Podcasts about mediators beyond borders

Aging Sucks: Unless You Cross the Bridge by Dr. Barbara G. MelamedDr. Barbara Melamed is 80 years of age and marveling at getting smarter and happier every day. Her book Aging Sucks…Unless you Cross the BRIDGE is her fourth major book. It invites you the readers to do self-care for yourselves, your parents, other relatives and tells their children how to preserve their Legacies. Dr. Barbara Melamed is a Clinical Affiliate Professor at the University of Hawaii's Department of Psychology. She has also held professional positions at numerous universities including, University of Florida, Max Planck Institute for Psychiatry and Tubingen University. She served as Dean at Albert Einstein College of Medicine. Numerous international conferences have extended invitations to her. She is also on the Editorial Boards of journals including the Australasia Medical Journal, The International Journal of Legal and Ethical Issues and the International Journal of Human Resilience and Mental Health.A noted therapist and researcher with decades of experience in clinical and health psychology.  In the area of Again, Dr. Melamed was awarded the Biogenesis Health Cluster Award for her research and studies in aging by the Gerontological Society of America.Dr. Melamed is the author of POW: Peace Over War: Using Mediation and Conflict Resolution to Reconcile International and Local Disputes.  A compelling exploration of how mediation can address and resolve some of the world's most challenging conflicts based on her own activism in the Gandhi International Institute of Peace and Mediators Beyond Borders.https://www.peaceendswar.com/https://drmelamed.net/https://www.peaceendswar.com/single-projectwww.amazon.com    http://www.bluefunkbroadcasting.com/root/twia/121924dbmamg.mp3    

Imagine a world where a simple circle can create a profound sense of belonging, shift confrontational conversations to collaborative explorations, and emphasize connection and inclusion. That world exists today in Peace Circles. Because of the work of Black Women for Positive Change, and other groups such as the Listen First Coalition, Braver Angels and Living Room Conversations, dialogue circles are happening across our nation and around the world. Enjoy “Co-creating Peace in Circles”, Episode #125 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast about conscious communication and conflict transformation.  Today, I'm visiting with Renata Valree and Kim Best from Black Women for Positive Change to talk about Peace Circles – an initiative focused on youth to give them opportunities to come together in a safe environment to share their experiences and feelings about this troubled world they've inherited. Highlights you won‘t want to miss include:Confidentiality and non-judgmentalism promote safety when we speak about what's important to us More than ever, today's Youth need empowerment A primary responsibility of every adult is to teach children how to be by modeling that for themRenata Valree is an Assoc. Professor at CA State University Dominguez Hills where she teaches in the Negotiation, Conflict Resolution, and Peace-building graduate studies program. Renata has a Masters in Negotiation and Conflict Resolution. She serves as E.D. of the Peace in Education Community Mediation Center, is a member of the leadership team for the Assoc. for Conflict Resolution, and is the former Dir. of the Office of the LA City Attorney's Dispute Resolution Program. Kimberly Best, RN, MA, is a Civil Mediator, Family Mediator & owner of Best Conflict Solutions, LLC, specializing in mediation and conflict resolution. She is President/Chair of the TN Assoc. of Professional Mediators and a volunteer Senior Mediator with the LA City Attorney's office Community Police Unification Program. Kim is also a facilitator, restorative practices practitioner, trainer in dispute resolution processes, and a member of Mediators Beyond Borders, Int. Kim is committed to advancing dispute resolution practices for improving communication and finding optimal solutions for all parties.Join the 12th annual Month of Non-Violence initiative during October. Visit blackwomenforpositivechange.org and click the Month of Non-violence tab to learn more and be a part of this wonderful experience! Sign-Up: https://monthofnonviolence.org/2023-month-of-non-violence-sign-up/Contact Renata Valree at: rvalree@csudh.edu Contact Kim Best at: Kim@bestconflictsolutions.comPlease support Co-creating Peace: Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to talk about your communication or conflict resolution challenges and receive free communication coaching Share on social media & tell the world about Co-creating Peace! Become a patron at www.patreon.com/CocreatingPeace Visit BridgesofPeace.com to learn more about Kathleen and her work.

POW: Peace Over War: Using Mediation and Conflict Resolution to Reconcile International and Local Disputes by Barbara Melamed, Ph. DBased on her own activism in the Gandhi International Institute of Peace and Mediators Beyond Borders this book applied her Harvard Law School Negotiation Principles of Mediation to 9/11, Kent State University killings, Croatia-Bosnia, Cambodia, Immigration and orphan issues and todays Racial, Ethnic and Socioeconomic Class injustices. PTSD and moral guilt in soldiers is addressed through her own clinical work and review of scientific journals. The use of mindfulness, meditation and spirituality in their own clinical or legal work are used throughout as ways of helping individuals cope with traumatic experiences for others, while keeping their own sense of balance a priority.Dr. Barbara Melamed her work as a Mediator Beyond Borders International, and participation in Rotary International and for the Intensive Training Institute of Women Peacemakers in Jakarta and Bali Indonesia is a continuation of her volunteerism in countries during conflicts which people/families are at risk for PTSD. As Founder and Director of Behavior Medicine Associates for over 20 years as a Board Certified Clinical Health Psychologist she earned an University of Hawaii Matsunaga Institute of Peace & Conflict Education. She achieved in 2019 Harvard Law School's Program on Negotiation Master Executive Mediator. She actively mediates struggles between indigenous peoples and political forces. She has funded research from NIH, NIMH, Cleveland Foundation and Arthritis Foundation for research in anxiety, trauma and health. Her book on Behavioral Medicine received the 4th Best Book Award from Behavioral Science Books. She also co-edited a book on Child Health Psychology and family issues. She was former Director of Training at Tripler Army Medical Center, Hawaii's foremost military hospital and worked with the V.A.'s programs during Vietnam, Iraq, Afghanistan and devotes volunteer work with our returning warriors and their families. She was editor of Health Psychology and currently serves on many journals including European Journal of Psychology & Psychiatry. She presented at NATO in Turkey and gave the invited address at the International Congress on Aging in Bengalura, India. Currently is a Clinical Affiliate Professor at the University of Hawaii and former Adjunct Professor at John A. Burns College of Medicine and supervises healthcare workers, faculty and students during the COVID epidemic.https://drmelamed.net/https://www.amazon.com/POW-Mediation-Resolution-Reconcile-International/dp/1959182110/https://www.healthpsychologyhonolulu.com/http://www.bluefunkbroadcasting.com/root/twia/71323ec1.mp3   

How do you handle conflict in order to prevent going to court?Kimberly Best, RN, MA, is a Tennessee Rule 31 Listed Civil Mediator and Tennessee Rule 31 Trained Family Mediator, owner of Best Conflict Solutions, LLC. Her practice focuses on Family Mediation, Health, and Elder Care Mediation, Civil and Business Mediation, and personal and organizational Conflict Coaching and Conflict Consulting. Kimberly is passionate about helping others resolve conflicts in a productive, non-litigious way using mediation, facilitation and collaborative problem solving to find optimal solutions for all parties. She is a speaker and trainer on conflict management, dispute resolution processes, life transitions, and how to make difficult decisions - including end of life issues. She is also a volunteer mediator with the Los Angeles City Attorney's Office, Dispute Resolution Program and Community/Police Unification Program.She is a working member of the Association of Conflict Resolution Elder Mediation Professional Development Group as well as a working member of Mediators Beyond Borders, International, and a member of the American Bar Association Dispute Resolution membership committee. Key Points And Time Stamps:[00:03:29] - how childhood affects how we handle conflict[00:04:51] - family conflict and disagreements during the pandemic[00:05:43] - what exactly boundaries are[00:07:40] - how we feel physically ‘threatened' during a disagreement[00:10:12] - how to communicate different viewpoints without feeling threatened[00:12:37] - how attorney meditators handle conflict during a divorce[00:16:01] - the biology of conflict[)0;18:18] - how mediation prevents potential lawsuits[00:20:19] - mediation work between the LAPD and communities in Los Angeles[00:24:49] - how to get involved in your community and mediate local conflicts[00:26:54] - how storytelling builds bridges and creates understanding[00:29:11] - how to understand and have empathy for those who hurt you[00:31:07] - how to handle workplace conflict[00:33:49] - why ask questions before jumping to conclusionsConnect with Kimberly:Website: https://www.bestconflictsolutions.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlybestmediator/Additional Resources:"How to Live Forever, A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story" by Kimberly Best"Police 2 Peace" work by Kimberly BestJoin local organizations "Effective Conflict Resolution Techniques And Strategies" w/ Kristine ScottConnect with me:roberta4sk@gmail.comKindly subscribe to our podcast.Leave a rating and a review for the Podcast:iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mediation-to-prevent-lawsuits-w-kimberly-best/id1614151066?i=1000615151077Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/347DBhfsDxXE9v18O9v0D5YouTube: https://youtu.be/XC3ZSFCufT4

Kimberly Best, RN, MA, is a Civil and Family Mediator. Her practice focuses on Family Mediation, Health and Elder Care Mediation, Civil and Business Mediation, and Conflict Coaching. She is a working member of the Association of Conflict Resolution Elder Mediation Professional Development Group as well as a working member of Mediators Beyond Borders, International, and a member of the American Bar Association Dispute Resolution development committee. She is passionate about helping others resolve conflicts by using mediation, facilitation and collaborative problem solving to find optimal solutions for all parties. Kim is the author of “How to Live Forever, A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story."

More and more, we are a connected world.  So when it comes to intercultural communication...Is it what you say? Or how you say it? Or both? In this episode, Veronica talks with Lynn Cole--founder and CEO of BRDGES Academy--about intercultural communication and why mediators need this skill. Episode highlights include: How culture is defined. A discussion of how culture influences communication and "communication norms" in various cultures. How mediators can learn cultural aspects before a mediation. Lynn's prior experience in speaking to the United Nations about mediation as an effective global conflict resolution tool. And more! About Lynn Cole:   Lynn Cole is President of the Law Offices of Lynn Cole, LLC. She also is the founder and CEO of BRDGES Academy (Building Resolutions for Disputes Globally with E-learning Strategies) where the global focus is on developing core intercultural competencies for conflict resolution practitioners worldwide. Having previously served as both a federal and state trial attorney, Ms. Cole has been a full-time mediator and mediation trainer who is Harvard and Florida trained in mediation. She is mediation certified in Florida (Circuit Civil) and is an interculturally designated and certified neutral for the International Mediation Institute ("IMI") in The Hague.  Ms. Cole served as a USAID Mediation/ADR Specialist for over 10 years designing Court-Related Mediation Programs in Bulgaria, Kosovo, Jordan, and Sri Lanka.  For over three years and until March 1, 2014, she served as the President and Chair of the Board of Directors for Mediators Beyond Borders, International and still serves on the board. In May 2011, she spoke to the United Nations about mediation as an effective global conflict resolution tool within global communities. She is a recognized author on the explosive global growth of international mediation. She has lectured and trained extensively internationally in Commercial Mediation; Ethics; Basic and Advanced Mediation; and, Community Mediation, and has taught mediation courses domestically and internationally for students in Universities and Law Schools worldwide, and formerly as an Adjunct Professor at Stetson College of Law. Over the last 17 years, she has conducted in-person mediation training for judges, attorneys and mediators from Canada, Jordan, Oman, Lebanon, Saudi Arabia, Iraq, Slovenia, Romania, Bulgaria, Serbia, Croatia, Albania, Montenegro, Bosnia/Herzegovina, Greece, Tunisia, Cypress, Kosovo, Turkey, Indonesia, and Sri Lanka. She has a full-time, private mediation practice in Florida and is listed with the U.S. Court for the Middle District of Florida and 13th Judicial Circuit as an Arbitrator and Mediator. She successfully has mediated and arbitrated many hundreds of court and pre-litigation cases in labor and employment and all types of contract and commercial cases. She is an invited member of select international organizations as an invited neutral, including the American Arbitration Association, the International Chamber of Commerce, the World Intellectual Property Organization (WIPO) and the National Academy of Distinguished Neutrals, “NADN.”   She formerly has served as an Adjunct Professor and serves on the Faculty of BRDGES Academy teaching Intercultural Communications and Cultural Dimensions.   Email: lhc@brdgesacademy.com BRDGES Academy website: https://brdgesacademy.com/  

These are some poems that reflect on our pandemic experience.The original poems can be found at Mediators Beyond Borders here:https://mediatorsbeyondborders.org/pandemic-poetry-calming-words-in-the-midst-of-chaos/--Listen on:* SPOTIFY* APPLE PODCASTS* GOOGLE PODCASTS--Want to connect with the changing world in English?Join a free trial English class online or in Motomachi to expand your:* CREATIVE THINKING* GLOBAL AWARENESS* CROSS-CULTURAL COMMUNICATION(Advanced and intermediate only)

Once again Radio Rotary reports from the annual Rotary Convention, this year in Houston, TX, where Dave and Kathy Kruger interviewed representatives of organizations that work with Rotary to make a difference in the world. Stephen Popper, president and CEO of Meals of Hope, tells about how that organization partners with Rotary clubs to pack five different nutritious meals for food pantries to disperse. Razia Jan relates the story of how she, as an Afghan native living in Massachusetts, came to found two free schools to educated girls and women in Afghanistan, still thriving despite the Taliban government. Gemma Sisia used her Rotary connections to found the School of St. Jude, which educates nearly 2,000 impoverished Africans annually as well as supplying volunteer teachers for Tanzanian government school. President and CEO of Mediators Beyond Borders, Prabha Sankaranarayan leads Mediators Beyond Borders International, an official Service Partner of Rotary International that has been working for peace since 1910. The fifteen international Service Partner—organizations such as ShelterBox and Habitat for Humanity—work closely with Rotary but also maintain separate chartable operations. Learn more: Houston Rotary Convention: https://convention.rotary.org/en/houston Meals of Hope: https://mealsofhope.org/ Razia's Ray of Hope: https://raziasrayofhope.org/ School of St. Jude: https://www.schoolofstjude.org/ Mediators Beyond Boarders International: https://mediatorsbeyondborders.org/ Service Partners of Rotary International: https://my.rotary.org/en/learning-reference/about-rotary/partners CATEGORIES Education International Programs Nutrition Peace Rotary International Service Organizations Women WORDS TO LINK: Women's Education, Food Programs, Mediation, Africa, Afghanistan, Schools --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/radiorotary/support

Lorelei Higgins is the Community Lead for the Anti-Racism work with the City of Calgary and consults on Indigenous relations matters. She also has experience working as a Cultural Mediator, Rotary Peace Fellow, and Positive Peace Activator. As a Métis Canadian, Lorelei comes by her peace-building roots naturally. She has led conflict transformation projects globally, with a focus on Indigenous human rights. Lorelei is also Mrs. Canada Globe 2021 and will be one of the longest-serving Mrs. Canada's to date, with 18 months by the time she crowns the next one.  In this podcast episode, Lorelei starts off by speaking about her formative years growing up in Canada and what inspired her to become an empowering woman and leader. She then talks about why she is so passionate about peacebuilding and what the word means to her. Lorelei then gives advice on how someone can become a change-make and peacebuilder to successfully build peace in their community. Also, she explains how peace conversations can be a way of increasing connectors and decreasing dividers in any community. Lorelei has participated in many prestigious national leadership programs and has worked with many leaders. She then shares her opinion on what separates a good leader from a great leader. Lorelei has won Mrs. Canada Globe 2021 competition, a pageant for Ms./Mrs. Women who are married, separated, divorced or widowed. It also raises money for a charity addressing women's empowerment. Lorelei shares what it meant for her to win. She also explains what it means to win as a Métis woman from Canada. Lorelei is married and a mother of two kids. She provides advice for aspiring young mothers to have a work/family life balance. Lastly, Lorelei provides her definition of greatness and what it means to her. __ Host: Ben Mumme Twitter: https://twitter.com/mumme_ben Medium: https://benjaminmumme.medium.com/ YouTube: https://bit.ly/3fAcFrt Newsletter: https://bit.ly/3DBkSWv Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livingyourgreatness/ __ Guest: Lorelei Higgins Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrscanadaglobe2021/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lorelei-higgins-mba-944b2614/  Mediators Beyond Borders: https://mediatorsbeyondborders.org/   Rotary International: https://www.rotary.org/en  __ Let's Connect

Veteran mediator Ken Cloke joins us in exploring…   The relationship between academic qualifications and the heart, Processing information: physically, mentally, emotionally, and through the "heart", What happens when we're in conflict: physically and mentally, The 5 outcomes of conflict resolution, What can we do with conflict that is already part of history, knowing we can't change the past, What's the difference between a domestic spat and a civil war? A 5-step forgiveness process, Mediators Beyond Borders, How to set up a dialogue between dramatically opposing factions? What requests are hidden in the stories we tell about each other?   ... and much more!   Some references from the interview: Ken Cloke: https://www.kencloke.com/ Mediators Beyond Borders: https://mediatorsbeyondborders.org/ Combatants for Peace: https://cfpeace.org/ Ken's recent book: https://www.amazon.com/Politics-Dialogue-Evolution-Democracy-Immigration/dp/0991114892  

Episode HighlightsResolving relationship conflictKnowing personal negotiables and non-negotiablesCore non-negotiables should not miss dignity, respect, and having your ideaPracticing respect and being open-minded while conducting difficult conversationsUnderstanding cultural differences respectfully and building a rapport by asking genuine questionsCurious question samples that will help you flourish relationshipsHow is social media helping or damaging us from having in-person difficult conversationsCore skills on building relationshipsHow growing your emotional intelligence will help you build better relationshipsThe importance of learning mediation skillsHandling the mediation tableThe mental process of a mediator that needs to stay calm and collectedNegotiating your own biasesFacing your own biasesRelationship with self and othersHaving deep and meaningful conversations with your partnerType of questions to askKenneth Cloke is Director of the Center for Dispute Resolution and a mediator, arbitrator, facilitator, coach, consultant and trainer, specializing in communication, negotiation, and resolving complex multi-party disputes, including marital, divorce, family, community, grievance and workplace disputes, collective bargaining negotiations, organizational and school conflicts, sexual harassment, discrimination, and public policy disputes; and designing preventative conflict resolution systems. His university teaching includes mediation, law, history, political science, conflict studies, urban studies, and other topics at several colleges and universities. He is or has recently been an Adjunct Professor at Pepperdine University School of Law; Southern Methodist University; USC, Global Negotiation Insight Institute at Harvard Law School and Omega Institute; Albert Einstein College of Medicine, Cape Cod Institute; University of Amsterdam ADR Institute; Saybrook University; Massey University (New Zealand). He has done conflict resolution work in Armenia, Australia, Austria, Bahamas, Brazil, Canada, China, Cuba, Denmark, England, Georgia, Greece, India, Ireland, Japan, Mexico, Netherlands, New Zealand, Nicaragua, Pakistan, Puerto Rico, Scotland, Slovenia, Spain, Thailand, Turkey, Ukraine, USSR, and Zimbabwe. He is founder and first President of Mediators Beyond Borders.To learn more about Ken visit www.kencloke.com or connect with him on LinkedIn HERE. RM PODCAST FLlinktr.ee/rmpodcastflWeb: www.connectwithromina.comInsta: @rmpodcastflFacebook: RM Podcast FL 

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Barbara Phillips, a 85-year old former bison/buffalo rancher shares her wisdom about what the buffalo and healthy soils have to teach us about a restorative economy of well-being. Barbara, who lives in Edmonton, discussed a wide range of topics from her experience as a buffalo rancher in Oregon, regenerative agriculture, mediation and circle dialogue facilitation. Barbara shares some excellent tips on advancing an economy of well-being. Barbara is a skilled and highly experienced mediator, trainer, facilitator, speaker and coach. She has worked with groups as diverse as ministerial levels of government and top executives of U.S. Fortune 50 companies as well as social services professionals, blue-collar line staff, engineers, lawyers, street people, caregivers and artists, among others. Her shortcuts help people process complex emotions so as to foster healthy relationships and to remove barriers to functionality. She has 25 years' of experience in mediation and facilitation with emphasis on both sensitive issues as well as the complex, technical and highly polarized She has been an Adjunct Faculty at University of Santa Clara Law School, Golden Gate University Law School, Erickson College, Alberta Arbitration and Mediation Society Edmonton, and the Justice Institute's Conflict Resolution Program and faculty / coach for the TLC Caregivers School in Edmonton Barbara invites clients to think and see in new ways while providing effective, immediately usable new skills. Kenneth Cloke the founder and former president of Mediators Beyond Borders has this to say about Barbara: "Barbara Phillips is brilliant. She is incredibly insightful – not simply in spotting surface issues, or even those that lie hidden beneath the surface – but in rooting out the deeply subconscious, artfully camouflaged, deliberately locked away issues that are key to transformational outcomes. She is gentle, kind, intelligent and articulate, and possesses uncanny accuracy and limitless courage. She has had a profound impact on thousands. May you be fortunate enough to be one of them.“ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mark-anielski/message

Kenneth Cloke talks about how the language we use, the stories we tell, and how we approach our conflicts often have the outcome of making them worse and destroying our relationships. He talks about how to avoid using certain verbiage, so that our partners aren’t triggered to counter-attack. Listen in to our conversation where Ken talks about creating a pivot point in your conversation and having a better outcome and solution with the relational conversation that includes both members of a partnership. Kenneth Cloke has devoted much of his career to supporting people in the various negotiation conflict areas and resolving conflict. After a brutal divorce experience and reflection of how he could have handled his personal situation better, Ken was inspired to help others move through their conflict and teach how we can learn and use our own tools to avoid conflict before it starts. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.)   Bio:  Kenneth Cloke is a mediator, arbitrator, coach, consultant, and trainer, specializing in resolving complex multi-party disputes, including transnational, marital, divorce, family, grievance, workplace disputes, organizational, and public policy, and school conflicts, and designing preventative conflict resolution systems. He has worked in over 25 countries and is the founder and first President of Mediators Beyond Borders. He has published 15 books on conflict resolution, recently The Crossroads of Conflict and Politics, Dialogue, and the Evolution of Democracy. In this episode, Kenneth Cloke and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  How to see conflicts differently, as well as how to recognize the source of most of our conflicts.  The importance of looking at the language we use, the stories we tell and the approaches we use that either bring resolution or communication break-down. Identifying the specific words that lead to conflict and destructive cycles in relationship. Learn new language and new questions to ask that create understanding, clear communication and productive outcomes in relationship.  What are the questions we are asking ourselves in every interaction to gauge how safe we are in the relationship. What makes someone an ally versus a threat in relationship. How vulnerable we are within our intimate relationships, what is at stake and and the risks involved.  Learn ways to generate solutions, strengthen relationships and deepen intimacy in communication.  Tweetables “I became interested in how to introduce conversations and design them that would help people actually talk through their problems with each other.” Kenneth Cloke   “Over the course of the past 40 years I’ve been immersed in working with people to get to places in which they see their conflicts completely differently.” Kenneth Cloke   “The language we use, the stories we tell and the way we approach our conflicts often has the outcome of making them worse and destroying our relationships.” Kenneth Cloke   “If you use the word ‘you’ in connection with something negative, the form of that pronoun is an accusation.” Kenneth Cloke   “Relationships are at stake in every conversation.” Kenneth Cloke Mentioned: The Crossroads of Conflict: A Journey into the Heart of Dispute Resolution by Kenneth Cloke The Dance of Opposites: Explorations in Mediation, Dialogue and Conflict Resolution Systems by Kenneth Cloke Shifting Criticism into Connected Communication – Free Guide Find a mediator online    Connect with Kenneth Cloke   Visit Kenneth on the web   Pick up one of Kenneth’s relationship books   Find out more about Kenneth’s trainings he offers   Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

Kenneth Cloke is a mediator, arbitrator, coach, consultant, and trainer specializing in communication, collaborative negotiation, dialogue, resolving disputes and designing preventative conflict resolution systems. He has done conflict resolution work in over 20 countries, published 15 books on conflict resolution, and was the founder and first President of Mediators Beyond Borders.  What drives his work is a deep belief that together we can create a global community in which conflicts become sources of learning, evolution, transcendence, and celebration. This is why he proposes a Conflict Revolution, a systemic shift away from power-and rights-based approaches to conflict, toward collaborative, interest-based, win-win solutions that allow us to recognize and reconcile our deepest desires and aspirations.  

Welcome back to the 45th episode of the Hard Thing Podcast. Before we get to the show go to  https://mailchi.mp/5e94a17af33d/thehardthingpodcast (https://mailchi.mp/5e94a17af33d/thehardthingpodcast)  To give me feedback. Today, I talked with Ken Cloke, founder of https://mediatorsbeyondborders.org/ (Mediators Beyond Borders). You can also check out his https://www.kencloke.com/ (website). Ken is a world recognized mediator, conflict resolution specialist, and has written books and articles on the subject. Today, our conversation takes us back to the Civil Rights movement.  We also spend some time today talking about how to prevent divorce. We spend a good deal of time talking about how to deal with conflict. I think today's episode is important because we can all learn how to better deal with conflict and how to resolve it. Ken shares practical tips for creating dialogue, especially with a party with whom you feel you don't share much. Ken also left som action items for you to do today: Listen in a committed way Get curious about your responses  Find triggers and take charge of them It was a great show and I hope that above all, you take a commitment to dialogue and resolve conflict with those around you from today's episode. *** Support the Show:  One Mission Nutrition (10% Discount): http://allegiance.1missionnutrition.com/thehardthingpodcast (http://allegiance.1missionnutrition.com/thehardthingpodcast) Audible (Free Audiobook): http://audibletrial.com/thehardthingpodcast (audibletrial.com/thehardthingpodcast)  Help us donate $1,000 to http://ourrescue.org/ (Operation Underground Railroad): https://www.gofundme.com/f/overcoming-average (https://www.gofundme.com/f/overcoming-average) ** Thank you so much for listening to the podcast. To support the show:  1. Share the podcast with one person who could really use it.  2. Reach out to me onhttps://www.facebook.com/theHardThingPodcast/ ( Facebook) and https://www.instagram.com/thehardthingpodcast/ (Instagram). Let me know how the podcast is going.  3. Leave a rating and a review.  4. Subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss any episode. We are on Google Play, Apple Podcasts and Spotify.  5.Check out the https://thehardthingpodcast.com/blog/ (blog).  6. Buy one of our Shirts or Hoodies https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-hard-thing-podcast-store/ (https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-hard-thing-podcast-store/) Again thanks so much for listening, and stay tuned to next week. Keep doing Hard Things, and Keep Overcoming Average. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podcorn - https://podcorn.com/privacy

Kenneth Cloke is Director of the Center for Dispute Resolution and a mediator, arbitrator, facilitator, coach, consultant and trainer, specializing in communication, negotiation, and resolving complex multi-party disputes, including marital, divorce, family, community, grievance and workplace disputes, collective bargaining negotiations, organizational and school conflicts, sexual harassment, discrimination, and public policy disputes; and designing preventative conflict resolution systems. His facilitation, coaching, consulting, and training practice includes work with leaders of public, private and non-profit organizations on effective communications, dialogue, collaborative negotiation, relationship and team building, conflict resolution, leadership development, strategic planning, designing systems, and organizational change. He is an internationally recognized speaker and author of Mediation: Revenge and the Magic of Forgiveness; Mediating Dangerously: The Frontiers of Conflict Resolution; The Crossroads of Conflict: A Journey into the Heart of Dispute Resolution; Conflict Revolution (1s and-2nd Editions); and The Dance of Opposites: Explorations in Mediation, Dialogue and Conflict Resolution Systems Design; Politics, Dialogue and the Evolution of Democracy; Words of Wisdom; and co-author with Joan Goldsmith of Thank God It's Monday! 14 Values We Need to Humanize the Way We Work; Resolving Personal and Organizational Conflict; The End of Management and the Rise of Organizational Democracy; The Art of Waking People Up: Cultivating Awareness and Authenticity at Work; and Resolving Conflicts At Work: Ten Strategies For Everyone On The Job (1st-3rd Editions). His university teaching includes mediation, law, history, political science, conflict studies, urban studies, and other topics at several colleges and universities. He is or has recently been an Adjunct Professor at Pepperdine University School of Law; Southern Methodist University; USC, Global Negotiation Insight Institute at Harvard Law School and Omega Institute; Albert Einstein College of Medicine, Cape Cod Institute; University of Amsterdam ADR Institute; Saybrook University; Massey University (New Zealand). He has done conflict resolution work in Armenia, Australia, Austria, Bahamas, Brazil, Canada, China, Cuba, Denmark, England, Georgia, Greece, India, Ireland, Japan, Mexico, Netherlands, New Zealand, Nicaragua, Pakistan, Puerto Rico, Scotland, Slovenia, Spain, Thailand, Turkey, Ukraine, USSR, and Zimbabwe. He is founder and first President of Mediators Beyond Borders. He served as an Administrative Law Judge for the California Agricultural Labor Relations Board and the Public Employment Relations Board, a Factfinder for the Public Employment Relations Board, and a Judge Pro Tem for the Superior Court of Los Angeles. He has been an Arbitrator and Mediator for over forty years in labor management disputes, and is a member of a number of arbitration panels. He received his B.A. from the University of California, Berkeley; J.D. from U.C. Berkeley's Boalt Law School; Ph.D. from U.C.L.A.; LLM from U.C.L.A. Law School; and did post-doctoral work at Yale University School of Law. He is a graduate of the National Judicial College and has taken graduate level courses in a variety of subjects.

Charlie Pillsbury discusses the vision and work of Mediators Beyond Borders and his path to involvement with the organization. We hear first how Charlie came to the conflict and dispute resolution arena and then to MBBI. Charlie is currently MBBI’s Treasurer (in addition to his other work outside MBBI).The vision of MBBI is “Building a more peace ‘able’ world”. And its mission states that “MBBI builds local skills for peace and promotes mediation worldwide.” You can learn more about MBBI at https://mediatorsbeyondborders.org/. You can reach Charlie Pillsbury at Charles.Pillsbury@quinnipiac.edu or 203-582-8145.Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/.Enjoy the show on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/

The annual Rotary Day at the United Nations each year brings together some 1,500 Rotarians along with various youth groups and representatives of humanitarian organizations who work with Rotarians. For this program, RadioRotary interviewed Mitch Kahn from ShelterBox; Rotarian Steve Goldsmith (Hawthorne LAX Lennox Rotary) and Prabha Sankaranarayan from Mediators Beyond Borders; and Rotarian-wannabe Anna Abraham representing The Gift of Life, Inc. ShelterBox, whose emphasis is disaster relief, is now a Rotary Project Partner. When Mediators Beyond Boarders looked at their members, who work for peace between individuals, tribes, and nations, they discovered that a quarter of its membership is Rotarians. The Gift of Life, which specialized in providing pediatric cardiac care to children in places where such help is scarce, frequently partners with Rotary clubs or districts in their work. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/radiorotary/support

This series of interviews from the RI Convention in Sydney begins with the young—two Youth Exchange students who are having the adventure of their lives as they spend a year in Australia, away from homes in Finland and Denmark. Then we learn about the versatile Backpack Bed, which becomes a fireproof mattress with screens and a hidden, lockable pocket; these are distributed to homeless people who would otherwise sleep on concrete or the ground. Lynne Aldridge represents Mediators Beyond Borders, an organization that uses mediation to resolve international disputes and bring peace. Celeste Mergens describes Days for Girls, an international intervention she founded that provides washable hygiene produces for female teenagers and adults in Third World settings. Although Dolly Parton was not at the Convention, her Imagination Library—free books for children from birth to age five—was represented. Finally RadioRotary co-host Jonah Triebwasser talks to incoming Rotary International President --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/radiorotary/support

Join hosts Radhika Iyer and Melanie Vann for an interview with Prabha Sankaranarayan, the President and CEO of Mediators Beyond Borders, www.mediatorsbeyondborders.org, an international non-governmental organization whose mission is to build local skills for peace and promote mediation worldwide.A conflict transformation practitioner who has mediated, facilitated and trained in Europe, Asia, Africa and the USA, her public and private sector work includes conflict analysis for public/private partnerships, consultation & assessment for industrial development zones, design and implementation of trainings for multinational corporations; inter faith dialogues as well as facilitation of multi-stakeholder mediations. Prabha is actively involved in regional, national and international civic activities focused on civil liberties, sexual violence prevention, conflict mitigation & mediation and the recovery & rehabilitation of trauma survivors. She is an Adjunct Professor at Washington and Jefferson College. She trains and delivers presentations (nationally and internationally) on the impact of family and community violence, the intersection of trauma and peacebuilding, restorative justice, conflict resolution, mediation and transitional justice.

Ken Cloke is renowned for his decades of work, passion and dedication to bring peacemaking tools to wherever he believes he can be of service whether it is in the U.S. or around the world. In this episode, The Language of Conflict, Ken will share his personal journey into conflict resolution and peace-making and what keeps him here is this field. He will also share his philosophy of peace-making and what he believes can bring us closest to peace. His global work, research and teachings lead Ken to write numerous books including his most recent The Dance of Opposites which explores a new vision for conflict resolution and the use of language in conflict. Kenneth Cloke is a mediator, arbitrator, coach, consultant and trainer, specializing in resolving complex multi-party disputes, including marital, divorce, family, grievance and workplace disputes, collective bargaining, organizational, public policy, and school conflicts, and designing preventative conflict resolution systems. He has worked in over 20 countries, and is founder and first President of Mediators Beyond Borders.  He has published 11 books. Zena Zumeta, internationally known as both a mediator and trainer of mediators. She is president of the Mediation Training & Consultation Institute, Zena Zumeta Mediation Services, and The Collaborative Workplace in Ann Arbor, Michigan. Zena is a lawyer and a former president of the Academy of Family Mediators.  

Lynn Cole is the recent President and Chair of the Board of Directors for Mediators Beyond Borders, International. She recently accepted the position of President and CEO of Rezoud Academy. ​Prior to serving clients, both public and private, in Contract and Employment cases as an av-rated, trial attorney, Lynn moved her focus for the last 11 years to that of a full-time mediator and mediation trainer, arbitrator and magistrate judge. She is Harvard-trained and mediation certified in Florida and internationally by the International Mediation Institute ("IMI") in The Hague. In 2005, she began her work as an international Mediation Specialist assisting in the design of court-related mediation programs in Bulgaria, Jordan and Kosovo, where she served as a Mediation Specialist and Senior ADR Advisor through 2012. ​From November 2011 to March 1, 2014, she served as the President and Chair of the Board of Directors for Mediators Beyond Borders, International. She is a recognized author on the explosive global growth of international mediation. She has lectured and trained extensively and internationally in Commercial Mediation, both Basic and Advanced; Ethics; Basic and Advanced Mediation; and, Community Mediation. She also has taught mediation courses for students in foreign and domestic universities and law schools. Over the last 8 years, she has conducted mediation training for judges, attorneys and mediators from Jordan, Oman, Lebanon, Saudi Arabia, Iraq, Slovenia, Bulgaria, Serbia, Croatia, Greece, Kosovo and Turkey.

Ken Cloke is renowned for his decades of work, passion and dedication to bring peacemaking tools to wherever he believes he can be of service whether it is in the U.S. or around the world. In this episode, The Language of Conflict, Ken will share his personal journey into conflict resolution and peace-making and what keeps him here is this field. He will also share his philosophy of peace-making and what he believes can bring us closest to peace. His global work, research and teachings lead Ken to write numerous books including his most recent The Dance of Opposites which explores a new vision for conflict resolution and the use of language in conflict. Listeners will get an opportunity to think about how they might change their own language of conflict. Kenneth Cloke is a mediator, arbitrator, coach, consultant and trainer, specializing in resolving complex multi-party disputes, including marital, divorce, family, grievance and workplace disputes, collective bargaining, organizational, public policy, and school conflicts, and designing preventative conflict resolution systems. He has worked in over 20 countries, and is founder and first President of Mediators Beyond Borders.  He has published 11 books. Zena Zumeta, internationally known as both a mediator and trainer of mediators. She is president of the Mediation Training & Consultation Institute, Zena Zumeta Mediation Services, and The Collaborative Workplace in Ann Arbor, Michigan. Zena is a lawyer and a former president of the Academy of Family Mediators.

Kenneth Cloke is the Director of the Center for Dispute Resolution, where he has served as a mediator, arbitrator, attorney, coach, consultant and trainer. He has taught at universities throughout California, including USC and UCLA, and is an Adjunct Professor at Pepperdine University's School of Law and Harvard University School of Law, among others. He has provided conflict resolution services around the world and is the President and co-founder of Mediators Beyond Borders. Kenneth received his BA from the University of California, Berkeley and JD from Berkeley's Boalt school of Law, his PhD from UCLA, his LLM from UCLA Law School and completed post-doctoral work at Yale University School of Law. He is a also graduate of the National Judicial College in Reno, Nevada.

Kenneth Cloke is the Director of the Center for Dispute Resolution, where he has served as a mediator, arbitrator, attorney, coach, consultant and trainer. He has taught at universities throughout California, including USC and UCLA, and is an Adjunct Professor at Pepperdine University's School of Law and Harvard University School of Law, among others. He has provided conflict resolution services around the world and is the President and co-founder of Mediators Beyond Borders. Kenneth received his BA from the University of California, Berkeley and JD from Berkeley's Boalt school of Law, his PhD from UCLA, his LLM from UCLA Law School and completed post-doctoral work at Yale University School of Law. He is a also graduate of the National Judicial College in Reno, Nevada.

On the anniversary of Juneteenth, the day that commemorates the end of slavery in the U.S., Texas Conflict Coach will host a conversation with Anna Spain, Associate Professor of Law at the University of Colorado Law School about race, conflict and resolution in America. Introducing the concept of an identity- based approach, Prof. Spain will discuss techniques for engaging in difficult conversations about these themes in a responsible way and why such conversations are vital in today's world. Anna Spain is an Associate Professor at the University of Colorado Law School who has over 17 years of mediation experience. She teaches, writes and practices in the fields of mediation, international dispute resolution and identity-based conflict. She was previously an Attorney-Adviser at the U.S. Department of State and served on the Board of Mediators Beyond Borders. Anna has a J.D. from Harvard Law School and is a term member of the Council on Foreign Relations. For more Informations: www.annaspain.com, http://www.courts.state.md.us/macro/webinar.html, http://www.juneteenth.com/history.htm      

Douglas Noll is a professional mediator. After a 22 year career as a trial lawyer Doug felt there was a better way to resolve conflicts. Back to school for a Master’s in peacemaking and conflict resolution Doug learned that the US has been using 18th century strategies in areas of conflict, outdated models. Doug authored the award winning book Elusive Peace which won the International Peace & Justice book award. Doug is the co founder of Prison of Peace a pro bono project teaching female inmates peacemaking skills. Doug is the president of the California Dispute resolution council, a founding board member of Mediators Beyond Borders and an adjunct professor of law.

Mediators Beyond Borders International (MBB) is a not-for-profit corporation which brings together mediators and allied professionals to volunteer worldwide to collaborate on building conflict resolution capacity in underserved areas to make local peace-building more effective and sustainable.  MBB also advocates to advance the use of mediation. MBB works in partnership with local organizations and leaders in each area where it has a project. It generally serves groups located in areas where there are difficulties as a result of war, major civil conflict, or significant natural disaster.  MBBs core mission is to help these local organizations and leaders build effective and sustainable conflict resolution systems.    Rachel Wohl is the founding Executive Director of the Maryland Judiciary’s Mediation and Conflict Resolution Office (MACRO). MACRO helps create, strengthen, expand and fund ADR programs in Maryland within and beyond the courts. In 1998, she directed the Maryland ADR Commission’s statewide collaborative process involving approximately 700 people in creating an action plan called “Join the Resolution” to advance the use of ADR in Maryland. MACRO was created to implement the plan. In 2001, she was chosen by the International Association for Conflict Resolution to receive the Mary Parker Follett Award for Innovation in the Field of Conflict Resolution. For more information visit Mediators Beyond Borders

Kenneth Cloke, JD, LLM, PhD, is a mediator, arbitrator, coach, consultant and trainer specializing in resolving complex multi-party conflicts and designing conflict resolution systems. He is the author of Mediating Dangerously: The Frontiers of Conflict Resolution; The Crossroads of Conflict: A Journey into the Heart of Dispute Resolution; and Conflict Revolution: Mediating Evil, War, Injustice, and Terrorism, and co-author with Joan Goldsmith of Resolving Conflicts at Work: 8 Strategies for Everyone on the Job; Resolving Personal and Organizational Conflict: Stories of Transformation and Forgiveness; The End of Management and the Rise of Organizational Democracy, and The Art of Waking People Up: Cultivating Awareness and Authenticity at Work. He is an Adjunct Professor at Pepperdine University School of Law; University of Amsterdam ADR Institute; Saybrook University, Massey University (New Zealand) and Southern Methodist University. He has done conflict resolution in 20 countries and is founder and past President of Mediators Beyond Borders. www.kennethcloke.com

This week, Mike sits down with Santa Monica attorney-neutral-educator Kenneth Cloke, for the first of a two-part conversation. Ken goes in depth about mediation style and processes, but really, it's about the hormones—specifically, the "cuddle hormone," oxytocin. You’ll find out how his research into the psychology of conflict led to investigating and cataloguing the potentially profound effect the hormone has on how you deal with the person sitting across the table from you. Ken is founder and leader of Mediators Beyond Borders, a Pittsburgh nonprofit through which experienced mediators volunteer their skills world-wide to improve conflict resolution capacity and support alternative approaches to resolving interpersonal, political, economic, social, ethnic and religious differences.