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Free Inner Critic Meditation https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/free-inner-critic-meditation   In this episode, I open up about my personal journey with the inner critic—how it held me back, and how I've slowly learned to work with it rather than against it using the powerful lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy.   For years, I tried everything: affirmations, mindset shifts, journaling... but nothing helped silence that critical voice inside me. It wasn't until I discovered IFS that I completely shifted my approach to working with the inner critic.   Together, we'll explore: What Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy says about the inner critic Why trying to "silence" your inner critic often backfires The connection between your inner critic and childhood experiences A simple but powerful reframe that helped me soften my self-talk Book recommendation: Freedom from the Inner Critic by Jay Earley & Bonnie Weiss   Whether your inner critic sounds like “You're not good enough,” or keeps pushing you to “do more, be more,” this episode is here to remind you: you are not alone. And there is a gentle way forward.   Resources for this episode //   Freedom From Your Inner Critic - Bonnie Weiss & Jay Early https://www.amazon.com.au/Freedom-Your-Inner-Critic-Self-Therapy/dp/1604079428 No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz https://www.amazon.com.au/No-Bad-Parts-Restoring-Wholeness/dp/1785045113 Internal Family Systems - Richard Schwartz https://www.amazon.com.au/Internal-Family-Systems-Therapy-Second/dp/B0D6NL2Y8C   Join the email community //   Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox.

Library staff discuss and recommend what they're reading and chat about what the Longmont Public Library has to offer. Books recommended and discussed in this episode:My Bright Abyss: Meditation of a Modern Believer, by Christian Wiman; The Vaster Wilds by Lauren Groff; Watership Down: the Graphic Novel adapted from Richard Adams' novel by James Sturm and Joe Stutphin; Whalefall: a Novel by Daniel Kraus; The Book of Joy with the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu; Self-Therapy by Jay Earley; Black Hole Blues and Other Songs from Outer Space by Janna Levin;18 Tiny Deaths: The Untold Story of Frances Glessner Lee and the Invention of Modern, Forensics by Bruce Goldfarb. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Dr. Peter takes close look at an alternative way to manage, work through, and let go of anger, informed by Internal Family Systems (IFS), and especially by the work of Jay Earley.  After a brief review of the major tenets of IFS, we discuss how to work through the different ways that manager parts, firefighter parts and exiled parts hold and manage anger.  We look at the functions of anger in the internal system and especially at the process, the steps of working through and resolving anger held by parts in different roles.  Then Dr. Peter discusses how parts of him hold and respond to anger in a particular subsystem of parts within his broader internal system.  

Today on The Soul of Life I speak with Jay Earley, author of Self-Therapy: A Step-by-Step Guide to Inner Wholeness Using IFS. A frequent subject on this show, Internal Family Systems is a model of spiritual and therapeutic growth that I've practiced for the last 12 years or so that to me is the most effective tool box that I've ever found to address a wide range of psychological and health-related issues. "The crucial part is not just recognizing that we're made up of parts—subpersonalities—but that they're really like little people living inside of us. And we can talk to them and they can talk to us and we can develop a relationship to them." Jay and I hone in on the IFS concept of befriending our protectors. Not just thinking abstractly about your psychological defenses, but experiencing them in real time with a sort of appreciative inquiry and leadership, the results of which you experience in your body and mind. Mike Elkin, one of my recent guests on the show described IFS like hypnosis, except it's far more sophisticated and you can learn to do it on yourself. And that's been Jay Early's passion: teaching lay people the steps to learning IFS in everyday life. In self-practice. All of us can relate to having a voice inside of you that tells you when you've made a mistake. For many people this mental habit can interfere with life and restrict their natural instinct and ability. But have you ever considered that you can actually interact with that part of you? Not just get that critic voice to go away, but get it to work with you and fit into your life in a more helpful way. We talk about: - How to deal with inner conflicts, called polarizations - The Procrastinator-Taskmaster polarization - Why polarizations are the root cause of all emotional and behavioral symptoms - How to get to know and deal with your Inner Critic - Applying Self-Leadership to polarizations in the outside world Enter my current sweepstakes giveaway (https://swee.ps/lZirCOTlY): Win a Couples Vacation to the Caribbean ($1,299 Value!). Ends 10/15/21 1. All inclusive airfare for two 2. Two night stay included Check out my Mini-Course for couples: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLHjcz6Ly2y9gr2mtMHIxu-fXXl8rE_PYJ Learn more about my 7-week, live, online basic mindfulness and IFS course for couples: https://souloflifeshow.com/mindful-marriage Join my Facebook Group called "Bring Love Alive:" https://www.facebook.com/groups/601405257684922 My Book, Love Under Repair: How to Save Your Marriage and Survive Couples Therapy https://amzn.to/2X3kPBL My Counseling Practice: https://keithmillercounseling.com Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SoulOfLifeShow or Twitter: https://twitter.com/SoulofLifeShow ​ Want to book Keith as a guest on your podcast? Contact him at keith@souloflifeshow.com.

" In Case you haven't noticed, you have a mental dialogue going on inside your head that never stops.  It just keeps going and going."- The Untethered Soul by Michael A Singer  In this weeks episode I talk about the seven most common inner critics and the messages that they send.  Dr Jay Earley and Bonnie Weiss LCSW have narrowed down the inner critical voices into these seven types and if we can begin to pay attention to the messages of these negative dialogues we can begin to renew our thinking and heal from trauma and past hurts.   Becoming aware of these critics allows us the ability to bring those things to prayer and ask for God's guidance and healing so that Satan  doesn't multiply the message and guide us to strongholds and sin. So let's get busy paying attention so that we can break free!!!

" In Case you haven't noticed, you have a mental dialogue going on inside your head that never stops.  It just keeps going and going."- The Untethered Soul by Michael A Singer  In this weeks episode I talk about the seven most common inner critics and the messages that they send.  Dr Jay Earley and Bonnie Weiss LCSW have narrowed down the inner critical voices into these seven types and if we can begin to pay attention to the messages of these negative dialogues we can begin to renew our thinking and heal from trauma and past hurts.   Becoming aware of these critics allows us the ability to bring those things to prayer and ask for God's guidance and healing so that Satan  doesn't multiply the message and guide us to strongholds and sin. So let's get busy paying attention so that we can break free!!!

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Intro: Welcome to the podcast Interior Integration for Catholics  Interior Integration for Catholics brings to you in each episode the best psychological information essential for your human formation, knowledge that is fundamental in shoring up the natural foundation for your Catholic spiritual life.   This podcast helps you focus inward on your interior integration -- to help you bring together the different parts of yourself into unity and harmony with God in the natural realm. In this podcast, we confront the tough internal questions we Catholics have in our day-to-day lives, we confront head-on our struggles in the natural realm, the psychological difficulties that keep us from fully loving our Lord and our Lady in a deep, personal, intimate way and living out our vocations, including our vocation to Catholic marriage which necessarily brings in both sexuality and religion. And we're dealing with sexuality and religion in this episode for two primary reasons: first to free you to love God our Father, Jesus our Brother, the Holy Spirit and Our Mother Mary more and more over time and  Second, to love you neighbor as yourself -- And who is your neighbor?  If you are married, your first neighbor, your closest neighbor, the neighbor toward whom you have the most responsibilities is your spouse.  Because of your marriage vows.   I'm clinical psychologist Peter Malinoski and I am here with you, to be your host and guide.   This podcast is part of Souls and Hearts, our online outreach at soulsandhearts.com, which is all about shoring up our natural foundation for the Catholic spiritual life, all about overcoming psychological obstacles to being loved and to loving God and neighbor. We are celebrating our one year anniversary.  First podcast launched March 20, 2020  Success The majority of podcasts don't make it to 14 episodes   Because of you Very niche audience  This one has risen to top 10% based on downloads  Tells me there is a hunger out there.    Gratitude  Appreciation  Your support increases my motivation.   This is episode 60, released on March 22, 2021 And it is titled: How Well Do You Really Know Your Spouse?   This is the 12th episode in our series on sexuality, the fourth in our subseries on sexuality in Catholic marriages  Continuing with the model of a Catholic Canopied Marriage Bed to illuminate what happens sexually in Catholic marriages.   Episode 58 -- I provided you with the model of a Catholic canopied marriage bed.   Remember this canopied marriage bed represents the sexual life of a married Catholic couple.   The floor -- The Presence of God and His Providence -- we started here in the last episode, episode 59 The four legs Leg 1 -- the husband's commitment to his own interior integration and his own human formation  Leg 2.  the wife's commitment to her own interior integration, her own human formation  Leg 3.  Understanding my own and my spouse's attachment needs and integrity needs    Leg 4.  Internal Family Systems Approaches to understanding myself and my spouse We are really exploring this leg first, in this podcast episode.   The frame and the box spring -- the firm, unwavering commitment of the husband his marriage vows and the wife to her marriage vows -- separately.  Independently The mattress  Empathetic attunement  Two pillows:  Self-acceptance and Spouse-acceptance  Bottom Sheet:  sexual attraction, the intensity of sexual passion Top Sheet:  Communication between the spouses The blankets:  human warmth, emotional connection Four Bedposts -- imagine two spiral intertwined, like the double-helix structure of DNA Mindset  Heartset  Bodyset  Soulset   The canopy and the curtains -- to protect privacy and propriety or to hide dysfunction, exploitation, even abuse.   The sham, the bedspread, and the bedskirt -- Used to cover up the real bed, give an impression of the state of married life to the world.   Review:  So we've only just begun with this metaphor.  Now starting in the next episode, we are going to walk step by step through all the elements of the Catholic marriage bed, through all the components of married Catholic sexual life.  We're going to cover all the bases slowly and thoroughly so that all components, all the pieces become clear.  We will look at what each part of the Catholic marriage bed looks like when it is healthy as well as what can go wrong with each part of the bed.   Just as important, how all the pieces of the marriage bed, healthy or unhealthy are related to each other, how they interconnect and how those elements of Catholic Married sexual life can change over time.   Over and over and over again, I have had Catholic couples in my office discussing their marital problems, their sexual problems. And over and over and over again, I come to the same conclusion -- Catholic couples who are married, 5, 15, 25, 40 years or more do not really know their spouses.   They know a lot about their spouses biographical details  They know a lot about behaviors their spouses do   But their internalized image of the spouse, their working model of the spouse is way off Very two dimensional  Very simplistic  Interpreted through our own filters and lenses   Lots of reasons for this and we'll get into them today.   So this episode is titled What You Don't Know About Your Spouse Can Hurt Both of You.   So get ready, prepare yourself for light bulbs to switch on and shine brightly as we explore new and much clearer ways of thinking about sexual life in Catholic marriages, grounded in the perennial teachings of the Catholic Church and informed by the best of psychology.  The Windup / the Hurdle -- What is our situation here.  Five Bold claims: You don't really know your spouse.   Your spouse doesn't really know you.   Your Father doesn't or didn't really know your mother  Your mother doesn't or didn't really know your father  And you don't really know you.   Not just talking about troubled marriages here.  Not just talking about Catholic marriages in general.  I'm also talking about those Catholic marriages that you admire.   In these days, very few people really deeply enter into the phenomenological world of anyone -- anyone else or even oneself.   Bold claims.  Explain yourself, Dr. Peter.  I don't know my wife? Not a nice thing to say  Not a comfortable thing to hear'  Maybe even a little insulting  Psalm 139:13-15 For it was you who formed my inward parts; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; that I know very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth.  The Unconscious -- so much about ourselves that we don't understand  Old days of doing assessments -- 15 years, Taught it.   Expert in psychological testing Fitness for duty assessments -- Air traffic controllers Some people coming in to really understand themselves better Not understanding ourselves leads us to confusion and distortion in understanding others.  We don't understand ourselves because so much of us in unconscious, mysterious.   Prove it, Dr. Peter One question:   Used to ask it while having people looking at themselves in a full length mirror in my office.   Instead of Dr. Malinoski, the seminarians of one diocese nicknamed me Dr. Malinoscopy.   Who is your Spouse?  Beloved child of God, cherished by God, your Heavenly Father, tenderly loved by your Mother Mary,  part of Christ Himself in his Mystical Body, a partaker in God's divine nature?   We see these realities as through a veil -- I Corinthians 13:12 -- For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully, just as I also have been fully known.  I do not make the claim that I really know myself or my wife.  I thought I did.  I and I think I do better than most husbands know their wives, but that's not saying much.  Just a relative measure, not an absolute measure.   And this is a real problem Not knowing your spouse compromises your ability to love your spouse  Not knowing yourself compromises your ability to love yourself   Three elements of loving Benevolence -- willing the highest good for the other and being ready to sacrifice and suffer to bring about the other person's good   Capacity to Love -- your ability to love Spiritual formation -- virtues  Human formation Self-awareness  Empathetic attunement  Personal Development on the natural realm.   This is what I focus on in this podcast.  All about human formation.  Shoring up the natural foundation for loving God and loving neighbors.   Constancy -- not just one-off acts of charity, but holding a more and more consistent position of charity.  Possessing the virtue of charity toward the spouse.   And where does this ignorance of your spouse most clearly make itself known?  Where is the place where the lack of understanding between Catholic spouses most clearly revealed?  Where does the lack of self-awareness of each spouse and the lack of empathetic attunement between spouse most clearly broadcast itself?  Drumroll   In the Catholic marriage bed.  In the sexual relating of the spouses.   That's where you see it most clearly revealed.    Quiet desperation -- often wives Don't ask, don't tell Unspoken bitterness, resentment  Unmet needs, illusions   Shame Body Shame  Sense of unworthiness   No frame of reference Others miserable too.   Confusion Settling -- as good as it gets.   The Vision  Old option, the old way -- keep on the way you are going. Keep understanding yourself and your spouse in the same way, keep acting in the same way, keep the same pattern and dynamics, it's not likely that things are going to change for the better  Pray about it -- God can work miracles, right?  "O God, please help my sexual intimacy with my spouse improve…"  That's good.  But what if it's not enough -- what if God needs you to work on your sexual intimacy issues in the natural realm?  He won't intrude and work magic or miracles if parts of you want to keep the status quo, if there are parts of you that are resisting changing.   What if there were a new way to really understand both yourself and you better As a psychologist looked for ways to help married couples for the last two decades  Not just about relieving distress, but also about deepening the intimacy, deepening the relationship, including in the sexual realm  Not just as a psychologist, not just as a clinician, but also in my own marriage with Pam.   Introduction to Internal Family Systems Developed by Richard Schwartz   Discussion of Parts -- introduced parts in episode 49 Separate, independently operating personalities within us, each with own unique prominent emotions, body sensations, intentions, typical thoughts and beliefs, desires, attitudes, impulses, interpersonal style, and world view.   How can we separate personalities within us.  Dr. Peter, it sounds like you're saying that each of us has multiple personalities.  You're not saying I have multiple personalities, are you?  ] That's exactly what I'm saying.   Parts are like the different characters inside Riley, the star of the animated Pixar film "Inside Out"  -- remember that -- Anger (red), Sadness (blue), Joy (yellow), Disgust (green), Fear (purple) Remember how of those internal actors would take over the control panel within her and then she would act as if she were just that part of her?  So when anger took over, she would get into conflict with her father?   So we can see a part as a distinct mode of operating -- prominent emotions, body sensations, intentions, typical thoughts and beliefs, desires, attitudes, impulses, interpersonal style, and world view.   example husband comes home from demanding management job in human resources at the end of the day, all day dealing with employee problems, and he tired, worn out, no patience, feeling put upon by the children.  Just wants peace and quiet and something to eat and to veg out.   Wife says to herself "My husband is in his 6:00 funk again."  That "funk" is a mode of operating.   The husband has been taken over by part, we would say he is blended a part.    That parts has a particular set emotions, body sensations, intentions, typical thoughts and beliefs, desires, attitudes, impulses, interpersonal style, and world view.  Let's break it down. Emotions:  Irritation, frustration, annoyance  Body sensations:  Tense shoulders, slight headache  Belief: Relating with people is all about their problems and all about pressure from the executives about minimizing risk and liability.  Relationships are draining, costly.   Thought -- Wife wants to tell me about her day, which means telling me about all the problems with the kids and expecting me to help solve them.  Intentions -- wanting to get away from people, rest, recover, try to recharge batteries.   Desires:  To eat and to have the house quiet  Attitudes: Somebody owes me something for all that I do  Impulses:  To yell, to shut everybody up  Interpersonal style: Grouchy, cold, non-communicative, avoidant  World view:  Work your fingers to the bone, what do you get?  Bony fingers.  Bony fingers.   Husband is not always in that funk.  Often, after supper, after vegging a while, he can reemerge and be much more pleasant and relational, in an entirely different mode of operating with the kids.   Let's say the wife, in a very human way blends with a part of her in reaction to her husband's 6:00 funk.  Emotions:  She gets sad, sense of despair Body sensations:  Sinking feeling in her stomach, desire to curl up.   Belief: He doesn't really care about me.   Thought -- He's treating the kids too sternly, he's too inflexible.  It's one thing for him to be unkind to me, but doesn't he see how hard he is on the kids? Intentions:  I want us to be a happy family together.     Desires:  I want him to care for me and the kids.   Attitudes: Helplessness Impulses:  To give up, throw in the towel. Interpersonal style: Very cautious, walking on eggshells, tightly controlling emotional expression toward the husband.   World view: It sucks to be married to him.  He brings us all down.  We just have to take it.      Goal in Internal Family Systems:  Internal Integration.  Parts coming to together under the leadership of the core self Orchestra model   Get forced into extreme roles -- attachment injuries and relational traumas   Three roles Exiles --  most sensitive -- become injured or outraged.  Threatens the system, external relationships Exploited, rejected, abandoned in external relationships Want care and love, rescue, redemption shame.  Need for redemption  Managers Protective, strategic, controlling environment, keep things safe  Obsessions. Compulsions, reclusiveness, passivity, numbing. Panic attacks, somatic complaints, depressive episodes, hypervigiliance.   Firefighters Stifle, anesthetize, distract from feelings of exiles  No concern for consequences  Binge eating, drug/alcohol use, dissociation, sexual risk taking, cutting   Parts can take over the person Like in Pixar Movie Inside Out -- anger taking over the control panel of the main character Riley  We call it blending.   Parts can have a different love languages -- Five different Love Languages -- Gary Chapman.   Words of affirmation Quality Time Acts of Service Gifts Physical Touch Parts have different attachment styles, different ways of connecting.   Parts have different histories of sexual experiences  Parts have different reactions to sex and relationship issues  Parts can shift abruptly.  They can shift abruptly during sexual intimacy between spouses.  I don't know ourselves when I don't know my parts. St. Paul in Romans 7:15 For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.   I don't know my spouse when I don't know his or her parts.   So many parts are hidden.  Consider themselves or are considered by other parts to be unacceptable, unlovable, unworthy, dangerous, harmful, inappropriate, or whatever.   IFS on the Self -- (recorded) Self defined as the seat of consciousness  Self can be occluded or overwhelmed by parts  When self accepts and loves parts, those parts transform back into who they were meant to be  Self-led mind is self-righting.  self -- Active inner leader -- more than mindfulness   Parts find the relationship with the self very reassuring But to reap the benefits they have to unblend from and notice the self  This is frightening can challenging to parts  Agency in the parts -- parts are making decisions about unblending in IFS model   Intrinsic qualities of the self Curiosity  Compassion  Calm  Confidence  Courage  Clarity  Creativity  Connectedness  Kindness   The self can be easily occluded, obscured, hidden by protective parts who take over in response to fear, anger or shame General state for most people is to be quite blended  Leads to self-absorption   Goal is to have the core self be governing our parts during our relational and sexual intimacy, to have that recollection in the natural realm.   The Fine Print / Action Plan We will continue to work through sexual intimacy topics in this podcast -- see if your spouse will join you.  If your spouse has joined you, let me know!  I want to hear it -- crisis@soulsandhearts.com, text me at 317.567.9594.   Continue to identify your parts -- do you have a part that's like the 6:00 funk part from our example today?  What are your typical, identifiable modes of operating?  Write them down.  The next step is to start identifying the ones that are active when you are sexually intimate.  Keep drawing your bed and labeling it or use a picture of a canopied marriage bed.  You don't have to be a great artist -- but start drawing your own marriage bed, with your own insights, you own realizations.  Next episode will be all about illustrating how parts become active in sexual intimacy between partners -- we're going to go through examples of how that plays out to help you really grip on to the concepts.   More help:  Alison Cook, Kimberly Miller "Boundaries for Your Soul" Known Alison and Kimberly for years now in Christian IFS circles, beloved colleagues  First and only book I've ever reviewed on Amazon   Jenna Riemersma "Altogether You"  IFS grounded in a Christian Anthropology, wants that integration of IFS with Christianity.   Met Jenna earlier this month, in a meeting together Really wants to promote IFS   After meeting her, more excited to read her new book, came out late last year Resource page  https://jennariemersma.com/ Tammy Sollenberger:  The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcas‪t -- comes out weekly on Fridays.  Got to meet Tammy earlier this month as well.  Really committed to getting the basics of IFS across, making IFS more accessible to the general public, breaking down the concepts to make them easier to understand. Jay Earley's books -- more than a dozen books.  https://personal-growth-programs.com/  But it's hard to work on your parts without help -- cue the Resilient Catholic Community.   If this discussion of parts resonates with you -- what would it be like to be working on your human formation, your human development as a Catholic with other Catholics who have the same goals?  What would be like to form real relationships with other on the same path, to journey together?  Get on the waiting list for the RCC --  go to soulsandheart.com/rcc to sign up -- there's no obligation to join, but you will get all kinds of cool free stuff.   I have a special event just for people who are on the RCC waiting list  Our people on the waiting list have been so patient, I am so appreciative, so for those of you on the waiting list, you are all invited to a Zoom meeting  On Tuesday, April 6, 2021 from 7:30 PM to 8:45 PM Eastern time I will make a brief presentation about Catholicism, Sexuality and Parts  Then We will have an "Ask me anything" section to field your questions or comments and have a great discussion  Then I will discuss the Resilient Catholics Community -- the RCC focus on human formation, the monthly themes for the RCC, the membership benefits, our office hours, the weekly premium podcast exclusively for RCC members, our private app with discussion boards, subscription rates  Then we'll discuss what you are looking for in an online community and answer questions about the RCC community   You can also send me questions via email at crisis@soulsandhearts.com or via my cell at 317.567.9594   For current RCC members -- we have a premium episode coming out on Tuesday, March 23, 2021 IIC 60A Getting to Know the Parts Who Take Over During Sex Catholic therapists who listen -- a community just for you.  reopening the Interior Therapist Community.  Landing page soulsandhearts.com/itc   Unique opportunities to work on your formation as a therapist, and your formation as a human being.  As therapists, we often have parts that focus so much on other people, caring for others that there can be significant neglect of our own parts, our own systems, our own integration.  The Interior Therapist Community helps with that. Two slots open for Catholic Therapists in our Foundations Experiential Groups.  Go to soulsandhearts.com/itc to find out more.   IIC 60T What is Holding Me Back From More Deeply Understanding My Clients' Sexual Lives?  Subscribing to this podcast -- Spotify, Apple Podcasts, google play, amazon.  Share the Interior Integration for Catholics Podcast on social media -- sharing buttons are on our website at soulsandhearts.com/coronavirus-crisis  -- get your word out there, with your personal recommendation -- how these episodes have helped you.  Share them, let others know.  Feedback.  Let me know how these episodes are landing with you -- -- some of you already have.  Get in touch with me on my cell at 317.567.9594 or my email at crisis@soulsandhearts.com   IIC 60A Getting to Know the Parts Who Take Over During Sex IIC 60T What is Holding Me Back From More Deeply Understanding My Clients' Sexual Lives?  Blurb for Transistor:  Dr. Peter ask you how well you know yourself and how well you know your spouse.  He offers an Internal Family Systems approach to understanding both the multiplicity and the unity within us as we continue this series on sexuality and Catholic marriage.   Patronness and Patron   

On today's episode I chat with Jay Earley, a popular IFS teacher who authored the book, "Self Therapy" and who leads ongoing IFS courses and groups. Our chat can be broken up into 3 sections- 1. His story, and similarities and differences between what he teaches and what Dick teaches. He shares his take on unblending and inner critics. He shares his 'GPS of the mind' program. He states, "I am not competing with IFS." 2.  Capacity Development- What are the 'capacities of Self' to be developed and discovered? 3. "The Great Turning"--- "Inner work for the world" Here is the website to ALL the things Jay offers: https://personal-growth-programs.com/ This is the online tool we discussed: https://selftherapyjourney.com/ I would love to hear what you think the 'Capacity' is for the word I am trying to find in the middle of the episode. The word was 'Scarcity,' and I MEANT to ask Jay what he thought the capacity was but got lost in trying to find the word! Let me know if you can help me out on this one @ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and The One Inside Facebook Page.  I will see you there. Enjoy!

안녕하세요, 소소와 하루입니다. 참고도서 내면 가족 체계 치료 (RICHARD C. SCHWARTZ / 학지사) 참자아가 이끄는 소인격체 클리닉 (Jay Earley, PhD / 시그마프레스) 그러면 오늘도 소소한 행복과 함께하는 하루 되시길 바랍니다. 감사합니다. ※ 듣고 싶은 주제나 방송에 대한 질문, 사연이 있으시다면 공식 이메일(soya0213@naver.com)이나 트위터 DM(https://twitter.com/sosoharu119/), 에스크(asked.kr/sosoharu119)로 보내주세요.

Change How You Feel About Yourself Forever... Did you know you are a collection of parts? It's true. Inside of you, there's actually a virtual "family" of different parts, each with its own purpose and agenda. Join Dr. Aziz as he interviews the brilliant and renowned Internal Family Systems therapist and teacher, Dr. Jay Earley for an illuminating look at just who inside you is running the show.

Change How You Feel About Yourself Forever... Did you know you are a collection of parts? It's true. Inside of you, there's actually a virtual "family" of different parts, each with its own purpose and agenda. Join Dr. Aziz as he interviews the brilliant and renowned Internal Family Systems therapist and teacher, Dr. Jay Earley for an illuminating look at just who inside you is running the show.

We all have an Inner Critic inside of us that nags, puts us down and makes us feel not good enough. A powerful antidote to the harsh and shaming Inner Critic voice is a loving parental voice inside, an Inner Champion. This meditation which is based on a meditation idea by Jay Earley and Bonnie Weiss will help you to find and cultivate a loving and compassionate voice inside.

We all have a nagging voice inside which puts us down and makes us feel not good enough: our Inner Critic. We can distinguish between different types of Inner Critics and based on the type develop a loving voice as an antidote. The answer to the harsh and shaming Inner Critic voice is an Inner Champion voice. The Champion supports us in being ourselves and in feeling good about ourselves. It lifts our self-esteem and self-confidence. It makes us feel loved and good enough. The Inner Champion is the ideal supportive parent. It helps us to see the positive truth about ourselves. It nurtures and cares for us, and provides guidance.

Are you in pain? Do you know you have some issues to work through, but can't afford paying for expensive sessions with a therapist? Jay Earley has the solution! Today, I'm replaying an interview I originally recorded back in early 2015 with author and therapist Jay Earley. Jay's book, Self Therapy, details a methodology you can use for healing psychological wounds, and you can do it on your own, without an expensive therapist! I use his method, and it has been hugely effective. I can honestly say that without this book I wouldn't be where I am today. Jay and I had a great conversation about his method and about Inner Family Systems Therapy (IFS), the school of psychology that Jay subscribes to. Healing psychological wounds is foundational to personal development. If you want to improve your life in all areas, I can't recommend Jay's book enough!   Buy the book here: http://amzn.to/2rSv1Jw  Find more from Jay here: http://personal-growth-programs.com/  https://selftherapyjourney.com/    Enjoy great bonus content on Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/ChoiceConversations     Help out the show with these affiliate links: Sitting Solution: http://affiliate.lxntracker.com/rd/r.php?sid=79&pub=240237&c1=&c2=&c3=  Amazon USA: https://www.amazon.com/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ll2&tag=choicecon-20&linkId=1f6f703e9797258e86fd161ec82a2fb4  Amazon Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ll2&tag=choicecon-20&linkId=1f6f703e9797258e86fd161ec82a2fb4    Find me on the web: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ChoiceConversations  Itunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/choice-conversations/id315666764?mt=2  Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/ChoiceConversationsPodcast  Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1741413262765523  Twitter: https://twitter.com/ChoiceConvo  Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/c/ChoiceConversations  Google Plus: https://plus.google.com/u/0/b/113389589018857326194/+ChoiceConversations  Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/choice-conversations   iheart Radio: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Choice-Conversations/  Bumper music: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yiKiNecNBiY&list=PLoe-H2xJOW56v_XOx1oJnZXOfCIr4YfSy  

This week on The Therapy Spot, I was thrilled to speak with Jay Earley, PhD, about IFS and his newest book, Self-Therapy Vol. 3: A Step-by-Step Guide to Using IFS for Eating Issues, Procrastination, the Inner Critic, Depression, Perfectionism, Anger, Communication, and More. Jay focuses on self-therapy and group work because, in his own words, “I’ve always liked the idea of people doing therapy and personal growth work in connection with other people.” For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

Laurette Lynn returns for a discussion about how parents and educators can improve communication and connection with young people. From LauretteLynn.com: With an emphasis on communicating with youth, and infused with critical reasoning, we talk about perfecting parenting. We make a distinction between education and schooling and the ways in which destructive communication can negatively impact personal growth. And we discuss why we project our esteem issues onto our children. This truly is an intelligent, lively and great conversation. It is long, so take it with you and listen in segments, but I promise you, it’s worth every second! How do teens respond to condescension? How do young children respond to praise? Should we even call young humans, “Children”? What is “Peaceful Parenting” and can aggressive people even be peaceful parents? Why are teenagers rebellious? And do they have to be? Look Closer: LauretteLynn.com - http://www.LauretteLynn.com How You Talk to Your Child Becomes Their Inner Voice (with Wes Bertrand) - http://rebootyourkids.com/021/ Inner Critic Types - by Jay Earley, PhD - http://personal-growth-programs.com/inner-critic-section/inner-critic-types/ The Inner Critic and Self-esteem - http://personal-growth-programs.com/learn-about-ifs/inner-critic-articles/inner-critic/ Laurette Lynn on School Sucks: Archives - http://schoolsucksproject.com/tag/laurette-lynn/ Please Support School Sucks Our Amazon Wish List Donate With Bitcoin Or Join the A/V Club Your continued support keeps the show going and growing, which keeps us at the top of the options for education podcasts and leads to new people discovering this message. This subscription also grants you access to the A/V Club, a bonus content section with 200+ hours of exclusive audio and video. If you are a regular consumer of our media, please consider making a monthly commitment by selecting the best option for you... Join the A/V Club! $6.00/Month Join the A/V Club! $9.00/Month Join the A/V Club! $12/Month

Psychologist and author Jay Earley joins me to discuss Internal Family Systems therapy.  What is IFS therapy, and how does it work?  Is there scientific evidence for its effectiveness?  What are some of my personal successes with IFS therapy?  Can you combine IFS therapy with other self-knowledge practices for greater gains?     Find more from Jay here:    http://personal-growth-programs.com/   https://selftherapyjourney.com/      Here is the study discussed during the show: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23950186                                                                                                       Follow me on twitter and please retweet:   https://twitter.com/ChoiceConvo     Subscribe to my new youtube channel and like my videos:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3po4LKObROu3EoieVGdaFQ     Like me on facebook and share with your friends:  https://www.facebook.com/ChoiceConversationsPodcast     Please leave a rating and review on itunes:    https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/choice-conversations/id315666764?mt=2       Bumper music:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Jm77LxAJjg&list=PLoe-H2xJOW57M60JJT0mMl8gwp1MazHdP&index=1

Tami Simon speaks with Dr. Jay Earley, a transformational psychologist and psychotherapist specializing in a method called Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, an approach that recognizes our many sub-personalities and their roles in the overall health of our psyche. With Sounds True, Dr. Earley has created an audio learning course called Self-Therapy, as well as a new book with co-author Bonnie Weiss called Freedom from Your Inner Critic. In this episode, Tami speaks with Jay about how we can work with and heal the inner Exiles in ourselves, the function of the sub-personalities known as Protectors, and how awakening to our true Self is the key to successful self-therapy. (60 minutes)

The Diamond Approach is a contemporary spiritual path that integrates ancient spiritual wisdom with modern psychology. It was developed by A. H. Almaas, a Kuwaiti American author and spiritual teacher, also known as A. Hameed Ali. He coined the term "Diamond Approach" to represent his methodology of spiritual development, with "Almaas" being the Arabic word for "diamond."_____________Jay Earley is a psychologist, coach, group leader, psycho-social theorist and the author of three books. He is interested in the integral theory of Ken Wilbur. He is a long-time student of the Diamond Approach, a contemporary spiritual path that integrates ancient spiritual wisdom with modern psychology. Learn more at https://personal-growth-programs.com Support the show______________ To participate live and be notified of upcoming speakers in advance, please Like us on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/gaybuddhistfellowship) or visit https://gaybuddhist.org/calendar/ To support our efforts to share these talks with LGBTQIA audiences worldwide, please visit www.GayBuddhist.org.There you can: Donate Learn how to participate live Find our schedule of upcoming speakers Join our mailing list or discussion forum Enjoy many hundreds of these recorded talks dating back to 1996 CREDITSAudio Engineer: George HubbardProducer: Tom BrueinMusic/Logo/Artwork: Derek Lassiter