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In this episode, Braxton sits with Aleki Manu to discuss how he engages his children in learning about life, sex, and relationships. He talks about how he engages with his wife and the principles of how he lives his life.  I've received feedback that people like the logical approach to sexual education and relationships, and people want to know what it looks like in REAL LIFE. They want to know the "How do others approach this?" This is one way to peer into how others approach these topics. Take what fits for you and leave the rest.  I'd love to hear what you think of this segment.  Leki shares his approach to parenting, partnering, and being. A theme you may feel in this episode is "allowing."  The segment is here to support you in hearing real-life individuals sharing how THEY have conversations, live their life, and engage in the important matters of sexual health. This is Leki's approach. Relax and Enjoy.   

Braxton and Cami Discuss Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein    Interesting to talk about Girls and Sex last month and now we're transitioning to boys this month!  We talk about the reactions we have, insights as AASECT Certified Sex Therapists, and what we rank the book and who should listen to it.    We'd love your thoughts on the book, what books we should review next, any experiences you had. Contact us!    Thanks again for listening, from Sex Therapy 101 and Birds and Bees Podcast    Braxton presents to large and small groups on sexual health. please contact him at if you're interested in having him speak at your next event. 

Today in this Birds and Bees Collaboration with Sex Therapy 101 is covering Better Sex Through Mindfulness by Lori Brotto  This is the perfect supplement to the last episode about Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski.   Braxton and Cami discuss what supports come from the book. They give their insights as sex therapists and how they encourage their clients to implement these practices. They explore what mindful practices are supportive and simple methods of implementing them.  They give the book a rating and let listeners know what book this pairs well with. 

Discussing State of Affairs by Esther Perell 

The Sexy Book Club discusses the book Girls and Sex by Peggy Orenstein.    Braxton and Cami give our recommendations to the book, insights as AASECT Certified Sex Therapists, and rate the book and who should read it.    We'd love to have you follow along and read with us monthly. Feel free to join the conversation and email us your thoughts and books we should read for the next Sexy Book Club.    Thanks for listening! From Sex Therapy 101 and Birds and Bees Podcast 

A colaboration between Birds and Bees Podcast Braxton Dutson and Sex Therapy 101 with Cami Hurst Today we discuss topics from the book Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski  Its a fascinating book where Emily breaks down the research about sexual desire, action, and what is normal. She explores Sexual Excitors (The Gas) and Sexual Inhibitors (The Breaks) along with so much more about sexual expression and how YOU are NORMAL!  Come talk with Braxton and Cami about the book email braxton with your comments, thoughts, and ideas for books at   This book is available on Audible for your listening convenience.  Check out other resources from Braxton Dutson -  An online course on how to address children, teens and pornography

We are having the pornography talk today, I know, it can be a scary topic and we're going to take it head-on to give you the tools to feel confident in having these conversations.    What do I say? How do I bring it up? If I talk about it will that MAKE them look for porn?? What if they don't want me talking about it at all?!   Cath Hakanson is a sex educator, sexual health blogger (Sex Ed Rescue) and nurse in Australia. Cath is with me today to answer all of these questions and to give you tools to start the conversation no matter the age of your child.  Your children will be exposed to pornography, it's not a question of "if," but "when." The goal of this episode is to help you start these conversations, calm some of your concerns, encourage you to start these talks (Yes, TALKS) about pornography with your kids. You can do this!! Cath also has many other supportive resources to check out if this episode leaves you hungry for more. She offers a lot of support through her blog and website at   Here is a link to one of the posts we reference in the show which labels some of the steps you can take to have these talks   If you enjoy this podcast please consider leaving a donation via Venmo @BraxtonDutson. Thank you for your consideration, any amount helps the podcast immensely.  Thank you again for listening. I appreciate you being a part of the hive. -Braxton- Listen on , , , , and     Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage  

What lengths do you go to meet expectations? For most men, sexual performance is one where, no pun intended, men go to great lengths for an extra inch or two. Men also compare themselves with others in regards to sexual stamina, girth and so on. Some even get alterations that are dangerous and ineffective in the long run. Today we are talking today about PE, Penis diseases, delayed ejaculation the P Shot and penis elongation.  These topics are topics people don’t typically like talking about. We are addressing them with a board-certified urologist because it really is at the heart of what many men are concerned about. We are taking these difficult topics head on because some men take desperate actions to change their sexual experience which long term causes harm.   Dr Brandeis is the Director of Clinical Excellence for GAINSWave. He has served as the Chief of Urology at John Muir Hospital for the past 8 years. As Chief of Urology he helped to start the Surgical Robotics Program at the Concord Campus in 2002. He is the lead trainer for Male Sexual Wellness for REVIVE. IF you find this episode supportive, I encourage to think of someone who could use this episode and share it with them. We’re all growing together in these discussions and you sharing this may be the support they need to start these important conversations with their kids.   Be sure to check out my course on how to talk to your kids about pornography and what to do when you find out your child has been exposed to pornographic images. I just released 2  e-courses on "" AND "" Go check out these courses on I have a link on the front page you can follow to get these courses. I’d love to hear how it helps you.   If you have questions you would like to ask Braxton feel free to contact him via email, voice mail, or through social media. text/call 385-449-1818 or email me at   Thank you again for listening. I appreciate you being a part of the hive.   Listen on , , , , and     Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage  

The fear many men have is the thought or experience of losing an erection. This fear can be from a lived experience, concern for the future, and the worry of what their partner will think.   Now I could talk about how many social misconceptions there are about the penis and how erections tend to be seen as the end all be all of sexual functioning. However, Today I have Dr Judson Brandeis with me to talk about preventing erectile dysfunction and managing it if you experience it already. He even has some options of joining cutting edge  research that could help you with your ED.   Dr Brandeis is the Director of Clinical Excellence for GAINSWave. He has served as the Chief of Urology at John Muir Hospital for the past 8 years. As Chief of Urology he helped to start the Surgical Robotics Program at the Concord Campus in 2002. He is the lead trainer for Male Sexual Wellness for REVIVE. And in my experience, an expert in putting research into lamen's terms. Dr Brandies is going to give us 5 things every male bodied person can do to help prevent and treat ED, address the 3 pillars of manhood, and invite you to participate in cutting edge research to continue improving how we treat ED.   Many people have been asking me to make a course on how to talk to their kids about pornography and what to do when they find out their kids have seen pornographic images. I just released 2  e-courses on "" AND "" Go check out these courses on I have a link on the front page you can follow to get these courses. I’d love to hear how it helps you.   If you have questions you would like to ask Braxton feel free to contact him via email, voice mail, or through social media. text/call 385-449-1818 or email me at   Thank you again for listening. I appreciate you being a part of the hive.   Listen on , , , , and     Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage  

Braxton has been interviewing sex therapists for the past two years. Today he is interviewed about his experiences in being a sex therapist.   Braxton talks about issues he has seen as a therapist and what issues he continues to see show up. He shares his story about why he became a sex therapist, his calling as a sex therapist, What he wants everyone to know about masturbation, pornography, sexual health conversations, and WHY he decided to break the world record for chugging mustard.    He talks to members of religious communities especially members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. He talks about the 3 C's why children look at pornography, and how parents can best respond when their child has been exposed to pornography.    If you have questions you would like to ask Braxton feel free to contact him via email, voice mail, or through social media. text/call 385-449-1818 or email me at   Thank you again for listening. I appreciate you being a part of the hive.   Listen on , , , , and     Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage  

Why do people take birth control even if they’re not sexually active? As a male, how can I better support my partner in contraception? How do I even start talking to my teen about contraception? Do I need to if I just teach them abstinence?   Today we’re talking about these questions and more. Its all about contraception how to implement it, understanding it, and teaching it to our teens.   Rebecca Simmons  is one of the presenters of the RMSS this event, they will be presenting on Novmeber 16 on contraception and how it affects our choices in sexual practices. Today’s episode is meant to give us a general understanding about contraception with men, how to talk to teens about contraception and laws that affect contraception.   This interview is brought to you by The Rocky Mountain Sex Summit. The 2019 Rocky Mountain Sex Summit will be doing a deep dive into reproductive sexual health.   Rebecca Simmons, PHD is a Research Assistant Professor at the University of Utah in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology. Dr. Simmons directs the evaluation for the statewide contraceptive initiative, Family Planning Elevated, and works on other implementation research. Her research interests and expertise include fertility awareness-based methods, comprehensive contraceptive access, health technology, and implementation science.   If you have any questions please feel free to leave a voicemail or text at 385-449-1818 or email me at   I will be on The Late Late Show with James Corden on November 18 to chug mustard to encourage parents to "mustard" the courage to talk to kids about sexual health. I'd love to have you join me!   Thank you again for listening. I appreciate you being a part of the hive.

Dale Miller is a sex educator at The Smitten Kitten and they are on the show today to give us up to date facts about lubrication, dispel myths and answer the questions about lube that you never thought to ask!   Dale Miller is one of the presenters of the RMSS this event, they will be presenting on November 16, 2019 on everything you need to know about lubrication. Today’s episode is meant to give us a general understanding of lubrication.   This interview is brought to you by The Rocky Mountain Sex Summit. The 2019 Rocky Mountain Sex Summit will be doing a deep dive into reproductive sexual health by bringing in the best and the brightest literally from around the world share the content that is LEADING the conversation on reproductive sexual health.   Understanding our reproductive journey?   What is the impact of contraceptive choices on our sex life?   What's the role of ovulation in the overall health of a female?   How is perimenopause influencing sexual health, mental health, emotional health and relationships as a whole?   What are the resources and options we can provide to our clients to help them feel informed and empowered as it relates to menstruation, contraception, perimenopause?   The RMSS will be covering these topics and more! go to Rockymountainsexsummit.com to get your tickets or find out more.   This event is for everybody not just clinicians.   On a personal note, I have been invited onto The Late Late Show with James Corden on November 18 to chug mustard. While I won’t be able to explain to the audience that I chug mustard to encourage parents to "mustard" up the courage to talk to their kids about sexual health, I will be up there chugging for all of you to keep the buzz alive!   IF you find this episode supportive I encourage you to think of someone who could use this episode and share it with them. We’re all growing together in these discussions and you sharing this may be the support they need to start these important conversations with their kids.   If you have any questions please feel free to leave a voicemail or text at 385-449-1818 or email me at   Thank you again for listening. I appreciate you being a part of the hive.   Listen on , , , , and     Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Do you have painful periods? How about irregular periods? Have you taken birth control to "regulate" your periods? Are you a partner of someone who experiences issues with periods? Lara Briden is on the show with me today. She has over 25 years experience working with women and issues with menstruation. She has followed the cutting edge research dealing with periods. She's on the show today to give us a sneak peak into her upcoming presentation called "Ovulation Matters" at the  (RMSS) on November 16. In this episode we talk about the evidence in research that has been coming out. Some common misconceptions, issues with hormonal birth control, what actions you can take with nutrition to address some common symptoms and the topics she'll be covering at the RMSS. This is such an important topic because 3.75 billion people in the world are female bodied individuals. Almost all of them experience menstruation. It is such a common experience and has historically been under-researched and many women suffer from PCOS, endometriosis, irregular and painful periods. Frequently told that it's normal and to just "suffer through it." Lara is here to share the news that it does not need to be something to suffer through. This episode is brought to you by the rocky mountain sex summit. If you'd like to attend the RMSS in salt lake 2019 visit RMSS.com to register. - Resources from the Show Her book we reference in the show - Listen on , , , , and     Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

What do I do about Snap Chat and the possibility of my teen sending nudes? If masturbation is against my beliefs how do I bring it up with my teen while following my values? How do I get my teen to respect boundaries? Dr Holly Richmond is on the show with me again, this time to address boundaries with teens. We are talking implicit and explicit communication in the family, how that affects teen behavior, why the "lockdown" parenting style is problematic and ways to teach your teen boundaries. This is such an important topic because of the amount of teens who have access to electronic devices now days and how demanding action from a teen can be as easy as telling a baby to stop crying. Dr Holly Richmond and I explore the conversations to be having with your children right now to prep them to become teens who know boundaries, set their own boundaries and respect boundaries. We also explore methods to approach masturbation and values and helpful conversation starters when approaching teens about sexual health. If you find this episode supportive I encourage to think of someone who could use this episode and share it with them. We’re all growing together in these discussions and you sharing this may be the support they need to start these important conversations with their teens. If you have any questions please feel free to leave a voicemail or text at 385-449-1818 or email me at birdsandbeespodcast@gmail.com A listener asked if I give presentations. Yes, I do! I present to religious groups, couples, and parents about masturbation and values, addressing out of control sexual behavior, how to address kids looking at porn, and building intimacy during infertility. Check out my presentation page at birdsandbeespodcast.com I love questions from listeners, keep them coming in! Thank you again for listening. I appreciate you being a part of the hive.   Listen on , , , , and     Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Does it feel like sexual connection has taken a backseat to parenting? Are you just waiting for your kids to get older for better sexual experiences? Do you ask yourself, "what is appropriate to tell my kids when when they wonder what we do in our room?" Dr Holly Richmond is a somatic (body-focused) psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT). Dr Richmond has been featured in Vogue, New Your Times, Netflix, NBC News Forbes and many other media outlets helping relationships across the world. She is also a mother of two young children and is putting this topic to work for herself. In this episode we are exploring ways to keep sexual connection alive in the parenting years while also teaching your children about respecting your privacy. This is such an important topic because of the amount of parents I see coming into my office longing for more physical and sexual connection but being unsure about ways to obtain it with young children. Dr Holly Richmond and I explore quickies, conversations, planning, and other methods to take back your sex life from late night tired and possibly frustrating experiences, to times where it is best for you and your partner. Often we put our relationship last as we parent children, It can feel selfish or unloving. In this episode you'll find why it's important to challenge that thought and ways to improve your sexual connection starting today. If you have any questions please feel free to leave a voicemail or text at 385-449-1818 or email me at birdsandbeespodcast@gmail.com Thank you again for listening. I appreciate you being a part of the hive.   Resources from the show.  Sensate Focused Therapy For couples that are interested in learning more about this method we spoke about on the show.    Sex is a Funny Word by  Great for 4-8 year olds.      Listen on , , , , and     Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

What have you been told sex would feel like for the first time? How do I keep novelty in a committed long-term relationship? What kind of sex life do I want my child to have when they are adults?   Earthly parents are the author of the book “And It was very good” one member of Earthly Parents joins me today to explore these questions and address many of the myths that people believe about sex.   Hey everyone, This is Braxton Dutson welcome to Birds and Bees Podcast    This interview is unique because we will be speaking to individuals who identify themselves with a more orthodox religious belief. While his book is directed toward the Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. The discussion is relevant to anyone who is planning on being in a committed relationship while participating in religion.   As for the last question, “What kind of sex life do I want my child to have when they are adults” We help parents explore this question for themselves as a tool to guide conversations with young adults as they look toward their future relationships.   The authors have generously offered their book to The Birds and Bees Podcast listeners for free. All you need to do is email and ask for the book. They’ll email you a copy of the book. I personally have found the book to be a great tool for those who want to address sex in their relationship while being a part of an orthodox religious belief system. Especially if you are a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.    

In the last episode we learned just how prevalent STD/STIs are and ways to talk to your teens about them.  Today, on Birds and Bees Podcast, Jenelle Marie Pierce returns with advice/information about what YOU need to know about STDs. Whether you enjoy one night stands, open relationships, celibacy or monogamy you need to know about STIs. Jenelle tells about her experience with Herpies, what getting tested is like, when you should get tested, and what it means if you contract an STI and other important tidbits about STD/STIs Many people wonder if an STD/STI is the end of your social/love life?? Jenelle has a few words about what having an STD really means for your future.  Jenelle is an advocate for sexual health and would love to hear your questions. you can email her questions or email Braxton Dutson your questions about STDs. She has gracefully offered to come back on the show for a Q and A when we get some questions put together.          Listen on , , , , and      Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage  

What is an STD? What are STIs? What's the difference? Probably one of the first questions Jenelle is asked anytime she speaks about STDs. It's a great question and probably a question your teenager has probably asked you before.  What do you think of when you think of your child having an STD? Fear? Shame? Distress? What might your reaction to your child be if they were diagnosed with an STD? These questions, along with many others, are addressed in this episode of Birds and Bees Podcast with Jenelle Marie Pierce. Today she is speaking with Braxton about what teens don't usually know about STD/STIs. She covers what misconceptions are commonly taught, what they need to know and what you need to know as a parent. "I don't need to have this talk with my child because we teach to wait for sex until marriage." I love that you're having these conversations with your child. However, even if we are teaching abstinence until marriage there are other ways to contract STIs. With how much of a world wide issue this is, it is important that our teens understand STDs.  Braxton and Jenelle explore how to address STD conversations with your children, continuing curiosity with your teen after a diagnosis of STI, and    Resources spoken about in the show.        Listen on , , , , and      Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

When someone "comes out" in their sexual/gender orientation one of the first questions is "what does that mean for their relationship with God?" This question is based on the social assumptions of them leaving a religious belief and needing to "gain" a spirituality somewhere else. What if an individual who identifies as "queer" has all the spirituality in themselves? What if this is the case for all of us? Braxton speaks with Jerry Buie, LCSW about queer spirituality. Jerry gives a history of how queer individuals have been revered in different cultures and indigenous peoples. He explores the way we look and experience "spirituality" in our interactions with others especially if you are, or know someone who identifies as queer.  In a world where all of us live in a society that has a dominant religious belief, there is room for exploring what spirituality means, how to explore your own spirituality and how to be supportive and connected to your yourself, your child or your grandchild who identifies as queer.    Listen on , , , , and      Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage  

Masturbation, There are a lot of euphemisms for the word that makes many people uncomfortable to talk about. Let's face it, many parents are worried about what it means if their child masturbates.    If you are a parent who wants to be able to support your child in building values around masturbation while also avoiding shaming them then this episode is for you. Braxton and Natasha Heifer-Parker, MFT, CST are here to help dispel myths, talk about values, talk about masturbation, and to support parents in creating a value-centric view on masturbation. This is especially supportive for those who live in religious communities and practice themselves.    Many of us have grown up in a religious setting that explicitly or overtly teaches values about masturbation. It is difficult to be able to follow these values while also addressing the reality that the majority of children are participating in self-soothing/masturbation practices.    In this Episode we explore:    The question "when does masturbation usually start?"   Speaking to values when addressing masturbation    Different approaches to conversations about masturbation with your child.    Avoiding shame when having these (multiple) conversations.    Creating "I Do's" in what you value, VS following a "to Do" list.   Historical views of Masturbation and how they affect us now.    Identifying what we want for our children as a sexual being later in life.    Offering a value-centric view on Masturbation in religious communities while addressing the ways we can best support our children.    Natasha Helfer-Parker, MFT, CST speaks with Braxton about being able to explore these topics, address uncomfortable situations, and improve your understanding about "The M word."    Listen on , , , , and      Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

On B&BP we talk a lot about teaching your children about sexual health but what if your child is on the autism spectrum? This can bring many new questions to the table. Tara Pennington and I hope to shed some light on autism and sexuality. While we can't cover it all in an hour (or many hours at that) we wanted to start here. I met with Tara Pennington who has been working with individuals who have been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) for over 15 years. We're here to talk about autism and sexuality, a topic that can be hard to speak about for many parents. We're glad you're joining us.  Tara and I explore some of the issues that arise when we think of sexual health and Autism. Tara give some helpful tips on parenting a child on the spectrum with ways to interact and support your child. We explore sexual topics that usually create an uncomfortable feeling for parents and we explore resources for parents.    Listen on , , , , and     Resources    Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Have you been to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit for a baby? Do you know someone who's there right now with their child or has been there with their baby? chances are it was a scary situation, unplanned, and difficult to understand what was happening. Devin and Cami found themselves in this situations on a couple of occasions.   Interestingly enough Devin is a therapist and Cami works for a hospital who provides services to the NICU. They are sharing their story with us today and the insights they feel other parents need to know if their baby needs to stay in the NICU.    Cami and Devin explore the emotional, mental, and physical stressors they experienced, what to expect in the NICU postpartum, methods they used to seek closure, and advice they would give to any parent going through this scary situation. 

Braxton Dutson sits down with Lennie Knowlton, CMHC to discuss shame and how it affects everybody. They explore what you don't know about how shame and trauma affect the body, how the body is made to respond, why your therapy may be working against your natural instincts and what you can do to start changing your shame cycle.    Read the Entire script at birdsandbeespodcast.com    Lennie speaks to these specific topics find them around around 5 minutes after the set timestamp.             NEUROBIOLOGY             TRAUMA MAKES OUR BRAINS UNWILLING TO BE VULNERABLE             DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SHAME AND GUILT            THE IMORTANCE OF MINDFULNESS TO ADDRESS DISTRESS            PROTECTING CHILDREN FROM SHAME BY ADDRESSING PARENTAL SHAME.            CONNECTION IS THE ANTIDOTE TO SHAME            HOW DO WE EMPATHIZE WITH OURSELVES            EXCLUSION IS A SHAME TRIGGER "YOU'RE ENOUGH IF"   Resources from the show: Find these on our website in the notes of this episode. We will have links to these resources.  Dan Siegel "Brain Storm" book Yohan Hari Brene Brown "The Daring Way" book  Kristin Neff (The Art of Self-Compassion) Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

We often see Manipulation in only a negative light. However, in this episode we identify ways you can use manipulation to benefit your relationship, improve your win/win situations with your children, and get what you want without causing damage. It takes a lot of self-awareness and empathy to be responsible with your words while realizing what they could do in your relationship down the road. Braxton and Peter talk about manipulation parents use on each other, teens, and children as well as what manipulation children use on parents. We also cover how to address them so real communication can occur.   See below for main topics we discuss and where they can be found in the show (maybe add 5 minutes to each because the introduction is taken out. See bolded sections in transcript to read on the topic or skip to the approximate time in the recording) OUR BRAINS CANT HOLD TWO THINGS AT ONCE.                       FLOODING AND REPETITION MANIPULATION RADICAL EMPATHY RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN TEENAGERS AND PARENTS        HOW TRIANGULATION WORKS and HOW TO DEFUSE IT                    CONSENT             THIS IS NOT MEANT TO SHAME YOU THE WOMAN IN THE RED DRESS, PLAYING INTO THE PATTERN                                                 Resources from the show: Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

How would you like to know when you're being manipulated? Have you ever felt like you were manipulated in a relationship? Chances are you, and everyone else you know has felt manipulated at one time or another. What if I were to tell you that you're being manipulated right now? Yes, the people you interact with on a daily basis are manipulating you! But wait, there's more. YOU manipulate too! That's right. Humans manipulate each other each and every day whether we realize it or not. In this episode, we talk about forms of manipulation and how to recognize them. Now we often talk about manipulation as a bad/negative thing that only mean people do. While manipulation can be used as a tool for control it can also be a tool used for good in a relationship. Peter Monson was trained as a US army interrogator and works in politics and communications. He has a simple and effective way of identifying how manipulation takes on different forms using Marvel Characters, specifically Spiderman, The Hulk, and Thor. We talk on the show today about what manipulation is damaging in a relationship, and what manipulation techniques can take you from a win/lose situation to a win/win situation which can positively affect your relationship for years to come. Manipulation can be very harmful and damaging (like the Hulk getting the bad guy) and we are not trying to downplay the harm someone can do with manipulation. We are advocating for collaborative manipulation and using methods to improve your relationship with your children, your partner, your wife, your husband, and anyone else you interact with on a daily basis. Do you agree with the signs we point out? Do you think manipulation can ever be a positive thing? Let us know by calling 385-449-1818 or texting us at that number. Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

We all go through difficult times in our relationships. But what happens when the challenges take us to our limits? What if this relationships ISN'T meant to be?? These questions were common in Robbert and Kelsey's marriage as big challenges started just a month after being married. We cover what difficulties they experienced that continued to threaten their marriage such as pornography, bankruptcy, emotional disconnection, emotional abuse, unwanted pregnancy, postpartum depression, and others. They walk us through the way their marriage was reduced to ashes and the changes they took for their relationship Phoenix to emerge.    While many relationships face challenges that can be overcome. This episode is not meant to guilt, force, or coerce anyone who feels they need to leave a relationship, to stay. This is one couple's experience on their journey of intimacy. If you are in an unsafe relationship, or otherwise looking to end your relationship please seek professional support and safety. This episode is neither meant to diagnose offer advice or treat difficulties in relationships.  Thank you for listening, we would love to hear what you experienced listening to the episode. leave us a review or contact us at 3854491818.    Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Teen pregnancy has been decreasing in recent years and there are other challenges that face our teens besides the risk of pregnancy. Kim Cavill is a sex educator and teen pregnancy prevention speciallist who has been teaching high school students about sexual health in Austrailia and the USA for years!     How many teens are sexually active, how can you help your child wait to be sexually active, how to connect with your child if they are sexually active, and how to reduce risks teenagers are faced with.     She talks about the 4 main issues that affect teen pregnancy rates, the problem with rising STI/STD rates, HPV vaccinations and their connection to cancers, and how to support teens in creating/following their personal sexualµ health goals and boundaries.     What does it mean if your teen is pregnant? What do you do next? is their future ruined? Kim covers these questions and topics in this interview. There is a lot to consider when working with teens and sex is no exception.   Resources for the show.   Following the Evidence to Reduce Unplanned Pregnancy   Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Braxton meets with Dr. Jenn from Dr She is a sex therapist, presenter, and mindfulness expert. She is on the show today to explore just how important mindfulness is when it comes to sex. Dr Jenn covers what mindfulness is, how it's different than meditation, how to use it when sexual drive is not where you want it to be, and many other ways mindfulness can increase your sexual expeirences.  Dr. Jenn discusses her upcoming book "from Maddness to Mindfulness" and places you can go to improve your mindfulness in sexuality. Here are some of the resources discussed in the show birdsandbeespodcast.com  

Reva Cook speaks with Braxton about making peace with your body. She explores the research of accepting your body right now. It can be difficult to wrap our brains around body acceptance without the thought of future change.  Buckle up Hive-Mates Reva is about to challenge your brain, beliefs, and actions for the better. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. You can find all of these and more at Birdsandbeespodcast.com

Braxton worked on a collaborative podcast with Digital Adventure Crew. Their YouTube channel creates fun videos with crazy skits as well as interesting conversations on their podcast "digital adventure radio." They were interested in talking to Braxton about "The Talk" how he became a therapist and about the upcoming world record mustard drinking event that Braxton is putting on. This interview is interesting because they are interviewing Braxton about his start, how he got to be a therapist, how he knows the DAC, and why he is attempting to drink over 18 ounces of mustard in under 30 seconds for the world record.  The coolest part of this episode is you can watch Braxton and the crew making this podcast if you search Digital Adventure radio on YouTube and look for the birds and bees podcast collaboration. You get to see all the reactions, and the interview! Head on over and check out the video of this recording.  Let me know what you think of the collaborations and the "candid conversations" segments of Bird and Bees Podcast. I am excited to bring you more content like this in the future. References Digital Adventure Crew Digital Adventure Radio with Birds and Bees Podcast DAC Mustard Chug skit with Birds and Bees Podcast birdsandbeespodcast.com  

Braxton speaks with Elliott Kronenfeld, LICSW, CST about his work with couples. Elliott discusses couples by default versus couples by intention. Frequently couples find themselves wondering why they are in a relationship or why they are feeling stuck in boring pattern. Many turn to sex and love to be the "glue" in their relationship. While those two aspects in a relationship are important Elliott offers options for couples that want to build their relationship to last and are looking for the strengthening bond to help their relationship go the distance. In his book "" Elliott explores a 2 column exercise couples can use. He speaks about strategic relationships and curiosity, speaking from "I" in communication, and how "Intimacy is the Balance of Safety and vulnerability." Braxton learns about "The no helping rule" which helps couples improve their avoidance of assumptions and damaging expectations. Resources from the show Find Elliott Kronenfeld's book "" https://amzn.to/2CNqNMD Elliott's practice in Brookline MA https://www.insightbrookline.com/elliott-kronenfeld-page by Esther Perel https://amzn.to/2CMvkPr Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage    

Shannon Hickman Joins Birds and Bees Podcast once again to talk about Male Sexual diagnosis. Today Braxton and Shannon explore erectile dysfunction and delayed ejaculation. They identify the diagnostic criteria from the DSM V, talk about the men that experience these symptoms and what options are out there for men who have been diagnosed or who feel they are experiencing these symptoms. Shannon and Braxton talk about fantasy, research, masturbation, myths, and issues that arise within personal and interpersonal relationships when a man experiences DE or ED. We're glad to have you as a part of The Hive. Thank you so much for your support and for sharing these episodes with your friends and family. Y'all are the best! This episode is not meant to diagnose or be used to treat delayed ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. If you feel you or a loved one needs support dealing with either of these issues seek support from your doctor and a mental health professional for specific help in your situation. Shannon Hickman Core Healing Counseling Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Shannon Hickman is a certified sex therapy who has extensive expeirences working with men in therapy who deal with premature ejaculation. Today Shannon speaks with Braxton Dutson about what symptoms constitute a diagnosis of premature ejaculation. They explore some of the issues that can contribute to premature ejacualtion. Shannon also give pratcial exercises that can be used to address symptoms of premature ejaculation.  This episode is not meant to diagnose or be used to treat premature ejaculation. If you feel you or a loved one needs support dealing with premature ejaculation seek support from your doctor and a mental health professional for specific help in your situation. Shannon Hickman Core Healing Counseling   Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Birds and Bees speak with April Davis about menstruation. This episode is for all of the hive-mates not just the ones who are female-bodied. That's right guys this one is for you too! Braxton Dutson talks with April about menstrual cups, PMS, benefits to tracking your cycle, how to talk periods with your child (dad's you're included), period panties, myths about periods, why it is so important for boys and fathers to know about menstruation and many other subjects. April gives The Hive an inside scoop into what is going on during the entire cycle not just "the time of the month." They explore ways to improve period positivity for yourself, young girls, and boys.  Thank you Hive-mates for listening in. We'd love to hear your experience of learning about periods, what you do to create period positivity in your life, and what your experience with periods have been. Send us a text or voicemail at 385-449-1818. Resources: Taking Charge of your Fertility  Thinx Panties   Diva Cup Check out The Vagina Blog where you can follow April Davis and even ask her personal questions you have after the show.  Check her out on Instagram     Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Stacey Diane A. Litam Ph.D. is back on the show to help us understand how to recognize and respond if you suspect someone is being trafficked or if someone has been trafficked. In this second episode, of a two part series, Stacey lists the signs someone is being trafficked, the challenges in identifying perpetrators, the problems with idolizing "The Pimp Game" and ways traffickers use conduct of control and controllability to gain access to victims. Braxton and Stacey talk about domestic trafficking and ways teachers, therapists, and parents can best report suspected trafficking. Stacey explores what therapy has been helpful to survivors of trafficking and best ways to respond to survivors.  Stacey reports her findings on the way we use language in working with survivors of sex trafficking and how it affects the way therapists, teachers and parents view/react to a person.  (End Sex Trafficking) https://sharedhope.org/ , Polaris Project: https://polarisproject.org/get-assistance/national-human-trafficking-hotline Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Braxton interviews Stacey Diane A. Litam Ph.D. to better understand sex trafficking. In this first episode, of a two part series, Stacey defines human trafficking and who is at risk for sex trafficking, the risk factors, and recent research in sex trafficking. Braxton and Stacey talk about recruiting techniques traffickers use to gain control of the person. They explore the profile of a trafficker and how complex leaving a trafficker is for someone who has been recruited. They discuss how the media portrays sex trafficking and how Taken has helped bring awareness to the issue and where this representaion is problematic. Stacey explains the latest research on survivors of sex trafficking and those who are at high risk for being trafficked. She points out ways you can help reduce risk factors in your children and ways to keep them safe. Get ready for the next episode where Braxton and Stacie discuss how to recognize signs of trafficking and what you can do if you believe someone you know is being trafficked. (End Sex Trafficking) https://sharedhope.org/ , Polaris Project: https://polarisproject.org/get-assistance/national-human-trafficking-hotline Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Happy Father’s Day!! On this special Father’s Day podcast Braxton Dutson talks with Monica Ashton about making a fatherhood game plan. Fathers are frequently left out of the discussion when talking about the first few years of a child’s life. Braxton and Monica talk about the important role fathers play in the first years of a child’s life. They also talk about ways to build your portfolio as a father and create the game plan that will best help your children reach their development milestones and the connection kids need from their father. Sometimes it can feel difficult to connect with a child when it seems like they don’t do much more than eat sleep poop and cry. Braxton and Monica cover many ways you can start training/coaching your child, even in this stage of life. This episode is perfect for fathers-to-be, new dads and dads that have young children.  Fathers with older children may also find this information useful in upping their father hood game while raising teens.  site The Healing Group Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

is on a mission. A mission to rid the world of mediocre love. Today , CST meets with Nate to hear the lessons he has learned from powerful couples and professionals through his journey to improve love in relationships. Nate created the podcast, the 1% club, The First 7 Years, and couples' retreats in order to achieve his goal. Nate and Braxton explore the nuances that take relationships from mediocre to extraordinary. "People treat complete strangers with more Kindness dignity and respect than the person who is supposed to be the most important person in their life." Nate shared this quote with Braxton and it rings true for many couples. They talk about how to recommit and improve how you view and value your partner. Nate identifies patterns relationships experience, shame, vulnerability, complacency, communication skills, stories couples tell themselves, breaking cycles, emotional pain, pushing through hard times, gratitude and many other issues couples face which create barriers to experiencing extraordinary love. Nate has Braxton read his daily mantra to being a husband, partner, and future father. He shares some of his most memorable moments of interviewing couples with extraordinary love in their relationship and what actions they take to make it extraordinary. Take the challenge and start making small changes in your interactions with your partner to take your relationship from mediocre to extraordinary. The Loveumentary Podcast Nate's website   Nate Bagley's 1% Club The Gottman 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage  

In this episode Birds and Bees talks about how Kim Cook, became a sex educator and nurse. Her path in becoming a sex educator and publishing a book titled "Teen World Confidential." Braxton explores the challenges parents face when bringing up "the talk" and how to prepare for these conversations. Kim explains reasons why so many parents have not brought up "the talk," the feelings of inadequacy parents feel, and how non-verbal communication plays into conversations you have with you child. She give 5 tips on having a productive simple conversation about sex. Kim also identifies ways to introduce humor into these conversations that is appropriate and how light-hearted interactions can make the conversation more approachable for your children. , Teen World Confidential Book: https://teenworldconfidential.com/book/#book to give to parents when talking with their children Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

speaks candidly with about a topic that affects children and teens significantly, values and sexual health. Al is a sex educator who has over 25 years working with teen, parents and sexual health education. He demonstrates ways parents can identify what values they have about anything, especially sex. Knowing these values has a huge impact on how to speak to your child about life. They explore the influence pornography, religion, media, and many other topics that affect our values, and outlook on sexual health. And who can have a coversation about sex and values without talking about shame, and how shame drives secrecy, problematic feelings and behavior. Al identifies how we are all sexual beings, living in a sexual world and ways parents can support their children in understanding their bodies, their values in all aspects of their life, including their sexuality.  Al Vernacchio webpage: https://alvernacchio.com/ For Goodness Sex: Changing the Way We Talk to Teens About Sexuality, Values and Health Episode 014 Ask Al Anything Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Today’s episode is a special release because it is the last week in April. The last week of April being infertility awareness week. This week was dedicated to infertility awareness by back in 1989 to bring awareness to this medical issue. Dealing with infertility is more than being unable to have children. For many, it’s a loss of pregnancy, a loss of identity, a realization of a deep seeded fear, and expensive process, a grieving journey and it affects relationships in so many ways, especially in intimacy. Monica Ashton is back on the show to talk to us about building intimacy during infertility. She covers six actions concepts a couple can use to improve their sexual intimacy. She also explores the way infertility affects intimacy. RESOLVE.org site The Healing Group Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Have you ever heard of tiger moms? Maybe helicopter parenting? Well, today we are covering a new form of parenting that can negatively impact your child’s development, snowplow parenting. sits down with once again, this time to explore the unhelpful parenting actions of snowplow parents. This episode is aimed to help parents identify unhelpful parenting techniques that sometimes seem to be helpful at the moment. Maybe you only use one of these techniques. Maybe you fit the mold of being a snowplow parent. Either way, that is great you see what actions you’re doing. We provide ways to fine-tune your parenting to avoid these pitfalls of being a snowplow parent and help your children excel and succeed. It’s not easy to be a parent, you’re doing your best and we’re rooting for your success and the success of your kids! Jessie identifies the traits of a snowplow parent and the ways to change those parenting pitfalls in this episode. Braxton gets curious about how many parenting names there are and finds dolphin parenting, jellyfish parenting, and creates his own to join the masses … Lockdown Parenting. Lots of laughs and learning in this week’s episode. Check us out! We're now on Spotify! Add us to your favorites to never miss an episode. Jessie’s article on http://www.jessiethetherapist.com/snowplow-parenting/ Jessie is the owner of which specializes in trauma and eating disorders.  Jessie the Therapist Blog: Get Yourself Together Podcast: Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Listen from our webpage

Braxton has worked with many couples who have posed the question, "Should we open our relationship?" Today Birds and Bees Podcast aims to help answer some of the common questions people have about polyamory. Chad Anderson, LCSW brings years of expeirence counseling polyamorus couples, mormon (Latter Day Saint) individuals, and members of the LGBTQ community. They cover things to consider when someone is looking at opening up their relationship. Personal qustions to ask yourself, and ways to address jealousy, boundaries, and expectation. Chad is the author of a new book titled "Gay Mormon Dad" He is also in the middle of creating a documentary that is expected to be released Fall of 2018. Chad's Book "" https://www.amazon.com/Gay-Mormon-Dad-Chad-Anderson/dp/069205071X Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Birdsandbeespodcast.com

met with Jessie Shepherd, LCMHC, AKA , to learn about eating disorders and their purpose. Jessie is the owner of Blue Clover Therapy, Co-Host of Get Yourself Together podcast. Jessie and Braxton explore the different diagnosis that she works with and how she supports clients dealing with food or exercise control issues. Jessie identifies ways parents can recognize warning signs of children experiencing or developing an eating disorder. They explore ways you can support your child or partner if they are experiencing this distress. Braxton identifies different practices that society deems "acceptable" that qualifies as an eating disorder.  Braxton and Jessie identify the trauma, distress, and desire for control that individuals are seeking and how to best seek support for yourself or for your loved ones. Check us out! We're now on Spotify! Add us to your favorites to never miss an episode. Jessie is the owner of which specializes in trauma and eating disorders.  Jessie the Therapist Blog: Get Yourself Together Podcast: National Eating Disorders Questionairre and resources:   Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page Birdsandbeespodcast.com

In this episode, Braxton interviews Nathan Morris RNC of the University of Utah labor and delivery Triage Center. They cover the basics of what to expect in the last trimester and pre-birth experience. Topics include: body reactions, signs of false labor, how to save yourself from an ER visit, what to have with you during birth, the roles of doulas, midwives, and doctors. Medicated vs un-medicated births, Cesarean Sections and the pitfalls of shame that many parents find themselves in when comparing their experiences with others.   Braxton explores Nathan’s experiences of being a charge nurse that oversees 5 to 10 births each day he work. Both explore the supports that are available to expecting mothers, and how you can best be ready for a new addition to the family. Nathan provides specific options for partners wanting to be better prepared and supportive for the birth. This episode covers many common questions women and their partners have about labor and birth. We welcome your comments and would love to hear your experiences! If you enjoyed the show please consider leaving a this helps the show reach more people. Thank you for your support.   *Disclaimer* While Nathan is a professional, and has wonderful advice for individuals going through pregnancy. Each person’s experience will vary. The information given in this podcast is to provide an overall understanding of what could occur, and how to prepare for it. It should not be used as a replacement to your primary caregiver, or the professionals supporting you in your birth experience. If you have any questions or concerns consult your medical provider for your specific needs.     Resources for Birth:  University of Utah Triage Center 801-587-9500  Baby Your Baby:  Creating Your Birthing Plans: Finding a Doula: Please consider leaving us a . It helps the show reach more people!

On this episode talks with Director of Maternal Mental Health at The Healing Group in Salt Lake City Utah. We explore the complexities and experiences of Pregnancy loss and infertility. Monica discusses research on maternal mental health, how many people experience infertility issues, including miscarriages. She identifies the reactions she sees in her office, who she works with, ways she supports couples, and common issues that arise in intimacy. We get to know some of Monica’s recommendations for couples who are experiencing difficulty with becoming pregnant, how to keep sex from becoming mechanical, and how to build intimacy while navigating this difficult process. She also covers self-care practices for individuals. She provides invaluable information for friends and family who want to support a couple experiencing infertility. Specific “do” and “don’t” actions for those trying to support a loved one.   Resources: Monica Ashton's Bio The Healing Group   Like the show? Give us a rating on iTunes https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/birds-and-bees-podcast/id1201131540?mt=2

and talk candidly about child sexual development from birth to adulthood and beyond. Alisha pulls from her many years as a sex educator, and as a mother of seven children, to answer common questions parents have about their child’s sexual development. Children go through many sexual developments such as: running around naked, masturbation, playing doctor, asking about sexual practices, just to name a few. Alisha and Braxton dive into some simple actions you can take as a parent to understand the development of your child and how to manage the feelings of uncertainty you may feel as a parent. Because of the impossibility to pinpoint exact ages when kids and adolescents experience (or don’t experience) certain developments. We talk in approximate ages you may see certain behaviors. Attention! Due to the nature of the topic, anatomically correct body terms are used in the show (ex. Penis, Vulva, Vagina etc.) as well as some examples of slang teens may ask their parents to define. The content of this show is meant to educate on a broad spectrum, and should not be used in lieu of a primary care physician. If you are concerned about your child’s development, please seek out individualized professional support.   Resources:      “”   Robie H. Harris “”   Gail Saltz “” (1 and 2) Valorie Lee Schaefer  “” Al Vernacchio

I had a conversation with Paige Miller. She is a Nurse and Student Nurse Midwife currently studying the ways in which pregnant women get information about pregnancy. We discuss her passion for helping women be informed about all the changes and expectations of pregnancy, and what to ask your provider during your pregnancy. In her research Paige has found a gap of information in regards to understanding healthy sexual practices during pregnancy. Paige and I uncover the myths, the facts, what to expect, and most importantly, How to increase intimacy and connection with your partner during the first, second and third trimester. Braxton conducted an unofficial study of his own on Facebook, and reports his findings of "what you wish you would have known about pregnancy." Paige identifies patterns women may see in pregnancy, and how to increase sexual satisfaction during and after pregnancy. Attention: This episode is to support you in understanding the facts, myths, possible expectations of pregnancy and how to continue improving intimacy with your partner. Each person's experience is different, and the information in this podcast is not to be used as a substitute for expert medical advice. Contact your provider for specific questions about your pregnancy.

Braxton Dutson discusses the complexities of sexual fluidity with Lisa M. Diamond Professor of Psychology and gender studies and Author of Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women's Love and Desire (2008). Lisa identifies how her research lead to a greater understanding of Sexual Fluidity, and understanding the complexities that are often overlooked in a "straight, Gay or Bi society." Lisa identifies ways parents can best react to their children who are dealing with changes to their sexual identity. She gives meaningful suggestions on how to best address the array of emotions that can come during this time. We discuss how sexual preference is impacted, how homosexual, bisexual, and heterosexual individuals all experience Sexual Fluidity to one degree or another. We specifically discuss parental concerns and experiences, and how to apply the principles to continue building loving relationships with your loved ones as you both process the changes occurring.

I sat down with Auburn Meisner LMSW from Colorado. In this episode we discuss the rising use of electronics devices/internet, children's emotional interactions, cyber-bullying, sexting, and exposure to sexually explicit material through pornography. We were also joined by Kamaile Tripp from The Island Wave Podcast, Asia Raine Dutson a mother of 6 children and owner of AsiaRaineDesigns.com and Brittany Golden a mother of 2 and owner of B Golden Jewelry School to discuss their experience and how they approached the topic of sex, pornography and cyber-bullying. We Discuss how parents can create supportive and healthy conversations with their children to help protect them from electronic dangers, unhealthy electronic relationships, building a relationship with your child, protect them from cyber-bullying and pornography.

Braxton caught up with a human sexuality researcher, Shaun Miller, to discuss the methods parents can use to help develop sexual resiliency. Braxton and Shaun explore the complexities of developing traits such as resiliency and courage in children, let alone in a sexual context. Braxton divulges his embarrassing prom night "at the door" experience. They present methods to teach personal values to your children and how to use real-life experiences to support your teens.  Shaun discusses how "showing up" as a parent and choosing to support your child in decision making and autonomy help develop resiliency. Two research articles were brought to the table to help identify how schools are supporting resiliency development. Ultimately they discover the keys to failure, value development, and allowing for growth.  Shaun Miller Blog: Coffee and Research Instagram: Article discussed in the episode: Article discussed in the episode: Article discussed in the episode: Leave Birds and Bees an iTunes review Leave a Stitcher Review Birds and Bees Facebook Page