The Glass Elevator Podcast - Honest Talk

This week and for the final episode of our 1st Series of The Glass Elevator, Haylie and Clare talk about Forgiveness and how you can reach this within yourself for a better, healthy and more enlightening journey ahead! What is the true definition of forgiveness? Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. ... Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses. There are 7 steps to true forgiveness - 7 Steps to True Forgiveness Step 1: Acknowledge. Acknowledge the hurt. ... Step 2: Consider. Consider how the hurt and pain has affected you. ... Step 3: Accept. Accept that you cannot change the past. ... Step 4: Determine. Determine whether or not you will forgive. ... Step 5: Repair. ... Step 6: Learn. ... Step 7: Forgive.

In this episode Haylie and I discuss Coercive control  Coercive control creates invisible chains and a sense of fear that pervades all elements of a victim's life. It works to limit their human rights by depriving them of their liberty and reducing their ability for action. Experts like Evan Stark liken coercive control to being taken hostage. As he says: “the victim becomes captive in an unreal world created by the abuser, entrapped in a world of confusion, contradiction and fear.” How do you know if this is happening to you? Some common examples of coercive behaviour are: Isolating you from friends and family Depriving you of basic needs, such as food Monitoring your time Monitoring you via online communication tools or spyware Taking control over aspects of your everyday life, such as where you can go, who you can see, what you can wear and when you can sleep Depriving you access to support services, such as medical services Repeatedly putting you down, such as saying you're worthless Humiliating, degrading or dehumanising you Controlling your finances Making threats or intimidating you If you need to talk to someone... If you want to access support over the phone, you can call: National Domestic Abuse Helpline – 0808 2000 247 – www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/ (run by Refuge) The Men's Advice Line, for male domestic abuse survivors – 0808 801 0327 (run by Respect) The Mix, free information and support for under 25s in the UK – 0808 808 4994 National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Helpline – 0800 999 5428 (run by Galop) Samaritans (24/7 service) – 116 123 Rights of Women advice lines, there are a range of services available

Defense mechanisms are behaviors people use to separate themselves from unpleasant events, actions, or thoughts. These psychological strategies may help people put distance between themselves and threats or unwanted feelings, such as guilt or shame. The idea of defense mechanisms comes from psychoanalytic theory, a psychological perspective of personality that sees personality as the interaction between three components: id, ego, and super ego. First proposed by Sigmund Freud, this theory has evolved over time and contends that behaviors, like defense mechanisms, are not under a person's conscious control. In fact, most people do them without realizing the strategy they're using. Defense mechanisms are a normal, natural part of psychological development. Identifying which type you, your loved ones, even your co-workers use can help you in future conversations and encounters. Top 10 most common defense mechanisms Dozens of different defense mechanisms have been identified. Some are used more commonly than others. In most cases, these psychological responses are not under a person's conscious control. That means you don't decide what you do when you do it. Here are a few common defense mechanisms: 1. Denial  2. Repression 3. Projection 4. Displacement 5. Regression 6. Rationalisation 7. Sublimation 8. Reaction formation 9. Compartmentalization 10. Intellectualisation

Haylie and Clare give insight on how to start or build upon your search for Therapy and what to look out for. There are qualifications and accredited bodies that you should be aware of to make sure you are getting the right level of help from a qualified professional. With more and more people suffering from mental Health issues, it can feel quite overwhelming when looking for a therapist and there are so many unqualified ones out there just looking at making some extra money from your struggles. We help you understand what it looks like to interact with a qualified therapist and what to ask and look out for. Things to ask when arranging an appointment with a therapist You may want to ask your therapist (or the person referring you for therapy) about: their background and qualifications the type of therapy they practice if they have a specialism (for example, some therapists specialise in working with particular issues or groups such as younger people, LGBTQ+ people, or survivors of abuse and violence) their experience of working with the problem you're experiencing whether there is a waiting list and how long it will take you to get an appointment how long the therapy will last and what it will be like the benefits and risks involved what happens if you cancel or miss a session their confidentiality policy if you have a disability and need reasonable adjustments to make the sessions easier for you to attend. It's also important to mention any special requirements or preferences you have. For example, if you'd feel most comfortable seeing a therapist of a particular gender, or who speaks your first language, or has a particular specialism. 

In this episode Haylie and Clare discuss complex PTSD and how it differs from PTSD. (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) PTSD is generally related to a single event, while complex PTSD is related to a series of events, or one prolonged event. Symptoms of PTSD can arise after a traumatic episode, such as a car collision, an earthquake, or sexual assault. PTSD affects 7–8 percent of Americans at some point in their lives. Symptoms may result from changes in some regions of the brain that deal with emotion, memory, and reasoning. Affected areas may include the amygdala, the hippocampus, and the prefrontal cortex. The symptoms of complex PTSD can be more enduring and extreme than those of PTSD. Some mental health professionals have started to distinguish between the two conditions, despite the lack of guidance from the DSM-5. A doctor may diagnose complex PTSD when a person has experienced trauma on an ongoing basis. Most frequently, this trauma involves long-term physical, emotional, or sexual abuse. The following are some examples of trauma that can cause complex PTSD: experiencing childhood neglect experiencing other types of abuse early in life experiencing domestic abuse experiencing human trafficking being a prisoner of war living in a region affected by war Is complex PTSD a separate condition? The International Classification of Diseases (ICD) identifies complex PTSD as a separate condition, though the DSM-5 currently does not. Complex PTSD is a relatively recent concept. Because of its variable nature, healthcare professionals may instead diagnose another condition. They may be especially likely to diagnose borderline personality disorder (BPD). Some researchers have identified areas of substantial overlap between complex PTSD and BPD. However, the conditions may also have differences. Authors of a study from 2014 reported that, for example, people with complex PTSD had consistently negative self-conceptions, while people with BPD had self-conceptions that were unstable and changing. People with complex PTSD may experience difficulties with relationships. They tend to avoid others and may feel a lack of connection. BPD can cause a person to swing between idealizing and undervaluing others, resulting in relationship difficulties. It is possible for a person with BPD to also experience complex PTSD, and the combination may result in additional symptoms. A person with complex PTSD may experience symptoms in addition to those that characterize PTSD. Common symptoms of PTSD and complex PTSD include: reliving the trauma through flashbacks and nightmares avoiding situations that remind them of the trauma dizziness or nausea when remembering the trauma hyperarousal, which means being in a continual state of high alert the belief that the world is a dangerous place a loss of trust in the self or others difficulty sleeping or concentrating being startled by loud noises

This week Haylie and I discuss BPD in more detail. We have an extra segment in today' episode. Straight after the full episode Clare goes through in detail the full symptoms on BPD. Listen through thoughtfully to either self diagnose or recognise in a loved one or close friend. What is borderline personality disorder (BPD)? If you have borderline personality disorder (BPD), you probably feel like you're on a rollercoaster—and not just because of your unstable emotions or relationships, but also the wavering sense of who you are. Your self-image, goals, and even your likes and dislikes may change frequently in ways that feel confusing and unclear. People with BPD tend to be extremely sensitive. Some describe it as like having an exposed nerve ending. Small things can trigger intense reactions. And once upset, you have trouble calming down. It's easy to understand how this emotional volatility and inability to self-soothe leads to relationship turmoil and impulsive—even reckless—behavior. When you're in the throes of overwhelming emotions, you're unable to think straight or stay grounded. You may say hurtful things or act out in dangerous or inappropriate ways that make you feel guilty or ashamed afterwards. It's a painful cycle that can feel impossible to escape. But it's not. There are effective BPD treatments and coping skills that can help you feel better and back in control of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Recognizing borderline personality disorder Do you identify with the following statements? I often feel “empty.” My emotions shift very quickly, and I often experience extreme sadness, anger, and anxiety. I'm constantly afraid that the people I care about will abandon me or leave me. I would describe most of my romantic relationships as intense, but unstable. The way I feel about the people in my life can dramatically change from one moment to the next—and I don't always understand why. I often do things that I know are dangerous or unhealthy, such as driving recklessly, having unsafe sex, binge drinking, using drugs, or going on spending sprees. I've attempted to hurt myself, engaged in self-harm behaviors such as cutting, or threatened suicide. When I'm feeling insecure in a relationship, I tend to lash out or make impulsive gestures to keep the other person close. The 9 symptoms of BPD Fear of abandonment.  Unstable relationships.  Unclear or shifting self-image. Impulsive, self-destructive behaviors. Self-harm. Suicidal Behavior Extreme emotional swings. Chronic feelings of emptiness. Explosive anger. Feeling suspicious or out of touch with reality.

This week Haylie and I talk about Body Dysmorphia - We speak openly about some of the effects of Body Dysmorphia and also what areas are most common. Would you believe that both men and women's genitalia are in the top 3! Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), or body dysmorphia, is a mental health condition where a person spends a lot of time worrying about flaws in their appearance. These flaws are often unnoticeable to others. People of any age can have BDD, but it's most common in teenagers and young adults. It affects both men and women. Having BDD does not mean you're vain or self-obsessed. It can be very upsetting and have a big impact on your life. Symptoms of body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) You might have BDD if you: worry a lot about a specific area of your body (particularly your face) spend a lot of time comparing your looks with other people's look at yourself in mirrors a lot or avoid mirrors altogether go to a lot of effort to conceal flaws – for example, by spending a long time combing your hair, applying make-up or choosing clothes pick at your skin to make it "smooth" BDD can seriously affect your daily life, including your work, social life and relationships. BDD can also lead to depression, self-harm and even thoughts of suicide. Getting help for body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) You should see a GP if you think you might have BDD. They'll probably ask a number of questions about your symptoms and how they affect your life. They may also ask if you've had any thoughts about harming yourself. You may be treated by the GP, or they may refer you to a mental health specialist for further assessment and treatment. It can be very difficult to seek help for BDD, but it's important to remember that you have nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed about. Getting help is important because your symptoms probably will not go away without treatment and may get worse. You can also refer yourself directly to an NHS psychological therapies service (IAPT) without a referral from a GP.

This week Haylie and I talk about Health Anxiety and what it look and feels like! Health anxiety (sometimes called hypochondria) is when you spend so much time worrying you're ill, or about getting ill, that it starts to take over your life. Check if you have health anxiety You may have health anxiety if you: constantly worry about your health frequently check your body for signs of illness, such as lumps, tingling or pain are always asking people for reassurance that you're not ill worry that your doctor or medical tests may have missed something obsessively look at health information on the internet or in the media avoid anything to do with serious illness, such as medical TV programmes act as if you were ill (for example, avoiding physical activities) Anxiety itself can cause symptoms like headaches or a racing heartbeat, and you may mistake these for signs of illness. Self-help for health anxiety Keep a diary note how often you check your body, ask people for reassurance, or look at health information try to gradually reduce how often you do these things over a week Challenge your thoughts draw a table with two columns write your health worries in the first column, then more balanced thoughts in the second for example, in the first column you may write, "I'm worried about these headaches" and in the second, "Headaches can often be a sign of stress" Keep busy with other things when you get the urge to check your body, for example, distract yourself by going for a walk or calling a friend Get back to normal activities try to gradually start doing things you've been avoiding because of your health worries, such as sports or socialising

This week Haylie and I talk all about Symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and techniques to bring it out! Someone with PTSD often relives the traumatic event through nightmares and flashbacks, and may experience feelings of isolation, irritability and guilt. They may also have problems sleeping, such as insomnia, and find concentrating difficult. These symptoms are often severe and persistent enough to have a significant impact on the person's day-to-day life. Causes of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) Any situation that a person finds traumatic can cause PTSD. These can include: serious road accidents violent personal assaults, such as sexual assault, mugging or robbery serious health problems childbirth experiences PTSD can develop immediately after someone experiences a disturbing event, or it can occur weeks, months or even years later. PTSD is estimated to affect about 1 in every 3 people who have a traumatic experience, but it's not clear exactly why some people develop the condition and others do not. Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) People who repeatedly experience traumatic situations, such as severe neglect, abuse or violence, may be diagnosed with complex PTSD. Complex PTSD can cause similar symptoms to PTSD and may not develop until years after the event. It's often more severe if the trauma was experienced early in life, as this can affect a child's development.

This week Haylie and I discuss OCD. Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a chronic mental health condition characterized by obsessions which lead to compulsive behaviors. People often double check to make sure they've locked the front door or always wear their lucky socks on game days — simple rituals or habits that make them feel more secure. OCD goes beyond double checking something or practicing a game day ritual. Someone diagnosed with OCD feels compelled to act out certain rituals repeatedly, even if they don't want to — and even if it complicates their life unnecessarily. What is OCD? Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is characterized by repetitive, unwanted thoughts (obsessions) and irrational, excessive urges to do certain actions (compulsions). Although people with OCD may know that their thoughts and behaviors don't make logical sense, they're often unable to stop them. Symptoms Obsessive thoughts or compulsive behaviors associated with OCD generally last more than an hour each day and interfere with daily life. Obsessions These are upsetting thoughts or impulses that repeatedly occur. People with OCD may try to ignore or suppress them, but they may be afraid that somehow the thoughts might be true. The anxiety associated with suppression can also become too great to endure, making them engage in compulsive behaviors to decrease their anxiety. Compulsions These are repetitive acts that temporarily relieve the stress and anxiety brought on by an obsession. Often, people who have compulsions believe these rituals will prevent something bad from happening. OCD  Checking Contamination Symmetry Hoarding 

In this weeks episode Haylie and I talk all about Situational Anxiety! There are there certain situations that, no matter what you do, seem to cause your nerves to completely spike? For many people, public speaking is one such circumstance. As they stand up to speak, their hands instantly begin to tremble. Their voices change from steady to shaky. Beads of sweat pool at the top of their temples, and they can feel their faces reddening. Worry and sleeplessness take over in the days before, and sometimes even after. These symptoms can become so uncomfortable that any speaking event, big or small, is a miserable experience, and one that should be avoided altogether. This is an example of what's known as situational anxiety. What exactly is situational anxiety? Situational anxiety is a specific type of anxiety that occurs during unfamiliar situations or events that make us so nervous that we lose control of our ability to stay calm. And it's incredibly common, especially when it comes to public speaking. But there are other situations that can cause anxiety levels to elevate. These can include: · Going to a job interview · Attending a networking event · Meeting someone for a first date · Riding an airplane · Sharing an opinion during a meeting · Making small talk with new acquaintances · Being away from home · Using a public restroom · Leading a meeting or discussion · Standing alone in a public place It's important to note that situational anxiety is not necessarily the same as Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), which is a continuous state of worry despite the situation. What does situational anxiety feel like? Situational anxiety can cause both a mind a body response, triggering physical as well as emotional symptoms. These can include: · Nervousness · Irritability · Fatigue · Worry · Low self-esteem · Shaky hands · Headaches · Muscle tension · Chest pains · Sweaty palms · Rapid heartbeat · Shallow breathing · Sweating · Blushing Anxiety is very personal and people may experience different symptoms from one another.

Episode #14 we talk about boundries. Setting boundaries is an important part of establishing one's identity and is a crucial aspect of mental health and well-being. Boundaries can be physical or emotional, and they can range from being loose to rigid, with healthy boundaries often falling somewhere in between. This article will discuss what healthy boundaries are and how to set them, why healthy boundaries are important for self-care, and how to explain boundaries to adults and children. Learning to show compassion and kindness to yourself is crucial in setting healthy boundaries “A boundary is a limit or space between you and the other person; a clear place where you begin and the other person ends . . . The purpose of setting a healthy boundary is, of course, to protect and take good care of you” (n.d.). In general, “Healthy boundaries are those boundaries that are set to make sure mentally and emotionally you are stable” (Prism Health North Texas, n.d.). Another way to think about it is that “Our boundaries might be rigid, loose, somewhere in between, or even nonexistent. A complete lack of boundaries may indicate that we don't have a strong identity or are enmeshed with someone else” (Cleantis, 2017). Healthy boundaries can serve to establish one's identity. Specifically, healthy boundaries can help people define their individuality and can help people indicate what they will and will not hold themselves responsible for. While boundaries are often psychological or emotional, boundaries can also be physical. For example, declining physical contact from a coworker is setting an important boundary, one that's just as crucial as setting an emotional boundary, i.e., asking that same coworker not to make unreasonable demands on your time or emotions. A Take-Home Message Setting healthy boundaries is a crucial part of life and an important aspect of any self-care practice. Someone who's not used to setting boundaries might feel guilty or selfish when they first start out, but setting boundaries is necessary for mental health and well-being. Appropriate boundaries can look very different depending on the setting, and it's important to set them in all aspects of one's life. Finally, while setting boundaries is crucial, it is even more crucial to respect the boundaries that others have set for themselves. This goes for parents, children, romantic partners, bosses, coworkers, and anyone who interacts with or has power over anyone else. Respect is a two-way street, and appreciating the boundaries others have set for themselves is as important as setting boundaries for oneself.

In this Episode we talk all about Mental Health Issues in Teens. There are a few common types of mental illness in teens The most common mental illnesses in teens are: Generalized anxiety—Excessive worry about everyday matters. Social phobias—Severe feelings of self-consciousness and insecurity in social settings. Depression—Persistent feelings of sadness, anxiety, and/or emptiness. Listen in to find out more!

In this Episode, Haylie and I talk about the Parent, Child and Adult's in our head. If you have ever read the Chimp Paradox by Steve Peters this is along similar lines. Transactional analysis (TA) is a psychoanalytic theory and method of therapy wherein social transactions are analyzed to determine the ego state of the communicator (whether parent-like, childlike, or adult-like) as a basis for understanding behavior.In transnational analysis, the communicator is taught to alter the ego state as a way to solve emotional problems. The method deviates from Freudian psychoanalysis which focuses on increasing awareness of the contents of unconsciously held ideas. Eric Berne developed the concept and paradigm of transnational analysis in the late 1950s

Join us for a short bite size episode where we discuss Self Sabotage openly from where it comes from to how to manage it. Self Sabotaging Behavior & Thoughts: What Causes It and How to Rise Above It. Self-sabotage is when we actively or passively take steps to prevent ourselves from reaching our goals. This behaviour can affect nearly every aspect of life be it a relationship, a career goal, or a personal goal such as weight loss. Although very common, it is an incredibly frustrating cycle of behaviour that lowers our self-confidence and leaves us feeling stuck. There are many reasons why someone may choose to self-sabotage but many stem from a lack of belief in ourselves. Why do we self sabotage? We lack self-worth – when we do not believe in ourselves we cannot achieve our goals. Included in self-confidence is our self-worth. If we constantly tell ourselves that we are not smart enough, qualified enough, or good enough to have what we want, we will act accordingly to what we are telling ourselves. They way we speak to ourselves matters and directly affects how we present ourselves to the world. When we don't have confidence, we will do things to stop ourselves from achieving our fullest potential. We fear success – When we have worked so hard for something our success can sometimes become a stressor. This often happens when we have a lack of self confidence. We may worry that we truly aren't qualified or prepared and that we will be exposed as a fraud. Our fear of success leads us to engage in behaviour that limits our success. When we are getting close to achieving he goal. We want to place fault elsewhere – When we believe that we aren't going to do well or will fail not matter what, we begin behaving in a way that ensures we will fail. When we think things like “I won't get the contract anyways” we displace our responsibility in achieving our goals. When we do fail, because we already told ourselves we would, the blame can be transferred to someone else. We can justify procrastination or not preparing as we've already accepted that we won't succeed. We want control – We feel better when we feel like we are in control. By accepting a negative outcome ahead of time, we feel like we are in control even though it is not what we want to happen. We in effect control our failure when we apply this self-sabotaging thought pattern. We fear failure – we fear that we will give all we have to a goal and still not be enough. It is easier to give yourself reasons as to why you failed than to truly give it your all and still not succeed. This is the most overwhelming reason why we self sabotage. Reach out to us on Instagram @theglasselevator or email directly theglasselevator@protonmail.com

In this episode Haylie and I talk about the word Empowerment and what it really means. There are many words that we learn and say on a regular basis but do we truly understand how they apply to our lives and what it means. The word Empowerment is not a feeling ...its a successful solution. Listen to this episode where Haylie and I geek it out in its true form and provide some awesome tips on on how to become truly empowered. You will also learn how to empower your children with some useful tips and situations that Haylie shares! Don't miss this one out ...its a good one! Please reach out to us on Instagram if you want to share feedback or thoughts @theglasselevator

In this episode, Haylie and I talk all about this in more detail. Are you getting your needs met? The classic Maslow's hierarchy can help you understand why you might be feeling unfulfilled and what to do about it.  Abraham Maslow proposed, in 1943, that human needs boil down to five categories: physiological (basic), safety, love, esteem, and self-actualization, arranged in a hierarchy from bottom to top.  He believed that, usually, we have to fulfill our lower-level needs (such as the need for food) before we can work on the levels above. Psychologists now believe that the order for the hierarchy is not strict. We can still use Maslow's hierarchy as a rough guide for identifying our own missing needs. We hope you enjoy this episode, please follow us on @theglasselevator or email us directly theglasselevator@protonmail.com

In this episode we talk about the 5 Love Languages. Psychologists have concluded that the need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need - without it you will be emotionally and socially challenged. However, we all experience the feeling of love differently and we all have certain things that make us feel loved.  We often feel loved is so many different ways but ultimately we feel at least 2 of the below as primary. Haylie and I get to grips with our own love languages and really get deep in to what they really mean to us an others. You will learn what situations can lend itself to these languages and how some people relate to them differently! Which ones are you? Listen to us chat it out in this episode! #1 - Words of Affirmation #2 -  Quality Time #3 - Receiving Gifts #4 - Acts of Service #5 - Physical touch If you want to get in touch you can follow us on instagram @theglasselevator or email us directly theglasselevator@protonmail.com - If you are loving this podcast also remember to rate us on Apple - this really helps!

In this Episode Haylie and I talk all about Gaslighting..... You may have heard about this term before or maybe its completely new to you. I often find I can never quite remember what it means and I have to keep looking it up. Well fear no more - Haylie has pulled out her little researching fingers and found out exactly where this term has come from and its a wow of a story. Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse where the perpetrator continuously manipulates someone into questioning their sanity, reality, and  themselves. If someone is constantly gaslighting you, they often don't have alot of care for you Learn to recognize the signs of gaslighting and be more confident to stand up for yourself, so when it happens you are aware and can distance yourself. Please remember that gaslighting isn't about you, it's about the gaslighter and their superiority complex, need for power, and insecurity. it's not your fault, and you are NOT weak or stupid for “falling for it” Learn how to spot a gaslighter, if you are being gasligthed, how to deal with a gaslighter and what to do if you realise you might be one. You can always catch us/DM us on Instagram @theglasselevator or email us directly theglasselevator@protonmail.com Another great Episode! Enjoy!  Clare & Haylie 

In this Episode Haylie's chosen topics are Co-dependancy and Narcissism.  We cover these two areas in detail, offering great insight. This has been very obvious in previous relationships for ourselves as well as how we have come out of it. We share our thoughts openly and candidly and offer some tips on how to reflect and decide if you are living in a Co-dependant relationship or with a Narcissist. Some people in these kind of relationships can find it very difficult to see the wood through the trees. In this episode we pick apart this in more detail and allow you to take away some thoughts for yourself. When we are co-dependant or living with a Narcissist we can be often told we are the ones to blame and everything is our fault with the bully often using terminology that doesn't direct at them. A co-dependant is often responsible for covering up for the manipulating persons ways, attitude or lies to make them look better. So in some instances the Co-Dependant is actually helping the Narcissist.  Listen for more insight - it was such a good chat. If you have any questions please follow as on Instagram @theglasselevator or email us at theglasselevator@protonmail.com

In this Episode me and Haylie talk all things Anxiety, we open up about about some of our own blocks and how we pass through them, from not wanting to travel on public transport to talking yourself out of popping to the shop. Lockdown has changed pre, during and post lockdown. We talk about how it has increased as well as decreased and offer some tips on how to manage it daily. If you have any questions, please ping us a message on Instragram @theglasselevator or email us direct at theglasselevator@protonmail.com Thanks! Clare & Haylie

In this episode Haylie and I talk all things Impostor Syndrome… we wanted to talk about this subject sooner rather than later because just setting up this podcast caused us both to suffer from impostor syndrome and it certainly did rear its head. Hopefully you can hear how our confidence has grown each week as we tell it to literally bugger off! lol We discuss what it looks like to us as well as others and what are the main triggers – listen along to understand if any of what we experience you also experience too. Its so comforting hearing people talk about about reactions or feelings that you often think are just you..  Imposter Syndrome is such an ugly struggle and comes directly from our conditions of worth. We hope you enjoy this episode and if you do give us a shout on Instagram @theglasselevator or ping us an email at theglasselevator@protonmail.com

Episode 3 -  In this episode Haylie and I talk all things Conditions of Value.  Are you putting conditions on your relationships or interactions that hinder your own growth? Are you a people pleaser and just agree to things to make things easier? We discuss different parts of how this can be seen in yourself and also how best to work with it. Often Conditions of value are parts of us that have been developed over time or a strategy we use to overcome situations that are not comfortable for us. By looking at your your core and finding out who you are is often something we don't do until a later stage in our lives. In this episode we discuss how powerful this can really be at any stage of your life. If you have any questions or you want to get in touch - you can reach us at theglasselevator@protonmail.com or DM us on Insta @theglasselevator

In this Episode Haylie and I discuss Attachment issues and displays and how they can be linked to significant actions to your lives past and present. I don't think I know one person that hasnt displayed at least one or even a combination of attachment fears. Here we talk frank and openly about how to see and feel this within yourself and how to spot in others. Chit chatting along we also let you in on our own and how we manage them plus a thought of the week for you to think about in your own time! If you have any suggestions or questions - you can email us at theglasselevator@protonmail.com

Episode 1 - Haylie and I discuss Co-regulation and how important it is when bringing up children as well as learning how to self regulate as an adult. Have you ever felt angry and not really understood why - or has something typically annoyed you and to others it seems daft?! Haylie provides some strategies and mindful thought processes on how to engage yourself in self regulation and also how to introduce co-regulation into parenting which in turn teaches your children to listen to themselves in a different way. We are always keen on finding out your stories, so if you have anything you would like to share or perhaps you would like us to research something for you and provide our insight - please email us on theglasselevator@protonmail.com or talk to us on Instagram @theglasselevator

You've landed at the Glass Elevator podcast – Thanks for Joining – you may have just stumbled upon on a Sunday afternoon or you may have come straight from Instagram – either way we love the fact you have found us – your actually part of the team – Well done. We are two open and honest sisters discussing normal life with a direct focus on different human behaviors and mental health struggles. Haylie and I have a discussion each week on a new topic that we have direct personal experience with – so expect frank, researched and positive talk. Now lets not forget we are sisters – and this comes with its normal chit chat…and we do class ourselves as quite funny although we've had no offers to do any stand up just yet!. We are chalk and cheese but come together in a way that seems to work and that you all love!