A Blessing in Divorce is a podcast born out of Elisabeth's personal divorce experience as well as the years she has spent guiding women through this difficult time. Listen and subscribe for weekly uplifting, relevant and helpful content that will help you heal and rise while you navigate your divorce and create a new life for yourself. This is a safe space where all are welcome.
Do you find yourself waiting for an apology, a compliment, or even a sign that your healing is being witnessed? In this raw and tender episode, we explore the often invisible — yet incredibly powerful — force of validation and how it can quietly keep us stuck in pain. From the early childhood roots of needing to be seen and soothed, to the ego's endless loop of craving approval (especially after heartbreak), Elisabeth opens the door to a deeper conversation around truth, worthiness, and radical self-honesty. If you've ever felt unseen, dismissed, or like your pain didn't “count” unless someone else acknowledged it, this episode is for you. You'll learn: Why we crave external validation (and how it's not your fault) How the ego uses validation to protect us — but also sabotage us The subtle ways validation-seeking keeps us stuck in our healing journey What it means to self-validate and reclaim your inner authority Practices to start validating yourself every single day LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE The brand new healing app is LIVE - download the Rising Sisterhood app today and take some positive steps for your healing starting now: https://www.theseparationclub.com/risingsisterhoodapp Take a bigger step towards healing and growth and join my 3 night / 4 day Lake House Retreat, June 12-15th. All the details can be found here: https://theseparationclub.com/lake-retreat Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist FREE MASTERCLASS: Register for our next free Masterclass: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
In this rather different episode, I get real about a sensitive but important topic: the tendency for women to generalize and hate men after divorce — and why that mindset, while understandable, doesn't actually serve your healing, or theirs. I talk about: Why anger and grief after betrayal are valid — but hate is not the path to freedom How generalizing “all men” keeps us stuck in pain, bitterness, and disconnection What it's costing you emotionally, spiritually, and energetically to carry hate A deeper look into the masculine wound and why many men are emotionally unavailable (without excusing the harm they cause) How you can heal with integrity, reclaim your power, and move forward without carrying hate in your heart You'll leave this episode feeling seen, softened, and empowered to choose healing that truly sets you free. And I am excited to hear your thoughts about this episode. You can leave a review, share this episode on socials or send me an email: wecanhelp@theseparationclub.com LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE: The brand new healing app is LIVE - download the Rising Sisterhood app today and take some positive steps for your healing starting now: https://www.theseparationclub.com/risingsisterhoodapp Take a bigger step towards healing and growth and join my 3 night / 4 day Lake House Retreat, June 12-15th. All the details can be found here: https://theseparationclub.com/lake-retreat Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist FREE MASTERCLASS: Register for our next free Masterclass: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Today we're diving into a topic that feels so close to the heart - how to manifest love and happiness in your life after divorce. I've talked about this before but we're doing it again a little differently. I know you want to attract love and happiness in your life, but this is not about attracting someone else. Let's start by attracting YOU! Become the source of the love and joy you crave and watch everything else fall into place. If you're ready to feel good again—to feel whole, vibrant, and deeply fulfilled—this episode is for you. Some of the highlights: Why self-love is the root of all manifestation. Daily self-love rituals like mirror work, affirmations, loving-kindness meditation. And make sure to check out the brand new Rising Sisterhood App which includes meditations specifically created for self-love and healing. We are also rewriting the story of love Releasing the belief that love is limited or only comes from a partner. Manifesting from a place of wholeness vs. lack. And.. calling in a new and higher vibration With practices that raise your frequency Having healthy boundaries and sacred standards Below are some ways you can start doing this deep work whether it is coaching with me one on one, journaling in The Joy Journal, booking a retreat and definitely downloading the new app. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE The brand new healing app is LIVE - download the Rising Sisterhood app today and take some positive steps for your healing starting now: https://www.theseparationclub.com/risingsisterhoodapp Take a bigger step towards healing and growth and join my 3 night / 4 day Lake House Retreat, June 12-15th. All the details can be found here: https://theseparationclub.com/lake-retreat Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist FREE MASTERCLASS: Register for our next free Masterclass: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Today's episode is all about turning one of life's hardest experiences into one of your greatest sources of strength. I know it might not feel that way right now, but your pain holds incredible power. In this episode, I'll show you how to shift from feeling broken to feeling brave, and how to use everything you've been through to rise even stronger. Some of what I cover: Viewing pain as a portal to the future and to allowing in wisdom and light instead of a door slamming shut. I talk about the valuable lessons divorce teaches us like; not negotiating with our self-worth, having strong and healthy boundaries with everyone in our lives and, taking steps to build resilience and strength within. I want you to know you don't have to figure it out alone. The NEW Rising Sisterhood App offers tools, meditations, and a community to support your growth every step of the way. And for deeper healing, my coaching programs and retreats are designed to help you rise from the ashes into your most empowered self. I would be honoured to walk this journey with you. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE: The brand new healing app is LIVE - download the Rising Sisterhood app today and take some positive steps for your healing starting now: https://www.theseparationclub.com/risingsisterhoodapp Take a bigger step towards healing and growth and join my 3 night / 4 day Lake House Retreat, June 12-15th. All the details can be found here: https://theseparationclub.com/lake-retreat Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist FREE MASTERCLASS: Register for our next free Masterclass: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
The conversation around physical intimacy in a marriage is generally one that is kept private. And then when the separation happens a whole new layer of shame, embarrassment and secrecy is added. I want to open that door a bit and shed some light on how closely connected physical intimacy is to emotional intimacy and how that affects a potential reconciliation and how the two connect with each other post separation. This is my first time broaching this topic and I took it on the fly, so please bear with me. I know there is so much more to discuss here - and I will. This is one I would love to bring some experts in for or potentially have guests share their experiences. Thank you for listening as always. It matters. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is an incredibly beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with - you.. And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist FREE MASTERCLASS: Register for our next free Masterclass: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
We need to overcome the conditioning of prioritizing everyone else's needs over our own. This does not make you a better person. It's time for women to learn that taking care of you is a priority and necessary for everyone. Doing that during a hostile legal battle with your soon to be ex is absolutely a challenge, but again, necessary. Talking about that today and wanting you to hear how worthy you are of love, kindness and a happy future. I would love to help you with this so make sure to check out the various ways we can work together below. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE Take a positive step forward towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose and path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching FREE MASTERCLASS: Divorce survival tips for feeling good and healing no matter what else is going on: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Today we honor the sacred essence of womanhood, not just as a role we play in society, but as the force of creation, transformation, and resilience. International Women's Day is not just about celebrating the achievements of women—it's about reclaiming our voice, our power, and our place in the world. We will talk about sovereignty and what that is: Emotional Freedom – not allowing others to dictate your worth or your healing. Spiritual Liberation – trusting yourself and your inner wisdom above external validation. Sacred Boundaries – saying yes to what serves you and no to what diminishes you. Radical Self-Acceptance – releasing shame, guilt, and conditioning that tells you who you "should" be. **FREE MASTERCLASS INFORMATION BELOW LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE FREE MASTERCLASS: Sovereign YOU: Reclaim your power & rise as we celebrate Women's Day/Month: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Today's episode is about something truly empowering - creating a life you love, even when it feels impossible. Divorce can feel like the end, but in reality, it's the beginning of something new. If you're struggling to see the path forward, feeling lost, or unsure of what's next, this episode is for you. I'll be sharing powerful steps to help you rediscover joy, set new intentions, and design a life that excites you. WE GET STARTED MARCH 10th - If you're ready to move beyond heartbreak and step into your most confident, empowered self, my From Heartbreak to Empowered Coaching Circle is here for you. This intimate group coaching experience is designed to help you heal, rebuild, and embrace your next chapter with clarity and strength. Through guided support, mindset shifts, and deep healing work, you'll gain the tools to create a life you truly love. Join us today—because you don't have to do this alone. [Check the link in the show notes to learn more!] Today's show is packed with information about: The power of mindset shifts Rebuilding starts with your thoughts and moving from victim mentality to an empowered perspective. Reclaiming your identity - And asking the important questions Who Are You Now? Who do you want to be? What do you want your life to look like? The importance of taking action to create the life you want LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE: Join my From Heartbreak to Empowered Coaching Circle - We get started March 10th. This intimate group coaching experience is designed to help you heal, rebuild, and embrace your next chapter with clarity and strength - https://www.theseparationclub.com/offers/yhJHcxMv Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Today the conversation is about one of the most difficult yet transformative parts of the divorce journey—shifting from heartbreak to healing. If you're feeling stuck in grief, overwhelmed by emotions, or wondering how to move forward, this episode is for you. Healing is a process, and today, I'll walk you through practical steps to help you move through heartbreak and into a new season of growth. Understanding Heartbreak and Its Impact Divorce is a form of grief—acknowledging the loss is essential. The emotional, physical, and mental toll of heartbreak. Common reactions: anger, sadness, fear, and guilt. The importance of self-compassion during this process. The Healing Journey – How to Move Forward Allow yourself to feel and release Reframe your story Practice forgiveness Embracing Your Future with Confidence Rediscover who you are outside of the relationship Set new goals and intentions for your next chapter Surrounding yourself with supportive, like-minded women/people Sign up for coaching with me to receive guidance and safe support as you heal and move forward. Make today the day you take a bold step forward for yourself, your healing and your future. Grab one of my inexpensive coaching packages or book a quick chat so we can learn more about each other. I look forward to hearing from you and working with you. LIKS MENTIONED AND MORE Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Valentine's Day can be a tough time when you are on the journey of healing from separation or divorce. This episode is dedicated to you—offering support, love, and inspiration as you navigate this weekend. Instead of dreading it, let's reframe this day as a chance to honor yourself, practice deep self-care, and rewrite the narrative around love. I am also trying something new in this episode and have included a short meditation and journaling prompts at the end. The time stamps are below so you can go back and listen again and again without having to listen to the whole episode. Journaling starts at 18:50 Affirmations start at 22:25 Meditation starts at 25:20 ✨ Rising Sisterhood V-Day Empowerment & Self-Love Playlist ✨ 1️⃣ “Good as Hell” – Lizzo
Today's episode is all about something that is often overlooked, yet it is the foundation of true healing—radical self-care. I'm not just talking about bubble baths (though those are great!), but deep, soul-nourishing self-care that helps you step into your new life with strength and grace. Redefining Self-Care (Why It's More Than Just Pampering) Many women neglect self-care because they've been conditioned to put others first. Divorce leaves emotional, mental, and physical scars—healing requires intentional self-care. Self-care is not just relaxation but also boundary-setting, emotional processing, and creating joy. We call it radical self-care because it requires an intentional shift in how you treat yourself. It's about prioritizing your healing unapologetically, breaking old patterns, and making yourself a non-negotiable priority. We talk about the 3 Pillars of Radical Self-Care Emotional Self-Care: Physical Self-Care: Spiritual & Energetic Self-Care: LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE ONLY 3 SPOTS LEFT for our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
On this week's episode I have the pleasure of speaking with Cara Adria Murphy about her new book: "Intimacy & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery" This was such an open and deep conversation between as we are both so passionate about helping women surviving Narcissistic abuse and also deeply committed to their healing and moving forward. Whether you are coming from this kind of relationship or not, I know you will find so much value in the things we discussed here. And please - hit subscribe and leave us some stars and reviews. This is an episode that needs to be shared so more women can get help and also hear about her book. Please tag my Instagram account when you share so I can respond to any women who have questions. My links are below as are Cara's. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE ONLY 3 SPOTS LEFT for our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 More about Cara: A survivor of narcissistic abuse turned advocate, Cara is fuelled by a deep desire to understand the "why" behind the complex dynamics of interpersonal relationships. She is committed to personal growth, compassionate self-reflection, and the resilience and courage of the human spirit. She believes that “healed people, heal people,” and she's committed to bringing what she learns to a public space through her writing. With a Master's degree in Communication, she combines her understanding of human interaction with the power of language to examine healthy (and unhealthy) relationships and emotional well-being. She especially loves collaborating with others, and she'll happily chat for hours with you over coffee. When not writing, you can find Cara running along a rocky trail in the mountains, traveling to far-away places with her children, or cuddling on the couch under a cozy blanket surrounded by the family pets. Follow me on Instagram: @caraadriamurphy_author Chat with me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CaraAdriaMurphy Free bonuses: https://caraadriamurphy.aweb.page/gifts
Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts Affairs are hard and cause a lot of emotional pain and mistrust. A request for a reconciliation or "another try" can bring up all the feelings once again and be more of a setback than a good thing. And it can feel like an incredible opportunity to restore the family and your marriage. But can it truly be restored? Can the feelings of love and trust be regained? Join me as I talk about this and the various things you can do to ensure a healthy effort that protects you and your heart. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE It's not too late to join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at a gorgeous Villa in Spain promises to be truly irresistible. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE GET $100 OFF our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Contact me to redeem wecanhelp@theseparationclub.com GET $100 OFF coaching for 5 days! I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. Until Dec. 2nd, 2025 get $100 off a 5-pack of coaching with code EPISODE100. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
In today's episode we get into the importance of emotional resilience and self-care as you are healing and creating a new life for yourself. This episode offers tools and strategies to manage emotional challenges as you navigate this stage of your life. Key Points: Why resilience matters for entrepreneurs and personal growth. Emotional tools to manage setbacks and maintain optimism. Self-care strategies to balance growth with rest, especially during transitions LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE The doors to THRIVE are open. Learn all that you need to know and join our healing journey starting on November 25th, 2025. https://www.theseparationclub.com/thrive Our next free Masterclass is Nov. 4th and I'll be talking about how to let go of whatever you are hanging onto that is standing in the way of your healing and growth. It's free to join us, just sign up to get all the details: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 100th episode contest details: A NEW SERIES called From Healing to Thriving and creating a new life after Divorce. During this 6 episode series, we will reflect on the healing process and how we can use this as a first step towards empowerment and creating a new life. We do have to move forward as part of our healing journey and in this series I encourage you to get curious about moving beyond healing and stepping into personal empowerment. Here's what you will have to do to enter: Share this episode on Instagram. Tag and follow me @elisabethjoy444 and also use #ablessingindivorce so I can find your share and enter you. Leave a review on the podcast (and email me to let me know you have) Join our Thrive program and be entered in all the draws including a free program. Only those who purchase Thrive can be part of the draw for the free program. Some of the prizes: The Joy Journal Free coaching Free Thrive program Meditation bundles and more.
In this episode I address the inevitable fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs that arise when stepping into a new life. I offer you strategies for overcoming self-doubt and building confidence in your abilities. Key Points: We talk about common fears and limiting beliefs (e.g., fear of failure, fear of judgment) I share tools to shift from self-doubt to self-belief (affirmations, mindset practices). And we will learn how taking action builds confidence and momentum. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE: The doors to THRIVE are open. Learn all that you need to know and join our healing journey starting on November 25th, 2025. https://www.theseparationclub.com/thrive Our next free Masterclass is Nov. 4th and I'll be talking about how to let go of whatever you are hanging onto that is standing in the way of your healing and growth. It's free to join us, just sign up to get all the details: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 100th episode contest details: Today is part 4/6 in a new series called From Healing to Thriving and creating a new life after Divorce. During this 6 episode series, we will reflect on the healing process and how we can use this as a first step towards empowerment and creating a new life. We do have to move forward as part of our healing journey and in this series I encourage you to get curious about moving beyond healing and stepping into personal empowerment. I am also kicking off a pre-100th episode celebration with this episode so make sure to listen to the end to get all the relevant details as there are giveaways, deals and fun to be had. Here's what you will have to do to enter: Share this episode on Instagram. Tag and follow me @elisabethjoy444 and also use #ablessingindivorce so I can find your share and enter you. Leave a review on the podcast (and email me to let me know you have) Join our Thrive program and be entered in all the draws including a free program. Only those who purchase Thrive can be part of the draw for the free program. Some of the prizes: The Joy Journal Free coaching Free Thrive program Meditation bundles and more. During the next 5 weeks there will be several opportunities to enter into this draw,
During this 6 episode series, we will reflect on the healing process and how we can use this as a first step towards empowerment and creating a new life. We do have to move forward as part of our healing journey and in this series I encourage you to get curious about moving beyond healing and stepping into personal empowerment. I am also kicking off a pre-100th episode celebration with this episode so make sure to listen to the end and read below to get all the relevant details as there are giveaways, deals, big prizes and fun to be had. Today's Key Points: The power of intentional living and goal-setting. How to set realistic, yet transformative, goals that align with your values. Breaking big goals into manageable steps (focus on balance between personal growth and external success). LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE The doors to THRIVE are open. Learn all that you need to know and join our healing journey starting on November 25th, 2025. https://www.theseparationclub.com/thrive Our next free Masterclass is Nov. 4th and I'll be talking about how to let go of whatever you are hanging onto that is standing in the way of your healing and growth. It's free to join us, just sign up to get all the details: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 100th episode contest details: Here's how to enter: Share this, or one of the episodes in the series on Instagram. Tag and follow me @elisabethjoy444 and also use #ablessingindivorce so I can find your share and enter you. Leave a review on the podcast and email me a screenshot to let me know you have - wecanhelp@theseparationclub.com Join our Thrive program and be entered in all the draws including a FREE PROGRAM. Only those who purchase Thrive can be part of the draw for the free program. Some of the prizes: The Joy Journal Free coaching Free Thrive program Meditation bundles and more. During the next 5 weeks there will be several opportunities to enter into this draw,
After a major life transition, many people feel disconnected from their true identity. I'm talking about who you were before this relationship and potentially during. Also who you have put aside to be a wife, spouse, partner, parent, PTA member, kids sports coach etc. In this episode I would ike to guide you through a process of self-discovery, helping you reflect on who you are now and what values, passions, and strengths you want to cultivate moving forward. Key Points: Divorce or significant change often leads to identity loss. Finding alignment between your true self and the life you want to create. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE The doors to THRIVE are open. Learn all that you need to know and join our healing journey starting on November 25th, 2025. https://www.theseparationclub.com/thrive Our next free Masterclass is Nov. 4th and I'll be talking about how to let go of whatever you are hanging onto that is standing in the way of your healing and growth. It's free to join us, just sign up to get all the details: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 100th episode contest details: During this 6 episode series, we will reflect on the healing process and how we can use this as a first step towards empowerment and creating a new life. We do have to move forward as part of our healing journey and in this series I encourage you to get curious about moving beyond healing and stepping into personal empowerment. I am also kicking off a pre-100th episode celebration with this episode so make sure to listen to the end to get all the relevant details as there are giveaways, deals and fun to be had. Here's what you will have to do to enter: Share this episode on Instagram. Tag and follow me @elisabethjoy444 and also use #ablessingindivorce so I can find your share and enter you. Leave a review on the podcast (and email me to let me know you have) Join our Thrive program and be entered in all the draws including a free program. Only those who purchase Thrive can be part of the draw for the free program. Some of the prizes: The Joy Journal Free coaching Free Thrive program Meditation bundles and more. During the next 5 weeks there will be several opportunities to enter into this draw.
PART 1/6 IN A NEW SERIES called From Healing to Thriving and creating a new life after Divorce. Today I'm inviting you on a journey. It's the first instalment in this new series. During this 6 episode series, we will reflect on the healing process and how we can use this as a first step towards empowerment and creating a new life. We do have to move forward as part of our healing journey and in this series I encourage you to get curious about moving beyond healing and stepping into personal empowerment. I am also kicking off a pre-100th episode celebration with this episode so make sure to listen to the end to get all the relevant details as there are giveaways, deals and fun to be had. Here's what you will have to do to enter: Share this episode on Instagram. Tag and follow me @elisabethjoy444 and also use #ablessingindivorce so I can find your share and enter you. Leave a review on the podcast (and email me to let me know you have) Join our Thrive program and be entered in all the draws including a free program. Only those who purchase Thrive can be part of the draw for the free program. Some of the prizes: The Joy Journal Free coaching Free Thrive program Meditation bundles and more. During the next 5 weeks there will be several opportunities to enter into this draw, Today's Key Points: How healing creates the foundation for new opportunities. The importance of mindset shifts when stepping into a new chapter. How to begin thinking about what you want your "new life" to look like. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE The doors to THRIVE are open. Learn all that you need to know and join our healing journey starting on November 25th, 2025. https://www.theseparationclub.com/yes Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
It's been a long time since I've had a guest on the show and this is a guest I will be inviting back for sure. Join me for this conversation with Rachael Dunkel - Therapist turned Trauma informed Divorce Coach. Today we talk about the healing journey when divorcing someone with a personality disorder. People often attach labels to their exes describing them as toxic, narcissistic etc. And while of course there are some that this is appropriate for, these terms are being overused. And the danger is that we fall victim to the term and the narrative that goes with divorcing someone like that. Ultimately our goal is healing and in order to do this in an effective way, we are better off focusing on the behaviours that we need to heal from. For example gaslighting and infidelity and other forms of betrayal. The label itself helps explain behaviour, but it is the behaviour we need to heal from. Some of the questions I asked Rachael in the show today: Difference between coach and therapist and how they can both be instrumental in the healing journey. Understanding the difference between focusing on the labels of high conflict and narcissistic exes versus the behaviour we need to heal from. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE: ⭐️ Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat ⭐️ Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 ⭐️ Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal ⭐️ I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching ⭐️ You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call ⭐️ Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist ⭐️ Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ ⭐️ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
In this episode we exploring how connection can help us heal, grow and create the very life we dream of. This is a recap of how we explored this topic during the most recent Rising Moon Sisters Retreat. Connection with Our Bodies Our bodies hold so much wisdom, but we are often too busy to listen. This weekend is an invitation to slow down and reconnect with the body's natural rhythms, to listen to what it needs, and to embrace the healing power of presence within our own skin. Connection with Our Spirit and Soul In the noise of life, it's easy to lose touch with our deeper selves—the part of us that craves peace, purpose, and alignment. Let this weekend be a chance to reconnect with our inner guidance, with the spirit that holds the key to our truest desires and dreams. Connection with Our Hearts We carry so much in our hearts: joy, pain, hope, and longing. This is a space for us to open our hearts again—to feel deeply and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable. Connection with the heart is about cultivating compassion for ourselves and for others. Connection with Each Other We are not meant to go through life alone. Yet, so many of us feel isolated, even when surrounded by people. This weekend, let us drop the walls we've built and be open to truly seeing one another. The power of women gathering is immense. When we connect as sisters, we are stronger, wiser, and more grounded. Connection with Nature Nature has always been a teacher and a healer. Being in its presence reminds us of the interconnectedness of all things. We'll take time to feel the earth beneath our feet, breathe in the fresh air, and remember that we are part of something much bigger than ourselves. Connection with Our Communities As we heal and reconnect with ourselves, we create a ripple effect that extends to our families, friends, and communities. The connection we cultivate here will not stay confined to this weekend. It will travel back with us, changing the way we show up in the world. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn't resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can't wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025 Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
You might be thinking “I know who I am” and then realize maybe you don't - and only because you haven't really asked yourself or explored this lately. You might be thinking - I have no idea who I am if I'm not “his wife” or a full time mom or something like that - I know I did. The tools are radical honesty with yourself; self-reflection; counseling/coaching; self-compassion and forgiveness of self and others. And your reward is self-discovery and self-love, knowing your worth and that you are enough. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
This episode was inspired by mother's who contacted me in an effort to provide support to their children who are divorcing. They recognize that the issues are complex and that though they meant well they weren't always saying what was helpful. I so appreciate their grace and compassion in wanting to be there for their children who are going through such a difficult time. Anyone would be lucky to have a parent who cares that much. This episode is for those parents, but also for you you as you go through this life challenge and want and need support from your parents but they might not be saying the things you need to hear or maybe they are saying just a bit too much. Either way - this episode can help you guide them in their support as much as it can help them. If nothing else you can send them the link. Some of the highlights: Become the best listener (by not talking) Show compassion (even when you don't understand) Your opinions of their ex is irrelevant and negative comments often not helpful. Support, validate and elevate Be helpful and resourceful. Show up and do the things without being asked (unless being asked is a thing for your child). Don't always make it about the divorce. Have “normal” conversation. If you are helping financially do so without interfering or imposing or controlling. Don't make this about you. Don't offer parenting advice or opinions unless asked. Be kind and accepting of ex's role as parent to your grandchildren without being disloyal to your child. I am here to help and encourage you to set up a discovery call so we can figure out what would be the most supportive for you right now. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
This is it! Part 6 of the 6-part healing summer series here on A Blessing In Divorce. Create your own blessings by working through your healing with this series.
Advanced planning isn't always possible because if the decision to divorce wasn't yours then you have had no time or opportunity to prepare. And this is true for so many of life's challenges as these tend to land into our lives with us not being ready. But that's life right? As John Lennon said - Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans. Today I want to talk about some of the specifics around planning around and preparing for your divorce, your healing and your new life. You are here, so this is happening and whether you wanted it or not. Dwelling on that you didn't want this is counterproductive. Understandable but not helpful. If you just want me to tell you that you don't have to do anything then you have chosen the wrong episode. Did you notice that I mentioned planning your divorce, your healing and your new life? Yes - this is not just a financial and legal road map. It is important to focus on all areas of this journey. And while the financial and legal can feel the most daunting and also the most important - it is likely the easiest as there are so many who can help you and there are specific steps that need to be taken. The scary factor is the unknown results, the potential emotional chaos and hostility and our own fear of working our way through these legal and financial avenues that most of us had no understanding of leading up to this time. Let's start with the financial and legal. If you are listening to this then you likely are going through or have gone through divorce. If you are done then you might want to skip ahead to the part about planning your healing and your new life starting at 16:50. Legal and Financial Planning Gather your team Learn as much as you can Become clear about what your best and worst outcome is and plan to land somewhere in the middle. Be fair Keep a level head (more on that in the healing planning) ** And join the Rising Free membership Plan to heal Gather your team and your people Be honest with yourself Lots of self-reflection, self-compassion, self-love and patience Learn who you are and what you want out of your life Spend time around people who lift you and don't drag you down. Plan for this Expect healing Plan for your new life The focus tends to be so heavy on the scary stuff and the negative things that happen and may happen. So few talk about the good. It's like we are afraid to feel good or feel guilty feeling anything positive at all. Enough of that! It's time to map out a beautiful life for yourself and start making some plans to get you closer to that - Retreats, Vacations, time with people you love Work you find satisfying, and a home life that is balanced and easy This is all within your control so make it happen. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE
There are many parts to a healing journey during and after separation and divorce. That's why I started this healing series and here is part 4. So manke sure to check out the previous 3 and the introduction to the series in episode 83. Having high or unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others can really get in the way of the healing journey because you are essentially giving your power (and peace of mind) away to the person you expect something from. And for self-expectations - they are often tied to how we want others to react based on our actions etc. All in all it's a messy business that can cause us a lot of pain. So let's dive into this together and as always I will have some great insights and tools for you. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE RE-LAUNCH OF RISING FREE Divorce Support Community - Join the waitlist now to be the first to know about all the launch specials and events. Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Grief after a divorce can be particularly intense and persistent, and many people find themselves stuck in their grief and ruminating on the past for several reasons. Loss of Identity Emotional Attachment Unresolved Issues Fear of the Future Habitual Thinking Patterns Societal and Cultural Influences LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE The Healing Heart: https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheart Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Download the free Separation Checklist with all the important first steps as you embark on this journey https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Last week I talked about understanding and healing our pain story. This week I am talking about the inward journey mentioned last week. It's a journey that is crucial to our healing and self-discovery journey available to us during and after a divorce. Healing after a divorce is a deeply personal and multifaceted journey that involves emotional, mental, and sometimes physical and spiritual practices. Here are several strategies and practices to help you turn inward and find healing: Emotional healing and mental/cognitive healing are closely related but distinct aspects of overall psychological well-being. Understanding the differences between the two can help in addressing each area more effectively. Emotional healing deals with processing and releasing emotional pain, while mental/cognitive healing focuses on reshaping thought patterns and improving mental clarity. Both are essential for overall psychological well-being, and integrating practices from both areas can lead to more effective and holistic healing. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE Sign up to be the first to know about the August 1st re-launch of the Rising Free divorce support community happening this summer www.theseparationclub.com/rfwaitlist The Healing Heart: https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheart Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Download the free Separation Checklist with all the important first steps as you embark on this journey https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
We all carry a painstory, a personal narrative shaped by our experiences of trauma, loss, and hardship. Understanding and acknowledging this painstory is crucial for healing after significant life events such as divorce, loss, or abuse. By exploring the origins and impact of our pain, we can begin to unravel the emotional knots that bind us to the past. This process of self-awareness allows us to identify patterns of suffering, recognize triggers, and gradually disempower the pain that has accumulated over time. Through compassionate self-reflection and acceptance, we can transform our painstory from a source of ongoing distress into a catalyst for growth and resilience, fostering a deeper sense of inner peace and emotional freedom. Triggers of the Pain-Body: Negative Thoughts and Emotions: Negative thoughts and emotions can feed the pain-body, causing it to grow stronger and more influential over an individual's state of mind and behavior. Relationships: Close relationships, particularly those involving conflict or intense emotional interactions, can activate the pain-body. Stressful Situations: High-stress circumstances or situations can trigger the pain-body, bringing old emotional wounds to the surface. Healing the Pain-Body: Awareness and Presence: The first step to healing is to become aware of the pain-body's presence. Recognizing when it is active allows an individual to disidentify from it. Practicing presence and staying in the "now" reduces the pain-body's power. Observation Without Judgment: Observing the pain-body without judgment or reaction can weaken it. By acknowledging its presence without engaging with it emotionally, an individual can prevent it from gaining more energy. Acceptance: Accepting the pain and understanding it as a part of the human experience can help in the healing process. This acceptance involves not resisting or trying to escape the pain, but rather allowing it to be without feeding it further. Inner Body Awareness: Focusing on the physical sensations in the body can help in grounding and staying present. This practice can diminish the influence of the pain-body. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE Sign up to be the first to know about the August 1st re-launch of the Rising Free divorce support community happening this summer www.theseparationclub.com/rfwaitlist The Healing Heart: https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheart Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Download the free Separation Checklist with all the important first steps as you embark on this journey https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
**INTRODUCTION TO SUMMER HEALING SERIES** I am really excited to bring you this healing series. I will be talking about what holds your healing back and what can make it happen faster. It's kind of the same thing. A true lesson in perspective. So, join me for this illuminating, healing and potentially transformational summer series. Today is the introduction to the series and I will be touching on the following six areas of discussion that are coming up. Identifying with the pain story Grief/loss and ruminating on memories Inward focus - A self-discovery journey Unrealistic and unmet Expectations Your fear story Lack of planning for the future I am also relaunching the Rising Free membership community. I took a hiatus and restructured to meet your needs better. I'm so excited to bring you a whole new experience and support opportunity as you navigate your separation and divorce. The launch date is July 1st, but make sure to sign up for the waitlist (see below) so you will be the first to know about launch specials, discounts and other exciting events. Also make sure to check out our upcoming retreats that also provide an opportunity to do this work in person with me and other women exactly like you. Something so powerful happens when women gather to do this work. Upcoming retreats: Umbria, Italy, June 22-29th, 2024 - https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 Ontario, Canada, Sept. 12-15th, 2024 - https://theseparationclub.com/lake-retreat Nosara, Costa Rica - Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 - https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Upcoming retreats:
Getting through divorce without feeling like you're losing your mind, sanity and self-respect Stop caring what others think Stop caring about whether others think you are right or justified First - We need to get solid with our core values. What are our values? Are we making decisions that are aligned with them? Second - If you don't feel good then you are out of alignment with your values, beliefs or boundaries Values - example: integrity, kindness Beliefs - What you have been taught to believe vs. what is real and what is fear Boundaries - what are your boundaries? Why are you reacting to this in this way? What feels wrong? DO NOT PLAY THIS DOWN AND MINIMIZE Then we need to stop caring what others think Everyone walks through life with their own set of beliefs, values, issues, wounds, fears etc - we will call it our bag of goods. And then they impose their opinion based on this foundation or framework. The advise is always what “they would do” in your shoes. But first, they don't know unless they have walked the same path. And second, they are giving advise based on their own personal bag of goods. When I became a parent which is often the first time we really start reaching out for advice - I made sure to ask someone who parented the way I would like to. Who had similar values and who cared about me from an unselfish place. The other thing to be mindful of is how you ask questions or what questions you ask. What would you do? Instead: What are some things you would suggest I consider? Knowing what you know about me and the situation, what stands out that I might not be seeing. In this way you are asking more general opinion questions that can help you with your decision instead of asking them “what you should do”. I found it the most helpful when I had friends who would let me unload my mind and vomit my thoughts and then maybe ask a few questions while I was still ruminating. Very often, more often than not, I would answer my own question by the time I was done talking or venting. And finally - stop caring about being right Being right or wrong lives inside our ego identity. It's us wanting the world to know the truth. We want to scream from the roof tops, yell on social media and tell everyone Ask yourself why? Why does it matter that they “know the truth”? What is the real benefit in that? Who stands to gain from this knowledge? LIKS MENTIONED AND MORE I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching DON'T MISS THE ITALY RETREAT: Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 EARLY BIRD PRICING IN EFFECT. Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Anger is a massive emotion that can take us over and make us do and say things we later regret. Most of us have also been subjected to other's angry outbursts. But anger can also be a productive and constructive emotion that can move your healing forward, empower you and help you gain confidence. Join this conversation to learn how. You will also hear me talking about the upcoming group coaching experience that starts on May 13th. I am so excited to be running a course again as it has been almost a couple of years since the last one. This is different and has been created to embrace the new times that are present since the grip of Covid ended. It's called THE HEALING HEART: https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheart During the 6 weeks we will: Understand the source of your pain - it might not be as obvious as it seems Connect with your inner story and being honest about what we are saying to ourselves The biggest thing that holds us back is fear. We will work on letting go of fear and empower ourselves and each other to let go of our inner victim. We all have one. Now you are ready to let go of your inner victim and to release your old pain story. It's time to rewrite the story And then we celebrate and make plans. HOW? Mindfulness practices like meditation, visualization and pranayama (breathwork). Group conversations, Q&A and relevant exercises. Worksheets and other suggested "homework" activities. You will walk away from this experience feeling stronger, happier and more confident as you continue to navigate your divorce and life in general. WHY GROUP COACHING? Some might feel hesitant to put themselves out in a group, but it is exactly the group dynamic that is so powerful. Knowing you are not alone, and having the support and friendship of others who are on the same journey is incredibly powerful. We will put the techniques you learn into practice during group coaching sessions. This is a safe place where everyone is working on their own self-love journey. AND JUST FOR THE NEXT 48 HOURS: Enhance your experience by having a coaching session with me before we get started (May 13th) so I can help set you up for success and hit the floor running. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE: The Healing Heart: https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheart DON'T MISS THE ITALY RETREAT: Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 EARLY BIRD PRICING IN EFFECT. Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase's unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Today I talk to you about the various wounds and pain we feel as a result of divorce. And more importantly I want to help you heal it and move forward. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't talk about the pain because it keeps it alive, but I also know that it is alive and well in you and in order to get over it and move forward we do have to feel it. So let's find a constructive way to deal with and understand what we are feeling so we can let go of feeling this way. One of the traumas or challenges I have dealt with in my personal life is what has inspired this episode. It's my own abandonment wound and I am going to start sharing more about this here with you because I believe so many of you also deal with this. And if you didn't have it before your marriage then you likely do now. But I will say that in most cases it already existed prior to this relationship - so there's that. So join me for this new episode and important conversation about your healing regardless of whether it is from your divorce, family, and work relationships or any other relationships. This episode is brought to you by a brand new course or program in The Separation Club - The Healing Heart LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE The Healing Heart: https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheart DON'T MISS THE ITALY RETREAT: Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 EARLY BIRD PRICING IN EFFECT. Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE ITALY RETREAT: Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 EARLY BIRD PRICING IN EFFECT. Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase's unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Not everyone can go on a retreat for any number of reasons, but anyone can access that part of themselves that gives them direct connection with their heart, their joy, their true selves. That's what I want to share with you today. So many of us go unconsciously through life only paying attention to the external factors that are usually dictated by others. It makes us feel powerless, exhausted and often disappointed. Especially when the very people we take our lead from betray us or let us down in some way. The hard truth is that if we can't count on ourselves to be there for us, then you have no one. So join me for this inward journey to your heart, your joy, your very essence and start living from that place as often as you can. That's the true path to happiness and authentic living. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE ITALY RETREAT: Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 EARLY BIRD PRICING IN EFFECT. Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase's unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
I loved having this conversation with Luci Lampe about how they are navigating conscious uncoupling. It's a concept that is appealing to most and seemingly impossible to the majority. Myself included. You might be asking what it is. And you might be wondering if one can be so amicable during a divorce then why can't one figure out how to stay together? The reality is that even though there might still be a lot of love between the couple there can be huge distance between what the two want out of life and especially the relationship. Overcoming those differences often means one or both sacrificing their inner truth and longing. It might mean choosing a path only for the other while knowing that it is not a path that feels good. When presented with a choice like this Luci and her husband chose to part ways instead of trying to change each other's mind. They are being respectful and loving. Plus, Luci is a such an empowering human who is deeply connected to her feminine and we talk about that as well. More about her below. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching ONLY 3 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase's unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 Our guest today - Luci Lampe is a mom of 4, trauma-informed sex & relationship coach, award-winning singer and songwriter, commercial actress & print model, and 3X author. Her writing has been featured on the Huffington Post, Forbes, Entrepreneur.com, CBS, and Fox. After overcoming an autoimmune disorder and embarking on a deep healing journey and spiritual awakening during her then husband's 2-year disability and depression, Luci returned with a bold message of Love, courage, and freedom. Professionally, she draws upon her studies and certifications in neurolinguistic programming, somatic experiencing™️, cognitive behavioral therapy, hypnotherapy, reiki, counseling, EFT tapping, and her degree in Exercise Science, to create unique, powerful programs and curricula for her clients and members. https://lucilampe.com (main site) https://www.instagram.com/lucilampe (Instagram) https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/p/wildly-sovereign (new course, Wildly Sovereign) Wildly Sovereign is a course for women ready to reclaim their voice, cultivate deeper inner Union, liberate their Eros amidst life's challenges, and embody their self-sovereignty (whether or not they're in a relationship).
Blaming - holding others responsible for our pain, discomfort, troubles or anything going badly in our lives. Extremely prevalent during divorce. Everyone wants to be the "good one", the "innocent one" and for no one to perceive us as having caused the divorce or the unhappiness within ourselves or in the other person. All very ego driven. And very normal and understandable because when we blame we feel less vulnerable, less like failures and we receive sympathy, support and validation. But there are costs to the blame game and not just for the one you are blaming. One of the biggest ones: It holds you in the past and in the pain. So join me for this important conversation to help you heal and move forward now that your marriage or relationship is over. Same strategies apply to issue with people in your family, at work etc. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE: ✴️ BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal ✴️ I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching ✴️ ONLY 3 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat ✴️ Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 ✴️ Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase's unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon ✴️ Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist ✴️ Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ ✴️ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
So many things make us feel fear. And especially during big life challenges like divorce, new jobs, big moves etc. We feel fear of the unknown, fear of not being good enough, fear of not having enough, fear of judgment, fear of rejection, fear of being seen, fear of failure, fear of imperfection, fear of abandonment, fear of quitting, fear of death, fear of change, fear of vulnerability, fear of being alone, fear of missing out. As a Spiritual and Intuitive Guide and life coach, I've worked with many different clients who have a wide range of fears that influence how they experience life. In my own journey fear of judgement and fear of abandonment have been the major fears that impact me and how I show up. Fear is an emotional state of mind that triggers a deep seeded belief that has been programmed around how you view yourself and life as a whole. When someone has a fear it's not as easy as changing your mind about the way you view the situation, because subconsciously you are carrying a belief that says your fear is 100% based in fact. Your body has been programmed to believe something that may in fact not be true. What happens if we don't do the work to overcome fear? It turns to anger - anger feels more powerful and is less vulnerable Anger causes poor judgement, bad choices and can cause more harm to an already volatile situation. How do we overcome fear? Get used to doing things that scare you - in other words, practice being courageous Let go of control - when try to control outcomes, situations to alleviate fears, but if we don't succeed it only feeds our fears and trying to control something that is not in our hands is a losing battle. It's like I have said before - you can't control what someone else chooses to do - so let it go. The 5 questions And many more ideas mentioned in the episode Remind yourself that fear holds many lessons. So grab your Joy Journal and start writing with this prompt: Thank you fear for stopping by. As you leave me now I want to thank you for teaching me the following: I would love to hear what you learned about yourself and your fear. Please share under my post about this podcast or share it and tag me so I can cheer you on.
This is an episode that came to me on morning and I never had to write down any notes. I am a strong believe in our ability to choose our life, our perspective and how we want to feel every day. Some days we achieve that feeling easier than others and some day it's out of reach all day. But if we don't even try to find the calm, the peace and the love in our days then for certain most days will not be easy. You deserve peace in your life and you can create that for yourself and in doing so you are helping create that for your family and those you love. I wish you all the peace and love and happiness in the world. And I am here to help you get more in touch with that through this podcast and the work that I do. I would love to work with you to achieve this. Send me a message on social media, grab one of the coaching packages linked below or email me and let's start doing this work together. Or you could join one of my retreats.
Deciding to leave your marriage can feel like an impossible and overwhelming decision. Deciding to stay in an unhappy marriage also feels so so hard. Figuring out the way forward and what is right for you and your family - well that's what we talk about today with Cindy Stibbard who has an impressive resume and some stories to tell. Remember it is not a failure to end your marriage, the failure lies in doing nothing. And it is not weakness to need help - in fact it takes so much courage to ask for exactly that. I am waiting for you call so we can get started working towards making those decision in a way that feels true to you and aligns with your integrity. I know you are so brave and strong even when you feel like the exact opposite. If nothing else, know that I believe in you. And if you can believe in my belief of you then you are half way there. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE: BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching ONLY 4 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase's unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 Cindy Stibbard, a compassionate entrepreneur and devoted single mother of two teenagers, is the visionary force behind Divorce ReDefined. Her own journey through a high-conflict divorce, followed by the sudden loss of her post-divorce partner, sparked a profound transformation in her life. Her personal experiences have not only shaped Cindy's outlook but also fuelled her dedication to inspiring others to embrace their own transformative journeys after such momentous and sometimes unexpected life transitions. With a unique perspective and unwavering empathy, Cindy intervenes at the contemplation stage, empowering individuals to make informed decisions with clarity and confidence about their relationship. Through Divorce ReDefined, she provides unwavering support, guiding clients toward a path that aligns with their well-being and aspirations. With Divorce ReDefined, Cindy strives to eradicate the stigma surrounding divorce and foster a culture of understanding, empathy, and personal growth. Through her coaching, she inspires hundreds of individuals every year to redefine their divorce experience and embark on their transformational journey by showing them that it is possible to rewrite their life narratives. Cindy Stibbard, BA, BEd, CDC®, CDS® CHCC™, ABA CEO of Divorce ReDefined CDC® Certified Divorce & Transition Coach CDS® Certified Divorce SpecialistCHCC™ Chartered Career Coach Member of the American Bar Association (ABA) Member of the National Association of Divorce Professionals (NADP) www.divorceredefined.ca info@divorceredefined.ca cindystibbardcoaching@gmail.com IG: @divorceredefined Clubhouse: @redefinedivorce LinkedIn: Cindy Stibbard - Divorce ReDefined FB: Divorce ReDefined MeetUp Vancouver: Divorce ReDefined
Valentine's Day post separation and divorce can be a heavy day emotionally. First, let's remember that it's just another day until you say it's otherwise. This year, Wednesday makes it feel a little easier because it's not a big weekend thing. What are your expectations, or what were they when you were married or in a relationship? Honestly it is mostly, if not entirely, women who have a problem with this day. Huge expectations if in a relationship and feeling lonely and unloved if you aren't. Noticing all the others receiving flowers and you're not for example. Do you notice the other women who are in relationships and don't? Do you notice the women who receive flowers but don't seem happy about it? Do you know anything about what is going on in their relationship because of those flowers or that dinner out? Just because someone is doing all the right things for their partner that day doesn't mean anything. Let's make this the year we stop. And if you are not able to entirely ignore the day which is hard I get it, then let's at least plan to have a fabulous day/evening. So here are some ideas which by the way can be incorporated any day of the year that you are feeling a bit left out or unloved or lonely like on a birthday, or anniversary or any day. Plan to do something nice for yourself and be your own lover. If you say you are lonely then you are. If you make plans to love yourself that day instead then that's who you are. Some ideas for a single's Valentine's Day: If flowers are important to you then go and buy yourself some flowers. Or perhaps buy some seeds that you can plant for your spring/summer garden outside or on your balcony. Call your BFFs No one can make you feel better the way a very best friend can. Ask her for a little time on this day. She will remind you how loved you are. Make plans with other single friends Make plans for yourself like to go to a yoga class, the gym or maybe a Zumba class Plan a movie night with a horror flick if you like those or an action move. Avoid all romance movies obviously. Or maybe a really excellent documentary is your thing and you cna spend the evening watching the wonders of the world or the cycle of life of the Animal kingdom. You could go all out and plan a spa day/weekend either alone or with a friend Go on a date with your kids - I have had some of the best VDs doing this. And they will love it. Maybe doing something symbolic isn't your thing - instead cozy up with a good book or even your journal like the Joy Journal. Maybe this day will be the perfect day to complete the vision pages in the journal or the Dreams and intention pages. Stay off social media all together. And that starts in the morning or even the night before. And the day after. Whatever you need to do to avoid all the braggy VD photos and declarations of love. Start making a list today of things you can do or choosing your favourite ideas off this list so you are well prepared and plans are in place. If you sense that this is going to be a difficult day then don't leave it to chance. Choose what you want to do, make plans to that happens. You are not alone. So find someone to spend the day with if that's what you want. There you have it. Please let me know what you chose to do and share a picture on Instagram or in the Facebook group and tag me. Maybe next year the list of ideas for things you can do will be twice as long. I love you big time. Elisabeth
Karma can tend to get a bad wrap. It's often misunderstood and just as often misused and especially during divorce it seems. Join me for a fun and illuminating conversation about all things Karma. Let's clear it up once and for all - literally. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching ONLY 4 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase's unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE ONLY 5 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase's unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Often the biggest obstacle to our healing is our focus on the pain. It just draws us in understandably and in doing so prevents us from healing. You can't do both at the same time. They are opposites. If you are focused on the pain you aren't healing. If you are focused on your healing you are feeling much less pain until you don't feel any at all. Join me for all the understanding around this important topic. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE ONLY 5 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Join our vibrant and wonderful membership community and start building your village. And for a limited time you can get a free month! https://www.theseparationclub.com/offers/2qyxzDMn Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase's unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon We are having some good fun and inviting in divine wisdom through a daily Tarot card reading sent to your inbox every morning for FREE! You can sign up for that here: https://www.theseparationclub.com/dailytarot Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @theseparationclub where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Journaling is recommended by just about every coach, therapist, counselor and I am no exception. But I am not talking about writing a diary like you might have as a little girl or teenager and this is not about your to do list either. This is journaling for the purposes of healing, fostering inner growth and going on a self-discovery journey. That's why I created The Joy Journal (TJJ) and I am beyond excited to be able to share it with you here today along with everything else you need to know about how to get the most out of your journaling. There really are only two steps to journaling: Buy a journal Start writing First BUY A JOURNAL. And choose one that you want to write in. Whether it is a guided one or blank or is pretty or not - choose one that resonates with you. There are many reasons or benefits to starting a journaling practice: Reducing anxiety Lowering stress Releasing painful thoughts and feelings like grief, sorrow and heart break. It's also a great way to get in touch with who we are and our core values It's a way to get to know yourself and A wonderful mindfulness practice To name a few…. So this is why you buy a journal Second, START WRITING. Join me as I share several strategies and tools to help you get started writing in your journal daily. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching ONLY 5 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 Join our vibrant and wonderful membership community and start building your village. And for a limited time you can get a free month! https://www.theseparationclub.com/offers/2qyxzDMn Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase's unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon We are having some good fun and inviting in divine wisdom through a daily Tarot card reading sent to your inbox every morning for FREE! You can sign up for that here: https://www.theseparationclub.com/dailytarot Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @theseparationclub where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
Wishing you all the joy, happiness and peace during this holiday season. As we close out the year the focus is to let go of the things that no longer nourish and serve us to create space for the things we want to grow and expand into. Be gentle and kind with yourself. Rest and nourish your heart, body and soul. I'll be back next week. In love and light, Elisabeth Joy ✨
Join me for a great conversation with past client Emily Pennystone. She has truly embraced her journey forward when her marriage ended and she sure had a number of hurtles to overcome. She is now turning her journey into learning and helping women build their trust in themselves. Self-trust often comes up in my coaching sessions and within the group. Women feel they can't trust their judgement because they chose a "bad" partner. Or they feel incapable of the healing and happiness they so badly want. I look forward to hearing what you think of this episode. And below you will of course find all the relevant links to what I mentioned in the episode. LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching ONLY 5 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 Join our vibrant and wonderful membership community and start building your village. And for a limited time you can get a free month! https://www.theseparationclub.com/offers/2qyxzDMn Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase's unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon We are having some good fun and inviting in divine wisdom through a daily Tarot card reading sent to your inbox every morning for FREE! You can sign up for that here: https://www.theseparationclub.com/dailytarot Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/ You can also find me on Instagram @theseparationclub where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. OUR GUEST TODAY: Emily Pennystone - Mindset & Intuitive Coach Bio: Emily is a mother, entrepreneur, and artist who helps women and entrepreneurs restore their relationship with self trust so they can begin the legacy work they will be known for. She uses her intuitive gifts in her mentorship course Master Your Fate to support transformations that feel like a homecoming. Instagram: @bumbly Website: www.emilypennystone.com Email: hello@emilypennystone.com
I feel like I talk about this alot, but still women ask me to talk about it more. I sometimes wonder if some just aren't ready to hear what I am saying, not quite ready to hear the truth - namely that their healing lies within themselves and not in the punishment of the abuser. There is a lot of time spent talking about Karma and unfairness of the courts etc in these cases and I do hear that. But I also know that the only way to heal is to find your way back to yourself and heal within yourself. Whatever does or doesn't happen to the other person has no real effect on your life unless you let it. And that in itself is disempowering and exactly where the abuser is enabled to thrive. Hard times open our eyes and hearts to questions and new choices. Challenges force us to look at things differently. Emotional pain finds us asking for peace, love and the absence of pain. It is during these difficult moments, events and times that we have the opportunity to discover ourselves, our inner callings, values and desires and even to touch on the greater meaning of life. Getting divorced is not an experience I would wish on anyone including myself. However, instead of only viewing it as an ending and something bad, I found so much peace and healing in seeing the possibilities that existed because of this massive life shift. Today I am going to share my journey with you broken down into 10 steps (with several substeps)
Most of us want to one day meet someone again after divorce. But dating after divorce can feel so scary. Our trust has been shaken as has our faith in true lasting love. We read quotes and sayings about soul-mates and what true love "should" look like, sound like etc. But that's not reality, it's just good writing. So what is the key to feeling loved and seen and chosen? The answer is simple - love yourself, see yourself and choose yourself first. Not so simple you say... Ok let's dive into the episode and see if I can help you at all. And if you would like some more help with this after the episode then I invite you to choose yourself by choosing to do the work with me.
Divorce overwhelm is a real thing felt by just about everyone going through it. It's the emotions, the things that have to be done, the money that is being spent and all the stuff going on like conflict, heavy conversations etc etc etc. In today's episode I will be sharing 2 strategies and many tips to help you through this. As usual these are easily accessible for you to incorporate into your life. I've got you!
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