Amicable Divorce Expert, Judy Weigle, shares her insights and experiences in divorce mediation and communication, helping thousands of couples accomplish the near impossible, amicable divorces.
In this episode 262 you will learn the following: Maria's journey as a Step Daughter Maria's journey as a Step Parent Maria's journey adopting her Step Daughter What to look for in a potential spouse who has a biological child from another person #stepchild #stepparent #adoption #podcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce Maria Natapov Bio Stepparenting Expert and Trusted Advisor to Divorce Professionals, Financial Advisors, and Parenting Coaches Maria offers a caring and playful coaching approach where clients feel energetically held and empowered to joyfully and confidently blend their families. Through her signature 4-step energy-focused process combined with Rapid Resolution modality, Maria helps families transition from chaos to harmony. She enables stepparents to strengthen their values, foster partner alignment, create trust with stepchildren, and enhance community with birth families by building on their existing skills, experiences, and strengths. Maria has helped numerous blended families foster more harmonious family dynamics through her VIP Stepparenting Breakthrough support model and her podcast, Synergistic Stepparenting. To learn more about how to work with Maria, visit her website at SynergisticStepparenting.com. Email: Maria@SynergisticStepparenting.com Phone number: (617) 419-0878 Website: www.SynergisticStepparenting.com Podcast: www.SynergisticStepparenting.com/podcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/synergisticstepparenting Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maria.natapov
In this episode you will learn the following: Communication is the key in exercising control in a divorce Speaking up for yourself is an ongoing process How to keep control in your co-parenting role #communication #control #victim #co-parenting #divorce #mediation #childsupportservices #roleplay #toneofvoice #mediator #lawyer
In this episode, you will learn the following: Your emotional attachment to money The way in which money defines you; your money type The way in which money affects you Why your spouse may argue over having to pay child support Why your spouse may resist dividing assets How you can navigate around your spouse's resistance to not paying child or spousal support, and resistance to dividing assets #money #emotionalintelligence #wealth #ego #fear #gratitude #childsupport #spousalsupport #alimoney #trust #gratitude #attachmenttomoney #selfimage #moneytype #divisionofassets Kaki Perdue Biography Kaki Perdue is a CPA and a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™. She spent 12 years as a CPA in public accounting and 6 years as a Chief Financial Officer for a tech company before launching Look Both Ways Financial in 2023. Why financial planning? Kaki strives to meet clients where they are, with no judgment. Kaki is on a mission to teach her clients to feel safe, strong, and secure managing their own money. She embraces the “Less is More” approach to both life and financial planning. Kaki prefers outdoor fun – hiking, skiing, gardening, & camping. www.lookbothwaysfinancial.com kaki@lookbothwaysfin.com (24) Kaki Perdue, CPA, CFP® | LinkedIn Kaki is also the host of the Look Both Ways Financial podcast – available wherever you find podcasts.
In this episode you will learn the following: You are not a failure because you're getting divorced. Everything we experience in life is a learning lesson. It's how we change as a result of our experiences that matters. If you believe you are the one who eroded the marriage and divorce is now inevitable, you can change the emotional trajectory of the divorce by apologizing. Apologize without putting any blame on your spouse. After the apology, change your behavior to whatever it needed to be in the first place. If we look at life as a learning experience, and that our learning experiences are growth experiences, we will never be victims. Life will always be fair. Life will be fair because through our trials and tribulations we will accept them as tailor-made growth experiences that can challenge our will to live, test our ability to succeed, and drive us to accomplishments we never fathomed before we were tested. Let's make art out of what we might call failure. Let's trust the universe that whatever we need for growth will come to us. Let's align ourselves with truth so that we can see how to change a challenging situation to a new level of understanding of ourselves. #failure #trust #personalgrowth #challenges #apologize #emotionaldivorce #divorce #podcast #divorcepodcast #blame #spouse #amicabledivorce #victim #victimize #success #life #fair #growth
In Episode258 you will learn the following: Honesty is good for emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual health. Divorce is fraught with dishonesty to mask fear, hurt, and possibly the knowledge that people have knowingly chosen to marry the wrong person. Divorce can be the event that forces people to self-correct and turn fear into the most truthful and honest conversation they've ever had. Once people have the courage to speak honestly, and the commitment to be authentically truthful, their lives are fueled by positive energy and they align with the universe in such a way that everything right for them comes to them. #truth #honesty #authenticity #communication #truthfulness # divorce #marriage #fear #trust #hurt #emotionalhealth #mentalhealth #physicalhealth #spiritualhealth #dishonesty #mediation
In this episode you will learn the following: In the world of divorce, communication - what you say and how you say it - either helps or hinders how you and your spouse get through the process. The Three Key Elements in successfully handling threatening communication with your spouse: Listen. Listen without Interrupting. Listen to Learn. Ask “Why?” Address his/her Reasons for the Threats People threaten and become unreasonable because of Fear. #divorce #podcast #divorcepodcast #communication #fear #anger #hurt #marriage #toneofvoice #words #attorney #divorceattorney #trust
In this episode you will learn the following: Childhood development starts in the womb and is critically important until age 2 to set the foundation for who your baby can possibly be. Your baby is communicating with you through every sound they make. The parents' role is to communicate back. The games parents play with their newborns each have a learning function to them. It's important that parents discuss what is priority to them in how they raise their child before having children. Consistency provides a safe and secure environment for children. Each parent's daily routine is important when there is co-parenting in two households due to divorce. Don't Compete! Each co-parent is different and each co-parent has value in what they can provide to their children. The Oliiki app is designed to create daily interactions with children up to 24 months old that explain the developmental skill the baby is learning. Oliiki is grounded in science. UCL Institute of Education carried out a randomised controlled trial on the Oliiki app and found that parents using the Oliiki app after only 4 weeks had higher parental self-efficacy, (more confident in their parenting) compared to the active control trial. This is significant because high parental self-efficacy is connected with low post-natal depression, low infant mental health issues and high home learning environments. #coparenting #parenting #education #play #communication #divorce #podcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce #prenatalcommunication #childhooddevelopment #Oliikiapp #therapy #consistency #newborns #familytherapy @ClareStead @JenJackson About Clare Stead Clare Stead, Creator and Founder of the Oliiki app is an e-Learning specialist, Education researcher and primary teacher. She is passionate about helping parents and careers build their baby's brains from conception onwards, so the children reach their full potential and fly. Supporting parents early gives them the confidence to know they're doing the very best for their baby, developing knowledge and skills in play-based learning for our youngest child helps them ensure they thrive, right from the start. https://www.linkedin.com/in/clarestead-oliiki/ www.oliikiapp.com Download the Oliiki app here https://www.instagram.com/oliiki/ https://www.facebook.com/Oliiki Oliiki app blurb The Oliiki app is an app for parents and parents-to-be of babies in the first 1000 days, from conception to two to build their babies brain and spark their parenting confidence one play activity at a time. Jen Jackson Jen has accumulated 18 years of experience in the healthcare industry and currently serves as an ambassador for healthy youth development within managed care organizations. Her primary professional focus involves identifying innovative approaches to promote youth's mental health and effectively communicating product differentiators that impact the health and well-being of members. Jen initiated her career as a mental health therapist, providing services to children, teenagers, and families in various settings, including acute care, county mental health agency, and private practice. She holds a master's degree in social work from Temple University and is a Licensed Clinical Social worker in the state of Utah. In 2005, Jen earned credentials as a Registered Play Therapist. www.linkedin.com/in/jenniferannjackson jj.jenniferannjackson@gmail.com
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert you will learn the following: What is behind the co-parenting relationship Accepting that there are predispositions to challenges in intimate relationships How healthy are any of us in our determinations for the right spouse for us What is Fair and Unfair in relationship challenges that confront us How to negotiate for money without using the word “fair” Parental Alienation Advocates; Family Disappeared Podcast; 12 Step Support Group to help divorcing people self-reflect and assume responsibility for their part in the divorce The importance of taking responsibility for their decisions from the choice to marry a certain person, to why the marriage isn't working out Communication is the center piece to a healthy relationship, even a divorced relationship It takes two to form a productive relationship Parenting without access to the children is a form of being engaged without disrupting the co-parenting relationship To determine the Family System issues is one of the most important concerns in helping a co-parenting relationship The Family Tree has roots in our growth #communication #coparenting #parentalalienation #relationships #supportgroup #marriage #fair #unfair #FamilyDisappearedPodcast #parenting #guilt #familysystem #12stepprogram #acrimoniousdivorce #Dr.AmyBaker #petcustody #children #adultchildren #mediation #systemicchange Lawrence Joss Biography Founder and Director at PA-A.org Lawrence Joss is a remarkable individual who has spent a lifetime dedicating himself to entrepreneurship, healing, and the service of others. With over three decades of successful entrepreneurship under his belt, Lawrence's journey has taken a profound turn towards supporting and empowering families facing complex challenges in their lives. Familydisappeared@gmail.com www.PA-A.org "I know what I do, but I don't know what I do does"-Solnit - familydisappeared@gmail.com - https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss - Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/ - Linkedin - Lawrence Joss - Family Disappeared Facebook Group
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following: The definitions of anger Where anger fits in the seven Stages of Divorce Grief Types of Anger The importance of therapy and self-reflection to deal with anger. The three types of Anger, and what is good anger. Examples of using good anger to advance the divorce in a positive way. The benefits of being able to control anger. #anger #control #emotions #therapy #communication #communicationskills #communicationtechniques #divorcegrief #badanger #benefitsofanger #forgiveness #acceptance #self-reflection #self-awareness #mediation #lawyers #co-parenting
I. Mediation is an opportunity to compromise. To create a settlement that works for everyone. It's not an argument. It's not therapy. II. People should know the law going into the mediation, and be prepared to work around the law for a compromise that benefits both spouses. III. Typical Mediation Challenges and How to Handle Them Spousal Support (alimony) is a non-starter. Separate Property Money (inheritance or savings) became community property money. I will only accept a 50/50 custody. I'm not addicted to drugs. I just take them recreationally. I'll do what I want on my co-parenting time. I'm going to be working less; I've been wanting to enjoy life more. (And there's child and spousal support to pay.) If you leave me I'll take you for everything. Lose my last name. I have no money. What to do when one or both spouses are angry, or one spouse is crying. #mediation #angry #spousalsupport #alimony #childcustody #coparentingschedule #substanceabuse #inheritance #compromise #divorcesettlement #therapy #separateproperty #drugs #anger
In this episode you will learn the following: Divorce will unhinge anyone. It's how people deal with divorce that will benefit them in their divorce and after. You need the professionals who you hire for the divorce to care about you. You need your soon-to-be former spouse to care about you as a co-parent if you have minor children, and as a negotiator when you work on your divorce settlement. How do you get those involved in the divorce to care about you? What does it mean to care about yourself first? How can the spouse who has been dominant in the marriage change so that that person shows themselves to be caring and concerned about the outcome of the divorce settlement? How can the submissive spouse have a different voice negotiating the divorce settlement. How do you cause those you've hired for the divorce to stop caring about you and only care about the money they're making? How self-care influences better relationships? The importance of communication throughout the divorce process. #selfcare #caring #relationships #communication #settlementagreement #negotiations #mediators #mediation #divorcecoach #therapists #coparenting #fear #podcast #divorcepodcast
Spousal Support Even though child support is considered more important than spousal support/alimony, spousal support is much harder to deal with both for the spouses and the legal professionals who provide service: Attorneys, Mediators, Divorce Coaches, Document Preparation person, Therapists. History of spousal support Not gender-driven, while gender plays a huge role when the woman makes more than the man. Reasons for spousal support How to Prepare for the Mediation for spousal support The Negotiation Payor Spouse Offer and Responses Recipient Spouse Offer and Response Child Support Monthly Amount vs Miscellaneous Expenses. The big wrinkle in child support is the time spent with the children by each parent. The time spent with each parent influences the monthly amount if your state uses a state approved calculator. Negotiable Issues How to Negotiate Don't disparage the other spouse Don't punish the other spouse by proposing a restrictive schedule if the other parent has been a dialed in parent. Make the discussion child-focused. Think of what it will be like for your child to move between houses. Come to the mediation to compromise. Otherwise, schedule a Hearing to have a Judge make decisions for you. Speak respectfully to your spouse. Lower your tone of voice. Don't stress out; let your mediator do their job to balance the conversation. But don't let yourself be controlled or bullied. #spousalsupport #alimony #childsupport #childfocused #mediation #divorce #divorcesettlement #lawyer #mediator #specialmaster #divorcecoach #therapist #communication #negotiate #divorcenegotiation #payorspouse #recipientspouse
Episode 250: Can anyone Take the High Road in Divorce? w/Andy Heller, author, businessman Define High Road as it pertains to divorce What is the crucial hole in the self-help space that you saw with your own divorce, and wanted to fill with your book? Topics that aren't covered a lot in divorce podcasts, and are in your book Why shouldn't one spouse speak badly about the other spouse, especially their mental health assessment of the other spouse? When to hold and when to fold in co-parenting? The two categories of advice givers Injecting Fun into the co-parenting even if you're the disciplinarian How much should you tell your children about the marriage and the reason for divorce? Outsourcing parental tasks to spend more quality time with the children Receiving gratitude and appreciation from your spouse in the co-parenting give-and-take (Taking the High Road) pg. 210 Establishing Communication Guidelines (Bill Eddy) Hire a Special Master for on-going co-parenting decisions and issues that will come up after the divorce is final #divorce #coparenting #author #podcast #amicabledivorce #divorcepodcast #specialmaster #therapist #childcustody #BillEddy #BIFF #outsource #children #marriage #communicationguidelines #advice #advicegivers #disciplinarian #mentalhealth ANDY HELLER Biography While navigating through his own divorce Andy read countless support books to help him navigate through the process. While helpful, Andy identified a crucial hole in the self-help space for men and women navigating through divorce. Andy's book “Take the High Road, Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family” is his give back with a stated goal of making the divorce process easier for those who are considering or who are on the divorce path. Several factors make his book truly groundbreaking. First, Andy brings a businessman's objective perspective into his counsel. Andy interviewed attorneys, divorcees, therapists, co-parenting counselors, mediators, special masters, and others to arrive at advice and guidance from the leading industry experts. Andy presents the guidance in 46 strategies, tools, and tips that armed with the experience and counsel of these experts, the readers can themselves, hopefully their former spouses, and most importantly their children land in a healthier place in the months and years after the conclusion of their divorces. https://www.facebook.com/takethehighroadbook https://www.instagram.com/andyhheller/ www.takethehighroaddivorce.com andy@takethehighroaddivorce.com
I. Include everything in the marital settlement agreement and refer to the settlement agreement to avoid arguments II. Avoid Arguments by Looking at all Aspects of the Co-Parenting Relationship a. Third Party to pick children up from school or after school event b. Pick-up Late Clause c. Asking for co-parent's help in the other co-parent's house d. When children don't want to go to other parent's house e. Attending children's school events, sitting together f. Introducing new partner to other parent and the children g. Moving your address to another county, or more than 20 miles away from their school h. Provisional clause if the payor loses their job i. Include a meeting with a Parenting Plan Coordinator, or a Divorce Coach, or a therapist who specializes in the co-parent relationship for post-divorce issues pg. 51-52 III. Have a joint bank account for children's expenses a. Discuss all activities well ahead of when money has to be provided b. Keep a minimum balance in the account, and deposit money one month ahead of when needed, if possible c. Both parents' names should be on the account IV. How to Create a Good Co-Parenting Schedule a. Consider the children's school and activity schedule first, and then look at how the parents can support that schedule b. Do not insist on 50/50 time share if you can't spend time with your child c. Make child support money secondary to the relationship you're building with your child. In a mediated settlement agreement you can choose however you want to construct the financial support of your children. V. Addiction and Behavioral Issues a. Legal advice b. Speak up; don't avoid this discussion just to avoid an argument or to get the divorce finalized c. Put provisions in place if the substance-challenged spouse waivers on staying clean
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert you will learn the following: Define Terms under the label of Gifted High-functioning Learning Disabled Gifted Neorodivergent Down Syndrome Autistic Retarded Dyslexic Communication How do children and their parents communicate the children's needs Socializing within a Gifted and Neurodivergent Community How do divorcing spouses co-parent if one of the parents is resistant to their child's needs and diagnosis #giftedchildren #neurodivergent #coparents #coparenting #learningdisabled #dyslexic @autistic #downsyndrome #communication #socialskills #education #legalcustody #diagnosis #resistance #school #RainMan #savant #catalogueing #testing #genetic Biography for Meghan Bonde Meghan Bonde is a Tedx speaker, neurodiversity specialist, founder of Team Neurodivergent, and an award-winning speech language pathologist who proudly identifies as Gifted and Neurodivergent. She provides coaching, consulting, courses, and workshops to empower Neurodivergent people to leverage their many strengths and thrive emotionally. Meghan is a passionate dancer, writer, reader, artist, and activist, finding inspiration in nature and her remarkable, Neurodivergent family. www.teamneurodivergent.com https://www.facebook.com/teamneurodivergent https://www.linkedin.com/company/tngifted
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following: That emotions will run rampant throughout the divorce. How to manage those emotions. The benefit in managing those emotions. The timing of dealing with those emotions. The importance of grieving before filing The 7 stages of divorce grief, and the significance of Forgiveness. #emotions #grieving #managingemotions #timing #griefstages #forgiveness #filing #emotionaldivorce #legaldivorce #acceptance
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following: Different states have different laws. New California law for pet custody: Best Interests of the Pets https://minellalawgroup.com/blog/how-the-new-pet-custody-law-works-in-california/ How to Mediate Pet Custody Prior ownership Attachment between animal and pet owner Living arrangements post-divorce Dividing animals post-divorce Long Distance care Ability of each pet owner to be a responsible pet parent The financial capability of the pet parents to provide proper care Words of Advice #animals #pets #petcustody #petinsurance #petcare #animal laws #divorce #legalseparation #animaltrainers #mediation #grieving #animalgrieving #animalcare #bestinterestsoftheanimals #longdistancecare
In this Episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following: Why Fear is part of Divorce The importance of being honest with all aspects of the divorce An easy way of researching assets and debts to verify accuracy in your spouse's Discovery Why lying on Income Tax Reports will come back to haunt you How Honesty in the financial part of the divorce will benefit everyone How being Honest with yourself can benefit the divorce, the co-parenting relationship, and your emotional and physical health #honesty #lie #lying #incometaxreport #childsupport #spousalsupport #alimony #health #divorce #lawyers #forensicaccontants #fear
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following: How do you know if you married the wrong person? The age at which we marry matters. When do you call it quits? Is the idea of being a young parent the same now as it used to be years ago? When should a married couple have children? How should a married couple be aligned before becoming parents? Should one spouse share with their spouse that they may have made a wrong decision to marry? When you meet someone who fulfills you differently than your husband or wife, what do you do if the marriage has seemed to be fine until that point? How do you get out of the victim role in a lopsided power dynamic? Do you know who you are and what you bring to the relationship? How to reach Forgiveness? #marriage #forgiveness #stagesofgrief #co-parenting #divorce #parents #growth #hope #victim #YinYang #marriagecoach #relationship #relationshipexpert #powerdynamic #psychotherapist #podcast #divorcepodcast #love #happiness @CoachCarrieCohen @JudithWeigle @TheAmicableDivorceExpert CARRIE COHEN Biography As a Licensed Psychotherapist for 25 years, a Marriage Coach and Relationship Expert, Carrie Cohen helps couples go from “I want a divorce” to “I didn't know I could love this deeply.” Working with clients all over the globe, Carrie has helped over 400 couples heal the stress and trauma that have eroded their relationship, revitalize their love for one another and create a marriage that lasts a lifetime. In addition to Carrie's 15+ years of post-graduate training specifically in couples therapy, her approach to her work is holistically based. Carrie is also trained in Polyvagal Therapy, certified in Clinical Hypnotherapy, is a Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner, an Integrative Health Coach and a Certified Nutrition Coach. Email: cc@carriecohencoaching Website: www.carriecohencoaching.com IG: @carriecohencoaching https://instagram.com/carriecohencoaching?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== LI: Carrie Cohen https://www.linkedin.com/in/carriecohencoaching
Forgiveness is one of the 7 Stages of Divorce Grief It's the last stage and the most important one in order to release anger, bring serenity, and become whole again. “Through the act of forgiveness, we cleanse ourselves of the pain and anger that kept us stuck in the past,” Dan Mager, Therapist, in an article in Psychology Today. Forgiveness is for the one forgiving. People mistaken forgiveness as an a get-out-of-jail free card that releases the other person from the responsibility of their actions. That's not it at all. Forgiveness releases the forgiver from the shackles of intense hatred, toxic feelings, and unending bad feelings about the perpetrator of those feelings. These feelings can last years after the divorce is final. You're not done grieving until you've forgiven your ex-spouse. Read the Harvard article Mayo Clinic article There are also health benefits attributed to forgiveness, both Mental and Physical. Let's explore those benefits. Mental Health Benefits You are no longer angry You are no longer depressed You feel joy again Hope enters your heart Your mind is free to be positive Your spirit sings You feel like loving again Physical Health Benefits (HopkinsMedicine.org) Lowers the risk of heart attack Lowers blood pressure Improves cholesterol levels Allow for better sleep Lowers blood pressure Better immune response From Kaitlin Sullivan for Everyday Health (read) World Forgiveness Day by Rob Horel (read) Bottom Line Forgiveness isn't a competition. It doesn't matter who forgives each other first. It matters that you forgive as soon as you're able so that you can release the toxicity of anger and become a healthy, happy person again. If you're co-parenting after a divorce, I think forgiveness has to be top of your list. But here's the hardest part of forgiveness, honesty. Maybe you were wrong, too. Consider that you may have known you weren't making the right decision to marry you're now soon-to-be former spouse. That's happened a lot. I watch people in mediation negotiating out of anger, and then eventually tell me, in confidence, that they knew this wasn't the absolute right person for them, and married them anyway. And now they want to blame their spouse for being who they are. Hmmmm…a tiger doesn't change their stripes.
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you'll learn the following: 1. Being a Victim is a Choice, not a Requirement. Why some people choose Victimhood in their marriages. a. Learned behavior from parents' relationship. b. Feelings of personal insecurity. c. Fear of losing the relationship. 2. How to know when you're a Victim. a. You give the power of decision-making to your spouse, even when it doesn't make sense. b. You fear bringing up topics to your spouse, like the finances of the family, to avoid verbal hostility. c. You don't insist on being part of the income tax filing, and sign them without reading them. d. Your spouse will present a settlement agreement to you to sign before a legal professional is involved for legal advice, or to initiate the filing. 3. How to Change from Victim to Equal Partner in the Divorce Decision-Making a. “I am an equal partner in this relationship and want equal decision-making in the divorce.” b. Once you process and understand why you've accepted being a victim, your voice and attitude can change to one of Calm Control. c. You don't have to be mean, arrogant, or demanding. Bear in mind that it was your choice, consciously or unconsciously, to be submissive in the marital decision-making. More than likely, this submissive position as driven you to the divorce. That's okay; you're now exercising control over your own life. Using a calm tone, and words that aren't offensive, is to your advantage. d. What typically happens once a victim leaves their former role of powerless person, and assumes the role of control, is that there is an over exaggeration of attitude, which starts a fight, and blows everything out of proportion. The controlling spouse will be shocked at seeing a different attitude in their submissive spouse, and will become both defensive and offensive. That's why it's so very important to use a calm, soothing voice, and words that are just as calming, too. (give example) BIFF e. A power imbalance has been created and maintained during the marriage. Once the victim wants to change the power imbalance, that will create fear in the mind of the controlling spouse. A calm tone, and a refusal to argue, will minimize the reaction of the controlling spouse. Remember, that there are also issues from the personality make-up, and from the way the controller was raised, that contribute their approach to a marriage. Don't blame them. Sometimes they don't realize what they're doing. They need help, too. f. Lastly, realize that when legal professionals are involved, and after you've received legal advice, the professionals will go by the laws of the state, and will be your support system, so to speak, to create the balance that never was, in working with you to craft a divorce settlement. #victim #control #powerimbalance #financialassets #decision-making #incometax returns #divorcelaws #legaladvice #divorcesettlement #insecurity #power #communication #toneofvoice #BIFF #Bill Eddy #words
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following: It's the words we choose and the tone of voice we use that will give us the strength we need in our communication How not to be verbally bullied How to respond to toxic communication The secret advantage of not engaging in fighting No need to justify yourself in divorce negotiations Less is more in the War of Words BIFF is your toxic communication approach Don't Threaten Court even if Court is necessary. Just suggest it as a considered resolution. Lay down the rope to stop a verbal tug of war. The goal post can't move. #communication #bullying #tugofwar #warofwords #fighting #communicationtechniques #BIFF #words #toneofvoice #toxiccommunication #negotiation #court #podcast #divorcepodcast #toxictexts #toxicemails #divorceattorney
1. If you knowingly married the wrong person, admit it in the divorce and correct the record. A. You will then be mediating from a point of authenticity and strength. B. You don't have to negotiate the settlement outside of the laws of your state, but the voice you will have in the negotiation will be stronger, will not be blaming, but instead will be a voice from truth, and the truth will set you emotionally free. People think that getting more of a settlement than they thought they could get is the reward. I say, “No.” I say the reward is to be unshankled by the veil of dishonesty that covered up the truth of the relationship. 2. There are three divorces: Emotional, Legal and Social A. Go through the grieving before filing B. File with a healed heart C. Your social circle will change with a divorce 3. Don't try to win your mediator over by bashing your spouse. A. A good mediator will never be swayed by spouse-bashing, but you will put your mediator on guard against you. That means that the mediator has to work extra hard to remain neutral and just work on advancing the conversation, the negotiation, the settlement issues between the spouses. 4. Do not force settlement terms on your spouse. This will make your spouse not trust you, and trust is at stake here. A. Men do this to women more than women do this to men. B. And, men do this to women without receiving counsel from an attorney. C. And it generally seems that the tone, the condition of the relationship, in those instances where a settlement agreement is proposed to the wife, is fragile, not amicable, and fraught with fear. D. Bring in the attorneys, cause that is the only way fear can be diminished.
In Episode 239 of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following: How life insurance can protect your child and spousal support payments How life insurance can provide for long-term care financial assistance The security of receiving life insurance for income tax free money The difference between the 529 Plan vs Life Insurance for the children's colleges LifeHappens.org explains the differences in all types of insurance, to include Disability Insurance, Long-Term Care Insurance, Life and Term Insurance Lots of different ways to use insurance #lifeinsurance #long-termcarepolicy #childsupport #spousalsupport #alimony #disabilityinsurance #protect #plan 529Plan #taxfreemoney #incometax #terminsurance DINA MABRY BIOGRAPHY Dina is a trusted resource for life, long-term care, and disability insurance. Being in the industry for over 15 years, Dina has become a respected consultant by creatively finding solutions for estate planning, income replacement and long-term care protection solutions. Working with over 30+ carriers, she strives to be a reliable expert in her field so clients can make informed decisions and sleep at night knowing they and their families are protected. She is a wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend. Dina can be reached at DinaM@BGAinsurance.com or 818-601-3049 www.bgapremierinsurance.com FB – BGApremierinsurance IG -BGA_premier_insurance
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following: Divorce Statistics for multiple marriages Why people continue to divorce in multiple marriages Different reasons for divorces How having children changes the marital relationship How working together as a married couple affects the marriage The importance of getting along during divorce, and the rising expense of legal representation Grieving the loss of the marriage is paramount before hiring lawyers and filing for divorce Patterns are formed in how relationships start and should be noted for insight Good co-parenting communication is essential in enjoying co-parenting How a prenup can be a caring document How Emotional Intelligence benefits for an amicable divorce Best Interest of the Child #divorce #marriage #co-parenting #multiplemarriages #lawyers #grief #grieving #therapy #communication #relationshippatterns #childsupport #spousalsupport #alimony #divorcepodcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce #vulnerable #vulnerability #prenup #couplestherapy #blendedfamilies #emotionalintelligence #emotions #intention #BestInterestsoftheChild #family #parentalalienation @LisaDavidOlson @JudithWeigle Biography of Lisa David Olson Lisa David Olson is a character. Olson is a self-proclaimed (Practically) World Famous Business Humorist, Multi TEDx speaker, Author, Interactive Speaker, Speaker Trainer, Podcast Host of Stranger Connections, Writer, Innovator, and Prank-Enthusiast. Lisa has been married three times, with two of the most amicable divorces on record. She is a mother of two boys, and step-mom for three other boys from her current #3 husband. Lisa's relationship philosophies and application of same, provide a guiding light for those embarking on the divorce journey. Stranger Connections podcast Lisa@LisaDavidOlson.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-david-olson-80376612/
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following: What a Voluntary Settlement Conference (VSC) is. Who comprises and attends a VSC. Purpose of a VSC. The Judge in a VSC is chosen by both sides. The Judge is a Private Judge. The Judge in a VSC can be directive in terms of how a Judge in a divorce trial will more than likely decide on issues. What a DissoMaster calculator does for child and spousal support/alimony, and how to use it for support. VSCs take place outside of a courthouse. Who pays for the Judge and all legal and financial professionals in a VSC. How a Mission Statement at the outset of a divorce can be helpful. Divorce is a grieving process and will influence the settlement. The Emotional Settlement and the Legal Settlement, how do people do both? How can a Parenting Coach help in the transition from in-home parenting to co-parenting in two homes. How children are affected by co-parents who fight. The Goal: Two Financially Stable Households Pathway to a confident financial settlement #podcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce #VoluntarySettlementConference #courthouse #divorcecourt #mediation #grieve #financiallystable #PrivateJudge #co-parents #co-parenting #LegalSettlement #EmotionalSettlement #EmotionalDivorce #FinancialSettlement #MissionStatement #DissoMaster #divorcetrial @KathrynCostas @JudithWeigle @TheAmicableDivorceExpert Biography Kathy Costas is a Vice President and CDFA® or Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® at EP Wealth Advisors. She has been working in the financial services industry since 1987. She uses her education and personal experience to serve as a compassionate guide to help her clients successfully navigate the financial aspects of the divorce process. Kathy is a member of the National Association of Divorce Professionals and was appointed by the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts as the chair of the Southern California chapter of the Divorce Alliance, a group for divorce professionals. She is also the leader of the Conejo Divorce Resources Professionals group. Kathy is an active volunteer with the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation and is a member of the local chapter of the nonprofit fundraising group Dining For Women. https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathy-costas-8a042415/ Email is Kcostas@epwealth.com 805-372-1093
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert you will learn the following: The services available to the public The cost involved in using the Self-Help Center The availabilities and importance of language services/translators Who qualifies for free court services How is mediation provided if connected to a case How culture affects mediation How Judges are required to render decisions Managing expectations of people scheduled for Hearings How and when mediation is used within the court system What is expected of the litigants to bring into court for their Hearings How Mediation Settlement Agreements are handled by the Judge for your Hearing How Self-Help Centers provide service, and the limitations imposed State proposed solution to professional legal services with representation and court coordination #court #mediation #Judge #Hearings #Filing #Translation #LanguageServices #DivorceCourt #FamilyLaw #CourtFees #Evidence #Settlements #Self-HelpServices #Self-HelpCenter #Settlement Agreement Biography of Gayle Glazer Gayle Glazer has been a bilingual (Spanish/English) mediator in the Los Angeles Superior Courts since her retirement ten years ago from her three- decade career in the Los Angeles Unified School District. In 2020, Ms. Glazer became a MC3 Certified Mediator in the state of California. Most recently, she has joined ACMAS, Attorney-Client Mediation and Arbitration Services through the Los Angeles County Bar Association where she will serve as the “lay” arbitrator on the State Bar of California's Mandatory Fee Arbitration Panel. Gayle has utilized her conflict resolution skills developed during her career to assist courtroom neophytes. She has helped the opposing parties to settle hundreds of cases, primarily in the areas of Unlawful Detainer (Eviction), Civil Harassment Restraining Orders, Workplace Violence, Elder Abuse and every type of case imaginable in Small Claims Court. www.GlazerMediation.com
You will learn the following: How to approach the emotions that come up when the decision to divorce takes place. How to deal with grief and fear. Set an intent to handle the emotions in a positive way. Why are words important in divorce language? What is Trauma Bonding? How to choose a support group, and surround yourself with, who will keep your emotions positive. Are you in the Fear Rabbit Hole? Self-care is not optional. It gets you out of fear How grief can be a learning opportunity. How do you believe your role was supposed to be in marriage? Was this a false or true belief? Ask each other, “What is our perception of divorce?” Definition of Emotional Intelligence, and how does having EI get you through fear? Patty's definition of Fear. “Fear brings you information that you need in order to be more of yourself.” Question your belief systems to find out why the marriage didn't work out. How to handle divorce fears through Emotional Intelligence. When do you hire an attorney if you need representation? Patty's Steps to Emotional Intelligence: Find a positive support system. Disconnect from time lines provided by others. Allow yourself to grieve. Practice self-awareness. #EmotionalIntelligence #Grief #Fear #SupportGroups #Therapy #Lawyers #Attorney #Divorce #Belief Systems #Marriage #Trauma #Emotions #Podcast #DivorcePodcast #Amicable Divorce @Patty McGuire @JudithWeigle Biography for Patty McGuire Patty McGuire Founder, Positivity Influencer Coaching Patty@thepositivityinfluencer.com www.loveyourmarriageagain.com Patty McGuire started as a self-worth coach who taught her clients how to create more love and happiness in their lives - one step at a time. Specializing in emotional wellness, divorce recovery and saving marriages, her unique method guides people from fear and pain back to love. McGuire is now an Emotional Intelligence Master and Coach, and speaks with clients individually and for C-Suite Executives who want to bring Emotional Intelligence to their businesses and leadership methods.
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following: Getting Legal Advice is being Disloyal to Your Spouse. “We decided we wanted to keep it amicable, and going to an attorney makes it litigious.” Filing a Response to the Petition makes the divorce contentious. More parenting time will be given to Mom. The fear of most men. “The Judge will see my side if we go to court.” The ruder the lawyer, the better the outcome for their client. The Mediator or Document Preparation people can give legal advice and consulting. Filing a huge brief or statement at a Hearing will help you win in court. The first person who files has the upper hand or advantage. Asking for financial damages because the marriage didn't work out. “I'll take everything, even full custody of the kids, if you divorce me.”
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast you will learn the following: Why Laughter is Important Why physical exercise is necessary Why the combination of exercise with laughter is golden The emotional effects of laughter The physical effects of laughter Scientific evidence that laughter is the best medicine How stress can cause serious life illness Suggestions for exercise with laughter #stress #laughter #exercise #self-care #divorce #MayoClinic #medicine #illness #podcast #amicable #divorcepodcast
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following: People feel out of control during divorce. (Expand) People need to know how to incorporate the work that is required of them in the filing process, and in the decision-making process. Compartmentalizing time is the way to deal with divorce IF you absolutely have to work. If you have the luxury of not having to work, then make divorce your job and focus your attention on getting everything necessary for the divorce to move forward expeditiously. We are a culture that supports and glorifies multi-tasking. Multi-tasking divorce into daily routines will make you sick and potentially cause severe illness. Multi-tasking is the last behavior that should be accepted. Separating everything necessary to deal with the legal side of divorce properly, with a clear mind and a calm heart is the only way to properly address the process of divorce. Choose divorce professionals who understand and support the separation of your daily lives from your divorce life. Here's what I mean…Look at the time you have available outside of your jobs and outside of the schedules for your children for you to complete paperwork, go to mediations, engage in depositions, go to Hearings and Depositions, and any other meetings necessary for the divorce to move forward, and schedule those free times and/or personal days from work, to focus on the divorce. The operative word being focus. Good divorce decisions require nothing less than focus; focus of the mind, of the heart, and of the emotions. When we try and multi-task the divorce stuff into our regular daily stuff, we cannot give divorce stuff the correct focus and attention that it needs to be lasting and appropriate for your lives, especially once the divorce is final. People experience decision-makers remorse because their decisions were made too hastily. Put a schedule together that allows you to work without interruption, that gives you valuable time with your children and all of the activities in their lives, and that provides for exercise and alone time. Look at the remaining time and that's what you assign for divorce work. Then share that schedule with your divorce professionals, and stick to it. Return emails, phone calls, and paperwork in the time assigned for divorce. The only fly in the ointment of your well-crafted schedule will be Hearings, Depositions, a few meetings with those filing for you, and Mediations, The court isn't opened on weekends, so personal time from work will have to be taken. If you share that you're going through a divorce with either your Human Resources department, or your manager/business owner, you both can work together to craft a schedule that allows for work to continue and for your schedule to have flexibility. Lastly, do not respond to angry texts and emails from your spouse during work or family time. That can be done within your divorce time. Nothing will disrupt your day more than mean emails and texts. Control this shit. Do not succumb to disruptive communication. Put it in its place! Your divorce time slot. Everything, as much as possible, goes there. Compartmentalizing Time will give you a better life quality during divorce, and you will have developed a skill that can be used in any conflict. Part of this is Mindfulness, and part of this is simply scheduling. Have the confidence and the courage to take charge of your time. #time #control #compartmentalizetime #mediation #divorce #depositions #hearings #work #HumanResources #podcast #divorcepodcast #court #divorcecourt #emails #texts #communication #focus #work Biography Judith M. Weigle has been a divorce mediator and document preparation service for 11 years as President of Divorce Resource, Inc. in Los Angeles. In that time she has seen people approach divorce in various ways, and has developed the Recipe for a Heart-Healthy Divorce, a four-step strategy to an amicable and productive divorce. Judith has aggregated the four essential steps that she has learned not only from her clients, but from the learned experts on her podcast to provide a successful formula for the best divorce possible. www.DivorceResourceInc.com www.JudithWeigle.com LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/judith-m-weigle-65b1268/ IG @TheAmicableDivorceExpert Facebook https://www.facebook.com/JudithMWeigle 310.441.7555 Judy@DivorceResourceInc.com
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following: 1. What defines Communication a. Our words b. Our tone of voice c. How we physically appear 2. How does bad communication sound? a. Filled with anger b. Yelling c. Arrogant d. Threatening 3. How does good communication sound? a. Listening to learn b. Not interrupting c. Speaking from the heart, without blame d. Soft or nonthreatening tone of voice e. Compassion f. Asking questions to get a deeper understanding of what your spouse is trying to say g. If you're responding to a threatening spouse, keep responses to a minimum, and very neutral; don't buy into the argument 4. BIFF a. In-person bad communication: Response (bad to good) b. Text communication c. Email communication d. Timing of bad communication responses 5. Court Communication a. Judges don't want to hear you talk shit about your spouse. (Judge Terry Crone and Judge Michele Lowrance) b. When one party hires a shark lawyer and the other party is self-represented, don't think there is an inherent disadvantage (Pam Payton) 6. Mediation Communication a. Get legally educated so you can negotiate from a point of knowledge b. Look your best c. Be on time d. Be prepared e. Listen without interrupting f. Don't grimace or make negative facial gestures g. Don't say, “Are you done yet?” in an exasperated way. h. Don't cop attitude i. Don't fight
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following: Settle the Emotional Divorce before Settling the Legal Divorce You can make sound legal decisions while emotional You'll spend way too much money on attorneys and court fees when you should be spending money on healing through therapists and coaches If you've already started filing, but find it too emotionally stressful to participate, ask for everyone involved to grant you some time to process the reasons for the divorce before resuming the filing Learn Communication Skills for Conflict Even in an amicable divorce you're going to get triggered and fight If you have a high conflict divorce, you can still change the trajectory of the emotion by knowing successful communication techniques BIFF is your new best friend Compartmentalize Time So that your divorce doesn't consume your life To keep focus where it needs to be when you're at work, when you're with your children, and when you're with your family and friends To re-establish control in your life Develop a Self-Care Program w/Laughter Laughter is the Best Medicine for a Hurting Heart Physical exercise gets you out of your head because it changes your focus from stressing about the divorce to the activity in which you're engaged Laughter will shock your nervous system in a good way #divorce #amicabledivorce #highconflictdivorce #emotionaldivorce #emotions #recipe #heart-healthy #money #attorneys #divorcecourt #legaldivorce #BIFF #communication #communicationtechniques #time #compartmentalizetime #self-careprogram #selfcare #control #workstress #MayoClinic #laughterasmedicine #goatyoga #puppyyoga #exercise #podcast #divorcepodcast @JudyWeigle @JudithWeigle @RecipeforaHeartHealthyDivorce Judith Weigle has been a family law mediator for 11 years, in her business Divorce Resource, Inc. She created Recipe for a Heart-Healthy Divorce after working with divorcing couples who exhibited stress and acrimony in the filing and in the mediation of their settlement. The four ingredients in the Recipe for a Heart-Healthy Divorce will turn your divorce around, even if only one spouses employs these techniques. Individual Coaching available. www.Divorce ResourceInc.com
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following about Parental Alienation: What You Can Do If You Are the Victim of Parental Alienation Before the divorce Document happy experiences with your children Video & audio recordings, artwork School Records Find an attorney and/or mediator knowledgeable in Parental Alienation Test them, question them, make sure they know what you want Don't want vengeance. Always make it about the best interests of the children, not about what happened to you. During the Divorce COURT TIME Always be on your best behavior. Stay calm and rational, even when it hurts Never bad mouth your ex to ANYONE See a therapist alone Know your rights; consult with experts Be honest even if your ex isn't Insert in the custody order that the children do not have the right to unilaterally change visiting times. Ask for consequences if one parent attempts to align the children against the other parent. After the Divorce What you should do when the children begin to behave badly towards you Stay calm and rational – even if it hurts Don't bad mouth your ex Document everything Get clear video evidence and make sure the sound and picture are clear If you become a target or if they start to ignore the custody times Document everything Call the police but don't expect them to do anything and have your court order in your hand when you call them. Get a copy of the police report or the report number Get a Temporary Restraining Order Contempt charges are rare and difficult Bring all your evidence to court and have it readily accessible for the judge who should want to view it and read it. #podcast #parentalalienation #court #evidence #legalrights #co-parenting #custody #childsupport #witnesses #mediator #attorney #parentchildrelationship #divorce #emotions #police #Judge #temporaryrestariningorder #activist #bestbehavior #communication #conflictcommunication #courtpreparation #beforedivorce #duringdivorce #afterdivorce @RonBerglas @TheAmicableDivorceExpert RON BERGLAS Biography Ron Berglas is a mediator with Magnum Mediation. Ron is also the Chair of the Parental Alienation Legislative Group. Together with his colleague Dr. Lynn Steinberg and a group of like-minded alienated parents, they have focused their despair at losing their children to the malign intentions of their former partners into a driving force to enact legislation that would require all mental health practitioners who work with children to be educated in parental alienation. They also continue to combat through legislative action the plethora of misinformation campaigns that have appeared recently that deny the existence of parental alienation. The Parental Alienation Legislative Group together with PASI, Parental Alienation Syndrome Intervention, is run by Joan Kloth-Zanard in New York, New York to oversee our 501C3. Magnum Mediation 909-283-3991 info@magnumediation.com LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/ron-berglas-04 Parental Alienation website: www.palgandpasi.org
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following: How to identify if you are or were held hostage in your marriage. How to identify a cult-like mentality. How you can be seduced by someone who wants to control you. What seduction is like, and why it begins the process of control. How you become a slave to your spouse in your relationship. Neither education nor intelligence have anything to do with being seduced and held hostage in the relationship. What love bombing is and how it is part of the seduction process to establish the hostage relationship. How and when we give our power away to someone else. Are you making choices against your own best interests, and compromising your values? If you're in a cult-like relationship questioning the other person is not possible. Extricating yourself from a cult-like marriage or divorce. Own your story and drop your shame. #hostage #cult #relationshiphostage #lovebombing #seduction #control #selfexpression #budget #allowmance #money #jointbankaccount #slave #values #heldhostage #marriage #divorce #compromise #higherlifepurpose #author #cultmember #relationship #DalaiLama #doubt #selfexploration #selfdoubt #vulnerable #courage #shame #lifechoices #survival #failure @DalaiLama @KellyThiel Biography Kelly Thiel, author of Unapologetically Glorious, and featured in the documentary series “Seduced” speaks on her experience as part of a cult, how it began and how it ended. Kelly is an accomplished voice actress, author, speaker, consultant, and survivor of the notorious NXIVM cult. Kelly speaks around the world about her personal journey on conquering her own trauma to, in turn, help men and women facing similar adversaties or traumas to conquer their own and rediscover themselves. IG: @TheKellyThiel www.KellyThiel.com
In this 2023 episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following: Trust is a concern in every relationship. From the trust we place in our restaurant takeout orders being correct, to the trust we place in our children when they're not in our care, to the trust we place in our medical professionals, the clergy, to the huge trust we place in our spouses to always behave in a way that is respectful, caring, and protective of us. When our trust is broken in any of our important relationships, we're crushed. Our whole emotional and physical systems quiver. We are emotionally off-balance. We are no longer comfortable in those relationships. Now divorce is imminent. And trust is on the line. We second-guess ourselves because we no longer trust our decision-making. All sorts of questions run through our minds: “Did we really know the person we married? Did we miss clues that should have made us suspicious? Was it something I did and didn't realize it was causing a problem?” Or, if there was no event that broke the marriage, just two people growing apart, distrust still creeps in because divorce is generally a foreign environment, a language filled with words we don't typically use, and we have to make really important decisions about money, co-parenting, and living as single people again. Fear rears its ugly head and distrust is the new emotion. Trust can take on a whole new meaning in our lives if we start with trusting ourselves to be able to deal with the divorce, the future, and a new life. Life is full of challenges, and divorce is one of them. We can get through any challenge if we find a support system of professionals who can put fear and distrust in its place, and help create a foundation in us to tap into our inner strength and resilience, and respond to the decision-making in divorce in an affirmative, focused, honest way. We are so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. We may need the help of a divorce coach or a therapist to bring that resilience forward, but it's there in every one of us. If your marriage is ending simply because you've both grown apart, distrust still makes its way into your brains because you are no longer working as a team, a unit moving forward together. You are now two individuals who are dividing your stuff, expensive stuff, stuff that was accumulated over quite a few years. You're not used to this dynamic. The brain goes into protective mode, fight or flight, and you no longer trust each other, even though neither of you have done anything to breach trust. In this case, remember, you are the same good people you have been. No need to distrust one another. But definitely a time to assert the personal power you have and be vocal, be supportive of yourself, be kind and generous, but be mindful that you are both equally scared, regardless of the posturing of the other spouse. Everyone is scared. No one is secure in divorce. Trust in yourself will allow you to trust someone else again. #trust #honesty #divorce #podcast #relationships #communication #fear #distrust #marriage #adultery #infidelity #emotion
Divorce is a series of decisions. Starting with the emotional tone of the divorce: Are you filing while you're angry and wanting to hurt your spouse, or do you look at your divorce as a necessary life change that can help both you and your spouse to grow better? It's never a good idea to start the filing until you've calmed down, gone through the divorce grief stages, maybe, possibly, hopefully forgiven yourself and/or your spouse. The centerpiece to all of the decisions in a divorce is honesty. When both spouses can talk before filing and sort out their feelings honestly, the settlement will be so much easier. It still may take some negotiating, but the conversation will be easier because the emotions of the divorce have been settled. It's those unresolved emotions that affect the tone of the divorce, the litigious extent of the divorce, and the financial cost of the divorce. A more correct reality of the marriage and why it has to conclude unfolds in a heartfelt conversation to end the marriage. Blame is stripped away. Anger subsides, forgiveness and understanding move into our hearts when we can openly, honestly, and without blame or justification for past actions and decisions, simply speak from each spouse's perspective. Everyone has their own perspective on the meaning and purpose of events that shape our lives; and that perspective must be spoken and accepted. People can look at one event and process it differently. The important conversation may come at different points in the settling of the emotional part of the divorce. It may not come in the very first conversation. It may come after several conversations, but when it does come, it will change the trajectory of the divorce, and the way each spouse thinks of each other and behaves towards each other going forward. It's crucial that the divorce is used to grow. Growing in a way that allows for more self-awareness so that the next relationship fulfills people in a more specific way. Or if no other relationship is sought, then let it be growth that simply reveals parts of oneself that help in the overall journey in this life. #emotionalintelligence #communication #amicable #amicabledivorce #forgiveness #honesty #emotionaldivorce #anger #blame #grief #personalgrowth #growth #podcast #divorcepodcast #conversation
In this 2023 episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following: How to detect financial abuse in the marriage What to do with financial abuse in the divorce Emotional Abuse and Money Physical Abuse and Money How to pay your attorney with no access to money Court order for legal fees Transparency in declaring assets What Forensic Accountants do Marital Estate Chart When litigation is needed The importance of reviewing financial documents for each transaction When to hire a larger firm or a sole practitioner How to handle the fear of asking for a divorce in an abusive marriage The importance of having a therapist or divorce coach as a support system Order of Protection for physical abuse How and when to serve the Petition for divorce on the abusive spouse #financialabuse #jointbankaccounts #creditcards #allowance #physicalabuse #emotionalabuse #marriage #divorce #breadwinner #finances #wageearner #control #accesstomoney #childcare #taxreturns #taxfiling #financialpressure #mindset #finacialmindset #dishonesty #budgeting #budget #financiallydisadvantagedspouse #initialretainer #equality #legalrights #legalfees #court #incarceration #Judge'sorders #assets #transparency #forensicaccountant #fear @LisaZeiderman Biography of Lisa Zeiderman, Esq. Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, based in New York. A matrimonial attorney, CFL and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters, as well as pre- and post-nuptial agreements for high-net-worth individuals. In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, the New York Law Journal, and Forbes. She is also regularly interviewed on issues ranging from financial empowerment to complex tax issues and child custody, and has been featured in a host of media from The Wall Street Journal to Kiplinger's, as well as on a multitude of podcasts. Lz@mzw-law.com 914 455 1000 LinkedIn: (99+) Lisa Zeiderman, Esq | LinkedIn --@lisazeiderman Instagram: @lisazeiderman Facebook: @lisazeidermanesq Twitter @lisazeiderman
In this 2023 episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following: Living longer lives makes it harder to grow old together Women initiate divorce more than me Different reasons why people file for divorce after a long-term marriage Women's income will decrease by 40% in her 60's, and men by 23% Focus on using a financial expert to help split a pension properly #1 mistake women make: thinking they have to keep the family home How to budget for the future Divorce can provide an opportunity to live the life you've always wanted to live Identifying Needs vs Wants in financial planning Establish financial safety nets before filing for divorce The importance of running 3 credit reports in preparation for divorce Desired Lifestyle vs Available Income When to take Social Security. How to determine social security. How to equalize social security for both spouses. Emotional Money Block and Your Money Story How do your values align with your relationship to money? Long-term care for women #women #money #educate #financial #divorce #greydivorce #income #longtermmarriage #longtermcare #lifeinsurance #annuity #budget #creditreport #socialsecurity #moneyblock #emotionalmoneyblock #selfworth #values #lifestyle #financialplanning #women #pension #financialsafetynet #podcast #2023 #episode #financialcoach #CPA @LindaLingo Linda Lingo is an authority on women building wealth. Her successful 35-year career in corporate America and her 10 years as a Financial Advisor has given her practical experience, radical knowledge and a deep understanding of the best ways to manage money for the modern-day woman. Linda has served as the treasurer of The Women's Fund, Assertive Women Entrepreneurs and Women of Vision. She has been active in Soroptimist International, and Girls Inc. She also supports women-owned businesses as an Activator with SheEO, and is active in the National Cinderella to CEO Awards Program. Linda Lingo, Financial Coach & CPA 530-710-8301 linda@lindalingo.com www.lindalingo.com https://www.facebook.com/lindalingofinancialcoach/ instagram.com/moneymamamentor linkedin.com/in/lindalingo https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZlqhRTVcGwmiSyQqbb09jg
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast you will learn: Age of Children Polarity of Parenting Styles Conflict with Ex-spouse Over-attachment of Non-custodial parent to child Over-attachment of biological parent to child There are more Blended Families than First Families. Co-habitation rates are soaring, making blended families hard to track. When single parents start dating, step-family dynamics start at this point. Children grieve the loss of the family, just like parents grieve the loss of the marriage. Family Mission Statement #stepparent #stepparentcoach #blendedfamilies #exspouse #childsupport #cohabitation #dating #noncustodialparent #custodialparent #parentingstyles #author #biologicalparent #conflict #parentalalienation #familymissionstatements #consequences #rules #punishment #siblingrivalry #attachment #overattachment @JudyGraybill Judy Graybill: links, contact info, and bio free mini e-book, The 5 Biggest Risks of Conflict in Blended Families: https://tinyurl.com/5BlendedFamilyRisks FB group for women in stepfamilies: https://tinyurl.com/TheWholeisticStepfamily website: https://judygraybill.com email: hello@judygraybill.com Instagram: @judy.m.graybill Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/judygraybill LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/judygraybill/ MeWe: https://mewe.com/i/judymgraybill As a Relationship Healer and Certified Stepfamily Coach, Judy Graybill is skilled at identifying where couples get stuck. She helps them develop the mindset, strategy, and action plan to establish long-term harmony, deeper intimacy, and a stronger partnership. She's also speaks, writes, facilitates in-person workshops, and is co-founder of the group, The Wholistic Stepfamily. Get details and free resources at www.JudyGraybill.com.
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following: What a Prenup is What makes a prenup good or bad The requirement to know the laws of your state before giving up marital rights in the prenup Why some people want prenups Why some people agree to sign them even though one person may be disadvantaged What you can or can't do in a divorce with a lousy prenup The real benefit in a good prenup How mediation can be used to revisit a lousy prenup Spousal support, prenups, and inherited money Spousal support is part of the equity in a marriage People's relationship to money and how it affects relationships How bad prenups make the marriage weak What Promissory Estoppel is and how it affects spousal support How a postnup can correct a lousy prenup Enforceability of prenups On-line prenups How a good prenup is organized, approached, negotiated, and well thought out beyond the existing assets How to respond if you're “given” a prenup to sign How a prenup is “fair” to both people What “lifestyle” provisions are that would end a marriage #nofaultdivorce #prenup #prenups #postnup #promissoryestoppel #mediation #communityproperty #separateproperty #inheritance #TheGenerousPrenup #author #marriage #divorce #enforceability #podcast #spousalsupport #alimony #childsupport #statelaws Biography Laurie Israel is a collaborative lawyer and mediator based in Massachusetts. She is the author of “The Generous Prenup: How to Support your Marriage and Avoid the Pitfalls” (2018). Laurie now concentrates her practice on prenups, and has been mediating prenups and postnups in Massachusetts as well as throughout the U.S. She has written extensively on prenups and on the art and skill of mediating prenups, which she believes is the optimal way to help couples mutually address the terms of a prenup and how they may affect each of the parties in the future. Laurie began her involvement in the area of prenups as a representative for clients negotiating their agreements. She has experienced first-hand how couples can harm each other during the negotiation process in a way that may not easily be forgotten. Laurie believes that if not dealt with in an equitable manner, the content and process of some prenups can do irreparable damage to a couple embarking on marriage. The message in her book “The Generous Prenup” is that prenups are not to be taken lightly and should be used only when absolutely necessary, and when both parties are comfortable with the entire process. She believes the professionals involved should be keenly aware of the issue of fairness to both parties and consider the ultimate health of the ensuing marriage. www.LaurieIsrael.com laurie@laurieisrael.com Twitter @laurieisrael Facebook https://www.facebook.com/LaurieIsraelAuthor/ Mediate.com https://mediate.com/author/laurie-israel/ Huffington Post https://www.huffpost.com/author/lisrael-911
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast you will learn the following: The three programs Vicky has that address both managers and employees during the divorce and after: Manage Right; Plan Right, Resolve Right The special services available for specific needs of some divorcing couples, like a special needs child. The importance of testing for special needs children that must be addressed in the divorce. The Divorce Right services include Coaches, Lawyers, Therapists, Clergy, Culture Specialists, LGBTQ specialist, Immigration specialists, Career Coaches. Divorce is the number one reason women find themselves in poverty after divorce. What can a manager or business owner do to manage their own emotions during divorce. Lawyering Up can bring you down, and the pointlessness of this approach. The importance of guidance and direction from a support team to bring sanity and emotional grounding. Work performance suffers a 40% loss in productivity because of divorce. The 5 signs of divorce distraction at work: Absences, presenteeism, emotional outbursts, errors Family Transition Policy for companies to help divorcing employees. Fear of being fired forces employees to quit rather than be fired. Feeling unsupported by their companies. Can't afford affordable housing near work. Affordable child care available at work or near work. Create a company culture of Respect, Empathy, Compassion. #divorce #divorcesupportteam #careercounselors #therapist #divorcecoach #lawyer #attorney #mediator #mediation #productivity #lostproductivity #company culture #respect #empathy #compassion #immigration #culturespecialists #guidance #direction #emotionalgrounding #emotion #emotionalsupport # fear #childcare #daycare #affordablechildcare #affordabledaycare #absenteeism #presenteeism @VickyTownsend @PattyMcGuire Biography Vicky Townsend is the President and founder of Divorce Right, Inc., a professional development and employee assistance program company. Vicky is also the co-founder of the National Association of Divorce Professionals, an association for all the licensed professionals that work with clients before, during, and after divorce. www.DivorceRightInc.com Vicky@DivorceRightInc.com
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following: What it means to be Child-Centered in a Divorce Children feel a sense of responsibility in the break-up of the marriage How parents grieve the break-up of the marriage and put their children at the forefront of the divorce at the same time The importance of a support team for parents to help them go through the grieving process: Mediator, Divorce Coach, Therapist Choose lawyers who are child-centered, not aggressive attorneys, even if you have a high conflict, bullying attorney What to tell the children regarding the divorce; how to tell the children about the divorce The divorce can be a model for positive change for the children The biggest fear of children of a divorce, and how to change that fear How to reinforce hope for the children Parental Alienation: What it is, how it starts, and the long-range effects on the children Co-Parenting Schedules How to work with different parenting styles #divorce #co-parenting #child-centered #child-centereddivorce #divorcesupportteam #parenting #divorcecoach #therapist #therapy #grief #change #parentalalienation #fear #children #co-parentingschedules #parentingstyles #hope #attorneys #bullyattorneys #highconflict #disciplinarybehavior #datingafterdivorce #author #certifieddivorcecoach @RosalindSedacca @JudithWeigle Rosalind Sedacca, CDC is a Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach, recognized as The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce. She is the founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network which provides valuable resources for parents who are facing, moving through or transitioning after a divorce. She is also the author of How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children – with Love! and co-host of Divorce, Dating & Empowered Living Radio Show & Podcast. Rosalind is an expert blogger for numerous divorce, parenting and dating websites and blogs. Rosalind's books, courses and programs for divorced parents and singles starting over can be found at her websites: www.childcentereddivorce.com, www.womendatingafter40.com, www.womendatingrescue.com and www.mensdatingformula.com. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChildCenteredDivorce LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/rosalindsedacca YouTube: youtube.com/@RosalindSedacca Twitter: https://twitter.com/RosalindSedacca Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosalindsedacca/
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following: The difference in grief during and after divorce What emotions come after divorce How to determine your new persona after divorce How to get unstuck in the process of divorce and after divorce How important the grief process is in cleansing the emotions from the hurt of divorce How to consider your true purpose in life How to transfer Mom Skills to outside work A peek at Special Needs Children and the demands made on the parents The military vs. challenging marriages and obedience How to tell if you're in an abusive marriage #grief #divorcegrief #abuse #abusivemarriage #emotions #lifepurpose #complexkids #specialneedschildren #obedience #author #divorcerecoverycoach #podcast @keenacrowley @judithweigle Eykiena Crowley US Army Veteran, Divorce Recovery Coach | CEO My Thriving Life Academy Eykiena “Keena” Crowley is a Divorce Recovery Coach, International Speaker, Published Author of A Superwoman's Guide to Recovering After Divorce, and Influencer. This Combat Army Veteran and Former Social Work Therapist now uses her experience and training to lead the masses to their greatness by using their inner gifts to elevate to their blissful life. As the Chairwoman of the My Thriving Life Academy, her firm's courses, events, and results-based coaching & consulting programs empower divorced women to use their gifts to have a fulfilled life on their own terms. From her one-on-one coaching, group training events and online seminars, she helps the masses significantly shift their lives. Social Media Handles IG https://www.instagram.com/CoachingwithKeena/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/CoachingwithKeena/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@coachingwithkeena Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@coachingwithkeena LinkedIn http://www.linkedin.com/in/CoachingwithKeena Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/CoachingwithKeena/ Contact Info Email: info@iamkeenacrowley.com Free Gift: www.keenafreegift.com Complimentary Breakthrough Call: Calendly.com/eykiena
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast you will learn the following: What a High Conflict Marriage looks like What High Conflict means How a High Conflict Marriage turns into a High Conflict Divorce Flexibility, Openness and Communication are trademarks of a standard marriage Deflect and Blame are trademarks of a high conflict personality Complex marriages have one person afraid to talk and unable to freely be the person they are The decision to leave is the first big step in a high conflict marriage How to deal with the threats that come with the decision to leave the marriage Communication strategy to threats Assess the kind of attorney you need. If your spouse is a bully, don't hire a bully attorney or you'll get caught in the middle of two bullies. What divorce is really about Listening with Curiosity is the Key in having a successful settlement negotiation How the behavior of each spouse affects the response of the other spouse and outcome of a negotiation Timing is everything in the advance planning to exit the marriage and the house Support Teams are the Lifeline to High Conflict Divorces #highconflictmarriage #highconflictdivorce #mediation #divorcecoach #attorneyfees #listening #communication #supportteams #divorcesupportteams #communicationstrategy @KarenMcMahon @TheAmicableDivorceExpert #amicabledivorce Biography for Karen McMahon Karen McMahon is a Certified Relationship and Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. She began divorce coaching in 2010 after recognizing that the pain of her divorce led her on a transformational journey into a powerful and unexpected new life. Karen leads a national team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen is the host of the acclaimed Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, co-author of ‘Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility”, creator of JBD's exclusive Accelerated Divorce Recovery Program. Social Media Handles and Number of Followers LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenmcmahon/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/journeybeyonddivorce Instagram https://www.instagram.com/journey_beyond_divorce/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@journeybeyonddivo JBD Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-beyond-divorce-podcast/id1261400624
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert you will learn the following: What Conflict Communication is What “showing up” means Why the way we show up matters The elements in our communication and facial expressions that affect the other party Emotional Intelligence Relationship Management What happens in our bodies when we're in conflict and fear How to turn fear around in our bodies Tone of voice and choice of words matter Identify your triggers Go through the Emotional Divorce before Filing Mediation mistakes with Settlement Both spouses need to go through the emotions of uncoupling Address the Hurt to get to a Better Settlement Where Trust fits into the settlement negotiations and mediation The importance of pre-mediation before both spouses attend Emotional potential Depersonalize issues with the other spouse Four Communication Styles How your parental families determine future relationships #emotionalintelligence #conflictcommunication #communication #facialexpressions #relationshipmanagement #triggers #response #emotionalpotential #deepbreathing #triggers #emotionaldivorce #hurt #rejection #trust #distrust #mediation #emotionalpotential #communicationstyles #expressive #conflictavoidance #analyzer #selfawareness #family #relationships #pain #gain #conflictcoach #compassion #empathy #sympathy #warmheartedness Dr. Debra Dupree Biography Dr. Debra is a Dispute Resolution Specialist, Conflict | Leadership Coach, and International Trainer and Keynote Speaker. She hosts the podcast ‘Decoding the Conflict Mindset' to bring ‘thought leaders' from business and legal worlds to her community worldwide to gain insight when high emotions run high and tough negotiations are at stake. She also founded the virtual mentorship program “The Agile Lawyer-Mediator Interview Series” drawing upon 12 topnotch advocates and mediators. Dr. Dupree is author of Your Emotional Potential: How You Show Up Matters Dispute Resolution Specialist: Mediation & Conflict Coach | Podcast Host | International Speaker | Author LINKED IN | FACEBOOK | Instagram | YouTube Happy with my services? Help me grow my business and leave a review here: https://bit.ly/DupreeBizReview 619.433.4264
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn: Why family law professionals are being murdered Who is murdered and by who How family law professionals protect themselves Why clients need to be open about the emotional and domestic violence issues with a soon-to-be former spouse Who is responsible for the divorce remaining amicable The weapon of choice in family law professional shootings are guns, and guns need to be disclosed to your attorney Domestic violence can lead to child abduction Importance of providing updates to your attorney about violent incidences that have currently happened with your spouse Value the safety of your family law professionals #domesticviolence #violence #divorce #amicabledivorce #lawyers #attorneys #guns #gunviolence #shootings #weapons #childabduction #mentalhealth #emotions #familylaw #safety #mediators #therapists #legal #team @TracyAnnMoore-Grant @JudithWeigle Tracy Ann Moore-Grant Biography Tracy Ann Moore-Grant, Esq. is the founder of the Amicable Divorce Network, established to address a growing need to assist clients who desire to keep their divorce low conflict and to effectively connect them to professionals who are vetted for having a resolution mindset so parties can avoid unnecessary and expensive litigation. The professionals in the Amicable Divorce Network design both the timeline and team for the divorcing parties based on their needs and finances. Ms. Moore-Grant is passionate about helping families navigate the difficult process of divorce in a respectful and family-focused manner and now represents clients exclusively in amicable and uncontested cases. She is also a mediator, arbitrator, parent coordinator, divorce consultant and guardian ad litem. Ms. Moore-Grant is a registered mediator with both the Georgia Office of Dispute Resolution and 9th District ADR for both family law and domestic violence cases as a mediator and arbitrator. She is a step-mother, baker, and schnauzer lover. She is also a Board Member for Mentor Me of North Georgia, contributing writer to My Forsyth Magazine, Mock Trial Coach for Alliance Academy, and teaches Constitutional Law at Lanier Tech. She has achieved an AV Preeminent Judicial Rating from Martindale Hubble, was named a Woman of Forsyth by the Forsyth County News, and has been listed as a Top 10 Female Family Law Attorney in Georgia since 2016. Her firm, Patterson Moore Butler received a Best of Forsyth award in 2022. In 2020, Tracy Ann was personally awarded the Georgia Legal Award for Distinguished Leadership for founding the Amicable Divorce Network, recognizing its positive impact on Georgia family law and families. Ms. Moore-Grant has been a guest on many podcasts and has authored many articles on the topic of amicable divorce. info@amicabledivorcenetwork.com website: https://www.amicabledivorcenetwork.com/ facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amicabledivorcenetwork youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCzk3S9DfTsyCVxeBGyFkXw LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/81285690/admin/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amicabledivorcenetwork
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert you will learn: How to detect a Positive Lawyer How to Humanize the legal profession Why lawyers are negative and want to fight People find the lawyers who match their level of ethics Positive Psychology helps find Positive Lawyers The importance of happiness in the attitude of your lawyer Your lawyer should have a positive attitude on life to positively represent their clients How to be positive in a negative line of work, divorce The importance of gratitude for happiness Relationships are important to happiness Happiness is lived in the moment #lawyer #attorney #positivethinking #divorce #negativeemotions #well-being #gratitude #depression #happiness #shifting focus #relationships #positivityresonance #oneness #humanconnection #coaching Biography of Jordana Confino Jordana Confino is a professional coach, law school assistant dean, and professor dedicated to helping high-achieving professionals realize their own authentic vision of success and achieve greater satisfaction in their lives and work. Seven years after graduating from Yale Law School, Jordana founded JC Coaching & Consulting to advance the well-being of the legal profession and empower lawyers and other professionals to transform their lives and work for the better. Having spent the bulk of her career working as a lawyer and in legal education at elite institutions, Jordana knows that many high-achieving, successful people hold limiting beliefs that prevent them from truly flourishing. For many years, she was one of them. Jordana transformed her life leveraging the science of positive psychology and human motivation theory, and she is passionate about helping others do the same. Jordana serves as the Assistant Dean of Professionalism and an Adjunct Professor at Fordham Law School, where she oversees the school's wellness, professional identity formation, and mentorship offerings, and teaches courses on Positive Lawyering and Peer Mentoring & Leadership. She was voted Adjunct Law Professor of the Year in 2021. Jordana holds a J.D. from Yale Law School, a B.A. in Psychology from Yale University, and a Certification in Applied Positive Psychology from the New York Open Center. She is a member of the International Coaching Federation. Social Media & Website LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jordanaconfino/ Website: jordanaconfino.com/coaching Blog: jordanaconfino.com/blog For more information: jordanaconfino.com/coaching
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast this is what you will learn: How childhood relationships affect adult relationships Repeating the relationship of our parents is normal The importance of communicating your needs in your marriage How blame disables forward movement How to leave the blame cycle Relationship deal breakers How forgiveness allows forward movement Blame causes parental alienation and unhealthy future relationships Co-parenting while divorcing Domestic violence police calls Couples coaching Mediation solutions through individual discussions How to react when a divorce has been requested How to make divorce a new beginning Dating after divorce and introductions to children #forensicpsychologist #transformationalcoach #childhoodtrauma #caregivers #nofaultdivorce #affection #love #communication #compassion #understanding #children #co-parenting #step-father #step-children #blame #blamecycle #delusion #change #therapy #mediation #parentalalienation #forgiveness #humility #selfless #divorce #coaching #couplescoaching #mediator #mediation #divorce #breathe #court #dating Dr. Loretta Billoups Biography Dr. Loretta Billoups is a clinician in the state of California. She Dr. Loretta Billoups is a clinician in the state of California. She obtained a Master's degree in Forensic Psychology from Argosy University and received her doctorate in Applied Clinical Psychology from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology. She was previously a Deputy Sheriff with the Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department for close to twelve years. It is her life experience, education, and career choices that has led her to become both a clinician and transformational coach. Dr. Billoups has been trained in many modalities and due to this, she has treated depression, anxiety, many variations of trauma, and a host of other mental disorders. She has worked with children, adolescents, adults, and the geriatric population. She also enjoys assisting individuals in reaching their true capacity, maximizing their potential, and reaching their goals. She holds her clients accountable so that their deepest desires and aspirations are now a reality. www.cultivatingyourlife.com #potential with #relationship & #mental #health #coach #DrLoretttaBilloups https://lnkd.in/dedqt7Mc
On THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast you will learn the following: What is happiness? Is Happiness defined in the same way by everyone? Is it possible to be happy during a divorce? Is Happiness a choice or a state of being that we can't do anything about? How self-care is a part of being happy How you know what really makes you happy The signs of a committed relationship How long-distance relationships work or fail Authenticity of self-expression and happiness Why Happiness and Blame cannot live together #happiness #joy #relationships #commitment #fantasy #author #self-care #longdistancerelationships #blame #self-expression #authenticity #divorce #HappinessHandbooks #podcast #amicabledivorce #THEAmicableDivorceExpert @La-VerneParris @JudithWeigle LA-VERNE PARRIS Biography La-Verne Parris, JD, MSc, MEd is a featured author in the health and happiness bestseller, The Wellness Code; and author of the new, humorous and transformational 6-books-in-1 series for women, the Happiness Handbooks (she even illustrated her own book cover!). An award-winning environmental justice/bioethics/science educator, certified life coach, and self-taught author/illustrator, La-Verne enjoys teaching women how to step firmly into their birth-given talents and power. La-Verne was born in sunny, laid-back Jamaica, but has been a consummate New Yorker on-the-go for most of her trips around the sun. She lives in Mount Vernon, New York with her twin sister and entire family, and loves people-watching and exploring new spots in the world via that last-minute cheap flight. Visit laverneparrislifecoach.com and follow her on social for inspo, laughs, and to contact her; and visit HappinessHeaven.com (site coming soon) for her slogan merch line, designed to help you declare your unbothered right to be happy! Follow La-Verne Instagram: @lifecoachlaverne Twitter: @LaVerne63 Facebook: @LaVerneParrisLifeCoach Website: laverneparrislifecoach.com LA-VERNE J. PARRIS Certified Life Coach J.D., M.Sc., M.Sc. 917-705-5829
On THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, I interview Tami Wollensak, CDLP® NMLS #1963450. This is what you will learn: Be realistic about keeping and/or refinancing the house The relationship between mortgage lending for a refinance of the house in a divorce, and the legal side of the divorce How should a settlement agreement be written so that a divorced spouse can refinance the house once the divorce is final What it means financially to refinance and keep the house What happens if the lower earning spouse who is still living in the house can't meet the mortgage payment The tragedy of leaving Title while still on the mortgage What a Due-On-Sale action is based on a Change in Title Mortgage lender bases their decision to lend on There is a difference between family court versus the mortgage industry rules for responsibility How to change Title of the house if both spouses decide to keep the house jointly Qualifications for one spouse to refinance the house in a divorce How does self-employment effect refinancing the house Timing requirements of child and spousal support to refinance the house Know all your options when negotiating the house in a divorce settlement Make the house a financial decision, not an emotional one #mortgage #refinancing #childsupport #alimony #spousalsupport #divorce #Title #jointTitle #tenantsincommon #mortgagelender #home #house #divorcesettlement #DueOnSale #ChangeinTitle #emotion #self-employment #financialinsecurity #children #coparenting #parents #coparents #certifieddivorcelendingprofessional #freeconsultation #equalcreditopportunityact #mortgage #amicabledivorce Biography Tami Wollensak is a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP™) and Senior Mortgage Loan Originator for Oak Leaf Community Mortgage, a Division of Mutual Federal Bank. Tami has worked in the mortgage industry for more than 25 years and is licensed to lend in 46 states. Specializing in Divorce Mortgage Planning, Tami takes a holistic approach to the process of evaluating mortgage options in the context of the overall financial objectives as they relate to divorcing situations prior to settlement for the best outcome. To learn more, visit www.TakeOrLeaveTheHouse.com. Tami Wollensak, CDLP® Sr. Mortgage Loan Originator Certified Divorce Lending Professional NMLS #1963450 (708) 359-2070 TamiW@MyOakLeaf.com Website Request a meeting Tami Wollensak, CDLP®, Sr. Mortgage Loan Originator, Certified Divorce Lending Professional Oak Leaf Community Mortgage. NMLS ID: 1963450. Equal Housing Lender. Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation.
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