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Wisdom is ‘inner intuition' or a deep knowing of something. And while we have the capacity for good sense, it can get mixed up in the noise of our busy lives.  Everything is about instant gratification (instead of sound judgment and common sense). Nowadays, knowing wisdom and practicing wisdom are two different things. In this episode, you'll discover the six lessons of wisdom for leading a life of great impact and inner guidance. Show Highlights Include: How online shopping and high-speed entertainment quiet your inner wisdom every day. (0:37) The “Lifesaver's candy way” to pile up your savings (and still splurge on something sweet). (2:33) How to avoid an emergency with this glovebox compartment essential. (6:28) The ‘Mailbox Money' strategy for keeping your family financially afloat when all plans fail. (8:03) Lessons from a bowl of soup about becoming the best at something. (10:35) Why leading others starts with being an hour early everywhere you go. (13:56) The most empowering words to hear on your worst day. (14:54) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.  

The Achiever's Curse is a deadly one. It starts subtle at first. But left unchecked long enough, it seeps into every aspect of your life, stealing joy and fulfillment every step of the way. Too many achievers don't realize this insidious curse until they feel the intense pangs of regret on their deathbed.  Far too late, in other words.  I want to help you avoid this terrible fate…  I have read well over 1,000 books in my life - spanning across psychology, philosophy, leadership, business, religion, spirituality, personal growth, and more. Most of them were interesting. A few of them were inspiring. But only a handful got me to think so deeply that they didn't just change my thinking, but changed how I live in the world.  In this episode, I share this odd collection of 12 life-altering books, to help you answer life's most difficult questions before it's too late to live your life in a completely different way.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How the ambitious goals that require intense work ethic, study habits, and dedication also lead to misery and depression and even suicidal thoughts when they're unconsciously driven by this (1:43)  3 tough questions most people never ask themselves (and 12 recommended books that act like your map to answering these existential questions in a way that fulfills your soul) (2:52)  The insidious way avoiding death also means you avoid life (and one book that allows you to confront death, and thus, life) (4:40)  The “Anti-Permanent” plan for living life fully immersed in the moment instead of silently being controlled by fear, anxiety, and shame (9:55)  Why an obsession with productivity is a defense mechanism in disguise (most people realize this far too late when the pangs of regret are unbearable) (11:31)  The terrible trap of saving most people fall into that steals fulfillment from your life even when it's right in your hands (12:58)  A weird way to build quiet, immovable confidence by defining morality (14:46)  How the realization that meritocracy is a myth actually sets you up to finally quiet your subtle, but brutal toxic shame (29:22)  Why play can save a dying marriage from divorce, a business on the verge of bankruptcy, and a cloud of depression from following you for life (33:17)  David Tian's list of recommended readings can be found here: https://davidtianphd.com/recommended-readings/ For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Want more success in leadership, deeper connections, or a greater sense of fulfillment? Take this free assessment—it's fast, easy, and tailored to your unique situation. Answer a few simple questions, and you'll get instant access to a suite of masterclasses designed specifically for where you are right now. Whether you're struggling or simply want more out of life, this is your next step. No guesswork. Just clarity. Click here and see what's waiting for you: https://dtphd.com/quiz Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more he

Perhaps the most important skill an intelligent person can learn is the Dao of Decision Making.  Making tough, high-stakes decisions doesn't come naturally to high achievers because they've been fooled into valuing their intelligence more than their emotions. But every decision has its roots in emotions… and relying solely on logic and data for these decisions is a quick way to make a decision that wrecks your marriage, your internal harmony, and even your future fulfillment.  In other words, there is a better way to access the deep kind of wisdom that makes the answer to high-stake decisions obvious.  Problem is, high achievers, by their very nature, have learned to cut off this deep sense of emotional wisdom for their entire lives.  That's why I recorded this episode. You'll discover the “Dao of Decision Making" method, figure out how to achieve internal harmony before making any high-stakes decisions, and you'll also learn techniques to give you clarity for every future decision you make.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How to get better at making high-stake decisions (so you don't accidentally wreck your marriage, your health, or your enjoyment of life) (0:30)  Why making decisions based on the best arguments and logic can subtly lead you to misery (1:51)  The deadly “Illusion of Rational Clarity” that pits your emotions against your logic and results in making decisions that sets your internal world ablaze, leaving you miserable and unfulfilled (3:10)  Here's the brutal truth behind why smart people make dumb decisions (4:15)  The psychological reason behind why you get stuck making decisions (and the airy-fairy-sounding solution smart people rarely consider) (10:17)  Confucius's secret for achieving “Inner Harmony” so making high-stakes decisions becomes as easy and naturally as walking (12:39)  Why any decision made from panic or pressure will never be the wisest decision you can make (and how to learn to be still and calm when faced with high-stakes decisions) (16:57)  Use this quick protocol whenever you feel yourself spinning from a weight and high-stakes decision - it recenters you so that the wise decision become obvious (18:27)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Want more success in leadership, deeper connections, or a greater sense of fulfillment? Take this free assessment—it's fast, easy, and tailored to your unique situation. Answer a few simple questions, and you'll get instant access to a suite of masterclasses designed specifically for where you are right now. Whether you're struggling or simply want more out of life, this is your next step. No guesswork. Just clarity. Click here and see what's waiting for you: https://dtphd.com/quiz Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery 

If you wanted to grow bigger muscles, you could read all the strength training books you wanted. But until you go to the gym and apply your knowledge to your body, your muscles will never grow.  That's the same way the muscle of connection works. But for some reason, high achievers especially are prone to fall into the trap of thinking they can build connection by listening to podcasts, reading books, or even going into individual therapy.  This misses the mark that connection is a skill. And the only way to improve at a skill is to practice it with other people.  In today's show, you'll discover why connection is a skill that can be honed with practice, how to start practicing it (even if it feels uncomfortable), and what your life could be like with intentional practice.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How to rewire your nervous system to be okay with vulnerability (and why you must do this if you want to experience true connection) (1:49)  5 ways to practice the skill of connection if you think you're not wired for connection (3:44)  The weird way your habits, emotions, and health are influenced by a friend of a friend of a friend (6:58)  Why being able to figure things out on your own is actually a massive hindrance to connection (11:47)  The “immersion” secret that explains why reading more books, listening to more podcasts, and trying to logic your way to emotional depth can never work (14:30)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Want more success in leadership, deeper connections, or a greater sense of fulfillment? Take this free assessment—it's fast, easy, and tailored to your unique situation. Answer a few simple questions, and you'll get instant access to a suite of masterclasses designed specifically for where you are right now. Whether you're struggling or simply want more out of life, this is your next step. No guesswork. Just clarity. Click here and see what's waiting for you:https://dtphd.com/quiz Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery 

In this episode, Dr. Rick Rigsby shares a meaningful story about an important lesson he learned from his father. Decades ago, as he faced the profound sorrow of losing his wife, Dr. Rick discovered the most impactful wisdom from his father—a third-grade dropout with an abundance of insight.  Tune in to hear how a simple yet powerful piece of advice, "Just stand," became a beacon of strength in the storm of grief. Learn how resilience can be cultivated through influence and see how standing firm can impact your life and those around you.  Join us for a compelling journey that will inspire you to rise, no matter what challenges you face. Show Highlights Include:  How did a heartbroken father come back to life? [01:56] What happens when tragedy strikes and you're left behind? [03:39] Discover this profound lesson taught by a father to his son [06:48] Do you know the importance of influence in your life? [08:32] Here is what great people do to be great [09:00] What did Winston Churchill say about standing firm? [10:00] Learn to deal with the unexpected situations in life [11:12] Discover the trait all great leaders share [12:06] Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third-Grade Dropout, for free.

Everyone goes through seasons of gut-wrenching grief and misery. But great people aren't defined by their successes, but by how they bounce back from failure.  And I have good news if you need to overcome any sort of trauma or negative emotions: Overcoming holds no educational level. It holds no status. It takes no financial requirements. Instead, it requires a simple choice: helping others.  Helping others provides therapeutic benefits for you, and massive benefits for those you're helping.  In this episode, you'll discover how serving others helps you overcome anything you're dealing with (even the tragic passing of a loved one).  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include:  How one simple thought instantly pulls you out of the dumps whenever life beats you down (0:27)  The selfish reason for helping others and overcoming any mental turmoil you're facing (1:03)  The 3 words my dad told me as I stared at my first wife's casket which saved me from breaking down (and how these 3 words will empower you too) (1:14)  How to overcome the worst season of gut-wrenching grief in your life doing nothing more than helping others (2:56)  Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

The world tries to measure a man through status, education, and looks. But that's not how you become a man of true wisdom and character and build a legacy that lasts.  It's about carrying the right traits and being authentic. A good man always makes practical choices and uses sound judgment to make a positive impact on himself and the world. In this episode, you'll discover how to build your authentic reputation as a man and inspire others on a daily basis. Show Highlights Include: How to become a more authentic man with the six Getz principles. (0:59) The ‘Boeing 747' way to always choose good over evil (no matter what obstacles you face). (2:32) Why being a trustworthy and resourceful man starts with a house key. (5:10) Why pumping gas into your car leaves a legacy your children are proud of. (6:59) How to avoid building a fake reputation and become a man of true wisdom and character. (10:04) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third-Grade Dropout, for free.

There is nothing more gut-wrenching than a divorce or the end of a long-term relationship. It makes you question everything. And nobody gives you a manual for how to rebuild your personal life after a messy breakup.  The modern dating landscape makes this even more difficult. Dating apps can feel like a second job that doesn't pay or even lead to dates. And the professional skills you've developed to become a high achiever don't work for building relationships.  And if you clicked on the title of this episode, there's a good chance you're feeling a deep sense of frustration, uncertainty, and fear.  But here's the good news:  Not only is it possible to bounce back after a rough breakup, but it gives you an opportunity to build a deeper, more authentic connection that fulfills you in ways that weren't possible in your last relationship. I'm living proof: Today I have a loving family (even after my first divorce about 20 years ago).   And that's what I reveal in today's episode. You'll discover how to rebuild your identity, how to make the modern dating landscape work for you, and how to develop emotional intelligence so you're prepared for your next relationship.  By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear road map to confidently re-enter the dating world, not with uncertainty or awkwardness, but with a sense of clarity, purpose and ease that matches the confidence you've built in your professional life. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How the wrong romantic partner bleeds into your work, your health, and your overall fulfillment in life (1:00)  Where to start after a crushing divorce or end to a long-term relationship to rebuild your personal life in a way where this doesn't happen again (5:22)  The weird way your forgotten hobbies help you overcome the heartbreak of divorce (6:10)  Why unaddressed breakup wounds will sabotage your next relationship (and the “scars and all” mindset shift to heal from these wounds as soon as possible) (7:27)  How high achievers can attract worthy partners in the modern dating landscape (even if if your last serious relationship started before dating apps) (9:42)  The #1 most underrated (and most effective) way to meet potential partners who already share your values (11:51)  How the qualities that make you successful at work repel your dream partner in intimate relationships (16:40)  How to answer the question about past relationships on a date in a way that builds connection instead of protecting your ego (20:02)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery 

If you want to stand head and shoulders above the herd and outperform your competitors in any market, you only need one thing: A competitive edge. Your competitive edge is the distinct quality that makes you superior to the rest. And you know what?  There is a certain competitive edge that produces exceptional results if you develop it. Some of the richest people in the world even believe this common practice to be their “X factor.”  Everyone can do it, but not everyone will.  In this episode, I'll reveal this uncommon competitive advantage billionaires like Mark Cuban and Warren Buffet claim is the key to their success.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include:  How you can create your own competitive advantage by borrowing these strategies from Chick-Fil-A, Apple and Amazon. (02:07) Why a ‘talentless' Lucille Ball excelled in the film industry and cemented her name in television history (and how you can do the same in your life). (05:15) The X-factor these two billionaires say results in an uncommon competitive edge (you don't even have to be a billionaire to do this). (07:27) Why Warren Buffet spends less than $4 on breakfast (and how his unique diet philosophy can increase your chances of living longer) (09:11) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third-Grade Dropout, for free.

Your earliest relationships when you were a child can significantly impact your relationships as an adult.  How?  Well, when you're young, you develop one of four attachment styles that can make or break your relationships today. The problem is, only one of these attachment styles set you up for a long, thriving relationship. While the other three are the culprits behind why you've sabotaged past relationships.  That's the bad news.  The good news? It's possible to break free from a self-destructive attachment style and instead learn the skills and mindsets to develop a secure attachment style. And that's exactly what we cover in today's show.  In this episode, you'll discover the 4 attachment styles, how they show up and impact relationships, and how to grow out of an insecure attachment style into a secure one.  The end result?  Not only will you have more luck with building a healthy, thriving relationship, but you'll also grow in every other area of your life too.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How to break free from your relationship-sabotaging attachment style (even if it's wrecked every relationship you've been in) (0:34)  The weirdest, yet most proven way to grow in your career, land a promotion, and bring home a bigger paycheck (2:12)  How your parents' programming suffocates your relationships today (and how to stop letting your childhood programming control your adult life) (3:53)  4 types of attachment styles, how to figure out which style best suits you, and how each one shows up in relationships (4:14)  The “survival strategy” mindset shift for understanding and healing past traumas that keep you stuck today (11:24)  How the “name it” method builds emotional awareness, improves your emotional regulation, and helps you avoid explosive fights (17:46)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery 

Have you ever found yourself dissatisfied with your life? In a job or relationship that you were just tolerating? It's possible that you've found yourself living out someone else's design for your life, draining all passion from your soul. In this episode, Rick is again joined by Dwight Edwards and they discuss how to find your personal passion, as well as how to begin living an epic life, no matter where you're starting from. Show Highlights Include: How to stop following someone else's dream and discover your personal passion (2:25) The one impactful question that can change the course of your entire life (3:03) Why practicality assassinates dreams before they can ever come true (4:11) How you've unwittingly downgraded your life and how to reverse that trend (9:24) The secret to living an epic life, even if you're starting from your lowest point ever (12:31) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Your decision-making process is the single most critical skill you'll ever need. Figure out how to make good decisions that align with your values, and your life will become immeasurably better. Neglect this skill and your life can turn into a nightmare faster than a speeding bullet. So, how can you improve your decisions and, as a result, your life? Despite what most people think, you can't make better decisions by improving your logic or reasoning skills. Instead, you have to hone something most people neglect in the decision-making process: Emotions.  In today's show, you'll discover why your emotions are the key to better decisions and how to better control your emotions.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How emotions you avoid “hijack” your decision-making process and can sabotage your life (1:59)  Why experiencing your emotions, not avoiding them, makes them powerless over you (2:51)  The “8 C's” method for making sounder decisions that lead to a happier life (6:31)  How to tweak your inner dialogue to make even the scariest of emotions less daunting (8:17)   The “Name It” secret that prevents fear from dominating your decision-making process (16:18)  How to leverage “Emotional Momentum” to motivate yourself in an instant (this is especially helpful when life gets tough) (22:02)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

When everything around you is changing, traditions can feel like a thing of the past. They don't seem relevant or valuable. But when you don't exercise certain traditions, there's a sense of loss. You feel less connected to others and unsure of the future. Traditions link our past to the present. They help remind us who we are and where we've come. They reveal what's most important. In this episode, you'll learn the four reasons why having a sense of tradition makes life more meaningful. Show Highlights Include: How to make life more special through the traditions of Texas A&M. (1:18) Why homemade macaroni and cheese brings more belonging and comfort to your days. (3:30) How family stories from the past connect you to a courageous (and more meaningful) future. (6:33) How to honor and appreciate your ancestor's traditions (even if you didn't know them). (8:08) The ‘Family Biographer' essentials for giving the present a sense of meaning. (10:45) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Servants are an important ingredient that holds communities and families together. Serving others helps build strong communities and changes the lives of others around you. Even something as simple as offering a helping hand can make a massive difference in somebody's life.  It is a catalyst for achieving greater things, both as an individual and as a community. And it can be your very first step toward becoming a more  effective leader. In this episode, you'll discover the importance of servanthood to your community and world at large. You'll also see how to spark happiness within yourself by sharing joy with others. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How servanthood changes lives and builds strong communities (and how to use it to be an effective leader) (1:01) How servanthood eliminates two of the biggest challenges that haunts our communities. (1:44) The positive impact of World War II (and what you can learn from the people who lived in that era). (2:27) How paying forward a stranger's kindness saved me from despair (and how to inject joy into your life even when you're depressed). (6:42) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

From a young age, attractive women become masters at sniffing out neediness. Most men don't discover this fact about life until they've sabotaged their dating lives and relationships. But here's the good news: There's a proven system for overcoming your neediness. It won't happen overnight, but it will free you from the sadistic grip neediness has over you.  In this episode, you'll discover the 7 steps to obliterate your neediness for good.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: - How your fear about relationships dupes you into making relationship-ending mistakes (even if you don't realize it) (2:40)  - The counterintuitive reason becoming wealthy skyrockets your neediness (3:04)  - Why women can see through your inauthentic attempts to get to know their personality like Swiss cheese (4:41)  - The fundamental human needs that help you exterminate your neediness (9:03)  - Why having an agenda of picking up women when you go out subconsciously repels them from you (13:27)  - The 7 experiential steps to meet your own needs and obliterate your neediness (20:30)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

A lot of guys struggle with dating for a fundamental reason:  They don't even know themselves well enough to attract a kindred spirit. Relationships and dating become much easier when you have similar interests and values as your partner. This is particularly true at the beginning of the dating process. And it doesn't rely on you getting lucky on a dating app.  But how do you discover yourself and your true interests? And how does this naturally attract your ideal partner to you?  Well, here's some good news:  This self-discovery process is fun! And after listening to this episode, you'll not only know how to take this self-discovery journey in the most effective way, but you'll also figure out how to “twist” this into attracting your ideal partner.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How to optimize your lifestyle in a way that naturally brings potential partners into your life who are well suited to you (1:49)   5 simple exercises to figure out your favorite hobbies (even if you've never done them before) (5:03)  Why discovering more hobbies can naturally magnetize your ideal partner (7:07)  The “Social Aspects” secret for twisting your favorite hobby into a social activity (7:30)  How to meet suitable romantic partners without wasting time swiping left or right on dating apps (9:14)  How to build a balanced and attractive lifestyle (even if you're naturally shy) (17:48)  An unusual way to eliminate your neediness by simply having fun (21:43)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Today I'd like you to meet Ryan. Ryan's a first responder with a strong sense of fairness, and he loves to help people who need it.  Those are both noble qualities, so on the surface it all sounds great. But as Ryan processed the end of a marriage he tried to make sense of why some things bothered him so much, and why certain patterns kept repeating in his life. He turned to me to talk about it, and together we explored how even great qualities can cause problems when they're driven by unresolved issues lingering beneath the surface. This episode is definitely for you if you get enraged when people offend you, or have trouble setting boundaries. You'll learn the difference between healthy and unhealthy boundaries, and practical questions to ask yourself as you work through situations that make you mad. You'll also be reminded that you're probably not broken, you probably don't need fixing, but you, like everyone else, can still grow, improve, and mature. Remembering this can help you be more empathetic to yourself and others. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How to know when the high standards you have for other people are justified and when they aren't. (8:29) The surprising reality behind that rage you feel and how embracing it can help you handle unprocessed resentment. (10:33) Why an empty chair can help you patch a damaged relationship. (13:03) How to set healthy boundaries so people can't hijack your emotions and live in your mind rent free. (19:00) The clear difference between healthy and unhealthy boundaries. (19:24) The stunning reason society is better when people have the right to be jerks. And the nightmare result if that right is revoked. (21:55) The only question you need to ask to know if your anger is misplaced. (23:29) Why spitting on your father's grave could improve relationships. (23:43) The counterintuitive way focusing on yourself makes you more empathetic. (27:56) “Savior Cycle”: What it is and how to know when to jump in and help, and when to stand down. (34:16) The Jean-Luc Picard method to process trauma. (35:49) The Quicksand Strategy to love somebody through their problems. (45:17) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Our society has a variety of ways to convince you that someone or something is valuable. Titles, wealth, cost, status, and many others. Friends, don't buy into the lie.  When we allow superficial standards to influence our judgments of value, we risk missing out on the best life has to offer. In this episode, I share the hidden dangers of judgmental attitudes, adopting society's value standards, and how you can overcome them to understand the truth about what is valuable. Show Highlights Include: How to magically transform an inexpensive item into something of incalculable worth (5:14) Why our standards for status and worth trick us into valuing the wrong things (5:49) What a $5 typewriter can teach you about value (8:48) Dirty lies society tells us about a person's value and how you can appreciate their true worth (10:08) How a judgmental attitude can stunt your personal growth (10:39) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Perhaps the biggest lie spread by the Red Pill community is how humans are simple slaves to our biology. This is how they rationalize the obviously irrational myth that a woman will leave you as soon as she finds a more attractive, wealthier, or higher-status man.  Not only does this myth corrupt your relationship with women, but it can even corrupt the relationship you have with yourself. The sad truth is falling for the Red Pill lies is a fast way to end up lonely, miserable, and hopeless.  That's the bad news.  The good news?  Despite how attractive the Red Pill mindset can be to some men, it's based on blatant lies. And I'll prove it in this episode.  In today's show, you'll discover why women aren't slaves to hypergamy and status-chasing, how you can boost your attractiveness to women, and the real characteristics women value more than wealth, status, or good looks.  If you've been stuck in the Red Pill trap, this episode will help free you from it—before you wind up bitter, resentful, and hopeless.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How adopting a “Red Pill Mindset” leads to bitterness and resentment at best—and pain, self-destruction, and hopelessness at worst (0:47)  Why women aren't only interested in status-chasing with their relationships (even if the Red Pill bros say they are) (3:45)  The biggest misconceptions about hypergamy spread by Red Pill circles that will always make you feel less fulfilled in a relationship than you otherwise would've been (7:19)   How to avoid projecting your deepest, darkest secrets onto your partner (13:28) Need proof that the Red Pill community is full of you-know-what? Look no further than at… (16:41)  3 powerful tools for couples to help them build their emotional intelligence and adopt a growth mindset so their relationship improves over time (instead of becoming another divorce statistic) (18:46)  Hate getting into fights with your partner? Here's how developing your EQ can transform dumpster fires into opportunities to strengthen your bond (20:13)  4 character traits that women value more than your looks, status, or wealth (27:22)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

This week's episode is a special episode, especially if you're an achiever (like most of our listeners are). Leon, a long-time fan from South Africa, reached out for a one-time session that doubles as a podcast interview.  While your situation might not be exactly the same as Leon's, if you're an achiever or struggle with abandonment issues or neediness, there will likely be several themes that apply to both your life, as well.  I treated this interview like an initial consultation. Listening will give you insights into how you could accept your inner child parts that have been filling you with emotional turmoil (even if you don't have the same exact problems as Leon does).  Best part? Well, about a week after we recorded this interview, Leon reached out to give me an update. It blew my mind—and his initial progress will blow your mind too.  If you feel stuck, abandoned, needy, or just can't get over your desire to achieve (because you're unconsciously looking for love), this episode will help you get on the right path.   Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How being a “Parentified Child” forces you to take on your parent's emotional struggles and become a needy adult (and how to break free from this restraint after growing up) (0:29)  What to do when you feel lonely on your self-development journey and constantly ask yourself when your journey will actually end (8:52)  How to start opening up and being more vulnerable when you feel like you'll be ridiculed and judged when you do (13:01)  Why resisting reality is the most painful thing you can do (and how your life starts to change subtly as soon as you accept reality) (23:04)  How living in a single closet in a big city as a single man can present you with more exciting opportunities than having a lavish house in a small town (26:53)  Do you constantly worry that you're not meeting your potential? Here's why it's impossible to fulfill your potential (40:40)  Why meeting your therapist in person is actually the worst way to leverage the therapeutic process for your self-growth (48:17)  How to stop being ashamed by your neediness (and how to use it to find the relationship you want) (1:00:09)  Why learning how to embrace sadness, anger, and fear is one of the best ways to embrace love (1:07:18)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

When was the last time you felt true joy and fulfillment in your life?  For many achievers, this is something that they never experience. Each achievement and accomplishment is followed by another pursuit, always keeping happiness just out of your reach.  The worst part?  This relentless pursuit of success makes finding lasting happiness and fulfillment impossible.  But it's possible to break free from this toxic cycle. In fact, there are 5 simple ways to help you break free from this cycle that I reveal in this episode.  If you're constantly feeling like something's missing in your life no matter how much you achieve, listen to this episode now. Your future self will thank you.  Show Highlights Include: How chasing achievements leaves you unhappy and unfulfilled (even if it boosts your self-esteem in the short term) (1:04)  The “Deranged Tree” secret for ignoring societal standards that keep true happiness always out of reach (6:57)  The cold, hard truth about why your successes feel hollow and isolating (12:16)  Asking yourself this simple question can help you discover your ultimate purpose in life (15:46)  The “Karma Yoga” method that forces you to become fully present in the moment (16:49)  How to deeply understand what brings you true joy and fulfillment with this simple weekly exercise (18:00)  Why reading books for pleasure is one of the quickest ways to shift out of an anxious state of being and into a calm one (20:54)  The “dancing with the music” mindset shift that leads to healthier relationships, better mental health, and more joy in your day-to-day life (23:26) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There's a certain problem that touches the core of men's struggles, but it often flies under their radar. This problem sabotages intimacy, confidence, and connection, leaving only anxiety and depression in its wake. I'm referring to sexual shame—and it's something that happens to men both unconsciously and consciously.  That's why in this episode, I'm going to help you understand where sexual shame comes from, why it has persisted over centuries, and give you the roadmap to break free from these chains.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How sexual shame not only sabotages intimate moments, but also shatters your confidence, connection, and authenticity (2:00)  This quick mindset shift is the first step towards overcoming your sexual shame (3:00)  The weird way studying philosophy and ethical theory can wipe away the seeds of sexual shame inside you (8:29)  3 theories that explain why men feel sexual shame (and how understanding these theories helps you conquer your shame) (10:39)  How religiously-induced sexual shame lingers in your psyche long after you leave the religion (and how to root it out from your subconscious completely) (18:55) 4 ways sexual shame manifests in intimate relationships (24:58)   Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There's often a fine line between love and neediness, especially for men. Women have a sixth sense to sniff out neediness, which can leave you confused and unconvinced unconditional love even exists.  But when you look closely into the differences between love and neediness, you'll see how diametrically opposed these two states are.  Love comes from a place of abundance, neediness from lack. Love is based on internal validation, neediness on external validation.  But if you can't even tell the difference between the two, it's impossible to bridge the gap from neediness to love.  So, how can you bridge the gap and transform neediness into love?  In today's episode, you'll discover the difference between love and neediness, practical steps to cultivate self-love and suffocate neediness, and how to nurture unconditional love in relationships (even if neediness rears its ugly head). Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How to spot the early signs of neediness before they wreck your chances of finding true love (1:43)  The subtle mindset shift that frees you from the toxic stranglehold of neediness and warps you into love (4:51)  Do you cringe when you find yourself becoming needy? Here's how to bridge the gap between neediness and love (6:08)  Why people pleasers struggle the most at finding unconditional love (and how to avoid common mistakes people pleasers make—even if you are one) (8:29)  How healthy boundaries prevent unconditional love from morphing into unconditional neediness (10:54)  The indestructible two-step antidote to neediness (12:30)  This book will not only stop your neediness in its tracks but also helps you build unconditional self-love (18:50)  Practical “self-reflection” steps that steer you away from neediness and open the door to true, unconditional love (25:18)  How to transform neediness into an opportunity to deepen communication in relationships (28:52)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

A relationship is an investment from both parties. When these investments tip to one side or another, it plants the seeds of resentment and destruction.  This is why nice guys and people pleasers who bend over backwards for their partner find themselves cheated on and heartbroken. While bad guys get the girl (even though it doesn't blossom into true love). The best way to ensure a relationship is growth-oriented and fulfilling is by balancing the investment scales. But how do you do this in a non-manipulative way?  That's what we discuss in today's episode. Besides discovering how to balance a relationship's investments, you'll also learn common pitfalls men make that tank their attractiveness, how to improve your self-worth, and why setting boundaries allows love to blossom.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How men unknowingly plant seeds of resentment in their relationships when they commit this mistake… (1:15)  Why buying your girlfriend the most expensive ring in your budget may cause her to get cold feet (5:54)  The counterintuitive reason only aiming for sex in a relationship ensures you don't have it or a deeper connection with women (17:17)  A few ways to increase your girlfriend's investment in your relationship and strengthen your connection (17:47)  The “Trading Technique” to use on your first few dates that makes your date dream about you when she falls asleep (21:34)  Why endless pampering ruins almost as many relationships as cheating (24:51)  The single most effective “Attraction Amplifier” that most men are afraid to use (27:44)  How you plummet your perceived value after a date goes well (29:21)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There's a lot of modern men, especially those who frequent Red Pill and manosphere blogs, forums, and websites, that are deeply unhappy and unfulfilled. But instead of using this as an opportunity to grow, they use it as a way to let their anger percolate.  What happens to these men is they let their anger blind them from the possibilities life presents: Happiness, fulfillment, love.  There's another, often overlooked, path if you find yourself living an unfulfilled life.  This rarely trotted path?  Morality.  In today's episode, you'll discover how morality developed alongside our physical evolution, why it's a key component of successful societies, and most importantly, how embracing your moral nature leads to a more fulfilling and meaningful life. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How morality has evolved alongside human evolution (and how this helps you find a date with a high-quality partner) (3:22)  The single biggest masculine trait many modern men lack today (5:21)  The overlooked reason why you feel exhausted all the time and ashamed to be your real self around others (8:57)  The simple, yet difficult way to invite a sense of fulfillment and peace of mind into your life (9:58)  How to tell—with near certainty—whether or not you can trust someone else (12:48)  Why falling into the “Is-Ought Fallacy” trap sabotages your chances of finding a high-quality partner (14:31) How to decrease your chances of being lied to or cheated on (18:58)   Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

It's easy to forget the value of something that doesn't come with a social status or a high price tag. And above all, the need for more.  But true value has a blinding purpose (even if you don't see it yet) and it's ready to change your life for the better.  In this episode, you'll discover why true value comes from the things you already have and how to live your happiest life (without the need for more).  Show Highlights Include: How culture and innovation inspire the way you see things today. (0:25) How to value the things that actually matter (even if they don't cost much) . (4:20) What the ‘Underwood Number 5 Typewriter' reveals about putting value into reputations and having a status. (5:20) The ‘need/want' model for living your most prosperous life (regardless of status or possessions). (7:20) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Today, we're discussing perhaps one of the most important aspects of not only dating success, but to your entire life: Your attachment style.  If left unchecked, your attachment style can lead to a cycle of unhealthy relationships, constant anxiety, and an underlying sense of insecurity and unhappiness. It's like living in a house with a foundation that's cracking, but choosing to ignore it. Ignore it long enough, and the whole structure is at risk.  If you have an anxious attachment style—one of the most popular types for listeners of this show—then it explains why neediness rears its ugly head, threatening the health of your entire relationship.  But here's the good news:  Just because you have an anxious attachment style today doesn't mean you'll forever suffer from this. In fact, not only is it possible to manage your attachment style, but you can even transform an anxious one into a secure one.  Now, this is easier said than done. But it's possible.  In today's show, you'll discover the roots of your attachment style, how your attachment style gets triggered, how to manage your attachment style so it stops sabotaging your best relationship, and how to transform an anxious attachment style into a secure one.  The result?  You'll not only improve your romantic relationships, but you'll transform your entire approach to life. You'll understand how to build a solid foundation for yourself, so you're not always rocked by the waves of your emotions. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How to prevent your unique “Attachment Style” from sabotaging your relationship and long-term happiness in life (0:41)  Despite popular belief: Attachment styles aren't permanent—Here's how to grow out of an anxious attachment style to a secure one (1:23)  How curiosity can execute your neediness, behead your fear of rejection, and eliminate your inability to trust others (3:35)  Do you always worry that your girlfriend will up and leave you? Here's how one of my clients overcame this deep-rooted fear (and how you can do the same) (5:46)  The “Ideal Parent” management style of your inner parts that transforms your most vulnerable parts into some of your most confident ones (7:54)  How to enjoy your most intimate relationship (without the constant, nagging fear of losing it) (9:47)  The Cardinal Rule for Sexual Attractiveness that you must abide by or else you'll sabotage a relationship as soon as intimacy heightens (10:53)  The wicked way your neediness creates a self-fulfilling prophecy that leaves your partner overwhelmed, suffocated, and resentful (12:07)  The 3-step “AUN” process to obliterate an anxious attachment style and transform it into a secure one (15:20)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

We all have the desire to be happy. A happy life gives you confidence, success, and a purpose in everything you do. But finding happiness can sometimes feel out of your control (especially when you're facing tough times).  There is, however, a commitment you can make to being the best person you can be - and that starts with making the choice to be happy.  In this episode, you'll discover why making the choice to be happy is easier than you think and how to live every day to the fullest (regardless of your circumstances).  Show Highlights Include: How to use the goofy “Don't Worry, Be Happy” song to put a smile on your face (no matter what you're dealing with). (0:35) Why holocaust survivor Eddie Jaku is the happiest man in the world - and how to live each moment without bitterness or resentment for a fulfilling life. (3:03) Five lessons to restore your hope and remind you why choosing to be happy is easier than you think. (9:23) The two videos you should watch online for living a better life and seeing everyday as a gift (10:25) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Having an Avoidant Attachment Style—or dating someone with one—can wreak havoc throughout your relationship. It can cause an otherwise healthy relationship that's headed towards marriage and children into utter destruction.  Why?  Well, people with an Avoidant Attachment Style, while they crave intimacy like everyone else, the more intimate you become, the more fear the avoidant partner feels.  But here's the good news: Having an Avoidant Attachment Style isn't a life sentence. In fact, there are ways you can overcome your Avoidant Attachment Style or help your partner deal with theirs, so your relationship continues to grow and blossom.  In this episode, I reveal how you get an Avoidant Attachment Style, the key steps you need to follow if you or your partner has this, and why understanding the different types of Attachment Styles can improve every relationship you have.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How understanding your “Attachment Style” can be a game changer for your personal and romantic relationships (0:43)  Why intimacy frightens you away and can even sabotage an otherwise successful relationship if you have this attachment style (and how to overcome this fear) (2:23)  The 4 main “Attachment Styles” and how they impact your relationships (5:05)  How your attachment style starts in childhood then bleeds—largely without you realizing it—into your adult relationships (7:29)  The 3 crucial things you need to do if you find yourself in a relationship with someone with an Avoidant Attachment Style (13:26)  The insidious push-pull dynamic of the Avoidant Attachment Style that causes self-sabotage, loneliness, and frustration (14:15)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Growing up in the 60s, everyone had a code of conduct they followed. And for most folks, honor was on that list.  Somewhere between the 1960s and today, we've lost our code of conduct. And the world is an inferior place because of it. But just because everyone else threw out their code of conduct doesn't mean you have to.  In fact, having a code makes you more likely to succeed. It makes your days less chaotic. And it makes your relationships more rewarding.  In this episode, you'll discover how a code of conduct improves almost every aspect of your life.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How living by a code of conduct increases your chances of sustained success (0:26)  Why incremental improvements every day unlock seismic changes in your life (3:29)  The insidious way massive corporations like Pepsi and Coca-Cola convince you to ditch your code of conduct for short-term gratification (5:55)  The Cub Scouts' “On My Arm” secret that results in an honorable legacy that survives long after you (7:11)  How following this simple exercise brings joy to every person you interact with (9:15)  Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Every human being who has ever existed has felt downtrodden, lost, and in the dumps. It's a part of the human experience — but it also unlocks an opportunity to change every life you encounter.  Why?  Because obstacles borne inspirational people who leave the world better off than when they joined it. And that, my friend, can be you after listening to this episode.  In this episode, you'll discover how to become an inspirational leader that makes every person you meet better.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How to galvanize yourself into achieving your dreams simply by watching movies (0:30)  4 books to read before the end of the year to inspire you to make 2023 your best year yet (1:34)  How to inspire every person around you by seeking discomfort and tribulation (3:10)  The “Gift from God” parenting technique for raising your children to inspire everyone they meet (7:55)  Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

We all like music, TV and conversations, but you might be surprised by the damage noise can do (even when you're having fun). Clogging your brain with loud sounds, alerts, and pings leads to a poor sleep schedule and sabotages your ability to focus. And you can't lead if you can't think. While quiet time can feel like you're missing out on something, it gives your brain time to reflect and rest (which is impossible to get in a busy, chaotic world).  In this episode, you'll discover how to stop the buzz and use silence as a tool for a more peaceful and powerful life.  Show Highlights Include: How to stop treating silence like a ‘timeout' and embrace it to boost your intuition and awareness. (0:52) Why spending time in silence turns you into a true leader (and the three leadership skills silence teaches you). (5:06) How to stop ‘noise pollution' from stressing out your body, raising your blood pressure, and damaging your hearing. (6:33) How to create the most concentrated and productive learning space with an ‘Albert Einstein' level of noise. (11:52) Why ten minutes of quiet time is essential to your mental health (and how the military, workforce and schools use silence to boost performance). (14:38) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Dating back to the first ever Thanksgiving, it's been a celebration that we all benefit from... COMING TOGETHER,  especially when we disagree. The truth is, you can't have financial freedom without political freedom and that means caring for and defending others you disagree with. In this episode, you'll discover the true importance of Thanksgiving and how you can get along with other people in your family despite your differences. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How the first Thanksgiving helps you avoid pointless political fights with your family over the holiday season. (3:23) Why Thanksgiving helped America reunite after the Civil War. (5:41) How inviting your friends to your Thanksgiving feast makes you feel even more grateful. (7:13) Why caring for and defending others is the foundation of our great nation (even when you disagree). (8:42) How political and financial freedom go hand in hand to help you thrive. (11:15) To schedule your free retirement tracking meeting, specifically for first responders, head to http://pensionattention.com/ or call us at 805-410-5454.

If you've never heard of the word ‘gusto,' it means doing something with zest or a spark. That's the way most of us want to live our lives.  But most people don't live with gusto. They're stuck in their comfort zones, which prevent them from taking on the challenges they need to grow. Having gusto is about pushing out of comfort zones to live life to the max. If you can't step out of your comfort zone, then you can't grow into something greater.   In this episode, you'll discover how to find enjoyment in your days and give life meaning with a little gusto. Show Highlights Include: How to use a 1960s beer commercial to uplift your spirit and define life on your terms with the. (0:35) The ‘George H. W. Bush' way to add more zest to your life (no matter your age). (4:50) Why stepping out of your comfort zone makes you enjoy life more. (7:16) How to be so full of life that people say you've “died young”- even if you're 80 years old. (9:22) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Nobody can survive their entire life without being leveled by a few personal storms. Whether they be financial, spiritual, physical, or with your relationships.  Most people shy away from storms—my old self included, when my first wife passed. I weaponized blame, and used it to cope, not realizing it snatched the benefits of the storm from right under me.  But this storm caused me to have an epiphany: Just as nature needs natural storms to cleanse and blow out dead debris for new life, humans need personal storms to make us stronger, more resilient, and redefine our life's purpose.  In this episode, you'll discover why every storm has a silver lining—no matter how hopeless it seems at the moment. Plus, I'll give you a few simple techniques to overcome storms easier.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How scripture can help you survive the darkest storms of your life (even if you're not religious) (1:18)  Why writing down your most humiliating failures helps you conquer your next one with ease (7:56)  The “Sanctuary Moment” secret for transforming gut-wrenching misery into unprecedented trump (8:33)  How to create hope out of thin air—even in the darkest times of your life—by making one simple choice (12:25)  3 questions to ask yourself in the midst of a storm to come out of it a stronger person (13:41)  Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Ever feel like you're just warming the bench, waiting for the perfect market play? Guess what?  The market waits for no one…  While you're looking for that 'perfect moment,' seasoned investors are dancing with the waves, turning tides into treasures. The secret?  It's not about waiting; it's about playing the game with the right strategy. Scooping up the golden opportunities, no matter what the market throws. Join me in this episode as I share with you the exact property buying playbook that has made me a fortune in the past decade. And how you can replicate it to profit even if the interest rates go up even more. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: How to take advantage of the present low interest rates in the next 2 years (so that you can survive the upcoming bloodbath…) (8:48) Got money to invest? Here's how you can buy multi-million dollar properties for pennies on the dollars (13:39) Trying to time the market? Shocking reason why you might just end up missing the best time to get maximum gains (and what to do instead) (17:01) Don't know what kind of properties to go after? I reveal the (add a specific number if possible) exact profit-producing properties that can give you a steady stream of cash flow year after year (21:08) How to set yourself up for long-term profits in real estate regardless of how bad the market is doing (25:50)

Jumping into new markets is quite difficult… It's like walking in a dark, abandoned cave, not knowing what scary thing will pop up next. So it's crucial that you have someone that can guide you through the unknown path… Someone that knows the ins and outs of the market. Otherwise you're left to figure things out on your own wasting valuable years. Not only having someone guide you makes the whole process easier, but also virtually guarantees your success. Join us in this episode as CEO Of Columbia Grain International - Jeff Van Pevenage shares his insights on how you can break into new markets without wasting millions of dollars. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: How to gauge supply & demand in even the most stubborn markets (and double, triple or even quadruple your business over the long run) (13:34) New to the food market? Here's how you can shave off decades off your learning curve (18:12) The “Trusted End Retailer” method to launch new products in the food market (Note: Doing this instantly builds trust with your customer) (23:22) Use this “Outside Expert” method to branch out in new niche markets (even if you have zero expertise…) (25:47) The odd reason why selling 50-70x your current order size is easier than you think (31:18) For more about Joe Mosher, go here: https://moshercg.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joemosher/

While February is a time to reflect on the accomplishments of Black History, it is also a time to speak on the future. America feels more divided than ever these days. But where there is hope, there is faith. Hope brings together battered societies for a better tomorrow. It is the peace and unity when everything seems divided. Hope is more than a belief, it is a way of life. In this episode, you'll discover how to honor the past and build a better future through the power of hope. Show Highlights Include: How to unlock MLK's powerhouse of hope for unlimited potential in your future. (1:16) A homicide investigator's advice on living with peace and unity (no matter what comes your way). (4:17) Using the ‘Hope' lens to bring divisive societies together for a better tomorrow.  (6:27)  How to lead your life with freedom and hope (while inspiring others to do the same).  (8:50) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Getting an overflow of clients through outreach is simple but not easy. And it doesn't come quickly to people struggling to get clients and keep their finances together. That is why you must do what Alex Hormozi and other killers in the industry are doing. In this episode, we reveal the easy step-by-step process behind filling up your pipeline with so many clients that you get to say “NO” to anyone you don't want to work with. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: How to get over 300 leads a day by writing simple emails to people you don't know (0:29) The “Cold Personalize” guide to never getting ignored when you reach out to potential clients (and how it makes them want to buy your service from you) (4:49) How to get the exact name and emails of every person who is ever likely to become one of your customers (9:05) Try this “I Know” call script to convert strangers into high-paying customers (10:10) Steal this “Detective Picture” technique to maximize your closing rate for realtors (11:32) How to get an extreme referral partner that sends you high-end clients that are ready to buy (13:54) The social media check that you need to pass from your potential clients before they give you their hard-earned money (14:43) The “4-Step CV” outreach guide to get an overflow of leads in your pipeline within 30 days (16:23)

With everything happening in the world, everyone needs a space they can feel safe in.  Turning on the TV makes you full of anxious and fear. You want to help others but feel without hope. Living in bad news for too long breaks the most uplifting spirits. It traumatizes the mind and turns everything else toxic (even if you don't realize it). Having a safe space is about more than stepping out of the world for a moment. It makes you happier, feel more at peace, and ready to take on the rest of the day.  In this episode, you'll discover how to tune out the notifications and news for a space that revitalizes your soul for real impact in the world. Show Highlights Include: How to avoid mental pollution from the everyday news cycle and find a safe space for your spirit. (0:52) The ‘Emergency Room' perspective on seeking relief (when there is none left in the world). (4:16) Using the Psychology Today meaning of ‘refuge' to step out of the world and find your peace. (7:17) The soul-fulfilling things you can do to tune out the noise and find peace in the world. (8:51) The Philippians Way to give your mind a break and be completely at one with yourself. (11:06) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Women generally hold themselves to certain standards that keep us seen as ‘good' in the eyes of society. We try to play safe and only exhibit certain ‘accepted' behaviors because of this. But why? Why do we hold ourselves to these standards and deprive ourselves of our essential wants, desires, and even dreams? Elise Loehnen helps us dig deeply into that today. She's the owner of the podcast Pulling The Thread, a podcast dedicated to pulling apart the stories we tell about who we are and putting them back together. She's also the former host of the Goop podcast and lives in Los Angeles with her husband and children. Elise helps us reconsider the origin of our desire to be seen as good, as girls and even as women. She challenges a number of long held beliefs, the historical context behind them, and whether it's still right to follow those structures. She also reveals how you can break free of these high and unreasonable standards and expectations set by society for you, and trust your natural instincts, so you can live a more balanced, peaceful and spiritual life. Listen in… Show Highlights Include: How women tend to be harder on women than men (and how it affects us negatively). (06:22). How you can flip your envy to a net positive and gain from it (instead of constantly simmering with jealousy). (14:32) The disparity between how society treats men vs. women (and how it's destructive). (17:34) The shocking origin of the seven deadly sins, and how it influenced our view of religion and the sexes today. (18:42) How we set high, unreasonable standards for what a good woman is for ourselves (and expect every other woman to live up to it). (29:07) The health effects of constantly denying yourself your essential needs and wants. (36:55) For Elise's Book and Substack, link to:  https://eliseloehnen.com Interested in coaching with Brilliant Balance? Schedule an exploratory call here: www.brilliant-balance.com/schedule  Subscribe to The Brilliant Balance Weekly and we'll deliver it to your digital doorstep each Tuesday: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly  Need a few moments of peace? Listen to our free 5-Minute Meditation: www.brilliant-balance.com/breathe/  Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/brilliant_balance  Join our private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057 

There is a simple, almost effortless way to soar past your competitors. It doesn't require hard work, working longer hours, or investing more in marketing… What I'm talking about is filling your “dead time.” What's “dead time?”  It's the time you waste when you're working…  Whether you're mowing lawns, pressure washing or gutter cleaning, there is an effortless way to master new skills while working and add an extra 20-40% to your bottom line. In this episode, we reveal how to leverage your “dead time” to create new avenues of growth in your business.  Tune in now! Show Highlights Include: How to passively master any skill while you mow your client's lawn (0:42) Want to build a profitable blue-collar business? Here are the top 5 podcasts you need to listen to starting today! (5:42) How you can easily surpass all your competitors by spending one hour a day on THIS habit (10:08) Unusual reason why watching the news slowly sinks your business (12:41) Steal this quick “5 Calls” hack to sign multiple new clients every month (and add 30% to your bottom line)  (14:10)  

Like it or not, hitting your prospects with cold, hard facts about your product won't cut it. That's the bad news…  The good news?  There's one crucial factor most sales guys ignore that makes selling any product a walk in the park. What's this overlooked secret? Creating an emotional connection with your prospect… Not only does this make the sales process infinitely easier, but it also skyrockets your closing rate wildly. In today's show, Business Advisor Bimal Shah shares his top 3 ways to skyrocket your closing rate by building an emotional bond with your prospects.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: How to cultivate a resilient attitude and crush any goal with ease  (2:20) 3 growth "time bombs" ready to blow NOW that can destroy your business (and how you can prevent them) (6:07) The “ECS” system that skyrockets your closing rate per meeting (even if “selling” isn't your strength) (9:52) Steal this simple “KLT” technique to make anyone you talk with trust that you're the answer to their problems (13:05) #1 deal-killing mistake you must avoid when you're starting sales (20:09) Link to the FREE Books: https://bit.ly/All5BooksForFree YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_wrH36CwIGcr5aHbVPyYWA Linked In: www.linkedin.com/in/theoneyearbreakthrough Facebook:   https://www.facebook.com/rajparthachievers Website: https://theoneyearbreakthrough.com/ Link to all my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/BimalBooks Link to The Sales Metric tool that I have used for more than two decades: https://www.theoneyearbreakthrough.com/product/the-sales-tracker/

Having influence can change lives. An influential leader can walk into a room and empower others. They have faith in what they say and know their mission.  But influencing others can be intimidating. You need people to take action and change the way they think.  Influential leaders empower their employees and speed up results. They leave an impact for generations to come. In this episode, you'll learn the three ways to become a more influential and impactful leader today. Show Highlights Include: How emulating Francis Bacon makes you a better leader and puts faith in your mission. (2:17) Why sitting next to a Grandparent immediately makes you more influential and intellectual. (5:36) How Björn Borg's tennis training keeps life full of inspiration and wears out your opponents. (8:12) The Extreme Ownership Guide for making life more enjoyable and inspiring to others. (11:07) Using the Growth Mindset to become a more dependable and reliable person today. (13:27) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Consistency is a behavior that can enhance your life in every way. How? When you apply consistency for a sustained period, every single day, It makes you focus and aware of what you have to do to get to where you want to be. Practicing consistency instills discipline in us. And it's the only way to achieve personal growth and improvement in our lives. In this episode, I'll show you the power of being consistent in little things and the effect it has on your life. You'll also discover how to unlock your hidden potential through consistency. Listen now. Show Highlights Include:  How being consistent improves your life. (1:29) Why you should focus on creating small wins everyday (and the snowball effect of the law of accumulation on your life). (2:04) The effect consistency has on your hidden potential (and the stark difference between a consistent and inconsistent person). (3:49) Why 90% of people in today's society find it hard to be consistent at anything. (5:52) How raw consistency got Rudy Ruettiger into a school he was told he could never get into (and even made him a hero for the football team). (7:41) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

One important question I like to ask women in my coaching program is this - What would you do if you could do anything? What's the change you'd like to see in the world? The answer is always a variation of ‘I want to help people.' And whether young, old or in midlife, the universal desire to be of service is rooted in our DNA. However there is a disconnect between the desire to be of service and the courage to start. A lot of women are scared of ever taking that first step, so they end up at jobs they don't enjoy, doing things they don't want to be part of to sustain their family.  All while never fulfilling that strong desire to be of service. My guest today, Courtney Johnson, was only 23 when she decided to follow her own prompting to use her life to be of service. She founded an organization called Culinary Care, providing meals to people undergoing cancer treatment, and has been at it for a decade. How did she do it? How did she take that bold step to start, build this service and scale it over the past 10 years? In this episode, Courtney shares how she birthed the idea for Culinary Cares, found people who needed help, and was able to scale and sustain her non-profit over a decade. Listen in… Show Highlights Include: How the idea for Culinary Care was birthed out of tragedy (and what you can learn from that). (4:27) How to find people in need for your service by learning the exact steps Courtney took to find hers. (10:58) Why you need to wear all the hats early on in your service business (and why it isn't sustainable in the long term) (16:37) The number one attitude you should always have as an entrepreneur. (28:00) A perspective you should adopt to keep you from being overwhelmed at any point of your service. (31:40) Visit the Culinary Care website. www.culinarycare.org Interested in coaching with Brilliant Balance? Schedule an exploratory call here: www.brilliant-balance.com/schedule  Subscribe to The Brilliant Balance Weekly and we'll deliver it to your digital doorstep each Tuesday: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly  Need a few moments of peace? Listen to our free 5-Minute Meditation: www.brilliant-balance.com/breathe/  Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/brilliant_balance  Join our private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057 

There comes a time in your life when you need to level up. It might be your health, relationships, or career.. Only you know what you need to take to the next level. But the problem is, you might be pushing it down and resisting it without knowing. You could even be resisting it by doing NOTHING about it.  The truth is: everything you want is on the other side of a decision - and the actions that follow it. It all starts with one moment of clarity. But when you do take that action, the momentum kicks in, propels you upward and you're able to take your life to the next level. The question is, will you? In this episode, I'll show you some success principles you can apply to level up effectively and how to make sure you get to that destination smoothly and without falling into any potholes. Listen in… Show Highlights Include: How your future self could be signaling you to level up (and why you should stop squashing that signal). (0:41) Success principles you can use to propel yourself upwards (these make the difference whether level up or stay stuck). (16:10) The one thing you should always invest in when leveling up (or waste thousands of valuable hours achieving nothing) (18:46) The right way to start your journey moving up (so you don't get burnt out and give up too early). (20:49) A powerful step you can make to ensure you stay consistent through your upward journey. (23:30) Interested in coaching with Brilliant Balance? Schedule an exploratory call here: www.brilliant-balance.com/schedule  Subscribe to The Brilliant Balance Weekly and we'll deliver it to your digital doorstep each Tuesday: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly  Need a few moments of peace? Listen to our free 5-Minute Meditation: www.brilliant-balance.com/breathe/  Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/brilliant_balance  Join our private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057 

Most people avoid hard work. They want instant results and see anything else as a waste of time. But there's no substitute for becoming better. And becoming better starts with a work ethic that never stops.  If you want to be successful in life, you have to put in hard work. Even if you can't see where it's going to take you right now.  In this episode, you'll discover how to step up your game with a strong work ethic for the things you want most in life. Show Highlights Include: How to push aside workplace distractions and become the best at what you do. (0:52) How to build a stronger work ethic with Ozzie Smith's Hall of Fame Speech. (2:16) The ‘Vince Lombardi' way of investing into what you want (and experiencing joy on another level). (3:36) Why Nick Saban's coaching style advances your career and improves your sense of pride. (5:40) Using the 4 AM Farmer's philosophy to get your dream job. (7:41) Why success doesn't happen overnight (and how to get real results without a time limit). (9:49) Why showing up like Cal Ripken Jr. builds your life legacy of respect, hard work, and excellence. (11:00) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

The concept of “healing” might sound appealing, but it's actually a dangerous trick in disguise. Why? Well, it means you have to believe something is wrong with you in the first place, otherwise healing would never interest you.  And when you let healing lure you in like a worm on a fishing rod it can actually create more misery, shame, and suffering.  But it doesn't have to be that way. You don't have to “fix” or “heal” anything. Instead, you could just be done with that “masterpiece” of your life, and start painting a brand-new canvas, free from your past mistakes and trauma.  How do you do this?  In this episode, I reveal the counterintuitive way to stop judging yourself for your past, and how this unveils a new beauty in life.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include How diving deep into art forces you to see the hidden beauty in life (1:29)  The insidious “fix me” trap you can fall into on your healing journey which actually heightens your misery (6:53)  The “Masterpiece” mindset shift for becoming oddly grateful for your past traumas, addictions, and suffering (9:04)  How writing your own eulogy can help you set down the worst things from your past and start a new life (16:27)  Do you shame yourself for your mistakes? Here's why celebrating them instead frees you from them instead of imprisoning you to them (24:32)  Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body's Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN   Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

We're wired to hustle. We've been trained to hustle since childhood and most of us don't know any other way. From babysitting, to working through college, to working through grad school. We don't know any other way to navigate life than by grinding it out. But there are certain seasons in which we should slow down, because rushing at the same pace during that time would be detrimental to our physical, emotional and mental health. How do you know when to switch out of hustle mode and slow down? In this episode, I'll give you some ideas about when you might want to switch into your anti-hustle mode for a while. You'll learn why slowing down is important, even if it feels foreign at first. Listen in… Show Highlights Include: How my maternity leave allowed me to soak up the experience of being a mother and bond with my babies. (and why you might consider taking one if you can). (3:23) Could a gap year be the right step for your child?. (8:09) The characteristics of a season to dial it back and switch into anti-hustle mode. (13:46) Why it's important to should slow down when you're between chapters (19:34) Interested in coaching with Brilliant Balance? Schedule an exploratory call here: www.brilliant-balance.com/schedule  Subscribe to The Brilliant Balance Weekly and we'll deliver it to your digital doorstep each Tuesday: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly  Need a few moments of peace? Listen to our free 5-Minute Meditation: www.brilliant-balance.com/breathe/  Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/brilliant_balance  Join our private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057