men. The two dive into an illuminating conversation that aims to better understand the root reasons that men become drawn to inceldom, including the roles that entitlement and shame play. Together, Brendan and Dr. Kate work to unpack: • What traits embody precarious masculinity • Why a person may find themselves identifying with incel culture • Why men in particular are targeted by / attracted to the incel community • The difference between red and black pilled ideologies and so much more! A special thank you to our sponsors for this week's episode, Lume Deodorant and VIIA Hemp! VIIA HEMP

How can you keep the curiosity alive in a relationship? In this episode, we revisit a community favorite where Dr. Kate and Dr. Alexandra Solomon talk about the nuances of relationships. They explore some of the questions that Dr. Solomon created in her quiz that reveals roles we take on within relationships. The two work to unpack how our past shapes our present and our early experiences effect our relationships now. Together, they discuss: • How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team with your partner. • How conflict can be turned into opportunities for intimacy and growth. • How to love someone while not losing yourself. & so much more! Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality. She is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. Be sure to check out her latest book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive. Original air date: October 10, 2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How does one unlearn the rigid beliefs of purity culture? This week, Dr. Kate is joined by Julia and Jeremiah of Sexvangelicals, a a podcast, educational platform, and community building project offering the sex education the church didn't want you to have. The three of them unpack: • The impact that these environments can have on one's relationship to pleasure and sex • The sense of grief and loss that can come hand in hand with the freedom of exiting high control environments • Redefining the role of importance that sex plays in your life and so much more! Be sure to check out Sexvangelicals podcast to gain insight on giving yourself permission to be a sexual person, navigating the deconstructing process, and healing from the ways that Christian communities may have gotten it wrong. RESOURCES MENTIONED: When Religion Hurts You (book) by Laura Anderson Sunday School Dropouts (podcast) by Laura Anderson and Andrew Kerbs A special thank you to this episode's sponsor, VIIA HEMP! Head to Viiahemp.com and use the code GETNAKED to receive 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+). Happy Holidaze! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that there are 14 muscles in the pelvic floor? Do kegels actually work? And what IS the pelvic floor, exactly? We are revisiting a community favorite this week with pelvic floor expert Courtney Virden! Together with Dr. Kate, the two unpack: • How pelvic floor strength and sexual pleasure are tied together • The shame around pelvic floor dysfunction • Accessible pelvic floor exercises & so much more! Courtney Virden is a pelvic floor expert, fitness trainer, and founder of iCORE Method. Her iCORE method app with core and pelvic floor programs is used by women worldwide to restore pelvic floor health and wellness. She is a contributor for Kourtney Kardashian's Poosh and consults as a pelvic floor expert for many publications and outlets.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are men afraid of women? The answer may surprise you. Dr. Kate is joined by Dr. Avrum Weiss on this week's episode of Get Naked to discuss the ways that men's fear of intimacy may negatively impact their relationships with women. Together, they unpack • The deepseated root of fear of intimacy, starting from our childhood relationships • The strain that fear can place on intimate relationships between men and women • How men unconsciously identify their own fears of intimacy • The role of the patriarchy when it comes to control • Starting points to help men overcome fear of intimacy and so much more. Dr. Avrum Weiss is a psychologist, author, and speaker. He has written four books, the most recent “Hidden In Plain Sight: How Men's Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships”. A special thank you to this episode's sponsors, VIIA and LUME DEODORANT! Head to Viiahemp.com and use the code GETNAKED to receive 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies (21+). Lume's Starter Pack is perfect for new customers. It comes with a Solid Stick Deodorant, Cream Tube Deodorant, two free products of your choice (like Mini Body Wash and Deodorant Wipes), and free shipping. As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code GETNAKED at LumeDeodorant.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it ever acceptable to cheat? What do fidelity agreements look like in partnership? This week, we are revisiting a community favorite episode with the one and only Dan Savage! Dr. Kate and Dan talk about sex, fidelity, monogamy, non-monogamy and the importance of creating the type of relationship and family YOU want, not one dictated by society. Together, they unpack: • The dimensionality of fidelity and loyalty • Inviting sustained and controlled chaos into your relationship • The power of practice in group and community settings • The Karmic Rule of Kink and so much more! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, media pundit, author, journalist, and LGBT community activist. Be sure to check out his column, Savage Love, and his podcast, Savage Lovecast. A special thank you to the sponsors for this episode, BEDUCATED and MAYER LABS! Head to BEDUCATED's website and use code "drKate" for 40% off a yearly pass. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are anal play and pegging are safe (and okay to enjoy)? This week on Get Naked with Dr. Kate, Australia's leading men's sex coach Cam Fraser joins the podcast to discuss all things anal play, and to help shed some of the stigma surrounding it within male spaces. Together, they unpack: • Myths around male sexuality and masculinity • Why some men may fear anal play, and why they may be curious about it • How prostate orgasms can be achieved (and what sets them apart) • Tips for getting started with pegging and anal play in solo/partnered sex And so much more. We hope that this episode can help to dispel myths around anal play, masculinity, and what it means about one's sexuality, so that individuals can feel free to explore what feels safe and pleasurable for them. Cam Fraser is a Professional Sex Coach, certified with the World Association of Sex Coaches, as well as a Sexologist, and the current Deputy Chair of the Society of Australian Sexologists. His work aims to help men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame. You can learn more about Cam by visiting his website. A very special thank you to this episode's sponsor, FACTOR MEALS! Head to FACTORMEALS.com/getnaked50 and use code "getnaked50" to get 50% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you think of intimacy, what comes to mind? Maybe you think about a passionate kiss, or getting frisky with a partner in the bedroom. But what if we told you there were other ways to cultivate intimacy that didn't involve sex?  This week, we are revisiting a community favorite on Get Naked with Dr. Kate, where Dr. Kate explores the multifaceted definitions of intimacy with Doc Erica Holmes. The two unpack a holistic definition of intimacy, walk listeners through a few activities that can help couples connect, and explore how we as a society can make our way to valuing true intimacy. Doc Erica is a licensed clinical psychologist, educator, trainer, community consultant and author in the greater Los Angeles area. Be sure to check out Erica's latest book, Intimacy Sex: 180 Activities to Help Couples Connect. A big thank you to this episode's sponser, OMG YES! Go to https://www.OMGYES.com/GETNAKED for a special discount. Original episode air date: August 8, 2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What kind of sex is worth wanting? Does your sex life inevitably suffer in longterm relationships? On this week's episode, sex educator, researcher, and renowned author of "Come As You Are" Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. joins Dr. Kate to answer these questions. Together, they discuss the genesis of Emily's latest book "Come Together", and the reality of how our sex lives change in longterm partnerships. They discuss: • The popular rhetoric we hear about how sex works in longterm relationships, including the conversations around "keeping the spark alive" • The importance of pleasure, authenticity, and vulnerability when it comes to desire in longterm partnerships • Why it is so important to co-create an erotic context with a partner • Why longterm partners get stuck in the cycle of having the same sex over and over • Asking yourself: What kind of sex is WORTH wanting? and so much more. Emily Nagoski is the New York Times bestselling, award-winning author of Come as You Are and co-author, with her sister, Amelia, of Burnout. She combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist! You can order Emily's latest book "Come Together" here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are revisiting an audience favorite this week! Heather Shannon joins Dr. Kate to talk about Hot Wifing and Cuckolding kinks, including what these terms mean, unpacking the themes of humiliation, desire, power and pride, and understanding how it can be practiced in heterosexual and queer relationships. They discuss: • The differences between cuckholding vs. hot wifery • The role of humilation • How to begin this conversation with a partner if you're curious about exploring • Best practices for aftercare, including discussing the experience with one another & so much more! Heather Shannon is a Certified Sex Therapist and Host of the top-ranked “Ask A Sex Therapist” podcast. With over 12 years in private practice, Heather helps queer, kinky and/or non-monogamous people to explore who they are as sexual beings and how they want to show up in their relationships. Heather has been featured in publications such as Cosmopolitan, Women's Health and Self Magazine as well as on podcasts including The Horny Housewife and Curious Girl Diaries. She is a sex and relationship expert for the Peanut app, which serves 2.5M women throughout all stages of life. Original episode air date: August 15, 2023 HAVE A QUESTION? ↘ EMAIL: question@getnakedpodcast.com A very special thank you to this episode's sponsors, OMGYES and BetterHelp! ↘ OMGYES Go to www.OMGYES/GetNaked for a special discount. ↘ BETTER HELP Go to www.Betterhelp.com/GetNaked today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it mean to be with someone who exhibits sexual narcissism? On this week's episode, Dr. Kate is talking all about sexual narcissism – what it looks like, how it differs from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and best practices for navigating relationships with someone who exhibits signs. Dr. Kate had the pleasure of sitting down with Keresse Thompson, a seasoned therapist specializing in toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, borderline personality disorder, and empaths, to unpack this topic. They discuss: • How sexual narcissism may present itself • The subtle ways covert narcissism can occur • The role of baiting and love bombing • Different ways an individual can counterbalance their own needs not being met in relationship And so much more. This conversation is designed to help you to recognize if you are with someone who is sexually narcissistic, and offer tools on how to move through it while maintaining autonomy. If you want to schedule a free 30-minute consultation and get connected with a coach/clinician at Modern Intimacy, head to www.modernintimacy.com/connect. A very special thank you to this episode's sponsor, Factor Meals! Go to www.Factormeals.com/GetNaked50 and use code GetNaked50 for 50% off your first box and 2 free wellness shots per box while subscription is active. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have all been through it and break-ups are not easy. Dr. Kate and Rachel discuss what leads up to and how to finesse a break-up, including the potential signs that can indicate a parting of ways is inevitable. They also outline the range of feelings you can expect – from sadness and anger to joy and relief –no one is exactly the same. Ultimately, healing involves trusting yourself again and trusting your choices as you move on, and giving yourself grace. Rachel Overvoll is a Somatic Sex and Intimacy Coach and published author of Finding Feminism. Using her credentials from the Somatica Institute and Kinsey Institute, she works through the mediums of embodiment and self - attunement to help clients step into the power of an authentic and pleasure centered life. Rachel is the author of The Breakup Journal, exercises to help you through a break-up.    Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com   Stay Connected with Dr. Kate:   IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: ADDYI: Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. GREEN CHEF: Go to www.greenchef.com/60getnaked and use code 60getnaked to get 60% off, plus 20% off your next two months. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Playboy Mansion has developed itself as a landmark of excess and pleasure in American culture – but what happens behind its gilded doors? For Crystal Hefner, life at the mansion wasn't always the glitz and glamor portrayed in the media. You may know Crystal as the third (and last) wife of Hugh Hefner – but she is so much more than the man she married, and she's ready to take back her narrative. On this episode of Get Naked with Dr. Kate, we discuss: * The impact of losing oneself in a relationship, and the disorientation this causes when it ends * The realities of living in the Playboy mansion (and the lack of privacy it granted) * What messages she would like to send to the young women who consume Playboy content It is a poignant, vulnerable conversation around finding oneself in the wake of a tumultuous and controlling relationship – with a man and with an entire franchise that depends on the male gaze. Make sure to check out Crystal's latest book, ONLY SAY GOOD THINGS: SURVIVING PLAYBOY AND FINDING MYSELF to hear her story directly from her. --   Crystal Hefner is a world-renowned model, advocate, entrepreneur, a former Playboy Playmate and author of ONLY SAY GOOD THINGS: SURVIVING PLAYBOY AND FINDING MYSELF. She now works to bring awareness to issues she is passionate about, speaking out on social media to her 10 million followers about body image, objectification, and beauty standards in the media.  ____________________________________  Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com   Stay Connected with Dr. Kate:   IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/   Thank you to our sponsors:    ADDYI:  Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you.   VIIA:     Go to www.VIIAhemp.com and use code GETNAKED to receive 15% off and one free sample of their sleepy Dreams Gummies (21+) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 Dr. Kate and Rachel are talking today about Social media and dating, and how use of social media can effect real connection and intimacy. Do you find yourself watching a movie or having dinner with your partner and look over to see him/her looking at their phone? There is a large disconnect when one partner is distracted, and this can cause a ripple effect in the relationship; including a deterrent and turn-off to real intimacy and sexual intimacy. They also talk about how to bring up discussions of boundaries and guidelines with use of social media that is comfortable for both people as well as red flags to watch for in your partner's social media use. Dr. Rachel Needle is a Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist in private practice and the founder and executive director of the Whole Health Psychological Center. She has been featured in a number of popular magazines such as Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, and Shape. LUME: Go to www.Lumedeodorant.com and as a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code GETNAKED. That's 40% off your Starter Pack. ADDYI: Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate talks with Tawny about Tawny's journey to Sobriety and the effects of being present in life, dating and even enjoying sex when not drinking alcohol. They also talk about the physical and emotional aspects of sobriety. Dr. Kate and Tawny talk about ways to a more present life without relying on alcohol but also talk honestly on some of the losses along the way. You will also hear about booze-free date ideas, conversation prompts with a partner, good sex and that the idea of “slowing it down” is truly ok. Tawny reminds us that “you don't need to hit rock-bottom to decide to stop drinking too much” and you don't have be sober to investigate how your relationship with alcohol or drugs is affecting your intimacy. Tawny Lara is an advice columnist better known as “The Sober Sexpert” and author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze. She co-hosts the podcast, Recovery Rocks. She also writes a weekly advice column, Beyond Liquid Courage, about all things sober dating and relationships. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate and Aaron talk about how men benefit from Platonic Touch with other men including physical touch as well as energetic presence, song, movement, nature connection, and deep listening. Aaron is committed to interrupting the Chronically UnderTouched trauma story and be a part of the collective healing of closeness. It's a movement supporting People of the Global Majority — people of color — to access healthy, nourishing, platonic touch in a culture that, in the United States, denies it at every turn. Tender touch means seeing people as full human beings. It is the antidote to the invention of The Black Brute archetype. Aaron Johnson is a teacher of closeness, a consultant and activist. He has made a lifelong commitment to end racism. He uses intimacy and closeness as a primary means to that end. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com   Stay Connected with Dr. Kate:   IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: ADDYI Go to www.Addyi.com and use the code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate talks with Christene about Asian Americans and their cultural and mental attitudes towards relationships and sex as seen first hand by Christene growing up in this culture.  She says there is almost always a sense of shame or guilt whether talking about sex, having sex, seeking therapy, dating before marriage, etc. and the weight of that shame can be seen as a betrayal to the culture historically and present day, as well as to the family. This overall taboo causes multiple problems for the individual as they try to balance what they want in life versus what they think they should do for the family.   Christene works as a BIPOC AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, IITAP Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Christene specializes in the treatment of sex-related issues and compulsive sexual behavior.     Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate and Dr. Jasmine discuss the role of stress and hormones on sexual desire and arousal. Dr. Jasmine Talei is a California licensed Naturopathic Doctor and believes in a holistic approach to our health. She looks at hormonal imbalances, the skin-gut connection, auto immune conditions, and mold-related illness and how these can effect stress in our lives. For a Link to Dr. Talei's adrenal support product Mind Body Soul go to https://www.beverlyhillsnaturalmedicine.com/drtalei/p/resp5vh8e62s86oyht2vbt0xuls1kf  Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ ADDYI: Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment and find out if Addyi is right for you. MIND BODY SOUL herbal supplement: Go to site for a 10% discount. Mention code Get Naked. https://www.beverlyhillsnaturalmedicine.com/drtalei/p/resp5vh8e62s86oyht2vbt0xuls1kf Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate and Dr. Nazanin discuss the link between body shape, body dissatisfaction and the effect of negative body image on sexual experiences. They also delve into self-perception, positive or negative, in young people as well as adults. Eating disorders can also influence how we feel about our body and our sexual well-being. This episode has so much great information on the toll body image can take on us and ways to be aware of and improve this. Dr. Nazanin Moali,PhD is an internationally-recognized psychologist, educator, and podcaster. She specializes in assisting clients with eating disorders and sexual health challenges. Additionally, she hosts the podcast "Sexology" where she dives into findings in sex and intimacy psychology. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: ADDYI: Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment and find out if Addyi is right for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gina Gutierrez, is co-founder and Chief Creative Officer at Dipsea, and is passionate about de-stigmatizing sexual wellness for women. Dipsea, an audio app, is home to some of the best erotica in the world. It's audio content is "redefining pleasure for women." Dr. Kate and Gina talk about using sexy stories and imagination as powerful tools in sexual arousal and enjoyment and the importance of connecting to our female sexuality and empowerment… all to improve each woman's sex life. They talk how the effects can help put the spice back in relationships and increase our own sexual desire. Gina is offering our listeners a 30 day free trial to Dipsea, Details below in Sponsor section. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: ADDYI: Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GetNaked for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. DIPSEA: Go to www.Dipseastories.com/GETNAKED for a 30 day free trial Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imani and Dr. Kate talk about a new area of research that explores the Impact of a Child's sexual victimization on the lives and sex lives of the parents of the child. This traumatic event for the child can take it's toll on the parents as well. Feelings of guilt, concern for their child's mental health, shock, can all lead to a breakdown of communication and little interest in sexual activity with their partner. Imani Reynolds is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of California and a board-certified sexologist. Imani is currently a doctoral student in Human Sexuality with research focused on sexual desire, sexual intimacy, and sexual trauma. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com The Get Naked Podcast listeners can download a free printable booklet from Hope Ray about betrayal violence here: www.hoperay.com/getnaked  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Shyama and Dr. Kate talk about Perimenopause and effects on one's sex life, sex drive, sexual desire, mood and body. They cover the pros and cons of various hormone replacement options. Perimenopause can bring with it changing bodies, lowered libido, painful sex, hot flashes, night sweats, vaginal dryness, fogginess and emotional ups and downs. Dr. Shyama Mathews is a Board Certified OB/GYN, NAMS Certified. Menopause Specialist, and the Chief Medical Advisor of Playground, a Woman's sex and wellness company. You can find it at www.Helloplayground.com SPONSORED BY ADDYI Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. ____________________________________ SCHEDULE A FREE 30-MIN CONSULTATION: https://www.modernintimacy.com/contact ____________________________________ FOLLOW MODERN INTIMACY IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@modernintimacy BLOG: www.modernintimacy.com Check out the Modern Intimacy podcast on Apple Podcast or Spotify ____________________________________ FOLLOW DR. KATE BALESTRIERI IG: https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@drkatebalestrieri ____________________________________ DISCLAIMER  The content posted on this page, or any of Dr. Kate's or Modern Intimacy's social media channels are for educational and entertainment purposes only and are not a substitute for therapy.  If you need immediate support, please text HOME to 741741 or call 1-800-273-8255 to connect with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  ____________________________________ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joel Kim Booster and Dr. Kate talk about mental health, relationships (Joel is in a non-monogamous relationship) and how to find one's own identity and have the courage to be who you know you are. Joel Kim Booster is an American actor, comedian, producer, and writer. He co-produced and wrote for Big Mouth and The Other Two. In 2022, he wrote, produced, and starred in the Hulu romantic comedy Fire Island, with a main cast of Asian American actors. In 2018, he released his debut stand-up album, Model Minority. In 2022, he released a stand-up special on Netflix called Joel Kim Booster: Psychosexual, a funny and biting deconstruction and reconstruction of Booster's identity onstage. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: ADDYI- Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GetNaked for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

David F Khalili is a Licensed Therapist, board-certified sexologist, and founder of Rouse Relational Wellness, a sex and relationship and mental health wellness therapy center serving San Francisco and all of California. David's book Mental Health Workbook for Men: Exercises to Improve Your Emotional, Psychological, and Social Well-Being was published recently to help men with their mental health and improve their relationships with themselves and others.  Dr. Kate and David discuss how men are not always encouraged to be open and honest about their emotions—especially when it comes to mental health struggles. As mental health pros, they explore how much shame and anxiety men live with and how it relates specifically to sex. They talk to us about “Soul Murder”, a term referring to boys killing off parts of themselves that leads to sadness and loneliness. They also describe Anxiety Closeness and how it affects relationships. David's new workbook on men's mental health issues, gives exercises, strategies and writing prompts that help men improve the way they handle challenges and is solution focused. If you are a male looking for some understanding of the male experience or are the significant other, spouse, sibling of a man, listen to this podcast and pass it on to those you care about! SPONSOR: Addyi- Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tatiana Fogt is the founder, host, and sexuality educator behind Bedside, a charting podcast series unpacking the intricacies of modern love, dating, relationships, and all things sex. She is on a mission to make sexual wellness more accessible and approachable. With a background in graphic design and branding Tatiana's aim is to rebrand contemporary sex, love, dating, and intimacy to make room for what's between the hyper-clinical and hyper-sexual narratives we so often see. Dr. Kate and Tatiana join up again to answer your sex/relationship questions. They have great insights and answers and have fun while imparting their thoughts and knowledge. In this episode, Tatiana and Dr. Kate answer questions from Dr. Kate's followers and talk about everything sex: - About breaking a sexual dry spell within a partnership - About wanting to start a casual sex practice and keep emotionally, physically and spiritually safe. - About wanting to get kinky even without a consistent partner. Listen to Dr. Kate and Tatiana discuss Munch, sex parties, safety and consent and some choices that may enhance solo sex. - About a Partner having pain during sex and Dr. Kate and Tatiana give suggestions. AND DONOT miss Dr. Kate and Tatiana's totally entertaining and insightful game of SMASH or PASS!! (hint: Harry Styles may be mentioned) You will want to hear their take on every juicy question. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/https://www.instagram.co m/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: BETTERHELP: Go to www.BetterHelp.com/GetNaked to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hope Ray, LPC CSAT CHFP CCPS is a therapist, theoretician and the pioneer of Complex Partner Trauma (CPT), a complete framework that pinpoints the endangerment betrayed partners face when their significant others use abusive deception to hide fidelity violating behavior. In 2023, Hope established the Betrayal Violence Institute (BVI) an interdisciplinary network that provides definitions and education for mental health clinicians + coaches, medical + legal professionals, faith-based + community organizations, and general society to better understand the conduct and impact of secret infidelity in intimate relationships. Hope is the creator of Complex Partner Trauma Magazine, a publication for betrayed women and the host of Women Who Discover, a private podcast about infidelity betrayal available on her website along with other programs and resources. Today we are talking about Hope's new model for understanding chronic infidelity that positions it as violence. Dr. Kate and Hope talk about the definition of betrayal violence, which is not usually physical violence, but emotional violence. It is about keeping secrets from your partner on an on-going basis, and always denying any allegations. They also talk about the emotional fallout of partners putting a wall up and withdrawing into their lies, and leaving the partner cheated on in a state of mental confusion. Hope describes DIRE, the traits that exist in this personality profile of a cheater, betrayer: Detachment, Incongruence, Regression, Entitlement They also talk about Victims going through CPT (Complex Partner Trauma) which includes being left in the dark, when you start to see evidence, when you can see the totality of what is going on and when you can begin to heal and set boundaries. It is an important discussion and listeners may relate to some of the signs happening in their relationship.  Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com The Get Naked Podcast listeners can download a free printable booklet from Hope Ray about betrayal violence here: www.hoperay.com/getnaked  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: Hello Fresh: Go to www.HelloFresh.com/50getnaked and use code 50getnaked for 50% off plus free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, an author, and has appeared on numerous television shows. “Savage Love,” Dan's sex-advice column, first appeared in The Stranger, Seattle's alternative weekly, in 1991. The column is now syndicated across the United States and Canada and is the longest running sex advice column. Dan has published six books. His book, Savage Love from A to Z: Advice on Sex and Relationships, Dating and Mating, Exes and Extras was published in September of 2021. In 2006, Dan launched the Savage Lovecast, a weekly, call-in advice podcast. It has over 300,000 unique monthly downloads and 100,000 paying subscribers for premium Magnum content. It ranks consistently in the top ten Sexuality podcasts on Apple Podcasts. Dan is passionate about helping young people face daily tormenting and bullying and also to help LGBT kids who often hide their sexuality for fear of being bullied. Savage has discussed his relationship with his husband on his podcast, in which he and his partner are committed to each other, but still have non-committal sex with other men. On this episode Dan talks about his relationship with his husband, each of them having boyfriends and how it works for them. Kate and Dan talk about sex, fidelity, monogamy, non-monogamy and the importance of creating the type of relationship and family you want, not dictated by society. There's even an interesting discussion about Dan's advocacy for cheating when maybe it's not the worst thing for the relationship and may actually help it. They discuss the different ways loyalty to your partner may look like and times where infidelity and loyalty may co-exist. We hear what Dan's take is on the political state of the country as well. This episode is full of bold ideas and a conviction to being honest with yourself. Ultimately, it is about creating your personal world with the plan that works for you. MAYER LABS- Kimono Swirl Natural Cleaning Gel: Go to www.Amazon.com and visit the Kimono Swirl store. Use promo code 20NakedSwirl for 20% off through the month of November. BEDUCATED: Go to https://beducate.me/pd2342-drkate and use code Dr. Kate for 40% off the yearly pass. Try ALL Beducated courses for 1 Day FREE. You won't get charged for the first 24 hours, you can cancel it any time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alexandra Solomon's new book LOVE EVERY DAY 365 Relational Self Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive is released today, October 10th. Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships. A professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. She also writes a popular blog for Psychology Today. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples. She is a founding expert on the Mine'd app, and she serves on the clinical board of Dame Products. She has contributed to outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American. In this episode Kate and Alexandra talk about the nuances of relationships. They refer to the quiz Alexandra created that reveals roles we take on in the Family of Origin Roles quiz and how our past shapes our present and our early experiences effect our relationships now. They also talk about the premises in her new book: *Love is a Daily Practice. *How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team with your partner. *How conflict can be turned into opportunities for intimacy and growth. *How do you love someone and not lose yourself. They also talk about some of the 365 specific practices to keep love going suggested in the book. It is a revealing and spirited talk about you, relationships, and keeping the curiosity alive. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: Mayer Labs- Swirl Lubricants: Go to www.Amazon.com and visit the Kimono Swirl store. Use promo code 20SwirlNaked for 20% off through the month of November. Dipsea: For listeners of the show, Dipsea is offering a 30 day full access free trial when vou go to: www.Dipseastories.com/Getnaked Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sarah Cooper is a popular writer and comedian with a big social media presence and huge list of credits. She created the posts that went viral during the Pandemic where she lip-synched content of former President Trump, gaining her much notice by fans and the industry. She is the star of the Netflix comedy special Sarah Cooper: Everything's Fine. She is author of her debut memoir Foolish: Tales of Assimilation, Determination and Humiliation that comes out today. Oct. 3. She also authored 2 books before her new one: How to be Successful Without Hurting Men's Feelings and 100 Tricks to Appear Smart in Meetings. Sarah is a comic that brings satire and a hint of sarcasm to her observations of her own life and others' and in sharing these, may just shine a light on situations she and other women find themselves in. She has appeared on Jimmy Kimmel, Tonight Show, Ellen Degeneres and many more. She has been written about in the NYT and Washington Post just to name a few. Dr. Kate and Sarah talk about why Sarah decided to write a memoir, they talk about her experiences, not always great, on the dating apps, how to make and maintain boundaries, and the importance of feeling self-empowered. They discuss the power we may give away is really something we need to feel within ourselves. Enjoy this episode!! Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: BetterHelp: Visit www.BetterHelp.com/GetNaked to get 10% off your first month. Mayer Labs: Visit the Kimono Swirl store on www.amazon.com and use code 20SwirlNaked for 20% off through October 31. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gaby Balsells is a Clinical Psychologist, Liscensed in Guatemala, and a Relationship and Intimacy Coach with almost a decade of experience guiding couples to understand each other and become a true team! Within her extensive resume, Gaby is specialized in Attachment Science & Emotionally Focused Therapy. Gaby believes that eroticism is a life force, and she is passionate about helping people find deeper connection to their bodies as a way of reconnecting to their whole Self. She helps couples become fulfilled with their intimacy through creating a sex-positive space that fosters curiosity and deeper connection. Gaby and Dr. Kate talk about the benefits of blending a couple's 2 different cultures and backgrounds and all it can affect. Gaby's parents were from two different cultures and both held on to their individual cultures for the family rather than blending it. This can cause some tension and confusion. Gaby and Dr. Kate talk about the 2 cultures' need to come together and create their own new way- take the best and surrender what doesn't work. The coming together of two different cultures effects so many things from religion, to language, to views of how to raise kids, traditions, in-laws, freedom of choice for the children, how to talk about emotions, how to express anger, being a woman, and much more. Gaby finds that it is best if it is not an “either /or” situation, but rather a blending that takes place. The blending can honor traditions of each partner and create a new design that both agree upon. They talk about steps bi cultural couples can take for better communication: Creating traditions by their own design Define roles and responsibilities Determine if the relationship takes precedent over work and family How much compromise is needed and couple defined boundaries from the in laws How much alone time each needs. It's a deep look and practical guide to issues large and small that may affect this particular relationship and families of this coupling. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Sponsors: Hello Fresh: Go to www.Hellofresh.com/50getnaked Use code 50getnaked for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 Months. Manscaped: Go to www.Manscaped.com and use code Get Naked for 20% off and free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tik-Tok sensation Caylee Cresta's @cayleecresta TikTok account has gained 2.8 million followers and 46 million likes. Her channel consisted of makeup and comedy videos before she shifted to sharing her thoughts about views on women in society. Caylee is a social media personality on a mission to empower women. With a prior career in the male dominated industry of construction, she was originally inspired by the communication barrier she found between men and women and set out to translate the plight of everyday women like herself in an effort to help couples reconnect and women to see more clearly what they may be feeling. It was here that she found her passion and became determined to describe every facet of the female experience in hopes of making her fellow woman know they weren't alone and to feel understood. Caylee is often praised for her ability to articulate tough topics and does so with her blunt demeanor and a comedic twist. Caylee wants to be able to laugh about some of the serious subjects and to know no one is isolated in this, it is universal. She is the mother to a young son, a cat lover, and enjoys playing with makeup when she's not fighting misogynists. Caylee also reveals on this podcast that she is in fact married and talks about her relationship with Dr. Kate. Dr. Kate and Caylee talk about how this started for Caylee, about some of her most controversial posts and threats that ensued. They speak about men's societal views of women and how these posts can shine a light on how a woman is feeling and often start great conversations with their partners. This is definitely a fun and enlightening episode we hope you enjoy. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: DIPSEA: Go to www.dipseastories.com/getnaked for a 30 day extended free trial Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jaime Mahler, MS, LMHC, is the New York-based psychotherapist and mental health educator behind the popular Recollected Self social media brand. Jaime's therapeutic education on trauma and toxic relationships has gone viral on TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube with millions of views and likes. In addition to becoming the trusted empathetic resource for her many followers, Jaime is a noted mental health contributor for outlets such as USA TODAY, NBC News, Parade, and more.  She is the author of her new book TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY: Your Guide to Identifying Toxic Partners, Leaving  Unhealthy Dynamics, and Healing Emotional Wounds After Breakup (September 5, 2023). She is actively engaging in conversations around trauma healing and toxic relationship dynamics through her social channels and popular mental health podcast Unlearned.  As a Therapist and trauma specialist Jaime helps people of any adult age take control, reclaim their power and move ahead with pride, determination and optimism when recovering from a bad relationship and prepares them for what to look for when getting back out there. She and Dr. Kate talk about Toxic trauma and healing. They talk about the difference and importance of ME vs. WE and Interdependence vs. Co-dependence. Most importantly is that each partner make sure they are taking care of their “self” and figuring out the difference of a toxic gaslighting relationship vs. healthy respect for one another and true compromise. Jaime goes over her acronym OASIS for points about a toxic relationship. It is an important subject matter and may help you see some warning signs, how to handle them and maybe turn it around. Dr. Kate and Jaime remind us to always watch out for our mental health within a relationship.  Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG:  https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  SPONSOR: BETTER HELP Go to www.Betterhelp.com/GetNaked to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate loves getting questions from you, the listener, about anything on your mind, no matter how bold, embarrassing, or shocking. Not much phases this Sex Therapist. So, please keep your questions coming. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  This episode covers one question about Kate's trajectory to becoming a psychologist and how and where one can get credentialed in the specific area of Sex Therapist. She also answers a question from a woman who experienced sexual trauma much earlier in her life, and her question reveals that her husband “gifted” her a vibrator and the very complex reactions she has to this present.  Dr. Kate gets into it and reminds us maybe his own need for getting his wife more interested in sex was actually dismissing the effects of making her feel less than, shamed and other undesirable emotions. Dr. Kate suggests ideas to bridge the gap of desire discrepancy and how “waning” libido can be for many reasons that need to be discovered together. She shares a reminder: Intentions and actual impact can be very different. Dr. Kate also answers a question from another listener which has some of the same theme. He is sexually frustrated and wants to hear how he can have open communication about it. Again, desire discrepancy is part of the situation. Kate makes a big point of not guilting or shaming your partner, ever. Again, Dr. Kate gives ideas of how to address solutions together and suggest other ways to cultivate connection with your partner. Listen and leave a rating and review below if you can. And remember to send in any question you may not be able to ask others about. Dr. Kate loves an interactive platform that is here to help you. (See email address below) Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG:  https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Courtney Virden is a pelvic floor expert, fitness trainer, and founder of iCORE Method. Her iCORE method app with core and pelvic floor programs is used by women worldwide to restore pelvic floor health and wellness. She is a contributor for Kourtney Kardashian's Poosh and consults as a pelvic floor expert for many publications and outlets.   Dr. Kate and Courtney talk about how Pelvic floor strength and sexual pleasure are tied together. There are 14 muscles in the Pelvic floor and if it's not strengthened, it can cause low sensation in the pelvic area and can affect orgasm and climaxing. They talk about why there is a connection between the pelvic floor and sexual enjoyment. Many have heard of the Kegel exercises. Listen to Courtney's advice and opinion on other ways to work on your core.  Hear about the collaboration between Courtney and Ashley Black who invented the Fascia Blaster and the program to work on the pelvic floor via the Fascia. Dr. Kate and Courtney share ways to work on the pelvic floor and increase sexual enjoyment with a reasonable investment of time. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG:  https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  SPONSORS:  OMGYES  Go to www.OMGYES/GetNaked for a special discount. DIPSEA Go to www.Dipseastories.com/Getnaked for an extended 30-day full-access free trial HELLO FRESH   Go to www.HelloFresh.com/50getnaked and use code 50getnaked for 50% off plus free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Allison Yarrow is an award-winning journalist, speaker, and author of Birth Control: The Insidious Power of Men Over Motherhood (Hachette/Seal Press, July 2023).  She is also the author of 90s Bitch: Media, Culture, and the Failed Promise of Gender Equality (Harper Perennial, 2018). She has written about health, politics, and gender for many publications including the New York Times, the Washington Post, Vox, Insider, USA Today, Time, and Newsweek. She was a national magazine award finalist, a TED resident, an Aspen Ideas Festival fellow, and a grantee of the International Women's Media Foundation. She produced the award-winning Vice News documentary “Misconception,” and gave a TED talk called “What to Expect Post-Expecting.”  Dr. Kate and Allison talk about how modern medicine should make pregnancy and childbirth safer for all. But in Allison's book Birth Control, she reveals how women are controlled, traumatized, injured, and even killed because of the traditionalist practices of medical professionals and hospitals. They talk about the dangerous misogyny that permeates pregnancy, birth, and early motherhood in our hospitals. Kate and Allison also talk about how doctors were trained by midwives and then stole control of birth from them in the 19th century. Allison touches on specific birthing practices that are steamrolling women by a male-dominated medical establishment that has everyone convinced that birthing bodies are inherently flawed and that every pregnancy is a crisis that it alone can “solve.” Misogyny and racism, not scientific evidence and support, shape the overwhelming majority of America's four million annual births. Drawing on extensive reporting, expert interviews, an original survey of 1,300 mothers, and her own personal experiences, Yarrow documents in her book how modern maternal health care is insidiously, purposefully designed to take power from women to the detriment of their physical and mental health—not just during labor, but for years after. She shares this in her conversation with Dr. Kate and discusses better ways this can be handled They also talk about a new post-partum depression drug and so much more. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS:  OMG YES: Go to www.OMGYES.com/GETNAKED for a special discount           BETTERHELP: Visit www.BetterHelp.com/GetNaked today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heather Shannon, LMFT, CST and Dr. Kate talk about the sexual kink Hot Wife and Cuckolding. They explore what these terms mean. Hot Wife and Cuckholding kinks play with themes of humiliation, desire, power and pride, and can be practiced in heterosexual and queer relationships. They discuss Cuckolding and Hot Wifing, and the differences between them. They also talk about the mystery around this form of kink and why this is erotic to some. Both can be practiced in relationships that practice open monogamy or consensual non-monogamy. Heather and Dr. Kate outline how to begin this conversation with your partner, if this is interesting to you, as well as how to talk about the experience and feelings after participating in this practice. It is an open and very direct conversation about this sexual kink. Heather Shannon is a Certified Sex Therapist and Host of the top-ranked “Ask A Sex Therapist” podcast. With over 12 years in private practice, Heather helps queer, kinky and/or non-monogamous people to explore who they are as sexual beings and how they want to show up in their relationships. Heather has been featured in publications such as Cosmopolitan, Women's Health and Self Magazine as well as on podcasts including The Horny Housewife and Curious Girl Diaries. She is a sex and relationship expert for the Peanut app, which serves 2.5M women throughout all stages of life. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  SPONSORS:  OMGYES  Go to www.OMGYES/GetNaked for a special discount. BETTER HELP  Go to www.Betterhelp.com/GetNaked today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate and Doc Erica talk today about Doc Erica's newest book, out today, Intimacy ≠ Sex: 180 Activities to Help Couples Connect and look at the holistic definition of Intimacy, including intellectual, emotional, spiritual, physical, experimental/recreational intimacy and not just sexual intimacy. Doc Erica believes that only by giving priority to all these forms of intimacy, will a relationship last. They reviewed a few of the 180 activities that can help couples connect and how we as a society can make our way to valuing true intimacy. We are the loneliest we have ever been. Holistic intimate connection is at a low. Has our culture of Electronics affected all of this? Are people dismissing emotional attachment?  Listen to the conversation for insights and practical advice and a fun conversation. -- Dr. Erica Holmes, Doc Erica, is a licensed clinical psychologist, educator, author, speaker, and consultant who values knowledge, authenticity, and empowerment. As the Executive Director of Champion Counseling Center, Associate Program Chair and the Director of the Psychological Trauma Studies Specialization in a Master's in Psychology program in Los Angeles, and the founder of HOMMs Consulting, she has provided psychotherapy and counseling, training and consultation, education and research services to individuals and organizations for over 25 years.    Her areas of inquiry and numerous professional presentations focus on psychological trauma, relationships and coupling, equity, belonging and empowerment, psychotherapy with African American clients and the integration of Christianity and Psychology.    Her books, Dating with Purpose (DWP): A Single Woman's Guide to Escaping No Man's Land, Before the Broom: A Premarital Workbook for Dating, Engaged and Newly Married African American Couples and her most recent release, Intimacy ≠ Sex: 180 Activities to Help Couples Connect have been met with enthusiasm and positive reviews. Her first textbook, Black Couples Therapy: Clinical Theory and Practice is set for publication by Cambridge University Press August 2023 -- Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: Go to www.OMGYES.com/GETNAKED for a special discount Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is Dr. Kate's first Solo Q&A podcast, answering questions from listeners. We love hearing directly from our listeners, and love answering specific questions you have. This is the first, and Dr. Kate plans on doing these each month, so keep your questions coming! Many answers will feel like she is talking directly to you, as there are so many universal sex and relationship questions. You can ask Dr. Kate truly anything. As in her weekly podcast, she is always honest and open about all things, no matter how sensitive or embarrassing you may think it is. This episode includes a question about being attracted to someone other than your partner, along with discussion of monogamy, opening your relationship to others, inviting porn and toys into the bedroom and much specific advice. Dr. Kate also answers a question about an 18 year old's inability to ejaculate when having sex with a partner, though he has no problem when having “solo” sex. Listen in. Dr. Kate says this is a more common issue than you would think. Another question is about one partner initiating sex more than the other. Again, Dr. Kate knows this is not uncommon and gets real about it. She shares reasons and also specific take away about this situation. Dr. Kate is there for you. Listen and write in your own questions. She is looking forward to continued interaction with you all! And if you are enjoying the Get Naked podcast, please leave a review and “like” on Apple/ITunes. We appreciate the feedback! Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com   Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices