Podcast appearances and mentions of ken cloke

Joining Mike on this edition of Hitting Left is Ken Cloke. Ken is a renowned mediator, arbitrator, and expert in conflict resolution. As the Director of the Center for Dispute Resolution, Ken has spent decades navigating complex disputes, fostering dialogue, and advocating for transformative mediation practices. His work spans labor disputes, political conflicts, and community reconciliation, and he's the founder of Mediators Beyond Borders, dedicated to global peacebuilding. With a rich history in activism, dating back to his time at UC Berkeley, Ken brings a deep understanding of both movement politics and conflict resolution. We will  be discussing mediation, neutrality, tyranny, and resistance—themes at the heart of his recent writings and ongoing work. How can mediation serve as a tool for social change in an era of heightened polarization?

Earlier this week I spoke with renowned mediator Ken Cloke. Ken is a living breathing apostle of the philosophy of practical nonviolence that Gandhi and MLK took to such a high level. Because we were on a call with a group of professional mediators, I asked Ken what the recent US election might mean for mediators in the US. I'm sharing his answer more publicly because I see the philosophy behind mediation as being appropriate to anyone involved in human relationships. The mediation mindset is what happens when you look at human relationship as a spiritual path.  I encourage you to listen to Ken with the following question in mind: What is the essence of non-violence? He says the word "nonviolence" explicitly only once, near the end of the episode, but everything he is saying about doubling down on our values and rising above hatred is, in my mind, the core of Gandhian teachings. Other important tidbits are Ken's definition of an enemy, which is a really kick in the stomach, and his architecture of hatred -- the three essential elements to creating political hatred.  

Welcome back to Season 12 of the Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning podcast! In episode number 340, host Andrea Samadi speaks with John Ford, an experienced workplace mediator and author of "Peace at Work: The HR Manager's Guide to Workplace Mediation." With a wealth of expertise in conflict resolution, emotional intelligence, and soft skills training, John shares his journey from practicing law to becoming a mediator. He discusses the importance of trust, effective communication, and addressing conflict head-on in both personal and professional settings. Discover practical tools like talking sticks and empathy cards, and learn how to apply neuroscience and emotional intelligence to navigate conflicts and improve workplace dynamics. Don't miss this insightful conversation that bridges the gap between science and everyday application! Watch our interview here https://youtu.be/NShwQio_QAk EPISODE #340 with John Ford on “Peace at Work: Connecting Emotional Intelligence to Conflict Resolution” we will cover: ✔ The importance of acquiring Emotional Intelligence Skills for conflict resolution in our workplaces of the future. ✔ The influencers who inspired John Ford's work (Daniel Goleman, John Gottman, Ken Cloke and many more. ✔ Tools and resources to support Conflict Resolution in our workplaces.      On today's episode #340, we welcome John Ford[i] BA. LLB (UCT) Founder, Author of Peace at Work: the HR Manager's Guide to Workplace Mediation, who is an experienced workplace mediator and works as a Conflict Resolution Coach and Workplace Mediator.  He's also a past president of the Association for Dispute Resolution of Northern California and served as managing editor for Mediate.com for over 10 years. Currently, he teaches negotiation and mediation through UC Law SF (formerly UC Hastings). When I saw the work John has been doing, providing soft skills training on communication, conflict resolution, emotional intelligence, assertion, negotiation, mediation, dealing with difficult behavior, customer service, nonverbal communication, de-escalation, stress management, diversity and inclusion, I knew I had to have him on the podcast. I saw the importance of teaching our next generation of students these important social and emotional learning skills over 25 years ago, working with 12 teenagers, who turned their results in school, sports and their personal lives around, in a matter of weeks. I had to learn more about John Ford's pathway that took him from practicing law, to working on workplace mediation, training others in these important emotional intelligence training skills. Let's meet John Ford, and see what we can learn from his vast experience with conflict resolution to see how he gains trust, with a calming effect in the most difficult and tense situations.  Welcome John, thank you for meeting with me today. Where have we reached you today? (I'm located in Arizona). Q1: John, can you share what inspired you to transition from practicing law to focusing on workplace mediation and soft-skills training? Q2: Can you also explain how your work was influenced by all of these researchers and influencers that our listeners would know well. Like Daniel Goleman, the author of Emotional Intelligence, neuroscientist Antonio Damasio, John Gottman's evidence-based research as well as Paul Ekman's work on facial expressions. Q3: What are some other books that you can point us to improve these important skills, books, like Difficult Conversations (Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton and Sheila Hein), or Nonviolent Communication to help us to improve how to better communicate our feelings in our work and personal lives? Q4: I see you have created tools to help express our feelings without using blame (which we all know takes us down a pathway to more conflict). I don't remember how long along it was that I learned to take “you made me feel” out of my vocabulary, since no one can make me feel anything. It was a good lesson to keep in mind that only I control my feelings. Could you explain how The Empathy Set[ii] and The Talking Sticks work and the benefits they bring to users? Q5: In your opinion, what are the most common challenges organizations face when dealing with workplace conflicts? Q6: What advice would you give to someone who wants to start incorporating empathy and effective communication strategies into their professional or personal life? Final Thoughts: Can you share a success story that highlights the impact of your products or training programs on a team or organization? John, I want to thank you very much for meeting with me today. For people to learn more about you, what is the best place?   CONNECT with JOHN FORD   John Ford www.johnford.com www.empathyset.com www.empathysetapp.com john@johnford.com REFERENCES: [i] https://www.johnford.com/johnford     [ii] https://www.empathyset.com/  

The concept I want to present today is the Six Dimensions of Conflict, which comes up in Chapters 2 and 3 of The Crossroads of Conflict by Ken Cloke. Ken has a model where he breaks down conflict and how we approach it into six areas, and then looks at that sextet from 4 different angles: - Orders of Resolution - Math/Geometry - Location in the body - Mediation style

World-renowned conflict resolution expert, Ken Cloke, shares his secrets for overcoming conflict using proven strategies from his mediation practice that have brought "impossible" conflicts to peace across the world for 4 decades.

World-renowned conflict resolution expert, Kevin Cloke, shares his secrets for overcoming conflict using proven strategies from his mediation practice that have brought "impossible" conflicts to peace across the world for 4 decades.

I talk to world-renowned mediator Ken Cloke about:   His personal reaction to the October 7th attacks and ensuing war Every Generation Has To Confront The Zero Sum Game Two Options When We Look At War What can individuals who don't live in the Middle East do? 50 Questions To Ask In Political Arguments Organizations he supports: Combatants for Peace and Women Wage Peace Should I Talk to My Congressperson? The theory that "War Is The Health of the State" How do we live without an enemy? What would Ken Cloke Do (right now)   Other interviews I've done with Ken: http://10kh.show/00007-what-can-four-decades-of-conflict-resolution-teach-us-about-the-heart-with-ken-cloke https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1P3uR8S_TGs https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kspe4Mx9yJQ  

In this episode, Jeff Salzman and Ankur Delight look at the culture war and explore exciting new insights Ankur has gained from training with mediation master Ken Cloke.

So last week I came at you with a whole map of what I'm going to do this season, involving 10 definitions of heroism.    And this week -- predictably, if you knew me -- I'm not exactly going to do that. But it'll be close.   I'm going to explain why finding our purpose (analytically) is going to be a question of survival in the coming world of AI, Basic Income, Robots, and conflict resolution.   I also made two videos this week, which I posted to YouTube, on conflict resolution. They're both based on the work on Ken Cloke. One is my synthesis of what mediation is, based on the training I took with Ken. The second is 16 definitions of mediation that Ken gave me, rapid fire, with no preparation or reflection, when I was trying to get some funny material for the first video.   I'm including the audio from both of those videos at the end of this episode.   And remember: The only way out is through.   Show Links: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF_C56bjm3HPYOvdWEfnWtw Voicemail:  https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow Email: info@10kh.show Podcast website: http://momentumlab.com/podcast Momentum Lab: http://www.momentumlab.com Guest References : Ken Cloke: https://www.kencloke.com/  Mediators Beyond Borders: https://mediatorsbeyondborders.org/  Combatants for Peace: https://cfpeace.org/  Ken's recent book: https://www.amazon.com/Politics-Dialo...   About our sponsor: 10,000 Heroes is brought to you by Momentum Lab.    I normally refer to Momentum Lab as an experiment-based coaching program or a goal accelerator.

It's time to upgrade our democracy. If you're fed up with the status quo and want to catalyze political and societal change, you're in the right place. The Omni-Win Project Podcast is ready to shed light on the many opportunities we have to revolutionize our political culture. We're all in this together, so join us in co-creating the future of democracy. In this inaugural episode of the Omni-Win Project Podcast, Duncan welcomes Ken Cloke, a mediator and conflict resolution practitioner with nearly 40 years of experience. As Duncan's mentor, Ken has inspired the creation of this engaging podcast. This is part one of a powerful two-part conversation with Ken Cloke. Duncan and Ken discuss the relationship between conflict and politics, introducing new lenses through which we can view our political culture. Are you ready to see conflict in a new light?Highlights in this episode:Ken talks about the greatest challenges democracy faces right now.Learn about the three forms of democracy and how we're getting it wrong.Discover why nuance is so vital in our complex world.Understand why collaboration in decision-making is crucial.Learn how conflict resolution tools can maximize the search for the highest common good.Uncover why democracy fails and how people use it as a weapon.Appreciate how important it is for us to overcome the adversarial nature of nation-states.Video Version Available on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qFcjlHjRNn8About Ken Cloke:Ken is a tireless advocate for combining conflict resolution and interest-based mediation with our politics and culture to create change. Ken is the author of many books, including Mediating Dangerously, Conflict Revolution, and Politics, Dialogue and the Evolution of Democracy. He's also the founder of Mediators Beyond Borders International and one of the founding leaders of the Democracy, Politics, and Conflict Engagement Initiative (DPACE). Connect with Ken:Website: https://www.kencloke.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ken-cloke-4b66433 Follow the Omni-Win Project:Subscribe to the Omni-Win Project on Substack here: omniwin.substack.comLearn about the Omni-Win Project: omniwinproject.com/aboutWatch the Omni-win Project on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCg438TPZCZpfEn1jvJjt0yQhttps://linktr.ee/omniwin

It's time to upgrade our democracy. If you're fed up with the status quo and want to catalyze political and societal change, you're in the right place. The Omni-Win Project Podcast is ready to shed light on the many opportunities we have to revolutionize our political culture. We're all in this together, so join us in co-creating the future of democracy. Host Duncan Autrey continues his thought-provoking conversation with mediator Ken Cloke in this episode. Our current political system only allows citizens to say yes or no. The problem? Having a binary voting system ignores the nuance. It excludes perspectives, and it disenfranchises voters. The more perspectives we have in a situation, the deeper our understanding of the solution. Duncan and Ken discuss the impact of a deliberative decision-making process on our democracy. How can we ensure citizen participation to make sure we all win?Video Version available here: https://youtu.be/G32z8mUV690Highlights in this episode:Ken tells us why compromise is not an optimal solution.Understand the challenges of bringing mediation and conflict resolution into politics.Learn the skills for organizing conversations and bringing polarized people together.Find out the metrics Ken will use during the next presidential election.Uncover the most powerful problem-solving organization that's a huge part of the issue.Discover why conflict and polarization are not negatives.Gain an understanding of why conceding is not the point of negotiation.Find out Ken's view on finding a solution to the war in Ukraine.Ken and Duncan discuss why people want to harm others and how we can prevent it. Follow the Omni-Win Project:Subscribe to the Omni-Win Project on Substack here: omniwin.substack.comLearn about the Omni-Win Project: omniwinproject.com/aboutWatch the Omni-win Project on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCg438TPZCZpfEn1jvJjt0yQHere are the full lyrics to my song, "The Trees": https://www.fractalfriends.us/rolewholehttps://linktr.ee/omniwin

• We know what's wrong. Now, here are some solutions • “There is definitely an increase in intolerance” (Total Recorded Time is 22:33) And it's not just Americans. Everyone seems to be arguing more. Ken Cloke should know. For decades he has been a mediator and arbitrator, helping settle disputes and researching causes and solutions to impasses of all kinds and sizes. “There is definitely an increase in intolerance, a kind of lower threshold for empathy, less interest in hearing who the other person actually is and what's important to them,” he says. “A great deal of this comes from a variety of different stresses and pressures that are creating a fear in people of illness, of loss, of change that they aren't entirely prepared for.” He says he's seeing a definite increase in vexatiousness among Americans and that it's not entirely connected to being cooped up by the COVID pandemic. He joins us in this Bizgnus Interview podcast with ideas you can apply immediately to help solve disputes of all sizes. Please click here to watch the interview: https://youtu.be/_1Am6eFlV8k Kenneth Cloke is director of the Center for Dispute Resolution, based in Columbus, Ohio. He's a tad busy, with his company saying he's a mediator, arbitrator, facilitator, coach, consultant and trainer, specializing in communication, negotiation, and resolving complex multi-party disputes, including marital, divorce, family, community, grievance and workplace disputes, collective bargaining negotiations, organizational and school conflicts, sexual harassment, discrimination, and public policy disputes; and designing preventative conflict resolution systems. For more information: www.kencloke.com ======================================= ABOUT US Bizgnus reports, writes, edits and publishes business news in online, broadcast and printed publications. We have published unbiased, unfiltered and in-depth interviews with business and other thought leaders since 2005. Opinions are those of our guests. Bizgnus never endorses the viewpoints, products or services of its guests, who are selected based on their knowledge and experience. No one pays to get on our podcasts. And we don't accept advertising (although Google/YouTube sells ads on our videos.) We'd appreciate your financial support through Patreon. If you'd like to help, please click here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=56957587 Our address is 150 Herons Run, #104, Sarasota, Florida 34232. Call us anytime at 209.470.3400. Our email address is editor@bizgnus.com

Conflict seems like a dirty word, one most people want to avoid. Unfortunately it is a part of everyday life at work and in our personal lives, so we need to understand it and learn how to deal with conflict. In this #jammingwithjason #internalauditpodcast episode I discuss conflict concepts with Ken Cloke from his book: Resolving Conflicts at Work: Ten Strategies for Everyone on the Job. Ken Cloke is a world-recognized mediator, dialogue facilitator, conflict resolution systems designer, teacher, public speaker, author of numerous books and articles, and a pioneer and leader in the field of mediation and conflict resolution for the last 37 years. Ken created the Center for Dispute Resolution in Santa Monica, CA, where he has been a mediator, arbitrator, facilitator, coach, consultant and trainer, specializing in communication, collaborative negotiation, dialogue facilitation, and resolving complex multi-party disputes, including thousands of marital, divorce, family, community, grievance and workplace disputes, collective bargaining negotiations, organizational and school conflicts, sexual harassment, discrimination, and public policy disputes; and designing preventative conflict resolution systems for public and private sector organizations. Get your copy of Ken's book through Amazon at: https://www.amazon.com/Resolving-Conflicts-Work-Strategies-Everyone/dp/0470922249 Learn more and connect with Ken at: https://www.kencloke.com/ Listen in at: https://www.jasonmefford.com/jammingwithjason53/

Ken Cloke is a world-recognized mediator, dialogue facilitator, conflict resolution systems designer, teacher, public speaker,  author of numerous books and articles, and a pioneer and leader in the field of mediation and conflict resolution for over 40 years. In this extensive episode our host William Corless speaks with fellow mediator Ken Cloke. William and Ken explore what it takes to practice masterful mediation. A range of aspects are covered in this episode: Holistic approach to mediation - where theory meets emotional intelligence Omni-partiality- where the mediators is being on both parties sides Radical Acceptance Skilful Questioning Our relationship with conflict Conflict in teams The role in mediation in a hybrid organisation Using clean language Conflict resolution system design The costs of conflict to an organisation This episode was sponsored by The Mediation Foundation of Ireland, Europe's premier provider of certified mediation training. To become certified as a mediator contact MFI via the website www.mfi.ie 

Veteran mediator Ken Cloke joins us in exploring…   The relationship between academic qualifications and the heart, Processing information: physically, mentally, emotionally, and through the "heart", What happens when we're in conflict: physically and mentally, The 5 outcomes of conflict resolution, What can we do with conflict that is already part of history, knowing we can't change the past, What's the difference between a domestic spat and a civil war? A 5-step forgiveness process, Mediators Beyond Borders, How to set up a dialogue between dramatically opposing factions? What requests are hidden in the stories we tell about each other?   ... and much more!   Some references from the interview: Ken Cloke: https://www.kencloke.com/ Mediators Beyond Borders: https://mediatorsbeyondborders.org/ Combatants for Peace: https://cfpeace.org/ Ken's recent book: https://www.amazon.com/Politics-Dialogue-Evolution-Democracy-Immigration/dp/0991114892  

Episode HighlightsResolving relationship conflictKnowing personal negotiables and non-negotiablesCore non-negotiables should not miss dignity, respect, and having your ideaPracticing respect and being open-minded while conducting difficult conversationsUnderstanding cultural differences respectfully and building a rapport by asking genuine questionsCurious question samples that will help you flourish relationshipsHow is social media helping or damaging us from having in-person difficult conversationsCore skills on building relationshipsHow growing your emotional intelligence will help you build better relationshipsThe importance of learning mediation skillsHandling the mediation tableThe mental process of a mediator that needs to stay calm and collectedNegotiating your own biasesFacing your own biasesRelationship with self and othersHaving deep and meaningful conversations with your partnerType of questions to askKenneth Cloke is Director of the Center for Dispute Resolution and a mediator, arbitrator, facilitator, coach, consultant and trainer, specializing in communication, negotiation, and resolving complex multi-party disputes, including marital, divorce, family, community, grievance and workplace disputes, collective bargaining negotiations, organizational and school conflicts, sexual harassment, discrimination, and public policy disputes; and designing preventative conflict resolution systems. His university teaching includes mediation, law, history, political science, conflict studies, urban studies, and other topics at several colleges and universities. He is or has recently been an Adjunct Professor at Pepperdine University School of Law; Southern Methodist University; USC, Global Negotiation Insight Institute at Harvard Law School and Omega Institute; Albert Einstein College of Medicine, Cape Cod Institute; University of Amsterdam ADR Institute; Saybrook University; Massey University (New Zealand). He has done conflict resolution work in Armenia, Australia, Austria, Bahamas, Brazil, Canada, China, Cuba, Denmark, England, Georgia, Greece, India, Ireland, Japan, Mexico, Netherlands, New Zealand, Nicaragua, Pakistan, Puerto Rico, Scotland, Slovenia, Spain, Thailand, Turkey, Ukraine, USSR, and Zimbabwe. He is founder and first President of Mediators Beyond Borders.To learn more about Ken visit www.kencloke.com or connect with him on LinkedIn HERE. RM PODCAST FLlinktr.ee/rmpodcastflWeb: www.connectwithromina.comInsta: @rmpodcastflFacebook: RM Podcast FL 

The more perspectives you receive the more accurate a solution to a complex problem. Ken Cloke, Director of the Center for Dispute Resolution, provides solutions to conflict. Whether a conflict exists in your work or home life, you can find ways to find a mutual benefit for all parties. We welcome your review of Closing the Gap on Apple Podcasts. Learn more about Westfield's independent agency partners.

Ken Cloke is a world-recognized mediator, dialogue facilitator, conflict resolution systems designer, peace activist, teacher, public speaker, and the author of many books including "Mediating Dangerously" and "Politics, Dialogue and the Evolution of Democracy." He has been a pioneer and leader in the field of mediation and conflict resolution for the last 40 years. "Men often hate each other because they fear each other; they fear each other because they don't know each other; they don't know each other because they can not communicate; they can not communicate because they are separated." — Martin Luther King, Jr. Learn more about Ken's’s work: https://www.kencloke.com/ Music is "Pole Stars” by Aaron Ximm https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-sa/3.0/us/ About the podcast: https://www.astemperaturesrise.com/ Support the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/m/astemperaturesrise Show notes: * Einstein after the bombing of Hiroshima “Everything has changed except the way we think." * Today’s political situation is illuminating what we already know: that it’s not working * The fundamental human project requires 1) recognition of the inevitably of diversity and 2) the overwhelming need for commonality/unity and this is what has made the species successful on a planetary scale * individuation and integration * crisis of power and crisis of rights * we need to get together and find ways to turn our diversity into a foundation for unity * one of the things that prompts our learning is contradiction, things that don’t match * The Buddhist middle way is a higher middle ground that is the basis of emergence * Isiah Berlin — politics is inherently unscientific, unphilosophical https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Isaiah_Berlin * power-based vs. rights-based vs. interest-based approaches to problem solving and conflict resolution * power-based is inherently win-lose; domination and subordinate * rights-based is voting; adversarial; still win-lose and power trumps rights * interest-based is not what you want but WHY you want it and nobody has to lose * these map onto forms of democracy * interest-based democracy requires dialogue and is non-adversarial * this will require us to develop the skills for such social problem solving without domination and subordination * the job is to come up with consensus and agreement * the problems facing the planet require this higher order skill * neurophysiology of conflict, generally speaking there are two responses: * neurotransmitter for fight or flight is adrenalin * neurotransmitter for tend and befriend is oxytocin * globally we are feeling the pressures of change that scares people and we don’t have the skills yet to solve these bigger problems * we are hitting the wall of functional rights-based democracy and we don’t yet have the skills for an interest-based democracy and that’s why we’re stuck * need to ask this third category of interest-based questions * mediation butterfly effect

Ken Cloke discusses working through conflict that centers on political issues and ideologies. 

Mediating Thoughtfully with Ken Cloke, Esq. & Mediator

In this episode, we speak with world-recognized mediator Ken Cloke. Ken is a pioneer and leader in the field of mediation and conflict resolution and has written several books including "Resolving Conflicts at Work" and "Mediating Dangerously" Among the topics we cover include: What conflict mediation is Why the word YOU is a dangerous word to use when attempting to resolve conflicts How to learn effective habits of conflict resolution We hope you enjoy this interview with Kenneth Cloke.

Ken Cloke is a leading global expert on conflict resolution and the author of over a dozen books. In this episode, Ken shares the principles of conflict resolution, and how he became a pioneer in the field. Learn more about Ken on his website:  https://www.kencloke.com/about

Ken Cloke is a world-recognized mediator, teacher, author and a pioneer and leader in the field of mediation and conflict resolution for the last 37 years. Ken is recognized as a leader and engaged participant in civil rights, student rights and peace movements. As a mediator, he has helped resolve thousands of conflicts by creating a safe space where people could come together, listen to each other and dismantle their emotional reactivity to each other. Mediation is successful if: 1) People have the ability to sit in the same room with each other 2) If they have the ability to listen to each other 3) They are able to dismantle their emotional reactivity towards each other Connect: https://www.kencloke.com/ (https://www.kencloke.com/) Mentioned in this episode: Grow My Podcast Virtual Summit

Welcome back to the 45th episode of the Hard Thing Podcast. Before we get to the show go to  https://mailchi.mp/5e94a17af33d/thehardthingpodcast (https://mailchi.mp/5e94a17af33d/thehardthingpodcast)  To give me feedback. Today, I talked with Ken Cloke, founder of https://mediatorsbeyondborders.org/ (Mediators Beyond Borders). You can also check out his https://www.kencloke.com/ (website). Ken is a world recognized mediator, conflict resolution specialist, and has written books and articles on the subject. Today, our conversation takes us back to the Civil Rights movement.  We also spend some time today talking about how to prevent divorce. We spend a good deal of time talking about how to deal with conflict. I think today's episode is important because we can all learn how to better deal with conflict and how to resolve it. Ken shares practical tips for creating dialogue, especially with a party with whom you feel you don't share much. Ken also left som action items for you to do today: Listen in a committed way Get curious about your responses  Find triggers and take charge of them It was a great show and I hope that above all, you take a commitment to dialogue and resolve conflict with those around you from today's episode. *** Support the Show:  One Mission Nutrition (10% Discount): http://allegiance.1missionnutrition.com/thehardthingpodcast (http://allegiance.1missionnutrition.com/thehardthingpodcast) Audible (Free Audiobook): http://audibletrial.com/thehardthingpodcast (audibletrial.com/thehardthingpodcast)  Help us donate $1,000 to http://ourrescue.org/ (Operation Underground Railroad): https://www.gofundme.com/f/overcoming-average (https://www.gofundme.com/f/overcoming-average) ** Thank you so much for listening to the podcast. To support the show:  1. Share the podcast with one person who could really use it.  2. Reach out to me onhttps://www.facebook.com/theHardThingPodcast/ ( Facebook) and https://www.instagram.com/thehardthingpodcast/ (Instagram). Let me know how the podcast is going.  3. Leave a rating and a review.  4. Subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss any episode. We are on Google Play, Apple Podcasts and Spotify.  5.Check out the https://thehardthingpodcast.com/blog/ (blog).  6. Buy one of our Shirts or Hoodies https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-hard-thing-podcast-store/ (https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-hard-thing-podcast-store/) Again thanks so much for listening, and stay tuned to next week. Keep doing Hard Things, and Keep Overcoming Average. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podcorn - https://podcorn.com/privacy

Kenneth Cloke is Director of the Center for Dispute Resolution and a mediator, arbitrator, facilitator, coach, consultant and trainer, specializing in communication, negotiation, and resolving complex multi-party disputes, including marital, divorce, family, community, grievance and workplace disputes, collective bargaining negotiations, organizational and school conflicts, sexual harassment, discrimination, and public policy disputes; and designing preventative conflict resolution systems. His facilitation, coaching, consulting, and training practice includes work with leaders of public, private and non-profit organizations on effective communications, dialogue, collaborative negotiation, relationship and team building, conflict resolution, leadership development, strategic planning, designing systems, and organizational change. He is an internationally recognized speaker and author of Mediation: Revenge and the Magic of Forgiveness; Mediating Dangerously: The Frontiers of Conflict Resolution; The Crossroads of Conflict: A Journey into the Heart of Dispute Resolution; Conflict Revolution (1s and-2nd Editions); and The Dance of Opposites: Explorations in Mediation, Dialogue and Conflict Resolution Systems Design; Politics, Dialogue and the Evolution of Democracy; Words of Wisdom; and co-author with Joan Goldsmith of Thank God It's Monday! 14 Values We Need to Humanize the Way We Work; Resolving Personal and Organizational Conflict; The End of Management and the Rise of Organizational Democracy; The Art of Waking People Up: Cultivating Awareness and Authenticity at Work; and Resolving Conflicts At Work: Ten Strategies For Everyone On The Job (1st-3rd Editions). His university teaching includes mediation, law, history, political science, conflict studies, urban studies, and other topics at several colleges and universities. He is or has recently been an Adjunct Professor at Pepperdine University School of Law; Southern Methodist University; USC, Global Negotiation Insight Institute at Harvard Law School and Omega Institute; Albert Einstein College of Medicine, Cape Cod Institute; University of Amsterdam ADR Institute; Saybrook University; Massey University (New Zealand). He has done conflict resolution work in Armenia, Australia, Austria, Bahamas, Brazil, Canada, China, Cuba, Denmark, England, Georgia, Greece, India, Ireland, Japan, Mexico, Netherlands, New Zealand, Nicaragua, Pakistan, Puerto Rico, Scotland, Slovenia, Spain, Thailand, Turkey, Ukraine, USSR, and Zimbabwe. He is founder and first President of Mediators Beyond Borders. He served as an Administrative Law Judge for the California Agricultural Labor Relations Board and the Public Employment Relations Board, a Factfinder for the Public Employment Relations Board, and a Judge Pro Tem for the Superior Court of Los Angeles. He has been an Arbitrator and Mediator for over forty years in labor management disputes, and is a member of a number of arbitration panels. He received his B.A. from the University of California, Berkeley; J.D. from U.C. Berkeley's Boalt Law School; Ph.D. from U.C.L.A.; LLM from U.C.L.A. Law School; and did post-doctoral work at Yale University School of Law. He is a graduate of the National Judicial College and has taken graduate level courses in a variety of subjects.

Ken Cloke is a conflict resolution expert.  In this conversation with Lorraine Ball he shares some very simple tactics you can employ to diffuse a difficult situation.   1) Ask the other person, why is this so important to you?  Why are you fighting so hard to win.  Often when you ask that you can identify underlying issues which are really at play.  2) Take ownership of the conflict and ask the other person, what you can do to reduce the tension.  Ken Cloke is a world-recognized mediator, dialogue facilitator, conflict resolution systems designer, teacher, public speaker,  author of numerous books and articles, and a pioneer and leader in the field of mediation and conflict resolution for the last 37 years.

1. Framing the Problem as an "It" 2. Search for the Bread 3. Ask about their Truth

Conflict seems like a dirty word, one most people want to avoid. Unfortunately it is a part of everyday life at work and in our personal lives, so we need to understand it and learn how to deal with conflict. In this #jammingwithjason #internalauditpodcast episode I discuss conflict concepts with Ken Cloke from his book: Resolving Conflicts at Work: Ten Strategies for Everyone on the Job. Ken Cloke is a world-recognized mediator, dialogue facilitator, conflict resolution systems designer, teacher, public speaker, author of numerous books and articles, and a pioneer and leader in the field of mediation and conflict resolution for the last 37 years. Ken created the Center for Dispute Resolution in Santa Monica, CA, where he has been a mediator, arbitrator, facilitator, coach, consultant and trainer, specializing in communication, collaborative negotiation, dialogue facilitation, and resolving complex multi-party disputes, including thousands of marital, divorce, family, community, grievance and workplace disputes, collective bargaining negotiations, organizational and school conflicts, sexual harassment, discrimination, and public policy disputes; and designing preventative conflict resolution systems for public and private sector organizations. Get your copy of Ken's book through Amazon at: https://www.amazon.com/Resolving-Conflicts-Work-Strategies-Everyone/dp/0470922249 Learn more and connect with Ken at: https://www.kencloke.com/ #conflictresolution #conflict

Ken Cloke is an expert in conflict resolution having been a mediator for over 40 years and having mediated in 28 countries outside of the U.S. He is the author of several books including, "Resolving Conflicts at Work: 10 Strategies for Everyone on the Job." He gives advice for couples, advice for those who are thinking about divorce, advice on how to prevent conflicts, how to resolve conflicts with the RIGHT QUESTIONS, much more!

The world feels more divided than ever, and in the age of social media, 24-hour cable news and polarizing political rhetoric, it can feel impossible to talk to each other about the biggest issues of our time. Ken Cloke is changing that narrative. As founder of the Center for Dispute Resolution, he has worked with myriad clients at the individual and corporate levels to facilitate conversations around society's most divisive topics. On this episode, he discusses how people can find ways to come together at a critical juncture in our history.

In this episode of Deep Listening we go through the forests of Idaho and the borderland between Canada and the United States as we speak to world class mediator Ken Cloke. He mediates across multiple domains from families, to schools, to corporations. Ken has been a mediator for 37 years, and he is a prolific author with 20 published books. Ken takes us on a journey that describes the power and the transformational impact of listening for meaning. He finds a way to listen to himself first before listening to the meaning of the conflict. Ken shares how he meditates to prepare for conflict resolution, and how he is present for the meeting. He also shares how to avoid destructive circles and conflict resolution techniques as they apply to the five levels of listening. Today’s Topics: Listening inside yourself to understand the meaning of the conflict. The two levels of mediation the issues and the relationships. Approaching a conflict with the right attitude. Meditation is a great way to prepare. Fully showing up with the realization that the conversation is important. Diverting negativity from overwhelming the ego and changing statements to requests. Ken shares an example of a couple’s experience and how he goes inside himself to find questions to get to answers. How if there is not an equals sign between the heat of the argument and the topic of the argument there is an underlying meaning. A touching story of how Ken discovered the root cause of an issue with a teacher conflict and found a way for the teacher to feel appreciated and keep her job. Group communication and bringing the human dimension into the conversation and having a transformational impact. Links and Resources: Ken Cloke Books by Ken Cloke Quotes: “To discover what the conflict means I have to find it inside myself and listen correctly.” Ken Cloke “The mediation becomes the relationship on a deeper level.” Ken Cloke “Talking about what things mean to you can have a deeply transformational impact.” Ken Cloke   Want to create a big impact? Subscribe to the Deep Listening podcast and never miss an episode.

Ken Cloke is renowned for his decades of work, passion and dedication to bring peacemaking tools to wherever he believes he can be of service whether it is in the U.S. or around the world. In this episode, The Language of Conflict, Ken will share his personal journey into conflict resolution and peace-making and what keeps him here is this field. He will also share his philosophy of peace-making and what he believes can bring us closest to peace. His global work, research and teachings lead Ken to write numerous books including his most recent The Dance of Opposites which explores a new vision for conflict resolution and the use of language in conflict. Kenneth Cloke is a mediator, arbitrator, coach, consultant and trainer, specializing in resolving complex multi-party disputes, including marital, divorce, family, grievance and workplace disputes, collective bargaining, organizational, public policy, and school conflicts, and designing preventative conflict resolution systems. He has worked in over 20 countries, and is founder and first President of Mediators Beyond Borders.  He has published 11 books. Zena Zumeta, internationally known as both a mediator and trainer of mediators. She is president of the Mediation Training & Consultation Institute, Zena Zumeta Mediation Services, and The Collaborative Workplace in Ann Arbor, Michigan. Zena is a lawyer and a former president of the Academy of Family Mediators.  

Ken Cloke is renowned for his decades of work, passion and dedication to bring peacemaking tools to wherever he believes he can be of service whether it is in the U.S. or around the world. In this episode, The Language of Conflict, Ken will share his personal journey into conflict resolution and peace-making and what keeps him here is this field. He will also share his philosophy of peace-making and what he believes can bring us closest to peace. His global work, research and teachings lead Ken to write numerous books including his most recent The Dance of Opposites which explores a new vision for conflict resolution and the use of language in conflict. Listeners will get an opportunity to think about how they might change their own language of conflict. Kenneth Cloke is a mediator, arbitrator, coach, consultant and trainer, specializing in resolving complex multi-party disputes, including marital, divorce, family, grievance and workplace disputes, collective bargaining, organizational, public policy, and school conflicts, and designing preventative conflict resolution systems. He has worked in over 20 countries, and is founder and first President of Mediators Beyond Borders.  He has published 11 books. Zena Zumeta, internationally known as both a mediator and trainer of mediators. She is president of the Mediation Training & Consultation Institute, Zena Zumeta Mediation Services, and The Collaborative Workplace in Ann Arbor, Michigan. Zena is a lawyer and a former president of the Academy of Family Mediators.

This week, host Mike McIlwrath presents the second and final part of his conversation with Santa Monica attorney-neutral-educator Kenneth Cloke, on "creating levels of trust between parties in conflict." Last week, Ken introduced us to the so-called "cuddle hormone," oxytocin–the release of which he says has a profound effect on mediation processes and social interaction.

This week, Mike sits down with Santa Monica attorney-neutral-educator Kenneth Cloke, for the first of a two-part conversation. Ken goes in depth about mediation style and processes, but really, it's about the hormones—specifically, the "cuddle hormone," oxytocin. You’ll find out how his research into the psychology of conflict led to investigating and cataloguing the potentially profound effect the hormone has on how you deal with the person sitting across the table from you. Ken is founder and leader of Mediators Beyond Borders, a Pittsburgh nonprofit through which experienced mediators volunteer their skills world-wide to improve conflict resolution capacity and support alternative approaches to resolving interpersonal, political, economic, social, ethnic and religious differences.