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First aired September 6, 2026 Dennis Bairos oversees more than 29 fitness locations across Texas, and somewhere between the grand openings and the late-night emails, he noticed a pattern: he was the guy who'd rather miss a flight than admit he needed help, the coach whose sideline energy made his own wife ask if he was okay, and the traveler who'd rather squeeze in one more phone call than let 20 free minutes in a rental car go to waste. That pattern became his book, Wired Like This: Why Men Push Too Far and Still Say, I Got It!, a look at the small, everyday decisions at home, at work, and on the sideline of a kid's game that shape how men actually behave, often without them noticing. We talk about why "I got it" might be the most dangerous phrase a man can say, the difference between healthy work ethic and ego-driven burnout, why men go all-in on a hobby and then abandon it completely, and how his wife became the one voice who could see what he couldn't. Watch this episode https://youtu.be/sRsXcIgmVAo In this episode Why "I got it" might be the most dangerous phrase men say, and the ego hiding underneath it How Dennis's competitive, all-or-nothing wiring showed up coaching his kids' T-ball team, and the moment his wife had to tell him he'd gone overboard The real story behind missing a flight because he couldn't stop multitasking, even for a 20-minute drive to the airport Why work ethic can be a genuine skill and a trap at the same time, and how to tell the difference before it becomes burnout What's actually happening when a man goes all-in on a hobby, buys all the gear, and then drops it completely a year later How framing "asking for help" as the next level of leadership, instead of a weakness, changes the way teams operate Why a leader's pace becomes part of their identity, and the hidden cost that pace puts on everyone who reports to them Timestamps (00:01) Welcome and guest intro: meet Dennis Bairos, author of Wired Like This (00:57) His background in high-growth fitness leadership, and how that pace carried over to parenting (03:51) "Stop half-assing it": the moment Dana's own son called out her push, push, push mentality (05:54) Is "I got it" a male trait, or does Dana see it in women too? (08:38) The fear of slowing down: work ethic, ego, and the competition to be first in, last out (12:06) The missed flight: a real-time example of multitasking costing more than it saves (14:55) Why "I got it" might be the most dangerous thing men say (18:25) Reframing asking for help as the next level of leadership, not a weakness (22:13) What his wife saw in his coaching that he couldn't see in himself (24:52) The T-ball season that revealed his coaching had gone overboard (27:13) Why men go all-in on a hobby, then drop it completely (33:22) The airport conversation that changed how he leads: why a leader's pace becomes their identity (36:53) Where to find Dennis, his book, and his Instagram About Dennis Bairos Dennis Bairos is the author of Wired Like This: Why Men Push Too Far and Still Say, I Got It! A husband and father of three, he oversees more than 29 fitness locations across Texas as a senior leader in high-growth, high-volume organizations. He writes about the small, everyday decisions at home, at work, and on the sideline of a kid's game that shape how men actually behave. Connect with Dennis on Instagram or LinkedIn. His book, Wired Like This, is available exclusively on Amazon. Favorite quotes "I got it" might be the most dangerous thing men say. —Dennis Bairos "When your pace becomes your identity, the people who follow you don't just see the results — they see the costs." —Dennis Bairos "You will be more successful, and looked at as someone that's admired a little bit more, because you took that extra step and showed courage to ask for help." —Dennis Bairos Resources mentioned Wired Like This: Why Men Push Too Far and Still Say, I Got It!: Dennis's book, available exclusively on Amazon Dennis on Instagram: @keep.the.edge Dennis Bairos on LinkedIn Subscribe & connect If this episode gave you something to sit with, follow Phoenix and Flame so you never miss an episode: all apps in one place, or jump straight to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube. And if it moved you, leave a review; it's the easiest way to help another listener find the show. Learn more about Phoenix and Flame, connect with Dana, and listen to more episodes here. Ready to find your own voice on stage? Dana's a big fan of Mic Drop Academy, a public speaking and group coaching program built for women. Watch the free webinar, join a workshop, or dive into the bootcamp to build the confidence to speak up and be heard. (These are affiliate links — Dana may earn a commission at no extra cost to you.) Read the full transcript [Dana] (00:01) Welcome, friends. Whether you're out on a walk, running errands, or relaxing at home, it's wonderful to connect with you. Joining us today is Dennis Bairos. Dennis is the author of Wired Like This: Why Men Push Too Far and Still Say, I Got It! He's a husband, a father of three, with a background in senior leadership. He writes about the small, everyday decisions at home, at work, on the sideline of a kid's game, that shape how men actually behave. Dennis, welcome to Phoenix and Flame. [Dennis] (00:47) Yeah, thanks for having me. Guilty — yeah, all of that's correct. I did write that book. Happy to be here, and looking forward to the conversation. [Dana] (00:57) This is fantastic. First of all, I'm interested in a bit of your background. You said you were in senior leadership — since I do a lot of work in the corporate space, helping people with burnout, that was one of the things that drew me to you: the masculine, the male mindset that could possibly trip somebody up at work. I work with high performers, and they say the things that are in your book. So I want to create some space for you to share — what experiences have you had in senior leadership, what have you noticed there, and also with your family, and how these things helped you arrive at writing a book? [Dennis] (01:47) Yeah, so I've been in the fitness industry for quite some time — practically my entire career. Most of the organizations I've been with, including the current one, have been really high-volume, high-growth companies. I currently oversee over 29 locations here in Texas, big-box fitness spaces, so really rampant growth. Most of my career, I've had to move pretty fast — it's nonstop. I've had to work a lot, and most of it is self-induced, just me trying to keep up and trying to be a high performer myself. I think that's natural for me — I'm a natural leader, so I'm always taking probably more ownership than the average person. And that's carried over to my family and my children. I noticed early on that I brought that over to my kids as well. Once they started getting into youth sports, that drive, that push, the long practices, the long hours — it's funny, on a podcast last week I was asked, "do you feel like you're bringing over your own competitiveness from your past as a child competing in sports?" And I thought about it for a second — I don't think so. I don't have this unsettled, failed athletic career I'm trying to settle through my children. I think it's just natural for me to push, to teach kids that if you want to get better at something, you've got to keep practicing, keep moving. I'm kind of an all-or-nothing person. I don't watch many sports, but the ones I do, I'm all in, a diehard fan. That's really how I run my life — it's very much natural. [Dana] (03:51) I love this description. I'm taking notes as you're talking, because I don't want to interrupt you. I'd like to be able to say the same — no, I'm a very competitive person. I get bruises playing musical chairs, and that's not hyperbole — I literally had bruises from my shoulders to my ankles playing musical chairs one year at a fall festival at my church. So I'm thinking of the phrase, "if you're not bleeding, you're not playing." I have three kids as well, and my husband is also a very competitive person. And my youngest son confronted me, appropriately so, one time — I'd said to him one too many times, "stop half-assing it," and he called me on it. I feel like it was appropriate, because I was so in my own head about push, push, push, push, and he'd had it — I'd gone too far. I think that's a lot of what you're talking about in your book, and I want to hear more. Your book is focused on men, and I want to ask — if your experience has been, not necessarily with your daughter, but with coworkers, friends — do you feel like this can be a personality style? Have you run into men who didn't have this "I got it, I'm not going to use GPS, I'm going to figure this out" kind of drive? How much of that do you feel is a male trait, which I think a lot of people would agree with, and have you seen these traits in some of the women you've interacted with as well? [Dennis] (05:54) Certainly. From a female perspective — my wife and I, the dynamic between us — my wife works incredibly hard, works remote, homeschools all three of our children, works out every day, but she's got this self-regulation in her that I don't seem to have, or at least mine doesn't work the same way. She'll come up with reasons to sleep and the need for sleeping, and I come up with reasons not to sleep. Even though I have a fitness-minded background and know the importance of it, for whatever reason, I can't seem to sleep past 6 a.m. on a Saturday. So I see similarities across the board. What's interesting is when I released the book, I started getting calls and texts, or I'd run into people — men who I'd think have completely different personalities from mine. Guys who don't have children, don't participate in sports, aren't ultra-competitive — they'd read my book and tell me, "we're a lot alike." I found that interesting. There are so many patterns and similarities, whatever it may be, male or female — I'm focusing on the male perspective because that's who I'm mostly around, but at the surface it may look a little different, while deep down there are drives in people that are very similar. [Dana] (07:37) I get that. You pointed out something in your book I thought was really interesting, especially given my exposure to high performers — I've had them in my office on FMLA, having panic attacks, because they just push, push, push and don't know how to set boundaries. I'm known as the Queen of Boundaries, and they didn't know how to set them, they were just pushing. There's this idea in your book — this feeling that if you slow down, if you're not the first one there, not the first one with the answer, if you bring it down from 85 miles an hour to 55, you're simply going to lose out, someone else is going to get there first. I think that's such a common experience. Tell us more about your experience with that, people you've seen, and what's in your book about it. [Dennis] (08:38) Yeah, I can offer two perspectives. One is, as I grew up, work ethic was, and still is, really my main skill. I think that for people like me, we believe that if you work harder than most people, you're going to be much further ahead. I think that can be true in many cases, and it carries on naturally for me. The other side of it is the ego and the pride — I think that still exists in so many pieces of business and leadership. When I travel a lot for work, and we do grand openings for new locations, there's a lot of executive leadership there, peers of mine, and there's almost this competition of who's going to leave first, who's going to stay later. It's so silly, but it drives people — who's going to be the first to leave, who's going to be last, who's putting in longer hours. I think that exists, and subconsciously it fuels exactly what we do in some cases. So I think work ethic is still a main skill, a trait that carries most people further than others. And there's a lot of talk and a lot of opinions being thrown around about younger generations and how their work ethic is lesser or whatnot, so I think it's even more amplified now, trying to show younger generations that you do need to put in the work. But you've got to find the balance, and avoid that hot word: burnout. [Dana] (10:40) That's a big deal. I love the word "balance," because that's it, in a big way. It's sort of like if you go too far with push, push, push, push, you're going to burn out if you add too many things. But on the other hand, if you don't have some kind of work ethic, then yes, other people are going to perform better than you, and they're going to get the raises, the promotions — that's just how life works. It's trying to find that balance. You mentioned something in your book about the cold plunge, and I love this example. I'd like to hear you talk about how we sometimes add things like that, thinking, "this is going to give me the edge, this is a good idea" — and there's always another good idea around the corner. I'm interested in your thoughts about the short game versus the long game, because in terms of burnout, how many things can we add that make us look fantastic in the short game, but we're not going to last long doing all of that? What was your experience, and your thoughts, on the cold plunge and cracking that ice outside? [Dennis] (12:06) Well, I'll give you a great example — I do write about this. I consider myself not a professional multitasker, but certainly someone who just lives on that most of my days and weeks. I'm conscious about it — I'm like, hey, Dennis, you're doing too much, you should stop. But I'm just wired like that, where I have to find every opportunity to use up my time. Not long ago, I was traveling for work, heading to one city for an interview, then right back to the airport to another city, where I'd be for a couple of days. I'm in the rental car driving to the airport, and I thought, I've got about 20 or 25 minutes, I need to make a couple of calls. When I'm in work mode, there's no podcast, no music — I'm just trying to find every single thing I can do throughout the day. So I take two calls, pull up to the airport, disconnect the Bluetooth, put my headphones in, wave the rental car woman off, start walking to the terminal. I get to TSA, grab my briefcase, and I'm like, wait, where's my carry-on? I left it in the car. I'm walking back, finally finish my phone call, of course — call my wife, let her know. I said, "hey, I left my carry-on, just a heads up." She's like, "are you going to make it?" And without a doubt, I'm like, "yeah, I'm going to make it, it's only a five-minute walk." I get back and the car is gone, nowhere to be found. I'm sitting there waiting, waiting, waiting. That's a mistake I often make, and I'll reflect on it, but it's sometimes hard to peel back — the multitasking, trying to cram everything into every minute. It cost me: I missed my flight. [Dana] (14:16) Oh my gosh, that is such a useful and practical example. I'm sure listeners right now, or viewers on YouTube, are thinking, "yeah, I've done that, I know what that's like" — like spinning so many plates that they just start dropping. You write that "I got it" might be the most dangerous thing men say. Talk about that — what do you mean, and why do you feel like that could be the most dangerous thing men say? [Dennis] (14:55) I've seen it in a couple of different ways. Interestingly, I actually had somebody come to me after reading my book, thinking the "I got it" phrase was something different than I intended, but I'll expand on that. I think there's certainly a lot of ego that plays into it, and there's a sense of security for others. For example, my wife, since we moved to North Texas, has become this expert storm tracker — I'm not even kidding, the minute we got off the plane and had our first thunderstorm, she started following all the experts. It's funny, because she knows way more about storms than I do now, yet she's still much more bothered by it. I ignore all of it — if it's going to rain, it's going to rain, we'll deal with it. So I'm naturally the person who says, "we'll deal with it when we get to it, it's not a big deal, we'll be okay." Sometimes I say that without even consciously meaning to — it's just a habit for me to repeat back. Same thing with traveling a lot — I write about this in the book — I'll think, "hey, I'll make my flight, when I get there, I get there, it's no big deal." I say that naturally, and I think it hurts me sometimes, for sure. The other side of it, and the perspective somebody pointed out to me, is more of a growth-mindset miss. I think people, especially in the leadership world, feel like they have to put out that they have all the answers, all the solutions. So I hear a lot of guys say "I got it," meaning "I understand the objective, I understand what I need to do" — and it's really not happening. I think they're sugarcoating what's actually going on, and they're afraid to say, "hey, I don't actually have it, I need more clarity on this, I need to learn more about this." So it can hit in a couple of different ways, and I'm seeing that in leadership a lot as well. [Dana] (17:26) That makes a lot of sense, and I've seen this too, heard people talk about it — this fear of admitting they don't know how to do something, because if they admit that, that's failure, and they might be passed over for a promotion, someone else might get ahead of them. I'm wondering if you have any insight on how we could create an environment in the workplace that would allow men to admit, "look, I've got this part on lock, but I don't know much about this part over here — can we team up, can you help me?" What are your thoughts on phrases, words, an atmosphere that could move things in a better direction? [Dennis] (18:25) Yeah, what I try to do, especially as a leader and also as a father, is explain: hey, I expect you to be as resourceful as you can. I admire that, and you're going to get a lot of credit for being the person who just figures things out and doesn't always have to ask for help. You're going to be more successful than the average person if you do that. However, when you get to the point where you can't figure it out anymore, where you've exhausted the resources, you have to be able to pause and think, "who else can I reach out to, what kind of expert can I go to?" That's the next level. Framing it that way — that you'll be more successful, more admired, because you took that extra step and showed the courage to ask for help — has helped others in my field, and with my children as well. [Dana] (19:38) I love this example. I'm thinking about how teams work, from a psychological perspective — that could even offer an opportunity to lift up a teammate and help them feel like they have something to contribute, something you need, because you're going to them saying, "hey, I feel like you're an expert in this area, I'm not — can we have coffee for twenty minutes and let me pick your brain?" That seems like it would really help the whole team environment, help everyone feel a little more appreciated and acknowledged for what they know. [Dennis] (20:17) Sure. Yeah, I use the term "level up" a lot, and being a difference maker. Framing it that way — most people are going to do what you're doing, they're going to figure it out, do all the research they can, but once they get to the point where they can't do it anymore, that's where the next level up happens, that's where changes really start. And also explaining that the pride sitting in the way, thinking "if I go to this person for guidance, they're going to think of me as lesser or weak" — trust me, they're going to be thinking more about how good it feels that you went to them. So it's a mindset shift, and it's been a key unlock many times in my career. [Dana] (21:12) As you're explaining this, I'm thinking about the word "balance" you used earlier, and about different personality styles on teams. On one end you have someone with a lot of pride who's afraid to admit they don't know the answer — after a while, you can't trust that person, because you know they're going to go too far, they're going to say "I got it" when they don't, and you're wondering when that's going to play out in front of a client. On the other end, you have people who won't ever take initiative, maybe because they lack confidence, and they're always asking "how do I do this," very dependent on those around them. That doesn't work either. So I love the balance you're talking about. Now, your wife is a recurring voice in your book. What do you think she saw in you that you couldn't see? [Dennis] (22:29) It's interesting — she often calls me a unicorn, and when I came up with the idea for the book, she said, "Dennis, this isn't going to hit home with anyone, you're unique, I don't know anyone like you." I was able to convince her otherwise, because I've had so many people respond saying, "I'm just like you, I do the same things, maybe a little differently." She only sees what she sees. The biggest part I got from her was centered around the youth coaching piece — she was able to bring to light that I visibly appeared more bothered coaching my kids than other coaches did. We'd get in the car, and she'd say, "are you okay? I could tell you were pacing, getting louder than you normally do — you've got to chill." I'd brush it off at first, but it continued, and it kind of snowballed into other stories. I'm so passionate about coaching, leading, sports in general, and developing children, that I would have just kept going in that direction — to me, it was normal. I see an opportunity to coach a child, I do it. I see an opportunity to address a referee, I do it. That's what I signed up for as head coach, that's my job. She was able to frame it differently for me: "look, you're acting a little different than other coaches." That's probably been the most impactful thing for my life, and my parenting — she was able to offer that lens. [Dana] (24:30) When she was making that observation, what do you think she was actually observing? You said she said you act different from other coaches, that you seemed more bothered — with some hindsight now, what do you think was going on with you that was causing those behavioral changes she noticed? [Dennis] (24:52) Starting off with, say, T-ball, five or six year olds, maybe a little younger — I noticed most coaches were very hands-off, just high fives, "you're doing a great job," very little direction given, which is fine. But I started to notice children who signed up for T-ball would give it a year and not come back, because very quickly in baseball and other sports, kids get exposed — they're a step behind other kids, and it's not fun anymore because they're not playing well, they're getting embarrassed. I spent a lot of time with my kids playing in the backyard, put in that extra work with them, and saw the difference. Parents started coming up to me saying, "how much does your kid practice, they seem like a natural" — and I'd get offended, I'd say, "my kid's not a natural, I know where he started, I put in the extra work with him." I saw the difference between a child who just goes home and doesn't practice and one who shows up for practice once a week. So my first year of coaching, that carried with me — I continued to be that coach who provided more development, more direction, constant feedback. But then it started to go a little overboard — raising my voice, not necessarily at the kids, sometimes directed at the environment or the other coaches. I saw it work for my child, and it just naturally progressed. That's when she started to notice, "hey, I think you're going a little overboard." [Dana] (26:56) That makes sense, I totally understand that. So to that point — thinking about coaching as a hobby, or other hobbies men get involved in — what do you think is actually going on when a guy goes all-in on some hobby? We all know guys who go all-in on some hobby for a few years, buying all the stuff, looking it up online, all the things, and then they just drop it. All of a sudden, they drop it, and now there's a garage full of equipment, all this time and money allocated. What's going on at that point, when you see a man doing that? [Dennis] (27:47) For me, the reason we go all in is it becomes an identity — this is who we want to be. I think it's a way to stay competitive, a way to latch onto something. Once you realize this isn't the identity you want anymore, or it's not working, you completely drop it — it's almost like you want to forget it ever happened, and you latch onto something else. There's some competitiveness to it, some drive — you start a new hobby, you see where you can get to with it. But for most, I think it's an identity thing: I want to be the golfer, or the car guy, or whatever it may be. That's mostly where it comes from. [Dana] (28:50) So then why do they just automatically stop? What happened to that need to identify with it? [Dennis] (29:00) Again, for me, it's realizing it's either not working, or it becomes something you feel you failed at — you never got to the level you wanted to be. For example, with golf: I started golfing myself, and my son naturally picked it up. As soon as I realized this wasn't going to be something I'd do for a long time, or reach the level I wanted to, and now my son's into it — it automatically changes, now it's about my son. So I think it's a little bit of giving up, realizing this isn't going to be something I'm going to be amazing at, so why not cut ties with it now. It loses its luster — it's not as sexy as it was in the beginning. [Dana] (29:57) It's not as novel anymore. [Dennis] (29:58) Right — and maybe also, reminders from the wife that you're spending too much money on something, that you've gone overboard, help too. So I think for me it's mostly that I'm not getting to where I initially thought I would, and so why don't I cut ties. [Dana] (30:20) I can totally understand that, and again, back to balance — I can see how in some instances that makes total sense, but in other cases, if somebody had a habit of doing this over and over, with an expectation of themselves as being "a-plus" at something, the whole perfectionism thing — if they're not a-plus, they won't have anything to do with it. [Dennis] (30:45) Yeah, well, and then there's also my obsessive personality and nature, where I want to be an expert at whatever hobby I have. I mention in the book that I was a wannabe wine connoisseur at one point, pairing meals and all these things, and fast forward a couple of years, I don't even drink it anymore. But at the time, I was really excited and passionate about it, wanted to learn everything about it. So I think that initial burst of energy that goes into learning something new is what carries on and creates the habit, or the obsession, or whatever it is. I don't know if it's like that for most, but for me, for sure, it's that initial burst of energy that also triggers the all-in approach. [Dana] (31:42) As you're explaining that, I have an observation and a question. The behavior pattern you're describing, being drawn to something novel, wanting to learn something new — that's very common for people with higher levels of intelligence, because they learn quickly, then get bored easily, and want something new. That's fabulous, but I'm also trying to lay that over the business realm. What's your experience been with men and how they can satisfy this need to learn more, to do more, this wiring toward pushing, without burning out? How do they find that balance when they're in a workplace, in leadership, maybe smarter than the average person in the room, or in a room full of very smart people, and wanting that novelty — how do they not take that too far, set that boundary? And along the same line, what if their employer wants them to stay in one particular area because they're fantastic at it, and they start getting burned out because they want something new? What's your experience been with men along these lines? [Dennis] (33:22) I'll comment on your first point. It's a little easier in leadership to reflect on this, but one of the biggest lessons I've had over time — I used to be the guy sending out emails at midnight or 4:30 in the morning. I still occasionally do, not intentionally, just catching up, or getting up early. What most leaders don't realize is the impact that has on the recipient of that email — some are going to think, "my boss is emailing me at midnight, now I need to respond." One of the biggest learning lessons I had was at an airport one day — I often talk to other business travelers, and that day I happened to be on a midday flight, which I almost never do, usually a 6 or 7 a.m. flight, I don't like flying anything later than 9 a.m., it feels like I'm losing time. I started chatting with a guy and said, "I normally do early morning flights," and he looked at me and said, "I never do early morning flights — I used to, when I was younger." We got into a conversation, and he basically told me that, especially as a leader, when your pace, your work ethic, becomes your identity, the people who follow you, who work for you, don't just see the results — they see the costs. They start to internalize, "I don't know if I want to do what he does, I don't know that I want to be sending emails at 4 a.m., jumping on a plane at 6 a.m. every Monday." That had a profound effect on me, realizing my pace was potentially putting a damper on others, especially the people who report to me — I don't want them to feel like they have to catch up. That's been a huge shift for me. As for the novelty piece — I do move on from things pretty quickly, but I have seen others who want to move from one thing to the next, and I can say that I do complete my work, complete my projects. I put excellence and doing things well over quantity, so I'm not someone who wants to move on to the next job or anything like that — I truly want to master my craft in whatever environment I'm in now. But I have seen several people who want to move from one thing to the next. [Dana] (36:13) Yeah, again, back to balance, trying to figure that out — it's a minefield sometimes, and it's about choices, figuring out how to do it the right way. We are unfortunately out of time today, but Dennis, I know the listeners and viewers want to know how to get a hold of you, how to learn more about you and your book. And since I have the book right here, I'm going to show it — anyone on YouTube will be able to see this. I love it. So, is there a website you'd like them to visit? How would you like them to access you? [Dennis] (36:53) The best way would be Instagram. It's funny — before I wrote my book, I hadn't done a Facebook post in seven years. I naturally don't have a large audience, I was very rarely on social media, just focused on parenting, work, and taking care of myself. Then I wrote the book and realized I've got to market this thing, so I started an Instagram page, and I've been having a lot of fun with it, trying to keep it light and post content that adheres to a lot of different audiences. It's "keep the edge" on Instagram — keep dot the dot edge. That's the best way to find me. And the book is available exclusively on Amazon, so that's the best way to catch me. [Dana] (37:53) Fabulous, got it. And that's all going to be in the show notes. Dennis, I really appreciate you spending your precious time, your knowledge, your wisdom, your experience, your stories with myself and all of my listeners and viewers. Thank you very, very much. [Dennis] (38:12) Yeah, thank you so much for having me, and appreciate your time as well. Take care. [Dana] (38:16) Now, listeners, viewers, I know you've heard multiple things today that made you think, "I have a friend, a family member, a coworker who needs to hear exactly what Dennis is saying." Take this podcast episode, copy and paste the link, send it in a text, send it in an email, post it on your favorite social media sites, so we can grow our Phoenix and Flame community and let people know: you are not alone. I hope your day has been great. I hope the rest of your day is fantastic. I'm Dana, on Phoenix and Flame. 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What if the plan you were handed (work harder, max out your 401(k), and wait for retirement) is the very thing keeping you from the life you want? In this episode of Winners Find A Way, Coach Trent M. Clark sits down with Joey Muré, founding partner at Wealth Without Wall Street, where he helps business owners stop trading time for money by building passive income that exceeds their monthly expenses. By his late 20s, Joey was earning over $300,000 a year in the mortgage industry. On paper, he was winning. In real life, he was working 60 to 70 hours a week and missing his family. One walk down a beach boardwalk, watching his wife and daughters head the other way, showed him that more income was not the answer. Joey and Trent talk about how to define what freedom looks like for you, why retirement can become a deferment of life, and how Infinite Banking lets your dollars do two jobs at once. Joey explains why being debt free is not the same as being financially free, and why the right investment is the one that fits who you are. Joey also shares the hardest decision of his career. He walked away from a $300,000 income, started from zero, and began teaching others what he had learned. Today, he and his business partner Russ have built over $50,000 a month in passive income. This episode is a reminder that winners are not people who never face adversity. Winners are the ones who learn, adjust, grow, and keep finding a way. In This Episode, We Discuss: Why a higher income is not the same as financial freedom The financial freedom formula: passive income that exceeds monthly expenses How to dream again using the Be, Do, Have framework Why Joey calls retirement a deferment of life The GPS framework: Goal, Plan, and Support Infinite Banking explained in simple terms Why debt free can still mean broke The Investor DNA Profile and choosing passive income that fits you Building a castle and moat so you are ready for the next economic shift Key Takeaways ✨ More income will not buy back your time. Joey earned over $300K a year and still never left the office. Freedom starts when passive income covers your monthly expenses. ✨ Debt free is not financially free. Groceries, utilities, insurance, and daily life never get paid off. If you only focus on debt, you never build the income side of the formula. ✨ Make every dollar do two jobs. Infinite Banking works like a rewards card. You use money you were going to spend anyway, but it works for you first. ✨ Invest like you, not like someone else. What works for someone else may not fit your personality, resources, or values. Know who you are as an investor and go deep. Resources Mentioned Wealth Without Wall Street (book) Wealth Without Wall Street page for Winners Find A Way listeners: https://wealthwithoutwallstreet.com/winnersfindaway Wealth Without Wall Street Quiz: https://quiz.wealthwithoutwallstreet.com/ Investor DNA Profile The 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss Cashflow board game by Robert Kiyosaki The 4 Disciplines of Execution Leading Winning Teams by Trent M. Clark Connect with Joey Muré Website: https://wealthwithoutwallstreet.com/winnersfindaway Free Quiz: https://quiz.wealthwithoutwallstreet.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-mure-b376824/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wealthwithoutwallstreet Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wealthwithoutwallst X: https://x.com/withoutwallst Connect with Trent M. Clark Trent M. Clark is the CEO of Leadershipity, President of EOS Michigan, a Bloom Growth Coach, a global speaker, former Major League Baseball coach, and author of Leading Winning Teams. Website: https://www.trentmclark.com/ Leadershipity: https://www.leadershipity.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Leadershipity LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/trentmclark/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TrentMClark Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/trentmclark/ Bloom Growth Coach: https://www.bloomgrowthcoach.com/coaches/trent-clark/ Book: Leading Winning Teams: https://leadingwinningteams.trent-clark.com/bookrecording79 Listen & Subscribe Listen to Winners Find A Way every week on YouTube and all major podcast platforms for conversations with leaders, athletes, entrepreneurs, and high performers who know what it means to overcome adversity and keep finding a way.  

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Did you know that jealousy can strengthen a relationship? That's what my podcast guest, Ally Iseman, believes. She's an award-winning creator, author, Certified Relationship Coach and Kink Aware Professional. Ally works with couples and individuals who are at transition points in dating and relationships. Whether they want to open their relationship to include more people, explore play parties together, or just open up more authentically to each other about their kinks and curiosities, Ally helps them open up without breaking up. In this episode:Is jealousy nature or nurture?How understanding jealousy can be beneficial to our relationshipsWhat jealousy tells us about ourselves and our partnersWhy some people get more jealous than othersConnect with AllyWebsite https://www.passport2pleasure.com/ IG https://www.instagram.com/allyiseman FB https://www.facebook.com/official.p2p YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@passport2pleasure TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@passport2pleasure Free Jealousy quiz: https://Thejealousyquiz.com ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio or Spotify https://tinyurl.com/lfdradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, apply for a complimentary 30-minute breakthrough session with me https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Are you really ready for the relationship you want? Take my Free Quiz https://lastfirstdate.com/dating-relationship-readiness-quiz/ ►Free Facebook for women https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get my books: Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Submit your dating dilemma to be answered on my podcast https://tinyurl.com/datingdilemma ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ► TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lastfirstdate1 ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at https://getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  

Send us Fan MailYour children are learning from more than the lessons you intentionally teach them. They are also watching how you work, communicate, handle stress, treat your spouse, use your phone, manage money, respond to failure, and keep your promises.In this episode of The Mindset Cafe, Devan Gonzalez explores parenting through example and the behaviors children may begin to view as normal inside their homes. This is not an episode about being a perfect parent. It is a conversation about self-awareness, integrity, presence, and recognizing the lessons being demonstrated through everyday actions.What does your child learn when you make a mistake? What do they see when you are angry? Does your work ethic demonstrate responsibility, or could your constant absence teach them that success requires sacrificing relationships? Are you giving your children your attention, or are you only physically near them while your mind remains somewhere else?Devan breaks down modeled behavior across work, marriage, money, fitness, failure, emotional control, technology, promises, and adversity. He also explains why repairing mistakes in front of your children may be as meaningful as trying to avoid mistakes altogether.Your kids may forget some of what you tell them, but they are constantly forming an understanding of life through what they repeatedly experience around them.The question is not only, “What am I teaching my children?”The deeper question is, “What am I normalizing for them?”Support the showThanks for listening & being part of the Mindset Cafe Community.----------------------------------------------Follow On Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/mindsetcafepodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/devan.gonzalez/Let me know what topics or questions you want covered so we can help you achieve your goals faster.----------------------------------------------Are you taking the right supplements to maximize your mind and body in fitness & health. Take a FREE Quiz to see if you are.> FREE QUIZ

BANKSYING — the slow disappearing act that leaves you heartbroken.There's a new name for something that's been happening forever, and it might be worse than ghosting.Banksying is when someone emotionally checks out of the relationship long before they actually end it. They're still physically there. Still texting. Still showing up. Maybe still saying I love you. But emotionally they're already gone — already down the road.It's like living with someone who's packing their bags in secret.You don't know you're being left. You just feel a temperature change. And every time you bring it up, you're told you're imagining it.In Episode 329 of Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis breaks down why this one does so much damage — and why confusion hurts so much more than rejection.In this episode:How Banksying differs from ghosting, and why the ambiguity is the injuryWhy people do it — and why it's usually avoidance rather than crueltyWhy The Fantasy Loop™ feeds on it: the less information you get, the bigger the fantasy growsThe seven signs, including the one most people misread — conflict disappearingWhat to do if it's happening to you, and what to do if you're the one doing itBy the time the breakup arrives, they've had weeks or months to process it. You get about five minutes. That's why it feels so devastating.Their withdrawal was not proof that you weren't enough. Their avoidance belongs to them, not you.The Fantasy Loop survives on ambiguity. Healing begins in the truth.Take the free Fantasy Loop Quiz to find out which stage you're in: https://quiz.thefantasyloop.com

Send us Fan MailYour brain isn't broken if you're terrified it'll happen again. After betrayal, it's common to feel like you have to stay on watch 24/7 because the last time you relaxed, you got blindsided. That fear can turn into checking, scanning, replaying, and spiraling, and it's exhausting.We dig into a truth that can feel both disappointing and relieving: worry is not protection. You can't worry someone into being faithful, you can't obsess someone into being honest, and hypervigilance doesn't control another adult's agency. What it does control is your body and your day, keeping your nervous system stuck in high alert and pulling you out of the life that's actually happening right now.We also make an important distinction between awareness and anxiety. Healing doesn't mean ignoring red flags or dropping boundaries. It means learning to separate facts from the stories fear adds, then responding to real information with clarity instead of living inside an imagined future. I share simple coaching tools like writing down the facts, doing a thought download, and asking three grounding questions when worry shows up.The biggest shift is moving from “I need to trust them completely” to “I trust myself.” You may never get a perfect guarantee, but you can build something stronger: self-trust, boundaries that protect you, and the confidence that you'll know what to do if life hits hard again. If this helps, subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find support.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

Ladies, men who waste your time tend to show the same five patterns. Once you can spot them early on, you'll be able to save yourself time, frustration and heartache.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio or Spotify https://tinyurl.com/lfdradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, apply for a complimentary 30-minute breakthrough session with me https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Are you really ready for the relationship you want? Free Quiz https://lastfirstdate.com/dating-relationship-readiness-quiz/ ►Free Facebook for women https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get my books: Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Submit your dating dilemma to be answered on my podcast https://tinyurl.com/datingdilemma ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ► TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lastfirstdate1 ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at https://getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  

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The brand that gets noticed isn't the one trying to fit in. It's the one willing to stand out.In this episode of the Be Unmessablewith podcast, Josselyne Herman-Saccio sits down with brand strategist and Lab Creative founder Laura Beauparlant to talk about what actually makes a brand memorable, magnetic, and built to grow with you.Laura shares her journey from running a custom wedding stationery company to becoming a brand strategist and developing her signature Brand Camp methodology. Together, Josselyne and Laura unpack why so many entrepreneurs struggle to see what makes them different, why your brand shouldn't fit who you are today, and why being willing to repel the wrong people may be one of the smartest things you can do for your business.They also dive into the relationship between a founder's personal brand and business brand, the importance of creating repeatable systems, and why taking the next action, especially when circumstances don't go according to plan, is what makes you Unmessablewith.In this episode, you'll learn:Why a powerful brand should attract the right people and repel the wrong onesHow to stop fitting in and start building a brand people actually rememberWhy your brand should reflect who you're becoming, not just who you are todayHow to separate your personal brand from your business brandWhy repeatable systems create more freedom, consistency, and flowWhether you're an entrepreneur, founder, coach, creator, artist, or business owner ready to become more visible, this conversation will challenge you to stop worrying about how everyone else in your industry does it and start building a brand that is unmistakably yours.Discover How Unmessablewith Are You? Take the Free Quiz now and get a roadmap to elevate your unmessablewithness.https://form.typeform.com/to/Ch8Mn9YbCheck out the founder's Brand Playbook:Find Laura at: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/LabCreativeInc/Connect With JosselyneWebsite: beunmessablewith.comInstagram: @beunmessablewithFacebook: UnmessablewithnessLinkedIn: josselyneherman-saccioYouTube: @beunmessablewith

Send us Fan MailIf you stopped producing, achieving, earning, building, or winning, would you still know who you are?For many high achievers, productivity is no longer something they do. It has become the foundation of their identity. Accomplishment makes them feel valuable. Slowing down creates guilt. Rest feels uncomfortable, and an unproductive day can feel like evidence that they are falling behind.In this episode of The Mindset Cafe, Devan Gonzalez explores the hidden connection between productivity, self-worth, achievement addiction, and identity. He breaks down how ambition can quietly turn into a constant need to prove yourself, why successful people struggle to enjoy rest, and what happens when a business setback, injury, retirement, vacation, or major life transition removes the role that once made them feel important.You will learn how to recognize productivity guilt, separate your identity from your results, maintain high standards without making every outcome personal, and build a stronger sense of self that does not disappear when your performance changes.This episode is not about becoming less ambitious. It is about making sure your ambition serves your life instead of becoming the only reason you believe your life has value.Ask yourself the question most high performers avoid:If you're not producing, who are you?Support the showThanks for listening & being part of the Mindset Cafe Community.----------------------------------------------Follow On Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/mindsetcafepodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/devan.gonzalez/Let me know what topics or questions you want covered so we can help you achieve your goals faster.----------------------------------------------Are you taking the right supplements to maximize your mind and body in fitness & health. Take a FREE Quiz to see if you are.> FREE QUIZ

LOVE ADDICTION IN THE AI WORLD — what happens when technology becomes the relationship.Somebody gets a text and they don't know what it means, so they ask AI. What does this mean? Do you think he's losing interest? Can you analyze every word? How should I respond?And somewhere around the third question, they stopped talking to that person. They're talking to an interpreter now.Everybody is talking about AI and jobs, AI and school. Almost nobody is talking about AI and intimacy — and intimacy is where Brianne Davis lives.This isn't the episode where somebody tells you AI is evil. She uses it. It makes work easier. The question in Ep. 328 is narrower than that, and a lot harder: what function is AI serving in your emotional life?She takes it through the Fantasy Loop™:Why fantasy gives you the feeling of connection without requiring the risk of connectionWhat an AI companion offers somebody already struggling with abandonment — and why that's seductive, not harmlessAsking AI what his text meant, and the exact moment you stop talking to a personAt what point rehearsing a conversation becomes avoiding itThe one question worth asking. Not is AI good or bad. Is this moving me toward life, or away from it?Fantasy used to stay in your head. It had to — there was nothing on the other end of it. Now technology can participate in the fantasy with you.That changes the whole freaking game.Real intimacy asks you to tolerate uncertainty, disappointment, repair, being SEEN. AI asks you for none of it. That's the appeal, and that's the problem.Take the free Fantasy Loop Quiz and find out which stage you're in: https://quiz.thefantasyloop.com

Send us Fan MailBetrayal can make you feel impulsive, panicked, and desperate for answers. That's exactly why I wanted a seasoned family law voice on the show, someone who has seen what helps and what quietly wrecks a case. I'm joined by Mark Chin, a Mississippi divorce attorney with 48 years in practice, and we get honest about the early moves that protect your future if you're facing separation, infidelity, or divorce.We start with the two patterns Mark sees over and over: people wait too long to talk to a divorce lawyer, and they confront a suspected affair too soon. He explains why an early consultation doesn't force you into divorce, it simply gives you options. We also dig into the “evidence trail” most couples accidentally create through angry texts and emails, and how emotional discipline can keep your pain from becoming courtroom ammunition.From there, we move into the hardest parts: kids and money. Mark shares why children usually already know something is wrong, why many kids assume divorce is their fault, and how a parenting plan can work better than winner-loser custody labels. We talk financial reality, what “equity” means in family law, and why the court is not there to crown a winner. Finally, we explore AI legal advice and why tools like ChatGPT can educate you but can't replace experience, human care, or “knowing your judge,” then we end with a hopeful look at collaborative divorce as a more peaceful path.If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs steady guidance, and leave a review so more people can find support when life breaks open.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

Can you turn a situationship into a relationship? Sometimes. It depends. Here are five ways to make the shift from a situationship to a relationship!►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio or Spotify https://tinyurl.com/lfdradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, apply for a complimentary 30-minute breakthrough session with me https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Are you really ready for the relationship you want? Free Quiz https://lastfirstdate.com/dating-relationship-readiness-quiz/ ►Free Facebook for women https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get my books: Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Submit your dating dilemma to be answered on my podcast https://tinyurl.com/datingdilemma ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ► TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lastfirstdate1 ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at https://getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  

I'm not getting back on track.I'm moving forward as a completely different woman.April through August felt like a massive identity shift for me. I was shedding an old relationship, an old version of myself, an old version of my business and honestly, a lot of old ideas about what I thought my life was supposed to look like.And now it's September… and something feels different.I feel creative again. Curious again. Excited again.That's where My Magic Momentum comes in.In this episode, I'm sharing the 5 things I'm doing to create this next season from identity, alignment, intuition and action, without forcing, hustling or trying to become someone I'm not.Letting the old version of me be DONEChoosing curiosity over certaintyMaking my personal brand actually PERSONALFollowing what feels magnetic, not just what makes senseCreating a life that feels magical while I'm building itPlus Magic Moves you can make right now in real time with me! We love aligned action steps to take!Find me on Social on IG Grab my FREE QUIZ or book a Human Design Reading or let's work 1:1 on my website XO Your Business Coach Elyse

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THE SECRET LIFE OF MALE LONELINESS — 400 people on your phone and nobody you can call at 2am.Male loneliness doesn't look like loneliness. It looks like working all the time. Going to the gym. Gaming for eight hours. Dating app after dating app. It looks like a man sitting next to someone he loves and still feeling completely alone.In Episode 327 of Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis breaks down male loneliness — why it's happening, how it hides, and what actually helps. Not male bashing, and not "men just need more friends." Something deeper than that.In this episode:What male loneliness actually looks like — busyness, achievement, irritability, cynicism, withdrawalThe messages boys receive that make men good at functioning and bad at being knownWhy independence becomes armor, and why you can't build a relationship wearing a shieldThe single biggest sign: not who you could text, but who you could tell the truth toFive practices that actually build connection — starting with one honest sentenceFor generations boys were told: be strong, don't cry, don't be needy, figure it out, don't let people see you struggle. Intimacy requires being known. A lot of men were never taught how.Loneliness doesn't end when somebody finds you. It starts when you let yourself be found.If this one lands, send it to a man in your life. That's the whole ask.If you or someone you know is struggling: in the US, call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7. If you're in immediate danger, go to your nearest emergency room.

Send us Fan MailThe hardest part of co-parenting after betrayal isn't always the logistics. It's the story you keep telling yourself about what your ex “should” be doing and the emotional whiplash that hits when they don't follow through. Today we get brutally honest, in a way that's meant to bring relief, about why chasing the fantasy of a suddenly reliable co-parent keeps you stuck and dysregulated.I break down a distinction that changes everything: the difference between a “Disneyland parent” and a “convenience store parent.” One may be fun-focused but still consistent and involved. The other shows up only when it works for them, cancels when something better comes along, and leaves you holding the emotional and logistical load. We also play with other truth-telling labels (holiday parent, highlight reel parent, revolving door parent and more) not to shame anyone, but to help you see patterns clearly so you can plan your life without constant resentment.From there, we shift the spotlight back where your power actually is: who you're becoming. I share how I think about being the anchor parent, why “believe the patterns, not the promises” matters, and what real boundaries look like when pickups run late or parenting time is inconsistent. We talk about stopping the habit of parenting your former spouse, protecting kids from becoming messengers, and letting disappointment be a normal human emotion instead of an emergency you have to fix.If this lands in your chest, you're not alone. Subscribe, share this with a friend who's co-parenting through divorce, and leave a review so more people can find support when they need it most.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

Send us Fan MailEvery hard decision has a price, including the decision to keep waiting. This episode breaks down how overthinking, fear of failure, people-pleasing, sacrifice, and the hidden cost of indecision affect business, relationships, fitness, finances, and personal growth. Devan Gonzalez gives you a practical decision-making framework to compare tradeoffs, choose the cost you are willing to accept, and move forward without waiting for perfect certainty.Support the showThanks for listening & being part of the Mindset Cafe Community.----------------------------------------------Follow On Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/mindsetcafepodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/devan.gonzalez/Let me know what topics or questions you want covered so we can help you achieve your goals faster.----------------------------------------------Are you taking the right supplements to maximize your mind and body in fitness & health. Take a FREE Quiz to see if you are.> FREE QUIZ

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THE HEALING LOOP - the cycle that brings you back to yourself.You know you're in the loop. That's one thing. Knowing how to get out of it is another thing entirely. The Fantasy Loop™ is the seven-stage cycle that keeps you attached to unavailable love - and it has an answer. Every stage of the fantasy loop has a healing response, and together those responses are the Healing Loop.In Episode 326 of Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis breaks down the Healing Loop - the seven-stage way out of The Fantasy Loop - and shows exactly how the two cycles speak to each other.In this episode:Why activation isn't love, and how we mistake anxiety for chemistry and uncertainty for excitementWhy potential is not a relationship, and what to ask about who someone actually is todayHow you end up trying to get today's person to repair yesterday's wound, and why they can'tWhy healthy love can feel boring at first, and what "boring" is actually telling your nervous systemThe Healing Loop, all seven stages: Awareness & Truth, Regulate & Stabilize, Choose Reality Over Fantasy, Heal the Wound, Reclaim Self & Strengthen Identity, Integrate & Live It, Open to Healthy LoveThe goal was never to stop feeling this. The goal is to know what to do when you feel it. The fantasy loop taught you to chase. The healing loop teaches you to return.You're not broken. You're becoming.Take the free Fantasy Loop Quiz to find out which stage you're in: https://quiz.thefantasyloop.comIf this one hit, send it to the person who's been telling you about their situationship for six months.

Send us Fan MailThe moment betrayal hits, your brain starts demanding a guarantee: which choice won't hurt as much, which choice your kids will “be fine” with, which choice you'll regret less. I slow that panic down and challenge the question underneath it, because “Should I stay married or get divorced?” often turns into a right-versus-wrong trap that keeps you frozen for months or years.We talk about why there may not be one objectively correct answer after infidelity, and why both staying and leaving can hold grief, uncertainty, and growth. I unpack the moral stories that get layered onto divorce especially in religious communities and how to separate morality from your preferences, values, and real-life consequences. This isn't about proving you're a good person. It's about deciding which life you're willing to help create next.I also break down why fence sitting feels safer but usually creates the most misery, and why you should give yourself time to calm your nervous system so you're not deciding from fight, flight, or freeze. You'll hear the exact questions I want you to ask when you're craving certainty, plus how to build self-trust so you can take the next step without needing a perfect forecast. If you're ready to get off the fence and move forward with clarity, subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review so more people can find support.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

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In this episode of Beat Nurse Burnout, Shan sits down with Susan Ro — creator of the Aligned Leadership Method, host of the Leadership for Busy Working Moms podcast, and a woman who knows firsthand what it looks like to rebuild your life around what actually matters. Susan went from the high-energy world of New York City fashion to teaching, marriage, motherhood of four boys, and eventually to coaching and leading other women — and the thread running through all of it is a simple but radical conviction: that lasting leadership starts with leading yourself, in alignment with Christ, before it ever extends to anyone else. This episode is for the nurse who is excellent at her job and exhausted in her life. It is for the woman of faith who has confused people pleasing with godliness. It is for the high achiever who has never once thought of herself as a leader — because she has spent her entire career following someone else's agenda. In this conversation, Shan and Susan talk about: The through line God was weaving through Susan's career path that she could not see until she looked back What busy working moms and nurses have in common no matter how different their circumstances look on the outside Why leading yourself first is not selfish — and how to reframe it as the most faithful thing you can do How aligning your life to Christ functions as a leadership strategy — not just a spiritual practice — and what that changes about daily decisions, schedules, and relationships What to say to the woman who has never thought of herself as a leader because she has always been the one taking orders How people pleasing hides inside faithfulness and how to finally recognize it for what it is What stewarding your own life — your health, your time, your calling — looks like as an act of obedience rather than selfishness How to actually debrief after a hard shift or a hard day instead of just absorbing it and carrying it home How to articulate your feelings clearly — because clarity about what you are experiencing is the first step to leading yourself out of it What stepping into obedience to who God called you to be actually requires — and what it costs to keep saying no to it If you have ever felt like leadership was something you did for other people and never for yourself — this episode is going to reframe everything. Connect with Susan Ro:

THE LAVA TRAP — you're not chasing them. You're chasing what you believe they'llmake you feel.Have you ever said, "I don't even want them back — I just want them to want me"?Or found yourself checking their social media, waiting for a text, needing themto admit what they did? That's the lava trap. LAVA — Love, Attention, Validation,Acceptance — are normal human needs. The trap is believing only one particularperson can give them to you.In Episode 325 of Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis breaks down the lava trap —a recovery concept she picked up over 17 years in the rooms — and ties it directlyto The Fantasy Loop™. Because at the end of the fantasy, you're not just imaginingbeing with them. You're imagining what being with them would finally make you feel.In this episode:— The four parts of LAVA: how love becomes "proof" you're worthy, attention becomes a hit you chase, validation keeps you tied to the person who hurt you, and acceptance makes you abandon your own boundaries— The 7 signs you're in the lava trap — listen for patterns, not a diagnosis— Why you're vulnerable: the slot-machine effect of on-and-off reinforcement, and why unpredictable love feels more intense (not more real)— How LAVA becomes the reward that makes The Fantasy Loop™ nearly unbreakable— The 7 questions that separate the need from the person — including the one that changes everything: "If I could give myself love, attention, validation, and acceptance without needing it from this person, what would I choose differently?"You don't have to stop needing people — we're wired to connect. The goal isn't"I don't need lava." The goal is "I don't need one particular person to decidewhether I receive it." You are not broken. Your worth was never supposed to bedetermined by their choice.Resources at secretlifepodcast.comTake the Fantasy Loop Quiz: quiz.thefantasyloop.comShare your secret: secretlifepodcast@icloud.com

Send us Fan MailSilence can be louder than the affair itself. When cheating hits a family, kids often feel the shift long before they get any explanation and sometimes they find out through a phone, an iPad, or a rumor in the community. I sit down with Melissa Macomber, who coaches adult children whose parents had an affair, to talk about what that betrayal does to a child's nervous system, identity, and sense of safety, even decades later.We unpack the three common roles adult kids slip into after parental infidelity: the secret keeper, the emotional caretaker, and the mediator. We also get practical about boundaries, especially when a betrayed parent is understandably in pain but starts venting to their child. Melissa shares simple, clear ways adult children can protect themselves while still loving their parents, plus why “do-overs” and honest repair conversations can change everything.We also dig into the question so many parents wrestle with: should you tell the kids, when do you tell them, and how much is too much? We walk through age-appropriate honesty for little kids, teens, and adult children, and why it's almost always better for kids to hear a clean truth from you than to discover details online. If you're dealing with betrayal trauma, divorce after infidelity, or the long shadow of a parent's affair, you'll leave with language, perspective, and real hope that healing is possible.Subscribe for more honest conversations, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more families can find support. What part of this topic do you want us to go deeper on next? BIO: Melissa Macomber helps adult children navigate the emotional turmoil following a parent's infidelity and rebuild healthier relationships with their families. As a former therapist with 10 years of experience, Melissa's work is deeply informed by her own journey after discovering her mother's long-term affair. In her spare time, she is writing a memoir about her experience healing from parental infidelity.Find out more about Melissa's work, including Authenticity After Family Betrayal, her online support program for adult children coping with a parent's affair, on her website: melissamacomber.comPlease follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

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THE HIDDEN STRUGGLES OF BEING AN EMPATH — the gift that quietly drains you.If you walk into a room and instantly feel the tension, absorb everyone'smood, feel emotionally hungover after being around chaos, and lose yourselftrying to hold everyone else's emotions — this one is for you. Being an empathis beautiful. But without boundaries, it becomes self-abandonment.In Episode 324 of Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis breaks down what being anempath actually is, why it exhausts you, why difficult people are drawn to you,and how to stop absorbing everyone else's energy so you can come back home toyourself.In this episode:— What emotional fusion is — the difference between caring about someone's emotions and becoming entangled with them— Why difficult people unconsciously search for "emotional managers" — and why empaths see potential instead of patterns (that's The Fantasy Loop™)— The line that changes lives: understanding someone's pain does not require tolerating their behavior— Why empaths burn out — carrying 10 other people's emotional states your body was never meant to hold— How to heal: witness without absorbing, set boundaries that protect not punish, and reconnect to yourself — because being needed is not the same as being lovedChaos is not connection. Intensity is not intimacy. Suffering is not love.Sensitivity is not a weakness — but being sensitive without boundaries issuffering. You can stay soft and still protect your peace.Resources at secretlifepodcast.comTake the Fantasy Loop Quiz: quiz.thefantasyloop.comShare your secret: secretlifepodcast@icloud.com

Send us Fan MailBetrayal can make you doubt more than your partner. It can make you doubt your own instincts, your memories, your body, and even your identity. I'm Jen, and today I'm naming a pattern I see all the time in infidelity recovery and divorce healing: imposter syndrome after betrayal. That quiet fear that you're not enough, that you missed something obvious, or that you're somehow a fraud because your marriage looked “fine” from the outside. We unpack what imposter syndrome really is, why social media and comparison fuel it, and how cheating creates the perfect storm for self-doubt. I share the apples and oranges truth that stops the affair-partner comparison spiral, plus a simple way to separate the facts of betrayal from the painful story we add on top. We also talk about why you don't have to believe what a lying spouse says about you, and why proving your worth is a trap especially if you're considering reconciliation. You'll leave with practical journaling prompts and new thoughts to keep in your back pocket, along with a stronger focus on rebuilding self-trust, regulating your nervous system, and choosing boundaries that protect your healing. If you're ready to move from “What's wrong with me?” to “What do I need now?”, press play. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find this support.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

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Send us Fan MailYou do not need to keep announcing a new version of yourself. You do not need another Monday, another reset, or another promise that this time will be different.In this episode of The Mindset Café, Devan Gonzalez breaks down why a bad day, bad week, or temporary setback does not mean you need to start over. The better version of you is not somewhere in the future—it is already inside you, waiting for your actions to match your goals.Devan talks about the difference between action and inaction, why difficult seasons are part of becoming stronger, and how constantly waiting to “feel ready” keeps people stuck in the same cycle. Whether your goals involve fitness, business, money, relationships, or personal growth, your next level will not come from introducing a new identity. It will come from building on who you already are.A vision board can show you where you want to go. But without discipline, consistency, and real action, it stays a vision.Stop waiting for Monday. Pick the ball back up. Get back in the game.Support the showThanks for listening & being part of the Mindset Cafe Community.----------------------------------------------Follow On Instagram https://www.instagram.com/devan.gonzalez/Let me know what topics or questions you want covered so we can help you achieve your goals faster.----------------------------------------------Are you taking the right supplements to maximize your mind and body in fitness & health. Take a FREE Quiz to see if you are.> FREE QUIZ

THE TRUTH ABOUT EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE — it's not what you think it is. Everybody says they want emotionally intelligent partners, bosses, friends, and parents. But what does that actually mean? It's not being calm all the time. It's not always being nice. It's not never getting angry. Emotionally intelligent people feel the exact same emotions everyone else does — jealousy, hurt, rejection, defensiveness. The difference is what they do AFTER the emotion shows up.In Episode 323 of Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis breaks down the fivebehaviors emotionally intelligent people consistently practice — and why eachone matters so much to your healing.In this episode:— Why they apologize before they're caught or confronted — and how real accountability sounds different from "I'm sorry you feel that way"— Why they create a pause instead of reacting — the tiny space between what you feel and what you do, where choice actually lives— Why they get curious instead of making assumptions — because 99% of the time, someone else's behavior isn't about you (and assumption feeds The Fantasy Loop™)— Why they set boundaries instead of seeking revenge — the difference between "I'll make you suffer" and "I'll protect myself"— Why they actually know what they're feeling — because you can't regulate an emotion you can't nameEmotional intelligence isn't about impressing others. It's about building arelationship with yourself where you can tolerate uncomfortable emotionswithout abandoning who you are. Healing doesn't mean you'll never be triggeredagain — it means your recovery time gets shorter.Resources at secretlifepodcast.comTake the Fantasy Loop Quiz: quiz.thefantasyloop.comShare your secret: secretlifepodcast@icloud.com

Send us Fan MailDating after divorce can feel like starting over in a body that remembers every hard ending. If you've been betrayed, ghosted, or you simply don't trust your own judgment yet, you're not alone and you're not broken. We sit down with dating coach Kristin Sokol to talk about what actually helps people move forward: replacing snap conclusions with curiosity, and building a process that protects your heart without shutting down real possibility.Kristin shares how her background in journalism and years in matchmaking shaped a research-informed approach to modern dating. We get into common post-divorce dating mistakes, why “all or nothing” thinking kills momentum, and how to create more opportunity by showing up in real life even when the activity isn't your favorite. You'll also hear practical guidance on dating apps, including how many apps to use at once to prevent dating app burnout and how to keep online dating from taking over your brain.Then we go tactical: why a phone call (or better, a video chat) before meeting can save you weeks of confusion, how to use a Google Voice number for privacy, and why Kristin's “under 90 minutes” first date rule can reduce oversharing, prevent the vulnerability hangover, and set you up for a stronger second date. We also talk about texting and pacing as strategy, not games, plus what makes a strong dating profile when you want to attract the right person, not everyone. Find Kristin @ kristinsokol.com or on social media @kristinsokolIf you're rebuilding confidence and figuring out dating after betrayal, this conversation gives you clear next steps you can try right away. Subscribe, share with a friend who's starting over, and leave a review to help more people find support. Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

Jennifer Wren Tolo, a health and wellness educator, stress and resilience coach, former critical care nurse, and best-selling author, helps high-achieving women move from overwhelm and survival mode into calm, clarity, and personal power. Jennifer explains how survival mode shows up as constant doing, disconnection, and stress-related symptoms, then outlines her PAUSE method—Pump the brakes/Present, Awareness/Assess, Understand hidden stressors, Self-regulate the nervous system, and Empowered choices—plus practical tools like breathwork, reflective questions, journaling, guided meditation, and walking. They connect pausing to leadership and branding from the inside out, including Jennifer's decision to keep a dream-inspired tree logo despite expert pressure, as a lesson in intuition, authenticity, and reclaiming power from “shoulds.” Jennifer contrasts ego's loud urgency with the soul's quiet guidance and shares that she wants audiences to feel safe, seen, and supported.00:36 Meet Jennifer Wren Tolo02:40 Why High Achievers Burn Out05:03 PAUSE Method Explained10:48 From Fight or Flight to Choice12:16 Building Your Pause Toolbox19:45 Switching Gears to Branding20:51 Pivoting the Brand21:54 Dream Logo Vision23:44 Branding Expert Pushback25:02 Reclaiming Intuition27:30 Shoulds Versus Want Tos33:03 Ego and Soul Language37:05 Trust the Process38:15 Brand Feeling and Legacy38:51 Rapid Fire RoundGet in touch with Jennifer Wren Tolo:Website: https://jenniferwrentolo.comPillar.io/  https://pillar.io/jenwrentolo (Programs, Podcast, FREE Quiz, Call and eBook) Instagram@Jenwrentolo Linkedin @Jennifer-tolo-RN-MA Facebook @jenwrentolo Get in touch with Brigitte Bojkowszky:Website BridgetBrands: https://www.bridgetbrands.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bojkowszkyb/ Website Retreat “I AM BECOMING”: https://event.i-am-escape.com/i-am-becomingAmazon booksInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/bridgetbrandsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@bridgetbrandsBook a call: https://calendly.com/bridgetbrands/20-min-discoverycall 

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What if the signs nudging you to slow down aren't setbacks, but directions worth following?Dr. Katie Deming shares an announcement she says goes against nearly every piece of advice she's been given. For months, she's felt pulled toward a decision most experts told her to avoid. She's finally saying yes to it, and the reason why might shift how you think about rest, content, and the quiet messages your own body keeps sending.Dr. Katie has spent her career watching what happens when people live out of step with who they really are. As a former radiation oncologist turned integrative oncologist, she's seen how staying out of alignment can affect your health in ways you might not expect. Here, she opens up about her own signs, why she won't wait for the louder wake-up call, and what she believes real healing actually starts with.If you've been running on empty, buried in information, or brushing off that small voice telling you something needs to change, this one speaks straight to you. Dr. Katie offers a gentle invitation to step back, reset, and reconnect with yourself before life makes the choice for you.Press play and learn why listening to yourself might be the most healing thing you do.Which Fast Is Right for You? - Take the FREE QUIZ:https://www.whichfastisrightforyou.com/Join Dr. Katie for a three-day guided reset to slow down, listen to your body, and practice a more loving relationship with yourself—with daily live calls, expert support, and community alongside you: https://tinyurl.com/y5cm5wtjFollow Dr. Katie Deming on InstagramWatch on YoutubeDISCLAIMER: The Born to Heal Podcast  is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for seeking professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Individual medical histories are unique; therefore, this episode should not be used to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease without consulting your healthcare provider.A thought-provoking podcast explores cancer through the lens of holistic medicine and functional medicine, discussing causes of cancer, metabolic health, and unconventional approaches like water fasting, fasting and autophagy, and detox, while weighing fasting benefits against chemo side effects and radiation side effects, sharing stories of a cancer survivor navigating chemotherapy, natural medicine, holistic healing, and even sp...

THE TRUTH RESET — the tool that interrupts The Fantasy Loop™ and brings youback to yourself.This one is different. It's not a teaching episode — it's a practice. BrianneDavis walks you through The Truth Reset™ in real time: a five-step tool shedeveloped and has been using for years to break the fantasy loop, calm thenervous system, and return to what's actually true. Find a comfortable place,take a breath, and do it with her.In Episode 322 of Secret Life Podcast, Brianne guides you through all fivesteps of The Truth Reset™ — because truth heals what fantasy keeps alive.In this episode:— Step 1, Track the activation: how to catch the loop the moment it starts, before it runs you ("I see the loop. I am not the loop.")— Step 2, Regulate the nervous system: why your body needs evidence you're safe right now — not promises about the future— Step 3, Uncover the emotional truth: how to get behind the story to the feeling underneath ("healing happens through feelings")— Step 4, Translate reality accurately: challenging the story, not the emotion — "what are the facts? What else could be true?"— Step 5, Heal through aligned action: the one question that changes everything — "what action right now honors me?"You are not broken. You are becoming. You will loop again, you will forget,you will get triggered — and you will come back. Because every return isprogress. Every reset is healing. Every truth is freedom.Resources at secretlifepodcast.comTake the Fantasy Loop Quiz: quiz.thefantasyloop.comShare your secret: secretlifepodcast@icloud.com

Just like physical dust collects in the corners of a room, our homes gather energetic residue from every emotion, experience, and interaction we move through. Over time, this residue can settle into the walls, the furniture, the air itself, showing up as heaviness, discomfort, or a sense that something in the space just feels off.   This energetic clutter shapes how we feel in our homes far more than we realize. In today's episode, my guest and I open the channel to identify it, clear it, and create a home that truly supports your wellbeing.   Today's guest is K. Margaret Solorio, an energy mentor and author of Make Ease Your Vibe. As a certified Angel Reiki Master and creator of the Home Frequency Reset, she does sacred work clearing energetic clutter and realigning spaces to support peace, clarity, and growth. Through her top 10% globally rated podcast Intuitive Wisdom, her 1:1 work, and her teachings, K. Margaret helps people feel seen, supported, and deeply aligned in their homes, hearts, and lives.   K. Margaret and I dish on:  - Energetic realignment and its ripple effect on personal wellbeing  - How your home's energy touches your relationships, and small consistent practices for energetic maintenance  - Practical tools for clearing space energy, including crystals, sage, and sound  - The role of body wisdom in space clearing and energy management  - The concept of home energy types, and how to identify yours  - Time and energy flow principles for a more easeful life   If you have ever walked into a room and felt instantly lighter, or instantly heavier, this episode will show you why. You will leave knowing exactly how to clear the energy in your own home and keep it feeling like a sanctuary.   Subscribe now so you'll never miss an episode and leave us a review! It really helps us know which content resonates with you the most.   Join our Feminine Business Magic Facebook Group (https://tinyurl.com/ygdkw7ce)  with your host, Julie Foucht. This is a community of women dedicated to connecting, supporting, and celebrating each other in growing businesses that honor their Divine Feminine while filling their bank accounts abundantly.   Resources mentioned:   Take the Witchpreneur Quiz and discover which Feminine Magic is your Key to Financial Success. (https://bit.ly/witchpreneur-quiz)   Purchase Love-Based Feminine Marketing (https://tinyurl.com/ydmzb6qz)      Listen to K. Margaret Solorio's Intuitive Wisdom Podcast at https://deliciousease.com/podcast   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/intuitive-wisdom/id1633580974   K. Margaret Solorio's Free Gift:  Discover Your Home Energy Type! Your home holds energy — and it may be influencing your clarity, emotions, intuition, relationships, and wellbeing more than you realize. Free Quiz at https://deliciousease.com/quiz       **Contact K. Margaret Solorio via Instagram or https://deliciousease.com/**   **Connect with Julie Foucht via Facebook (https://tinyurl.com/yeb82uuj) or email at https://juliefoucht.com/**

Send us Fan MailThe day you discover an affair feels like the beginning of the story, but sometimes it is the moment an older pattern finally becomes impossible to ignore. We talk about family systems and the survival roles many of us learned in childhood, then carried straight into adult relationships without realizing it. When betrayal hits, those roles can quietly take over, shaping how we grieve, how we fight, how we parent, and how we try to rebuild trust.I break down four common roles through a betrayal and infidelity healing lens: the hero who overfunctions and becomes the project manager of recovery, the scapegoat who expects criticism and absorbs blame, the lost child who disappears and struggles to ask for support, and the mascot who uses humor and positivity to avoid vulnerability. None of these mean you are broken. They are adaptations that once helped you belong, but they can create disconnection in marriage and keep your nervous system stuck in survival.You will leave with clear questions to journal on, practical insight for reconciliation after an affair or divorce recovery, and a gentler way to understand yourself and your relationship patterns. If this resonates, share it with a friend who is trying to keep it together after betrayal, then subscribe and leave a review so more people can find real support when they need it most.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

Have you built a beautiful life but gotten so busy managing it that you forgot to actually enjoy it? In this Fit Girl Magic episode, I'm talking with Latesha Lynch about why joy, rest, and pleasure keep getting shoved into the "someday" pile. We unpack the invisible stress we swear we don't have, why sitting down can feel strangely uncomfortable, and how we've managed to turn self-care into yet another checklist. We also talk about experimenting with hobbies without immediately buying all the equipment, joining the league, and making it your entire personality. You're allowed to try something and decide you hate it. You're also allowed to sit on your couch without explaining yourself to a committee. Inside this episode, we get into: · Why a happy life can still be a stressful one · The difference between building a good life and being present enough to enjoy it · How tiny moments of joy can create an "upward spiral" · Why rest doesn't require a signed permission slip · How to figure out what you enjoy, not what Instagram says you should enjoy · Why your hobbies, routines, and needs are allowed to change · Latesha's five "unbothered types" and how her quiz helps you discover yours · How one small moment of silly can make an ordinary day better If your body is begging you to sit your ass down while your brain keeps whispering, "Just one more thing," press play. Then take my free quiz, What Room in Your Life Needs Attention? It'll help you see which part of your life has been quietly collecting dust while you've been busy handling everything else. You'll also find Latesha's quiz and information about her mail club linked below. Links: Latesha Lynch Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@bankedandbalanced Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bankedandbalancedclub Substack https://bankedandbalanced.substack.com/ Banked and Balance Mail Club https://bankedandbalanced.com/club Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitgirlmagic Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@kimbarnesjefferson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kimjeffersoncoach/ FREE Quiz, What room in your life needs a little attention https://kimbarnesjefferson.lpages.co/room-quiz_podcast

Jason and Brooke Waters sit down with Stephen K. De Silva for one of the most practical conversations you'll hear on identity, money, and the goodness of God. Together they explore why belief systems always outrun financial skills, how orphan thinking quietly sabotages our lives, why adoption is the heart of the gospel, and what it looks like to build a prosperous soul instead of merely accumulating wealth. If you've ever wrestled with fear, scarcity, performance, or wondered how union with the Father transforms the way you live, work, and steward what you've been given, this conversation offers a refreshing vision of freedom rooted in beloved identity rather than striving.To learn more about Stephenhttps://prosperoussoul.com/Free Quiz link for listener:https://links.prosperoussoul.com/widget/quiz/Vwy1zE4dJmxmoW1k12QXJOIN A Family Story's Mailing Listhttps://dashing-field-76805.myflodesk.com/pie4be6wtoJOIN the Rethinking God with Tacos Facebook Group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/godandtacosFollow Rethinking God with Tacos on Instagram at:https://www.instagram.com/rethinkinggodwithtacos/Follow Jason's personal Facebook page at:https://www.facebook.com/afamilystory.org/Follow Jason on Instagram at:https://www.instagram.com/jasonclarkis/Follow Jason on X at: https://x.com/jasonclarkis SEND A DONATION!!https://app.moonclerk.com/pay/36393kxxeh8

 Learn about the Healing Power of Prolonged Fasting: HEREWhat if the thing you assumed was deprivation is actually one of the oldest healing practices in medicine?Someone you love is exploring a prolonged water fast, and you want to understand what that really means. Host Dr. Katie Deming  walks you through what a supported fast actually is, the way she would explain it to her own family. She describes what happens inside the body when someone stops eating, and why it looks nothing like what most of us learned in school.You'll hear why she compares a supported fast to a retreat rather than a period of going without, and what the structure looks like day to day. She also explains the part of the process almost nobody talks about, the piece she takes more seriously than the fast itself. If you've been worried, confused, or unsure how to bring this up with the person you love, this conversation gives you language and a clearer picture.Dr. Katie also traces fasting back through Hippocrates, Galen, and the physicians who shaped Western medicine, then explains what changed and why we set it aside. And she names what people are truly reaching for when they choose this path, which is rarely what you'd expect.Stay through the end for the most important thing she has learned in two decades of caring for people with cancer, including a deeply personal story about her own mother.Press play and learn how to walk alongside someone you love as they heal.Which Fast Is Right for You? - Take the FREE QUIZ:https://www.whichfastisrightforyou.com/Join Dr. Katie's 3-Day Guided Fast, for expert support, daily live calls, and a community to fast alongside: Sign-Up Follow Dr. Katie Deming on InstagramWatch on YoutubeDISCLAIMER: The Born to Heal Podcast  is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for seeking professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Individual medical histories are unique; therefore, this episode should not be used to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease without consulting your healthcare provider.A thought-provoking podcast explores cancer through the lens of holistic medicine and functional medicine, discussing causes of cancer, metabolic health, and unconventional approaches like water fasting, fasting and autophagy, and detox, while weighing fasting benefits against chemo side effects and radiation side effects, sharing stories of a cancer survivor navigating chemotherapy, natural medicine, holistic healing, and even spiritual healing on the path toward cancer remission and holistic health. 

Send us Fan MailBetrayal has a way of turning ordinary moments into emotional whiplash. One minute you're calm, the next you're checking phones, snapping at people you love, shutting down mid-conversation, or saying sorry when you didn't do anything wrong. If you've ever thought, “I've become someone I don't recognize,” we're putting language and structure to that experience so it finally makes sense.We walk through Terry Real's relationship grid, a powerful tool I'm learning in coach training that maps two forces many of us struggle with after infidelity, divorce, and chronic relationship pain: shame vs grandiosity, and boundaryless vs walled off. From there, we unpack the four quadrants with real-life examples, including how a betrayed spouse can slide into controlling behaviors, lone wolf isolation, relentless people pleasing, or going completely invisible. The point isn't to label you or diagnose you. The point is to build awareness, because awareness creates choice and choice creates healing.We also talk about the healthy center of the grid, what Terry Real calls the functional adult: the grounded place where you can stay connected and still hold boundaries, hear hard feedback without collapsing, own your mistakes without self-attack, and ask for support without guilt. I share a simple boat-in-the-ocean analogy to show how different survival strategies can look opposite on the surface while coming from the same fear underneath.  Take the Relationship Grid Quiz: https://grid.terryreal.com/If you're ready to stop reacting on autopilot and start rebuilding your identity and confidence, take the free quiz at lifecoachgen.com (Jen with one N), then listen and tell me: where do you spend most of today? If this helps, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs steadiness, and leave a review so more people can find real support. Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

 Learn about the Healing Power of Prolonged Fasting: HEREWhat if everything you've been told about muscle loss and prolonged water fasting isn't the full story?Dr. Katie Deming welcomes back Dr. Christy Kesslering, a fellow radiation oncologist who left conventional medicine to focus on metabolic health. Christy didn't just complete a supervised 14-day water fast. She tracked what happened before, during, and after it.She collected DEXA scans, body-composition measurements, toxin testing, insulin levels, cholesterol markers, and inflammation data. She wanted to understand what her own clients experience during an extended fast and see what the numbers could reveal about what was happening beneath the surface.The results challenged one of the biggest fears surrounding prolonged fasting.As a 58-year-old postmenopausal woman, Christy lost body fat while her follow-up DEXA scan showed an increase in lean mass. But the numbers are only part of the story. She also walks you through the difficult middle of the fast, including back pain, aching tissue, skin changes, shifting inflammation markers, and the gradual return to normal during refeeding.Dr. Katie and Christy also explore why rest is an essential part of a supervised fast, what happened to Christy's triglycerides and cholesterol-related markers, and why changes during fasting need to be interpreted differently from routine lab results.Chapters:00:05:00 - Escaping the Workaholic Hamster Wheel00:05:42 - The Health Data She Tracked00:09:21 - What Happened to Her Muscle Mass00:11:07 - Losing Fat While Gaining Lean Mass00:16:11 - Why Fasting Differs From Calorie Restriction00:23:53 - Disconnecting From Fight or Flight00:28:13 - What Hunger Felt Like After 14 Days00:28:56 - The Detox Symptoms Began00:30:25 - Her Inflammation Markers Rose00:31:24 - Why Triglycerides Changed00:33:30 - What Fasting Can Do to Cholesterol00:36:54 - Temporary Inflammation During Healing00:39:11 - Healing Can Look Messy First00:41:14 - What Her Toxin Testing Revealed00:45:01 - How Insulin Shifted During the Fast00:46:36 - The Possible Autophagy Turning Point00:48:59 - What Happened to Her Liver MarkersThis conversation offers a rare look at prolonged fasting through the experience of two physicians examining both the physical process and the laboratory data.You'll learn why rest may matter as much as not eating, why temporary lab changes can be misleading without context, and what Christy's results suggest about the fear of losing muscle during a properly supervised fast.Press play to hear the data that challenged the muscle-loss narrative.Connect with Dr. Christy Kesslering: https://www.kessrx.com/Which Fast Is Right for You? - Take the FREE QUIZ:https://www.whichfastisrightforyou.com/Join Dr. Katie's 3-Day Guided Fast, for expert support, daily live calls, and a community to fast alongside: Sign-Up Follow Dr. Katie Deming on InstagramWatch on YoutubeDISCLAIMER: The Born to Heal Podcast  is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for seeking professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Individual medical histories are unique; therefore, this episode should not be used to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease without consulting your healthcare provider.A thought-provoking podcast explores cancer through the lens of holistic medicine and functional medicine, discussing causes of cancer, metabolic health, and unconventional approaches like water fasting, fasting and autophagy, and detox, while weighing fasting benefits against chemo side effects and radiation side effects, sharing stories of a cancer survivor navigating chemotherapy, natural medicine, holistic healing, and even spiritual healing on the path toward cancer remission and holistic health.