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Build Amazing Connections With Our 7 Day All-access Course Pass and Keep Our "Key Pillars to Secure Attachment" Course Fully Free for Life (Valued at $250!). Check It Out and Claim This Free Gift Before They Run Out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-pillars-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=june-promo&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=podcast-episode&utm_content=pod-06-19-25&el=podcast   Why do dismissive avoidant partners sometimes pull away after intimacy—or seem disconnected during it? If you've ever felt confused, hurt, or triggered in these moments, you're not alone. This episode is here to bring you clarity, compassion, and a path forward. In this powerful and revealing conversation, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike delve into the hidden emotional patterns behind the dismissive avoidant attachment style and sex. Drawing from neuroscience, real client stories, and lived experience, they unpack how avoidant behaviors form—and what it takes to build meaningful intimacy, trust, and long-term desire. You'll learn: ✅ Why DAs often crave physical intimacy early on—only to pull away later ✅ The four pillars of connection and how sex fits into healthy relationships ✅ The difference between lust and love—and why both matter ✅ How neurochemicals like oxytocin and vasopressin shape bonding for men and women ✅ What to do if you've “had sex too early” and want to shift your dynamic ✅ How to build intimacy through intellectual and emotional connection ✅ The real reason many DAs avoid eye contact during sex ✅ How to communicate sexual needs without triggering shutdowns Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days: Enough Time to Complete a Full Course! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-06-02-25&el=podcast   Dating a fearful avoidant and not sure how to build real connection without scaring them off? This episode breaks down exactly what you need to know to create emotional safety and deepen your bond in the early stages of dating a FA partner. Thais walks you through the unique needs fearful avoidants have in the first 3 months—and how to avoid the common mistakes that make them pull away. Whether you're new to attachment theory or deep in the work, this episode is packed with insights that will help you show up with confidence, curiosity, and care. What You'll Learn: ✔️ The 4 Pillars of Connection (and how FAs prioritize them) ✔️ Why presence and depth matter more than grand gestures ✔️ The role of novelty and transparency in building trust ✔️ How to ask the right questions to create intimacy ✔️ Subtle behaviors that help a FA feel emotionally safe This isn't about playing games—it's about  Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and a global leader in attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and more than 13 certifications, Thais has helped over 70,000 people heal attachment wounds and build secure, thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

14-Day All-Access Trial: Transform Your Life with Expert-Led Mental Health & Personal Growth Programs https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or drained? These hidden habits might be the reason. In this transformational episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais breaks down five common habits that quietly sabotage your emotional well-being—and shows you exactly how to replace them with empowering strategies that fuel your growth. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How resisting reality (instead of accepting and problem-solving) wastes emotional energy ✔️ Why disconnecting from yourself leads to burnout, self-abandonment, and anxiety ✔️ How unprocessed emotions and painful internal stories accumulate emotional “residue” ✔️ Why indirect communication creates resentment—and how to communicate clearly and vulnerably ✔️ How perfectionism paralyzes progress and erodes self-worth ✔️ Simple mindset shifts and reprogramming techniques to rebuild emotional resilience and inner peace   Each habit is explained with real-life examples and actionable tools you can start applying today to take back your energy, build self-trust, and create a healthier, happier life. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and an internationally respected expert on attachment theory, emotional healing, and subconscious reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and more than 13 certifications, Thais has helped over 70,000 people globally transform their lives from the inside out. Helpful Resources:

14-Day All-Access Trial: Transform Your Life with Expert-Led Mental Health & Personal Growth Programs https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Fearful avoidant attachment doesn't have to define your relationships or your life. You can rewire old patterns—and it starts with healthier habits. In this transformative episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais dives deep into essential daily habits that help fearful avoidants heal emotional wounds, reclaim healthy boundaries, and rebuild a secure relationship with themselves and others.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why repetition plus emotion reprograms your subconscious attachment patterns ✔️ How to practice true assertiveness without anger, blame, or emotional volatility ✔️ The importance of spending intentional time alone while in relationships ✔️ How journaling helps connect you to real-time emotional needs and self-validation ✔️ How to replace chronic self-criticism with compassionate self-correction ✔️ The power of substituting "thank you" for constant apologizing to rewire guilt and shame ✔️ How consistent small shifts lead to emotional resilience, connection, and empowerment Whether you're a fearful avoidant yourself or love someone who is, this episode offers practical, powerful, and deeply compassionate steps for long-term emotional transformation. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and an internationally respected expert on attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, Thais has helped over 70,000 people heal attachment wounds and reclaim secure relationships. Helpful Resources:

14-Day All-Access Trial: Transform Your Life with Expert-Led Mental Health & Personal Growth Programs https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Struggling to break unhealthy patterns and create lasting change? Healing anxious attachment starts with the habits you build today. In this empowering episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais shares practical strategies to rebuild your relationship with yourself, meet your own needs, and create healthier emotional habits. Designed especially for those with anxious preoccupied attachment styles, this episode offers a powerful blueprint for transformation and long-term emotional well-being.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why anxious attachments form from inconsistent emotional caregiving ✔️ How unmet needs create emotional “addiction” to relationships—and how to break free ✔️ The importance of creating daily rituals for self-connection ✔️ How building a strong internal relationship reduces anxiety and external dependency ✔️ Practical habits to stop self-abandonment and build authentic self-worth ✔️ How to balance developing all areas of life—career, financial, emotional, mental, and spiritual ✔️ Why purpose, meaning, and emotional self-soothing are critical to long-term healing By shifting your habits at the subconscious and behavioral levels, you can move from emotional survival to emotional empowerment—and create the safe, nurturing life you deserve. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and a globally recognized expert in attachment theory and subconscious healing. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, she's helped over 70,000 students create profound emotional transformations. Helpful Resources:

Get Free Access to All of My Attachment & Relationship Courses This Mental Health Awareness Month. Start Your 14-day Trial Now and Complete a Course Before the Offer Ends! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Is your partner emotionally unavailable—or emotionally manipulative? In this in-depth episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais is joined by co-host Mike DiZio to unpack the 9 diagnostic criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and explain how these traits differ from what you see in someone with dismissive avoidant attachment. This episode goes far beyond the surface, giving you practical tools to differentiate between personality disorders and attachment wounds, understand confusing behaviors, and protect yourself from staying in toxic relationships under the wrong assumptions.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The 9 clinical traits of narcissism (based on DSM criteria) ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants may appear cold—but aren't manipulative ✔️ The root causes of narcissism vs. avoidant attachment ✔️ How each style relates to vulnerability, attention, and accountability ✔️ How dismissive avoidants can empathize and change—and why narcissists often don't ✔️ Why NPD healing is rare—and how shame avoidance blocks growth ✔️ Practical examples and red flags to look for in your relationships Whether you're confused about a past partner, navigating a current dynamic, or exploring your own behavior, this episode delivers eye-opening clarity and practical insight. ⏱️ Episode Timestamps 00:00 – Attachment Style Quiz 00:42 – Intro: Why This Distinction Matters 05:15 – 1: Grandiose Sense of Self 07:57 – 2: Requires Excessive Admiration 21:33 – 3: Fantasies of Unlimited Power, Beauty, Success 29:18 – PDS Membership Program 30:12 – 4: Entitlement 39:32 – 5: Believes They're Special & Unique 43:23 – 6: Interpersonally Exploitative 48:50 – 7: Arrogant or Haughty Attitude 52:18 – 8: Jealousy of Others 53:25 – 9: Lack of Empathy 59:05 – Conclusion Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and a global leader in attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and more than 13 certifications, Thais has helped over 70,000 people heal attachment wounds and build secure, thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

14-Day All-Access Trial: Transform Your Life with Expert-Led Mental Health & Personal Growth Programs https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Dismissive avoidants may seem confident on the outside—but is that really the full story? In this revealing episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais explores why dismissive avoidants often struggle deeply with self-esteem issues—even when they outwardly appear strong, independent, and unaffected. You'll learn the hidden emotional patterns behind dismissive avoidant behaviors and gain critical tools for healing from within.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants often battle hidden shame despite seeming confident ✔️ How early emotional neglect leads to internalized feelings of being "defective" ✔️ Why strong boundaries can sometimes be a mask for emotional pain ✔️ The role of low-level sympathetic nervous system activation (fight/flight/freeze) in daily life ✔️ How living out of alignment with emotional needs damages self-esteem over time ✔️ What emotional suppression costs avoidants—and how to start reconnecting with feelings ✔️ Practical strategies to accept vulnerability, listen to emotions, and build authentic self-worth   If you've ever wondered why you—or someone you love—seems "fine" but struggles with deep disconnection or self-sabotage, this episode offers eye-opening clarity and actionable healing steps. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leading authority in attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, Thais has helped more than 70,000 people build emotional resilience and secure relationships. Helpful Resources:

14-Day All-Access Trial: Transform Your Life with Expert-Led Mental Health & Personal Growth Programs https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Struggling with self-esteem, emotional disconnection, or self-soothing? There's a path to healing—and it starts within. In this supportive and empowering episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais teaches three powerful ways to reconnect with yourself emotionally, increase your self-esteem, and build lasting inner resilience. If you often seek validation from others or struggle to process emotions in a healthy way, these foundational practices will transform your relationship with yourself.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How giving yourself the same support you seek from others heals emotional wounds ✔️ Why small daily acts of self-care (tailored to your love languages) are critical for self-connection ✔️ How internal validation through kind self-talk rebuilds self-worth ✔️ Why journaling and emotional check-ins create deeper emotional intimacy with yourself ✔️ How honoring your feelings, setting boundaries, and meeting your needs foster genuine self-trust ✔️ Simple practices to strengthen emotional regulation and boost self-esteem every day   When you consistently show up for yourself, you don't just heal—you thrive. This episode offers real, practical steps to create the safe, empowering inner relationship you deserve.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and an expert in emotional reprogramming and attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, Thais has helped more than 70,000 students worldwide build emotional security and conscious relationships.   Helpful Resources:

Get Free Access to All of My Attachment & Relationship Courses This Mental Health Awareness Month. Start Your 14-day Trial Now and Complete a Course Before the Offer Ends! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Ready for commitment—but want to avoid repeating the same mistakes in love? Start by asking the right questions. In this insightful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio reveal the 10 essential questions you should ask yourself and your partner before diving into a committed relationship. These questions go beyond chemistry—they're rooted in emotional intelligence, subconscious programming, and long-term compatibility.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How non-negotiables, standards, and morals shape long-term relational success ✔️ Why asking “Are we emotionally ready?” can save you years of heartbreak ✔️ How to bring up topics like children, lifestyle goals, and emotional needs with confidence ✔️ What patterns to watch for in yourself and your partner before committing ✔️ The art of discerning compatibility without turning dates into interviews ✔️ Why admiration and difference are vital to lasting attraction ✔️ How to set shared visions for love, lifestyle, and commitment Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidant, or working toward secure love, this episode gives you an empowering framework to date intentionally—and protect your future self. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a renowned expert in attachment theory and subconscious healing. With a Ph.D. and 13+ certifications, Thais has helped 70,000+ people worldwide achieve deep, lasting relationship transformation. Helpful Resources:

14-Day All-Access Trial: Transform Your Life with Expert-Led Mental Health & Personal Growth Programs https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Feeling stuck in sadness? Depression often has deeper roots—and you have more power to heal than you might realize. In this powerful and compassionate episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais unpacks the three major root causes of depression—and provides practical, science-backed steps to begin your healing journey today. Whether you're personally struggling or supporting someone who is, this episode will bring you clarity, hope, and tangible action steps.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The role of gut health and serotonin production in emotional well-being ✔️ How chronically unmet emotional needs create pain—and what to do about it ✔️ Why painful subconscious beliefs create suffering beyond the initial pain ✔️ How your brain's need for certainty can trap you in negative meaning-making cycles ✔️ Practical steps to identify unmet needs and proactively close emotional gaps ✔️ How to reframe painful thoughts and shift out of depression patterns ✔️ Daily practices to reprogram your mind, restore your emotional resilience, and reconnect with life Thais also shares how understanding the difference between pain and suffering is crucial for long-term emotional health—and why meeting your needs consciously and proactively is one of the fastest ways to heal. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leading voice in healing attachment wounds and subconscious reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, Thais has guided over 70,000 people worldwide toward deeper emotional resilience and fulfilling relationships. Helpful Resources:

14-Day All-Access Trial: Transform Your Life with Expert-Led Mental Health & Personal Growth Programs https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Is there a hidden link between dismissive avoidant attachment and chronic depression? In this deeply insightful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais explores the strong correlation between dismissive avoidant attachment styles and low-level, often chronic depression. Learn why emotional repression, unmet needs, and painful belief systems contribute to emotional numbness—and how true healing is possible.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why chronic emotional repression can lead to emotional "toxicity" over time ✔️ How dismissive avoidants unconsciously disconnect from core emotional needs ✔️ The role of unmet needs and negative belief imprints in depression ✔️ Why love and connection are biologically essential for emotional well-being ✔️ How painful childhood associations with vulnerability cause long-term inner conflict ✔️ The importance of reprogramming beliefs about vulnerability, love, and connection ✔️ How gradual exposure and conscious reprogramming can create profound healing   Thais also shares practical, science-backed strategies to break the cycle of emotional disconnection, reconnect with your own feelings, and heal depressive patterns at the root.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and a leader in subconscious reprogramming and emotional healing. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience, she has helped tens of thousands transform their relationships and inner lives.   Helpful Resources:

14-Day All-Access Trial: Transform Your Life with Expert-Led Mental Health & Personal Growth Programs https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=youtube&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-05-07-25&el=youtube-podcast     Do you feel uncomfortable with vulnerability, tend to pull away in relationships, or avoid conflict at all costs? You might be operating with a dismissive avoidant attachment style—and you're not alone. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais shares the 10 most common signs of dismissive avoidant attachment and the powerful subconscious programming behind them. Whether you relate to these traits or recognize them in a partner, this episode offers clarity and a compassionate path forward.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why DAs avoid vulnerability and emotional intimacy ✔️ How they subconsciously escape from emotional discomfort ✔️ The impact of covert emotional neglect on identity and core wounds ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants fear conflict—and how it plays out in relationships ✔️ How shame, fear of criticism, and a belief of being “defective” shape their behavior ✔️ Why DAs tend to lose feelings suddenly—and how it's linked to fear, not fact ✔️ What it means when DAs say, “I'm just not capable of being in a relationship” ✔️ Simple reprogramming steps to become securely attached If you've ever said “I don't do emotions,” or dated someone who shuts down the moment things get real, this episode is your blueprint to understanding and transforming dismissive avoidant attachment from the inside out. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and world-renowned expert on attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in CBT, somatic healing, and subconscious reprogramming, Thais has helped over 70,000 students transform their emotional patterns and relationships. Helpful Resources:

14-Day All-Access Trial: Transform Your Life with Expert-Led Mental Health & Personal Growth Programs https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Feel like your emotions sometimes hijack your actions in relationships? You're not alone. In this validating episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais walks you through the early and critical steps to understand and overcome activating strategies—the emotional impulses that lead anxious and fearful avoidants to chase connection in ways that can backfire. You'll learn exactly why your mind creates activating thoughts, how to stop acting from fear, and what conscious strategies you can use to rewire these old patterns.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ What activating strategies are (and how they sabotage healthy relationships) ✔️ How unmet needs and emotional triggers drive “emergency” behaviors ✔️ The difference between conscious choices vs. subconscious survival reactions ✔️ Why respecting others' boundaries supports your long-term emotional needs ✔️ Practical tools to witness, interrupt, and reprogram activating thoughts ✔️ How self-awareness and repetition can rewire your subconscious mind for secure love   If you've ever had that "urge" to text, call, show up uninvited, or overexplain after someone pulls away—this episode gives you the clarity and steps to break free from old emotional cycles and move toward calm, conscious connection.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and an expert in healing attachment wounds and reprogramming the subconscious mind. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, Thais has helped over 70,000 people create emotional security and healthier relationships.   Helpful Resources:

14-Day All-Access Trial: Transform Your Life with Expert-Led Mental Health & Personal Growth Programs https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast     Ever feel like you're constantly fearing rejection or abandonment—even in a good relationship? You might be experiencing relationship anxiety fueled by anxious preoccupied attachment. In this heartfelt and insightful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais unpacks the subconscious patterns, wounds, and behaviors that drive relationship anxiety—and shares powerful tools to help you heal, self-soothe, and thrive in love.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why anxious attachment forms from inconsistent emotional caregiving ✔️ How hyper-attunement to others' needs leads to self-abandonment ✔️ The link between unresolved childhood needs and intense fear of rejection ✔️ How anxious partners unconsciously overextend and people-please ✔️ Why anxious types often misinterpret neutral behaviors as rejection ✔️ How to reprogram your core wounds, self-soothe effectively, and stop overexplaining ✔️ Practical daily strategies to build self-worth and emotional resilience   Whether you identify with anxious attachment yourself or love someone who does, this episode gives you deep insight, actionable tools, and hope for building secure and lasting relationships.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and an internationally recognized expert on attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, she's helped over 70,000 students heal their relationships and emotional lives from the inside out.   Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Ever felt your partner suddenly pull away after a moment of closeness? You may be seeing a deactivating strategy in action. In this illuminating episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais uncovers the top 7 deactivating strategies dismissive avoidants use to create distance when they feel emotionally overwhelmed or unsafe. Whether you're in a relationship with a DA or identify as one yourself, this episode breaks down the subconscious drivers behind these behaviors and offers empowering insights to shift the pattern.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why physical distancing is the DA's first line of defense ✔️ What a “vulnerability hangover” is—and how it leads to emotional retreat ✔️ How “connection hangovers” after intimacy spark silence or doubt ✔️ Why DAs often doubt their own feelings and question the relationship ✔️ How fear of expectations and not knowing “the rules” can trigger withdrawal ✔️ Why fixating on an ex or fictional figure creates emotional space ✔️ What these patterns are really protecting—and how to heal them for good Thais also shares how to navigate these patterns without taking them personally, while helping DAs build healthier models of closeness, trust, and vulnerability. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and expert in attachment reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience, Thais has helped over 70,000 people overcome insecure attachment styles and build conscious, fulfilling relationships. Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Everything was going great—so why did your fearful avoidant partner suddenly pull away? In this insightful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais unpacks the 5 surprising reasons fearful avoidants can seem deeply connected one day… and emotionally checked out the next. Whether you're on the receiving end of this dynamic or struggling with it yourself, this episode brings clarity to the confusion and empowers you with tools for change.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why broken trust, even in subtle ways, can instantly shut a fearful avoidant down ✔️ How boundary violations and anxious pressure cause withdrawal and overwhelm ✔️ Why high expectations or feeling trapped can spark a sudden loss of interest ✔️ The internal burnout that happens when a fearful avoidant suppresses their own needs ✔️ How to stop this cycle with better communication, boundaries, and emotional awareness   Thais also shares a key takeaway for fearful avoidants: if you're consistently losing feelings “out of nowhere,” it's a sign that your needs have been unmet for too long—and it's time to speak up before you shut down.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and expert in attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. With over 13 certifications and a Ph.D., Thais has helped more than 70,000 people rewire their relationship patterns for good.   Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Still feeling anxious, needy, or stuck in painful relationship cycles? Reparenting may be the key. In this transformational episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais walks you through the core concept of reparenting—what it is, how it heals anxious attachment, and why it leads to faster, more lasting change. If you've ever found yourself clinging too tightly, afraid of rejection, or losing yourself in relationships, this episode will help you uncover why—and what to do about it.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ What reparenting actually is (and isn't) ✔️ How trauma includes both what did happen and what didn't ✔️ Why anxious attachment forms from unmet childhood needs ✔️ How unmet needs lead to dependency, low self-worth, and staying in the wrong relationships ✔️ A powerful 3-part reparenting exercise to start healing right now ✔️ What healthy self-soothing, self-validation, and internal reassurance look like By the end, you'll learn how to self-source your needs, stop seeking breadcrumbs from the outside world, and finally feel safe, seen, and empowered within.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and globally recognized expert in attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. With over a decade of experience and more than 70,000 students helped, she's on a mission to teach you how to heal from the inside out.   Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Why are anxious and dismissive partners so magnetically drawn to each other—and yet so often stuck in pain? In this powerful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais explores the intense emotional dynamic between the “love addict” (anxious attachment) and “love avoidant” (dismissive attachment). Learn how their core wounds, unmet needs, and subconscious patterns both clash and intertwine—and most importantly, how each can heal independently and together.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why anxious and dismissive styles are subconsciously drawn to each other ✔️ How unmet emotional needs in childhood fuel anxious clinging or avoidant withdrawal ✔️ Why the dismissive avoidant craves space while the anxious needs closeness ✔️ How this dynamic leads to painful push-pull cycles and mutual frustration ✔️ Practical tools for both partners to heal: anxious self-soothing & avoidant vulnerability ✔️ What each style must do individually to change the relationship together   If you've ever felt stuck in an “on again, off again” dynamic—or feel like you're giving too much or shutting down too fast—this episode is your roadmap to healing and connection.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and a globally recognized expert in attachment theory and subconscious healing. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience, she's helped over 70,000 people transform their relationships and emotional patterns from the inside out. Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Why do avoidant attachment styles turn to numbing instead of soothing—and what's the cost? In this eye-opening episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais breaks down the difference between true self-soothing and numbing behaviors in fearful and dismissive avoidant individuals. From emotional eating to shopping, gambling, or overconsuming media, these behaviors often mask deeper unmet needs for comfort, safety, and connection.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why fearful and dismissive avoidants struggle to self-soothe in healthy ways ✔️ How childhood conditioning leads to numbing behaviors as a survival mechanism ✔️ The neuroscience behind why we repeat unhealthy patterns despite knowing better ✔️ How to rewire addictive behaviors by identifying the real needs underneath ✔️ Why creature comforts like food, porn, or spending are often misused as coping tools ✔️ Simple daily practices to shift from coping to healing (without judgment) Whether you're avoidantly attached or supporting someone who is, this episode offers a powerful roadmap to break free from numbing loops and create lasting emotional regulation. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in healing attachment wounds. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, she's guided more than 70,000 students in reprogramming subconscious patterns for deeper connection and freedom.   Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Is your friend more distant, private, or slow to open up than most? They may be operating with a dismissive avoidant attachment style—often misunderstood but deeply wired for independence and protection. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais outlines 10 revealing signs that your friend may be dismissive avoidant, and most importantly, how to build connection without pushing them away.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why dismissive avoidant friends are slow to warm up—but value loyalty and consistency ✔️ How intellectual and shared-activity bonding replaces emotional depth early on ✔️ The “6–8 touch point” rule before they'll fully let you in ✔️ How dismissive friends handle conflict (and why they may disappear after one disagreement) ✔️ Their deep need for privacy, emotional safety, and a sense of autonomy ✔️ What wounds they carry—and how to build trust without overwhelming them Whether you're feeling disconnected from a friend, recovering from a confusing dynamic, or looking to deepen a long-standing bond, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap to navigating friendships with avoidant attachment.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and leading expert on healing attachment wounds and subconscious reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience, she's helped more than 70,000 members around the world transform their relationships. Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Can love thrive between a dismissive avoidant and someone securely attached? Or is the emotional gap too wide to bridge? In this deeply validating episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio explore what happens when a dismissive avoidant (DA) partners with a securely attached person. From breakthroughs in vulnerability to the real work required to sustain love, they break down what works, what doesn't—and what makes all the difference.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How repeated exposure to secure behaviors helps a DA reprogram core wounds ✔️ Why healthy communication and consistent boundaries are essential ✔️ The difference between leading by example vs. “parenting” a partner ✔️ How co-regulation transforms avoidant emotional patterns ✔️ The #1 factor that determines if the relationship will last ✔️ When it's time to walk away vs. when to lean in with patience and clarity Whether you're in this dynamic or love someone who is, this episode helps you see the road ahead clearly—without losing yourself in the process. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 02:05 – 1. Repeated Exposure to a Secure Person Can Improve a DA's Core Wounds 08:40 – When the Effort Feels One-Sided 19:30 – 2. A Securely Attached Person Still Has Standards 27:15 – 3. The Secure Person Tends to Foster Healthy Communication 35:56 – 4. Emotional Regulation Improves 44:38 – 5. The DA Learns to Have Healthier Coping Mechanisms 45:32 – Can This Relationship Work Long-Term? 52:14 – Conclusion Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a globally respected expert in healing attachment wounds. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience, Thais has helped over 70,000 members break free from painful emotional patterns and build secure relationships. Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Why do avoidants seem hesitant to commit—even when things are going well? In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais reveals the three hidden qualities every dismissive avoidant looks for before committing to a long-term relationship or deep friendship. These traits aren't always spoken aloud, but they quietly determine whether the relationship feels safe and sustainable. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why emotional acceptance is essential to avoidants (and how criticism shuts them down) ✔️ The importance of emotional stability—and how avoidants subtly test for it ✔️ How a strong sense of autonomy and independence is a non-negotiable for commitment ✔️ What not to do if you want to build trust with an avoidant partner ✔️ How to communicate your needs while honoring theirs ✔️ Why understanding these three traits can transform your relationship dynamic If you've ever felt confused by an avoidant partner's pullback or mixed signals, this episode gives you the roadmap to understanding their core needs—and deciding if you're aligned for the long haul. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and expert in reprogramming subconscious patterns. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities like CBT, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional lives. Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Does your dismissive avoidant partner actually care—or are they just keeping you around? In this emotionally insightful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio break down 6 clear signs that a dismissive avoidant partner has developed real feelings for you. From subtle shifts in communication to the moments they begin to open up and meet your needs, you'll learn what to look for—and what it means. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How to tell when a dismissive avoidant is thinking about you all the time ✔️ Why they might feel the urge to pull back when things get close—and how that changes when they care ✔️ Signs of emotional vulnerability and gradual opening up ✔️ The unexpected moments of protectiveness that reveal affection ✔️ What it means when they begin accommodating your needs—despite internal resistance ✔️ Why the thought of losing you may be the biggest clue of all This episode isn't just about recognizing signs—it's about deciding whether the connection you're in has long-term potential and whether your needs are truly being met. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 05:06 – 1. If You're Thinking About the Person All the Time 09:41 – 2. You Might Feel the Need to Retract 18:15 – 3. You Notice Yourself Opening Up Little by Little 27:16 – 4. You Start Feeling Protective Over the Person 30:55 – DA's and Words of Affirmation 45:34 – 5. You'll Try to Accommodate Them by Meeting Their Needs 52:26 – Bonus — The Thought of Losing the Other Person Hurts Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a globally recognized expert in attachment theory and emotional healing. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, she's helped thousands shift subconscious patterns and build lasting relationships. Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Do avoidants really fall in love—or are they just emotionally unavailable? In this eye-opening episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais answers one of the most frequently asked questions in attachment theory: Can dismissive and fearful avoidants truly experience love? The answer might surprise you. Through personal stories and client insights, Thais explains how the depth of love an avoidant can feel is directly tied to their ability to be emotionally vulnerable. Learn why some avoidants may only feel infatuation or superficial connection until they've done the deeper work—and how healing their attachment style can unlock the potential for lasting, unconditional love. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why vulnerability is the gateway to deeper love ✔️ The difference between infatuation and emotional intimacy ✔️ How love evolves across the 6 relationship stages ✔️ What holds avoidants back from deep emotional connection ✔️ How to support your partner (or yourself) in building secure attachment ✔️ Why doing the work changes how love is experienced and expressed Whether you're dating an avoidant, recovering from a relationship, or healing your own patterns, this episode is your compassionate guide to love through the lens of secure connection. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and an expert in healing attachment wounds. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience in the field, Thais has helped over 70,000 students worldwide create empowered relationships and emotional freedom. Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Do you often feel intense emotional reactions but can't always pinpoint why? In this powerful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais unpacks the 12 core wounds that most commonly affect individuals with a Fearful Avoidant attachment style—alongside the emotions they spark. Whether you identify as a Fearful Avoidant or love someone who does, this deep dive will help you understand, name, and ultimately transform the subconscious beliefs that cause inner turmoil and relational tension. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why Fearful Avoidants tend to have the most core wounds of all attachment styles ✔️ How childhood trauma imprints emotional "landmines" in the subconscious ✔️ The top wounds—like I will be betrayed, I am bad, I'm unworthy—and their emotional patterns ✔️ What subconscious emotions are really trying to tell you ✔️ How core wounds like I am unsafe, I am stupid, and I'll be attacked show up in adult relationships ✔️ The link between shame, hypervigilance, emotional outbursts, and perfectionism This episode offers a clear, compassionate guide to recognizing your pain points so you can finally start to heal them at the root. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leading voice in attachment theory and emotional healing. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience, she's helped over 70,000 students in 120+ countries reprogram their subconscious patterns and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast What happens when a dismissive avoidant and a fearful avoidant are in a relationship? This dynamic can be one of the most intense and emotionally turbulent attachment pairings due to conflicting needs, emotional push-pull behaviors, and deep-rooted fears around intimacy and abandonment. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we explore the key challenges, patterns, and strategies for building a healthier connection between these two avoidant attachment styles. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why the fearful avoidant switches between anxious and avoidant behaviors in this pairing ✔️ How the dismissive avoidant's emotional withdrawal triggers the FA's fears ✔️ The push-pull cycle and why these relationships feel unstable ✔️ How both partners can meet each other's emotional needs without overwhelming themselves ✔️ Key communication strategies to break the cycle of conflict and emotional shutdown ✔️ How to bring more security into the relationship for lasting connection If you've ever wondered, “Why does this relationship feel so intense yet so distant at the same time?”, this episode will help you understand the dynamic and how to create a healthier balance between independence and connection. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast How does no contact affect different attachment styles? No contact can be an effective strategy after a breakup, but how it works depends entirely on your ex's attachment style. While anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment styles all process breakups differently, understanding their patterns can help you navigate your healing journey—and even recognize signs that they may still be thinking about you. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant exes respond to no contact ✔️ The timeframes when each attachment style starts processing the breakup ✔️ Why anxious exes reach out quickly, while dismissive avoidants take longer ✔️ Signs your ex is regretting the breakup, missing you, or re-evaluating their decision ✔️ When to extend or break no contact based on their attachment style ✔️ How to use this time to heal and shift into a more secure attachment style If you've ever wondered, “Is no contact working?” or “Will my ex reach out?”, this episode will help you understand their attachment-based response and what it means for your relationship dynamics. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Dismissive avoidants can seem emotionally shut down—but there is a way in. If you've ever felt stuck in a relationship where the other person won't open up, especially if they're dismissive avoidant, this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast is for you. Thais shares the top 3 proven ways to gently support a dismissive avoidant in letting down their emotional walls—without pushing, overgiving, or losing yourself in the process. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How asking specific—not general—questions creates space for meaningful sharing ✔️ Why emotional safety and non-judgment are essential to helping a DA open up ✔️ The power of validation, empathy, and simply remembering small details ✔️ How to express your needs without sounding critical or shaming ✔️ The role of acceptance and consistency in building long-term trust ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants often test the waters before becoming emotionally vulnerable If you've ever wondered, “What can I do to connect with a dismissive avoidant partner—or know if it's even worth it?”, this episode will offer clear, actionable tools to deepen emotional intimacy and assess relationship alignment. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Why is the anxious + fearful avoidant dynamic so intense—and so difficult to navigate? This powerful pairing is often filled with deep emotional connection, high sensitivity, and equally high volatility. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais explores the unique challenges and emotional cycles that define this dynamic—and provides clear guidance on how to move toward emotional security and lasting love. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why this dynamic often begins with fireworks but ends in chaos ✔️ The core wounds of both anxious and fearful avoidant attachment styles ✔️ How triggers like abandonment, betrayal, and feeling trapped play out over time ✔️ Unhealthy coping mechanisms to avoid—and what to do instead ✔️ How to communicate with vulnerability, validate each other, and avoid conflict escalation ✔️ Concrete tools to self-soothe, break codependent cycles, and build trust ✔️ How to maintain connection even when core wounds are activated If you've been in an anxious/fearful avoidant relationship—or are navigating one now—this episode will help you feel seen, supported, and equipped to move toward a healthier relationship foundation. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Dismissive avoidants can be hard to read—but the signs are there. Dismissive avoidants often hide their feelings, leading many to assume they aren't interested at all. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais breaks down 7 subtle yet clear signs a dismissive avoidant actually DOES like you, so you can finally stop second-guessing their behavior and understand the true indicators of interest. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants may seem distant even when they're into you ✔️ How consistency is one of the first hidden signs of interest ✔️ Why clearly communicated needs—especially stated in the positive—get results ✔️ How and when dismissive avoidants actually do open up emotionally ✔️ Why they need more space—and how asking for it can be a sign of care ✔️ The real meaning behind “I enjoy spending time with you” ✔️ When they start including you in their inner circle and introducing you to friends If you've ever been left wondering, “Do they like me or not?”, this episode will help you confidently read between the lines and understand how avoidants express genuine interest—even if it's not always in the most obvious way. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Are you stuck in a cycle of fear, anxiety, and abandonment triggers? For those with anxious attachment, the fear of abandonment can feel overwhelming, leading to clinginess, overthinking, and emotional distress in relationships. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais walks you through how to reprogram core wounds at the subconscious level, so you can finally break free from painful emotional patterns and build lasting self-security. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The real reason anxious attachment styles fear abandonment ✔️ Why childhood inconsistency creates core wounds of rejection and unworthiness ✔️ The 5-step process to heal emotional triggers and self-soothe effectively ✔️ How to stop relying on external validation and develop emotional independence ✔️ Why subconscious reprogramming is the key to breaking toxic relationship cycles ✔️ The most powerful daily practices to rewire your attachment patterns for good If you've ever felt like you're constantly chasing love, overanalyzing texts, or struggling with deep-seated fear of rejection, this episode will give you actionable tools to heal, shift your mindset, and feel more secure in yourself and your relationships. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast What does a relationship look like with a dismissive avoidant partner? Dismissive avoidant attachment styles often struggle with emotional closeness, vulnerability, and expressing needs, which can create unique relationship challenges. Whether you're in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant or you identify with this attachment style yourself, this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast explores why dismissive avoidants behave the way they do—and how to navigate these dynamics in a healthy way. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The core childhood experiences that shape dismissive avoidant attachment ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants struggle with emotional connection and communication ✔️ How to support a dismissive avoidant partner without triggering them ✔️ The most effective ways to build trust and closeness over time ✔️ How dismissive avoidants self-soothe—and why they withdraw during conflict ✔️ Key strategies for overcoming avoidance and building a healthier attachment style If you've ever felt frustrated in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant or struggled with opening up, trusting others, and maintaining deep emotional connections, this episode is for you. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast What happens when a fearful avoidant reflects on a breakup? Fearful avoidants have complex emotional patterns—they crave connection but fear intimacy, making breakups especially intense. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais shares three major realizations fearful avoidants often have after a breakup, including the emotional patterns they struggle with, their regrets, and what happens when they gain clarity about their role in relationships. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How fearful avoidants reflect on their breakups over time ✔️ The three major relationship patterns they often regret ✔️ Why they feel trapped by their own emotional cycles ✔️ How their subconscious fears of abandonment and engulfment play out post-breakup ✔️ Why they often expect others to fight for them while simultaneously pushing them away ✔️ How self-awareness and healing can shift their relationship patterns for good If you've ever wondered, “Does my fearful avoidant ex ever realize what happened?”, this episode will help you understand their post-breakup reflections and what it means for your own healing journey. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast How does a fearful avoidant experience the six stages of a relationship? Fearful avoidants go through unique emotional cycles in relationships, often fluctuating between deep connection and emotional withdrawal. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais breaks down how fearful avoidants move through each stage of a relationship, including the challenges they face and how to navigate these stages for a healthier, more secure connection. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The 6 stages of a relationship and how fearful avoidants experience each one ✔️ Why they thrive in the dating phase but struggle with commitment ✔️ How fear of engulfment and abandonment plays out in relationships ✔️ Why the power struggle stage is make-or-break for fearful avoidants ✔️ How to move toward stability, deep commitment, and lasting love ✔️ Practical strategies for working through emotional triggers and avoidance If you've ever been in a relationship with a fearful avoidant (or are one yourself), this episode will help you understand their patterns and how to navigate relationships more effectively. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Do dismissive avoidants ever regret leaving? Dismissive avoidants are known for suppressing emotions, pulling away from closeness, and avoiding vulnerability—but what happens when they realize they made a mistake after a breakup? In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais breaks down the most common patterns dismissive avoidants go through post-breakup, how they process regret, and whether they will reach out or avoid dealing with their emotions altogether. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants take longer to process regret after a breakup ✔️ The key signs a dismissive avoidant is realizing they made a mistake ✔️ Why they often don't reach out—even when they miss you ✔️ How they suppress emotions to avoid feeling loss and vulnerability ✔️ What happens when they reflect on past relationships in hindsight ✔️ How to handle it if they do reach out (or if they don't) ✔️ The difference between genuine regret vs. reaching out for comfort If you've ever wondered, “Does my dismissive avoidant ex ever think about me?” or “Will they ever realize what they lost?”, this episode will help you understand their post-breakup mindset and what it means for your healing and closure. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Are your core wounds keeping you stuck in painful relationship patterns? Many of us go through life repeating the same emotional cycles, not realizing that our core wounds and subconscious programming are dictating how we feel, behave, and connect with others. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais breaks down how to identify, understand, and reprogram your core wounds so you can break free from painful triggers and experience deep, lasting transformation. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The science behind core wounds and how they develop ✔️ How your subconscious mind filters reality based on past experiences ✔️ The 5-step method to reprogram painful emotional triggers ✔️ Why fearful avoidants struggle with emotional regulation and self-worth ✔️ How to stop over-personalizing situations and ruminating on negative thoughts ✔️ The most effective daily practices to create new, empowering beliefs If you've ever felt stuck in emotional pain, repeating old patterns, or struggling with deep-seated wounds, this episode will give you actionable tools to heal and reprogram your subconscious mind at the root level. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Can you win back a fearful avoidant partner? Fearful avoidants crave deep emotional connection but often struggle with trust, vulnerability, and consistency in relationships. If you're looking to repair a relationship, reconnect, or rekindle love with a fearful avoidant, this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast walks you through the right way to approach reconciliation—without losing yourself in the process. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why fearful avoidants pull away and end relationships ✔️ The biggest mistakes people make when trying to win them back ✔️ How to rebuild trust and emotional connection in a safe way ✔️ The key differences between male and female fearful avoidants ✔️ Why boundaries and self-awareness are essential for reconciliation ✔️ How to set a clear deadline to avoid emotional limbo If you've ever asked yourself, "Can this relationship be repaired?", this episode will help you navigate the complexities of a fearful avoidant's emotional needs while maintaining your self-respect and well-being. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Why do dismissive avoidants send confusing texts? If you've ever been puzzled by the texting habits of a dismissive avoidant, you're not alone! From indirect messages to last-minute plans, these texting behaviors can be frustrating and difficult to interpret. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais breaks down six common avoidant texting patterns, why they happen, and what they really mean—so you can stop feeling confused and start communicating effectively. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants send vague or indirect texts instead of being clear ✔️ How last-minute texts are often a sign of avoidance, not lack of interest ✔️ Why avoidants ghost for short periods—and what it actually means ✔️ How their fear of commitment and emotional vulnerability shapes their texting behavior ✔️ The most common reasons dismissive avoidants cancel plans indirectly ✔️ How to respond effectively without playing guessing games If you've ever thought, "Why are they so inconsistent?" or "Do they even like me?", this episode will help you understand the avoidant mindset and navigate these texting patterns with clarity. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Why is vulnerability so difficult—but so necessary—in relationships? Many people, especially those with avoidant attachment styles, struggle to open up and express their emotions. Yet, vulnerability is what transforms infatuation into love, strengthens bonds, and deepens emotional connection. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio explore why vulnerability is challenging, how to communicate it effectively, and why it's the key to building lasting, fulfilling relationships. If you've ever struggled with expressing your emotions, setting boundaries, or feeling safe enough to be your true self in relationships, this episode will give you the tools to overcome fear, deepen intimacy, and create authentic connections. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 01:48 - Vulnerability in Childhood (Mike's Story) 05:24 - Vulnerability in Childhood (Thais' Story) 10:26 - 7-Day Free Trial 11:16 - Misconceptions About Vulnerability 17:31 - How to Approach a Dismissive Avoidant with Vulnerability 26:54 - Vulnerability Allows You to Be Loved & Fall in Love 33:10 - Rocket Money 35:02 - When You and a Loved One Have Opposing Views 41:01 - If You're Afraid to Share Vulnerably With Others 52:26 - Conclusion Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Can you save a relationship with a dismissive avoidant partner? Dismissive avoidant women often struggle with emotional expression, vulnerability, and receiving love, which can create unique challenges in relationships. If you're wondering how to rebuild trust, repair emotional distance, and reconnect, this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast will give you the key strategies to make it work—while ensuring your own needs are met. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why female dismissive avoidants leave relationships and build resentment ✔️ How to rebuild emotional trust and create safety in communication ✔️ The importance of boundaries and expressing your needs clearly ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants struggle to ask for support, connection, and intimacy ✔️ How to approach reconciliation with patience and emotional balance ✔️ The critical mistake most people make when trying to win back a dismissive avoidant If you've ever asked yourself, "Can this relationship be saved?", this episode will help you understand dismissive avoidant needs and take the right steps—without sacrificing your own self-worth. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast How do you fulfill your emotional needs without relying on others? Many of us seek love, romance, and emotional connection from external sources, but true fulfillment comes from within. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais explores how to meet your own emotional needs, so you can build healthier relationships, reduce dependency, and create lasting fulfillment in your life. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The role of subconscious needs in shaping our emotions and behaviors ✔️ Why self-connection is the key to attracting healthy relationships ✔️ How to meet your needs for love and connection internally ✔️ The 6 core human needs and how they impact your fulfillment ✔️ Why understanding your needs prevents emotional burnout and relationship struggles ✔️ Practical strategies to feel emotionally fulfilled, even when single If you've ever felt lonely, emotionally unfulfilled, or overly dependent on relationships, this episode will help you reclaim your power and build deep self-connection. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Are anxious attachment styles more likely to attract narcissists? Many people with anxious attachment find themselves in toxic relationships, wondering if narcissists actively seek them out—and why. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais breaks down 8 key traits of anxious attachment that may make them vulnerable to narcissistic relationships and, more importantly, how to break free from these patterns and protect yourself. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why people-pleasing makes anxious attachers more vulnerable to manipulation ✔️ How over-empathizing with others while neglecting yourself leads to unhealthy dynamics ✔️ The dangers of self-abandoning your boundaries to maintain connection ✔️ Why anxious attachers filter out red flags and rationalize toxic behavior ✔️ How to rebuild self-worth, set healthy boundaries, and break free from toxic cycles ✔️ The best healing strategies to shift from anxious to secure attachment If you've ever asked yourself, “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable or toxic partners?”, this episode will give you clarity and actionable steps to build healthier relationships. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Feeling disconnected from your fearful avoidant partner? Whether your relationship has lost its spark or you're trying to rebuild after a breakup, understanding what a fearful avoidant needs to feel safe and connected is key. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio share six powerful strategies to strengthen emotional intimacy and restore trust with a fearful avoidant partner. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The 4 C's of Trust and why they matter for fearful avoidants ✔️ Why open and transparent conversations are crucial for reconnection ✔️ How to introduce novelty back into the relationship to reignite attraction ✔️ Why personal growth together fosters deeper emotional safety ✔️ How depth in conversations makes a fearful avoidant feel truly seen ✔️ The importance of clearing the resentment tank to avoid emotional shutdown If you've ever wondered, “How do I reconnect with my fearful avoidant partner?”, this episode will help you understand their emotional needs and build a secure, fulfilling relationship. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 02:20 - 1 — Having Open and Transparent Conversations 03:58 - 4 C's of Trust 10:23 - 2 — Introduce Novelty Back Into the Relationship 17:03 - 7-Day Free Trial 17:53 - 3 — Personal Growth 24:27 - 4 — Depth and Depth of Conversations 30:18 - Rocket Money 32:10 - 5 — Reintroduce Fun Into the Relationship 33:42 - 6 — Small Verbal Affirmations 40:13 - 7 — Clearing the Resentment Tank 44:23 - Conclusion Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Claim your 14-day Free Trial and transform your relationships this Valentine's Day! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/valentines-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=14-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Are you dating a narcissist, or are they just avoidant? One of the most common and confusing questions in relationships is whether someone is truly a narcissist—or if they simply have an insecure attachment style like dismissive or fearful avoidant. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais unpacks 9 key signs to help you tell the difference and avoid mislabeling your partner (or yourself). What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The 9 diagnostic traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants can seem similar—but are NOT narcissists ✔️ How fearful avoidants differ from narcissists in their emotional depth ✔️ The key difference between narcissistic entitlement vs. self-orientation ✔️ Why anxious attachment styles are often mistaken for narcissism ✔️ The biggest red flag that separates an insecure attachment from true narcissism If you've ever wondered, “Are they emotionally unavailable or actually manipulative?”, this episode will help you identify the real patterns at play and protect yourself in relationships. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Claim your 14-day Free Trial and transform your relationships this Valentine's Day! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/valentines-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=14-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast How do you reconnect with a dismissive avoidant partner? If you've grown apart in your relationship or want to rekindle the spark after a breakup, it's important to understand how dismissive avoidants connect and what makes them feel safe in relationships. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio break down six key strategies to help you rebuild closeness and strengthen emotional intimacy with a dismissive avoidant partner. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How to meet a dismissive avoidant where they are without overstepping boundaries ✔️ The power of acknowledgment and appreciation in rebuilding trust ✔️ Why lightness, humor, and playfulness foster emotional safety ✔️ How to create connection without pressure or emotional overwhelm ✔️ The most meaningful ways to show support and selflessness in a relationship ✔️ Signs that a dismissive avoidant is actually healing and opening up If you've ever wondered, “How do I get my dismissive avoidant partner to engage more?”, this episode will give you practical steps to create a deeper connection—while maintaining your own needs and boundaries. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 02:01 - 1 — Meeting Them Where They Are 14:27 - 14-Day Free Trial 15:20 - 2 — Acknowledgment and Appreciation 20:47 - 3 — Incorporate Lightness and Humor 28:04 - 4 — Absence of Pressure 35:43 - Rocket Money 37:36 - 5 — Supportiveness 41:03 - 6 — Selflessness 47:09 - Signs of Healing 50:40 - Conclusion Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources: