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Thriving in the Space Between
Dating When You're From a Broken Family with Special Guest Joey Pontarelli of Restored Ministries Episode 42

Thriving in the Space Between

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2024 68:23


If you're a child of divorce, then chances are you know the pain and the fears that can plague you in the dating space. Today, we have a really special guest, Joey Pontarelli, who has started an amazing ministry with resources to help heal from the trauma of your parents divorce or family dysfunction, so you can break the cycle. Get ready to feel so seen through this beautiful and raw conversation. You can learn more about Restored Ministries and receive so many free incredible resources by going to:https://restoredministry.com/And Joey's Podcast:Restored: Helping Children of DivorceStay in the know on all things TIS!Reach out to Maria & Meghan for coaching here. Contact Maria & Meghan: hello@theintentionalsingle.com Learn more about The Intentional Single: https://www.theintentionalsingle.com/

Pure Victory Podcast
215. Patterns We Need To Beat Porn: Community Pt. 2

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2024 27:37


Welcome to episode #215! This week, Braden continues the series on the patterns we need to beat porn. He continues the discussion on the pattern of community, and why it is so important in beating porn!Resources mentioned in the episode:See Episode 83 on how to properly disclose to your spouse about your porn use See below to learn more about joining a group (Pure Freedom Journey)Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
214. Patterns We Need To Beat Porn: Community

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2024 28:29


Welcome to episode #214! This week, Braden continues the series on the patterns we need to beat porn. The third pattern in this series is community!Resources mentioned in the episode:See Episodes 5 and 32 to learn more about accountability! See below to learn more about joining a group (Pure Freedom Journey)Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 16 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
213. Patterns We Need To Beat Porn: Discipline

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2024 35:32


Welcome to episode #213! This week, Braden continues the series on the patterns we need to beat porn. The second pattern in this series is discipline!Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 16 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
212. Patterns We Need To Beat Porn: Prayer

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2024 35:30


Welcome to episode #212! This week, Braden starts a new series on the patterns we need to beat porn. The first pattern in this series is prayer!Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 16 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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Pure Victory Podcast
Brief Announcement!

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2024 0:44


Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 15 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
211. Help! I'm Scared to Quit Porn!

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2024 33:10


Welcome to episode #211! This week, Matt and Braden talk about changing our mindset to help find freedom from porn. Challenging lies we believe is uncomfortable. Often it's the foundation we've built and we are standing on. We find comfort in it, even if it's a shaky ground. We find that we would rather be on the shaky ground than on the firm foundation - where God is calling us to. We have to break the mindset of “I don't think I'll ever be free”. We tell ourselves that we can't do something, even when we are already in the midst of doing it. But we need to tell ourselves we can, and allow our body to relax and let God pull you. We need to let the grace of God replace the vice in our life. 1 Corinthians tells us that because of the grace of God, we have been enriched in every way. Within the context of our sexual sin, God's grace can empower us and pull us and be the water we rest on. We need to pursue peace and be empowered by the grace of God instead of empowered by our own performance of how long we can be free from a behaviour. The difference is not the capability, it's the mindset. When Matt succeeded on the wakeboard, it wasn't because he had a miraculous skill set that appeared ten minutes after he had failed. When it comes to sexual sin, we all have the same capabilities to find freedom, because the ability is within the Holy Spirit. We need to make sure we have the right mindset. When we are focused on our stress and our anxiety, we are tense. When we are focused on the presence of God and the Holy Spirit, we find peace and freedom. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
210. Are Porn and Poverty Connected? With Jean Louis

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2024 50:15


Welcome to episode #210! This week, Matt and Braden talk about the connection between financial things and sexual immorality. We are given the choice between life & death, between blessing and cursing. God implores us to choose life. There is no grey area. When we are not walking with God and walking in sin, there will be physical and spiritual ramifications. Choosing life and walking in the ways of the Lord brings blessings - both spiritual and physical. Take a look at the blessings and curses. If you take a look at the second order of consequences to having sexual sin in your life, it will help you realize where your heart is at so that you can be transparent. Our life has a lot of webs that are linked and we often don't see how the choices in one area can impact another area. We tend to compartmentalize our life and miss those links. Transparency is the first step. We need to be transparent with God and others. If we feel we can't pray, ask others to intercede for you. Be honest with God with where you're at. Jean had to admit to God that he loved the sin but didn't like the curses that came with it and had to ask for help to overcome and let go of it before he could work at getting free. That is when God showed up for him.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.Resourceshttps://www.jeanlouishardy.com/Pure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
209. What Kanye, P. Diddy and Bill Hybels Have In Common

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2024 36:55


Make a tangible difference for FREE by joining the Action Squad at www.restoredministries.ca/actionsquad.Welcome to episode #209! This week, Matt and Braden talk about P. Diddy, Kanye and Bill Hybels and the things that they were a part of, the loss of some of their reputations and the lessons we can pick up from them. We need to be careful with how much faith we put into people. We don't know what is happening behind closed doors for those who have a platform. Eventually things will come out and be exposed. Money and power won't be able to hide secrets forever. We need to remember that we can see someone a certain way - often a mask or an image that is a created version of that person, so when details about their lives become exposed, it can be difficult to come to terms with. We need to look at Christ first.We need to put our faith and hope in God. We can still look up to and learn from people but have to understand that men or women we follow are in fact human and will make mistakes. When people who we look up to fall, it's important that we still look to Christ so we don't lose our faith. We can take what's good from these people, but we need to be careful when we lift people as heroes. When looking to find freedom and healing, the best place to go to is directly in God's word. Following Jesus is an inside out life. It's living out of an inner working that is done in our heart. What's revealed in a Christ follower is the fruit of what is happening in the heart. The worldly approach is outside in. We focus on the outside at the detriment to the inner life. If we live from the outside in, we can start to create a persona or something that isn't true so that we appear a certain way to others. Decisions can become more sinful and the inside can begin to rot. We need to follow Jesus first and allow him to work from the inside out and not allow the world to rule from the outside in.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
208. Healing the Church with Sam Black

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2024 45:09


Make a tangible difference for FREE by joining the Action Squad at www.restoredministries.ca/actionsquad.Welcome to episode #208! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Sam Black about his book “Healing the church” and equipping church leaders on how to talk about sexual brokenness in the church.Pornography is undermining every ministry in the church.The average age for first exposure is 8-12 and so our children's ministries are being impacted by pornography whether we recognize it or not. If we don't equip parents, we are missing the opportunity to protect them and provide them ongoing guidance. Pornogrpahy impacts our teens and youth ministry and marriage and adult ministries. Two thirds of men and one third of women in the church say they have an ongoing struggle with pornography. There is a direct correlation between pornography use and prayer, scripture life, church attendance, feelings about being close to God and doubts about your faith. A university study showed that there is a direct link between how much porn someone used and whether they would serve in their church over the next 6 years. It is important that the church is the safe place for people to go with their addictions to find recovery. You don't need a perfect plan - you need a first next step. This will allow people to create that first step in their own lives. Every step leads to another step. The book breaks down the steps into “easy steps” - something you don't have to think much about; there are “small steps” - steps you can implement without a lot of effort; then “medium” and “large” steps to lead into full recovery. Taking it one step at a time makes it easier and less overwhelming to accomplish and walk into recovery. There are 3 common factors that ministry leaders miss for why people get stuck. 1 - Early childhood exposure. It's so impactful on their brain that even as an adult they can tell you a complete story of that first exposure, but nothing else about that day. 2 - The ongoing use and repetition that burns neuro pathways in the brain to crave it more and more. 3 - Some pain or trauma that happened at a young age can happen elsewhere. These three create pornography as an escape that has been done thousands of times. This is where a safe place and process comes in. The knowledge precedes understanding and understanding precedes change.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesThe Healing Church - download the first chapter. Pure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Sex Radio
Masturbation, Emotional Health, and Abundant Living

Pure Sex Radio

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2024 33:59


Today's podcast covers a LOT of territory, including the complexities of masturbation, its connection to our emotional health, and the differences between a scarcity mindset and an abundance mindset when it comes to living in victory over sexual sin. Our guest today is Matt Cline, founder of Restored Ministries. In our conversation, we explore the significant role emotional well-being plays in navigating sexual brokenness. We emphasize the importance of understanding our emotions to discover genuine happiness and connection. We also explore the intriguing concept of scarcity versus abundance in the context of our sexuality. Matt's perspective on how a scarcity mindset can lead to feelings of isolation is eye-opening, and he highlights how adopting an attitude of gratitude can help us perceive our lives more abundantly.To cap off the conversation, we point listeners to some valuable resources provided by Restored Ministries, including the Pure Freedom Community and the Pure Victory Podcast, which offer support to those on this path. To learn more about Matt and his ministry, visit RestoredMinistries.ca.Topics Covered in this Episode: Masturbation and its prevalence among menEmotional health and its impact on sexual brokennessScarcity versus abundance mindset in the context of sexual brokennessThe significance of identifying and acknowledging emotionsTransformative experiences of individuals in recognizing and expressing emotionsDetrimental effects of living in a scarcity mindsetEncouragement to shift towards gratitude and thankfulnessResources available through Restored Ministries for support and guidanceImportance of emotional health in the journey towards healing and wholenessMore Resources:Pure Freedom JourneyGateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive49 Days of Growth*Related Podcasts:Overcoming Shame and Embracing Your True IdentityWhen Shame Gets Real (with Carl Thomas)Are You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Pure Victory Podcast
207. Parenting After Purity Culture with Nadine Crain

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2024 40:18


Make a tangible difference for FREE by joining the Action Squad at www.restoredministries.ca/actionsquad.Welcome to episode #207! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Nadine Crain about purity culture, what it is, how to address it and how to discuss purity and sexuality with your kids and within the church. What is “purity culture”?Purity culture came about in the ‘90's when the “true love waits” movement happened. It was created in response to raising statistics of teenage pregnancies. Sex education in schools was not what the churches were wanting, so they were pushing the “true love waits” teaching. It was reactionary, but was coming from a good place of wanting to lead youth to how they can follow God and not fall into sin. Unfortunately, it became very black and white - if you stay pure, you are blessed, and if not, your worth suffers. It's so focused on behaviour and shame and not based on the grace of God. So while there are good attributes to the movement, it has left a lot of people who grew up with it full of shame when they "mess up" and even when they don't, they get to marriage with no concept of how to have a healthy sex life. We need to approach purity from a theological standpoint. Purity has been associated with sex and marriage rather than being in God's presence. Purity is meant for us to be in God's presence. Nothing that we do will undo what Jesus did to get us into God's presence. Having this understanding takes a lot of pressure off of wondering if we can approach God after we've messed up. God cleanses us, not anything we do. When looking at purity culture as staying away from sex until marriage and never addressing it until you say ‘I do' leaves us unequipped to deal with sex in marriage. It's important to find the middle ground between “don't have sex” and “do whatever you want”. That middle ground is found in the conversations. Parents, leaders and teachers need to be open to the curious questions that teens and young people will have and be a person that they are comfortable to approach. Gauge the appropriateness of the age but keep the conversation open so when they are at the age to start dating it's more than just the “one sex talk”. Parents and leaders' job is to guide to help them make wise decisions and be informed and equipped to make the decisions. By building up the theological explanations in your kids, then they will have what they need. It will help them develop in their relationship with God and can help them on the right path or find it again if they veer off. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesAnatomy for Kids by Shelly Mettenwww.nadinecrain.com to connect with Nadine Crain Pure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
206. Speak the Unspeakable with Elizabeth Good

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2024 34:04


Make a tangible difference for FREE by joining the Action Squad at www.restoredministries.ca/actionsquad.Welcome to episode #206! This week, Matt and Braden speak with Elizabeth Good - CEO and founder of Foundation United and author of “Speak the Unspeakable”. Elizabeth grew up loving her family and church and those are a huge part of her purpose.  The enemy attacked her family from a young age but the Lord has helped her not lose her fight for staying in her purpose and destiny. She faced death and abuse from a young age and the enemy tried to use people to make her hate the church/specific denominations. Shame kept her unreconciled for many decades. She would attend church and would look fine on the outside, but the pain and the shame of what happened to her had her looking for ways to numb it - ways like porn and drinking. Confession helps bring things to the light.Elizabeth didn't realize she was hiding and that she was not fully free. The deception from the enemy kept her thinking that because she was going to and was involved in church meant that  everything was okay. There were a lot of open doors and footholds that she was unaware of that the enemy was using to block her from receiving healing and reconciliation with God. James 5:16 says “confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed”. Once she confessed she needed to learn to walk out our healing. She now uses what she went through as a tool to help others find freedom and healing.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesSpeak the Unspeakable by Elizabeth GoodThe Foundation UnitedPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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205. Having Fun Together After Betrayal with Jonathan Daugherty

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Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2024 34:51


Welcome to episode #205! This week, Matt and Braden talk again with Jonathan Daugherty from BeBroken Ministries about what happens when a couple goes through a betrayal and what do they do?Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesBe Broken MinistriesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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204. Grace-based Approaches To Beating Porn with Jonathan Daugherty

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Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2024 36:28


Welcome to episode #204! This week, Matt and Braden talk with John Daugherty from Be Broken Ministries about grace based models for recovery. Grace is not opposed to effort. Our effort doesn't earn anything from God. But we need to put in effort for recovery. There is nothing that we can do that will make God love us more or less. We need to understand that our identity, our value and worth cannot fluctuate. We can then use that worth as a starting point to work on our recovery. Instead of feeling like we need to prove ourselves and base our worth on our performance, we can rely on the truth that our worth comes from God and we don't need to earn it.  We have to shift the ultimate focus in grace-based recovery. We come in with a performance based bias, with the goal being a behavioural outcome. Whatever the addictive compulsion is, our assumed goal is to not have those behaviours. We try to replace it with a better, more positive behaviour. Grace-based models shift the focus from a behaviour-first outcome to understanding a relational outcome and understanding what it means to be made in God's image and to love Him and others. We want to be in a safe enough space to be able to share the fullness of our stories and build those authentic relationships with others and God. Parents have a great responsibility to set the tone of conversations in the home. It can be intimidating to talk about your story to your families. It is good to divulge our stories and talk about what we learned from it and how we are continuing to grow and manage our sexuality. Stories are our connectors of our transformations over our lifetime. The family unit is God's primary unit that transformation is to happen between generations. By starting those conversations in the home and creating that environment it can build honesty, vulnerability, openness, and the ability to share feelings and ask questions.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesBe Broken MinistriesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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203. Spiritual Resiliency to Fight Your Battles

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Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2024 35:15


Welcome to episode #203! This week, Matt and Braden talk about fighting our battles with a focus on resilience and the importance of resilience and endurance in battles against sexual sin and life in general.In battles, we need to think in short terms. It isn't always easy to think in the short term especially when we don't want to do hard things or particular tasks. We just see the big, overwhelming war instead of a smaller battle. However, thinking in terms of small increments can be helpful. When we think in short terms, we can think “I can get through this moment or 90 seconds” rather than focusing on the struggle, it builds resilience. Knowing how to endure and get through battles builds character. Then when we look back at the bigger picture, all those small moments where we endured and were resilient will be helpful for when we face hardships or temptations again. We saw what we could do in that moment and can repeat it. How do we know we can break free and stay free?We need to have an understanding of resiliency and endurance. We need to look inward and go to God and heal from whatever is holding us back. We can renew our minds and change the way that we view our battles as a training ground instead of a burden. An opportunity to heal and grow. Resilience and endurance are not things that come second nature - they take time to build and grow in our lives.God is our Conqueror. We aren't called to win all the battles - God has already won. We are already in victory and we can learn to fight from victory. God is our refuge, even in the midst of temptation. He is what we need. Amidst everything we are going through with temptations and struggles, God wants to be our refuge - our place we turn to when we are feeling overwhelmed. We need to focus on the reality that God is with us, not that the struggle is still there. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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202. Breaking Through the Taboo with Mike Novotny

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Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2024 33:12


Welcome to episode #202! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Mike Novotny about his new book: “Taboo: Topics Christian's should be talking about but don't”.God has taken Mike's shameful sin and used it to give Jesus glory. The devil is the father of lies. He wants us in secret and in the quiet. When we are transparent about what we're going through, often people will react differently than we expect. People want to be a part of a church or community where they feel like they belong. We are not alone in our shameful sins and the more we talk about “taboo subjects” the less taboo they become. We need to start those conversations to encourage people and bring them out of the darkness and shame and into God's glory. Mike touches on two ways we are missing the mark and can do better about these topics. 1 - Saying nothing about huge cultural issues and just hoping it will work out. The world is going to preach a thousand sermons about these topics. As the church and people who love people, we need to also be speaking up and preaching as well. We fear not having the perfect answer, so we don't say anything. 2 - We speak the truth, but often fail to speak it in love. It's easy to get fired up about the violation of truth, but we forget about the people who are struggling deeply. Everyone is wrestling with something and they need a place to talk about it and for truth to be spoken to in humility, compassion and love. We need to understand these hot topics/issues from multiple sides and why people think differently than what the bible says about them. This will turn up empathy, not turn down biblical passion, and will help to speak the truth in love. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesTime of GracePure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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201. Do I Have a Sexual Duty in My Marriage

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Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2024 40:31


Welcome to episode #200! This week, Matt and Braden talk about our sexual "duty" in marriage. Sex is not just for the husband! If sex is ever mentioned as a “duty” it always has a negative connotation and usually said that way by the wife. In the bible, both spouses are called to serve each other - not just the wives. If only one spouse doesn't feel like it's a duty, you need to address the disfunction in the marriage to find healing and intimacy. We don't want the mentality of it's a “duty” and it is something that has to get done. We want to do it because it is fun to connect with my spouse in this way. God designed sex in marriage to be for both the husband and the wife! God wants married couples to have a mutually gratifying sexlife. Every wife and every husband wants to be deeply connected together. There needs to be empathy between spouses to close the gap if there is a difference in drive or libido. Get on the same page as each other - remember you are not enemies. Argue from their perspective. Sex is other focused - put on the shoes of the other spouse. When you are on the same page as each other, you are able to be mutually gratified. God wants us to feel safe & secure in our marriages. Your goal is to make your spouse feel safe. If there is something in your sex life that isn't making your spouse feel safe, you need to figure that out and work through or remove it. If there is something you don't like (or do like) make sure to have the conversations about it so that you can come together with an understanding. A lot can be solved in conversation. Don't just assume until you talk and know.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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200. How Do You Respond to HALTS?

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Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2024 30:20


Welcome to episode #200! This week, Matt and Braden talk about a different perspective when you are feeling Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired or Stressed. When you go through trials, don't just avoid the trial to avoid sin, but rather ask how you can use it to mature. We need to realize that when we are simply pursuing comfort rather than being at peace in the discomfort, that is a worldly response. All we are trying to do is get out of the situation and we end up avoiding the chance to mature emotionally. Jesus models being in this situation when he is tempted in the desert. When he was hungry and alone and the devil came to tempt him, he didn't go eat first - His response was not a physical comfort. His response was speaking truth to the enemy and the heart of the situation, not the immediate satisfaction. This response set him as an example as we began his ministry. We can't rely on our own strength, we need to learn to rely on God. God can raise the dead and scripture tells us to rely on him. And he wants to help us in the midst of our trials and temptations. He wants us to go to him and he will sustain, get you through and heal you. Things might seem too hard or the journey too long, but God is with you and he is sufficient. We need to welcome Him into the moment and learn how to let those temptations push us towards him rather than just asking him to take them away. Focus on Him and praise him rather than focus on the temptation. View HALTS as a holy moment of discomfort that God wants to work in. It takes intentional work to change your mentality. It can be hard to remember thankfulness when you are going through temptation or are experiencing HALTS. It is a practice to engage in. It can be easier to work things into our life (work, relationships, etc) so we don't have to feel those moments of loneliness or anger, etc. But when you take those moments and view them as a holy moment, God can use them to become the centre of your life. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Marriage Undefiled course for couples overcoming sexual betrayalFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageCovenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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199. Friendship and Overcoming Porn

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Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2024 30:19


Welcome to episode #199! This week, Matt and Braden talk about the importance of good, healthy friendships in your life and how they can correlate with overcoming sexual sin.God designed us to be in communityIt's important to have a church family if you are a follower of Jesus. Family connections and friendships are central to our spiritual, physical and mental health. We need people in our life who are looking out for us. It is a two way street that we can also be looking out for people as well. Friends spur us on, they see the good in us and call us out when we are not acting the way we should. Friendships can be foundational in getting you out of an addiction. There are different levels of friendship that you'll have with people - some are more “fun” and some are deep or more serious. There is value in having those different relationships with people. When friends are calling you out on your dirt, they are actually speaking to who you are, to your true, God-given identity. They want to expose the gold in your life and help you get rid of the junk. You need to make sure to have those types of relationships to help you find freedom. Learn what it means to have good friendships. There is an active component to friendship. We need to encourage, spur each other on and call out good in each other. If you aren't sure if a friendship is a healthy one or toxic, you can reference this verse to evaluate. Toxic people are toxic to your life. If your friends are only with you to what you can give to them, are keeping you in a place that isn't healthy or pulling you back into habits you want to get free from, you need to reevaluate those relationships. Surround yourself with people that want to encourage you, build you up and see you succeed in life.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca. The Familylife Weekend Getaway is a marriage conference uniquely designed to enrich your relationship. For most couples it's a chance to reconnect, re-establish the foundation and rekindle romance. For others, it's a fresh start. For some, it will be the weekend that saves a marriage.Wherever you're at in your relationship, this retreat is a weekend to remember. The atmosphere is relaxed and warm, even fun. You'll hear from real couples doing real life together… God's way. You'll be given time to process what you're learning. And together, you'll make a plan for a marriage that lasts a lifetime.To learn more and to see our upcoming dates please click on the link!

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198. Funny Differences Between Men and Women

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Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2024 40:34


Welcome to episode #198! This week, Matt and Braden talk about the differences between men and women in this special Valentines Day episode.  It is important to compliment your spouse… …even if they aren't returning the gesture. It is our opportunity to love when we aren't loved back. Remember that God is our first love and when we honour our spouse, we honour God through that. We live to glorify God - in our marriage, in our jobs, in all areas of our life. Men - call your wife beautiful. Women -  speak to your husband's identity. Men and women are created differently. While women crave safety and to be cherished, men crave to be appreciated and respected. Ask about your spouse's expectations (for Valentines Day and for romance in general).  It might seem less romantic to ask what your spouse would like, but asking the questions helps to avoid friction. When it comes to gift expectations for the day, or in general for sexual and non-sexual touch, clear communication and knowing what they like and desire leads to a better marriage and more romance within it. It removes the frustration and assumptions and bridges the gap of difference. Valentine's Day is the perfect day to start! Invite the Lord into your Valentines and relationships. He wants to love you and have that love relationship with you. He wants to be primary in your life. His unfailing love is new every morning. God knows how to love us best and when we ask him into this area of relationships, he will help us love our spouse as well. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriages (Marriage Undefiled)FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca. The Familylife Weekend Getaway is a marriage conference uniquely designed to enrich your relationship. For most couples it's a chance to reconnect, re-establish the foundation and rekindle romance. For others, it's a fresh start. For some, it will be the weekend that saves a marriage.Wherever you're at in your relationship, this retreat is a weekend to remember. The atmosphere is relaxed and warm, even fun. You'll hear from real couples doing real life together… God's way. You'll be given time to process what you're learning. And together, you'll make a plan for a marriage that lasts a lifetime.To learn more and to see our upcoming dates please click on the link!

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197. Does Your Social Media Need Redemption?

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Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2024 30:44


Welcome to episode #197! This week, Matt and Braden talk about social media. When you're looking at social media, remember you're looking at the highlight reel. It can be easy to compare and we feel bad about ourselves or where we are in life. It creates a nasty cycle. The emotions are negative, we are filled with longing and our relationships can become passive. If the full extent of your relationship with someone is via social media, you can see the highlights of what's going on, but you won't fully know what is going on with them. The level of depth and engagement isn't there. It can become a very superficial relationship. Social media can be a tool for good. Use wisdom with what you're using social media for. You can send encouraging messages or comments. You can use it as a launching point to start a conversation with someone to encourage them in their highs and lows. It can be used for good. But make sure that that is what you are using it for. If it is becoming a trigger, it is okay to step back and reset for a few months. Be aware of when you are using social mediaIt might not be wise to use it right before bed when our brains are more reactive and emotional. We tend to make more negative decisions late at night. Think about the environment you are in and if you are going to social media as a response and leads to a trigger. Lack of awareness can result in social media being harmful for us. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca. The Familylife Weekend Getaway is a marriage conference uniquely designed to enrich your relationship. For most couples it's a chance to reconnect, re-establish the foundation and rekindle romance. For others, it's a fresh start. For some, it will be the weekend that saves a marriage.Wherever you're at in your relationship, this retreat is a weekend to remember. The atmosphere is relaxed and warm, even fun. You'll hear from real couples doing real life together… God's way. You'll be given time to process what you're learning. And together, you'll make a plan for a marriage that lasts a lifetime.To learn more and to see our upcoming dates please click on the link!

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196. Porn is the Church's Biggest Internal Threat

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Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2024 29:05


For healing in your marriage after sexual betrayal, visit www.restoredministries.ca/marriageundefiled. Use promo code: RESTORED to save 10% off!Welcome to episode #196! This week, Matt and Braden dive in to porn and how it is the biggest internal threat within the church. Porn and sexual addiction is only taboo if we don't talk about it. When it is time to address something uncomfortable in the church, it doesn't get brought up because it's not comfortable. When it comes to caring for the sheep, they will be fed healthy stuff, but any wounds that aren't addressed can get infected and it will wreck the whole body. Your direct family might not have any sexual sin or perversion, but it does exist in your church family and it will infect the members if it continues to remain unaddressed. The Church can also be a big beacon of hope. We should be the biggest beacon of hope because we have Jesus. It just takes one person getting free. When we get free, we are able to help those around us and pull them out of the mud. When we step out in the call God has for our life and start walking and living in that, God is able to work through that person and bring hope into the world. We need to be careful to not become performative and legalistic within the church. We become inauthentic and wear masks when we stop sharing what is going on with others. We need to be aware of when we are trying to hide our life from others and act as though everything is okay and there is nothing wrong. We feel the need to keep a status and feel we need to be performative to be accepted by God. But God doesn't work that way and the church needs to be honest and real. When we are open and real with God and the church/your close community, God is able to work in your life and in the church in powerful ways.  Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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195. Healing From the Imprints of Childhood

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Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2024 34:44


For healing in your marriage after sexual betrayal, visit www.restoredministries.ca/marriageundefiled. Use promo code: RESTORED to save 10% off!Welcome to episode #195! This week, Matt and Braden answer a question about healing from the imprints of your childhood. You Are Not AloneEveryone has the influence of their childhood. It can be difficult to break away from certain imprints that happened to you. You need to have compassion for yourself as there are good things that came from your childhood. For the things that we want to change or imprints we want to grow out of, we need to realize that we are made to mimic our parents and need to have grace with ourselves when there are things we want to change. God works in our layers of brokennessThere are good things that our parents or family of origin passed on to us. However, there is still brokenness and things that we may need to come to terms with. We have to take ownership of our actions now. We can carry on those good, healthy cycles that we grew up with, but we have the power to break those negative cycles and replace them with good in our own families. There are different experiences that can counter the imprints of our childhood. Joseph in the bible could've just believed his father and brothers when they didn't think his dream would come true. He could've continued on with a sense of entitlement. But he spent years in jail and where his father doubted him, someone else said “I believe in you. You can lead a whole country.” Throughout his story, God was with him. Because of how close he was with God, the imprinting of his childhood didn't affect God's ability to change and shape him.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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194. Do I Need To Be Delivered From The Spirit Of Lust?

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Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2024 36:40


For healing in your marriage after sexual betrayal, visit www.restoredministries.ca/marriageundefiled. Use promo code: RESTORED to save 10% off!Welcome to episode #194! This week, Matt and Braden talk about deliverance and what it means for us.You have to take ownership of your own life. The devil can tempt, lie, and entice us but he cannot force us to do anything. We have full control and choice in our lives. He will try and get us to make certain choices. The more we make a choice towards something, the more we are in agreement with that thing. Each choice might get easier and easier and then we can get entrenched into something really bad. Or really good! Depending on the choices that we make. As a Christian, we can be oppressed. HOWEVER, when it comes to the authority structure, when we profess Jesus as Lord of our life, that will make the difference from oppression to possession. If someone is possessed, it is because they have given full agreement and authority to satan. When we have the mindset of: Jesus is mine, I receive fully from him, I believe in Him, I have repented and He is mine and I am His - the authority of your life is now in Christ. Unawareness can lead to agreements that we didn't intend. The power of the Holy Spirit working in our lives, and talking with others can help direct us to see blind spots in our lives we aren't aware of. It doesn't mean we will be immune to attacks, but when faced with temptation and attacks, we can choose to listen to the truth and the lies will dissipate. To make those decisions we need to be on solid footing and be aware that he will attack. Take captive your thoughts and give them to the Lord. Submit to God, resist the enemy and he will flee. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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193. Why Using Porn Makes Sense (In Our Minds)

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Play Episode Listen Later Jan 10, 2024 35:07


For healing in your marriage after sexual betrayal, visit www.restoredministries.ca/marriageundefiled. Use promo code: RESTORED to save 10% off!Welcome to episode #192! This week, Matt and Braden talk about rationalizations and justifications that we use to go to sexual sin.We need a different perspective. We often blame other people or circumstances to justify our behaviour. Throughout scripture there is a whole different perspective on situations. When we bring things to God, we are able to replace it with truth and it reveals your heart's belief behind the justification. We have to build ourselves up in God's strength outside of the moments of temptation. We need to learn to bring the truth of Jesus and scripture into those moments of justification and temptation and that doesn't happen in the heat of the moment. We need to bring our justifications to the table - write them down - bring them to the Lord in a different state of mind so we can think through it and pray through it. When the hard times come, we will be better prepared to counter our justifications. Our view of God might be a justification. That is a victim mindset. If God doesn't clearly answer your prayer, He believes in you to figure it out. He will bring thoughts to your mind, you can look in the bible and dwell on the word and turn to praise. He is pouring belief into you allowing you to find Him in the midst of your temptation. It's easy to say he didn't answer and to be angry against God, but he cares about our hearts and he wants us to be in close relationship with Him. He is with us and listening. We have to be careful to not close ourselves off with this justification.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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192. Straddle the Line

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Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2024 31:19


For healing in your marriage after sexual betrayal, visit www.restoredministries.ca/marriageundefiled. Use promo code: RESTORED to save 10% off!Welcome to episode #192! This week, Matt and Braden talk about coming up to the line of things we maybe shouldn't be involved in - where the line is and why we need to be aware of it so we don't straddle it.It's the little things that start us down the path of damaging behaviour. It could be small visuals you see on YouTube or social media that you keep coming back to because of the dopamine rush you get. You just tiptoe up to the line without going over. The enemy plants little, subtle thoughts into our minds and tells us we can handle it. Be aware of what you are allowing into your mind. We can blur the line. There are times when we think it is God's voice when it is our own or our flesh. God doesn't lead us to a legalist standard that we can't handle. God wants our heart and is concerned about our heart. We need to apply wisdom and not legalism. Turn from our flesh desires and fill our lives with the Holy Spirit and the good things of the Spirit. Seek Godly community. Consider where your tipping points are. Think about the points in your life when the momentum takes over and you end up going further down that path. Take note of them and recognize when you are starting to get close to them. Find someone you can talk through the grey areas with to understand if those areas are moving you closer to the tipping points.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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191. Letting Others Help You Get Porn-Free with Walter Perez

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Play Episode Listen Later Dec 27, 2023 37:00


Welcome to episode #191! This week, Matt talks with Walter Perez on the importance of community and allowing others to help you in your journey to be porn-free. Jesus gives you what you need before he gives you what you want.   Walter prayed for one thing, but God knew what it was that he needed. Before Jesus heals the man lowered into the room by his friends, he forgave his sins. He does heal him, but it was more important for his sins to be forgiven.  Community shows you that you aren't alone. You can help each other by talking about what you are learning or what God is showing you. You see that others are going through similar situations and can learn from what they did or are doing. In turn, when you are healthy, your story can be the one that can help another get and stay free. Jesus died for All sin. God's grace covers it all. You might think that you are alone in your own sexual preferences - in the type of porn you watch. Even if you are only watching something that is “innocent” or “soft” porn, God's love covers all of it. We are not here to compare, Jesus wants you, has forgiven you, and loves you. Come as you are, but remember, don't stay as you are. There is hope for you to get help and be healthy and grow into whatever it is that God has for you in the next stage of life. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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190. What To Do In A Sexless Marriage - Part 2

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Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2023 28:47


Welcome to episode #190! This week, Matt and Braden talk about some tips to help navigate through the issues that can contribute to a sexless marriage. We need to create bitesize steps and goals for ourselves. To get to the ultimate end goal, we need to take smaller steps and take little movements. When we just look at the end goal and all it entails, it can be overwhelming and we can end up not doing anything and not moving forward at all. It takes steps to get to that end goal. Seek to understand before you seek to be understood. Look for the currents that are causing the drift in your marriage and seek to correct them. Be intentional with connection. It's important to not just know their love language, but to understand how they feel love within that language. We need to be good at granting forgiveness and seeking forgiveness. It is important to talk about individual issues as a couple. It can be easy to end up shrouded in shame and guilt. When we keep things from our spouse, there is a lack of communication and gaps in understanding and it creates assumptions in our spouse. The gaps get filled in with those assumptions and it creates more divide. Create a space where you can share to get on the same page to figure out what kind of supports you need or steps to take toward healing. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days free5 Love Languages Languages of Apology Quiz Podcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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189. What To Do In A Sexless Marriage - Part 1

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Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2023 25:56


Welcome to episode #189! This week, Matt and Braden talk about issues that can lead to sexless marriages and what we can do to bring about a healthy sex life. Sex in marriage is biblical. There can be many causes for sexless marriages. Things like trauma - both physical and psychological; addiction - thinking you can get what you need from your porn habits; and even a family belief system that you don't need to have sex in your marriage. Scripture tells us to come together often and to only come apart (both parties involved in the decision) for a time to pursue prayer and fasting. The issues that are preventing sex in your marriage need to be addressed and dealt with. There are individual issues (trauma, addiction and beliefs) that keep us from having sex, but there are also marriage issues that come into play. Drift is the natural tendency in marriage - like a current that has the ability to carry us each in different directions without us even realizing it. We have to be proactive in preventing drift by investing in our marriage. A lot can be resolved through a conversation. Think inwardly for yourself - your own ideas. Don't make up answers for your spouse. Assume they want a really good connection in marriage. We don't always know how to get there. Have the conversations and look at the issues and see how you can work through them. It is never too late to start talking.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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188. Endurance for the Porn-Free Journey

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Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2023 35:53


Welcome to episode #188! This week, Matt and Braden talk about endurance and pushing through in your journey to becoming and remaining porn-free. You can pick up the word of God and seek the Comforter. This is a way to persevere through the discomfort. As you seek Him, God will meet you. Jesus had to persevere as well - when he was tempted by Satan, he responded with the Word of God each time. We will all face discomfort and temptation - it is a reality of life. But we can push through by seeking the Lord and His comfort. Often when we do the right thing, we face a lot of friction. We have to be intentional and make active decisions in this active battle. Culture has a lot of currents that will try and push against the tide of where we want to go in life. If we are passive and inactive we will be in the same cycle for years - full of shame and guilt. We need to seek God and endure through those moments of difficulties and trials. God never closes himself off from usAddictive patterns cause us to believe that God is closing himself off from us. We don't believe that we have what it takes to get his love or that we can be in his presence. We don't believe we have what it takes through the work of God in our life. Shame has us thinking “there is something wrong with me”. Endurance keeps our eyes on God. We have full access to his power, his comfort and his love. We need to focus our eyes and direction on Jesus. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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187. Why We Got Rid Of Our Smartphones with Elisha and Katie Voetberg

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Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2023 38:42


Welcome to episode #187! This week, Matt invites his wife Louise to replace Braden as co-host. They talk to Elisha and Katie from Now That We're A Family on how their decision to go smart-phone free affected sexual temptation, family time, and more.Be aware of potential open doorsElisha knew that any potential porn consumption in his life would come through his phone. Apart from sexual temptation, the work that can be done on the phone is distracting from family time as well, so he decided to make the jump to going smartphone-free.Katie held onto her smartphone for longer than Elisha did and she realized her inclination to be distracted by her phone. Using self-discipline was good to a point, but she realized that she only has so much self-control and would rather get a flip phone to eliminate the tension altogether.You can make things work without a smartphoneA large number of apps have desktop versions, so you can still get by in life just fine by using your desktop for things. It's easy to say that we need our smartphones for various reasons, but it's important to consider the cost of having one versus not having one. Looking at the reasons we can't go without it while welcoming sexual sin into our lives through the same device is not counting the true cost of having the phone.By looking at what you will gain instead of what you will lose will change your perspective on being willing to turn in your device. Going without a smartphone will likely be hard, but the payoff is immense.Create cravings for lifeThe amount of time spent on our phones, on porn, and in shame because of these addictions could otherwise be spent being creative, learning, or adventuring. You can create cravings for your life and for your kids by actually doing things that are fun, productive, relational, and creative. When we bury our heads into our devices and/or pornography, we're not craving anything else to the same degree. Eliminating screen time, open doors to sexual sin, and the addictive nature of devices will help you experience life in a new way and you'll start to come alive.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a call with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

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186. Key Lifestyle Changes for a Porn-Free Life

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Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2023 26:26


Welcome to episode #186! This week, Matt and Braden talk about key changes to make in our lifestyle and mindsets to achieve and maintain freedom from porn. Think about what to do, not what not to do. When we constantly think about not doing something, we end up thinking about doing something. Our brain can't have no thoughts going through it. So rather than focusing on the desires of the flesh and things that we shouldn't do, we need to think about what Jesus would do, how can we live like him today. We need to fill our mind and our thoughts with positive, constructive things we can and should do. Work on things that will draw us closer to God. We need to spend time with God to learn and understand who he is more and who we are in relation to Him. Sometimes we need the help of others - going through the bible together, studying with a pastor or Christian friend or a biblical counsellor. These are things we can add to our life to help us know God more. Don't get defeated. Sometimes we have to push through when we aren't feeling it. Lean into something that you once enjoyed - working out, hiking, hanging out with friends, playing golf, etc. Once we lose that component in life (porn) and we are replacing and adding, revisit those activities you loved doing. Bring your bible, listen to a podcast or worship music and push into those moments where you can spend time with God. The things he's created you to love to do can be seen as an act of worship. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a Cleansing HourBook a call with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for wivesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pouring Out Perfume Podcast | Unapologetic and Authentic Storytelling for Christian Women Finding Hope. *
81. 28 Years of a Toxic and Abusive Marriage. Life After Divorce. Restored Ministries.

Pouring Out Perfume Podcast | Unapologetic and Authentic Storytelling for Christian Women Finding Hope. *

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2023 28:45 Transcription Available


Angela Chambers founded, Restored Ministries, after going through a terrible divorce.  In this episode she will explain going to God and letting Him restore her heart and give her a new life. ENJOY! :) angela.restored1@gmail.com  

Pure Victory Podcast
185. Mark's Story: Abuse, Voyeurism, and a New Life in Christ

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2023 33:43


Welcome to episode #185! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Mark, who went through Pure Freedom Journey and 1:1 Coaching with Matt. Mark's story of redemption is incredible.Abuse and neglect at a young ageMark was physically and sexually abused as a child, both of which confused him. The sexual abuse was a violation, but because it felt good, he was left confused wondering about who and what he was attracted to. His father was not complimentary or loving towards him, but would instead try to make Mark like things he didn't enjoy or excel at - and then he would follow that up by putting Mark down.Arrested at 35Mark was arrested at 35 years old while living in a small town with a professional occupation. His arrest was due to voyeurism as he tried to look for situations that mirrored the abuse and same-sex sexual encounters he had as a young child. The abuse in his childhood years was the only place he felt comfort or accepted, so in seeking those things, he crossed legal lines and put others at risk. Because of this, he lost everything in his life and had to start fresh in another town.Jesus redeemsAt 50 years old, Mark experienced the love of God in a new way and started realizing why he did the things he did. It led to healing from shame and self-condemnation and in place, the love of God was able to reside in his heart in a new way. God opened doors for him to get support from places like Restored Ministries and then start sharing his story publicly. When he was a child, he witnessed someone being abused and always carried guilt for not doing anything to stop it. Recently, he was praying for that person and they reached out to have a meal together. Mark initiated a conversation that was healing for both of them.Tune in for even more stories of God's redemption in Mark's life!Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a call with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for wivesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
184. Growing in Spiritual Maturity with Mitch London

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2023 40:01


Welcome to episode #184! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Mitch London (founder of Just Add Wilderness) about spiritual maturity and discipleship. What is spiritual maturity? Spiritual maturity begins with the introduction to who Jesus is and continues into the pursuit of becoming who he has called us to be - like him. Not a lot of people became disciples back in the day. There is a big cost and commitment to become a disciple and follow Jesus. The ultimate goal was to be where and what the teacher is. The conversion process is a change in lifestyle. A lot of things start with our thoughts. We need to learn to start the change process with our thoughts. When we travel, there can be a culture shock. There is a similar shock when we move into the kingdom of Light and out of the kingdom of darkness. You will need someone to help you to retrain your thoughts from habits that you are used to; to help you understand that where you came from the habit was acceptable, but we are now working towards this new way of living and the old thoughts need to shift. We need to stop disqualifying ourselves. Shame and disgrace come from a place of feeling disqualified. We won't even begin to work on ourselves because we don't think we are qualified to be where we could be, where God is calling us. This is a lie. If you look at people from the bible, they all stumbled but they are able to be restored. We have to take up our cross and deny ourselves. We have to empty our hearts before the Lord. His grace is tremendous. God's grace is what qualifies us when we submit ourselves to God to receive it. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a Cleansing HourBook a call with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for wivesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freeJust Add Wilderness - visit their website, and catch them on Facebook and YouTube. Podcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

The Great Exchange
How God Restores Sexual Brokenness w/ Matt Cline

The Great Exchange

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2023 38:05


Imagine the transformative power of understanding God's standard for sexuality. This episode features an enlightening conversation with Matt Cline, founder and director of Restored Ministries, who is passionate about leading people out of sexual brokenness into a life of freedom and impact. We explore the far-reaching effects of sexual brokenness on all aspects of life and delve into how grace and mercy can reshape us into witnesses of hope. How does the church play a role in addressing sexual sin? Matt shares his insights on this crucial matter. We discuss the importance of pastors taking a lead in talking about sensitive topics like sex, the significance of gender-specific coaching, and the necessity of creating a church culture that believes in reconciliation and restoration. This episode emphasizes the real power that comes from understanding how to control our bodies and sexuality.As we navigate the complexities of biblical sexuality, we also touch on the unique struggles of those dealing with same-sex attraction. We discuss the need for churches to create secure environments for open conversations and the extra shame often felt by those with same-sex attraction. Matt shares his knowledge on serving this group effectively and motivating them to manage their sexuality in a Godly manner. This conversation aims to bring light into the often dark corners of our lives, and provide hope for restoration.To connect with Matt and Restored Ministries, check out these resources:Website: https://www.restoredministries.caPure Freedom Journey: https://www.restoredministries.ca/pfjPodcast: https://www.restoredministries.ca/purevictoryFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/restoredminInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/restoredsexuality/?fbclid=IwAR3Cxzzlme8thUlB71K4r-VYRDdh7hUiNd8Abc8YzllmobCAcFiDMIuke-cYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@restoredministries8634Join us weekly as we strive help people embrace God's standard for sexuality! Other ways to listen:https://linktr.ee/calibrateconversations

Pure Victory Podcast
183. Listener Q&A Part 2: Betrayal Trauma, Dry Spells, Fasting and More…

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2023 41:51


This episode is brought to you by Encouragers Heart Journals. These journals are a perfect gift for you or a loved one in this holiday season. Two journals called “Steal Back Your Joy” and “Breathe” are especially powerful.  If you need encouragement and answers to what's going on in your life right now, use the promo code PUREVICTORY for 10% off of your book purchase at encouragersheartjournals.com.Welcome to episode #183! This week, Matt and Braden answer more listener questions about betrayal trauma, dry spells, fasting, the love of God and more!Creating safety and security takes time and understanding.Remember that when you are the one who confesses, you knew it was coming. You feel more free and more at peace. However, your spouse is in turmoil. They are at the beginning of the process while you are further ahead. This is a fresh wound for them and they don't know what to do. There needs to be an understanding that the porn use that is brought in to the marriage can bring betrayal trauma or PTSD. Both spouses need to be receiving help to process and move closer to our spouse. However, both sides need to look at the plank in their own eyes to move towards healing and reconciliation. The spouse who brought the sin in needs to understand it's okay to walk in God's grace. The spouse who is affected needs to remove the plank because they might be looking through a lens of judgement, sin and condemnation and that will hinder health in their own heart. The sin is never okay - but we have to remember that we are all imperfect and we all need the grace of God everyday.   How do we handle long dry spells? There can be many reasons for a dry spell. 1 Corinthians 7 has a command from God to come together sexually. It is not supposed to be an afterthought - it needs to be prioritized. Sometimes it looks like getting away, but find ways to connect. There is physical intimacy you can do without having intercourse. If you have a physical dry spell, you also have an emotional dry spell - you're not having fun w/ your spouse, having dates. When you're not connecting physically - there is an impact. Find out what you need to talk through with your spouse to find out why you aren't connecting. Be in a heart posture of wanting to hear from your spouse. It is important to fast and pursue wholeness and intimacy with GodWe live our lives as “if you fast and when you sin” but we need to have the scriptural mindset of “If you sin and when you fast”. This is the best way for us to live. Jesus started his ministry by fasting. He was more aware of God because of his fasting. Fasting is an entryway into revelation and power from God. It is important for us to incorporate and prioritize fasting into our lives. There are different ways and amounts of time we can fast but we want to pay attention to what God does during that time. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a Cleansing HourBook a call with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for wivesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freeFasting Resources:“The Celebration of Discipline” by Richard Foster“God In My Everything” by Ken Shigematsu“Sacred Pathways” by Gary Thomas“Atomic Power with God, Thru Prayer and Fasting” by Franklin HallPodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
182. Listener Q&A: Marital Duty, Shame, Identity, and more…

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2023 33:24


This episode is brought to you by Encouragers Heart Journals. These journals are a perfect gift for you or a loved one in this holiday season. Two journals called “Steal Back Your Joy” and “Breathe” are especially powerful.  If you need encouragement and answers to what's going on in your life right now, use the promo code PUREVICTORY for 10% off of your book purchase at encouragersheartjournals.com.Welcome to episode #182! This week, Matt and Braden answer some of your questions. This weeks questions focus around 1 Timothy 2:9-10, 1 Corinthians 7:1-9 and shame and identity. If the biblical command is to you, it's to YOU. We need to be reading scripture within its context and understand who the audience is. If it is addressed to husbands/men, it is for husbands/men, if it's addressed to wives/women, it is for wives/women. If it is addressed to you, you are responsible for your own behaviour and for what scripture is saying to you. You can't read into something that isn't for you. And demand something out of that. We don't live in the deficit, because in the Lord we are satisfied. 1 Corinthians 6 talks about the covenant relationship we have with the Lord. He is the one who should fulfil and satisfy us. Sexual sin is the only sin against our body. We need to steward our body and sex drive in a way that is healthy with the Lord and He can be the one to satisfy. Then we are operating out of an overflow with our spouse. We don't need to look to them to fulfil our desires. We are already full and satisfied and we can love our spouse from that place. God can help us overcome shame and identity. Shame and identity are both affected by sexual addiction. We can't overcome shame and identity on our own. We have to make choices to move closer to God who gives us our identity and speaks truth over us. Instead of shame, we get confidence in who he is and in who he says we are in him so we can understand the value and worth that we have.  Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a Cleansing HourBook a call with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for wivesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
181. When Should I Seek Outside Help?

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2023 38:33


Welcome to episode #181! This week, Matt and Braden talk about when is a good time to ask for outside help when we are battling addiction. Look at your motivations and scepticisms for reaching out. Family upbringing can be a big factor for reaching out. If your family didn't talk about things or share deep inner hurts because there was ridicule or criticism, that will contribute to your wiring and how you might model your present day life. Even if you had a more open environment for sharing, the area of porn can still be difficult to bring up because it is often linked to shame.We Always Need Help.It might be a slow turn to change course when we ask for help. Changing our mindset, regarding asking for help, can take time. Past experiences of getting help may have gone negatively and that can affect our decision to ask for help now. If you stop reaching out for help, you won't get any. We have to open ourselves up to receive. Biblically, we are called to meet together and share our hurts with each other. We don't need to hit rock bottom before we reach out for help. Reaching out is not a weakness.If you think you can b eat this on our own, then what's the point of Jesus? We can't go through it just with God - He sends us to other people and he sends other people to us. That is where shame gets broken and humility is established. People don't need to see that we're perfect. When we see imperfections, we realize that others are just real people. There is a respect to be had when you are real and open. There is power in vulnerability. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a Cleansing HourBook a call with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for wivesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
180. The Truth About STDs with Dr. Zee M.D.

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2023 34:12


Welcome to episode #180! This week, Matt and Braden talk about the truths of STDs and STIs with Dr. Zee M.D. Sexual health is big on God's HeartHe designed sex as a beautiful covenant between man and woman, especially in marriage. One sin is no bigger than another, but sexual sin is the only sin that is against our own bodies. We can see it like autoimmune diseases - one healthy cell fighting your own cells. Sexual sin and immorality relates to your sexual health which then relates to your physical, emotional and mental health. STDs and STIs in the HealthCare system. There are daily visits for patients (approximately 20-30% of patients) coming to doctors offices regarding sexual health. It has become a more open topic to talk about sexual practices, partners and sexual health. An STI is an infection spread through sexual contact: oral, vaginal or anal. Often it becomes an STD. According to WHO, there are 1 million STIs acquired/day (that are recorded, mainly in first world countries). There are many long term effects that can affect you on physical, mental, emotional and spiritual levels. The CDC has calculated that 16 billion dollars is spent on STDs/year (for first world countries).  There can be hope in place of shame when dealing with STDs.  There can be shame when you are diagnosed with an STD or STI however, shame is a lie meant to bring you down and feel like you are far from God. Your true identity is in Christ and not in your diagnosis. There are still medical advancements that can help people get through some of the more permanent ramifications. There is hope and love when Christ invades us. Purity can be redeemed. It starts with a pure mind and then goes to our heart and body. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a Cleansing HourBook a call with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for wivesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
179. Into the Light. A Documentary with Jacob Valk

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2023 35:02


Would you join us in the mission of helping people break free from porn addiction, and walk in freedom? If so, please consider partnering with us with a monthly donation to support the cause and help us make more ads to get the word out! Thank you and God bless!! click on the link to donate!Welcome to episode #179! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Jacob Valk, the co-producer and co-founder of the documentary called "Into The Light". They'll go into what it's about and the heart behind it this documentary to help men and women find freedom from porn. What is Into the Light?Into the Light is a teaching documentary on freedom from pornography. It walks through the process of change: from bondage in sexual sin all the way to freedom in Christ. It is a resource for strugglers and the local church. It can be watched in a whole session or broken up into “Chapters” or Episodes. It is for men and women. There is a disservice being done to women in regards to porn addictions. It can often be referred to as a “man's issue” which when brought up in public or during a sermon allows women to think: “you're kind of a freak to struggle with a man's problem” or “you're not worth being included in the conversation.” The gospel that saves men from sin is the same gospel that saves women from sin. Men and women struggle and the steps to freedom are the same. What are the Steps to Freedom?The documentary refers to some conceptual steps that need to take place. Each episode goes through one of these concepts and takes you on the journey to healing and freedom.  Know your enemy and what you're dealing with. Talk about sin.  What did God design marriage/sexuality for? Talk about the good and know the good to have that foundation to go the rest of the way. Why do you crave this? What is the posture of your heart? What strategies/practical ways you can follow through with what your heart needs? How do you keep the momentum up?  The church together needs to fight pornography.  The first step for someone if you are struggling is to confess to God. Only after that should you find the godliest person you know and confess/open up to them so they can help you chart a course going forward. We don't need to be cleaned up before we go to God. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a Cleansing HourBook a call with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for wivesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freeInto the Light - Free access to this documentary for personal use or for churches/groups useYou can find Into the Light on social media - @intothelightdocumentary Podcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
178. How Do I Talk To My Kid About Porn? With John and Lucas Fort

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 27, 2023 36:55


Would you join us in the mission of helping people break free from porn addiction, and walk in freedom? If so, please consider partnering with us with a monthly donation to support the cause and help us make more ads to get the word out! Thank you and God bless!! click on the link to donate!Welcome to episode #178! This week, Matt and Braden talk with John and Lucas Fort from Be Broken Ministries about talking to your kids about porn.Create an environment where there is safety and care for children to talkYou want to have a punish free zone so that there is a safety to open up. There is fear on both sides when opening up about feelings and making sure that the children won't feel like the parents are mad. There can still be barriers to help recovery, but to not have it as a punishment. Discipline doesn't mean punishment. A way to start off and help your kids to be open, is to be open yourself and show that level of vulnerability. Setting up Accountability or “Man Meetings” Figure out what works for you. Set a day/time, and something that will keep the situation comfortable. Does it ease the tension to be side by side and doing something? Or maybe you'd prefer to sit across from each other at a table over a coffee? Understand that when kids start looking at porn - its out of curiosity and/or it gives a buzz. It gets dangerous when it becomes the go-to way to deal with feelings, that's when it becomes a habit. Identify what emotions that you get that leads to it. Realize that at the beginning, you won't know the trigger feeling or core emotion feeling until there is a mess up.  It's important to be vulnerable with your childrenA way to start off and help your kids to be open, is to be open yourself and show that level of vulnerability. The parent might do most of the talking at the beginning until the child is ready to open up. Having the parent start it off and be consistent with meeting, opening up and sharing feelings then they can begin to encourage their kid if they have anything to share. It starts with feelings. You don't need to always talk about sex, just learn to discuss your feelings. There are different ways you can discuss triggers and feelings. You can be formal about writing out triggers and plans; you can write back and forth in a journal with minimal talking at first or maybe it never is a formal meeting but it's the parents responsibility to go do something together and initiate to talk about it. A big fear or worry of parents is wondering if their children will lose respect for them or find out about their past. The only time respect is lost, is when the parent isn't doing anything to get better. It often ends in more respect when they see how their parents have done something about their past and are getting better. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a Cleansing HourBook a call with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for wivesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freeBe Broken Ministries Father-Son Accountability: Integrity Through RelationshipFather-Son ConnectPodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
177. Navigating Libido Differences with Javier and Shannan

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2023 38:33


Would you join us in the mission of helping people break free from porn addiction, and walk in freedom? If so, please consider partnering with us with a monthly donation to support the cause and help us make more ads to get the word out! Thank you and God bless!! click on the link to donate!Welcome to episode #177! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Javier and Shannan from 24/7 Marriage about differences in our libidos. Everyone is different in this areaIt's rare that you will have a “matching” season of life in regards to your libido. Sometimes your libido is up while your spouse's is down and vice versa. It's important to work together and through those differences. When working through and talking about these differences, be careful not to come into the conversation defensive. Take a step back, get an outside perspective on what's happening. Your spouse is not out to attack you, or be against you and there are many factors that could be playing into it. It's a conversation that isn't one and done. Continually talk about it as you grow and change in life. Creating safety & security between husband and wifeSeek first understanding and then be understood. Try to pause and understand where they're at, what they're navigating. It's easy to see the problem and not the person and not understand what is taking place. Approach with: I believe the best in you, you're not withholding to be hurtful or malicious. Seek understanding, to hear and to listen to what is being said and what is taking place. Spend time building that emotional security and safety. Be careful in the timing and the words that you use when you come to one another so we're not acting on defence. “Side Effects” of miscommunication about libidoIf there is not effective communication about this area, there can be resentment, bitterness and frustration that build up.  When we don't engage in conversation, we build contempt for one another; “always” and “never” words come up and thoughts of “you're better than me”. Even when we reach a “solution”, we need to operate from a place of grace. We might know the solution, but we are human and are flawed people and don't always act in that way. Remember that forgiveness is not a scorecard. Keep the line of communication open. Look at the long game - your marriage is not the same in year 1 as it is in year 30. You are changing and growing; physically, emotionally, mentally. When we don't keep up with these conversations, it leaves room for these “side effects” to enter in and have us believe the worst in ourselves and our spouse. Leave room for growth and grace in this and all areas of your marriage. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for menBook a call with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for wivesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freeConnect with Javier & Shannon on any social media platform - @247marriage Or visit 24/7 Marriage website and see what they're up to. Podcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Pure Victory Podcast
176. Do You Know Your Spirit-Led Desires?

Pure Victory Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2023 38:51


Would you join us in the mission of helping people break free from porn addiction, and walk in freedom? If so, please consider partnering with us with a monthly donation to support the cause and help us make more ads to get the word out! Thank you and God bless!! click on the link to donate!Welcome to episode #176! This week, Matt and Braden talk about how identifying our desires can help us in the war of temptations and addiction.Ask yourself: what am I desiring?There is something deeper than just looking at porn. There are desires that fall underneath the surface of all these behaviours. It's important to identify what they are, which leads to understanding and healing and opens us up to receive.  The trigger - what we're really looking for is the key. Once we learn what it is we are looking for, we can go to God with that. The acceptance that God gives is greater than whatever we are looking for on the screen. Ask the question, learn what it is, and you will experience way more inner peace and joy. You are receiving that desire from God - not a distorted truth from porn. The flesh and the Spirit are in conflict.Galatians 5:17 says, “The flesh desires what is contrary to the spirit.” When we desire pornography, sexual release, etc, those are desires of the flesh. When we learn what our spirit desires, we can focus on that. We can bring it to prayer. Everything that God calls us to is in alignment with what our Spirit desires. We need to understand the desires of the spirit because it leads us into what God wants us to do and leads us out of temptation. A better way to win the war of temptation is to identify the desire of our Spirit and praise for satisfying that rather than simply fighting against the desire of our flesh. The enemy wants us to feel a lack in things that we already have from the Lord. What am I trying to achieve that I actually already have in God? When Adam and Eve were tempted, they were already made in the image of God. The enemy came and said, “no, if you eat from this tree, then you'll be like God”. They were already like God. But they felt this lack, a void that came from a deception from the enemy. It's important to realize that when the desires of our spirit are being neglected, we will look for these things to be fulfilled through worldly thighs. It highlights an idol - work, marriage, other relationships, etc. God already has peace, love, kindness, affirmation, etc, for you. When we turn to him and praise and thank him for these things it gets them established in us. The desires of the flesh point to where we need to surrender. When we deny our flesh and we seek the Lord, we become alive in Christ. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to braden@familylifecanada.com or matt@restoredministries.ca.Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a Cleansing HourBook a call with one of Restored Ministries' trained coachesHelp for wivesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.

Enneagram and Marriage
Special E + M Mini Episode: Matt Cline of Restored Ministries: Healing from Sexual Brokenness

Enneagram and Marriage

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2023 14:04


When we confess our sexual struggles, we are given grace, hope and most, love and a release from the binding shame that comes with this brokenness. Matt Cline of Restored Ministries reaches out to spouses here in this E + M mini!   He talks about community, God's grace, and his own story of recovery as well with us right here!   Listen as Matt walks you through what he continues to teach thousands across campuses and groups about sexual brokenness and pornography recovery and restoration. Matt shares practical steps for walking in healing and the fullness of God's love here as well. Find Matt's ministry right here!   Love this episode? Share with others and at Apple Podcast here, too!   Join the E + M Membership right here!   Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out our membership and all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!  

Awesome Marriage Podcast
Recovering After Porn In Marriage: A Husband's Story with Matt Cline | Ep. 564

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 29, 2023 57:34


Recovery after porn is possible. Your mind can heal and you can break the addiction. Today's guest, Matt Cline, is the founder and director of Restored Ministries, which leads men and women out of sexual brokenness and into a life of freedom and impact. Matt has seen countless lives radically changed around the world.Today he talks about his healing process, how God restored his beliefs about sex  We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  The God-given purpose of our sex drive - and why that matters How do you define the actual difference between “sex” and “making love”?  Lies porn teaches us about sex and how to replace them with truth  Specific ways the mind changes after porn recovery  The process of turning temptation into an opportunity for worship    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox.   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    RESOURCES Find all of Matt's resources at www.restoredministries.ca Restored Ministries is on Instagram @restoredsexuality, Facebook @ Restored Ministries, and the Pure Victory Podcast.  You don't have to settle for a struggling marriage. The 90 Days to Save Your Marriage plan starts right where your marriage is today and helps get it on the road to healing. Click HERE to preorder Dr. Kim's new book, Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half. Use the code SECONDHALFPODCAST for $5 off at checkout!   

Awesome Marriage Podcast
How to Regain Trust With Your Spouse After Porn | Ep. 561

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2023 38:51


Porn use is a pain point for all too many marriages. Today we talk about how to begin healing and rebuilding trust if porn has damaged your marriage. We have seen countless marriages restored from this issue, and we believe God can do the same for you and your marriage. Tune in to learn how you can begin to trust again.    We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  The key to knowing if your spouse has changed and is trustworthy What if they haven't changed?  Why confession is vital to healing and freedom  Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox.   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    RESOURCES If you are ready to be free from porn, our friends at Restored Ministries offer several options to help both. Please do not hesitate to reach out.  If your marriage has been affected by infidelity, our online Affair Recovery Course can help. This course is helpful whether you're just starting the recovery process, or are already in process. Use code: “AWESOMEMARRIAGE” for %10 off. Has the Awesome Marriage podcast helped your marriage? If so, will you take a moment to leave us a rating and review? They take just a moment to leave, but they do make an difference in getting the show in front of more people.  In Spotify, click the “star” icon right under the show's heading On Apple Podcasts, scroll down to the “Ratings & Reviews” section of the show page Click HERE to preorder Dr. Kim's new book, Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half. Use the code SECONDHALFPODCAST for $5 off at checkout!   

Awesome Marriage Podcast
How Does Porn Affect a Marriage? | Ep. 560

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 6, 2023 39:14


We know this topic is a painful one for all too many marriages, and we also know that God can bring full healing if your marriage has been damaged by porn. Today Dr. Kim shares how he's seen porn impact marriages over the years, why it's always a problem if it's part of a marriage, and how to start breaking free.  We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  Why porn use is never a one-person issue  Why keeping porn use secret makes it harder to stop using  Addressing common cultural myths about porn such as, “everyone does it” and “it doesn't hurt anyone” Steps to breaking free if you are using    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    RESOURCES If you are ready to be free from porn, our friends at Restored Ministries offer several options to help both. Please do not hesitate to reach out.  If your marriage has been affected by infidelity, our online Affair Recovery Course can help. This course is helpful whether you're just starting the recovery process, or are already in process. Use code: “AWESOMEMARRIAGE” for %10 off.