Relationship 411 Podcast

Send us a textRelationship and intimacy coach Monica Tanner joins us to unpack the damaging marriage advice many of us have accepted as truth. Drawing from her seven years of podcasting experience and three years exclusively coaching couples, Monica reveals why seemingly innocent phrases like "happy wife, happy life" and "don't sweat the small stuff" actually create disconnection and resentment in relationships.Monica shares details about her upcoming book, "Bad Marriage Advice: Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable and What to Do Instead," which evolved from a heartfelt letter to her soon-to-be-married son. The conversation digs into why telling couples "divorce is not an option" often backfires, removing motivation for growth rather than strengthening commitment.The most practical segment focuses on Monica's three-step formula for making effective requests in relationships. Instead of complaining about what you're not getting, she teaches how to identify what you want, make your request "stupidly easy" to fulfill by being specific, and show gratitude for any progress. This approach transforms communication patterns and creates positive momentum in relationships.We also explore the powerful garden metaphor for marriage—how beliefs planted by others in our childhood need tending, weeding, and sometimes complete replanting as we grow and face life's transitions together. Monica emphasizes the value of seeking relationship support before crisis strikes, sharing stories of proactive couples who establish relationships with coaches early in their marriages.Whether you're struggling with communication issues, feeling disconnected, or simply want to strengthen an already good relationship, this episode offers practical wisdom for creating a marriage where both partners feel valued, heard, and cherished. Ready to transform your relationship? Listen now and discover how to replace bad marriage advice with strategies that actually work.Monica Tanner Guest InformationMonica Tanner, RLT trained, Relationship Coach and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, transforms marriages with simple communication, connection, conflict resolution and commitment strategies. Her mission is to lower the divorce rate and improve marital satisfaction. Through her engaging podcast, new book, Bad Marriage Advice, vibrant social media community, and couple's coaching practice, Monica's expert guidance has impacted thousands of couples, by helping them ditch resentment and roommate syndrome and get back to living their happily ever after love story.website:  https://monicatanner.combook: https://badmarriageadvice.compodcast:  https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.buzzsprout.comHave you gotten on the waitlist for my new book - Bad Marriage Advice? You can do that HERE!Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textHealing after betrayal often feels impossible when we're white-knuckling our trauma, convinced that hypervigilance will somehow protect us from future pain. But what if the very things we're clinging to—obsessive thoughts about the affair partner, negative self-image, or fantasy versions of our relationships—are actually preventing our healing?Drawing from both personal experience and my work as a trauma-informed coach, I explore the invisible barriers we construct after infidelity and betrayal. Our primitive brains convince us that staying on high alert will keep us safe, but this constant state of anxiety is both exhausting and ineffective. If someone wants to betray you again, no amount of phone checking or hypervigilance will prevent it.Real healing begins when we serve an "eviction notice" to the thoughts keeping us stuck. This process starts with awareness of what we're holding onto, followed by what I call bringing our "CEO brain" online—engaging our higher thinking rather than remaining trapped in fear-based responses. Through radical honesty with ourselves, we can loosen our grip on betrayal trauma and begin rebuilding trust from within.The journey requires distinguishing between fantasy and reality. Fantasy feels safer—imagining what might have been or how things "should" have worked out—but it keeps us disconnected from our actual lives. The sooner we can accept our circumstances, the sooner we can create something meaningful from them. Letting go isn't about forgetting what happened; it's about creating space for new possibilities and yes—living happily, even after betrayal.Ready to identify what you're holding onto that's keeping you stuck? Reach out for a free call, and let's work together to help you create your happily even after.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textThe aftermath of betrayal often leaves us scrambling to "fix" our broken marriage, convinced that our happiness depends entirely on our spouse's transformation. But what if these beliefs are actually preventing your healing?Drawing from years of helping clients navigate post-betrayal recovery, I challenge the misconception that rebuilding a marriage is solely your responsibility. When your spouse has an affair, they—not you—must own their choices completely. No matter what challenges existed in your marriage, you didn't cause their betrayal. Their willingness to take full responsibility and seek help understanding why they strayed is essential to genuine reconciliation. Without this commitment from both partners, one person alone cannot repair what's broken.Even more damaging is the belief that your happiness depends on your spouse changing. This mindset surrenders your emotional well-being to someone else's choices. While their actions certainly affect you, your thoughts about those actions largely determine your happiness. Many marriages get trapped in unhealthy power dynamics where one partner positions themselves as superior (one-up) while the other feels inadequate (one-down). Breaking free requires recognizing everyone's strengths and weaknesses without keeping score. What if both partners could be simultaneously amazing and flawed? What if different approaches to tasks weren't automatically judged as right or wrong?True healing begins when you reclaim responsibility for your own happiness while releasing the expectation that your spouse must transform to validate your worth. This doesn't mean accepting ongoing betrayal—rather, it means developing the emotional independence to make clear-headed decisions about your future from a place of personal strength rather than desperate dependency. Whether your marriage ultimately survives or not, you deserve to find your way to "happily even after."Ready to break free from betrayal trauma? Connect with me at hello@lifecoachjenwithn.com or @HappilyEvenAfterCoach on Instagram and Facebook to learn how we can work together toward your healing.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textHave you ever found yourself stuck in the mindset that your spouse should be the same person you married years ago? Or perhaps you've only focused on your partner's good qualities while being painfully aware of your own flaws? In this deeply personal episode, I share breakthrough realizations about relationships that took me nearly 30 years to uncover.We explore the life-changing perspective that we're all different people than when we first married—and that's natural. I reveal how my marriage was shaped by a dangerous pattern: I could only see my husband's positive traits while he focused on my shortcomings. This imbalanced dynamic created the perfect storm for dysfunction and heartbreak. The journey from betrayal to healing requires us to see both the good and challenging aspects of our partners and ourselves with clear eyes. Only then can we make decisions based on reality rather than fantasy. I candidly share how recognizing both my value and my ex-husband's genuine flaws allowed me to finally break free from painful patterns.For those navigating post-divorce relationships, especially with children involved, I offer practical guidance on setting boundaries, managing family events, and deciding what kind of "former spouse" you want to be. These aren't just abstract concepts—I share my personal struggles, from the initial inability to even say my ex's new wife's name to finding neutrality after years of healing work.Ready to transform how you view your relationships and yourself after betrayal? This episode provides the roadmap many wish they'd had earlier. Sign up for my email at hello@lifecoachjen.com if you're ready to discover your own path to living "happily, even after."Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWhat happens when the foundation of your marriage crumbles through betrayal? Jennifer Townsend knows this territory intimately. After 26 years of marriage punctuated by her husband's affairs, Jennifer discovered the transformative power of coaching that ultimately gave her the clarity and strength to rebuild her life.The journey through betrayal trauma is unlike any other. Jennifer shares how she initially believed she could "think her way out" of the pain, and how she mistakenly carried the weight of both her own shame and her husband's. "I was surviving my life," she explains, describing the frozen state many betrayed spouses experience. This numbness becomes a coping mechanism when the reality feels too overwhelming to face.Jennifer's perspective as both a survivor and a coach offers unique insights into the healing process. She challenges common misconceptions about betrayal recovery, particularly the idea that marriage counseling should be the first step. "Healing needs to be separate until you are healed enough," she explains, noting how trauma shuts down the cognitive part of your brain, making productive couples work nearly impossible in the early stages. This counterintuitive approach allows individuals to gain clarity before attempting to rebuild the relationship.The most powerful revelation? Understanding that your partner's betrayal was never about you. This shift in perspective removes the burden of self-blame that many betrayed spouses carry. Jennifer now helps both men and women navigate this difficult terrain, teaching them how to establish boundaries, rebuild self-trust, and determine their own needs rather than focusing solely on the relationship.Whether you're currently navigating betrayal or supporting someone who is, Jennifer's compassionate guidance offers a roadmap through the darkness. Her message is clear: healing is possible, and with the right support, you can move from merely surviving to genuinely thriving again. Take the first step toward your own healing by recognizing that you deserve support, regardless of what decisions lie ahead for your relationship.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textHave you ever wondered what life could look like three years after making one of the most difficult decisions of your life? In this deeply personal anniversary episode, I reflect on my three-year divorce milestone and the remarkable transformation that's occurred since choosing to end my 26-year marriage after experiencing betrayal.The journey hasn't been easy. That first year was brutal—selling our home, moving, and watching my children struggle as they rated their healing at near-zero on a ten-point scale. But sitting here today, those same children confidently declare they're at a perfect ten. They're thriving, no longer fantasizing about their parents reuniting, but accepting and embracing our new reality with surprising contentment.What's changed for me personally is even more profound. The thoughts of my ex-husband and his new wife that once consumed my mental space have faded into neutral territory. I'm dating again—something unimaginable just a year ago—and can even envision remarriage with the right person (though they'd need to bring something truly special to the table). Most importantly, I've reclaimed my sense of self. After 26 years of not choosing me, I finally did—and that choice has transformed everything.Whether you're just beginning to process betrayal, considering divorce, or somewhere in the middle of your healing journey, this episode offers honest reflection and genuine hope. Choosing yourself might be terrifying, but the peace waiting on the other side is worth every uncomfortable step. If you're ready to move from victim to hero in your own story, I'd be honored to help guide you there. Let's create your happily even after.Year 2 episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happily-even-after-with-life-coach-jen/id1566971244?i=10006561242661st year of divorce episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happily-even-after-with-life-coach-jen/id1566971244?i=1000613968858Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textHave you ever prided yourself on being the one who "keeps the peace" in your relationships, only to realize later you might be sacrificing your own well-being in the process? That's exactly what happened to me after years of what I thought was noble peacekeeping in my marriage.In this deeply personal exploration, I unpack the critical difference between peacekeeping and peacemaking—a distinction that transformed my understanding of healthy relationships after betrayal. Peacekeepers avoid conflict at all costs, minimize problems, and often sacrifice their own needs for artificial harmony. Meanwhile, peacemakers have the courage to engage with difficult issues while maintaining compassion and respect.Through my own journey recovering from betrayal, I discovered that my so-called peacekeeping was actually preventing genuine healing and connection. I share the telltale signs you might be a peacekeeper, including feeling responsible for managing everyone else's emotions, walking on eggshells to avoid triggering others, and suffering in silence rather than addressing problems directly.Most importantly, I offer practical guidance for shifting from peacekeeping to peacemaking: identifying your triggers, setting healthy boundaries, practicing difficult conversations, and creating safe spaces where vulnerability is welcomed rather than punished. This transformation isn't about becoming confrontational—it's about finding the courage to address issues with love and integrity rather than sweeping them under the rug.Whether you're healing from betrayal or simply want more authentic connections in your life, understanding this distinction could be the key that unlocks more honest, fulfilling relationships. Listen now to discover how you can honor your truth while still cultivating genuine peace in your relationships.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textBetrayal tears through more than just marriages—it fractures entire family systems. When divorce follows betrayal, many people discover they're not just losing a spouse but also relationships with in-laws they once considered family. This emotional double-loss often goes unacknowledged but carries its own profound grief.Drawing from personal experience following my 26-year marriage, I explore the complicated terrain of navigating relationships with former in-laws after betrayal. The reality is that everyone affected—your parents who considered your ex a child, siblings who viewed them as family, and in-laws caught between loyalty to their child and caring for you—experiences their own form of grief and betrayal. These competing emotions create a complex web that requires thoughtful navigation.The most healing approach starts with self-compassion and boundary-setting. You must protect your emotional well-being first, which might mean temporary or permanent distance from certain relationships. For my own healing, I needed space from my former mother-in-law who seemed to normalize the betrayal rather than acknowledge the pain it caused. This decision wasn't about punishment but self-protection during a vulnerable time. As your healing progresses, you might find, as I did, that some relationships can resume in modified form.Children add another layer of complexity. They deserve relationships with extended family who love them, but not at the cost of their emotional safety. Open communication about expectations—like not speaking negatively about either parent—creates necessary guardrails. Remember that family gatherings are experiments; you can always adjust your approach based on how they affect you. Your healing journey deserves protection, even when others don't understand your boundaries. Subscribe for more guidance on recovering from betrayal and creating your happily even after.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textThe journey from being a hands-on parent to navigating relationships with adult children brings unexpected challenges that few of us are prepared to handle. How do we maintain meaningful connections while respecting their growing independence? When do we offer advice versus simply listening? And what happens when our children make choices that conflict with our values or expectations?This deeply personal episode explores the delicate evolution of parent-child relationships as our children mature into adulthood. Drawing from my own experiences as a divorced mother of four adult children, I share candid insights about letting go of control and embracing a new paradigm based on mutual respect. The key question that guides my approach: "What does love look like here?"We examine practical strategies for respecting boundaries, avoiding unsolicited advice, and healing past wounds through honest communication. For those who've experienced divorce or betrayal, I offer compassionate guidance on helping your children process their grief while managing your own emotional landscape. The reality is that our children witnessed our pain during these difficult transitions, and acknowledging this shared history creates space for authentic connection.Perhaps most challenging is releasing our preconceived notions about how our children's lives "should" unfold. When they choose different spiritual paths, career directions, or relationship structures than we imagined, we face a profound opportunity for growth. By trusting our children's capacity to navigate their own journeys and cultivating rich, independent lives of our own, we free them from feeling responsible for our happiness while modeling healthy adulthood.Whether you're struggling with empty nest syndrome, navigating post-divorce family dynamics, or simply wanting to deepen your connection with your grown children, this episode offers heartfelt wisdom for transforming your relationship. Ready to move beyond old patterns and create something beautiful? Join me as we explore what it truly means to parent adult children with love, respect, and genuine curiosity.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWe've all had those moments when we behave in ways that seem completely out of character—slapping someone in public, wanting to jump out of a moving car, or putting a hole in the wall. When betrayal trauma hijacks your nervous system, your body reacts before your rational mind can process what's happening. Drawing from Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce Perry's groundbreaking book "What Happened to You?", I explore how understanding trauma responses can transform shame into self-compassion. The simple shift from asking "what's wrong with me?" to "what happened to me?" opens the door to profound healing.Your betrayal response isn't evidence of weakness or instability—it's your nervous system doing exactly what it evolved to do: protect you from perceived threats. The fight, flight, or freeze reactions aren't conscious choices, which explains why you can't simply think your way out of betrayal trauma.Most post-betrayal behaviors make perfect sense when viewed through this lens. Drinking too much, emotional eating, excessive shopping or scrolling—these aren't character flaws but attempts to regulate an overwhelmed nervous system. And as Dr. Perry explains, "The most powerful form of reward is relational." Connection with supportive people provides what no substance or behavior can.I share my personal journey of understanding my nervous system, from believing I had chronic anxiety (when actually I was living with chronic betrayal) to discovering simple regulation techniques that bring me back to balance. Finding what regulates your unique system—whether it's a heated blanket, walking with friends, or doing puzzles—builds your resilience zone and reduces triggers.The path forward includes practicing "rupture and repair" in relationships, creating safe spaces where honest feelings can be expressed without judgment. This vulnerability leads to deeper connection than trying to maintain a façade of perfection.Ready to transform your betrayal story through understanding the science of trauma? Discover how your nervous system holds the keys to moving from merely surviving to truly thriving after betrayal.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textThe parallels between grief and betrayal reveal profound truths about human resilience and our capacity for healing. Drawing inspiration from Molly Bice Jackson's powerful memoir "The Commodity of Connection," this episode explores how the emotional aftermath of betrayal mirrors other devastating life experiences, offering unexpected wisdom for those navigating post-betrayal trauma.When betrayal shatters our world into a million pieces, we often feel beyond repair. Yet within this devastation lies an opportunity for transformation – what Neal A. Maxwell beautifully describes as "the cavity carved by pain can one day become our receptacle for joy." This paradox forms the heart of betrayal recovery: our capacity to experience profound joy grows in direct proportion to our willingness to feel our deepest pain.The journey from devastation to healing involves recognizing the beauty in our scars rather than hiding them. These invisible wounds become not just reminders of our pain, but testaments to our survival. By acknowledging what has happened without judgment, processing difficult emotions instead of avoiding them, and learning to meet our own needs before others', we rebuild ourselves – not as we were before, but as something stronger and more authentic.Perhaps most significantly, we discover the life-saving power of connection. When forced to choose between authentic self-expression and maintaining relationships, humans instinctively sacrifice authenticity for connection. This explains why many remain in relationships that betray their core values and needs. True healing requires finding your "tribe" – people who understand your experience without judgment and create space for your authentic self to emerge.Ready to transform your betrayal experience into something meaningful? Join me on this healing journey by subscribing to the podcast, signing up for my email list, or reaching out for one-on-one coaching to create your own "happily even after."Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textHave you ever looked in the mirror after betrayal and wondered what's wrong with you? That crushing sense of inadequacy might be the most painful emotional aftermath of an affair or significant breach of trust. But what if I told you this inadequacy isn't a fact about you—it's just a thought pattern you can change?In this raw and illuminating episode, I dive deep into the psychology of post-betrayal inadequacy and how it shapes our healing journey. Drawing from both professional expertise and my own 26-year experience with betrayal trauma, I unpack why we so often internalize our partner's actions as evidence of our own deficiencies, despite all logical evidence to the contrary.We explore the powerful "model" framework that reveals how our thoughts about circumstances (not the circumstances themselves) create our feelings, actions, and ultimately our results. Through contrasting examples, you'll see how the exact same comment from a partner can lead to either a spiral of self-doubt or an opportunity for growth and compassion—depending entirely on what thought you choose to believe.The breakthrough realization? Confidence is the antidote to inadequacy. Not brash arrogance, but quiet, grounded self-trust that allows you to distinguish between facts and others' opinions. I share practical ways to build this confidence after betrayal, including stretching beyond your comfort zone, embracing both your strengths and weaknesses, and taking small but significant steps toward independence.Whether you're in the fresh pain of recent betrayal or still carrying the weight of inadequacy from past trauma, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap to reclaiming your sense of worth. Because the most important relationship to rebuild after betrayal isn't the one with your partner—it's the one with yourself.Ready to transform feeling "not enough" into knowing you're more than enough? Listen now, and take your first step toward living happily, even after.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWhat happens when you haven't dated for thirty years and suddenly find yourself navigating modern romance at 54? After ending my 26-year marriage and spending nearly three years focused on healing, I finally took the plunge back into dating—and discovered something unexpected about my heart along the way.The dating landscape has completely transformed since I last participated in it. Gone are the days of meeting through mutual friends or chance encounters; now we swipe through dating apps filled with bathroom selfies and decades-old profile pictures. As a betrayal recovery coach, I approached this milestone with both trepidation and curiosity—would my nervous system be triggered? Would I feel like I was betraying my ex-husband despite being divorced? The answers surprised me.Unlike many who rush into new relationships post-divorce, I deliberately gave myself time to heal. This patience allowed me to approach dating with clarity about my boundaries and desires. I know exactly what I want (no camping enthusiasts, please) and what I don't want (raising young children again). This self-awareness represents tremendous growth from who I was thirty years ago.The most profound revelation came after my date ended. Sitting in my car, I realized that my heart—which I had consciously locked up "in a million chains" for protection—had begun to open. The possibility that genuine, trustworthy connections exist suddenly felt real. This emotional shift represents the essence of post-betrayal growth: not just healing enough to function, but healing enough to consider trusting again.Whether you're contemplating dating after betrayal or simply navigating your healing journey, remember that your timeline belongs to you alone. Stepping outside our comfort zones often reveals that we're stronger and more healed than we realized. Want to create your own "happily even after"? Connect with me through my email or social media and let's work together to make it happen.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWhat if the fear of abandonment is silently controlling your relationships? Join me on "Happily, even After" as we unravel the profound impact of abandonment trauma, particularly in the painful aftermath of betrayal and divorce. As a trauma-informed life coach, I guide you through embracing and processing these intense emotions rather than burying them. Discover the importance of not abandoning yourself during these challenging times and learn how self-awareness can become your most powerful tool for healing. Together, we will explore how emotional instability, insecurity, and a fear of intimacy can sabotage your personal growth and your connections with others, including your children.In this episode, I promise you insights into how abandonment issues can impact your ability to form and maintain deep emotional connections. Let's talk about the self-sabotaging behaviors that might arise from these fears, such as pushing loved ones away or becoming overly dependent in search of reassurance. We'll tackle the roots of low self-esteem and chronic self-doubt linked to past abandonment and how they can lead to trust issues and emotional isolation. You'll leave this episode with a guide to breaking these unhealthy patterns and finding strength and fulfillment in your relationships and personal journey.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textPlease follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textPlease follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWhat happens when the life you knew crumbles beneath you? Angela Tobler bravely recounts her arduous yet ultimately empowering journey of healing after the betrayal in her marriage. Battling anxiety and the nagging fear of abandonment, Angela found solace and strength in therapy and a supportive community similar to a 12-step program. Through this, she learned to confront her deepest insecurities and emerged with a renewed sense of self-awareness and the courage to set firm boundaries, eventually leading her to a life-altering divorce.Angela's raw honesty provides valuable insights into the complexities of rebuilding trust and self-worth in the aftermath of betrayal. She reflects on the emotional challenges of meeting new partners and how genuine connections must be rooted in consistent behavior. As Angela highlights the importance of accountability, self-trust, and spiritual guidance, listeners are reminded that true growth is an inner journey, not reliant on others changing for our sake. Her story underscores the need for mutual respect and honesty as pillars of any meaningful relationship.Our conversation with Angela also explores her transformation and rediscovery of identity beyond the roles of wife and mother. She shares her decision to become a coach, emphasizing a future-oriented focus on personal growth. Angela offers wisdom on the necessity of facing discomfort and the "river of misery" to unlock rewarding transformation. To support those on similar paths, she introduces a three-month program and group coaching options, highlighting the power of healing within a community. Connect with our podcast community by sharing this episode and subscribing for more inspiring stories.Angelas Info:website - courageinbetryal.compodcast - https://rss.com/podcasts/courageinbetrayalsocial media - @courageinbetrayalPlease follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWhat happens when the world you thought you knew crumbles under the weight of betrayal? Join us for a gripping conversation with Angela, a fellow betrayal coach from Colorado, as she shares her poignant journey from heartbreak to healing. Having grown up in Utah, Angela's story begins with a whirlwind romance at a tender age, shaped by cultural expectations. Together, we reflect on the power of community and the profound impact of connecting with someone who truly understands the emotional chaos betrayal brings.Discover the raw and emotional process of confronting infidelity and the agonizing decision to end a marriage steeped in deception. I recount my own experience of suspecting an affair and the gut-wrenching moment of confirmation, provided by an unexpected message from the other woman's husband. The chapter reveals the emotional rollercoaster of broken promises, temporary hopes, and the eventual, resolute decision to file for divorce, all while striving for honesty and fairness amidst the pain.As life after divorce unfolds, we discuss the turbulence that can accompany what initially seems like an amicable separation. Angela's story becomes a testament to resilience, as she navigates co-parenting tensions, sets boundaries, and faces unexpected legal battles. Despite the challenges, Angela's journey leads to a beautifully blended family and a testament to the power of healing and growth. Stay tuned to hear how you can connect with Angela and me, and continue finding inspiration on your journey to living happily, even after.To Contact Angela:website - courageinbetryal.compodcast - https://rss.com/podcasts/courageinbetrayalsocial media - @courageinbetrayalPlease follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textPlease follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textPlease follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textPlease follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWhat if the path to happiness after betrayal isn't as straightforward as we think? In this episode of "Happily, Even After," I, Jen, a trauma-informed certified life coach, explore the often messy and complex journey of recovering from an affair. Drawing from my own experiences and the stories of my clients, we tackle the difficult emotions that surface when infidelity is discovered. We'll challenge the assumption that an affair ends once it's unveiled and unpack the addictive nature of secret relationships fueled by intense dopamine hits. Setting firm boundaries becomes a critical tool for those who have been betrayed, while grappling with guilt and shame is a reality for the unfaithful. Through shared insights, I aim to offer clarity and support as you navigate these emotional challenges.As we journey further, you'll learn why making a definitive choice between mending a marriage or seeking divorce is crucial, and how living a double life leads to destruction. We'll emphasize the importance of personal accountability and self-awareness for both parties involved, while also addressing the triggers and potential relapses that can jeopardize the rebuilding of trust. For those ready to embark on a path towards healing, whether through saving the marriage or choosing to part ways, practical steps and strategies will be shared. I invite you to connect with me for further guidance on crafting a fulfilling life beyond infidelity, proving that happiness after betrayal is indeed possible.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textPlease follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textRebuilding trust after an affair feels like an insurmountable challenge, but it's a journey worth taking if you're ready to heal. How do you mend a relationship that feels shattered? In today's episode of Happily Even After, I, Jen, a trauma-informed certified life coach, guide you through the emotional labyrinth of betrayal. Drawing from my personal journey and Matthias Barker's insightful "five A's" framework—Acquire, Accountability, Acceptance, Acknowledgment, and Amends—we craft a roadmap for healing, both individually and as a couple. This is not just about patching things up; it's about redefining the relationship fabric and nurturing personal growth so that trust can genuinely take root again.Honesty, transparency, and patience are not just words but the pillars of trust recovery. Whether it's setting boundaries or diving into self-awareness, these steps are not merely strategies but lifelines that can guide you through tumultuous times. We explore the importance of understanding your own emotional state before making life-altering decisions and discuss why self-healing should precede any couple's therapy. From candid personal stories to practical advice, you'll find the tools you need to navigate the aftermath of betrayal. Share this with those who might need a guiding hand and join me on social media for more insights on thriving even after the storm.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textEver felt like the weight of betrayal and divorce is insurmountable? Join me, Life Coach Jen, as I reveal ten transformative lessons from my personal journey that promise to offer hope and healing. Through candid reflections, we'll explore the art of rebuilding an active social life, embracing the unexpected beauty of newfound companionship, and finding solace in maintaining cherished traditions, even when they feel transformed by loss. Let's acknowledge the sadness that lingers years after separation and discover how it is not only natural but can be a stepping stone toward emotional growth and renewal.Reflect on the road to self-discovery and healing, where curiosity and compassion become tools to overcome the pain of judgment and betrayal. Together, we'll redefine what a "forever family" truly means, rooted in honesty and love rather than outdated expectations. Celebrate newfound courage as we embrace new experiences and seek support when needed. For continuous inspiration and to be part of a supportive community, connect with me on Instagram and Facebook at Happily Even After, and don't hesitate to reach out for personalized guidance. Let's embark on this journey toward creating your own happily ever after.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWhat happens when the chaos of motherhood meets the pursuit of personal dreams? Jessica Erickson, a life coach and mother of four, shares how she navigated feelings of being lost amidst parenting and rediscovered her passions during a transformative retreat in Punta Cana. Hear about her journey to balance responsibilities with personal aspirations, and learn practical ways for moms to prioritize their dreams. Jessica's story offers an inspiring reminder that stepping back and investing in oneself isn't a luxury, but a necessity for personal growth and fulfillment.Ever wondered how a childhood dream can become a reality despite all odds? Through my own tale of turning an English-inspired fantasy trip into a family adventure, this episode brings to light the power of goal-setting and vision boards. Whether it's overcoming travel anxieties or budget hurdles, the experience highlights how creativity and flexibility can lead to unexpected joys and achievements. We'll also guide you on crafting effective vision boards to keep your goals front and center, offering tips and insights that promise to keep you inspired and on track towards your dreams.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textHave you ever felt trapped in the aftermath of betrayal, unsure of where to turn or how to heal? Join me, Jen, as I navigate the raw and challenging experience of overcoming betrayal with honesty and a commitment to truth. Together, we unravel the complexities of acknowledging self-betrayal and the profound impact of seeking trauma-informed support. Through personal stories and professional insights, we dive deeply into the importance of surrounding yourself with those who truly understand your journey. This episode provides a thoughtful roadmap for anyone looking to reclaim their happiness and power, even in the shadow of betrayal.This conversation is not just about healing; it's about thriving. We'll explore essential strategies for self-care, focusing on defining love on your terms and the power of small daily actions that lead to empowerment. It's time to shift from victimhood to a place of strength, where assessing relationships and creating a personalized self-care plan can lead to growth and reconnection. Whether you're navigating divorce or simply redefining your life's story, discover how you can create your "happily ever after." Embrace your unique healing journey with us and take the first steps towards a fulfilling future. Don't forget to connect with me for more insights and support as you walk this path.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textHave you ever felt the urge to completely reinvent yourself after a life-altering betrayal or significant transition, like a divorce? I certainly did. But what I discovered on this journey was the transformative power of small, manageable changes. Through my story, learn how the concept of a "five-degree shift" can subtly alter your life's trajectory, leading to profound and positive outcomes over time. Imagine an airplane slightly adjusting its course to reach a new, better destination. This analogy sheds light on how minor tweaks in our daily habits can eventually lead to significant transformations without the overwhelm of drastic change.Navigating the emotional aftermath of betrayal is no easy feat, but it's essential for healing. By acknowledging and processing emotions such as hurt, sadness, and anger, we can avoid falling into traps like resentment and self-rejection. I'll share personal anecdotes and practical strategies for overcoming these emotional challenges, from preparing for worst-case scenarios to embracing humility as a tool to combat shame. As we explore the importance of naming and understanding our emotions, you'll gain insights into transforming negative feelings into opportunities for emotional healing and personal growth. Embrace the journey of gradual change and emotional awareness, and discover how these tools can pave the way for a healthier, more fulfilling future.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textUnlock the secrets to nurturing a truly healthy and respectful relationship by understanding the crucial role of consent in marriage and intimate partnerships. Ever wondered how open communication can transform your connection with your partner? Discover practical strategies like the "want, will, and won't" list to clearly define and respect each other's boundaries, and learn alternative ways to express needs when words fall short.Explore the profound impact of consent, not just in sexual interactions but also in areas like financial decisions and parenting, as we unpack how to maintain a stable and trusting environment. Addressing sensitive issues such as marital rape, betrayal, and the nuanced dynamics of intimacy and trust, this episode is a heartfelt call to action for couples to cultivate a supportive, communicative relationship. Connect with our community on social media for ongoing support, and seek guidance to navigate the challenges of rebuilding trust and ensuring safety in your relationship.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textEmotional affairs are more than just a grey area in relationships; they're a growing threat in our social media-fueled world. Have you ever wondered how innocent online interactions can spiral into something that endangers your marriage? This episode promises to arm you with the insights to recognize the often subtle signs of emotional infidelity, such as secretive conversations and finding emotional solace outside your partnership. By fostering self-awareness and honesty, I explore how you can safeguard your relationship from these emotional entanglements and the potential path they pave towards physical affairs.Relationships are complex, and navigating emotional infidelity within marriage requires understanding the underlying causes, like unmet needs or simple boredom. This episode walks you through differentiating between harmless friendships and more damaging emotional affairs, pinpointing the secrecy and emotional involvement that can lead to betrayal. With actionable advice on accountability, communication, and self-reflection, I guide you toward healing and strengthening your marriage post-discovery. Whether your goal is to repair a wounded relationship or simply maintain a healthy one, you'll find practical tips on creating your own happily ever after, underscoring the importance of aligning your actions with your values and commitments.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textEver wished you had a shield against drama and confrontation during family gatherings? Discover the transformative power of gray rocking and yellow rocking, two strategies that can help you navigate toxic relationships, especially during the holiday season. I'm your host, Jen, and in this episode of "Happily, Even After," I unpack these methods that empower you to protect your emotional well-being when interacting with difficult individuals. Whether you're dealing with a toxic spouse, a challenging co-parent, or that particularly pesky relative, learn how to become as unremarkable as possible, diffusing potential conflicts and maintaining your boundaries.The holiday season often brings us face-to-face with family members we rarely see, making it crucial to set boundaries that protect your peace of mind. This episode is all about ensuring you show up as your best self, feeling safe and secure, no matter the situation. I share strategies to help you focus on the essential purpose of interactions, avoiding distractions that could lead to unproductive arguments. Join me on a journey towards healing from betrayal and personal challenges, and feel free to connect with me for further support and resources. Share these insights with anyone who might benefit, and let's move confidently towards a healthier, happier future.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWhat if you could redefine your life by simply reevaluating the choices you make every day? This episode unlocks the power of re-deciding, a transformative approach to consciously crafting a fulfilled and meaningful existence. As a trauma-informed life coach, I share insights through a personal journey, including a revealing conversation about the little choices, like having a TV in the bedroom, that echo past experiences and beliefs. We're diving deep into how adults can shake off the shackles of outdated expectations and choose anew, creating paths that truly align with happiness and personal well-being.Embarking on this journey with me, you'll discover the liberating process of making intentional choices during life's pivotal moments—whether it's in love, career, or personal development. Through inspiring stories of moving past divorce and choosing new paths, I show how you can seize control of your narrative and live authentically. We're also extending gratitude to our listeners and exploring how your support helps others in similar situations discover this empowering content. Together, we'll embrace change, bringing excitement and authenticity into your life. Join the community and let's redefine our "happily ever after" together.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textJoin us for a transformative conversation with Trisha Jamison, a relationship coach and expert in betrayal trauma, as she unveils how our bodies harbor the scars of emotional wounds. Trisha, who collaborates with Tony Overbay's "Waking Up to Narcissism" group, shares profound insights into how unresolved traumas manifest as physical ailments. Drawing from her expertise as a functional nutritionist, she guides us through understanding the nervous system's role in healing. Trisha also opens up about her personal journey, balancing a thriving career with the joys and challenges of raising six children and soon welcoming her 11th grandchild.Discover how emotional traumas, if ignored, can lead to chronic physical symptoms like migraines and digestive issues, while gaining valuable strategies for true healing. We emphasize the importance of tuning into the body's signals, a theme explored through Bessel van der Kolk's seminal work "The Body Keeps the Score." Learn how acknowledging and processing these emotions can alleviate physical discomfort and improve long-term well-being. This episode promises to equip you with the tools to foster a healthier future after experiencing betrayal, offering a blend of professional expertise and personal wisdom that's both enlightening and inspiring.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textDiscover the keys to rebuilding trust and healing after betrayal in this transformative episode. Join Jen, a trauma-informed certified life coach, as we discuss the intense emotional rollercoaster that follows the revelation of a partner's affair. Learn how our brains react to betrayal as if facing a life-threatening danger and explore strategies to calm your mind and spirit. From hypervigilance to transparency, we unpack the intricate dance of regaining control and rebuilding trust.In our candid conversation, we address the emotional chaos that betrayal unleashes and why it's crucial to remember that an affair reflects a partner's choices, not your inadequacy. Study the power of self-care, setting firm boundaries, and the importance of observing actions over words to assess a partner's commitment to change. Whether you choose to stay or leave, we'll explore how to navigate this tumultuous journey by focusing on your needs and healing process.Finally, we delve into the path of moving forward after betrayal with accountability at its core. The person who caused the hurt must take full responsibility for their actions to mend the relationship. We offer practical tips for managing recurring thoughts, filling your mind with positivity, and shifting your mental focus to facilitate healing. Embrace the mindset of living fully and happily, no matter the past, and reach out to Jen for further guidance on your path to recovery.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textHow much betrayal can you really put up with before tolerance turns into self-betrayal? This episode unpacks the complex relationship between tolerance and betrayal in personal relationships, inspired by a powerful client thought download. Through personal stories and experiences, the episode explores how tolerance—often hailed as a virtue—can become a double-edged sword, particularly when it intersects with betrayal. From the intricacies of marriage to the broader societal issues that test our patience, learn how to navigate the fine line between accepting quirks and enabling harmful behaviors.Ever wondered where the tipping point lies between putting up with something and saying enough is enough? We journey through the process of moving from mere tolerance to true acceptance, focusing on setting boundaries and recognizing when tolerance becomes unhealthy. By sharing personal transformation stories, the episode encourages listeners to self-reflect on what they tolerate in their lives and relationships. There's an emphasis on fostering grace and compassion for oneself while advocating for greater societal empathy. Tune in to discover the path towards a "happily even after," supported by a community that encourages meaningful dialogue and personal growth.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWhat happens when the foundation of your life crumbles overnight, and you're left to pick up the pieces? Jennifer Townsend, the inspiring voice behind the "Happily Even After" podcast, shares her transformative journey through betrayal, divorce, and self-discovery. Join us for an illuminating conversation as Jennifer recounts the emotional storm that followed the revelation of her partner's infidelity during the pandemic. With a blend of vulnerability and strength, she delves into how she moved past the insecurities and emotional abuse to make the pivotal decision to divorce after 26 years, ultimately reclaiming her self-worth and embracing a future built on self-love and personal growth.Throughout this episode, we navigate the tumultuous waters of forgiveness and healing, with Jennifer offering profound insights into mending fractured relationships, especially with family. From grappling with outdated beliefs about marriage to finding joy and freedom in the present, her story is a testament to resilience and transformation. Discover how Jennifer's podcast emerged from a lack of supportive resources, aiming to guide others towards happiness after life's most challenging events. Whether you're facing similar struggles or seeking inspiration, this conversation promises to provide the wisdom and encouragement needed to pursue happiness and healing.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textEver felt the sting of betrayal and wondered how to piece your life back together? Join me on a heartfelt journey as I share personal insights inspired by a road trip with my daughter and Oprah Winfrey's "What I Know For Sure." Discover how recognizing personal truths can empower you to heal from a spouse's affair. You'll learn about the importance of trusting your intuition, focusing on your own healing, and understanding that infidelity is a flaw in the betrayer, not a reflection of your worth.Navigating the aftermath of betrayal is complex, but recognizing red flags and demanding genuine remorse and transparency can pave the way to rebuilding trust. We tackle the tough conversations about self-love, accountability, and processing emotions like anger and pain. Whether or not your marriage survives, embracing the fact that the affair was not a reflection of you is key to fostering self-worth and resilience.Finally, explore the transformative power of a trauma-informed perspective and the mind-body connection. By shifting from a victim mentality to one of empowerment, you can rewrite your life story with intention. Divorce doesn't have to be the end; it can be a new beginning leading to happiness and fulfillment. Dive into 13 insightful tips for recovery and healing, and join our community as we share experiences and support each other in building a resilient future. Stay connected and continue this conversation on social media under Happily Even After. Let's create a life filled with strength and joy together.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWhat if you could face your past with confidence and peace? In this heartfelt episode, I share my personal journey of healing from betrayal, offering insights into the delicate balance between apathy and neutrality. Join me as I recount the emotional milestone of attending my daughter's graduation, where I encountered my ex-spouse after a long time. Discover how building a strong zone of resilience within the nervous system can empower you to navigate life's challenging moments with grace. We also explore a listener's question that sheds light on the often-confused emotions of apathy and neutrality, helping you understand their distinct roles in the healing process.The path to recovery is never walked alone. Through the support of my brother and embracing shared emotions, we uncover the power of connection in overcoming feelings of betrayal and loneliness. Learn how trying new activities can breathe life into your emotional landscape, and why acknowledging all your emotions, from anger to sadness, is crucial for healing. This episode also invites you to become part of a community dedicated to creating fulfilling lives, encouraging you to reach out and share your journey. Let's continue to support each other, learn from one another, and strive for our own "Happily Even After.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textSorting through sentimental clutter after a significant life change can be an emotional rollercoaster, but it can also be profoundly healing. After my divorce, I discovered the powerful impact that decluttering had on my mental health and overall well-being. In this episode of Happily Even After, I share my personal journey of downsizing and letting go of items that held both cherished and painful memories. By embracing this process, I found a new sense of peace and clarity, and I want to help you experience the same.We dive deep into the emotional and psychological aspects of decluttering. You'll learn practical strategies to identify and tackle clutter, set manageable goals, and make thoughtful decisions about what to keep. Our discussion highlights how recognizing emotional attachments to items can be both a challenge and an opportunity for growth. We provide innovative solutions such as creating digital records of cherished belongings and tips to avoid unnecessary purchases. Whether it's involving friends, hiring professional cleaning services, or finding ways to make cleaning more enjoyable, this chapter offers a comprehensive guide to maintaining a tidy and stress-free home.Creating a peaceful and organized living space is essential for healing, especially after major life transitions. We explore various safe methods to dispose of unwanted items, whether through selling, donating, or giving them away. I share personal experiences that underscore the emotional benefits of decluttering, plus actionable tips for involving family members in the process. From organizing small areas like a drawer to setting larger goals like clearing out the garage before winter, we aim to inspire you to achieve a more organized home and a decluttered mind. Join us on this journey to increased peace, joy, and healing, and don't forget to connect with us for more tips and support.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textHave you ever wondered how an affair can deeply scar a relationship, not just emotionally but physically too? Inspired by the gripping narrative of "Big Little Lies," we uncover the profound impacts of betrayal and deceit on our well-being. Through personal experiences and compelling examples from the show, we narrate how lies can spiral into a web of manipulation, leading to increased heart rates, anxiety, and even long-term health issues. Join us as we shed light on the hidden physiological costs of dishonesty and stress that often accompany infidelity.The cascading effects of constant lies can be devastating to both parties in a relationship. For the liar, the weight of deceit manifests as cognitive dissonance and chronic stress, while the betrayed partner may struggle with depression, reduced self-esteem, and relentless mistrust. Using vivid scenarios from "Big Little Lies," we illustrate the turmoil and confusion perpetuated by deceit. Additionally, we delve into the signs of pathological lying, helping you identify behaviors that may erode the foundation of your relationship.Understanding why people lie, especially within the confines of marriage, is crucial for healing and rebuilding trust. Often, these dishonest behaviors root back to childhood fears and anxieties about losing a loved one. By highlighting the importance of honesty, we stress that actions speak louder than words and emphasize the need to recognize behavioral red flags. We also discuss setting clear boundaries and trusting your instincts as essential steps toward fostering a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Tune in to learn how to navigate these complex issues and work towards a more honest and joyful life.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textAre financial fears holding you back from taking control of your future? In today's episode of Happily Even After, we unpack the critical connection between finances and divorce, especially for stay-at-home moms. We tackle the complex emotions tied to financial independence and illuminate why mastering financial literacy is essential, regardless of your relationship status. From understanding household bills to building your own credit, you'll gain practical tips to help you navigate these tricky waters and secure a stable financial future.Financial independence isn't just for those contemplating divorce; it's a necessity for everyone. I discuss why having a credit card in your own name, being involved in tax preparation, and developing a rapport with your accountant are all steps towards financial preparedness. We'll also touch on key investment and retirement concepts, such as 401(k)s and IRAs, and the crucial task of reassessing beneficiaries and legal advisors after a separation. Empower yourself with the knowledge to take control of your finances and ensure a secure future, no matter where you stand.Overcoming financial insecurities post-divorce is a journey, but it starts with belief and practical tools. Learn how budgeting tools like Rocket Money can help you transform from a self-perceived poor budgeter to a confident financial manager. We also explore emotional spending and how to address the underlying issues driving those habits. Teaching financial responsibility to children, negotiating bills for cost savings, and other strategies are discussed to help you rebuild and thrive. Connect with me for further guidance and start believing in your ability to achieve financial independence and happiness even after significant life changes.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWhat happens when the foundation of your life crumbles beneath you? In this episode of "Happily, Even After," I take you through the harrowing journey of experiencing betrayal in my marriage. I recount the gut-wrenching moment of realizing that I couldn't control the outcome, no matter how desperately I tried to save my family. From personal anguish to the broader understanding that hitting rock bottom can stem from a myriad of life events like job loss or severe health issues, we explore the emotional and psychological triggers that lead to such low points. Importantly, we discuss how some people avoid true healing by continuing to dig deeper into their despair rather than facing it head-on.But despair isn't the end of the story—hope is the true catalyst for change. In the second segment, we focus on the arduous yet rewarding path of rebuilding trust after betrayal. Drawing on therapeutic insights, we delve into the importance of transparency, accountability, and mutual effort in mending fractured relationships. We discuss how consistent communication and actions can help restore trust, and clarify that forgiveness is about letting go of resentment, not excusing harmful behavior. This episode underscores the transformative power of hope and personal readiness in overcoming betrayal, offering listeners a road map to a stronger, healthier future.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a textWhat if embracing vulnerability could transform your life after betrayal? Join me in this enlightening episode of "Happily Even After," where I draw from Gabor Mate's "The Myth of Normal" to share my personal journey from feeling stuck in a victim mentality to finding empowerment. Discover how looking inward and examining our own reactions instead of blaming others can prevent us from being triggered by past traumas. I recount my story of moving from a place of powerlessness to one of strength through life coaching, and encourage you to recognize and address your feelings of victimhood sooner rather than later.We'll dive deeper into the healing journey by exploring the importance of processing emotions like anger, sadness, and disappointment. Learn to identify key indicators of being stuck in victimhood, such as defensiveness and self-blame, and understand how self-awareness and a neutral coach can help you overcome these patterns. Finally, I invite you to create your "happily even after" life and share this podcast with friends. Connect with me on social media for more tips and guidance on achieving your goals, and sign up for my email list at hello@lifecoachjen.com. Let's work together to transform your life!Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a Text Message.Discover the transformative power of "response flexibility" and its role in healing from trauma with insights from Gabor Mate's groundbreaking book, "The Myth of Normal." How does trauma skew our emotional responses, making us react in ways that don't align with the actual triggering events? By tuning into this episode, you'll learn how to rewire your brain for healthier reactions, fostering personal growth and reducing stress-related chronic diseases. We'll also highlight the critical importance of self-awareness and the value of coaching in overcoming automatic defensive behaviors. Have you ever wondered why your immediate reactions, like frustration while driving, seem out of proportion? These behaviors often stem from unresolved past traumas. Acknowledging these without self-judgment is key, and having a coach can provide the external perspective needed to navigate this journey. Tune in and get inspired to take the first steps towards a more self-aware and fulfilling life. Be sure to sign up for updates at hello at lifecoachjenwith1ncom to stay connected on your path to healing and personal growth.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Thanks for listening to Happily Even After PodcastHow do you navigate the tangled web of relationships with your adult children after betrayal? This episode is a must-listen for anyone grappling with the aftermath of infidelity and its impact on family dynamics. I'm Jen, a trauma-informed certified life coach, and today, we're diving deep into Parenting Adult Children Post-Betrayal. Drawing from my personal journey and expert insights from Psychology Today, I discuss how to respect the autonomy of your adult children while offering unwavering love and support. By encouraging open communication and staying neutral towards your ex-spouse, you can empower your children to make their own decisions as they navigate their relationships with you and their other parent.Honesty is the cornerstone of trust, especially when it comes to difficult conversations about infidelity. In Navigating Relationships With Adult Children, I share raw, personal anecdotes that highlight the importance of being truthful with your children. Discover why children can process the truth better than deception and how finding alternative outlets for your emotions can prevent further harm. We also cover the significance of using neutral language about your ex-spouse and setting clear boundaries. Creating agreements about what information your children want to know ensures a respectful and supportive family environment.Healing and repairing relationships post-betrayal is a journey, not a sprint. In our final chapters, Repairing Relationships After Betrayal and Healing Relationships Post-Betrayal, I underscore the necessity of taking full accountability for your actions and understanding the profound impact of those actions on your children. Learn the value of listening to their feelings and providing a safe space for them to express their emotions. Acceptance of your ex-spouse's behavior and focusing on your personal well-being are crucial steps in this process. Whether you're looking for guidance through coaching or just need a supportive voice, this episode offers the tools and insights to help you and your children move forward, living happily even after betrayal.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Thanks for listening to Happily Even After PodcastHave you ever found yourself comparing your happiness to that of your ex-partner? Today, we unravel the emotional turmoil of post-betrayal comparisons and how they hold you back from true joy. Join me, Jen, as I share my personal journey through years of emotional abuse and betrayal, and the transformative process of rebuilding my life. Learn why it's essential to process all of your emotions—anger, sadness, devastation—to pave the way for genuine happiness. Let's break free from the toxic cycles of judgment and comparison, and focus inward to reclaim your worth and potential for a fulfilling life.In this episode of "Happily, Even After," we explore the damaging habit of measuring your happiness against your ex's, especially when they've moved on or remarried. I dive deep into why their happiness does not diminish your worth and how to shift your focus inward for self-growth. You'll understand the importance of dealing with the aftermath of betrayal by fully feeling your emotions. Together, we'll tackle the myths that plague your mind and keep you stuck. Remember, the reality of why your relationship ended is key to your healing. Let's work together to help you live happily, even after.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Thanks for listening to Happily Even After PodcastIs it possible to rebuild trust and happiness after the devastation of betrayal? In this episode of "Happily Even After," we strip away the ten most harmful myths that often accompany infidelity, starting with the toxic notion that the victim is to blame. We shift focus to the real culprit: the insecurities and poor choices of the betrayer. Through relatable examples of well-known public figures who have endured betrayal, we emphasize that you're not alone in your experience. We further explain how coaching can be a vital tool in overcoming these false beliefs, restoring self-esteem, and fostering a path toward healing.Moving forward, we highlight the emotional hurdles and misconceptions that typically surface when trying to rebuild a marriage after an affair. From the perils of becoming a vigilant observer of your spouse's actions to the misconception that happiness is forever lost, we provide healthier alternatives and stress the importance of trusting your intuition. Forgiveness is unpacked as a crucial step—not as a pardon for the betrayal, but as a release of emotional weight. We also confront the misguided idea that remaining in an unhealthy marriage is better for the children, arguing for healthier dynamics regardless of marital status. Finally, we explore the unique nature of each situation, asserting that infidelity doesn't have to spell the end of a relationship. Join us as we work together to create your own "happily even after.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Send us a Text Message.Ever feel like your obligations are weighing you down, turning life's joys into chores? Discover how shifting your mindset from obligation to commitment can transform not only how you approach responsibilities but also how you experience life. Today on "Happily, Even After," we delve into the nuanced differences between obligations and commitments. By exploring real-life scenarios, from mortgages and child support to marriage and parenting, we reveal how a commitment-based approach can infuse your daily life with joy, love, and a sense of fulfillment. You'll gain practical insights into how this mindset shift can improve your relationships, whether with your spouse, children, or even professional endeavors like exercise and dieting.In a deeply personal segment, I share my journey of staying committed despite my husband's infidelity, shining a light on the profound impact of emotional well-being and mindset. This episode emphasizes that true change starts within, affecting not just our relationships but our overall happiness. Through practical examples, we'll explore how commitment fosters proactive attitudes and better cooperation, even in challenging interactions with former spouses or landlords. If you're ready to embrace a commitment-based approach and want to create healthier, happier relationships, this episode is your guide. Don't forget to stay connected for more personalized coaching at hello@lifecoachjenwith1n.com.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Ever felt trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and avoidance, especially after a painful betrayal or divorce? Discover how my own experiences of feeling diminished and criticized in a toxic relationship led me to find my voice and reclaim my confidence. In this episode of Happily, even After, I unveil eight transformative strategies for standing up for yourself. We'll unpack the importance of processing intense emotions like anger and betrayal, and reveal how engaging in activities that genuinely bring you joy can be a powerful act of self-care that boosts your confidence.But that's not all—building confidence extends beyond self-care. I share my journey with betrayal support groups and the instant, meaningful connections they fostered. Learn why a strong support system is crucial and how embracing independence through tackling unfamiliar tasks can significantly enhance your self-worth. We'll also delve into the essential practice of self-forgiveness and granting yourself grace for past mistakes. Whether you're navigating the aftermath of a divorce or simply seeking to build a more self-assured life, this episode offers actionable insights and heartfelt personal anecdotes to light your path to empowerment.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Ever felt like you're caught in the relentless cycle of go-go-go? Discover why taking a step back might be the ultimate game-changer for your well-being. Drawing from my own experiences post-divorce, I'll share how embracing rest not only reduced my stress levels but also enhanced my emotional resilience. This episode packs a powerful message: rest is not a luxury but a necessity for our immune system, emotional health, and cognitive functions.Join me as we tackle the myth that constant activity equals productivity. Learn how simple practices, like taking short breaks in a dark room, can drastically improve your mental and physical health. In a society that glorifies busyness, it's time to reclaim rest and self-care. I also extend my hand as a coach to those struggling to incorporate rest into their lives. Stay connected via social media and my email list to continue your journey towards a balanced, healthier life.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

Imagine discovering a hidden struggle in your marriage that shakes your sense of trust and security. Katie, our courageous guest, faced just this when she learned about her husband's battle with pornography—a revelation that came a year into their marriage. In this powerful episode of "Happily, Even After", Katie shares her deeply personal journey from naivety to awareness, and how she now channels her experiences to help other women navigate the betrayal and healing process. From meeting her husband during their LDS mission in Armenia to building a life on a hobby farm in South Carolina, Katie's story is a testament to resilience and growth.Together, Katie and I unpack the intricate layers of recovery from betrayal. We discuss the pivotal moments of honesty that helped shift the focus from addiction itself to underlying issues like shame and perfectionism. This episode emphasizes the importance of individual inner work, highlighting how separating personal growth from the addiction can transform a relationship. Monitoring a partner's behavior can be exhausting, but Katie offers insights into how focusing on personal development can pave a hopeful path towards a successful marriage.Effective communication is key in tackling difficult subjects, and Katie shares practical strategies for discussing pornography with both partners and children. From the use of written notes to the significance of early, open conversations with kids, Katie provides actionable advice for fostering emotional education and creating a non-judgmental space for dialogue. Don't miss the valuable insights and resources, including Katie's work as the Christian Betrayal Coach on Instagram. This episode promises to equip you with the tools for healing, growth, and meaningful communication.https://www.upwardinwardoutward.co/Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com