Unashamed Unafraid

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, hosts Chris and Sam sit down with Roland as he shares his poignant journey of living a double life, challenging his faith, and struggling with process addiction. Roland talks about growing up in a strict religious environment, questioning beliefs at a young age, and the impact of living a double life. He dives into how his need for validation and admiration led to compulsive behaviors that eventually resulted in a traumatic arrest at 14. Roland unpacks the concept of process addiction, explaining the necessity of addressing the underlying desire for validation rather than treating it as a typical addiction. He also discusses his path to recovery and the creation of his treatment program for high-achieving men, 'Successful Addict.' Roland emphasizes the importance of legacy, spirituality, and redefining what true admiration and respect mean in overcoming addiction. This episode provides deep insights into the challenges of process addiction and offers hope and practical advice for those struggling with similar issues.*To connect with Roland, visit his website, check out his book on Amazon, and listen to his podcast!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction00:51 Roland's Early Life and Faith Struggles01:54 Living a Double Life02:19 Questioning Religious Beliefs05:08 Impact of Faith on Addiction06:40 Understanding Compulsive Behaviors08:04 Arrest and Its Aftermath10:16 Hiding the Secret and Seeking Validation14:06 Process Addictions and Seeking Attention16:49 Path to Recovery and Redefining Admiration20:40 The Shift from Addiction to Sobriety21:23 Normalization and Society's Influence23:55 The Role of Legacy in Sobriety25:08 Spirituality and Recovery28:30 Understanding Process Addiction32:44 The Successful Addict Program35:33 Final Thoughts and Resources39:32 A Song of Hope and Connection

Join us as we dive deep into the intricate connections between trauma and addiction. In this episode, James, Sam, and Chris discuss their personal experiences with trauma work, its impact on recovery, and how identifying and addressing underlying trauma can help in overcoming compulsive behaviors. This insightful conversation sheds light on the importance of understanding emotional needs, the process of healing, and the journey to living a more balanced and fulfilling life. Don't miss out on these powerful stories and the valuable lessons learned along the way.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith are clinicians, speakers, and authors of the book Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time. They have over 20 years of combined experience in counseling, coaching, and guiding couples toward healing and transformation. Their mission is to help couples navigate the complexities of relational challenges, particularly in the aftermath of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, fostering deep restoration and growth. Sam and Chris interview Matthew and Joanna about their 12-year journey from personal crisis to professional careers helping couples recover from addiction and betrayal. The couple recounts their early struggles, how addiction and infidelity impacted their marriage, and the pivotal moments that set them on a path to recovery. They discuss the development of their intimacy framework, 'The Intimacy Pyramid,' which guides couples from honesty to a deeply connected relationship. The dialogue underscores the role of faith, the importance of mutual honesty and trust, and the hard work necessary for relational healing. *To connect with Matthew & Joanna, visit raabsmithteam.comFollow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction and Welcome01:03 Meet Matthew and Joanna01:20 The Journey of Recovery02:14 Early Marriage Struggles04:28 The Turning Point06:12 Confession and Recovery07:25 Faith and Ministry Challenges16:04 Building Honesty and Safety21:59 Building Trust in Relationships22:47 The Role of Vulnerability25:00 Achieving Intimacy26:31 The Journey of Healing29:20 Steps to Rebuild Trust37:48 The Importance of Self-Regulation39:57 Resources and Support for Couples

In this episode, James, Chris and Sam discuss the transformative power of hope in overcoming addiction. They share personal stories of hitting rock bottom due to pornography addiction and codependent relationships, and how these low points led to pivotal changes in their journey to recovery. Emphasis is placed on the importance of finding a hopeful vision for a better life, engaging in genuine self-reflection, and relying on supportive resources and faith. The episode encourages listeners to see their potential for change and recovery, emphasizing that transformative identity shifts are key to overcoming addiction and finding true healing.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this heartfelt episode of 'Unashamed Unafraid,' hosts Sam and James sit down with Ryan and Kelce to discuss their deeply personal journey through pornography addiction and the trials it brought into their marriage. Ryan recounts his early exposure to pornography, the secrecy around his addiction, and the turning point that led to his decision to seek recovery. Kelce shares her initial shock, her decision to stay, and their joint path toward healing. Together, they highlight the key tools and support systems, including church programs and therapy, that have helped them rebuild trust and create deeper intimacy. Their story is a testament to the power of vulnerability, communication, and the unyielding support they found in each other and their faith. Join us for a powerful conversation about overcoming addiction and fostering genuine connections.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:57 Meet Ryan and Kelce01:28 Ryan's Early Exposure to Pornography02:04 Kelce's Perspective and Early Marriage02:34 Communication Challenges in Marriage04:13 Ryan's Struggle with Addiction13:41 The Turning Point: D-Day17:46 The Unexpected Bombshell18:22 Kelce's Emotional Response20:22 Finding Support and Guidance21:45 The Role of Addiction Recovery Programs24:27 Navigating Recovery Together29:17 Tools and Skills for Managing Emotions33:22 Final Reflections and Hope

Join Sam, Chris, and James as they candidly discuss the concept of 'negotiating with your addiction.' They dive into personal stories and practical strategies for maintaining strict boundaries to foster long-term recovery. Topics include recognizing subtle forms of addiction, setting and respecting personal boundaries, and the significance of building a track record of sobriety. Learn the secret to overcoming compulsive behaviors and play it through to manage addiction effectively.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Dr. Heidi Hastings, a marriage and sex researcher with a PhD, discusses her research focused on religious women and the impact of their husband's pornography use on their sexuality and spirituality. Through her studies, which include Christian, Jewish, and Muslim women, Dr. Hastings identifies five stages of betrayal trauma: innocence, crisis, aftermath, healing, and transformation. She explains how these stages align with identity development theories and shares key insights on how betrayed women navigate these stages, the importance of female support, and how individuals can heal and transform through understanding and redefining their identity. The episode also touches on how religious leaders can better support betrayed women and provides advice for parents on empowering their daughters. Dr. Hastings emphasizes the eventual deepening of trust and relationship with Jesus Christ as a pivotal element in the healing journey.*To connect with Heidi visit, drheidihastings.com, follow her on Social Media @Marriage.IQ.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode of 'Live Unashamed,' hosts Chris, Sam, and Liam dive into the complexities of dating while struggling with addiction, especially pornography. They share personal anecdotes and strategies on when and how to disclose these struggles to potential partners. The conversation touches on why it's important to be transparent before exclusive dating, the complications of living a double life, and the necessity of seeking validation from God rather than a partner. The hosts emphasize the significance of honesty, recovery, and personal worth in navigating relationships.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

Join us in this powerful episode where Johnny and Emily candidly share their journey through the devastating impacts of porn addiction on their marriage. From Johnny's early struggles with pornography to the heart-wrenching moments of disclosure, and finally to their inspiring recovery, they discuss how faith, honesty, and community support brought them closer to each other and to God. Tune in for an emotional and raw conversation filled with valuable insights and hope for anyone battling similar struggles.Johnny and Emily have been married since 1987 and have 3 adult children and 5 grandchildren. After the first 31 years, Johnny's infidelity fueled by pornography came to light and their marriage was shattered into dust. With God's help, they both decided to stay married, and embarked on a journey of healing and restoration.*Ways to connect with Johnny & Emily:Podcast Beyond Broken Vows PodcastWebsite beyondbrokenvows.comEmail support@beyondbrokenvows.comNewsletter sign up - insider.beyondbrokenvows.comFollow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode, Chris and Sam engage in a deep conversation about overcoming abusive self-talk and shame. They share personal experiences and strategies to combat feelings of inadequacy and low self-worth, emphasizing the importance of changing one's identity and finding validation through a relationship with God. They discuss the impact of shame messages from childhood and how true behavior change stems from identity change. The episode also highlights how important it is to let go of negative self-perceptions and embrace the love and support offered by God and loved ones.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this heartfelt episode, Matt and Tracy share their deeply personal journey of battling and overcoming pornography addiction. From early encounters with pornography and the challenges of maintaining secrecy, Matt opens up about his struggles and the impact on his faith and marriage. Tracy provides insight into her emotional turmoil and the steps she took towards her own healing. Together, they discuss the turning points in their healing process, the role of faith, and the tools that helped them rebuild their relationship and lives. Their story is a testament to the power of love, faith, and the courage to seek help.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this special episode of 'Unashamed Unafraid,' James and Steve introduce Sam as the new official host, marking a significant transition for the podcast. They discuss the reasons behind this change, dispel myths about their recovery journeys, and reflect on their experiences with the show. Sam shares his thoughts on authenticity, his personal recovery journey, and the future direction of 'Unashamed Unafraid.' Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

Join us as Liam shares his powerful journey from battling addiction to finding faith and redemption. In this heartfelt episode, Liam opens up about his early struggles with drugs, alcohol, and pornography, and how he found solace and recovery through his church. Liam discusses the pivotal moments that led him to reconnect with God, the importance of community and connection in overcoming addiction, and the invaluable guidance he received from a mentor in the recovery program. Through tears, humility, and unwavering faith, Liam's story is a testament to the power of connection, self-awareness, and spiritual growth. Don't miss his inspiring story and learn how you, too, can find the strength to overcome life's toughest challenges.*To connect with Liam, send him an email Liamesm94@gmail.comFollow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

Chris and Sam discuss the importance of daily habits, or 'dailies,' in maintaining a grounded relationship with God and supporting recovery. Both emphasize how consistent habits like daily affirmations, prayer, and meditation can lower stress and help process emotions. They discuss the challenges and benefits of making time for these daily practices, tools like a daily affirmation book, and the importance of choosing habits that one enjoys rather than dreads. Both also share personal anecdotes and strategies they employ, encouraging listeners to find what works for them and to give themselves grace when they fall short. Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, James and Chris sit down with Steve, the founder of the podcast, to discuss a deeply personal update in his life: his divorce from his wife, Kayla. Steve opens up about the emotional and spiritual journey that led to their separation, emphasizing the importance of honesty, accountability, and real recovery. He shares how this life change has impacted his sobriety and mental health, and how both he and Kayla are navigating co-parenting and their new lives apart. This candid conversation sheds light on the complexities of relationships, addiction recovery, and the role of faith in overcoming life's challenges. Join us for an eye-opening episode that underscores the importance of staying true to oneself and seeking genuine happiness.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction01:08 Steve's Personal Story and Divorce Announcement02:26 Reflections on Sobriety and Recovery05:38 Codependency and Personal Growth15:53 In-House Separation and Boundary Issues22:21 Spiritual Experiences and Realizations28:13 Reflecting on Past Behaviors29:07 Spiritual Awakening and Healing30:18 Understanding and Compassion33:14 The Apple and Orange Metaphor34:57 Courage and Honesty in Marriage38:49 Peaceful Divorce and Co-Parenting43:47 Hope for the Future48:42 Final Thoughts and Reflections

In this episode, hosts Chris, Sam, James, and guest Josh, delve into their personal journeys of overcoming pornography addiction. They emphasize the importance of identifying underlying emotional issues and finding healthier coping mechanisms. The discussion highlights how addiction often masks deeper emotional needs, such as connection and intimacy. They each share their strategies for filling the void left by addiction through meaningful relationships, spiritual growth, and community support. The conversation focuses on the role of accountability, vulnerability, and trusting in God to facilitate lasting recovery.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode, hosts engage with Hunter and Sarah who share their journey of overcoming pornography addiction. Hunter describes getting hooked on pornography at a young age, his struggles throughout his mission, and how his addiction persisted into his marriage. The couple details the challenges they faced and the turning point when Hunter began to open up about his addiction, leading to significant relief and progress. Hunter discusses the importance of removing shame, healing past traumas, and viewing pornography neutrally to aid recovery. Sarah shares her feelings of inadequacy and how she learned to detach from Hunter's addiction, emphasizing self-love and acceptance. *You can connect with Hunter and Sarah here: instagram.com/_hunter.clark Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

James, Sam, Ella, and Chris discuss their experiences and challenges with finding effective therapy, particularly in relation to overcoming pornography addiction and shame. They emphasize the importance of finding a therapist who resonates with the client, addresses issues of shame, and creates a clear plan for healing. The conversation touches on personal anecdotes, the importance of moving beyond long-term, ineffective therapy, and explores different therapeutic modalities. Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

This episode features Katie and Matt and the challenges they have faced due to Matt's struggle with pornography addiction. Katie describes her role in the recovery process, initially trying to control Matt's recovery before realizing she needed to focus on her own healing. Matt shares how he overcame his addiction by taking personal responsibility and how both of them involved God in their healing journey. The episode highlights  honesty, vulnerability, and the importance of individual recovery within a marriage, while also discussing their efforts to help others through similar struggles.*You can connect with Matt and Katie here: instagram.com/thechristianbetrayalcoach, Website: thechristianbetrayalcoach.com,Email: katie@thechristianbetrayalcoach.com Follow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this discussion, Chris, James, Sam, and Ella gather to talk about the reality of DIY recovery. Ella's experiences as a woman struggling with sexual addiction are highlighted, prompting an exploration into whether it is possible to recover from addiction without community support. The consensus among the participants is that achieving true recovery independently is extremely challenging, if not impossible. They all share personal anecdotes emphasizing the importance of community, therapy, and support systems in their recovery journeys.Follow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode, Sam and James engage in a heartfelt discussion with Nick and Anja about their life stories, meeting each other, and the struggles they faced, including addiction, mental health, and personal trauma. They share insights on their relationship dynamics, particularly focusing on honesty, vulnerability, and coping mechanisms. They detail Nick's journey through addiction, feelings of unworthiness, and moments of suicidal ideation, while Anja discusses her own struggles with multiple sclerosis and feelings of being unlovable. Despite their challenges, they highlight the importance of mutual support, understanding God's unconditional love, and continuous efforts toward healing. The episode also touches on the role of the podcast and community support in aiding their recovery.Follow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

Join James, Sam, Ella, and Chris as they explore how to find humor in the recovery process. From hilarious anecdotes and personal stories to reflections on the nature of recovery, this episode emphasizes the importance of laughter and joy even amidst serious challenges. Hear funny experiences, the value of not taking oneself too seriously, and the role humor plays in healing and overcoming addiction. Also, learn why it's essential to laugh at our mistakes and view recovery with a lighter heart. Tune in to discover why sometimes, laughter truly is the best medicine.Follow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode, hosts Sam and Steve, engage in an insightful conversation with Tyler, the founder of Ever Accountable, an app designed to help individuals overcome porn addiction through accountability. Tyler shares his personal journey of creating the app, which monitors and reports browsing activities to chosen accountability partners, helping users stay accountable. They discuss the effectiveness of accountability versus traditional internet filters, the challenges of developing such technology, and the importance of community and support in recovery. Tyler also addresses common questions about using the app, including its compatibility with different platforms and considerations for choosing accountability partners. Connect with Tyler and the Ever Accountable team here:Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@everaccountableInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/ever_accountable/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EverAccountableX: https://x.com/everaccountableLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/ever-accountable/Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/user/everAccountable_/Linktree: https://linktr.ee/everaccountableTo sign up for a 14 day free trial visit: www.everaccountable.comEmail support@everaccountable.com for questionsFollow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode, Chris, Steve and Sam delve into the complexities of discussing pornography and sexual addiction among friends. They explore the shame and fear associated with sharing one's story, the impact of cultural stigma, and the intimate connection between sexuality and identity. The conversation includes practical advice on discerning who to share with and how to approach these sensitive topics, emphasizing the importance of compassion, understanding, and safe spaces. The hosts also highlight their own experiences and the positive outcomes of being open about their struggles, encouraging listeners to take steps towards open dialogue and recovery.Follow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this powerful episode, Steven and James are joined by Beckie Hennessy, a seasoned therapist with nearly two decades of experience, to delve deep into the intricacies of betrayal trauma. They discuss Beckie's personal journey through betrayal, her professional insights, and the challenging process of recovery and healing. From defining betrayal trauma to addressing the role of accountability and the impact of personal growth on relationships, this episode offers invaluable advice for anyone struggling to navigate the aftermath of betrayal. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion, practical insights, and the promise of unimaginable hope and healing.*To connect with Beckie, visit AcceptedLife.comFollow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode, Steve, Sam, James and Ella discuss the challenges and necessity of reaching out for support. They explore personal experiences and societal messages that discourage people from seeking help, such as beliefs that reaching out is a sign of weakness. They also touch on the roles children often take in families and how these roles affect their willingness to seek assistance. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to challenge their barriers and reach out when they need help, reinforcing the message that everyone deserves support.Follow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

The episode is a conversation among Sam, Steve, and Chris about Sam's personal journey through addiction, recovery, and healing. Sam shares his story of growing up in a seemingly picture perfect Christian family, facing emotional challenges, and struggling with addiction from a young age. He discusses key moments of realization, the effects of trauma, pivotal experiences in therapy, and the impact of finding hope and authenticity. The discussion also explores the dangers of the "try harder" mindset and touches on the importance of honesty, community support, and spiritual connection in the path to recovery. Sam emphasizes the shift from trying to achieve sobriety alone to embracing God's unconditional love and support in his ongoing journey.To connect with Sam, send him an email at sam@unashamedunafraid.comFollow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

Join us in this special episode as we dive into the details of The GLORY Retreat [God's Love Opens the Real You], an interfaith Christian retreat designed exclusively for women. With guests Jayne, Beckie, and Tricia, we explore the retreat's mission to guide you in experiencing the real you, the real God and your real story. Set at the beautiful Lost Canyon Camp in Williams, Arizona, the retreat promises a blend of worship, adventure, and experiential activities, catering to women from all walks of life. The discussion highlights the importance of taking time for oneself amidst life's challenges and the potential for personal growth through real, immersive experiences. Listeners are provided with logistical details, including costs, accommodations, and registration information, encouraging them to join this unique event to foster genuine faith and community. Visit TheGloryRetreat.com to sign up now and use code "GLORY95" to save $95! (code is valid through Jan 31st, 2025)Have questions? Send an email to TheGloryRetreat@gmail.comFollow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

Join James, Ella, Steve, and Sam as they explore the challenges and benefits of mindfulness practices and how they can aid in emotional healing. They discuss the misconceptions around meditation, often misunderstood as a quick path to calm, and instead highlight its true purpose: being fully present with emotions—whether joyful, angry, or sad. Along the way, they share personal experiences with meditation, talk about the role of focus, and address common pitfalls, like using it to avoid emotions rather than face them.This episode ends with a challenge to practice your own meditation and mindfulness. Give yourself 10 minutes to breathe, ground and be present in your emotions.Follow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Steve is joined by Cameron Staley, a researcher, therapist, and author with deep expertise in the intersection of sexuality and spirituality. Cameron opens up about his journey from academia to clinical practice, revealing how his work on problematic pornography viewing and compulsive behaviors is rooted in a desire to help people reconcile these issues with their values.It's a thoughtful discussion on how to shift from shame-based perspectives to a healthier, more accepting relationship with one's emotions and desires. Whether you're in recovery, supporting a partner, or seeking to understand the role of shame in your life, this episode offers deep insights and relatable wisdom on the path to healing.You can connect with Cameron here:Website: cameronstaley.comInstagram: instagram.com/thelifeafterseriesFacebook: facebook.com/Dr.CameronStaleyFollow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In today's episode, Steve, Sam, and James are joined by Ella as they take a deep dive into the role of spirituality in recovery. They discuss the balance between spirituality and religion, exploring what it means to seek a connection with something beyond oneself without necessarily aligning with organized religion. Each guest shares their unique struggles and perspectives, from dealing with judgment and perfectionism to the courage required to open up to others. They consider how shame and perfectionism show up in both religious settings and recovery groups, affecting the journey to self-acceptance. This episode ends with an invitation to reflect on the barriers we face in connecting with others and with a higher power. Follow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode, Kaleb joins Steve and James for a raw, courageous discussion about his journey through addiction, shame, and recovery after a series of legal consequences and time in jail. Kaleb opens up about facing the labels of "addict" and "sex offender" and the impact they had on his self-image and spiritual life. They emphasizes the importance of maintaining perspective, the power of forgiveness, and the impact of having a positive, future-oriented mindset. This episode provides a heartfelt look at the road from rock-bottom experiences to healing and growth, offering listeners insight into how one man has found purpose and peace amidst profound struggle.You can connect with Kaleb on instagram @kalebmbarclay and @findingfreedom.podFollow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

This episode dives deep into the role of grace in addiction recovery. Sam joins hosts Steve and James in a candid conversation about how grace not only fosters personal healing but also helps bridge the gaps in relationships harmed by addiction. The episode unpacks the depth of grace, its transformative power, and its ability to inspire positive change. They emphasize that grace is not a "hall pass" to excuse harmful behaviors but a force that leads to true reconciliation. The discussion also touches on the misconception of using grace to justify actions, the importance of reconciling relationships with God, and the personal journey each individual takes in recovery. Follow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

Steve and Lisa dive into exactly how to respond to compulsive sexual behavior in your home, especially as a parent. There are now more resources than ever to help families have healthy conversations that appropriately frame sexuality without shame. Steve offers specific language for loved ones starting the conversation with their significant other or child, as well as strategies to protect emotional and physical safety in the meantime. Whether the conversation is with a spouse or a child, it's possible to dispel adrenaline and shame ahead of time, so that family dialogues about sexual boundaries foster trust and healing.*This is a reposted episode from The Lisa Show Podcast* byuradio.org/the-lisa-showFollow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

*This is a reposted episode from The Lisa Show Podcast* byuradio.org/the-lisa-showIn this special episode, Steven joins Lisa for a conversation about recovery, outlining seven critical aspects of the healing process. They discuss the the most common pitfalls that keep people from healing and recovering, including the "try harder" fallacy, and outdated labels and language. Whether the issue at hand is pornography use, affairs and infidelity, or betrayal trauma, anyone can heal. Steven and Lisa discuss strategies for forming safe communities that foster honesty and recovery, especially in church environments.Follow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode, Steve, James and Sam take a new approach discussing the topic of shame. They explore how shame thrives in secrecy and judgment, acting as a tool of negative forces to undermine self-worth. Through personal experiences, they reveal how recognizing and addressing shame—through therapy, spiritual retreats, and open communication—can heal and strengthen personal relationships, especially in marriage. The conversation underscores the necessity of discussing shame openly to identify its sources and mitigate its impacts.Follow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

In this episode, Steve and James are joined by the Therapy Brothers, Tyler and Brannon, who are both experienced therapists specializing in marriage, family therapy, and recovery from shame and trauma. They discuss their podcast 'Therapy Brothers' and the retreats they host aimed at helping men and women reclaim their identity and heal emotionally. The conversation explores topics such as healthy masculinity, the importance of experiential therapy, and tips for finding effective recovery resources. The Therapy Brothers emphasize the need for authenticity, courage, and community in the recovery process and share insight into how partners can support each other through trauma and healing journeys.Connect with the Therapy Brothers here.Follow us on social media! Instagram & FacebookSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

In this episode of Live Unashamed, hosts bring on their friend, Sam, to discuss the differences between sobriety and recovery. They explore the challenges and misconceptions surrounding these concepts, emphasizing that sobriety is about abstaining from undesirable behaviors, while recovery involves deeper healing. Personal stories highlight struggles with perfectionism, codependency, and self-sabotage. The conversation probes the reasons behind continued relapses despite significant recovery progress. The discussion aims to encourage listeners to reflect on their own journey and engage with the community for further support.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

In this episode we invite Rhoda, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and seasoned podcaster to discuss critical aspects of couples therapy and relationships. Rhoda shares her extensive experience in the mental health field, emphasizing the importance of hard conversations, self-honesty, and long-term thinking for relationship recovery—especially in the context of addiction. She provides actionable advice for both partners struggling with difficult subjects like relapse disclosure and managing criticism. Rhoda also highlights the role of mutual empowerment and authentic communication in rebuilding trust and fostering a more substantial connection. Essential tips for recognizing and changing negative narratives in relationships are discussed, making this episode a valuable resource for couples navigating complex emotional landscapes.Listen to Rhoda's podcast: https://www.therapyideas.net/podcast/Visit her website for over 450 pages of free information: https://www.therapyideas.netFor more info on relationships: https://www.therapyideas.net/relationships/Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

*This is a reposted episode from The Therapy Brothers Podcast* therapybros.comIn this special episode, Steve is interviewed by Tyler and Brannon Patrick, hosts of the Therapy Brothers Podcast. Steve shares his powerful and raw personal journey of addiction, recovery, and the reclamation of his own heart. He opens up about his struggles with addiction while in prominent church roles and the pivotal moments of grace that guided him towards healing. Steve emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, acceptance, and the support of a masculine brotherhood in overcoming personal demons and living a life aligned with one's true values. The discussion dives deep into the concept of 'godly masculinity' and how men can harness their inherent strengths in a positive and purposeful way.Stay tuned for an upcoming episode where we dive deep and interview the Therapy Brothers!Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

In this episode hosts Steven and James are joined by their friend Josh. They answer questions sent in by Josh and in doing so, they dive into a personal and candid discussion about recovery, touching on themes such as discipleship, shame, and the concept of being 'broken.' The conversation includes a deep dive into what it means to be 'recovered' versus 'in recovery,' the significance of self-care in a spiritual context, and the powerful idea that brokenness can lead to greater strength and beauty through divine grace.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

In this episode, Steve and Chris embrace the power of vulnerability as they introduce Gavin, a guest who courageously shares his journey through addiction, shame, and recovery. The candid conversation goes into the deeper, poignant narrative of Gavin's experiences from teenage struggles with pornography and masturbation, through tumultuous high school years, and eventually, unexpected betrayal within his marriage. Through honest dialogue and unwavering support from the Unashamed & Unafraid community, Gavin discusses the trials of religious repentance processes, the emotional toll of addiction, and the crucial turning points leading to his ongoing recovery. This raw and inspiring episode underscores the significance of sharing one's story without stigma, connecting deeply with others, and finding hope in the most unexpected places. Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

In this episode of Unashamed and Afraid, Steve welcomes Melanie, Michelle, and Sally to discuss their experiences with Heart of a Woman, a transformative Christian retreat designed to help women reconnect with God and themselves. Melanie shares the origins of Heart of a Woman, revealing how a call to create a dedicated retreat for women led to a decade-long journey of spiritual growth and female fellowship. Michelle and Sally, past attendees of the retreat, recount their varied experiences, emphasizing how the retreat provides a unique space for women to unplug from their daily lives, heal from trauma, and deepen their relationships with God through presentations, solo reflection time, and adventurous activities. Overall, Heart of a Woman aims to offer women a safe, supportive environment where they can explore their faith, build lasting connections, and return home with a renewed sense of spiritual and personal clarity.*Go to TheHeartofaWoman.net and use code UNASHAMED24 to save $50 when you sign up! (Valid until September 10, 2024)Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

In this heartfelt episode, join hosts James and Steven as they welcome Ian and Niccole to the studio to share their profound journey of overcoming addiction and codependency through faith and mutual support. From their first meeting in college to their struggles with addiction and codependency, the couple provides an authentic narrative of their battles and breakthroughs. Key highlights include their initial honesty with each other about their respective struggles, the transformational moment when Niccole set healthy boundaries, and Ian's growing self-acceptance and self-love bolstered by his renewed faith. The episode emphasizes the importance of community, accountability, and a non-judgmental approach—focused on finding God's love and self-worth beyond destructive behaviors. Tune in for an inspiring discussion on overcoming shame, embracing vulnerability, and reclaiming hope.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

Jennifer suffered every type of abuse as a child. She was assaulted by her father, then by all the men that her mother brought home over the years. She came to feel that she was worthless, only there to make other people happy, and was filled with guilt. Years later, a therapist recommended she go get a massage to learn that not all touch was sexual. That backfired tremendously when her masseuse ended up raping her.Jennifer was in a dark place, and as she watched her mother succumb to alzheimer's she was afflicted with suicidal thoughts. She finally asked God to give her a reason to live in any way that He could. The next morning, a sunrise miracle caused a deep and fundamental shift within her. That, combined with the reframing that she gained from an experiential, ultimately healed her soul and put her on the road to recovery. Jennifer's story is a message of hope both to addicts and victims of abuse everywhere.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

In the final episode of 'Codependency', the hosts discuss the intricacies of codependent relationships. The episode delves into the definition of codependency, its symptoms, and the difficulty individuals face in maintaining self-esteem, setting boundaries, and experiencing healthy intimacy. Through personal anecdotes and discussions, the team explores how codependency manifests and the challenges of overcoming it. They emphasize the importance of self-worth and boundaries in moving past codependent behaviors and introduce the concept that living in a codependent relationship is ultimately a choice. The conversation touches on various personal experiences and provides insights into the journey of recovery and transformation.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

Having already defined codependency, the team now addresses how to break out of its cycle. The first step is to recognize what our codependent behaviors even are. We cannot choose a different path if we don't see the choices that are there. Furthermore, if we want to stop manipulating others into meeting our needs, we have to make peace with the fact that we really do have needs and that it is acceptable for us to own and address them. If we aren't willing to give a full and honest voice to those needs, we are much more likely to get them met in covert, manipulative ways.Another key takeaway is that we have to be willing to be honest, with no regard for the outcome. If we are not comfortable with sharing the truth that might make the other person mad at us and walk away from us, then we cannot live truthfully with that person. We have to be willing to suffer disconnection and be alone. We have to be willing to do the pain. “Enjoy that pain, there is beauty on the other side.”Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

The concept of codependency can be difficult to grasp and identifying it within ourselves or our relationships can prove challenging. In this episode, we break down the definition, assess its relevance, and offer strategies for recognizing and addressing it.If you've grappled with resentment in a relationship or felt compelled to manage someone else's emotions or beliefs, this discussion may provide hope, guidance, and even relief.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

We're thrilled to welcome Marc Pimsler back for another episode! Marc, a lover of God, is a therapist, seeker, and a teacher with the heart of a student. He's in long-term recovery and he's here to talk about making repair.Whether we refer to it as making repair, making amends, setting things right, or repairing relationships, there are ineffective or even harmful ways to approach it. Marc shows up with authenticity and passion to advocate for an effective approach. He begins by defining Addiction, Responsibility, and Accountability in a way that brings clarity to the discussion. We explore the reasons behind making repair, the work that must be done first, how to recognize unhealthy expectations, and strategies for navigating the process.You can reach Marc via email at mvp@mvp-consulting.net or find him on Instagram @mpimsler and Facebook.If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God's open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

Alcoholics Anonymous' Dr. Bob's response to Bill Wilson after he complained that no one showed up for a meeting he spent the day organizing— "But you didn't drink today" — speaks volumes. In this episode, Steve, James, and Chris recognize the challenges of forming real connections and a supportive community while providing uplifting advice.Tune in for insightful truths like these: Everyone fears rejection, and introverts face extra hurdles, but there are ways to overcome them. Each connection made is a victory against isolation, and reaching out pulls us out of our negotiations with our addiction.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com 

Christian was born the middle of eight children and felt that he had to act out to get noticed. In his early adolescence he experimented with opiates, alcohol, a cigarette, and sex.Kelle met Christian during their senior year of High School, the two started dating, and were quickly married after he returned home from his LDS mission. A few years and a motorcycle accident later, Christian went through a steady progression of painkillers, alcohol, gambling, and adultery. He became unable to hold down a job and disappeared for long stretches of time, Kelle and their four children unsure of when or if he would show up next. Christian and Kelle's story is a testament to the fact that there is always a way back, that no soul is over and done, at least not so long as we are willing to open ourselves even a little to the light that is cracking its way into our hearts.Follow us on social media! instagram.com/unashamedunafraid facebook.com/unashamedunafraid  Subscribe to our YouTube: youtube.com/@UnashamedUnafraidPod Check out our recommended resources: unashamedunafraid.com/resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  unashamedunafraid.com/storeFor more inspiration, https://unashamedunafraid.com/unashamed-unafraid-blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Email our Podcast Executive Director, Jeremy, at jeremy@unashamedunafraid.com