The Living in Clarity Podcast, w/Coach Ratner

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Do you ask potential partners if they truly love themselves? This seemingly simple question could reveal everything you need to know about your romantic future. Coach Ratner explores the often-overlooked "research phase" of relationships – that crucial period between initial attraction and serious commitment where we discover who someone really is beneath the surface.Whether you're currently dating, in a relationship, or taking time for yourself, these insights will transform how you approach connecting with potential partners. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear that happiness is a choice – one that prepares us for the love we truly deserve.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Your ego is not your amigo, especially when it comes to relationships. This profound truth reveals itself in the cars we choose, the homes we occupy, the titles we pursue, and perhaps most importantly, the partners we select. Too often, we're drawn to someone not because they offer genuine connection, but because they enhance our image or status – think of wealthy older men with partners decades their junior, relationships built more on ego fulfillment than soulful connection.When we lack self-esteem, we desperately seek external validation. The $450,000 Hermès Birkin bag phenomenon perfectly illustrates this principle. Despite identical alternatives available for a fraction of the price, some people willingly pay huge sums for these status symbols. Why? Primarily to feed the ego's insatiable appetite for external validation.When we allow our ego to dictate our choices, focusing attention on ourselves rather than our partners, relationship problems inevitably arise. By recognizing and resisting ego-driven urges, we dramatically improve our chances of finding and maintaining genuine love. Remember, in the quest for passionate, authentic relationships, your ego truly is not your amigo.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wonder why some people seem to effortlessly find meaningful relationships while others remain stuck in an endless cycle of first dates? The answer might be hiding in plain sight—or rather, on the back of your metaphorical shirt.Coach Ratner introduces us to a powerful concept borrowed from Mike Zaney's "The Science of Dreams": we all wear shirts with writing on both sides. The front displays our strengths and positive qualities that both we and others can see. But the back—visible only to others—reveals our blind spots, those habits and traits that may be sabotaging our relationships without our knowledge.These blind spots range from poor listening skills to dominating conversations, from social awkwardness to hygiene issues. The truly self-aware dater doesn't just highlight their positive attributes but actively seeks feedback about these hidden flaws. Don't wait until a relationship is unraveling to seek guidance—invest in understanding your blind spots now. Your path to lasting love might begin with the simple act of having someone brave enough to read what's written on the back of your shirt—and you being courageous enough to listen.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Forget everything you thought you knew about dating. While we often focus on what to say and how to present ourselves, the real secret to building meaningful connections lies in something far more fundamental: listening.The distinction between hearing and listening becomes crystal clear when you understand that one is passive while the other requires active engagement. For men especially, this means fighting the natural urge to solve problems and instead offering validation when partners share their concerns. Most importantly, we offer practical strategies for becoming a better listener, including the power of restating what you've heard, speaking sincerely from the heart, and recognizing when timing matters. These skills aren't just useful for dating—they're the foundation of all meaningful human connections.Want to transform your relationships through the simple yet profound act of listening? This episode provides the roadmap. Share your own listening challenges or victories with us and discover how small changes in how you communicate can lead to dramatically deeper connections.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Have you ever passed up on a potential date because they weren't your "type"? That quick dismissal might have cost you a life-changing relationship. This eye-opening exploration reveals how our preconceived notions of an ideal partner often stand in the way of genuine connection.Ready to revolutionize your approach to dating? Stop limiting yourself with imaginary checklists and start opening doors to unexpected possibilities. Your perfect match might look nothing like you imagined – and that's the beautiful secret to finding lasting love. Listen now, and discover how expanding your definition of "your type" might be the key to finding your soulmate.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Finding meaningful connection in today's dating landscape often feels like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Whether you're swiping through dating apps or meeting people in person, the frustration can feel all too familiar.Coach Ratner challenges our fundamental approach to finding love by examining how our restrictive criteria might be the very thing keeping us single. Through the metaphor of a child's shape sorter toy, we see how our rigid expectations create unnecessary barriers. Just as the frustrated child eventually removes the lid to simply toss in the pieces, perhaps we too need to remove our self-imposed limitations.The surprising truth? Your perfect match may look nothing like the mental image you've created.Ready to break down your dating walls? Subscribe to the Coach Ratner Podcast for more insights that will transform your approach to relationships, and share this episode with someone who might benefit from hearing it.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What does it truly mean to love? Drawing a fascinating parallel between marriage and the cooking show "Chopped," we examine how relationships require us to work with unexpected "ingredients" – the quirks and flaws that every partner brings to the table. While infatuation gets relationships started, lasting love requires deliberate focus on the virtues that initially attracted you to your partner.Why do parents rarely fall out of love with their children despite their flaws, yet many are quick to divorce when spouses disappoint them? The answer lies in maintaining perspective. Everyone has imperfections, but love flourishes when we concentrate on virtues rather than faults. By keeping sight of why you chose your partner in the first place, you can navigate life's inevitable challenges together and build a relationship with greater chances of enduring success.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What does it truly mean to love someone? Most of us think we know, yet our relationships often falter because we're operating from completely different definitions. Distinguishing genuine love from mere infatuation could be the most important relationship skill you'll ever develop.Love, at its essence, means wanting to give without expectation of return. Infatuation, however, is that intoxicating chemical reaction that clouds judgment and makes us pursue someone primarily for our own satisfaction. Think about those post-divorce moments when people wonder, "What was I thinking when I married this person?" The answer is simple—they weren't thinking clearly because they were infatuated.True love develops when we invest ourselves emotionally—sharing our vulnerability, time, and attention. This explains why emotionally unavailable people struggle with relationships and why material gifts often compensate for emotional distance. Before investing your heart, take time to heal from past wounds and define what love means to both you and your potential partner. The willingness to be vulnerable—to truly open your heart—may be uncomfortable, but it's the foundation of any meaningful relationship. Are you ready to move beyond infatuation and experience genuine love?

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Have you ever been completely captivated by someone you just met, only to discover weeks later that they're not at all what you initially thought? The phenomenon I call "the new face factor" explains why we're so vulnerable to making poor dating choices based on first impressions.When surrounded by attractive people in social settings, we're drawn to the flashiest personalities while potentially overlooking genuinely compatible matches who don't immediately command our attention. This sensory overload is precisely why three dates are crucial before making any significant judgments about compatibility. By the third date, the novelty wears off, allowing you to see beyond surface attraction and evaluate who this person truly is.Men and women experience this differently - men typically assess women from the outside in, while women evaluate men from the inside out. A beautiful woman with little substance might initially capture a man's interest, but by the third date, even exceptional beauty can't compensate for lack of intellectual connection. Similarly, women rarely pursue relationships with physically attractive men who lack intelligence, regardless of their appearance. The solution? Approach dating with a clean slate mentality, without preconceptions. Judge each person based on direct experience rather than hearsay, and remember that potential matters as much as current presentation. And don't forget - your face is also new to everyone you meet. How you present yourself, particularly through genuine facial expressions, dramatically impacts how others perceive you in those crucial first encounters.Ready to transform your dating life? Start recognizing when the new face factor is influencing your decisions, and you'll find yourself making choices that lead to genuinely fulfilling relationships rather than fleeting attractions.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Struggling with dating? You're not alone. Most of us have experienced that overwhelming nervousness on first dates—the kind that makes men order plain lettuce salads (no dressing!) just to avoid potential embarrassment. But what if our snap judgments are causing us to miss out on incredible connections?The Three-Date Rule provides a practical framework for more successful dating. Unless there are obvious red flags (they live in a treehouse, talk endlessly about their mother, or laugh like a hyena), commit to three dates before deciding whether to pursue a relationship. This approach acknowledges a fundamental truth: it's nearly impossible to truly know someone after just one meeting.Science backs this up. Malcolm Gladwell's book "Blink" illustrates how visual bias influenced orchestra hiring practices until screens were introduced during auditions. Similarly, our dating decisions are heavily influenced by appearance rather than substance. The stronger your emotional and intellectual connection with someone, the more physically attractive they become to you over time. As Coach Ratner wisely notes, "For every gorgeous person out there, there's someone who's sick of them." When you follow the Three-Date Rule, you give yourself permission to discover the vibrant personality that might be hiding behind first-date nerves.Ready to transform your dating experience? Start applying the Three-Date Rule today. Subscribe to the Coach Ratner Podcast for more relationship wisdom that cuts through the noise of modern dating advice.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!This episode dives deep into the crucial question we often forget to ask ourselves: Why are we dating in the first place?Dating without purpose leads countless people into relationship limbo. When physical attraction drives our decisions, emotions overpower intellect, making it nearly impossible to evaluate compatibility objectively. Coach Ratner examines why so many couples date for years without commitment, stuck in comfortable arrangements that never reach the "never leaving" milestone. Having a trusted dating coach provides invaluable perspective when infatuation blinds us to red flags.  Remember, love isn't blind—infatuation is. Approaching dating with clear intentions dramatically increases your chances of finding someone truly compatible. If marriage is your goal, only pursue exclusive relationships with partners who genuinely have that potential. Your future happiness depends on it. Ready to transform how you approach dating? 

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting the wrong type of partner? The answer might be simpler than you think: it's all about the bait you're using.Just as different fish are drawn to different types of bait, the way we present ourselves fundamentally shapes who we attract in the dating world. Through a compelling personal story about weightlifting and tight black t-shirts, we explore how deliberately showcasing physical attributes leads to a predictable outcome—relationships based primarily on physical attraction rather than deeper connection. When muscles become your primary lure, you'll naturally catch people who prioritize physical appearance, potentially missing those who might connect with your mind, values, and emotional self.This episode challenges the common disconnect in our approach to relationships versus other important life areas. We readily understand the importance of professional presentation when interviewing for jobs we might hold temporarily, yet often fail to apply the same thoughtful strategy to finding life partners. The clothes we wear, the parts of ourselves we emphasize—these choices send powerful signals about what we value and the type of connection we're seeking.By introducing the concept of being "attractive without attracting," we offer a practical alternative to the frustrating cycle of surface-level relationships. Modest presentation doesn't mean hiding your light—it means allowing your personality, intellect, and emotional qualities to shine brighter than your physical attributes. This shift in focus from body to soul positions you to build connections with substance and staying power.What kind of fish are you trying to catch in your dating pool? And more importantly, is your bait aligned with your true relationship goals? Listen now to transform your approach to finding meaningful connection.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if finding lasting love isn't about luck or fate, but rather a systematic journey through four distinct phases? Sunscreen Love reveals the framework that can transform your relationship destiny and dramatically increase your chances of creating a passionate connection that endures a lifetime.The statistics are sobering. With divorce rates hovering around 50-60% and many intact marriages lacking true happiness, your chances of finding fulfilling, lasting love sit at a disheartening 25%. But these odds aren't your destiny—they simply reflect a widespread misunderstanding of how love develops and thrives.We explore the four crucial phases that build the foundation for extraordinary love: The Crush Phase (the necessary spark of attraction), The Research Phase (the thrilling exploration of compatibility), The Commitment Phase (the formal beginning, not the end), and finally, The Never Leaving Phase—where your partner becomes the central consideration in all your decisions with an unwavering dedication that transcends the typical fluctuations of feeling "committed until you're not."Most relationships fail not because the people involved are fundamentally incompatible, but because they don't understand this progression. They mistake infatuation for deep love, view marriage as the finish line rather than the starting point, or become victims of the paradox of choice—where endless dating options leave us perpetually dissatisfied, always wondering if someone better might be just one swipe away.Ready to beat the sobering odds and create the relationship you've always dreamed of? Listen now to discover how understanding these phases can transform your approach to love and relationships. Your journey to extraordinary, lasting connection starts here.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Have you ever found yourself feeling inexplicably drained after a social event or Shabbat dinner? You're not alone! This episode delves into the complexities of social awkwardness and its impact on our emotional well-being. As we explore the ways in which socially awkward individuals express themselves, we address the emotional toll their interactions can place on us. From the 'know-it-all' types to those who struggle to grasp social cues, every interaction brings its challenges and insights.As we navigate the realities of these encounters, we invite you to reflect on your experiences. How have you coped with social awkwardness? Don't forget to subscribe, share your thoughts, and leave a review! Your engagement means the world to us as we continue exploring such intriguing topics together.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Imagine if maintaining love in our relationships was as simple as remembering to reapply sunscreen! In this episode, we explore the concept of "sunscreen love," drawing parallels between relationship care and skincare routines. With personal stories and a catchy tune, we highlight how compliments can act like SPF, protecting the love between partners, while criticism can cause it to burn. As divorce rates climb, we emphasize the need to nurture love and upgrade our relationships to sustain that fiery passion and deep connection. We'll also walk you through the four phases of love, offering insights that aim to build lasting partnerships amidst modern life's hurdles.Education prepares us for many things, but how often do we learn the crucial art of listening? Through humorous anecdotes and personal reflections, we stress the importance of listening as an undervalued skill, particularly among men, and its significance beyond just romantic encounters. By sharing my own experiences, including the realization that listening is as much of an art as public speaking, we aim to shift the focus onto this essential skill. We also address the need to prepare for the lifelong journey of marriage, rather than just the wedding day, by understanding the true essence of love and marriage beyond the initial infatuation.Navigating the terrain of dating and marriage can be complex, and it goes far beyond first impressions and physical attraction. We delve into the "three date rule" and how it might just reveal more than meets the eye, urging listeners to look beyond superficial qualities to find shared values and meaningful goals. You'll hear personal tales, like mine of transitioning to a religious lifestyle post-marriage, illustrating the importance of shared life goals. By introducing the "Four A's"—attention, affection, appreciation, and awareness—we showcase how respect and emotional connections are crucial for a thriving relationship. As we explore emotional connection and the motivations behind infidelity, we wrap up with heartfelt advice and a blessing, hoping to guide our listeners toward passionate, loving relationships.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered why teenagers today are grappling with low self-esteem more than ever? Join us in a conversation with Coach Ratner as we tackle this pressing issue head-on. You'll hear firsthand about his personal journey through self-esteem challenges, sparked by societal pressures and the perilous cycle of comparison that can dampen one's self-worth. Through anecdotes like his dream of becoming a professional pianist, Ratner sheds light on how to break free and embrace your own unique light. His new book, "Never Feel Loved Again: Symptoms and Strategies to Cure Low Self-Esteem," serves as a beacon of hope for anyone trapped in self-doubt.Navigating social landscapes online and offline can be a minefield for self-esteem. With Coach Ratner's guidance, we dissect the subtle yet significant ways our interactions affect how we feel about ourselves. Are name-dropping and humble bragging really just cries for help? We explore the complexities of sharing personal milestones on social media, emphasizing the importance of mindfulness and empathy. This episode encourages listeners to build their self-esteem from within, rather than seeking approval from the world around them, creating a supportive and nurturing environment for all.In a journey towards genuine happiness and self-worth, Coach Ratner emphasizes the role of boundaries, forgiveness, and vulnerability. He reflects on life events that paved the way for profound personal growth, highlighting the importance of living with purpose and gratitude. We even delve into the spiritual realm, discussing how connecting with God through prayer can fortify self-esteem and instill a sense of divine support. Prepare to be inspired as we uncover strategies to safeguard your emotional well-being and empower yourself to make a meaningful impact on the world.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if the key to feeling truly loved lies in how we communicate with the divine? Join us on the Learning and Clarity Podcast as we share stories and insights from our audiobook series, "Never Feel Unloved Again," where we tackle the complex themes of prayer and divine recognition. We recount a personal narrative about the imperfections in organized religion and the essential objectives of prayer—help, guidance, and gratitude. Through captivating storytelling, we illuminate God's role in everyday miracles and emphasize the importance of building a strong, intimate relationship with the divine, much like the close bonds that inspire heroic acts of love and support.Gain clarity and purpose in your prayer life as we navigate through the four critical questions represented by MEET: Motivation, Effort, Expectations, and Transform. Discover how aligning your motivations with personal growth and divine wisdom can amplify your spiritual journey. Reflect on the nuances of praying aloud versus internally, fostering sincerity and intentionality in your practice. By embracing personal initiative alongside divine aid, this episode promises practical wisdom and profound reflections that can elevate your spiritual connection and enrich your life.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What happens when love and tragedy intersect with faith? Imagine the unwavering dedication of a babysitter who loves your children as her own—could this mirror the divine love we often seek in times of hardship? Join us on the Living Clarity Podcast as we explore these intriguing parallels and tackle the age-old question of why bad things happen to good people. Through personal anecdotes and profound reflections, we unravel the emotional complexities behind perceived disbelief and anger toward God, using rich examples from Jewish culture, including the profound teachings of Yom Kippur, to guide our exploration.In another enlightening segment, we uncover the transformative potential of prayer in building self-esteem. What if the key to true contentment lies in shedding envy and ego? Discover how embracing gratitude and humility can lead to a fulfilling life, and learn about the REPEAT framework—a practical tool designed to enhance your prayer practice and personal growth. As we journey together, we prepare to dive deeper into the upcoming audiobook segment of "Never Feel Unloved Again," promising insights that will guide you towards a more meaningful and self-aware life.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Could exercise be the key to unlocking greater self-esteem and mental clarity? This episode promises to uncover the transformative power of physical activity and spirituality in shaping our mental well-being. We explore how today's sedentary lifestyle starkly contrasts with the physically demanding lives of the past, often leaving us vulnerable to mental health struggles. Examining studies by Dr. David Linden, we discuss how regular aerobic exercise, like running or brisk walking, releases natural chemicals such as dopamine and endocannabinoids. These compounds not only enhance mood and combat depression but also boost memory and focus, helping to slow cognitive decline. Whether you're an avid runner or someone looking to make a change, this conversation illustrates the profound impact exercise can have on self-esteem and overall health.What role does spirituality play in boosting self-confidence and personal fulfillment? We unravel this intriguing link by examining the impact of prayer and meditation on our sense of self. Discover how embracing spirituality or religion, even without concrete evidence, can foster a connection to something greater, offering tranquility and enhancing personal relationships. From understanding gender differences in spirituality to the importance of embracing belief, our discussion offers valuable insights into nurturing a relationship with a higher power. This journey encourages a shift in mindset, highlighting how prayer can serve as a bridge to a fulfilling, non-religious relationship with God, ultimately fostering love and gratitude towards oneself and others.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Unlock the keys to living a more fulfilled life with the Living in Clarity Podcast. Ever wonder how setting the right goals could boost your self-esteem and dispel feelings of being unloved? Discover how the SMART goal framework can transform your life, as I share how it enriched my journey from marathon training to enhanced creativity. You'll learn the secret sauce to success: the three Ds—desire, determination, and discipline—and get actionable steps for setting and achieving your goals. Dive into the art of breaking down your ambitions into manageable tasks, maintaining motivation through flexibility, and making goal-setting a joyful process. But that's not all. Life isn't just about goals—it's also about fun and creativity. Explore the magic of turning everyday tasks into thrilling adventures, whether it's cooking barefoot or racing your kids up the stairs. Discover how positivity can breathe new life into mundane activities, elevating your self-worth in the process. We also touch on the profound impact of synchronization and teamwork, showing how being part of a winning team can skyrocket your self-esteem. Whether you're setting goals for future pleasure or balancing life's pain-pleasure scale, this episode is a treasure trove of insights and stories that promise to uplift and inspire. Join me, Coach Ratner, as we unlock the joy of living in clarity.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Unlock the keys to bolstering your self-esteem with Coach Ratner on this enlightening episode of the Living in Clarity podcast. Ever wondered why achieving more doesn't always translate to feeling better? Join us as we explore transformative strategies like practicing gratitude and rejection therapy, which can significantly enhance your self-worth. We promise you'll gain a deeper understanding of how recognizing and valuing your inherent attributes, which often go unnoticed, can enrich your life immensely. Discover the powerful impact of making a list of non-material blessings and learn why facing rejection head-on—such as greeting strangers—can actually boost your confidence and resilience.Journey with us as we discuss the importance of breaking away from familiar environments to foster personal growth. Drawing a parallel to how a cactus thrives in its natural habitat, we encourage you to step out of your comfort zone to realize your true potential. Coach Ratner shares anecdotes from teaching experiences in diverse settings like Jerusalem and Maryland, illustrating how new environments can supercharge learning and personal development. Additionally, we dive into the empowering effects of continuous learning on self-esteem. By embracing lifelong education and personal development, you can cultivate a fulfilling future brimming with confidence and self-worth. Tune in to transform your approach to self-esteem and personal growth today.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if you could shield yourself from draining influences and truly thrive in your personal and emotional life? Join me, Coach Ratner, on the Living Clarity Podcast as we unlock the secrets to protecting your self-esteem and well-being from emotional vampires and negative external forces. This episode shines a light on the subtle yet profound impact of our surroundings—from the people we keep close to the media we consume. Discover how to recognize and manage the five types of emotional vampires: the victim, the narcissist, the drama queen, the socially awkward, and certain relatives or in-laws. With practical strategies to create a nurturing environment, we explore ways to set boundaries and foster positivity that fuels your happiness.Take a closer look at how media and marketing play into our insecurities, often chipping away at our self-esteem by projecting unrealistic narratives. By embracing our core values and understanding their evolution, we learn to make choices that reflect our true selves. We discuss the power of saying no, the value of critical thinking, and living a life aligned with what genuinely matters. Embark on this journey with us, empowering yourself to craft an authentic life that's resilient against external pressures and full of self-worth. Listen in, and start building your metaphorical fence around happiness today.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Discover how to construct a protective barrier around your personal happiness and self-esteem with insights from Dr. Jane Anderson. We'll uncover the roots of low self-esteem, particularly how family dynamics and parental influence can shape a child's emotional health. Learn the importance of providing unconditional love and understanding the unique motivations of your children to nurture their self-worth. We explore the impact of divorce on children, the pressures of youth sports, and how to support your children in a way that ensures their self-value isn't solely tied to their achievements.In this empowering episode, we share personal stories and techniques to cultivate resilience, forgiveness, and self-acceptance. Join us as we tackle the influence of social media and consumerism on our self-esteem, highlighting the significance of finding inner contentment rather than seeking external validation. Embrace the journey toward self-love and acceptance, understanding that true happiness stems from within. By fostering these qualities, we aim to equip you with strategies to break the cycle of low self-esteem, promoting emotional well-being for both yourself and future generations.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Explore the profound influence of our words and actions on self-esteem and social dynamics with us on the Living in Clarity Podcast. What if a simple smile could change someone's day, or a careless comment could linger for years? Join Coach Ratner as we navigate the power of facial expressions, the pitfalls of name-dropping, and the often unnoticed impact of the "you-don't-know-so-and-so" phenomenon. Together, we'll uncover how these seemingly small gestures can ripple through our lives, affecting both our self-worth and the people around us. By embracing compassion and understanding, we can learn to navigate social interactions with greater empathy, especially when dealing with individuals who might be socially unaware.Shift your perspective on social media as we discuss its unintended role in fostering envy and jealousy. From luxury vacations to college acceptances, the online world often paints a picture of success that can undermine self-esteem for those who lack similar opportunities. We dive into the art of sharing personal achievements with sensitivity and awareness, emphasizing the importance of empathy in our digital interactions. By being mindful of how we present our milestones, we can foster a community built on support and understanding, rather than competition. Tune in to discover how self-awareness and positive interactions can lead to a more compassionate and connected world.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Criticism is often a hidden reflection of one's own self-esteem struggles, a realization I came to with some wise guidance from my wife. Throughout this episode, I open up about my personal journey from being overly critical to adopting a more compassionate approach, underscoring how this transformation improved my relationships, especially within my family. We shed light on the insidious nature of gossip and its roots in personal dissatisfaction, advocating for internal happiness as a defense against these negative behaviors. Join me as we navigate the delicate balance between offering constructive feedback and nurturing a loving, respectful environment both at home and in broader social circles. Switching gears, we explore the fascinating world of body modifications and their intricate dance with self-esteem. Tattoos, bold hair colors, and piercings are more than just fashion statements; they can signify deeper emotional battles or a quest for acceptance. Together, we question whether these trends are merely expressions of individuality or responses to societal pressures. Through examining the health risks and cultural influences surrounding these choices, we delve into the broader conversation about self-perception, even tackling the weighty topic of cosmetic surgery. This episode encourages a thoughtful reflection on how we choose to present ourselves to the world and what truly drives those decisions.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Imagine living your life constantly seeking approval from others, even if it means sacrificing your own happiness. Through the Living Clarity Podcast, we unravel the motivations behind people-pleasing behaviors often rooted in low self-esteem. We share a poignant story of a college acquaintance whose excessive kindness masked an inner struggle, impacting her relationships profoundly. As we tread through the murky waters of love and infatuation, we uncover how recognizing these patterns can keep us from repeating toxic cycles. The episode shines a light on how perfectionism can paralyze ambition, and the ever-persistent "grass is greener" mentality that blinds us to our own potential for growth.The conversation doesn't stop at emotional struggles; we also examine the deep ties between emotional stress and physical well-being. Anecdotes of wealthy individuals facing stress-related health issues reveal the paradox that happiness, not wealth, is the true measure of longevity. By understanding how mental strain can manifest physically—like using food as a coping mechanism—we stress the importance of nurturing mental health. The episode also addresses the lure of seeking validation on social media and the importance of building genuine self-esteem. Through insights and practical advice, this episode aims to guide you towards a more fulfilling and balanced life.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Can low self-esteem masquerade as introversion? Join us as we unravel this intriguing concept, sharing personal stories of how avoidance often leads to dysfunctional relationships and missed opportunities. We touch on the critical role of self-love in fostering healthy connections, both socially and professionally. As we navigate the complex path from fear of judgment to confident interactions, learn how addressing these issues can lead to meaningful improvements in your life.Thrill-seeking or self-destructive behavior might just be the tip of the self-esteem iceberg. We explore the potential roots of such actions and the importance of understanding one's motives. With anecdotes about everyday habits and the perils of social media comparisons, we highlight the journey to find contentment in personal achievements over societal validation. Dive into a reimagining of success, where personal values trump external standards, and discover the liberating power of aligning your goals with what truly matters to you.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Could the relentless pursuit of external validation be the silent thief of joy among our teenagers? On the Living in Clarity podcast, Coach Ratner, unravel the intricate threads of low self-esteem and its detrimental impact on the mental health of today's youth, particularly girls. Triggered by the alarming 2021 CDC report, we journey through personal narratives and scholarly research to shed light on how societal pressures craft a cycle of anxiety and despair. This episode is a heartfelt call to action, guiding each listener towards the liberating path of self-acceptance and self-love, illuminating the deep-seated connection between emotional and physical well-being.The conversation doesn't stop there. We delve into the world of imposter syndrome, exploring its pervasive nature across professions from comedy to sports. By drawing insights from celebrated figures like Tom Brady and Michael Jordan, I illustrate how this syndrome can paradoxically be both a driving force and an obstacle. Offering practical strategies to overcome these feelings, I highlight the power of humility and the joy of generously sharing success. This episode aims to empower you with the tools to cultivate genuine self-worth, urging you to redefine your identity beyond professional titles and to cherish your innate abilities.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if your marriage could not only last a lifetime but also be filled with passion and deep love? Join Coach Ratner as he concludes his audiobook, "Infinite  Marriage," with profound reflections on the art of maintaining a thriving relationship. Through Coach Ratner's personal journey of transforming his written work into an audiobook, you'll uncover practical wisdom and tools essential for navigating the four phases of love. He highlights the significance of effort in marriage and blesses his readers with the hope of achieving an extraordinary partnership with their soulmate.This episode is also sprinkled with touching stories, including a heartwarming tale from the Essentials Program in Jerusalem, where Coach Ratner helped a 78-year-old man find companionship through social media. This narrative beautifully emphasizes that the desire for love and connection knows no age limits. Additionally, get a sneak peek into Coach Ratner's forthcoming book, "Never Feel Unloved Again," and learn about his innovative plans to refine his writing process. Whether you're seeking relationship guidance or an inspiring story, this episode promises a rich blend of heartfelt insights and uplifting moments.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Can simple acts of affection and genuine appreciation truly transform a marriage? Join us as we explore the profound impact that small gestures and kind words can have on your relationship, without relying on grandiose displays of love. We delve into how consistent affectionate communication, akin to nurturing a child with a kind tone, can positively influence your marriage. This episode offers a deep dive into the four essential elements—attention, affection, appreciation, and awareness—that are crucial for cultivating a passionate and enduring bond with your partner.We also tackle the thorny issue of unchecked egos and their potential harm to marital harmony. Discover how deflating the ego and prioritizing your spouse's needs can lead to a more fulfilling connection. Through personal stories and practical advice, we illustrate the journey of nurturing everlasting love. Learn about the concept of "sunscreen love" and how continuous effort and commitment can help love grow and deepen over time. Whether you're just starting out on your marital journey or have shared decades together, this episode promises timeless insights to help your love flourish.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Can the smallest gestures really transform your marriage? Join us on the Living in Clarity podcast with Coach Ratner as we uncover the profound impact of understanding and fulfilling your spouse's needs. Through personal stories and thoughtful reflections, we reveal how respecting your partner's preferences—be it their passion for modern dance or their kitchen safety rules—can significantly strengthen your bond. Coach Ratner shares his experiences, underscoring that what matters to your spouse should matter to you, even if it seems trivial, as it's the bedrock of a loving and passionate marriage.Discover the magic of focusing on the "we" instead of the "me" in your relationship. We'll explore how simple acts of attention, affection, and appreciation can transform your marriage. In a world overrun by digital distractions, we offer practical tips to maintain undivided attention, such as eliminating phones and televisions from the bedroom. Understanding the distinct attention needs of men and women, we'll guide you on the path to a more respectful and connected partnership, grounded in the basic principles of civility and mutual respect.Finally, we dive deep into the essential role of emotional connection in preventing infidelity and nurturing marital intimacy. Coach Ratner shares three crucial questions that husbands should ask their wives to foster a deeper bond, touching on the emotional, physical, and intellectual aspects of the relationship. By prioritizing emotional connection and continuous attention within the marriage, couples can reignite passion and prevent the lure of outside emotional stimulation. Reflect on your reactions to seemingly unrealistic advice and embrace the journey toward a more committed and emotionally fulfilling marriage.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered how to transform your marriage from "me" to "we"? Join Coach Ratner on the Living in Clarity podcast as we unravel the secrets to enduring love and partnership. This episode dives headfirst into "Never Leaving" the final and most intricate phase of a loving relationship. Discover the life-changing 24-hour rule that helps couples sidestep unnecessary conflicts and learn how to view trivial expenses as a "marriage tax" to preserve harmony. We also delve into the emotional landscape of marriage, illustrating the crushing burden of grudges with a powerful metaphor about a professor and a glass of water.In another riveting segment, we decode the importance of emotional intelligence and intellectual decision-making in relationships. Coach Ratner shares wisdom on speaking thoughtfully, guided by the THINK acronym (True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, Kind), to avoid emotional pitfalls and build stronger bonds. You'll also hear insightful personal anecdotes and practical advice on effective communication skills. Learn the art of social savviness, knowing when and how to convey your messages for maximum impact and minimal friction. Tune in for a treasure trove of actionable tips that promise to elevate your marital journey and deepen your connection.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Discover how to transform your marriage and reignite the passion with our latest episode of the Living in Clarity Podcast. Have you ever wondered how small changes can make a big impact on your relationship? Today, we uncover the secrets behind maintaining a loving and passionate marriage by focusing on positive communication, the benefits of strenuous exercise, and the power of minor adjustments. Learn how aiming for 100% positivity in your conversations can drastically improve your connection and why regular heart-pumping activities can enhance your mood and energy, revitalizing your marriage.In this episode, we delve into the importance of minor course corrections, likened to the precision required in space missions, to maintain a balanced and passionate relationship. We'll explore practical solutions such as regular date nights and embracing periods of separation, and even dive into ancient traditions like the Jewish laws of family purity that have been shown to strengthen marital bonds. Gain insights on how to apply these timeless principles to your own relationship to lower divorce rates and rekindle intimacy and passion.Ever wondered how adopting an infinite mindset can benefit your marriage? We take inspiration from Simon Sinek's "The Infinite Game" to discuss the importance of focusing on long-term goals in your relationship. Hear from renowned marriage researcher John Gottman, who reveals how recognizing and addressing contempt can prevent divorce, and understand the vital balance between enduring short-term pain for long-term happiness. Tune in as we share the complexities and joys of merging two souls into one harmonious union, helping you navigate challenges with foundational love and avoid the pitfalls of divorce.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered why some marriages thrive while others fall apart? Join us on the Living in Clarity Podcast as we uncover the crucial steps to building a strong, lasting marriage. We kick off this episode by exploring the Commitment phase, emphasizing the importance of both physical attraction and aligning life goals before saying "I do." Learn how to gauge whether you and your partner are truly compatible by discussing essential priorities like children, leisure, and community involvement. These foundational elements ensure your relationship is built to last through the ups and downs of life.But the journey doesn't end at the altar. This episode also highlights the ongoing effort required to maintain a romantic relationship. Respecting each other's hobbies, decisions, and priorities is key, and we delve into how to navigate these differences effectively. Imagine love as sunscreen at the beach—it needs constant application to prevent it from fading away. Through compelling metaphors and real-life insights, we stress the importance of continuous nurturing. Tune in to hear how to recognize the early signs of a faltering relationship and take proactive steps to avoid the regret and heartache of a love that has burnt away.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Can material desires and the pursuit of external validation weaken the foundations of your marriage? Join us as we unravel the complexities of ego in relationships, starting with a relatable story of the time I bought a Porsche to boost my ego, only to find it unsatisfying and stressful. Through this and other personal anecdotes, we'll see how focusing on superficial attributes can harm marriages and why nurturing a soul connection with your partner is far more rewarding. We also reflect on how our perceptions of marriage are often shaped by our parents and discuss the importance of mutual understanding to build a lasting and fulfilling relationship.But that's not all. Picture marriage as a profound merger of souls, much like the story of Adam and Eve from the Torah. We delve into the significance of emotional and intellectual connections over instinctual bonds and emphasize the role of self-love as a cornerstone for a healthy relationship. Moreover, we'll guide you through the 'research phase' of relationships to address potential issues before committing fully. To round things off, we explore how gratitude and acts of kindness can lead to genuine happiness and a richer, more satisfying life. Join Coach Ratner from the Living in Clarity podcast for practical advice and heartfelt stories that promise to transform your approach to marriage and personal fulfillment.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered why some marriages thrive while others merely survive? On the latest episode of the Living Clarity Podcast, we promise you'll uncover the secret to sustaining a long-lasting, fulfilling relationship. Coach Ratner reveals why shared meaningful life goals, rather than mere common interests, are the glue that holds relationships together. With insights rooted in his own dating experiences and a fascinating example from the cooking show "Chopped," he makes a compelling case for the transformative power of a shared purpose. Gain valuable wisdom on how a belief system can enrich your emotional health and bring depth to your relationship.In the second half of our episode, prepare to rethink the balance between your physical desires and spiritual needs. Coach Ratner delves into the essence of spirituality, defining it as the intricate interplay between our soul and body. Through real-life scenarios, including a student's relationship dilemma and the poignant metaphor of sudden death, we explore how prioritizing spiritual well-being over physical urges can lead to more harmonious relationships and a fulfilling life. Tune in to discover how aligning your soul with meaningful goals can pave the way for deeper connections and a richer life experience.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered why your partner seems distant even when you think you're listening? Tune in to uncover the secrets of genuine listening that can transform your relationships. We discuss how truly hearing your partner goes beyond mere words—it's about capturing their emotions and validating their experiences, especially in the early stages of dating. We dive into the nuanced differences in how men and women communicate, highlighting the need for men to resist the urge to "fix" and instead offer support and understanding. You'll also pick up practical techniques like repeating back what you've heard to ensure clarity and stepping into your partner's shoes to build a stronger emotional foundation for a lasting marriage.But that's not all—self-awareness is another critical piece of the puzzle. With Mike Zaney's compelling analogy of the writing on the front and back of our shirts, we explore how addressing the "back of the shirt" issues—those traits apparent to everyone but ourselves—can revolutionize your personal and professional relationships. Hear real-life stories of individuals who embraced candid feedback to unveil their blind spots, leading to significant personal growth and more fulfilling relationships. Learn the importance of honest critique and the courage to face uncomfortable truths, setting you on a path to improved self-awareness and successful partnerships. This episode is packed with insights for anyone aiming to cultivate deeper, more meaningful connections.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered how many chances you should give a potential partner before deciding if they're "the one?" In our latest episode of the Living in Clarity podcast, Coach Ratner promises to transform your dating life with his intriguing Three Date Rule. Drawing from Malcolm Gladwell's "Blink," we explore how initial impressions can be misleading and why giving someone more than one chance can be crucial. We'll share personal stories and insights into how both men and women perceive each other, highlighting the deeper connections that often form over time. Learn how to move past those first-date jitters and superficial judgments to discover someone who might just be perfect for you.Looking for meaningful connections rather than ticking boxes on a checklist? Coach Ratner dives into the common pitfalls many face in their search for a life partner, emphasizing the importance of broadening your dating pool. With analogies and anecdotes, he illustrates how rigid criteria can limit your chances of finding a compatible match. You'll hear stories of individuals who have missed out on great opportunities due to unrealistic expectations, and learn why focusing on shared values and kindness is essential. Tune in for practical advice and heartfelt insights that will encourage you to embrace imperfections and expand your perspective in the quest for love.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered why some relationships fizzle out while others stand the test of time? This episode of the Living in Clarity podcast promises to unravel the secrets to dating with intention and clarity. We share the lighthearted yet profound story of a 90-year-old woman whose varied marital history teaches us the dangers of dating for the wrong reasons, like mere physical attraction or fleeting infatuation. We emphasize the importance of making intellectual, rather than purely emotional, decisions and offer practical strategies for evaluating potential partners, from involving family to seeking advice from a trusted dating coach. By focusing on emotional connections and honest feedback, you can steer clear of aimless relationships and make choices that lead to lasting love.We also dive into the fascinating world of perceived value and how it influences both marketing and personal relationships. Through the intriguing story of Sidney Frank and his creation of Grey Goose vodka, we explore how pricing and exclusivity can shape perceptions of quality. This concept isn't just for products; it applies to personal branding in dating too. By valuing yourself highly and maintaining a sense of mystery, you'll attract the attention and respect you deserve. Just as luxury brands command high value, so can you in your relationships. Tune in to discover how to find a partner who truly appreciates you for who you are, much like the most sought-after and exclusive brands.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Does infatuation lead to lasting love, or is it a relationship trap? In this episode of the Living in Clarity Podcast, Coach Ratner demystifies the first phase of a loving relationship: "The Crush." By breaking down the crucial distinction between infatuation and genuine love, Ratner sets the stage for a deeper understanding of what it means to truly connect with someone. He introduces the concept of defining love within your relationship to prevent future misunderstandings and heartbreaks. Drawing on Rabbi Abraham Twersky's enlightening "fish love" analogy, Ratner explains how genuine love requires emotional availability and a willingness to give selflessly.Tune in as Coach Ratner vividly illustrates that true love isn't about material gifts but about emotional connection and vulnerability. He explores the complications faced by individuals who struggle to open up due to past traumas or dysfunctional relationships and emphasizes the necessity of healing before entering a loving partnership. This episode serves as a cornerstone for anyone looking to establish a strong foundation for a lasting, loving relationship, offering insights that are both profound and actionable.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!This week on the Living in Clarity Podcast, Coach Ratner will read to you the introduction of his latest book, Infinite Marriage: The 4 Phases of a Loving Relationship. Discover the four phases of love— the crush, the research, the commitment, and ultimate phase of never leaving. Coach Ratner delves into the societal shifts causing declining marriage rates and increasing divorce rates, emphasizing the critical role of emotional intelligence. We will explore the “never leaving” phase, where unwavering commitment becomes the cornerstone of lasting marital bliss. Tune in to find out how to make your spouse the central focus of your life and achieve an infinite union filled with passion and love.Stay tuned for the rest of the audio book coming out in future weeks. The book is now available on Amazon.com, or at any Jewish Bookstore.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if someone close to you is secretly draining your emotional energy? In this eye-opening episode, Coach Ratner explores the concept of "Emotional Vampires"—those individuals who leave us feeling exhausted and demoralized. From the perpetual victim who constantly shifts blame, to the narcissist and drama queen who thrive on chaos, we uncover the telltale signs of these toxic personalities. Using the biblical story of Korach as a backdrop, we delve into the insidious nature of the victim mentality and its impact on our emotional health.Managing difficult personalities, especially within close-knit circles like family and friends, is no easy feat. Coach Ratner shares practical strategies for recognizing and establishing boundaries with these emotional vampires. We address socially awkward behaviors, particularly among those on the Asperger's spectrum, and discuss effective ways to create supportive environments. Personal anecdotes bring these scenarios to life, demonstrating the crucial need for boundaries and the benefits of external guidance, such as therapy or coaching, to navigate complex relationships.Finally, Coach Ratner emphasizes the importance of surrounding ourselves with emotionally healthy individuals. By reflecting on our interactions and setting clear boundaries, we can foster more positive and fulfilling connections. We discuss the perils of envy and ego in relationships, and how these traits can erode emotional well-being. Learn how to prioritize meaningful interactions and build a network of supportive, positive influences that contribute to a balanced, happier life. Don't miss the practical tips and heartfelt insights that could transform your approach to relationships forever.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered why the divorce rate is alarmingly high and true marital bliss so rare? On our latest episode of the Living in Clarity Podcast, Coach Ratner doesn't just explore the problem—he offers a solution that might just save your relationship. Discover the final and perhaps most crucial commandment in our series: Do Not Settle. Coach Ratner is here to inspire you to aim for nothing less than an extraordinary marriage by arming you with knowledge and practical advice. Learn why many marriages fail and what you can do to ensure yours doesn't become another statistic.Join us as Coach Ratner introduces the four phases of love, starting with the exciting "crush" phase and moving into the insightful "research" phase. He shares his wisdom on how to differentiate between fleeting infatuation and lasting love, emphasizing the importance of truly listening to your partner. This episode is packed with actionable tips and heartfelt advice aimed at guiding you towards a fulfilling and passionate relationship. Whether you're single, dating, or already married, this episode offers valuable insights to enrich your love life and help you build a lasting connection.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if a simple promise could be the bedrock of your most passionate relationship? Join me, Coach Ratner, on the Living in Clarity podcast as we unpack the ninth commandment of marriage: "Do not devalue your word." This episode delves into the essence of honesty and integrity, illustrating how small acts of trustworthiness, like consistently taking out the trash when you say you are going to do it, can fortify a marriage. I draw parallels between broken promises and pulling threads from a sweater, emphasizing how minor breaches of trust can eventually unravel an entire relationship.Throughout the episode, I share personal experiences from my early career to highlight the importance of a trustworthy reputation. Learn how consistently speaking the truth and avoiding empty words fosters a peaceful and passionate home environment. We discuss the significance of avoiding the temptation to say things just to please others, ensuring that every word holds weight. It's a heartfelt episode aimed at helping you build a lifelong bond with your partner. If this resonates, remember to like, share, save, or reach out via email.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What happens when we start valuing our time more than our money in a marriage? Discover how this shift can transform your relationship in the latest episode of the Living in Clarity Podcast with Coach Ratner. We continue our deep dive into the Ten Commandments of Marriage, focusing on the principle "Do not steal my time." Through engaging anecdotes and personal insights, Coach Ratner emphasizes the irreplaceable value of time and the importance of truly listening to your spouse to foster a deeper connection.Join us as we share the beauty of shared responsibilities and mindfulness, drawing inspiration from the tranquility of Shabbat mornings. Coach Ratner offers reflections on how these serene moments contribute to a stronger marital bond. By integrating mindful listening, as illustrated through the Shema prayer's call to "hear and you shall listen," we can capture our spouse's heart and enhance our partnership. Tune in for an enlightening discussion on making the most of your precious time together and enriching your marriage beyond measure.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Can emotional infidelity be as damaging as a physical affair? Prepare to uncover the hidden dangers of seeking emotional fulfillment outside your marriage in this enlightening episode of the Living in Clarity Podcast. I'm Coach Ratner, guiding you through the intricacies of emotional connections and how they can unravel the fabric of your relationship. Drawing from Gary Newman's profound insights in his book "Emotional Infidelity," we explore why keeping your emotional needs within your marriage is non-negotiable. Newman's advice, including steering clear of friendships with the opposite sex, is highlighted, providing you with essential strategies to safeguard your marriage.Discover practical tools to strengthen your bond with your spouse and prevent emotional adultery. Learn why simple gestures, like putting down your phone and genuinely engaging with your partner at the end of the day, can make a significant difference. Through real-life anecdotes and expert advice, we aim to equip you with the tools to foster a deeper, more fulfilling connection with your spouse. Tune in and transform your relationship, bringing you closer to a life of clarity and emotional fidelity.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Can words truly shape the destiny of your marriage? Discover the transformative power of language in relationships as Coach Ratner takes us through the sixth commandment of marriage: the imperative to speak positively. With insights rooted in personal experiences and wisdom from the Torah, we explore how the words we choose can either fortify or fracture our most intimate bonds. Coach Ratner candidly discusses the lingering impact of negative speech and why apologies may not always mend the emotional scars left behind.In this enlightening episode, Coach Ratner introduces us to the concept of Lashon Hora from Judaism, emphasizing its four types and their detrimental effects on relationships. Through real-life examples and practical advice, we learn the significance of thoughtful and affectionate communication. Whether it's avoiding harmful gossip or expressing genuine appreciation, the language we use with our spouse can be a powerful tool for fostering a loving and supportive environment. Tune in and find out how to elevate your marital communication and build a stronger connection with your partner.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Respect is the cornerstone of any thriving relationship, but how often do we truly understand its depth? Imagine transforming your marriage simply by shifting how you show respect to your partner. Join me, Coach Ratner, as we unpack the fifth commandment of marriage: Respect your spouse. Drawing compelling parallels with the commandment to honor your parents, we'll explore how this principle is akin to our relationship with God. Through a captivating story of a woman in Jerusalem and practical day-to-day advice, you'll discover why men crave respect as much as women prioritize love – and how hitting the right balance can revolutionize your marriage.In this episode, you'll gain valuable insights on observing your partner's interactions with others as a true measure of their character. We'll also highlight the importance of respecting in-laws and siblings, even if you don't always see eye to eye. For those women struggling to respect their husbands, learn the magic of treating them with respect first to cultivate behaviors worthy of it. From the nuances of setting the dinner table to heartfelt conversations that build mutual respect, you'll walk away with actionable tips to strengthen the foundation of your marriage. Don't miss this eye-opening discussion that promises to enhance the respect and love in your relationship.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Can shared spiritual practices really transform your marriage? On this episode of the Living in  Clarity Podcast, Coach Ratner explores the profound impact of the fourth Ten Commandments of Marriage: Keep Shabbos. We delve into why couples who pray together tend to have more enduring relationships, emphasizing that shared meaningful goals and values are crucial. From bonding over children to engaging in philanthropy and community involvement, we discuss how a deeper, spiritual connection can enhance your marriage far beyond physical attraction or common hobbies.Join us as we share inspirational stories, including a couple who found fulfillment by supporting educational and political organizations. These narratives underscore the importance of a shared altruistic mission, which can provide a stronger foundation for marriage than superficial connections. Whether you are religious or not, the key takeaway is to pause and reflect on your shared journey, focusing on something greater than yourselves to sustain a fulfilling and enduring marriage. Discover how Shabbos, or any similar practice, can help you achieve this deeper connection with your partner.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered how to keep the peace in your marriage and manage your temper effectively? Discover the secrets in our latest episode of Living in Clarity with Coach Ratner as we continue exploring the Ten Commandments of Marriage. This week, we focus on managing anger, highlighting the powerful 24-hour rule that could save your relationship from unnecessary conflicts. Learn why most arguments are fleeting and easily forgotten over time, and how applying this rule can help you maintain harmony. Coach Ratner shares wisdom from Jewish teachings like the Mishnah in Pirkei Avos, emphasizing the true strength in controlling one's emotions.But that's not all! Coach Ratner delves into the dynamic interplay between body, ego, and soul in our daily lives. Using the colorful analogy of a Poke Bowl, he illustrates how integrating all aspects of our being can lead us to our best selves. Hear about the deeper connections fostered through emotional control and why Judaism is seen as more of a relationship than a religion. Tune in for practical advice and spiritual insights designed to help you cultivate stronger, more fulfilling relationships in every area of your life.

Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if criticism in marriage is as harmful as idol worship? Join us as we continue our insightful series on the Ten Commandments of Marriage, where we uncover why "do not criticize" is a cornerstone for a thriving relationship. We dive deep into how criticism can erode the foundation of a marriage by undermining the belief that everything unfolds according to God's plan. Through personal stories and powerful examples, we illustrate the pervasiveness of criticism and its impact on our closest relationships. Learn how striving for positivity and being mindful of our actions can dramatically enhance our spouse's self-esteem, nurturing a more loving and supportive union.This episode also introduces the concept of "Sunscreen Love," highlighting the necessity of constantly nurturing romance to keep the relationship vibrant and healthy. Discover the four A's of a loving relationship—attention, affection, appreciation, and awareness—and their vital role in meeting your partner's needs. We also share an exciting glimpse into our upcoming self-esteem classes, designed to further enrich your personal and relational growth. Stay tuned and get ready to transform your marriage into a criticism-free zone of love and respect!