Discover the Hidden Potential of Your Mind

There is one thing you can do that will make the most impact on your partner's personal growth and, by extension, your marriage or relationship. Join Dave Anderson and me on this chat about the most important role we have in our partner's life.

Many couples wonder if their marriage can and will stay the same after they have had a baby. This is a completely new phase in the marriage, and the couple's relationship is also undergoing a rebirth. New parents need skills to cope with the changes and keep their marriage strong. Join me and Dave Anderson, a father of three kids under seven, for a chat about marriage after children.

Join Dave Anderson and me (Angelika Baum) as we chat about the main attachment styles, how they affect us as adults, and how we can learn secure attachment skills in adulthood to create stronger and more resilient love relationships and marriages.

Spring Equinox is the time of new birth and renewal. It is the optimum time to plant a personal garden within your being, to make a new start, to create an image in your mind of what you want to see in your life. In this 25 minute long meditation you will be setting clear intentions so you can manifest the future you want to have.

Dave S. Anderson as the guest host is chatting with Angelika about her blogs "Why It Is a Bad Idea to Argue with Your Partner About Who Remembers Things Right" and "How to Give a Heartfelt Apology".

Join Dave Anderson and me for a chat on committed long-term relationships. More and more couples realize how smart it is to create a solid foundation for their long-term relationship or marriage. They want to learn and establish habits of successful couples, for example how to have productive conflicts, how to move beyond right and wrong, and how to show up as a strong team with each other from the start.

Are you holding on to old resentments that are affecting your relationships? Here is one way to release and let go.

To manifest the New Year that we want to experience, we need to be able to envision and feel it. This meditation prepares you for writing a letter of gratitude from the perspective of your future self. Your future self is one year older and is looking back onto everything that you have created in 2018.

We all have a part inside of us that is called the “perfectionist”. In this meditation today, we are going to acknowledge our inner perfectionist voice, and we will also create some separation from this part by affirming beliefs that allow us to be more comfortable with imperfection and mistakes.

We give our power away in different ways; sometimes to substances or activities, or by blaming others and seeing ourselves as victims, or by pleasing others and ignoring our own needs. Join me in this meditation to let go of dependencies and reclaiming your power to set yourself free.

We all have parts in us which respond and react when they perceive the possibility of us getting hurt. That could be an angry part, or a defensive reaction, or the impulse to run. We often try to get rid of these responses or to suppress them. However, it is not possible to get rid of energy. We can, however, change triggers by understanding these parts, that keep us safe. They are our protectors. We want to establish a relationship with them, so that we can begin to understand what more vulnerable younger parts they are protecting. In this meditation today, I invite you to become curious about these reactive and protective impulses we all have.

Sometimes we experience struggles or heartache. Life wears us down and we allow our protective shields to become thin. In today's meditation you will be able to wash off all the troubles and turmoil and strengthen your energetic shield again.

When we speak of the concept of the Inner Child, what we are referring to are different aspects of that part. We can also look at it as a group of children of different ages. There is the scared child, the shy child, the shameful child, the sad child, the angry child, the forgotten child and other aspects of our child, but also the playful child, the curious child, the proud child, the creative child and so on. In this meditation you will connect with several of your inner children and lovingly re-parent them. It has been shown that we are literally rewiring our brain and undoing the effects of the past with this inner work.

The Worry Tree accepts it all; all you worries, stresses and problems. Join me together with your child in letting go of anything that you don't want to carry anymore.

At this challenging time as the world is moving through the outbreaks of COVID-19, we need to keep our immune systems strong and healthy. Stress, anxiety and panic have a negative impact on our immune system. While fear is the enemy of immunity, meditation can be one of our best friends. Join me for this meditation to release fears, quiet your mind and boost your immune system.

February is heart month and with today’s episode we want to bring some awareness to what to do to keep our heart happy and healthy. My colleague, Naturopathic Doctor Felicia Assenza, and I are talking about gratitude, exercise, food and connections.

The placebo effect is defined as a measurable, observable, or felt improvement in health or behaviour that arises from the patient's expectations concerning an inactive substance—like a sugar pill, distilled water, or saline solution—or a “fake” treatment rather than from the substance or treatment itself. The nocebo effect is the opposite of the placebo effect. The nocebo effect occurs when the mind is engaged in negative beliefs and self-suggestions that damage the health of the person. Both, the placebo as well as the nocebo effect illustrate how powerful our mind is and that YOU are the healer. Your body has innate healing abilities. Your healing depends to a great extend on whether you have supportive beliefs in place for your own recovery.

Grounding helps us to be less tensed, stressed and anxious. By doing a grounding meditation or grounding outside in nature, we reconnect and realign ourselves with the earth and are able to be more centred and balanced. We are feeling more relaxed, stronger and calmer. Grounding increases our mental, emotional and physical well being. Inner peace, focus, vitality and health, are all benefits of allowing ourselves to be grounded in the earth.

The winter solstice marks the shortest day of the year and the longest night. This is the season to go inwards, to become reflective, to allow ourselves to stop, and to design the new year to come. The winter solstice is an invitation to surrender into being, to accept the darkness—inside ourselves and others—and to plant our seeds of intention for the new year that lies ahead. You might want to sit in a dark room, and light a candle for this meditation. You can focus on the flame of the candle while you follow my words.

In this episode I am interviewing Sheila Sims, the founder of "All of Me Counts". Sheila is a certified teacher with 18 years of experience. All of Me Counts provides resources and services for kids, parents, educators, and organizations to help kids access their best self. Sheila works with an Inside Out Approach. This "inside-out" approach is based on the simple premise that what a child is experiencing on the outside is a reflection of what is going on inside. Every child has their own unique "Theory of the World" that determines how they perceive and respond to every experience. It powerfully impacts their behavior, motivation, relationships, and learning potential. When we can uncover a child's theory of the world, we can more easily resolve behavior and learning challenges at the root for lasting results.

Instead of thinking of physical, emotional and mental health as being separate, they should be viewed as interrelated aspects along the same continuum. To illustrate this concept, we are looking at injuries and health issues under a different lens in this episode. Join me and my affiliate Andy Schmalz for a talk about the interconnection of physical issues with emotional and mental ones.

Our subconscious beliefs determine how we see ourselves and other people and how we experience the world in general. Our beliefs become our template for how we live life and what we are able to manifest in regards to our career, our health, and our relationships. How can we use the power of our mind to our advantage? PSYCH-K® and Shadow Energetics are two extremely effective energy psychology techniques that allow us to work with the subconscious mind and to change our beliefs, our emotions and our responses to others. To find out more please join me on this podcast.

Spring Equinox is the season of birth and renewal. It’s the optimal time to set intentions and to plant your personal inner garden, to make a new start and to create what you want to see in your life. The full moon, especially this super moon, with its intense amount of energy, is also the perfect time for releasing the old and for manifesting the new. It is a time to let go, to release any attachments and resistance and to draw in the new.

In today’s episode, I am talking with Dhebi DeWitz from the Heart and Soul Academy about reframing. What can we do when other people trigger us? We can’t change other people or what is happening outside of us but we have the option to change how we let others affect us by reframing our perspective.

Why is it so tempting to rush into a new relationship when one ends? What is required to assess another person realistically and minimize repeating heartbreak and disappointment?

Jealousy is the fear that a special relationship we have with somebody is threatened. We fear that our partner, family member or friend will form a closer relationship with someone else and that we will be excluded or abandoned. Jealousy can be understood based on our evolutionary history as humans and our own personal past experiences. How can we work through feelings of jealousy?

Relationship coaching can help you and your new love to learn to communicate about challenging topics and to learn to hold each other in those vulnerable moments we all experience. What kind of topics can we explore at the start of a relationship either with a coach or by ourselves?

Have you ever noticed how a sloth seems to move in slow motion? We as humans, on the other hand, rush around so much that we often forget how to take it slow. In this simple ten minute meditation you are guided to slow down and be present.

Do you feel more comfortable talking at home with your loved ones, or do you enjoy talking in public settings where there are lots of people around? Have you ever found yourself nagging your partner to do something? What is the main purpose of sharing our emotional troubles with someone? The answer might vary whether you are a man or a woman. Men and women are still socialized differently and instead of different dialects they end up speak different genderlects. The key to better communication is to learn to understand and speak the other genderlect.

We all live in relationships, whether with a partner, with our parents or siblings, with children or with co-workers. Some relationships flow easily and the energy feels just right, other relationships are disharmonious or more challenging… there are mild irritations or sometimes even real conflicts. Today, we are going to meditate on a relationship. I invite you to pick one relationship to take a closer look at, one where there is a mild annoyance or small issues to resolve and you will have an opportunity to shift the energy of that relationship in our meditation. Shifting the energy happens each time one person does something even just slightly different, for example shifts their perspective and changes how they feel about the relationship or the other person. When it comes to our relationships there is always our perspective, and then there is the perception or perspective or position of the other person. There also is a third party: the relationship itself. We will look today at that third entity and ask, what is it that this relationship needs? What is trying to unfold or happen for this relationship? This is not necessarily about fixing a relationship but about understanding it from a higher perspective. It’s about getting clarity on the nature of that particular relationship and the learning from it.

When we are in a relationship, we often give up certain parts of us which seem to be threatening to the relationship. David loves motorcycles but Lisa is afraid of him having an accident. Lisa on the other hand loves dogs but David dislikes them. In order to be together, David has exiled his freedom loving part that wants to ride a bike, and Lisa has exiled her pet loving part that wants to get a dog. If there continues to be no room in their life for these parts, this can sabotage the relationship.

What constitutes happiness for you? And where do your personal and professional relationships rank when it comes to happiness and success? My co-facilitator and fellow coach Patrick Rhein and I would like to invite you to consider that creating a relationship is like preparing a great dish. There are certain basic ingredients that every relationship needs. On top of those components, there are other ingredients and spices you can add to make a relationship better and individualize it to taste and requirements. We would like to share 5 key ingredients to create empowering and successful relationships.

We all have a nagging voice inside which puts us down and makes us feel not good enough: our Inner Critic. We can distinguish between different types of Inner Critics and based on the type develop a loving voice as an antidote. The answer to the harsh and shaming Inner Critic voice is an Inner Champion voice. The Champion supports us in being ourselves and in feeling good about ourselves. It lifts our self-esteem and self-confidence. It makes us feel loved and good enough. The Inner Champion is the ideal supportive parent. It helps us to see the positive truth about ourselves. It nurtures and cares for us, and provides guidance.

We all have an Inner Critic inside of us that nags, puts us down and makes us feel not good enough. A powerful antidote to the harsh and shaming Inner Critic voice is a loving parental voice inside, an Inner Champion. This meditation which is based on a meditation idea by Jay Earley and Bonnie Weiss will help you to find and cultivate a loving and compassionate voice inside.

Do you feel stuck? Helen got the opportunity to do a creative video project. She was excited. Yet, instead of starting to work on it, she cleaned up the entire house first. Then she started cooking a meal. Then she thought she should return some phone calls. She realized she was procrastinating. Does this sound familiar to you at all? IFS (Internal Family Systems) is a way to work from Self (your spiritual core) to transform and unburden parts in order to shift and become unstuck. If you want to find out more join my daughter and I as we chat about the IFS view of our Psyche and how to work with our parts to become unstuck.

While you can’t have relationships without disappointments, you cannot have a solid love relationship without trust. How does mistrust enter into our relationships, how do we decide whether to go or stay in the relationship and if we decide to stay, how do we rebuild the trust again?

This meditation was created by my friend Darryl Gurney. It has the purpose to experience yourself different from your physical form, different from what we are identified with. It gives you a taste of being more than a physical being, more than the different roles we all play. It is an opportunity to connect to unity and to being all one.

What determines whether we can create a safe and happy long-term relationship with our partner? How do our subconscious beliefs and missing relationship skills affect our partnerships? Some conclusions about love and relationships we might have drawn as we were growing up are, “I will always be alone and no one will ever be there for me”, or “I will never be good enough”, or “I cannot have my needs met in any relationship”, or “Once, there is a conflict, that’s the beginning of the end, and I had better withdraw already to protect myself”. Join me to find out more about limiting beliefs and lacking relationship skills which create challenges for us, especailly in our romantic unions.

What is going on when our children seem judgmental of some of the things we do? As parents, we act as mirrors to them, just as they are reflections for us. It is uncomfortable to be at the receiving end of their projections but we need to keep in mind that this is not about us, as much as it feels that way, but it is about what our children have learned to disown; and we may even have taught them to disown that particular trait or energy. Disowned parts we haven’t integrated can also show up again in our adult relationships, for example when we find that our partner reminds us of our father or mother.

Loving our body does not just mean we give it the food and exercise it needs. I means we think and speak to it in a kind and loving manner. We appreciate it for it’s beauty and it’s service to us. Our body is a mirror of our inner thoughts and beliefs. Every part of our being, every cell in our body responds to every thought we think and every word we speak. Join me in this meditation to love and appreciate your body more.

Figuratively speaking, everyone has an inner “Love Bank”. When somebody is associated with good feelings, "love units" are deposited into those emotional accounts, and when he or she is associated with painful experiences, love units are withdrawn. Hurtful experiences with others trigger our nervous system into fight, flight or freeze. Those experiences of being triggered into fight or flight put strain on a relationship. The concept of the love bank helps us to understand how to make sure painful experiences are balanced out with experiences of safety and love.

Do you sometimes wonder if your partner really loves you because he or she doesn't seem to express it? The truth is that there is no right way to express love. There are five love languages we all use for connection, some with more skill and enjoyment, others with less. We can learn to speak our partner's primary language(s) of affection to strengthen our relationship.

Where in your life are you attached to people and their choices, to situations unfolding a certain way, to emotions or to food/substances? I invite you to join me on a meditation to release these attachments, reclaim your energy and to surrender to everything unfolding perfectly.

Have you ever wondered whether your partner is “just not a good match” for you? Is there such a thing as the perfect match, and if so how does that look?

It is not always easy to respond to criticism without defensiveness and to stay open to hearing the complaint or the longing of the other person underneath their critical words. When somebody sets off our danger cues through criticism, we experience a physical and emotional constriction. In this meditation we will practice breathing through this constriction and managing our thoughts so that we can be more open to the needs our loved ones have to share.

The attempt to make anxiety go away is what traps us in it but we can learn to be with it and ride it out. Join me on this meditation to experience uncertainty as a sanctuary of possibilities. We can ask ourselves what we can choose in an anxiety provoking situation. What can we bring to the situation? How do we want to show up?

We we often live one relationship after the next with the same patterns and issues. The reason for that is that we don’t learn how to complete relationships that end and therefore we carry the unresolved emotions forward into the future. Before we can complete our relationships we need to discover the patterns, the unresolved emotions and limiting beliefs we learned during previous relationships. Join me to learn how to discover your patterns.

It is quite easy to see “going with a flow” as a call to inactivity, inaction or laziness, waiting for things to fall into our lap, or making the choice not to make a choice. But that is not what the spiritual principle is about. Going with the flow can mean accepting a painful experience and letting go of the hurt but not of the lesson the other person has taught you. Truly going with the flow is about listening to your intuition and following a call to action. Join me in this meditation to discover where in your life you can let go of control, listen to your intuition, and go with the flow more.

This is an evening meditation, or a meditation you can listen to during the day. Your subconscious mind and higher self are trying to communicate with you through your dreams. This meditation helps you to set the intention to remember your dreams and to listen to the messages of those dreams.

To trust means to place our faith or confidence in something unknown. What and who we trust today is quite different from where we used to place our trust in the past. What key components does trustworthiness have and how do these components affect our relationships, especially our love relationships?

Do you sometimes wake up in the morning and you notice that you are not as positive as you would like to be? Join me in this meditation to shift your negative questions to asking powerful why questions that raise your vibration.