Healing Starts with the Heart

Episode Summary: In this heartfelt episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, Sharon Brubaker opens the door to a topic many avoid—your grief story. Not the polite, watered-down version, but the real, raw, unfiltered story of what happened, what you felt, and what you still carry. Sharon explains why telling this story—first to yourself and then to others—is a necessary part of healing. She shares how the truth of our pain holds the key to transformation, connection, and true emotional release. Whether you've lost a person, a dream, a relationship, or a piece of yourself—this episode invites you to step into your truth, name your grief, and be seen in your pain without shame or apology. Key Points Discussed: Why your real grief story matters more than the “acceptable” version The physical, emotional, and spiritual toll of holding your story in How your brain and body record every detail of trauma and grief The difference between what we tell others and what we need to tell ourselves How society pressures us to hide our pain—and why that compounds it The power of grief storytelling in community and connection Sharon's personal grief stories—and how they continue to evolve The freedom and healing that come from speaking your story out loud Journal Questions for Reflection: Who were you before your loss, and who are you now? What part of your story have you never said out loud? What do you still carry in silence? What changed in your life that no one else sees? What would it feel like to tell the truth about your grief story? What is something you lost beyond the person—was it safety, identity, future plans? What do you want the world to know about the depth of your pain? Conclusion: Your grief story matters. All of it. Not just the death or the loss, but what it did to your soul, your routine, your identity. And while you may have been taught to hide your pain, Sharon reminds us that real healing starts when we stop editing our story to protect others. Speak the truth. Say what happened. Say what still hurts. Because when you tell your story, you make room for healing—not only for yourself but for others walking this same painful road. Contact Us: Have a question, story, or want to connect with Sharon?

In this empowering episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, Sharon Brubaker pulls back the curtain on one of the greatest grief misconceptions: that we need to learn how to grieve. Sharon reveals a deeper truth—we were all born knowing how to grieve. From your first cry to your instinct to reach out when in pain, grief is not something to be taught but something we've been taught to forget. Through raw, compassionate storytelling and the powerful example of a client who found her way back to healing, Sharon reminds us that grief is not a flaw—it's our body and spirit doing exactly what they were designed to do. If you've ever questioned your tears, your numbness, or the way your grief looks—this episode is for you. Key Points Discussed: You didn't lose your ability to grieve—you were born with it The world unteaches us how to grieve by rewarding silence and pretending Grief is a full-body, nervous system experience—not just emotional pain Your grief is not wrong, too big, too heavy, or something to be fixed Real healing begins when we stop performing and start expressing honestly A powerful story of a widow rediscovering her voice in Grief Study Hall Why your body still remembers how to release what hurts—without needing a manual Journal Questions for Reflection: When did you first start to believe your grief was “too much”? How have you been performing instead of feeling your grief? What rules or messages about grief have shaped your current experience? How has your body been trying to express grief—and have you been listening? What would it look like to stop apologizing for your grief? Are you willing to trust that you still know how to grieve? Conclusion: You don't need to learn how to grieve—you need to remember that you already know. Your tears are not signs of weakness, your pain is not brokenness, and your emotions are not something to hide. They're sacred. They're real. They're part of the healing. Sharon invites you to stop apologizing, stop performing, and return to what your body, your heart, and your spirit already know how to do: grieve. Contact Us: Have a question, story, or want to connect with Sharon? Email: hello@thegriefschool.com Join the Grief Study Hall every Tuesday from 1–3 PM CST Facebook: The Grief School Facebook Group TikTok: @thegriefschool Website: clickhereforhope.com

In this raw and deeply honest episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, Sharon Brubaker invites listeners into the messy, painful, and necessary truth of what it means to lean in to grief. Instead of hiding, numbing, or pretending you're okay, Sharon challenges you to stop running from the pain and start facing it head-on. This is not about suffering for suffering's sake—it's about healing the only way that works: by feeling it all. If you've ever told yourself, “If I let this out, I'll never stop crying,” this episode is for you. Sharon unpacks the myths we're told about grief, the lies we believe to stay strong, and what it truly means to begin moving pain through you—not around you. Key Points Discussed: Why avoidance only deepens and prolongs grief The dangerous myth that time alone heals grief What “leaning into the pain” actually looks like in real life How grief lives in the body—and what happens when we suppress it The truth about emotional numbness and false strength Why staying “composed” is not the same as healing The power of sitting with your grief, naming your pain, and giving it space The importance of breaking free from performative grieving and moving into true processing How leaning in, little by little, helps you reclaim pieces of yourself Real-life stories of clients who finally allowed themselves to cry—and what happened next Why grief is not a lifetime sentence, unless you choose it to be Journal Questions for Reflection: What pain have you been avoiding in your grief? Where in your body do you feel the heaviness of your loss? What lies have you been told (or believed) about being strong? What might shift if you gave yourself permission to fall apart today? Can you name a moment when you chose numbness over feeling? What did that cost you? What part of your grief needs to be witnessed right now—by you? Conclusion: Grief demands to be felt. Not hidden, not ignored, not scheduled. And the truth is, real healing only begins when you choose to lean in. You don't have to be strong. You don't have to pretend. You just have to show up—to your own pain—with honesty and compassion. You'll find that in the leaning, there's light. There's breath. There's a path forward. Contact Us: Have a question, story, or want to connect with Sharon?

Episode Summary: In this powerful and deeply personal episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker explores the raw truth behind her book Grieve That Sht*. Through honest storytelling and lived experience, Sharon unpacks “the grief sh*t”—the real, often unspoken pain that comes with loss—and what it actually feels like in the body, mind, and soul. This episode is a lifeline for anyone navigating the devastating aftermath of grief and looking for real talk, not clichés. Key Points Discussed: The origin and meaning behind the book title Grieve That Sht* What "the sh*t" really is: the messy, painful, and often invalidated experience of grieving Grief as a full-body, biological, emotional, and intellectual experience The myth of “moving on,” “closure,” and other harmful expectations Why people say the wrong things, and how to hold your truth anyway You can't outthink grief—you have to feel your way through it Grief is more than death: it includes lost dreams, identities, relationships, and futures Journal Questions for Reflection: What does "the grief sh*t" look like in your life right now? When have you tried to “outthink” your grief, and how did that feel in your body? How do you resist grief—and what might it feel like to let go just a little? What parts of your life or identity have you grieved that weren't related to death? What's one honest answer you could give someone if they asked how you're really doing? Conclusion: Grief isn't just emotional—it's physical, spiritual, and all-consuming. It changes everything, and there's no handbook, no timeline, no “right” way to do it. But one truth remains: you are not broken. You are grieving, and your body knows what to do. You don't have to hold your breath through it—you can let yourself breathe again. Let this episode be your reminder: you're doing a damn good job just making it through today.

A Wake-Up Call for Every Griever Episode Summary: In this powerful kickoff to Healing Starts with a Heart, Sharon Brubaker gets real about what it means to truly grieve. This episode introduces the unapologetic truth behind her upcoming book, Grieve That Sht*. Sharon shares the raw inspiration for the title, why she refuses to sugarcoat grief, and why it's time for all grievers to stop hiding. If you've ever felt suffocated by forced positivity, misunderstood by the people around you, or overwhelmed by the hidden layers of loss—this episode is for you. This is more than a conversation. It's a declaration. It's your permission to grieve loudly, deeply, and truthfully. Key Points Discussed: The story behind the bold title Grieve That Sht* Why we need to stop hiding in our grief The difference between grieving the person vs. grieving the secondary losses The lies grievers are told by society—and why they don't help The world's broken response to grief and how it adds to our pain Sharon's personal journey and the defining moment that sparked this movement The true meaning of giving yourself permission to heal What it means to grieve on your own terms How the book and Sharon's grief programs are transforming the healing process Journal Questions for Reflection: What “grief sh*t” have you been carrying that no one sees? How has the world responded to your grief, and how did that make you feel? In what ways have you felt pressure to “move on” before you were ready? What would it look like for you to grieve truthfully and unapologetically? Where do you still need to give yourself permission to heal? Conclusion: This episode sets the tone for a new kind of grief healing journey—one rooted in truth, resilience, and radical permission. Sharon isn't just writing a book. She's starting a movement. One that says you no longer have to grieve in silence, put on a brave face, or make other people comfortable. You get to grieve this sh*t. All of it. Every last bit. Because that's how healing starts—with a heart wide open. Contact Us: Have a question, story, or want to connect with Sharon? Email us at: hello@thegriefschool.com Follow Sharon on TikTok: @thegriefschool Learn more or join our next healing weekend at: www.thegriefschool.com You can also follow and connect with us at: clickhereforhope.com

Grieve That Sht – A Wake-Up Call for Every Griever Episode Summary: In this powerful kickoff to Healing Starts with a Heart, Sharon Brubaker gets real about what it means to truly grieve. This episode introduces the unapologetic truth behind her upcoming book, Grieve That Sht*. Sharon shares the raw inspiration for the title, why she refuses to sugarcoat grief, and why it's time for all grievers to stop hiding. If you've ever felt suffocated by forced positivity, misunderstood by the people around you, or overwhelmed by the hidden layers of loss—this episode is for you. This is more than a conversation. It's a declaration. It's your permission to grieve loudly, deeply, and truthfully. Key Points Discussed: The story behind the bold title Grieve That Sht* Why we need to stop hiding in our grief The difference between grieving the person vs. grieving the secondary losses The lies grievers are told by society—and why they don't help The world's broken response to grief and how it adds to our pain Sharon's personal journey and the defining moment that sparked this movement The true meaning of giving yourself permission to heal What it means to grieve on your own terms How the book and Sharon's grief programs are transforming the healing process Journal Questions for Reflection: What "grief sh*t" have you been carrying that no one sees? How has the world responded to your grief, and how did that make you feel? In what ways have you felt pressure to “move on” before you were ready? What would it look like for you to grieve truthfully and unapologetically? Where do you still need to give yourself permission to heal? Conclusion: This episode sets the tone for a new kind of grief healing journey—one rooted in truth, resilience, and radical permission. Sharon isn't just writing a book. She's starting a movement. One that says you no longer have to grieve in silence, put on a brave face, or make other people comfortable. You get to grieve this sh*t. All of it. Every last bit. Because that's how healing starts—with a heart wide open. Contact Us: Have a question, story, or want to connect with Sharon? Email us at: hello@thegriefschool.com Follow Sharon on TikTok: @thegriefschool Learn more or join our next healing weekend at: www.thegriefschool.com You can also follow and connect with us at: clickhereforhope.com

The Lies We've Been Told About Grief Episode Description: In this eye-opening episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker confronts the damaging lies we've all been told about grief. From childhood, we are handed false beliefs like: • “Don't feel bad” • “Be strong” • “Time will heal” • “You should get over it” Sharon dives deep into how these messages have distorted our understanding of grief and often cause us to suppress or deny the pain we're carrying. She shares her own personal experience with the grief that no one warned her about, and how unlearning these toxic myths led her on a path of true healing. If you've ever felt like your grief didn't fit into the tidy boxes society sets for it, this episode is a must-listen. Sharon invites you to release the shame and guilt tied to these lies, offering a new, empowering perspective on what it truly means to grieve and heal. Key Points Discussed: The Lies We've Been Taught About Grief Why pretending to be “strong” and “moving on” can actually hold us back from healing. How Grief Should Really Be Handled Understanding grief as a personal journey that requires space, time, and the willingness to feel deeply. The Cost of Suppressing Grief How ignoring your grief can lead to long-term emotional pain, and why it's crucial to face it head-on. Grief as a Journey, Not a Destination Grief doesn't follow a timeline, and healing doesn't mean you “get over it.” It means you learn to live with it. Journal Questions for Reflection: What lies about grief have you been told or have believed? How do you feel when others tell you to “move on” or “be strong”? What would it look like if you gave yourself permission to grieve openly and without judgment? Join the Journey: Grief doesn't follow a simple, linear path, but Sharon is here to help you navigate it with compassion. Visit The Grief School for more resources, and join our Study Hall sessions every Tuesday and Thursday. You can also connect with Sharon during her live sessions on TikTok and Facebook.

  The Truth About Time and Why It Won't Heal Your Grief Episode Description: In this powerful episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker challenges one of the most common myths about grief: that time alone will heal all wounds. With raw honesty and deep personal reflection, Sharon explores the ways time affects grief—not by erasing pain, but by revealing the spaces where healing is still needed. She shares her own journey of realizing just how long it has been since she last saw and spoke to her loved ones, and the surprising emotions that surfaced when she did the math. If you've ever wondered why your grief still feels fresh after months or even years, this episode will provide clarity, validation, and a new perspective on how to navigate healing with intention. Key Points Discussed: The Myth of Time as a Healer Why waiting for time to "fix" grief often leads to more frustration and heartache. What Time Actually Does Time reveals unresolved pain, surfaces hidden emotions, and shows us where healing still needs attention. The Power of Intentional Healing Healing doesn't happen passively—it requires action, awareness, and willingness to face the grief head-on. Softening vs. Healing Time may soften the edges of grief, but true healing comes when we actively engage in our healing journey. Journal Questions for Reflection: What has time revealed to you about your grief? What emotions resurface for you again and again? How can you lean into your grief with intention instead of waiting for time to pass? Join the Journey: Healing takes time, but it also takes intention. If you're ready to move forward with purpose, explore resources at The Grief School, join our Study Hall sessions every Tuesday and Thursday, or follow Sharon's live sessions on TikTok and Facebook.

Grief and the Journey of Healing Grief is a deeply personal and often misunderstood experience. Society tends to encourage moving on quickly, but true healing comes from acknowledging and processing grief rather than suppressing it. Sharon Brubaker, a grief specialist with over 18 years of experience, guides individuals through their healing journeys with compassion and practical tools. Rather than avoiding grief, embracing it with awareness can lead to emotional recovery. Suppressing grief may seem like the easiest option, but unprocessed emotions often resurface in unexpected ways. By allowing yourself to sit with your emotions, you create space for healing. Journal Questions for Reflection Take a moment to reflect on your grief journey with these questions. Writing down your thoughts can help you gain clarity and insight: Have you been keeping yourself busy as a way to cope with grief? How has that been working for you? What are some unexpected ways your grief has shown up in your daily life? When was the last time you truly allowed yourself to sit with your emotions? How did it feel? What would it look like for you to practice awareness and acknowledgment of your grief today? Conclusion Remember, grief is not something to “get over”—it's something to tend to with care and compassion. Sharon encourages you to challenge societal norms, embrace your grief, and practice self-awareness. When we allow ourselves to process grief instead of suppressing it, true healing becomes possible. Resources and Support Processing the Pain of Grief Program – A guided, step-by-step approach to navigating loss and healing. Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook Group: The Grief School – Connect with others who understand and support your journey. Contact: Email Sharon at sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for being part of this journey. You are not alone.

Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker sheds light on the exhausting and relentless nature of grief. She challenges the common advice to “give it time” and explains why grief pain demands to be felt. Through personal stories and deep insights, Sharon provides listeners with practical steps to lean into their grief and begin processing it in a healthy way. Key Points Discussed: Why Grief Feels Exhausting Grief takes every bit of your energy, leaving you physically and emotionally drained. Staying busy and distracted may seem like a solution, but it doesn't make the pain go away. The exhaustion of grief is real—it's as if all your nerve endings are exposed, making even small tasks feel overwhelming. The Myth of “Time Heals All” Many are told to just “give it time,” but time alone does not heal grief. Pain has a purpose—it demands to be felt and processed before true healing can begin. Avoiding grief only causes it to show up unexpectedly, in ways we don't anticipate. The Chatter of Grief Grief creates an ongoing mental dialogue, much like background noise that never stops. Unprocessed grief thoughts turn into overwhelming emotions that take over daily life. The only way to quiet the chatter is to acknowledge and process the emotions tied to it. Our Culture Teaches Us to Push Through Society conditions us to suppress grief, offering minimal time to grieve before returning to “normal.” We have been led to believe that grief has an expiration date, but real healing comes from actively tending to our pain. A Simple Practice for Processing Grief Instead of pushing grief away, pause and acknowledge its presence. Identify the emotion you're feeling—sadness, loneliness, anger—and name it. Lean into the emotion rather than resisting it, allowing it to pass through you. This intentional awareness helps relieve the weight of grief over time. Journal Questions for Reflection: Have you been trying to stay busy to avoid your grief? How has that affected you? What are some ways your grief is showing up unexpectedly in your life? When was the last time you truly allowed yourself to sit with your emotions? How did it feel? What would it look like for you to practice awareness and acknowledgment of your grief today? Conclusion: Grief is not something to “get over”—it is something to tend to with care. Sharon encourages listeners to challenge societal norms, embrace their grief, and practice awareness. By learning to process grief instead of suppressing it, healing becomes possible. Resources and Support: Processing the Pain of Grief Program – Learn the step-by-step approach to healing. Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook Group: The Grief School Contact: Email Sharon at sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for listening!

The Truth About Grief: Why Pain Demands to Be Felt Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker sheds light on the exhausting and relentless nature of grief. She challenges the common advice to “give it time” and explains why grief pain demands to be felt. Through personal stories and deep insights, Sharon provides listeners with practical steps to lean into their grief and begin processing it in a healthy way. Key Points Discussed: Why Grief Feels Exhausting Grief takes every bit of your energy, leaving you physically and emotionally drained. Staying busy and distracted may seem like a solution, but it doesn't make the pain go away. The exhaustion of grief is real—it's as if all your nerve endings are exposed, making even small tasks feel overwhelming. The Myth of “Time Heals All” Many are told to just “give it time,” but time alone does not heal grief. Pain has a purpose—it demands to be felt and processed before true healing can begin. Avoiding grief only causes it to show up unexpectedly, in ways we don't anticipate. The Chatter of Grief Grief creates an ongoing mental dialogue, much like background noise that never stops. Unprocessed grief thoughts turn into overwhelming emotions that take over daily life. The only way to quiet the chatter is to acknowledge and process the emotions tied to it. Our Culture Teaches Us to Push Through Society conditions us to suppress grief, offering minimal time to grieve before returning to “normal.” We have been led to believe that grief has an expiration date, but real healing comes from actively tending to our pain. A Simple Practice for Processing Grief Instead of pushing grief away, pause and acknowledge its presence. Identify the emotion you're feeling—sadness, loneliness, anger—and name it. Lean into the emotion rather than resisting it, allowing it to pass through you. This intentional awareness helps relieve the weight of grief over time. Journal Questions for Reflection: Have you been trying to stay busy to avoid your grief? How has that affected you? What are some ways your grief is showing up unexpectedly in your life? When was the last time you truly allowed yourself to sit with your emotions? How did it feel? What would it look like for you to practice awareness and acknowledgment of your grief today? Conclusion: Grief is not something to “get over”—it is something to tend to with care. Sharon encourages listeners to challenge societal norms, embrace their grief, and practice awareness. By learning to process grief instead of suppressing it, healing becomes possible. Resources and Support: Join Grief Study Hall – Connect with others in a supportive environment: Tuesdays at 1 PM CST & Thursdays at 10 AM CST. Processing the Pain of Grief Program – Learn the step-by-step approach to healing. Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook Group: The Grief School Contact: Email Sharon at sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for listening! Stay tuned for more conversations on grief, healing, and resilience.

The Hidden Cost of Unprocessed Grief Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker delves into the often-overlooked process of truly understanding and working through grief. She challenges the misconceptions around "moving on" and highlights the importance of acknowledging and processing pain as essential steps toward healing. Through personal experiences and expert insights, Sharon shares a powerful approach to grief that transforms pain into progress. Key Points Discussed: Why Grief Feels Endless Many people struggle with lingering grief for years because they were never taught how to process it properly. Healing doesn't mean forgetting—it means learning to carry grief in a healthy way. Ignoring pain only intensifies it, making healing feel impossible. Acknowledging the Pain as a First Step The first step to healing is recognizing and allowing yourself to feel the pain of grief. Suppressing grief leads to emotional wounds that can fester, much like an untreated physical injury. Saying "This hurts" and acknowledging grief's presence is a powerful act of self-compassion. The Role of Processing Grief Healing requires intentional work—grief is not something you simply "get over." Before true emotional healing can begin, one must first learn how to grieve. Processing grief involves daily, small steps rather than a single breakthrough moment. Understanding the Two-Part Healing Approach Processing the Pain of Grief: Identifying and working through the pain step by step. The Courage to Grieve: Once pain has been processed, this stage allows for deeper grief work and transformation. Healing is not about erasing pain but about learning to tend to it properly. Journal Questions for Reflection: Have you been avoiding your grief, and if so, in what ways? How does unprocessed pain show up in your life? What small steps can you take today to begin acknowledging and tending to your grief? How can you reframe your grief as a process rather than something to "get over"? Conclusion: Grief is not an enemy—it is a signal that healing needs to take place. Sharon encourages listeners to take the first step by acknowledging their pain and starting the process of working through it. With the right tools and mindset, grief can become a pathway to resilience and growth rather than an overwhelming burden. Resources and Support: Join Grief Study Hall – Connect with others in a supportive environment: Tuesdays at 1 PM CST & Thursdays at 10 AM CST. Processing the Pain of Grief Program – A step-by-step guide to tending to your grief. Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook Group: The Grief School Contact: Email Sharon at sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for listening! Stay tuned for more conversations on healing, grief, and resilience.  

Honoring Your Loved One While Thriving in Grief Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker explores the powerful connection between honoring a loved one's memory and finding personal growth through grief. She challenges the common belief that grieving and thriving are opposites, showing how they can coexist. Through personal stories and practical guidance, Sharon helps listeners embrace healing while keeping their loved one's legacy alive. Key Points Discussed: The Coexistence of Grief and Growth Grief doesn't mean a life of endless suffering, and thriving doesn't mean forgetting your person. Healing involves learning to carry grief while finding purpose and moments of joy. Honoring Their Memory Through Storytelling Sharing stories keeps your loved one's presence alive in your heart and helps others who are grieving. Personal anecdotes, cherished memories, and creative expressions can become healing tools. How Loss Deepens Relationships Grief can shift the way we interact with others, often leading to deeper connections with family and friends. Simple gestures like saying “I love you” more often or creating new traditions in their honor can be powerful acts of remembrance. Finding Meaning in Grief Reflecting on how grief has changed your perspective, passions, or career can help channel pain into personal growth. Identifying lessons from your loss can shape the way you move forward while still honoring your person. Journal Questions for Reflection: What are the ways you currently honor your loved one's memory? How has grief reshaped your relationships with others? What lessons have you learned from your journey through loss? How can sharing your person's story bring healing to you and others? Conclusion: Grief is life-changing, but it doesn't mean you have to be forever broken. Sharon encourages listeners to find ways to keep their loved one's spirit alive while embracing growth and healing. By sharing their stories and allowing grief to be part of their journey, they can create a meaningful legacy of love and resilience. Resources and Support: Join Grief Study Hall – Connect with others in a supportive environment: Tuesdays at 1 PM CST & Thursdays at 10 AM CST. Grief Assessment – Schedule a personalized session with Sharon. Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook Group: The Grief School Contact: Email Sharon at sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for listening! Stay tuned for more conversations on healing, grief, and resilience.

Grief as a Full-Body Experience Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker uncovers the physical, emotional, and mental toll of grief. She explains how grief affects every part of the body, from emotions to physical health, and discusses ways to recognize and address these effects. Sharon shares her own experiences and offers tools to help listeners navigate the overwhelming, full-body impact of grief. Key Points Discussed: Grief Affects Every Part of You Grief is more than an emotional experience; it impacts the mind, body, heart, and soul. Physical symptoms such as headaches, stomach issues, muscle pain, and changes in appetite are common. Sharon urges listeners to seek medical attention for persistent symptoms while understanding their connection to grief. Six Areas Affected by Grief Feelings: Grief brings intense, unpredictable emotions such as sadness, anger, and confusion. These emotions can feel like waves or roller coasters, and avoiding them only prolongs the pain. Sharon shares how she suppressed her grief after her nephew's death, showing how unprocessed emotions can surface later. Thoughts: Grief triggers overwhelming thoughts, often leading to beliefs like “No one understands me” or “I'll never be happy again.” These repetitive thoughts influence emotions and behaviors, keeping grievers stuck. Recognizing and addressing grief-related thoughts is a vital step toward healing. Behaviors: Grief can cause out-of-character behaviors, such as overeating, drinking excessively, or neglecting self-care. Sharon emphasizes the importance of being gentle with yourself and allowing space for these behaviors while gradually working toward healthier habits. Beliefs: Grief can challenge religious, spiritual, and personal beliefs, leading to questions about justice, fairness, and the meaning of life. Some grievers find their faith strengthened, while others may feel disconnected or uncertain. Physical Health: The physical toll of grief includes headaches, joint pain, sleep disturbances, and more. Sharon advises seeking professional help for health concerns while also understanding that grief is a contributing factor. Purpose: Grief can shake your sense of purpose, leading to feelings of hopelessness or questioning life's meaning. While these thoughts are unsettling, they are a natural part of the grieving process and a step toward redefining your purpose. Journal Questions for Reflection: What emotions have been the strongest for you during this grieving experience? What thoughts do you find yourself repeating since your loss? How has your grief affected your behaviors or habits? Have your beliefs about life, faith, or fairness changed? How? What physical symptoms have you noticed during your grief? How has grief made you question or redefine your purpose? Conclusion: Grief is a full-body experience that touches every part of who you are. By understanding how it affects your feelings, thoughts, behaviors, beliefs, health, and purpose, you can begin to create a plan for healing. Sharon reminds listeners that grief is a journey, and taking intentional steps can help them move forward with hope and resilience. Resources and Support: Grief Study Hall: A free program every Tuesday at 1 PM CST where you can share and learn with others navigating grief. Processing the Pain of Grief: A four-week intensive program to help you understand and begin moving through grief. Grief Healing Program: A 12-week course focused on working through your grief and building a path toward healing. Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook Group: Join our supportive community at Hope, Heal, Recover. Contact Us: Email Sharon at sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for listening! Tune in next time for more insights on navigating grief and embracing healing.

Why Grief Makes You Feel Alone—Even in a Crowd Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker explores the profound emotional experiences of loneliness, solitude, and isolation in grief. Sharon dives into the distinctions between these feelings and provides guidance on how to manage them effectively. Through personal insights and practical tools, she helps listeners embrace the balance between connection and introspection as they navigate their grief journey. Key Points Discussed: The Difference Between Loneliness, Solitude, and Isolation Loneliness: An emotional state where you feel disconnected, even when surrounded by others. Being Alone: A physical state where you are by yourself, often by choice. Isolation: A deeper form of solitude that can arise when solitude persists and leads to disconnection from others. Why Grievers Retreat Into Solitude Many grievers isolate themselves because they need time to process their loss or because they feel unsupported by others. Hurtful comments, such as “Shouldn't you be over this by now?” or “They wouldn't want you to feel this way,” push grievers further into solitude. When Solitude Becomes Harmful Isolation Prolonged isolation can lead to feelings of being forgotten, worthlessness, and intensified grief. Sharon explains how well-meaning but misguided advice can exacerbate a griever's sense of disconnection, making them reluctant to share their feelings. The Challenge of Reaching Out Grievers may struggle to ask for help or connection because they feel they're burdening others. Sharon encourages listeners to try reconnecting with trusted friends or family members and not to shy away from expressing the need for companionship or support. Technology and Social Media's Role in Loneliness Social media can amplify feelings of loneliness when posts about grief go unnoticed or when grievers feel like their pain is dismissed. Sharon notes how online spaces can sometimes foster negative comparisons or further isolation. The Healing Power of Connection Small steps, like asking for a hug or inviting someone over, can ease feelings of loneliness. Pets, such as dogs or cats, can provide comfort and companionship, though they are not replacements for human connection or the grief process. Journal Questions for Reflection: Do you feel more alone or lonely in your grief? What's the difference for you? Have you found yourself isolating? If so, why do you think that is? What comments or actions from others have made you feel more disconnected? Who in your life could you reach out to for support or companionship? What activities or moments of solitude help you process your grief in a healthy way? Conclusion: Loneliness, solitude, and isolation are natural parts of grief, but they can become obstacles if left unaddressed. Sharon encourages listeners to identify their needs, seek connection, and balance introspection with support from others. Grief is a personal journey, but it doesn't have to be walked alone. Resources and Support: Join Grief Study Hall: Share your grief with others in a supportive environment every Tuesday at 1 PM CST. Four-Week Intensive on Grief: Process your grief deeply in this focused program. Grief Assessment: Schedule a personalized session with Sharon to better understand and navigate your unique grief. Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook Group: Join our community at Hope, Heal, Recover. Contact Us: Email Sharon at sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for listening! Join us next time as we continue to explore the emotional complexities of grief and healing.

Why Does Grief Bring Back Old Pain? Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker delves into the concept of cumulative grief, explaining how past unresolved losses often resurface during new grieving experiences. Sharon shares personal stories, psychological insights, and actionable tools to help listeners understand and navigate the layered emotions of cumulative grief, making space for healing and growth. Key Points Discussed: What Is Cumulative Grief? Cumulative grief refers to the accumulation of past unresolved losses that resurface during new grief experiences. These memories might stem from losses like childhood experiences, pet deaths, or moments of neglect that were never acknowledged as grief at the time. Examples of Cumulative Grief: Childhood losses such as being bullied, losing a pet, or experiencing a death that wasn't openly discussed. Life events like divorce or career setbacks that resurface when facing a new loss. Sharon shares how unresolved grief can intensify the pain of current losses, making it harder to process and heal. Why Cumulative Grief Happens: The brain and heart remember past grief experiences through sensory triggers like smells, songs, or locations. Unprocessed emotions are stored in the body, resurfacing during stressful events like a current loss. Comparing Old and New Losses: Sharon explains how it's natural to compare current grief to past experiences. While some comparisons can be helpful (e.g., identifying coping skills that worked), others, like judging one loss as "worse," can hinder healing. Personal Stories of Cumulative Grief: Sharon shares examples from her work with clients, such as a woman grieving her father's death who uncovered unresolved emotions from her divorce. She reflects on how her own childhood coping mechanisms influenced how she handled grief later in life. The Role of "What-If" Thinking: Sharon discusses counterfactual thinking—reflecting on how things could have been different. While it's a natural response, focusing on "what-ifs" can distract from addressing current grief. The Silver Lining in Cumulative Grief: Past grief experiences can remind us of our resilience and coping skills. By reflecting on how we've overcome challenges before, we can find hope and strength in the present. Journal Questions for Reflection: What is one memory from a past loss that has resurfaced during your current grief? Have you compared your current grief to a previous experience? What have you learned? Are there any "what-if" thoughts you've been holding onto? How do they affect your grieving process? What coping strategies or support systems from past losses might help you now? Conclusion: Cumulative grief is a natural part of the grieving process, allowing past emotions to come to the surface for healing. Sharon encourages listeners to embrace these memories, use them as a source of strength, and reflect on their grief through journaling and support systems. Remember, every loss brings an opportunity for growth and deeper emotional understanding. Follow Us: Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook Group: Join our supportive community at Hope, Heal, Recover. Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email Sharon at sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for listening! Tune in next time as we explore the transformative power of grief and healing.

  Hidden Grief: The Losses We Don't Talk About In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker dives into the topic of hidden grief—those personal, often unacknowledged grief experiences that go unnoticed by society. Sharon explains how hidden grief manifests in many forms beyond death and how societal norms often discourage people from recognizing and processing these losses. Through personal stories and practical advice, she helps listeners uncover and validate their hidden grief, paving the way for healing. Key Points Discussed: What Is Hidden Grief? Hidden grief refers to losses that don't fit traditional definitions of grief, such as losing a job, relationship, or sense of identity. Sharon describes hidden grief as deeply personal and often invisible, making it harder for others to recognize or offer support. Examples of Hidden Grief: The loss of a dream job that you've worked toward for years. Breaking up with a significant other or going through a divorce. Losing self-worth after the death of a partner who was your emotional anchor. Enduring the foreclosure of a home or the loss of a pet, which society often trivializes. Why Hidden Grief Goes Unnoticed: Society typically ties grief to death, leaving other forms of loss invalidated. People experiencing hidden grief often feel ashamed or embarrassed to share their feelings. The Emotional Weight of Hidden Grief: Sharon discusses how unprocessed hidden grief can build up, leading to feelings of isolation and emotional exhaustion. Hidden grief often overlaps with other life challenges, complicating the healing process. Personal Story: Learning to Acknowledge Hidden Grief Sharon shares her experience of grieving for her nephew, Austin. She reflects on how she delayed acknowledging her grief out of respect for others, later realizing the importance of processing her emotions. The Importance of Recognizing Hidden Grief: Naming and validating these losses is a vital step toward healing. Sharon urges listeners to create a safe space to share their hidden grief and reject societal pressure to keep these experiences private. Journal Questions for Reflection: What is a hidden grief you've experienced recently? How did this hidden grief make you feel, and did anyone acknowledge your emotions? Have you avoided addressing this grief, and if so, why? What steps can you take to honor and process this hidden grief? Conclusion: Hidden grief can carry just as much emotional weight as grief tied to death. By naming these experiences and allowing yourself to feel the pain, you create space for healing and growth. Sharon reminds listeners that grief is a natural and valid response to all types of loss, not just those that society deems significant. Follow Us: Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook Group: Join our supportive community at Hope, Heal, Recover. Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email Sharon at sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for listening! Join us next time as we uncover more ways to navigate the complexities of grief and healing.

   Lessons Learned Through Grieving As A Mother Episode Description: In this heartfelt episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker sits down with Yannette, a mother who shares her journey of navigating grief after the tragic loss of her husband. Together, they explore the unique challenges of grieving while raising children and the profound transformation that occurs when a mother learns to process and share her emotions openly. Sharon and Yannette delve into how grief manifests differently for mothers and children and why it's crucial to model healthy emotional expression. Yannette's story of courage, resilience, and creating space for her children to grieve will inspire and empower listeners to embrace their own healing journeys. Key Points Discussed: Breaking Generational Norms Around Grief Yannette reflects on her childhood experience of loss, where emotions were often hidden, and how it shaped her initial approach to grief. Sharon emphasizes the importance of breaking the cycle by showing children that expressing emotions is healthy and necessary. Learning to Share Grief with Children Yannette describes how she initially hid her grief from her children, believing it was her role to be “strong.” Through grief work, she discovered the healing power of vulnerability, allowing her children to see her emotions and learn to share their own. The Symbolism of the "Dragon" How Yannette used a story about dragons to help her children understand and process their grief, creating a shared language for discussing difficult emotions. The impact of creative storytelling on fostering connection and emotional awareness. Creating Safe Spaces for Healing The critical role of creating environments where children feel comfortable expressing their feelings. Practical tips for establishing a culture of open communication and emotional safety within a family. The Role of Self-Care for Mothers Sharon and Yannette highlight the importance of self-care for grieving mothers, not just for their own well-being but as a way to model self-compassion for their children. Journal Questions for Reflection: How do you model emotional expression for the people in your life, especially children? What traditions or habits could you create to honor and remember your loved one together as a family? How do you take care of your own emotional health while supporting others through their grief? Conclusion: Yannette's journey reminds us that grieving as a mother is a dual process of healing oneself while nurturing the emotional well-being of children. By breaking generational patterns and showing vulnerability, mothers can create a legacy of emotional resilience for their families. Follow Us: Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for tuning in! Join us next time as we explore the ways grief can transform our lives and deepen our connections.      

Episode Title: The First Step in Healing Episode Description: In this heartfelt episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker invites listeners to explore the transformative power of sharing their grief. Drawing on her own experiences, Sharon reflects on the deeply personal journey of losing her nephew, Austin, and how finding a safe space to express her emotions became the first step in her healing process. Grief often isolates us, convincing us that our pain doesn't matter or that it's a burden to others. Sharon challenges these misconceptions, advocating for the importance of acknowledging and talking about grief—not as a mother, sister, or aunt, but as an individual. She introduces Grief Study Hall, a safe community for sharing stories and finding connection, as a first step toward emotional recovery. Key Points Discussed: Breaking the Silence Around Grief Why it's crucial to speak openly about your personal grief story. The First Step in Healing Sharon's personal journey of learning to honor her own grief after months of feeling unseen. The Power of Safe Spaces How a community like Grief Study Hall can create opportunities for emotional release and connection. The Emotional Nuances of Grief From recounting the details of loss to embracing the full range of feelings, why processing these moments is essential. Reframing the Stages of Grief Dispelling the myth of a linear grieving process and embracing the individuality of the healing journey. Journal Questions for Reflection: Who has been a support in your grief journey? What made their support meaningful? Have you had a chance to tell your grief story? How did it feel to share? What does a “safe space” look like for you to talk about your grief? How can you create or seek out an environment that supports your healing? Conclusion: Healing begins with acknowledging your pain and finding a community that listens and understands. Sharon's Grief Study Hall offers this space, where sharing your story becomes the first step toward reclaiming your life. Follow Us: Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for tuning in! Join us next time as we delve into more ways to navigate and heal from grief, together.      

Episode Title: Shattered Trust: Finding Hope in Grief  Episode Description: In this heartfelt episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker delves into the complex and little-discussed topic of grooming in the context of grief. Grievers are often in a state of heightened emotional vulnerability, which can make them susceptible to predatory behavior. Sharon sits down with guest Sherry Young, who bravely shares her personal experience of being groomed and scammed during her grieving process. Together, they explore the tactics used by groomers, the emotional toll it takes, and how to recognize and protect oneself from such situations. Key Points Discussed: What is Grooming? An explanation of grooming and its psychological impact on individuals, especially those who are grieving. Grooming vs. Scamming: The Link How grooming often serves as a precursor to financial or emotional exploitation. Personal Story: Sherry's Journey Sherry candidly shares her experience of being groomed and scammed after personal loss, shedding light on the subtle ways groomers build trust. Recognizing the Red Flags Key behaviors to watch for when forming new relationships during times of grief. The Role of Community and Support Why having a strong support system can help shield against vulnerability. Healing After Betrayal How to process the emotional scars of being groomed and reclaim your sense of trust and security. Journal Questions: Have you ever felt unusually drawn to someone who later let you down? What made them seem trustworthy at first? Reflect on a time you ignored a gut feeling about someone. What happened, and how did it shape your view of intuition? In what ways do you ensure your emotional safety when meeting new people, especially during vulnerable periods? What can you do to build a strong support system to rely on during times of emotional distress? How can you reclaim your narrative and strength after experiencing emotional manipulation? Conclusion: This episode emphasizes the importance of trusting your instincts, leaning on your support network, and recognizing your worth, even during grief. Healing from loss is challenging enough—understanding and avoiding manipulation is a critical step in safeguarding your emotional journey. Follow Us: Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for tuning in! Join us next time as we continue uncovering insights and strategies to help you heal, one step at a time.

Episode Title: How to Recognize and Heal Silent Grief Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker dives into the often-overlooked world of silent losses. Grief isn't always about losing a loved one; it can stem from many other life experiences that bring deep feelings of sadness and emptiness. Sharon sheds light on the impact of silent losses, like moving away from a childhood friend, losing a job, or experiencing a broken relationship. These losses, though less recognized, can attach themselves to major grief events, amplifying pain over time. Sharon shares why it's essential to acknowledge and grieve these silent losses to find a path toward healing and resilience. Key Points Discussed: Silent Losses Explained Grief isn't always tied to death. Sharon explains how silent losses, such as moving away, career setbacks, or relationship changes, can have a lasting emotional impact. Why Silent Grief is Overlooked Society often doesn't recognize or support grief outside of death. Sharon discusses why these silent losses are rarely acknowledged and why we tend to brush them aside. The Impact of Unacknowledged Losses Silent losses can connect with new grief experiences, creating a heavier emotional burden. Sharon explains how unprocessed grief can resurface unexpectedly and affect current losses. Learning to Grieve Silent Losses Sharon shares ways to recognize and validate silent losses, emphasizing the importance of fully experiencing these emotions to heal. Finding Support and Moving Forward While grieving silent losses can feel isolating, finding support—even within oneself—can help. Sharon encourages listeners to talk openly about these losses and seek support when needed. Journal Questions: What recent loss have you experienced that isn't related to death? Which silent losses from your past still affect you today? How might acknowledging silent losses change your approach to grieving? Are there emotions tied to silent losses that you've kept private? What small step could you take to honor a silent loss? Conclusion: Reflect on these questions as you explore silent grief's impact on your life. Grieving these losses may be key to finding balance, peace, and true healing. Follow Us: Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for tuning in. Join us next time for more insights on healing from grief, one step at a time.

Episode Title: How Grief Affects Your Whole Body Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker discusses how grief impacts more than just our emotions—it's a full-body experience. Sharon shares insights from her personal journey and professional expertise, illustrating how grief can affect various parts of the body, from physical pain to changes in behavior and even beliefs. She explores six main areas that grief can impact, helping listeners understand why grief feels so overwhelming and unpredictable. Through practical advice and compassionate guidance, Sharon sheds light on how grief touches every part of who we are and why it's essential to recognize these effects on our path to healing. Key Points Discussed: Grief's Full-Body Impact Grief is more than an emotional experience; it affects the entire body, including physical health, behavior, and even our beliefs. Emotional Roller Coaster Grief can send emotions spinning, often changing from sadness to anger to confusion all within moments. Sharon explains why these feelings fluctuate and how to approach them. Thoughts and Overthinking Grief brings intense thoughts and fears, often playing on repeat. Sharon shares how these thoughts shape emotions and why managing them is key to healing. Behavior Changes and Self-Care Grieving can alter daily habits and routines, sometimes leading to neglect of self-care. Sharon offers advice on gentle ways to care for yourself. Questioning Beliefs After a loss, beliefs about life, purpose, and faith often shift. Sharon explains how to navigate this change with self-compassion. Physical Health Grief can take a toll on physical health, causing symptoms like muscle pain, digestive issues, and headaches. Sharon encourages listeners to seek medical support as needed. Journal Questions: What emotions have been the strongest for you during grief? What thoughts often repeat in your mind since your loss? How has grief changed your daily habits and self-care? Have your beliefs or outlook on life shifted? In what ways? What physical symptoms have you noticed, and how do they connect to your grief? Conclusion: Reflect on these questions as you navigate your grief journey. Remember, grief affects the whole body and healing takes time and action steps. Follow Us: Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for listening. Stay tuned for more insights and support on your journey through grief.      

pisode Title: Honoring Motherhood After Loss: A Conversation with Cory Episode Description: In this moving episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker welcomes Corey, a mother who shares her deeply personal story of infertility, the joy of her pregnancy, and the heartbreaking loss of her twins, Leo and Lucy. Corey's journey highlights the profound bond of motherhood even through unimaginable sorrow, as well as the resilience required to navigate grief. She openly discusses her experience with polycystic ovarian syndrome, pregnancy complications, and the strength it took to honor her children's memory. Corey's story sheds light on the importance of validating the experiences of mothers facing child loss and the healing power of small acts of remembrance. Key Points Discussed: The Joy and Struggle of Becoming a Mother Corey shares her journey through infertility and the special bond she formed with her twins, Leo and Lucy, during her pregnancy. Navigating Medical Challenges and Loss Corey describes her difficult experiences with medical complications and the heartbreak of realizing she couldn't save her twins, despite her unwavering hope and determination. The First Steps of Grieving From saying goodbye to her babies in the hospital to celebrating their memory with small acts of love, Corey reflects on her early days of grief and the unique challenges of losing a child. Finding Purpose Through Remembrance Corey speaks about honoring Leo and Lucy by donating her breast milk, a healing act that helped her feel connected to her role as their mother. Support and Understanding for Grieving Mothers Sharon and Corey discuss the need for societal recognition of grief in mothers who have lost children and the importance of validating each mother's unique journey. Journal Questions: What small ways can you honor the memory of a loved one? How can you validate your experiences, even if others don't fully understand? How have challenging experiences shaped your sense of purpose? What role has community support played in your grief journey? What meaningful acts could help you feel closer to a lost loved one? Conclusion: Reflect on these questions as you navigate your journey through grief. Remember, honoring your story and those of your loved ones can be a profound step toward healing. Follow Us: Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Join our Event on November 20th: Link to Register: https://www.thegriefschool.life/tgsworkshop112024   Thank you for listening to Corey's story. Join us next time as we continue to explore journeys of resilience, love, and healing through grief.  

Episode Title: Ways to Handle Cumulative Grief Gently Episode Description: In today's episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker unpacks the concept of cumulative grief and why unresolved losses from the past can intensify the pain of new ones. Sharon shares insights drawn from her own journey and years of experience with grieving clients to shed light on the overwhelming effects of grief overload. From childhood losses to recent heartbreaks, she explains how cumulative grief layers upon itself, often leaving us feeling trapped in a cycle of sorrow. This episode guides listeners on embracing their grief fully, with actionable steps for managing the waves of unresolved pain and building resilience along the way. Key Points Discussed: The Nature of Cumulative Grief Grief doesn't operate on a timeline; it builds up over time. Sharon explains how early grief experiences, even from childhood, can resurface with each new loss, creating an overwhelming accumulation of unresolved pain. Recognizing Grief Overload Grief can feel like waves crashing repeatedly with no breathing room. Sharon discusses how grief overload occurs when we face multiple losses in a short period or hold onto grief from years past, making it feel impossible to manage. Avoiding the “Grief Detective” Mindset Instead of processing grief, some people become “grief detectives,” focusing on finding answers or blaming others as a way of avoiding painful emotions. Sharon explains how this can prolong grief and offers tips for breaking this habit. Finding a “Grief Friend” or Support Group Even when it feels easier to carry grief alone, having a “grief friend” or joining a support group can provide comfort and understanding. Sharon encourages listeners to reach out to those who truly support their grief journey. Taking Action for Healing Healing doesn't just happen with time; it requires active steps. Sharon highlights practical actions, from journaling to creative expression, that help make space for grief, allowing it to flow rather than accumulate. Journal Questions: What early losses have you experienced that still weigh heavy on your heart? How might avoidance or “grief detective” behaviors affect your grieving process? Who in your life can be a supportive “grief friend” as you navigate cumulative grief? Reflect on a time you felt joy despite experiencing loss. What did that teach you? What is one small step you can take to begin addressing any unresolved grief? Conclusion: Reflect on these questions as you approach grief with patience and self-compassion. Remember, grief is not meant to be carried alone. Each action step you take helps build a foundation of resilience, moving you closer to peace. Follow Us: Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us. Stay tuned for more episodes offering support, insight, and hope on your grief journey.

Episode Title: 5 Things to Avoid While Grieving Episode Description: In today's episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker dives into five common pitfalls to steer clear of on your personal path through grief. Drawing from her own experiences and over a decade of work with grieving individuals, Sharon shares practical insights on what to avoid when navigating loss. From self-judgment to resisting emotions, she explains how letting yourself fully experience grief can lead to deeper healing and resilience. Each tip is designed to help you honor your grief journey with courage and compassion, while building a supportive foundation along the way. Key Points Discussed: Don't Talk Yourself Out of Grieving Embrace your emotions, no matter how difficult they may feel. Sharon explains the importance of acknowledging every type of grief, whether it's a silent loss or a life-altering heartbreak. Avoid Self-Bullying Grief isn't a measure of strength or control. Sharon shares why it's essential to treat yourself kindly and why self-compassion is key to healing. Don't Lock Away the ‘Grief Monster' Using the metaphor of a “grief monster,” Sharon explains how bottling up grief can intensify its hold. Facing the “monster” in manageable ways helps lessen its overwhelming presence. Don't Disconnect from Your Support System Even when it feels tough to let others in, finding a supportive “grief friend” or community can provide the compassion and understanding needed for healing. Don't Believe the Darkness Will Last Forever The journey through grief can feel unending, but Sharon offers reassurance that joy and light will return. Embracing small steps can help shift your perspective and illuminate the way forward. Journal Questions: How do you typically respond to grief? Do you find yourself talking yourself out of it or locking it away? What are some ways you can practice self-compassion during tough moments? Who in your life can be a “grief friend” and offer you support through this journey? Reflect on a time you've experienced unexpected joy. How did that impact your outlook? What is one small way you can start to embrace your grief and let it flow naturally? Conclusion: Reflect on these questions as you approach grief as a personal journey, free from societal expectations. Healing takes time, and with each step, you are moving closer to a life of resilience and peace.     Follow Us: Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us. Stay tuned for more discussions offering support, insight, and hope on your grief journey.

Episode Title: Are You Truly Respecting Grief? Episode Description: In today's episode, we dive into the significance of respecting the grief of others. Grief is as unique as the individual experiencing it. Sharon Brubaker discusses how grief can vary based on personality, relationships, and individual circumstances. Understanding this can help us honor others' grief without trying to fix or rush the process. Join us as we explore how respect, acknowledgment, and allowing space for grief can transform the healing journey for both the griever and their supporters. Key Points Discussed: Grief and Personality: Grief reflects your personality—whether open, reserved, or emotional, you will grieve in the way you show up in life. Just because someone is grieving doesn't mean their personality changes. Recognizing this can help others understand how to support them. Grief and Relationships: Your relationship with the deceased affects how you grieve. Whether they were a best friend, parent, or admired public figure, grief varies based on the depth of that bond. Family members often grieve differently, both in timing and expression. Respecting each individual's grief journey is crucial to maintaining harmony. Respecting Grief: Respect is essential in supporting others. This means allowing space for grief, listening without offering solutions, and acknowledging the emotions involved. Society often fails to understand or support grief properly, but asking simple questions like "How's your grief today?" can make a significant difference. Journal Questions: How does your personality influence the way you grieve? How do the different relationships you've lost affect how you feel grief? How can you show respect for your own grief and the grief of those around you? What strategies can you use to support someone else's unique grief process without trying to fix it? How can you create space for open conversations about grief with your family and friends? Conclusion: Use these questions to reflect on your grief and the grief of others. Respecting each person's journey allows for healing in its own time and form. Whether you're grieving or supporting a griever, creating a space of respect is crucial. Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions on how we can better navigate grief and healing together.

Grief is like Glitter Episode Title: Grief is like Glitter: Embracing the Persistent Nature of Grief Episode Description: In today's episode, we explore the concept that grief is like glitter. No matter how much you try to clean it up, it always shows up when you least expect it. This analogy highlights the persistent and sometimes unexpected nature of grief. Join us as we discuss how to understand and embrace these moments as part of your healing journey. Key Points Discussed: Grief as Glitter: Grief can be both beautiful and inconvenient, resurfacing at unexpected times. It serves as a reminder of the love and deep connections we have with those we've lost. Embracing Grief: Allow yourself to feel the emotions and acknowledge the significance of your loss. These moments are part of your healing journey and reflect the deep connections you've had. Journal Questions: In what ways does grief continue to show up in your life, even when you think you've moved past it? How do these unexpected moments of grief make you feel? What positive memories or aspects of your loved one's life come to mind when grief "glitters" appear? How can you honor these moments and the memories they bring up? What strategies can you use to embrace and manage these unexpected reminders of your grief? Conclusion: Use these questions to explore your experiences and find ways to embrace the glitter of grief in your life. Remember, these moments of grief are a sign of the love you still carry. Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey.

Podcast Description: Hello everyone, today we're talking about those moments when grief feels unbearable. It's important to remember that you're not alone during these times. Grief can feel overwhelming, but there are ways to manage and cope with these intense emotions. When grief feels unbearable, reaching out for support is crucial. Whether it's talking to a friend, family member, or grief counselor, sharing your feelings can provide relief. Additionally, practicing self-care can help you navigate through these difficult times. Taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health is essential. Sometimes, doing simple things like taking a walk, journaling, or practicing mindfulness can make a big difference. Remember, it's okay to ask for help and to take the time you need to heal. Here are five journal questions to help you navigate those moments when grief feels unbearable: What specific situations or triggers make your grief feel unbearable? How do you typically react or cope when the intensity of grief feels overwhelming? Who can you reach out to for support during these times? What self-care practices can you implement to help manage these intense emotions? How can you remind yourself of your strength and resilience when grief feels too heavy? What activities or routines have helped you feel grounded and supported in the past? Reflect on these questions and remember, it's okay to seek help and lean on others when grief feels too much to bear. Taking small steps towards self-care and reaching out for support can make a significant difference in your healing journey. Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healingstartswiththeheart Instagram: healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey.

Podcast Description: Welcome back! Today we're discussing whether grief and loss are the same. While loss is the event – the end of something or someone dear – grief is our reaction to that loss. Understanding this distinction can help us navigate our emotions better. Loss can take many forms, including the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or a significant life change. Grief is the emotional response to these losses, encompassing a range of feelings such as sadness, anger, and confusion. Here are five journal questions to help you explore the distinction between grief and loss:   How do you differentiate between the concepts of grief and loss in your experience? What specific losses have you experienced, and how have you grieved each one? How does understanding this distinction help you navigate your emotions? What coping mechanisms have you found helpful in dealing with loss and grief? How can you support others in recognizing and processing their own grief and loss? Use these questions to gain clarity on your experiences and find effective ways to cope with both grief and loss. Remember, acknowledging the difference can help you better understand and manage your emotions. Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healingstartswiththeheart Instagram: healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey.  

Podcast Description: Hello listeners, in today's episode, we're exploring what grief means. Grief is a deeply personal experience, and its meaning can vary widely from person to person. For some, grief is a process of healing and remembrance. For others, it's a way to honor the life of a loved one and the impact they had. Grief can encompass a wide range of emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and even relief. Understanding what grief means to you can help you navigate your emotions and find a path towards healing. Here are five journal questions to help you delve into the meaning of grief in your life: 1.    What does grief mean to you personally? 2.    How has your understanding of grief evolved over time? 3.    In what ways has grief shaped your identity and your view of the world? 4.    How do you honor your grief and the memories of your loved one? 5.    What role does grief play in your ongoing journey of healing and self-discovery? Reflecting on these questions can help you uncover the deeper significance of grief in your life. Embrace your unique grief journey and find meaning in the process. Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healingstartswiththeheart Instagram: healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey.    

Episode Description: Welcome back to another episode. Today, we're discussing the lessons grief has taught us. Grief can be a profound teacher, revealing truths about ourselves, our relationships, and our view of the world. Through the process of grieving, many people discover strengths they never knew they had. They learn the importance of vulnerability, the value of cherishing every moment, and the necessity of self-compassion. Grief can also teach us about the resilience of the human spirit and the capacity for growth even in the face of profound loss. Here are five journal questions to help you reflect on the lessons you've learned from grief: What are the most significant lessons grief has taught you about life and love? How have your priorities or perspectives changed since experiencing grief? What strengths or qualities have you discovered in yourself through your grieving process? How has grief influenced your relationships with others? What advice would you give to someone who is just beginning their grief journey based on what you've learned? Take some time to reflect on these questions and recognize the growth and insights that have come from your grief. Share your lessons learned with others, and let's support each other through our shared experiences."  Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healingstartswiththeheart Instagram: healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey.

Episode Title: Grief Songs: The Healing Power of Music Episode Description: In today's episode, we're talking about the power of grief songs. Music has a unique way of touching our hearts and expressing emotions we might struggle to put into words. Certain songs can bring us comfort and help us process our grief. Join us as we explore how music can be a therapeutic outlet during difficult times. Key Points Discussed: Music as Healing: Music can provide solace and serve as a way to remember and honor our loved ones. Whether it's a song that reminds you of your loved one or a new melody that resonates with your current feelings, music can help in your healing journey. Journal Questions: What songs or types of music do you find most comforting during times of grief? How does listening to these songs make you feel? Are there any specific lyrics that resonate deeply with your grief experience? How can you use music to honor your loved one's memory? What new songs or genres would you like to explore that might help you in your healing process? Conclusion: Reflect on these questions as you listen to your favorite grief songs, and let the music guide you through your emotions. Share your favorite grief songs with us and let's build a playlist of comfort together. Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healingstartswiththeheart Instagram: healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey.

Episode Title: Rebuilding Life Beyond Loss with Joi Renique Episode Description: In today's episode, we dive deep into the concept of "grief courage" — the remarkable inner strength it takes to face the pain of loss. Grieving is not about being fearless but about embracing the full weight of your emotions and allowing yourself to heal through them. Join us as we explore what it means to be courageous in grief and how this strength can lead to profound healing. Key Points Discussed: Understanding Grief Courage: True courage lies not in hiding pain, but in facing it head-on. Grief courage allows us to feel deeply while embracing the journey toward healing. The Misconception of Strength: Society often tells us to put on a brave face, but real strength comes from allowing ourselves to fully experience grief. Healing starts when we stop avoiding our emotions and start tending to them. Healing Through Connection: Grief courage also involves reaching out, leaning on others, and knowing it's okay to ask for help. When we share our grief, we lighten the emotional load, fostering a sense of community and support. Journal Questions: What does being courageous in grief mean to you? How do you currently cope with grief? Do you allow yourself to feel it fully? Who can you lean on during your grief journey? In what ways can you practice grief courage by embracing your emotions today? Conclusion: Grieving takes immense courage, and acknowledging your emotions is the first step toward healing. Reflect on these questions as you embrace your own grief courage. Remember, you don't have to walk this path alone. Share your thoughts and journey with us — together, we can find strength in our shared experiences. Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: Healing Starts With the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us for this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey. This structure captures the tone of your brand: empathetic, supportive, and empowering, focusing on actionable steps and deep emotional recovery.

Episode Title: Grief Triggers: Understanding and Coping with Unexpected Moments Episode Description: In today's episode, we dive into the topic of grief triggers—those unexpected moments when a memory, a smell, a song, or even a place brings back the pain of loss. Grief triggers are a natural part of the grieving process and can be challenging to navigate. Join us as we explore how to understand and cope with these triggers, allowing ourselves to feel the emotions they bring up. Key Points Discussed: What Are Grief Triggers? Grief triggers are personal and can vary widely. They may include the scent of a loved one's perfume or a significant song. These triggers remind us of the deep connections and love we continue to feel for those we've lost. Acknowledging Your Emotions: It's important to acknowledge grief triggers and allow yourself to feel the emotions they bring up. Avoiding or suppressing these feelings can often intensify them. Coping Strategies: Create a plan for how to handle grief triggers when they arise. Strategies might include deep breathing exercises, reaching out to a supportive friend, or engaging in a comforting activity. Journal Questions: What are some of the most common triggers that bring back memories of your loved one? How do you typically feel when you encounter these triggers? What coping strategies have you found helpful in dealing with grief triggers? Can you identify any patterns or specific times when these triggers are more likely to occur? How can you create a plan to manage your emotions when a trigger catches you off guard? Conclusion: Take your time reflecting on these questions. Remember, your grief is valid, and so are your emotions. By understanding and acknowledging your grief triggers, you can better navigate the waves of emotion that come with them.   Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healingstartswiththeheart Instagram: healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey.  

Grief is Love with Nowhere to Go Episode Title: Grief is Love with Nowhere to Go: Embracing the Transformation Episode Description: In today's episode, we explore the concept that grief is love with nowhere to go. When we lose someone, the love we have for them doesn't disappear; it transforms into grief. This transformation is a testament to the deep connections and bonds we've had with our loved ones. Understanding that grief is a form of love can help us reframe our experience, bringing a sense of peace and acceptance. Key Points Discussed: Grief as Love: Grief is a powerful expression of the love we continue to have for our lost loved ones. Embracing this perspective can bring peace and help us honor our loved ones in meaningful ways. Journal Questions: How has your love for your lost loved one transformed into grief? What are some ways you can express this love, even though your loved one is no longer physically present? How does recognizing grief as a form of love change your perspective on your grieving process? What new rituals or practices can you create to honor this ongoing love? How can you share this love with others in a way that supports your healing? Conclusion: Use these questions to reflect on your grief and find meaningful ways to channel your love. Remember, your grief is a powerful expression of your love. Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey.

Your Grief Matters   Episode Title: Your Grief Matters   Episode Description: In today's episode, we delve into the importance of finding a safe space to share your grief. Grief Study Hall, a free, supportive community for women, provides just that. We'll explore why it's crucial to express your grief openly and how doing so can be the first step on your healing journey. Through Sharon Brubaker's personal story of loss, discover why having your grief acknowledged is essential, and how Study Hall can be the place where your healing truly begins.   Key Points Discussed:   The Need for a Safe Space: Grievers often feel their grief isn't acknowledged or valued, making it hard to express their true feelings. Finding a community where you can openly share your grief, like Grief Study Hall, is vital for starting the healing process.   The Power of Sharing Your Story: Sharing your story helps you process the pain and begin to heal. When someone listens to your grief, it validates your experience and emotions. Grief Study Hall provides a space where you can speak freely, surrounded by others who understand and share similar experiences.   Grief as a Personal Journey: There are no stages or checklists in grief; everyone's journey is unique. Grief Study Hall honors this individuality by allowing you to express your grief in your own way. Talking about your grief is the first step in moving from shock to healing. It's a crucial part of your journey that can't be skipped.   Journal Questions: Have you been able to talk about your grief so far? Who have you shared your grief with, and what has been their response? What does a safe space look like for you when it comes to talking about your grief? Have you ever felt that you haven't had a space to share your grief? If so, how has this affected you? How do you feel after you've talked about your grief and had someone truly listen to you? What are some of your fears about opening up in a grief group? How can being part of a community like Grief Study Hall help you on your healing journey? What steps can you take to create or find a safe space for you to talk about your grief? How can you support others in their grief within a community setting? How important do you think it is to support others in their grief journey?   Conclusion: Use these questions to reflect on your grief journey and consider how joining Grief Study Hall might help you begin to heal. Remember, you're not alone. In Grief Study Hall, you'll find a community ready to listen, support, and walk alongside you as you navigate your grief. This space is free and open to all women looking for a place to share their grief and begin their healing journey.   Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: sharon@sharonbrubaker.com Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey.

Episode Description: In this episode, we explore the profound impact grief can have on the body. Grief is not just an emotional experience but also a physical one. We discuss the different types of grief—intellectual and emotional—and how they affect us. Learn about the common physical symptoms of grief, the importance of self-care, and the role of grief support groups in the healing process. Episode Highlights: The two types of grief: intellectual and emotional. How grief can affect the body and cause physical symptoms. The importance of self-care during grief. How grief impacts sleep and appetite. The role of grief support groups in the healing process. Key Takeaways: Two Types of Grief: Intellectual grief is processed in the brain, while emotional grief is felt in the heart. Both types can affect the body. Physical Symptoms: Grief can cause fatigue, sleep disturbances, appetite changes, weakened immune system, and muscle tension. Importance of Self-Care: Taking care of yourself is crucial during grief. Ensure you're getting enough sleep, eating well, and seeking medical and emotional support. Grief Support Groups: These groups provide a space for sharing experiences and emotions, offering a sense of community and understanding. Journal Questions: How has grief affected your physical health? What are the common physical symptoms you have experienced during grief? How do you balance taking care of yourself while dealing with grief? What steps can you take to improve your self-care routine? Who can you reach out to for support during this time? How does intellectual grief differ from emotional grief in your experience? What has been your experience with grief support groups? Listener Challenge: Reflect on how grief has impacted your body and overall health. Write down any physical symptoms you've noticed and think about ways to improve your self-care routine. If you're experiencing severe symptoms, make an appointment with your doctor. Consider joining a grief support group to share your experiences and find support.  

Episode Description: In this episode, we delve into the delicate balance of protecting a loved one's reputation while telling the truth about their life. Why do we feel the need to shield their flaws? How does this affect our own healing? Join me as we discuss the importance of honesty in grief, the power of telling the truth, and how to maintain respect for the deceased while acknowledging their imperfections. Episode Highlights: Why do you feel the need to protect their reputation? The importance of telling the truth about your loved one. How honesty leads to true healing. Balancing respect for the deceased with acknowledging their flaws. Sharing personal stories and experiences with honesty and compassion. Key Takeaways: Honesty is Healing: True healing comes from being honest about your loved one's life, including their flaws. Balanced Legacy: You can honor your loved one's memory while also acknowledging their imperfections. Respectful Sharing: It's important to share the truth in a respectful way, without broadcasting every detail to the world. Personal Reflection: Reflect on how you talk about your loved one and consider what aspects you might be avoiding. Unique Grieving Experiences: Each person's grief is unique and shaped by their relationship with the deceased and their personal circumstances. Journal Questions: Why do I feel the need to protect my loved one's reputation? What truths about my loved one am I hesitant to share with others? How do I balance honesty and respect when talking about my loved one? What are the positive memories I have of my loved one? What are the difficult ones? How does being honest about my loved one's flaws affect my healing process? What aspects of my loved one's life do I feel comfortable sharing in a small, trusted group? How can I honor my loved one's memory while also acknowledging their imperfections? What steps can I take to ensure I am truthful about my loved one in a way that supports my healing? Listener Challenge: Take some time to reflect on your loved one's life. Write down the truth about their strengths and weaknesses. Share this with a trusted friend, support group, or therapist, and notice how it feels to be honest about their legacy.  

Episode Description: In this episode, we explore the often-overlooked importance ofmaking ourselves and our healing a priority. We delve into the reasons why many of uscarry unhealed wounds from our past and how this unresolved pain can impact ourpresent lives and relationships. Sharon Brubaker, owner of The Grief School, discussesthe stigmas surrounding grief work, the necessity of emotional well-being, and sharesinspiring stories of transformation through healing. Tune in to discover how embracinggrief work can lead toa happier, more fulfilled life. Key Points: Unhealed Wounds:Understanding the impact of carrying unhealed wounds fromchildhood and past experiences. Investment in Healing:The discrepancy between what people are willing toinvest in finding love versushealing from grief. Repressed Pain:The consequences of ignoring or suppressing emotional pain. Societal Stigmas:Addressing the societal discomfort and stigmas associated withgrief and healing work. Self-Care:The importance of emotional well-being as aform of self-love and self-care. Transformation:Real-life stories of individuals who have transformed their livesthrough grief work. Honoring Loved Ones:How proper grieving honors our loved ones and leads topersonal joy and happiness. Journal Questions: What are some unhealed wounds from your past that you might be carrying withyou today? How have you invested in your emotional well-being in the past year? Whatchanges could you make to prioritize your healing? Can you identify any ways in which repressed pain has resurfaced in your currentrelationships or behaviors? How do societal stigmas around grief and healing affect your willingness to seekhelp or talk about your pain? What does self-care mean to you, and how can you incorporate emotionalhealing into your self-care routine? Think of a time when you felt a“wink”from a loved one who has passed away.How did that experience make you feel? What steps can you take today to begin or continue your journey of grief workand healing?Reflect on a storyof transformation you've heard or experienced. How does itinspire you to make your healing a priority? Resources Mentioned:The Grief School: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Griever's Guide: https://beacons.ai/thegriefschool Connect with Sharon: Facebook | Instagram Email:[sharon@thegriefschool.com] Closing Thought: "Grief work may be one of the hardest things you will go through, yet it will be one of the most rewarding. Make your healing a priority, and you'll find yourway back to happiness, joy,and laughter."

Episode Summary: In this episode of The Grief School Podcast, Sharon Brubaker explores the transformative concept of balancing positive and negative emotions. She challenges listeners to embrace the idea that our human experience is meant to be a balance of both and explains how understanding this balance can increase our power and ability to effect change in the world. Sharon provides insightful reflections and practical steps to help listeners create emotional balance on purpose. Key Takeaways:   Understanding the balance of emotion can increase your power in the world and your ability to change it tenfold. Embracing both positive and negative emotions as part of the human experience can lead to a more balanced and less negatively charged life. By not resisting negative emotions and instead creating, allowing, and understanding them, we can reduce their impact and foster a healthier emotional state.   Concepts Discussed: Thoughts Create Feelings: We generate our emotions through the thoughts we entertain. Balance of Emotions: The human experience is a blend of positive and negative emotions. Emotional Control: We have the power to create, allow, and resist emotions. Journal Questions:   Identify Negative Emotions: What are some negative emotions you have experienced recently? How did you react to them? Positive Outcomes from Negative Situations: Think about a positive outcome that emerged from a negative situation in your life. How did the balance between the positive and negative play out? Handling Negative Emotions: How do you typically handle negative emotions? Do you resist them, allow them, or try to change them?   Regular Positive Emotions: What positive emotions do you experience regularly? How do they influence your daily life?   Overwhelming Negative Emotions: Reflect on a time when you felt overwhelmed by negative emotions. What thoughts were you having, and how did they contribute to those feelings? Creating Emotional Balance: How can you create more balance between positive and negative emotions in your daily life?   Personal Meaning of Balance: What does the concept of balancing positive and negative emotions mean to you personally?   Increasing Power through Balance: How can understanding this balance increase your power and ability to create change in the world? Additional Resources:    Connect with Sharon Brubaker: Website | Instagram | Facebook Call to Action: If you found this episode helpful, please share it with someone who might benefit from understanding the balance of emotions.  Don't forget to download the eBook: The Griever's Guide. Link: https://beacons.ai/thegriefschool Contact Information:   Email: info@thegriefschool.com Phone: (661) 212-0720 Thank you for listening to Healing Starts with The Heart. Remember to embrace the balance and take care! Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice or therapy.    

Host: Sharon Brubaker, Grief Specialist Description: Welcome to Healing Starts with the Heart, where grief meets resilience. In this deeply personal episode, host Sharon Brubaker shares her journey through a serious health diagnosis and its emotional impact. Sharon dives into the unexpected grief that accompanies serious illnesses or injuries, offering insights, support, and a heartfelt personal story to guide listeners through their own experiences. Episode Highlights: Introduction Sharon introduces the topic and its personal significance. The transformative journey of coping with a serious illness or injury. Personal Story Sharon recounts her experience from April 7th, 2024. The initial symptoms, misdiagnoses, and eventual discovery of a 95% blockage in the widowmaker of her heart. The emotional rollercoaster: fear, numbness, frustration, and realization. The Unique Experience of Women The differences in heart attack symptoms between men and women. Sharon's persistence in seeking the correct diagnosis despite normal test results. The importance of advocating for oneself in the medical field. Emotional Impact The range of emotions faced: fear, worry, sadness, and numbness. Sharon's fear of leaving her husband behind. The shift from fear of death to acceptance and planning. Coping Mechanisms The role of journaling in processing emotions and thoughts. Sharon's strategy of writing down important information for her family to reduce anxiety. The calming effect of preparedness. Grief and Loss The grief associated with losing health and the old way of life. Feeling powerless, isolated, and facing one's own mortality. The importance of pausing and reflecting on emotions and thoughts. Journal Questions for Reflection Primary emotions experienced due to illness or grief. Intensity and physical location of these emotions in the body. Sharon encourages listeners to use these questions to gain deeper insights into their emotional state. A Message to Women Encouragement to seek medical help if something feels off. Advocating for better understanding and treatment of women's heart health. Griever's Guide and Free Videos Sharon shares the story of Austin's loss and her mission to understand grief. Free resources: The Griever's Guide ebook and videos on various grief-related topics. Closing Thoughts Sharon's gratitude for having more time and her dedication to supporting others through grief. A reminder that Sharon sees, understands, and supports her listeners in their healing journey. Resources: Download The Griever's Guide Call to Action: If you've been touched by today's episode, please share it with someone who might benefit from hearing Sharon's story. Subscribe to Healing Starts with the Heart for more episodes on grief, healing, and resilience. Contact Information: Website: The Grief School Email: info@thegriefschool.com Follow Sharon on Facebook and Instagram Thank you for joining us on this journey. Remember, you are not alone in your grief, and together we can find healing.

Welcome to "Healing Starts with the Heart," a podcast where we explore the journey of healing from grief. I'm your host, Sharon, and today we're going to talk about a feeling that many of us who have experienced loss can relate to: not wanting to return to 'normal.' Let's start with a simple truth. When you lose someone or something important, your life changes. It's like you're on a journey where, at first, your loss becomes a part of you. It's not about overcoming it quickly; it's about integrating it into your life. Now, I know the idea of getting 'better' or the thought of your grief easing can feel almost... offensive, especially in the early stages. Why is that? Well, for many of us, our grief is the strongest connection we have to what we've lost. It can feel like if we start to feel better, maybe we're saying that the person we lost, or the life we had before, wasn't that important. But here's a question: If you start to move forward, does it really mean your past life wasn't special? Absolutely not. Remember, healing doesn't mean forgetting. It doesn't mean the love or the memories are any less significant. Healing starts with the heart. It's a process where we learn to live with our loss, not erase it. It's about carrying the love and the memories forward with us, even as we take steps into our new reality. So, if you're feeling like you don't want to return to 'normal,' know that it's okay. You're not alone in this feeling. Your journey is unique, and how you integrate your loss into your life is entirely up to you. Thank you for joining me today on "Healing Starts with the Heart." Remember, it's okay to grieve at your own pace, and it's okay to find your own path to healing. Until next time, take care of your heart. https://beacons.ai/thegriefschool

Hello, dear listeners, and welcome to another episode of "Healing Starts with the Heart." I'm Sharon, your guide on this journey of understanding and healing from grief. Today's topic is a unique one: feeling like you're living in an 'Alternative Universe' after a loss. You're still here on Earth, going about your daily life. You say hi to your neighbors, visit the grocery store, talk to people. But something feels different, doesn't it? It's like you're there, but not really seen. There's this vast divide between you and the rest of the world. This feeling is more common in grief than you might think. It's like you're in a world parallel to the one everyone else is living in. You're physically present, but emotionally and mentally, there's a distance. The world keeps moving, but you might feel stuck or invisible. The divide you're feeling – it's clear and profound, especially now. And it's during times like these that connecting with others who are grieving becomes so important. Why, you ask? Because they can truly see you. They recognize the devastation at the core of your life. This recognition, this feeling of being seen, it changes something in grief. Being seen by someone who understands doesn't fix everything. But it helps. In the early stages of grief, it might be the only thing that feels like it's helping. Sharing your experience with someone who gets it can bridge that gap you're feeling, even if it's just for a moment. So, if you're feeling like you're living in this 'Alternative Universe,' remember, you're not alone. Seek out those who are also on this journey of grief. Their understanding and recognition can be a lifeline. Thank you for tuning in to "Healing Starts with the Heart." Keep taking small steps towards healing, and remember, it's okay to lean on others who understand. Until next time, take care of yourselves and each other. https://beacons.ai/thegriefschool

Hello, everyone! Welcome back to "Healing Starts with the Heart." I'm your host, Sharon. Today, we're going to explore a tough aspect of grief that many of us face: losing trust in the world and the people around us. When something really big and painful happens, it can feel like your whole world has changed. You might start thinking that there aren't any good things or good people left. It's like you're asking yourself, "Do things really work out fine in the end?" This feeling is what we call a secondary loss. It's not just about the person or thing you lost. It's also about losing your belief in positive outcomes. The hard part is, once you know something or have seen something, you can't just pretend it didn't happen, can you? It's tough, I know. But here's something important to remember: losing trust doesn't mean it's gone forever. Just like a broken bone, trust can heal over time. Healing starts with small steps. It's about finding little things and people in your life that show you kindness and goodness. It might be a friend who listens, a family member who's always there, or even a stranger's smile. Remember, it's completely okay to feel like you've lost trust in the world. It's a normal part of grieving for many. But also, keep in mind that it's possible to rebuild that trust, bit by bit. Thank you for joining me on "Healing Starts with the Heart." Remember, healing from grief is a journey. It's okay to take it one step at a time. Until next time, look for those small moments of kindness in your life. They are there, waiting to help you rebuild your trust. Take care, everyone. https://beacons.ai/thegriefschool

Hello, everyone! Welcome to another episode of "Healing Starts with the Heart." I'm Sharon, your host, and today we're going to talk about something really important: the choices we have as grievers. Often, when we're grieving, it feels like we have no control over anything. But guess what? That's not entirely true. Even in grief, we have choices. You have the choice to stay where you are or to go somewhere new. It's okay to say no to things you don't feel ready for. And you know what? It's perfectly fine to ask for help when you need it. Or you can choose to handle things on your own. Some days, you might want to sleep all day, and that's okay. If you feel like crying in public, that's okay too. You can go to a party and have fun, even if you're grieving. Eat what you want, when you want. If you need companionship, reach out to someone. Or, if you prefer to be alone, that's a valid choice as well. It's okay to feel sad, and it's okay to change your routine or the things you used to do. You don't always have to have all the answers. And most importantly, you can choose to heal, in your own time and in your own way. Remember, grief doesn't take away your power to make choices. Every day, you can make small decisions that are right for you. Thank you for tuning in to "Healing Starts with the Heart." Your journey is unique, and your choices are valid. Take care of yourselves, and I'll talk to you in the next episode. https://beacons.ai/thegriefschool

Hi everyone, welcome back to "Healing Starts with the Heart." I'm Sharon, your host, and today I want to talk about something very close to my heart: helping you heal from heartbreak and find peace and joy again. If you're feeling alone, overwhelmed, or just lost in your grief, I'm here to support you. I understand the pain of a broken heart deeply because I've been there too. After the death of my nephew Austin, I thought I would never really live again. I was consumed by grief. But then, something changed. I was introduced to a Grief Recovery Specialist, and through their guidance, I learned the tools to move beyond this pain. This experience was so transformative for me that I knew I had to dedicate my life to helping others find their way through grief. And you know what? You can find your own recovery too. Say "Yes" to healing your life. Say "Yes" to enjoying an authentic life that honors the memory of those you love. It's not about forgetting them; it's about finding a way to remember them with love, not just pain. I've been teaching my grief program for over 17 years now, and I can tell you, there is hope. You can heal. Recovery from this pain is not just a dream; it's a real possibility. And remember, healing doesn't mean forgetting. You will always remember your loved one. But one day, you'll find that you can talk about them with a smile, remembering the good times, not just the loss. So, if you're ready to start your journey to recovery, I'm here to help. Thank you for joining me on "Healing Starts with the Heart." You're not alone in this. You can heal, and you can find joy again. Until next time, take care. https://beacons.ai/thegriefschool

Hello, everyone! Welcome to "Healing Starts with the Heart." I'm Sharon, and today we're going to talk about something that touches all our lives: loss and grief. Loss is an unavoidable part of life. Whether it's the loss of a loved one, a pet, or even a long-held dream, we will all experience a broken heart at some point. Grief is normal and natural, but going through the healing process can be one of the toughest times in our lives. Now, have you ever wondered why people don't like to talk about grief? It seems like whenever we bring up grief or loss, people get uncomfortable. It's almost as if grief has become a 'dirty word' or the 'enemy.' On social media, for example, funny and uplifting posts get lots of likes and comments. But mention grief or loss, and it's like a ghost town. So, why is it that the word 'grief' makes us so uncomfortable? My guess? We don't talk about it enough. We associate grief with pain, tears, and death. These are all true, but grief is also a universal experience that connects us all. Our discomfort with grief might be an unconscious choice, but it's a choice nonetheless. And seeing grief as the enemy can only hurt us. Holding onto the pain can lead to depression, anxiety, health issues, and even anger and sadness that can affect a big part of our lives. But here's the thing: it doesn't have to be this way. We can choose to view and talk about grief differently. We can start having conversations about grief and loss now, even if we're not currently experiencing it. It's time to change the narrative around grief. Let's open up, share our experiences, and support each other. Thank you for joining me today on "Healing Starts with the Heart." Remember, grief is a journey, and you're not alone. Until next time, let's keep the conversation going.   https://beacons.ai/thegriefschool

Podcast Show Notes: Exploring the Father-Child Relationship with Gigi Denar - Part 2 Episode Title: "Deepening the Father-Child Bond: Healing and Hope" Introduction Host: Sharon Guest: Gigi Denar, Author Topic: The critical importance of the father-child relationship in shaping life trajectories. Discussion Highlights The Significance of the Father-Child Relationship: Gigi emphasizes the unique role fathers play in identity formation. The discussion revolves around how the absence of a father leads to a sense of brokenness. Gigi's Personal Experience: Gigi shares her personal journey, including dating older men as a result of lacking her father's presence. She reflects on the different kinds of voids created by the absence of a nurturing mother and an affirming father. Dynamics of the Father-Daughter Relationship: The conversation shifts to the unique dynamics of father-daughter relationships. Gigi points out how fathers are often the first male love of a daughter, shaping her future relationships. The Impact of Different Types of Fathers: Gigi discusses five types of fathers: absent, authoritarian, apathetic, abusive, and accusing. She explains how each type can distort a child's identity and self-worth. Generational Impact and Healing: The discussion touches on breaking generational curses and the challenges of fatherhood without a paternal role model. Gigi's three-step process for healing: recognizing, repenting and releasing, and receiving. Cultural Contexts of Fatherhood: The conversation explores how father-child relationships are influenced by cultural backgrounds. Gigi highlights the differences yet underscores the universal human aspects of these relationships. Workshops and Resources for Healing: Gigi introduces her workshop as a jumpstart to healing, focusing on awareness and the path to recovery. She mentions her book "Hungry for Wholeness" and a 12-week companion diary to aid in the healing journey. Gigi's Aspiration to Reach More People: Gigi expresses a desire to distribute her book to prisons and halfway houses, recognizing the widespread need for healing father-child relationships. She speaks about her encounters with young fathers and their eagerness to learn and grow. Conclusion Contact Information: Gigi can be reached through her website www.wellfedresources.com. Host's Gratitude: The host thanks Gigi for sharing her insights and inspiring hope in listeners. Invitation: The audience is encouraged to visit the website for more information and resources.

Podcast Show Notes: Exploring the Father-Child Relationship with Gigi Denar Episode Title: "Unveiling the Depths of the Father-Child Bond" Introduction Host: Sharon Guest: Gigi Denar, Author, Motivational Speaker, Counselor Topic: Father-Child Relationships and Their Impact on Grief and Personal Development Key Points Discussed Gigi Denar's Background and Journey: Gigi shares her personal experience of growing up without knowing her father. She details the moment she learned about her siblings and the start of her clandestine relationship with her paternal grandfather. Gigi describes her first contact with her father and the emotional turmoil it brought. The Role of Grief in the Father-Child Relationship: The conversation delves into how the absence of a father is a significant form of grief. Gigi recounts her own grief and longing for a father she never knew. The discussion touches on how children fill in gaps in their understanding when information is missing. Healing and Reconciliation: Gigi talks about finally meeting her father and developing a close bond with him. The healing journey between Gigi and her father is highlighted, emphasizing the importance of communication and understanding in mending their relationship. Gigi's Professional Journey and Contributions: The inspiration behind Gigi's work as an author and speaker, particularly focusing on father-child relationships. Gigi mentions her book project where she combined stories with her father, offering a unique perspective on their relationship. Impact of Father-Child Relationship on Personal Growth: Discussion on how the absence or presence of a father shapes an individual's life trajectory. Gigi reflects on how meeting her father helped her discover her own identity and similarities they shared. Challenges and Realizations: Gigi speaks about the complexities of blended families and reconciling with other siblings. The conversation covers the emotional challenges faced by both Gigi and her father in their journey. Future Projects and Aspirations: Plans for further exploration and discussion of the father-child dynamic in Gigi's future work. The episode concludes with a teaser for the next part, promising to delve deeper into how the father-child relationship forms the foundation of one's identity. Conclusion Reminder for Part 2: The next episode will explore deeper aspects of the father-child relationship. Gratitude: Sharon expresses gratitude to Gigi for sharing her story and insights.

Podcast Show Notes: Healing Journey with Janine Rashidi - Part 1 Episode Title: "Embracing Healing: Janine Rashidi's Journey Through Trauma" Introduction Host: Sharon Guest: Janine Rashidi, Author and Healer Topic: Overcoming trauma and the journey towards healing Key Points Discussed Janine Rashdi's Background: Janine shares her upbringing in a household with addiction and abuse. She details the various forms of abuse she experienced and her role as a caretaker for her siblings. Early Realization of Abuse: Janine recounts realizing her family dynamics were not normal at a young age. She contrasts her experiences with those of her peers, highlighting the abnormalities in her upbringing. Escape and Independence: Janine describes her decision to run away from home at 15 and her experiences living homeless. She talks about meeting a significantly older man and entering into a relationship marked by similar abusive patterns as her childhood. Janine's Turning Point: The pivotal moment when Janine decided to leave her abusive partner, planning her escape with her children. She recalls the challenges and fears she faced during this escape. Return to Her Parents' Home: Janine discusses returning to her parents' home, who were then on a clean streak, to start anew. She reflects on the complexity of feelings around returning to the environment she initially fled. Beginning of the Healing Journey: Janine's entry into massage therapy school as a path to independence and her first encounter with the concept of trauma stored in the body. She highlights how massage therapy helped her start recognizing and processing her trauma. Therapy and Overcoming Challenges: Janine and her daughters begin therapy to deal with their past traumas. She juggles multiple roles - student, worker, and mother - while starting her healing journey. Common Misconceptions about Trauma: Janine discusses misconceptions, such as trauma disappearing over time. She emphasizes the importance of learning to relate differently to one's trauma. Conclusion Contact Information: Janine can be found at goodbyetension.com. Book Mention: "Abundance Beyond Trauma" and its accompanying workbook. Teaser for Part 2: The next episode will delve into Janine's full embrace of her healing journey, her book, and the treatment methods she offers to clients.