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Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseIn this episode on How Not to Suck at Divorce, Morgan and Andrea welcome Renee Swanson, host of the Covert Narcissism podcast, for a powerful conversation about planning your way out of an emotionally abusive marriage. Renee shares how she reclaimed her identity, protected her children, and gathered strength before initiating divorce — all while still living under the same roof as her husband. It's an episode full of actionable guidance, healing truths, and hope for anyone feeling stuck, exhausted, and unsure of their next move.What you'll learn:How to emotionally prepare before leaving a toxic relationshipThe power of “baby steps” and small daily actions that build long-term momentumWays to gather legal and emotional information to reduce overwhelmHow to communicate safely and reclaim your dignity while still in the marriageTools and strategies for coexisting with a high-conflict partner during separationWhy there's never a perfect time to divorce — and why that's okayQuestions answered in this episode:Can you begin healing while still in an emotionally abusive marriage?What does a practical, step-by-step divorce exit plan look like?How do you manage sharing a home with someone who triggers or controls you?How do you know when it's really time to leave?What legal steps should you take while you're still deciding?How do you stop reacting and start protecting your peace?Our Family Wizard is another fantastic resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our DMs, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Connect with our guest, Renee: https://www.covertnarcissism.com/podcastInstagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago
Donna Adelson Gives A Masterclass Performance In Covert Narcissism, We Break It Down Donna Adelson just delivered a courtroom performance that could put seasoned actors to shame—except this isn't Hollywood, it's real life, and the stakes couldn't be higher. In this episode, we take a deep dive into her recent testimony and why it's a textbook example of covert narcissism in action. From her over-the-top victim narrative to her complete lack of remorse, Donna's behavior on the stand was a masterclass in manipulation, and we're here to break it all down. If you've ever wondered how covert narcissists operate—how they twist reality, play the helpless victim, and shift blame with chilling ease—this case is a perfect real-life study. While the world watched for signs of accountability, Donna gave us deflection, self-pity, and just enough theatrics to keep the courtroom buzzing. But what does her testimony really tell us about her mindset? And how does it fit into the larger web of manipulation surrounding the Dan Markel murder case? We'll analyze the key moments from her testimony, explain the psychology of covert narcissism, and highlight the subtle but powerful tactics narcissists use when their backs are against the wall. From her convenient list of ailments to her shocking lack of concern for the real victim, we're exposing every red flag that makes this case so fascinating. If you love true crime, courtroom drama, and psychological deep dives, you won't want to miss this one. Tune in now as we unravel Donna Adelson's performance of a lifetime—and what it reveals about the mind of a covert narcissist. Want to listen to ALL of our podcasts AD-FREE? Subscribe through APPLE PODCASTS, and try it for three days free: https://tinyurl.com/ycw626tj Follow Our Other Cases: https://www.truecrimetodaypod.com The latest on The Downfall of Diddy, The Trial of Karen Read, The Murder Of Maddie Soto, Catching the Long Island Serial Killer, Awaiting Admission: BTK's Unconfessed Crimes, Delphi Murders: Inside the Crime, Chad & Lori Daybell, The Murder of Ana Walshe, Alex Murdaugh, Bryan Kohberger, Lucy Letby, Kouri Richins, Malevolent Mormon Mommys, The Menendez Brothers: Quest For Justice, The Murder of Stephen Smith, The Murder of Madeline Kingsbury, The Murder Of Sandra Birchmore, and much more! Listen at https://www.truecrimetodaypod.com
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Donna Adelson just delivered a courtroom performance that could put seasoned actors to shame—except this isn't Hollywood, it's real life, and the stakes couldn't be higher. In this episode, we take a deep dive into her recent testimony and why it's a textbook example of covert narcissism in action. From her over-the-top victim narrative to her complete lack of remorse, Donna's behavior on the stand was a masterclass in manipulation, and we're here to break it all down. If you've ever wondered how covert narcissists operate—how they twist reality, play the helpless victim, and shift blame with chilling ease—this case is a perfect real-life study. While the world watched for signs of accountability, Donna gave us deflection, self-pity, and just enough theatrics to keep the courtroom buzzing. But what does her testimony really tell us about her mindset? And how does it fit into the larger web of manipulation surrounding the Dan Markel murder case? We'll analyze the key moments from her testimony, explain the psychology of covert narcissism, and highlight the subtle but powerful tactics narcissists use when their backs are against the wall. From her convenient list of ailments to her shocking lack of concern for the real victim, we're exposing every red flag that makes this case so fascinating. If you love true crime, courtroom drama, and psychological deep dives, you won't want to miss this one. Tune in now as we unravel Donna Adelson's performance of a lifetime—and what it reveals about the mind of a covert narcissist. Want to listen to ALL of our podcasts AD-FREE? Subscribe through APPLE PODCASTS, and try it for three days free: https://tinyurl.com/ycw626tj Follow Our Other Cases: https://www.truecrimetodaypod.com The latest on The Downfall of Diddy, The Trial of Karen Read, The Murder Of Maddie Soto, Catching the Long Island Serial Killer, Awaiting Admission: BTK's Unconfessed Crimes, Delphi Murders: Inside the Crime, Chad & Lori Daybell, The Murder of Ana Walshe, Alex Murdaugh, Bryan Kohberger, Lucy Letby, Kouri Richins, Malevolent Mormon Mommys, The Menendez Brothers: Quest For Justice, The Murder of Stephen Smith, The Murder of Madeline Kingsbury, The Murder Of Sandra Birchmore, and much more! Listen at https://www.truecrimetodaypod.com
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Have you just realized your ex might be a covert narcissist? Thought your separation was amicable,only to find yourself blindsided by manipulation and deceit? In this episode, we break down the six key signs of a covert narcissist during divorce, property settlement or coparenting. From playing the victim to using the legal system against you, we'll help you spot the red flags and protect yourself. Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Are going through a divorce or property settlement and feel like something is off. ❓ Want to understand the subtle tactics of a covert narcissist.
Many of us have been taught to focus on the good—to think about whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and admirable and to not judge. These are not bad lessons to live by, but do they apply to our spouse in a toxic relationship? Or are we unintentionally ignoring red flags in covert narcissistic abuse? In this episode, we explore:
How Healing Transforms Your Responses to a Covert Narcissist Healing doesn't change the covert narcissist. It changes YOU! Healing transforms your responses and reactions to their abusive tactics. This episode of Covert Narcissism Podcast explores how healing empowers victims to break free from the quicksand of covert narcissistic abuse and reclaim their confidence. Through relatable examples, we uncover the subtle but destructive tactics covert narcissists use to manipulate and control. You'll hear how interactions that seem innocent at first—like dismissing your achievements or denying your reality—can leave you questioning yourself and spiraling into self-doubt. But here's the good news: it doesn't have to stay this way. Healing transforms your responses, shifting the dynamic from reactive and self-doubting to calm, clear, and empowered. In this episode, you'll learn: How to deal with a covert narcissist spouse or partner when they dismiss your achievements, gaslight you, or criticize your efforts. How healing from covert narcissistic abuse empowers you to respond with confidence rather than defensiveness. The difference between pre-healing reactions—like over-apologizing or seeking their approval—and post-healing responses that prioritize your well-being. Real-life examples of navigating common scenarios, including criticism, gaslighting, silent treatment, and emotional outbursts. This episode will help you recognize the patterns of covert narcissism, understand why their behavior is not your fault, and inspire you to start or continue your healing journey. Healing doesn't change the covert narcissist, but it transforms how you respond to their manipulation—setting you free from their control and rebuilding your self-worth. Whether you're just starting to understand covert narcissism or deep into your recovery, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice to help you thrive. I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? Are you searching for people who get it? Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? Are you running in circles in your mind? Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism #Trauma #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #CovertNarcissism #podcast
Unmasking the Types of Narcissism: Traits, Motivations, and Hidden Patterns Narcissism comes in many forms, each with distinct traits and motivations. Grandiose narcissists thrive on superiority and admiration, while vulnerable narcissists seek validation and sympathy to mask their fragile self-esteem. Malignant narcissists combine narcissistic traits with antisocial behavior and a drive for domination, whereas communal narcissists gain admiration by presenting as altruistic and caring. Somatic narcissists focus on physical attractiveness for affirmation, and cerebral narcissists pursue validation through intellectual superiority and disdain for others' capabilities. But where does covert narcissism fit in? It's not its own category but rather a subtle way these narcissistic traits appear. Covert narcissists may quietly manipulate, playing the victim or expressing passive-aggressive entitlement, making them harder to identify. In this episode, we break down these narcissistic types and explain how covert narcissism weaves through them, helping you recognize and navigate these destructive patterns.
Narcissistic behavior can leave a trail of emotional devastation, much like a tornado tearing through lives and relationships. But what happens when these traits hide in plain sight? In this episode, we uncover the truth about covert narcissism, explaining how it's not a standalone category but a subtle way narcissistic traits from any type—grandiose, vulnerable, malignant, and more—manifest. From passive-aggressive manipulation to the constant victim narrative, covert narcissists are often the hardest to recognize, leaving their victims confused and questioning their reality. Dive deeper into the different types of narcissism, their traits, and motivations, and learn how to spot the covert tactics that wreak havoc in relationships. With actionable tips for recognizing, addressing, and healing from covert narcissistic abuse, this episode equips you with the knowledge to protect yourself and rebuild your confidence. Whether you're living with a covert narcissist or recovering from emotional abuse, understanding these dynamics is your first step toward freedom and healing.
Imagine finally opening up about the emotional abuse you've endured, only to be met with harsh judgments, dismissive comments, or cruel accusations that make you doubt yourself even more. Victim blaming doesn't just hurt—it silences, isolates, and strengthens the grip of the abuser. In this episode, I unpack the devastating impact of victim blaming on survivors of covert narcissistic abuse. From dismissive remarks like “Why didn't you just leave?” to outright accusations that invalidate your experience, we explore how these responses deepen the wounds of those already suffering. If you've ever felt unseen, unheard, or blamed for your own pain, this episode is for you. I address:
For survivors of covert narcissistic abuse, the New Year can feel overwhelming—another reminder of time lost and dreams unfulfilled. But this year can mark the start of something new: freedom, healing, and renewal. In this heartfelt episode, I share how I transitioned from merely surviving to truly living—reclaiming peace in my home, my heart, and my mind. I'll provide practical steps to help you let go of emotional burdens, set boundaries, and embrace small, meaningful joys. The life you deserve—a life of peace, connection, and freedom—is possible. Let this be the year you step forward, one small moment at a time. "You are stronger than you know, and this is your year to let go, to heal, and to rise." I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? Are you searching for people who get it? Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? Are you running in circles in your mind? Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism #Trauma #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #CovertNarcissism #podcast
In this compelling episode of Conversations with Pearl, host Pearl Chiarenza sits down with Mia J. Hanks, a survivor of 29 years of covert narcissistic abuse and the author of the memoir Bride-Made. Mia shares her harrowing journey of self-discovery, courage, and healing, offering hope and guidance to others who may be in similar situations.Key Topics Covered:The subtle and dangerous nature of covert narcissism.The pivotal moment that led Mia to recognize her unsafe marriage.The challenges of leaving a long-term abusive relationship.The impact of abuse on children and the importance of breaking the cycle.Mia's healing journey and how she found her voice through writing.Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience, self-worth, and the power of storytelling to heal and empower others.Go to Mia's site to get more information or get her book:https://miajhanks.com/Follow Pearl onsocial media TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook: @PearlchiarenzaGo to https://www.wsliving.com/Remember to embrace your inner pearl, nourish yourself, and find balance in life. Staytrue to your authentic self and continue working on your personal growth.
Bobcast! Dr Kirk and Bob talk about their covert narcissism and also explore CPTSD. (Intro)This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://teespring.com/stores/psychology-in-seattleInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaDecember 20, 2024The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
In this episode, we explore the deep impact of covert narcissism and enmeshment on our sense of self-worth, boundaries, and relationships. If you've ever felt unworthy, insecure, or lost in roles that don't feel like your own, this conversation is for you. We dive into how these toxic dynamics can blur boundaries and disconnect us from our authentic selves, and how to begin reclaiming your worth. Learn how to set healthy boundaries, heal from emotional manipulation, and trust yourself again. Topics covered: Covert narcissism and enmeshment explained How these dynamics affect your self-worth and boundaries Practical steps to reclaim your true self Healing from trauma and finding self-empowerment Resources mentioned: Who Am I After Trauma Journaling Prompts Bring it To Group: Join Tuesday Group Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things
Episode #97 In this episode of the Awakened Heart Podcast, I sit down with Mia Hanks, who bravely opens up about her 29-year marriage to a covert narcissist. Mia shares her personal story, revealing the subtle yet devastating signs of narcissistic abuse and how it gradually eroded her sense of self. We dive into the complexities of recognizing narcissism, the hidden aspect of financial control, and the importance of building a strong support system. Mia also talks about her healing process, including the cathartic experience of writing her memoir, Bridesmaid. She offers heartfelt advice for anyone facing similar struggles, urging them to trust their instincts and seek the help they deserve. Takeaways *Many people encounter narcissists in various relationships. *Narcissistic abuse often starts subtly and escalates over time. *Covert narcissists can appear charming and kind to outsiders. *Isolation is a common tactic used by narcissists. *Financial abuse can trap victims in toxic relationships. *Therapy can help victims recognize and escape abusive dynamics. *Writing can be a therapeutic way to process trauma. *Support systems are crucial for recovery from narcissistic abuse. *It's important to validate one's feelings and experiences. *Leaving a narcissistic relationship often requires careful planning. Sound Bites "You lose your sense of self." "It's okay to leave." "You have to have money to leave." Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Importance of the Topic 01:24 Recognizing the Signs of Narcissistic Abuse 05:26 Degrees and Snowball Effect of Narcissistic Abuse 09:03 The Deterioration of Narcissists with Age 11:31 Understanding True Intimacy and Feeling Safe 17:54 Covert Narcissism and Misconceptions 21:58 Planning and Leaving a Narcissistic Relationship 26:15 The Journey to Healing and Rebuilding 30:10 Raising Awareness and Breaking the Cycle of Abuse Connect with Mia: Book Website TikTok Let's Connect! Website Instagram Facebook Youtube Rumble
For those of you who have been or currently are in a relationship with a covert narcissist, what are some of the things you thought were totally normal but now realize are not normal? That relationships are SO incredibly hard, like trying to get water from a rock. Isn't that the way it is supposed to be? “Feeling ridiculously anxious when you hear their car pull in and the front door open.” Or when the garage door opens! “Name calling and screaming!” How did we ever get to the point that we thought this was normal and acceptable? “Not having access to the bank account” It is NOT normal for a spouse to not have access to the family's finances. Allowances are for children, not spouses. This is a partnership, not a dictatorship. I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? Are you searching for people who get it? Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? Are you running in circles in your mind? Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism #Trauma #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #CovertNarcissism #podcast
This episode is dedicated to everyone who is going through the upcoming holidays with a covert narcissist. As the world sees this “wonderful” person in your life, I see you! I see the pain, the doubt, the confusion, the fear. People who have survived this often feel invisible, dismissed, or doubted when sharing their experiences with others. Today, we're diving into what survivors wish more people understood, and how we can better support those who've endured this hidden abuse. Let's unmask the truth together. Welcome to the Covert Narcissism Podcast, the podcast where we expose hidden truths and give voice to the survivors of covert narcissistic abuse. I'm Renee Swanson, your host, here to unpack a topic that's both difficult and necessary—covert narcissism. Today's episode is about validation—what survivors wish more people understood, and why the world needs to do a better job in listening, believing, and supporting those who are going through this invisible abuse. I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? Are you searching for people who get it? Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? Are you running in circles in your mind? Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism #Trauma #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #CovertNarcissism #podcast
This episode has been published and can be heard everywhere your podcast is available. Book a One on One coaching session HERE Join FREE Masterclass to learn the methods to break free from Toxic Relationship HERE 7 Day Challenge -https://www.rawmotivations.com/escape-toxicity Survivor to Thriver - https://www.rawmotivations.com/survivor Want to help support this podcast? https://anchor.fm/rawmotivations/support Listen to the wife's perspective on our new podcast Trauma, Drama & Life: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-drama-life/id1639753152 Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That's me - Ben Taylor a a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook. Please reach out to me if you are a: Victim of Narcissistic Abuse -Helping provide closure, reduce guilt and break free from the trauma bond that toxic people imprison you in. Narcissist -I understand you better than you probably understand yourself because I have been there, I am there and I am fighting daily for a better life. You can do that too. From Fantasy to Reality: A Journal for after the Toxic Relationship Grab yours HERE. Platforms I am on: TikTok (71k followers) - https://www.tiktok.com/@raw_motivations Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivations Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Raw-Motivations-105074738842639/ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/rawmotivations/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/rawmotivations?sub_confirmation=1 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rawmotivations/support
Everyone dealing with covert narcissism deals with FOG, but Christians have a extra layer of FOG to handle. FOG stands for Fear, Obligation and Guilt. These 3 issues keep a victim of covert narcissism trapped for years and decades. If you add Christianity to this, it becomes nearly impossible to see things clearly. You are already dealing with the fear of your partner's reactions, fear of upsetting them, and fear of abandonment. Add to this the fear of disobeying God and being condemned to hell. You live under the obligation to be loyal and supportive spouse. Add to this the obligation to be submissive and dutiful, plus the obligation to be intimate with a partner who constantly pushes you away. You are overwhelmed with guilt when you fail at all the things you now feel responsible for, such as keeping them satisfied and happy. Add to this the enormous guilt because of how you think and feel about your spouse and because you can't make things better. The Christian perspective certainly adds another layer of FOG to an already dense situation. I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? Are you searching for people who get it? Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? Are you running in circles in your mind? Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism #Trauma #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #CovertNarcissism #podcast
I stood in my own home and realized that I was frozen, absolutely stuck. What to fix for dinner, what to watch on tv, when to sit down and read my book. I was no longer capable of making even small decisions. This is life with a covert narcissist. I can't decide where to go for dinner or what to cook. I can't figure out which bathroom to use in my own home. I can't decide which shirt to wear around the house. All because of the belittling comments, controlling comments, self-focused comments, and victim comments. These are never-ending and incredibly destructive. When I say that our mind is in overdrive, you cannot possibly understand this unless you have lived it. If you have lived it, you know exactly what I mean. I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? Are you searching for people who get it? Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? Are you running in circles in your mind? Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism #Trauma #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #CovertNarcissism #podcast
People blow you off, saying you are making a big deal out of nothing. You're just being too sensitive. You need to get tougher. You need to learn to stand up for yourself. But yet when you try, you get blamed for being the problem. So what's the big deal? Why am I spending a lifetime learning about covert narcissism? Because it matters!! Covert narcissists erase who you are. They rob you of your perspective, identity and personality. How do we stop this cycle? By giving our kids and our world emotional nourishment. Emotional nourishment is key for anyone's emotional development. Emotional nourishment is not about how I feel towards another person. It is about acknowledging and caring for how they feel. Emotional nourishment is giving someone the feeling of being accepted and valued for who they are, and the freedom to express themselves without fear of judgment. This sure doesn't sound like the environment with a covert narcissist. Not at all!! They are the exact opposite. I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? Are you searching for people who get it? Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? Are you running in circles in your mind? Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism #Trauma #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #CovertNarcissism #podcast
It's not hard to spot a grandiose narcissist. The flagrant bragging, exaggerating, and fishing for compliments (for mirroring) is fairly obvious. But can you spot the quieter profile of the covert narcissist, the kind smart enough to hide their drive to exploit, gaslight, and retaliate? Chalquist.com
Q & A With Renee Swanson and Her Covert Narcissism Podcast Journey Recently Renee had the opportunity to be interviewed about her journey with Covert Narcissism and how it led where it is today with the Covert Narcissism Podcast. Currently the Covert Narcissism Podcast is downloaded by hundreds of thousands of listeners each month, and has expanded from Renee's guest room, to a studio, and from a small facebook group to group coaching and retreats that take place year round. The question on the minds of many who have asked is, how did it get here? When did Renee first have the idea of a podcast? When did she discover her passion for coaching and helping others dealing with covert narcissism? This episode starts with a small Facebook group and goes throughout the journey. and even answers what Renee sees as the future of the Covert Narcissism Podcast. This is a great episode with tons of candid conversation where Renee is off script and telling her story about life after covert narcissism. Thanks for listening, and watching on Youtube! I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? Are you searching for people who get it? Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? Are you running in circles in your mind? Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism #Trauma #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #CovertNarcissism #podcast
It doesn't take long for struggles to show up when you are dealing with a covert narcissist, but we can easily convince ourselves that every marriage has its problems. We conclude that this is just normal relationship strife. But covert narcissistic behavior is more than this. You are not overreacting when you feel like this is a bigger deal than normal. Trying to talk ourselves out the issues we are facing everyday is detrimental to our health. It takes its toll emotionally, mentally, physically, psychologically, socially, and spiritually. Lynn shares her story about how this isolation and self-doubt affected her health and how she is getting herself into a better place. Stop the excuses. Stop the muck sweeping. I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? Are you searching for people who get it? Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? Are you running in circles in your mind? Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism #Trauma #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #CovertNarcissism #podcast
Dr. David Clarke discusses what to do if you're living with a covert narcissist and how to break free from the narc. Check out Dr. Clarke's Books and Resources on his website: https://www.davideclarkephd.com/
----more----There is an absolute fog that comes from dealing with covert narcissism. You struggle to think straight anymore, and the mind is running in circles Many survivors ask me, "Is something wrong with me? Will I ever be normal again?" When you have been through a traumatic relationship, that trauma has an effect. I say trauma for a reason. This is not a normal relationship with its normal ups and downs. This is not a situation where you just grew apart There is an enormous difference between a disappointing marriage and a destructive one. Trauma is an intense physical and psychological response to an event, series of events, or set of circumstances that is experienced as harmful or threatening. And trauma overwhelms the brain!! I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? Are you searching for people who get it? Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? Are you running in circles in your mind? Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism #Trauma #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #CovertNarcissism #podcast
Are you finding yourself reactive? Short-tempered? At least to them? Maybe even repulsed by their presence? This is a problem. This is the person living in my house, sleeping in my bed, professing their love to me, raising my kids with me, traveling with me. I can't live like this. This has to change! How do I get my body to stop reaching to his presence? Even if you cannot get physical space from the covert narcissist in your world, you must begin the process of getting mental and emotional space from them. Here are 7 steps to help you gain this distance now. I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? Are you searching for people who get it? Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? Are you running in circles in your mind? Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism #Trauma #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #CovertNarcissism #podcast
In this special episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we re-release an archived episode from 2019 about the covert narcissism of Ross Geller from Friends. We are delayed in releasing this weeks new Survivor Story until Tuesday, so hopefully this will tide you over until then. This episode was from 2019 and we were still feeling out what this show was about or the direction it was going. The sound was not the best and the show has matured in a huge way since that time. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The entitlement of a narcissistic person screams, "I am special simply because! I am better than everyone. I am more important than everyone. Everyone knows I am special and should treat me as such." Individuals with narcissistic tendencies expect special treatment. They feel that good things should come their way simply because of who they are. Not because of anything they have or haven't done, but rather just because they "deserve" it. They believe that they are superior to others and thus deserve special treatment. They expect more respect and more attention, often demanding treatment that is different from everyone else and not at all reasonable. In fact, it is often quite shocking behavior from a full-grown adult. Where does this entitlement come from? From a deep internal emptiness. We are going to talk about that emptiness, where it comes from and how it plays out with covert narcissists. I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. •Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? •Are you searching for people who get it? •Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? •Are you running in circles in your mind? •Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? •Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism
Narcissistic abusers are not always obvious with their toxic behavior; they disguise themselves by being covert narcissists. Here are 5 dangerous signs you are being abused by a covert narcissist. Narcissists tend to minimize your needs; they rarely ever take fault and even when they do apologize, they do it sparingly and without meaning it, just to get you to forgive them. They don't care for facts nor logic; they only what they want to hear or believe whatever benefits them. Narcissists also tend to forget that you exist, and project false humility. Narcissists rarely approach you first and wait for you to come to them. In fact, they seem annoyed when you come to them with your problems. Do you think you're being abused by a narcissist? Let us know in the comments. We try our best to read through everything, because you matter a lot to us as a member of our community ❤ . References: Bogdanos, M. (2017, July 11). 5 Signs of Covert Narcissism. Psych Central. Retrieved July 10, 2018. Weiss, S. (2015, August 7). 10 Signs You're a Covert Narcissist, Not Just an Introvert. Bustle. Retrieved July 10, 2018. Ways to Support Us: / psych2gonow Buy from our shop here: https://psych2go.shop/collections/mag... Help us with CC translations in your language: / @psych2go For Business Inquiries - editorial@psych2go.net ❤♡ Please share and like our videos if they've helped you out! ♡❤
"I don't know myself anymore. I don't recognize me. Who am I? I didn't used to be this way. What happened?" Are you asking these questions? Have you become someone that you don't recognize anymore? You are certainly not alone! The behaviors of covert narcissism are destructive, manipulative, antagonistic, harmful, coercive, abusive, and emotionally violent. These behaviors leave deep wounds in the victims. This changes you, their target, in two dominant ways. The first is that these wounds cause strong protective behaviors in you. This is a very normal human response to an abnormal situation. The second is that you begin to mirror the very behaviors that you are protecting yourself from. It is not uncommon at all for victims of covert narcissistic abuse to mirror their abusers with the same defensiveness that they are fighting against, and to then be called the narcissist by their abuser. I will be addressing both of these types of responses to abusive behavior in this episode. #covertnarcissism #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #podcast
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Last week, Tex talked about recognizing covert narcissism since it doesn't manifest in the same way of overt narcissism. This week, Tex gives you his best advice about dealing with one. Tex Ellis is the managing clinical psychotherapist at Changing Patterns Psychotherapy Services, LLC in Annapolis MD. For more information: www.ChangingPatternsPsychotherapyServices.com (443) 261-5950 Office DISCLAIMER: Information contained in this video is for educational purposes only. It should not be perceived as a substitution for professional medical or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment. It does not take the place of psychological or medical services. If you are experiencing any conditions or have specific symptoms and you might suspect that you are suffering from a mental or medical problem that would require mental health or medical services, please seek out the appropriate specialist for assistance. Changing Patterns Psychotherapy Services, LLC © 2024
When friends and family members don't understand the abuse we are enduring from covert narcissism, this adds to the pain and confusion we are already experiencing. Their dismissiveness of the abusive behavior only compounds our frustration. They often dismiss it, not to add to our pain, but in an attempt to keep the peace and move on. When our loved ones see the small glimpses of abusive behavior, they conclude that these are isolated events and suggest that we treat them as such. However, we know that these are a continuous pattern of toxic behaviors. These single events trigger an entire bucket of memories, as well as a flood of anticipated repeated behaviors. In this episode, Renee Swanson and Eleanor Marks discuss the effects of the dismissive attitudes of our loved ones. In this discussion, they explore the things we wish that our loved ones could understand about what we are experiencing. Grasping the whole picture is hard enough for the victim who is living with the covert narcissist. It is nearly impossible for those on the outside. Keep digging into the research and exploring the concepts of covert narcissism. #covertnarcissism #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #narcissist #podcast
I sure don't need a diagnosis to know what I've been through. When I first read the words about covert narcissism, I immediately knew that I had found an answer to what was going on. The words resonated SO deeply in my heart that it was both painful and freeing. When the words line up, you just know it. When you read or hear something that describes exactly what you have been living through, you recognize it for what it is. Instantly. The words simply connect with something deep inside you. In fact, when you read it or hear it, you feel as though this is something you have always known. Well, that's because you have. You just have not yet had the words to describe it and talk about it. I didn't need to ponder them. I already had been for years. I didn't need examples. I had already had plenty. But I did need the validation! I did need the language to describe what I already knew. For more on the topic of diagnosing a narcissist, don't miss Dr. Ramani's excellent video. I talk about it in my podcast, and here is the link to watch it. Say THIS to people who tell you not to "diagnose" narcissists
Listening to some music the other day, a song came on that really spoke to me. It was by Jelly Roll and titled “I Am Not Okay.” I can't speak for Jelly Roll, but as a victim of covert narcissism, these lyrics could not have been more fitting. I am not okay I'm barely getting by I'm losing track of days I'm losing sleep at night I am not okay I'm hanging on the rails So if I say I'm fine just know I learned to hide it well. I know I can't be the only one who's holding on for dear life But I know God knows when it's all said and done I'm not okay, but it's all gonna be alright It's not okay, but we're all gonna be alright. I woke up today I almost stayed in bed I had the devil on my back voices in my head Some days it all ain't bad Some days it all gets worse Some days I swear I'm better off laying in the dirt. ~ Song lyrics from "I Am Not Okay," by Jelly Roll In this episode of the Covert Narcissism Podcast, host Renee Swanson delivers a powerful message inspired by the song lyrics of Jelly Roll's new hit single "I Am Not Okay." Renee reflects on her past of being married to a covert narcissist while allowing the song lyrics to help her explain and reflect on her past.
This episode has been published and can be heard everywhere your podcast is available. Book a One on One coaching session HERE Join FREE Masterclass to learn the methods to break free from Toxic Relationship HERE 7 Day Challenge -https://www.rawmotivations.com/escape-toxicity 45 Day Clarity Challenge - https://www.rawmotivations.com/clarity-challenge Want to help support this podcast? https://anchor.fm/rawmotivations/support Listen to the wife's perspective on our new podcast Trauma, Drama & Life: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-drama-life/id1639753152 https://www.rawmotivations.com/ Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That's me - Ben Taylor a a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook. Please reach out to me if you are a: Victim of Narcissistic Abuse -Helping provide closure, reduce guilt and break free from the trauma bond that toxic people imprison you in. Narcissist -I understand you better than you probably understand yourself because I have been there, I am there and I am fighting daily for a better life. You can do that too. From Fantasy to Reality: A Journal for after the Toxic Relationship Grab yours HERE. Platforms I am on: TikTok (71k followers) - https://www.tiktok.com/@raw_motivations Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivations Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Raw-Motivations-105074738842639/ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/rawmotivations/ Rumble - https://rumble.com/c/c-2492510 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/rawmotivations?sub_confirmation=1 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rawmotivations/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rawmotivations/support
When you've been living with a covert narcissist for many years, your self-care is almost non-existent. You don't have the time, energy, mental capacity, or freedom to take care of yourself. Any efforts at self-care may have been labeled as selfish. Over the years, you've paid a high price for trying to even do the bare minimum of caring for yourself. It just isn't worth the price. Robbing you of the right to care for yourself is abuse! No one should ever have the right to take that away from you. Self-care is a beautiful part of life. In this episode, Eleanor Marks and Renee Swanson explore ways to reclaim that self-care. Tiny steps forward are momentous. Celebrate these. #covertnarcissism #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #podcast
Covert Narcissists are the ones you do not see right away. It usually takes going deeper into a relationship with one to become aware of the narcissism. It sneaks up on you. This is different from Overt narcissism, which is much easier to see. In this episode of Pandoras Box, Kaleah does a deep dive into Covert Narcissism and talks about the differences between overt and covert narcissism and how to know you are dealing with a covert narcissist. She also gives ten signs on how to spot a covert narcissist and how to avoid getting too deeply involved, before it is too late. Please support Pandoras Box by becoming a Patreon Member For more information about Kaleah's work please visit: www.narcissismfree.com #covertnarcissism
Trauma causes people to make changes in the way they interact with their world. Emotional abuse is traumatic. It takes away one's perception of safety. When we experience trauma, our system will work hard to re-establish a perceived sense of safety. Thus we pick up survival skills that can become walls between us and others. What behaviors do we pick up in response to covert narcissistic abuse? What about our kids? What traits are they picking up? It is so crucial to do some trauma healing, for yourself and then learn to help your children. I have recently become certified in trauma coaching. I do offer individual trauma-informed coaching. It's time to help our kids while they are still young. I will be focusing more on this in my podcast. Visit my website at http://www.covertnarcissism.com It's time to break these cycles. I wish you so much peace on your journey of healing. #Parenting #covertnarcissism #abuse #gaslighting #narcissism #podcast
Covert narcissism is messed up! It is so twisted you feel like you are going insane just trying to get a grasp on what's going on. It is so hard to pinpoint and impossible to describe. You can't possibly explain it to someone who hasn't experienced it themselves. Trying to makes you sound crazy, even to yourself. So now you question your own sanity. It is mind-boggling and exhausting. Many victims collapse into a pile of nothing and give up. I don't blame them. I have been there many times. I know that pain firsthand. The covert narcissist is a master at appearing innocent, kind, compassionate, generous, sincere, benevolent, and much more. To the world, they look not only normal, but even better. They could convince Mother Teresa that they are the perfect spouse. Yet underneath that, in the most subtle ways, they treat people with contempt, disregard, hatred, condescension, disdain, antipathy, and much more. I felt like one minute I understood and the very next it was gone. It was like I was trying to grasp the wind. One minute it made sense, and the next minute I had no idea. If I was struggling this much to understand it, how in the world could I expect my friends to understand it. So why do we try SO hard to understand? Why do we research like crazy? Googling, reading, listening, watching. I didn't work this hard when I was in school, and I was a dedicated student. But this? This I was absorbing 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, trying so hard to figure out what was going on and why.
This episode has been published and can be heard everywhere your podcast is available. Book a One on One coaching session HERE 7 Day Challenge -https://www.rawmotivations.com/escape-toxicity 45 Day Clarity Challenge - https://www.rawmotivations.com/clarity-challenge Want to help support this podcast? https://anchor.fm/rawmotivations/support Listen to the wife's perspective on our new podcast Trauma, Drama & Life: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-drama-life/id1639753152 https://www.rawmotivations.com/ Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That's me - Ben Taylor a a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook. Also I try to help people with or abused by narcissism. Please reach out to me if you are a: Victim of Narcissistic Abuse -Helping provide closure, reduce guilt and break free from the trauma bond that toxic people imprison you in. Narcissist -I understand you better than you probably understand yourself because I have been there, I am there and I am fighting daily for a better life. You can do that too. If you are interested in talking with me one on one grab a time with the link below. Schedule a Call From Fantasy to Reality: A Journal for after the Toxic Relationship Grab yours HERE. Platforms I am on: TikTok (71k followers) - https://www.tiktok.com/@raw_motivations Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivations Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Raw-Motivations-105074738842639/ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/rawmotivations/ Rumble - https://rumble.com/c/c-2492510 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/rawmotivations?sub_confirmation=1 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rawmotivations/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rawmotivations/support
Overcoming Covert Narcissism: A Journey to Reclaiming Self Join Savannah Renee on her podcast, "Let's Talk About It," where she delves deep into the intricacies of overcoming narcissistic abuse and reclaiming one's identity. In this empowering episode, Savannah is joined by Stephanie, a close ally in her journey, who helps articulate the subtle yet profound aspects of Savannah's experiences. They tackle hard-hitting listener questions that explore the challenges of articulating complex emotions, the courage needed to share personal stories amidst fear, and the initial steps towards recovery from covert narcissistic abuse. Listeners share their emotional responses, highlighting how Savannah's raw and honest discussion inspires and supports others facing similar battles. Whether you're seeking to understand the signs of emotional manipulation or need encouragement to break free and heal, this episode offers a wealth of insight, support, and solidarity. Tune in to hear Savannah's heartfelt answers and discover strategies for rebuilding self-esteem and navigating the path to recovery. It's more than a podcast; it's a lifeline for those silenced by their circumstances and a beacon of hope for anyone longing to reclaim their voice. 00:00 Welcome to the Show: Introducing Savannah and Stephanie 00:52 Diving Deep into Savannah's Story: Questions from Listeners 01:16 The Struggle of Articulating Trauma 07:49 The Journey of Healing and Sharing Your Story 14:09 Addressing Forgiveness in the Healing Process 14:53 Identifying Signs of Covert Narcissistic Abuse 15:59 Recognizing the Signs of a Toxic Relationship 17:49 The Harsh Reality: You Can't Win 18:37 Essential Steps for Recovery and Moving On 21:17 Personal Journey: Rebuilding Self-Esteem and Identity 25:41 Finding Your Voice and Courage to Speak Out 31:36 Listener Emails: Stories of Impact and Gratitude --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/borderlinechic0/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/borderlinechic0/support
In this brand new series, I am doing a Q&A session with Eleanor Marks. We are answering questions that come directly from my Facebook group, Covert Narcissism Group. Today we begin with two questions. John asks for tips and help on recovery in the early part of this journey, for help on how to heal. Self-care is crucial when it comes to healing. Doing things such as journaling, meditating, and educating yourself are all vital steps on this journey. Challenging our own imperative thinking, such as "I should this or that," "I must do this better," and so on, takes the pressure off our own shoulders and gives us the breathing space we need for healing. Maren asks I would like to know how best to handle a child who is so worried about hurting her father's feelings that she'll lie to not make him feel sad. He apparently feels sad quite frequently and she feels responsible. Our kids go through much of the same confusion that we do. They work extra hard to keep the peace with the narcissistic parent too. Unlike adults, they do not have the life experience to figure out what is going on. Their cognitive dissonance lasts much longer. Finding ways to validate the compassion inside of them while also helping them to not taking responsibility for the manipulative parent is a tricky balance. One that will ebb and flow throughout the developing years of a child. These are great questions. I hope you benefit from the episode. We will be doing more of these joint sessions. Join the Facebook group to follow the conversations there. https://www.facebook.com/groups/covertnarcissism
"I am the mom! I know everything and am right about everything." "I am the dad! I know how to handle life. Don't tell me what to do." It is true that parents know more than kids, yes. It is also true that parents have more life experience and thus can reason through things more than kids can. Sure. However, parents don't know everything. They are not always right. Unless of course, you are a covert narcissist. Covert narcissists hide behind images that they believe give them superiority and status. Becoming a parent simply adds to their label repertoire. They wear that parent label as though it now means they are the dominant ruler of their kingdom, and the kids pay a price for this.
“I divorced a narcissist 10 years ago and now I am married to another one! How in the world did that happen??” I have talked to so many people who have gone from one narcissistic relationship to another. Finally divorced one narcissist only to find themselves in a relationship with yet another one. For some this may even be a lifetime of many narcissistic relationships. The thought of being trapped in another relationship with a narcissist is terrifying! How do I keep this from happening? Do I just need to stay single for the rest of my life? How will I ever know that they are not a narcissist, especially when I never saw the covert narcissist that was right in front of me?
An overt narcissist uses couples therapy to improve on the outside. However, the inner traits of narcissism remain and in fact become more refined. Putting on the mask to hide the narcissism simply shows up now as passive aggressiveness and covert narcissism. Narcissists can appear to be doing the work and getting better. Sometimes this just means they are hiding the entitlement, arrogance, superiority and contempt more effectively. The underlying issues still exist. Therapy often helps them to become more covert, keeping us trapped in the belief that they are getting better for years to come.
Initially when you encounter a covert narcissist, you can be impressed by their seeming normalcy or charm. Living behind the veneer of the False Self, they have learned how to play the game of looking nice. But over time, one trait keeps showing up that alerts you to something more sinister. Being defined by selfishness and control, this pattern will let you know that you are in the presence of an unhealthy person. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter's NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website: https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter: @SNarcissism101 Instagram: @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
With story after story begin full of pain, confusion, anger and depression, it is time to hear some stories of hope. There is life after narcissism! Peace can be found, not from others, but from within yourself. I am doing a mini series of guest episodes with Stories of Hope. I start by sharing my own story of hope. After being in the darkest place in my life, I am now living a life full of happiness and peace. I have rich relationships with my family and friends. It isn't perfect, but perfect isn't the goal. I don't want perfect. I want normal!
Meredith talks at length about her own dealings with covert narcissism in her life and family. Please read VeryWellMind.com article about Understanding The Covert Narcissist. Follow @terricole and YouTube psychologist Barbara Heffernan for more information on signs and recovery tips for Narcissism. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/confessionsofanactress/message
There are some things that people should just never say to a victim of narcissistic abuse, and specifically covert narcissistic abuse. As a victim myself, I know that It is so hard sometimes to find people who understand and actually know how to provide the unique support that this victim needs. They need to feel heard and validated in a way that most people don't seem to understand. In this episode, I discuss two things that people should never say to these victims, two things that you don't want to hear in your world right now, and why they are so problematic. 1 - "Well, marriage does take effort." 2 - "You know, It does take two." Yes, marriage does take work. There are conversations that are hard, but there is a huge difference between conversations that should be hard and those that simply should not. Whether to move or not is a tough decision and should be hard. What do you want for dinner should not be a difficult conversation. Some conversations should be hard, but they should not ALL be hard! Yes, it does take two to make a strong marriage, but it only takes one to destroy it! If you are in the position of offering support to someone who is struggling in a narcissistic relationship, please know that this person feels utterly exhausted and completely overwhelmed. They have been working in overdrive and making absolutely no progress. Please do not add to their feeling of hopelessness by telling this these two things. Instead, help them to see that they are not solely responsible for fixing their marriage. It does take two, and they cannot fix this without some give from their partner too. DISCLAIMER: THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY RENEE SWANSON, COVERT NARCISSISM PODCAST, AND CNG LIFE COACHING IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT TO BE USED FOR DIAGNOSIS PURPOSES AND NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS MATERIAL DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL. IT DOES NOT CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON HAS NARCISSISM AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS MATERIAL TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION OR SUPPORT A CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE MATERIAL AND INFORMATION PROVIDED.
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