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Few books change how you see yourself.Even fewer change how you see every relationship in your life.In this conversation, psychologist, speaker, and bestselling author Dr. Kelly Flanagan returns to Fatherhood Field Notes to unpack the central ideas from his newest book, The Road Less Triggered—a practical roadmap for transforming the moments that usually create conflict into opportunities for deeper connection.Ned begins with an honest confession. Minutes before recording, Kelly was a few minutes late logging into the call. Almost instantly, Ned noticed an old story awaken inside him—the familiar fear that he wasn't important enough, that someone else mattered more. Instead of brushing it aside, they use that real-time moment to explore one of the biggest challenges every husband, father, and leader faces: being triggered.Together they explore why our nervous systems react before our minds do, why our hearts instinctively close to protect us, and why emotional triggers are not signs of weakness—but invitations for growth. Kelly explains that our past isn't behind us; it's carried within us, and understanding that reality changes the way we approach marriage, parenting, friendship, leadership, and even our relationship with God.The conversation moves into practical territory as they discuss the hidden ways men try to control relationships, why boundaries are often misunderstood, and how true strength isn't found in managing people but in cultivating an open heart that remains present even when life feels unsafe.For fathers, this episode becomes a masterclass in emotional leadership. Kelly explains why the best father to your twelve-year-old is the healed twelve-year-old within yourself, why children don't need perfect parents, and why a father's greatest influence isn't found in having the right answers but in the quality of his presence.This isn't simply a conversation about psychology.It's a conversation about discipleship.About marriage.About parenting.About becoming the kind of man whose calm presence creates safety for everyone around him.If you've ever wondered why you react the way you do—or how to stop repeating the same conflicts with your spouse, children, or coworkers—this may become one of the most transformative episodes you've ever heard.

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3032: Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores the exhausting burden of trying to keep everyone happy and the freedom that comes from embracing imperfection with honesty and compassion. His powerful “one sentence” offers a healthier way to navigate conflict, boundaries, accountability, and self-acceptance while creating deeper, more authentic relationships. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/one-sentence-that-will-change-your-life/ Quotes to ponder: “I'm not going to worry very much about offending people anymore, which means I need you to tell me when I do, so I can think about it and decide if I need to apologize.” “I'm sick of living in fear of what others will think of me, if I make a mistake, or say a wrong word, or accidentally make them feel uncomfortable, or don't respond to them in the way they wish.” “When our hearts are populated by this sentence, and when our lives become populated by people who are also living it, we will, finally, be living fully and freely.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Conflict Feels Unsafe: How to Stay Open-Hearted Without Abandoning Yourself Have you ever known the “right” way to communicate, but in the heat of conflict, those tools seem to disappear? In this episode of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered, Leslie sits down with psychologist, speaker, and author Dr. Kelly Flanagan to talk about what really happens inside of us when we get triggered—and how one small, sacred moment of choice can shift us from reactivity toward connection. Together, Leslie and Kelly explore why communication often breaks down within us before it breaks down between us, how to recognize when our hearts are closing, and why open-heartedness never means becoming a doormat. This conversation is especially meaningful for women navigating destructive, painful, or confusing relationships who want to grow in wisdom, courage, and Christlike strength without abandoning themselves.   Key Takeaways Communication Breaks Down Inside Us First Dr. Flanagan explains that many people already have communication skills, but when they feel threatened, hurt, or misunderstood, they “close the toolbox” right when they need it most. The real work is not just learning better words—it is learning to notice what is happening inside our bodies, hearts, and nervous systems when we become triggered. That moment of awareness creates a pause. And in that pause, we begin to recover our God-given agency to choose a different response. You Can Notice When Your Heart Starts to Close Kelly describes a triggered moment as a process: the nervous system activates, the heart begins to shift into protection mode, and then we make a quick, often unconscious choice about whether to close down or stay open. Leslie connects this with the biblical wisdom of Proverbs: “Above all else, guard your heart.” Guarding your heart does not mean hardening it. It means learning when to pause, when to regulate, and when to make wise choices about what you allow in and what you release. Open-Heartedness Does Not Mean Weak Boundaries One of the most powerful parts of this conversation is the distinction between an open heart and a lack of boundaries. Dr. Flanagan reminds listeners that the condition of your heart is an inner posture, while boundaries are outer actions. An open heart does not make your boundaries weaker—it makes them wiser. For women in destructive or emotionally unsafe relationships, this is crucial. Christlike love does not require self-abandonment, enabling, or pretending harm is not happening. Calm Yourself Before You Try to Connect Conflict escalates when we try to calm ourselves by controlling someone else's behavior. Kelly uses the illustration of a furnace: when the “control board” inside us is malfunctioning, we often try to change the weather outside instead of tending to what is happening inside. Before we can connect well, we must first regulate. That may mean taking a break, breathing, praying, going to another room, or simply saying, “I'm triggered right now, and I need a little time before I can respond well.” Your Growth Is Never Wasted Leslie and Kelly offer hope for the woman who has tried everything to get her husband to communicate better, become safer, or look at himself honestly. While you cannot control another person's choices, you can still do your own work. Even if the relationship does not heal the way you hoped, God does not waste your growth. As you become more whole, wise, and grounded, you are better equipped to make faithful, courageous decisions about what comes next. Dr. Kelly Flanagan is offering listeners a free video tutorial that walks through the nine-step process from his book, The Road Less Triggered, helping you begin moving from reactivity toward connection. To receive the resource, email: drkellybonus@gmail.com You will also be temporarily subscribed to his online community, The Less Triggered Tribe, with the option to unsubscribe at any time.   Friend, being triggered does not mean you are failing. It means something inside of you is asking for care, attention, and wisdom. You do not have to stay stuck in reactivity, fear, silence, or blame. With God's help, you can learn to pause, regulate, speak truth, set wise boundaries, and grow into a more whole version of yourself. You are not alone, and even in painful relationships, your healing and growth still matter.  

What if getting “triggered” isn't the problem… but a signal? We all have moments where our body reacts fast—your heart races, your defenses go up, and suddenly you're not responding from your wisest self. In this episode, Dr. Alison sits down with Dr. Kelly Flanagan to explore what's really happening in those moments—and how to respond with more clarity, connection, and intention. Together, they unpack what's happening behind reactivity and what it looks like to interrupt that cycle in real time. You'll learn: Why being triggered is a normal nervous system response How to notice your reactions before they take over The difference between protection mode and connection mode How to set boundaries without escalating conflict Why an open heart leads to wiser—not weaker—boundaries If you've ever felt stuck in reactive patterns in your relationships, this conversation offers a grounded, compassionate way forward. More Resources: Order Dr. Kelly Flanagan's new book, The Road Less Triggered. You can preorder Dr. Alison's newest book, The Secure Soul, and immediately receive the first 3 chapters as well as early access to the companion guide! Connect further with @dralisoncook on Instagram Curious what Family Role may have shaped you? Take the Family Role Quiz to learn how you may be showing up in your relationships with others. Want to hear more like this? Start here: Episode 203: Staying Close When Connection Feels Hard: The Relationship Skills No One Has Taught You Episode 180: When People Push Your Buttons — The Power of Curiosity Over Control

On the episode this week: Nate and Aaron talk about post Mother's day and grandmas as moms too.   Nate and Aaron talk with guest Dr. Kelly Flanagan. Kelly is a husband, father, speaker, coach, clinical psychologist, and author. Kelly talks about nine ways your heart closes and how to reopen it, and what closing your heart means. What's the difference between yelling and passionate talking with an open and closed heart? Are you doing something to avoid feeling something? Other topics include: how to feel over sadness, co-feeling, awareness of our motives, and more.   Links: The Less Triggered Tribe   Books: The Road Less Triggered: Turning Conflict into Connection with a Single Choice Lovable: Embracing What is Truest About You, So You Can Truly Embrace Yourself     NEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) June 5-7, 2026 Italian/International Samson Retreat Samson England Walking Retreat June 26 - July 1, 2026 Samson Canoe Adventure July 19-22, 2026 Oct 23-25, 2026 U.S. Samson Summit   Send mail to: Pirate Monk Podcast/Samson House PO BOX 1656 Columbia, TN 38402   If you have thoughts or questions and you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.     Opening and closing music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. Transitional music from Feslyian Studios and Tune Tank.     For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.   The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

This conversation will change how you see almost every frustrating moment in your day because it shows you what's actually happening underneath it. Dr. Kelly Flanagan explains the exact moment your heart closes, why small things feel so big, and how quickly disconnection takes over in marriage, parenting, and everyday life. Once you see it, you can't unsee it and you don't need anyone else to change for it to start working. This gives you a clear, practical way to shift from reacting to connecting, right in the middle of real life. Ginny calls Kelly's book the most life-changing book she's read! Get your copy of The Road Less Triggered here ** A huge thank you to our sponsors! Check them ALL out below:  BetterHelp: Visit  www.BetterHelp.com/1000HOURS  today to get 10% off your first month. Quince - Visit www.quince.com/outside and get free shipping and 365 day returns IXL Learning - Head to www.ixl.com/1000hours to get an exclusive 20% savings on your membership Whisker - Take care of your cats while taking an additional $50 off bundles with code 1000HOURS when you shop www.whisker.com/1000HOURS  Skylight - Right now, Skylight calendar is offering our listeners $30 off their 15-inch calendar when you go to wwwlMySkylight.com/1000Hours  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3004: Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores how marriages often drift not from a lack of love, but from small daily disconnections fueled by ego and resentment. By returning to simple, intentional acts of care and listening to the quiet wisdom already within us, he reveals how ordinary habits can restore intimacy and strengthen a relationship over time. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/the-last-marriage-post-youll-ever-need-to-read/ Quotes to ponder: "Marriages aren't healed with big things; they're healed with small things done every day." "Marriage can change on a dime, and that dime is the moment we look past our ego and listen to the voice of grace within us." "Marriages are destroyed by ego." Episode references: Bourbon Street: https://www.neworleans.com/things-to-do/nightlife/bourbon-street/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Third time’s a charm with psychologist, Dr. Kelly Flanagan! (Though the first two recordings with Kelly were amazing as well!) His newest book, The Road Less Triggered, is phenomenal. We talked a lot about how to have the posture of an open heart, especially at moments when we’re so tempted to close it off. This … Continue reading Episode 349 – Kelly Flanagan

Don't miss this episode! Join me today as I chat with Dr. Kelly Flanagan who gives us a lifeline to THRIVING! His new book The Road Less Triggered is AMAZING! There is a moment that repeats itself over and over again in your relationships--it's the moment you're triggered to flip from connection mode into protection mode. This moment is the unseen source of all disconnection and conflict. However, it happens so quickly and unconsciously most of us feel powerless to choose connection. The Road Less Triggered will empower you to: quickly disrupt your defensiveness turn inner turmoil into inner peace connect with clarity, curiosity, and compassion Through a powerful blend of psychology, spirituality, real-world examples, and practical exercises, clinical psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan illustrates in actionable detail the process through which you can free your relationships from the patterns that imprison them. Can you imagine uninterrupted peace with your partner? Kids who leave home but also love to return? Friendships that deepen instead of dwindle? Ruptured relationships restored to their highest potential? A professional life freed from personal hang-ups? All those rewards and more lie just ahead of you, down the road less triggered. Husband to Dr. Kelly. That's right: Dr. Kelly and Dr. Kelly. Airport security loves us. Father of three: Aidan (21), Quinn (17), and Caitlin (15). Clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. from Penn State University. Best-selling and award-winning author of three non-fiction books and one novel. Personal coach to a handful of big-hearted high achievers Keynote speaker and closet stand-up comic

I sit down with Dr. Kelly to unpack what really happens when we get triggered and why it feels so hard to stay in control. We dive into how our nervous system hijacks us, how past experiences shape our reactions, and why awareness alone isn't enough to change behavior. I also explore what it actually means to “keep your heart open” in conflict and how to take ownership without taking blame. This conversation is a practical look at how to respond instead of react, especially in relationships that matter most.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 What Is A Trigger03:15 The Three Step Trigger Cycle06:20 Why You Get Hijacked11:50 Regulating The Nervous System18:15 Fight Flight And Control Modes27:30 Control And Letting Go36:20 What Keeping Your Heart Open Means43:30 Sensing Conflict Before It Happens54:20 Taking Ownership In Conflict01:04:00 What To Do During Conflict***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

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Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2960: Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores why personal growth depends on inviting trusted people to challenge and revise the stories we tell about ourselves. By embracing honest feedback instead of clinging to being “right,” we open the door to deeper connection, humility, and a more meaningful life narrative. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/whos-editing-your-life-story/ Quotes to ponder: "We walk through the world a bunch of rough drafts, making mistakes as we go, and we desperately need to surround ourselves with people who love us enough to live with our mistakes, who value us enough to tell us the truth, and who believe in us enough to know we have a “revision” living somewhere in our hearts." "Each of us needs an editor, someone we trust enough to tell us what needs to be revised about the story we are living…" "Whatever pedestals we sit on in the trophy-room-of-our-minds get kicked out from underneath us when we embrace our mistakes and start to make revisions." Episode references: On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft by Stephen King: https://www.amazon.com/Writing-Memoir-Craft-Stephen-King/dp/1439156816 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James Bryan Smith has a Things Above Conversation with author Dr. Kelly Flanagan. In this episode, James discusses Kelly’s book “The Road Less Triggered.” Learn more about Kelly’s book and order it here! Interested in donating to the Things Above Podcast? Donate here! Related Episodes: 1. The Gospel Is Bigger 2. God Is Joyous 3. God is Looking for You 4. Conversation with AJ Swoboda and Nijay Gupta 5. Love Has You The post Conversation with Dr. Kelly Flanagan appeared first on Apprentice Institute.

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Dr. Kelly Flanagan is a clinical psychologist with 20 years of experience, a Front Row Dad since 2020, and the author of several books including Lovable and True Companions. His newest book, The Road Less Triggered, is about the moment your heart closes — and what to do about it before you set your relationships back. In this conversation, Kelly and Jon get into why having the right communication tools doesn't matter if you shut down in the moments that matter most. They explore defensiveness, boundaries, the difference between reacting and responding, and what it actually looks like to keep your heart open when everything in your body is telling you to close it. If you've ever known better and still lost it with your wife or kids — this one's going to land.

Your spouse says something. Your son or daughter or a parent touches a nerve inside and you flip from connection to protection. You get angry. You get defensive. Dr. Kelly Flanagan says this can happen so quickly, it's hard to see. And you feel powerless to stay connected. If you've experienced that in your relationships, take the road less triggered. You'll hear about it on Chris Fabry Live. Featured resource:The Road Less Triggered by Dr. Kelly Flanagan March thank you gift:On Our Way Home: Reflections on Heaven in the Face of Death by Colleen Chao Chris Fabry Live is listener-supported. To support the program, click here.Become a Back Fence Partner: https://moodyradio.org/donateto/chrisfabrylive/partnersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Send a textPressure rises, words sharpen, and suddenly your chest tightens—you've left connection and slipped into protection. Dr. Kelly Flanagan joins us to unpack that exact moment and show how a single decision can change the outcome: notice your heart closing and choose to open it. We trace the real mechanics of being triggered—how the nervous system mistakes small threats for mortal danger, why our best communication tools vanish, and how both silence and aggression can be clever forms of control.Reclaiming the Wild is back — April 24–26 at Abundant Blessings Farm (Stem, NC). This isn't just a retreat… it's a reset: brotherhood, faith, outdoors, bonfires, and real conversations. Theme: we have been commanded to unite. Bring your son (or any male kid 5+) and make memories that last. Register now — let's reclaim the wild. It's time to stop sitting on the sidelines.Step into the fight and become the man God called you to be. Join a brotherhood built on truth, strength, and action. Visit thelionwithin.us right now and start leading with boldness and purpose. Iron sharpens iron — let's go.

Many parents interpret their teen's behavior as disrespect—but what if your child is actually trying to answer a deeper question: Do I belong here? When we get triggered, our brains can quickly jump to worst-case assumptions about our teenagers—their attitude, their silence, their choices. That's where the biggest disconnects happen, and it's often not about defiance at all. It's about misunderstanding what teens need as they navigate identity, independence, and connection. In this episode, Dr. Kelly and I unpack some of the most common parenting pitfalls that create tension at home—and how to avoid them. We talk about how to stay calm in the moments that matter most, what's really going on developmentally with teens, and practical strategies you can start using today to build more trust, communication, and emotional safety in your relationship. Want personalized insight into what's happening in your family? Schedule your Discover Your Pattern of Disconnection call with Heather. About my Guest: Dr. Kelly Flanagan is an award-winning author, international speaker, concierge coach, and licensed clinical psychologist with two decades of expertise in interpersonal relationships. His thought leadership has been featured in The 5 Love Languages, the TODAY Show, Reader's Digest, HuffPost, and Success Magazine. Kelly's two non-fiction books, Loveable and True Companions, debuted as #1 New Releases in Interpersonal Relations, and his national bestselling first novel, The Unhiding of Elijah Campbell, has earned multiple literary awards. Kelly is a sought-after international speaker who counts the Green Bay Packers amongst his audiences. The proprietary frameworks in his next book, The Road Less Triggered: Turning Conflict into Connection with a Single Choice, will take the connection in your relationships to levels that traditional communication strategies can't touch.  You cacn find Dr Kelly here: Book: https://roadlesstriggered.com Community: https://drkellyflanagan.substack.com Website: https://drkellyflanagan.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drkellyflanagan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drkellyflanagan/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/feed/

Dr. Kelly Flanagan is a clinical psychologist whose writing and speaking have resulted in an appearance on the TODAY Show, as well as features in publications including Reader's Digest  and Success Magazine. He's no stranger to Follow Your Curiosity, having been on the show twice before to discuss his first book, Loveable, and his first novel, The Unhiding of Elijah Campbell. He chose to write his forthcoming non-fiction book with input from his online community, and the result is The Road Less Triggered: Turning Conflict into Connection with a Single Choice, which will be released on March 3. Kelly talks with me about how he chose to include others in his process and how it influenced the book, why we keep hearing so much about regulating the nervous system, what it means to be open hearted (and how to tell if your heart is closing), and more.   Episode breakdown: 00:00 Introduction. 04:41 Community input shaped the book's content and direction. 09:35 Feedback engagement valued more than just positive or negative notes. 14:13 Embracing vulnerability and doubt as growth opportunities in writing. 19:22 Walking and voice recording spark creativity and problem-solving. 24:13 Conversation and real-life application deepened the book's insights. 29:19 Open-heartedness means accepting reality fully, not being a doormat. 34:46 Noticing and reopening a closed heart is a daily practice. 39:46 Nervous system dysregulation is widespread and fueled by social media. 44:30 Catching body's early warning signs helps stop defensive behavior. 49:59 We intuitively know open versus closed heart through bodily sensations. 54:38 Creativity requires reconnecting with body wisdom and staying open-hearted.   Want more? Here's a handy playlist with all my previous interviews with guests in writing. Check out the full show notes (now including transcripts!) at fycuriosity.com, and join us for the Follow Your Curiosity Creativity Circle. Please leave a review for this episode—it's really easy and will only take a minute, and it really helps me reach new listeners. Thanks! If you enjoyed our conversation, I hope you'll share it with a friend.

What if the key to deeper connection in your relationships isn't better communication—but a single choice that changes everything? In this transformative episode of The Self Esteem and Confidence Mindset, we sit down with Dr. Kelly Flanagan—award-winning author, licensed clinical psychologist, and international speaker with two decades of expertise in interpersonal relationships—to explore his revolutionary approach to turning conflict into connection.Dr. Flanagan's work has been featured on the TODAY Show, in The 5 Love Languages, Reader's Digest, HuffPost, and Success Magazine. He shares insights from his upcoming book "The Road Less Triggered" and reveals proprietary frameworks that take relationship connection to levels traditional communication strategies can't touch. If you're struggling with conflict, feeling triggered in relationships, or want to build deeper, more authentic connections, this conversation is game-changing.You can find more from Dr Kelly here:Book and free bonuses: https://roadlesstriggered.comWebsite: https://drkellyflanagan.comSubstack: https://drkellyflanagan.substack.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drkellyflanaganInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drkellyflanagan/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drkellyflanagan/

I'm so thrilled to have Dr. Kelly Flanagan back on the show. Today he is talking about his newest book The Road Less Triggered, focusing on the importance of recognizing and managing emotional triggers in relationships. The work of faith, self awareness, and compassion is vital in our relationships. Dr. Flanagan shares how to stay engaged, remain soft, and practically manage conflict in a way that brings connection to your marriage. Episode Highlights: Understanding Triggered Moments in Relationships Your body is an early warning system Living in the security of God's unconditional love provides a foundation of safety. The posture of your heart affects how you receive communication. Quotes from This Episode: Most relationship conflict isn't like D-Day—it's more like Groundhog Day. We keep repeating the same patterns until we decide to break the cycle. The heart of this work is restoring a sense of choice—the power to keep your heart open, even when you're triggered and it feels impossible. A response is the fruit of self-regulation. A reaction is a failure of self-regulation. You can't connect if you're protecting. Openness is required for real connection. Our culture pushes us to blame others, but real progress comes from taking personal responsibility for how we show up. Until we move out of being triggered and back into connection mode, we'll keep self-sabotaging every attempt to connect. Becoming a safe environment for the people you love inspires them to open their own hearts—and builds true connection. Seeing the ways we differ as sources of complementary wisdom, not flaws to be fixed, can revolutionize your relationship. Questions for Conversation: Think about a recent moment in your marriage where you felt triggered. What physical or emotional signals did your body give you, and how might noticing these earlier help you respond rather than react? Consider a way your spouse differs from you that has caused tension. How could reframing that difference as complementary wisdom rather than a flaw shift your approach and deepen your connection? TRIGGER CHALLENGE: Together, identify one habit or action that makes each of you feel safe and heard. Commit to practicing that habit in your interactions over the next week, then reflect on how it affected your connection.   Mentioned in this Episode:   Read The Road Less Triggered   Connect with Dr. Kelly Flanagan   Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Marriage need a reset so you can reconnect? This month's 4 Week Connection Challenge helps you and your spouse intentionally reconnect emotionally, physically, and spiritually—one simple, meaningful step at a time. Start closing the distance and rebuilding the intimacy you're longing for today. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. You and your spouse differ and that's a good thing. Find out how to Celebrate Differences in Marriage, rather than allow them to divide. If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our 4 Week Connection Challenge  

I'm so thrilled to have Dr. Kelly Flanagan back on the show. Today he is talking about his newest book The Road Less Triggered, focusing on the importance of recognizing and managing emotional triggers in relationships. The work of faith, self awareness, and compassion is vital in our relationships. Dr. Flanagan shares how to stay engaged, remain soft, and practically manage conflict in a way that brings connection to your marriage. Episode Highlights: Understanding Triggered Moments in Relationships Your body is an early warning system Living in the security of God's unconditional love provides a foundation of safety. The posture of your heart affects how you receive communication. Quotes from This Episode: Most relationship conflict isn't like D-Day—it's more like Groundhog Day. We keep repeating the same patterns until we decide to break the cycle. The heart of this work is restoring a sense of choice—the power to keep your heart open, even when you're triggered and it feels impossible. A response is the fruit of self-regulation. A reaction is a failure of self-regulation. You can't connect if you're protecting. Openness is required for real connection. Our culture pushes us to blame others, but real progress comes from taking personal responsibility for how we show up. Until we move out of being triggered and back into connection mode, we'll keep self-sabotaging every attempt to connect. Becoming a safe environment for the people you love inspires them to open their own hearts—and builds true connection. Seeing the ways we differ as sources of complementary wisdom, not flaws to be fixed, can revolutionize your relationship. Questions for Conversation: Think about a recent moment in your marriage where you felt triggered. What physical or emotional signals did your body give you, and how might noticing these earlier help you respond rather than react? Consider a way your spouse differs from you that has caused tension. How could reframing that difference as complementary wisdom rather than a flaw shift your approach and deepen your connection? TRIGGER CHALLENGE: Together, identify one habit or action that makes each of you feel safe and heard. Commit to practicing that habit in your interactions over the next week, then reflect on how it affected your connection.   Mentioned in this Episode:   Read The Road Less Triggered   Connect with Dr. Kelly Flanagan   Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Marriage need a reset so you can reconnect? This month's 4 Week Connection Challenge helps you and your spouse intentionally reconnect emotionally, physically, and spiritually—one simple, meaningful step at a time. Start closing the distance and rebuilding the intimacy you're longing for today. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. You and your spouse differ and that's a good thing. Find out how to Celebrate Differences in Marriage, rather than allow them to divide. If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our 4 Week Connection Challenge  

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2837: Dr. Kelly Flanagan shares a deeply personal reflection on letting go, fatherhood, and the mysterious ways life reminds us we're not alone. Through a profound moment of synchronicity, he uncovers how grace often arrives disguised as coincidence, urging us to be present reminders of love for those who may feel forgotten. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/dont-ever-think-that-youve-been-forgotten/ Quotes to ponder: “When Something bigger than any of us goes out of its way to remind us of the very same thing, we call it grace.” “You've turned up in the right place at the right time. You're doing fine. Don't ever think that you've been forgotten.” “My heart is opening again. It's quieting. Growing still.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2837: Dr. Kelly Flanagan shares a deeply personal reflection on letting go, fatherhood, and the mysterious ways life reminds us we're not alone. Through a profound moment of synchronicity, he uncovers how grace often arrives disguised as coincidence, urging us to be present reminders of love for those who may feel forgotten. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/dont-ever-think-that-youve-been-forgotten/ Quotes to ponder: "When Something bigger than any of us goes out of its way to remind us of the very same thing, we call it grace." "You've turned up in the right place at the right time. You're doing fine. Don't ever think that you've been forgotten." "My heart is opening again. It's quieting. Growing still."  

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Send us a textWhat if the voice you call “God” is actually your shame talking—and grace has been whispering under the noise the whole time? That question powers a raw, practical conversation with Dr. Kelly Flanagan, licensed clinical psychologist and author of Lovable, as we explore how men can trade ego armor for quiet strength and move from performance to presence.Ever think, “I'm just a guy… what real difference can I make?” You're not alone. But God isn't looking for perfect men — just obedient ones. Our I'm Just a Guy Bible study on YouVersion has helped 20,000+ men see how God uses ordinary guys to do extraordinary things.Check it out at thelionwithin.us/youversion or search The Lion Within Us directly in the Bible app.It's time to stop sitting on the sidelines.Step into the fight and become the man God called you to be. Join a brotherhood built on truth, strength, and action. Visit thelionwithin.us right now and start leading with boldness and purpose. Iron sharpens iron — let's go.

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3663: Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores the invisible walls we build around our hearts and minds, revealing how these boundaries shape our relationships, protect our sense of self, and sometimes isolate us. He offers powerful insights into how therapy helps us thoughtfully renovate these walls, neither tearing them down nor fortifying them blindly, but crafting doors that allow connection on our terms. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/trojan-horses-and-flying-dice/ Quotes to ponder: "Perhaps the biggest walls, the most important walls, are the ones that cannot be seen at all." "Therapy is not meant to be a wrecking ball for the walls we have built. Therapy is a place where our walls are given the renovation they require." "Not a revolving door, where anyone can come and go as they please, but a door of our choosing, that opens from the inside, a door that makes it possible for you to confidently invite people in to your lonely space, because it is good to have company we can trust." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3663: Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores the invisible walls we build around our hearts and minds, revealing how these boundaries shape our relationships, protect our sense of self, and sometimes isolate us. He offers powerful insights into how therapy helps us thoughtfully renovate these walls, neither tearing them down nor fortifying them blindly, but crafting doors that allow connection on our terms. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/trojan-horses-and-flying-dice/ Quotes to ponder: "Perhaps the biggest walls, the most important walls, are the ones that cannot be seen at all." "Therapy is not meant to be a wrecking ball for the walls we have built. Therapy is a place where our walls are given the renovation they require." "Not a revolving door, where anyone can come and go as they please, but a door of our choosing, that opens from the inside, a door that makes it possible for you to confidently invite people in to your lonely space, because it is good to have company we can trust." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3663: Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores the invisible walls we build around our hearts and minds, revealing how these boundaries shape our relationships, protect our sense of self, and sometimes isolate us. He offers powerful insights into how therapy helps us thoughtfully renovate these walls, neither tearing them down nor fortifying them blindly, but crafting doors that allow connection on our terms. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/trojan-horses-and-flying-dice/ Quotes to ponder: "Perhaps the biggest walls, the most important walls, are the ones that cannot be seen at all." "Therapy is not meant to be a wrecking ball for the walls we have built. Therapy is a place where our walls are given the renovation they require." "Not a revolving door, where anyone can come and go as they please, but a door of our choosing, that opens from the inside, a door that makes it possible for you to confidently invite people in to your lonely space, because it is good to have company we can trust." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2647: Dr. Kelly Flanagan reveals how recognizing the four distinct types of anger, defensive, frustrated, scared, and righteous, can transform the way we respond to life's challenges. By shifting from impulsive reactions to thoughtful examination, we can break destructive cycles and cultivate greater peace, authenticity, and compassion in ourselves and our communities. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/the-four-kinds-of-anger-and-how-to-handle-them-better/ Quotes to ponder: "Anger is just an emotion. It's immaterial. It's ephemeral. It's a ghost." "Your Defensive Anger will keep you focused on the problems in everyone else." "Most Scared Anger, when handled well, makes the world a more vulnerable and authentic place." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2647: Dr. Kelly Flanagan reveals how recognizing the four distinct types of anger, defensive, frustrated, scared, and righteous, can transform the way we respond to life's challenges. By shifting from impulsive reactions to thoughtful examination, we can break destructive cycles and cultivate greater peace, authenticity, and compassion in ourselves and our communities. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/the-four-kinds-of-anger-and-how-to-handle-them-better/ Quotes to ponder: "Anger is just an emotion. It's immaterial. It's ephemeral. It's a ghost." "Your Defensive Anger will keep you focused on the problems in everyone else." "Most Scared Anger, when handled well, makes the world a more vulnerable and authentic place." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Pillars of Wealth Creation, Todd sits down with Mike McCarthy to discuss his entrepreneurial journey and the key relationships that helped him scale Keller Williams into a global leader. Mike reflects on how early partnerships and intentional collaboration were critical to building something lasting. The conversation then turns to GoBundance, the mastermind group Mike co-founded for men who've achieved financial success and want more out of life—better health, stronger relationships, greater impact, and more fun. What began as a business-focused brotherhood has grown into a comprehensive life mastermind with deep accountability and support. Mike now spends much of his time leading Fambundance, the family-focused branch of GoBundance. He and Todd talk about the importance of helping entrepreneurial families come together to define shared values, create a rhythm of connection, handle conflict with purpose, and raise kids who are equipped to lead. Legacy, Mike explains, isn't just about financial wealth—it's about how well we prepare the next generation to thrive with it. Book: Loveable by Kelly Flanagan and The Tools by Phil Stutz Pillars of Wealth: 1. Generous and Servant Leader 2. Quit side hustles and pick one business and crush it 3. Multidimensional definition for wealth-more than financial Mike McCarthy is a husband, father, and serial entrepreneur who played a key role in growing Keller Williams into the #1 real estate company in the world. As Regional Operating Partner of the Greater Pennsylvania Region, he leads over 9,000 agents across 50+ offices with more than $23 billion in sales in 2024. Mike is also the co-founder of GoBundance and founder of Fambundance, a unique personal growth platform for entrepreneurial families. A motivational speaker and co-author of Tribe of Millionaires and The Miracle Morning for Parents and Families, Mike is passionate about helping families thrive through shared values, deep connection, and meaningful traditions. If you would like to connect with Mike, you can connect with him on Instagram @gomikemccarthy. If you're interested in Go Bundance, visit https://gobundance.com/ Welcome to Pillars of Wealth Creation, where we talk about building financial freedom with a special focus on business and Real Estate. Follow along as Todd Dexheimer interviews top entrepreneurs, investors, advisers, and coaches. YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/PillarsOfWealthCreation Interested in coaching? Schedule a call with Todd at www.coachwithdex.com Listen to the audio version on your favorite podcast host: SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/user-650270376 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/.../pillars-of.../id1296372835... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/.../aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zb3VuZ... iHeart Radio: https://www.iheart.com/.../pillars-of-wealth-creation.../ CastBox: https://castbox.fm/.../Pillars-Of-Wealth-Creation... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0FmGSJe9fzSOhQiFROc2O0 Pandora: https://pandora.app.link/YUP21NxF3kb Amazon/Audible: https://music.amazon.com/.../f6cf3e11-3ffa-450b-ac8c...

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2561: Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores the emotional paradox of our hyper-connected digital age, where the illusion of belonging masks an underlying loneliness. Through heartfelt reflections and vivid metaphors, he illustrates why only face-to-face, imperfect, and embodied relationships can truly satisfy our deep need for connection. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/why-you-cant-replace-analog-companionship-with-digital-connection/ Quotes to ponder: "Digital connection is like chocolate chips in the pancake recipe of life. It is tasty and tempting to consume by the bagful." "Analog companionship has flesh and blood in its code, not 1s and 0s. It has salt in its tears, not pixels." "Out of habit, I reached for my phone. No signal. I left my digital crowd upstream. I paddled. I looked around." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2561: Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores the emotional paradox of our hyper-connected digital age, where the illusion of belonging masks an underlying loneliness. Through heartfelt reflections and vivid metaphors, he illustrates why only face-to-face, imperfect, and embodied relationships can truly satisfy our deep need for connection. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/why-you-cant-replace-analog-companionship-with-digital-connection/ Quotes to ponder: "Digital connection is like chocolate chips in the pancake recipe of life. It is tasty and tempting to consume by the bagful." "Analog companionship has flesh and blood in its code, not 1s and 0s. It has salt in its tears, not pixels." "Out of habit, I reached for my phone. No signal. I left my digital crowd upstream. I paddled. I looked around." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3532: A life well-lived isn't about achieving every childhood dream, it's about evolving into who we're meant to be. Dr. Kelly Flanagan reflects on how his plans have changed over the decades, revealing that failure is often grace in disguise. By embracing who we truly are rather than who we thought we should be, we create a life that's both authentic and fulfilling. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/the-grace-of-failure-or-how-to-avoid-a-midlife-crisis/ Quotes to ponder: "It's easy to plan a Hollywood life, but it takes some growing up and a lot of self-acceptance to gladly choose a life that is a little more ordinary." "Growing up isn't about getting what we want; it's about giving in to the best parts of who we are." "A true self is a constantly emerging self. A good life is an always evolving life." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3532: A life well-lived isn't about achieving every childhood dream, it's about evolving into who we're meant to be. Dr. Kelly Flanagan reflects on how his plans have changed over the decades, revealing that failure is often grace in disguise. By embracing who we truly are rather than who we thought we should be, we create a life that's both authentic and fulfilling. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/the-grace-of-failure-or-how-to-avoid-a-midlife-crisis/ Quotes to ponder: "It's easy to plan a Hollywood life, but it takes some growing up and a lot of self-acceptance to gladly choose a life that is a little more ordinary." "Growing up isn't about getting what we want; it's about giving in to the best parts of who we are." "A true self is a constantly emerging self. A good life is an always evolving life." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3532: A life well-lived isn't about achieving every childhood dream, it's about evolving into who we're meant to be. Dr. Kelly Flanagan reflects on how his plans have changed over the decades, revealing that failure is often grace in disguise. By embracing who we truly are rather than who we thought we should be, we create a life that's both authentic and fulfilling. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/the-grace-of-failure-or-how-to-avoid-a-midlife-crisis/ Quotes to ponder: "It's easy to plan a Hollywood life, but it takes some growing up and a lot of self-acceptance to gladly choose a life that is a little more ordinary." "Growing up isn't about getting what we want; it's about giving in to the best parts of who we are." "A true self is a constantly emerging self. A good life is an always evolving life." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3481: Finding belonging is a lifelong pursuit, and Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores two very different paths to it. Some seek connection through aggression and conformity, while others embrace vulnerability, allowing rejection to refine their circles of belonging. Through powerful stories including one from motivational speaker Nick Santonastasso this piece challenges us to choose authenticity over approval, faith over fear, and true connection over performative acceptance. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/how-to-find-belonging-either-beautifully-or-violently/ Quotes to ponder: "Who do you become in order to attract companionship? What do you do in order to keep your companionship?" "The other way is to show up as you actually are, with all your countless imperfections and inabilities and insecurities just laid bare, vulnerable, and alone and to allow the rejecting of you to become the thing that purifies your circles of belonging." "As your sense of belonging grows, your faith in everything else does, too." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3481: Finding belonging is a lifelong pursuit, and Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores two very different paths to it. Some seek connection through aggression and conformity, while others embrace vulnerability, allowing rejection to refine their circles of belonging. Through powerful stories including one from motivational speaker Nick Santonastasso this piece challenges us to choose authenticity over approval, faith over fear, and true connection over performative acceptance. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/how-to-find-belonging-either-beautifully-or-violently/ Quotes to ponder: "Who do you become in order to attract companionship? What do you do in order to keep your companionship?" "The other way is to show up as you actually are, with all your countless imperfections and inabilities and insecurities just laid bare, vulnerable, and alone and to allow the rejecting of you to become the thing that purifies your circles of belonging." "As your sense of belonging grows, your faith in everything else does, too." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chris Fabry Live is going on the road to the Art of Writing Conference at the Christy Awards. We'll talk about how writers and readers process pain through Christian fiction. Novelist and psychologist Kelly Flanagan and Christy Award winner and therapist Amanda Cox will discuss their process of using pain to touch the hearts of readers. Don't miss this live seminar on Chris Fabry Live. Watch the Livestream of The Christy Award Gala at 7:00pm CT For more information about the work of Care Net, click here. Chris Fabry Live is listener-supported. To support the program, click here.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3368: Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores how, over time, many of us stop asking for what we truly want, burdened by guilt and shame. Drawing on heartwarming stories of children's selfless desires, he argues that reconnecting with our ability to ask is essential to uncovering joy and love. Rediscovering our wants can lead to more meaningful connections and a more joyful life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/when-did-you-stop-asking-for-what-you-want/ Quotes to ponder: "Our wants, in the end, reveal the depths of love within us." "As children, we learn our asking is forbidden." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3344: Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores the illusion of independence in a world where technology fosters a sense of self-sufficiency. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing our deep interdependence with others, arguing that true freedom is found in balancing independence with connection to those around us. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/the-one-illusion-we-cannot-afford-to-believe-in/ Quotes to ponder: "We're connected at an atomic level: the atoms one person breathes out are breathed in by someone else." "Freedom isn't about being independent. Freedom is about learning to dance the dance of both our independence and our interdependence." "What I feel is an illusion." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3320: Dr. Kelly Flanagan shares a powerful story about a family who responded to global and local tragedies by saying "Yes" to their children's compassionate ideas. By embracing their own natural beauty and inner compassion, they inspired change, raising tens of thousands of dollars for homes in Haiti, orphans in their hometown, and clean water in Africa. The article invites readers to discover their unique beauty by stripping away superficial layers and embracing the essence of who they truly are. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/how-to-become-beautiful-in-one-simple-step/ Quotes to ponder: "Our real beauty is what emerges through all the layers of paint and image we slather on." "When hearts break with compassion, they don't break apart, they break open." "Only you contain the shape of your beauty beneath all the bright, distracting paint." Episode references: Mission: https://www.bloodwater.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3296: Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores the concept of psychological blind spots, where we unknowingly hide our emotional pain from ourselves, leading to larger issues in our lives. By uncovering these blind spots, particularly shame, we can reconnect with our truest and most lovable selves, unlocking personal growth and healing. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/this-is-your-biggest-psychological-blind-spot/ Quotes to ponder: "We don't just keep secrets from other people, we keep them from ourselves." "Shame is eventually the doorway into the biggest blind spot of all." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3272: Dr. Kelly Flanagan reveals that the secret to life isn't about avoiding pain but embracing it. By acknowledging and walking through our pain, we gain freedom and power, opening ourselves to the full experience of living. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/what-your-dentist-knows-about-the-secret-to-life/ Quotes to ponder: "Our pain is the secret to life. We can't even eat unless we're capable of feeling it." "The willingness to walk into our pain sets us free, and I think that kind of freedom makes us a powerful people." "The whole wide world is a banquet table, and there is a feast waiting for you." Episode references: Peter Rollins: https://peterrollins.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3248: Dr. Kelly Flanagan shares a heartfelt story about his daughter's bravery during a flight and uses it to illustrate the importance of listening to inner wisdom rather than being driven by transient emotions. He emphasizes that true courage involves discerning the guidance of our deeper self amidst our feelings, leading to more meaningful and empowered choices. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/quit-listening-to-your-feelings-asap-says-the-shrink/ Quotes to ponder: "I'm not saying feelings are bad or that we shouldn't pay attention to them. In fact, as a psychologist, I think we need to become aware of all of our feelings." "Courage is listening to your wisdom rather than your feelings." "You don't have to feel confident to have inner wisdom; you just have to have faith in its presence." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3224: Dr. Kelly Flanagan shares a profound insight on embracing fear rather than attempting to eliminate it. Through a personal narrative of a turbulent flight, he illustrates how fear can coexist with fun, highlighting the importance of acknowledging fear as a companion in life's adventures rather than an enemy to conquer. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/dont-let-fear-have-the-last-laugh/ Quotes to ponder: “With my eyes shut tightly, I'm making my fear worse by trying to control it.” “I used to think the goal of therapy was to help people vanquish their fear. Now, I think a goal of therapy is to help people vanquish that idea.” “There is another world existing right in the midst of our fear, a world in which fun is waiting to happen.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3200: Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores the elusive concept of joy in "How to Find Joy in Unexpected Places this Summer," emphasizing its presence in the most challenging circumstances. Through a personal narrative set against a dramatic backdrop of lightning and moonlight, Flanagan contrasts the fleeting pleasures of typical holiday indulgences with the profound, enduring joy found when confronting life's storms head-on. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/how-to-find-joy-in-unexpected-places-this-summer/ Quotes to ponder: "Happiness is all about pleasurable circumstances and orchestrated comfort. But joy is a place inside every circumstance." "Joy is the place we stumble upon when we look our deepest pain and greatest fear directly in the eyes, and we refuse to flinch." "Joy is not the answer to hardship. Rather, it is the birth of an entirely new way to experience the pain and the fear and the sorrow itself." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3168: Explore the transformative power of pain in Dr. Kelly Flanagan's thoughtful narrative on how suffering serves as the great equalizer, erasing hierarchies and revealing our shared human vulnerabilities. Discover how embracing our pain can lead us to a sense of home and unity, challenging the isolating competitions of life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/the-one-thing-with-the-power-to-bring-us-all-together/ Quotes to ponder: "Pain can make little children empty piggy banks for a stranger who doesn't feel like a stranger anymore because they share the common ground of disappointment and loneliness." "Can you imagine a world of people equalized by their pain? Can you imagine a world where our sense of home doesn't end at the front door?" "Suffering is the great equalizer. From herniated disks to surprising loneliness to shocking divorces to unexpected diagnoses, every single one of us will eventually be equalized by pain and suffering." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3144: Dr. Kelly Flanagan invites readers to embrace a transformative sentence that promises to liberate them from the shackles of people-pleasing and fear of judgment. By adopting this mindset, Flanagan assures a path to genuine self-acceptance, deeper connections, and a life filled with grace and compassion towards oneself and others. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/one-sentence-that-will-change-your-life/ Quotes to ponder: "I'm not going to worry very much about offending people anymore, which means I need you to tell me when I do, so I can think about it and decide if I need to apologize." "I'm sick of living in fear of what others will think of me. It has drained me, and I can't recall who I truly am. So, I'm done with feeling responsible for everyone else's feelings." "I know I'm broken and make mistakes. But I also know now we're all broken, which means your hurt may not be my fault." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices