Podcasts about impulsive

We start in peril as Ben's phone is at a mere 24%. And well it goes downhill from there. Sassy Sasha gets us into impulsive decisions you regret, introducing ourselves on the phone, TBT, and Luke is chasing a rabbit as either a little kid or drunk adult. And we may never know the end of the story...

In this episode, Ash and Dusty explore the complexities of moderation for people with ADHD. They discuss how impulsivity, emotional dysregulation, and black-and-white thinking often make it difficult to moderate behaviors such as alcohol consumption, nicotine use, marijuana, and internet usage. Ash shares personal experiences and insights about managing these challenges, emphasizing the importance of building awareness and connecting to positive motivations rather than striving for perfection or all-or-nothing approaches. Dusty highlights the slow and gradual nature of behavior change and stresses the value of multiple small tools and interventions that can help people stay on track even when self-discipline feels elusive. The hosts also touch on practical strategies, like switching from cocktails to bottled beer to improve memory retention and reduce negative aftereffects, using apps that create a pause before impulsive internet use, and structuring marijuana use to support productivity rather than hinder it. They advocate for accepting moderation as a sustainable lifestyle shift rather than a quick fix or drastic overhaul. The episode concludes with encouragement to embrace incremental progress and patience, recognizing that setbacks are part of the process. Episode links + resources: Join the Community | Become a Patron Our Process: Understand, Own, Translate. About Asher and Dusty For more of the Translating ADHD podcast: Episode Transcripts: visit TranslatingADHD.com and click on the episode Follow us on Twitter: @TranslatingADHD Visit the Website: TranslatingADHD.com

Do you feel like your urges seem to have a mind of their own? Those compelling impulses to check your phone, eat something sweet, or pour another glass of wine often feel like unwelcome intruders in our carefully planned lives. However, urges aren't problems to fix—they're messengers trying to communicate something important.   I'll share a powerful metaphor that changed how I understand urges, along with practical prompts to help you decode what your urges are really trying to tell you. By approaching these impulses with curiosity instead of judgment, you can transform your relationship with them and access deeper self-knowledge. When you understand what drives your urges, you gain the freedom to choose how you respond to them.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/171

Disclaimer: Panel was recorded on 8 May 2025 before the US-China trade agreement on tariff rollbacks for a 90-day period was announced on 12 May 2025.Hear this panel to unpack the impact of Trump's tariffs on the global trade landscape. You'll gain insights that can help you operate in today's volatile economy as policy shifts continue at speed.Euromonitor experts discuss the ripple effects of evolving US tariffs, review the latest economic forecasts and outline market opportunities for your organisation.Supply chains, pricing strategies and investments face intense scrutiny amid this uncertainty. And business leaders are left with the impossible task of trying to predict what's ahead.Impulsive, reactive decisions could be detrimental to long-term success—especially when new exemptions or changes in tariffs are happening by the day. Case in point: just four days after we recorded this panel, the US and China announced an agreement to reduce tariffs for a 90-day period (bookmark our hub for updated analysis).Tune in to our lively talk that addresses some of the questions we're all asking right now.Find answers to your business concerns:· Are these tariffs hitting global economic projections?· What's the impact on companies and consumers?· How could pricing and inventory shift in the coming months?· Where do opportunities exist in this marketplace?· Which tactics or tools help you mitigate risks and build resilience?Companies can transform tariff shocks into a foundation for sustained competitive advantage with comprehensive market intelligence.Meet the Euromonitor experts:· Bill Carroll, manager – government & trade· Dr. Bolutife Onaneye, senior consultant· Lan Ha, head of insights – economies & consumers· Matt Tripodi, senior global territory director – government & trade· Quinton Walker, consulting project manager – financial services· Sowmya Ramaswami, consulting practice manager – global trade & exports

In this powerful episode of the 10X Growth Strategies podcast, host Saradha Sriram speaks with Naren Shanker — serial entrepreneur and co-founder of Hosted AI — on the transformative power of inner work, mindfulness, and navigating entrepreneurship through intuition. Drawing from his journey and the teachings of The Journey Within by Sri Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, Naren offers real-world insights on aligning purpose with profession, cultivating resilience, and the true cost (and reward) of self-awareness. If you're seeking clarity, calm, and grounded success in a world of noise — this is the conversation for you.

Elijah, Jack, and Fisher sit down and dissect the 2025 Nebraska state soccer tournament bracket. Who will win and who should people watch out for? Listen here to find out!--- Support Nebraska Soccer Talk by becoming a Patron. Click here to visit our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/nebraska_talk. If you don't want to be a monthly supporter of Nebraska Soccer Talk, you can be a one-time supporter by Venmo: https://venmo.com/u/nesoccertalk.--- Visit our sponsor Fleet Feet for all your fitness needs: http://www.fleetfeet.com. Fleet Feet is locally owned and operated.--- Visit our sponsor Deer Creek Sports Cantina and Tacos at www.deercreeksportscantina.com. Deer Creek Sports Cantina is locally owned and operated.--- Follow us on Twitter @nebraska_talk and follow the hosts on Twitter @jack_hova and @Owen_Godberson. Want to be featured on a Nebraska Soccer Talk podcast episode? Click here: https://forms.gle/UQWr65BR5tp9Gfgw5 --- Visit our website: https://nesoccertalk.com/--- Visit our sponsor: http://www.sportsrecruitingusa.com --- Intro music by Adam Arispe from the Impulsive: https://www.theimpulsiveofficial.com--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/nebraskasoccertalk/message---Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nebraskasoccertalk/message---Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nebraskasoccertalk/message

On this week's episode of Vinyl Fridays Brandon & AP Lindsay are happy to welcome local musician and DJ Danielle Sines. Originally from Michigan, Danielle has been forging a path through the Chicago music scene for the past ten years. Her band Impulsive Hearts are amazing and you should check them out August 9th at The Cubby Bear. We are also looking forward to their fourth album which is currently in the works. In addition to being a musician Danielle is also an avid vinyl collector. No stranger to spinning records, she can be heard every Tuesday as DJ D-Rock from 12pm - 3pm CST playing a wide range of music on CHIRP Radio  107.1FM on the dial and CHIRP.ORG on the inter webs.  ————————————————————————————————— Vinyl Fridays theme song & bed music by Dazzleflage Bed music: Apache by Jorgan Ingmann             Apache 65' by Davie Allan & The Arrows                  Apache The Incredible Bongo Band     Biradio.libsyn.com Instagram: @birp60406 Facebook: @blueislandradio If you'd like to support the show visit Patreon.com/blueislandradio

Your team is full of individuals with different values (preferences and styles). The question I am posing today is: do you see merit in, or do you judge, values that are different from your own?I am looking at two different values-preferences today:1. Rational vs Emotional2. Impulsive vs ThoughtfulHow do you identify with each of these paired groups? Are there people in your team with the same preference/ style as you?Are there people in your team with the opposite approach to you?Do you see merit in all approaches or do you judge those that aren't like your own?Are you benefitting from the collective intelligence your team has because of these differences, or not?Something I said today:"As a leader it's important to look at the team as a whole and ask if you're fully utilising your collective intelligence - which means valuing different approaches to solving problems as being equally worthy." (Rebecca Allen, Host - Her Ambitious Career Podcast)Links:Grab Rebecca's free gift: The 7 Habits of Female Execs Who Get PromotedCheck Rebecca's 1:1 coaching program out, Roadmap to Senior Leadership, and our Foundational program, that helps you define your tangible value and apply confidently for the best roles: www.illuminategrowth.com.auOther episodes: 3 Questions to Ask Your Team Regularly to Build EngagementAnd: 17 Creative Ways to Celebrate Your Team and Boost Belonging Rate, Review, & Follow our Show on Apple Podcasts:Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. We air every week and I don't want you to miss out on a single broadcast. Follow now! About Rebecca:Hi, I'm Rebecca Allen and I'm an Executive Coach and Personal Brand expert for corporate women, aspiring to senior levels of leadership. I absolutely LOVE coaching and seeing my fabulous clients exceed their own expectations. Over the last decade+ I have helped women realise their potential at companies including Woolworths, ANZ, J.P. Morgan, PwC, Coca-Cola Amatil, Ministry of Defence, Frontier Sensing and Abbvie Medical Research through my Roadmap to Senior Leadership 1:1 coaching program. I live for those phone calls from clients, jumping up and down, telling me they've got that promotion, negotiated a seismic pay rise or have moved into a role completely aligned with their mission, values and strengths. I'm a working mum of two wonderful children, adore travel and trying my hand at anything creative. I'd love to connect with you!

Why are so many women being diagnosed with ADHD later in life? What does your partner’s penis have to do with your bacterial vaginosis diagnosis? And when to worry about a lumpy boob. In this episode, psychiatrist and ADHD specialist Dr Kieran Kennedy discusses how women often experience more inattentive features of ADHD and why they may try to mask the symptoms. We also talk about time blindness, memory issues and emotional dysregulation. And is ADHD making you feel more sensitive to rejection? We discuss a condition called rejection sensitive dysphoria. Sign up to the Well Newsletter to receive your weekly dose of trusted health expertise without the medical jargon. Ask a question of our experts or share your story, feedback, or dilemma - you can send it anonymously here, email here or leave us a voice note here.THE END BITS Follow us on Instagram and Tiktok. All your health information is in the Well Hub. For more information on breast checks go to How To Check Your Breasts To find out where you can have a breast screen contact: BreastScreen Australia. Support independent women’s media by becoming a Mamamia subscriberCREDITS Hosts: Claire Murphy and Dr MariamGuest: Dr Kieran KennedySenior Producers: Claire Murphy and Sasha Tannock Audio Producers: Scott Stronach Video Producer: Julian RosarioMamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Information discussed in Well is for education purposes only and is not intended to provide professional medical advice. Listeners should seek their own medical advice, specific to their circumstances, from their treating doctor or health care professional.Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Danielle Elliot was considering breaking up with her partner...and then he broke up with her first. Danielle had a “big, out of character” reaction: By 4am that night she was packed and ready to leave. The whole experience left her feeling unsettled. Why had she reacted that way? That sparked a deep dive into rejection sensitivity and ADHD.Danielle is a health and science journalist who's now asking a bigger question: Why are so many women being diagnosed with ADHD — and why now?She explores this in Understood.org's new limited-series podcast, Climbing the Walls. Listen to Danielle's personal story here — then check out Climbing the Walls on your podcast platform of choice. Related resourcesListen to the Climbing the Walls podcastADHD and rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD)ADHD breakups: Impulsive texts and overthinking regrets, from Sorry, I Missed ThisTimestamps(01:26) Danielle's pandemic diagnosis after a strong reaction to a break up(08:26) Danielle's need to travel(12:15) Danielle's relationship with relationships, and rejection(16:02) Hosting Understood.org's Climbing the Walls podcastFor a transcript and more resources, visit the ADHD Aha! show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at adhdaha@understood.org, or record a message for us here.  Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Isabelle finishes sharing her neuropsych results, including recommendations for ADHD and autism (HINT: unmask! WHAT?) From the categorization of ADHD like a storm warning system (Mild/moderate/severe) to how job interviews might be the one place to mask (and how David does his interviews), David and Isabelle spelunk around how certain measures, like empathy, are not 'markers' of autism in the way we may think.  Share your favorite fidgets with us! Go to somethingshinypodcast.com/fidgetlove now!---Isabelle goes into greater detail about how her neuropsychological assessment was able to show her how she initiates and sustains auditory and visual attention and a little bit on processing speed. But to get more data, she'd need to undergo testing designed for people with traumatic brain injuries or strokes or dementia—what? It's a little strange to realize that the gold standard for learning more about brain functioning as a grown up with ADHD is the same that's used for brain injuries.  David points out that he uses the word neurodivergent intentionally, in order to point out that there is a diversity of brains, rather than a deficiency or something wrong with you. There are brains that work well in crisis and brains that work well when things are calm. Doesn't that make sense? Would we say that someone would be “severely apt” at handling chaos? Maybe, you just do what you're good at? Isabelle goes back to the scale of mild/moderate/severe ADHD—mild reads as boring, moderate—moderation SUCKS—all the words for the scale are poor. David names: if you can't use the words to apply to “happiness” —it's a bad scale for humans. Would you say you are ‘mildly or severely happy?” Probably not. So maybe we use different words for humans. People with ADHD are not storms and do not require storm warnings (last time we checked). As part of her neuropsychological evaluation, Isabelle got pages and pages of recommendations for next steps. She got a lot of great data, and also realized that one episode of Something Shiny provides more—so that was affirming and helpful in terms of the work the podcast and its community are doing. Her evaluator left off her autism recommendations, sending them along later, but said, essentially, the only recommendation is to unmask more. That “the only place masking is helpful is in job interviews.” Other than that it's harmful. It takes energy, it burns people out, it's hard. Isabelle then goes on to rant about how biased job interviews are, unless you're giving case examples—but then, David is also super good at job interviews. He checks—did you go to high school or college? Cool, you must be smart. Then, do you want to work with him? Check. Then, would he want to hang out with this person? Yup. And finally, a bunch of curveballs to see how people think on their feet. Because that helps you see how people think and how they communicate about their problem solving, which is good data. Then David names that there are questions he'd love to ask about people that he can't, beyond the protected class questions about age or location or self-identity—he wishes he could ask if someone is neurodivergent or if someone in their family is neurodivergent, that is an asset to David. He sees the ability to think outside the box in order to do what they do. But he knows he's not trusted, most hiring people are lying to you, employers are anxious, you're not going to like them. Every employer is terrified of rejection, it's so complicated. But he sees neurodiversity and awareness of that as a major plus—if somebody understands that and has self-esteem around it, knows what accommodations they need, they are curious about that. Isabelle has such a bias for self-insight—she wonders, how someone who was so socially off the rhythm of her peers, how was it that she had a lot of high measures for sensory things, but high measures on empathy? Which seems odd, because all of the autistic people Isabelle knows have off the charts empathy, which David concurs. Like the empathy for the crushed ant on the sidewalk. This is so true for Isabelle, she remembers crying for hours about a three-legged hamster she saw in a pet store named “Tiny Tim”—in retrospect, his paw was probably chewed off by his littermates or his mom because hamsters are ROUGH like that—but her mom told her he was okay because he was “fat”—to be fair, she was fatphobic and Polish immigrant mentality an maybe also autistic herself, but she was so distraught. She used to track one ant walking all the way to its hill to make sure it made it because she felt personally responsible for seeing that it was okay. She was so scared she'd look at it later and wonder if she wasn't autistic—but the stakes were so high, she was scared of not having the community she felt like she was on the cusp of having and understanding. As David puts it: "we will fight for worth and identity." Even more so, Isabelle learns that her own stereotype about autism meaning she is low empathy (even indicated on the 'measures' of autism on the assessments she took) is where she doesn't 'meet criteria' for autism, and how that would keep her up at night. Until her neuropsychiatrist pointed out: it has more to do with a snapshot of where you are and your accommodations. Of course someone who is in their 40's, has been high masking their whole life, and who special interests in humans AKA psychology would be high on empathy measures--she wasn't like this as a kid but it took decades for her to 'get it.' And what a revelation, that autism and empathy are not what we stereotypically assume they might be!Also, send us photos or links to your fave fidgets! We'll put 'em on our website and share the fidget love. DEFINITIONSNote: “Neuropsych” is shorthand for BOTH a neuropsychological assessment or a neuropsychologist (which is confusing).Neuropsychologist is "an expert in how brain injuries and conditions affect your behavior, mood and thinking skills. They perform neuropsychological evaluations to assess how your brain and mind are working and suggest treatment plans." (Source: Cleveland Clinic).A neuropsychological assessment is a series of interviews and tests (computer, written, drawing, solving puzzles, etc. no magnets, radiation, electrodes, or medical procedures involved) — the type of test is based on what is being explored. This battery (or collection) of tests, often done across multiple sessions, help a neuropsychologist determine a psychological diagnosis, treatment plan, and get a sense of how your brain works. Typically recommended by school systems/medical system to assess kids to help figure out what learning differences and accommodations may be helpful, but these assessments are not just for kids! Adults can use them to gain self-understanding, establish a baseline (if dementia or high-risk contact sports play is involved), or even figure out what parts of your brain have been injured or might be affected by brain surgery. Because kids grow and development so much, they are often redone every 2-4 years. Here's more on neuropsychological assessments from the Cleveland Clinic.Masking: when neurodivergent individuals pretend to be neurotypical, hide or minimize their stims, and even pretend they have the sam...

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Welcome to the Celestial Insights Podcast, the show that brings the stars down to Earth! Each week, astrologer, coach, and intuitive Celeste Brooks of Astrology by Celeste will be your guide. Her website is astrologybyceleste.com.  

Fisher, Elijah, and Jack sit down and discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly of the 2025 Nebraska High School soccer season so far.--- Support Nebraska Soccer Talk by becoming a Patron. Click here to visit our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/nebraska_talk. If you don't want to be a monthly supporter of Nebraska Soccer Talk, you can be a one-time supporter by Venmo: https://venmo.com/u/nesoccertalk.--- Visit our sponsor Fleet Feet for all your fitness needs: http://www.fleetfeet.com. Fleet Feet is locally owned and operated.--- Visit our sponsor Deer Creek Sports Cantina and Tacos at www.deercreeksportscantina.com. Deer Creek Sports Cantina is locally owned and operated.--- Follow us on Twitter @nebraska_talk and follow the hosts on Twitter @jack_hova and @Owen_Godberson. Want to be featured on a Nebraska Soccer Talk podcast episode? Click here: https://forms.gle/UQWr65BR5tp9Gfgw5 --- Visit our website: https://nesoccertalk.com/--- Visit our sponsor: http://www.sportsrecruitingusa.com --- Intro music by Adam Arispe from the Impulsive: https://www.theimpulsiveofficial.com--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/nebraskasoccertalk/message---Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nebraskasoccertalk/message---Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nebraskasoccertalk/message

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Nicole DeMasi Malcher, MS, RD, CDCES delves into the connection between ADHD and disordered eating. Learn why traditional diets often fail — and why intuitive eating may work — and come away with practical strategies for ADHD-friendly eating habits. ADHD and Nutrition: Additional Resources Free Download: Health & Fitness — Lifestyle Changes for Adults with ADHD Self-Test: Eating Disorders in Adults Read: 40 Ways to Eat Healthy and Resist Impulsive Snacking Read: Healthy Eating Habits for Impulsive, Dopamine-Starved ADHD Brains Read: Build a Better Relationship with Food to Benefit Your Brain Access the video and slides for podcast episode #549 here: https://www.additudemag.com/webinar/adhd-and-eating-habits/ This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/additude and get on your way to being your best self. Thank you for listening to ADDitude's ADHD Experts podcast. Please consider subscribing to the magazine (additu.de/subscribe) to support our mission of providing ADHD education and support.

Isabelle and David continue to explore how an official ADHD or autism or AuDHD diagnosis might be a useful bridge to belong to a community. But what about the people who see these labels as pathologizing, including famous ADHD researchers like Dr. Russell Barkely? David and Isabelle explore some of the ways that thinking of ADHD from the negatives only and leaves people using the label not as a tool for empowerment, self-understanding, and advocacy--but as an excuse. Furthermore, what about labels like "Asperger's" (low-support need/high-masking autism) that has its roots in Nazi extermination camps? Neuropsychs Explored Part III.---The pro to identifying as having ADHD that David now understands, that he didn't understand years ago, was that it allows you to fit into a culture and a group differently. He walked into a room in his 30's (at an Eye-to-Eye conference) and found himself fitting in. David needed the label to understand himself. He brings up Dr. Russell Barkley and his research—Isabelle jumps in with a factoid about Barkley's twin who had ADHD and addiction issues and died in a car accident…which helps give her context for why Barkley is so big on ADHD being a risk factor while driving. David wants to make it clear—it is a tragic story, and he's not about casting anyone as evil or bad—but Barkeley's work does do a number on people's self esteem. They look at his research and think they can't change and they start to use ADHD as an excuse, not an explanation. It's important to have compassion for people, he does talk a lot about addiction and car crashes, and we all have sad parts of our past, and its what we do now that matters. When he's talking to a room for non-ADHDers, they tend to think that people with ADHD are less, rather than more. He likes folk music and David likes rap, and David is not going to pretend to like folk music. Isabelle names that she tries to make sense of something so dehumanizing, like the six hour training she sat through of his that left her in tears, gaining some context for his story gave her a chance to reduce how slimed she felt. Knowing why does decrease suffering. Isabelle has seen a lot of hostility and backlash about AuDHD. Autism is a spectrum—yes, there are non speakers and folks with high support needs. But maybe it was what back in the day was called Asperger's, a now unused term. David names that Dr. Asperger was a Nazi (sympathizer?) Who created a line around autism (essentially how high-masking someone was) that determined who lived and died. For more on this deep history of Asperger — check out the links below. Isabelle and David agree to have a way longer conversation on the history of neurodivergence. Isabelle talks more about her neuropsych assessment, including sample questions, and fill in the blank type sentences to write. And she was given a questionnaire to give to someone who knows her well—for kids, this might be both to caregivers and teachers, so they can get data about how the kid is functioning in multiple environments. Isabelle then waits, gets a twenty-some page document, and they sit down and cover it all. Isabelle has in the months between first hearing the neuropsychologist state that she meets criteria for autism, confirming her suspicions, she went on a deep dive on all these pieces of information. Isabelle felt the fear of having this diagnosis taken away from her felt so deeply. It was so hard, even just listening to the summary, she wanted to skip to the end (another autistic trait, she is learning, wanting to know the context so she can track what's being described or knowing where it's going), and she yes, she has autism, and she burst into tears. Isabelle finally has an answer to the riddle, which a chunk of it related to ADHD, but this is another part of the mystery, like she has been looking in funhouse mirrors her whole life, and now she has an accurate reflection of who she is, like a real, non-distorted mirror. She also has “severe” ADHD. David and Isabelle dig in with how negative this criteria is (which, side note, connects to Barkley's research). Are we weather systems? Are we severely awesome? Maybe we change it to extremely? Gah. Asperger's and the history of neurodivergence Articles and books on Dr. Russell Barkley Known as a big researcher of ADHD, does really good research, and pushes forward a lot of diagnostic criteria and is in a position of power changing the game for a lot of humans. The caveat that Isabelle and David often make is that: he takes a really doom and gloom, pathologizing perspective (which are scary research-based bits of information).  Asperger's Autism: you have 40% chance of ADHD, and then DEFINITIONSNote: “Neuropsych” is shorthand for BOTH a neuropsychological assessment or a neuropsychologist (which is confusing).Neuropsychologist is "an expert in how brain injuries and conditions affect your behavior, mood and thinking skills. They perform neuropsychological evaluations to assess how your brain and mind are working and suggest treatment plans." (Source: Cleveland Clinic).A neuropsychological assessment is a series of interviews and tests (computer, written, drawing, solving puzzles, etc. no magnets, radiation, electrodes, or medical procedures involved) — the type of test is based on what is being explored. This battery (or collection) of tests, often done across multiple sessions, help a neuropsychologist determine a psychological diagnosis, treatment plan, and get a sense of how your brain works. Typically recommended by school systems/medical system to assess kids to help figure out what learning differences and accommodations may be helpful, but these assessments are not just for kids! Adults can use them to gain self-understanding, establish a baseline (if dementia or high-risk contact sports play is involved), or even figure out what parts of your brain have been injured or might be affected by brain surgery. Because kids grow and development so much, they are often redone every 2-4 years. Here's more on neuropsychological assessments from the Cleveland Clinic.Stimming (aka "Self-Stimulatory Behavior) -originally attributed to autism spectrum disorder (ASD), but also occurs in neurodivergent AND neurotypical or allistic (non-autistic) folks. It means repetitive physical movements, sounds, or actions that someone engages in (aka leg bouncing, finger tapping, hand flapping, twirling hair, humming, repeating words, staring, pacing, doodling, playing with fidgets, chewing gum, smelling or touching things..so many stims!).Useful for: so many things! For when your senses are overloaded or your understimulated, can help you focus and concentrate, can be a way to learn about or interact with your environment, or to cope with anxiety, stress, excitement, or big feels.Masking: when neurodivergent individuals pretend to be neurotypical, hide or minimize their stims, and even pretend they have the same reasons for doing things (like Isabelle saying "yes, I'm antsy" when she's pacing, when really she feels good and grounded when she paces or goes from room to room).

David and Isabelle go into greater depth about neuropsychological assessments--both back in the day and now-for kids, and for adults--and Isabelle's AHA moment about self-disclosing her AuDHD self. From the odd history of the intersection of Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and ADHD (did you know you couldn't be diagnosed with both for a long long time?) to realizing how literally she takes the world and how much it helps to finally have a turn signal on the car that is her, David and Isabelle dive deep into unmasking and the mistrust we have for the world when we are so misunderstood.---Isabelle likes having her new neuropsychological results because someone who is not her got to tell her that she has autism, and David has a different experience. His story was like three different hours of testing done at school, and it spit out that he was Oppositional Defiant, and then only in college did it notice he had differences in spelling and then ADHD. His experience is watching clients have their kids be flagged by a pediatrician or teacher to be tested and then they want to retest themselves. But David is so scared he'd go in now and learn…he doesn't have ADHD? And that Isabelle actually understands this, because there was a big gap (of several months) between the interview and the tests. Isabelle goes into further details around how she took her test in a little cubicle. And how for kids, it looks more like play, it involves an IQ test and way more details about processing speed, working memory, visual spatial reasoning, reading, symbols, numbers, etc. to help with understanding learning differences and accommodations. So Isabelle had to sit in a cubicle and stare at a computer and click on a mouse for fifteen minutes and it was awful. When he was a kid, David was pulled from class, he had no idea how long it was going to take, there was a person sitting there who was reading from a book and asking him questions. For kids, a level of buy-in becomes very important, it's hard to get data when you're a willing participant. For David, his first neuropsych showed how unwilling he was to participate, because it was something he was forced to do because there was “something wrong” and they were looking for what was wrong. This is not don't like this anymore. It's important to talk to someone who has been assessed to see how they liked their assessment. You can get a second opinion. There are people who specialize in different areas of neuropsychological testing. And someone who is great at diagnosing ADHD may not be great at diagnosing autism or vice versa. And up until 7 years ago or so, it was impossible to have both autism and ADHD be a primary diagnosis; which connected to insurance company lobbying when the DSM was being updated, ensuring that the rates of certain conditions wouldn't skyrocket because that would impact insurance coverage and ability to cover/deny and all kinds of political and social isms. The history of diagnoses and what makes the cutoffs incorporates layers of ableism, racism, sexism, homophobia…all kinds of oppression. David names how important it was an opening when you could have a combined AuDHD diagnosis because it started to mean that these diagnoses of deficiency, and all the stereotypes around all autistics being nonspeakers or having high support needs, started to get busted and it became more encompassing, maybe even of strengths? It's possible for us to be complex beings, being perceived as having ADHD or autism in another context. We are the keepers of the stigma, it was the ‘last thing we wanted to be.' The other day, Isabelle's kid went to the doctor, and she always felt the doctor was annoyed with her for being so literal and asking so many detail-oriented questions. Her kid answered the doctor's question of “does your throat hurt?” By checking in and saying “No.” And she had a lightbulb flash and realized he was taking the doctor literally. So she tells her kid “You and me, we both take things really literally and answer questions extremely honestly. I think the doctor means when she asks if your throat hurts, she means across the last week or so and not necessarily all the time or right now.” And he answers, “YES!” And she saw the doctor warm up to her kid and to her and she felt the difference, and maybe it was the vulnerability or the disclosure. For David's friend, there was a significant amount of distrust in the world, there was a pattern of miscommunication and people asking you things that they don't mean, when they learned they were autistic, their last instinct was to tell someone. But when they came back from the dentist, they talked about how much the light was bothering them, they gave me some glasses and made it so much better. David can't make us all believe we are safe, we can feel cared for when we tell people what we need and they respond. Statistically, some of the time, your need won't be missed and until recently, Isabelle didn't know she really needed, she would've said words like “anxious” and “please give me more time" 

Impulsive decisions often result in pain and suffering.  On the other hand, a decisive moment could be a positive experience.  The key:  When it's anchored in prayer and comes with God's blessings.  

Stop Gaslighting Yourself About Your Money, Darling!Let's spill the financial tea, shall we? In this episode, we dive into the sneaky, self-sabotaging habit of self-gaslighting—yes, it's a thing—and how it's keeping too many in the LGBTQ community stuck in a cycle of overspending, under-planning, and telling themselves it's totally fine when it's anything but.We're calling out the little lies we tell ourselves: “I deserve this splurge,” “I'll save later,” “Debt is just a part of life.” Sound familiar? From lifestyle inflation to credit card quicksand, we break down the psychological traps and societal pressures that trick queer folks into trading long-term stability for short-term fabulousness.But don't worry—this isn't about guilt. It's about waking up, owning your truth, and making money moves that serve your future self. Tune in for real talk, mindset shifts, and tips to help you stop faking financial security and start building it—for real this time.Takeaways:

Fisher Madsen sits down with Crete boy's head coach Derek Spence and one of their senior leaders, Diego Espinoza. --- Support Nebraska Soccer Talk by becoming a Patron. Click here to visit our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/nebraska_talk. If you don't want to be a monthly supporter of Nebraska Soccer Talk, you can be a one-time supporter by Venmo: https://venmo.com/u/nesoccertalk.--- Visit our sponsor Fleet Feet for all your fitness needs: http://www.fleetfeet.com. Fleet Feet is locally owned and operated.--- Visit our sponsor Deer Creek Sports Cantina and Tacos at www.deercreeksportscantina.com. Deer Creek Sports Cantina is locally owned and operated.--- Follow us on Twitter @nebraska_talk and follow the hosts on Twitter @jack_hova and @Owen_Godberson. Want to be featured on a Nebraska Soccer Talk podcast episode? Click here: https://forms.gle/UQWr65BR5tp9Gfgw5 --- Visit our website: https://nesoccertalk.com/--- Visit our sponsor: http://www.sportsrecruitingusa.com --- Intro music by Adam Arispe from the Impulsive: https://www.theimpulsiveofficial.com--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/nebraskasoccertalk/message---Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nebraskasoccertalk/message---Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nebraskasoccertalk/message

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Comment gérer l'impulsivité de son partenaire ? Quelles peuvent êtres les conséquences sur le couple ? Dans ce podcast, découvrez une partie des coulisses de l'émission "Parlons-Nous" du 20 mars 2025. En compagnie de Caroline Dublanche, Paul Delair revient sur les témoignages et autres moments qui ont marqué le direct. Chaque soir, en direct, Caroline Dublanche accueille les auditeurs pour 2h30 d'échanges et de confidences. Pour participer, contactez l'émission au 09 69 39 10 11 (prix d'un appel local) ou sur parlonsnous@rtl.frDistribué par Audiomeans. Visitez audiomeans.fr/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

Isabelle shares the results of her neuropsych with David: she is AuDHD! As a grown human learning she has AuDHD (ADHD + Autism Spectrum Disorder), what does it mean to 'get a neuropsych?' What even IS a neuropsych? Who gets one and why? How does high-masking autism look like for Isabelle? Busting myths, calling out fun factoids, and celebrating this news and the decrease of suffering it has brought to gain self-understanding and acceptance. ---Isabelle is SO EXCITED to see David's face. Because for the last few recording sessions she hasn't been able to see his face. And now she can see his face. She doesn't know she misses it, and David is wagging his tail and doesn't know if she's making any sense. The checking for understanding is missing. Isabelle got back her neuropsychological assessment results back. She has “severe” ADHD and also, is high-masking autistic. A fairly common question is: do I need to get a neuropsych? What does it do? David names we can all know something but this is different from the actual experience of it. Are there electrodes to your head? How many magnets are you exposed to? Is there a flowchart? Isabelle doesn't know a ton about assessments but she knows a little more now. So, for each job title or profession, you can administer different types of assessments, which involve data from interviews, and written/verbal tests—and a “neuropsychiatric assessment” is conducted by a neuropsychologist, someone who is skilled at administering and interpreting test results as well as being super savvy about neuroscience and the brain. It's a battery of tests that is designed to help someone determine a psychological diagnosis. Isabelle's experience was, she had used up her deductible and one of her kids as well as her and Bobby decided they wanted to learn more about themselves and get a neuropsych. And she wanted to test it out because she always had a little more mustard on the hot dog of ADHD, more auditory sensory stuff. So Isabelle went in for about an hour long interview and asked me a lot of directive, specific questions. No electrodes, sitting in a cozy office. She was asking questions about friendship, life history type questions about her childhood. With ADHD and Autism, you're talking about a neurodevelopment condition, meaning it's baked in and showing up throughout your life. She was asking a lot of questions about what it was like for Isabelle socially, the years of bullying and taking things very literally, social faux pas, being late to catch on to social subtext or data. And stimming? Which applies to all neurospicy folk. David likens it to a car exhaust—it's not anxiety, it's repetitive movements that let out extra steam and overstimulation, when your senses have taking in too much it helps you release. Isabelle thought it was anxiety! But she…actually isn't very anxious. She likes wearing tight clothes and textures, she flaps her hands and holds her hands like a t-rex. She's realizing how much she would be overloaded after a day, and she would pace, and wiggle her hands, she needs detailed handwriting, and she just wants to be left alone under her weighted blanket. And be crying. She'd say “and I'm overhwlemed because I had a hard day at work!” When for her, she was missing a crucial piece of information. Which is she went to Target, and was under fluorescent lights, and some random stranger talked to her and she didn't understand it, and then when she said “what?” He looked at her funny, and THAT connected more to the state she found herself in than having a bad day at work. Sitting with uncomfortable feelings and anxiety is different—David names that with anxiety, people can be thought of as fragile, and that can be helpful—but when it's applied to someone who is neurodiverse, who isn't fragile, it can be pretty frustrating. David describes how he sits and bounces his leg pretty fast and his whole body will be shaking (best kind!) And David is sitting there stimming, and people turn to him "it's okay, it's just a doctor's office” and they assume he's anxious, but he'as actually in an ADHD stupor and he's bored and waiting and feeling good. So much of how people are perceived has a significant element of judgment. Over and over again because she's sitting still or pacing or rocking on her feet—they read Isabelle as impatient or angry, blew her mind. When you see her rocking back and forth and expressionless she's super happy and chill, but you take it as a signal she needs to mask and explain and do things to signal she's happy and sometimes she doesn't understand it herself so she just says “yes, I am angry.” And she thought she was a liar—because she'd be dishonest, she'd agree with someone else and say “yeah, I'm antsy.” Even if she wasn't. David points out that that's not lying, that's masking. David speaks to how complicated lying is in neurodiversity, because friends will say “I'll see you tomorrow night" but then there's an Impulsive moment and it doesn't happen. How integrity can be perceived, and what you want to own about ourselves. Going back to the assessment process, she had a student in a room and Isabelle likes this because (she's realizing) it helps her play the eye contact game. David describes the hack of looking at people between their eyebrows instead of in their eyes. Isabelle owns that for her, not for every neurons-icy or otherwise human, she feels like she's gazing into a person's soul when she makes direct eye contact. It feels rude to her to look at her eyes without a closer emotional bond and without consent, and she looks a bit higher and eyebrows give her data and when she's looking at someone's eyes its too much. David shares: it's ten times more stimulating to look someone in the eye (10 times more neurons fire). WHAT?! yes. Isabelle is sobbing and confused saying “am I crazy? Am I making up that I am on the spectrum for some weird reason?” She was also listening to see if getting a neuropsych is worthwhile for her (for school or work accommodations)? ADHD was so obvious to Isabelle, but this was causing her distress: the idea and theme in her life of being the last to know something obvious. Increased understanding reduces suffering—what are choices? What are your needs? So much about what shouldn't or should? What parts of things can you embrace v. ‘Toughing it out.' Isabelle was in there after an hour and some change. Bobby also went in for a half hour and came out and got resources on ADHD and doesn't seem like he'd get a lot out of a neuropsych and if so, it's not causing any pain, and maybe you already know what you know and you don't go through this? Side note, this is not a prerequisite for self-diagnosis. This is a systemic hurtle, it can help you understand the world around you or help you get accommodations around specific areas of work, v. Being in school. But bear in mind, it's not just for kids.

Jack is joined by Fischer and Elijah to break down their preseason Top 10 rankings and look forward to the season ahead.--- Support Nebraska Soccer Talk by becoming a Patron. Click here to visit our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/nebraska_talk. If you don't want to be a monthly supporter of Nebraska Soccer Talk, you can be a one-time supporter by Venmo: https://venmo.com/u/nesoccertalk.--- Visit our sponsor Fleet Feet for all your fitness needs: http://www.fleetfeet.com. Fleet Feet is locally owned and operated.--- Visit our sponsor Deer Creek Sports Cantina and Tacos at www.deercreeksportscantina.com. Deer Creek Sports Cantina is locally owned and operated.--- Follow us on Twitter @nebraska_talk and follow the hosts on Twitter @jack_hova and @Owen_Godberson. Want to be featured on a Nebraska Soccer Talk podcast episode? Click here: https://forms.gle/UQWr65BR5tp9Gfgw5 --- Visit our website: https://nesoccertalk.com/--- Visit our sponsor: http://www.sportsrecruitingusa.com --- Intro music by Adam Arispe from the Impulsive: https://www.theimpulsiveofficial.com--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/nebraskasoccertalk/message---Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nebraskasoccertalk/message---Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nebraskasoccertalk/message

Jack is joined by Fischer and Elijah to break down their preseason Top 10 rankings and look forward to the season ahead.--- Support Nebraska Soccer Talk by becoming a Patron. Click here to visit our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/nebraska_talk. If you don't want to be a monthly supporter of Nebraska Soccer Talk, you can be a one-time supporter by Venmo: https://venmo.com/u/nesoccertalk.--- Visit our sponsor Fleet Feet for all your fitness needs: http://www.fleetfeet.com. Fleet Feet is locally owned and operated.--- Visit our sponsor Deer Creek Sports Cantina and Tacos at www.deercreeksportscantina.com. Deer Creek Sports Cantina is locally owned and operated.--- Follow us on Twitter @nebraska_talk and follow the hosts on Twitter @jack_hova and @Owen_Godberson. Want to be featured on a Nebraska Soccer Talk podcast episode? Click here: https://forms.gle/UQWr65BR5tp9Gfgw5 --- Visit our website: https://nesoccertalk.com/--- Visit our sponsor: http://www.sportsrecruitingusa.com --- Intro music by Adam Arispe from the Impulsive: https://www.theimpulsiveofficial.com--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/nebraskasoccertalk/message---Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nebraskasoccertalk/message---Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nebraskasoccertalk/message

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In this video I want to talk about how to build the heck out of your self-trust and reduce your impulsivity, so that you get to the point where you're like - yes, I can rely on myself to get things done. In a way, it's about becoming a good friend to yourself, by being more honest and only committing to what you can take on.VIDEOS RELATED TO THIS ONE (THAT I MENTIONED) ⇢✨ How to Stop Feelings Overwhelmed: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ks__t9ctKGc&ab_channel=MuchelleB%F0%9F%92%ABGrowWithIntentionPodcast✨How to Give Yourself the Ick to Glow Up https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a9IaAY5wuPM&ab_channel=MuchelleB%F0%9F%92%ABGrowWithIntentionPodcast✨How to pick "one thing" when you want to do everything: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_OJJS0iz5s&ab_channel=MuchelleB%F0%9F%92%ABGrowWithIntentionPodcastVIDEO TIMELINE ⇢00:00 Why you feel busy, but not productive1:07 "Impulsive Overcommitment"1:43 Why We Impulsively Overcommit1:58 Prioritising is ENERGY HUNGRY3:07 Escaping the Trap: Prioritization Techniques3:34 Are you... prioritising prioritising??!4:58 MY method for prioritisation6:10 How to bandaid7:57 The mantra you need to etch into your brain8:44 A method for reducing impulsivity - a practice, really9:37 Setting limits10:46 Recommendations of the weekLINKS ⇢

Impulsive action is oftentimes the wrong action. This episode is a reminder to remain calm amidst the uncertainty many schools are facing under the new administration. Joining us is Steven Richard, a Trial and Appellate Attorney, admitted in Federal and State Courts in Rhode Island, Connecticut, and Massachusetts. His practice areas include business litigation, education law, employment law, and representing management in governmental law. In our conversation with Steven, he shares his insights on how to navigate the ever-changing landscape we find ourselves in today and unpacks some of the changes that are most relevant to the education space. We discuss how to do a holistic assessment of the impact of changing regulations on your institution and what it might look like to provide much-needed perspective to your clients. Tune in for essential advice on how to navigate today's evolving litigation landscape at your campus or school district! Key Points From This Episode: The upcoming Title IX, Mental Health and School Safety Symposium hosted by ICS Lawyer. Three things to bear in mind while assessing the recent changes. What an Executive Order is and how it impacts citizens. Assessing what is different about the way current Executive Orders are rolling out.  Making an individual, holistic assessment of your culture, community, clients, and policies. The role of Dear Colleague Letters and how these differ from regulations.  How dozens of Federal Departments are impacting funding for schools and universities.  Why it is so important for senior administrators to bring much-needed perspective to clients. Questions following the February 14th Dear Colleague Letter. Litigation and challenges to Executive Orders: funding, judicial DEI issues, and more.  Prioritizing a reassuring message alongside behind-the-scenes implementation.  Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Steven Richard on LinkedIn Steven Richard on X Steven Richard EmailTitle IX, Mental Health and School Safety Symposium ICS Lawyer Higher Ed Community Access K-12 Community Access Higher Ed Virtual Certified IX Training K-12 Virtual Certified Title IX Training ICS Blog Courtney Bullard on X  Learn about Becoming a Community Partner

You've heard of the 5 Love Languages—now meet the 5 Anxiety Languages! In this episode of Being Human, Dr. Greg Bottaro introduces a groundbreaking way to understand anxiety: The 5 Anxiety Languages. Just like understanding love languages helps us express love, your Anxiety Language reveals how you instinctively process stress, uncertainty, and fear. Which anxiety language do you speak? Tune in to find out.   Key Topics: Why anxiety feels different for everyone—and why that matters. The 5 Anxiety Languages explained: Reactive, Activated, Minimizing, Withdrawing, and Impulsive. How these Anxiety Languages show up in your day-to-day life. Why Jesus' command to “be not afraid” isn't just a spiritual ideal—it's psychologically practical. How understanding anxiety as a “language” can help you break unhealthy patterns. Faith-based, practical steps to navigate anxiety and find peace.   Timestamps: 00:00 – Everybody has some level of anxiety 03:02 – Anxiety is not what you think 05:54 – The 5 Anxiety Languages: What's your predominant language? 07:18 – Reactive Quick-tempered, snappy, stressed-out under pressure. 12:02 – Activated: Always “on,” overachieving, constantly in motion. 14:34 – Minimizing: Saying “I'm fine” even when the house is on fire. 17:27 – Withdrawing: Avoidance, procrastination, or retreating inward. 22:02 – Impulsive: Jumping from thing to thing, seeking distraction (and the ADHD overlap). 24:53 – Review and Close   Learn More: Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CatholicPsychInstitute Catholic Mindfulness Program – Dr. Greg Bottaro's mindfulness approach integrating Catholic faith and psychology. Daily Catholic Accompaniment – CatholicPsych's approach combines faith and psychology, offering personalized mentorship to transform your daily challenges. Blog article: Is Mindfulness safe for Catholics to practice? Coming soon: “What Is Your Predominant Anxiety Language?” Quiz We'd love to hear your feedback! Email us at beinghuman@catholicpsych.com. Need help transforming anxiety into peace? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation.   Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Have you ever found yourself snapping at someone you care about or grabbing junk food despite your best intentions to eat healthier? In this episode, I break down fascinating research that reveals how to fix impulsive behavior naturally tonight through better sleep habits and environmental design.It turns out that getting less sleep significantly impacts our ability to control impulsive actions in the moment.In this episode, you'll discover:The difference between risk-taking behavior and impulse control, and why sleep affects one more than the otherDetails from a research study showing how just 6 hours of sleep (versus 9 hours) affects our brain's ability to regulate impulsesWhy setting up your environment for healthy defaults is crucial, especially on days when you've slept poorlyPractical strategies to improve your decision-making even when sleep-deprivedHow becoming aware of your sleep patterns can transform your health journeyThis short Tuesday episode gives you actionable steps to improve your health, relationships, and daily decisions through better sleep awareness and environmental design.

Episode 131 of The Geek Saga Podcast is the 8th episode in my "Impulsive Hyperfocus" series - the second of two parts featuring my thoughts on my recent trip to Japan! Find the Geek Saga Podcast on:SPOTIFY, APPLE PODCASTS, AMAZON MUSIC, YOUTUBE, & more! While this episode is called "TOTALLY Tokyo", we did in fact make some forays out of that city, and it covers many of the experiences we had, including the 8 shrines and temples that we visited, the Hakone Golden Course (or Route), Tokyo Disney theme parks, and much much more! That said, I highly suggest listening to Geek Saga Podcast episode 126 "Best Laid Japlans" prior to checking this one out :) Geek Saga Podcast Episode 131: Impulsive Hyperfocus TOTALLY Tokyo (& Beyond - Travelogue 2) Please consider checking out the Geek Saga Entertainment Patreon and supporting us for early access to our episodes & some other great perks! Mentioned in this podcast:Gōtokuji TempleUeno Park - including Gojoten Shrine & Toshogu ShrineMeiji Jingu ShrineSenso-ji TempleAsakusa-Jinja ShrineHanazono ShrineHakone Golden Course/RouteTokyo Disney Theme ParksPokemon Center Mega TokyoShinjuku Gyoen National GardenImperial Palace/East GardensGolden GaiTakeshita StreetTokyo (Tokyu?) Plaza Harajuku Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

We all likely have heard the story in the Bible about Jonah and the whale. First, let me ask, do you actually believe it? Sometimes it's hard to be a person of deep intelligence and faith at the same time because some things just don't make sense. How did this real man end up in […]

Hi tiny little ADHD babes,In today's episode, Grace is forcing Tara to do her recommendation in a Kiwi accent even though she's in the throes of PMDD (cute). We discuss important subjects: like “what ARE the cakes in men's urinals made out of?”  and "public proposals, sweet or stressful?". Meanwhile, Grace shares an inattentive moment that she's still spiralling about (spoiler: her leather couch is NOT okay

Isabelle and David welcome back Marcus Soutra, co-founder of Eye to Eye and founder of For the Good Consulting, and explore the nature of authenticity, "coolness" and the meaning of masking with nation-wide advocacy expert and fellow ADHD and LD-er. How did being "cool" go from being rich and unaffected to being authentic and open about ND/LD identities? From the loneliness and high masking rates of ADHDers, to Abercrombie & Fitch t-shirts and social media, the ways ND culture has approached masking and unmasking.----Isabelle talks about how being wealthy and affording the performance/clothes of ‘coolness' growing up was Abercrombie & Fitch back in her high school days--these were expensive clothes that you had to get at the mall and were part of the performance of being 'cool.' And what about how much of coolness, at least for a time, was defined by money, or access to certain expensive clothing brands (like Abercrombie and Fitch) What it means to perform and be high masking, for her. There is a coolness factor, the kid who can pick up what's cool has an advantage over the kid who doesn't. Marcus sums it up: are you able to fit in and be embraced by the neurotypical world? And if you can't, there's the loner path, the bully path? The empathy he has for the bully path—they were, in his past, the LD/ND kids who were dealing with loneliness and not masking well and it was their way of finding their way to a role in the school community. 60% of people with ADHD say they mask on regular basis and 33% say there is a loneliness to the experience of having ADHD. Then there's also the pain of being high-masking or being accepted by the neurotypical world, how little practice you have at sitting with who you really are, and finding a stable sense of self. There is a way to be a self to fit in that is not the same as an authentic, self-confident knowing-who-you-are self. The difference between doing it in a healthy way v. doing it in a way to survive. Hard to know what parts of you are okay, and when you're blending into a neurotypical world, there's a significant advantage of being able to read the rooms around social cues. Marginalized senses of self are real, having to exist believing you're less than. Or believing if the mask ever falls, it's terrifying. Isabelle names that there's a management around masking and the layers, like she can unmask and say “I have ADHD!” but she doesn't say, “I have ADHD and I screwed up the finances again so I can't afford the school bill.” Something for her connects coolness to unaffectedness, not being vulnerable, or not caring what others think. Beyond the unique person who owns where they are, where does coolness come from in our culture? Marcus responds that it's often the people at the top of the social hierarchy, it's the celebrities, the role models.  Growing up for Marcus, there were the most attractive movie stars who were dyslexia, like Tom Cruise, Orlando Bloom, not Paul Giamatti. When it came to Aspergers (previous name for low support need Autism, check out more in depth on this history below) or Autism (before it was known as Autism Spectrum Disorder or ASD) were superheroes, like RainMan, Temple Grandin, and that was our introduction to the autism community. If you're dyslexic, the way to make it out is to have hotness or have superhero qualities, and if you don't fit into either one of those, good luck. This brings up how celebrities are not so far removed anymore, from the days that you got these bland PR stories or tabloids, now you have people sharing their stories and unmasking on social media. Marcus names that authenticity is now a part of social media, and it's important for celebrities to have a cause, to be speaking to some aspect of this. If we'recynical, it could be a branding strategy, or it could be a shift in culture, because this emphasis on authenticity rather than hiding has been a big change in the last five years. What is Abercrombie & Fitch? The following documentary covers it pretty much:"White Hot: The Rise and Fall of Abercrombie and Fitch" (Netflix documentary)DEFINITIONS:Masking: Often used in referenced to autistic folx (Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)), it also applies to folx with ADHD, OCD, and all kinds of neurodivergence (ND) and learning differences (LD), like dyslexia, dycalculia, dyspraxia, dysgraphia, etc. It's the idea that you have to wear a neurotypical "mask" to be accepted or to engage in a world made for those that are neurotypical. You 'pretend' as if you brain and nervous system work in ways they don't. It can be (and feel like) a matter of survival. From a great article on the topic:“For many neurodivergent people, masking is a survival tool for engaging in neurotypical societies and organizations. Masking (also called camouflaging) is the artificial performance of social behaviors deemed more “socially acceptable” in a neurotypical culture.”For more on Marcus Soutra:www.For the Good Consulting.comSoutra is a dynamic, award-winning advocate, leader, and trailblazer in the field of neurodiversity (ND). An ND individual himself and former classroom teacher turned social entrepreneur, he co-founded and led Eye to Eye, scaling the organization's impact on thousands of schools and individuals across the United States. A sought-after speaker, Soutra has delivered compelling talks on stages worldwide, from Harvard to Tokyo, has appeared in dozens of television broadcasts and podcasts,  and has been featured in leading publications including Forbes, The Hill, and Philanthropy Digest. In recognition of his transformative work, he received an honorary doctorate from his alma mater in the spring of 2024.As the founder of For The Good Consulting, Soutra now supports organizations dedicated to driving systemic change for individuals furthest from opportunity. He resides in Brooklyn, NY, with his wife, an educator and learning specialist, where together they continue to advocate for a more equitable world for all students.------Cover Art by: Sol VázquezTechnical Support by: Bobby Richards

Veteran personal finance journalist John Waggoner stops by to answer the questions that experts are getting at the grocery store, the doctor's office or anywhere someone can inquire about whether current events — and fears over the potential future of tariffs, Social Security, Medicare and more — need to be addressed by financial moves now. Waggoner notes that people who crave some certainty and comfort can make moves — like considering annuities to bolster retirement income — but he suggested keeping changes to a minimum and avoiding knee-jerk reactions. Todd Rosenbluth, head of research at VettaFi, looks at bitcoin mining — and compares the investment allocation possibilities of the crypto world versus gold and gold miners — with his pick for "ETF of the Week." Will Rhind, chief executive officer at GraniteShares talks about disruptive stocks — his firm runs the Nasdaq Select Disruptors ETF — and business-development companies in the Market Call. 

Isabelle and David welcome back Marcus Soutra, co-founder of Eye to Eye and founder of For the Good Consulting, and ask an interesting question of this nation-wide advocacy expert and fellow ADHD and LD-er: how has life in schools changed for neurodivergent kids, especially now that some of us are parents/educators/in charge? Are kids still afraid, as David was, of having to go to the nurses' office? And how has what's "cool" been redefined in the past decades? From trauma modes to collared shirts, from shifting ADHD from a diagnosis to an identity, the three explore perspectives on masking (AKA using energy to appear as neurotypical), which can be both a poison and a salve.----David wonders, given that Marcus travels across the continental United States…what is he seeing as patterns in neurodivergent culture? Marcus describes that he sees the elder millennials having kids who are now being identified as being neurodivergent, and naming, “The trauma ends with me,” and they're refusing to hand this off to the next generation, and because a generation that grew up with these labels are now turning into parents, school leaders, caregivers, people in charge. David likens this to growing up in an earlier generation where he was taught to toughen up, to take the knocks and handle it. Isabelle relates this to how when you're living in survival mode, you can't also be processing the trauma and making meaning of it, you first have to survive—and part of survival mode is to have tunnel vision, to stay tough, to not pause to feel. So it would make sense for a generation that maybe always was in survival mode to try to pass that on to their kids in the form of “toughen up.” She relates to wanting to break this cycle, though, so hard, as a parent. And also—what does David mean by the “boy named Sue” generation? (Answer: it's a reference to a Johnny Cash song, see below). Marcus describes how this compares to other movements, where something that used to be a diagnosis or label is then taken back as an identity. As he has ADHD, he was hoping this change would happen so much faster, in his small, privileged ND community this change happened so rapidly. It does take these generational shifts and changes to make these things stick. David names that individually, we all have individual struggles that rub up against the system. It felt like school was meant to take parts of us away, it was like an eraser trying to shave parts off. But we are be keepers of that. In school there was no concept of advocating for an accommodation, it was just: do you want to look weird? Leaving class early to go get his meds. How has this changed for kids and adults? It's hard to generalize because “you know one neurodivergent person, you know one neurodivergent person.” But having an open conversation about something and talk about it and acknowledge and not other it—it does set it up for students to have a teacher they can talk to and ask for what they need (even one adult in that building). The needle has moved from the average high schooler even knowing what dyslexia/ADHD/any ND or LD is. Marcus wasn't bummed out about dyslexic, but back in high school, it was other people were going to see him being different. He refused to get accommodations for the third time, because if he got accommodations for it, he wouldn't take the SAT at the same time. Isabelle remembers that as a full body memory, taking the SAT being a production back in the day and even in her own experience being bussed on the short bus into a different school for a Gifted program and how it signaled you were different but also you didn't want to belong to this select tribe, either.  David names: different is dangerous in some ways, not just for kids but for adults, too. You walk into a room and everyone is wearing a blue “I'm here for a reason” shirt and you might slowly back out of the room and go “I don't belong.” Trying to be like everyone else is both the salve and the poison—it helps keep us save when we're masking—what does everyone else is doing? It helps us mask, but David's first time being a room where people admitted they were neurodivergent, Grady was bouncing a racket ball, the relief and joy you feel when you can join in being more authentically yourself. Isabelle is thinking of the “Cool Bean” book (see below) and how in that story, the beans are ‘cool' not just because they are performing as cool and have style and whatnot, but also because they are willing to take risks and help those who are being bullied or laughed at, that are able to stand up for others and themselves in a way. This is so different than ‘coolness' as Isabelle experienced it in her little bubble growing up in suburban Chicago, where coolness felt way more about avoiding being targeting and felt meaner and scarier and more about social power and wielding it (with meanness). Marcus names how his masking helped him in a way; he didn't know if he could get away with getting into trouble so he would know how to appear wearing a collared shirt and combed hair and befriend his teachers so that he would get on their good side. David describes how with ‘coolness,' it could be more about performing as if, rather than actually being it—like Marcus wasn't actually friends with his teachers but he had the appearance of it, and how often we take those appearances of coolness and roll with it. Isabelle wonders—what about the privilege of masking? Like the way people who mask more easily and slot into neurotypical expectations have privileges and also—‘detecting' what's cool? And what about how much of coolness, at least for a time, was defined by money, or access to certain expensive clothing brands (like Abercrombie and Fitch) What it means to perform as if you are confident in who you are, Johnny Cash's “Boy Named Sue” (live at San Quentin, 1969)Cool Beans book (by Jory John) read aloud (by Harper Kids)Smart Cookie (also by Jory John) read aloud (by Magical Little Minds) about learning differences/neurospicyness according to Isabelle"White Hot: The Rise and Fall of Abercrombie and Fitch" (Netflix documentary)------Cover Art by: Sol VázquezTechnical Support by: Bobby Richards

Isabelle and David continue to talk with David's brother's friend, Aaron, and dig deep into why winding down and going to sleep is the hardest transition of all: because you're staring into a black hole of no dopamine for hours! And also, a lot of traditional sleep hygiene tricks may not work. Folks with ADHD have higher rates of sleep apnea, among other sleep disorders, and also, can do with staying away from preferred activities before bed. This, sleep tips and tricks, and recognizing the value of being open about your neurodivergence...as well as some really good callbacks to the previous two episodes (096 and 097) regarding "St. Elmo's Fire's" amazing theme song.—-Isabelle and Aaron wonder: what's with this PDA business (persistent drive for autonomy/persistent demand avoidance)? David explains: It's hard for us to connect a learned moment with an experience, it's hard for us to take a moment we're learning now and take it into the future, and we're distractable. If we're in a place with any shame, guilt, or anxiety, distraction becomes highly reinforcing. We are highly reinforced by not paying attention to what we want to pay attention to it. We're not seeing the long term consequence, we don't understand what we're doing to our future by not doing it in this moment--delay of gratification and response cost. Like, what did you do today? “I watched three seasons of Scrubs and ate a buffet of Indian food.” We can't claim any wins at the end of the day, but in the moment it felt so nice, it was a distraction. Neurologically we don't get a success, norepinephrine —you feel anxious, and it leads into their evening, and for kids and adults, if you're really anxious about the next day, you don't want to go to sleep. “The longer I'm up today, the longer today is! I don't have to face tomorrow if I haven't gone to bed yet.” David has been thinking about this with his friend and colleague Noah, based on this book, Dopamine Nation. If we're not accommodated or assisted by something during a transition, and then you have nothing else to do, you are looking down a long dark hole of no dopamine—that's why the evening can look so hard. The road to sleep to extra awful, you have to sit still, you have to tolerate frustration and still yourself enough to go to sleep. David names: we are considered overtired if it takes less than 15 minutes to fall alseep—most ADHD folks, as an accommodation to not sit in the discomfort of staying still with no dopamine, don't hit the bed until they are beyond exhausted and just crash. Isabelle and Aaron disbelieve this. Isabelle does not compute that this is how people live, that people just lay there for 8, 10, 15 minutes and slowly go to sleep, this has never happened to her. Aaron gets anxious that he won't fall asleep in 5 minutes and then can't stand the guided meditation.  David will be snoring watching tv on the couch with his partner but doesn't confirm he is “tired." with Delayed sleep phase onset, this is a thing we struggle with. Accommodations for sleep? Did you use enough physical energy during the day? You can't go into a preferred activity before bed—you have to find weird shows or things that are interesting but not so interesting it will keep you awake. What is a preferred activity? If you're super into a video game, for example—if you can't sleep, don't play the video game. The things that you prefer and wake you up, engage your hyperfocus. What's the boring video game that's like paint by numbers? Isabelle will read nonfiction when she's not feeling very tired, but if she reads compelling fiction she will stay awake. Because, who wants to sit in boredom? These are tips that are not sleep hygiene or what you'd expect. So many tactics to help a kid fall asleep are there to help them get bored enough to stay still and not reach for a preferred activity. The most important task in the brain's development is boredom: One of the most important things is to experience boredom. It's really important and yet we run from it all the time. A neurotypicaly person needs to encounter a certain amount of boredom to get creative. But with ADHD, we are bored a 1000's of times more often in a day than a neurotypical does in a day, and the feeling of being bored is so caustic and our brain is so creative and thinking of fun things all the time. But because we encounter so many micromoments of boredom, it makes it really hard to tolerate the 10 or 15 minutes to fall asleep. Or try something on in the store. The moment of a transition that's boredom and hurts. When do we want to sit with it, when do you want to avoid it? David tries to stop listening to a D&D podcast he wants to, he's trying to train himself to be awake still and do it at a time and then fall asleep, instead of falling asleep when he crashes. AND there are literal sleep disturbances. People with ADHD have a much higher likelihood of getting a CPAP machine and sleep apnea, cause our physical necks are bigger (what?!). We have to think of social conventions made to busy people as problematic: are you folding your underwear because you're worried about them wrinkling? So many clothes are not wrinkling! Clean your clothes, but don't think you're failing at life if you're not folding laundry. Aaron requests more on sleep, and refers to an older episode by name "I'm not tired, you're tired!” David wonders: what would a Aaron tell his younger self if he had a 20 second time machine. He'd like to tell himself: “be brave, it's hard, it gets better. And look into ADHD earlier." The whole sequence of anxiety he's had to deal with has been altered by knowing about ADHD and being medicated. It's not just the medicine, it's finally having a reason for how his interior life is the way he is. If there's no reason, it's just your fault—why is Aaron a slob in his private places? It's not a character defect. But some people with ADHD are clean and tidy! Isabelle is one of these people—she just got a label maker and has been labeling her cabinets and pantry with things but then putting exclamation points at the end, so it says things like “BEANS!” “PASTA!” Referring back to Ep097, David names that Isabelle is a promoter: of pantry staples. But for Isabelle, she doesn't mind if others are making messes, she just needs things to be in order because otherwise they will move on her, it's a way to accommodate her working memory and find things again later. There isn't a right way to fit into this culture,. There's parts of ADHD culture—and theory of group dynamics, that says that people within a group have more things different between each other than they do with those outside of the group: ADHD is no different. Like medically: with depression, you can sleep not at all, or sleep a lot: these are opposite things and yet they all fall under the same diagnosis. Some things we can all relate to, like the way that we are hurt by our own integrity (not doing what we wanted or said we would do), our celebration and glee at remembering to do or finally doing the boring thing! Recognizing you have ADHD is a bit like parts of you being seen before, and suddenly all these associated pains --you don't know why you can't do what you want to do, and it has be to you. Aaron ties that back to his calvinist upbringing: “I wanted to do this, why did I forget?" It's the internal monologue we have to chance. There are parts of us that in a wheelchair and we keep coming at stairs. Isabelle references “I wanna to be a man in motion? All I need is this pair of wheels. Take me where the eagle's fly: St. Elmo's Fire."  ...

Lead pastor Dr. Corey Abney shares how impulsive decision-making can lead to serious consequences, especially when we rely on our own understanding instead of seeking God's wisdom. He highlights biblical examples including King Asa and Joshua, to emphasize the importance of seeking the Lord first, even when a decision seems obvious. Faith means putting God's guidance above our instincts and plans.Key Scripture2 Chronicles 13-16 Joshua 9 Matthew 6:33 Topics Covered:The dangers of impulsive decisionsThe importance of seeking God first in all decisionsBiblical examples of both wise and rash decision-makingThe consequences of failing to rely on God's guidance

Isabelle and David continue to talk with David's brother's friend, Aaron, and contemplate why folks with ADHD can be so enthusiastic and excited about interests, people, etc. Is it because we are like puppies who are starved for reinforcement (dopamine)? Or does it come from living a life on the outside and the joy of connection when it has been missed for so long. With callbacks to Greatest American Hero (See Ep095) as well as the real story behind the theme song to St. Elmo's Fire.—-David describes how borrowing from LeDerick Horne and his brilliant theory around leadership, that folks in leadership can have a number of qualities, including being promoters. Folks with ADHD can be natural promoters, and being a promoter is actually a form of leading others. With the caveat that we must be into what we promote. And how excited we are about people and how we talk people up. David names that perhaps this has something to do with how we are starving (for dopamine) and intimacy and connection and relatedness can help us fill that void, we reach for the connection and get excited. Isabelle wonders if this relates to an autism(ASD)-style special interest, how she perpetually is excited and has a working principle that everyone could find common ground if we just found a shared hobby or special interest. David likes to tell people on airplanes that he's a car salesman so he can talk and listen to his heart's content but he doesn't have to focus on what he does. Isabelle names that even though David is not very savvy about cars, he could sell a car because he's such a natural salesperson. Isabelle names that anxiety around overselling things, she might encourage people to try new things, take new risks, explore and play—but her working memory is so poor that she doesn't know if she oversold, she has to refer to notes or something as reference. David loved serving as fun because there was a high degree of risk and failing so it helped me remember things. David names that we are not starving puppies with watery eyes, but we are highly susceptible to be reinforced, so when we see someone else's tail wagging, it shoots up our levels of dopamine, we are highly reinforced. The establishing operation—social connection and social mastery is water for us, like the water-deprived rats being reinforced in Skinner boxes. The environment makes Isabelle's puppy quality feel safe or good or not; and can lead to her feeling starved of that connection and reinforcement. The feeling when you have no one wagging their tail back at you—how many mistakes we do make, how many social gaffs and miscues, and big ones. It's almost like we find ourselves so marginalized, its like finding a prison gang when we find people who get us. What does it do to your sense of self when you can't do what you want with your morning—how that deflates your sense of self. Isabelle feels like she shares a bond with the other parents and caregivers that are always running late—it flares up imposter syndrome and “if you only saw me five minutes ago." David reframes this as "if only you saw what it took me to get here and I made it!" Aaron is a master of social engineering, even though he's almost always good at it and social interaction, he remains scared the whole time. The anxiety hits because if it doesn't work out, he takes the hits hard: he can take a lot of them, but they hit hard. David shares one of his hits—he was spending a lot of money for grad school, wanting to read all the books for all his classes, he was going to learn it all...but he didn't do any of the readings for one of his classes. The class was talking about this person out loud, “Ed Nafoah” — he was like "what is this Nafoah guy talking about ?” and everyone in class is like “Edna? Her name is Edna Foa.” It took five to ten minutes for David to feel the cabin pressure returning and the lights to come up and to return to his body. Aaron points out that his impulsivity could carry him through it—David had a ballast and in grad school and they were talking about different psychosocial backgrounds, step or two based on privilege. The professor holds up a dollar and says "the first person to…can have this dollar?” He's never seen someone authorized like that. Aaron sings the theme song from “The Greatest American Hero” which we all know, and the superhero suit is David's impulsivity. Who is Edna Foa?Greatest American Hero trailer (he is LITERALLY "walking on air")Story behind St. Elmo's Fire theme song, "Man in Motion" here's the music video and the song A quick synopsis of the backstory behind the song (Source: Wikipedia)And an interview with the songwriter/singer, John Parr, discussing how he came up with the idea and how he snuck it in to be the theme song for this 1980's Brat Pack Extravaganza. For more about our guest:Aaron Michael Ullrey (he/him)Writing and Editing Specialist, Editor in ChiefResearch Associate, Transcendence and TransformationCenter for the Study of World Religion (CSWR) at Harvard Divinity SchoolInstructor of Religious StudiesThe University of HoustonInstructor of Sanskrit LanguageUniversity of Naropa -----Cover Art by: Sol VázquezTechnical Support by: Bobby Richards

 TVC 677.2: From February 2012: Phil Gries shares more audio highlights from the Feb. 11, 1960 edition of The Tonight Show, including on-air reaction from co-host Hugh Downs and guests Orson Bean and Shelley Berman in the moments after host Jack Paar had walked off the air to protest NBC's decision to edit out a joke that Paar had told on the previous night's show. Also in this segment: Phil discusses that the role that Jonathan Winters played in convincing Paar to return to The Tonight Show (which Paar did on Mar. 7, 1960), plus Ed plays an clip from the interview that he and Phil did with Hugh Downs in September 2013 in which Downs reveals that, while he knew that Paar was going to quit prior to the taping of the Feb. 11, 1960 broadcast, he did not expect Paar to walk off at the beginning of the show. Audio courtesy ATVAudio.com.

Story: Big Blue Author: impulsive_astrophile Rating: GA Site link: https://archiveofourown.org/works/34401469 Read by: kristinsauter Summary: Contrary to popular belief, Mulder not only knows how to cook, but loves it. And he loves sharing it with Scully, too. Especially when he has fun new utensils. Used by the author's permission. The characters in these works are not the property of the Audio Fanfic Podcast or the author and are not being posted for profit.

In this podcast episode, Vangile talks about the "RunAway archetype" and its transformation into the "Grounded Seeker." Vangile explains the behavioral patterns, core wounds, and healing journey of the RunAway, which involves avoiding uncomfortable financial situations and feelings due to learned trauma responses. The RunAway archetype often manifests through avoidance, escapism, and impulsive spending, leading to cycles of debt and financial instability. The RunAway's transformation involves acknowledging the need for change, practicing self-awareness, and learning to feel safe in the body. The Grounded Seeker archetype embodies stability, presence, and financial awareness, enabling individuals to build generational wealth and improve family dynamics. Vangile emphasizes how the RunAway thrives by developing routines, coming into their bodies and regulating their nervous system. This is another insightful episode. Tune in!   During this episode, you will learn about:   [02:08] - Introduction to the podcast [03:59] - Discussion on the runaway archetype and its transformation [08:15] - Characteristics and behaviors of the RunAway archetype [14:03] - Effects of trauma on the runaway archetype and family dynamics [18:14] - Dissociation and externalizing security [25:10] - Discussion on busyness and financial habits of runaways [29:07] - Differences between runaway and sweet one archetypes in conflict avoidance [33:08] - Short-term solutions and the allure of quick fixes [37:29] - Physical manifestations of trauma and its impact on the body [40:38] - Cycles of debt and financial avoidance [44:35] - Impulsive spending and its consequences [51:50] - Addiction tendencies and family relationships [54:34] - Beginning the healing journey and physical symptoms [57:34] - Importance of somatic work and mind-body connection [01:04:21] - Characteristics of the grounded seeker archetype [01:07:08] - Developing self-trust and financial responsibility [01:10:59] - Key practices for the grounded seeker [01:13:36] - Practicing neutrality with money [01:16:10] - Building financial trust and empowerment [01:18:48] - Closing remarks and reflection prompts [01:25:45] - Information on where to find the book and how to work with Vangile [01:32:46] - Details on one-on-one coaching [01:34:03] - Final comments and participant interaction    Notable Quotes   "The runaway archetype has learned to respond to trauma predominantly by going into the flight response."   "Some of us who are the runaway archetype learn to deal with money by avoiding responsibility." "The runaway's role is to metabolize the unseen and unprocessed trauma in the family." "The grounded seeker's role is to teach every family member to acknowledge their own feelings." "The grounded seeker is all about being in the body and setting boundaries."       Additional money trauma resources:   One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching  Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic  7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training Let's connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

In episode 676 of The Half Size Me™ Show, Heather talks with Meghan about the common challenges parents face, like being around kids' snacks and treats all day and finding ways to set healthy boundaries with food. They also chat about -- strategies to enjoy baking and special food moments with kids while sticking to personal goals -- teaching kids responsibility by involving them in cleanup and portioning -- using a paper-and-pencil journal to track impulsive eating habits and improve consistency -- and more! Support Half Size Me Show's mission and help us stay free of third-party ads! As a subscriber to Half Size Me Podcast Premium, you will get: --Access to the entire 650+ episode archive --Access weekly episodes a day EARLY --Access to EXCLUSIVE, subscriber-only episodes including the Coaching Karolina and Coaching Sarah series --Access to subscriber-only audio responses to “Ask Me Anything” questions Become a podcast premium subscriber today and make Heather and the Half Size Me show a part of your weight loss journey! Do you want to get support and connection at a price you can afford? Then check out the Half Size Me Academy here: https://www.halfsizeme.com/hsm-academy/ About Half Size Me The Half Size Me™ Show is a weekly podcast. It will inspire and motivate you no matter where you are in your weight loss journey. Whether you're just getting started losing weight or having worked on your health and wellness for years, this show is for you! The Half Size Me Show is hosted by Heather Robertson, who lost 170 pounds over a period of 5 years and has maintained since 2012. Heather did it by learning new eating habits, getting regular exercise, and changing her mindset. On her popular weekly podcast, The Half Size Me Show, Heather shares her own lessons and struggles with you, and she shows you how to handle the real challenge of any weight loss journey... weight maintenance. Be sure to subscribe to The Half Size Me Show and join Heather every week as she shares information, inspiration, coaching, and conversations with REAL people who've learned weight loss isn't only about losing pounds, it's about finding yourself. Disclaimer: Heather is not a doctor, nurse, or certified health professional. What worked for her or her guests may not work for you. Please talk with your doctor, dietician, or other certified health professionals when seeking advice about your own weight loss or weight maintenance plan. All information included in The Half Size Me™ Podcast and on HalfSizeMe.com is for informational and inspirational purposes only. For additional disclaimer information, please visit HalfSizeMe.com.

Isabelle and David welcome David's brother's friend, Aaron, who, as a recently diagnosed ADHDer, brings up the idea of if ADHD is a superpower, it's like the super suit in “Greatest American Hero:” a suit given with a manual that got lost on the first day of use. What happens when you find your ‘ingredient' for doing the things you previously struggled with and now can do? How does your self esteem and sense of self efficacy impact how you handle days when that ingredient is missing? This plus being puppy dogs together, tackling Mt. Laundry, and why intimacy beats contempt.----David and Isabelle welcome Aaron, a longtime friend of David's brother, who was recently diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. In thinking about ADHD, he thinks about this show from the 1970's, “Greatest American Hero,” where this teacher is given a superpower suit by some aliens, who also give him a manual for the suit, and he loses it on the first day, so he goes around saving people but also is seeking this manual and he always gives it up to save someone. He resonated with this character so much, and for Aaron, medication made a huge difference—he is able to wake up and do the thing and then he is able to do. He's been medicated for anxiety and depression his whole life and taking medication for ADHD doesn't make those go away, but it helps him be the person he always wanted to be. Isabelle so resonates with the suit metaphor and how she and Bobby attempted to make their home more ADHD friendly (see “Keeping House While Drowning” and all the ADHD friendly home tips below!) And she forgot her medication and instead of spiraling into anxiety, when she realized why she stalled out all day, she was able to recognize it was “oh, I was missing my ingredient.”  David points out that it's not just medication, because medication is not for everyone, it can be so many things, once we find out what the ingredient is—working out in the morning, the coffee routine, whatever it might be--when you all of a sudden miss it, you can pinpoint it and recover. Even more so, Aaron describes how it is a conscious habit, as a child of the 80's, he is not about the idea of 'working on his self-esteem,' but realizes through therapy and his conversations with David that it keeps coming up for a reason, there are wounds there that do shift when you are able to do some of the things you previously struggled with. David can recognize those nasty voices in our heads, the angry voice as a teenager to get himself to do things. Based on his arbitrary math, while it takes 6 weeks to build a neurological bridge, it takes 6 years to build a habit. He chose to make excitement that it will be over the habit over the anger over having to do it. Whether it's medication or nervousness or anxiety, David recognizes that something has to stimulate him so he has to choose his path and practice it. Aaron remembers his psychologist friend Dave 20 years ago sharing the 3 paths to happiness (he was studying at the time)—the first is excitement, the second is contempt (at least temporarily), and the third is intimacy. Aaron is excitable and comes from a contemptuous family and wants to focus on intimacy. This makes Isabelle make awkward spiders with her hands, the idea of gossiping and spreading shame makes you feel reassured and safe but also brings with it a threat and temporary condition; for Isabelle, intimacy means playfulness, curiosity, a willingness to see what happens next, and as David defines it: a shared vulnerability. Aaron ordered up BRAIN STUFF, and sadly David has no links, so Isabelle tries to fill it by talking about studies that connect to how we associate the negative talk about someone with the gossiper, not the subject of the gossip. David names that he does think ADHD is a superpower with a missing manual, and the tricky part is let's say we're talking unbridled enthusiasm: it's a superpower and contagious and also has an effect on the recipient. David names being okay with someone not wanting to be the recipient at this current moment. THE THINGS WE MENTIONED:Greatest American Hero Opening Credits (Worth it to finally see where this song comes from and for the flying haphazardly imagery)How to Keep House While Drowning by KC DavisSo You've Been Publicly Shamed by Jon Ronson"Punishing or praising gossipers: How people interpret the motives behind negative gossip shapes its consequences" (source: Social and Personality Psychology Compass)-----Cover Art by: Sol VázquezTechnical Support by: Bobby Richards

Ken doesn't want the Browns as desperate, impulsive as he is full 596 Tue, 14 Jan 2025 11:58:25 +0000 F9Nsws3eDqd6uKhHdnxjAgxaVRjLbTME sports The Ken Carman Show with Anthony Lima sports Ken doesn't want the Browns as desperate, impulsive as he is The only place to talk about the Cleveland sports scene is with Ken Carman and Anthony Lima. The two guide listeners through the ups and downs of being a fan of the Browns, Cavaliers, Guardians and Ohio State Buckeyes in Northeast Ohio. They'll help you stay informed with breaking news, game coverage, and interviews with top personalities.Catch The Ken Carman Show with Anthony Lima live Monday through Friday (6 a.m. - 10 a.m ET) on 92.3 The Fan, the exclusive audio home of the Browns, or on the Audacy app. For more, follow the show on X @KenCarmanShow. 2024 © 2021 Audacy, Inc. Sports False https://player.amperwavepodcasti

Break free from the overwhelm, shame, and constant battle with your ADHD. Order the Something Shiny ADHD Toolkit Series - available now until January 2nd, 2025! Does ADHD make you an overly optimistic puppy dog? Or the sprinkle of trickster magic in someone else's day? And is there really a "better" way to be, optimistic or pessimistic? From David being a prophetic hot dog vendor at Wrigley Field, to trickster archetypes, to the differences between vulnerable in the process of something or being vulnerable at the end, Isabelle and David dig into a totally unique way to consider optimism and pessimism as adaptive. ----Once upon a time, David sold hot dogs at Wrigley Field, yelling out “here's your hot dogs!” To do that, he talked differently, throwing the accent in so thick. This was during the McGuire/Sosa run streak, and he would say “Sammy's going to hit a home run to you in the 7th” and he had a 50% chance of being right and he made it a great time for those kids. This makes Isabelle think of Tricia Hersey, the Nap Minister, who has done all this work on systemic racism and the Black American experience, and rest as resistance or a form of activism. She also is talking about lot about trickster energy. Isabelle thinks about this in the form of ableism, how she talks and writes about trickster energy, and making magic in something that feels subversive and is part of the time as well as not a part of the time. Like David is performing the role of the hot dog vendor, but then because he predicts the ‘future' to the kid, he adds a twist to it and he becomes a full human, like more than a role. Isabelle's shortcuts often fall around domestic labor. David likes how it elevates the hot dog vendor to more than an NPC—after the game, if he predicted it was right, reclaims that he was actually a main character. But also it was greater than what David was doing. Isabelle notices that this lines up with a neurodivergent strength with ADHD, the going on tangents, the divergent tangents. Isabelle names that recently things have been really tough personally and professionally, and yet she has this relentless optimism; Isabelle can't help but bring in the playful energy. Is her optimism really about ADHD? David names that optimism is not about accuracy, it has to do with process. Optimism is: ‘it's not a loss until it is,” and you can be miserable for 3 weeks leading up to something or miserable for the one moment you feel the loss. But also, David warns, optimism can be dangerous when it comes to expectations. If you expect a piece of (astronaut) ice cream when you get home every day, it is a set up when you get upset you didn't get the astronaut ice cream. Optimism is radically accepting that we haven't lost until we have. In one hour we can feel sad, but right now, we can still win. For David it's how he can sit with his nervous system, it's changing the meaning of “in process.” Isabelle really likes this, as she is relentlessly optimistic. If she is more willing to take risks, if she doesn't have a big response cost, she doesn't have a great estimation of how hard or long something is going to be, a poor working memory, and it would track that overall she would get smacked in the face by a 2 x 4 and then wake up the next day and forget it ever happened. She doesn't remember the fails until she's failing again, and anything is possible until it isn't, or she remembers the fails but this time, it could be different. And, is part of that really a choice she's making or is it just a shortcut, a mental shortcut—you could call it optimism that she always leaves the house not accounting for traffic because she believes in parking magic. It would be way harder for her to keep all the possibilities in mind. David asks: are you forgetting to account for traffic? That's executive functioning stuff. Or are you optimistic about there being no traffic? If you're leaving late thinking you're going to get a good parking spot, the memory deficit reinforces this perspective. But isn't it easier to live with miracles and magic and not borrowing trouble? You're not ruining your present moment by fretting about something that hasn't happened yet. But if Isabelle could have accounted for her executive functioning maybe she could've avoided some thing. When we are struggling to pull out optimism in an area, we're looking at areas of self-esteem. It's really hard to be optimistic if you don't have a sense of mastery in who you are and what you're doing. You have to have a sense that you are enough or that you matter, you have to have some power or some say in a world. Survival mode, by necessity removes optimism, makes you pessimistic. When you've survived trauma, which is anything that overwhelms your sense of hope, what devalued or dehumanized you or left you feeling out of control, and it was something that Isabelle was internalizing something was the worst. Back in the day, in older versions of the DSM, included in PTSD was the idea of a ‘foreshortened future,” there's not way she could survive or make it through another developmental state. When you're in survival mode, you think you're getting all the important data, black and white, like an old news reel, you think you're getting all the information, but you're getting very little data, which can be both helpful and hurtful. Does optimism indicate the opposite of the trauma response? Is it an indicator you're not in the survival mode? But David names: optimism is not a better, pessimism is not a worse—both are accommodations and have their uses. Maybe you're more vulnerable in process, and less vulnerable at the end, so being optimistic is an adaptation for you. For someone else who is more vulnerable at the end and less vulnerable in process, being pessimistic would be an adaptation. We surrender parts of ourselves when we try to be somebody else, and David is a proponent of humanism, that humans as a whole make sense, and we're doing our best. He's not interested in optimism being used to invalidate pessimism or pessimism being used to invalidate optimism. NPC - Non-Playable or Non-Player Character: a term from gaming that refers to characters that cannot be played by the person playing the game. (Source: wikipedia).Nap Minister, Tricia Hersey and her book, Rest is ResistanceTrickster Archetype: (from Wikipedia): "a character in a story who exhibits a great degree of intellect or secret knowledge and uses it to play tricks or otherwise disobey normal rules and defy conventional behavior." Examples Isabelle mentioned include: Loki (norse mythology and the Marvel Universe), Anansi (Ashanti folklore)ADHD's links to optimism:The Positive Aspects of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: A Qualitative Investigation of Successful Adults with ADHD (Source: ADHD Springer Journal)Incautiously Optimistic: Positively Valenced Cognitive Avoidance in Adult ADHD (Source: NIH/Cogn. Beh. Pract.)

Break free from the overwhelm, shame, and constant battle with your ADHD. Order the Something Shiny ADHD Toolkit Series - available now until January 2nd, 2025! How do you make your time off the most efficiently relaxing? Or unlock a peak game night or other family time experience? And why are we so hell bent on intensity of experience, versus frequency? David and Isabelle straddle talk of perfectionism, their own relationships to building time-off experiences, and how frequency is our friend, as well as the idea that perfectionism is not a dirty word, but perhaps relates to masking, needs for structure and predictability in neurodivergence.----Isabelle describes how her and Bobby would take time away just the two of them, and realized how time would move so differently, especially if they just let themselves hang out and not put extra pressure on the time off. David names that we focus so much on intensity of experiences (for Isabelle's family, the most intense all-inclusive Disney trip EVER!) versus frequency, when actually, you need more frequent interactions in order to have a template for how to be with each other. So maybe we do more time off or together time—more often, and lower the bar for what we have to do in that time? Isabelle struggles with this, however, in how she tackles family game nights, as family dinner might be something of a challenge for folks (let's not assume all families are functional and you want to spend time with each other, either). She goes to great lengths to set it up, get the snacks, the music, the setting…and she always wants to make it 2% better, but it often backfires or doesn't match up to any expectations. This brings her to her new hyper fixation, on perfectionism (see book she names, below). She describes how there's a type of perfectionist that seeks to have every part of a process go well, and if one part goes wrong, they throw it all away. This relates for her to being so in the present moment and struggling with what happened just before or just after, so she wants to nail each part of a get together. David does not relate to this, it brings up the fact he knows nothing can be perfect and in fact, he felt so ‘not enough' for much of his life, that he does not carry this. Isabelle describes how there's this type of perfectionism where you work really hard but you try to appear effortless (effortlessly styled, cool, fit, etc.) and David names how he wants to unlock peak experiences with minimal effort. Isabelle and David get into a debate about whether or not David might be a type of perfectionist, if you think of perfectionism as ambitions or goals or striving toward and ideal, and Isabelle's own journey exploring if she has autism, makes her think that maybe this is how she uses scripts in social settings, like she knows what her role is and what is expected of her and she wants to do it well. David names that if he puts great effort into it, then it doesn't count, except when he's making “D's Nuts,” a holiday spiced nut roasted sugared nut blend that blows minds in little mason jars every year. Isabelle finally gets what David means; he's going for peak efficiency, like he puts in no effort, and it's a HUGE win for the person. With D's nuts, it's extremely labor intensive and he's proud of it. Isabelle likes to give people shortcuts, like discount codes and bargains and feels so seen when David names he has benefited from her use of this many a time. The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan SchaflerTypes of perfectionists (per the book above, taken from Medium summary article)Classic perfectionist — They attempt to control essentially everything. This is the type we're all thinking of. They like structure and consistency. They tend to hold themselves to extremely high standards and are overachievers.Parisian perfectionist — This type wants to be perfectly liked by everyone in an effortless way. They have a sense of ideal connection and tend to be people pleasing to bridge that gap.Procrastinating perfectionist — These folks want the conditions to be ideal before they get started on a project. They have an ideal notion of how something might go, and are afraid of having it ruined with the reality of actually getting started.Messy perfectionist — This doesn't mean physically messy. What it means is that these folks have a hard time following through once a project has gotten underway. They believe that they can focus on multiple things without having to give anything up, but frequently don't finish what they started and have multiple projects in various states of completion at any given time.Intense perfectionist — These people can be extremely demanding of others. Think the boss that is exacting and keeps you at the office late. They have an ideal outcome or vision and are willing to be extremely unlikable in order to bring it to fruition.David makes “D's nuts.” For those not familiar with Chicago accents, here's an old SNL sketch that makes big use of this.-----Cover Art by: Sol VázquezTechnical Support by: Bobby Richards