Transform Your Life With Steve and Pete

Comparison is a tool -  it can be healthy or destructive. The key is being able to identify when comparison is helping versus hurting our identity. In this episode, learn how to identify the patterns of negative comparison in your life. Transformation Tip:  “Comparison is the thief of joy.” - Teddy Roosevelt Comparison is a tool - it can be healthy or destructive.When it comes to negative comparison, don't take the bait!How do you know if the comparison is helping (upward) or hurting (downward)?If you can be inspired and motivated to be better (upward)If you're comparing achievements (downward)If it leaves you feeling inferior (downward)Comparison leads to performance orientation. When comparison makes us feel inferior, we then feel like we need to prove our worth through performance. Our self-expectations can develop into a super image of what we think we need to be, but we will ALWAYS fall short of that image because there will always be someone we think is better than ourselves.Transformation Application:  This week catch yourself when you start comparing. Ask yourself whether this comparison is causing you to think upwards or downward.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “The main thing is to keep the main thing, the main thing”A lack of clarity can lead to overthinking. Overthinking can lead to overwhelm and ultimately getting stuck. Practical tips for finding clarity:It is already in you Process of removal “Burning off the fog”Talk things out or journal (processing)Clarity is NOT:  Understanding the big picture in lifeGoing to explain everything in your lifeCarved in stone and can never change Transformation Application: Ask yourself if you are overthinking things. If you are, find someone to talk through it with you. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Learning how to overcome the negative effects of comparison is imperative to aligning with your identity and thriving as your authentic self. In this episode, gain practical tools to help you conquer comparison and find joy in being you! Transformation Tip: You were born an original. Don't die a copy. Tools to break comparison: Rather than compare, seek connection Share experiencesDon't be afraid to be vulnerableFind authentic relationshipsAccept your limitations as a giftThey will keep you humble and groundedDon't look at your limitations as a disability Monitor your empowerment When you are functioning in your true identity/authentic self you will feel aligned and things will fall into place for youCompare yourself to yourself Internal validation Cultivate your inside environment If there is something in your life that speaks to you and makes you feel good - write it down and revisit them when you're feeling external pressure of comparisonThis will remind you who you really are and the greatness withinStand your groundRemind yourself that other people's reactions have nothing to do with you. Don't listen to their opinions. As you start to break the mold culture has put you into, people will notice and might have a negative reaction to that and try to put you back in your “place”Stand your ground!Transformation Application: Each day find something to celebrate in someone else and tell them! Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

There is a big difference between listening and hearing. Learning how to be fully present in conversations will strengthen your connections and relationships. One of the best ways to show honor and respect to another person is to truly listen to what they are saying. In this episode, gain practical tools to help you become a better listener.  Transformation Tip: “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply.” - Stephen CoveyThere is a big difference between listening and hearing. Ways to focus on listening: Put your phone away! Be fully present Let people finish their sentences before jumping in with your thoughts Pay attention to the other person's body language Empathize Give encouraging verbal cuesClarify and paraphrase what you've heard Ask good questionsPeople become much more open to hearing what you have to say when they know that you have listened to what they have to say Transformation Application: PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY! Be fully present when listening to people. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Do you find yourself constantly looking for external validation and approval? This episode is for you. Learning to approve of yourself (flaws and all!) is key to being able to live in a place of freedom and bring the best out of those around you. Transformation Tip: A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval - Mark Twain If you keep finding yourself in the approval trap, it is an indication that you are having a problem fully loving and accepting yourself. Examples of the approval trap: Name DroppingFishing for complimentsTransformation Application: Answer these 3 questions. 1) Do you approve of yourself? 2) Why or why not? 3) If you don't, what will it take until you do? Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Efficiency is doing things right, effectiveness is doing the right things.” - Peter DruckerEfficient  - achieving maximum productivity with minimum waste of effort and expenseManagement focusedEffective - being successful in producing a desired result Leadership focused With efficiency and effectiveness, one is not better than the other, it is knowing when to use each one.Efficient - take your ideas and assert them Get your team on board with your idea by forcing it Effective - collaborate Slow down so everyone is on board You need other people to round out your ideas Transformation Application:  Ask yourself “What tasks could I allow others to do that I have been doing myself? Put it into action and teach others how to do those tasks!Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Many people are overly focused on external leadership, but fail to realize the importance of self-leadership as a means to becoming a better leader to others. In this episode, Steve and Pete give practical tips for creating healthy self-awareness and developing the leader within each of us.    Transformation Tip: “Everything rises and falls on leadership” - John C. MaxwellAs soon as you notice something off, try to process it right when it happens You can never bury your problems dead; they will always resurrect Taking care and paying attention to yourself is important!Stop and take stock of where you are. Establish rhythms where you reflect on what happened in your weekListen to those around you Learn to articulate what you are feeling when an issue arises within you. Ask yourself: “What or who is causing this situation?” Ask yourself: “Why is it impacting me?”Ask yourself: “How have I been handling this?”Ask yourself: “What character traits need to be developed?”Transformation Application: Start a journal. Try for 3x a week. Review your day and start developing self-awareness for yourself. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “When we choose what to see and who we hang out with, we're actually choosing our future.”   Many people don't consciously choose their worldview.   There is a battle for our attention, our beliefs, and our values, which is pushed through media outlets.   What is my truth? Transformation Application: Find a headline of a current event and go and read that story in three divergent outlets. See the truth in them and find a balanced view.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Without Clarity you can't move forward.” - Steve ChuaConcept(s):Clarity is identifying and articulating the one thing that's most important.Not a new idea you haven't thought of. It is already in you. Process of removal - remove small complications so only the big thing remainsSeeing how the pieces fit togetherTransformation Application: We want to bring clarity to your purpose, so do one of the exercises mentioned and write out a purpose statement whether in 2 words, 12 words or 2 sentences. Remember is about who you are not what you've done!!!Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world's deep hunger meet." - Frederick BuechnerConcept(s)“You think you're God's gift to the world!” implying that they thought too highly of themselves. Well, the truth is, you really are God's gift to the world!You were born for a purposeOur perspective is that we believe we were placed on this earth for a reason.Difference between purpose and pathWritten in your designTransformation Application: Ask this question - Why was I placed on the Earth? Journal and reflect.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Your mess becomes your message.”- Ed SilvosoConcept(s)Life can be hard—really hard. These challenges helped shape who you are, and if you've worked through them, you've learned some valuable lessons.  A person to whom things come easily may not be able to explain their technique. But a person who had to learn the hard way can often explain, instruct, and empathize more effectively.  4. IF you've worked through it.  5. Might be broader than your situation.Transformation Application: What part of your story—your mess—might actually be your message? Don't hide it. Share it. Someone needs to hear it.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “The things that we love tell us what we are.” — Thomas AquinasLead InConcept(s)The word “Passion” is overused.  Sometimes looks like anger - the same coinDesire versus the object of your desireWhat do you really want?Transformation Application: Draw a heart shape. Start filling it in with words that surfaced during these questions.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Success leaves clues” - Tony RobbinsConcept(s)Looking at your past to identify times when you felt pride in your work and a sense of accomplishment, enjoyed it, you were probably in your zone, and leveraging your favorite skills and talents. Reverse engineer those scenarios to find patterns and trendsLooking at your past can also show which activities and settings did NOT work for you.Caveat - We're not talking about a “winning formula.” That can lead to problemsThe biggest barrier to success is past successRather, the traits, skills, and talents that went into past successes. They can be repurposed and recombined for new opportunities.Transformation Application: Just start by writing out your first storyOther Resources:Book: What Color is Your Parachute? https://www.amazon.com/What-Color-Your-Parachute-Meaningful/dp/1984861204/ref=sr_1_1Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “What would happen if we studied what was right with people instead of what's wrong with them?" - Don CliftonConcept(s)People are complex. Human development and the person. Helps you understand yourself, your needs, and your blind spotsHelps you understand other peopleGiving traits a name and dissecting shines the light of understandingWho you are NOT.  What to stay away from. Where to position yourself, and where you thriveTransformation Application: Take an assessment. Read through the whole report.Assessments:Gallup CliftonStrengths https://store.gallup.com/p/en-us/10003/cliftonstrengths-34 mailto:askpete@petecoaching.comThinking Wavelength  mailto:steve@stevechuaintl.comMBTI https://www.16personalities.com/The Enneagram https://enneagramtest.net/Motivational Gifts https://www.gifttest.org/DISC https://www.123test.com/disc-personality-test/Hogan Assessments https://www.hoganassessments.com/Kolbe A Index https://www.kolbe.com/Birkman method https://birkman.com/the-birkman-methodLions Lead https://www.lionslead.com/Parin https://www.pairin.com/Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: Nosce Te Ipsum - Know Thyself  - SocratesConcept(s):Other people can see you better than you see yourselfWe're our own worst counselorsBlind spotsNegative AND Positive qualitiesWe tend to discount that which comes easily to usAccurate encouragement is powerfulConstructive criticism, done well, can really help someoneTransformation Application: If you feel courageous enough, do a 360.Free 360 tool https://www.petecoaching.com/blindspotConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip:” Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." - Howard Thurman Concept(s)Misalignment is a more significant factor contributing to burnout than overwork.There's a need for self-awareness so you can identify where you'd fit.Are some people just lucky? Alignment In the next episodes, we'll give you the framework to help you gain clarity, and then wrap it up!Transformation Application: Think about 2-3 pivotal moments where you came alive. Write them down. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Turn your wounds into wisdom”. - Oprah WinfreyConcept(s)Consequences of unresolved pain form unhealthy mindsets and behaviors (the 10 saboteurs)The Judge: generates false assumptions resulting in selective hearing. The Avoider: directs attention away from the conflict, leading to a lack of resolutionThe Controller: self-protects and creates a fearful negative perspective of what can go wrong, restricting others and destroying relationshipsThe Hyper-Achiever: constant performance. Get self-worth from achievement. Unsustainable. make you too goal-focused (miss relationships and the big picture). The Hyper Rational: Feeds the controller and has a fear of taking risks (faith).The Hyper-Vigilant: results in danger-awareness level being calibrated to an extreme (worst-case scenario). Can never relax/anxiousThe Pleaser: Can't say “NO” and has no boundaries – overwhelmed – guilt-driven. The Restless causes one to look for escape or comfort (grass is greener), BusynessThe Stickler: needs perfection to find security and value, is caught in so much detail- can't let go (too possessive).The Victim: causes one to take things (too) personally, focus on emotional state, and spend too much time venting and dwelling on all wrong negativity.   Practical:POSITIVE INTELLIGENCE (SAGE QUALITIES)1.   EXPLORATION 2.   EMPATHY3.   INNOVATION4.   NAVIGATION5.   ACTIVATE Transformation Application: Go take the test. Get the book.https://www.positiveintelligence.com/saboteurs/Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Grief is the price we pay for love.” - Queen Elizabeth IIConcept(s)Grieving is the natural human process of emotional suffering and adjustment experienced after a loss. It's a resolution of internal conflict that allows one to move forward in life. It brings mental and emotional health, and potentially physical health.It means you love and that you careThat's why you hurtYou need to decide to process itUnprocessed, it can reside for yearsTransformation Application: If you've identified someone who wounded you, write a letter about how it impacted you, and get out your emotions. Forgive them. Burn itConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Self-forgiveness is not letting yourself off the hook. It's gently taking the hook out.” — Dr. Thema BryantConcepts:When we act in ways that betray who we are, hurt others, or make bad decisions.Unintentional mistakes/poor decisionsUnintentionally hurt someone Moral failure - betraying your conscienceIntentionally hurt someone (revenge, slander, etc.)It will lead to this cycle:1. Shame2. Guilt & Regret3. Condemnation4. Self-Judgment5. Self-Rejection6. Self-Hatred7. Mind Oppression8. Escape, performance, or False Comfort 9. Compulsion and AddictionWE NEED TO BREAK THE CYCLE! This episode gives tips on how to break the cycle of shame and take steps towards forgiving yourself!Transformation Application: Pick one thing and forgive yourself.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Forgiveness isn't a feeling… It's a choice.”What is forgiveness?It releases any judgments we may have of the offenderI let go of my right to be bitter, angry, vengeful, punitive, etc.We release our rights for an apology, vindication or justiceIt releases the offender from me to the universe It prepares the way for us to deal with our negative emotions It prepares the way for healing and potential reconciliationIt is a daily process and may require repetitionTransformation Application: JUST DO IT!!Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." - Mahatma Gandhi Concept(s)Offense -> hurt -> justification -> self righteousness -> judgment -> prideA judgment is an authoritative conclusion that my perception is the only way to see things Rooted in offense and pain.How do I know if I have a bitter-root judgment?Fruit of a bitter rootNext week, we will give you the steps to let go and help you understand what happens when you do!Transformation Application: Make a list of the people/organizations that have hurt or offended and do you feel you are still carrying a judgment towards them?Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “There is nothing to fear except the power you give your own demons” - Sally GardnerWhat do we mean by your demons? - Internal thoughts and emotions that oppress, depress, obsess, and judge us or others.They imprison our minds with negative emotions and cause us to interpret life and relationships through a negative and potentially destructive lens Leads to irrational behavior and unhealthy internal narrativesLeads to confusion because it's often not rational or logical2 types of internal conflictIf we keep our demons it utilizes our energy to suppress our feelings and thoughts which will eventually exhaust us or affect our productivity. In this episode, we will go over how to face, identify, and manage your demons in practical ways! This will set us up for the following weeks as we dive deeper into this series. Transformation Application: If you've identified an unhealthy narrative, try to identify where it came from. Additional ResourcesWheel of emotions https://www.petecoaching.com/wheel-of-emotions-toolBook - Positive Intelligence by Shirzad ChamineConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: Proverbs 4:7  'The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.'Concept(s) for “Getting Wisdom:Pays multiplied dividendsRequires Humility and produces humilityTeachability - a lifestyle of curiosity and growth. Always be open to learning.Play the long gamePractical Tips:Get wisdom Hang out with wise peopleApply wisdom quickly - wisdom only works if you activate and practice.Know when to share it and when not to Transformation Application: Identify 1-2 people in your life whom you respect. Go and talk to them - coffee - and ask their advice.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: Respect is unconditional high regard for the other personIn this episode, we sit down with Julie Thomas, the President of Priority Logistics Group, based in Cincinnati, to talk about trauma-informed leadership. Transformation Application: Download the rest assessment.Additional Resources:Contact Julie at julie.thomas@pdigo.comTrauma Free World has resources and an online course https://traumafreeworld.org/Download the Rest Assessment  https://tinyurl.com/4y9a27wjConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “When you understand that people react based on their own wounds, you will stop taking things personally." — UnknownConcept(s)When others trigger manifest in fight or flight. Triggers are often emotive and seek to gain control.Recognize, and know how to respond.Four Practical Tips for Responding to Other People's Triggers:Ignore Defuse or Deflect Empathize without agreeingConfront Transformation Application: Choose one of the responses, and look for an opportunity to practice it this week.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “ Your triggers are the fruit of a much deeper root!” Steve ChuaConcept(s)Triggers are created by significant events that leave scars, wounds, or compartments of pain, shame, insecurity, terror, panicA trigger sends a message to a memory(ies) that leaves us vulnerable and unprotected and causes us to behave in self-protective ways The four F'sTriggers can cause us to act irrationally or cause us to overreact.Triggers can come from our wounded child.We go over practical tips on how to identify trauma and how to start processing these events!Transformation Application: Make a list of up to 3 triggers you think you might have. If you can't think of any, ask a partner or close friend to help you identify them.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “You can't change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.”  - CS Lewis. Concept(s)1. The power of your past events isn't found in the events themselves.  2. You can't change past events.  But you can change the story you tell yourself about those events.3. We have a way to compartmentalize our pain as a self-protective coping mechanism, which can take root and establish fear, insecurity, and panic.  4. When people are in unfamiliar territory, our brains need to develop a reason.  Practical Steps:In this section, we go over a step-by-step guide on how to process these narratives and change perspective so that you can change the way you look at the past!Here's a link to the guide:  https://www.petecoaching.com/how-to-change-your-past Transformation Application: Download the guide in the show notes and work through just one issue first.  If it works, do more!Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: If you never heal from what hurt you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you. – Tamara KulishConcept(s)The definition of Trauma Trauma overwhelms the amygdala and hippocampus causing memories to be trapped in timeTrauma questions your security and protection Trauma can reset your internal narrativeTrauma can also cause you to live in denialThis episode explores the practical applications you can use to help you try to tackle trauma as quickly as you can.Transformation Application: If you've recognized any of the lingering signs of trauma, go seek some help.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Welcome Alia Eyres!In this episode, we sit down with Alia Eyres, the former CEO of Mother's Choice, to talk about navigating major life transitions. Alia shares the key indicators that signaled it was time for a change, the pivotal moment that led her to take the leap, and the emotions she faced stepping into a new chapter. She also offers insight into how she processed her last season to transition well and gives practical advice for those considering a big change.Transformation Application (Pick one of these steps to focus on this week):1. Be alone - solitude2. Be selective - choose objective counsel3. Do not force the next thing - be open and flexible - close one chapter before starting the next one. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “There are people less qualified than you, doing the things you want to do, simply because they chose to believe in themselves” Marshall GoldsmithConcept(s)The nature of disruption presents a window of opportunity where change happens.This opportunity can be for the good or for the bad! If the window opportunity closes, it's harder to make the change. Key aspects of embracing positive disruption:Openness to new ideasExperimentation: F.A.S.TCommunication and collaboration:Growth mindsetPracticalEmbrace discomfortIdentify strengthChallenge the old systems, structures, and processesClean houseReassessmentBe forward-thinkingStep upTransformation Application:Take a couple of hours away from distraction and ask yourself:Q: What part of my normal life is being disrupted right now?Q: What changes do I need to make that I've resisted?Q: Who can I talk with to help process and consider alternatives?Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference" - The Serenity PrayerConcept(s)Understand the spectrums of emotional and mental response to disruption]Identify the feelings you might haveIdentify your negative narrativesIdentify negative behaviors Transformation Application: Identify the disruption that's troubling you, Tell someone the next two actions you will take.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Every best-laid plan never goes to plan” - Gen. Stanley McCrystalConcept of Disruption:The nature of itHow to handle itThe Upside of itTransformation Application: Any disruptions in your life? Any that you see coming? Take a moment to check how it might be affecting you mentally and emotionally. Get a reading on your vitals.  Write it down (journal).Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “The aim of argument and discussion, should not be victory, but progress.” – Joseph JoubertConcept(s)We all face times of conflictAlthough crises can be seen as catastrophic, they also provide opportunities for growthRecognize that conflict may appear even on a healthy team Working through conflict successfully will strengthen your leadership and teamBeware of being conflict-averse PracticalConfrontation works best if you have developed your CONNECTION skills.Avoid viewing conflict as dangerous, as this results in a defensive approach which often escalates the situationBe quick to confront, without being reactive. Seek to avoid conflict through clear and timely communicationStrike 3 process (Mistake - Warning - Act)A Framework for Healthy Confrontation:1) Go in peace2) Speak value to the individual3) Seek clarity and context4) Explain your perspective5) Take responsibility6) Seek an agreeable solutionTransformation Application: Are there any conflicts that you have been avoiding?Set an appointment to have that conversation.  Use the 6 steps (or 3 strikes)Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: ‘The two words 'information' and 'communication' are often used interchangeably, but they signify quite different things. Information is giving out; communication is getting through.” -Sydney J. HarrisHOW CAN I CONNECT BETTER WITH MY TEAM?The five C's:Connect Context ConciseConcentrateCelebrateTransformation Application: Think about about 2-3 people in your circle and celebrate them - recognize the value, worth and significance of individualsConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: culture is caught, not taught - Steve ChuaWhat does a Toxic Culture look like? How does it happen?Me, my wants/needs priorityDisrespecting othersLack of IntegrityLack of excellenceWhat does a healthy Culture look like? Servant leadership - empowering othersValuing othersIntegrityExcellenceHow is culture formed?AtmosphereEnvironmentCultureTransformation Application: Write out personal & organizational values that are important, group them, and prioritize them.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way." —John C. MaxwellCharacteristics of a Thriving Leader: The leader's sense of their identityKnowing their value and purposeCreativityFreedomJoyPassionInnovation Characteristics of a Striving Leader:An insecure identity resulting in a culture of fearNeeds validationInsecurity and fearNeed to prove yourself Addictive behavior Unhealthy reactionsTransformation Application: As we reviewed these different characteristics, what words struck home with you? Too many? Just pick one.What resources can you engage to start to address them?  Coaching, podcasts, books on the topic, our podcasts from previous seasons.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “You Can't Change The Fruit Without Changing The Root”Four areas that need to be addressed to see healthy Organizations prosper:LeaderLeadership teamOrganizationMarketplace, CompetitionTransformation Application: Do you have a leader who is having a positive impact on you? Take time to intentionally thank that person and encourage them.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: "We can learn to take a risk and embrace change; the alternative is stagnation." - Virginia SatirJourney of Change:TriggerDiscomfortAvoidEmbracePracticeMasteryTransformation Application: Do you feel triggered because of some changes?  Write down - what is the discomfort you're feeling? If you're avoiding something - why are you avoiding it?  Be honest. Tell yourself that you have to face it and embrace it.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Find out who you are and do it on purpose.” — Dolly Parton.Thinking Wavelength is one framework.  Clifton Strengths is another.Today we're going to see how these two approaches complement each otherTransformation Application: What is the greatest insight you've gotten from today's episode?  Based on that, how could you apply it in the next 24 hours?Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: ”Tolerance, intercession, and respect for the way different people think is what makes humanity beautiful." — Aung San Suu KyiLink to Thinking Wave Length assessment and results: http://www.stevechuaintl.com/thinkwave-graphicKeys to be Successful in Using your WavelengthPeople generally cannot change their thinking wavelength, regardless of the amount or type of training received. You will tend to work best with people who are 1.5 points on either side of you. You are able to operate 1 - 1.5 points from your equilibrium numberWorking beyond 1.5 – 2 points from your number will create friction, frustration, depression, and burnout. ​​Concrete Thinkers pop the bubble of abstract thinkers by focusing on why or the potential problems. Transformation Application: How satisfied are you with your work?  On a scale of low-med-high.  If you're low to medium, could it be because you're misaligned with your thinking wavelength score?  Do some reflection.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: "Every action is rooted in the thought that produced it. Your starting point will dictate your finishing point" - Graham CookeThe Thinking Wavelength Assessment: On a scale from 1-10, how well do you NATURALLY react when having to deal with the followingRiskChangeVariablesSequencingAmbiguityLink to Thinking Wavelength assessment and results: http://www.stevechuaintl.com/thinkwave-graphicTransformation Application: Take the test and see whether the number resonates with you. Did your number resonate with you? Think about 2-3 times you were operating in your thinkwave - how did it make you feel? Did you feel you were thriving and in your element?Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: Self-awareness is not self-ishTypes of Strengths: RelationalExecutingThinkingInfluencingRepeat the 5 strategiesDon't do itTry HarderLeverage tools and systemsBorrow from someone elseUse one of your signature strengthsTransformation Application: Take the assessment. Have someone else take the assessment and compare your results together.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “You can close more business in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you.” – Dale CarnegieThis week's talent: WOOIntrinsic needs:To meet new people Something to win people over to To be appreciated and understood as a strategic networker.  You'll also want people to get back to you and tell you how their intro follow-up went.Potential blindspots:Others may view you as shallow and insincere because you connect with people quickly and then move on. You may have a tendency to reveal yourself and trust others too quickly. This may cause more reserved people to step back from a relationship.Because you operate easily in social settings, you may not understand why more people can't do it as well. Transformation Application: Thank a WOO person for introducing you to someone.  Let them know how it went. Also, If you need some strategic contacts to help move something forward, find a WOO person.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “A life is not important except in the impact it has on other lives” - Jackie RobinsonThis week's talent: SignificanceIntrinsic needs:Feedback from a caring leader to know that you are heard, valued, and recognizedTo be acknowledged that you are making a differenceTo be seen as competent and professionalPotential blindspots:Because of your strong Significance talents, people might perceive you as overly concerned about your reputation and success. Sometimes you might mask your vulnerability or come across as overly controlled, and this can make it difficult for others to know how to support you.Transformation Application: Are there people in your life who exhibit the Significance of talent?   Go tell them that you appreciate them.  They will thrive off of that. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” - Norman Vincent PealeThis week's talent: Self-AssuranceIntrinsic needs:Freedom to act independently To be in an environment where you can be bold and confident To follow your “gut” Potential blindspots:Your confidence in making the right decisions might make you feel like you don't need to consult anyone else. Because you usually sound like you know what you're talking about, whether you do or not, others might be nervous about questioning you. Transformation Application: The next time you need to decide, think through the options, then go with your gut.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: Excellence is not a skill, it's an attitude. - Ralph MarstonThis week's talent: MaximizerIntrinsic needs:To be able to focus on strengths and excellence Freedom to excel To be in an environment that encourages growth and quality Potential blindspots:Your desire to exhaust all possible outcomes can frustrate those who want to come to a suitable conclusion and move forward.You might be disappointed when a project or initiative falls short of your definition of excellence. Transformation Application: What's an action plan you have to develop one of your strengths and make it even stronger? Don't have a plan, find a maximizer or a coachConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “It's hard to beat a person who never gives up." - Babe RuthThis week's talent: CompetitionIntrinsic needs:The opportunity to regularly compete and winFeedback/information to compare yourself with.  (What's the score?)Pick jobs/roles where your performance can be measured. To be on a winning teamTake time to celebrate your wins.Potential blindspots:Be careful not to let your competitive spirit get in the way of your relationships. Winning at all costs isn't winning; it's self-defeating. Transformation Application: If you achieved a level of excellence in an area, go find someone who's even better than you and see what you can learn from them.  Talk, join them on a project, work alongside them.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “How well we communicate is not determined by how well we say things but how well we are understood.” – Andrew Grove, engineer, CEOThis week's talent: CommunicationIntrinsic needs:To process/think/learn “out loud”Frequent opportunities to speak and/or to writeA collaborative sounding board(s), and objective feedbackPotential blindspots:Because you are naturally verbal and instinctively share your thoughts, you may not realize when you are monopolizing a discussion. Remember that your words are not always enough to motivate others. Be careful to not judge bad or even mediocre presentationsTransformation Application: If you're going to give a presentation, your natural tendency will be to shoot from the hip, because you're gifted.  But, practice and prepare, and it will be that much more effective.If you're not a communicator but need to present, go talk to a communicator they'll help you get it nice.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: "Great leaders are almost always great simplifiers who can cut through argument, debate and doubt, to offer a solution everybody can understand." —Gen. Colin PowellThis week's talent: CommandIntrinsic needs:Strong leaders to follow Clear direction and priorities Potential blindspots:Your decisiveness and presence can be intimidating, whether you intend them to be or not. Because you speak with authority, you might be used to getting the final word. Some obstacles don't need to be confronted, they need to be circumvented.Transformation Application: Next time you want to say something, do it in the form of a question.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: Thinking will not overcome fear, but action will. – W. Clement StoneThis week's talent: ActivatorIntrinsic needs:To act…now! To have others join you To be in an environment that allows you to “activate” Potential blindspots:Sometimes you might charge ahead and act without a solid plan. You're most likely not a great “finisher.” The force of your urging people to take action might make them feel overwhelmed and pressured to act before they are comfortable. Transformation Application: Identify one project you've been putting off, and go take the first action step (which is NOT thinking about it”).Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Strategy without tactics is the slowest route to victory. Tactics without strategy is the noise before defeat.” - Sun Tzu, The Art of WarThis week's talent: StrategicIntrinsic needs:To be part of the decision-making processTime to “muse” until the related patterns  and issues emerge for youFreedom to make mid-course correctionsFreedom from, “But we've always done it that way.”Potential blindspots:When working with others, sometimes they may misinterpret your strong Strategic talents as criticism. Because you evaluate patterns and pathways so quickly, others might find it difficult to follow or understand your thought process. You may get frustrated when others don't see the way forward as quickly or easily as you do. Transformation Application: The next time you're trying to explain your strategy, illustrate it with pictures (like a flowchart). Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn