The High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast

In this episode, Brook sits down with family law attorney Kelli Avallone to unpack the tricky dynamics of covert narcissism in custody battles and high-conflict divorces. They explore why labeling a co-parent as a narcissist can backfire, how courts really view psychological evaluations, and why focusing on evidence-based behavior is more effective than diagnosis. Kelli shares what covert narcissistic traits can look like in family court and how parents can respond strategically while keeping children out of the conflict. Learn more about Kelli Avallone at her website: https://atty-avallone.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook sits down with divorce coach Kate Anthony to unpack the mindsets that truly help during divorce, especially in high-conflict co-parenting situations. They discuss why emotional reactions can backfire, how to shift from wanting “fairness” to focusing on what's legal and strategic, and the importance of boundaries and radical acceptance. With practical tips and compassionate advice, this episode is a valuable guide for anyone facing the challenges of separation. Learn more about Kate Anthony at her website: https://www.selfloverecovery.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook welcomes back Ross Rosenberg, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome and The Codependency Revolution, to dive deeper into the concept of Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD)—a groundbreaking reframing of codependency. Together, they unpack how early attachment trauma shapes relationship dynamics, leading many into repeated cycles of caretaking, emotional depletion, and entanglement with narcissistic partners. Brook and Ross explore the toxic push-pull that arises in high-conflict co-parenting and divorce, where unresolved SLDD patterns often collide with personality disorders. Through the lens of disengagement and strategic self-awareness, they offer insight on how to stop "wrestling with pigs" and begin creating clarity, calm, and lasting change. Learn more about Ross Rosenberg at his website: https://www.selfloverecovery.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook speaks with John Riley from Gentle Response about the impact of body language in high-conflict co-parenting. They explore the ACE method—Appearance, Communication, and Engagement—and how small adjustments in posture, tone, and presence can de-escalate tense situations, whether in court, mediation, or daily interactions. Brook and John also discuss the power of self-awareness and emotional regulation in reducing conflict. By staying composed and intentional, parents can shift dynamics, model healthy behavior for their children, and create a more stable environment. Tune in for practical strategies to navigate conflict with confidence. Learn more about John Riley at his website: https://gentle-response.com/   For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook Olsen welcomes conflict engagement specialist and bestselling author Dana Caspersen to discuss how conflict can be an opportunity for growth rather than a problem to avoid. Dana shares insights from her book Conflict Is an Opportunity and explores how our mindset and belief systems shape the way we handle difficult situations. They dive into the power of shifting attention, practical tools for breaking old conflict habits, and an exercise designed to help reframe conflict dynamics. Whether you're navigating co-parenting challenges or everyday disagreements, this episode offers valuable strategies to engage with curiosity and create positive change. Learn more about Dana Caspersen at his website: https://www.danacaspersen.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook welcomes Karen McEnany, The Good Divorce Coach, to discuss how setting the right foundation in divorce can significantly impact long-term outcomes. Divorce inherently carries conflict, but the way we navigate the early stages—our initial conditions—can determine whether the process will be calm, moderately contentious, or high-conflict. Brook and Karen explore how parents can approach divorce not as a battle, but as a transformation—one that prioritizes family over finances, mitigates unnecessary pain, and fosters healthier co-parenting relationships. They discuss the importance of intention, emotional regulation, and recognizing the difference between what truly matters and what is simply ego or control. If you're looking for a new framework to approach divorce—one that fosters cooperation, minimizes conflict, and protects your children's well-being—this episode is for you. Enjoy! Learn more about Karen McNenny at his  website http://www.karenmcnenny.com/   For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode Brook and his guests Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry from the podcast Been There Got Out discuss the notion of High Conflict Detox. This is where a person/parent is stuck deeply in the habitual cycle of conflict and the nervous system maintains a high level of chronic activation. In order to break the cycle one must endure the discomfort of disengagement, develop a self awareness of the cycle in order to break free of the strong impulse to engage in and continue the conflict. This conflict pattern is very much physiological and can be mastered. Enjoy!!! Want to hear the full episode? Join our membership today and take advantage of our exclusive offer: your first month is completely free!  Coupon code: 30DAYSFREEACCESS You can contact Lisa through their website beentheregotout.com or follow them on instagram, Youtube and Facebook. Download our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails 

In this episode Brook has guest Rich Carr author of Surprised: The Science and Art of Engagement. Rich brings a bright and engaging look at how we as humans respond or react to an outside stimulus and in understanding the workings of the various part of the brain dictate how you will engage in or disengage with that stimulus. In high conflict or for that matter any relational interaction, getting to the solution with the least amount of conflict and the optimal exploration is the goal. Rich goes into how you can install intention and preprogram action to reduce the reactivity in your system and access the parts of the brain that problem solve. Enjoy!!! Rich Carr can be reached at through his website. https://braincentricdesign.com/ Want to hear the full episode? Join our membership today and take advantage of our exclusive offer: your first month is completely free!  Coupon code: 30DAYSFREEACCESS For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails 

In this episode Brook has esteemed guest, researcher, professor and author of the Polyvagal Theory, Dr. Steven Porges. Brook and Dr. Porges have a robust and educational conversation about how the vagus nerve influences the fear response, social connections and emotional regulations. It is important to understand the functional brain response in order to cognitively intervene for self regulation. This is an amazing conversation for anyone caught in high conflict or navigating life in general. Listen, Learn and Enjoy!!! Learn more about Dr. Porges at his  website https://www.polyvagalinstitute.org/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode Brook has guest Elaine Taylor-Klaus, Author and Co-Founder of Impact Parents. Brook and Elaine have a robust conversation about parenting a child that is  neurodivergent and the challenges that go with the behaviors with being ADHD or on the spectrum of Autism. Deep in the discussion the conversation move in the direction of generational repetition and as adults having similar diagnoses as a window into the stigma and judgment of the labels. This is a great conversation regardless of whether or not you are dealing with this issue. You may truly be surprised. Enjoy !!! Elaine can be contacted through her website at https://impactparents.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode Brook and his guests Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry from the podcast Been There Got Out discuss the notion of High Conflict Detox. This is where a person/parent is stuck deeply in the habitual cycle of conflict and the nervous system maintains a high level of chronic activation. In order to break the cycle one must endure the discomfort of disengagement, develop a self awareness of the cycle in order to break free of the strong impulse to engage in and continue the conflict. This conflict pattern is very much physiological and can be mastered. Enjoy!!! You can contact Lisa through their website beentheregotout.com or follow them on instagram, Youtube and Facebook. Download our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails And join our membership site at Disengage.highconflict.net   

In this episode Brook and his guest  Derrick Chevalier discuss in depth the interconnection between negotiation in divorce and custody and first understanding what is on the playing field and who the players are first, before setting sail in the process. Getting yourself settled and using your unique knowledge of the situation in order to knit together the solution and the proper delivery system ie: Attorney, Mediator and such. By doing so getting to the center of the issues, such as finances and custody can be a much easier path and resulting in better outcomes become more available and ultimately less costly both emotionally and financially. This is a great conversation. Enjoy!! Derrick can be contacted though his website at https://ddtpr.com/ Want to hear the full episode? Join our membership today and take advantage of our exclusive offer: your first month is completely free!  Coupon code: 30DAYSFREEACCESS For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails 

In this episode Brook and Michelle  take another deeper dive into the subject of preparing for and dealing with the stresses of the holidays. When dealing with high conflict co-parentis it is important to have an open mindset of solving the problems out front and deep understanding of how you are stuck trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Challenging your beliefs about what is important vs what solves the problem and takes the children out of the chaos isn't easy. Listen to Brook and Michelle in this episode in order to get some fresh and deeper perspective. Enjoy!!! For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails  

In this episode Brook has special guest Nicola Ranson L.C.S.W. Brook and Nicola discuss the concepts of Transference and Projection as pertain to working with a coach or therapist. These are always taking place in all relationships and unconsciously affect the interaction. When working with a coach or therapist it is important the coach or therapist is trained to consciously identify it and not get entangled with but use it as an informative process to uncover deeper solutions and processes.  As a client it is important to find a coach that is seasoned and proficient so as not to collude or inappropriately direct.  Enjoy!!  You can find more on Nicola and her writing at www.nicolaranson.org Join our membership site at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ Download our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this Episode Brook has as his special guest Attorney Kelli Avallone in to discuss the frustrations that clients have when dealing with their attorneys as well as those frustrations of the attorney with their clients, in high conflict custody cases. The discussion explores the topics that can cause the frustration and how using a qualified coach can go a long way in keeping both the client and the attorney on a productive path that is efficient both financially and emotionally. Enjoy!!!  You can contact Kelli at  kelli@atty-avallone.com Join our membership site at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ Download our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook and Tony delve into the notion of how anxiety  is one of if not the main driver of conflict and at the base understanding this and learning how to navigate the terrain of ones own anxiety is the avenue toward a  high threshold of tolerance can make the difference in disengaging. The basis in the defensive response even in those with narcissism and other personality disorders can be found in navigating the internal sensation that comes with the anxiousness. Enjoy!!! Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the narcissistic practice of email Carpet Bombing. This is the practice of incessantly sending repeated emails in order to hook you into an argument, to tell you are doing it wrong, to harass and demean you and to cause as much chaos as possible to get you to engage. This is an important concept to understand and to get the tools needed to navigate the barrage. Enjoy!!! You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook has special guest Lisa Johnson from  Been There Got Out to discuss how High Conflict Personalities can drive legal abuse in the family court system and how to organize yourself to be able to go it with out an attorney. Lisa brings some good information to a scary subject.  You can contact Lisa through their website beentheregotout.com or follow them on instagram, Youtube and Facebook. Please download or free booklet "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work" @ https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  and join our mailing list  @ https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net to register

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the struggles that come with dealing with a ex that isn't on the same page and exhibits narcissist like behaviors and how to navigate keeping the kids out of the middle of ongoing conflict. You Can contact and follow Michelle at these links :http://www.coachmichelle.club/ instagram is CoachMichelleSD  https://www.coachmichelle.club/ join-our-newsletter Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.  

In this episode Brook Olsen and Kelli Avallone Join the Talking Parents team on their Co-Parenting and Coffee webinar to discuss Parallel Parenting and the use of Co-Parenting Apps. During High Conflict Co-Parenting and dealing with Narcissism and other personality disorders the use of Co-Parenting Apps like Talking Parents can be a useful tool in getting the conflict under control and tracking the conversation between parents. The use of such apps can all so help when going to court to show the level of conflict and who is in may ways causing the conflict to continue. This is a rich conversation that I think will help listeners understand the value in using these tools. Enjoy!!! You can find Talking Parents at  https://talkingparents.com › Please download or free booklet "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work" @ https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  and join our mailing list  @ https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net to register

In this episode Brook, Jussi and Bryson have a complicated discussion around the reasons and solutions for not only solving the difficulties of children resisting conjoint therapy but the reasons for the resistance. The discussions explore some very uncomfortable topics for parents to explore and own and how the court, attorneys and therapists can be more informed and better help these families. Enjoy!!! Jussi and Bryson can be contacted through their website at https://www.newgrowthcounseling.com Please download or free booklet "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work" @ https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  and join our mailing list  @ https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net to register

In this episode Jussi Light LMFT and Bryson Greaves Ph.d return to discuss How Family of Origin Dynamics can Translate into High Conflict Relationship Later in Life. This episode is a in-depth discussion the talks about how early beliefs can distort present time experiences that can lead to being reactive and taking things personally as well as creating the transference or projection of those early experiences on to the other co-parent. Often these behaviors are talked about in the context of Personality Disorders like Narcissism or Borderline and in less intrusive labels like Attachment Styles, but in this episode Jussi and Bryson lean away from those tables to speak more directly to some of the behaviors that can lead to high conflict. Enjoy !!! Jussi and Bryson can be contacted through their website at https://www.newgrowthcounseling.com Please download or free booklet "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work" @ https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  and join our mailing list  @ https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net to register

In this episode Jussi Light LMFT and Bryson Greaves Ph.d return to discuss How Family of Origin Dynamics can Translate into High Conflict Relationship Later in Life. This episode is a in-depth discussion the talks about how early beliefs can distort present time experiences that can lead to being reactive and taking things personally as well as creating the transference or projection of those early experiences on to the other co-parent. Often these behaviors are talked about in the context of Personality Disorders like Narcissism or Borderline and in less intrusive labels like Attachment Styles, but in this episode Jussi and Bryson lean away from those tables to speak more directly to some of the behaviors that can lead to high conflict. Enjoy !!! Jussi and Bryson can be contacted through their website at https://www.newgrowthcounseling.com Please download or free booklet "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work" @ https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  and join our mailing list  @ https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net to register

In this episode Brook and his co-host for this week Michelle Mitchell discuss the common state that happens when people enter into and realize the complexity of a High Conflict Divorce or Custody Case with someone with a personality disorder such as Narcissism or Borderline personality disorder. This is not unusual and working one's way through the confusion and darkness does in fact have a way out. Enjoy this episode and contemplate where you are and how you relate to this discussion. You Can contact and follow Michelle at these links :http://www.coachmichelle.club/ instagram is CoachMichelleSD  https://www.coachmichelle.club/ join-our-newsletter Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode of the High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast Brook and Tony discuss the difference between Capacity and Competency and that building of the container ( Capacity) has to happen first and then from there Competency can build.  Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook speaks with Attorney Kelli Avallone about the in's and out's, Features and Down sides of teaching for "Hidden Assets". Finding Assets can be difficult and deciding to do so should be a "Return On Investment" inquiry. Enjoy!!!! You can reach Kelli at kelli@atty-avallone.com Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconfhttps://www.highconflict.net/lict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook speaks with guest Forest Bronzon from Digital Detox. Forest is the CEO of Digital Detox whose goal and purpose is to educate parents, schools and children in the differing ways to use the digital environment in a healthy and connected manner. During divorce and high conflict custody battles it is often hard to navigate boundaries regarding electronics  and rules are often different and opposite in each house. Forest discuss some of the ways to help children and parents navigate the ever evolving landscape of the digital world. Digital Detox offers many resources to help. Enjoy!!! https://www.digitaldetox.com/ Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In This Episode Brook and Tony discuss the unique stress that Tweens and Teen face in dealing with High Conflict Co-Parenting situations and how parenting styles can either mitigate the stress or exacerbate it. Giving the children room for expression and choice in direction for their lives and holding space and patience for their process is essential. Enjoy!! Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.  

In this Podcast Brook interviews Dr. David Marcus. Dr. Marcus discuss how to develop common emotional languages with children of varying developmental stages in order to connect and create a safe environment for the child to express.  Dr. Marcus is in private practice and is in the process of publishing a book on the subject. Dr. Marcus can be contacted via email at, dsmarcusphd@gmail.com Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook has special guest David Forrestall CEO of SecurIT360 to talk about how to best secure you and you children from the ability of your Ex or for that matter anyone else from being able to track/cyberstalk. Mr. Forrestall give practical and useable information on securing you devices, social media, cloud based storage and applications. Also in the notes below he has provided links to a video he produced with the Cyber help line that will help guide you through many of the processes. Thanks for your continued listenership. You are the reason we continue to provide you with these podcasts.  https://www.thecyberhelpline.com/ Their Guides for help - https://www.thecyberhelpline.com/guides-2 https://www.securit360.com/the-cyber-helpline/ Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.  

 In this Episode Brook interviews Dr. Craig Malkin, author of the internationally acclaimed, Rethinking Narcissism is a clinical psychologist and Lecturer for Harvard Medical School with over 30 years of experience helping individuals, couples, and families.  This interview goes into the creation of the Narcissistic personality and separates out the healthy and unhealthy parts of narcissism. Another must listen to multiple times. You can access Dr. Malkin's website: http://www.drcraigmalkin.com/ Youtube channel: http://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9X9sdn_4JtZxqIoGA9Xnkg Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.    

In this episodeDive into the captivating world of human interaction with Dr. Deb Dupree on her guest appearance on “The High Conflict Co-Parenting” Podcast.  Join Dr. Deb and Brook Olsen as they explore the intricate workings of our brains in conflict situations, unraveling the neuroscience of conflict to shed light on 10 common triggers for fear-based, emotional reactions and the barriers that hinder effective communication. Through expert analysis and engaging storytelling, listeners gain a deeper understanding of why and how conflicts arise and why it can feel like others aren't truly listening. Dr. Deb reveals the neuroscience behind people in conflict, offering practical strategies for overcoming communication obstacles and fostering genuine connection. For more information and to book Dr. Deb Dupree for your podcast or speaking event, visit relationships-at-work.com  or connect on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/debradupree Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.    

In this episode Brook has guest Shelly Boismenu MFT as his guest. Brook and Shelly discuss how the period of time during high conflict divorce and custody struggles, is one of the most fertile times for transformation and new ways of thinking. Looking toward what you want to create rather than the pain of the past and what has you stuck. By working with someone that understands both the phycology and court system it becomes easier to navigate the road blocks one sets for themselves and chart a course to a more stable future.  Shelly Boismenu has been a private practice mental health therapist for the past twenty years. A decade ago, she encountered, and successfully applied a set of profound teachings in her own intense custody and co-parenting experience. Since then, she has been teaching these principles to women in similar unwanted circumstances with great success. Shelly joins Brook this month to teach the connection between your thoughts and your reality, the most important thing to do when you are in the midst of an unwanted custody experience and how to maintain a steady practice to shift your inner landscape and watch the outer landscape transform.  Shelly can be contacted via her website: http://www.shellyboismenumft.com/ Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.    

In this episode Brook brings in guest Tamara Fyke, Tamara Fyke is a creative entrepreneur with a passion for kids, families, and urban communities. She is the creator and founder of BlueWonder Creative which focuses on children's mental health and wellness in education through Love In A Big World. Finding yes and navigating power struggles with children at all levels. Love in a Big World has created resources for both parents and educators to help children thrive and succeed. Enjoy this podcast!!! You can find Love in a big world at  https://loveinabigworld.com/programs You can follow Brook on Instagram @ highconflictdiversionprogram Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet @ https:/disengage.highconflict.net/free-booklet Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook has special guest Attorney and Mediator Scott Levin in to discuss some of the  Principles and Strategies for mediation in high conflict divorces. Scott, after many years of successful litigation practices decided to move into servicing his clients through mediation rather than the often venomous and destructive path of litigation. In this interview Brook and Scott discuss some of the strategies he uses during mediation in high conflict cases and how, when done in a principled and strategic manner can result in successful mediation.  You can visit Scott's website for more information on his practice at    https://sandiegofamilylawyer.net/ Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.    

In this episode Brook has guest therapist Brian Burns of the Bad Weather podcast in to discuss Navigating High Conflict Divorce and Custody. Brook and Brian take a dive into the Karpman Drama Triangle and pull it apart in a deeper discussion of the role   parents play in it, and how it sets the energetic template for how children experience being caught in the middle of the conflict. Brook and Brian discuss how a parent can disengage from the triangle and take self responsibility to navigate the long game. Enjoy!!! You can follow the Bad Weather Podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bad-weather-podcast/id1667974583 Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https:/disengage.highconflict.net/free-booklet Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our http://www.highconflict.net website to register.  

In this Special Episode Brook has Special Guest Dr. Peter Lavine. Brook Studied under Dr. Lavine and assisted in 2 years of the Somatic Experiencing™ Trainings. Much of Brooks approach comes from studying Dr. Lavine's work. In this episode Brook discusses Dr. Lavine's new book "The Autobiography of Trauma and delves into how generational and cultural trauma affects imprints on people, a fascinating conversation that is touched on. As well as the perceptions vs realities that can come out of the experience of trauma. Brook and Dr. Lavine also delve into how co-regulation can have as positive effect on a child's development and the Huge need for parents to do their own personal work in order to establish a calm sense of self that they can transfer to their children.  Please go the somatic experiencing website https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/about-peter to find all of the upcoming workshops and offerings they have to offer. Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our  highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook is a guest on Ross Rosenberg's Podcast "The Self-Love Recovery Podcast" https://www.selfloverecovery.com/pages/podcast Much of this episode is a continuation of the discussion on Codependency and Parenting that Brook and Ross began on The High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast Episode 265 When Brook had Ross on as a guest. You can find more about Ross and his amazing work at https://www.selfloverecovery.com Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

You can follow Brook on Instagram @ highconflictdiversionprogram Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet @ https:/disengage.highconflict.net/free-booklet Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our www.highconflict.net website to register.

This episode is from an interview that Brook did on the Bad Weather Podcast. The Bad Weather Podcast is one that is focused on helping people navigating divorce and high conflict divorce. These gentlemen bring humor and intelligence to a difficult subject. Enjoy!!! You can follow the Bad Weather Podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bad-weather-podcast/id1667974583 Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https:/disengage.highconflict.net/free-booklet Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our http://www.highconflict.net website to register.  

In this Episode Brook interviews Joni and Lawrence Jones Co-Founders of Point C. Lawrence is a retired Superior Court trial judge in New Jersey and Joni is a mental health professional the served under two New Jersey governors. Point C is a non-profit who's mission is to empower parents and professional to put the well-being of the children as a priority and to illuminate the unintentional harms that parents can cause children during a hostile, high conflict separation or divorce and to advocate for a more respectful approach.  You can visit the Point C website to further understand the wonderful resources available there at www.pointcdivorce.com You can follow Brook on Instagram @ highconflictdiversionprogram Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet @ https:/disengage.highconflict.net/free-booklet Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our www.highconflict.net website to register.                            

Using the analogy of the choice of taking the red pill or the blue pill from the Matrix movie, Brook and Tony discuss the choices of waking up to different ways of processing situations and using critical thought and sense making to explore different ways of being and ways of thinking a seeing the realities of where you are in your process. Not only learning for your self with the help of a High Conflict Coach the skill sets to move toward resolutions for your situations but also teaching your children those skillsets as they develop in order to enable them to navigate relationships and conflict in a more healthy manner. Enjoy¡¡¡ You can follow Brook on Instagram @ highconflictdiversionprogram Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet @ https:/disengage.highconflict.net/free-booklet Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this Episode Brook Talks about the seemingly unsurmountable course of balancing the task of being on the planet and parenting dealing with not only the stresses of life but the stresses of being in a high conflict co-parent situation. Seeing the goal of launching healthy children and finding joy in this life isn't an easy talk and requires focus and strong intention. This episode discusses and acknowledges that process. Enjoy!!!   Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https:/disengage.highconflict.net/free-booklet Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our http://www.highconflict.net website to register.  

This Episode is and interview that Brook did with Karen McMahon from Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast. It centers around High Conflict Parallel Parenting and is well worth the listen. Enjoy!! Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https:/disengage.highconflict.net/free-booklet Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our http://www.highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook and Tony discuss the difference between telling a story and creating a narrative. The story is something that you tell yourself and others that has your beliefs and perspectives and can often be self deceptive and not fact based. A narrative is fact based and is meant to lead the listener to a conclusion based on same. Listen to the differences that are explored in this podcast as there can be fine lines that need to be explored. Also we want to distant ourselves from our stories so we don't get stuck in the vortex of the vale that can come with our story. Enjoy!!!   Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://disengage.highconflict.net/free-booklet Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our www.highconflict.net website to register.  

In this episode Brook and Michell discuss some of the unconscious ways parents inject behaviors into their parenting and how it affects the children and the unintended consequences there of. Enjoy!!! You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.  Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https:/disengage.highconflict.net/free-booklet Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our http://www.highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook has special guest Ross Rosenberg. Ross is a master psychotherapist, author of the book "Human Magnet Syndrome", public speaker, expert witness, and educator. Ross has reconceptulized the notion of codependency in to what he calls Self Love Deficit Disorder. This is a fascinating interview that everyone needs to listen to multiple times.  You can find more about Ross and his amazing work at https://www.selfloverecovery.com Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.  

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the importance of having a coherent strategy that is well thought out and that can have a set of goals that can be worked toward. The notion here is to Mind Map out the strategies by setting the goals and the reverse engineering them. Seeing the completed picture and setting the pathway from there. Enjoy You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/free-booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook has special guest Divorce Financial Planner Justin Reckers to discuss the importance of understanding your financial future and having a professional helping you map it out. Enjoy!!! You can contact Justin Reckers at https://wellspringdivorce.com/san-diego/ Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/free-booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net website to register.    

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the importance of having deep thought as you make choices about how you approach the conflict with the other parent, thinking about long term outcomes and then taking responsibility for the unfolding. This is something that as parents it is important to model for the children but equally teaching them the skillset so as adults they are able to be more present for the choices that they make and see how their interactions create outcomes. This is a thought provoking episode. Enjoy!!! You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our http://www.highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook and Kelli continue the series on understanding the legal system. In this episode they discuss Restraining orders.  This is the second part regarding Restraining Orders and we look in this episode from the perspective of the Restrained Party and the things you need to know and how to proceed forward so you don't make critical mistakes that can potentially land  you in deeper troubles. Enjoy!!! Please download or free booklet "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work" @ https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  and join our mailing list  @ https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net website to register.