Baggage Check: Mental Health Talk and Advice

It's Thanksgiving in the United States, which means a time of reflection and gratitude (and yes, we know, a time to find some comfier pants.) It's also a time of transition for Dr. Andrea and for Baggage Check.... take a listen. And thank you!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

As we take a production breather (in the cold, dark world of the "fall back" clock shift) we wanted to revisit an episode from a year ago about tackling the Winter blues. Contrary to popular belief, it's not really about temperature, as even folks fortunate enough to be able to wear a tank top at Thanksgiving can still suffer from seasonal blues-- which is mainly due to diminished sunlight.So, do you suffer from some "blahs" as it starts to get dark earlier? Join us to brush up on how to combat it. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Have you ever heard of the Sunday Scaries? They seem to be growing more and more common: the dread and unease that hits before the workweek begins.In today's show, we talk about what cultural shifts might be making these more prevalent-- and how to help prevent and manage them. Whether you have a traditional workweek, a bizarro-world workweek, or anything in between-- and whether you love or hate your job-- we'll give you some tools to keep your weekend from being encroached upon.Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

With horrifying images circulating amid devastating world news, we wanted to talk today about something that comes up constantly in times of despair: how to find the light, and how to talk to our kids about things that are scary and seemingly unspeakable.What about when we feel like we have no answers ourselves?How can we keep moving forward, setting the boundaries we need to set while also not sticking our head in the sand?We cover all of it-- and hopefully give you some hope-- today in Baggage Check. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Today we're talking about OCD-- and most specifically, how misunderstood it is. You may recall Episode 24, where we talked with author and journalist David Adam about his personal struggles with OCD (and if you haven't, give it a listen!) but today we tackle all the misconceptions we see most often out in the world about what it is-- and what it isn't.Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

We all do it. Okay, maybe we shouldn't say we all do it-- because that's what we're up against today. We're talking about all-or-none thinking.We've mentioned this type of thinking before on Baggage Check, and how it is a common cognitive distortion that can easily make you more anxious, more depressed, and more irritable. But today we're tackling how to spot it-- and you may be surprised at some of the ways you use it. Join us! Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

A lot of us struggle with resentment and bitterness. What happens when it hardens into something that feels almost impossible to shift?There's good news: it CAN be changed. Today we talk about nine mental habits that can lead very easily to bitterness, whether fleeting or more serious. Do you recognize yourself in any of these? We've got ways to combat them. Join us! Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Continuing with our theme of feeeeeeelings, we are devoting today to anxiety, and specifically the way that your body's physiology has been preparing for it for tens of thousands of years.Today we dive deep into the fear response, and why fight/flight/freeze doesn't have to be the enemy. We go through each of the most classic ways that your body physically processes threat-- how they benefit us and how they can be a hindrance, and finally (most importantly!) what we can do about it. Join us! Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Feeeeeeelings! We've talked about them quite a bit on Baggage Check. But what we haven't talked about yet is something crucial but often overlooked: the way that we feel our emotions, physically. It's virtually impossible to improve how you deal with negative emotions if you don't have a good foundation of understanding how they manifest in your body. And though it's specific to every person, we start with some nearly-universal trends in how people tend to feel certain classic negative emotions. Do you recognize yourself in these?If you want a crash course in how to think about the mind-body connection, or even if you are a practiced mindfulness guru who wants to spend a little time thinking about the different ways that feelings show up in your own personal body, you'll want to listen to today's Baggage Check. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

We talk a lot on Baggage Check about warning signs, problems, risky behaviors, and conflicts within relationships-- along with things that just make you feel a little bit off.But what about the pillars of a good relationship?Today we're celebrating, acknowledging, and learning about all the positive factors that can help build a healthy partnership. Whether you never really had a model of it growing up and you're sort of lost of how to begin, whether you've got a great relationship that you're wondering if you could make a little greater, or whether you're just curious to hear more positive aspects of a partnership rather than worrisome ones, you'll want to listen to today's Baggage check. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

People often say they're "bad with change," or, seemingly less often, that they're good with it. But change isn't a monolith. Different changes can involve vastly different things: are you good at adding things in, but not letting go of things? Are you okay with making room for the idea of new things but not actually doing it? Is commitment itself what's hardest for you?Today we get real about the concept of change-- and we mean real, because Baggage Check's episode release schedule is about to change, for a very personal (and exciting) reason. If you're ready to debate what the definition of biweekly is, in addition to reflecting on what change is like in your own life, you'll want to listen to today's Baggage Check. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

With mental health symptomology at record highs in certain demographics, it's clear that not enough people are getting the help they need.And though many people know the potential benefits of therapy, they might still feel hesitant to actually seek it out. Or others may be on the cusp of making the call, but something keeps holding them back.Today we talk about five very common barriers to seeking therapy, and how to overcome them. If you've ever been on the fence about it, and you think it can help but you have some concerns, today's episode is for you. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Siblings: the majority of Americans have at least one. And yet we often talk about them only in the context of childhood. As adults, the highs and lows of sibling relationships can often make or break our lives. Today we get real about what the research says about how siblings matter across the lifespan, and the surprising ways they affect parenting and various aspects of your well-being. We welcome Dr. Laurie Kramer, a clinical psychologist and professor of applied psychology at Northeastern University, who has spent decades studying siblings. From when it's time to accept estrangement to how to improve a relationship with a geographically far sibling, from what a child's relationship with their siblings predicts later in life to how to raise your children to actually be friends, and the unique characteristics of twins-- and more-- it was one of our most fun discussions yet. Join us! Here is more on Dr. Kramer's work and a link to be part of her free, research-based program "Fun with Sisters and Brothers."Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Today we're celebrating the Summer Solstice (a little late, and yes, Happy Winter to our friends in the Southern Hemisphere!) with some thoughts about the magic of summer. What makes this season different-- but why do our hopes for it often end with regret?From exploring what's wrong with the concept of a bucket list to figuring out how we balance adventure and relaxation, today we're trying to make things count in this special season we only get once a year. (And yes, we get a little sentimental.) Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

We've talked about overtly and controlling relationships before-- but what about when it's much more subtle?Today we tackle five common relationship behaviors that can truly spell trouble over time, and that typically mean you deserve better. Do you recognize these in anyone you know? Join us!Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Whether you're flying eight hours to go to a dream destination or loading up the car for the same swath of beach you've hit dozens of times before, your state of mind during your vacation is key to making it worth your while. Today we talk about six ways to help make it less likely that you'll come back from your time off feeling worse for the wear. If you've ever wanted to make sure you get the most out of a trip-- mentally and emotionally-- you'll want to listen to today's Baggage Check. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

It was a classic research case, laid out to millions of psychology students worldwide: the spectacle of Genain quadruplets, four genetically identical siblings who all suffered from various aspects of psychosis.Now, decades after they first became a sensation, a new book peels back the public-facing layers to reveal a dark and disturbing story that makes us question everything we thought we knew about these four women. Today we sit down with Audrey Clare Farley, author of "Girls and Their Monsters: The Genain Quadruplets and the Making of Madness In America," for a look behind the curtain. Explore more about the book and Audrey's work here. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Trust is one of the most important parts of close relationships, and yet it is also one of the easiest things to lose, or... in many cases... detonate. Today we're talking about six ideas for ways to build trust, whether you are building from scratch, rebuilding, or just trying to strengthen it. Though it will always take time (and thank goodness for that, or it wouldn't be meaningful) there are many ways to make the waiting more effective. Join us to find them out! Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Today we're talking about good ol'-fashioned self-deception. So many of us engage in it-- and it doesn't always have to wreck our mental health. But certain patterns very commonly mess with us and cause significant self-sabotage. Do you think you'll recognize yourself in any of these patterns of lies? Join us and find out! Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

It's rare the smartphone user who doesn't feel they could benefit from cutting down on usage just a little. After all-- in an example of behavioral science being used NOT for good-- smartphones are designed to be as addictive as possible. We're never about grandiose pronouncements or unrealistic behavior change here, so with that in mind, we wanted to gather a dozen small things that might make a little bit of difference. And when you put them together, perhaps they change things a lot. Join us and see! Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Today's show covers too much to be summed up in these measly episode notes. We sit down in conversation with Joanne Greene, radio and television pioneer whose new memoir "By Accident: A Memoir of Letting Go" covers a staggering period of her life that saw multiple traumas-- but allowed her to emerge anew, in part by learning, finally, to stay still. From the demands placed on women at home and in the media to what happens when families change, from learning to ask for help to managing a stream of perfectionistic self-talk, this episode goes deep. Join us! Learn more about Joanne and "By Accident" here.Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

The myth of arrival, the arrival fallacy.... whatever we call it, it can zap your ability to engage with the current moment. It's the idea that only once you get to a certain place in your life: meeting a specific goal, achieving a certain accomplishment, or just getting to a certain point in time, that only then will your real life begin. Today we explore this fallacy in detail-- and discuss how it gets in our way. Best of all, we'll learn how to counteract it. Join us!Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

You've been hearing our discussions on loneliness and friendship, and now we are hearing from you! Today we're discussing a listener's thoughts about how hard it is when they feel like they are the only ones putting forth effort in friendships. From societal trends to individual personality differences-- and some surprising additional barriers-- we tackle what to do when you want more from your friendships, but others don't seem willing to do their part. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Today we're talking about the "shoulda"s, the "woulda"s, and the "coulda"s; the "What If?"s and the "If Only"s. But we're digging into the science and figuring out how to not be driven bananas by all of it. Counterfactual thinking-- the idea of visualizing an alternative outcome, comes in different forms and can have positives in negatives. From surprising research about Olympic medalists to specific tools for how to think differently and let go of the past, you'll find it all in today's Baggage Check. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

In the aftermath of some tragic and very public events, I have heard from more and more people uncertain about how to respond to a person experiencing a problem with mental health-- especially when it seems to be escalating fast. Today, we discuss how you can become part of the solution rather than part of the problem-- and potentially save a life. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Today we're talking with Dr. Brooke Ellison, associate professor at Stony Brook University, author of Look Both Ways, and subject of the Christopher Reeve- directed documentary, The Brooke Ellison Story.When Brooke was just 11 years old, walking home from her first day of junior high school, she was hit by a car-- and left with quadriplegia. In a raw, no-holds-barred conversation, we talk not only about that fateful day and the way it changed her life forever, but what it can teach us all about resilience, struggle, perseverance, and hope. Completely honest, full of insight, and often funny, today's discussion is not one to miss.Order "Look Both Ways" wherever books are sold, and connect with Dr. Ellison and learn more about her work here. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

It's the biggest public health problem that the fewest people talk about.Loneliness is an epidemic, and it is increasing-- and taking lives in the process.Today we break down the new report of the US Surgeon General about social disconnection and loneliness, and talk about all the surprising ways that they can wreck your health (yes, your physical health)-- and how we can do something about it. Join us (and then join some new friends for a nice lunch.)Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

In today's episode, we wanted to talk about things you can do in this very moment when you're feeling overwhelmed. While we often focus on long-term self-care, at certain times it can feel futile to think about strategies that can help build up your emotional health over days, weeks, and months. So, here are ten things that you can put into practice right now to help make you feel a little bit more calm and centered. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Depression is one of the most common psychological disorders there is (no longer THE most common, though-- thanks, anxiety disorders! Oof) and yet there are so many myths that persist about it. Today we are tackling the most common ones, and trying to get the real picture. No two people with depression are alike, and the more you know about its (sometimes surprising) manifestations, the more we can help each other. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Okay, maybe "wreck" is too strong a word. But with friendship more important than ever to our physical and emotional health, it's time we tackle the common missteps that often lead to heartache.What I often hear from people is that meeting people isn't the hard part of making friends-- it's turning the meeting into something that resembles a relationship: making that jump from acquaintance to friendship. It can be tricky, for sure, but it's made infinitely easier by avoiding some common blunders. Curious what those blunders are? Take a listen to today's episode. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Money is consistently identified as one of the biggest stressors that people experience. So why is its impact on individual mental health not much of a focus, and why are most therapists not trained in any way to talk about the specifics of this issue?And why is it so ever-lovin' awkward to talk about?We sat down with financial therapist (yes, that's a thing, and it's fantastic!) Lindsay Bryan-Podvin to tackle our baggage about money. From communicating about it in relationships, to talking about shame and what different "money styles" mean (and how early they get solidified!), this episode is full of tools to improve your relationship with your bank account (or that stash of gold stored under your bed.)For more of Lindsay's work, check out Mind Money Balance. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Are you a people-pleaser? Prone to saying yes to things that you wish you'd say no to? Do you find it hard to establish boundaries, and you end up getting roped into things that aren't true to your values, or that will end up burning you out or causing resentment in the long run?If this is you, we'll ask that you DON'T say no-- to listening to today's episode. (Yeah, yeah, we know.) Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Do you have something you'd love to get help with-- but it feels too weird, too awkward, too cringe? Is there a lot of shame along with it? A lot of (ahem!) baggage?Join us for today's show, where we talk about some surprisingly common-- but seemingly embarrassing things-- that therapy can absolutely help with. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Today we're talking about Loving Kindness Meditation, and honoring the memory of a remarkable human being who was special to Baggage Check, Dr. Maryann Gray.If you're cringing at the idea of Loving Kindness Meditation, will it help that it might slow the aging process? And change your brain volume? (For the better, of course.) Join us and we'll walk you through it. It won't hurt, we promise. Unless you do it while wearing those flip-flops that you know will give you blisters.Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Do you think of yourself as "not creative?" Do you miss the ways you tried artistic pursuits during the pandemic, and have since had to let that go? Do you struggle with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, or overly focusing on the finished product of your endeavors rather than the process itself?Today we're talking with mixed media artist and retired psychologist Rachel Davis, whose years of experience helping artists and everyday people embrace their creative side and move through their struggles have culminated in a personal milestone for her: retiring from decades as a therapist and becoming a full-time artist.In this free-roaming and fascinating conversation, we cover everything from the nature of struggle, to what anxiety and creativity have in common, to surefire ways out of writers' block, how passion is more important than talent, creativity's connection to mental health, and more. Join us!You can learn more about Rachael Davis's work here, and follow her on Instagram!Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Long-distance relationships seem more common than ever-- and the research on the ways that the pandemic has changed dating (or just accelerated the trends that were beginning right before) bears this out.But long-distance relationships can also be ever-so tricky.Today we're going over ten tips that can honestly help any relationship grow stronger. Prioritizing each other, improving communication, and setting realistic expectations are just the beginning. Join us! Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

We've likely all been tempted to say it, whether to ourselves or others: "Calm doooooown!" But in reality, there's probably not another common phrase that is so ineffective in getting the outcome that it aims for. So what can we do instead? Join us today for five things to say that are much more likely to be helpful, so that next time, you're actually helping someone move toward calm, rather than the fire.Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Today we're focusing on drinking-- and getting rid of the generalities and stereotypes to get real about the complications, the nuances, and the human side of alcohol use. On today's Baggage Check welcome Dr. Debra Kaysen, Stanford University professor and expert researcher on alcohol abuse. From how to think about what is "problem drinking" to surprising new data on who is drinking more (and who is drinking less), from the ways that trauma and alcohol use interact, to expectancy effects, the pandemic, striking research from the "Bar Lab" at the University of Washington, and more, we cover it all in today's show.Find out more about Dr. Kaysen's work here. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

There'll be no numbered lists here today, just some frank talk about how important it is to set limits when the news is dark. We think about what our brains and hearts are evolutionarily meant to handle (and what they're not), how we can take small steps to set boundaries, the reasons why it's so important to do so-- and how it ultimately make you do better for the world. Join us!Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

We've talked some about relationship violence and emotional abuse (check out our recent episode with Dr. Carolyn West!), and Dr. Andrea has written a lot about controlling behaviors. But what about those subtle relationship behaviors that might not necessarily spell doom, that you should keep an eye on? Perhaps those things that it's easy for us to convince ourselves are nothing, and yet they can most definitely turn into something?Join us today as we dig in. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

We talk a lot about anxiety on Baggage Check, and how all of us struggle with it to some extent. Today we're focusing on how to know that maybe it's gotten to the point where it's problematic. How do you know when it's time to seek help? What everyday behaviors might be hiding anxiety beneath? For some surprising ways that excessive stress might affect your behavior to a really hurtful extent, tune in to today's Baggage Check. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Today, as always, we want to shine a light in the darkness-- and so we're going where civil, "polite" discussions often don't. We're talking about the traumatic, tragic shame of accidentally killing someone.Dr. Maryann Gray is the founder of The Hyacinth Fellowship, a support network for those who are living in the darkness of having unintentionally caused death or serious injury. Having traveled that path with a heartbreaking accident of her own, it took her decades to recover-- but she's offering hope for those who are ready to break the silence.Join us for a sensitive, compassionate, and sometimes difficult but ultimately enlightening conversation. Check out The Hyacinth Fellowship here. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

We've talked about how the truest, deepest forms of happiness and well-being don't necessarily come just from pleasure, comfort, or ease. They come from a deeper sense of meaning-- which is often very connected to your sense of purpose.But how can we think about our sense of purpose? What can we ask ourselves to help us find it? And is all hope lost if we have absolutely no clue what that sense of purpose could be? (Nope, all is not lost. But you knew that already.)Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Do men and women have the same depression symptoms? Certainly, there's much overlap. But there are often times when our classic visual of what depression looks like tends to miss men altogether. And there are ways that their most common symptoms might not look like depression at first glance at all.Join us today to talk about all things depression-- and especially to bust some stereotypes of how it comes across. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Today we're taking a listener question-- and wrestling with the common but potentially heartbreaking dilemma of what happens when an otherwise happy and committed couple differs about whether or not to have children. Is there any hope? Let's dig deep about parenting ambivalence, in today's Baggage Check. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

There are many stereotypes about what relationship violence looks like-- and there are many ways that survivors and perpetrators of it defy those stereotypes. Today we sat down with Dr. Carolyn West, professor of psychology at the University of Washington and leading authority on relationship violence, to learn the realities of this difficult topic. From the way that technology increases a partner's ability to be controlling, to surprising warning signs, to thinking about how to break the cycle for future generations and how the cycle of violence affects all of us in society, today's discussion is not one to miss. Find out more about Dr. West and her work here. In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline phone number is 1-800-799-7233. They have services available in multiple languages, and their website is https://thehotline.org. Please reach out to them if you have concerns about you or someone else being involved in an abusive relationship. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Apologies are something we all have experience with-- and baggage about-- that probably began from the time we first learned to communicate. But as frequently as the need to apologize comes up in life, it can be a hard thing to get right. And in fact, sometimes our apologies are disastrous and do more harm than good. On today's show, we're discussing six common things that make apologies worse-- and urging you very strongly (ahem!) to use our tips to avoid them. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

There are many visualizations out there, and many people who find the concept of them to be trite. But with anxiety rising and some solid evidence behind visualization as a relaxation technique, we think they're worth a try. Learn what visualizations can-- and cannot-- do, and get five solid examples of ones you can try today, perhaps even without rolling your eyes, in today's Baggage Check. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

Today we're talking with Marni Amsellem, Ph.D., a licensed clinical psychologist who specializes in health-related issues. With more and more individuals predicted to suffer from physical health problems in the coming years, and with many already suffering mightily, we thought it was high time for a conversation about the role of psychological support in medical treatment. From new uses of technology to individual differences, from tools to beat insomnia, to whether journaling really helps, to the way the medical field may discriminate against certain groups and how the pandemic has affected all of this, we dive deep in today's Baggage Check.Learn more about Dr. Amsellem here. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

The health benefits of friendship are immense-- and you've likely heard us nagging you about it in the past. Today we wanted to get down and dirty-- or not so dirty, these are just friends we're talking about!-- and discuss some realistic, fast, and actionable things you can do to give your friendships a boost. Nothing grandiose, nothing long-term, and nothing too intimidating is on the docket today-- just some surprisingly simple but meaningful ways for you to get a bit more connected to your platonic loves. Join us!Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

We all get in our own way sometimes-- and there are certain important patterns about how, and why, we tend to do it. Today we're leaving judgment and shame at the door (let's hope we do that every episode!) and having a frank talk about common patterns of self-sabotage, and how we can try to adjust them. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper