What to Say & How to Say It with Nina Roesner

Welcome to What to Say and How to Say It, the podcast that helps you fix your marriage with wisdom and grace. I'm Shy Lewis, here with Nina Roesner, and today we're diving into the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style—what it looks like, why it happens, and how to respond effectively in a Christian marriage.

What if the biggest roadblock in your marriage isn't your spouse—but your own mindset? In this powerful episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Roesner and licensed counselor Kyle Hargrove unpack how a closed mind, especially one masked by victimhood or pride, can paralyze growth in a relationship. They share real stories, honest truths, and godly wisdom to help you—and your marriage—move from stuck to surrendered. Ready for change? It starts with humility.

Welcome to today's episode of What to Say and How to Say It with Nina Roesner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove.

Welcome to this episode of What to Say and How to Say It! I'm Nina Roesner, and I'm here with our favorite licensed professional counselor, Kyle Hargrove.   Today we're diving into a tough but important question: Is your complaining ruining your attachment?  

Welcome to today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It—the podcast that helps you fix your marriage with grace and truth.   Today we dive into the world of respect in marriage with special guest Madison Agostini, leader of the wildly popular Respectful Wives Club (yes, 20,000 members strong!). Madison shares what it's really like to lead Christian women through the challenges of respect, boundaries, and obedience—and she does it all with humor, heart, and bold honesty.

Welcome to What to Say & How to Say It—the podcast that helps Christian married couples fix communication and build deeper connection. In this episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner unpack attachment theory, focusing on the anxious attachment style and how to set healthy boundaries in marriage.   Learn how childhood wounds impact adult relationships, what to expect when dealing with anxious partners, and how faith, communication, and consistency can bring healing. With practical examples, biblical wisdom, and tools you can apply right now, this episode offers hope and direction for couples navigating conflict and emotional intensity.  

Is complaining just venting—or is it silently reshaping your brain and relationships?

Welcome to this episode of What to Say & How to Say It with Nina Roesner and Licensed Professional Counselor Kyle Hargrove!

Welcome to today's episode of What to Say and How to Say It, the podcast designed to help you fix your marriage! Join Shai Lewis and Nina Rosner as they dive into the topic of the Martyr Complex—an unhealthy mindset that can trap us in conflict and distance within our relationships. In this episode, we discuss the signs of a martyr or savior complex, how they show up in our marriages, and how to break free from the victim mentality that holds us back. We also explore ways to retrain your thinking and embrace personal responsibility to bring healing to your marriage.

Are you feeling stuck in your marriage? In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner dive deep into the victim mindset and the lies that keep us trapped. We explore biblical truths that help rewire your thinking, build stronger connections, and navigate conflict in a godly way.   2 Corinthians 10:5 – "Take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ." Topics Covered: The 4 lies that keep you feeling powerless How to shift from a victim to a victor mindset Why God's timing matters more than our expectations Setting healthy boundaries in marriage The truth about submission & faith over fear   Free Resources!

Welcome to today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It! Are you the villain or the victim in your marriage? Or is your spouse? Licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove and host Nina Roesner dive deep into how these roles play out in relationships—and how your perception shapes everything. We'll uncover: ✅ The exhausting cycle of victimhood ✅ How villains are created (and why it's not always what you think) ✅ The power of perception in relationships ✅ What God says about complaining and taking thoughts captive Don't let toxic patterns take over your marriage! Take our free marriage assessment at greaterimpact.org and discover your next steps.  

Welcome to What to Say & How to Say It, the podcast that helps you navigate conflict and build a thriving marriage. In this episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner continue their series on narcissism—this time exploring healing. If you've been in a relationship with a narcissistic person, you know how challenging it can be to regain your sense of self. Today, we'll discuss: ✅ The impact of prolonged exposure to narcissistic behavior ✅ How healing is possible with God ✅ The role of radical acceptance in your journey ✅ How to stop taking things personally and break free from the enemy's cycle

In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina Roesner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove dive into three key ways narcissists deflect — and how these behaviors may show up in your relationships. Whether you've experienced deflection or have been guilty of it yourself, this conversation offers practical insights to help you improve communication, take ownership, and build stronger connections.

We're tackling the tough and often confusing topic of narcissism — what it really is, what the experts say, and how to handle these challenging behaviors when they show up in your marriage. Are you married to a narcissist — or just dealing with narcissistic behaviors? Either way, you'll come away with practical, faith-based strategies to help you show up differently, set boundaries, and protect your heart.  

Welcome to another episode of What to Say and How to Say It! Today, we're diving into a topic that's becoming more common in conversations: Are you a narcissist? You may have been called one or wondered if you are—but what does narcissism really mean? Licensed professional counselor Kyle Harrove joins us to break it down. We'll explore the difference between everyday selfishness and true narcissism, how our early years shape us, and what it takes to build healthier relationships.

We often break promises, overcommit, or underestimate the work involved in our commitments—leading to frustration and a loss of trust in relationships. In this episode, we explore how inconsistency affects respect and connection, why follow-through matters, and practical ways to avoid this common pitfall. Download our FREE PDF, 5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells, and take our marriage assessment at greaterimpactwives.org.  

Joining us in today's podcast is Madison Agustini, the leader of the Respectful Wives Club on Facebook, to discuss the book The Respect Dare—a 40-day challenge that transforms relationships by fostering deeper respect and understanding. In this episode, you'll discover: How The Respect Dare can strengthen your marriage The power of daily challenges in changing relationship dynamics Why respect is a man's greatest need and how it impacts your connection Real-life testimonies of marriages transformed   Join the next Respect Dare challenge starting February 17th! Take our FREE Marriage Assessment: greaterimpact.org

Feeling unappreciated in your marriage? You're not alone. In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner dive into the silent killer of relationships—lack of appreciation. Learn why couples drift apart without realizing it and how small, intentional actions can break the cycle.

In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Roesner and Kyle Hargrove explore how shared values shape respect and harmony in marriage. They discuss practical ways to identify, discuss, and align core values with your partner—whether it's about parenting, finances, faith, or conflict resolution. Tune in for real-life stories, expert advice, and actionable insights to strengthen your relationship.    

In today's episode of What to Say and How to Say It, it's all about the lack of respect that often shows up in relationships, how it leads to communication breakdowns, and what you can do about it. Whether you're dealing with stonewalling or just a communication gap, this podcast provides actionable insights to help Christian married couples rebuild trust and connection. We discuss how to make the first move with small gestures, understand the importance of giving space, and even address the complexities of the "no contact" approach when things go terribly wrong in a marriage. Tune in for practical advice, support, and wisdom on how to navigate tough moments and re-engage with your spouse. Free PDF: Five Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells Marriage Assessment: Available at greaterimpactwives.org  

Welcome to today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It – the podcast that helps you fix your marriage! Join hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner as they tackle the thought-provoking topic: "Is self-love or self-respect selfish?" In this episode, we explore the fine line between self-love and selfishness from a Christian perspective. How do self-care and dying to oneself, as taught in the Bible, coexist? What does it mean to navigate relationships with self-respect while staying rooted in Christ-like values? We share powerful stories, including how prioritizing self-respect can transform relationships, and offer practical insights on setting boundaries and expressing needs clearly. Plus, we reflect on the cultural confusion around self-love and the role of faith in guiding these choices.

In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, we're diving into the buzzword authenticity—what does it actually mean, and how can it transform your relationships? Join Nina and Kyle as they unpack the true essence of being authentic in relationships, explore the challenges of intimacy, and share practical tips for growth. Discover how self-reflection, vulnerability, and faith play key roles in fostering authentic connections. Don't forget to visit greaterimpact.org to take our marriage assessment and access your free guide on how to stop walking on eggshells. Let's get real—starting today!

In this episode of "What to Say and How to Say It," Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner dive into practical, faith-based strategies for navigating conflict and building connection in marriage. Learn how to become winsome in your communication, even in tough situations, and discover how these principles can transform not only your marriage but also your relationships with children, coworkers, and others.   Download free resources at Greater Impact Wives and start thriving today!

Welcome to today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It!

Welcome to What to Say & How to Say It, the podcast designed to help you transform your Christian marriage! Today, we're tackling a tough but crucial topic: 4 things you need to know when trust is broken in your relationship. Why is this even a topic for Christian marriages? Because, like everyone else, we face struggles—but with God's help, we can heal and rebuild. Join our host and licensed professional counselor, Kyle Hargrove, as we dive into understanding broken trust, its challenges, and how to move forward in a way that honors God and strengthens your marriage.

Welcome to What to Say and How to Stay, the podcast dedicated to helping Christian married men and women navigate conflict and build connection for a thriving marriage.

In this episode, we're diving into 3 powerful ways to make vulnerability your superpower in challenging conversations.

In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Roesner and Kyle Hargrove dive into a challenging but essential topic: dealing with entitlement. We're exploring what entitlement looks like in adult relationships, how it affects connections, and how to navigate these interactions effectively. Are you in a relationship with someone who acts like the world owes them? Or maybe you're finding entitlement tendencies closer than you'd like? Let's talk about what causes entitlement and why it's so common today, from low standards in culture to self-focused attitudes. We'll discuss practical steps to influence these situations from a place of strength and character, including staying true to biblical principles that promote unity and understanding. Join us as we tackle these tough questions, reflect on how entitlement and victimitis impact our relationships, and talk about how to approach these issues with humility, resilience, and faith.

In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner delve into the fascinating topic of adult development and how it impacts your relationships, especially marriage. Just back from an inspiring Strength and Dignity Conference, they're sharing insights from Dr. Robert Keegan's Constructive Development Theory (CDT) to help you better understand yourself, your spouse, and how maturity affects relationship dynamics. Do you ever wonder why conflicts keep surfacing in your marriage? Or feel like you and your partner are on different pages in handling challenges? This episode explores the stages of adult development, from the egocentric self to the socially aware self, and how these stages influence our behaviors, expectations, and emotional responses in relationships. Plus, download our free PDF, “5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells,” at greaterimpactwives.org to start transforming your interactions today. Whether you're looking to strengthen your connection, manage conflict better, or deepen your self-awareness, this conversation will provide essential tools to foster a more understanding, compassionate, and mature marriage. Tune in, reflect, and take your first steps toward a more connected and thriving relationship.

Welcome to today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It, the podcast designed to help you build a thriving marriage by navigating conflict and strengthening connections. Listen to Shy Lewis with Nina Roesner as they dive into a crucial topic: what to say when boundaries collide. Even in the healthiest relationships, boundaries can clash, causing misunderstandings and frustrations. We'll explore how to handle these situations, discuss the dynamics in both healthy and unhealthy relationships, and offer practical tips for finding win-win solutions when you and your partner seem to be on different pages.   Looking to strengthen your marriage? Download our free PDF and take the marriage assessment at greaterimpactwives.org. Plus, don't forget to sign up for our upcoming marriage conference where you can connect with others and gain valuable insights. Join us as we tackle real-life scenarios, offer biblical guidance, and share tools that help you navigate the complexities of relationships with grace and wisdom.

In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner dive into a powerful conversation on how competition in marriage can either bring couples closer or drive them apart. Inspired by a story from the Paralympics, we discuss 3 practical ways to navigate competitive tendencies and build a unified team in your marriage. We also talk about healthy competition, dealing with insecurities, and how to celebrate each other's wins. Don't miss this insightful episode packed with biblical wisdom and real-life stories to help you create a thriving, Christ-centered marriage!   FREE Resources:

In this episode of What Toes Say and How to Say It, we tackle a crucial question: Are you truly willing to do the work to fix your marriage?   Join us as we dive deep into the difference between wanting and being willing, featuring expert insights from licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove.   Discover the steps you can take to restore your relationship, the importance of communication, and why showing up isn't enough without intentional action. Get ready to stop complaining and start making real change in your marriage. Don't miss out!

  Welcome back to "What to Say and How to Say It"! I'm Nina Roesner, joined by the incredible Madison Agostini, known for her impactful work with the Respect Dare and the Respectful Wives Club. In this special episode, Madison shares her expertise on building meaningful community connections. Whether you're struggling with loneliness or looking to enhance your existing relationships, Madison's insights will guide you on how to cultivate genuine connections. Tune in to learn practical steps on how to create and deepen your community, and why having strong, supportive relationships can transform your life.

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