Personal Development School

Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=f9AVk6MYyY8&utm_content=yt-11-17-25&el=podcast When a Fearful Avoidant and a Dismissive Avoidant enter conflict, the emotional fallout can feel explosive, confusing, and deeply painful. One partner feels overwhelmed and unheard, while the other shuts down and retreats — and neither realizes what's actually happening beneath the surface. In this mini masterclass, Thais Gibson breaks down the hidden dynamics driving Fearful Avoidant–Dismissive Avoidant conflicts, the subconscious wounds fueling these reactions, and why these cycles repeat until you learn to see them differently. You'll finally understand what each partner is experiencing internally, and what has to shift to break the pattern for good. You'll learn: ✅ The core wounds that shape Fearful Avoidant and Dismissive Avoidant conflict ✅ Why Fearful Avoidants over-give, under-receive, and burn out emotionally ✅ How covert contracts lead to resentment and misinterpretation ✅ The Dismissive Avoidant perspective: why criticism triggers their deepest shame wounds ✅ What each partner actually feels but doesn't say during conflict ✅ How miscommunication fuels the pursuit-and-withdrawal cycle Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – The Fearful Avoidant & Dismissive Avoidant Relationship Cycle  02:13 – Fearful Avoidants Tend to Over-give and Over-deliver in Relationships 02:56 – Fearful Avoidants & Covert Contracts  04:26 – Black Friday: Somatic Processing Course Promo  05:12 – Core Wounds of the Fearful Avoidant  05:47 – Core Wounds of the Dismissive Avoidant  06:59 – Miscommunication Between the Two 09:12 – Dismissive Avoidants and Emotional Shutdowns  10:29 –  If You Don't Communicate in a Healthy Way, Your Words Will Fall on Deaf Ears. 11:35 –  The Next Mini Masterclass  Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Transform Your Life and Relationships This Black Friday! Get 14 Days Free Inside The Personal Development School's All-Access Pass—65+ transformative courses, live webinars, and a thriving global community: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/black-friday?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=black-friday&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-11-10-25&el=podcast Moving in with a dismissive avoidant partner can be both exciting and surprisingly challenging. In this powerful episode, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike reveal the five biggest (and most unexpected) things that happen when you start sharing a home with someone who struggles with emotional closeness. From the retreat for space that often follows big steps forward, to fears of losing autonomy or conflict avoidance, this conversation dives deep into how dismissive avoidants process intimacy—and how you can build understanding, connection, and balance instead of frustration. Through personal stories and professional insight, Thais and Mike share practical strategies for communication, conflict resolution, and emotional safety—so you can navigate cohabitation with compassion and clarity. You'll Learn: The #1 reason dismissive avoidants retreat into their own space after moving in How to discuss space, boundaries, and routines before issues arise Why dismissive avoidants equate comfort with love (and how that affects dating effort) How to avoid the “roommate trap” and keep the spark alive The importance of acceptance and autonomy for both partners Why DAs often struggle with conflict, change, and vulnerability How to communicate needs without triggering shame or withdrawal Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro & Why Moving In Can Trigger the Power Struggle Stage 03:16 – 1 — DAs Retreat to Their Own Space to Create Emotional Distance 07:16 – How to Navigate Space & Routine Discussions 09:16 – The Role of Acceptance & Allowing Autonomy 13:30 – 2 — How Cleanliness, Habits, & Personality Types Impact Living Together 17:10 – Creating Shared Routines and Avoiding Misunderstandings 21:31 – PDS 7-Day Free Trial & Membership Overview 22:36 – 3 — DAs Equate Comfort With Love (and Why It Leads to Complacency) 25:41 – Why You Should Always “Date” Your Partner 31:11 – 4 — Why DAs Feel Trapped or Pull Back Emotionally 35:28 – Communication Scripts for “Recharge Time” & Emotional Safety 43:29 – 5 — When Conflict Arises: How to Handle It Without Triggering Shutdown 47:18 – The Long-Term Benefits of Secure Co-Living 51:10 – Bonus: Acts of Service, Self-Consideration & Learning True Partnership 56:14 – Rumi's Quote on Growth & Healing in Relationships 59:09 – Final Reflections and Listener Tips Key Takeaway: When you understand a dismissive avoidant's wiring—fears of loss, shame, and autonomy—you can transform potential friction into deeper connection. Secure relationships aren't about avoiding conflict—they're about communicating through it.

Transform Your Life and Relationships This Black Friday! Get 14 Days Free Inside the Personal Development School's All-Access Pass, Including 65+ Powerful Courses, Live Webinars, and a Thriving Community. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/black-friday?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=black-friday&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-11-10-25&el=podcast When a Dismissive Avoidant starts dating an Anxiously Attached individual, the attraction is instant, but so are the triggers. What begins as magnetic chemistry often becomes a cycle of closeness and withdrawal, as both partners try to meet old needs in new ways that feel both familiar and painful. In this video, Thais Gibson explores the hidden dynamics between Dismissive Avoidant and Anxious attachment styles during the dating stage, revealing what draws them together, what drives their early challenges, and how they can navigate the push-pull cycle with awareness and communication. You'll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive and Anxious types feel such strong initial chemistry ✅ What early needs and wounds this pairing unconsciously fulfills ✅ How their opposite traits — independence vs. connection — create both attraction and conflict ✅ The most common breakdown points in the dating stage ✅ How to recognize and stop the “trigger cycle” that keeps them repeating painful patterns Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – When a Dismissive Avoidant Dates An Anxious Attachment Style 01:14 – Exclusive Series for the Entire Month 02:06 – 1. They Are Attracted to Each Other Early On via Trait Variety  04:20 – Black Friday: 14-Day Trial Promo 04:40 – The Mystery of the Dismissive Avoidants 06:43 – 2. The Dismissive Avoidant's Unmet Needs From Childhood Are Met When Dating  07:32 – 3. Anxious Preoccupied Individuals Struggle to Move Slowly in Relationships 09:33 – How They Trigger Each Other  12:51 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidants and Anxious Preoccupied Individuals  15:36 – The AP (Anxious Preoccupied)/DA (Dismissive Avoidant) Trigger Cycle   17:20 – Coming This Month: How to Navigate Relationships Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-11-06-25&el=podcast When a Dismissive Avoidant stops talking, it's usually a defense mechanism. But what happens when you go silent instead? The reaction might surprise you. While they seem calm or detached, there's an entire emotional process unfolding beneath the surface. In this video, Thais Gibson explains what really happens when you stop talking to a Dismissive Avoidant, the five key emotional stages they move through, and what their silence actually means. You'll learn how space impacts their nervous system, why they sometimes come back indirectly, and how to decide whether reconnection is truly healthy. You'll learn: ✅ The 5 emotional stages Dismissive Avoidants experience when you pull away ✅ Why initial relief is often followed by confusion and regret ✅ How independence becomes a form of emotional control ✅ The subconscious fear that drives repression and withdrawal ✅ What their indirect attempts to reconnect (like memes or jokes) really mean Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – What Does the Avoidant Do When You Stop Talking to Them?  00:24 – The Four Attachment Styles  01:25 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Feel Relief When They Have Space 02:07 – The Cost of Conflict  03:35 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Feel an Increased Sense of Independence  04:43 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Start Having Mixed Feelings 05:47 – 7-Day Free Trial  06:37 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Begin Questioning or Regretting Things 07:16 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Will Make Attempts at Reconnection 08:39 – What to Do If You're on The Other Side  Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-11-05-25&el=podcast When a Dismissive Avoidant pulls back or refuses to commit, it can leave you feeling confused, anxious, and unsure of where you stand. However, a Securely Attached person handles this moment very differently, and their response changes everything. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down how Securely Attached people respond when a Dismissive Avoidant won't commit — and why it turns the dynamic in their favor. You'll learn what emotional maturity looks like in action, how to communicate without pressure or people-pleasing, and how to back your needs while staying calm and confident. You'll learn: ✅ How Securely Attached people handle commitment delays with clarity and self-respect ✅ Why understanding different attachment style timelines prevents unnecessary pressure ✅ How to communicate needs without triggering defensiveness or withdrawal ✅ What boundaries look like when someone stays in the “gray area” too long ✅ How standing firm in your standards helps you naturally attract secure love Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Securely Attached vs Dismissive Avoidant & Commitment 00:33 – The Unique Timeline for Each Attachment Style & Commitment 03:12 – What Would the Securely Attached Person Do? 04:36 – 7-Day Free Trial  05:26 – Step 1: Let the Person Know How They Are Feeling 08:20 – Step 2: Follow Up With More Clarity and Specificity 11:37 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-11-04-25&el=podcast  Most people assume Dismissive Avoidants never fall deeply in love, but they do. The signs just look different. When they start to care, it shows up in subtle, often misunderstood ways that can leave you questioning where you stand. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals five key signs a Dismissive Avoidant is truly falling for you, and how to recognize the difference between casual affection and genuine emotional investment. You'll also learn how to respond in ways that build trust, connection, and long-term security. You'll learn: ✅ How Dismissive Avoidants express love differently from other attachment styles ✅ Why slow inclusion in their world signals growing trust and safety ✅ What it means when they start opening up emotionally or making future plans ✅ How they show care through action instead of words ✅ Why their efforts to bridge distance reveal true emotional commitment Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – What Does it Look Like When A Dismissive Avoidant Falls in Love? 00:34 – Sign 1: Including You in Their Life 01:36 – Sign 2: Opening Up Emotionally 03:12 – Sign 3: Making Tangible Long-Term Plans 03:41 – Sign 4: Listening and Meeting Your Needs 04:53 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 06:06 – Sign 5: Bridging the Emotional Gap 06:53 – These Are Important Signs to Look For Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-11-03-25&el=podcast  Most people think Dismissive Avoidants don't get jealous — but that couldn't be further from the truth. They do experience jealousy, but it often hides behind sarcasm, withdrawal, or emotional distance. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down five surprising ways jealousy shows up for Dismissive Avoidants — and how to recognize the subtle patterns beneath the surface. You'll also learn how their fear of vulnerability, shame, and need for control shape the way they express (and suppress) jealousy, and what you can do to respond with empathy and healthy boundaries. You'll learn:  ✅ The 5 hidden signs of Dismissive Avoidant jealousy  ✅ Why sarcasm, withdrawal, or coldness often mask emotional pain  ✅ How shame drives their need to self-protect and retreat  ✅ Why jealousy triggers both counter-dependence and emotional shutdown  ✅ How vulnerability and healthy communication can stop the cycle Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – How Jealously Shows Up for Dismissive Avoidants  00:40 – The Silent Comparison 01:42 – Withdrawal Instead of Confrontation 03:09 – Sarcasm & Passive Aggression About the Situation 05:55 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 07:31 – Cold Then Slightly Warmer Behavior 08:48 – Shame for Feeling Jealous 09:48 – Summary: Jealously Doesn't Look Like Rage or Confrontation Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-11-02-25&el=podcast If you're hoping your partner will “change” once they fall more in love, get married, or become more committed, you're not seeing the real person in front of you. You're falling in love with their potential, and that illusion can quietly destroy intimacy and long-term trust. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down five powerful reasons why dating or marrying for potential leads to emotional disconnection and unmet needs. You'll learn how to stop confusing fantasy with reality and build a relationship based on truth, acceptance, and emotional safety. You'll learn: ✅ Why loving someone's potential disconnects you from true intimacy ✅ How projecting an ideal version of your partner creates emotional walls ✅ Why “helping them change” often feels like pressure, not love ✅ How to communicate your needs without blame or shame ✅ What the power struggle stage really means — and how to grow beyond it Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Are You Expecting to Change Your Partner?   00:46 – 1. You Are Seeing a Fantasy of the Person, Not the Person's Reality 02:24 – 2. Hoping Somebody Changes Creates a Silent Pressure in the Relationship 03:46 – 3. Learn to Communicate Through Conflict in a Way That is Accepting of Others 05:35 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 06:09 – 4. Dating the Potential or Expectation of Somebody Ends Up Blocking Intimacy 07:40 – 5. Connecting With the Fantasy Keeps You From Building a Proper Foundation 08:26 – How is This Meeting A Need in Your Life? 09:13 – Summary of Building Healthy Relationships Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-11-01-25&el=podcast If you're Anxiously Attached or a Fearful Avoidant, you might be unintentionally pushing your Dismissive Avoidant partner away — even when all you want is closeness and reassurance. This painful chase–withdrawal dynamic plays out in countless relationships. But it can be healed once you understand how your patterns trigger theirs. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals five powerful ways to stop sabotaging your connection with a Dismissive Avoidant partner. You'll learn how to communicate effectively, self-soothe, and build a relationship that feels safe for both people, without losing your authenticity or needs. You'll learn: ✅ Why overcommunication can push a Dismissive Avoidant further away ✅ How to balance self-soothing with healthy connection ✅ The difference between communicating from wounds vs. needs ✅ Why criticism breaks trust and what to do instead ✅ How to stop assuming space means disinterest ✅ The secret to bridging different attachment needs before conflict starts Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Are You Unintentionally Pushing Your Dismissive Avoidant Partner Away?  00:32 – 1. Overcommunicating as a Means to Self-Soothe 01:43 – Self-Reflection Question  02:24 – 2. Question Your Expectations and Decide on What You Think is Healthy 04:01 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 04:45 – 3. Using Criticism to Communicate a Need 05:57 – 4. Assuming That Space Means Disinterest 08:04 – 5. Discuss Habits That Bridge the Gap in Your Differences 09:17 – Summary of Building Connection Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-31-25&el=podcast  Being a Fearful Avoidant can feel exhausting. You might crave closeness one moment and fear it the next. You might find yourself stuck in cycles of connection and withdrawal, unsure how to stop repeating the same painful patterns in love. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down five hard truths about being a Fearful Avoidant and how to finally overcome them. You'll learn the deeper psychology behind your push-pull behavior, the hidden self-betrayals that block intimacy, and practical tools to begin healing at the subconscious level. You'll learn: ✅ Why you crave deep connection but fear vulnerability and loss ✅ How early emotional conditioning wires you for both anxiety and avoidance ✅ Why overgiving and self-abandonment keep you stuck in one-way relationships ✅ How unmet needs and fear of rejection drive emotional exhaustion ✅ What rewiring your core wounds actually looks like in daily life Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – The Hard Truths About Being A Fearful Avoidant   00:18 – Hard Truth 1: You Deeply Want Closeness 02:21 – Hard Truth 2: You Are Both Anxious and Avoidant 03:52 – Hard Truth 3: You Often End Up In One-Way Relationships 04:23 – Hard Truth 4: You Don't Want To Be Vulnerable 05:20 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 05:54 – Hard Truth 5: You Betray Yourself More Than You Realize 06:53 – Next Steps to Healing  Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-30-25&el=podcast Understanding why Dismissive Avoidants sometimes seem distant or unresponsive isn't about blaming them; it's about uncovering the subconscious fears and patterns that shape their behavior.  Recognizing these dynamics is key to setting boundaries, communicating your needs, and fostering healthier, more secure relationships. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down the unseen issues Dismissive Avoidants face when you give them space. You'll understand what's happening beneath the surface, respond constructively, and know whether your relationship can move toward a healthier place. You'll learn: ✅ How Dismissive Avoidants often operate in a “functional freeze” due to nervous system dysregulation ✅ Why their need for space isn't about you, but about unresolved trauma and subconscious fear of closeness ✅ How attachment styles influence reactions to intimacy and distance ✅ Why closeness can trigger old fears of neglect, shame, or feeling trapped ✅ Practical strategies to find the middle ground: honoring their pace while respecting your own needs ✅ How to encourage partners to work on themselves and address trauma around love ✅ How to communicate clearly, set boundaries, and recognize patterns of pursuit or withdrawal ✅ When to step back and protect your emotional well-being if healthy reciprocity isn't happening Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:34 – Overview of the AttachmentStyles 01:33 – Why Avoidants Chase You When You Pull Away 03:36 – 1. Walk the Middle Ground. 04:30 – 2. Encourage that Person to Work on Themself. 05:36 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 06:15 – 3. Help Them While Setting a Deadline 07:33 – 4. Communicate Directly 08:21 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-29-25&el=podcast  When a Dismissive Avoidant comes back after a breakup, it can be confusing. They might seem calm or detached while secretly wrestling with resurfacing emotions. But before you jump back in, it's essential to understand what's really happening beneath the surface. In this video, Thais Gibson explains what happens when you propose a fresh start after a breakup with a Dismissive Avoidant. You'll learn about the “Breakup Boomerang” effect, why their emotions often return weeks later, and how to know whether it's safe to try again. You'll learn: ✅ What the “Breakup Boomerang” means and why emotions resurface later ✅ How Dismissive Avoidants process loss and regret after distance ✅ The signs they're ready (or not ready) for true emotional reconnection ✅ How to assess if both partners are willing to do the real work ✅ What conversations must happen before giving it another chance ✅ How to find closure and self-healing if it's time to move on Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:43 – The Breakup Boomerang Effect  04:06 – Going Through the Breakup Boomerang Effect ≠ Ready for a Relationship 04:58 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 05:09 – 1. Assess Whether You're Both in a Place to Move Forward Together 06:20 – 2. If the Answer is Yes, Then Have a Conversation 07:23 – 3. If the Answer is No, Then Set a Boundary 07:45 – What Needs Was This Person Meeting in My Life? 08:51 – Summary 10:17 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Thinking About Becoming a Certified Relationship Coach? Start With Our Free IAT Ebook, Where You'll Learn Real Tools From the Program That You Can Begin Applying With Clients Today. Download Your Free Guide Here: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat/info?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-ebook&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=uF12gKGWOtM&utm_content=pod-10-28-25&el=podcast Fearful Avoidants don't walk away because they're indifferent — they walk away because fear overwhelms them. Understanding why they leave suddenly can help you respond with clarity, protect your emotional well-being, and navigate the aftermath of a breakup. In this video, Thais Gibson explains why Fearful Avoidants may regret leaving relationships and how their subconscious mind drives their intense shifts between anxiety and avoidance. You'll gain insight into their behavior and learn how to respond in a healthy, empowered way. You'll learn: ✅ Why Fearful Avoidants rapidly shift between anxious and avoidant states, and what triggers these swings ✅ How the subconscious mind stores emotional “warehouses” of past trauma that influence present relationship behaviors ✅ Why breakups often happen as a protective strategy, not a reflection of true feelings ✅ How unmet needs and poor communication can push Fearful Avoidants to pull away ✅ How recognizing triggers and past imprints can help you avoid taking their behavior personally ✅ Practical strategies for communicating your needs and setting boundaries in challenging relationships ✅ How insight and self-work can transform relationships and prevent repeating painful cycles Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:46 – Fearful Avoidants Shift From Feeling Anxious to Avoidant 06:08 – Integrated Attachment Theory™ Certification 07:01 – 1. They May Threaten to Leave to Get Away From the Pain 09:42 – 2. They Are Not Good at Communicating Their Needs 13:02 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-25-25&el=podcast Dismissive Avoidants have a habit of resurfacing after breakups — sometimes weeks, sometimes months later — leaving their partners wondering why. But the real reason they come back runs much deeper than nostalgia or loneliness. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals the true emotional mechanics behind why Dismissive Avoidants return after a breakup. You'll discover how delayed emotional processing, fear cycles, and subconscious associations drive their behavior — and how to respond in a way that protects your boundaries and emotional wellbeing. You'll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants process relationship pain on a delay ✅ How “feelings minus fears” influence their pull-back and return cycles ✅ Why distance can temporarily dissolve their fears and reignite feelings ✅ What to look for when they reach out between genuine reconnection vs. surface contact ✅ How to protect your boundaries and avoid getting stuck in an emotional loop ✅ The key to truly healing from a breakup is meeting your own needs and rewriting painful stories Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:20 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Don't Process Their Hurt Around Relationships in a Normal Way 01:41 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Are in Their Feelings Minus Their Fears 02:35 – Other Surface-Level Reasons 02:59 – Step 1: Are They Willing to Do the Work to Reconnect? 03:37 – Step 2: Heal the Needs That the Person Represented 04:43 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:27 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-24-25&el=podcast Walking away from a Fearful Avoidant can feel like abandoning the person you love most. But in reality, being willing to walk away is what creates safety, self-respect, and healing for both people involved. In this video, Thais Gibson explains why walking away from a Fearful Avoidant isn't rejection — it's regulation. You'll learn how distance restores emotional balance, how it triggers subconscious accountability, and why this boundary can actually deepen real love and long-term connection. You'll learn: ✅ Why Fearful Avoidants often respect partners who set boundaries ✅ How nervous system regulation and space create transformation ✅ The neuroscience behind attachment ruptures and emotional reset ✅ How calling out unhealthy patterns builds trust rather than destroys it ✅ What “walking away” really means, and how to do it without threats or ultimatums ✅ Why this space is essential for genuine reconciliation and growth Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:08 – 1. Fearful Avoidants Like to Be Called Out 03:41 – 2. It Signals Self-Respect 04:27 – The Neuroscience Behind Taking Space From Stress 06:14 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 07:14 – 3. Fearful Avoidants Respond Well to Emotional Accountability.  08:08 – 4. This Makes a Genuine Reunion Possible 09:37 – Ancient Wisdom on Detachment 10:43 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-23-25&el=podcast When your birthday comes and your Dismissive Avoidant partner barely acknowledges it, it can feel like they just don't care. But what's really happening underneath that silence isn't usually indifference — it's emotional conditioning and self-protection at play. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down why Dismissive Avoidants seem to ignore birthdays or special occasions, and what's actually going on in their subconscious mind and nervous system. You'll discover the neuroscience behind emotional suppression, how early experiences shape avoidant reactions, and what you can do to respond with both compassion and self-respect. You'll learn:  ✅ The 5 key psychological reasons Dismissive Avoidants pull away on important days  ✅ How childhood emotional neglect shapes their response to celebration and intimacy  ✅ What brain studies reveal about emotional suppression, empathy, and joy  ✅ Why Avoidants minimize birthdays, and what it really says about their attachment wounds  ✅ How to communicate your needs clearly without triggering defensiveness  ✅ When to stay compassionate and when to recognize a pattern that won't change Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:09 – 1. Emotional Intimacy Feels Unsafe for Dismissive Avoidants 03:34 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Often Feel a Sense of Learned Helplessness  04:23 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidants and Emotional Detachment 06:01 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 06:48 – 3. They Think Emotional Neediness is a Sign of Weakness 08:03 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Fear Expectation  08:54 – 5. They Never Experience Consistent Emotional Celebrations 09:50 – If You're on the Receiving End  12:13 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-22-25&el=podcast If you've ever felt like you're speaking a different language when trying to connect with a Dismissive Avoidant partner, you're not wrong. They process emotions, safety, and closeness differently at both the neurological and subconscious levels, which can make even simple conversations feel confusing or one-sided. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals how to communicate so an Avoidant actually hears you, without triggering withdrawal or shutdown. You'll learn the five key principles that transform connection, backed by neuroscience and attachment theory, plus how to stay calm and secure while getting your needs met. You'll learn: ✅ The 5 keys to communicating with a Dismissive Avoidant, without chasing or pressuring ✅ How to speak to their subconscious mind so they actually feel safe opening up ✅ The neuroscience behind why Avoidants pull away when emotions run high ✅ The difference between emotional expression and logical communication — and how to balance both ✅ How to frame your needs without sounding like an ultimatum ✅ Why timing, tone, and body language matter more than words ✅ Practical scripts to get your Avoidant partner to listen and respond Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:53 – 1. Communicate Your Feelings in a Logical, Factual Way 04:29 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:07 – 2. Use Timing Properly 07:07 – The Neuroscience Behind Avoidants and Connection 09:06 – 3. State Your Needs  09:47 – 4. Leave It Open-Ended 11:04 – 5. Timebox When Asking the Dismissive Avoidant for Something 13:46 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-21-25&el=podcast Dating a Dismissive Avoidant can change you — sometimes in ways you don't even realize. Over time, their emotional distance can actually condition your brain to link love with withdrawal, connection with uncertainty, and safety with space.  In this video, Thais Gibson shares seven ways dating a Dismissive Avoidant can affect you permanently, and how to recognize if these changes are already happening. You'll learn the hidden psychological and neurological patterns that shape your attachment style and how to rewire them through awareness, self-trust, and healing practices. You'll learn: ✅ How dating an Avoidant can subconsciously train your brain to fear closeness ✅ Why you may start questioning your worth or silencing your needs ✅ The neuroscience behind rejection, distance, and emotional pain ✅ How over-functioning and hypervigilance reinforce unhealthy dynamics ✅ What to do if your relationship is starting to impact your self-worth or boundaries ✅ How to tell when growth is mutual — and when it's time to walk away Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:33 – 1. You Begin to Question Your Own Worth in This Relationship 03:13 – 2. You May Learn to Suppress Your Needs Even Further 03:41 – The Neuroscience Behind Emotional Rejection and Isolation 04:47 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:32 – 3. You May Overfunction Emotionally in This Relationship  08:20 – 4. You May Find Yourself Being Even More Hypervigilant  09:03 – 5. You Lose Touch With Secure Love 09:46 – 6. You'll See Yourself Dismissing Your Own Boundaries 10:28 – 7. You Feel Stressed More Often 11:21 – If You're the Only One Doing the Work  12:43 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Consideration 14:28 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=fRwZN0y1E-Q&utm_content=pod-10-15-25&el=podcast Dismissive Avoidants rarely say what they actually feel — instead, they test it. When they want you in their life, they won't move closer right away…they'll quietly test how safe you are first. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down 5 hidden ways Dismissive Avoidants test emotional trust — and how to respond without losing your self-respect or over-giving in the process. You'll learn how these subtle “trust tests” show up in relationships, what they're really looking for underneath, and how to handle each moment with confidence and clarity. You'll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants pull away after closeness (and what they're observing) ✅ How they test emotional safety through small vulnerabilities ✅ The neuroscience behind avoidance and emotional connection ✅ What delayed commitment really means for them ✅ How to respond when they need “space” — without losing yourself Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  00:46 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Withdraw or Retreat After Moments of Closeness  02:29 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Will Test the Safety of Being Vulnerable  03:01 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidants  04:38 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:43 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Test to See if You Accept What They Judge Themselves for  07:25 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Will Often Delay Commitment 09:02 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Often Test How You Will Handle Their Boundaries 11:00 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Thinking About Becoming a Certified Relationship Coach? Start With Our Free IAT™ Ebook, Where You'll Learn Real Tools From the Program That You Can Begin Applying With Clients Today. Download Your Free Guide Here: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat/info?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-ebook&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=0gluagmi2_c&utm_content=pod-10-14-25&el=podcast Dismissive Avoidants don't chase — but that doesn't mean they don't care. Often, their withdrawal comes not from indifference but from deep-seated fear and subconscious self-protection. Understanding why they pull away is the first step to seeing the truth behind their behaviour. In this video, Thais Gibson explains what it really means when a Dismissive Avoidant doesn't chase, why vulnerability feels unsafe for them, and how their subconscious beliefs shape their decisions. You'll gain clarity on their withdrawal patterns and learn how to respond in a way that preserves your emotional health. You'll learn:  ✅ Why vulnerability triggers fear in Dismissive Avoidants  ✅ How subconscious beliefs block them from pursuing connection  ✅ The self-protective thought patterns they rely on when feeling threatened  ✅ Why “it's easier to be alone” becomes their default choice  ✅ How shame wounds influence their ability to sustain closeness Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  00:27 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Are Terrified of Vulnerability 01:42 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Are Constantly in Their Feelings, Minus Their Fears  03:03 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Believe That It's Easy to Be Alone 05:06 – Integrated Attachment Theory™ Certification 06:00 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Lack Healthy Modelling of Healthy Relationships 06:57 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Have a “Defectiveness” Core Wound 08:07 – Initiate the Conversation, Set a Deadline, and Vet the Person 08:52 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=UZURew1Gr4o&utm_content=pod-10-13-25&el=podcast Have you ever been dating a Fearful Avoidant and everything seemed to be going great — until suddenly, they pulled away and lost interest? Or maybe you are a Fearful Avoidant and can't understand why you sometimes go cold, even when things are good. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down 5 key reasons fearful avoidants suddenly lose attraction — and what you can do to prevent it from happening, whether you're dating one or healing as one. You'll learn: ✅ Why broken trust instantly shuts down a Fearful Avoidant's connection ✅ How anxious pressure or crossed boundaries trigger loss of attraction ✅ The “expectation overload” that makes them pull back fast ✅ Why feeling trapped activates their powerful flight response ✅ How unmet needs and emotional burnout lead to sudden detachment Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:47 – Reason 1: Their Trust is Broken 01:43 – Reason 2: Violated Their Boundaries 02:53 – Reason 3: Unreal Expectations on Them 03:40 – Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course 04:21 – Reason 4: Feeling Trapped 05:05 – Reason 5: They Feel It's a One-Sided Relationship 06:43 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-07-25&el=podcast They text you every day, spend weekends with you, and act like you're together, yet freeze or pull back the moment commitment comes up. Sound familiar? In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down why dismissive avoidants often behave like partners without committing, revealing the emotional roadblocks, childhood conditioning, and subconscious fears driving their behavior. You'll also learn how to recognize the difference between emotional unavailability and genuine potential, plus practical tools to protect your heart, communicate your needs, and decide when to stay—or walk away. You'll learn: ✅ The four key reasons dismissive avoidants resist commitment—even when they care deeply ✅ Why emotional intimacy feels unsafe due to childhood neglect or unmet needs ✅ How vulnerability and commitment trigger subconscious fear and shame ✅ Why poor conflict-resolution skills cause long-term resentment and withdrawal ✅ How communication gaps make both partners feel misunderstood and criticized ✅ What “Integrated Attachment Theory™” teaches about repairing connection and building trust Video Breakdown (Timestamps): 00:00 – Intro 00:37 – The Four Attachment Styles 01:11 – 1. Emotional Connection Wasn't Modeled in Childhood 04:17 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Struggle With Vulnerability 05:39 – Integrated Attachment Theory™ Certification 06:33 – 3. Why They Don't Know How to Resolve Conflict 09:46 – 4. Why They Feel Misunderstood and Criticized 12:10 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-06-25&el=podcast Dismissive Avoidants rarely come out and say “I'm done.” Instead, they show it through subtle but powerful patterns, often long before the actual breakup happens. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the four unmistakable signs that an avoidant is emotionally checking out and shares how to protect your self-worth, regulate your nervous system, and set healthy boundaries before it's too late. Drawing on neuroscience and ancient wisdom, Thais explains how oxytocin drops, cortisol spikes, and emotional disconnection create chaos in relationships—and how to use self-awareness and communication to stop the spiral and regain control. You'll learn: ✅ The four red flags that signal a dismissive avoidant is preparing to leave ✅ How “flaw finding” and subtle criticism act as deactivation strategies ✅ Why they replace intimacy with creature comforts like work or hobbies ✅ The neuroscience of emotional withdrawal and bonding disruption ✅ How to use pattern interruption and self-regulation to stop self-blame ✅ The boundaries and conversations that separate healing from heartbreak Video Breakdown (Timestamps): 00:00 – Intro 00:53 – 1. If You See Them Shutting Down Emotionally 01:52 – 2. If There Are Sudden Devaluing Behaviors or Comments 04:59 – Attachment Styles & Intimacy Promo 05:31 – 3. Replacing Intimacy with Creature Comforts 06:51 – The Neuroscience Behind Relational Distress 09:16 – Pattern Interrupt 11:29 – Setting Clear Boundaries 13:44 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Consideration 15:30 – 4. When They Stop Communicating 16:41 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-05-25&el=podcast Many Fearful Avoidants see themselves as fiercely independent—until real feelings and vulnerability take hold. Suddenly, emotional dependency sneaks in, making it feel like you lose yourself in the relationship. If this resonates, you're not alone—and there is a way to break free from the push-pull cycles. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals the hidden signs of emotional dependency for Fearful Avoidants, the neuroscience and childhood roots behind it, and the exact steps you can take to heal so you can love deeply without losing yourself. You'll learn: ✅ The 3 key signs of emotional dependency in Fearful Avoidant relationships ✅ How attachment trauma in childhood wires the brain for dependency cycles ✅ Why independence flips into preoccupation when real feelings develop ✅ How neuroscience explains the highs, lows, and nervous system disruption the Fearful Avoidant's experience ✅ 3 practical steps to heal, regulate, and create secure interdependent relationships Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  01:14 – Have You Lost Yourself in a Relationship Before?  01:41 – 1. When Feelings Get Real, You Feel You Are Over-identifying With Your Partner 03:29 – 2. Although Difficult to Ask, You Seek Reassurance in a Relationship 05:12 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:48 – 3. You Sometimes Feel Emotional Highs and Lows 07:09 – The Neuroscience Behind the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style 10:34 – Step 1: Learn to Meet Your Own Needs 11:44 – Step 2: Have a Relationship With Yourself Outside of Your Romantic Relationship  12:53 – Step 3: Rewire Old Triggers From Past Relationships 13:38 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Love 14:49 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Achieve Your Goals FAST With the “Needs” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-09-27-25&el=podcast    Are you stuck in a painful cycle, wondering if your Dismissive Avoidant partner will ever come back? It's exhausting to feel like your life is on hold, constantly walking on eggshells and hoping things will change.  In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down the major signs that a Dismissive Avoidant has reached the true point of no return—so you can stop second-guessing yourself and finally get clarity. You'll learn the psychology, neuroscience, and relationship dynamics behind this attachment style, how to spot when healing is no longer possible, and what steps you can take to protect your peace and reclaim your life.   You'll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants often leave relationships, and when they never come back ✅ The “gray area” dynamic that keeps you stuck and prevents real progress ✅ How conflict-avoidance and emotional suppression create walls over time ✅ The neuroscience of deactivation and why it worsens if left unaddressed ✅ The questions you must ask to know if true healing and reconnection are possible ✅ Three powerful healing steps you can take today if you're the loved one of a Dismissive Avoidant ✅ How unmet needs and old wounds keep you chasing breadcrumbs—and how to break free   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  00:45 – 1. When the Emotional Disconnection is Reinforced, They No Longer Want to Connect 03:21 – 2. If Dismissive Avoidants Feel Criticized, They Will Pull Away 05:34 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo  06:11 – The Neuroscience Behind Deactivation  08:36 – Being Willing to Do the Work is a Prerequisite for Healing 09:49 – Step 1: If You See This Person Withdrawing Over Time, Prepare Yourself to Heal 10:23 – Step 2: “What Are the Needs That I'm So Scared of Losing?” 11:06 – Step 3:  “What Wounds Are Chaining Me to This Potentially Unhealthy Situation?” 12:05 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Love and Consideration  14:02 – Conclusion   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources:

Achieve Your Goals FAST With the “Needs” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-09-26-25&el=podcast    One of the most painful experiences is when a Fearful Avoidant suddenly walks away without warning. What most people don't realize is that there is a specific red flag that the relationship is close to ending. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down what that behavior is, why it happens, and how you can respond with clarity and self-respect. You'll learn the neuroscience of why Fearful Avoidants shut down, how past wounds shape their fear of vulnerability, and what to do if you notice these warning signs in your relationship. Thais also shares a simple framework you can use—whether you're the Fearful Avoidant or their partner—to bring needs to the surface and stop the cycle of sudden exits.   You'll learn: ✅ The behavior that signals a Fearful Avoidant is ready to leave ✅ Why unspoken needs and unmet expectations push them toward sudden exits ✅ How childhood chaos wires them to avoid expressing vulnerability ✅ The neuroscience of fear, safety, and why needs feel dangerous to share ✅ Why sudden breakups aren't about you—but about unresolved conditioning ✅ A practical exercise to rebuild safety and communication ✅ How to know if the relationship can be repaired—or if it's time to move on   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  00:37 – 1. Fearful Avoidants Struggle to Communicate Their Needs  02:05 – 2. Fearful Avoidants Pressure Themselves to Meet the Needs of Others 04:05 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo  04:53 – The Neuroscience Behind Fear 08:27 – Step 1. Ask Yourself, “How Much Did I Communicate My Needs?” 08:55 – Step 2. “Did I Communicate in a Way That Was Likely to Be Received?” 10:08 – Step 3. Do a Weekly Needs Check-in 11:54 – Conclusion   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources:

✨ Achieve Your Goals FAST With the “Needs” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-09-25-25&el=podcast   Have you ever wondered what really happens when you pull away from a Dismissive Avoidant? It can feel confusing when the person who once shut down suddenly starts to pursue you. This push-pull cycle can be painful, but understanding it is the key to breaking free from games and creating real, lasting connections. In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why Dismissive Avoidants often re-engage when you step back, the subconscious fears driving this pattern, and how you can respond in a way that honors both your needs and theirs. By learning these dynamics, you'll gain the clarity to set healthy boundaries, stop repeating cycles, and know when it's time to walk away.   You'll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants feel safer pursuing when you step back ✅ How “feelings minus fears” explains their hot-and-cold cycle ✅ The role of childhood conditioning and trauma in these behaviors ✅ Why pulling away works temporarily—but isn't a long-term solution ✅ How to find the middle ground between autonomy and intimacy ✅ The importance of setting boundaries, deadlines, and direct communication ✅ How to know if someone is willing (or not) to do the work in a relationship   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  00:49 – The Four Attachment Styles 01:46 – Feelings Minus Fears 03:39 – 1. Learn How to Walk the Middle Ground 04:34 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo  04:54 – 2. Encourage the Other Person to Work on Themselves 06:06 – 3. Set a Deadline 07:10 – 4. Communicate Directly About the Situation 07:58 – Conclusion   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources:

✨ Achieve Your Goals FAST With the “Needs” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=nJOcd3mLmY8&utm_content=pod-09-24-25&el=podcast   Do you ever feel torn between craving closeness and pushing people away? You're not alone—this push-pull cycle is one of the biggest signs of a Disorganized Attachment Style (also known as the Fearful Avoidant. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals the 10 clearest signs you may actually be disorganized attached—and how understanding them can completely change the way you see yourself and your relationships. You'll discover how chaos in childhood wires the nervous system for both fear of abandonment and fear of commitment, and how these patterns play out in love, friendships, and family dynamics. Most importantly, you'll learn that with the right tools, you can reprogram old wounds and move toward a secure, lasting connection.   You'll learn: ✅ Why the Disorganized Attachment is often misdiagnosed as anxious or dismissive ✅ The “pendulum swing” between fearing abandonment and fearing commitment ✅ How hypervigilance, suspicion, and jumping to conclusions develop ✅ Why boundary struggles, over-giving, and people-pleasing keep you stuck ✅ The role of shame, guilt, and self-criticism in keeping you disconnected ✅ How inconsistent vulnerability shows up as under-sharing or over-sharing ✅ Why unresolved trauma fuels all-or-nothing thinking and emotional chaos ✅ A powerful roadmap for reprogramming subconscious beliefs and needs   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro 01:08 – 1. Fearful Avoidants Flip-Flop Between Fearing Abandonment and Commitment 03:49 – 2. Fearful Avoidants Can Go From Activating to Deactivating 04:23 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo 04:43 – 3. Fearful Avoidants Often Jump to the Worst-Case Conclusions 06:35 – 4. Fearful Avoidants Are Afraid of Feeling Helpless 07:54 – 5. Fearful Avoidants Tend to Be Highly Empathetic or Sympathetic 10:05 – 6. Fearful Avoidants Tend to Struggle With Boundaries 11:03 – 7. Fearful Avoidants Struggle With Regulating Strong Emotions 12:41 – 8. Fearful Avoidants May Undershare or Overshare 13:45 – 9. Fearful Avoidants May Struggle With Extreme Guilt or Shame 14:20 –10. Fearful Avoidants Activate and Deactivate Strongly 14:54 – Conclusion   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources:

Embrace Breakthroughs With The “Heal From a Breakup” Course—Free for Life When You Start a 7-Day Trial. Limited-time only! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-breakup-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-breakup-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-MM-DD-YY&el=podcast It's not usually the big fights that end relationships with dismissive avoidants—it's something far more subtle: the slow fade into the “roommate trap.” In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why love with a dismissive avoidant often erodes into mere coexistence, how neuroscience confirms disengagement is more damaging than conflict, and the exact steps you can take to prevent it. You'll learn about the “four pillars of connection,” why avoidants over-rely on intellectual connection, and how unspoken needs and unprocessed conflicts slowly build walls that kill intimacy. Thais also shares a practical 3-step strategy to stop the cycle and reintroduce emotional closeness into the relationship. You'll learn: ✅ Why dismissive avoidants rely heavily on intellectual connection, neglecting emotional and romantic pillars ✅ How comfort, routine, and security become their version of “commitment” ✅ Why lack of communication about needs leads to walls and eventual disengagement ✅ What the Gottman Institute reveals about emotional disengagement as the #1 predictor of divorce ✅ How oxytocin and shared vulnerability moments rebuild bonding ✅ A 3-step roadmap: set deadlines, clarify needs, and practice “micro-vulnerability” Episode Breakdown (Timestamps): 00:00 – Intro 00:36 – Why Avoidants Prefer Intellectual Connection 00:59 – The Pillars of a Relationship 02:40 – Why Avoidants Feel Safety in Disconnection 04:32 – Heal From a Breakup Course Promo 05:21 – Communication Struggles of Dismissive Avoidants 07:54 – The Neuroscience of Conflict & Vulnerability 09:47 – Step 1: Set a Deadline 10:34 – Step 2: Clarify Your Needs in a Relationship 12:03 – Step 3: Be Upfront About Boundaries 13:06 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Embrace Breakthroughs With The “Heal From a Breakup” Course—Free for Life When You Start a 7-Day Trial. Limited-time only! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-breakup-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-breakup-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-09-19-25&el=podcast Do you keep ending up in toxic cycles, no matter how much you want healthy love? That's because you don't attract the love you deserve—you attract the love your nervous system is wired for. In this episode, Thais Gibson reveals how nervous system regulation transforms the way you show up in relationships, how fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses keep you stuck in unhealthy patterns, and why learning to regulate your nervous system with a simple, science-backed practice can calm your body, reset your mind, and attract healthy love. You'll learn: ✅ Why and how Securely Attached people keep their nervous system regulated ✅ Why fight, flight, freeze, and fawn modes sabotage closeness ✅ The neuroscience of regulation and its link to secure love ✅ How ancient wisdom predicted what science now proves ✅ A simple breath + self-soothing exercise you can try today ✅ How to break the cycle of chaos and finally feel safe in love Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:14 – The Nervous Systems of the Attachment Styles 04:38 – How to Heal From a Breakup Course Promo 05:13 – The Neuroscience of Secure Attachment 06:16 – Ancient Wisdoms on Inner Peace 07:52 – Regulate Our Nervous System to Become Securely Attached 08:37 – Connecting Internally With Our Breath 09:15 – The Box Breath 09:53 – Why Being Present in Your Body is Important 11:33 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Embrace Breakthroughs With The “Heal From a Breakup” Course—Free for Life When You Start a 7-Day Trial. Limited-time only! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-breakup-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-breakup-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=MLsOSMJXuEU&utm_content=pod-09-18-25&el=podcast Few things feel more invasive than wondering if your partner is snooping through your phone. If they're a Dismissive Avoidant, the thought can leave you feeling confused... aren't they supposed to avoid closeness, not seek it?   In this episode, Thais Gibson unpacks when and why Dismissive Avoidants might snoop, what it really means about their level of investment, and how you can rebuild trust with healthier communication. Most importantly, you'll learn how neuroscience, psychology, and ancient wisdom all point toward the same truth: trust grows through honesty, boundaries, and self-mastery.   You'll learn: ✅ Why most Dismissive Avoidants avoid snooping—but what it means when they do ✅ The surprising link between snooping and long-term commitment fears ✅ How manipulation often shows up as an indirect attempt to meet needs ✅ Why low oxytocin makes trust harder for Dismissive Avoidants ✅ A practical exercise to uncover the real need behind snooping (and meet it directly) ✅ How to respond if you've been snooped on—without losing self-respect ✅ Why healthy boundaries, not control, are the foundation of secure love   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro 01:20 – Dismissive Avoidants Will Often Avoid Snooping 03:49 – What is Happening in Their Internal Reality? 07:50 – How to Heal From a Breakup Course Promo 08:48 – The Neuroscience Behind Snooping 10:09 – Step 1: What Outcomes and Needs Am I Looking for? 10:42 – Step 2: How Can I Better Meet This Need? 11:46 – Ancient Wisdom on Trust and Boundaries 12:54 – Conclusion   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources:

Embrace Breakthroughs With The “Heal From a Breakup” Course—Free for Life When You Start a 7-Day Trial. Limited-time only! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-breakup-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-breakup-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-09-17-25&el=podcast Few things feel more invasive than realizing your partner might be snooping through your phone. If they're a Fearful Avoidant, this behavior can leave you feeling betrayed and confused. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down why Fearful Avoidants snoop, what it really reveals about trust wounds, and how to heal the root cause so you can create safe, secure love. You'll see how fear of betrayal, abandonment, and broken trust wires their nervous system to scan for threats—and why snooping is a misguided attempt to seek certainty. Most importantly, you'll learn how to replace fear-driven behaviors with open communication, boundary-setting, and deep subconscious reprogramming. You'll learn: ✅ Why Fearful Avoidants snoop and the core wounds driving the behavior ✅ How survival wiring and hypervigilance keep them scanning for betrayal ✅ The link between snooping, broken trust, and self-fulfilling prophecies ✅ Why direct communication is the only path to real security ✅ How neuroscience shows snooping is an overfired threat detection system ✅ 3 practical steps to stop snooping and start building trust now ✅ Why reprogramming subconscious fears is essential to long-term healing Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:13 – 1. They Snoop Out of Fear of Betrayal 02:58 – 2. Snooping is an Unhealthy Attempt to Seek Control 04:24 – 3. They Snoop to Soothe Their Fear of Being Deceived 05:37 – How to Heal From a Breakup Course Promo 06:34 – The Neuroscience Behind Snooping 08:14 – Step 1. Practice Exposure Work on Vulnerability 09:24 – Step 2. Set Healthy Standards and Open the Dialogue Early 10:58 – Step 3. Rewire Your Subconscious Wounds and Fears 11:54 – Ancient Wisdom on Internal Healing 12:39 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

✨ Build Amazing Connections With Our 7-Day All-Access Course Pass and Keep Our “Key Pillars to Secure Attachment” Course Fully Free for Life (Valued at $250!). Claim this free gift before they run out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-pillars-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-pillars-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-08-29-25&el=podcast Fearful avoidants often struggle to trust love fully—not because they don't want it, but because their subconscious mind has absorbed painful stories from childhood and past relationships. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the 5 most common lies fearful avoidants tell themselves about love, why these beliefs feel so real, and how to reprogram them for secure, lasting connection. You'll discover the hidden fears beneath these lies, how they silently sabotage relationships, and what practical tools you can use to recondition your nervous system and subconscious to open up to love without fear. You'll learn: ✅ The false beliefs fearful avoidants carry about being unworthy of love ✅ Why they expect abandonment and betrayal—even in healthy relationships ✅ How self-protection strategies become self-sabotage ✅ Tools to question and reframe these painful lies into empowering truths ✅ How nervous system regulation makes love feel safe again ✅ The key mindset shifts that unlock secure and fulfilling relationships Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

✨ Build Amazing Connections With Our 7-Day All-Access Course Pass and Keep Our “Key Pillars to Secure Attachment” Course Fully Free for Life (Valued at $250!). Claim this free gift before they run out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-pillars-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-pillars-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-08-25-25&el=podcast Have you ever wondered what happens when you finally pull away from a dismissive avoidant partner? Instead of you chasing, the roles reverse—and it can change everything. In this episode, Thais Gibson explains the psychological and emotional impact your distance has on a dismissive avoidant, why it triggers them differently than when you over-give, and how this dynamic can either spark growth or reinforce disconnection . You'll learn how avoidants process separation beneath the surface, why your boundaries often awaken feelings they've been avoiding, and how to use space intentionally without falling into power struggles. You'll learn: ✅ What pulling away signals to a dismissive avoidant at the subconscious level ✅ Why avoidants may begin to recognize your worth only once you stop over-pursuing ✅ How your emotional independence can reduce their fear of engulfment ✅ The difference between pulling away with resentment vs. pulling away with healthy self-respect ✅ Practical ways to hold your ground while leaving the door open for healthier reconnection ✅ Why creating balance between closeness and autonomy is key to secure love Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Build Amazing Connections With Our 7 Day All-access Course Pass and Keep Our "Key Pillars to Secure Attachment" Course Fully Free for Life (Valued at $250!). Check It Out and Claim This Free Gift Before They Run Out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-pillars-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=june-promo&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-08-25-25&el=podcast   If you've ever been suddenly cut off by a dismissive avoidant partner, you may have experienced what's known as the “dismissive avoidant discard.” In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down what this painful dynamic really is, why it happens, and how to protect your sense of self-worth when it occurs. Thais explains the underlying fears that drive dismissive avoidants to push people away—often right when relationships deepen—and why their withdrawal has more to do with survival wiring than your value. Most importantly, she shares how to reframe the discard so you stop personalizing it, and instead use the experience as a catalyst for boundaries, clarity, and secure attachment. You'll learn: ✅ What the dismissive avoidant discard looks like in real relationships ✅ The subconscious fears and childhood conditioning driving this pattern ✅ Why their withdrawal is not a reflection of your worth or lovability ✅ How to stop self-blame and reclaim your power after being discarded ✅ Steps to set healthier standards and attract secure, consistent love ✅ How to turn painful endings into opportunities for deep healing Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win is Back! Spin Now to Win Handpicked Prizes By Thais Herself—Including $250 Courses, Free Trials & More to Start Healing Your Attachment Style. Promo Ends Soon! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=youtube&utm_campaign=spin-to-win&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-08-13-25&el=youtube Dismissive avoidants often keep their deepest thoughts and fears completely hidden, even from their closest partners. But in counseling, once trust is built, surprising truths emerge. In this episode, Thais Gibson pulls back the curtain on five confessions dismissive avoidants have shared in private sessions, insights that explain their distance, hesitation, and hidden needs. From the belief they're “not cut out” for relationships to the way conflict can rattle them for days, you'll see the avoidant attachment style in a whole new light. More importantly, you'll learn how to build trust, communicate effectively, and create a connection where their needs (and yours) can truly be met. You'll learn: ✅ The hidden belief that they're “better off alone”—and why it's a learned defense, not the truth ✅ Why emotional closeness can feel unsafe, even when they crave love ✅ How childhood emotional neglect plants deep shame that's triggered by even small feedback ✅ Why conflict overwhelms them—and how they can learn healthy resolution skills ✅ The surprising reason they often feel their needs aren't met (even with a loving partner) ✅ How to meet each other halfway through clear, safe communication ✅ Access to a free course on the 5 key pillars of secure relationships Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win is Back! Spin Now to Win Handpicked Prizes By Thais Herself—Including $250 Courses, Free Trials & More to Start Healing Your Attachment Style. Promo Ends Soon! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-to-win&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-08-11-25&el=podcast Have you ever dated a dismissive avoidant who seemed amazing at first—only to slowly pull away around the 6-month mark? You're not imagining it. In this episode, Thais Gibson reveals the hidden avoidant timeline—why avoidants often show their “best self” early on, but gradually reveal deeper fears, wounds, and patterns as attachment builds. You'll learn the 6 stages of relationships, why avoidants change gears between month 6 and 12, and the specific fears that surface once emotional bonds deepen. Thais also shares practical communication tips to help you navigate the power struggle stage and strengthen your connection instead of losing it. You'll learn: ✅ The 6 stages of every relationship—and where most couples break up ✅ Why avoidants seem warm and connected early, then start to pull away ✅ How “feelings minus fears” explains their shift after real attachment forms ✅ The specific fears that trigger avoidant distancing behaviors ✅ How flaw-finding becomes a subconscious self-protection strategy ✅ Communication techniques to resolve conflict without pushing them further away ✅ How to frame needs positively so avoidants feel safe enough to meet them Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-08-01-25&el=podcast Why do avoidant partners seem distant—yet strangely attracted to certain people? And why do they finally connect with people who do one surprising thing? If you've been chasing avoidants or caught in a cycle of overgiving, this episode will change everything. Thais Gibson reveals the psychological root of why avoidants fall for people who prioritize themselves—and how your relationship to yourself creates the attraction blueprint. You'll learn about the shadow self, how repressed traits influence attraction, and what makes avoidants feel safe, intrigued, and emotionally engaged. You'll learn: ✅ Why avoidants are drawn to people who own their space and set boundaries ✅ How people-pleasing is really self-abandonment (and how to stop) ✅ What the “relationship shadow” is—and why it shapes your patterns ✅ Real examples of how repressed assertiveness attracts avoidant partners ✅ How to transform your inner relationship and attract emotionally available people ✅ Why secure people are also drawn to self-connected individuals ✅ A free resource to start shadow work and healing today Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Improve Emotional and Physical Intimacy With the Attachment Styles & Sex Course. Normally $250, Free for Life When You Start Your 7-Day Trial Between July 24–31. Keep It Even If You Cancel. Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-30-25&el=podcast Fearful avoidants often give off mixed signals: they crave closeness but fear it, they want deep love but struggle to trust it. So what do they actually need to feel safe and fulfilled in a relationship? In this illuminating episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the essential emotional and psychological needs of the fearful avoidant attachment style—many of which are hidden even to the FA themselves. Whether you're healing as an FA or loving one, this episode gives you a roadmap for creating real connection, security, and lasting growth. You'll learn: ✅ The 11 core needs every fearful avoidant must have met to sustain a relationship ✅ Why emotional depth is a lifeline—not just a preference—for FAs ✅ How trust is built (and broken) through congruency and transparency ✅ The underrated importance of presence, safety, and freedom ✅ How novelty, growth, and independence coexist with emotional closeness ✅ The role of subconscious chaos—and how to replace it with stability ✅ Why appreciation and consistency are game changers for long-term love Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Improve Emotional and Physical Intimacy With the Attachment Styles & Sex Course. Normally $250, Free for Life When You Start Your 7-Day Trial Between July 24–31. Keep It Even If You Cancel. Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-28-25&el=podcast Does your partner suddenly pull away from sex once things start getting serious? Has intimacy gone cold after a strong beginning? If you're in love with a dismissive avoidant—or healing these patterns yourself—this episode brings clarity and compassion to a confusing relationship dynamic. Thais Gibson explores why dismissive avoidants often shut down around intimacy after the honeymoon phase, what's happening neurologically and emotionally behind the scenes, and how to tell whether your relationship can be healed—or whether it's time to walk away. This is a must-listen for anyone seeking clarity around love, intimacy, and self-worth. You'll learn: ✅ Why sex becomes triggering for DAs after emotional bonds deepen ✅ The subconscious childhood programming that fuels intimacy fears ✅ How DA self-protection kicks in through emotional and sexual withdrawal ✅ The real reason dismissive avoidants dissociate during sex ✅ How performance anxiety and fear of criticism shut down desire ✅ Communication tools to reestablish trust and connection ✅ Why unconditional acceptance (not pressure) reopens emotional safety ✅ When to set a deadline—and how to decide if the relationship is worth it Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Improve Emotional and Physical Intimacy With the Attachment Styles & Sex Course. Normally $250, Free for Life When You Start Your 7-Day Trial Between July 24–31. Keep It Even If You Cancel. Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-25-25&el=podcast Why does sex sometimes bring you closer—and other times make you want to run? If you or your partner identify as fearful avoidant, you might feel both deeply connected and overwhelmed during intimacy. This episode explains why. Thais Gibson explores how the fearful avoidant attachment style bonds during sex, what they need to feel safe, and why physical connection can open—or close—the door to emotional intimacy. Learn how sex interacts with neurochemistry, trust, and vulnerability, and discover how to turn intimacy into a gateway for healing instead of confusion or fear. You'll learn: ✅ The 5 pillars of relationship connection—and where sex fits in ✅ Two common bonding patterns for fearful avoidants in relationships ✅ How neurochemicals like oxytocin and dopamine affect bonding ✅ Why sex can lead to emotional shutdown for FAs without trust ✅ How to prevent the push-pull dynamic triggered by vulnerability ✅ What FAs need most to feel safe, respected, and seen during sex ✅ How to create a more secure, emotionally fulfilling connection through intimacy Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-23-25&el=podcast Avoidant partners often get misunderstood—seen as cold, distant, or commitment-phobic. But underneath those protective walls are unique needs and a deep desire to connect… on their terms. If you want to love an avoidant without losing yourself, this episode is for you. In this insightful episode, Thais Gibson shares five often-overlooked emotional needs that dismissive avoidants require to feel safe, open, and genuinely happy in love. Whether you're dating an avoidant or healing avoidant tendencies within yourself, you'll walk away with empowering tools to build connection without sacrificing your own needs. You'll learn: ✅ Why avoidants need structured independence—not endless space ✅ The role of empathy in healing childhood emotional neglect ✅ How harmony (not drama) keeps avoidants emotionally engaged ✅ Why literal, direct communication builds safety and trust ✅ How to foster growth through acceptance (without enabling unhealthy patterns) ✅ Simple scripts to express your needs and avoid triggering deactivation ✅ The secret to balancing freedom and closeness in real, secure love Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Learn Your Relationship Needs & Build the Best Relationships of Your Life with our COMPLETELY FREE Discover Your Needs Course. When You Sign Up for a 7-Day Trial, You Keep This Course for LIFE! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-16-25&el=podcast If you've ever felt like your heart is at war with your mind—wanting closeness one moment, then needing distance the next—you might be living with a fearful avoidant attachment style. And that internal push-pull doesn't mean you're broken. It means you're human—and there's hope. In this insightful solo episode, Thais Gibson takes you into the emotional landscape of the fearful avoidant. You'll learn how early attachment wounds shape chaotic internal worlds—and how to begin healing from the inside out. Whether you're identifying as FA yourself or trying to understand a loved one, this episode brings clarity, compassion, and real tools for change. You'll learn: ✅ Why fearful avoidants often feel emotionally “split” and reactive ✅ The two subconscious core wounds that drive their behavior ✅ How FAs unconsciously sabotage their relationships—and how to stop ✅ Why needs go unmet in FA upbringings (and how to reclaim them) ✅ The role of shame and “self-abandonment” in the FA emotional cycle ✅ Practical steps to build internal safety and restore self-trust ✅ How to break the push-pull pattern and move toward secure love Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Learn Your Relationship Needs & Build the Best Relationships of Your Life with our COMPLETELY FREE Discover Your Needs Course. When You Sign Up for a 7-Day Trial, You Keep This Course for LIFE! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-14-25&el=podcast Have you ever wondered what's really happening when a dismissive avoidant partner withdraws? Why do they need so much alone time—and what does that time actually look like? In this powerful solo episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the misunderstood reality of dismissive avoidant behavior in their free time. Far from restful or emotionally fulfilling, much of that alone time is spent simply surviving—numbing out, self-soothing, or unconsciously avoiding emotional needs. If you're trying to understand (or heal from) a relationship with a DA, this episode is essential listening. You'll learn: ✅ Why DAs crave time alone—and what's really happening beneath the surface ✅ The difference between solitude and self-connection ✅ How unmet emotional needs in childhood shape adult self-neglect ✅ What “creature comfort” behaviors are actually regulating ✅ Why intellectual growth often replaces emotional growth for DAs ✅ The connection between emotional suppression and nervous system dysregulation ✅ How to shift from survival mode into healing, growth, and connection Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Learn Your Relationship Needs & Build the Best Relationships of Your Life with our COMPLETELY FREE Discover Your Needs Course. When You Sign Up for a 7-Day Trial, You Keep This Course for LIFE! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-12-25&el=podcast Do your emotions sometimes feel too big to manage, like you're overwhelmed, panicked, or desperate for connection? If you're anxiously attached, this isn't just in your head. It's the result of unmet needs and subconscious conditioning and there's a path to peace. In this compassionate solo episode, Thais Gibson breaks down why anxious preoccupied individuals often feel enslaved by their feelings and dependent on others for emotional relief. She then guides you step-by-step on how to build internal trust, self-soothe, and heal your attachment style by reconnecting with your needs. You'll learn: ✅ The two emotional roots of anxious overwhelm: unmet needs and painful stories ✅ Why anxious individuals struggle to self-soothe—and how to change that ✅ The path from codependency to healthy interdependence ✅ How to build trust in yourself through daily need-meeting ✅ A practical exercise to identify and fulfill your top 15 emotional needs ✅ How to communicate your needs clearly (and avoid miscommunication in relationships) ✅ Why healing your attachment style is possible with consistency and the right tools Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Release Stored Emotions and Reset Your Nervous System With Proven Somatic Tools Taught by Thais Gibson. Buy the Course for $19 (Regularly $250). Limited-Time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-somatic?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-somatic&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-04-25&el=podcast Do you ever feel emotionally overwhelmed, exhausted, or stuck in cycles of stress and burnout? If your nervous system feels constantly “on,” like you can never fully relax or be present—this episode is for you. In this solo episode, Thais Gibson shares how nervous system dysregulation quietly sabotages your relationships, health, and personal growth and how somatic tools can help you shift from fight-or-flight into peace, presence, and healing. Drawing from personal experience and polyvagal theory, Thais explains how learning to regulate your body transforms your emotional landscape. You'll learn: ✅ The difference between sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system states ✅ How trauma trains your body to stay in fight-or-flight ✅ Why emotional reactivity feels “bigger” when you're dysregulated ✅ Practical somatic habits to reset your system—no fancy tools required ✅ What most people are really doing when they binge eat, drink, or scroll ✅ Why your energy crashes (and how to access a second wind without burnout) ✅ How to stop coping and start creating from a place of grounded peace Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-02-25&el=podcast Why does your dismissive avoidant partner pull away, seem distant, or leave you wondering where you stand? If you've felt unseen, frustrated, or confused in your relationship, this episode is for you. Thais Gibson and co-host Mike dive deep into the inner world of the dismissive avoidant attachment style—revealing what's really going on behind seemingly “cold” or “unavailable” behaviors. Mike shares vulnerably from his own experience as a former DA turned secure, while Thais explains the neuroscience, patterns, and powerful strategies to bridge the gap and create deeper connection. You'll learn: ✅ Why DAs often don't factor in your needs—and how to work with it ✅ What “independence” really means to a dismissive avoidant ✅ Why conflict feels unsafe and how to open difficult conversations ✅ The truth about DAs and feedback sensitivity ✅ How to communicate your needs without triggering deactivation ✅ When and how healing leads to real change in your partner ✅ How to assess whether a DA partner is truly willing to grow with you Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Attachment Style Quiz 00:42 – Intro 04:12 – 1 — They Don't Factor Someone Else's Needs When Making Decisions 19:02 – 2 — They Put Less Emphasis on Relationships 23:59 – 3 — They Dislike Conflict 35:04 – PDS Membership Program 36:03 – 4 — They Feel Safe in Their Independence and Autonomy 37:42 – When Their Personal Space is Invaded 43:54 – Love and Connection: Quantity vs Quality 44:24 – 5 — They're Sensitive to Feedback 58:34 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: