Podcasts about unforgiveness

Grudges don't just weigh on your heart. They weigh on your body. I was reading an article recently by Dr. Lantie Jorandby, a board-certified psychiatrist, in Psychology Today. She writes about how holding onto resentment raises stress and cortisol. Higher cortisol means higher blood pressure, weakened immunity, and greater risk of heart disease. It's also tied to depression and rumination, that repetitive negative loop your mind gets stuck in. That loop steals your sleep, which drives cortisol even higher. It's a cycle that feeds itself. Cortisol even affects the hippocampus, the part of your brain responsible for memory. That's part of why people with chronic PTSD often show a smaller hippocampus on scans. Add in muscle tension, elevated heart rate, higher blood pressure, and this isn't a small thing your body is shrugging off. It's carrying it. The Bible talks about forgiveness constantly, and I think this research shows us why. But forgiveness gets misunderstood a lot, so let's be clear about what it actually is. It doesn't mean pretending you weren't mistreated. It doesn't mean there are no consequences for someone's behavior. It doesn't mean going back into a relationship that isn't safe. What it does mean is choosing to release the resentment, and letting go of wanting revenge, even when revenge would feel justified. I'll be honest with you about why this topic landed on my heart this week. I'd written my notes for this episode about a week before I recorded it, and I had no idea how much I'd need my own reminder by the time I sat down to talk. I won't get into the specifics, but something happened recently that stirred up some old, not-positive feelings toward a former employer, feelings I thought I'd already worked through. It was like salt got rubbed right back into a wound I thought had closed. If I'm honest, it hurt my pride more than anything else. That experience got me thinking about something a lot of women carry quietly: church hurt. Sitting with my own small version of it gave me real compassion for women who've been hurt far worse, by people in the church, and who've walked away from it entirely because of what happened to them there. If that's you, if part of you doesn't want to go back, I don't blame you. But I'd gently remind you: the church is made up of flawed people. Not everyone in it wants to harm you. And God saw what happened. He cares. There's a story in Genesis that's stayed with me on this. Sarai didn't trust God to give her and Abraham a child, so she told Abraham to sleep with her servant, Hagar. Once Hagar became pregnant, Sarai dealt harshly with her, and Hagar fled into the wilderness alone. But God met her there. Genesis 16:13 says she called Him "a God of seeing," saying, "Truly here I have seen him who looks after me." God does not want us harmed. When you were hurt, He saw it. He was with you then, and He's with you now. He wants your pain brought to Him, not carried alone in silence. So bring it to Him. Talk to Him about it like you would a trusted friend, or write it out in a letter if that's easier. Ask Him plainly: help me forgive. Some days that's a one-time prayer. Other days you'll have to pray it again the moment the memory resurfaces, and then again after that. Forgiveness is rarely a single decision. It's a practice you return to, and there's real freedom in knowing God asks us to keep forgiving because He kept forgiving us. If church hurt is part of your story, here's what I want you to know: there are people in the church who genuinely love the way Christ loved. You don't have to go back to the one that hurt you, but I'd encourage you not to stay away from church altogether. Healing tends to happen in community, not in isolation. God never intended for you to carry bitterness or resentment quietly until it made you sick. He wants you free from it, in your spirit and in your body. Ready to Take the Next Step in Your Health Journey? If you've been dealing with low energy, autoimmune symptoms, or exhaustion that never seems to lift, this is your next step. Book a Free Introductory Call and let's talk through what's really going on in your body and whether working together makes sense for you. Visit herholistichealing.com/call to book your call today.

In this final episode in the series, Dennis and Ashleigh discuss the Bible's warnings about harboring unforgiveness. They also discuss the continuing Iran War in a new introductory news segment.

Jesus is serious about forgiveness. He gave his very life to forgive you. And … he asks you to forgive every other soul who has hurt or offended you. Yes, everyone for everything. Now I don’t know, but maybe that’s a nearly impossible task. Forgiving them – what? They aren’t even sorry. Why should you offer them forgiveness? If for absolutely no other reason, because of this – JESUS SAYS TO. And if Jesus says to forgive, then it’s for a good purpose and you can trust him. Jesus teaches this lesson in another parable and this story makes it very clear the torment we subject ourselves to when we withhold the very forgiveness we have received. Matthew 18: 21-35: Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?” “No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven!” Therefore, the Kingdom of Heaven can be compared to a king who decided to bring his accounts up to date with servants who had borrowed money from him. In the process, one of his debtors was brought in who owed him millions of dollars. He couldn't pay, so his master ordered that he be sold—along with his wife, his children, and everything he owned—to pay the debt. But the man fell down before his master and begged him, ‘Please, be patient with me, and I will pay it all.' Then his master was filled with pity for him, and he released him and forgave his debt. But when the man left the king, he went to a fellow servant who owed him a few thousand dollars. He grabbed him by the throat and demanded instant payment. His fellow servant fell down before him and begged for a little more time. ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it,' he pleaded. But his creditor wouldn't wait. He had the man arrested and put in prison until the debt could be paid in full. When some of the other servants saw this, they were very upset. They went to the king and told him everything that had happened. Then the king called in the man he had forgiven and said, ‘You evil servant! I forgave you that tremendous debt because you pleaded with me. Shouldn't you have mercy on your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you?' Then the angry king sent the man to prison to be tortured until he had paid his entire debt. That's what my heavenly Father will do to you if you refuse to forgive your brothers and sisters from your heart. To begin, understand the bar Jesus is setting on how many times you should forgive someone for their sins against you. By Jewish law, you should forgive 3 times. So, when Peter suggest forgiving 7 times, he’s being generous. Then Jesus comes back with a number that doesn’t even make sense – “No, not 7 times, but 70 times 7.” Here’s what that means – that means every limit you’ve had on forgiveness is blown out of the water and there’s zero use in keeping score here. You forgive over and over and over again. This is supernatural forgiveness. This is a level of peace making within your heart that is beyond you. For this, you will need Jesus! Remember, you are a girl who has been forgiven of much. You have no right to turn around and withhold forgiveness from someone else. The first servant owed the King millions of dollars. This man had no possible way to repay his debt. No matter how much time the king granted, there was still no way for him to pay it back. Knowing this, the King had compassion and showed his servant mercy, forgiving his debt completely. This man’s weight had been lifted. He walked in full forgiveness for his very large debt. But, he refused to offer that forgiveness to one of his own servants who owed him far less. When his servant begged him for more time to pay, the forgiven man refused to offer forgiveness and ordered his servant to be thrown into prison. When the King hears of this, he says to the man, “I forgave you of your tremendous debt. Shouldn’t you have mercy on your fellow servant just as I had mercy on you?” Here’s the problem – so many of us forget the mercy God has shown us. In our own little world, we’ve somehow convinced ourselves we’re good enough for our perfect and holy God on our own. Girl, you and I have fallen so miserably short! We have zero right to the forgiveness we walk in. One of our sins disqualifies us from Heaven, let alone the piling of our sins. Isaiah 53: 5-6, “He was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole. He was whipped so we could be healed. All of us, like sheep, have strayed away. We have left God’s paths to follow our own. Yet the Lord laid on him the sins of us all.” Yes, girl, your sin was absolutely unbearable. You were not good enough. You were disqualified. That’s precisely the reason Jesus gave his life for you. Now, Jesus requires that forgiveness to flow through you. What happens if you hold on to bitterness, anger, and resentment because of what someone else did to you? Well, Jesus is actually quite clear here – You will be tortured. This is serious. You need to understand what unforgiveness does to your heart and your mind – it brings torment. But you already know that, don’t you? If you just can’t forgive them for what they did, you have felt that torment. It’s been eating away at you. You can’t find peace. You’re continually upset and wrestling with thoughts, reminders and feelings that torment you. And here’s what is truly heartbreaking – you’ve allowed that. Your refusal to forgive has permitted the torment. Of course it’s easy to pull the “unfair” card. What they did to you was unfair. So it’s unfair to ask you to forgive them. Well, here’s what I know – we really don’t want to play the “fair” game. If God judges us from a “fair” standard, we lose. If God does to me what’s fair, then I don’t get his grace and mercy. If I get justice, then I get eternal punishment. No Lord, please don’t give me justice – give me mercy. As the recipient of his unfair mercy, I’m out of playing the “fair” game. It doesn’t have to be fair. Is unforgiveness a sin? Yes – it is. Jesus says in Matthew 6: 14-15, “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” That’s clear. If you hold on to unforgiveness, you will be walking around with the weight of your own sin. Here’s the warning in scripture that should scare the bejesus out of you if you dare hold on to unforgiveness, therefore bearing your own sin. Psalm 38: 3-8, “My health is broken because of my SIN. (Unforgiveness is a sin – it will break your health.). My guilt overwhelms me – It is a burden too heavy to bear. My wounds fester and stink because of my foolish sins. I am bent over and racked with pain. All day long I walk around filled with grief. A raging fever burns within me, and my health is broken. I am exhausted and completely crushed. My groans come from an anguished heart.” Where is this exhaustion, sickness and crushing feeling coming from? SIN. What is a sin we often hold on to out of hurt because something wasn’t fair – UNFORGIVENESS. And it’s tormenting us!!!!!! Unoforgiveness is sin and allows torment in our body and mind. Read Jesus’ warning in the parable again – “Shouldn’t you have mercy on your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you? Then the angry king sent the man to prison to be TORTURED until he had paid his entire debt. That’s what my heavenly Father will do to you if you REFUSE TO FORGIVE your brothers and sisters from your heart.” The king turned him over to the torturers. Do you realize there are demons from Hell with the assignment of torturing the hearts and minds of those who hold on to unforgiveness? Peace and healing from that torment can only be found one way – FORGIVING THE ONE WHO IS SO HARD FOR YOU TO FORGIVE. My friend, I pray you don’t allow this torment to continue in your life. You don’t have to carry this anymore. You don’t have to keep replaying what they did, rehearsing what you wish you had said, or carrying anger into every new day. Jesus is inviting you to lay it down. And maybe you’re thinking, “But I can’t forgive them.” You’re right. You can’t—not in your own strength. This kind of forgiveness is supernatural. So don’t start by asking yourself, “How can I possibly forgive them?” Start by asking Jesus, “Will You help me forgive them?” Bring Him the betrayal. Bring Him the injustice. Bring Him the anger. Bring Him the memories that still hurt. Bring Him the part of you that doesn’t want to let go. And then surrender it to the One who has already surrendered everything for you. You may never get an apology. You may never get an explanation. They may never understand what they did to you. Forgiveness doesn’t make what happened okay. It doesn’t erase the consequences. It doesn’t require you to trust someone who has proven untrustworthy. Forgiveness simply releases your right to keep carrying the debt. You are handing their debt over to the King. And remember this: you were carrying a debt you could never pay, and Jesus paid it for you. You have been forgiven. You have been shown mercy. You have been set free. So now, let that same mercy flow through you. Today, you can say, “Jesus, I forgive them. Not because what they did was okay. Not because they deserve it. Not because I feel like it. I forgive because You have forgiven me. I release them to You. I release the debt. I release the anger. I release the right to make them pay. And I ask You to heal what they broke in me.” And when you do that, something changes. The prison door doesn’t just open for them. It opens for you. Because forgiveness isn’t saying, “What you did didn’t hurt me.” Forgiveness is saying, “What you did will not own me anymore.” That’s the freedom Jesus died to give you. So, girl, let it go. Not because it was little. But because Jesus is bigger. Not because they deserve your forgiveness. But because you have received His. And not because forgiveness is easy—but because freedom is worth it. Follow Pamela on Instagram – https://instagram.com/headmamapamela Or Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/pamela.crim Find out more about BIG Life – http://biglifehq.com

"No—You hear that word 90% more than you hear yeses… The nos sometimes come from the people closest to you. For the last 20 years I've been told my dream is far-fetched, but the passion in me drives me… So when business people tell me no, [I say] my loved ones tell me no, and that hasn't stopped me. You're not gonna stop me either. I go knock on another door. One of them's gonna open, and they're gonna say yes." —Bert Lopez    Overcoming rejection is the thread that runs through this entire conversation with San Antonio filmmaker Bert Lopez, who built a directing career out of VHS tapes, borrowed favors, and an almost unbelievable number of closed doors. This episode is for anyone chasing a dream that keeps getting told "no" — the entrepreneur, the aspiring author, the creative who's starting to wonder if the door will ever open. Bert walks through his origin story, from watching movies over the fence of a San Antonio drive-in theater as a kid, to filming his first project with his mom's VHS recorder in high school, to now producing faith-based films that stream on Hulu, Amazon Prime, and Tubi. He gets specific about the grind: for one scene in his upcoming film, he was turned down by 10 hotels before the 11th said yes. That kind of persistence, paired with a hard conversation about forgiveness, is what makes this episode land differently than the average "never give up" pep talk. Key takeaways: • Bert was rejected by 10 hotel locations before finding one willing to host a single scene — proof that the "no" is rarely the final answer. • Unforgiveness functions like a mental prison: it blocks creative output the same way writer's block does, according to Bert. • His breakout film ideas came from real pain, including a comedian friend's struggle with anxiety and depression, which became the basis for his upcoming film. • Passion projects — work done without pay, purely for the love of the craft — funded the bigger, paid productions that followed. • Bert's biggest personal takeaway from filmmaking wasn't a directing lesson; it was learning to release decades-old resentment before it could release him. • Streaming revenue from smaller films is what financed each subsequent, bigger production — a slow-build model, not an overnight one. Listen to the full episode for Bert's unfiltered take on chasing a God-given dream through years of rejection.  A story of courage, passion, and the strength to keep going is coming to the big screen. Anxious Mark—Life of Emet, written and directed by Bert Lopez and Rogelio Cirillo, premieres September 5, 2026. We're thrilled to share that our very own Daniel Gomez is part of this special film. So save the date, this one's worth the wait!   Be Inspired! with Daniel:  Website (Makings of a Millionaire Mindset) Website (Daniel Gomez Global) Facebook Facebook Group X Instagram LinkedIn Pinterest YouTube Podcast   Episode Highlights: 01:50 Meet Bert Lopez: From VHS Tapes to Movie Director 03:04 The Drive-In Theater That Sparked His Filmmaking Dream 05:00 Shooting His First Film on a Borrowed VHS Recorder 08:30 Hearing "No" 90% of the Time in Film Production 09:59 10 Hotel Rejections Before Landing the Right Location 14:25 Passion Over Skill: Where Real Grit Comes From 16:40 Inside Anxious Mark: A Faith-Based Anthology Film 21:14 The Forgiveness Lesson Bert Learned While Writing 23:00 Why Unforgiveness Locks You in a Mental Prison 28:37 What to Expect at the Anxious Mark Red Carpet Premiere 

Celebration Church - Phoenix, AZ

Offense is a trap, but you do not have to stay in it. Jermaine Johnson closes this two-part message with a powerful reminder that hurt is a sensation, but offense is a choice - and that choice can either bury you in bitterness or become the very thing that lifts you out. Using the story of Joseph, the image of the donkey in the pit, and scripture from 2 Corinthians, Ephesians, and Proverbs, this episode shows how to shake off what was meant to destroy you and stand on it instead. If you have ever felt wounded, misunderstood, accused, or stuck in a cycle of resentment, this is a timely word of hope and direction. You will hear:What an offense really is and why it is designed to trip youHow unforgiveness becomes a root of bitterness and shows up in real lifeWhy hurt and offense are not the same thingThe hidden oppositions to healing, including pride, fear, anxiety, and prayerlessnessHow forgiveness, the Holy Spirit, and God's Word help you move into freedomJermaine Johnson also speaks directly to those who need practical help beyond prayer, reminding listeners that counseling can be part of God's answer, too.Top connect with G'Ade: https://linktr.ee/theunfilteredbygade

Anita Bates shares about forgiveness in light of our spiritual fitness and spiritual rest. Jesus invites us to hand our burdens over to Him and He will give us rest (Matthew 11:28-30). Unforgiveness is a burden that we should not be carrying as it weighs us down and damages us. We need to learn to forgive in order to grow and the way in which we do that is by first of all praying, seeking wise counsel, and finally by accepting the promise of God's rest. (Hebrews 4:1). -------- For more information about Breathe New Life Church or if you'd like to make a decision to follow Jesus, visit our website here: https://breathenewlife.church/becomeachristian

Freedom from Offence and Unforgiveness | Ps Nikki Hamers by iSEE CHURCH

പരിശുദ്ധിയോടെ ജീവിക്കുന്ന ജീവിതം | Living A Life Of Purity | Malayalam Christian Message | Br. Damien Antony | Morning Glory 1990 | 06 Aug 2026അറിഞ്ഞോ അറിയാതെയോ നിങ്ങളുടെ ആത്മീയ വളർച്ചയെ തടയുന്ന ആ രഹസ്യ അശുദ്ധി എന്താണെന്ന് അറിയാമോ?Living a life of purity begins in the heart, where every thought, word and action takes root. Just as a flower bud blossoms into a petal and finally yields fruit, human behavior originates from inner thoughts. Spiritual clarity, divine guidance and inner transformation are directly connected to heart purity. Unforgiveness, bitterness, compromise and ungodly desires cloud spiritual vision and quench the Holy Spirit. Protecting the source of your thoughts ensures that the entire stream of your life remains clean and holy. Righteous living requires daily intentional choices, guarding your eyes, renewing your mind through God's Word and surrendering every motive to the Lord. True spiritual authority and promotion are given to those who cleanse themselves from impurity and walk in absolute holiness before God.ദൈവവചനത്തിൻ്റെ അനുഗ്രഹങ്ങൾക്കായി Blessing Today ചാനൽ ഇപ്പോൾ തന്നെ Subscribe ചെയ്യൂ! ✨പുതിയ വീഡിയോകൾക്കായി Bell Icon അമർത്തുക.

Unforgiveness can destroy us. God knows our heart of flesh can become hardened and lifeless if the wounds we have received are not allowed to heal. Jesus told all his disciples that we are to forgive others as we would like God to forgive us. In the workplace, there are people who look out for only themselves. Many times, their actions and attitudes can create in us something very unholy. We may find ourselves wishing the worst for them, secretly hoping that "they get theirs". This mindset of hatred and bitterness is one that can fester and build over the years as more and more people make your "list".  The Word of God is clear – we are not to harbor hate, but we are to love our enemies and forgive their misdeeds. It's hard work, but it is what Jesus demonstrated for us; and then commanded us to do likewise. 

~Hello friends, this episode went through the trenches to get to you. We are so sorry for the technical issues in this episode's video.~ Ready for some practical hope with spiritual warfare? This week we dig into Chapter Four of What Every Believer Should Know About Spiritual Warfare by Marcus Warner.We're walking step by step through the CCC-C process of removing enemy permission: 1) Confess, 2) Cancel, 3) Command, 4) Commit. We're doing a deeper dive (using SOUL-L) into what gives ground to the enemy in the first place and what the remedy is to each area. For instance, if the issue giving permission is sin, then the remedy is repentance of that sin, and we're going to talk about what repentance is and is not. May this be an episode for you of good news and practical understanding. The goal of this series is to equip you with a spiritual warfare first aid kit, so you can function with more freedom on your deeper walk with God. Check out the free discussion guide in the links below! 

Unforgiveness Pt. 2 (July 22, 2026)

Forgiveness is one of the most necessary parts of the Christian life, but it is also one of the most misunderstood. In this episode, Brandon and Sandy sit down with Dr. Everett Worthington to talk about what forgiveness actually is, what it is not, and why reconciliation is something different altogether. Dr. Worthington shares the tragic story of his mother's murder and how that moment forced him to live out the very forgiveness he had spent years studying and teaching. The conversation explores decisional forgiveness, emotional forgiveness, rumination, resentment, justice, boundaries, and what happens inside us when unforgiveness takes root. Dr. Worthington also walks through his REACH model and offers practical help for those who feel stuck in pain, anger, or grief. This is a powerful, honest, and hope-filled conversation for anyone wrestling with what it means to forgive without pretending the wound never happened.Ev's Book https://a.co/d/01UMgKXoEv's Website -https://www.evworthington-forgiveness.com/

What if the greatest thing holding you back isn't your past—but an unresolved relationship?In Grace and Reconciliation, Pastor Tom Messer walks through Genesis 33 and one of the most remarkable moments in Scripture: the reunion of Jacob and Esau after twenty years of separation.This powerful message challenges us to honestly examine our own relationships. Is there someone we've wronged? Is there someone we're struggling to forgive? Through Jacob's humility and Esau's unexpected grace, we discover that reconciliation isn't about winning arguments—it's about winning people.The Bible reminds us that broken relationships don't just affect our lives; they impact our fellowship with God. Unforgiveness, pride, and unresolved conflict can become anchors that keep us from experiencing the freedom and purpose God has for us.In this message, you'll discover how biblical reconciliation begins with humility, requires personal accountability, and is sustained by the same grace God has extended to each of us through Jesus Christ.If you've been carrying the weight of hurt, conflict, or fractured relationships, this message offers hope, healing, and a path forward.Watch now and discover how God's grace can restore what seems impossible.New to Trinity?tbc.org/im-new/Need prayer?tbc.org/prayer/To support the ministry of Trinity:tbc.org/give

Scripture: Matthew 18:23-35

Unforgiveness (July 15, 2026)

What does the devil have permission to do in a Christian's life? This week we dig into Chapter 2 of What Every Believer Should Know About Spiritual Warfare by Marcus Warner. What's happening in God's throne room, and how does it affect the realities of spiritual warfare? We introduce the principles of permission and authority in a legal approach to spiritual warfare and unpack 5 categories that can give permission to demonic activity. We remember these categories with the acrostic S.O.U.L.L. (Sin, Occult, Unforgiveness, Lies We Believe, Lineage) The goal of this series is to equip you with a spiritual warfare first aid kit, so you can function with more freedom on your deeper walk with God. Check out the free discussion guide in the links below! 

We're so glad you are here! Thanks for checking out Sunday's message!-- SUNDAY'S NOTES --Some battles are easy to run from! (Skunks are one of them)Not every battle is that easy.There are battles that show up in in the deepest parts of you, Battles that threaten your family/your faith and your future!These are Spiritual Battles! What if not every battle is meant to be escaped?Because not every battle comes from the same place!We all face these, And we find ourselves wrestling with the aftermath! (And God Fights with and for us as a compassionate Friend as we lean on His strength) There are battles that come, not because you've disobeyed God, but because you've obeyed Him.Battles that find you while you're walking in surrender.Battles that come because you're exactly where God wants you to be. Takeaway: Gods Promises are not without Perils!Every step of the way toward the place that God had promised Joshua, There is an enemy rising up! Joshua was human, he must have laid eyes on that vast army and wondered the same thing!Why all these battles God?Joshua 11:20a(nkjv) For it was of the Lord to harden their hearts, that they(The Enemy) should come against Israel in battle,  Because you can't walk in darkness and light at the same time!God knew something Joshua didn't know…and He knows something that you dont know:Takeaway: If you dont completely destroy your enemy, your enemy has the lingering potential to destroy you! Joshua's enemies were flesh and blood-ours are…AnxietyFearAddictionLustHopelessness/DepressionBitterness/OffenseGrief that we let control usPrideDivisionUnforgivenessDisappointmentEach of these are designed and assigned to take us out!These enemies that come against us are not for us to coexist with, but to conquer! Not to cohabitate with, but to completely/utterly destroy.Gods Policy…Leave no trace… of lust/fear/pride/envy…Fight not just until you get the upper hand, but until they are destroyed! No Trace!A little leaven, a little bit left can grow! Little compromises become Addictions. Little pride becomes a Poison. Little fears become Prisons. Little Lusts become Flames of Dark Desire!Takeaway: The enemies you don't defeat will lurk in the shadows of your life, gaining strength and will be a constant threat to your future and your family!Even with God on their side it was a process!Dont get discouraged in the process! Don't you get weary in the fight!Don't you give up-Dont you Quit!You are destined to fight and you are destined to win but you cannot win without a war! God wants us to walk in complete freedom! How do you walk in freedom from every enemy that rises up against you?How do you protect your family from the enemy?Be Strong and Very CourageousWhen the enemy comes…You stand up and fight…In the strength of the Lord!You keep Worshiping/Keep Surrendering/Praising/Praying/Reading/Crying out to God/Staying accountable/Fall down get back up/Running Back-Staying close to Jesus/Determine to grow(even if its slow) and dont you dare quit!Joshua is old-he is about to move to his eternal home he has realized not everyone obeyed the words of the Lord completely to destroy their enemies. Some remnants of enemies were allowed to remain in the land.So he gave them this warning:Joshua 23:12,13That's exactly what happened! (Judges)The enemies that were allowed to stay, who were not defeated, eventually led Gods People into deep idolatry and all kinds of evil sins that destroyed many!How do you know you are in danger?When you are friends with enemies God told you to destroy!What about you? Is their something you know is an enemy you are allowing to live in your heart? Something You have quit fighting and started coexisting with that is displeasing to God?This is not a game-You cannot toy/play with things God said to stay away from, the things that God said to drive out/destroy.If we are honest all of us have some enemies we are letting linger in our lives, we all have some business to take care of with Jesus this morning.The good news, today we can lean into Jesus, we can repent of any and all areas of darkness we have allowed to remain in our lives that do not line up with Gods word and we can walk out of here with a fresh start/ clean and re-engaged in a victorious battle over every enemy that threatens us and our families! -------------------------------------------------Download the 828 Church app!To view our latest e-newsletter, the Midweek Momentum, and subscribe to our weekly updates, go here! https://linktr.ee/828church

Духовная гравитация и сила прощенияSpiritual Gravity and the Power of ForgivenessI. Почему нам трудно прощать | Why We Find It Difficult to ForgiveII. Последствия непрощения | Consequences of UnforgivenessIII. Благословения, которые приносит прощение | Blessings Brought by Forgiveness

Discover the transformative power of forgiveness in this profound study of Matthew 18:21-35. When Peter asks how many times he should forgive, Jesus responds: "seventy times seven"—meaning unlimited forgiveness. Through the parable of the unforgiving servant, Jesus reveals a stunning truth: you cannot be right with God while holding unforgiveness in your heart. This episode explores how you've been forgiven of an impossible debt—every sin, every failure, every shortcoming—yet you may be refusing to extend that same mercy to others. Learn why unforgiveness is actually a rejection of the mercy that saved you, and how forgiveness is not a feeling but a choice. Through contemplative meditation and practical reflection, discover who you need to forgive, what debt you've been demanding they pay, and how to release them—and yourself—from the burden of unforgiveness. This episode will liberate you from the chains of bitterness and restore you to right relationship with God.

Text: Ephesians 4:31-32  

Wherever you are today, this biblical meditation, narrated by Tyler Boss, offers a quiet space to pause and reconnect with God. Unforgiveness keeps you locked up. Meditate on Mark 11:25. Abide is a Christian meditation app that helps you experience peace and grow in your relationship with Christ through Scripture, prayer, and reflection. Try Abide free for 30 days and explore our premium, ad-free meditations here: https://abide.com/peace Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

One of the greatest obstacles to spiritual freedom isn't what happened to you—it's what you refuse to release.In this message, “Where Are You With… Forgiveness? // How Good Are You at Forgiving?”, we explore why forgiveness is one of the clearest marks of spiritual maturity and one of the most powerful acts of obedience in the Christian life.Unforgiveness doesn't just affect your relationships—it opens the door to bitterness, blinds your heart, and keeps you from experiencing the freedom God desires for you.In this sermon, you'll hear about:Why forgiveness is essential for every follower of JesusWhat forgiveness is—and what it is notHow unforgiveness gives the enemy an opportunity to work in our livesWhy forgiveness is a daily choice, not just a one-time decisionHow to forgive fast, fully, frequently, and freelyThrough passages from Matthew 18, Hebrews 12, Romans 12, Ephesians 4, Colossians 2, and more, this message reveals that forgiveness isn't about approving what happened or pretending the hurt didn't exist—it's about releasing the offender and trusting God with justice.Because you never look more like Jesus than when you forgive the way He forgave you.The more deeply you understand the forgiveness you've received from Christ, the more freely you'll extend that same forgiveness to others.The question isn't whether you've been hurt.The question is:Where are you with forgiveness?

You love being forgiven. But forgiving someone who actually hurt you? That's a different story. Maybe you walked into today carrying a name. A memory. A betrayal that was real, intentional, and never apologized for. And somewhere along the way you picked up the idea that forgiving means forgetting — or that you have to feel it before you can do it. No wonder it feels impossible. In this message, Pastor Chris walks through Jesus' Parable of the Unmerciful Servant (Matthew 18:21-35) and shows us that forgiveness isn't about excusing what happened. It's about refusing to let what happened define who you become. You'll learn three truths that lead toward forgiveness: remembering how much you've already been forgiven, releasing the people who have hurt you — and understanding what forgiveness actually does and doesn't mean — and why real forgiveness isn't something you manufacture on your own. It's supernatural. Unforgiveness feels powerful. But it eventually becomes a prison — and most of the time, the person trapped inside is you. Today can be freedom. Watch and find out how.

What happens when offense quietly poisons our hearts and destroys relationships, ministries, and even our walk with God? In Episode 10 of "Essentials in Leadership," Duane Sheriff teaches why refusing offense is essential for every believer who desires to lead effectively and live victoriously. Jesus warned that offenses are unavoidable in this life, but taking offense—and becoming a vessel that spreads it—can lead to bitterness, unforgiveness, and spiritual destruction.Drawing from Luke 17, Hebrews 12, and Matthew 18, Duane reveals how offense begins as a seed that, if left unresolved, grows into unforgiveness and eventually a root of bitterness that defiles many. Forgiveness is not forgetting, trusting, or denying emotions—it is releasing people from their debt and trusting God with justice. Unforgiveness gives Satan access to torment hearts, relationships, and ministries, while forgiveness closes the door to the enemy and opens the door for healing and freedom. This message reminds everyone to guard their hearts, quickly release offenses, and walk in the freedom and grace God has for them.

Send us Fan MailWhat do you do when someone comes to you for help?Many Christians believe in deliverance, but when a friend, family member, or church member begins struggling with fear, oppression, destructive habits, or spiritual bondage, they aren't sure where to start. In this episode, Karl Gessler shares a simple, practical framework for leading your first deliverance session.Rather than focusing on advanced techniques or difficult cases, this teaching is designed to equip ordinary believers with the confidence to begin helping people find freedom in Jesus.In this episode you'll learn:• Where to start with any person seeking deliverance• The most important question to ask• How to resolve anger and unforgiveness• How anger reveals other areas where we need deliveranceYou'll also learn about a free PDF worksheet available through KarlGessler.com that can help guide you through your first deliverance session.Whether you're a pastor, ministry leader, or simply a believer who wants to help others find freedom, this episode will give you practical tools to begin."These signs will accompany those who have believed: in My name they will cast out demons..." — Mark 16:17For more resources, visit KarlGessler.com.Support the show❤️ SHOW YOUR SUPPORT - LINKS BELOW...➡️ Email me: https://www.karlgessler.com/deliverance➡️ DONATE ➡️  Join our team!https://www.givesendgo.com/karlgessle...  / karlgessler  ...

☞ ABOUT THIS MESSAGE Jim opened this Father's Day message with disarming honesty, admitting that on his drive to church, God surfaced an unresolved hurt he thought he'd buried. Drawing from Matthew 18:21-35, he unpacked Jesus' parable: a man forgiven a debt equivalent to 200,000 years of wages immediately chokes a fellow servant over 100 days' pay. Jim's key insight: forgiveness isn't a case-by-case verdict but a posture, a lifestyle shaped by the staggering grace we've received. Unforgiveness doesn't punish the offender; it tortures the one who holds it, like drinking poison and waiting for someone else to die. The cross is our "ground wire" where betrayal and pain have somewhere to go. The invitation: release what you cannot repay, and trust the God who said "It is finished."   ☞ LOVE THAT LASTS BOOKLET https://www.summitchurch.online/_api/public/file/download/bond_d29ce0a2c80e497db2ef4754dd5e4012   ☞ BIBLE APP NOTES https://www.bible.com/events/49624565   ☞ GROUP LEADER GUIDE https://page.church.tech/4afaca71   ☞ NEXT STEPS

When your story is history, and you allow it to become His story, your story becomes ministry. You need to know that unforgiveness will write your story. Forgiveness will write your story. Which one is writing yours?In this message, Lead Pastor Jamie Nunnally uses the life of Joseph to teach us how to walk in the freedom of forgiveness. 

The hardest prison to escape is the one built by unforgiveness.When someone hurts you deeply, revenge feels justified and forgiveness feels impossible. But Jesus teaches that the way we extend mercy reveals whether we've truly grasped the mercy we've received.This Sunday, we'll open Matthew 18:21–35 and discover why forgiven people become forgiving people—and why the price of holding onto a grudge is always higher than we imagine.

This teaching was taken from Luke 17:3 and teaches about forgiving the way God forgives. If you have any questions, or you would like to share how our teachings have affected your life, please email us or visit us at www.rejoicingheart.net God bless you! Rob and Donna Rejoice In You From the Integrity Music Release One, featuring Planetshakers Ministries Int'l ©2009 Planetshakers Publishing (APRA) (admin. By Music Services, www.musicservices.org) All Rights Reserved. Used by permission. Luke 17:3 (KJV) 3 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. Luke 17:3 (AMP) 3 Pay attention and always be on your guard [looking out for one another]. If your brother sins (misses the mark), solemnly tell him so and reprove him, and if he repents (feels sorry for having sinned), forgive him. Luke 17:4 (KJV) 4 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him. Matthew 18:22 (KJV) 22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. Luke 23:34 (KJV) 34 Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots. Hebrews 8:12 (KJV) 12 For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more. Hebrews 12:15 (KJV) 15 Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled; Hebrews 12:15 (AMP) 15 Exercise foresight and be on the watch to look [after one another], to see that no one falls back from and fails to secure God's grace (His unmerited favor and spiritual blessing), in order that no root of resentment (rancor, bitterness, or hatred) shoots forth and causes trouble and bitter torment, and the many become contaminated and defiled by it— John 12:7-8 (KJV) 7 Then said Jesus, Let her alone: against the day of my burying hath she kept this. 8 For the poor always ye have with you; but me ye have not always. John 13:2 (KJV) 2 And supper being ended, the devil having now put into the heart of Judas Iscariot, Simon's son, to betray him; James 3:16 (KJV) 16 For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. Ephesians 4:32 (AMP) 32 And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave you.

Forgiveness is Freedom David Eells – 3/27/26  (audio)    We need faith in order to receive God's benefits, faith to receive His healings, deliverances, provision, salvation and so on. There is something that's just as important as faith because unforgiveness can block you from receiving any of that.  Mat 6:15 ASV  But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.   Unforgiveness brings the curse of the Bible listed in Deuteronomy 28. It is a very big problem and a major reason why people don't receive what they need from God.   How do we prove that we have forgiven and how do we show forgiveness? In other words, how is forgiveness manifested through us to others? And how do we show, or what do we show, to others to prove that we have forgiven them? I think we can see some pretty good signs from this verse: (Rom.12:14) Bless them that persecute you; bless, and curse not. When you're persecuted by someone, your doesn't really want to forgive them. But we really don't have any choice and it's the right thing to do, since the Lord has forgiven us such a great debt its only right to forgive everybody else their debt according to Jesus in Mat 18.  The penalty there is that Father turns the unforgiving over to tormenting demons in Mat 18:34-35. Forgiveness is extremely important if you want to bear fruit so the Lord can walk in you.  You will stumble without His grace. Forgiveness is every bit as important as the faith message because God does not give grace to people who don't forgive, or to people who judge, or to people who are bitter, or to people who are “just hurt” as they say. (Jas.2:1) My brethren, hold not the faith of our Lord Jesus Christ, [the Lord] of glory, with respect of persons. Are you holding the faith of Jesus Christ our Lord with respect of persons? James goes on to give the example of having more respect for the rich man than the poor man.   Then he speaks of another form of respect of persons that's also quite common. (Jas.2:8) Howbeit if ye fulfil the royal law, according to the scripture, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself, ye do well: (9) but if ye have respect of persons, ye commit sin, being convicted by the law as transgressors. If you're seeking to be justified by something that you are doing, but that somebody else isn't doing, be very, very careful because there are things that you are not doing and they are doing. And so James says not to be a respecter of persons. As it was with those under the Law, it also is with us. (Jas.2:11) For he that said, Do not commit adultery, said also, Do not kill. Now if thou dost not commit adultery, but killest, thou art become a transgressor of the law. So if you've transgressed in anything, then you've transgressed. If you've sinned in anything, then you have sinned. And, of course, if you are not willing to give grace to someone else when they have sinned, just remember that God doesn't have to give you grace when you sin.   James warns us, (Jas.2:12) So speak ye, and so do, as men that are to be judged by a law of liberty. In other words, if you want to be judged by a law of liberty, be sure you judge other people by a law of liberty. Judging is the first thing you do when you don't forgive someone. You are judging this person unworthy of forgiveness when Christ already forgave you and Jesus warned us about that. (Mat.6:14) For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. (15) But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. The Father will turn you over to the tormenters until you pay your debt to God, since you didn't think your brother was worthy of having his debt to you cancelled by receiving forgiveness from you.  (Jas.2:12) So speak ye, and so do, as men that are to be judged by a law of liberty. What's the “law of liberty”? Well, he's using the Law here by way of an example. If you demand the Law be used on someone else, instead of giving them the same grace and “liberty” that the Lord offered to you, but you don't want to demand the Law be used to judge you, then you need to remember that the Lord will use the Law on you. (Jas.2:13) For judgment [is] without mercy to him that hath showed no mercy: mercy glorieth against judgment. What you sow, you reap, according to the universal law that the Lord has given us. (Gal.6:7) Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. If you sow mercy and forgiveness, and refuse to judge unrighteously, as Romans 14 warns against doing, then God will show grace and mercy to you.   God is the judge. When Paul turned a sinner over to Satan in 1Co 5 it was God who judged and it must be that way today. This was governmental unforgiveness. Personal judgment and personal unforgiveness is owed by us. Governmental unforgiveness coming from God through elders is important to protect others. When this happens God will confirm the judgment. But in Pro 26:2  As the sparrow in her wandering, as the swallow in her flying, So the curse that is causeless alighteth not.  How dangerous it is, for we can actually sever our own grace and ruin our own future by not forgiving other people. (Jas.3:14) But if ye have bitter jealousy and faction in your heart, glory not and lie not against the truth. Faction, of course, is seeking to separate people from others, especially to separate followers through selfish ambition. Judgment, jealousy, faction, criticism, gossip; these are all manifestations of unforgiveness, and many forms of it, because people are tempted to “lie against the truth” when they're attempting to cause division through jealousy or selfish ambition because they want something that God has not given to them.   But we should always wait and trust in the Lord to provide and ordain things for us, and not try to gain it ourselves. Jealousy causes people to try and obtain things through their own efforts. (Jas.3:15) This wisdom is not [a wisdom] that cometh down from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. (16) For where jealousy and faction are, there is confusion and every vile deed. The reason these people are turned over to vile deeds is because of unforgiveness the Father turns them over to tormentors as Jesus said. Mat 18:34-35  And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due.  35  So shall also my heavenly Father do unto you, if ye forgive not every one his brother from your hearts.    Many people have made themselves judges and think they have the right not to forgive other people but, if they are usurping this position, in other words, if they're seizing and holding this position, office, or power, etc., instead of God giving it to them, then they're going to bring a curse upon themselves. God guarantees it. (Jas.4:11) Speak not one against another, brethren. He that speaketh against a brother, or judgeth his brother, speaketh against the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judgest the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge. (12) One [only] is the lawgiver and judge, [even] he who is able to save and to destroy: but who art thou that judgest thy neighbor? Do you see what I'm saying here? James is saying the exact same thing. Only One has the right to judge; only the Lord has the right and He chooses through whom He will judge and it will not be someone in sin.  2Co 10:6  and being in readiness to avenge all disobedience, when your obedience shall be made full.  The apostle Paul said, (Rom.2:1) Wherefore thou art without excuse, O man, whosoever thou art that judgest: for wherein thou judgest another, thou condemnest thyself; for thou that judgest dost practice the same things. If you judge others, then you judge yourself. We can't judge, be unforgiving, bitter, factious; or be attempting to bring judgment on other people. (Eph.4:29) Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth ... (Jas.3:8) But the tongue can no man tame; [it is] full of deadly poison. Of course, God can tame the tongue and sometimes we learn obedience through the things we suffer.   The Bible said that even about Jesus. (Heb.5:8) Though he was a Son, yet learned obedience by the things which he suffered. When we suffer for speaking things we shouldn't, it motivates us to be very careful before the Lord. (Eph.4:29) Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for edifying (or “building up”) as the need may be, that it may give grace to them that hear. It's always legal to edify, to build up, to give grace; it's not always legal to tear down and we have to be careful that it's only the Lord Who does that. He is the Judge. It is legal to give grace but it is not always legal to judge. (Eph.4:30) And grieve not the Holy Spirit of God, in whom ye were sealed unto the day of redemption. (31) Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and railing, be put away from you, with all malice. These are all manifestations of unforgiveness.  Paul is warning us here and he mentions railing in (1Co.5:11) But as it is, I wrote unto you not to keep company, if any man that is named a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such a one, no not to eat. As a sin that is worthy of separating from people, he commands us to separate from any man who is called a brother, if he is reviling or railing. Reviling is from Loidoros, meaning abusive railing. The word for “railing” is blasphemia, which is the same word for “blaspheming,” and it means “to speak against.” Both reviling and railing are speaking against others. And as we just read in James, “Speak not one against another, brethren.” (Eph.4:31) Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and railing, be put away from you, with all malice. If you don't put this away, you will pay for it and usually pretty quickly. Generally, your body will start going downhill, circumstances will start going downhill, the grace of God will be gone from you, etc. (Eph.4:32) And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, even as God also in Christ forgave you. We see that so often in Scripture: if God forgave you, you have to forgive.   (Col.3:12) Put on therefore, as God's elect, holy and beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, meekness, longsuffering. A person who judges other people illegally is a proud person. A person who is unforgiving is a proud person. This is a person who has put him or herself up on a pedestal and thinks they have the right to not forgive, that they have the right to judge instead of giving that right only to God. They are sitting in the place of God. He says that through lowliness, meekness and longsuffering, we suffer long with other people's errors and problems and weaknesses, etc. (Col.3:12) Put on therefore, as God's elect, holy and beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, meekness, longsuffering; (13) forbearing one another, and forgiving each other, if any man have a complaint against any; even as the Lord forgave you, so also do ye.  Paul is talking about personal forgiveness here and we always have to give personal forgiveness every time. He's not talking about governmental unforgiveness because it would truly be a sin to forgive someone in a governmental situation. When it's the responsibility of an elder to judge and they don't do it, then they are sinning. For instance faction must be dealt with swiftly or it will spread and destroy many with “vile deeds”. However we always have to forgive any offense against us personally or we won't be forgiven, which is the foundation of our salvation. In Mat 18:15  And if thy brother sin (against thee [some ancient authorities omit this and it does not have a numeric pattern]), go, show him his fault between thee and him alone: if he hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. The factious always disobey the command to go to the brother they are judging “alone” which makes them backbiters or back stabbers (Rom 1:30). They do this because their slander will be refuted by the witnesses. (Col.3:14) And above all these things [put on] love, which is the bond of perfectness. Of course, if you love your brother as yourself and you are not a respecter of persons, then you're going to want to afford every right and every privilege to him that you want for yourself.  This will bond you instead of divide you. If you want God to judge you according to grace and mercy, then remember you have to give that same grace and mercy to others. (Col.3:15) And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to the which also ye were called in one body; and be ye thankful. (16) Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly. It's not possible to let the Word of Christ “dwell in you richly” unless you're going to be obedient to the golden rule. The Word will not be manifested in you if you have unforgiveness. Unforgiveness blocks so many things that God could give to you and opens up the door for so many more sins that will take over your life, so that the Word will not be manifested in you.   The Word is Jesus and He will not be manifested in you if you have unforgiveness. All of those other fruits of bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, railing, and malice will be manifested instead of the Word. It doesn't matter what God has promised you; they won't come to pass because God's promises are conditional upon repentance and faith.   (Col.3:16) Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly; in all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms [and] hymns [and] spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts unto God. (17) And whatsoever ye do, in word or in deed, [do] all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. So whatever we do, we are to do it in Jesus' Name; in other words, as representing Him. The meaning for the Greek word for name is nature, character, and authority. To do everything in His name is to do it like He would; that's exactly the meaning of Colossians 3:17. If we would do what Jesus would do, then the Word would be manifested in us.   What is the nature of forgiveness? I believe what Jesus is doing is He is helping us to understand those circumstances in which we find ourselves most likely to fall into unforgiveness. Those circumstances aren't the big curses that we think they are. We need to understand that wicked people who come against us and tempt us to fall into unforgiveness or bitterness or judgment, are actually a blessing. They cleanse the body of leaven. We need to understand that the Lord is sovereign and no person can come into our life without God's grace. We need to understand what He says about them.  (Luk.6:22) Blessed are ye, when men shall hate you, and when they shall separate you [from their company,] and reproach you, and cast out your name as evil, for Son of man's sake. Well, we certainly don't think that we're being blessed when people do such things, but from God's point of view, we are. We shouldn't be so near-sighted to see only the circumstance and not what God says about the circumstance behind the scenes because what is being worked in us is for eternity. (23) Rejoice in that day (We sure need to remind ourselves of this because the flesh just cries out, doesn't it?), and leap [for joy] for behold, your reward is great in heaven (Can you imagine? This obnoxious person who is accosting you is actually creating a reward for you in heaven!); for in the same manner did their fathers unto the prophets. (24) But woe unto you that are rich! for ye have received your consolation. (25) Woe unto you, ye that are full now! for ye shall hunger. Woe [unto you,] ye that laugh now! for ye shall mourn and weep. (26) Woe [unto you,] when all men shall speak well of you! for in the same manner did their fathers to the false prophets. So we see that if these same wicked people speak well of us it is a woe to us.  Jesus said, “Woe ye that laugh now.” Yes, sometimes you weep, you mourn because of things that you go through at the hands of other people. But He said, “Woe ye that laugh now, for ye shall mourn and weep.” If we laugh at the judgment of others it is a woe to us. Things are going to be turned around. We are about to be treated badly by the world as a trial, but God says, “leap [for joy] for behold, your reward is great in heaven.” The reward that God is giving is not just a breath that He calls this life; the reward that God gives lasts forever and ever. If we could really understand what He's saying here and what is happening here, I believe we would leap for joy. God is true to His Word.   And now Jesus is going to tell you what it really is to be a forgiving person and what the fruit of being a forgiving person is. (Luk.6:27) But I say unto you that hear, Love your enemies, do good to them that hate you. If you let bitterness or unforgiveness rise up in your heart, it's just not possible to obey this. (Luk.6:28) Bless them that curse you, pray for them that despitefully use you. (29) To him that smiteth thee on the [one] cheek offer also the other; and from him that taketh away thy cloak withhold not thy coat also. The only person who can do this is a forgiving person, a person who is not judging. They are being obedient to the Lord and they have His grace working in them. Of course, you don't have the grace to do these things if you're unforgiving because then God withholds His grace. He gives grace only to the humble. (Jas.4:6) But he giveth more grace. Wherefore [the scripture] saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace to the humble. (Luk.6:30) Give to everyone that asketh thee; and of him that taketh away thy goods ask them not again.  Those with faction and witchcraft stole from us whenever there was an opportunity and we have never asked it back but God always repays it multiplied when we just give it. In other words, He doesn't want you to judge these people. He tells us, (1Co.5:12) For what have I to do with judging them that are without? Do not ye judge them that are within (meaning those within the Church)? In obedience to this, before the faction leave the Church in a rage we correct their slander, fornication, lies, lusting, etc. After they leave we have only judged them carefully when the Lord told us to. (13) But them that are without (outside of the Church or not in the Church) God judgeth. (Luk.6:31) And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.   Here again is that perfect law of liberty. Giving mercy when we want mercy, sowing the very seed that we need because each seed brings forth after its own kind. If you want mercy, you sow mercy; if you want forgiveness, you sow forgiveness, etc. God will bring it back to you. (Luk.6:32) And if ye love them that love you, what thank have ye? Oh, it's easy to love and forgive people who love and forgive you, but what about giving love and what He is telling us to do here. (Luk.6:32) And if ye love them that love you, what thank have ye? for even sinners love those that love them. There's no reward for us in loving those who are good to us. (33) And if ye do good to them that do good to you, what thank have ye? for even sinners do the same. True; even sinners do the same, so we have to be above that. We have to be able to do it even for the wicked and the unworthy, and God will give us grace to do this. It all comes by grace from God but we forsake our own grace if we are unforgiving.   (Luk.6:34) And if ye lend to them of whom ye hope to receive, what thank have ye? even sinners lend to sinners, to receive again as much. (35) But love your enemies, and do [them] good, and lend, never despairing; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be sons of the Most High: for he is kind toward the unthankful and evil. I know that you want to be a son of God, not just a child of God. The manifestation of sons is what the whole world is waiting to see. (Rom.8:19) For the earnest expectation of the creation waiteth for the revealing of the sons of God. He's telling you here how to be a son.   If you don't want to do these things or if you give little esteem to these things that Jesus is saying, you forsake grace. And if you're unforgiving, then, of course, you won't have grace to do these things. And not only won't you have grace to do them, you won't want to do them. It will not be possible for you to do them. If we want to be sons of God, we have to be like His Son. And what did Jesus say? (Luk.23:34) Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. (35) But love your enemies, and do [them] good, and lend, never despairing; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be sons of the Most High: for he is kind toward the unthankful and evil. (36) Be ye merciful, even as your Father is merciful. (37) And judge not, and ye shall not be judged: and condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned.   Be careful that if any judgment or any condemnation is coming through you, that it's coming from God and not from you. If you have any personal feelings, if you have personal bitterness or unforgiveness toward someone, then you're not neutral and God can't use you. He can't use you as a son, as He could use His Son, because His Son was truly forgiving. (Luk.6:37) And judge not, and ye shall not be judged: and condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: release, and ye shall be released. Jesus forgave the sinners but governmentally judged the judges. When you're holding people captive to their sins or, in other words, holding them accountable to their sins against you, it says to “release and ye shall be released.” (Luk.6:38) Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, shall they give into your bosom. For with what measure ye mete it shall be measured to you again. This is just so important for us to remember! However we give it out to others, however we sow it, that's what is going to come back to us.   We've seen how unforgiveness manifests itself in our thoughts and our actions. Forgiveness also manifests in our thoughts and our actions. Here's a good example: (Mat.5:38) Ye have heard that it was said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: (39) but I say unto you, Resist not him that is evil ... According to the Law, you were able to demand an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. You had the right to execute vengeance under the Law. But the Law could make nothing perfect, and God decided that He needed a better Covenant with better promises, so He gave us the New Covenant.  Paul in 1Co 5 told the Church to throw the fornicator and reviler out to save the Church because a little leaven leavens the whole lump. Now this is definitely talking about not resisting humans because we're told in (Jas.4:7) Be subject therefore unto God; but resist the devil, and he will flee from you. We are told to resist the devil and his demons but Matthew is talking about the person, the flesh and blood, with whom we are not supposed to fight. The elder must resist the wicked for the Church with governmental authority as we have seen. The angels go out to take down slander because it is an attempt to destroy souls and families with witchcraft.  Individually we fight against our real enemy, the principalities and the powers. (2Co.10:3) For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh (4) (for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but mighty before God to the casting down of strongholds), (5) casting down imaginations, and every high thing that is exalted against the knowledge of God, and bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.  (Mat.5:39) But I say unto you, Resist not him that is evil: but whosoever smiteth thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. If you forgave a person immediately, as you should do, then you would be able to resist retaliation. If you overcome unforgiveness every time someone attacks you that's a good thing, and if you finally overcome it in your nature, you won't have any problem obeying what Jesus commanded here. The majority of the Church doesn't pay much attention to these Scriptures for they are self-crucifying. They would rather appease their flesh and retaliate in order to get out of this crucifixion to their flesh.   (Mat.5:40) And if any man would go to law with thee, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also. That really comes against the flesh; we are really swimming upstream here to be obedient to Jesus. Unforgiveness is common. It's thought of as a worthy thing in the world but the Lord speaks very harshly against it. (Mat.5:41) And whosoever shall compel thee to go one mile, go with him two. This also really goes against the flesh. The flesh is prideful and doesn't want to do this; and God hates pride. Unforgiving people are prideful people because they think that they have the right to judge.   (Mat.5:42) Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away. This is humiliating to the old man. (43) Ye have heard that it was said, Thou shalt love thy neighbor, and hate thine enemy: (44) but I say unto you, Love your enemies ... Of course, this is the total opposite of unforgiveness, judgment, bitterness, wrath and demanding your rights. (Mat.5:44) But I say unto you, Love your enemies, and pray for them that persecute you; (45) that ye may be sons of your Father ... Look at how many times the Lord connects sonship with this kind of humility in our lives. He connects sonship with the kind of humility that doesn't judge, the kind of humility that forgives.   (45) That ye may be sons of your Father who is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sendeth rain on the just and the unjust. We wonder why God doesn't judge certain people around us; we wonder because He is so longsuffering with the wicked and vessels of dishonor so the elect among them will be saved as in Romans 9.  But He needs and uses those vessels of dishonor to try us and crucify our flesh. (46) For if ye love them that love you, what reward have ye? …(48) Ye therefore shall be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.   Brethren, some of the worst of men can be saved, Paul and Peter were but Judas was not. Pray for your families that they forgive, repent, and be among the chosen. Here is something many leave out, God's will.  Rom 9:2-5 that I have great sorrow and unceasing pain in my heart.  3  For I could wish that I myself were anathema from Christ for my brethren's sake, my kinsmen according to the flesh: (He had great love and great faith but few were saved. Why?) 6  But it is not as though the word of God hath come to nought. For they are not all Israel, that are of Israel: (The same is true of the recognized “Church”.) 7  neither, because they are Abraham's seed, are they all children: but, In Isaac shall thy seed be called. (The chosen lineage among Abrahams children.) 8  That is, it is not the children of the flesh that are children of God; but the children of the promise are reckoned for a seed. (Only those who have faith in the promises.) 9  For this is a word of promise, According to this season will I come, and Sarah shall have a son. (A type of the promised seed of all nations. This was after God rejected Ishmael, a type of the rejected seed of all nations.) 10  And not only so; but Rebecca also having conceived by one, even by our father Isaac--  11  for the children being not yet born, neither having done anything good or bad, that the purpose of God according to election (choosing) might stand, not of works, but of him that calleth, (Only “many are called but few are chosen”.) 12  it was said unto her, The elder shall serve the younger.  13  Even as it is written, Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated.  (Two types of world-wide people.) Many will argue with this but God says in 14  What shall we say then? Is there unrighteousness with God? God forbid.  15  For he saith to Moses, I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion.  16  So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, (The choice is not man's but Gods. Religion doesn't count.) but of God that hath mercy. 17  For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, For this very purpose did I raise thee up, that I might show in thee my power, and that my name might be published abroad in all the earth.  18  So then he hath mercy on whom he will, and whom he will be hardeneth.  19  Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he still find fault? For who withstandeth his will?  20  Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why didst thou make me thus?  21  Or hath not the potter a right over the clay, from the same lump to make one part a vessel unto honor, and another unto dishonor?  22  What if God, willing to show his wrath, and to make his power known, endured with much longsuffering vessels of wrath fitted unto destruction:  23  and that he might make known the riches of his glory upon vessels of mercy, which he afore prepared unto glory,  24  even us, whom he also called, not from the Jews only, but also from the Gentiles?  25  As he saith also in Hosea, I will call that my people, which was not my people; And her beloved, that was not beloved.  26  And it shall be, that in the place where it was said unto them, Ye are not my people, There shall they be called sons of the living God.  27  And Isaiah crieth concerning Israel, If the number of the children of Israel be as the sand of the sea, it is the remnant that shall be saved:  28  for the Lord will execute his word upon the earth, finishing it and cutting it short.  29  And, as Isaiah hath said before, Except the Lord of Sabaoth had left us a seed, We had become as Sodom, and had been made like unto Gomorrah. 

Unforgiveness feels justified. It feels protective. Sometimes it even feels righteous. But what if the person you're hurting most is yourself? In this message from our BETRAYED series, we discover how Satan uses unforgiveness as a weapon, why bitterness spreads far beyond us, and how God's path of forgiveness leads to freedom, healing, and peace.

Can Unforgiveness Affect My Eternal Salvation? Colossians 3:13 “Bearing with one another and forgiving one another, if one has a grievance against another; as the Lord has forgiven you, so must you also do.”  I recently attended a boot camp to learn about the Unbound method of deliverance. Unbound is a technique that helps set people free from the things that weigh them down. The reality is that our enemy, the devil, wants to keep us from living out our destinies as children of God. Evil spirits can gain influence in our lives through open doorways. These doors are often opened through our own choices, the choices of others, or wounds from our past. Sometimes we unknowingly open doors through things like the occult, bitterness, resentment, or unforgiveness. The first two essential steps we learned were repentance and forgiveness. The first step is repenting of sin and expressing faith in Jesus. We all sin, and sin damages our relationship with God. It also gives the enemy ammunition to use against us. One of his favorite weapons is shame. Shame is not from God. Shame causes us to hide, isolate, and believe we are unworthy. When we repent, we bring our sins into the light and remove their power over us. The second step is forgiveness. This is the one that left the biggest impression on me. Several years ago, I was at a Bible study discussing Matthew 6:14: “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” Someone pointed out that God forgives us the same way we forgive others. I was shocked. I had prayed the Our Father countless times and never fully realized what I was saying when I prayed, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” That realization changed my life. There have only been a few times when Scripture completely changed the way I thought. One was when I learned that the same Spirit that raised Jesus from the dead lives in us. The other was realizing what I was actually praying every time I prayed the Our Father. When I understood this, I became determined to learn how to forgive better. Over the years, I have learned that forgiveness is an act of the will, not a feeling. It is choosing to stop carrying the offense and turning judgment over to God. Forgiveness does not mean what happened was okay. It does not mean forgetting. It does not mean reconciling or allowing someone back into your life. It simply means refusing to let unforgiveness continue to control you. The analogy I hear most often is that unforgiveness is like drinking poison every day and expecting the other person to die. Usually, the person we refuse to forgive has moved on while we continue carrying the burden. I know some of you have every reason to be angry, hurt, and wounded. I know people can do terrible things. However, holding onto unforgiveness hurts us far more than it hurts them. Our teacher shared a story about a priest who had a near-death experience. Although he had spent his life serving God, Jesus revealed that he was holding unforgiveness in his heart toward people who had hurt him. Jesus reminded him that those people belonged to Him and that his job was to focus on the mission God had given him. The priest later said something that really stayed with me: “A person who can't forgive is a person who has forgotten how much they have been forgiven.” That statement hit me hard. What if God held all of our sins against us? What if He refused to forgive us? What if He never sent Jesus to save us? Forgiveness is far more important than many of us realize. I know many people refuse to forgive because they feel the other person doesn't deserve forgiveness. You may be right. They may not deserve it. But forgiveness is not about them. It is about you. It is about setting yourself free from the spirit of unforgiveness. Unforgiveness can block healing, peace, freedom, and intimacy with God. Is it really worth it? I want to end with some hope because some of you may be thinking, “I want to forgive, but I don't know how.” The good news is that God does not expect us to forgive through our own strength. One of my teachers shared a story about a woman who could not forgive her sister. She wasn't even ready to pray, “Lord, help me forgive.” But she was willing to pray, “Lord, help me want to want to forgive.” That small opening was enough for God to begin working in her heart. Maybe that is where you are today. Maybe all you can pray is, “Lord, give me the grace to want to forgive.” That is enough. God meets us exactly where we are. He can do the hard part if we are willing to take even the smallest step. Remember, forgiveness is an act of the will, not a feeling. God is asking us to give Him even the tiniest opening so He can transform our hearts. Don't let the unforgiveness of what others have done continue to affect your life. Haven't they taken enough already? A wonderful way to conclude your forgiveness of another is to pray the Father's Blessing upon them. God rejoices when we choose forgiveness because that is exactly how He treats us. Dear Heavenly Father, I ask you to bless all those listening to this episode today. Lord, we want to spend eternity with you. We don't want anything to get in our way, especially unforgiveness. Please show us whom we need to forgive and then help us forgive them. For those we feel we cannot forgive, please soften our hearts and give us the grace to at least want to forgive. Help us allow you into every area of our lives. Help us repent of our sins and repair our relationship with you. We love you, Lord, and we ask all of this in accordance with your will and in Jesus' holy name, Amen. Thank you so much for joining me on this journey to walk boldly with Jesus. I look forward to meeting you here again tomorrow. Remember, Jesus loves you and so do I! Have a blessed day! www.findingtruenorthcoaching.comCLICK HERE TO DONATECLICK HERE to sign up for Mentoring CLICK HERE to sign up for Daily "Word from the Lord" emailsCLICK HERE to sign up for my newsletter & receive a free audio training about inviting Jesus into your daily lifeCLICK HERE to buy my book Total Trust in God's Safe Embrace

In this powerful episode of Master Your Marriage, Sharla and Robert Snow explore one of the most misunderstood topics in relationships: forgiveness. They revisit the subject with fresh insights, addressing common misconceptions, the crucial difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, and when it might actually be wise to move slowly on reconciliation — while still choosing internal peace.Through personal stories (including Sharla's transformational experience with ho'oponopono), real client examples, and science-backed research, you'll discover how forgiveness is something you do for yourself — not for the offender. Learn how to let go of resentment without losing your boundaries or compromising your safety.Whether you're working through a small rupture or a deep wound, this episode offers clarity, hope, and practical tools to help you find freedom.Key Takeaways:Forgiveness is an internal process — it does not mean forgetting, excusing, or reconciling.You can forgive someone and still maintain strong boundaries (or even choose not to reconcile).Your peace does not have to wait for the other person to change — that's living at cause.Unforgiveness carries real physical and mental health costs, but forgiveness offers powerful benefits.Resources Mentioned:Companion Episode: Ho'oponopono Forgiveness Meditation (available on Spotify & Apple Podcasts) and available here!Research & Further Reading:Toussaint, L. L., et al. (2016). “Forgiveness, Stress, and Health: A 5-Week Dynamic Parallel Process Study.” Annals of Behavioral Medicine. PubMed Abstract | Full Text (PMC)Toussaint, L. L., et al. (2016). “Effects of Lifetime Stress Exposure on Mental and Physical Health in Young Adulthood: How Stress Degrades and Forgiveness Protects Health.” Journal of Health Psychology. PubMed Abstract | PDFEnright's Process Model of Forgiveness: International Forgiveness InstituteConnect With Us:Website: masteryourmarriage.usSubscribe on your favorite podcast app and leave a 5-star review — it helps us reach more couples!Follow us on social media @MasterYourMarriage

This week, Pastor Tim Brown continued our FREED series with a sermon on unforgiveness—what he called one of the most ignored sources of bondage in the Church today. Drawing from Matthew 18, Pastor Tim explored why forgiveness is so difficult, how bitterness quietly takes root in our lives, and why Jesus speaks about forgiveness with such urgency. Through the parable of the unforgiving servant, he showed that forgiveness is not minimizing an offense, but absorbing the debt, humanizing the offender, and releasing them. The invitation of Jesus is clear: unforgiveness imprisons us, but forgiveness opens the door to freedom.

In Matthew 18, Jesus reveals what the Kingdom of Heaven is like: a King overflowing with mercy who forgives an impossible debt, and a people transformed by that mercy. Those who truly understand the magnitude of God's forgiveness walk in humility, repentance, and forgiveness toward others. Unforgiveness, pride, and bitterness keep us bound, but those who receive grace and extend it to others live in the freedom of the Kingdom. This message explores the parable of the unforgiving servant, the humility of biblical heroes like Joseph, David, Mary, and John the Baptist, and the call for every believer to receive God's mercy and release others from their debts. The evidence of having experienced God's mercy is showing mercy to others.

Welcome to "UNFORGIVENESS Is DESTROYING YOU…And YOU Don't Even Know It." Today, Pastor Sean invites you to receive a word that will expose something that may be silently destroying your health, your peace, your relationships, and your connection with God — because Matthew 18:21-35 reveals the most dangerous thing about unforgiveness. It does not imprison the person you will not forgive. It imprisons YOU.Peter came to Jesus and asked — "Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?" Jesus replied —"No, not seven times, but seventy times seven!" — Matthew 18:22 (NLT)Let these words resonate within your heart today. Seventy times seven is not a mathematical limit. It is the declaration that forgiveness has no ceiling. Jesus was not giving Peter a number — He was abolishing the concept of a limit altogether. Take comfort in this — the God who asks you to forgive without limit is the same God who forgave YOUR debt without limit. And that is exactly the lesson the servant in this parable forgot."Then the king called in the man he had forgiven and said, 'You evil servant! I forgave you that tremendous debt because you pleaded with me. Shouldn't you have had mercy on your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you?'" — Matthew 18:32-33 (NLT)"Then the angry king sent the man to prison to be tortured until he had paid his entire debt. That's what my heavenly Father will do to you if you refuse to forgive your brothers and sisters from your heart." — Matthew 18:34-35 (NLT)The torture in this parable is not a future punishment alone. Every person holding unforgiveness is already experiencing its torture — sleepless nights, bitterness, health issues, broken relationships, blocked prayers. UNFORGIVENESS is DESTROYING YOU — and most people never connect the destruction to the root.May this powerful teaching from Matthew 18:21-35 fill your heart with the courage to release what you have been holding — and remind you that forgiveness is not for the person who hurt you. It is for YOU. Thank you for joining me today. Subscribe for daily teachings, morning prayer broadcasts, and live services.

Pastor Andy Cass What if the greatest threat to your relationships isn't conflict, distance, or disagreement? What if it's unforgiveness? Jesus crossed the great divide of sin and death to forgive us, but many of us struggle when He asks us to cross the room toward someone who hurt us. TEXT: Mark 5:1-20; Matthew 18:21-22; Matthew 6:14-15; Mark 11:25 NOTES: Big Idea- The silent bomb in our relationships is unforgiveness. Forgiveness Is a Cost Most People Don't Want to Pay * No forgiveness means no freedom. * It's easier to push people away than to pray for God to help us forgive them. * Unforgiveness becomes our economy. The best evangelist is a free, forgiving, and unbound follower of Jesus. “Unforgiveness is the practice of the spiritually lazy.” Stay Connected: Give: https://theecho.churchcenter.com/giving Online Service: Sundays 9 AM (YouTube & Facebook Live) Connect: https://theecho.churchcenter.com/people/forms/113001 Instagram: @wearetheechochurch #EchoChurch #ChristianSermon #FaithGrowth #BibleTeaching

 Pastor KJay launch a life-changing new series, A Series on Forgiveness.Today's message title: Let It Go

In this episode, Grant dives into one of the hardest commands Jesus gives us in Matthew 6:9–14: forgiveness. Forgiveness isn't optional for believers. It's at the very center of the life God calls us to live. But what does forgiveness actually look like? Why is it so difficult to let go of hurt? This conversation gets honest about the weight of unforgiveness and how bitterness, offense, and pain can quietly keep us bound. Grant unpacks how forgiveness is not about excusing the wound, but about surrendering it to God and allowing Him to heal what we can't heal on our own. Through Jesus, we've been freely forgiven, and He invites us into that same freedom by extending grace to others. Forgiveness may not change the past, but it can change your heart, your healing, and your future. Our prayer is that this episode helps you release what you've been carrying, trust God with the hurt, and walk in the freedom that comes through forgiveness.

This week, Jake and Bob talk about the two Sacraments of Healing, Reconciliation and the Anointing of the Sick, and what they reveal about Christ as the physician of both soul and body. They discuss how suffering itself can become healing, why not everyone who prays for healing is healed, and the role of forgiveness in both receiving and asking for healing. Healing ultimately is a restoration into wholeness and is found in communion with God. Jake and Bob end by sharing a few stories of miraculous healing as well as their experiences of receiving a quiet, yet strengthening grace.   Key Points: There are two Sacraments of Healing: Reconciliation and the Anointing of the Sick. Jesus is the physician of both body and soul. Healing is an ongoing encounter with God's love. Forgiveness of sins and physical healing are deeply interconnected. Unforgiveness can act as a barrier that prevents deeper healing from taking place. Sin causes fragmentation, while forgiveness restores unity and openness to grace. The Sacrament of Reconciliation offers forgiveness and healing for the heart. The Anointing of the Sick offers grace for physical healing, spiritual strength, and preparation for death. Suffering becomes healing when it draws a person into deeper communion with God. Not everyone receives physical healing, and this remains a real and difficult mystery.   Resources: CCC 1421 CCC 1503 CCC 1508-1509   Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 01:33 The Two Sacraments of Healing 06:16 Forgiveness as A Barrier or Gateway to Healing 12:30 The Healing Nature of Suffering 15:30 Stories of the Anointing of the Sick 25:39 Why Not Everyone is Healed 34:21 God's Grace is Sufficient   Connect with Restore the Glory:  Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast  Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast   Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

Strongholds | The Stronghold of Unforgiveness by The Bridge Church NYC

Do you feel stuck in your own unforgiveness? While we exist in the reality of a broken world and real hurts have been done to us, Tyler Moffett walks us through Genesis 45 & 50 to remind us of the forgiveness that was first extended to us.

Do you feel stuck in your own unforgiveness? While we exist in the reality of a broken world and real hurts have been done to us, Tyler Moffett walks us through Genesis 45 & 50 to remind us of the forgiveness that was first extended to us.

In this episode, I sit down with Nikki Sixx — founder of Mötley Crüe, rock legend, bestselling author, and a man whose story goes so much deeper than anything that ever happened on a stage. This conversation is not about the music. It's about what happens when a boy grows up without his father, carries that wound through decades of addiction and chaos, and finally — through sobriety, therapy, forgiveness, and faith — becomes the kind of dad his own kids can always run to. Nikki opens up about growing up without his dad in the picture, how the story he was told about his father wasn't the full truth, and the slow and painful process of forgiving both his parents. He shares the defining therapy session where a frumpy office, a dusty couch, and one sentence from his therapist — "you don't have to love your mom" — cracked something open in him that changed everything. We talk about sobriety, and Nikki is direct: it always gets worse before it gets better. When you remove the substance, you have to face what's underneath. But if you can survive that first year, your whole life reorganizes. He's 20 years sober, and what he's built on the other side of that — as a husband, a father of five, a writer, and a creative — is nothing short of remarkable. And Larry's son Ethan jumps in with a question that leads to one of the most important moments of the episode: Nikki's warning to today's teenagers about the very real and deadly danger of fentanyl-laced drugs — from someone who has lived every version of this story.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:01] Introducing Nikki Sixx — founder of Mötley Crüe, author, and one of the most unexpected guests in Dad Edge history [2:28] Growing up on vinyl, discovering music, and the self-discovery of being a young man in a different era [5:13] Both Larry and Nikki share the experience of growing up without their fathers — and how it shaped them [6:00] Writing The First 21 — the story of Frankie Farina, his dad's name, and what Nikki discovered about his father that surprised him [7:15] How the absence of a father manifests differently in every man — and why Nikki's came out as anger in his late teens [10:36] Larry's own story: being reunited with his father at 30 and building a relationship over 16 years [13:30] Getting to maturity means facing reality — and what Nikki's kids get to see by watching their dad work through his own stuff [14:22] Being gone on tour while raising kids — the guilt of absence and the work of making amends [15:35] No gold records on the walls: how Nikki deliberately kept his celebrity out of the home to protect his kids [16:32] "Not wanting to be my dad made me a better dad — but forgiving my dad might make me an even better one" [17:16] At 62 with a two-year-old: what legacy do you want to leave, and how do you get there without carrying old baggage? [18:31] Put down the baggage — it's heavy, it's exhausting, and it's crushing the people who love you most [19:23] The therapy session that changed Nikki's life: a dusty office, beams of light, and "you don't have to love your mom" [21:19] Letting go of the victim story and reclaiming the good — his dad was creative, his mom was charismatic, and Nikki carries both [23:28] Creating a home where your kids can always call dad — no matter what, no matter when [24:19] How unforgiveness clouds your ability to love the people right in front of you [25:36] Why Nikki shares his story publicly — so someone else doesn't have to wait as long to have their moment [29:18] When your daughter says "dad, you seem so happy" — the moment you know it's working [30:11] Ethan tells Larry "I love my life" — and why that's the greatest thing a father can hear [31:04] Moving from LA to Wyoming: finding simplicity in nature, watching moose in the yard, and what wildlife teaches about family [37:24] 20 years of sobriety — and why Nikki says it is an absolute gift [37:43] The hard truth about getting sober: it always gets worse before it gets better, and most people quit too soon [41:28] Larry's 90-day sobriety challenge with 30 men — and what clarity feels like when you strip alcohol away [43:41] Why humans are the only animals that can completely change the shape of their mind and body — and what that means for how we live [45:21] Men's stag meetings, male support systems, and why Nikki found brotherhood in sobriety that he never had growing up [47:37] Ethan's question for Nikki: what advice would you give a teenager in this generation? [48:39] Nikki's urgent warning about fentanyl — the drugs today are not what they were, and they are killing healthy young athletes at parties [50:19] How Nikki got sober: losing every friend, throwing himself into health and fitness, and writing Doctor Feelgood   Five Key Takeaways The story you were told about your father may not be the full truth. Until you do the work to find out who he really was, you're carrying someone else's version of your own life. Unforgiveness doesn't hurt the person you're holding it against — it closes you off from the people right in front of you who love you and need you. Sobriety always gets worse before it gets better. When you remove the substance, you have to face what's underneath. That is the work — and it's worth it. The greatest thing you can build as a father is an environment where your kids feel safe enough to call you when things go wrong — not hide it from you. The drugs today are not what they were. Fentanyl doesn't care how healthy or young you are. This is not a conversation to put off with your kids.   Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com The First 21 by Nikki Sixx: Available on Amazon Follow Nikki Sixx on Instagram: @nikkisixxpixx Episode Link & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/343 Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the baggage you're carrying is not just yours to bear — it's being felt by every person in your home. Nikki Sixx spent decades carrying wounds from a father who left and a mother who filled in the gaps with half-truths. And it wasn't until he put that baggage down — through sobriety, through therapy, through the hard work of forgiveness — that he could fully show up for his wife and his five kids. That is the work. It's not glamorous, it's not fast, and it doesn't happen all at once. But on the other side of it is a man his daughter looks at and says, "Dad, you seem so happy." That is the goal. If this episode hit close to home, share it with a man who needs to hear it. Because every man deserves to put the weight down. Go out and live legendary.