Enneagram and Marriage

Join us for an inspiring conversation with filmmakers Nathan (Type 4) and D'Lytha (Type 5) Myers as they share their unique journey of marriage, parenting, and creating meaningful entertainment together. Nathan, known for his work on The Chosen and now running Grafted Studios, brings passionate creativity, while D'Lytha offers thoughtful wisdom. Together, they've created the award-winning film "Aria Appleton Shines," which tackles technology's impact on children and parental authority through the spunky and realistically spirited Gen Z/Alpha Gen Aria Appleton and her friends. Discover not only tech tips and more about the new movie, but also about how this couple's different Enneagram types create beautiful synergy in their marriage and creative partnership, how they navigate homeschooling decisions and running a production company together, and their approach to protecting children from unhealthy technology while embracing creative media. Whether you're interested in Enneagram dynamics in marriage, navigating technology with kids, or supporting faith-based entertainment, this conversation offers practical wisdom from a couple living out their values creatively and intentionally! Watch on YouTube! Watch the BRAND NEW award-winning film 'Aria Appleton Shines' and discover how this powerful story is helping families navigate technology with wisdom and intention. Film Website: https://www.ariaappleton.com/  Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ariaappletonfilm/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariaappleton/?hl=en Learn more about your type and relationship at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What does it mean to bring light to the darkest seasons of life and faith? In this deeply moving post-Father's Day episode, Mike Donehey, lead singer of the reunited Tenth Avenue North, shares the heart behind their new album “Learning to Trust.” As a social Type 4 married to a Type 2, Mike demonstrates the courage to go to those dark feelings, sit with them, and grapple with them honestly—both in his music and his marriage. The album, which explores “the midnight hour in a person's faith,” was born from personal family struggles, including his 12-year-old daughter hitting rock bottom with anxiety and his own journey of learning to trust God when you can't see the path ahead. Mike opens up about how their lead song “Running with You in the Dark” captures the essence of moving forward with faith through uncertain seasons, and how influences like Jay Stringer's work on sexuality and faith have shaped their music. Whether you're walking through your own dark season, supporting your spouse through difficult times, or learning what it means to trust when life feels uncertain, this conversation offers both vulnerability and hope, with beautiful songs and timeless truths to guide you through. Find the album here on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/0G3VRMNpInROdMyGAabE0t Find the band here: https://www.tenthavenuenorth.com/ Follow Mike with 300K others here on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikedonehey/?hl=en Follow Tenth Avenue North on IG https://www.instagram.com/tenthavenuenorth/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When emotions run high in relationships, knowing how to self-soothe can make the difference between connection and disconnection. In this practical mini-episode, we explore a few way each instinctual variant, Self-Preservation, Social, and Sexual/One-to-One, approaches calming when feelings are intense. We also break down a bit further to designate heart types of each instinctual variant needing emotional safety, head types seeking mental clarity, and body types requiring physical grounding. In this mini-show, let Christa guide you to just a few ways you'll discover specific techniques that strengthen rather than strain your relationship so you can truly come back as healthily differentiated partners, rather than staying in the wounding together. For more relationship help or to sign up with an E + M Coach or affiliate, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Visit our Instagram @enneagramandmarriage https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if the key to a stronger marriage isn't avoiding conflict, but learning to dig in and work through difficult moments? In this practical episode, marriage therapist and relational life therapist Zach Brittle, 8 brings over a decade of professional wisdom combined with personal insights from his Type 8-Type 2 marriage. Host of the popular Marriage Therapy Radio Podcast, Zach shares his gifted perspective on the stories that often lie beneath our relationship struggles and offers Terry Real's RLT (Relational Life Therapy) tips and a powerful 4-part formula you can use for getting unstuck again and again whenever conflict hits. As a Type 8 married to a Type 2, he opens up about how even two passionate types can learn to navigate tension in healthy ways, emphasizing that conflict isn't something to fear but a pathway to deeper connection. Whether you're afraid of rocking the boat or tend to dive headfirst into disagreements, Zach's blend of therapeutic expertise and real-life vulnerability offers hope and practical strategies for working through the messy, beautiful work of marriage. Follow Zach here on his website: https://zachbrittle.com/ Follow Zach at Marriage Therapy Radio here: https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ Find Zach on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/marriagetherapyradio/?hl=en Miss the Subtypes EnneaSummit? Get the all-access pass to the Enneasummit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here! https://www.tylerzach.com/subtypes/enneasummit-aap?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148111986%2FLS2nNmzL⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What does it mean to age with strength and wisdom? In this powerful episode, Kathleen Henderson, 8 (8-9 pairing) shares her honest journey and OR nursing background to help others through health challenges, empowering you to use your voice and your spouse through the seasons through health challenges and through the evolution of marriage in later seasons of life. As a Type 8 married to a Type 9 with adult children, Kathleen opens up about self-advocacy in healthcare, life, and work settings, supporting her Type 9 spouse Ken through difficult health seasons, and the surprising ways her Type 8 energy has both served and taught her across seasons. From practical wisdom about preparing for life's later seasons to the liberating realizations that come with maturity, Kathleen's no-filter honesty addresses the realities many couples face but rarely discuss before they hit the harder moments. Show Notes: www.Drugs.com (This site tells you the percent of side effects you may experience as you deal with symptoms) The EnneaSummit is this week. To sign up for the EnneaSummit on Subtypes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sign up here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get the all-access pass to the Enneasummit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we step into a summer of refinement here at Enneagram and Marriage, what better time to focus on creating homes that truly work for our families? In this insightful episode, interior design and home organization expert and author Whitney English, Type 4 (4-9 pairing) shares her room-by-room approach to creating spaces that are both beautiful and functional. Whitney believes that anyone can live a beautiful life, that "if you're real you can't be ugly," and that everyone is creative—some of us have just forgotten. As a successful entrepreneur who's been featured in O Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, and on the Today Show, Whitney brings both design expertise and real-life family wisdom to the conversation. Discover how to assess each room in your home for what it truly needs—from the practical (garbage cans and scissors in the right places) to the aesthetic touches that make you actually want to spend time there. Whitney also opens up about her curiosity around her Enneagram perspective and how understanding her personality has helped her create organized systems without becoming harsh or demanding with her family, especially as she considers family of origin overlays many of us bring. Learn why the aesthetic of your home matters more than you think, how to balance beauty with functionality on any budget, and practical strategies for couples to create spaces that support both their relationship and family life. Whether you're naturally organized or struggle with clutter, Whitney's gentle wisdom will help you see your home as a place of intentional living rather than perfectionist pressure. Watch on YouTube! Get Whitney's book with SO much more practical info, "Organize First: From Clutter to Creativity," here: https://a.co/d/hPQ8MZU Visit Whitney at her beautiful website: https://whitneyenglish.com/ The Enneasummit is this week. To sign up for the EnneaSummit on Subtypes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠sign up here!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get the all-access pass to the Enneasummit ⁠⁠⁠⁠here! More about Whitney: Whitney English believes that anyone can live a beautiful life. She believes that gratitude is the birthplace of joy, that people matter, that love is the answer, that everyone is creative and some of us have just forgotten, and that it's worth trying to be a better version of yourself today than you were yesterday. She has boot-strapped two businesses to seven figures, has a degree in interior design, studied management at Parsons in New York City, and has had her work featured in O magazine, The Wall Street Journal, and on the Today Show (twice). She was featured as one of Country Living magazine's Women Entrepreneurs, and one of her favorite dreams-come-true is her husband David, and their three children. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is artificial intelligence becoming the third party in your marriage? In this timely episode, we explore the growing trend of couples turning to AI for relationship advice, planning, and emotional processing. Based on survey data from real couples, Christa unpacks three major benefits AI brings to marriage—from vacation planning to communication tools—and three significant concerns about emotional bypassing, digital intimacy, and false authority. Drawing from relationship research and real-world examples, including insights from Simon Sinek about the importance of authentic conflict, this episode offers practical guidelines for using AI to enhance rather than replace genuine marital connection. Whether you're AI-curious or concerned about technology's impact on relationships, this is a MUST-LISTEN as you gain clarity and conviction on how to navigate artificial intelligence's role in your most important human connections!! To sign up for the E + M Collective membership group for time live on Zoom with Christa, ⁠⁠⁠visit here!⁠⁠⁠ To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, ⁠⁠⁠sign up here!⁠⁠⁠ Get the all-access pass to the Enneasummit where Christa is speaking ⁠⁠⁠here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this special Memorial Day episode, Enneagram Type 2 Kristen Strong shares her powerful journey as a social Enneagram 2 giver and also military wife who spent two decades moving across the world, constantly rebuilding friendships and community. Author of "Desperate Woman Seeks Friends," Kristen offers vulnerable insights into the acute loneliness facing all of us in the busy culture of today and practical wisdom for anyone struggling to make meaningful connections through busyness, loneliness, trust-breaking, and more. Through her experience as a military spouse and her Type 2 heart for helping others, Kristen addresses the crisis of friendship with both solid hope and actionable direction. Whether you've ever felt the sting of rejection, cringed at awkward friendship encounters, or wondered if you're the only one struggling to make friends, Kristen's honest conversation and game plan for building lasting relationships will encourage your heart. Join us for this heartfelt tribute and hopeful discussion about the friendships we all desperately need right here! Show links: Visit Kristen's website here! https://kristenstrong.com/ Read Kristen's new book here! Desperate Woman Seeks Friends: Real Talk About Connection, Rejection, and Trying Again for the Friendships You Need - https://a.co/d/0vZqsZ1 To sign up for the E + M Collective membership group for time live on Zoom with Christa, ⁠⁠visit here!⁠⁠ To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, ⁠⁠sign up here!⁠⁠ Get the all-access pass to the Enneasummit where Christa is speaking ⁠⁠here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What does it truly mean to love someone with your whole being? In this transformative episode, we explore the essential practices needed to move beyond surface-level connection into profound, soul-nourishing love. Drawing from both Enneagram wisdom and practical relationship insights, we unpack how your personality type influences your capacity for love, and offer compassionate strategies for breaking through the childhood patterns and defense mechanisms that limit your ability to love completely. Whether you're in a new relationship or a decades-long marriage, you'll discover actionable wisdom for loving more intentionally, vulnerably, and wholly—creating the foundation for the deeply connected relationship you desire. To sign up for the membership group for time live on Zoom with Christa, ⁠visit here!⁠ To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, ⁠sign up here!⁠ Get the all-access pass to the summit ⁠here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Influencer and Coach (Enneagram & Coaching) Hillary McCaskey, 9w8 joins Christa to explore how her Enneagram type shapes her marriage to an 8. Together they discuss how Hillary's 972 Tritype influences her ability to support her Type 8 husband's dreams while finding her own voice—culminating in both a healthier and more attuned marriage as well as their bold decision to embrace a comfortable life on the road as the traveling duo @VanKaskeys on YouTube. Hillary also shares her powerful journey through grief and strength rising after losing her mother, a pivotal experience that awakened her strong 8 wing and transformed her approach to life and relationships. She opens up about navigating the challenges of conflict styles with her husband as well as fatigue as a 9 while accessing newfound strength. This episode offers valuable insights into the harmonious yet dynamic 8-9 pairing, showing how different types can complement each other while maintaining individual growth. Between these meaningful discussions of personality and relationships, Hillary and Christa share lighthearted moments about dogs, favorite coffee, and the unexpected joys of intentional living. Listen here to be inspired! Explore Hillary's Coaching Practice: https://enneagramandcoaching.com/ Explore Hillary's Popular Enneagram & Coaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandcoaching/?igsh=NzM2eDgxd3B2Yzdl# Follow the VanCaskeys on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/vancaskeys or at their website here: https://www.youtube.com/c/vancaskeys To sign up for the membership group for time live on Zoom with Christa, ⁠visit here!⁠ To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, ⁠sign up here!⁠ Get the all-access pass to the summit ⁠here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Christa takes you on a journey through the subtle influences of Enneagram wings in marriage relationships. In this illuminating episode, she explores how our wing tendencies can sometimes take over our interactions with our spouse without us even realizing it. From the silent withdrawal of a 1w9 to the stubborn resistance of a 9w8, Christa breaks down real examples of how each type's wings manifest in marriage - both helping and hindering connection. Discover practical strategies for finding balance and appreciating your partner's full Enneagram makeup while learning to temper your own wing influences when they become domineering. You're also invited to join our Enneagram + Marriage membership community where we dive deeper into these dynamics every month! Plus, don't miss the upcoming EnneaSummit this summer - tickets are available now. Listen for all the summer fun and relationship wisdom packed into this episode! To sign up for the membership group for time live on Zoom with Christa, visit here! To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, sign up here! Get the all-access pass to the summit here! Join E + M Coach Alicia Larkey's retreat here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this powerful episode, former megachurch pastors Jimmy and Irene Rollins share their raw journey from a marriage that was "surviving, not thriving" to genuine transformation after addiction threatened everything they'd built. For fifteen years, the couple maintained a thriving public ministry while privately struggling—Irene battling alcohol addiction and Jimmy confronting generational patterns of dysfunction—until their 2015 breaking point forced them to seek authentic healing. Through an Enneagram lens, we explore how different personality types experience addiction, support recovery, and establish healthy boundaries. The founders of TWO=ONE Marriage Ministry offer rare insight into creating safety for vulnerability, maintaining hope during crisis, and rebuilding trust after betrayal. Their story illuminates how true connection emerges only when we risk complete honesty, making this essential listening for anyone navigating addiction in relationships or seeking to transform any marriage from functional to flourishing. Watch on YouTube! Follow the Rollins here on their website! https://www.twoequalsone.com/ Follow Irene, type 9 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/irenerollins/?hl=en Follow Jimmy, type 7 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamjimmyrollins/?hl=en For the Enneagram & Marriage membership, click here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership For more on EnneagramandMarriage.com, visit here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Just in time for Mother's Day, this special episode features Wall Street Journal bestselling author Jessica Turner sharing hard-earned wisdom about rebuilding when life veers dramatically off-script. Whether you didn't get to have kids, your marriage is different than what you wanted, or like Jessica, your marriage took a turn in a different direction, Jessica discusses how to navigate heartache, as she had to at the end of her 16-year marriage after her husband came out, transforming heartbreak into a powerful story of resilience that's now the foundation of her upcoming book "I Thought It Would Be Better Than This." As Mel Robbins notes, Jessica's journey will "speak right to your soul if you're wrestling with disappointment, heartache, or the curveballs life throws at you." Through a heartfelt lens with Jessica, today we process grief, reclaim identity, and find moments for self-care during life's biggest transitions. This conversation goes beyond typical Mother's Day sentiments to honor the strength it takes to write a new story when the original draft falls apart. Jessica's authentic insights offer both practical strategies and emotional permission to anyone standing at the intersection of "this isn't what I expected" and "where do I go from here?" Get Jessica's powerful book here for a mom you love: https://a.co/d/1BgPDuy Follow her blog and visit her website here: www.JessicaNTurner.com Follow her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/jessicanturner/?hl=en Learn more about Enneagram & Marriage right here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this illuminating mini-episode for anyone who finds themselves in a reactive Enneagram Eight space, Christa unveils tools for finding and accessing the hidden vulnerability healthily beneath the Eight armor. Whether you're an Eight, have an Eight wing or arrow connection, or love someone with Eight energy, this episode offers crucial insights into navigating those critical moments when an Eight hits their wall. Learn why fight-or-flight responses are so instinctive for Eights and discover the powerful "3-3-3 Method" for processing emotions without feeling exposed. This episode goes beyond basic type descriptions to explore how Eights can access their strength through acknowledging vulnerability, and how loved ones can create safe containers that honor the Eight's need for both power and authentic connection. A must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the complex interplay of protection and vulnerability in the protective Eight's journey. Find more relationship tools at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In today's episode, we challenge the common assumption that men always want more sex than women in marriage. Join us as we speak with J. Parker, author of "The Higher-Desire Wife," about the estimated 25% of marriages where wives have a higher sex drive at various seasons of marriage. We explore multiple causes of mismatched desire beyond stereotypes, from hormonal factors to relational dynamics, and discuss practical strategies for navigating these differences with compassion. This episode brings validation and hope to women and men who have felt isolated, bewildered, or ashamed of their sexual desires or lack thereof while offering insights for all couples experiencing desire discrepancies in their marriages. Watch on YouTube Get J's book, The Higher Desire Wife" here: https://a.co/d/boAliTx Visit J's website: https://hotholyhumorous.com/https://hotholyhumorous.com/https://www.hotholyhumorous.com Find more relationship tools at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this stance episode, Christa helps you to explore how our emotional regulation patterns impact our closest relationships through the lens of stances. This episode dives into the three stress stances—moving against, moving away, and moving toward—and how understanding these unconscious reactions can transform your marriage. Whether you're caught in criticism-defensiveness cycles or pursuer-distancer dynamics, you'll discover practical tools to recognize your patterns, regulate your responses, and create deeper connection with your spouse. Learn how to turn triggering moments into opportunities for growth and intimacy in this thoughtful exploration of emotional intelligence in marriage. Find more relationship tools at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's all been done. I can't start until it's perfect. What if the critics come? In this episode, Christa talks with Mary Marantz, Enneagram 4, about her journey from growing up in a trailer in rural West Virginia to becoming a Yale Law graduate, successful entrepreneur, and author, only to learn she was still underestimating herself. This empowering conversation explores how to overcome self-doubt, silence your inner critic, and stop playing small. Mary's powerful message will help you move from stuck to start, providing both inspiration and practical steps to push past fear and excuses. Join us for this transformative discussion with the host of the iTunes Top 200 podcast "The Mary Marantz Show" about embracing your worth and creating the impact only you can make, just as Mary shares insights from her perspective as an Enneagram 4 and discusses her brand new book "Underestimated" releasing tomorrow! Watch on YouTube Follow Mary here: https://marymarantz.com/ Get Mary's brand new book, Underestimated, here! https://a.co/d/e3eySUD https://www.instagram.com/marymarantz https://www.facebook.com/groups/marymarantzshow Find more relationship tools at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever wonder why personal growth seems to follow predictable patterns of progress and plateau? In this illuminating episode, we dive into one of the Enneagram's most fascinating but rarely discussed aspects: moving around the whole Enneagram system. Learn how this powerful concept applies to everything from skill-building to relationship development, and why certain growth points require conscious attention to move forward. Whether you're an Enneagram enthusiast wanting deeper understanding beyond type descriptions or someone curious about the hidden rhythms of personal transformation, this episode offers practical insights for recognizing where you are in various growth cycles and how to navigate the journey more consciously—both individually and in partnerships. Join us as we decode relationships and explore how we can continue to find personal growth, relationship challenges, and spiritual development. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this illuminating episode of the Enneagram and Marriage Podcast, we welcome Philip Nation, Vice-President/Publisher of Thomas Nelson Bibles and acclaimed author (Enneagram 4) to explore the powerful intersection of faith, scripture study, and marital connection. Philip shares his expertise on making the Bible accessible in relationships, offering practical wisdom for individual study as well as couples engagement on how to engage with scripture together. From his insights on The OPEN Bible's 50th Anniversary Edition to tailored study approaches that honor different personality types, this conversation provides individuuals and couples with tools to deepen both their spiritual journey and relationship intimacy. Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, Philip's balanced perspective on scripture study as a relationship practice will inspire meaningful connection with both your spouse and sacred texts. Philip Nation is the Vice-President/Publisher of Thomas Nelson Bibles. He has served as a pastor, church planter, and education minister in local churches. He frequently travels to speak in churches and for conferences. Philip earned a Doctor of Ministry from Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. He has authored and edited numerous books and Bible studies. Philip is a University Fellow for Arizona Christian University and has been a professor for Union University and Houston Christian University. Show links: View the Bible, including the Open Bible and the Abide Bible Phil recommends: https://www.thomasnelson.com/bibles/ Thomas Nelson Bibles: https://www.facebook.com/NelsonBibles/ The NKJV Bible: https://www.facebook.com/TheNKJVBible/ Nelson Bibles: https://www.instagram.com/nelsonbibles/ The NKJV Bible: https://www.instagram.com/thebiblenkjv/ The Open Bible https://youtu.be/Wx-uV4o7r9M Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this special mid-week mini episode, Christa explores the ancient practice of biblical lament as a pathway to deeper intimacy with God and our spouses. Discover why expressing honest sorrow and questions to God isn't just permitted but modeled throughout scripture—from the Psalms to Jesus himself on the cross. Learn how each Enneagram type bypasses lament or grief differently, and how understanding these patterns can help couples create sacred space for lament together. The episode offers practical day-by-day guidance for Holy Week, from a movement from mourning to dancing —not rushing to resurrection but finding Christ's presence in the shadows of the cross first. A timely reminder - listen here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this engaging episode, Brad and Sarah Johnson, a couple of over twenty years and co-founders of Triad Partners reveal how life as an entrepreneurial couple creates both unique challenges and extraordinary strengths in their marriage, family, and business. Brad and Sarah (types 7 and 6 pairing) share candidly about their journey and deep dive with us to the dark night of the soul moment of their marriage to climbing metaphorical mountains together, recognizing their different approaches to risk, planning, and connection to leveraging these differences to lead a thriving organization serving top 1% financial advisors and most importantly, making sure they don't lose their conection in the process of building their dreams. Discover their weekly relationship check-in ritual that's transformed their communication, how they navigate Sarah's security-seeking Type 6 energy with Brad's spontaneous Type 7 spirit, and practical insights for any couple balancing work and life together. The triad motto "Do Business, Do Life" comes alive through stories of how they've built a 100+ employee company while nurturing their relationship. If you're interested in how different Enneagram types can create powerful partnerships at home even amid work challenges, this conversation offers wisdom for turning potential friction points into your relationship and business's greatest assets. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/wT8PKMkIzHQ BRAD & SARAH'S SUNDAY CHECK-IN QUESTIONS Where did I show up for you this week or what do you appreciate about me as a partner? What feelings of hurt, frustration, or misunderstanding are left over from this week for you? What do you need me to hear or understand about them? How can I support you well as we go into a new week? What might you need from me? Can you tell me something you're proud of yourself for this week or share with me something you did well? Date night plans for this week? More Links: Follow Brad on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/bradjohnson.dbdl/ Visit Triad's website: https://triadpartners.com/the-movement/ Follow Triad on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/triadpartners/ Visit Brad's website and the DBDL podcast here: https://bradleyjohnson.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this heartfelt episode, discover the transformative power of "holding vigil" for your spouse through prayer and presence in a way that reallly costs, but also really gives, both to you and your spouse. Learn both general tips and how each Enneagram type uniquely supports their partner during difficult times and what challenges they face in staying present. Drawing from literary examples like Frodo and Sam, Atticus Finch and personal experiences, Christa explores how true empathy creates sacred space in marriage, and your faith journey, reflecting on Matthew 11:28. Perfect for couples seeking deeper connection through life's challenges. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Who can get in a sexy state of mind when they're dealing with the triple threat of emotional load, cognitive load, and the physical demands of partnership and parenting, too. Mental load inequity is now recognized as the leading source of relationship tension through research, but what can we do about that when not one but both partners feel equally burdened? In this enlightening conversation, we answer just that with relationship psychologist Dr. Morgan Cutlip (Type 9), as we explore the principles from her BRAND NEW book on a long-awaited topic, an already #1 Christian Marriage early marriage bestselling book "A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex." Drawing from her expertise in relationship psychology and her peacemaker perspective, Dr. Cutlip offers practical strategies for mental load sharing that honor each partner's strengths and abilities realistically. Discover why traditional approaches to division of labor often fail, how to recognize invisible contributions and specific communication tools that prevent resentment. Whether you're struggling with household management, parenting responsibilities, or emotional labor imbalance, this episode provides a framework for creating harmony without sacrificing anyone's well-being. Learn how a better share of responsibilities can lead not just to more equitable partnerships, but also to more fun, less resentment, and yes—even better sex. Watch on YouTube www.DrMorganCutlip.com If you're listening on our E + M podcast release date of Monday, April 7th, you can also use this to get the pre-order bonuses! https://drmorgancutlip.com/bs-preorder Get the new book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex here! https://a.co/d/g7e3qKv For more help discovering your relationship healing journey, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When your personality seems to straddle multiple Enneagram types, it can feel confusing or even invalidating. In this illuminating episode, we explore what it means when you identify strongly with two or more Enneagram patterns, referencing insights from Dr. Dan Siegel's previous conversation on the show. Discover why this "multi-type resonance" isn't a flaw in the system but potentially a more nuanced understanding of your personality structure. Learn practical approaches to growth when you're navigating multiple type patterns, how to discern which pattern might be tripping you up in specific situations, and how the Enneagram's Law of Three and Law of Seven provide a framework for understanding these complex dynamics. Whether you're a coach working with clients who don't fit neatly into one type or someone personally struggling to find your type home, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path forward for your Enneagram journey. Watch on YouTube Here! For more help discovering your type, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is a clean house a spiritual obligation? In this liberating conversation, Dana K. White, author of the brand new book, "Jesus Doesn't Care About Your Messy House," challenges the shame and spiritual baggage many attach to home management. This book is for you, if no matter how competent you feel in other parts of your life, you still feel overwhelmed and defeated by your messy home. While it's true that keeping a clean and organized living space can contribute to a sense of peace and well-being, it should never be equated with your worth, moral standing, or what Jesus thinks about you.With her characteristic honesty and practical wisdom, Dana reveals how our homes often become measuring sticks for our spiritual worth—and why this connection is both damaging and unbiblical. Drawing on her own journey from drowning in clutter to finding sustainable systems, Dana shares insights particularly helpful for those with creative personalities who may get scattered as well as analytical, information-gathering tendencies similar to Enneagram Type 5 traits. Discover why "how you're made" is different from "just the way you are," how to create systems that work with your natural tendencies rather than against them, and why "technically helping" differs from "actually helping" your household. This conversation offers both practical home management strategies and spiritual freedom for anyone who has ever felt judged—by others or themselves—for the state of their home. Find Dana's book here: https://a.co/d/auuIYEI Find Dana on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aslobcomesclean Find Dana's website here: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/ Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for more relationship resources! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How does your Enneagram type influence your experience of anxiety? In this insightful episode, we explore the unique ways each type encounters, processes, and responds to fear. Discover why Head types (5,6,7) intellectualize anxiety, Heart types (2,3,4) emotionalize it, and Body types (8,9,1) somaticize it—creating entirely different anxiety experiences. Learn how your type's core fears amplify specific anxieties and the unconscious strategies you've developed to manage them. Through compassionate exploration and practical tools, this episode offers a personalized approach to understanding your relationship with anxiety. Whether you're seeking to support a partner through anxious moments or develop greater self-awareness, these type-specific insights provide a roadmap for transforming your relationship with fear. With concrete practices for each type, this episode empowers you to recognize anxiety's early signals and respond with presence rather than reactivity. Find more at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this compelling conversation, bestselling author Ian Cron discusses his new book "The Fix," revealing how addiction in its many forms affects us all. Ian moves beyond stereotypical views of addiction to show how everyone struggles with attachments that promise fulfillment but ultimately leave us empty. With wisdom and compassion, he explains how isolation fuels our addictive cycles, while genuine community creates the environment for healing. Ian shares practical wisdom about how the steps of recovery offer a universal path toward grace and growth, regardless of what form our struggles take. This conversation offers hope for anyone feeling stuck in patterns they can't seem to break, illuminating how vulnerability and connection provide the foundation for lasting transformation. Watch the full interview on YouTube Resources mentioned in this episode: Ian's website: www.IanMorganCron.com Typology podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/typology/id1254061093 Typology Enneagram assessment: https://typologyinstitute.com/assessment "The Fix" on Amazon: https://a.co/d/e2nWVsv Visit Ian and Typology on Instagram For more great episodes and relationship help, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this transformative and quick episode, we walk together through several powerful practices to develop genuine internal validation. If you constantly seek others' approval or question your decisions, this episode is for you! Learn practical techniques to strengthen your self-trust and break the cycle of external validation right here. YouTube the episode here! Here we explore: Deliberate Self-Acknowledgment Practice Lived Evidence Documentation Faith-Based Self-Compassion Strategic Disengagement And more! This episode offers concrete tools to help you recognize and honor your inherent value—regardless of external opinions. Perfect for spouses, anxiously attached individuals, parents of unruly kids, people-pleasers, and anyone ready to build unshakable confidence from within. Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for even more tools to help you along the way! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this captivating episode, we're joined by Jim Zartman (Type 8) and Joel Hubbard (Type 7), creators of the groundbreaking Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers framework and book. This innovative lens reveals our survival instincts as well as helps us adapt in them, speaking of how our core drives shape everything from our leadership styles to our marriages. Discover whether you're primarily a Hunter (similar to Sexual/SX instinct, focused on intensity and risk-taking), a Farmer (aligned with Self-Preservation/SP, oriented toward resources and sustainability), or a Teamer (comparable to Social/SO, driven by connection and collaboration), and how to work with your strengths and blindspots, whatever the stackingg order of your instincts. Through illuminating stories and practical insights, Jim and Joel explain how recognizing these patterns can transform relationships, reduce burnout, and resolve persistent conflicts. Learn how instinct-diverse partnerships can leverage complementary strengths while navigating inherent tensions. Whether you're struggling with communication breakdowns or seeking to understand your own reaction patterns, this revolutionary framework we share on today's episode offers a compassionate path toward greater self-awareness and connection. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/I1vvmZVVRMQ Get the book Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers here: https://a.co/d/5tZcJDA Find their website here: https://www.theartofgrowth.org/ Find their Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/artofgrowth/?hl=en Find the Art of Growth podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-of-growth/id1404087288 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many couples avoid "relationship check-ins" because they feel awkward or turn into criticism sessions. This episode offers a completely different approach - a structured 30-minute blueprint that creates safety, deepens understanding, and builds practical solutions together that Christa shares both here and in this mini-episode. You'll learn: The reminder that research backs how healthy addressing and communication dramatically improve relationship satisfaction A simple 3-part framework for your monthly meeting (Connection, Exploration, Solutions) How to adapt the process for different Enneagram types Practical tips to ensure the experience feels positive and productive Whether you've been together for decades or just starting out, this monthly blueprint provides a sustainable way to stay connected amidst busy lives. Download the accompanying PDF guide from Christa's website to make implementation easy. Listen now! Give just 30 minutes a month to intentional connection, and watch your relationship transform! Get the 30 Min Monthly Relationship Blueprint meeting here! >> https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-monthly-blueprint-meeting.

What happens when we make our partners the center of our emotional universe? In this insightful episode with Christa walking us through the concept of decentralization, we explore the delicate art of "decentralizing" your partner—a powerful practice that counterintuitively strengthens intimate connections. Through the lens of marriage theory, including but not limited to the Enneagram, we discover how constant emotional monitoring can suffocate even the most loving relationships. Learn to recognize signs you've over-centralized your partner, understand how your Enneagram type influences this tendency, and best of all, walk through a practical anxiety exercise with Christa to help you create healthy space while maintaining deep connection. Whether you're feeling anxious about your partner's every mood shift or struggling with boundary issues, this episode offers compassionate guidance for finding that sweet spot where both individuals can thrive within the relationship. Find resources and coaching info at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens when we open our hearts and homes to others? Craig and Laura Cooper join us to share their extraordinary journey of faith and generosity that inspired MercyMe's song and Walker Hayes' music video "Craig." The Coopers discuss how their Type 3w4 and Type 9 Enneagram dynamics shape their approach to hospitality, and how a simple act of giving a minivan to a family in need sparked a profound spiritual transformation. Learn how small acts of generosity can create ripple effects of change, and discover practical ways to cultivate a spirit of giving in your own relationships and community right here! Watch on YouTube Find the song with Walker Hayes/MercyMe written about Craig and Laura on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pLNTewIfrg and Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/1S9Yxo8bniCYywEMCposAl Find Craig's book here with Mercy Me/Walker Hayes: https://www.amazon.com/Glad-Youre-Here-Unlikely-Breaking/dp/0802424716 Find Craig's Instagram here! https://www.instagram.com/craigallencooper/?hl=en Join the special free women's event beginning today at the Wholehearted Abundance Summit where Christa will be speaking this week here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us for a powerful conversation with Justin and Trisha Davis about breaking the cycles that hurt our relationships. From navigating infidelity to rebuilding trust, they share how understanding their Enneagram dynamic as an 8w7 and 3w2 couple has transformed their marriage and ministry. Discover practical wisdom for breaking free from shame, resentment, and fear while creating new patterns of connection. Whether you're facing betrayal or seeking to prevent it, this episode offers hope for lasting change—one choice at a time.

Join Christa and award-winning writer and professor Kimberly Phinney for a tender yet powerful conversation about navigating suffering in marriage. Through her own journey with critical illness and her work as a poet and literature scholar, Kimberly shares how pain can become a doorway to deeper connection. Discover how writing becomes medicine, how presence matters more than perfection, and how to find unexpected gifts in life's darkest seasons as spouses by one another's sides through sickness and in health. Whether you're in the midst of suffering or supporting a partner through pain, this episode offers hope, practical wisdom, and a gentle reminder that beauty can grow in broken places.

Join us for this powerful conversation with Dr. Julie Menanno (@TheSecureRelationship), whose work has helped millions transform their attachment patterns. From her national bestseller "Secure Love" to her viral Instagram insights, Julie brings practical wisdom about creating lasting security in relationships. Whether you're navigating anxious or avoidant patterns, or seeking to build deeper trust, this episode offers hope and concrete steps toward secure connection. Get ready to transform how you love!

Ever wonder why your partner acts completely different under stress? Join Christa as we explore the Enneagram arrows - your map to understanding relationship patterns in both stress and growth, as we move expansively from just your main type to see other typical moves we can expect from each Enneagram pattern. Whether you're navigating challenges or building connection, discover how these natural movements affect your marriage. Perfect for couples seeking deeper understanding of their relationship dynamics!

Join us for a powerful must-listen conversation with bestselling author Sheila Rae Gregoire, 8, about creating true partnership in marriage. Using evidence-based research and biblical wisdom, Sheila and her team challenge outdated stereotypes while offering practical paths to genuine intimacy! Whether you're seeking deeper connection or wanting to build a stronger team approach with your spouse, this episode offers fresh perspective and real hope. Get ready for truth that transforms!

Join Christa as we explore the transformative power of letting your partner be exactly who they are as we pair the Mel Robbins' "Let Them" theory with the Enneagram. Discover how releasing the need to fix, change, or perfect your spouse creates deeper connection and authentic love. Whether you're learning to release control or seeking to understand differences, this episode offers practical wisdom for creating more freedom in your marriage. Get ready to transform your relationship through the power of permission! Perfect for couples ready to exchange improvement for acceptance.

Timing can make or break a crucial conversation in marriage. Learn the science-backed best times for difficult discussions, understand your partner's readiness signals, and discover type-specific approaches to timing-sensitive conversations. Transform potential conflicts into opportunities for deeper connection. We talk about the tips through the lens of the most powerful marriage systems, Gottman, EFT, CBT, IFS, and of course, Enneagram! Listen here! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/YHHpXgjh3PE Join the Enneagram Relationship Intensive (Limited Space!) https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/intensive For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us with bestselling author Tori Hope Petersen as we explore breaking free from patterns that hold us back in relationships just as she launches her new book, "Breaking the Patterns That Break You: Healing From the Pain of Your Past and Finding Real Hope That Lasts". From foster care to flourishing family, Tori shares powerful insights about healing generational wounds while building healthy connection. Whether you're carrying childhood patterns or supporting a partner through healing, this episode offers hope and practical wisdom for breaking cycles and building love. Get ready for deep truth and transformative hope!

Join us with EJ Kerwin, LPC and Terah Kerwin, LMFT (5-2 pairing), founders of Relationship Renovation as we explore how every couple can build secure, stable connections together. Drawing from their work with countless couples across seasons and temperament combinations, join us for an episode filled with wisdom for creating unshakeable bonds. Whether you're naturally anxious or avoidant, an external processor or internal thinker, this episode offers hope and concrete steps for deepening your connection. Get ready to transform your relationship's foundation!

Join Christa as we explore the delicate dance of healing childhood wounds within marriage. Discover how to create safe spaces for growth, understand your partner's healing journey, and navigate triggers with grace. Whether you're supporting a partner through their past pain or seeking understanding of your own patterns, this episode offers practical wisdom and hopeful strategies for growing together. Let's transform old wounds into deeper connection!

Ready to move beyond theory into real transformation? Join us as bestselling author Stephanie Barron Hall unpacks how different types accidentally trigger each other, why some people love conflict while others run from it, and what to do when communication styles clash. Whether you're new to the Enneagram or a seasoned explorer, this episode offers fresh insights and practical tools for real-life growth. Get ready to understand yourself and others in a whole new way!

Ever feel like your partner's Enneagram patterns are pulling you into a dance you didn't sign up for? In this transformative episode, we explore how to support your partner's growth journey without losing yourself in their challenges. Using real-life examples (including a story about an airplane seat that almost made us late!), discover practical ways to love your partner through their growth edge while staying grounded in your own path. Get ready for freedom, joy, and deeper connection!

What happens when your kids grow up and start their own families? How do you maintain boundaries while building bridges? In this heart-warming episode, Ro Elliot shares wisdom about using the Enneagram to navigate family transitions with grace. Whether you're becoming a grandparent, welcoming new in-laws, or simply watching your family dynamics evolve, this episode offers practical insights for growing together through life's changes. Get ready for stories, strategies, and soulful wisdom about creating a legacy of love!

Think you know the Enneagram? Think again! This myth-busting episode challenges common stereotypes about each type, including the often-misunderstood Types 6 & 9. We're diving deep into why behavior doesn't equal type, how health levels change everything, and why motivation matters more than actions. Perfect for both beginners and experienced Enneagram enthusiasts who want to move beyond surface-level understanding. Get ready to challenge what you think you know about each type!

Confused about your Enneagram type? In this beginner-friendly episode, we're exploring three powerful ways to understand your type: through Intelligence Centers (Head, Heart, Gut), Harmonic Groups (how you handle problems), and Harmony Groups (how you move through life). Whether you process through thinking, feeling, or doing, this episode will help you find your home in the Enneagram. Get ready for clear, practical insights that make type-finding feel less overwhelming!

Ever wonder why your partner's different approach to life - the very things that sometimes drive you crazy - might be exactly what you need? In this energizing episode of Enneagram and Marriage, we explore the beautiful paradox of how our partner's contrasting Enneagram type isn't just a challenge - it's actually our greatest opportunity for personal growth! Whether you're a detailed Type 1 married to a spontaneous Type 7, or a peace-keeping Type 9 with an assertive Type 8, discover how these differences are secretly sculpting you into your best self. Get ready for powerful aha moments and practical strategies to transform relationship friction into personal gold!

Ready to unlock the hidden superpower your Enneagram type brings to your marriage? This week on Enneagram and Marriage, we're diving into each type's unique gifts that can transform an ordinary relationship into an extraordinary one! From the Type 2s emotional intelligence to the Type 5s depth of insight, every type has a special gift that can revolutionize your connection. Whether you're new to the Enneagram or a seasoned enthusiast, you'll discover fresh ways to leverage your natural strengths and appreciate your partner's contributions. Get ready to supercharge your marriage with type-specific wisdom!

Here on the very first episode of the year on the Enneagram & Marriage Podcast, we're exploring what meaningful resolutions look like for each Enneagram type within marriage. We'll talk about why blanket advice like "communicate better" might resonate differently with a One than it does with a Seven. We'll discuss how a Four's path to being more present looks vastly different from a Three's journey to the same goal. Most importantly, we also focus on authenticity. Because the most powerful resolutions aren't about changing who you are - they're about becoming more fully yourself in your marriage. They're about understanding your unique gifts and challenges, and using that awareness to grow closer to your partner. So whether you're an Eight learning to embrace vulnerability, a Two discovering healthy boundaries, or a Nine finding your voice in your relationship - this episode is about crafting resolutions that honor your true self while strengthening your marriage. Let's move beyond the surface-level changes that don't stick, and instead, dive into the kind of intentional growth that transforms relationships from the inside out. Are you ready? Let's dive in - together! Also, our E + M Membership, the Collective, is here and open for membership now Jan 1-8th!! Join here for only $29 a month and get four extra joy-filled, practical marriage coaching new episodes a month just for you along with a monthly training Zoom call with Christa, and more here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership-join For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ready to celebrate your love story? In this intimate year-end episode, Christa guides you and your partner through capturing your most precious moments of 2024. From belly laughs to breakthrough conversations, you'll preserve the magic of your journey while planting seeds for an even deeper connection in 2025. With our free interactive prompts (and worksheet for Collective members), you'll discover the beautiful wisdom hidden in your everyday moments together. Don't let these memories fade - let's turn them into gold - together!! Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.be/KS1il2uPg20 Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! Use the code NEWYEAR2025 for your E + M 52 Week Couple's Planner for $20 off here!: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/enneagram-glow-planner You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices