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In the Market with Janet Parshall
Hour 2: Saving Aziz

In the Market with Janet Parshall

Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2025 44:28 Transcription Available


Aziz was more than an interpreter for our guest Chad Robichaux, a Force Recon Marine, during his eight deployments to Afghanistan. He was a teammate, brother, and friend. More than once, Aziz saved his life. And then he needed someone to save him. When President Joe Biden announced in April 2021 that the United States would be making a hasty withdrawal from Afghanistan, our guest knew he had to get Aziz and his family out before Taliban forces took over the country. Join us to hear a gripping account of two heroes and a daring mission that put human hearts and names alongside the headlines of one of the most harrowing moments in our history. Become a Parshall Partner: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/inthemarket/partnersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How to Be a Better Human
Re-release: How peace can persevere (w/ Aziz Abu Sarah)

How to Be a Better Human

Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2025 43:25


It's extremely difficult to move past anger and hurt driving you towards revenge. War, violence, and suffering are driven by that cycle of emotions. Palestinian author, peacemaker, and entrepreneur Aziz Abu Sarah knows the feelings well, but from his own life experiences, he shares his belief that peace is achievable and another way forward is possible. In this episode, Aziz tells his story and explains his work to bring even the most seemingly intractable conflicts to a resolution that allows for justice, reconciliation, and safety for all.This episode originally aired September 9, 2024.For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscriptsWant to help shape TED's shows going forward? Fill out our survey here! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Shrink For The Shy Guy
This Will Totally Change How You See Confidence

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2025 18:21


In this eye-opening episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz introduces what might be the most underrated yet transformational key to building confidence and reducing social anxiety: expanding your capacity. It might not sound glamorous, but this principle is the real “magic juice” for lasting confidence. Dr. Aziz explains that every person has an emotional and psychological threshold for discomfort—whether it's rejection, conflict, criticism, or awkwardness—and those with social anxiety often have a lower capacity in these areas. The breakthrough? Confidence grows not by avoiding discomfort, but by intentionally leaning into it. By reframing your experiences as opportunities to expand your capacity rather than threats to avoid, you open the door to extraordinary growth. Whether it's speaking up at work, handling rejection in dating, or saying what you really think in a group—these are not scary “failures” to avoid but moments to train your emotional muscles. Dr. Aziz shares stories from real client breakthroughs, including one man who concluded after a single awkward phone call that he should “never talk to a woman on the phone again.” Through humor and insight, Dr. Aziz reveals how easily we draw limiting conclusions and how much power we reclaim when we choose to stay in the discomfort zone just long enough to grow.

Talking Shop by Retail Sector
Redefining Retail: Inside EE's new in-store experience with Asif Aziz

Talking Shop by Retail Sector

Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2025 48:42


This episode we are joined by Asif Aziz, Retail Director at EE. We discussed his career journey from a teenage market stall trader to helping lead the retail offering of one of Britain's most well-known names, why it has doubled down on bricks-and-mortar with its experiential stores and his advice for retailers looking to follow suit.

Journal en français facile
Syrie: levée des sanctions américaines / Mauritanie: l'ancien président Aziz condamné à 15 ans de prison / Le chancelier allemand devant les députés...

Journal en français facile

Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2025 10:00


Le Journal en français facile du mercredi 14 mai  2025, 18 h 00 à Paris.Retrouvez votre épisode avec la transcription synchronisée et des exercices pédagogiques pour progresser en français : http://rfi.my/BfZZ.A

Shrink For The Shy Guy

In this refreshing episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz dives into a deceptively simple question with massive implications: “Are you apologizing too much?” Most people don't even realize how often they say “sorry”—not just in words, but in their tone, posture, and energy. If you constantly feel responsible for other people's reactions, discomfort, or expectations—even when you didn't do anything wrong—you're likely trapped in a loop of unconscious over-apologizing. And that loop isn't just exhausting—it's eroding your confidence and subtly reshaping your relationships. Dr. Aziz breaks down how unnecessary apologies stem from overactive guilt systems and people-pleasing conditioning, often developed in childhood. You'll discover how to recognize the difference between healthy, empathy-based apologies and guilt-driven ones that actually weaken connection. Plus, you'll learn a simple internal filter: before apologizing, pause and ask yourself, “Did I actually do something wrong?” Then, try this bonus lens—what would I tell a friend to do in this situation?

B2B Marketing Podcast
Episode 190: Championing collaboration and commercial growth, with Canon's Khalid Aziz

B2B Marketing Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2025 26:18


In this week's episode of the B2B Marketing Podcast, David Rowlands, Head of Product, spoke with Khalid Aziz, Marketing Director B2B, Canon, UK & Ireland. Khalid discusses his journey with Canon while highlighting the company's diverse product portfolio. In addition, he also touches on the impact of hybrid working on Canon's sales strategy, emphasizing digital workflow solutions and cybersecurity measures. Plus, he shares why collaboration across departments can lead to business growth and profitability. If you're looking to shift your mindset around commercial success, we highly recommend checking out our Propolis Strategy Pack on Commercial Marketing here: https://www.b2bmarketing.net/propolis/commercial-marketer-strategy-pack-access/

Live Long and Master Aging
Practical lifestyle changes to become ageless | Dr. Michael Aziz

Live Long and Master Aging

Play Episode Listen Later May 11, 2025 37:38


Think of aging as syndrome that can be overcome to live the best life possible.  Dr. Michael Aziz, author of The Ageless Revolution, takes this approach to promote longevity and overall well-being, based on the principles of functional medicine. In our conversation, he emphasizes the need for a holistic - whole body - approach to health, and advocates for practical lifestyle changes, including dietary adjustments and intermittent fasting, to promote longevity and overall well-being. The New York City-based physician is a sharp critics of US dietary guidelines, which he sees as outdated. He says they have contributed to the poor health of millions of people. He is also keen to distinguishes between superficial “anti-aging” and deeper, cellular-level “pro-aging” interventions.------This podcast is supported by affiliate arrangements with a select number of companies. We have arranged discounts on certain products and receive a small commission on sales. The income helps to cover production costs and ensures that our interviews, sharing information about human longevity, remain free for all to listen. Visit our SHOP for more details and thanks for your support!  PartiQlar supplementsEnhance your wellness journey with PartiQlar supplements. No magic formulas, just pure single ingredients, like NMN, L-Glutathione, Spermidine, Resveratrol, TMG and Quercetin. Get a 15% discount with the code MASTERAGING15 at PartiQlarSupport the showThe Live Long and Master Aging (LLAMA) podcast, a HealthSpan Media LLC production, shares ideas but does not offer medical advice. If you have health concerns of any kind, or you are considering adopting a new diet or exercise regime, you should consult your doctor.

Endüstri Radyo
Mehmet Aziz Ermer – Edibe Gider ile Konuşan Yazılımlar

Endüstri Radyo

Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2025 43:26


Edibe Gider'in hazırlayıp sunduğu Konuşan Yazılımlar programına Valorem Team Danışmanlık ve Eğitim Hizmetleri A.Ş Yalın Yönetim ve Dijital Dönüşüm Danışmanı Mehmet Aziz Ermer konuk oldu.

Endüstri Radyo
Mehmet Aziz Ermer – Edibe Gider ile Konuşan Yazılımlar

Endüstri Radyo

Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2025 43:26


Edibe Gider'in hazırlayıp sunduğu Konuşan Yazılımlar programına Valorem Team Danışmanlık ve Eğitim Hizmetleri A.Ş Yalın Yönetim ve Dijital Dönüşüm Danışmanı Mehmet Aziz Ermer konuk oldu.

Jacobin Radio
Dig: Rogue State w/ Aziz Rana

Jacobin Radio

Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2025 135:34


Featuring Aziz Rana on the making of the American project and its legitimation through popular worship of the US Constitution. This episode, the final in a four-part series, traces the great unraveling of the American empire from the 1970s to our present MAGA 2.0 moment. Would you like to know more? Aziz made a bibliography for you: thedigradio.com/newsletter102 Support The Dig at Patreon.com/TheDig Buy Enemy Feminisms and I Didn't Come Here to Lie at Haymarketbooks.com

The Dig
Rogue State w/ Aziz Rana

The Dig

Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2025 135:34


Featuring Aziz Rana on the making of the American project and its legitimation through popular worship of the US Constitution. This episode, the final in a four-part series, traces the great unraveling of the American empire from the 1970s to our present MAGA 2.0 moment. Would you like to know more? Aziz made a bibliography for you: thedigradio.com/newsletter102 Support The Dig at Patreon.com/TheDig Buy Enemy Feminisms and I Didn't Come Here to Lie at Haymarketbooks.com

On Air With Ella
425: Staying Safe: Practical Self-Defense Tips for Everyday Situations - M. Aziz {REPLAY}

On Air With Ella

Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2025 48:47


This episode is a departure from our normal topics, and an important one. Ella asks black belt M. Aziz about personal safety and the importance of self-defense. Note: the 2nd half of this episode gets more explicit (starting ~min 26), so take care when/where you listen. {originally aired in 2017}We discuss:Staying safe in parking lots and garages.Staying safe while exercising alone.The role of body language & awareness of our surroundingsMaintaining safety when coming home or leaving home.The risks posed by acquaintances and known individuals.Staying safe while meeting people you met online.Recognizing concerning behaviors in acquaintances & potential partners.Using technology to enhance personal safety.The importance of letting someone know your location.Resistance and Evasion Techniques - Basic Self-Defense Tips.

HE with Refie Redzuan
Yang Patah Tumbuh, Yang Hilang Berganti with Nina Aziz Justin & Refie Redzuan

HE with Refie Redzuan

Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2025 52:59


In this episode, Nina Aziz Justin discovers how, like nature, what breaks often leads to new growth, dan apa yang hilang membuka jalan untuk sesuatu yang baru bersama Refie Redzuan. They dive into the timeless truth behind “Yang Patah Tumbuh, Yang Hilang Berganti,” a reflection on how brokenness can be the beginning of something stronger. The conversation explores how loss and letting go, though painful, can ultimately lead us to a clearer sense of self. From grief to growth, heartbreak to healing, HE shares how sitting with discomfort and trusting the process can uncover unexpected strength. Just like nature, we are always in motion, always becoming. It's a reminder that when we stand at the edge of change, we must trust in the renewal that follows the fall.Support this podcast— https://buymeacoffee.com/refie

Shrink For The Shy Guy
Fear To Freedom with Amy Joy

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2025 52:41


Own Your Confidence: Be Unapologetically You!A glimpse from the latest episode of Get Your Sh*t Together Show with the special guest Dr. Aziz hosted by Amy Joy.Watch the full episode here.

In Focus by The Hindu
Aamir Aziz-Anita Dube controversy: What does the copyright law say?

In Focus by The Hindu

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2025 43:51


In a controversy that seems to have divided the art world in India, Mumbai-based poet-activist Aamir Aziz has accused well known artist Anita Dube of using his poem without his consent, and profiting from it without giving him credit or compensation. The poem in question is ‘Sab Yaad Rakha Jayega', which became an anthem of the anti-CAA protests and later a global phenomenon after English rock musician Roger Waters read it out at an event in London. While Dube has admitted to an “ethical lapse” and reportedly offered some remuneration to Aziz, the dispute has acquired a legal dimension, with Aziz sending her a legal notice. What does the copyright law say in a case like this – where an artist may feel she has the right to ‘fair use' of a text, but another artist feels that his copyright has been violated? Guest: Shantanu Sood, a lawyer who specialises in intellectual property-related issues. Host: G. Sampath, Social Affairs Editor, The Hindu Recorded by Aniket Singh Chauhan Edited by Shivaraj S Produced by Jude Francis Weston

Masjid DarusSalam
Torches of the First Century: ʿUmar ibn ʿAbd al-ʿAziz & Hasan al-Basri | Mufti Minhajuddin Ahmed

Masjid DarusSalam

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2025 57:22


Michigan's Big Show
* Dr. Michael Aziz, Board-Certified Internist and Regenerative Medicine Specialist based in New York Cit

Michigan's Big Show

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2025 11:01


JVC Broadcasting
Dr. Michael Aziz LIVE on LI in the AM w/ Jay Oliver

JVC Broadcasting

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2025 14:14


Dr. Michael Aziz LIVE on LI in the AM w/ Jay Oliver by JVC Broadcasting

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Kerem Önder
Abdülkadir Geylani sohbetleri 21 / Kerem Önder

Kerem Önder

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2025 41:18


“Peygamberlerin, sıddıkların ve salihlerin geniş ve doğru yoluna nasıl girilir? Dünya âhirete perdedir. Ahirete dalmaksa dünya ve öbür âlemin sahibine perdedir. Yaratılmışlara dalmak, Yaratan'dan ayırır. Hangi yaratılmışa gönül kaptırırsan, ruh pencerene perde çekmiş olursun. Halka [yaratıklara] bakma. Dünyaya, kalpten sevgi gösterme. Hakk'tan gayri şeylere iltifat etme, onun kapısına varıncaya kadar böyle devam et. Sır adımlarını aç. Zühd hâlini geliştir. Her kötü histen soyun. O'nun varlığında hayran ol. O'ndan yardım iste. O'na sığın., O'na bak. Geçmişteki İlâhî bilginin hükmünü gözet. Kalbini O'na vardırmaya çabala. Sırrını O'na ilet, bunu gerçekleştirdiğin an, O'nun yakınlık eli seni tutar, kendine çeker. Yeni hayatla tevhid verir ve kalpler üzerine sultan olursun. Kalp âlemi tüm emrini senden alır. Hastalığı olursa şifasını sen verirsin, işte bundan sonra dünyaya bakman caiz olur. Bu üstün hâlleri benliğinde topla, sonra dünyaya dön...Velayet hâlinin işareti vardır; o işaretler velîlerin yüzlerinden okunur. Onu anlayış sahipleri sezer. O işaretler velayet hâlini anlatmaya yeter; dile ne hacet...Ruh esenliği dileyen, nefsini atsın... Malını kalbine koymasın... Neyi varsa Hak uğruna harcasın. Hamurdan ve sütten kıl alırcasına dünyayı iç âleminden atsın. Âhireti de aynı şekilde yapsın. Hakk'ın gayri şeylerden üryan olsun, işte o zaman her şeyin hakkı verilir. Dünya ve âhiretten gelecek şeyler gelir. Sen onların peşine koşmazsın. Dünya, yerinde otururken yanaşma; onu ayağa kaldır. Tepsiyi başı üstüne aldır; sonra al ye! Hakk'ın kapısına durana böyle hizmet edilir; çünkü büyüktür. Nefis, önünde el pençe divan duranı zelil eder, perişan eder. Nefse hâkim olanların hemen hepsi, istiğna sahibidir. Nefse ihtiyaç arz etmekten beridirler.İman yolcuları dünyayı yitirmeye gönüllüdür. Allah'tan her zaman hoşnut olurlar. Allah onlardan razı olduktan sonra âhiret onlara göre hiçtir. Onlar Allah'tan, Allah'ı talep ederler. Dünyalık şeylerin taksimli olduğunu bilirler; bu sebeple ona kalplerini kaptırmaktan vareste olurlar. Öbür âlemde vaad olunan cennet ve nimetlerin, sahipleri için ayrılmış olduğunu bildiklerinden onun da peşine düşmezler. İşleri O'nun içindir; O'nun zatından öteye bir talep sahibi değillerdir.Faraza onlar bir gün cennete girseler. Hak nurunu göremeyince hiçbir yere bakmazlar. Kalbinde maddî varlıklar besleyen, yalnız kalmayı ve huzura dalmayı elde edebilir mi?.. Halkı ve sebepleri tesirsiz görmeyen, peygamber kervanına katılamaz. O büyük zincire halka olamaz; olmak dileyen azla yetinmeli. Çoğu, kader eline bırakmalı. Dünyalığın azı da yeter. Çok malın olsa, çok mu yiyeceğini sanıyorsun? Rahat mı bulacağını ümit ediyorsun?..Çok şeyleri bulmak için taarruza geçme; yıkılırsın. Çok mal istenmeden gelirse iyi olur. Onun saklanması da kolaydır. Giderse üzülmezsin. Gece sabahlara kadar mal hesap edip uykunu kaçırmazsın, rahatın bozulmaz.Hasan-ı Basrî (Allah ondan razı olsun) şöyle der: “İnsanlara sözünle ve işinle öğüt ver.”Ey vaiz, iç âlemin temizliği ile insanlara öğüt ver. Kalbini nurlandır. Ve onun nuru ile halka nasihat et. İçin kirli olduğu zaman dışın süsü ile onlara öğüt vermeye kalkma. İman sahiplerinin kalbi yaratılmadan imanları yazıldı. Bu geçmişin bilgisidir. Bunun üzerinde durmak caiz değildir. Ona dayanarak hüküm yürütmek doğru olmaz.Kalplerimiz iman nuruna ermek için gayretli olursa, Rabbimiz bize onu verir. Dilerse, çalışmadan da... O bizim çalışma ve yorulma hâlimize acır ve nurunu nasip eder. Utanmaz mısınız; nasıl tevil eder, tebdile uğraşırsınız?.. Mevlâ, zâtını vasfetmiş; onu başkası ile değiştirmek sizin ne haddinize?.. Sizden önce gelen sahabeye ve onlara uyanlara yeten bir din, size nasıl yetmiyor? Aziz ve Celil olan Rabbimiz, yaratıcılık sıfatını Arş'da yerleştirmiştir. Bunun şekli ve benzeri yoktur; yokluğu da iddia edilemez.

Shrink For The Shy Guy
But I Still Feel Like I'm Not Enough!

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2025 22:47


Welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy with Dr. Aziz — and today we're going straight into one of the most common, painful, and persistent feelings that quietly runs so many lives:

Future Hindsight
The Democracy We Never Had: Aziz Rana

Future Hindsight

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 65:35


We discuss rethinking the Constitution as a way to reimagine democracy. In addition, we examine the role of constitutionalism in exporting the principles of democracy as the underpinning of American imperialism.   Aziz's civic action toolkit recommendations are:  Join a union or a party formation or a tenants' association in your community Get involved in shaping the terms institutions that serve as meaningful checks    Aziz Rana is professor of law at Boston College and the author of The Constitutional Bind: How Americans Came to Idolize a Document That Fails Them and The Two Faces of American Freedom.     Let's connect! Follow Future Hindsight on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/futurehindsightpod/   Discover new ways to #BetheSpark:  https://www.futurehindsight.com/spark    Follow Mila on X:  https://x.com/milaatmos    Read The Constitutional Bind:  https://bookshop.org/shop/futurehindsight    Sponsor:  Thank you to Shopify! Sign up for a $1/month trial at shopify.com/hopeful.   Early episodes for Patreon supporters: https://patreon.com/futurehindsight  Credits:  Host: Mila Atmos  Guests: Aziz Rana Executive Producer: Mila Atmos Producer: Zack Travis

Beauty is a Bitch
S8 E4 Dr. Michael Aziz on the Top Anti-Aging Foods (and Diets to Rethink)

Beauty is a Bitch

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2025 36:24


In this episode of Beauty is a Bitch, I'm joined by Dr. Michael Aziz, a board-certified internist, regenerative medicine expert, and author of the bestselling The Perfect 10 Diet. His latest book, The Ageless Revolution: 10 Hallmarks of Aging That Hold the Secret to Defeating Disease, Reversing Age, Looking Younger, and Living Longer, explores how we can slow down aging and prevent disease—starting at the cellular level. We dive into some of the top anti-aging foods you should be eating now (hint: your kitchen may already have a few), and why gut health and healthy fats play a critical role in how well we age. Dr. Aziz also shares why certain restrictive diets—including vegetarian, low-carb, and keto—may not be the best choice for long-term health and vitality, especially for women in midlife. If you're curious about how to support your body from the inside out and make smarter food choices that align with graceful, healthy aging—this episode is packed with insight, practical tips, and maybe even a few surprises. Don't miss it! Show Notes: Book: The Ageless Revolution: 10 Hallmarks of Aging That Hold the Secret to Defeating Disease, Reversing Age, Looking Younger, and Living Longer Book: The Perfect 10 Diet: 10 Key Hormones That Hold The Secret to Losing Weight & Feeling Great - Fast!

Shrink For The Shy Guy
3 Secrets To Get Yourself To Take Action Now

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2025 23:33


Welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy with Dr. Aziz! If you've ever felt stuck, procrastinated, or told yourself “I should…” but still didn't follow through — this episode is for you. Dr. Aziz reveals the three powerful secrets to breaking out of avoidance and finally taking the action you know will move your life forward. Whether it's social confidence, career growth, health habits, or daily routines — it all comes back to one key truth: Confidence is a byproduct of action. In this episode, you'll discover: Why resistance, groaning, and procrastination are totally normal (and how to break through them) The surprising way your identity story might be keeping you stuck How to use pain as powerful leverage (yes, really!) The missing piece that makes it way easier to follow through Why pleasure in the future is the key to taking action today Dr. Aziz also shares his personal story of emotional pain, transformation, and how one pivotal night in his 20s changed everything. If you're ready to overcome avoidance and create a life that energizes and fulfills you, this episode will give you both the mindset and momentum to start now. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Do you often find yourself stuck in the cycle of procrastination, avoiding tasks that you know could improve your life? Whether it's taking social risks, having difficult conversations, or simply getting things done, we all face moments when it feels impossible to take action. In this post, I'm going to reveal the three secrets to breaking free from inaction and boosting your confidence. Secret #1: Recognize the Pattern The first step in overcoming procrastination and avoidance is to recognize the cycle you're in. It often starts with the feeling of fear—fear of failure, fear of judgment, or fear of discomfort. You know you should act, but instead, you avoid the task. You tell yourself “I should,” but you don't follow through. This internal tension leads to resistance, and eventually, you may find yourself stuck in a negative identity—thinking of yourself as someone who just can't follow through or is too scared to act. The first secret is to notice this pattern. Acknowledge that you're caught in it and make the decision to do something different. The more you notice it, the more you can break free from it and start acting from a place of empowerment, not fear. "Confidence is a byproduct of action. You won't feel confident until you take action." — Dr. Aziz Secret #2: Use Pain as Leverage Pain is one of the most powerful motivators for action. In fact, research shows that we are twice as motivated by pain as we are by pleasure. The key is to leverage pain in a constructive way. Ask yourself: What is the cost of inaction? If you keep avoiding something, where will it take you? In the case of social anxiety, it might be loneliness or missed career opportunities. By focusing on the pain of staying stuck, you can create a sense of urgency and motivate yourself to act. However, it's essential to not get lost in despair when reflecting on this pain. Instead, take ownership of the situation and realize that you can change things. When the pain of staying where you are exceeds the fear of the unknown, you'll finally take the leap. Secret #3: Focus on the Pleasure of Action While pain can push you to act, pleasure is what will keep you going. We often resist action because we focus on the discomfort of getting started, but if you shift your focus to the benefits of taking action, you'll find yourself motivated. For example, if you're avoiding a workout because it feels hard to start, remind yourself of how good you'll feel afterward—the energy, the sense of accomplishment, the pride in doing something for yourself. By training your mind to see the pleasure on the other side, you'll feel more compelled to take action. "Are you willing to be uncomfortable now to experience the extraordinary in your life?" — Dr. Aziz Taking Action: Your Next Step Now that you know the three secrets to taking action, it's time to put them into practice. Start by recognizing the patterns that hold you back, use pain and pleasure to motivate yourself, and take action even when it feels uncomfortable. If you want to make real progress in your life, the key is consistent action. The more you act, the more confidence you'll build. It's time to break free from the cycle of procrastination and start living boldly. Remember, confidence comes from doing—not waiting for the perfect moment or feeling ready. Take action today, and watch your confidence grow! You are capable of so much more than you realize. Keep going, and you'll soon be amazed at how far you can go. 4o mini

CTSNet To Go
The Beat With Joel Dunning Ep. 99: CT Scan-Negative Type A Dissection

CTSNet To Go

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2025 47:25


This week on The Beat, CTSNet Editor-in-Chief Joel Dunning speaks with Dr. Salim Aziz, thoracic and cardiovascular surgeon and clinical professor at George Washington University, about computed tomography (CT) scan-negative type A dissection. Chapters 00:00 Intro 00:57 Dr. Aziz Preview 02:01 Bringing International Colleagues to Centers 07:01 Ambulation Protocol ECMO 09:12 COPD Severity, Aortic Aneurysm 11:37 Robotic Mitral Repair Learning Curve 15:43 Ross Procedure in Neonates, Analysis 19:21 Tirone David Keynote 21:52 AVR 101 23:08 Robotic Beating-Heart TECAB: LIMA-LAD 25:17 Dr. Aziz, CT Scan-Negative Type A Dissection 43:52 Closing They discuss Dr. Aziz's experience with cases that present as CT scan-negative, discussing the details of these cases and the concerning frequency with which aortic dissections are overlooked. They also explore routine transesophageal echocardiogram (TEE) in the operating room, finding tears, and aortic aneurysms.   Joel also reviews recent JANS articles on the ambulation protocol for adult patients receiving extracorporeal membrane oxygenation, if the severity of chronic obstructive pulmonary disease is associated with adverse outcomes after open thoracoabdominal aortic aneurysm repair, the learning curve of robotic mitral repair, and long-term outcomes following the Ross procedure in neonates and infants.   In addition, Joel explores a 2024 London Core Review Cardiothoracic Surgery Course on “Surgical Treatments of Aortic Root Aneurysms,” aortic valve replacement 101 through an upper ministernotomy, and robotic beating-heart totally endoscopic coronary bypass. Before closing, he highlights upcoming events in CT surgery.   JANS Items Mentioned  1.) Ambulation Protocol for Adult Patients Receiving Extracorporeal Membrane Oxygenation: A Quality Improvement Initiative  2.) The Severity of Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease Is Associated With Adverse Outcomes After Open Thoracoabdominal Aortic Aneurysm Repair  3.) Learning Curve of Robotic Mitral Repair: Prospective Two-Centre Study of Proficiency and Clinical Outcomes  4.) Long-Term Outcomes Following the Ross Procedure in Neonates and Infants: A Multi-Institutional Analysis  CTSNET Content Mentioned  1.) Surgical Treatments of Aortic Root Aneurysms: 2024 London Core Review Cardiothoracic Surgery Course  2.) Aortic Valve Replacement 101 Through an Upper Ministernotomy  3.) Robotic Beating-Heart Totally Endoscopic Coronary Bypass (TECAB): LIMA to LAD  Other Items Mentioned  1.) Putative Computed Tomography Scan-Negative Type A Dissection  2.) Webinar Series: Women in Cardiothoracic Surgery—Advancement Through Collaboration  3.) President's Series With Husam Balkhy | ISMICS President  4.) London Core Review Registration   5.) Career Center   6.) CTSNet Events Calendar  Disclaimer The information and views presented on CTSNet.org represent the views of the authors and contributors of the material and not of CTSNet. Please review our full disclaimer page here.

Sidedoor
The Art of the Fist

Sidedoor

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2025 34:49


The United States has more martial arts schools than any other country – by far. Chances are you or someone you know practiced karate or another martial art growing up. While martial arts gained popularity in the U.S. for many reasons, one name stands out: Jhoon Rhee. Known as the Father of American Taekwondo, Rhee famously taught Bruce Lee how to kick and Muhammed Ali how to punch. His bare-knuckled American dream made an impact on generations of Americans.Guests: Terence Nicholson, a D.C.-based artist. Creator of Safety Jacket: A Mourning in ChinatownSojin Kim, curator for the Smithsonian Asian Pacific American Center's exhibition: Sightlines, Chinatown and BeyondM. Aziz, an Assistant Professor of African American Studies in the Department of American Ethnic Studies at the University of WashingtonChun Rhee, son of Jhoon RheeJimmy Rhee, son of Jhoon Rhee 

News & Views with Joel Heitkamp
Riaz Aziz explains Trump's "Liberation Day" regarding economic tariffs

News & Views with Joel Heitkamp

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2025 23:41


06/26/24: Joel Heitkamp is joined by Riaz Aziz to have a conversation on the economy, and the impact of tariffs. President Trump will announce the details of his “Liberation Day” plan later today, where he plans to chance economic agreements with Canada and Mexico. Riaz Aziz is an Instructor of Economics at Concordia College, and has taught graduate and undergraduate courses in business, economics, management, finance, and entrepreneurship. Riaz is also the CEO of the Begunahi Foundation USA, which is dedicated to educating and empowering underprivileged women in India. (Joel Heitkamp is a talk show host on the Mighty 790 KFGO in Fargo-Moorhead. His award-winning program, “News & Views,” can be heard weekdays from 8 – 11 a.m. Follow Joel on X/Twitter @JoelKFGO.)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Shrink For The Shy Guy
Breaking The Anxiety Cycle

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2025 19:40


In today's episode, Dr. Aziz dives deep into the hidden cycle that fuels your worry and anxiety—especially when it comes to social situations, work, dating, money, health, and more. If you've ever wondered why anxiety keeps coming back despite trying tools like affirmations, meditation, or even medication, this episode is for you. You'll discover: The 5-part anxiety loop that drives your fear and fuels the need to control everything Why the real issue isn't the fear itself, but how you relate to it How to spot where you are in the cycle so you can break free in real time The power of self-awareness and softening, instead of resistance and control One simple but powerful action step to find relief—starting today Dr. Aziz reveals how recognizing this cycle (Fear → Urge to Do → Prevent the Bad → Avoid Pain → More Fear) can unlock lasting freedom and peace. Tune in now and take the first step toward living with more presence, ease, and inner confidence.

ZamZamAcademy
al-Aziz & al-Jabbar: Allah's Names & How to Use Them

ZamZamAcademy

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2025 7:35


In the Qur'an, Allah says, "To Allah belongs the Most Beautiful Names, so call on Him by them" (7:180). This verse encourages people to worship Allah by praising Him with His beautiful names and making du'ā'. In this series Dr. Mufti Abdur-Rahman goes through the famous 99 names of Allah and provides practical examples on which name to call on Him in different situations. Learning the names of Allah, or Asma ul-Husna, can help people get closer to Allah.

School Business Insider
Beyond the Buzzwords: Real AI Solutions for School Business Officials

School Business Insider

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2025 61:35


Artificial intelligence is here, and it's changing the way school business officials operate—if they know how to use it effectively. In this episode of School Business Insider, host John Brucato sits down with Aziz Aghayev, CEO of Flowlyst, to discuss how AI is transforming school finance operations, from budget forecasting to policy creation and meeting summaries.Aziz shares: The Five Phases of AI Adoption SBOs go through How AI can boost productivity and reduce manual workload Practical use cases for ChatGPT, Gemini, Perplexity, and more The biggest misconceptions and fears about AI in education Time-saving hacks that can revolutionize your workflowAI Tools Mentioned in This Episode:

Xam Sa Dine
La vie de Oumar Ibn Abdoul Aziz R.A. - Oustaaz Oumar DIALLO

Xam Sa Dine

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2025 79:11


La vie de Oumar Ibn Abdoul Aziz R.A. - Oustaaz Oumar DIALLO by XamSaDine

Mufti Tariq Masood
Taraweeh Tafseer 23|Mufti Tariq Masood Speeches - 2025

Mufti Tariq Masood

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2025 67:18


(0:00) Intro(0:26) What to Eat in Iftar?(1:26) Announcement About Recently Uploaded 11-Year-Old Audio Bayan on Taraweeh Detailed Masail(4:12) Jab Zinda Bach Rehnay Wala Qaidi Bhool Gaya!(Doosray ki Ghalti Se Mili Takleef Rehmat Hai)(6:03) Badshah ko Jab Khwaab Aaya?(8:28) Badshah ne Darbariyon Se Taabeer Kyun Poochhi?(8:44) Gaaye Mein Ishara(10:04) Number 07 Mein Ishara(10:47)

Mufti Tariq Masood
Taraweeh Tafseer 24|Mufti Tariq Masood Speeches - 2025

Mufti Tariq Masood

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2025 55:23


(0:00) Intro(0:21) Surah Yusuf Part 04(0:35) Hazrat Yusuf (AS) ne Binyamin ko baap ki takleef ke bawajood bhaiyon ke saath kyun nahi bheja?(1:32) Bhaiyon mein se ek ne kaha!(4:13) Hazrat Yaqub (AS) ke wohi alfaaz jo Yusuf (AS) ki dafaa bolay(7:03) Sabr-e-Jameel ki definition(7:33) Aazmaish mein Allah se umeed(9:03) Yusuf (AS) ki yaad mein ro ro kar Hazrat Yaqub (AS) ki beenai chali gayi(9:53) Aazmaish mein sabr ke karwahay ghoont peena(11:00) Hazrat Yaqub (AS) ko Yusuf (AS) ke tazkira par rishtedaaron ke alfaaz(11:30) Hazrat Yaqub (AS) ki dua(12:17) Allah ki ma'arifat(13:57) Yaqub (AS) ka hukm apne beton ko(14:32) Allah ki rehmat se na-ummeedi: Kufr(16:39) Mufti sb ki Karachi se mohabbat(17:07) Museebat mein Musalman vs Kafir condition(18:15) Tension makes diamond(18:43) Natural life se bachon ka strong immune system(20:21) Mufti Tariq Masood ki childhood memories of Ramadan in summer(21:52) Gham se panah(22:12) Aziz-e-Misr (Yusuf AS) se bhaiyon ki rashan appeal as sadqa(23:32) Jab Yusuf (AS) ne apna ta'aruf karwaya(24:26) Allah ka qanoon sabireen ke liye(25:56) Jab step brothers ne Yusuf (AS) ki shaan ko maan liya(28:44) Yusuf (AS) ke tareekhi alfaaz, bhaiyon ke aitiraf par(29:17) Mo'jiza-e-Yusuf (AS): Qameez se beenai wapas aana(30:24) Irshad Bhatti kaisa podcaster hai?(31:17) Karamat par Shuff Sarkar ki haqeeqat(34:04) Mufti sb ki 50 age walay bayan par comments(34:44) Hazrat Esa (AS) ke mojezat aur ikhtiyarat(36:02) Mufti sb ka instruction to join this with Karamat chapter(36:07) Shuff Sarkar ke Karamat centre ki phoonkon mein kitna asar hai?(36:45) Comment on someone's bayan(37:40) Mufti Sahab ka challenge to Shuff Sarkar(38:14) Hazrat Yusuf (AS) ke mehal se bhaiyon ka nikalna aur Yaqub (AS) ko Yusuf (AS) ki khushboo aana(39:25) Qameez-e-Yusuf se mojeza ka zahoor(40:14) Jab beton ne Yaqub (AS) se maafi ki dua karai(40:56) 90 afrad ka Misr mein dakhla aur Yusuf (AS) ka walidain ko shahi protocol(42:14) Bhaiyon ne ta'zeemi sajda kiya (jo us waqt jaiz tha)(42:51) Yusuf (AS) ka khwaab sach hua(43:18) Yusuf (AS) par Allah ke ihsanaat(43:33) Sheher ki zindagi vs gaon ki(44:01) Hazrat Yusuf (AS) ke yaadgar alfaaz(45:07) Yusuf (AS) ke waqia mein hamaray liye sabaq: Gham ka ilaaj sirf Qur'an mein hai na ke aamilo ke paas(49:06) Glory of Yusuf (AS): Tamaam burai shaitan par daal di(50:31) Tension mein sabr ka sabaq(51:03) Hazrat Yusuf (AS) ki dua(52:38) Surah Yusuf: Nabi ﷺ par Allah ka inaam(Hazrat Yusuf (AS) ka waqia as it is sirf Qur'an mein hai. Taurat/Zaboor mein mukhtalif hai)(53:31) Daai ka kaam: Allah ki taraf bulana(53:57) Dua(54:03) Q: Sirf soney par zakaat?(54:25) Government ke ghar par kiraya?(54:47) Dua ki darkhwast ka sawal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Small Business Radio Show
#826 Powerful Phrases to Deal With Workplace Conflict

The Small Business Radio Show

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2025 40:19


Segment 1 with Karin Hurt starts at 0:00.To say there is increased conflict inside of small business and workplaces is an understatement; it takes now more than ever a courageous leader to deal with this.Karin Hurt is the CEO and Founder of Let's Grow Leaders, a global leadership company known for practical tools and leadership development that sticks. She's the author of five books including, "Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Workplace Conflict and Courageous Cultures". She's known best for building courageous cultures and high-performing teams.Segment 2 with Dr. Michael Aziz starts at 24:03.What about making America Health Again? How will Robert Kennedy as the head of the health secretary change this?Dr. Michael Aziz is a renowned internist anti-aging, regenerative physician specialist practicing at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City Dr. Aziz regularly provides medical commentary on many health networks, including NPR, Fox and Friends, ABC, WGN Chicago, NBC, and Telemundo. Dr. Aziz is the author of the national bestseller, The Ageless Revolution.  Dr. Aziz's columns, articles, and opinions have been published in the Los Angeles Times, CNN, WebMD, the New York Post, the Daily News, the Washington Post, as well as in many magazines internationally, such as Paris Match.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-small-business-radio-show--3306444/support.

Shrink For The Shy Guy
How To Feel Confidence And Peace No Matter What

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2025 26:04


In today's episode, we continue the powerful conversation on overcoming the illusion that you're "not where you should be" in life. Dr. Aziz shares the fundamental error that keeps you stuck in feelings of inadequacy and pressure—and reveals a new way to free yourself from that cycle. You'll discover: -Why your circumstances don't have to define your happiness-The key shift that allows you to feel fulfilled now instead of waiting for external success-A powerful action step to release the pressure and step into self-compassion This episode is about reclaiming your confidence, finding peace in the present, and fueling sustainable success from a place of self-acceptance.--------------------------------------------------- Do you feel like you're stuck in a rut, endlessly comparing yourself to others, convinced you're not where you should be in life? If so, you're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Aziz shares some life-changing insights that will help you stop feeling inadequate and reclaim your peace of mind. The Illusion of "Where You Should Be" Many of us are burdened by a feeling that we're not living up to some societal standard. You might think: “I should be in a relationship by now,” or “I should have more money, a better job, a better house.” These thoughts weigh heavily on your self-esteem, leading you to feel less than, inadequate, and even ashamed. Dr. Aziz calls this the “fundamental error”: thinking that in order to feel okay, something in your life circumstances must change. “The solution is not in the circumstances. It's not out there. It's inside you.” This erroneous belief that something outside of us needs to change before we can feel peace is a major source of unnecessary suffering. When you feel like you're not enough as you are, you either shut down or try desperately to change everything all at once—and it still doesn't bring the fulfillment you seek. The Real Problem: Self-Gaslighting You might not even realize it, but when you feel like you're not where you should be in life, you're often gaslighting yourself. Dr. Aziz describes this as a cycle of comparing yourself to others and convincing yourself that you're not enough. Your inner “safety police” tells you to stay small to avoid risk—fear of failure, rejection, or criticism keeps you paralyzed. “I need something to be different right now in order to feel okay. But what if you don't?” This thought trap is designed to keep you from taking risks and living authentically. The truth is, nothing will change in a lasting way until you shift your inner dialogue and stop waiting for circumstances to be perfect before you feel okay. The Answer: Self-Compassion and Present Awareness How can you break free from this cycle? The solution lies in self-compassion. It's essential to start being kind to yourself and slow down. Take a moment to tune into the feelings of frustration, inadequacy, or longing—and be curious about them rather than trying to eliminate them. “Move towards the pain with curiosity and compassion. That's the key to healing.” When you can sit with your discomfort without judgment, you begin to fill the inner void that you've been desperately trying to fill with external circumstances. It's about becoming your own best friend, your own inner champion. The Action Step: Challenge the Stories Here's your action step for today: Start noticing the stories you tell yourself about what you need in order to feel okay. Ask yourself, “Is it true that I need this specific thing in my life to feel happy?” What if, just for today, you let go of the need for perfection and simply embraced where you are? By practicing this, you will slowly dismantle the false belief that you need something external to feel worthy or fulfilled. And when you do this consistently, you'll start to feel empowered to take action from a place of self-acceptance, rather than desperation. Final Thoughts: Freedom Awaits You don't have to wait for the perfect life circumstances to feel at peace. When you practice self-compassion and shift your mindset, you open the door to greater confidence and the ability to create the life you desire. You are already worthy. Start taking small steps today, and before you know it, you'll be well on your way to living the life you deserve. Remember: You're awesome just as you are.

Librairie Majalis
Waxtaanu koor 2025 : "jeexiiti Jumtukaayi jokkoo (réseaux sociaux) yu xarala yi ci nekkinu askanu Senegaal: jafe-jafe yi ci aju aki safaanam" (Sëriñ Abdu Aziz Mbàkke Majalis)

Librairie Majalis

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 16, 2025 74:28


Waxtaanu koor 2025 : "jeexiiti Jumtukaayi jokkoo (réseaux sociaux) yu xarala yi ci nekkinu askanu Senegaal: jafe-jafe yi ci aju aki safaanam" (Sëriñ Abdu Aziz Mbàkke Majalis) - Jumaay Tuubaa

Sulha (formerly The Great Debate)
A Palestinian & Israeli speak - Aziz Abu-Sarah & Adar Weinreb

Sulha (formerly The Great Debate)

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 16, 2025 32:50


Send us a textAziz Abu Sarah is a Palestinian peace activist from Jerusalem. He is the former chairman of the bereaved families forum. He's worked in conflict zones around the world including Afghanistan and Syria. The world and is the author of Crossing Boundaries: a traveler's guide to world peace.Get in touch with Aziz:   https://x.com/AzizAbuSarahJoin the afterparty: https://discord.gg/NHEFrmKk2rSocials: https://linktr.ee/adarwSupport the Show: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/sulhaPayPal: https://paypal.me/AdarW?locale.x=en_USSupport the show

Shrink For The Shy Guy
Not Where You "Should Be" In Life?

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2025 23:16


Do you ever feel like you're behind in life? Like you're not where you should be? In today's episode, Dr. Aziz dives deep into the unconscious programming that fuels this feeling and how to break free from it. You'll learn: Why we constantly feel like we're falling short How societal and personal conditioning shape our expectations The key to shifting your mindset so you can feel good right now—without waiting for external success This episode is all about reclaiming control over your life, challenging the "drummer in the back of the bus," and finding joy before you reach the next milestone. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Have you ever felt like you're not where you should be in life? Like there's a destination you're supposed to reach, but no matter how hard you try, it feels out of your grasp? You're not alone. Many of us have faced these feelings of inadequacy, discouragement, or frustration when we feel that we haven't achieved everything we thought we would by a certain age or stage in life. In this episode, we'll explore why that happens and how to break free from these limiting beliefs to get to where you want to be—both in life and in your inner world. The Unconscious Forces at Play We often think we're in control of our lives. After all, we make decisions, set goals, and take action. But have you ever caught yourself doing something you didn't plan to do? Maybe eating something late at night you didn't even want, or acting out of frustration when you didn't mean to? If you've experienced this, you've been influenced by unconscious forces that are driving your behavior without you even realizing it. Carl Jung famously said, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” This means that the patterns, beliefs, and conditioning we've developed throughout our lives are often controlling us, guiding us in ways that might not be aligned with our true desires. The Drummer in the Back of the Bus Think of your life as a bus, and you are the driver. But here's the catch: you're not driving alone. There's a whole group of characters in the back of the bus, influencing your decisions. These characters are your unconscious programming—the messages you've absorbed from society, family, and past experiences. Some of these voices might tell you that you're not good enough, not successful enough, or that you're falling behind in life. Imagine one of the voices on the bus is the "drummer"—the voice that constantly beats the rhythm of what's wrong, what's missing, and what you should have done by now. It's the voice that says, "You should have achieved more by now" or "You need to be in a relationship to be happy." The problem is, these unconscious voices drive us to make decisions based on fear and inadequacy. We feel the pressure to be perfect and chase after what society says we should want, but often, these desires are culturally conditioned and not entirely our own. Shifting from Fear to Freedom How do you break free from the constant chatter of this internal drummer? The first step is awareness. You need to listen to the voices that tell you you're not where you should be, and ask them questions. What do you want me to do? Why do I need to achieve this specific thing to feel okay? By bringing attention to these voices, you start to question whether they are truly yours, or if they're just a product of your upbringing or societal expectations. Once you understand these voices are not the truth of who you are, you can begin to quiet them. And here's the key: true freedom comes when you recognize that you don't need to achieve or have everything in place to be happy. The pressure to be perfect, to meet certain external standards, is what keeps you stuck in a cycle of self-criticism and frustration. Your Action Step This week, take some time to listen to the drummer in the back of your bus. Pay attention to the voice that tells you you're not enough. Write down what it says. Then, question it. Challenge its validity. Is it really true? Can you still be happy without meeting those external standards? The more you do this, the more you'll create space for your true self to emerge. You don't need to meet every external expectation to feel worthy. True growth comes from aligning with your authentic desires, not from chasing what others expect of you. In the next episode, we'll explore how to liberate yourself from this inner conflict and step into a life filled with joy and authenticity. Stay tuned for more!

IKAR Los Angeles
Maoz Inon and Aziz Abu Sarah in conversation with Rabbi Sharon Brous

IKAR Los Angeles

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2025 87:19


On March 3rd, we welcomed Maoz Inon and Aziz Abu Sarah, Israeli and Palestinian leaders at the forefront of a burgeoning new peace movement in conversation with Rabbi Sharon Brous.

Shrink For The Shy Guy
Your Fear Of Hurting Others Hurts You

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 4, 2025 18:13


Are you constantly worried about hurting other people's feelings? Does this fear keep you from speaking up, setting boundaries, or asking for what you really want? In today's episode, Dr. Aziz breaks down how this pattern of over-cautiousness can actually be harming you—and how to shift into a healthier, more authentic way of being. You'll learn the crucial difference between hurting and harming others, how to release unnecessary guilt, and why disappointing people is a normal and necessary part of life. If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, this episode is your invitation to break free. -------------------------------------------------- Today, we're diving into a fear that many of us struggle with: the fear of hurting others. Whether it's in relationships, work, or social settings, many people worry about causing discomfort for others, and in doing so, end up hurting themselves. Let's explore how this fear works and how to break free from it to become more authentically you. The Difference Between Hurting and Harming It's natural to care about how others feel and want to avoid causing harm, but we often confuse hurting someone with harming them. Hurting is an emotional reaction—someone might feel upset or disappointed by something we say or do. Harming, on the other hand, is when we intentionally cause damage, like bullying or being cruel on purpose. For example, in a situation where someone misses a deadline at work, saying something like, “You were supposed to get this to me by Thursday. It's now Friday, and it's not up to standard,” might cause them to feel hurt, but it's not harmful. It's an honest expression of what happened. But many of us avoid doing this because we don't want to hurt someone's feelings. The Fear That Holds Us Back The real issue comes when we fear causing any discomfort or disappointment in others. We avoid honest conversations because we think it might hurt someone's feelings, and in the process, we become stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing. This happens often in romantic relationships. You might avoid telling your partner what you truly want to do on the weekend because you don't want to disappoint them. Maybe you say yes to something you don't want to do just to keep the peace. But in the long run, this doesn't serve anyone. You're suffocating your own needs while sacrificing your well-being to avoid a moment of discomfort for the other person. The Myth of Perfection in Relationships A significant part of this fear is rooted in the belief that we must always keep others happy. This stems from an unrealistic expectation that we should never disappoint or upset anyone. However, the reality is that healthy relationships—whether romantic, platonic, or professional—are built on honesty and boundaries, not on never causing anyone any discomfort. I once had a client who feared expressing his needs to his spouse because he didn't want to hurt her feelings. This fear ultimately hurt him and their relationship. He wasn't able to share his preferences and, in turn, felt like he wasn't being true to himself. And the irony is that when we deny ourselves, it doesn't lead to harmony—it creates inner resentment and can damage relationships in the long run. Shifting Your Perspective Here's the truth: you don't need to be afraid of causing discomfort. Discomfort is a natural part of any relationship. It's a signal that we are growing, evolving, and being real with each other. Instead of fearing it, we need to embrace it. When you stop overthinking and start being honest, you allow space for true connection and authenticity to thrive. Your Action Step: Embrace Discomfort Your action step is to start small. Identify one thing you've been holding back—something you've been avoiding because you're afraid it might hurt someone's feelings. Maybe it's a boundary you need to set or a desire you haven't expressed. Whatever it is, take that step today. If guilt arises, that's okay. Remember, you're not trying to harm anyone. You're simply honoring your own needs and feelings. The more you practice this, the more natural it will become. You'll begin to realize that it's not about being mean; it's about being true to yourself, and this leads to stronger, more authentic relationships. By shifting your mindset and embracing your true self, you'll create deeper, more meaningful connections and start living with freedom. You're allowed to take up space, express your needs, and set boundaries without feeling guilty. Start today and watch the transformation unfold.

Shrink For The Shy Guy
Turn Discouraged To Determined

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2025 23:33


Feeling stuck, frustrated, or like nothing you're doing is working? Discouragement is part of every growth journey—but how you handle it determines whether you break through or give up. In this episode, Dr. Aziz reveals the hidden reasons why we feel discouraged and how your mind is wired to shut you down when challenges arise. Learn the powerful questions you must ask yourself to shift from discouraged to determined and keep making progress toward your goals. If you've ever felt like giving up, listen now—this episode could change everything. ------------------ We've all been there: feeling excited, optimistic, and ready to take on the world, only to face moments of discouragement. The truth is, on any growth journey, there will be highs and lows. The key to lasting success lies not in avoiding those lows but in how you handle them when they come. The Power of Staying in the Game Just like in investing, success in confidence-building isn't about timing the market—it's about time in the market. In other words, consistency is what matters. If you're committed to growing your confidence, it's not about doing something quickly and checking it off your list. It's about staying in the process, even when things get tough. But here's the catch: the more action you take, the more likely you are to face discouragement. That's by design. When you start actively putting yourself out there—whether it's in dating, your career, or speaking up more in meetings—you open yourself up to setbacks. And when those setbacks happen, that discouragement can feel like a ton of bricks. Why Does Discouragement Hit So Hard? Discouragement hits hardest when you start to face your fears and take risks. When you're playing it safe, like I did in my own life during my battle with social anxiety, you can avoid discouragement. But once you start stepping up, putting yourself out there, and truly engaging in the process, discouragement is inevitable. Why? Because there's a part of you—the safety police—that wants to avoid discomfort at all costs. When you try something new, especially if it's a risk, that part of you freaks out and says, Whoa, stop, stay small, stay safe. That's when the discouragement feels so intense. It's designed to make you stop, retreat, and never try again. Shifting Your Response to Discouragement Here's the crucial point: How you respond to discouragement will determine how far you go on your confidence journey. If you give in to it and retreat, you'll never see the growth you want. But if you can push through and keep going, that's when the real transformation happens. To break through discouragement, here's what you need to do: Name What's Happening: When you feel discouraged, recognize it for what it is. Acknowledge that the discouragement is real but doesn't define you. It's just part of the process. Get Compassionate with Yourself: Take a moment to connect with yourself. Put one hand on your chest, one on your belly, and take deep breaths. Acknowledge the discouragement with compassion—Yeah, it feels tough right now, but that doesn't mean I'm stuck. Then, shift your focus. Ask the Key Questions: Why do I want this? How bad do I want it? Am I willing to do what it takes to achieve it? The power of answering these questions lies in the fact that when you connect with your deeper values and purpose, your discouragement fades into determination. Your Action Step If you're feeling discouraged right now, perfect timing—this is exactly when you can apply these tools. Take a moment to ask yourself: What's a goal I really care about? Answer the questions above honestly. The more connected you are to your “why,” the stronger your resolve will be to push through challenges. If you're not feeling discouraged at the moment, think of a goal you've been working on, and run yourself through the same process. You'll be amazed at how clarity and determination come flooding back. The road to confidence isn't always easy, but when you stay in the game and choose to keep going, you'll look back and be amazed at how far you've come. Keep going, and don't give up—you're building something extraordinary.

Shrink For The Shy Guy
Self-Talk Secrets For High Confidence

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2025 24:53


What if the way you talk to yourself is the biggest factor in your confidence? In this episode, Dr. Aziz reveals powerful self-talk strategies to transform how you feel about yourself and how you show up in the world. Learn how to shift from toxic, self-critical thoughts to an empowering, unstoppable mindset. Discover the key to steering your inner dialogue and why the words you choose—both in your head and out loud—can radically impact your confidence, success, and relationships. If you're ready to upgrade your self-talk and unlock high confidence, listen now! ---------------------------------------------------------- Have you ever felt that rush of confidence, only to have it fade away when you stop doing the things that made you feel good? Maybe you're sleeping better, eating right, exercising, and suddenly—boom—you feel great! But then, when you let those healthy habits slip, your energy dips, and you wonder why you feel worse. The same thing can happen with one of the most powerful tools for confidence: self-talk. Today, we're diving into a simple but game-changing tool that many people forget to use or fail to use consistently. Ready to take control of your confidence? Let's get started. What Is Self-Talk and Why Does It Matter for Confidence? Self-talk is the internal conversation you have with yourself. It's what you say in your head when you face challenges, make mistakes, or take risks. Most of us experience this as a continuous stream of thoughts, some positive, but many negative, critical, and judgmental. The issue? Our self-talk shapes how we feel about ourselves and how we show up in the world. Negative self-talk—like “I'm not good enough” or “I'll never succeed”—leads to insecurity and low confidence. But here's the catch: You can shift this conversation. “The way you talk to yourself has a direct impact on your nervous system and your body. If you want more confidence, you have to talk to yourself differently.” When you replace negative self-talk with positive, encouraging thoughts, you'll start to feel more empowered. It's like having a personal coach who cheers you on every step of the way. And the best part? You have the power to be that coach for yourself. Why Do We Talk to Ourselves This Way? Have you noticed that most of the time, our self-talk is critical, especially when we're nervous or insecure? If you're about to speak up in a meeting, go on a date, or make a big decision, you might hear thoughts like, “I'm not good enough” or “What if they don't like me?” This negative loop is common, but it's not real. It's just your mind trying to protect you from potential failure or rejection. But here's the problem: that self-criticism doesn't protect you. It holds you back. It makes you play small and prevents you from taking risks or stepping into your full potential. The Power of Shifting Your Self-Talk The real magic happens when you consciously choose to shift your self-talk. Instead of listening to that harsh, toxic coach in your head, you get to take control and start cheering yourself on. “The only way to change your confidence is to change your internal narrative.” Here's how you can do it: Notice the toxic self-talk. Catch yourself when you're being overly critical. Challenge those thoughts. Ask yourself, Is this true? and How would I speak to a friend who was feeling the same way? Replace it with positive, empowering self-talk. Say things like, I've got this. I am enough. I am capable of handling this. The more you practice this, the more natural it will feel. It's like training a muscle—the more you use it, the stronger it gets. Take Action: The Key to Building Confidence Here's your action step: Pick a situation in your life where you feel insecure or lack confidence. Maybe it's a work presentation, a social event, or a tough conversation with a colleague. Step 1: Write down the default self-talk you have in that situation. What are you telling yourself? Step 2: Now, write down the optimal self-talk you'd like to have. What would a supportive coach or a good friend say to you? Step 3: Start repeating that new self-talk to yourself before and during the situation. Watch how your confidence starts to shift. The more you practice this, the more you'll notice a radical shift in how you show up in the world. Your confidence will increase, and you'll feel empowered to take on new challenges and opportunities. A Final Thought: You Are Your Best Coach You don't need to wait for someone else to validate you. You can be your own biggest cheerleader. Start speaking to yourself in a way that builds you up, and you'll start seeing powerful results in your life. Remember, confidence isn't about waiting for everything to be perfect. It's about taking action despite the doubts and fears. You've got this.

Shrink For The Shy Guy
The Biggest Trick You Play On Yourself

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2025 21:25


What if the way you see yourself—incapable, unworthy, not enough—isn't actually real? In this episode, Dr. Aziz exposes the greatest deception holding you back: the false identity you've been playing for years. Discover why you unconsciously cling to this limiting self-perception and how it's keeping you stuck in fear, self-doubt, and hesitation. More importantly, learn how to break free and start showing up as the confident, bold version of yourself—starting today. If you're ready to challenge the biggest lie you've been telling yourself and finally step into your power, tune in now! ------------------------------------------------------------- Have you ever felt like you're not good enough? Maybe it's in your career, in relationships, or even in social situations. That nagging voice in your head tells you you're not attractive enough, not successful enough, not worthy enough. What if I told you that this “not enough” story is a huge lie—and you're the one telling it to yourself? In this post, I'll reveal the biggest deception you've been playing on yourself for years, and how to break free from it to create a life where you show up boldly, confidently, and authentically. The “Not Enough” Trap: A Story You've Been Telling Yourself If you've ever felt like you're not enough—whether that's in terms of attractiveness, success, or social worth—you're not alone. Many of us have an internal narrative that says, “I'm not good enough, and I never will be.” This belief can show up in many areas: “I'm not good enough to be in a relationship,” or “I'll never be successful, so why bother trying?” I used to believe this story myself. As a young man, I thought, “I'm unattractive, and no one will want to date me.” I even told myself that I couldn't possibly be successful because I wasn't the kind of person who achieved big things. But here's the secret: That story was never true. It was a character I was playing in my mind, but it wasn't who I truly was. “You are convincing yourself that you are small, incapable, and not enough. And the truth is, that story isn't real.” Why We Keep Playing Small The big lie that keeps us stuck is that we need to believe we're not enough because it feels safe. If we can convince ourselves we're incapable, then we never have to take the risks that could challenge that belief. We avoid uncertainty and stick to the comfort of our “small self” identity. This is why many people avoid going after their dreams or speaking up in a room full of people. If you believe you're not worthy, you won't try to start that business, ask someone out, or create the content that could change the world. You stay small to protect yourself from failure and rejection. “The illusion of stability comes from avoiding uncertainty, but it's not real. It's only a safe feeling until it isn't.” How to Break Free from the “Not Enough” Story Here's the truth: The “not enough” story isn't serving you—it's keeping you from the life you're truly capable of living. To change this, you need to stop playing the character of small, incapable you. Instead, ask yourself: What would I do today if I truly believed I was enough? Let's say you believe you're not attractive enough. What would you do if you knew you were attractive and worthy of love? You'd put yourself out there more, right? You'd take more chances, go on dates, make new friends. You'd show up fully as yourself. That's the power of shifting your belief. “When you stop believing in the lie of not being enough, you'll start doing the things that prove you are enough.” A Call to Action: Start Living the Truth If you've been stuck in the “not enough” story for too long, it's time to rewrite it. Your action step is simple: Pick one area of your life where you've been holding back because you believe you're not enough. Then, ask yourself, If I truly believed I was enough in this area, what would I do differently today? Maybe it's stepping up in a meeting, asking someone out, or starting a project you've been putting off. Whatever it is, take that step. The more you do, the more you'll prove to yourself that the story isn't true—and the more confident you'll become. The truth is, you are enough. And it's time to start living like it.

The Talent Angle with Scott Engler
SPOTLIGHT: Embracing CHRO Digital Leadership, with Kemper CHRO Ismat Duckson Aziz

The Talent Angle with Scott Engler

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2025 24:21


Technology is advancing at a breakneck speed, presenting both new opportunities and challenges for organizations. Ismat Duckson Aziz, Kemper CHRO and Chief Administrative Officer, joins the Talent Angle to discuss how CHROs can shape the technology strategy of their organization. She explains how CHROs can overcome the anxiety that comes with diving into the rapidly changing environment of technology, and assert themselves as drivers of enterprise innovation. Ismat Duckson Aziz is the Chief Human Resources Officer (CHRO) and Chief Administrative Officer of Kemper. Ismat has more than 25 years of HR experience, most recently serving at U.S. Bank as Chief Advocacy Officer. Previous roles include CHRO for Sprint, CHRO for Sam's Club, and senior HR roles at Sears Canada and MDS Pharma Services. Ismat earned a master's of business administration from Ivey Business School at Western University in Canada and completed her undergraduate work at the University of Toronto. Ismat holds certifications in board governance and HR internationally. Jessica Knight is a vice president of research in the Gartner HR practice. She leads research teams to identify best practices and new opportunities to address HR executives' most urgent challenges. Her areas of focus include employee experience, organizational culture, change management and the future of work.

Shrink For The Shy Guy
Why Nice Guys Finish Last

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2025 19:14


Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? We've all heard the phrase, nice guys finish last, but is it really true? In this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz dives into the hidden costs of being too nice—how people-pleasing can hold you back in relationships, career, and life. But don't worry, the solution isn't to become a jerk. Instead, you'll discover the real opposite of nice: authenticity. Learn how to express yourself boldly, set boundaries without guilt, and step out of the nice cage so you can stop finishing last and start living fully. If you're ready to break free from the fear of upsetting others and claim your confidence, tune in now! --------------------------------------------------------------- You've probably heard the phrase, “Nice guys finish last.” But is it really true? What does it mean for you? Are you doomed if you're too nice? Isn't being nice a good thing? If you've ever wondered about the impact of people-pleasing on your life, you're in the right place. In today's post, we'll dive deep into the origins of this phrase and, more importantly, how being overly nice may actually be holding you back in life. I'll share with you some powerful insights and actionable steps to stop pleasing others at the expense of your own happiness, so you can start living more boldly and authentically. The Real Cost of Being "Nice" Being nice might sound like a virtue, but when it's rooted in fear of rejection and disapproval, it can actually harm your relationships, career, and even your health. Niceness isn't the same as kindness. Kindness is about genuinely caring for others, but niceness is driven by a desire to avoid conflict or rejection at any cost. This people-pleasing behavior can leave you feeling disconnected from yourself, burned out, and ultimately, overlooked by others. “Niceness is not kindness; it's fear. Fear of being rejected, judged, or abandoned. When you live in fear, you end up losing yourself.” If you've ever said “yes” when you really wanted to say “no,” you know exactly what I mean. This habit of putting others' needs above your own comes at a price — one that often leads to frustration, resentment, and even physical symptoms like burnout. The Myth of "Nice Guys Finish Last" The phrase “nice guys finish last” originated in the world of sports, when Leo Durocher, a baseball manager, claimed that being overly nice was detrimental to success. The idea was simple: in competitive environments, the nicest person is often the one who gets passed over or overlooked. But what does that mean for you in your everyday life? Being nice out of fear doesn't just hurt you in sports; it's a pattern that shows up in every part of life. Whether it's at work, in relationships, or in social situations, excessive niceness can make you feel like you're finishing last. You might be overlooked, undervalued, or even taken advantage of because you haven't learned to assert your needs, wants, and boundaries. Breaking Free from the "Nice" Cage Here's the good news: You can break free. The opposite of being nice isn't about becoming a jerk or a narcissist; it's about being authentically you. It's about expressing your true thoughts, setting boundaries, and confidently saying “no” when you need to. “The opposite of being nice isn't being mean, it's being authentic. You don't need to please everyone to win in life. You need to please yourself first.” In my upcoming event, Not Nice Live, we'll dive into how you can shed the pattern of people-pleasing and start living in alignment with who you truly are. We'll explore powerful tools and practices to help you break free from the cage of niceness. You'll gain clarity on why you've fallen into this pattern, how it impacts you, and most importantly, how to start shifting it during the event — and carry those changes forward into your life. The Permission to Be Bold Imagine a life where you confidently say no when you need to, ask for what you truly want, and express your feelings without fear of judgment. That's the power of reclaiming your authenticity. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but with consistent practice and the right support, you'll start to feel a sense of freedom and empowerment. “The true cost of staying nice is the regret of not living fully. The cost is a life that's out of alignment with who you are meant to be.” I know it may sound like a far-off dream, but this is within your reach. You can step out of the shadows of people-pleasing and step into the light of being unapologetically yourself. The best part? You don't have to do it alone. Action Step: Start Reclaiming Your Rights Today As a first step, start by giving yourself permission to do one thing you've been holding back on. Maybe it's saying “no” to an invitation you don't want to accept, or expressing your true feelings about something that's been bothering you. Write it down, say it aloud, and practice it every day until it feels natural. The more you practice, the more you'll internalize this new way of being. And I promise you, it will change your life. Remember, it's not about being rude or inconsiderate; it's about showing up as your true self, without fear of judgment. If you're ready to take your boldness to the next level, I invite you to join me for Not Nice Live in March. The event is virtual, so you can attend from anywhere in the world, and we're offering a special early-bird price right now. Don't miss out — this is your chance to step into the life you truly want, without the guilt.

40+ Fitness Podcast
Look younger, live longer with Dr. Michael Aziz

40+ Fitness Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2025 35:03


Look Younger, Live Longer with Dr. Michael Aziz Today, we're delving into the intriguing world of anti-aging with our esteemed guest, Dr. Michael Aziz, as we explore his groundbreaking book, The Ageless Revolution: 10 Hallmarks of Aging that Hold the Secret to Defeating Disease, Reversing Age, Looking Younger, and Living Longer.  Dr. Aziz brings an innovative perspective to understanding aging as a treatable disease, focusing on the cellular level. In this engaging discussion, we'll learn about the hallmarks of aging and how lifestyle changes can play a crucial role in promoting longevity. From the importance of gut health to the power of reducing inflammation, Dr. Aziz provides practical, actionable advice to help us all look and feel our best no matter our age. So, if you're ready to unlock the secrets to a healthier, fitter, and more energetic you, stay tuned for this interesting conversation on the 40+ Fitness Podcast!   Timestamps: 00:00 "Ageless Revolution: Defeating Aging" 04:55 "Introducing Dr. Michael Aziz" 09:47 "Basics Before Cryotherapy" 12:06 Understanding the Hallmarks of Aging 14:03 "Impact of Diet on Gut Health" 20:14 Inflammaging: Aging Cells Cause Disruption 21:11 "Skipping Meals for Cell Renewal" 24:51 "Sleep: Key to Aging Well" 29:38 Treat Aging as a Disease 31:20 "Accessible Health Improvement Guide" Get the book: The Ageless Revolution: 10 Hallmarks of Aging that Hold the Secret to Defeating Disease, Reversing Age, Looking Younger, and Living Longer - https://amzn.to/42NRU4x. https://michaelazizmd.com https://40plusfitness.com

Dark Side of Wikipedia | True Crime & Dark History
Maryland Man Allegedly Murders Mother of His Child, Hides Body Behind Newly Built Wall

Dark Side of Wikipedia | True Crime & Dark History

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2025 17:38


Authorities arrested 30-year-old Devontae Gray in Capitol Heights, Maryland, after he allegedly shot and killed 29-year-old Alexis Shuler, a mother of three. Investigators report Gray hid her body in a storage bin, encased it in concrete, and concealed it behind a newly built wall. Gray confessed to the murder during a dispute. Shuler was reported missing on January 14 after family members lost contact with her. Surveillance footage allegedly showed Gray purchasing cement, cinder blocks, and storage containers. Police later discovered Shuler's body entombed in concrete behind a newly constructed wall in Gray's home. He is being held without bond on a murder charge, and his next court date is February 19. Family members reported Shuler missing to Washington, D.C., police when they hadn't heard from her in several days. Relatives believed she was at Gray's Capitol Heights home, but initial visits by law enforcement found no obvious signs of wrongdoing. Officers did, however, notice a strong and unusual odor. Further investigation and surveillance footage confirmed Shuler had been in Gray's home, according to Prince George's County Police Chief Malik Aziz at a press conference. The footage also showed Gray purchasing construction materials, including cement, cinder blocks, chemicals, and large storage bins, on January 12 and 13. Police obtained and executed a search warrant on Sunday, discovering a newly built wall in Gray's home. Behind it, officers found a storage bin concealed under a stairwell. Shuler's body was “entombed” in concrete and covered with soil and hay, according to the arrest affidavit. She had been shot to death, and it reportedly took authorities nearly three hours to recover her remains. During the press conference, Aziz revealed that Gray admitted to murdering Shuler during a dispute. Shuler and Gray shared one child together, while Shuler had two other children from a previous relationship. Shuler's family, present at the press conference, expressed gratitude that she was found despite the tragic circumstances. “Although the outcome is not what we had hoped, we take solace in knowing that Alexis has been found, and we now have the closure to lay her to rest in peace,” said her cousin, Derrick Felder. “Her three children will no longer feel their mother's embrace or hear their mother's voice.” Gray remains in custody at the Prince George's County Jail without bond. His next court appearance is scheduled for February 19. Want to listen to ALL of our podcasts AD-FREE? Subscribe through APPLE PODCASTS, and try it for three days free: https://tinyurl.com/ycw626tj Follow Our Other Cases: https://www.truecrimetodaypod.com The latest on The Downfall of Diddy, The Trial of Karen Read, The Murder Of Maddie Soto, Catching the Long Island Serial Killer, Awaiting Admission: BTK's Unconfessed Crimes, Delphi Murders: Inside the Crime, Chad & Lori Daybell, The Murder of Ana Walshe, Alex Murdaugh, Bryan Kohberger, Lucy Letby, Kouri Richins, Malevolent Mormon Mommys, The Menendez Brothers: Quest For Justice, The Murder of Stephen Smith, The Murder of Madeline Kingsbury, The Murder Of Sandra Birchmore, and much more! Listen at https://www.truecrimetodaypod.com

Shrink For The Shy Guy
Your Confidence Controls The Outcome

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 28, 2025 21:13


How much influence do you really have over your life? More than you think. In this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz explores the direct connection between your confidence and the results you create. Whether it's in social interactions, your career, or personal growth, hesitation and fear hold you back while boldness and self-trust open doors. Through a powerful real-life example, you'll see how the way you think shapes your experiences and the hidden ways self-doubt limits your success. Are you playing to win, or just trying not to fail? Tune in to discover how shifting your mindset can radically change your results. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- What if I told you that the key to changing your life, whether it's in your career, relationships, or personal goals, lies in how you show up with confidence? No, I'm not suggesting that you can control everything or that if you just get your confidence “right,” you'll always get what you want. But here's the truth: Your confidence has more power over your outcomes than you realize. Let's break down why this is, how it works, and how you can start taking control of your life right now. The Fear That Holds You Back Here's what most people don't want to admit: Confidence is a choice, and often, we choose to avoid it. Why? Because of fear. We fear that we're not enough—not smart enough, not capable enough, not lovable enough. And when we operate from this place of fear, we avoid the things that challenge us, we make excuses, and we often stay stuck in our comfort zones. You may have told yourself stories like, “I don't want to talk to that person; they probably won't like me anyway,” or “I shouldn't try that because I might fail and look stupid.” These stories might feel real, but they're just that—stories. And they keep you from stepping into your true power and potential. How Confidence Shapes Your Actions Let me share a story to illustrate this. Recently, I watched my son play his first basketball game of the season. He's a tall, scrappy 11-year-old who loves the game and plays with enthusiasm at home. But when he got to the game, he froze. His body language said it all—his shoulders were slumped, his arms hung low, and he wasn't trying to make plays. He was paralyzed by the fear of missing shots or messing up. I asked him what was going on, and through tears, he admitted, “No one passes to me.” The truth was, his inner critic—his own “Poopy Coach”—was running the show. His body was unconsciously signaling that he wasn't ready to play, and as a result, his teammates avoided passing him the ball. This is the same pattern that happens in life when we let our inner critic take over. When you play it safe and avoid risk, you're not just holding back in one area of life—you're restricting yourself in every area. The more you fear judgment, failure, or rejection, the more you limit the outcomes you could achieve. The Key to Transforming Your Confidence Now, here's where things get interesting: confidence isn't about eliminating fear—it's about being willing to take action despite it. It's about saying, “Yes, I'm scared. But I'm still going to try.” For my son, I helped him see that missing a shot doesn't define him. I suggested that he try to take more shots in the next game, even if they didn't go in. The goal wasn't to make every shot; the goal was to get comfortable with failure—because each time he takes a shot, win or lose, his confidence grows. This is where you can start to make the same shift in your life. Stop focusing on avoiding failure and start focusing on making progress. It's not about perfection—it's about showing up and doing your best. Take More Shots in Your Life So, here's your action step: What shots can you take this week? What risks are you avoiding? Is it speaking up in a meeting? Is it reaching out to someone you've been afraid to talk to? Is it stepping up and taking charge of your career or relationships? The next time you feel the urge to hold back, ask yourself, “What would I do if I had the confidence to act?” Then, take that action—even if it's uncomfortable. Your confidence grows each time you act despite fear. And most importantly, remember: If you don't succeed, it doesn't mean you're a failure. It means you're learning. Confidence isn't about being perfect—it's about embracing the journey and trusting that with each step, you're getting better, stronger, and more capable. Final Thoughts: It's Time to Take Control The truth is that your confidence is the key to your success. It's not a magic fix, and it's not about avoiding discomfort. But if you're willing to show up, take the shots, and keep going, you'll find that the outcomes you want in life are closer than you think. So, step up. Own your confidence. And watch as you start to control the outcomes in your life. Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are, and to know deep down, that you are awesome.

Shrink For The Shy Guy
Trick Yourself Into High Confidence

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2025 20:17


Have you ever felt trapped by self-doubt or overwhelmed by negative thoughts about yourself? In this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz explores how our minds play tricks on us, creating distorted beliefs that undermine our confidence. But what if you could flip the script? Learn why these mental patterns exist, how they hold you back, and what you can do to reclaim your confidence. Whether you're navigating social anxiety, professional insecurity, or just want to feel more self-assured in your day-to-day life, this episode offers insights that will shift your perspective and help you step into your best self. Tune in now!---------------------------------------------------- Confidence can seem elusive at times, especially when you're constantly battling inner doubts and self-criticism. But what if I told you that you can trick yourself into feeling high confidence? Now, I know this might sound strange at first. "Tricking yourself?" you might wonder. Isn't that just being fake? Well, let's take a deeper look at how this actually works—and how it can help you break free from the cycle of self-doubt. The Power of "Tricking" Yourself The concept of "tricking yourself" isn't about being dishonest or pretending to be something you're not. Instead, it's about flipping the negative, distorted thoughts you have about yourself and intentionally replacing them with a more positive, empowering narrative. Think of it as a fun little game, where you reprogram your brain to believe in your capabilities, even when your inner critic tells you otherwise. If you're skeptical about this approach, consider this: We're already tricking ourselves every day. Most of us are walking around with an internal narrative that tells us we're inadequate, unlikable, or just not good enough. These thoughts aren't grounded in reality—they're just distorted beliefs we've bought into. So why not "trick" yourself into the opposite? Why We Do It: The Safety Police There's a part of us that keeps us safe from discomfort—the "safety police" inside. It wants to protect us from potential pain and failure, so it distorts our reality to prevent us from taking risks. This is why we might assume that we're awkward, unworthy, or destined to fail in social situations. The safety police uses this distorted thinking to keep us from putting ourselves out there. But by tricking ourselves into believing that we are worthy and capable, we bypass this fear and begin to act with confidence. Real-Life Example: The Power of Perception Let me share a story from one of my clients. He and his friends were at a club, dancing, and he felt extremely self-conscious. He imagined that everyone around him thought he was awkward and uncomfortable. But after the night ended, he casually asked someone he had danced with if they thought it was awkward. To his surprise, she said it was great! That moment clicked for him. All the negative thoughts he'd had were simply made-up stories, and once he let go of those fears, he could enjoy the moment without the burden of self-doubt. This is how our minds work: we create stories, usually negative ones, about our abilities and how others perceive us. The trick is to flip the script and start making up positive, empowering stories instead. How to Put It Into Action Identify a Negative Story: Think about a situation where you typically feel insecure or self-conscious—maybe it's speaking up at meetings, going on a date, or trying something new. Flip the Script: Now, reframe that situation. Instead of imagining how awkward or unlikable you are, make up a story where everything goes smoothly. For example, instead of thinking, "I'll probably mess this up," tell yourself, "I'm confident and capable. I'm going to do great!" Practice It Regularly: The more you practice this technique, the easier it will become to automatically think in a positive, empowering way. Eventually, you'll find that these new beliefs start to feel just as true as the old, negative ones. The Takeaway: It's All Made Up Anyway Here's the thing: We are always telling ourselves stories—about ourselves and the world around us. Most of the time, those stories are negative, but there's no rule saying they have to be. You have the power to reframe your inner narrative and make up something that serves you, not something that holds you back. So next time you're faced with a situation that triggers your self-doubt, remember: It's all made up anyway. Why not make up a story that helps you feel confident, capable, and worthy of success? You might be surprised at how powerful this simple shift in thinking can be. You can start today. Trick yourself into believing that you are awesome—and watch how quickly your confidence follows.