Podcasts about other person

So here's the deal—I've been low-key obsessed with creating this geeky-but-life-changing episode about the SEEing Framework that has COMPLETELY rewired how I parent. And listen, when you've had six kids in eight years like I have, you need all the mental frameworks you can get!Here's the mind-blowing data point that sent me down this rabbit hole: Dr. Neufeld's research shows that 95% (!!!) of kids' problem behaviors were never actually intended. NINETY-FIVE PERCENT, people! I used to be the correction queen, y'all. I had more sticker charts than Target's office supply section. In this episode, I break down my SEEing Framework that's basically the ultimate parent hack:

Welcome to Episode 276 of the Thoughtful Leader Podcast! In this episode, we explore why thoughtful leaders tend to take things personally and how to break free from this habit. If you find yourself internalising feedback, criticism, or workplace challenges, this episode is for you. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why thoughtful leaders are prone to taking things personally. The impact of personalizing feedback and criticism on leadership effectiveness. Practical strategies to create separation between personal identity and workplace challenges. Key Takeaways: Understand Why We Take Things Personally Thoughtful leaders are introspective and tend to overanalyse situations. Low confidence or comparison to extroverted colleagues can make leaders more vulnerable to negative self-talk. Examine the Context Write down the factors involved in a situation and assess how many are actually about you. Extract the Lessons Separate self-blame from constructive learning by asking: What would I do differently next time? Consider the Other Person's Motive Most negative interactions are influenced by external factors unrelated to you, like stress or fear. Learn more about the Iceberg Model of Human Behaviour in Episode 209. Question Expectations Ask yourself whether unrealistic “shoulds” are driving your reactions. Use Psychological Distancing Describe the situation as if you were a fly on the wall to gain a more objective perspective. Reframe the issue by imagining how you'd advise a respected colleague in the same situation. Resources Mentioned: What is Self-Concept? How to Accept Feedback in a Useful Way Should You Be Yourself or Adapt to Your Audience? Low in Confidence? That's a Good Thing Thoughtful Leader Podcast #209: How to Build Empathy Using the Iceberg Model 3 Ways to Reduce Unhelpful Thinking Leadership Confidence Online Course: Get 50% off with code CONFIDENCE-50. Check it out here. Connect with Ben Brearley: Website: www.thoughtfulleader.com LinkedIn: Connect with Ben Email: ben@thoughtfulleader.com

171: Exchange your Destructive Criticism for Constructive Criticism Starting NowThe Saboteur of Success is Destructive Criticism. How can we exchange destructive criticism for constructive criticism? Here are 7 tips to start implementing today. 1. Protect the Individual's Self Esteem. Be gentle with your words and careful to not deflate the person you are speaking to. 2. Focus on the Future and Not the Past. Use words like "next time", "in the future", "today is a new day", etc.3. Focus on the Behavior or the Performance and not the Person. Replace the word "you" with a description of the problem. 4. Use "I" Messages to Retain Ownership of Your Feelings. I feel (insert a word like angry, hurt, frustrated) when you do (insert problematic behavior).5. Be Clear About What Needs to Change. Be specific, solution oriented, and decision based. 6. Offer to Help. Model the best behavior you expect from others. Serve others, care about others, and give help. Let them know they are not alone by saying "we" - here is what we are going to do.7. Assume the Best about the Other Person. We hope you enjoy these tips. Share them with your friends. We can all choose to be gentle with our words and be an encouragement to others. CONNECT WITH US AT:▶︎Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/EngageforMore▶︎Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/engageformore/Engage for More is a Top 100 Christian Podcast on the Feedspot List. See the list here - https://podcast.feedspot.com/christian_podcasts/We exist to encourage you to engage and experience the more Jesus came to offer.Here's Pam's book - https://a.co/d/er42DKWHere's Pam's Blog - https://www.pampegram.com/master-what-mattersHere's Pam's Website - https://www.pampegram.com#engageformore #constructivefeedback #constructivecriticism

Send us a textClick link for Daily Bible Devotional Book:Amazon (Paperback, Hardback, Kindle)Spirit Builders (Premium Paperback)Click link for ESM Journal Page:Excel Still More Journal at the Spiritbuilding PublishersVideo to describe the ESM Journal.Sponsors:  Jon Cunningham, Owner, Cunningham Financial GroupWebsite:  www.cunninghamfinancialgroup.com   Phone:  205-326-7364Tyler Cain, Senior Loan Officer, Statewide MortgageWebsites: https://statewidemortgage.com/https://tylercain.floify.com/Phone: 813-380-8487Recap of Carnegie Part 1:- Don't Criticize, Condemn, or Complain.- Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation.- Arouse in the Other Person an Eager Want.To dig more deeply into these, here are 6 Ways to make People Like you1) Be Genuinely Interested in Other People 2) Smile3) Learn People's Names4) Be a Good Listener5) Talk in Terms of Other's Interests6) Make the Other Person Feel Important

Have you ever felt stuck in a negative relationship cycle?   Have you ever struggled with setting boundaries in your relationships? Today, Jay welcomes back a community favorite, the renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and podcast host Lori Gottlieb, for an insightful chat about love, relationships, and emotional growth. Lori, best known for her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and as co-host of the popular Dear Therapists podcast, brings her deep wisdom and practical advice that really hits home with listeners. Lori shares how people often step into love with unrealistic expectations, thanks to social media and pop culture. She reminds us that while the spark of initial chemistry is thrilling, true, long-lasting love thrives on a deeper connection and genuine understanding. One of the highlights is Lori's take on “idiot compassion” versus “wise compassion.” She breaks down how real compassion means looking at ourselves honestly, recognizing our patterns, and owning our part in the relationship. This is essential for anyone feeling trapped in negative cycles. As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Lori dive into family dynamics, especially around in-laws and blending families. Lori offers practical tips on how to support your relationship while still showing respect for parents, pointing out that these challenges are usually a couple's issues, not just external ones. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations How to Practice Wise Compassion How to Break Negative Patterns How to Handle Pressure to Rush Relationships How to Prioritize Clear Communication How to Avoid Pop Culture Relationship Pitfalls How to Cultivate Emotional Resilience Remember, true connection flourishes when we commit to growth, communicate openly, and remain empathetic to both ourselves and others. Every step taken toward understanding and compassion brings you closer to creating a life filled with genuine, lasting connections. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:29 What is Everyone Doing at My Age? 05:08 Why Doing Self Work Matters 08:40 Why You Need to Slow Down to Save Time 13:03 How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship 17:03 First Date Impressions Aren't Always Accurate 21:26 How Do You Define Real Human Connection? 24:33 Do You Fully Understand Your Partner? 28:24 Learn to Communicate Your Desires 31:26 This is What Happens When You Don't Communicate 35:24 Why We're Unreliable Narrators of Our Story 37:52 Be Consistent with Your Boundaries 42:36 We All Want to Be Liked 45:46 You're Not Ready to Marry Yet 49:51 Practice Being Your True Self All the Time 52:36 The Blind Spots of Dating 57:08 The Truth About Future Tripping 01:00:10 How Do You Feel About the Other Person? 01:01:33 The 7-Year Mark of Marriages 01:03:50 Can Having Children Save a Marriage? 01:07:35 In-Law Issues is a Couple Issue 01:12:01 The Concept of Feeling Felt 01:16:50 How Long Can You Tolerate Disrespect from Your Partner?  Episode Resources: Lori Gottlieb | YouTube Lori Gottlieb | Instagram Lori Gottlieb | Website Dear Therapists Podcast Maybe You Should Talk to Someone See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I'm not a financial advisor; Superpowers for Good should not be considered investment advice. Seek counsel before making investment decisions.Watch the show on television by downloading the e360tv channel app to your Roku, AppleTV or AmazonFireTV. You can also see it on YouTube.When you purchase an item, launch a campaign or create an investment account after clicking a link here, we may earn a fee. Engage to support our work.Devin: What is your superpower?Eric: My superpower is really the ability to communicate. I'm a marketing person.Mivium, led by CEO Eric Tsai, is pioneering a new wave in semiconductor technology with gallium nitride (GaN), a material poised to replace silicon in a variety of applications. GaN not only increases efficiency but also reduces energy consumption in devices, a benefit that's especially valuable as AI and data centers grow in demand. “Our process keeps our production output clean, and we don't use toxic materials,” Eric explained. This shift addresses the environmental and health issues plaguing traditional semiconductor production.The company's unique GaN production technique offers substantial benefits, from fast-switching properties to downsized device components. “GaN has a fast-switching property... and it can perform double as fast and better,” Eric said, adding that it's currently being used in chargers, with plans to expand into data centers where it can dramatically cut energy usage. These advantages make Mivium's gallium nitride a significant contender in the drive toward sustainable tech.In a promising move for both the business and potential investors, Mivium is raising capital through a regulated investment crowdfunding campaign on Equifund. This approach allows everyday investors to support groundbreaking tech, which Eric himself champions as a crowdfunding advocate. By sharing Mivium's journey with the public, he aims to democratize early-stage investment opportunities, giving people a chance to invest in future tech with high social and environmental value.As Mivium's crowdfunding progresses, it may inspire tech enthusiasts and impact investors alike to support a cleaner, more efficient semiconductor future.Explore GaN chargers on Amazon.tl;dr:* Eric Tsai's Mivium focuses on gallium nitride (GaN) to replace silicon, improving efficiency and sustainability.* GaN's fast-switching properties make devices smaller, more powerful, and less energy-intensive.* Mivium's unique, clean GaN production process avoids the toxic materials typical in semiconductors.* Nevada's tech-friendly policies support Mivium's plans to establish a new “gallium valley” in Reno.* By crowdfunding, Eric brings everyday investors into Mivium's journey, making early-stage investing accessible.How to Develop Effective Communication As a SuperpowerEric's superpower is his ability to communicate complex ideas in relatable ways. As a seasoned marketing professional, he has mastered the art of translating technical concepts into simple analogies that resonate with diverse audiences, especially in high-tech fields like semiconductors. This skill allows him to bridge gaps in understanding, helping people grasp the value and impact of innovations, even without specialized knowledge.In today's episode, Eric shared how he explains the intricate science behind Mivium's gallium nitride (GaN) technology. Comparing GaN to "flour" for baking, he helps people visualize Mivium's product as a better alternative to silicon. By presenting the science as an everyday item, he enables audiences to connect with Mivium's mission. This analogy makes it easier for potential investors and customers to understand GaN's advantages, such as improved energy efficiency, which contributes to a cleaner, more sustainable tech future.Tips for Developing Effective Communication as a Superpower:* Think from the Other Person's Perspective: Approach communication by considering the audience's interests and needs. Tailor your message so they feel you genuinely care about them and their concerns.* Use Analogies to Simplify Complex Ideas: Find familiar comparisons, like Eric's “flour” analogy, to help people understand technical or abstract concepts.* Tell a Compelling Story: Craft your messaging as a narrative. A good story resonates more and helps audiences remember your message.* Conduct Surveys and Gather Feedback: Regularly survey customers and prospects to ensure your message aligns with their needs and experiences, making necessary adjustments to improve clarity.By following Eric Tsai's example and advice, you can make effective communication a skill. With practice and effort, you could make it a superpower that enables you to do more good in the world.Remember, however, that research into success suggests that building on your own superpowers is more important than creating new ones or overcoming weaknesses. You do you!Guest ProfileEric Tsai (he/him):CEO, Mivium, Inc.About Mivium, Inc.: Mivium develops advanced semiconductor materials to meet the current and future needs of society. We strive to deliver innovative deep-tech solutions by unlocking the true potential of material science.Website: www.mivium.comOther URL: invest.equifund.com/offering/mivium/detailsBiographical Information: Eric Tsai is Co-Founder and CEO of Mivium, where he leads the overall strategic vision and oversees the entire business. Experienced in building global brands while operating global supply chains, he previously pioneered numerous hyper-growth business innovations for multiple startups to Fortune 100 companies. More recently, he served as the Vice President of Marketing & Business Development for Joybird, a direct-to-consumer brand he helped build from $10M to $200M+ and was later acquired by La-Z-Boy Corporation. During his tenure with the company, he amassed $790M in total revenue for the business. 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Since one of the perks of subscribing to my Financial Advisor Marketing newsletter is direct access to asking me any question you have via email, I have direct access to financial advisors biggest worries, fears, and yes, questions about marketing.  In fact, there are 5 marketing questions financial advisors constantly ask me that I consider as “wake-up calls” you need to hear.  Why?  Well, if you have any of these questions, it tells me you're making some fundamental marketing mistakes that can plant the seeds of destruction in your business (even if you're succeeding today).  In today's show, you'll discover what these 5 questions are and how to address them before they gobble up your business.  Listen now. Show highlights include: How to solve almost every marketing problem you encounter by simply talking to this specific group of people (6:04)  The “Other Person's World” secret for pumping out engaging and persuasive content that fills your calendar with high-quality appointments (7:03)  Why unfounded optimism can cause your entire business to crumble from the bottom up (9:04)  How perfectionism steals more wealth from financial advisors than anything else (and why the “fire, then aim” approach prevents this)  (13:05)  The counterintuitive way your current results stifle and suffocate explosive growth (18:47)  Since you listen to this podcast, I want to give you a gift:  If you subscribe to the Inner Circle Newsletter, I'll send you a collection of seven “objection busting” and copyright free emails, personally written by me, that you can use right away to begin getting more clients. Sign up here: https://TheAdvisorCoach.com/Coaching. Then, let me know you subscribed, and I will reply back with a link where you can download them for free.  Subscribe to my email newsletter and get a free copy of 57 of my favorite financial advisor marketing ideas here: https://TheAdvisorCoach.com/57MT 

Special Guest: Bentley Nettles -Retired Brigadier General and Former Executive Director of the Texas Alcoholic Beverage Commission discusses various topics in his book “Creating Excellence:  Insights into Leadership, Life, and Legacy” Points Covered: Being the New Sheriff in Town Three Steps to Leadership Ideal Team Structure Building Trust and Walking a Mile In the Other Person's Shoes Letting Others Take The Lead Biography Bentley Nettles currently works as an independent consultant for Gray Robinson PA in the Alcohol Regulatory practice,  He was appointed TABC Executive Director in 2017 following successful careers as an attorney and as a Brigadier General for the Texas Army National Guard. Following his appointment as Executive Director, Nettles guided TABC through the state Sunset process and has identified new ways to increase agency effectiveness while improving customer service and efficiency. Working with TABC employees and stakeholders from the alcoholic beverage industry, Nettles spearheaded new initiatives to fight human trafficking and improve industry outreach. Following the agency's recent successes, the 86th Texas Legislature provided a historic investment in TABC. Specifically, the agency developed and implemented the Alcohol Information Management System.   Nettles graduated from Texas A&M University in 1985 with a bachelor's degree in business management and earned his law degree from the South Texas College of Law in 1987. He also earned a Master of Homeland Defense and Security from the Naval Postgraduate School and served a military fellowship at Tufts University's Fletcher School of International Law and Diplomacy.   While attending Texas A&M, he was commissioned as a second lieutenant in the United States Army and was made platoon leader and later company commander for multiple National Guard units. Nettles has deployed to multiple combat theaters around the world, including Bosnia, Afghanistan and Iraq. He has received numerous military decorations including the Legion of Merit, the Bronze Star Medal with two oak leaf clusters and the Purple Heart. Prior to his retirement from the military, Nettles served as General Counsel for the Army Element Joint Force Headquarters in Austin. Following his separation from the Army in 2015, Nettles operated a successful law firm in Bryan assisting small businesses and veterans. He is a founding member and past chairman of Brazos Valley Cares, a non-profit group dedicated to serving military veterans and their families, as well as many other boards and organizations in the Brazos Valley.   Website https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Excellence-Insights-Leadership-Legacy/dp/B0DH5YQXBR   Brought to you by the J.C. Cooley Foundation, "Equipping the Youth of Today for the Challenges of Tomorrow."#ItsYourLife #Talkshow #Podcast #Radio #BentleyNettlesSupport the show: http://www.cooleyfoundation.org/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Create Like the Greats, Ross dives into Dale Carnegie's timeless principles from "How To Win Friends and Influence People" and how they can be applied to win in business and marketing today. He highlights the importance of building genuine relationships with your audience, making meaningful interactions, and leveraging digital tools to personalize messages at scale. Ross also discusses how listening attentively, showing positivity, and making others feel valued can significantly enhance both personal and professional relationships. These insights are key to not just winning clients, but creating lasting, impactful connections. Key Takeaways and Insights: 1. Show Genuine Interest in Your Audience As marketers, it's easy to think of audiences as simply customers, but real success comes when you truly care about their problems and desires. Engaging deeply with your audience means being present in their communities, learning where they spend their time, and understanding their challenges. By studying their online behaviors and preferences, you can connect with them authentically, offering solutions that resonate with their needs. 2. The Power of a Smile A simple smile can transform the tone of your voice, making your message more approachable and positive. People are naturally drawn to positivity, and brands that exude this energy create a sense of trust and likability. Incorporating optimism into your story and content encourages your audience to associate those positive feelings with your brand, making your message more compelling and memorable. 3. Remembering People's Names In a digital world, personalized interactions go a long way in building rapport. Using tools like email marketing software or AI technologies, you can scale personal messages that address individuals by name. This level of personalization creates a human connection, making your audience feel seen and appreciated, even in large-scale outreach efforts. 4. Be an Active Listener Listening is more than just hearing words; it's about making the other person feel understood. When you actively listen and reflect back what someone has said, it shows them that their voice matters. This builds trust and opens up opportunities for deeper connections, as people value those who take the time to understand their perspectives. 5. Talk in Terms of the Other Person's Interests It's easy to get caught up in promoting the features and technical aspects of your products, but what truly matters to your audience is how it benefits them. Frame your conversations around their needs, showing them how your solutions will impact their lives or businesses. By speaking their language, you'll build stronger, more persuasive marketing messages that resonate. 6. Make Others Feel Important—Sincerely People want to feel valued, and when you show genuine care for someone's well-being or success, it can foster long-lasting relationships. Consistently making others feel important, not just through words but through your actions, strengthens connections and can turn clients into advocates for life.  Resources: HeyGen - https://heygen.com/?sid=rewardful&via=ross-simmonds How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie —

Connectedness, acceptance, and love.  You cannot achieve this unless you put others first, always, and yourself, second, always.  There is no one more important than the OTHER PERSON.  Think about that.

SHOW NOTES: On this show…we are exploring the paradox of control and how trying to control others ends up controlling you. Have you ever wondered if your well-intentioned help might actually be a bit too much? It's easy to blur the lines between being supportive and being controlling without even realizing it. Sometimes, what we see as helping might actually be holding others back. Slippery slope? I don't want to give you another thing to stress about but it's easy to go from helping to controlling because our desire to see things done well or protect those we care about can lead us to overstep boundaries. What starts as genuine concern can quickly turn into micromanagement, especially when we feel responsible for the outcomes or anxious about losing control. So let's dive into the subtle differences between helping and controlling, and explore how we can make sure our good intentions truly empower those around us. Curious to see where you stand. Let's find out together! I always thought I was being helpful…always until I was able to get some perspective and see the difference. It's ok if you're not there yet, that's the journey. The fact that you are committed to getting a better vantage point and some positive alternatives to some of life's challenges and a HUGE first step. Remember the saying, “The road is paved with good intentions”? Well it's actually referring to the road to hell but I think it can apply here too because it means, the difference between what someone intends to do and the outcome of their actions. Maybe you initially jumped in to help and maybe you wanted to control the situation from the start and the lines were just a blur. Let's sharpen the focus as we figure out the difference… Samantha Ann helps us identify the difference between Controlling vs Caring: A Thin Line Controlling People Love to Cross found at Love Panky On the SlightlyBetter YouTube channel, I found 8 Things Controlling Personalities Do To Keep You Under Them Hailey Magee shares her story on How I Stopped Trying to Control My Partner and Took Responsibility for My Own Happiness - found at The Gottman Institute  Figuring out if you're actually being helpful or starting to be a bit controlling takes some self-reflection and thinking about your motives and how your actions affect others. Here are some ways to check yourself: Check Your Motives Ask Yourself: Why am I offering help or advice? Is it because I genuinely want to support this person, or because I feel anxious if things aren't done my way? Helpful: If your intention is to empower the other person and you're okay with the outcome, even if it's different from what you would do. Controlling: If your intention is to ensure things are done according to your standards, or to alleviate your own discomfort or anxiety. Consider the Other Person's Autonomy Ask Yourself: Am I allowing the other person to make their own choices, or am I trying to steer them toward what I think is best? Helpful: If you respect the other person's right to make their own decisions, even if they choose differently than you would. Controlling: If you're pushing your agenda, making decisions for them, or not giving them the space to make their own choices. Observe Their Response Ask Yourself: How does the other person react when I offer help or advice? Do they seem appreciative, or do they appear uncomfortable or resistant? Helpful: If the other person feels supported, empowered, and grateful for your input. Controlling: If they seem frustrated, distant, or resistant, it could be a sign that they feel smothered or undermined. Reflect on Your Emotional State Ask Yourself: How do I feel if the person doesn't take my advice or doesn't accept my help? Helpful: If you're at peace with their decision and don't feel the need to push further. Controlling: If you feel irritated, anxious, or disappointed when they don't follow your guidance. Assess the Frequency and Context Ask Yourself: How often am I stepping in to offer help or advice? Is it in situations where it's truly needed, or am I doing it constantly, even when not asked? Helpful: If you offer help selectively, in situations where it's genuinely needed, and when the other person asks for it. Controlling: If you find yourself frequently intervening, even in situations where the other person is capable or didn't ask for assistance. Solicit Feedback Ask Them: How do you feel about the help or advice I'm giving? Do you feel supported or overwhelmed? Helpful: If they express that your support is valuable and that they feel empowered. Controlling: If they indicate that your help feels more like pressure or that they feel micromanaged. Evaluate the Balance of Power Ask Yourself: Am I trying to maintain control or power in this situation, or am I empowering the other person? Helpful: If your actions encourage the other person's growth, independence, and self-confidence. Controlling: If your actions are more about maintaining control or ensuring things go your way. CHALLENGE: Recognize where your well-meaning actions might be crossing into control and take steps to shift toward empowering others. By embracing true personal responsibility, you'll build stronger, more trusting relationships that allow everyone to thrive.   I Know YOU Can Do It!

Dr. Sara, an expert on relationships, discusses the six ingredients for designing the love people deserve. These ingredients can be applied to all types of relationships, including those with parents, siblings, children, and coworkers. The conversation explores the importance of attraction, respect, trust, compatibility, communication, and growth in maintaining thriving relationships. It emphasizes the need to focus on the right aspects of a relationship and not rely solely on love to save it. The discussion also challenges common misconceptions about sex and physical attraction in relationships. In this conversation, Eli Weinstein discusses the six key ingredients for a successful relationship: respect, vision, trust, compassion, acts of love, and knowing your own blueprint. He emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and communicating them lovingly and firmly. Vision involves imagining a partnership where two individuals influence and support each other, creating a harmonious relationship. Trust is built on reliability and consistency, and commitment is crucial even when you don't feel like it. Compassion is about being there for the other person without making it about yourself, and acts of love involve making the other person feel special in the way they want to be. Takeaways The six ingredients for designing the love people deserve are attraction, respect, trust, compatibility, communication, and growth. Love alone cannot save a relationship; it requires effort and focus on the right aspects. Physical attraction is important, but it is culturally constructed and can change over time. Respect involves continuously learning about boundaries and being respectable oneself. Trust is built through consistency, reliability, and vulnerability. Compatibility includes both individual attributes and interpersonal qualities. Effective communication goes beyond talking and includes understanding and valuing each other's perspectives. Relationships require growth and evolution to adapt to different stages and challenges. Set boundaries and communicate them lovingly and firmly. Imagine a partnership where two individuals influence and support each other. Build trust through reliability and consistency. Commit to the relationship even when you don't feel like it. Be there for the other person without making it about yourself. Make the other person feel special in the way they want to be. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:22 Dr. Sara's Journey into Relationship Work 05:20 The Role of Love in Relationships 09:16 The Focus and Efforts in Relationships 12:13 The Six Ingredients for Designing Love 22:41 Focusing on What Matters in Relationships 24:35 The First Ingredient: Attraction 26:36 The Second Ingredient: Respect 29:21 The Third Ingredient: Trust 31:46 The Fourth Ingredient: Compatibility 34:38 The Fifth Ingredient: Communication 38:03 The Sixth Ingredient: Growth 40:52 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 28:24 Creating a Vision for a Harmonious Relationship 29:21 Building Trust through Reliability and Consistency 35:06 Committing to the Relationship Even When You Don't Feel Like It 41:46 Being There for the Other Person without Making it About Yourself 49:16 Making the Other Person Feel Special --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Scripture Reflection for June 17, 2024: You Cannot Turn the Other Person's Cheek by Priests for Life

On this week's episode, Sabrina sits down with Regina Gerbeaux to discuss coachability, the importance of understanding people, and building trusting teams. Regina is the executive coach for top-tier CEOs, Operators, and Investors. She is best known for her work as an operator scaling companies in size and revenue using the Mochary Method. Regina is also an excited founder of a bootstrapped music business she started in college that hit $1M of annual recurring revenue by the time she was 20. Tune in to hear the duo discuss the process of finding one's true self and aligning it with the ego. Regina provides insights on the role of vulnerability, empathy, and compassion in leadership, as well as the need for leaders to create a safe space for themselves and others. They also touch on the dangers of busyness and the importance of overcoming the addiction to progress. Quotes: “When you have someone believe in you, it can change the trajectory of your life.” - Sabrina Wang “Children are amazing examples of our true selves. Because they like what they like and they don't like what they don't like.” - Regina Gerbeaux “I'm not saying money is bad. But understanding the “why” will help you understand how much is enough.” - Regina Gerbeaux “The beauty about being your true self is that you're doing everyone else a favor by being your true self.” - Regina Gerbeaux “You hired smart people for a reason, so let them help.” - Regina Gerbeaux “When you do exactly what you want, so long as it's not harming other people, you're going to be really good at it, and it's not going to feel like work.” - Regina Gerbeaux “The self-awareness of a leader is what makes a company successful.” - Regina Gerbeaux “The thing about life is we get to choose our success, we get to choose our suffering, and how we get there.” - Sabrina Wang What You'll Learn: (00:00:00) Introduction (00:01:50) How Regina Inspired Sabrina's Coaching Journey (00:04:15) Getting to Know Regina Gerbeaux (00:05:26) Coachability and Why It's So Important (00:07:28) The Difference Between the Ego and the True Self (00:09:12) How to Uncover and Connect with Your True Self (00:14:40) What Story Are You Telling Yourself? (00:19:52) You Can't Solve All Your Problems By Yourself (00:26:45) A Real Life Story of Trust and Making Strategic Decisions (00:28:36) How to Gain Trust in Your Team as a Business Operator (00:31:24) People's Deep Desire Is To Be Heard and Respected (00:35:42) It's Not About the Words But the Intention Behind the Words (00:38:40) The Benefits of Keeping Focus on the Other Person (00:41:56) People Are Addicted to Busyness (00:47:54) The Biggest Problems Most CEOs Face (00:52:10) Pain Will Always Be Here, Suffering is Optional (00:56:03) The Mindset Piece of Building a Business (01:01:41) How to Start Reducing Your Suffering (01:06:45) What Most People Want is Freedom (01:10:54) Parting Thoughts Links and Resources: Regina's LinkedIn - (25) Regina G. | LinkedIn Regina on X - Profile / X Coachingfounder.com - https://www.coachingfounder.com/ Myevergrowth.com Sabrina's LinkedIn Sabrina on X About the Show: Are you a leader of a fast-growing organization who wants to build a world-class team? Welcome to Evergrowing, where leaders like you learn to build high-performing teams. I believe when you sign up to be a leader, you sign up for a journey of constantly growing - Evergrowing. I'm Sabrina Wang, CEO of Evergrowth Coaching. I've been a coach to many top CEOs in the world who do 8-9 figures in revenue. I'm bringing to you the most common breakthroughs in coaching sessions. I was the former Head of Coaching to Matt Mochary, author of The Great CEO Within, and the CEO coach to leading tech companies like Coinbase, OpenAI, Reddit, and so on. Tune in each week to hear about strategies designed to help you turn the toughest business challenges into tangible success. Available on all podcasting platforms and YouTube, don't forget to tune in every week :)

Welcome to Episode 156 of The Numbers Game. In this episode, we discuss leadership principles based on Dale Carnegies's hugely successful book, first published in 1936 'How to Win Friends and Influence People'. On this episode, we discuss Dale's principles:Begin with Praise and Honest AppreciationCall Attention to People's Mistakes IndirectlyTalk About Your Own Mistakes Before Criticising the Other PersonAsk Questions Instead of Giving Direct OrdersLet the Other Person Save FacePraise the Slightest Improvement and Praise Every ImprovementGive the Other Person a Fine Reputation to Live Up ToMake the Other Person Happy About Doing the Thing You SuggestCheck out the free resources from Inovayt here.Send us an email: hello@thenumbersgamepodcast.com.auThe Numbers Game is brought to you by Future Advisory & Inovayt.Hosts:Nick ReillyJason RobinsonMartin VidakovicThis podcast is produced by VIDPOD.

Featured photo is Mina as a child (more pics below!) 374 Anger, Part 2 You Have Always Hated Me! In the Anger Part 1 podcast (371 on November 20), Rhonda, Matt and David discussed the fact that when you're feeling angry, there's always an inner dialogue—this is what you're saying to yourself, the way you're thinking about the situation—and an outer dialogue—this is what you're saying to the other person. In Part 1, we focused on the inner dialogue and described the cognitive distortions that nearly always fill your mind with anger-provoking inner chatter about the ‘awfulness” of the person you're mad at. Those distortions include All-or-Nothing Thinking, Overgeneralization, Labeling, Mental Filtering, Discounting the Positive, Mind-Reading, Fortune Telling, Emotional Reasoning, Other-Directed Should Statements, and Other-Blame. That's a lot—in fact, all but Self-Blame. And sometimes, when you're ticked off, you might also be blaming yourself, and feel mad at yourself at the same time. Matt suggested I add these comments on Self-Blame or it's absence:: Another possible addition would be when you identify the absence of Self Blame when we're angry. For me, it's been easier to think of that as a positive distortion, because you are blind to, or ignoring, your own role in the problem. In other words, when I'm blaming someone else, it's me thinking my poop smells great and tit's all the other person's fault.. I've wondered if we fool ourselves like this because of the desire to have a special and perfect “self,” which we then defend. Because nobody's perfect, our "ideal self," as opposed to our "real self," is just a pleasant, but potentially destructive, fantasy. Still, we try to preserve and project the fantasy that we are free of blame and the innocent victim of the other person's "badness," , and we imagine there we have a perfect “self” to defend. Or, as you've said, at times, David, “anger is often just a protective shell to hide and protect our more tender and genuine feelings.” We also discussed the addictive aspect of anger, since you probably feel morally superior to the “bad” person you're ticked off at when you're mad, and this makes it fairly unappealing to change the way you're thinking and feeling. Your anger also protects you from the risk of being vulnerable and open and genuine. Today we discuss the Outer Dialogue, and how to express angry feelings to another person, as well as how to respond to their expressions of anger. The main concept is that you can express anger in a healthy way, by sharing your anger respectfully, or you can act out your anger aggressively, by attacking the other person. That's a critically important decision! Toward the start of today's podcast, Rhonda, Matt and David listed some of the distinctions between healthy and unhealthy anger. The following is just a partial list of some of the differences:   Healthy Anger Unhealthy Anger You treat the other person with respect, even if you're angry. You want to put the other person down. Your goal is to get closer to the other person. You want to get revenge or hurt or humiliate the other person. You hope to improve the relationship. You want to reject or distance yourself from the other person. You want to understand the other person's mindset and find the truth in what they're saying, even if it sounds ‘off' or ‘disturbing' or offensive. You want to prove that the other person is ‘wrong' and persuade them that you are ‘right'. You want to understand and accept the other person. You insist on trying to change the other person. You express yourself thoughtfully. You express yourself impulsively. You come from a mindset of humility, curiosity, and flexibility. You come from a position of moral superiority, judgement, and rigidity. You are patient. You are pushy and demanding. Optimism that things can improve and that there's a great potential for a more meaningful and loving connection. Hopelessness and feelings of certainty that things cannot improve. Open to what I've done wrong and how I've hurt you. Focus on what you've done wrong and how you've hurt me. I-Thou mindset. I-It mindset. You're vulnerable and open to your hurt feelings. You put up a wall of toughness and try to hide your vulnerable true feelings.. You look for positive motives, if possible, and don't assume that you actually understand how the other person is thinking and feeling.. You attribute malignant motives to the other person and imagine that you can read their mind and know exactly why they feel the way they do. You accept and comprehend the idea that you can feel intensely angry with someone and love them at the same time.. You may believe that anger and love are dichotomies, and that conflict and anger, in some way, are the ‘opposite' of love or respect.. To bring some dynamics and personality to today's podcast, Mina, who's made a number of noteworthy appearances on the podcast, agreed to describe what she learned on a recent Sunday hike. (I've started up my Sunday hikes again, but in a small way now that the pandemic has subsided, at least for the time being. I'm struggling with low back pain when walking and that severely limits how far I can go.) Mina began by explaining that when she was talking to her mom on the phone. Her mom described a conflict with woman friend who seemed angry with Mina's mom. Mina said, “I can see why that woman got angry with you.“ Mina explained that her mother, who is “conflict phobic,” paradoxically ends up with conflicts with a lot of people. However, Mina's mother sounded hurt by Mina's comment, and said, “You've always hated me since you were a little girl! You always looked at me hatefully!” Here are some of Mina's "angry" childhood photos:   Mina explained how she felt when her mom said, "You've always hated me.” My jaw dropped when she said that! It was such a shock. I've always felt like she was my best friend! . . . I hate feeling angry. It makes me every bit as uncomfortable as anxiety. If I express my anger, it goes away, and I feel better. But I don't usually express it, and then it comes back disguised as weird neurologic symptoms. And that, of course, is the Hidden Emotion phenomenon that is so common in people who struggle with anxiety. When you try to squash or hide negative feelings your think you're not “supposed' to have, they often resurface in disguised form, as phobias, panic, OCD symptoms, chronic worrying, or any type of anxiety, including, as in Mina's case Health Anxiety—that's where you become convinced you have some serious neurologic or medical problem, like Multiple Sclerosis. Matt suggested that I might remind folks of my concept that “anger allays get expressed, one way or the other.” He's found this idea to be both true and incredibly helpful for “us nice folks who think we can get away without expressing our anger, thinking we can avoid conflicts, entirely. This always backfires, in my experience!” On the recent Sunday hike, Mina practiced how to talk with her mom, using the Five Secrets of Effective Communication. After that, she used what she'd practiced on the hike to talk to her mom about their relationship, and then got an “I love you” message from her mom the next morning. This made Mina very happy, but because she had a full day of back to back appointments, Mina decided to spend time crafting a thoughtful reply at the end of the day, when she had a little free time. But when she went back to her computer at the end of the day to send a message to her mom, she discovered that her mother had deleted the loving message she sent early in the day, and Mina felt hurt. When Mina asked her mom about it, her mom said that deleting the message was just an error due to ‘old age.” However, Mina did not really buy this, and thought her mom probably felt hurt and angry because Mina had not responded sooner. In the podcast, we practiced responding to mom using the role-play exercise I developed years ago. Essentially, one person plays the role of Mina's mom, and says something challenging or critical. Mina plays herself and responds as skillfully as possible with the Five Secrets, acknowledging the other person's anger and expressing her own feelings as well. We practiced responding to mom's statement, “You've always hated me.” Matt played the role of mom and Mina gave a beautiful Five Secrets response. You'll enjoy hearing her response, and Matt's and Rhonda's helpful feedback, when you listen to the podcast. Then Mina asked for help responding to another statement from her mom, who had also said: All of the kids your age are angry, because you were neglected a lot of the time because of the war in Iran, and your dad and I were busy doing what we had to do to survive and avoid being arrested. All of my Iranian friends with children your age are experiencing the same thing. Matt and Rhonda did more role plays with Mina, followed by excellent feedback on Mina's Five Secrets response. Again, I think you'll enjoy the role-playing and fine tuning when you listen to the podcast. One of the obvious take-home messages from today's podcast is to use the Five Secrets of Effective Communication when you're feeling angry and talking to someone who's angry with you as week, As a reminder, these are the Five Secrets. LINK TO 5 SECRETS And to make it simple, you can think of talking with your EAR: E = Empathy (listening with the Disarming Technique, Thought and Feeling Empathy, and Inquiry) A = Assertiveness (sharing your feelings openly with “I Feel” Statements) R = Respect (showing warmth and caring with Stroking) However, here's the rub: People who are angry will usually NOT want to do this! When you're ticked of, you will almost always have a huge preference for expressing yourself with the Unhealthy Anger described above. Matt urged me to publish my list of 36 reasons why this intense resistance to healthy communication. LINK HERE for the LIST 12 GOOD Reasons NOT to Empathize 12 GOOD Reasons NOT to Share your Feelings 12 GOOD Reasons NOT to Treat the Other Person with Respect. So, as you can see, there's a lot more to skillful communication of anger than just learning the Five Secrets of Effective Communication, although that definitely requires tremendous dedication and practice. But motivation is the most important key to success or failure. When you're upset with someone, you can ask yourself, “Do I want to communicate in a loving, or in a hostile way?” The reward of love are enormous, but the seduction of hostility and lashing out is at least as powerful! This battle between the light and the dark is not new, but has been blazing for tens of thousands of years. And, of course, the decision will be yours. Thanks for listening today, Mina, Rhonda, Matt, and David

DAY SIX - Don't Make Others Feel Small, Santa shares Secrets About His Sleigh, New Streaming Service Elf Flix Today we talk about  - walking in someone else's shoes,  - how to make others feel better about themselves,  - we share a secret about Santa's Sleigh - Santa answers some messages from listeners - The Santa Daily News, - and a new streaming service, just for elves called - Elf Flix Ok everyone, Santa has provided his suggested topic for today's show - Santa wants to remind us that we should always make others feel big, and never make people feel small. Well Selfie, that is interesting - yes elves are small, and that makes you and the rest of the other amazing elves here at the north pole special. For the adults and kids listening, making someone feel small is something that many people around the world do to each other - and it is really sad. You can make someone feel small, or not important just by the way you treat them.  We all remember the story of Rudolph - remember, he wasn't included in the games that his friends were playing - so he felt like he didn't belong, that his friends didn't want him to be apart of the group - he felt small, not like an elf small, just small or not as important as everyone else. Some times people can be mean - they say or do things that don't include other people - sometimes, these people end up on Santa's naughty list and they don't even know that they are making others feel small. We need to be gentle with others around us - our friends at school, brother or sister, adults and teachers, we should never treat someone in a way that makes them feel small - or another big person word is - insignificant or meaningless.  Everyone is significant and full of meaning - even if they don't look like, act like, think like, play like or come from the same place that you do. Santa wants us all to think about others first - to look at the world through their eyes, understand how they are different and unique - what makes them special. to do this some people say that we should walk a mile in someone else's shoes - have you ever walked in someone else's shoes before selfie? Put Yourself in the Other Person's Shoes When you are playing with your friends and they have an idea or a new way to do something - are you willing to listen and to try their way or does it always have to be your way?  Sometimes their way might be better, or more fun - sometimes your way might be the best choice, but how will you know if you never listen to others and try their ideas - see the world as they see it and learn from others. Let's look for ways to be more considerate of others And that, is how you can stay on Santa's Nice list - it really does work. What will you do today to make others big instead of making them feel little. If you want more info about the podcast, have your parents help you and go to DailySantaPodcast.com and there you will find Santa's Spotify Playlist, Producer Dave's Movie Pick, Selfie's coloring pages, and even a way for you to get your voice and questions on the show! Your parents can help you - head over to DailySantaPodcast.com today! See you tomorrow! Twinkle Visit Producer Dave's Instagram Podcast created by: https://truemediasolutions.ca/ https://dailysantapodcast.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/daily-santa-podcast/message

This week, I interview Kelsey Greenwood who is an expert on teamwork and team building. She just published a paper on how to effectively deal with team conflict as a leader.So, I wanted to have her come in and let us know what she discovered. She basically outlines a very simple four-step process to help make team conflicts more beneficial to the team. We often talk about wanting to avoid or resolve conflicts. But Kelsey shows us that conflicts are actually very helpful if the team leader is using effective team conflict techniques.On this episode, Kelsey shares four practical steps to handle team conflict in a way that is considerate, respectful, and empowering for all involved parties. Use these steps to navigate future conflicts with more confidence and ease.Deal with Team Conflict in Four Simple Steps.Ask Yourself, Where Can I Take Responsibility for this Team Conflict?Try To Understand The Other Person's Perspective Before Making Your Point.Be Empathetic, But Direct In Your Team Communication.During the Team Conflict, Invite the Other Person into the Conversation by Asking Questions.By the way, if you are enjoying the podcast, I'd like to ask a favor of you. Would you mind leaving me a review on your podcast app? The podcast content is absolutely free, and positive reviews on Apple Podcast and Spotify help us keep the show free. It only takes a couple of seconds, and I appreciate the feedback so much.So, enjoy the interview with Kelsey Greenwood.Show Notes: 4 Steps To Effectively Handle Team Conflict As a Team Leader (https://team-building.org/4-steps-to-effectively-handle-team-conflict-as-a-team-leader/)

Today, Ed is joined by Dr. Colby Peters, Founder and CEO of Human Systems, which empowers individuals and human service organizations with research-based tools and processes to help them prevent burnout, reduce turnover, and improve individual and organizational well-being. Dr. Peters founded Human Systems in 2016, recognizing that leadership is “positive action that happens on the individual, relational, and systems levels.” In other words, the role of leadership is not reserved only for those at the top of the organization, but for everyone within it. In the first part of this two-part discussion, listen in as Dr. Peters discusses how she came to realize, through her research as well as through her own personal experiences, that emotion is nothing to be scoffed at nor something to be suppressed in professional life. She explains how we can speak authentically with another human being to build bridges. Expanding our emotional vocabulary, according to Dr. Peters, allows us to turn our emotion into action by attuning our perspective toward making the right decisions. In the second part of this two-part discussion, listen in as Dr. Peters discusses the importance of reclaiming and developing our self-authority. It all begins, she says, with addressing our unmet needs. According to Dr. Peters: “Behind every comfortable emotion is a met need. Behind every uncomfortable emotion is an unmet need.” She breaks down the four categories of needs: safety, growth, individuality, and relationships. Drawing from her own emotional experiences, Dr. Peters speaks on how therapy and financial planning come together. She explains how she guides her clients through their emotional needs without taking on the persona of the “authority figure.” This, in turn, honors her clients' autonomy, encouraging them to claim their own power in the decision-making process. Key Topics: Part 1: About Human Systems (0:01:31) Expressing Emotion without Offending the Other Person (0:08:13) Leadership Plus Emotional Intelligence (0:16:20) Expanding Your Emotional Vocabulary via the Three Emotion Wheels (0:27:16) Fundamental Human Needs Versus Emotional Needs (0:32:42) Part 2: About the Human Needs Wheel (0:39:23) Balancing Our Growth Needs with Our Safety Needs (0:43:16) How Therapy and Financial Planning Can Come Together (0:51:07) Why We Should Never Resist Our Emotions (1:08:04) Teaching Clients How to Use Tools Developed by Human Systems (1:12:45) Resources: Dr. Colby Peters on LinkedIn Human Systems Emotion Wheels The Body Keeps the Score (for reference) Connect With Healthy Love and Money: Schedule your free 30-Minute Discovery Call About Therapy-Informed Financial Planning™. Learn about your money and attachment style with this short Attachment Style Quiz. Buy the Double Award Winning Book: The Healthy Love and Money Way.

If you want to become a better influencer, listen to this interview with Bob Burg, the co-author of The-Giver series of books.Bob will share the Five Secrets of Genuine Influence, which were presented in his latest book "The Go-Giver Influencer." The 5 secrets are:Master Your Emotions.Step into the Other Person's ShoesSet the Frame. Communicate with Tact and Empathy.Let Go of Having to be Right.  If you want to know more about Bob Burg, visit his website at:www.burg.comWant to schedule a consultation call with Percy Cannon?https://calendly.com/percy-cannon/30minWant to learn more about Percy Cannon and his partners at Grupo Azimuth?https://www.grupoazimuth.com

How To Mend A Relationship: The crucial steps of an apology. This episode of the Impactful Parent walks you through the crucial steps of making an apology that is effective and better received by your loved one. It's not easy to say, "I am sorry," but apologizing might be the first step to mending a relationship that is important to you. Discover how you can apologize to your loved one WITHOUT taking the whole blame and WITHOUT admitting that you did anything with bad intentions. PLUS- THIS VIDEO WILL HELP YOU TEACH CHILDREN HOW TO APOLOGIZE SO THEY CAN MEND RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE IMPORTANT TO THEM! ---- LINKS MENTIONED IN THE RECORDING https://theimpactfulparent.com/app Download the FREE Impactful Parent App! Available on Apple and Android App Stores. FREEBIES from episodes included! Apple Store: https://theimpactfulparent.com/ios Android Play Store: https://theimpactfulparent.com/android https://theimpactfulparent.com for more FREE Resources and paid programs. ------ Transcript for How To Mend A Relationship It's been a long day. I'm exhausted. All I want is to rest on the couch for five minutes before I deal with the kids. Instead, I walk into the house and am greeted with a crying child, another kid screaming, "Mom, she took my charger!" and a spouse who says, "Great! You're home. We need to get going to Joseph's game." I lost it. I completely lost my shit. All self-control went out the window, and before I knew it, I was yelling at everyone, even the baby. We all make mistakes, but saying sorry is actually a skill. We all have received an apology that we didn't accept because we knew the wrong-doer didn't mean it. Most of us have even given an apology we didn't mean. But what if we want to mend a hurt relationship and feelings? How do we do that? Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.  Today, I will teach you how to apologize. Not all apologies are created equal. If you are ready to mend a relationship or want to teach your child how to apologize, this episode is for you. I will explain the 8 crucial steps to a good apology and stick around to the end because this episode can improve your relationship with your children. Let's get started! How to apologize (before you say I'm sorry): Focus On The Impact Of Your Actions. Not The Intent. Ninety-nine percent of the time, you didn't mean to hurt anyone. You never intended to make someone feel sad, mad, or frustrated purposefully. That is why you will not focus on the intent of your actions. You didn't mean it! Instead, focus on the impact of your actions. If you yelled at your kids, you must consider how that made them feel. If you worked late and left your spouse at home with the kids alone too long, how did that affect your partner? It doesn't matter that you worked late so you can pay the bills. I am sure you had a good reason for whatever happened. Still, you need to stop justifying your actions and consider how your actions affect others. How to apologize (before you say I'm sorry): Own Up To Your Part. Not Theirs. Once you can admit that your actions hurt someone else, then you can own your part. This step gets a little messy when someone has hurt you, too, and the disconnect or argument happens with two or more people going back and forth. However, your focus is on what YOU did and what YOU said. Not them. You are likely hurt too. You probably reacted to them and have a lot of hurt feelings yourself, but the bottom line is: if you want to mend a relationship, someone has to step up and make the first move. I hope that your maturity to take the first step of owning your part in the situation prompts the other person to do the same, but we can't control them. You can only do your part. How to apologize Step 1: Admit To The Offense. Now we are getting into the actual words you need to use to speak your apology. Before we continue, let's clarify that just because you are admitting to hurting your loved one doesn't mean you did it purposefully. However, for your loved one to heal, they need you to say "what you could have done better" aloud. They need you to speak about how you wronged them. Say something like, "I am sorry that I _________." Examples: I am sorry that I yelled at you. I am sorry that I ignored you. I am sorry that I didn't take your opinion into consideration.   How to apologize Step 2: Spell Out Why You Want To Apologize. Tell your loved one why it is important to you to mend the relationship. Say something like, "I want to apologize for what I did because _________." Examples: I want to apologize for what I did because I see that I really hurt you, which doesn't feel good to me, either. I want to apologize for what I did because I love you and never intended to hurt you. I want to apologize for what I did because I feel terrible, and your friendship means a lot to me.   How to apologize Step 3: Admit That You Could Have Handled It Differently This is where you need to be the bigger person and admit you could have done better. You admitted to having made a mistake in handling the situation. It doesn't matter why you made a mistake. I am sure you were perfectly justified in how you reacted; however, this goes back to YOU needing to step up and take the first steps on the high road because someone needs to do it. You care about the relationship enough to do that. Say something like, "I wish I would have ____ instead, but I didn't, and I know I hurt you. It is important to add "and I know I hurt you" because your loved one needs to feel like you understand the consequences of your actions. Examples: I wish I had kept my cool and didn't yell; instead, I hurt you. I'm sorry. I wish I had paused momentarily and listened to you, but instead, I hurt you. I'm sorry. I wish I had walked away when we started arguing, but instead, I said hurtful things I didn't mean. That hurt you. I'm sorry.   How to apologize Step 4: Acknowledge the Other Person's Hurt and Let Them Talk About Their Feelings. Step 4 is crucial. Your loved one needs to vent. This is important because they must make you understand how badly you hurt them. Unfortunately, this becomes the hardest step of all, because you will need to sit there and listen, take in the information, and nod your head. You can't get defensive. In fact, you need to validate their feelings. Your loved one won't accept your apology completely unless they feel you understand their pain. Period. Your natural reaction will be to defend yourself and justify your actions, but you can't. This is their time to talk, and for this apology to work, you will need to listen and take note of the words they use to describe their pain. This is especially important with men who express their hurt feelings by saying things like, "You disrespected me, or you didn't listen to me." Then, acknowledge your loved one's pain using the same words they used to describe it. For example: I understand that I disrespected you. I didn't mean to. I am sorry. I know that I ignored you, and you didn't feel heard. I am sorry. I understand that hurt your feelings. I am sorry.   How to apologize Step 5: Express Regret. Expressing regret is best done in your tone of voice. How you say, I am sorry, and all the things noted in steps 1-4 need to be told in a tone of voice that expresses sadness. If you don't express regret for your actions using the right tone, then everything you said before won't do any good. Your loved one needs to feel like you regret your actions; this is where your heartfelt apology is revealed.   When apologies WON'T be accepted no matter what you do. Unfortunately, there are times when an apology won't be accepted. This isn't about you at all, and it is all about the person receiving the apology. There are 2 notable times to be aware of when your apology will often fall upon deaf ears. They have to be willing to forgive you because they value the relationship. If they do not value the relationship, many people will reject the apology and use it as an excuse to move on. A person may not accept an apology if their identity is created by the hurt they have inside. Learning to apologize so you can mend relationships with your loved ones is important for your family. Once you can learn how to apologize effectively, then you can role model these behaviors and teach them to your children. If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one to help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents who want to be the best parent they can for their child. All of this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. 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Team Trust is the most important step in building a highly effective team. Below, we cover 7 expert ways to build trust in your team. This is part three of a six-part series on the Five Characteristics of High-Performing Teams. In each of the sessions, we will cover one of the component steps to creating a team culture.In the first part, we gave an overview of each of the five steps to creating a highly effective team. Then, last week, we covered the value of creating a great vision and mission for your company. Here is a review of this employee engagement process.Five-Step Process to Build a Culture of Teamwork in Your Organization and Improve Team Success.The five-step leadership development process is as follows.Highly Effective Teams are Mission-Oriented.Build Trust and Rapport with the People that You Want to Lead.Resolve Conflicts and Create an Environment Where Disagreements Do Not Cause Personal Conflicts.Gain Enthusiastic Cooperation from Your Team (Even When You Are Not Looking).Build Confident Leadership Teams Around You.Each of these steps is progressive. For instance, if we have a lack of trust within a group of individuals, we will likely have more conflicts. If we are in conflict with our team members, it will be difficult to gain cooperation. The point is that the better we do in the early stages, the easier it is to have success in the latter stages. In this session, we will focus on Step #2: The Seven Best Ways to Build Team Trust.How to Build a Culture of Trust in Your Team. 7 Expert Ways to Build Team Trust.Think about the relationships that you have with others as being a checking account. Each person that you interact with has an entirely different account. When we have positive interactions with a person, we make deposits into that account and improve our level of trust with that person.However, when something negative occurs or there is a conflict, a withdrawal is made. So, if you want to build trust in a team, you as the leader have to make a tremendous number of deposits into the accounts of each team member. However, if you make withdrawals, you and your team are likely to have trust issues.Below are seven key ways to build mutual trust within a team. We suggest that you spend a week focusing on a single principle every day. Don't go to bed each day before you apply the principle for that day. By the end of the week, you should already begin to see significant changes in the rapport that you have with others.By using these principles consistently, you will create open communication and improve workplace trust.Avoid Criticizing Your Team.Look at Things from the Other Person's Point of View.Smile More. (It Makes You More Approachable and Friendly.)Make an Effort to Remember Names.Avoid Placing the Burdens of Your Problems onto Your Team's Shoulders.Take Responsibility for Clear Communication.Practice Good Listening Skills.Show Notes: Highly Effective Teams Have a High Trust Level

Children go through a lot. They may undergo sexual or physical abuse and never say anything because we are all taught that vulnerability is a weakness from a young age. When they are not talked about, these occurrences can become traumatic and lead to all sorts of social ills, such as drug addiction, suicidal thoughts, and crime. Does this sound like you or someone you know?  Fausto Castellanos joins us in today's episode, having gone through such traumatic moments from childhood that led him to drug addiction. Fortunately, he gave his life a turnaround and pivoted to a new person, the hope ambassador. You will never change the past to a new self unless you change your mindset. It all begins with what and how you think about yourself. Fausto is a life-long recovery survivor of addiction and trauma who has continuously battled suicidal tendencies. Up until recently, he found purpose in his suffering. By using his pain as a superpower to enjoy life, Sober Fausto now helps others to find purpose in their pain. Working as a motivational speaker, leadership/group facilitating coach, and known as "THE JUMP ROPE KING," he now works to spread hope and champion sobriety. FAUSTO uses his story of being a survivor of addiction and trauma to help others. He loves using a motivational mindset to bring joy to his audience by sharing his experience of overcoming the impossible.  Notable Quotes  “Lack of forgiveness will hurt the people you love.” “Holding Onto Anger Is Like Drinking Poison and Expecting the Other Person to Die. -Buddha Quote.” “What you don't forgive, you become.'”  “Bible is the only book that will read you as you read it.” “One who has a why will bear anyhow.” “A new life begins when you seek help in times you feel so desperate and helpless even to live.” “Real emotional healing comes when you release and let go of what is holding you.” Tune in! Key Highlights from the Show [00:01] Episode intro  [02:15] Meet and greet Fausto Castellanos and hear his backstory [09:27] Fausto's approach to forgiving himself and his childhood sexual abusers  [14:34] How he came to figure out his core values and principles of life [17:37] A bit about the powerful scripture that became Fausto's pivotal moment  [20:42] The day when Fausto was tired, and enough was enough [23:24] The four reasons why people change [24:37] The level of change where most happened, and the biggest lessons learned [30:17] What Fausto would tell his future self  [31:51] If his childhood was a smell, what would it smell like? [34:10] Without any title and achievements, who is Fausto, and why is he on earth? [36:06] Words of inspiration and golden key nuggets from the guest [39:51] Best ways to reach out and connect with Fausto [41:46] Ending the show  Connect with Fausto Castellanos Website: https://www.soberfausto.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fausto-castellanos-84342a238/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hopedealerfausto/ Facebook: https://facebook.com/soberfaustoo YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/soberfausto --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/donttouchmymindset/support

The way you see love is different from the next person. You have your own love language and definition of love. Your expectations from your relationships are based on this definition. In this episode, we discuss understanding your needs and refer to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. We share what love means to us and our own experiences in learning about it. You can see how different our needs are and how that shapes love's meaning to us. You can look into yourself and past relationships to narrow down your needs and how they can be met. Through looking in and looking back, you will hopefully be able to define what love means to you and what it means for you to be in a relationship.Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: https://bit.ly/3Ylj3qhHere's the list of episodes related to today's discussion, and we highly recommend listening to them as well:#118 | What Does It Mean To Love Yourself - https://apple.co/3Y91nhy #156 | Forgiveness is For You, Not the Other Person - http://bit.ly/3DCgsjB_________________Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community:Website: www.evolveventurestech.com@EvolveVentures on Instagram@EvolveVenturesTech on Facebook (Public Page)Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group)@EvolvewithEmilia on Instagram / @Evolvewith Emilia on TikTok@EvolvewithBianca on InstagramConnect with Emilia & Bianca from Evolve Ventures for FREEShow notes:[1:52] What is in February?[4:43] Update on the client who thought he was in love with his friend who was getting married[8:02] Relationship needs and how they are met[12:41] Accept your needs and how they can be met[15:54] You can't attract the love that you want unless you know how it looks to you[17:04] The 5 tiers of Maslow's pyramid of needs[20:07] Have a keen understanding of where your needs are at[23:34] What does it mean to be in a relationship with someone?[25:25] Episode suggestions[28:10] Outro***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt as though value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.(Stay tuned for next Thursday's Episode!)

In this episode, I'm going to cover a few to improve your listening skills and, specifically, a few ways to help improve the listening and communication among your team members. If you stick around until the end, I will give you a fun way to get your team laughing and thinking more seriously about how they communicate and how they listen.How to Improve Listening Skills in the WorkplaceIf you are like most people, you probably believe you are a great listener. The problem is that everyone else that you have to deal with needs to improve their listening skills, right? The truth is that this often-used term has two parts — “Listening” and “Skills.” We often overlook the second part. Skills are those strengths that we develop through consistent focus over time.When I was a kid, our little town had a community center with a basketball gym. I wasn't a member, by my best friend was. He went there three to four times a week to play ball with other kids. One weekend, I spent the night at his house, and he invited me to go to the gym with him. I spent 10 minutes or so practicing a few shots. Some other kids arrived, and we divided into teams. Within the first couple of trips up and down the court, I realized that I had the least skill on the court. (Just as an FYI, I never did develop this skill.)My point is that the other kids were much better than me at basketball because they practiced. I didn't.People who are effective listeners are effective listeners because they practice. You can be a good listener as well with just a little practice, yourself. In fact, listening is one of the most important skills in leadership development. If you want to be a great leader, the first step is to develop good communication skills. And the easiest way to do that is to develop active listening skills.Improve Listening Skills at Work — The Four Levels of ListeningIn order to become a better listener, step one is to determine what good listening skills are. In our leadership classes, we introduce four levels of listening. The levels are listed below from the worst listening skills to the best.Level One: Ignore the Other Person Completely. This level isn't really listening, but we tend to do it a lot.Level Two: Just Pretend to Listen to the Other Person. We do this when we are trying to be courteous, but we really aren't interested.Level Three: Selectively Listen to Your Coworkers. This is the level at which we spend the most time at work. Oddly enough, we tend to do this to save time.Level Four: Attentively Listen to Your Team. This is the highest level of listening. The more we focus on this level, the better listeners we will be.Critical listening around the office isn't difficult. You can encourage your team to take small steps and teach them the art of listening. That is if you have taken the time to practice good listening skills yourself.One of the best ways to set a good example is to practice empathetic listening in one-on-one conversations with your team. Use the practical tips above. Successful leaders pay careful attention to details and make great listening a daily routine. You can too!

Standing Strong In & Speaking Our Needs in 7 Steps (Needs, Pt. 2) with Damodar CorduaEmpowered Connection Podcast Episode 22 with Damodar Cordua In this solo podcast episode, podcast host Damodar Cordua dives back into the subject of needs in relationship and offers an actionable 7 steps within which to stand strong in + speak our needsCultivating our needs in relationship - a recapIf we don't develop a culture within our relationships wherein we can speak our most important needs they go “underground” and come out it ways that compromise ourselves and our relationship It can be difficult to speak our needs because we fear we may lose the relationship, we may fear the other person's reactions… we also may have no idea that we have needs, even though they are being lived out unconsciously by our actions, our attitudes, and our mindset Take the time and list out what are the costs of not speaking my needs? 7 Step Process of Standing Strong in & Speaking our Needs1. Get Clear On Your Needs2. Own Your Own Needs With Your Own Self & Another Person3. When Ready to Speak Your Need Lead with Vulnerability + Accountability 4. Speak in 2-5 Sentences Maximum 5. Regulate + Receive How the Other Person is Impacted by the Need6. Restate The Need, Educate the Other Person More, and “Sell”7. Keep Noticing + Tuning In To the Part of Yourself that is Resisting or Wants to SettleResources:- Dive deeper into your ability to connect to your needs, understand them and speak them.  Up-level your relationship potential and empower every part of your life with a coaching journey Connect Here for your first free session with Damodar- Empower all aspects of your yoga practice and your life!  Bring ancient wisdom + healing into the weave + weft of your daily existence and dive deeper into the body, the mind, and spirit. Transform your potential and become a powerful yoga teacher with our one-of-a-kind Empower + Evolve 200 hr Yoga Teacher Training starting this September in Philadelphia PA

A cautionary tale: An Ethical hacker jailed for reporting a serious vulnerability. It is very unfortunate how being ethical can still result in jail time. This is one of those stories. Be very cautious and careful with your skills. Darknet Dairies: https://darknetdiaries.com/episode/25/ // MENU // 00:00 - Hacking is Not a Crime 00:43 - Introduction//Alberto Hill 01:04 - 12 Years Old & Hacking Games 03:18 - University & Computer Forensics 05:05 - Bug Bounty Before Bug Bounties Were a Thing 06:31 - Uruguay//No Bug Bounty 07:50 - 2014//Where It All Began 12:22 - 2015//No Systems Hardening 15:07 - Was It Ethical? 18:41 - 2017//Raided & Arrested 21:07 - Bitcoin Ransom 22:41 - Why Did They Arrest Alberto? 25:12 - Did They Prosecute the Other Person? 26:40 - Confiscated//Hacking Equipment 27:44 - Why So Many Credit Cards? 29:58 - How Much Crypto Did Alberto Lose? 31:00 - Why Did They Release Alberto? 34:34 - Are the Charges Ongoing? 35:08 - The Real Cost 37:19 - Universities Don't Teach You How to Handle This 41:47 - Follow Your Dreams//Why Alberto Shares His Story 44:13 - Hacking is Part of Alberto 46:16 - Community Work As an Alternative 48:03 - Thank You & Final Thoughts Card video mentioned: https://youtu.be/eyd24FlJCFg // Alberto BOOKS // Login to Hell: https://amzn.to/3Qm4y2d Operatin Bitcoins: https://amzn.to/39EwBcq // Alberto SOCIAL // Twitter: https://twitter.com/adanielhill LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nofear75/ Linktree: https://linktr.ee/adanielhill Hacking is not a crime: https://twitter.com/hacknotcrime // David's SOCIAL // Discord: https://discord.com/invite/usKSyzb Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/davidbombal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidbombal LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidbombal Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidbombal.co TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@davidbombal YouTube Main Channel: https://www.youtube.com/davidbombal YouTube Tech Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCZTIRrEN... YouTube Clips Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbY5... YouTube Shorts Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEyC... Apple Podcast: https://davidbombal.wiki/applepodcast Spotify Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3f6k6gE... // MY STUFF // https://www.amazon.com/shop/davidbombal // BUY HAK5 Goodness // Hak5: https://davidbombal.wiki/gethak5 // SPONSORS // Interested in sponsoring my videos? Reach out to my team here: sponsors@davidbombal.com hack hacks hacker darknet diaries cyber infosec hacker movie hacker vs scammer hacker video bug bounty hacking hak5 hak5 rubber ducky hak5 wifi pineapple cyber crime bitcoin cryptocurrency crypto ethereum pentest pentesting darknet ethical hacker how to hack ethical hacking ethical hacking course cyber security ethical hacking career kali linux white hat hacker ethical hacker course ethical hacking for beginners hacker stories hacker story alberto hill uruguay uruguay Disclaimer: This video is for educational purposes only. Please note that links listed may be affiliate links and provide me with a small percentage/kickback should you use them to purchase any of the items listed or recommended. Thank you for supporting me and this channel! #hack #hak5 #kalilinux

One of the primary desires of human beings is to be understood and esteemed by others.  We want people to see things from our point of view.  Sometimes we want this so badly, that we disagree with and argue with points of view that are also valid.If we want people to like and respect us, do the opposite of what comes naturally. See things from other's point of view.  When we understand others, we are much more likely to be understood by them.Week #1: Build Trust and Rapport QuicklyPrinciple #2: Look at Things from the Other Person's Point of View

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Fake Apologies vs. True Apologies: What's the Difference? Some deep things we cover:Fake Apologies: Conditional apologies, blanket apologies, silencing apologies…we've heard them all and done them all.True Apologies (according to Dr. Harriet Lerner): Do not include the word "but". Keep the focus on your actions and not on the other person's responseDon't overdo. Don't get caught up in who's more to blame or who is right or wrong. Do not serve to silence someone. Apologies are the Beginning of Conversations…not the End.Apologizing to Your Children Builds Connection.Take-aways:Separate an Apology from Raising an Issue: If you're going to raise an issue, then raise an issue.  That's okay.  If you are going to apologize, then apologize and mean it.  Separate the two.  These are two different conversations.Apologize When You Feel Remorse and Make it Specific: This is where “fake it ‘till  you make it” is not a great plan.  If you don't feel remorse then you have some work to do before you apologize.  Apologies are a Gift to the Other Person and to Yourself:  When you give a gift, you need to do some work to prepare it.  Don't just throw it in a used grocery bag and toss it to the other person.  Take the time to do the emotional work necessary to really prepare the gift for yourself and for the other party.  Your relationship will be better for it.We want to have a conversation with you!There are many ways to connect with us.  Here are some of them:1. Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook2. LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook: @sodeeppeeps  OR Instagram @thatssodeeppod3. Text us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-08844. Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.com If you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Harriet Lerner and Brené - I'm Sorry: How To Apologize & Why It Matters, Part 1 of 2 - Unlocking Us with Brené Brown13 Fake Apologies Used By Narcissists | Psychology TodayWhy Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts: Lerner PhD, HarrietOut of Control: Why Disciplining Your Child Doesn't Work and What Will: Tsabary, Dr. Shefali

The Two Friends duo joins us at our HQ. We drink beers and ask them questions sent in by you guys. Their drink of choice.... Natty Light. 00:00 - Intro  04:37 - What Is the Lamest and Most True Cliché About Living in LA? 05:30 - What Was Your First Memory of Meeting Each Other?  07:17 - Who Beat Off First Successfully?  09:29 - Who Was the First to Try Alcohol?  10:28 - Who Has More Dirt on the Other Person?  11:08 - What Is the Most Embarrassing Middle School Story? 13:26 - What Was the First Song You Made Together?  25:42 - Worst Set You've Ever Played?  31:18 - Best Set?  34:52 - What Originally Sparked the Idea of Big Bootie Mixes?  39:19 - Who's Your Favorite DJ?  40:24 - How Do We Know Each Other?  43:10 - What Friday Beers Characters Do You Identify As?  44:23 - Banana Boat?  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Learn to take in someone's surroundings and use that information to connect with them. Connecting with people and becoming a part of their group will help you make more sales, gain more friends, and become more confident in yourself! Mark Bowden is the best-selling author of, Winning Body Language, Winning Body Language for Sales Professionals, and Tame the Primitive Brain: 28 Ways in 28 Days to Manage the Most Impulsive Behaviors At Work. Mark talks about how you can not only use the person's body language, and non-verbal cues, but also their surroundings to understand the values that they hold and reiterate those values back to them. Mark was diagnosed with dyslexia as a child and became obsessed with the physical world around him, how people reacted to what he said and did, and how to use that information effectively. Stay Tuned and Learn the Art of Communication! OWN YOUR POWER HARD-COPY AND SOFT-COPY IS OUT NOW! Immerse yourself with 8 key life changing principles, worksheets to create your own map, and how to reach another level of your game!  It's all Real Life Stories! It's You vs You! “It's a Reflection of everything I've been through to give guidance and key steps to people in order to live a life with zero excuses” Warning: This Book is not suitable for pessimists, excuse makers and haters! SPONSORS: Find out how GRIN can help you grow your brand. Watch the demo at GRIN.co To start your free digital marketing trial today, visit constantcontact.com When you purchase a 3-month Babbel subscription, you'll get an additional 3 months for FREE. Go to babbel.com use promo code TRUEUNDERDOG. Visit onepeloton.com to learn more Athletic Greens is going to give you a FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase. Visit athleticgreens.com/TRUEUNDERDOG POWERHOME SOLAR is the leading solar energy company installing solar panels and solar power for homes.  Looking for a job in the Energy Industry Serving Communities? Join the solar movement! www.Powerhome.com/careers Social‌ ‌Media:‌  Check out Jayson's website: https://www.jaysonwaller.com/ ‌ Follow True Underdog and Jayson Waller on your favorite social media channels and digital podcast platforms: https://linktr.ee/trueunderdog True Underdog is a Top 3 Entrepreneurship podcast on Apple hosted by Jayson Waller, CEO of POWERHOME Solar, one of the fastest growing private companies in the USA, and his high-profile guests share motivational tips, inspiring stories and business-building lessons to help each listener grow in their entrepreneurial journey. Reach‌ ‌out‌ ‌to‌ ‌Jayson‌ ‌directly‌ ‌at:‌ ‌ Jayson@trueunderdog.com‌ ‌ Mark Bowden's Handles:  Website: https://truthplane.com/home/people/mark-bowden/# LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/markbowden1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/truthplane/?hl=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/truthplane?lang=en YouTube: hwww.youtube.com/user/MarkBowden1 Facebook: www.facebook.com/markbowdenbodylanguage Latest Book, Truth and Lies: What People Are Really Thinking: https://www.amazon.com/Truth-Lies-People-Really-Thinking/dp/1443452092   TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - PRELUDE 00:29 - Introduction 01:52 - How Did Mark Become a Body Language Genius? 07:19 - Paying Attention to Someone's Environment 09:43 - Understanding Another Person's Values 12:47 - Lowering the Other Person's Guard 15:16 - Becoming a Part of Someone's “Group” 18:43 - Mark's Nike Super Bowl Ad 21:48 - Mark's Advice for Being Optimistic for the New Year 24:19 - How to Reach Mark Don't forget to subscribe to the True Underdog Podcast with over 2 million downloads!! LOVE YOUR HATERS! BAM! 

Want to win a “hang out” with Lisa and Evy? Deadline to enter is January 2nd 11:59pm Pacific. To enter:1. Watch this episode of Unstoppable 2. Subscribe to Women of Impact YT 3. Like this video4. Comment I AM UNSTOPPABLE in the comments section below with any of your favorite takeaways from this episodeWinners will be randomly selected and notified on their comments by January 3rd 12pm Pacific and must email the provided email address to claim their prize by January 7th 5pm PacificResilience is one of the most important things you can do for your mental health and well-being. Being resilient is how single mothers go on to raise increible children. Being resilient is how generations that lived through war survive to tell the story and continue their traditions. The problem is that you may not feel resilient, and you may not have taken inventory lately to uncover how much adversity you've overcome. Adversity is the catalyst for change and the training agent we all need to bounce back from struggles with a stronger mind. In part 4 of this series, Evy and Lisa are breaking down all the ways adversity and resilience make you the powerful badass woman that you are. This is how you can break the patterns that have been holding you back, become more resilient and reclaim power over your life. It's time to answer the call and become more responsible to yourself. Tips To Become Mentally Resilient1. Be the Leader in Your Own Life2. Taking Ownership Makes You More Powerful3. Don't Weaponize the Other Person's Insecurities Evy's Nightly Journal Challenge:1. Write 3 things you are grateful for2. Write 3 things you want to do tomorrow3. Write 3 things you could have done better today Resilient Terms:● Adversity: Difficult or misfortune● Progressive Overload: Gradual increase weight, frequency, or reps to get stronger● Hypertrophy: Increase and growth of muscle cells achieved through lifting weights● Acceptance: Taking stance of non-judgemental awareness● Ego: A person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance● Disruptor: A person or thing that interrupts an event, activity or process SHOW NOTES: Adversity | How adversity creates mental resilience and is better to embrace [0:44]Shaped by Adversity | Evy and Lisa share ways they've pushed through adversity [6:55]The Reframe | Remove the negative, find ways to make it work, & give yourself grace [17:01]Take Ownership | Taking ownership makes you feel stronger & requires you to adapt [19:37]Solution Mindset | Evy on being adaptable by shifting from problem narrative to solution [23:03]Own It | How Lisa kicked herself into high gear and took ownership over her health [40:45]Disruptors | 3 ways to interrupt feeling emotional: distance, time, and environment [41:42]Lisa vs. Evy | It's a battle of disruptors, whose disruptors take the win? What are yours? [57:26] QUOTES: “When you face adversity over a consistent period of time you know how to manage it, how to withstand it, it makes you stronger, it makes you more resilient” Evy Poumpouras [1:20] “I take ownership of how I act and how I show up in the world.” Lisa Bilyeu [20:40] “You are the recipient of whatever life is doing to you. You are affected, you are not affecting the world. The world is only affecting you.” Evy Poumpouras [22:07] “If it was my fault then it means that I have the power to do something about it. If it's someone else's fault, then I'm waiting for someone else to fix me.” Lisa Bilyeu [29:19] “It's not okay to be vicious and mean to people, and it takes a lot of work to control that. It's easy to lash out and rip somebody and shred them. It is not easy to control it.” Evy Poumpouras [52:27] “If you engage with every fool you deal with you become as predictable as that fool. Stop responding to everything.” Evy Poumpouras [56:04] Follow Evy Poumpouras: Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpourasLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/

Having difficult conversations is never easy. You have to prepare yourself for unresolved issues and agreeing to disagree. The reason Alyssa and Jocelyn talk about this topic is because of a new book Alyssa is reading, Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most by Douglass Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen. They discuss having those difficult conversations in the workplace and in their personal lives between friends, family, and spouses. Link for Book Recommendation Amazon Kindle - Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most by Douglass Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila HeenAlyssa's Topic Points:Keep Goals Realistic Reduce the AssumptionLook at the Underlying Feelings and Emotions on Your Side and Your PartnersDon't Cut People of When They Are SpeakingDon't Be Afraid of Silence. Everyone Processes Things DifferentlyDeduct the Actual Conflict. Your Not Mad About the Project Details You're Wondering if it's Worth Worrying About For the Resolution It's Not in Your Actions it's in Your ThinkingIf You Only Strive for Improvement in Actions and Not What to do With the Behaviors You Will Continue to FailWorking on Reducing Fear, Anxiety, Whatever the Emotion is and then Managing the Remaining Problems is Usually a More Attainable ApproachJocelyn's Topic Points:Listen Up - Be Fully Present for the Other Person in the ConversationBe Clear About How You Feel and What You Want Out of That ConversationLook at the Issue From Their Perspective - Step Into Their ShoesTake a Break/ Table the Conversations - If Nothing is Getting Resolved or You're Feeling Numb Finish the Conversation There Until Another Time Agree to DisagreeLook After YourselfLook. After. Yourself.Instagram: tablestalks.podcastInstagram: jocelynstacia.coInstagram: alyssalynne12

In today's podcast, we are going to hear Mike Campion, head of the Grow My Cleaning Company, discussing with his wife Nathalie Campion about the role of a great support system in the cleaning business. Why Partners Show Unsupportive Behavior Tips to Gain Partner's Support to Grow in Your Business Value the Other Person's Opinion Explain and Help Understand the Problem Communication is Key The Final Take Away If you loved this video and want more FREE information on how to run your cleaning business, head to www.growmycleaningcompany.com for the FREE webinar or www.growmycleaningcompany.com/talk to speak with one of our coaches, Don't forget to rate and subscribe to get notifications for our upcoming podcasts!  

Understanding the Other Person. It is easier to manage people when you understand their point of view. It should be something we strive for. Especially with the Covid-19 Protocols.

Chris is an accomplished entrepreneur, speaker, coach, and leader of leaders helping businesses and individuals realize and maximize their personal and professional potential. He pours his great passion for people, along with decades of experience and perspective, into his daily work with business leaders, entrepreneurs, and individuals. It's this passion and insight that has led businesses to explode their revenue and helped them to realize their potential and live a strong life. Today, Chris owns and leads the Poimen Group, LLC – a life, business, and leadership coaching business predicated on serving individuals and businesses in the US and around the world. Chris and his team employ coaching vehicles, which include strategic business planning, one-on-one leadership coaching, mastermind groups, life coaching, live events, and more. NEXT STEPS MENTIONED IN THIS PODCAST: 1. Instagram – chrislocurto - and other social media sites. 2. The Chris LoCurto Show. TOPICS DISCUSSED IN THIS PODCAST: [0:35] – Communication. [4:13] – Expectations. [8:29] – Personality Style Needs. [13:33] – Make It About the Other Person. [17:29] – Every Time You Shoot a Hole (Problem) - You Have to Have an Idea to Fill It. [20:16] – No Bad Style. [20:48] – Operate from Our Own Point of View. [23:26] – Maturity Style has Nothing to Do with You. [31:36] – Impulsivity Comes Out of a Need to Feel Worthy. [32:32] – Focus on Quality Perspective – Not About “Me.” [33:19] – Care More About People than Things. [35:51] – Before I Can Make a Great Wine, I Have to Make a Great Grape.

Today on the show Jayson is talking with Mark Bowden, co-founder of Truthplane, his communication training company, offering a methodology for anyone who has to communicate with impact to an audience. He also is the best-selling author of, Winning Body Language, Winning Body Language for Sales Professionals, and Tame the Primitive Brain: 28 Ways in 28 Days to Manage the Most Impulsive Behaviors At Work.Mark talks about how you can not only use the person’s body language, and non-verbal cues, but also their surroundings to understand the values that they hold and reiterate those values back to them. Mark was diagnosed with dyslexia as a child and became obsessed with the physical world around him, how people reacted to what he said and did, and how to use that information effectively. Links:  Follow True Underdog on IG: www.instagram.com/true_underdogReach out to Jayson directly at jayson@trueunderdog.comFollow Jayson on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayson-waller-/Follow Jayson on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jaysonwallerbamCheck out our website to meet the team, view show notes and transcripts: www.trueunderdog.com Mentioned in the Episode: Mark’s Website: https://truthplane.com/home/people/mark-bowden/#Mark’s Latest Book, Truth and Lies: What People Are Really Thinking: https://www.amazon.com/Truth-Lies-People-Really-Thinking/dp/1443452092 Timestamps: 1:52 - How Did Mark Become a Body Language Genius?7:19 - Paying Attention to Someone’s Environment9:43 - Understanding Another Person’s Values12:47 - Lowering the Other Person’s Guard15:16 - Becoming a Part of Someone’s “Group”18:43 - Mark’s Nike Super Bowl Ad21:48 - Mark’s Advice for Being Optimistic for the New Year24:19 - How to Reach Mark

The Art of Listening and HOW TO BE BETTER at it Improve Your Listening Skills: Listening is an art we should all take the effort to improve because we spend so much time doing it. It's the key to building high quality relationships with others, both professionally and personally. And the good news is that we have lots of opportunities to do this every single day in every single conversation we have. Practice. 0:00 Intro 2:05 What Happens as Time Passes 4:00 Listening and Intelligence 5:15 TWO Must Do Things 7:15 Daydreaming and Failing to Listen 8:06 Judging What the Other Person is Saying 9:07 Predicting What the Other Person is Saying 10:17 Notice How Often You're Thinking About What to Say Next 10:59 Reflect Back to the Person 11:35 Get Comfortable with Pauses 12:23 Conclusion #listening #activelistening #artoflistening FIND OUT which HUMAN NEED is driving all of your behavior http://6-human-needs.sfwalker.com/ Human Needs Psychology + Emotional Intelligence + Universal Laws of Nature = MASTER OF LIFE AWARENESS https://www.sfwalker.com/master-life-awareness --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/sfwalker/message

In most marriages, the family home is the single largest asset that they have. More likely than not, it is going to be a major point of contention in reaching a final distribution of marital assets. The issue only becomes more complicated when the parties had children during the marriage as the children will also be affected by this decision. Read the full article here: https://www.oflaherty-law.com/learn-about-law/who-gets-the-house-in-a-divorce O'Flaherty Law now serves over 105 counties across Illinois, Iowa, and Indiana. If you have any questions regarding a case or would like to speak to one of our attorneys after watching a #LearnAboutLaw video, give us a call at (630) 324-6666 or send us an email at info@oflaherty-law.com to get in contact with someone from our team. Subscribe to our channel for daily videos dedicated to all things law and leave a comment with any questions about this topic. Find us online for more legal content and to stay connected with our team - Website: https://www.oflaherty-law.com/ - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/oflahertylaw - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oflahertylaw - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/oflahertylawGroup/ In this article we will be discussing Who Gets the House in A Divorce, and we answer the questions of: Is the House a Marital Asset?, Can Either Party Keep the House?, What Is an Equity Interest?, How is Equity Determined?, Can I Buyout the Other Person's Interest?, If I Have the Majority of Parenting Time Will the Judge Give Me the Home?, What If I Cannot Afford to Make the Mortgage Payments on My Own?, What If I Cannot Get Approved for a Refinance After the Divorce, How Do I Show My Spouse No Longer Has an Interest In the Home?, and What if My Spouse Is Refusing to Sign the Quitclaim Deed After I Was Awarded the House?‍ **None of the content in this series is intended as paid legal advice.

There is a major problem in the world today: it's not people disagreeing with one another… it's that they cannot disagree agreeably, civilly, and most importantly, persuasively! Here, at the end of a turned upside-down year, the gift we need most is a solution. That's where The Go-Giver Influencer comes in. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wtLxPvRHxZ4 In this interview, we're talking with Bob Burg, co-author of The Go-Giver Influencer.  So if you want a way to find common ground where there appears to be only irreconcilable conflict, and get the secret to achieving your goals, this is the answer you're looking for… tune in below! Table of contentsWho “The Go-Giver: Influencer” is ForWhat is Influence?Healing Political RiftsThe 5 Secrets of Genuine Influence1. Master Your Emotions2. Step Into the Other Person's Shoes3. Set the Proper Frame4. Communicate with Tact and Empathy5. Let Go of Having to Be RightAbout Bob Burg Who “The Go-Giver: Influencer” is For Bob Burg, along with his co-writer John Mann, has now written four books about the “Go-Giver” parable. The first story is about the seemingly counterintuitive steps to success that can make a vast difference in your life. The Go-Giver Influencer is the second book which tells yet another parable of success, and important lessons about relationships. [5:09] “John and I… really wanted to take [the concept of] influence to a deeper level because of its importance. Now, in both of the other parables… influence was certainly a part of it. It was even law number three—the law of influence in The Go-Giver. So we have to really look at, ‘What is influence, and why is it important?'” The answer is people skills. Talent can only take you so far in business and in life. And of course, hard work keeps your talent honed. Yet without people skills, you'll have a hard time making actual progress toward your goals. Everything we do in life is filtered through the relationships we have with other people. That is where The Go-Giver Influencer comes into play. What is Influence? [8:18] “I think that's the essence of influence, it's pull. Pull as opposed to push, right? As in, how far can you push a rope? And the answer is not very fast or effectively. Influencers don't push… their will on others. They don't try to push their ideas on others.” You can't push your way to what you want—it won't end well for anyone, nor is it sustainable. Influence is the art of pulling, or better yet attracting, people. In fact, the best influencers do this genuinely, because they understand that there's power behind being inviting. [10:20] “[Genuine influencers] will ask themselves questions. How does what I'm asking this person to do… align with their goals? With their needs, with their wants, their desires?... How am I helping them overcome a challenge...Now, when we ask ourselves these questions thoughtfully, intelligently, genuinely, authentically—again, not as a way to manipulate another human being to our will, but as a way of building [inaudible]---[we earn] that person's commitment, as opposed to trying to depend on some type of compliance.” Healing Political Rifts 2020 has been a tough, sometimes contentious year, and the rift between political affiliations has only grown. We've been most concerned by the conversations across political divides, which have put a strain on relationships of all types. And we're even seeing a shift in the conversation. Between parties, we used to see, “I'm right, you're wrong” discussions. Though not the healthiest outlook, there was still discussion. Now, the conversation is, “I'm right, you're evil.” [18:44] “This is a totally different frame, and one which makes it nearly impossible to engage. Because you're not going to engage with evil. Evil is incorrigible. There's nothing you can do with evil. So because of that, what people have done on both sides is hunker down, listening only to the information that supports...

Having a global perspective enables you to learn from others, and can open up your business to new opportunities. It can also help you grow in new ways. Further training to ensure that business leaders can effectively make decisions within a leadership role is top of mind for managementGoing back to our earlier episodes this season on mindsets and where our beliefs come from, we often take on a belief that has been ingrained in us from our earliest years. In my case, the idea of having an "opinion" was constricted by parents due to the old adage of "parent knows best or your opinion doesn't matter."Here is where the conflict of mindset came in and WHY working with the word "perspective allowed me to move into a whole new level of leadershipSo why was there a conflict in my "subconscious" about opinion/perspective and how did this play out by truly looking at meanings and then owning PERSPECTIVE as a weighted tool for leadership?per·spec·tivea particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.o·pin·iona view or judgment formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge.Notice the difference in the meanings (although sometimes- people use perspective and opinion interchangeably) but what leapt out at me was the "point of view" and the "judgement" contrast. Taking judgement out of the equation SHIFTED my belief system.Understanding the Other Person's Perspective Will Radically Increase Your Success AND Increase Your Ability to Communicate Your Own PerspectiveThe key to successful relationships lies solely in our ability to understand the perspective of another and to communicate our own. Here are 6 ways to improve your perspective in business.1. ASK QUESTIONS. ASK WHY. BE OPEN2. HIRE FROM OUTSIDE3. CO LOCATE. GET TO KNOW PEOPLE4. INCREASE AUTONOMY5. BE CLEAR IN YOUR COMMUNICATION. GET CLARIFICATION6 RESPECT DIFFERENCES.  

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Japan is entering a scary world of work.  The tried and true assimilation methods of the past, for injecting youth talent into firms, are starting to falter.  Every generation feels a gap with its successor, but the size of the impending chasm in Japan is generating fresh challenges.  Millennials, defined as those becoming adults around 2000.  At different times, it has been poor pickings for Varsity graduates in Japan to find a full time job.  This year, Covid-19 has put the brakes on hiring graduates.  But the demographics are clear. There are now half the number of 14-24 years olds in Japan, than there were 20 years ago. You don't have to be a genius to see what is coming around the corner – the war for recruiting and keeping youth is going to hot up. A smaller pool of available hires and a new found freedom to jump out, without any social stigma, is empowering this Millennial generation in new ways. The issue is going to be how to attract these Millennials to your company and how to keep them happy enough to stay with you?  There are thirty human relations principles outlined in the book, “How To Win Friends and Influence People” and they seem tailor made for dealing with Millennials.  Sage advice like “Don't Criticise, Condemn or Complain” will perfectly address delicate youth sensitivities.  Remember we don't leave companies, we leave bosses.  Principles such as “Talk in Terms of the Other Person's Interests”;  “Be a Good Listener - Encourage Others to Talk About Themselves”; “By Sympathetic With The Other Person's Ideas and Desires” will be a challenge for supervisors who like to do all the talking and directing.  Companies are well advised to re-train their leaders to deal with this hotly contested youth worker supply problem.  Otherwise, they may find they cannot engage or keep this next generation, so vital to fulfilling their firm's succession planning.  Organisations will also be more attractive in recruiting and keeping Millennials, if they have more relevant training on offer for them.  They lack experience, so they want practical information, not lecture or theory.  They want concrete skills to make them more successful and they want them now.  Prepare your organisation for this brave new world of Japanese Millennials or brace yourself for the unfolding nightmare.  Action Items Recognise the demographic trend is not in your favour Educate your leaders to become better communicators Embed Dale Carnegie's Thirty Principles of human relations into your company culture Provide practical skill training for the Millennials

Welcome to Listen to Your Heart As Long as The Other Person is Thin And Hot! Love blooms among karaoke runner ups in this new show from the producers of The Bachelor. Thirst, desperation and failure are what these contestants already know coming into the season, and they had us at Hello (Is It Me You’re Looking For). This week’s bonus is about Colton’s book and Chad’s descent into subscription porn. Then in the next bonus, we find ourself wondering about American Idol contestants of the past. Find all of our premium bonuses at rosepricks.com On Twitter and Instagram we're @RosePricksPod, @RonnieKaram and @SWilderTaylor See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Welcome back to the 30th episode of the Thursday Meditations show! Before we get to the show - tell me what you want! Seriously, go to https://mailchi.mp/5e94a17af33d/thehardthingpodcast and tell me what things you enoy about the podcast and what you don't. It will help me get you better resources for doing hard things. Now, let's talk about 12 tips on deepening conversation. *** The Hard Thing Podcast is now affiliated with 1 Mission Nutrition. They are a protein and supplements company that gives back to our men and women in the military with every product purchased. Now, listeners of the Hard Thing Podcast can get a 10% discount by going to : http://allegiance.1missionnutrition.com/thehardthingpodcast It helps them and it helps the podcast out. *** Today I continue talking about relationships, and today I talk about ways to deepen a conversation. This is important because without deep conversations you won't have deep relationships. Here are the 12 tips: Ask Questions Have Opinions Understand the Time Commitment Understand the Relationship Commitment Show Emotion Play Ping Pong Understand Small Talk Open Up Get Specific Ask the Other Person's Thoughts Be Insightful and Ask for Insights Share Stories *** Thanks for listening.  Did you find value from listening to this episode? If yes: 1. Share the podcast with one person. 2. Reach out to me on Facebook & Instagram. 3. Leave a rating & a review. 4. Subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss any episode. 5. Share our campaign to raise $1k for OUR. Here's the link: gf.me/u/wat89x 6. Buy one of our Shirts https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-hard-thing-podcast-store/ Again thanks so much for listening, & stay tuned to next week. Keep doing Hard Things, & Keep Overcoming Average. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thehardthing/support (https://anchor.fm/thehardthing/support) This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podcorn - https://podcorn.com/privacy

I HAVE TODAY...to be a Good Communicator. How do you feel about your communication skills?  Could they use a little bit of work maybe? This week, there were two separate scenarios that came up with clients of mine that involved being a better, more effective communicator.  So, I took it as a sign that it might make for a good topic of the show this week.   In my book, “I HAVE TODAY...Find Your Passion, Purpose and Smile...Finally!” I wrote a chapter called, “Communication without Emotion.”  Now, you might be saying, “Diane...I don’t want to communicate with emotion!  In fact, I want to make sure my emotions are communicated clearly and effectively!”  That is not what that chapter is about. It’s about communicating in a way that the OTHER PERSON doesn’t get a negative emotional charge from what you’re communicating.   During this episode, I share the two stories of what happened with my clients this week, and how they were able to communicate much better and more effectively just by making small, subtle shifts in their delivery.   You’ll also learn: The four things that every single person wants (and deserves.) The strategy to get someone to stop interrupting you and talking over you!  (Don’t you just hate that!?) How to remove yourself from toxic people and conversations.   Being a good communicator is a skill.  You can learn how to be one. Good communication is essential in every relationship and every situation...in your family life, in your personal life, in your professional life.  Every conversation you have will benefit by you being the best communicator you can be! Check out the episode, and share your comments and feedback with me. PS - If you got value out of this and would like more content like this, please let us know!  Thanks!   https://youtu.be/GgzgeAJEbkg

In this video, we share 3 tips for how to fight well with others. Whether it’s with a spouse, family member, or friend, these are 3 basic ground rules for any healthy argument. CONTENTS 00:00 Introduction 02:26 Rule #1: The Other Person is Not Your Enemy 03:16 Rule #2: Recognize that You Both have a Past 04:43 Rule #3: Identify What You Expect from the Other Person 07:15 Activation

Who would have thought we would be seeing the job mobility we are witnessing today in Japan. This is a recent phenomenon and it will become a bigger topic for discussion going forward.  The inability of companies to hire enough young people because of the decline in the youth population will see companies get into bidding wars to grab the talent.  The winners will be those who train their middle managers on how to retain them. The losers will be left wondering what is going on. Welcome back to this weekly edition every Tuesday of "THE Cutting Edge Japan Business Show" I am your host Dr. Greg Story, President of Dale Carnegie Training Japan and best selling author of Japan Sales Mastery. We are bringing the show to you from our High Performance Center in Akasaka in Minato-ku, the business center of Tokyo. Why the Cutting Edge?  In this show, we are looking at the critical areas for success in business in Japan.  We want to help advance everyone's thinking so that we be at the forefront, the Cutting Edge, of how to flourish here in this market. Before we get into this week's topic, here is what caught my attention lately.  Japan's number of children has dropped to a new low, the 37thconsecutive year to see this decline.  There are 15.5 million children defined as anyone younger than 14.  The population of children peaked in 1954 at 30 million, so it has effectively halved in the post war period. The ratio of children to the rest of the population is now down to 12.3%, another new low.  That ratio is the lowest among countries with a population above 40 million. This will only intensify the competition for talent in companies in Japan as the raw supply of young people keeps going down. This is episode number 32and we are talking about Leading the Next Generation Soredewa ikimasho, so let's get going. Japan is entering a scary world of work.  The tried and true assimilation methods of the past, for injecting youth talent into firms, are starting to falter.  Every generation feels a gap with its successor, but the size of the impending chasm in Japan is generating fresh challenges.    The bankruptcy of Yamaichi Securities in 1997 put loyal staff on the street.  This was a postwar watershed in the company-staff contract. Shocking at the time, it was followed by something much worse - the Lehman Shock starting in 2008.  The expected compact of lifetime employment security, in return for total devotion, was now revealed to be a mirage.    Millennials, defined as those becoming adults around 2000, are the first generation to collide with two major trends: being fired when your company “right sizes” and a youth population decline.  The end of the old order has created skepticism among young people about the relevancy of their parent's experiences to their own employment reality.  The Dai-ni Shinsotsu” or “second graduates” is a relatively new phenomenon, where three or four years into their first job, thiry percent are “graduating” from their employer and heading off to find another workplace more to their liking.  Unthinkable in their parent's time, this is “free agentism” Japanese style and a big cost to companies who have invested in training these new entrants, only to see them vote with their feet and depart.    At different times, it has been poor pickings for Varsity graduates in Japan to find a full time job. That era is drawing to a close. There are now half the number of 14-24 years olds in Japan, than there were 20 years ago.  The Tandai or two year colleges are no more, because today's youth can much more easily enter four year Universities.  These Millennial kids have choices.  You don't have to be a genius to see what is coming around the corner – the war for recruiting and keeping youth is going to hot up.   A smaller pool of available hires and a new found freedom to jump out, without any social stigma, is empowering this Millennial generation in new ways.  Abenomics may be a conjurer's trick, but it is boosting share prices, improving profits for exporters and many companies are now cashed up to the point of making bankers wail and weep.  My own unscientific survey of job resume numbers for salespeople over the last four years, has seen a drying up of supply for those under forty. Market demand for the young seems to be getting stronger and stronger.    The issue is going to be how to attract these Millennials to your company and how to keep them happy enough to stay with you?  By the way, how good are your supervisors at mollycoddling the young?  Given most current managers were raised on being yelled at by their bosses and being worked like dogs, the answer is probably not very promising.  Middle management's expectations are to hand out what they got, but this undoubtedly won't be a very successful Millennial training formula.   Find out more when we come back from the break   Welcome back There are thirty human relations principles outlined in the book, “How To Win Friends and Influence People” and they seem tailor made for dealing with Millennials.  Sage advice like “Don't Criticise, Condemn or Complain” will perfectly address delicate youth sensitivities.  Remember we don't leave companies, we leave bosses.  Whining, harping bosses will be seeing a rush for the door by their new company entrants.   Principles such as “Talk in Terms of the Other Person's Interests”;  “Be a Good Listener - Encourage Others to Talk About Themselves”; “By Sympathetic With The Other Person's Ideas and Desires” will be a challenge for supervisors who like to do all the talking and directing. Communication skills in general will be big issue for bosses dealing with the young.  The penalties for not “getting it” will be severe.   Companies are well advised to re-train their leaders to deal with this hotly contested youth worker supply problem.  Otherwise, they may find they cannot engage or keep this next generation, so vital to fulfilling their firm's succession planning.  Long-term planning is a Japanese forte, but it will all become fodder for MBA case studies if company leaders mess it up and lose their successor generation.  OJT – On The Job Training - will not deliver anything worthwhile in this regard. Mediocre managers passing on a diluted version of what they learnt from their own mediocre seniors was always a dubious Japanese training construct.  The juice (?) has well and truly been fully squeezed from the Japanese OJT stone.   Organisations will also be more attractive in recruiting and keeping Millennials, if they have more relevant training on offer for them.  The same tired Induction Training Courses or the functional position rotation progression throughout the firm, are not satisfying Millennials.  They lack experience, so they want practical information, not lecture or theory.  They want concrete skills to make them more successful and they want them now.  Prepare your organisation for this brave new world of Japanese Millennials or brace yourself for the unfolding nightmare.  Action Items Recognise the demographic trend is not in your favour Educate your leaders to become better communicators Embed Dale Carnegie's Thirty Principles of human relations into your company culture Provide practical skill training for the Millennials THE Cutting Edge Japan Business Show is here to help you succeed in Japan.  Subscribe on YouTube, share it with your family, friends and colleagues, become a regular. Thank you for watching this episode and remember to hit the subscribe button. Our website details are on screen now, dalecarnegie.com, it is awesome value, so check it out. In episode 33 we are talking about Presentations Can Be Scary. Find out more about that next week. So Yoroshiku Onegai Itashimasu please join me for the next episode of the Cutting Edge Japan Business Show We are here to help you and we have only one direction in mind for you and your business and that is UP!!!

We’ve always held that one of the reasons our relationship works so well is that we respect the individuality of the other person. A core value and bedrock of our relationship is the commitment we share to supporting the growth … Support the Growth of the Other Person in Your Relationship Read More »

This video reveals how to make money online by selling online courses. The information marketing business or info-business can be extremely lucrative when done right, but you MUST understand the process to creating a truly successful business online. Step 1 - Create A Result Yourself - 0:15 Step 2 - Create A Result For 1 Other Person - 1:47 Step 3 - Create A Valuable Result For 20 - 100+ People - 3:16 Step 4 - Create A Valuable Result For Small Groups - 5:35 Step 5 - Scale Your Process - 7:55 Recap of the full process - 8:51 To build a successful information marketing business you need to not only understand how to sell courses online, but you must be able to deliver transformational results for your audience. This is the ultimate key to success in order to make money online. If you'd like another look at how to make money online, watch this video to understand the process in a new light: www.youtube.com/watch?v=KaHL5yXDG48 I show you how online businesses work as if they are board games so you can truly understand the process through a fun and simple analogy.

02/03/2019, Sunday Morning Sermon, "The Problem is the Other Person" by Pastor Ken de Koning

02/03/2019, Sunday Morning Sermon, "The Problem is the Other Person" by Pastor Ken de Koning

TODAY’S MESSAGE PSALM 37:4-6 TPT Make God the utmost delight and pleasure of your life, and HE WILL PROVIDE FOR YOU WHAT YOU DESIRE THE MOST. 5 Give God the right to direct your life, and as you trust him along the way YOU’LL FIND HE PULLED IT OFF PERFECTLY! 6… He will manifest AS YOUR JUSTICE, as sure and strong as the noonday sun.   QUESTION At the end of the holidays, WHAT DO YOU WANT TO HAVE EXPERIENCED, or how do you want to have benefited?   PRINCIPLE Expenditures/gifts should HONOR the joy in relationships, not BE the joy in relationships. Gifts CELEBRATE relationships, not FIX relationships!   FACT WHERE DOES STRESS COME FROM? Stress is rooted in our desire to control something or someone!    _______________ PATH TO BEING STRESS FREE   1.  SELF AWARENESS – ATTUNEMENT PSALM 77:6 KJV [Asaph said in a time of deep distress]  … COMMUNE with MINE OWN HEART:  and my SPIRIT made DILIGENT SEARCH.   PRINCIPLE You cannot CHANGE, or FEEL DIFFERENTLY about, what you DO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE. You have to NAME IT to TAME IT!   PRINCIPLE Often we AREN’T BATTLING the OTHER PERSON, but our own WOUND-BASED NARRATIVE.   SELF-QUESTION #1 - “What does this person, group, event or environment DO TO ME?” SELF-QUESTION #2 - “How long does it take me TO GET BACK TO ZERO after I have been with this person, group, event or environment?”   SELF-QUESTION #3 - “What JUSTIFICATIONS do I wrestle with?”   SELF-QUESTION #4 - “Why do I KEEP THINKING about this? Why do I get DYSREGULATED EMOTIONALLY with this?”   SELF-QUESTION #5 - “Is this GOOD STEWARDSHIP of my energies?”    _______________ 2.  DIFFERENTIATION – BOUNDARIES   DEFINITION BOUNDARIES, in a broad sense, are the lines or things that mark a LIMIT, BOUND, or BORDER. Boundaries are the realization of our own person apart from others. This sense of separateness forms the basis of personal identity.   PRINCIPLE GROWTH in BOUNDARIES means growth in… EMOTIONAL Intelligence SOCIAL Intelligence    _______________ 3.  LOVE – GENEROSITY OF HEART COLOSSIANS 3:12-14 TPT … Be MERCIFUL as you endeavor to UNDERSTAND OTHERS, and be compassionate, showing kindness toward all. Be gentle and humble, unoffendable in your patience with others. 13 TOLERATE THE WEAKNESSES of those in the family of faith, FORGIVING one another in the same way you have been graciously forgiven by Jesus Christ. … 14 For LOVE IS SUPREME and MUST FLOW THROUGH each of these VIRTUES. Love becomes the mark of TRUE MATURITY.   HOW TO STAY HAPPY! REMEMBER WHAT CHRISTMAS IS ALL ABOUT: LOVE is the answer to HAPPY HOLIDAYS!    _______________ CALL TO ACTION What is your ONE NEXT STEP that you need to take?   Begin soothing/spiritual/self-care exercises Invite safe family/friends into your stress Decide in advance what you want each event experience to be Prepare to limit exposure to dysregulating experiences Take the Science of Freedom Workshop to understand yourself Trigger the energy of love generously flowing from the heart

In their bestselling business parable, The Go-Giver and then their follow-up, The Go-Giver Leader, Bob Burg and John David Mann challenged the conventional wisdom about success. Now they're back with a new and equally compelling story about the power of genuine influence, in business and beyond. The Go-Giver Influencer: A Little Story about a Most Persuasive Idea tackles the paradox of achieving what you want by focusing on the other person's interests. No, not in a way that is self-sacrificial but rather in such a way that all parties benefit greatly. This results in both immediate and long-term success. Bob Burg speaks all over the world on topics related to The Go-Giver, as well as what he calls, Ultimate Influence™. While his total book sales number well over a million copies, his and Mann's original book has itself sold over 700,000 copies and has spurred an international movement. Their new book, however, The Go-Giver Influencer, might just be their most important book of all.   On this episode, we discuss the 5 Secrets of Genuine Influence. 1. Master Your Emotions 2. Step into the Other Person's Shoes.  3. Set the Frame.  4. Communicate with Tact and Empathy. 5. Let Go of Having to be Right.  Connect with Bob Burg Website | Facebook | Linkedin | Twitter

About Bob Burg   Bob Burg shares information on topics vital to the success of today’s businessperson. He speaks for corporations and associations internationally, including fortune 500 companies, franchises, and numerous direct sales organizations. Although for years he was best known for his book, "Endless Referrals," over the past few years it’s his business parable, "The Go-Giver" (coauthored with John David Mann) that has captured the imagination of his readers. "The Go-Giver" shot to number six on The Wall Street Journal’s Business Bestsellers list just three weeks after its release and reached number nine on BusinessWeek. Since its release it has consistently stayed in the top 25 on 800ceoread’s Business Book Best Seller List. It’s an international bestseller and has been translated into 21 languages. It is Bob’s fourth book to sell over 250,000 copies. Bob believes his newest books, "Adversaries Into Allies: Win People Over Without Manipulation or Coercion" and “The Go-Giver INFLUENCER” are by far his most important work yet. Drawing on his own experiences and the stories of other influential people, he offers five simple principles of what he calls Ultimate Influence — the ability to move people to your side in a way that leaves everyone feeling great about the outcome… and about themselves!   In this episode Virginia and Bob discuss: The importance of having systems and a predictable process to ensure success Why it is important to master your emotions The dangers of rationalizing (rational – lying) Spending MORE time in RESPOND-mode and LESS time in REACT-mode Why overcoming confirmation bias is essential to creating positive relationships   Key Takeaways: If you want to be an influencer….   Master Your Emotions Step into the Other Person’s Shoes Set the Frame.  Communicate with Tact and Empathy. Let Go of Having to be Right.      How to reach Bob Burg:   Download the first two chapters of Bob’s new book: The Go-Giver Influencer at www.thegogiver.com

Episode 6:  Games We Own That the Other Person is Jealous of (Games we Drool Over) Introduction:   0:00 to 3:00   Goblin Grapple by Designer Travis Hoglund.  Should be showing up this week and reviews will follow shortly.   News: 3:00 to 15:00 Robin Hood and the Merry Men Deadwood 1876 - Facade Games (Salem and Tortuga) Forbidden Sky. Tabletopia on iOS Games played since last episode - 15:00 to 25:00 Jason - Trans Atlantic Joel - Unearth Jason - Ex Libris Joel - Potion Explosion Jason - The Shipwreck Arcana Joel - Harvest Dice Feature segment: Games we are jealous of Joel -  Dinosaur Island Jason - Dogs of War Joel -  Marco Polo Jason - Vinhos Joel - Gallerist Jason - Mombasa Honorable Mentions: Secret Hitler, Transatlantic Closing and next episode teaser:  55:00 to 60:00

Leadership is important in sports, business, and life, and the best leaders know how to find their leadership voice in order to communicate well with the people they lead and influence. In today's podcast, I explore 5 techniques that can help you communicate and connect authentically with your team. I also offer 6 questions that every great leader should ask. Episode Outline: 5 Effective Leadership Communication Techniques: Seek First To Understand, Then Be Understood© (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey) Communicate the Right Ratio of Positive to Constructive Feedback Communicate Feedback in Terms of the Other Person's "Potential To Be" Be Vulnerable and Open Encourage Others and Connect to Core Values 6 Questions Every Great Leader Should Ask: How are you doing? What are you most proud of over the last few months? What opportunities have you leveraged? What successes have you had? What challenges, if any, do you have in front of you? How can I help?   You can leave a comment by clicking here.    

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11 Questions That May Change Your Life: http://www.clarkkegley.com/download/ The Most successful leaders all have one thing in common: They’ve read “How to Win Friends and Influence People” Today we have PART II of the book summary and book review on "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.This book will rock your communication. Dale Carnegie's classic public speaking and interpersonal communication book, how to win friends and influence people is packed full of actionable ideas and takeaways. You might also consider getting the full book for this – it’s killer! Here are the best 10 ideas from “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie (PART II) FULL BLOG POST: (coming soon) GET THE BOOK: http://amzn.to/29XwSTc ★★★ BEST 10 IDEAS ★★★ 1. Don’t Criticize Condemn or Complain Puts everyone on defensive. Some people grow through praise, others through criticism. 2. Arouse In The Other Person An Eager Want There are 3 motivations: First two are push / pull. Think of carrot or stick. Avoid pain or go towards pleasure. Third is above both those. Higher motivation. Third is your why - often gets overlooked. Driving force behind everything we do. For ourselves need a why that makes you cry (read Start With Why). 3. Smile Shows people two things: 1. You are happy (as if having good time) 2. Friendly (oddly enough in animal kingdom means threat, but hey - humans are weird) GET THE BOOK: http://amzn.to/29XwSTc 4. Be a Good Listener. Encourage Others to Talk About Themselves. EX: My mom, “making friends is easy. you just smile and ask questions about the other person.” Everyone has that ONE area they can get wound up on and just GO. Lights them up. EX: My grandma quiet farm woman, get her ranting about conspiracy theories and you’re there all day. TIP: Become an expert at finding that secret passion everyone has. Ask questions! 5. Make The Other Person Feel Important - and Do It Sincerely EX: Jim Kwik my friend. Bill Clinton - amount of presence he brings shocking. and he’s highest ever can get in world! Still does this! EX: Say, “your right, NAME” or “You’re so right about that, NAME” or “You hit it on the head when you said ____” GET THE BOOK: http://amzn.to/29XwSTc 6. The Only Way to Get The Best of An Argument is to: A) Avoid it! B) Show Respect For the Other Person’s Opinions. Never say “You’re wrong.” C) If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. (sincere apology) D) Begin in a friendly way. 7. Be Sympathetic With The Other Person’s Ideas and Desires. "Three-fourths of the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy. Give it to them, and they will love you.” - Dale Carnegie 8. Begin With Praise and Honest Appreciation. Massage people into conversations. Ease into something 9/10 works better. Foreplay before you get to the meat. Even if most of us define as “no b.s / straight shooter / no beat around bush small talk” person - different when it’s personal! Harder to do. Compliment sandwich. Praise - criticism - praise. 9. Call Attention to People’s Mistakes Indirectly. How do you give negative feedback without sounding like a jerk? or asshole? EX: Swap “BUT” for “AND” EX: “We’re really proud of you, Justin, for getting better grades this quarter. But if you worked harder in your math class, you would’ve done better.” vs. “We’re really proud of you, Justin, for getting better grades this quarter, and if you continue to work just as hard next quarter, your math grade could be as high as all the others.” 10. Praise The Slightest Improvement and Praise Every Improvement. Discover how to change your life in under 4-hours ► http://www.mybestjournal.com YOU MAY ALSO LIKE: How to Win Friends and Influence People (Part I) ► https://youtu.be/fiJbP5AFbJs Unlimited Power by Tony Robbins ► https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sVs-hmUFEc0 SOCIAL: Blog ► http://www.clarkkegley.com Twitter ► http://bit.ly/2h0TzO3 Facebook ► http://bit.ly/2fYn9lG Instagram ► http://bit.ly/2gFW0Cr Snapchat ► http://bit.ly/2gOyZ0p iTunes Podcast ► http://apple.co/2gMKcRz MY PRODUCTS & COURSES: The Ultimate Guide to Keeping A Journal ► http://www.mybestjournal.com YouTube Success Formula (Kindle) ► http://amzn.to/2j86PRU Gear & Resources I Recommend ► http://clarkkegley.com/resources/ WANT TO BE COACHED BY ME? Ready to take your business or YouTube channel to the next level? To apply for business coaching send me an email: clark@clarkkegley.com (serious applicants only)clark@clarkkegley.com (serious applicants only)

We’ve all heard Gandhi's famous words, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Tony Grebmeier is a guy who has learned that when he focuses on that truth, amazing things happen. Tony is the co-founder Ship Offers, a fulfillment company that he built with 2 of his Childhood friends Doug Roberts and Gil Gerstein. Fifteen years later, Ship Offers is an eight-figure business that has been an INC 5000 Company for the past three years in a row. They ship out over 1 million orders per year.Tony also serves as the host of The Tony G Show, a podcast that brings together his love for business and self improvement. Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn: [0:24] Jeremy’s introduction of this episode with Tony Grebmeier. [1:50] The things Tony attributes his success to. [4:05] Tony’s vision to build his fulfillment operations company worldwide. [5:33] Outgrowing a new space in 3 months - and how it happened. [7:58] How the present moment helps Tony center his life and get more done. [8:29] The kinds of products Tony wants to ship (being selective about clients). [12:21] The kind of team it takes to run Ship Offers - and what Tony hires for. [17:17] How to connect with Tony and his company. [17:58] The framework Tony uses regarding what drains him and drives him. In this episode… If you want to be the change, you have to be mindful of it every day of your life. Tony Grebmeier is a guy who truly tries to practice that. Because of the things he’s experienced, including a bought with alcoholism and almost taking his own life, Tony knows that while everything he sees wrong with the world is true, he can only begin making a change by being a better version of himself, every day. On this episode of Inspired Insider, Tony Grebmeier shares how he and his childhood friends build Ship Offers, a product fulfillment company that ships an amazing amount of product every day - how the company grew 600% last year - what he looks for in employees - how he hires - and a great exercise that helps him get his mind right. Why do you get out of bed every day? It’s a question Tony Grebmeier asks his friends, family, and team members often. He doesn’t ask just to be different, he asks because he really wants to know and also because he really wants THE OTHER PERSON to know. He believes that when we live with a sense of purpose, we add better things to the world. Hiring is a very difficult process for any company. Wasting time with a selection process that’s ineffective is one of the worst feelings. On this episode, Tony Grebmeier shares a new approach he’s taken to hiring that he’s really enjoying and the incredible results it’s delivered. If you want to know how to hire for character and not only skill, Tony has a good place for you to start. If you want to be the change you’d like to see in the world it begins in the present moment. Tony Grebmeier says that when he is able to focus on what he’s doing in the moment without looking too far ahead, that’s when he’s able to add the most value and blessing to the lives of other people. You can hear a bit of Tony’s story and catch a whiff of his enthusiasm, on this great episode of Inspired Insider. Resources Mentioned on this episode www.ShipOffers.com www.TheTonyGShow.com   Our sponsor today is www.Rise25.com where entrepreneurs of 6,7, and 8 figure businesses come together live and in person every few months to solve their biggest business challenges through this high-level Mastermind group. Each member leaves each week with lifelong friendships and actionable steps to take their business to the next level. Check out Rise25.com - a group run by myself and cofounder John Corcoran. Rise 25 is application only.  

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Expecting Highest Good of the Other Person, 1 Peter 1v3-23

11 Questions That May Change Your Life: http://www.clarkdanger.com/download/ (CLICK HERE TO WATCH THIS VIDEO ON YOUTUBE) The Most successful leaders all have one thing in common: They’ve read “How to Win Friends and Influence People” Today’s book summary and book review: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. This book will rock your communication. Dale Carnegie's classic public speaking and interpersonal communication book, how to win friends and influence people is packed full of actionable ideas and take aways. You might also consider getting the full book for this – it’s killer! Here are the best 10 ideas from “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. FULL BLOG POST: (coming soon) GET THE BOOK: http://amzn.to/29XwSTc Discover how you can change your life in less than 4-hours. FULL journal mastery course is now live! Learn more here: http://www.mybestjournal.com BIG 10 IDEAS  (1:30) 1. Become Genuinely Interested In Other People "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” -Dale Carnegie (2:45) 2. Let The Other Person Feel That The Idea is His or Hers. It's amazing what you can accomplish if you don't care who gets the credit for it. (4:30) 3. Talk About Your Own Mistakes Before Criticizing The Other Person. Call Attention to People’s Mistakes Indirectly. How do you give negative feedback without sounding like a jerk? or asshole? TIP: Swap “BUT” for “AND” (6:50) 4. Dramatize Your Ideas. Break the script. Implant and anchor a reference can’t get out of head. EXAMPLE: Jamie Oliver’s TED Talk with sugar wheelbarrow: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=go_QO... (8:45) 5. Talk in Terms of The Other Person’s Interests. Best point if you’re in sales / leadership / wok to influence people. WIIFM = most powerful tool I’ve used. (how I start these videos). (10:20) 6. Get The Other Person Saying “Yes, Yes” Immediately. EX: Psychology - we’re more likely to say yes to bigger task if said yes to smaller one first. (12:45) 7. Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation Flattery is of the tongue, appreciation is of the heart. TIP: Honest and sincere doesn't mean BIG and massive. Simple, “Hey, you’re a really solid speaker. Room lit up when you said that joke about the museum” or “I really love how authentic you are when speaking to others.” (14:20) 8. Give the Other Person a Fine Reputation to Live Up to. EXAMPLE: working with kids: “(NAME) you’re a leader. The other kids see you as one” - Conform to that identity. (16:00) 9. IDENTITY The Power of “I AM”. Two most Powerful words in english language? “I AM” NEG FRAME - Ex: I AM too old / young Ex: I AM too fat / skinny Ex: I AM a woman / man Ex: I AM a depressed person Ex: I AM too broke Ex: I AM not educated enough Ex: I AM not in the right location POS FRAME + Ex: I AM able to accomplish anything I put my mind to Ex: I AM someone who overflows with positivity to others. Ex: I AM not the kind of person who chews tobacco (big one for me) Ex: I AM someone who provides massive value and deserves to be compensated fairly. Ex: I AM someone who gives their all in a relationship at all times (17:40) 10. SAY MY NAME! “Remember a person’s name is the sweetest sound” Names carry (AGE) years of meaning. Identity acknowledgement EX: Even dogs know their names! (19:50) YOUR FREE TOOLS! Your free tools: http://www.clarkdanger.com/download/ ______________________________________ L I N K S & S U P P O R T  BUY THROGH AMAZON AFFILIATE LINK: http://amzn.to/1O3riee SNAPCHAT: clarkdangerous INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ClarkDangerous FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClarkDangerous/ PODCAST: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/d... MASTER JOURNALING: http://www.mybestjournal.com Please feel free to email me for any time for any reason: clark@clarkdanger.com ______________________________________ “how to win friends and influence people" "how to win friends and influence people audiobook" "Dale Carnegie" "win friends and influence people summary" "how to win friends influence people book review"

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We lead PEOPLE into a new life of FREEDOM in JESUS. Value # 1 - We Keep Jesus the Main Thing Value # 2 - We Live for the Other Person's Good Value # 3 - We Add Value to the World Around Us Value # 4 - We Live with Urgency Urgency: Of pressing importance; requiring swift action “True urgency focuses on critical issues, not agendas overstuffed with the important and the trivial.” – John Kotter …Upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it. Matthew 16:18 (KJV) Jesus came and told his disciples, “I have been given all authority in heaven and on earth.  Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations,baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit.  Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Matthew 28:18-20 (NLT) 70% of the World population is unchurched. 30% of the US population is unchurched. 57% of the Indiana population is unchurched. 53% of the Boone County population is unchurched. 64 Churches in Boone County… 1.  We are always PRAYING Always be joyful.  Never stop praying.  Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NLT) Then if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land. 2 Chronicles 7:14 (NLT) We have to work like it depends on us and pray like it depends on God. 2.  We are always GETTING BETTER …We ask God to give you complete knowledge of his will and to give you spiritual wisdom and understanding.  Then the way you live will always honor and please the Lord, and your lives will produce every kind of good fruit. All the while, you will grow as you learn to know God better and better. Colossians 1:9-10 (NLT) The casualty of a growing church is personal comfort. Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.Proverbs 12:1 (NIV) So be careful how you live. Don't live like fools, but like those who are wise.  Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. Ephesians 5:15-16 (NLT) Don't act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do. Ephesians 5:17 (NLT) Vision is the greatest deterrent of sin. – Jeannie Mayo 3.  We are always REACHING ONE MORE When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them because they were confused and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.  He said to his disciples, “The harvest is great, but the workers are few.  So pray to the Lord who is in charge of the harvest; ask him to send more workers into his fields.” Matthew 9:36-38 (NLT) In the same way, there is more joy in heaven over one lost sinner who repents and returns to God than over ninety-nine others who are righteous and haven't strayed away! Luke 15:7 (NLT) “A big reason that a true sense of urgency is rare is that it's not a natural state… it has to be created and recreated.” – John Kotter You will never fully understand the vision of Freedom Church until you invite a friend who is far from God.   Don't you have a saying, ‘It's still four months until harvest'? I tell you, open your eyes and look at the fields! They are ripe for harvest.John 4:35 (NIV) 4.  We are always BUILDING Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain. 1 Corinthians 15:58 (NIV) “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly.” Matthew 11:28-30 (MSG) We don't take ourselves too seriously, but take what we do seriously. “Look, I am coming soon!My reward is with me,and I will give to each person according to what they have done.Revelation 22:12 (NIV)  

We lead PEOPLE into a new life of FREEDOM in JESUS. …Upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it. Matthew 16:18 (KJV)  Value # 1 - We Keep Jesus the Main Thing  Value # 2 - We Live for the Other Person's Good Value #3 – We Add Value to the World Around us Let me tell you why you are here. You're here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth. If you lose your saltiness, how will people taste godliness? Matthew 5:13 (MSG) …Here's another way to put it: You're here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We're going public with this, as public as a city on a hill.  Matthew 5:14 (MSG) If I make you light-bearers, you don't think I'm going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I'm putting you on a light stand. Now that I've put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine!  Matthew 5:15 (MSG) Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you'll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.  Matthew 5:16 (MSG) …Let's not just talk about love; let's practice real love. This is the only way we'll know we're living truly, living in God's reality. 1 John 3:18 (MSG) 1.  We SERVE For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don't use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love. Galatians 5:13 (NLT) Serving is simply when you intentionally focus your energy on meeting someone else's need. …Don't think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us. Romans 12:3 (NLT)   Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, so it is with Christ's body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other.  In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well.  Romans 12:4-6 (NLT) So if God has given you the ability to prophesy, speak out with as much faith as God has given you.  If your gift is serving others, serve them well. If you are a teacher, teach well.  If your gift is to encourage others, be encouraging. If it is giving, give generously. If God has given you leadership ability, take the responsibility seriously. And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly. Romans 12:6-8 (NLT) Yes, the body has many different parts, not just one part.  If the foot says, “I am not a part of the body because I am not a hand,” that does not make it any less a part of the body.  1 Corinthians 12:14-15 (NLT) And if the ear says, “I am not part of the body because I am not an eye,” would that make it any less a part of the body?  If the whole body were an eye, how would you hear? Or if your whole body were an ear, how would you smell anything?  1 Corinthians 12:16-17 (NLT) But our bodies have many parts, and God has put each part just where he wants it.  How strange a body would be if it had only one part!  Yes, there are many parts, but only one body.  1 Corinthians 12:18-20 (NLT) The eye can never say to the hand, “I don't need you.” The head can't say to the feet, “I don't need you.”  In fact, some parts of the body that seem weakest and least important are actually the most necessary.  1 Corinthians 12:21-22 (NLT) When the body is WORKING properly, the body can do more WORK. …Among you it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first among you must become your slave.  For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Matthew 20:26-28 (NLT) 2.  We are Radically GENEROUS Remember this—a farmer who plants only a few seeds will get a small crop. But the one who plants generously will get a generous crop.  2 Corinthians 9:6 (NLT) You must each decide in your heart how much to give. And don't give reluctantly or in response to pressure. “For God loves a person who gives cheerfully.”  2 Corinthians 9:7 (NLT) And God will generously provide all you need. Then you will always have everything you need and plenty left over to share with others. 2 Corinthians 9:8 (NLT) The hallmark of Christianity is radical generosity. All the believers were united in heart and mind. And they felt that what they owned was not their own, so they shared everything they had. Acts 4:32 (NLT) When we are generous with our EXCESS, we will always have an excess to GIVE. 3.  We are LIFE-GIVING Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity.  Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. Colossians 4:5-6 (NIV) The greatest way we can breathe life into a situation is to SPEAK life. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29(NIV) The hard conversation you need to have could be the most life-giving thing you could ever say. Are we wind at their back or wind in their face? 4.  We Leave it BETTER Than We Found It So be careful how you live. Don't live like fools, but like those who are wise.  Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days.  Ephesians 5:15-16 (NLT) Don't act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do. Ephesians 5:17 (NLT) I have given you an example to follow. Do as I have done to you. John 13:15 (NLT) Once you were dead because of your disobedience and your many sins.  You used to live in sin, just like the rest of the world…following the passionate desires and inclinations of our sinful nature. By our very nature we were subject to God's anger, just like everyone else.  Ephesians 2:1-3 (NLT)  But God is so rich in mercy, and he loved us so much, that even though we were dead because of our sins, he gave us life when he raised Christ from the dead. (It is only by God's grace that you have been saved!)  Ephesians 2:4-5 (NLT) For he raised us from the dead along with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ Jesus.  So God can point to us in all future ages as examples of the incredible wealth of his grace and kindness toward us…  Ephesians 2:6-7 (NLT)   God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can't take credit for this; it is a gift from God.  Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it.  For we are God's masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. Ephesians 2:8-11 (NLT)

Mysterious Millennials   Japan is entering a scary world of work.  The tried and true assimilation methods of the past, for injecting youth talent into firms, are starting to falter.  Every generation feels a gap with its successor, but the size of the impending chasm in Japan is generating fresh challenges.    The bankruptcy of Yamaichi Securities in 1997 put loyal staff on the street.  This was a postwar watershed in the company-staff contract.  Shocking at the time, it was followed by something much worse - the Lehman Shock starting in 2008.  The expected compact of lifetime employment security, in return for total devotion, was now revealed to be a mirage.    Millennials, defined as those becoming adults around 2000, are the first generation to collide with two major trends: being fired when your company “right sizes” and a youth population decline.  The end of the old order has created skepticism among young people about the relevancy of their parent's experiences to their own employment reality.  The Dai-ni Shinsotsu” or “second graduates” is a relatively new phenomenon, where three or four years into their first job, forty percent are “graduating” from their employer and heading off to find another workplace more to their liking.  Unthinkable in their parent's time, this is “free agentism” Japanese style and a big cost to companies who have invested in training these new entrants, only to see them vote with their feet and depart.    At different times, it has been poor pickings for Varsity graduates in Japan to find a full time job.  That era is drawing to a close.  There are now half the number of 14-24 years olds in Japan, than there were 20 years ago.  The Tandai or two year colleges are no more, because today's youth can much more easily enter four year Universities.  These Millennial kids have choices.  You don't have to be a genius to see what is coming around the corner – the war for recruiting and keeping youth is going to hot up.   A smaller pool of available hires and a new found freedom to jump out, without any social stigma, is empowering this Millennial generation in new ways.  Abenomics may be a conjurer's trick, but it is boosting share prices, improving profits for exporters and many companies are now cashed up to the point of making bankers wail and weep.  My own unscientific survey of job resume numbers for salespeople over the last four years, has seen a drying up of supply for those under forty.  Market demand for the young seems to be getting stronger and stronger.    The issue is going to be how to attract these Millennials to your company and how to keep them happy enough to stay with you?  By the way, how good are your supervisors at mollycoddling the young?  Given most current managers were raised on being yelled at by their bosses and being worked like dogs, the answer is probably not very promising.  Middle management's expectations are to hand out what they got, but this undoubtedly won't be a very successful Millennial training formula.   There are thirty human relations principles outlined in the book, “How To Win Friends and Influence People” and they seem tailor made for dealing with Millennials.  Sage advice like “Don't Criticise, Condemn or Complain” will perfectly address delicate youth sensitivities.  Remember we don't leave companies, we leave bosses.  Whining, harping bosses will be seeing a rush for the door by their new company entrants.   Principles such as “Talk in Terms of the Other Person's Interests”;  “Be a Good Listener - Encourage Others to Talk About Themselves”; “By Sympathetic With The Other Person's Ideas and Desires” will be a challenge for supervisors who like to do all the talking and directing.  Communication skills in general will be big issue for bosses dealing with the young.  The penalties for not “getting it” will be severe.   Companies are well advised to re-train their leaders to deal with this hotly contested youth worker supply problem.  Otherwise, they may find they cannot engage or keep this next generation, so vital to fulfilling their firm's succession planning.  Long-term planning is a Japanese forte, but it will all become fodder for MBA case studies if company leaders mess it up and lose their successor generation.  OJT – On The Job Training - will not deliver anything worthwhile in this regard.  Mediocre managers passing on a diluted version of what they learnt from their own mediocre seniors was always a dubious Japanese training construct.  The juice (?) has well and truly been fully squeezed from the Japanese OJT stone.   Organisations will also be more attractive in recruiting and keeping Millennials, if they have more relevant training on offer for them.  The same tired Induction Training Courses or the functional position rotation progression throughout the firm, are not satisfying Millennials.  They lack experience, so they want practical information, not lecture or theory.  They want concrete skills to make them more successful and they want them now.    Prepare your organisation for this brave new world of Japanese Millennials or brace yourself for the unfolding nightmare.     Action Items   ·      Recognise the demographic trend is not in your favour ·      Educate your leaders to become better communicators ·      Embed Dale Carnegie's Thirty Principles of human relations into your company culture ·      Provide practical skill training for the Millennials

"The aim of friendship is exclusively determined by what God's will is for the other person." Dietrich Bonhoeffer German pastor and martyr

TTMIK Level 6 Lesson 4 - Do you mind if I ...?In this lesson, we take a look at how to ask someone if they would mind if you did something, or if it is okay to do something.Basically, in order to say this in Korean, you use structures -아/어/여도 되다 and -아/여/여도 괜찮다. (You can go back to Level 4 Lesson 8 to review on how to use -아/어/여도 되다.) Therefore, you literally say “Is it okay if I …?” or “Is it okay for me to …?”.Let’s look at the various ways of saying this in Korean.1. Verb stem + -아/어/여도 돼요?This is the simplest structure. The verb 되다 [doe-da] here means “to be okay”, “to be doable”, or “to be possible” and -아/어/여도 means “even if …” or “even when”. So all together, -아/어/여도 되다 [-a/eo/-yeo-do doe-da] means “to be okay (even) if …”.Sample Sentences(1) 여기 앉아도 돼요?[yeo-gi an-ja-do dwae-yo?](Verb: 앉다 /an-da/ to sit)= Do you mind if I sit here?(2) 창문 닫아도 돼요?[chang-mun da-da-do dwae-yo?](Verb: 닫다 /dat-da/ to close)= Do you mind if I close the window?(3) 나중에 전화해도 돼요?[na-jung-e jeon-hwa-hae-do dwae-yo?](Verb: 전화하다 /jeon-hwa-ha-da/ to telephone)= Do you mind if I call you later?2. Verb stem + -아/어/여도 괜찮아요?This is almost the same structure as -아/어/여도 되다, except the verb here is 괜찮다 [gwaen-chan-ta]. These two structures are interchangeable, but -아/어/여도 괜찮아요 has a slightly softer nuance, whereas -아/어/여도 돼요 tends to be a little more direct. By using -아/어/여도 괜찮아요, you can give the other person an impression that you are being more careful.Sample Sentences(1) 저 먼저 가도 괜찮아요?[jeo meon-jeo ga-do gwaen-cha-na-yo?](Verb: 가다 /ga-da/ to go)= Do you mind if I leave first (before other people)?(2) 이거 열어 봐도 괜찮아요?[i-geo yeo-reo bwa-do gwaen-cha-na-yo?](Verb: 열다 /yeol-da/ to open)= Do you mind if I open this?= Do you mind if I try opening this?(3) 내일 말해 줘도 괜찮아요?[nae-il ma-rae jwo-do gwaen-cha-na-yo?](Verb: 말하다 /ma-ra-da/ to tell)= Do you mind if I tell you tomorrow?3. Verb stem + -아/어/여도 될까요?This structure uses the verb 되다 [doe-da] again, but here, it is used in the -(으)ㄹ까요 form, which we introduced in Level 3 Lesson 4. By using -(으)ㄹ까요, you can express your curiosity or uncertainty about something, therefore naturally asking for the other person’s response or feedback. Therefore asking 될까요? makes your sentence softer and more polite than saying 돼요?Sample Sentences(1) 여기 앉아도 될까요?[yeo-gi an-ja-do dwael-kka-yo?](Verb: 앉다 /an-da/ to sit)= Do you mind if I sit here?= Would you mind if I sit here?= I wonder if I can sit here?(2) 창문 닫아도 될까요?[chang-mun da-da-do dwael-kka-yo?](Verb: 닫다 /dat-da/ to close)= Do you mind if I close the window?= Could I close the window?(3) 나중에 전화해도 될까요?[na-jung-e jeon-hwa-hae-do dwael-kka-yo?](Verb: 전화하다 /jeon-hwa-ha-da/ to telephone)= Do you mind if I call you later?= Can I call you later?4. Verb stem + -아/어/여 주실래요?With all the three structures above, you can express “Do you mind if I …?”, asking the other person if it would be okay if YOU did something. But if you want to ask THE OTHER PERSON whether he or she would mind doing something, you can use the structure -아/어/여 주실래요? [-a/eo/yeo ju-sil-lae-yo?].주다 [ju-da] means “to give” but when you combine it with other verbs, -아/어/여 주다 means “to do something for someone”, and the honorific suffix -시- [-si-] makes your sentence more polite.Sample Sentences(1) 조금 기다려 주실래요?[jo-geum gi-da-ryeo ju-sil-lae-yo?](Verb: 기다리다 /gi-da-ri-da/ to wait)= Do you mind waiting for a bit?** In casual language, you can say 조금 기다려 줄래?(2) 한 번 더 설명해 주실래요?[han beon deo seol-myeong-hae ju-sil-lae-yo?](Verb: 설명하다 /seol-myeong-ha-da/ to explain)= Do you mind explaining one more time?** In casual language, you can say 한 번 더 설명해 줄래?Keeping the same kind of nuance, you can change the sentence ending to the following:(1) -아/어/여 주실래요? → -아/어/여 줄래요?(줄래요? is a little less formal than 주실래요? without the suffix -시-.)(2) -아/어/여 주실래요? → -아/어/여 주시겠어요?(주시겠어요? is interchangeable with 주실래요? but a little more polite and formal.)

TTMIK Level 6 Lesson 4 - Do you mind if I ...?In this lesson, we take a look at how to ask someone if they would mind if you did something, or if it is okay to do something.Basically, in order to say this in Korean, you use structures -아/어/여도 되다 and -아/여/여도 괜찮다. (You can go back to Level 4 Lesson 8 to review on how to use -아/어/여도 되다.) Therefore, you literally say “Is it okay if I …?” or “Is it okay for me to …?”.Let’s look at the various ways of saying this in Korean.1. Verb stem + -아/어/여도 돼요?This is the simplest structure. The verb 되다 [doe-da] here means “to be okay”, “to be doable”, or “to be possible” and -아/어/여도 means “even if …” or “even when”. So all together, -아/어/여도 되다 [-a/eo/-yeo-do doe-da] means “to be okay (even) if …”.Sample Sentences(1) 여기 앉아도 돼요?[yeo-gi an-ja-do dwae-yo?](Verb: 앉다 /an-da/ to sit)= Do you mind if I sit here?(2) 창문 닫아도 돼요?[chang-mun da-da-do dwae-yo?](Verb: 닫다 /dat-da/ to close)= Do you mind if I close the window?(3) 나중에 전화해도 돼요?[na-jung-e jeon-hwa-hae-do dwae-yo?](Verb: 전화하다 /jeon-hwa-ha-da/ to telephone)= Do you mind if I call you later?2. Verb stem + -아/어/여도 괜찮아요?This is almost the same structure as -아/어/여도 되다, except the verb here is 괜찮다 [gwaen-chan-ta]. These two structures are interchangeable, but -아/어/여도 괜찮아요 has a slightly softer nuance, whereas -아/어/여도 돼요 tends to be a little more direct. By using -아/어/여도 괜찮아요, you can give the other person an impression that you are being more careful.Sample Sentences(1) 저 먼저 가도 괜찮아요?[jeo meon-jeo ga-do gwaen-cha-na-yo?](Verb: 가다 /ga-da/ to go)= Do you mind if I leave first (before other people)?(2) 이거 열어 봐도 괜찮아요?[i-geo yeo-reo bwa-do gwaen-cha-na-yo?](Verb: 열다 /yeol-da/ to open)= Do you mind if I open this?= Do you mind if I try opening this?(3) 내일 말해 줘도 괜찮아요?[nae-il ma-rae jwo-do gwaen-cha-na-yo?](Verb: 말하다 /ma-ra-da/ to tell)= Do you mind if I tell you tomorrow?3. Verb stem + -아/어/여도 될까요?This structure uses the verb 되다 [doe-da] again, but here, it is used in the -(으)ㄹ까요 form, which we introduced in Level 3 Lesson 4. By using -(으)ㄹ까요, you can express your curiosity or uncertainty about something, therefore naturally asking for the other person’s response or feedback. Therefore asking 될까요? makes your sentence softer and more polite than saying 돼요?Sample Sentences(1) 여기 앉아도 될까요?[yeo-gi an-ja-do dwael-kka-yo?](Verb: 앉다 /an-da/ to sit)= Do you mind if I sit here?= Would you mind if I sit here?= I wonder if I can sit here?(2) 창문 닫아도 될까요?[chang-mun da-da-do dwael-kka-yo?](Verb: 닫다 /dat-da/ to close)= Do you mind if I close the window?= Could I close the window?(3) 나중에 전화해도 될까요?[na-jung-e jeon-hwa-hae-do dwael-kka-yo?](Verb: 전화하다 /jeon-hwa-ha-da/ to telephone)= Do you mind if I call you later?= Can I call you later?4. Verb stem + -아/어/여 주실래요?With all the three structures above, you can express “Do you mind if I …?”, asking the other person if it would be okay if YOU did something. But if you want to ask THE OTHER PERSON whether he or she would mind doing something, you can use the structure -아/어/여 주실래요? [-a/eo/yeo ju-sil-lae-yo?].주다 [ju-da] means “to give” but when you combine it with other verbs, -아/어/여 주다 means “to do something for someone”, and the honorific suffix -시- [-si-] makes your sentence more polite.Sample Sentences(1) 조금 기다려 주실래요?[jo-geum gi-da-ryeo ju-sil-lae-yo?](Verb: 기다리다 /gi-da-ri-da/ to wait)= Do you mind waiting for a bit?** In casual language, you can say 조금 기다려 줄래?(2) 한 번 더 설명해 주실래요?[han beon deo seol-myeong-hae ju-sil-lae-yo?](Verb: 설명하다 /seol-myeong-ha-da/ to explain)= Do you mind explaining one more time?** In casual language, you can say 한 번 더 설명해 줄래?Keeping the same kind of nuance, you can change the sentence ending to the following:(1) -아/어/여 주실래요? → -아/어/여 줄래요?(줄래요? is a little less formal than 주실래요? without the suffix -시-.)(2) -아/어/여 주실래요? → -아/어/여 주시겠어요?(주시겠어요? is interchangeable with 주실래요? but a little more polite and formal.)