Are you tired of struggling to figure out what to do about your child’s behavior? Do you feel exhausted and frustrated trying to manage your own triggers while at the same time trying to calm your child down and feel like nothing is working? Do you feel g
Hey there, I'm so excited to announce that the Chaos to Connected podcast is coming back!!! I took a break about 6 months ago and had no idea whether I'd be back or not, but I'm making some big pivots and wanted to share them with you today. New episodes will begin airing in September when I re-launch, but in the meantime I would LOVE to hear from you! What questions do you have? What topics do you want to deep dive into? What's your biggest struggle right now? I also wanted to do something fun before episodes resume; if you write a review over on apple podcasts, take a screen shot and send it to me (hello@kailizcoaching.com) I am going to send you my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behaviors course for FREE! (currently $197) This course dives into why physical behaviors are actually occurring, gives you a step by step guide on what to actually do about them, and FAQs that families have consistently asked me to help you even more! And you can, of course, binge past episodes. I'm going to be doing some extra fun things inside of my emails too because I really want to be able to create more community and a place where you feel safe and seen. So if you'd like to subscribe and get weekly insights, encouragement reminders, AND bonus sneak peaks/mini coaching insights and be the first to actually hear the podcasts each week, you can do so here: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/cvuin24b94 I can't wait to be back each week walking this motherhood journey with you! XO Kaili
It can be really easy, especially when you are parenting a child who is struggling with behavior or lots of strong emotions, to forget that your child is just a mini version of you. While life experience and higher level executive functioning skills aren't the same, the way the brain processes and responds to hurts is. It can be easy to forget this when you are triggered from behavior so today, I want to share how parents/caregivers are more like their child than not. Ep on Apologizing: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000613660033 Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
One of the most common questions I get asked is what types of deep input activities I would recommend for a child who acts or plays aggressively (hitting, kicking, throwing, etc). Previously, I would go into detail on how to incorporate into a sensory diet, but now, through additional training and experience I recognize that this alone isn't the answer. Today, I share how sensory processing works and how to bridge the gap effectively AND efficiently between the behaviors you are seeing and improved regulation! *If you have any questions as to if your child has a true sensory processing disorder, email me or seek out a local OT for assessment. Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
If you're a mom to more than one child you've probably experienced one child's excitement over a birthday while another child was less than happy about it. Having to wait for all of the attention and presents can be a big challenge for kids and it does matter how you handle it. If you are someone that gets the other child a present too or you wonder if that's the "right" thing to do, I wanted to shed some connection focused perspective light on the situation! Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/utt2pi1u62 Do you want help managing your triggers in the heat of the moment: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/r49k9ws9dp Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Do you ever feel like the attitudes, the whining, and the fighting sometimes just really over take your entire home? That's how I felt 2 weeks ago. I decided something needed to change and I discovered ONE thing that makes all the difference. We moved from constant sibling fighting, frequent whining, hitting/kicking/pinching to try and solve problems, and me feeling a lot of annoyance, anger, and frequently triggered to so much peace, more self control and regulation, and best of all more fun and enjoyment just being together! Today I dive into what changed and how you can replicate it in your home too! Do you want help managing your triggers in the heat of the moment: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/r49k9ws9dp Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Last week, I asked what was the hardest thing about connection focused parenting; one of the responses I received was that when feeling exhausted it was especially hard to try to respond to behaviors positively or with connection. I. Hear. That.!!! Today, I wanted to share what to do if you're finding yourself in this same situation...and you might be surprised by my recommendation! If this episode, or any episode you've previously listened to you has blessed or helped you, would you be willing to go and leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts? I know mommas all over the world are searching for tangible, simple strategies to help improve behavior without using punishments, rewards, and manipulation to achieve it. Your willingness to take a minute to share will help other mommas find this information easier! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Do your kids struggle to get along? It can be really disheartening, patience testing, and frustrating when your kids just can't seem to figure out how to play together for 5 minutes! But the good news?! You can help! Today, I dive into 3 keys to approaching sibling conflict in a connection focused way that will help model and reinforce this approach for them in future scenarios that involve disagreements! If you have found this episode, or any episode, helpful, I'd love if you'd be willing to take just 1 minute and go leave a rating or review! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
There is so much out there when it comes to how you "should" respond to your child's behavior or the "right" thing to say for xyz situation. But who can remember all of that? Plus, what if said account or expert never told you what to do for the specific situation you are dealing with? Let the panic set in! No, don't do that. Instead, listen in today as I share one piece of advice that will transcend all behaviors and situations to help you figure out what it is that feels aligned with how YOU want to manage whatever attitude or button pushing behavior comes your way! No scripts needed! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
One of the biggest challenges I continue to hear over and over from moms is that the behavior can be a struggle, yes, but overall it's figuring out how to stay calm through that behavior that poses the biggest obstacle. Today, I wanted to share some insights with you! If you are aware of what your triggers are but haven't yet processed them, or even know how to do that, I am walking you through the 4 things I have done (and still occasionally do) to help me come with more love, empathy, and understanding to those challenging and button pushing behaviors. I was reading a book recently and the author talked about ruts and trenches. The ruts being our automatic responses; your reaction to your child (one you likely feel guilty or upset about later but can't seem to change). The trenches being your conscious choice to do something different. A rut is something you get stuck in but a trench is something you dig. Let's start digging those trenches!! And if you want some help and encouragement along the way, join my monthly membership The Motherhood CONNECTION: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65977fa029eaba0244c4dd66 Affiliate link (25% off) for oil + capsule: https://doterra.me/H1ZS3U Magnesium: https://www.pureencapsulationspro.com/magnesium-glycinate.html?size=90%20capsules XO Kaili
I hosted a challenge last weekend called 3 Building Blocks to Better Behavior and it was so much fun! If you weren't able to join and you want to get the replays + resources, send me an email or DM me over on IG. Only available through January 21st! Today, I wanted to share one of those trainings with you because I think it's a key factor in your child's ability to learn to self-regulate (well, they all are, but this one I think is very misunderstood). Tune in as I walk you through the progression of a child learning to regulate and how you can actually, successfully begin the process of teaching your child how to adjust his/her regulation based on state of arousal and taking into consideration his/her unique sensory preferences. The Motherhood CONNECTION: a monthly membership for moms who want to break generational patterning, parent from connection, and have the support of other moms in the trenches. (first 10 receive a FREE behavior strategy call; $50 off through January 31st!) https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65977fa029eaba0244c4dd66 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Happy New Year! Even though everyone is talking about goals and resolutions for the new year I do think it's a great natural time to evaluate a few things in motherhood... *how do you feel like you're managing your triggers? *are you feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, and/or struggling regularly with more frustration than enjoyment in motherhood? *is your child struggling with behavior or attitude? *do you feel like you are connecting regularly with your child? or is it lacking because your schedule is really busy? *does your home feel chaotic? *do you feel like you have good rhythms in place? *are you regularly practicing soul care vs only selfcare? Tune in today as I chat what we are going to be focusing on this year! Free 3 Day Behavior Challenge: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/v2dcr5625t Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Do you ever feel like sometimes you'd just rather not go and do the things because you know the behavior that will happen afterwards? Or do you ever struggle to know what to do when your child has a tantrum in the middle of the holiday gathering? Or do you find it really challenging to manage your child's behaviors and your responses to them when you are also overwhelmed or overtired? Today, I talk through 3 strategies, tips, and perspective shifts you can rely on during these times of heightened excitement and stimulation to combat that holiday behavior hangover. If you enjoyed this episode or found it helpful, I'd love if you would take a minute to leave a rating and review! 3 Ways You Might Be Unintentionally Stopping Your Child From Releasing Big Feelings: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000565110255 Free 3 Day Behavior Challenge: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/v2dcr5625t Chaos to Calm mini course: A Step by Step Guide to Aggressive/Physical Behaviors https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com Schedule a behavior strategy call here: https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Today, my chat with Maureen from Yes Peas Nutrition continues! We cover: -strategies to make meal planning and meal prep less overwhelming -tips to encourage your child to eat a wider variety of food during your meal planning and prep -holiday food -navigating sugar with your child(ren) during the holidays **and MORE! Find her at: @yespeasnutrition over on IG or her website: https://www.yespeasnutrition.com/ Grab her free resource - 5 Tips for Busy Parents: Decrease Stress and Increase Family Connection When Making Meals From Home here: https://pages.maureenclilly.com/guide-1 Join her facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1088016261913914/ ______________________ Free 3 Day Behavior Challenge: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/v2dcr5625t Chaos to Calm mini course: A Step by Step Guide to Aggressive/Physical Behaviors https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Do you ever struggle with a child who refuses to eat what you've made for supper? Have you tried the..."eat x amount of bites before you can..." either have more of something already finished or something else entirely? Today, I chat with Maureen, a mom and nutritionist who breaks down mealtimes for us in a way that perfectly parallels the way in which I encourage you to respond to behaviors...with safety and connection. Tune in as she talks about the normal "picky eating" phase of development, tips and strategies to implement, and how to navigate it all while helping your child create a healthy relationship with food! Find her at: @yespeasnutrition over on IG or her website: https://www.yespeasnutrition.com/ Grab her free resource - 5 Tips for Busy Parents: Decrease Stress and Increase Family Connection When Making Meals From Home here: https://pages.maureenclilly.com/guide-1 Join her facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1088016261913914/ ______________________ Chaos to Calm mini course: A Step by Step Guide to Aggressive/Physical Behaviors https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Have you heard of Elf on the Shelf?? What am I saying? Of course you have! Are you currently doing it? Or Shepherd on the Search? Last year, my thoughts were completely different so today I wanted to dive into the topic a little further. Tune in as I share 2 things you should stay away from if you are going to participate! As well as modifications if you are needing something extra simple this year! Are you using Santa to manipulate behavior? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000589024177 Google doc with ideas: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1aytCkf_KlB0i7L9RxuSfYpS_X-MiDPeI0QvOInfgAOg/edit?usp=sharing Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
If you're like me, you are in a current season of motherhood overwhelm; whether it's due to behaviors or life circumstances there are a few strategies I've been working on implementing that I hope will bless you too! Do you have any other recommendations? Share them here: kjzeiher@gmail.com Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ XO Kaili
Timeouts are such a common practice when parents are trying to get their kids to listen; I would even venture to guess it's a recommendation from professionals and something regularly talked about as a helpful behavior strategy on the internet. But, did you know that sending your child off to a timeout is creating more disconnection. When there is disconnection, your child's "thinking" brain is inaccessible. This creates MORE of the unwanted behavior. Instead, get CONNECTED! Connection = better behavior. Tune in today as I share your child's perspective on timeouts and 2 strategies you can utilize instead that creates connection. Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com Stay Listening episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011 Are you really okay with crying episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000565110255 Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
If you need a step by step guide to (nearly) eliminating your child's aggressive/physical behaviors, check the show notes. If you're not ready to jump all in or you don't feel like you can maintain your cool, try the strategy I share about in today's episode. It may push you outside of your comfort zone or the societal norm for managing this kind of behavior, but I guarantee you'll get results AND it's fun! It builds connection, helps process emotions/big feelings and improves behavior! Aggression Mini Course waitlist -- join waitlist and you will have the opportunity for a FREE week of voxer following purchase of the course! only available to those on the waitlist! Add your email here: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/izgtp1vnyk Flip the Switch Ideas: file:///Users/kailizeiher/Downloads/FLIPTHESWITCH%20(1).pdf Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Do you struggle to bring your child out in public because he/she runs from you? Do you get frustrated and try to utilize manipulation strategies (consequences/threats, bribes) to get the behavior you want and find it doesn't work? Or not consistently anyway? Have you or have you thought about buying a "leash" for your child because you just need to be sure your child is safe while you are out in a parking lot or public space? If you said yes to any of these, then be sure to tune in to today's episode; I walk you through a step by step process of what to do if you have a runner. Plus, you will get 2 BONUS tips that will help your child develop impulse control and safety awareness. Aggression Mini Course waitlist -- join waitlist and you will have the opportunity for a FREE week of voxer following purchase of the course! only available to those on the waitlist! Add your email here: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/izgtp1vnyk Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Tune in today as I answer your questions! We chat about: *when the calming strategies don't seem to be helping *how to support a child through big feelings when you have other children around *what to do when a child is melting down everyday after daycare *aggressive behaviors *a child who is overly attached to one parent over the other If you have a question you'd like answered, email it to me at kjzeiher@gmail.com Aggression Mini Course waitlist -- join waitlist and you will have the opportunity for a FREE week of voxer following purchase of the course! only available to those on the waitlist! Add your email here: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/izgtp1vnyk Calming strategies episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000569255920 Calming spaces episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000569655067 Stay listening episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011 Aggression episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000562812304 Special time episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000550595812 XO Kaili
If you like birth stories, tune in today as I share our 3rd child (and first girl), Luella's brith story! In case you missed them, here are the birth stories of my boys: Myles' Birth Story: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000595792704 Huxton's Birth Story: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000600263314 Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
When your child's behavior feels like a lot or you are feeling really chaotic and possibly even triggered, I think the natural inclination is to exert your authority in ways you might not normally because you are in need of more control. When you want to gain more control over your child's meltdowns that often comes in the form of more talking. But, that's usually not going to get you anywhere...am I right?! When your child is dysregulated - whether because they have done something you would deem disobedient, wrong, etc OR because they are just really struggling with big feelings it is a natural response to try and help them by spouting out a solution, ways to problem solve, or even trying to distract them and move on to something else. Well, when a child is already overwhelmed, that is actually just adding to it. He/she can't take in the information you are sharing, even if it's calm, because the "thinking" brain is inaccessible. What they need in those moments is more listening and less talking. Tune in today as I share 2 times when I think this is incredibly important and how you can be on the lookout for how you tend to respond and strategies to adjust if needed. Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
When I was struggling with my child's intense behavior, I was looking for all of the ways to "fix" it. As I was searching, I came to find that a lot of my patterning and conditioning impacted SO much of my parenting and how I came to my child's behavior. So many moms have told me they struggle more with managing their own triggers than dealing with the behavior. If this sounds like you, join me as I chat with Michelle from the Calm Mom podcast today! Michelle is a certified trauma- informed master life coach, attorney, professor, wife and mom. With everything she had going on in her life, she realized she was on a fast track to burnout and knew she needed to adjust. Now she uses her knowledge to help other moms in the trenches learn how to regulate their nervous systems, set boundaries, see their worthiness, understand true self care, and equips them with tools, tips, and strategies to create a life designed by faith over fear. Tune in to hear all of the amazing tips and strategies she shares to regulate your nervous system first so you can come to any and all of your roles with more intention. Connect more with her here: https://michellegrosser.com/quiz https://michellegrosser.com/regulate Checkout her podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-calm-mom-mindset-nervous-system-self-care-burnout/id1621946084 Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Laura is a wife and mama to 10 amazing people. She is the founder of Mama Systems, a coaching business that helps mamas bring peace to their homes through systems so they can be intentional with their people and show up as the best mama possible. Ways to Connect with Laura: www.mamasystems.net www.instagram.com/mamasystems www.facebook.com/mamasystems.net https://www.mamasystems.net/advocate-like-a-mama https://www.mamasystems.net/chaostoconnected Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
The morning of the day I recorded this episode was just one of those days...do you know what I'm talking about? When every time you turn your back your kids are fighting or a meltdown starts... Well let's just say I didn't handle it as well as I usually do. I was majorly triggered. And despite knowing I was doing things, like yelling, that I hate doing and didn't want to do, I just couldn't help myself. Despite practicing connection strategies DAILY for years, this still happens to me occasionally. And it's NORMAL. We are humans for goodness sake. But, although it is normal because emotions can get the best of us and patterning can overcome us and triggers can take the driver's seat, it doesn't mean we sit back and do nothing. When this occurs, it is vital that you take steps to repair the connection with your child so you aren't repeating generational patterning and so you can re-establish connection which will produce better results in keeping challenging or intense behaviors at bay. Tune in as I share 5 steps in the repairing connection process! Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Has your child ever had a public, in the middle of the aisle tantrum? Did you feel judged? Embarrassed? Unsure of what to do? Today I share 3 ways to respond when this happens; the responses are based on where you're at on this connection focused parent journey as well as where you're at on the being triggered spectrum. Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Is your child back in school or daycare? Or heading back to school or daycare soon? Maybe you are starting a year of homeschool? With a big transition like this, children often have an uptick in behavior. Today, I dive into 4 tips that will help make this transition as smooth as possible and with less behavior challenges. Even if you aren't heading into a school year because your littles aren't school age yet, there are still some great tips that are applicable to other situations you will inevitably encounter. Episode on Separation Anxiety: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000577431491 Episode on Stay Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011 Episode on Special Time: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549 Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Have you been struggling to get your child potty trained? Is your child able to go sometimes but not others, refusing to go at certain places, holding in BMs? Or maybe your child is potty trained but struggles with picky eating or other controlling types of behavior... Then this episode is for you. Join me as I share why I don't recommend using treats and bribes during potty training and the #1 shift you can make to improve the ease at which it happens! Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
If you haven't listened to last week's episode, take some time (before or after this) and do so; I discussed communicating about problem solving with kids and tips on how to increase independence with problem solving even from a young age. Today, I dive into praise. When I first came across this style of connection focused parenting, I heard a lot of recommendations not to praise...like, at all. While I do believe in praising my children and do, I think there were definitely some good points from what I heard and it shifted how I carried out giving it. Tune in as I share a couple insights about how we tend to praise our children and how you can shift it to make it more meaningful and special for your little one. 3 Words/Phrases to Remove from your Vocab: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000567988808 Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
I've been reading a lot about communication and how to increase its effectiveness with our kids. In reading more, I recognized that some of the ways I was saying things, while I meant it to be helpful, could be perceived as lacking confidence in my child. Tune in today as I share more about how you can make slight shifts in how you phrase things to instill more empowerment, confidence, and independence in your child for problem solving, both with more challenging tasks and with siblings/other kids. Book a free, no commitment needed, call with me here to find out which program option might be best for you and your family + what it would actually look like: https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
***REMINDER*** If listening in real time, you have until 8/14 to start the 30 day Behavior Blueprint before I close spots until sometime in late October (after baby is born) Some days of parenting are just challenging. Not because your child is behaving in a certain way or having more meltdowns but just because you feel off. Maybe you can't pin point it, maybe you can. But either way, it's a funk that is difficult to get out of. If you're feeling this way, check out today's episode for some perspective + encouragement. And share with a friend who needs it too! Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Do you ever find yourself stuck in a parenting rut? Or like a majority of your interactions with your child feel like fights, yelling, managing meltdowns...basically negative? Then it's time to assess whether you are seeing your child and his/her behaviors through a connection or consequence focused lens. Tune in today as I help talk you through how to assess where you're at + how to adjust if needed/you desire to. Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this short video for all of the details: https://youtu.be/-W2_0-7EkJY Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
I have recently been reading the book "How to talk so your child will listen & how to listen so your child will talk" and one of the concepts I discovered was the thought that punishment is a distraction. As I was reflecting on it, I realized I couldn't agree more. So often we are using punishment because we don't know what else to do, it's how we were raised, or we just don't want our kids to turn out "bad". But, what is often actually happening is our child is not thinking about how sorry he/she is. The child is usually upset, thinking about how to get revenge, how not to get caught next time, or even that they aren't a "good" kid because they messed up. Tune in as I share 6 simple strategy shifts you can make to avoid punishment while still getting better behavior! Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this short video for all of the details: https://youtu.be/-W2_0-7EkJY Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
I think it's safe to say we all want to support our child's feelings and help them to actually work through them productively, but instead we are often denying them. Denying your child's feelings will lead your child to struggle to actually know what his/her feelings are or to have a lack of trust in them. Want to know if you are subconsciously accepting or denying your child's feelings? Tune in today and I'll share 3 phrases you are likely using that communicate to your child that his/her feelings aren't accepted/okay. But stick around because I also give you 2 specific tips to start to change from denying to accepting that you won't want to miss! Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this short video for all of the details: https://youtu.be/-W2_0-7EkJY Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. XO Kaili
Society is constantly pushing us as parents, caregivers, and professionals to see a child's behavior as disobedience, disrespect, and defiance and something we should be using punishments, shame, and bribes to resolve when in reality... Behavior is a main way your child is communicating with you, especially before your child is old enough to clearly articulate his/her feelings and has had more time practicing and learning how to regulate a little more effectively. This doesn't mean we don't address the behavior too, but it means identifying what is going on at a heart level and offering up empathy, love and understanding over a focus solely on obedience. I would even go so far as to say, when your main goal as a parent is to gain obedience over everything else, there is likely some underlying patterning and conditioning that is forcing you to NEED control at all times. The patterning and conditioning you come to parenting with also creates behavior in you that comes out when you are triggered; the same thing that is happening when your child is demonstrating behavior. Tune in today as I dive more into this topic and share some practical ways you can begin to see behavior for what it really is....communication. Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this short video for all of the details: https://youtu.be/-W2_0-7EkJY XO Kaili
Do you ever find yourself struggling in your motherhood role? Do you ever find yourself feeling burnt out or extremely frustrated with your child or the behaviors you are experiencing on the regular? Do you feel like you are aware of your triggers but you just feel like you are being triggered more and more and can't seem to get a grasp on it? Obviously, reflect on your health and wellness habits like food intake, hydration, exercise, and soul care but if you are checking all of those boxes and still finding yourself in this place, then today is for YOU! Tune in as I discuss 3 simple shifts you can be making to find more peace and joy amongst all of the tasks you have to accomplish in a day. YOU are capable of doing all of the things required of you, but it might take some intentional shifting. Find out what those transformative changes have been for me and how you can adjust them in a way that fits for you and your family! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Send in an inquiry form here: https://a06n5zvfs8f.typeform.com/to/evoCXcmF XO Kaili
Have you been taught or told that when your child has behavior (really any type of behavior) to implement calming strategies? Today, I share why this actually isn't the most effective and efficient route AND what is. While calming strategies are important...hello, we obviously all need to learn to use them so we aren't just having adult temper tantrums everywhere...there is a way you can teach your child what they are and how to use them without actually having to sit down and walk them through it. Today, I dive into the 2 main steps to help your child make the connection on their own and begin to implement them when needed. BONUS: this isn't just for older kids. My 3 year old did this exact thing today and guess what?! I have NEVER sat down and showed him pictures of calming strategies or specifically and intentionally created time to teach him them or created a calming space that I instructed him on using. Tune in to find out how! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Send in an inquiry form here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Yh0nW-owC1TLIeRK5AkpKDr29rVww2Gy51X3SPJIBio/edit XO Kaili
Today, I want to share some insights into this listener question: "When my son has a massive tantrum right before we HAVE to go somewhere and we don't have the option to just let him have the tantrum as long as he wants, what do we do about it?" Before diving into what to do in this situation, one question to really ask and reflect on if you find yourself in this situation is...is this something you actually don't have the time for or is it something you would just rather not be late for? If it's something you determine you can't be late for, then tune in as I chat how to overcome this challenging situation in a way that doesn't feel so difficult AND gets you out the door without the added need to keep your own triggers in line or find yourself in battles that cause more chaos and disconnection. Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Send in an inquiry form here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Yh0nW-owC1TLIeRK5AkpKDr29rVww2Gy51X3SPJIBio/edit XO Kaili
After last week's episode, I got a few questions about co-sleeping, sleep training, and what to do about specific sleep routines. Today, I wanted to share with you how to transition from where you are to where you want to go; maybe you co sleep and you want your child to sleep in his/her own bed; maybe your child falls asleep well and then wakes in the middle of the night and you bring the child to your bed because you're tired but you don't want to make it a "forever" routine; maybe you rock your child to sleep but it's taking an incredibly long time and it doesn't feel like the best case scenario anymore. No matter what the situation, this episode is for you! Tune in as I share 4 basic steps that can help for whatever you are desiring to change in a way you can feel good about that will also leave your child feeling connected. More connected equals better sleep! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. Want more step by step guidance? https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Yh0nW-owC1TLIeRK5AkpKDr29rVww2Gy51X3SPJIBio/edit XO Kaili
Does your child tend to do well during the day and then suddenly bedtime hits and all hell breaks loose? Does your child struggle with more aggressive behaviors during the bedtime routine or find it really challenging to transition from one task to the next? Does your child take an hour or more to fall asleep or wake frequently during the night? It's likely that your child needs more connection; this might look like more fun and cuddles OR an increased need to offload feelings. Today, I want to focus on the fun and cuddles. Join me as I share 2 simple, yet effective tips to make bedtime more of a routine you can look forward to than one you dread! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. Want more step by step guidance? https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Yh0nW-owC1TLIeRK5AkpKDr29rVww2Gy51X3SPJIBio/edit XO Kaili
*4.5 million children in the US are diagnosed and living with anxiety *in the last 3 years, the likelihood of young people having a mental health problem has increased by 50% *5 children in a classroom of 30 are likely to have a mental health problem Sounds overwhelming, doesn't it?? But what I want to encourage you with is that you, as the parent/caregiver, play a crucial role in the development of your child's mental health. While this can also feel like a large weight to carry, today I want to share with you 4 steps to create a great foundation to get you going on the right track! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. Free MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3 XO Kaili
The question of "should I require my child to apologize or allow them to choose when they do it" has been one I've pondered for awhile. The style of parenting I follow and teach would say that a child should choose when he/she apologizes because it is showing when they actually have empathy for what they did. Today, I dive into a few thoughts I have that may help you when considering how you want to handle apologizing in your household. If you have additional thoughts, I'd love for you to send me an email or an IG DM and share them!! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. Free MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3 XO Kaili
Join me today as I chat with Lenora from Better Speech! She shares strategies and tips including: *how to help your child if he/she isn't communicating much verbally, whether it is due to age or developmental stage/if your child has another diagnosis that causes more of a speech delay *when to reach out for help from a Speech Therapist *tips for parents when frustrations rise due to difficulty communicating and understanding the child, especially when big feelings and meltdowns occur *and so much MORE! Better Speech offers online, face to face speech therapy sessions tailored to your child's needs and your preferences for scheduling. If you are unsure if your child may need speech or you just have a question you want answered, give them a call and they will connect you immediately with someone who can answer your questions! Check them out here: https://www.betterspeech.com/ Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. Free MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3 XO Kaili
Last week, I woke up feeling like I was just in "a mood". Like I woke up on the wrong side of the bed and I didn't really know why or what caused it. But I had a really difficult time moving out of it. I could feel my frustrations and impatience rising at different times throughout the day. I managed to keep self controlled enough that I didn't yell or explode but I definitely was still missing the mark. I couldn't help but let my kids know that I was annoyed at their requests. The next day, I was reflecting on what happened and felt convicted. How quickly do we expect our kids to transition out of their bad moods? Do we ever remind ourselves that a child can also have a day where they "wake up on the wrong side of the bed"? Today's episode shares a perspective shift + 2 main components to work through it. Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3 If you're ready to find out what your/your child's custom Behavior Blueprint looks like, schedule a free call here: https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call XO Kaili
Do you struggle to know what steps to take when your child is having a big tantrum or meltdown? Do you find yourself flustered when your child starts throwing a fit in the aisles of Target? Today, I dive into 3 steps to handling an outburst effectively without the mom guilt or disconnection. Do you want your child to learn to regulate on their own AND decrease the tantrums you're experiencing??? This 3 part process will help you get there!! Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. If you're ready to find out what your/your child's custom Behavior Blueprint looks like, schedule a free call here: https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3 XO Kaili
Your child is a mirror of your reflection. And no, I don't mean physically, although that may be true too! What I mean, more specifically, is your child is a mirror to your ability to maintain your regulation, to manage your triggers when you become frustrated or upset. Is what you're seeing something you are pleased with? Now, of course, our kids will need time to learn regardless of how well we stay calm during their big feelings but your consistency of patience, kindness, empathy, and understanding matter! Even when it feels like it isn't sinking in. On the road to learning how to self-regulate (or calm/manage big feelings when upset, disappointed, embarrassed, nervous, etc) your child first learns from you. What is your natural (and highly patterned) response when you are upset? Do you tend to yell, threaten, bribe, use a little more physical force than is needed, etc? The next time your child becomes upset, whether it's from you saying no or because a sibling took a toy or won't share, watch the response that happens. Does it look similar to yours? If you are ready to learn to manage your triggers and/or resolve patterning you have around certain behaviors and do it in a way that doesn't result in mom guilt, burnout, overwhelm, etc. DM me "triggers" and I'll send you some specific strategies. Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com. Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3 XO Kaili
I've been a little inconsistent here over the last 4-6 weeks and that is simply because there has been SO much going on and the episodes I share tend to also be relevant to what's happening in our world in real time or that prompts something I think would be helpful, meaning I'm not really much ahead of when you're listening. That's probably bad business but it's also just the season of motherhood I'm in. Today, I wanted to share those life updates with you AND give you some bonus tips and strategies as you find yourself navigating some of the same (or similar) situations we have been experiencing over the last few weeks. If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect! Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ XO Kaili
Have you ever sat through a long day of tantrums and behaviors and thought I wish he/she could just be "good?" "I wish this wasn't our story." "I wish it didn't have to be this hard!" Or do you have a child that follows directions, never pushes back, and always does the "right" thing? It can be really appealing to have a child who follows most of your directions as you give them and society definitely supports this notion as what "should" be occurring. But today, we dive into whether or not that truly is better and something to be desired from your child. If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect! Special Time Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549 Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ XO- Kaili
I heard a few weeks ago on another podcast that screen time can cause your child to go into fight or flight! What?! I'd always heard that it can be overstimulating for some children, but fight or flight?! That feels more intense to me. Today, I break down how and why we did a digital detox and the reason it may feel really difficult for you. Plus, I share an amazing testimonial with my youngest and the benefits I've already seen in just 3 weeks! If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect! If you're ready to get some free coaching, let's hop on a behavior strategy call via zoom where you can share your difficulties and goals and then choose one area to focus in on. I will provide you specific direction on what to start implementing for free, no strings attached and no commitment or sign ups required. You can schedule it here: https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-strategy Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ How to make screen time connecting (episode 32): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000570007407 XO- Kaili
Do you envision this peaceful bedtime routine that is quick and easy but you end up with 3 trips to the bathroom, 5 drinks of water, 10 more hugs and kisses, begging for more stories and the repeated tucking and re-tucking in?? Today we dive into why this is and the 2 key strategies you can be implementing today to prevent the battle of the bedtime routine. The constant requests and attempts to control what is happening is due to the buildup of feelings and emotions just under the surface that the body naturally tries to expel. By asking for another glass of water, your child is asking you to set a firm, but loving limit. Limits + Stay Listening = Connection Connection = minds ready and able to think Minds ready and able to think = smoother bedtime routine and the ability to go to sleep Special Time Podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812 Blog post on Stay Listening: https://chaostoconnected.com/stay-listening/ Blog post on Setting Limits: https://chaostoconnected.com/setting-limits/ If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect! We will hop on a behavior strategy call via zoom where you can share your difficulties and goals and then choose one area to focus in on. I will provide you specific direction on what to start implementing for free, no strings attached and no commitment or sign ups required. Free audio training on how to Tame Your Triggers: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/633ad12aff6e9a5490d013e4 Free Special Time e-guide: the #1 Strategy for Transforming Behavior: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/621850e5a41d78f73c5012d8 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ XO- Kaili
I think there are a lot of misconceptions we have as parents, many of them just because it is what society continuously tells us. Today, I dive into one of those... Did you know you don't actually have to know what your little one is melting down about to help him/her resolve it? Tune in as I share why you don't need to know and how you can help! Episode on the importance of crying: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000576630552 Episode on how we unintentionally move our kids away from crying: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000565110255 Episode on why labeling feelings can distract our kids away from processing big feelings: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000552915774 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect! We will hop on a behavior strategy call via zoom where you can share your difficulties and goals and then choose one area to focus in on. I will provide you specific direction on what to start implementing for free, no strings attached and no commitment or sign ups required. Free audio training on how to Tame Your Triggers: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/633ad12aff6e9a5490d013e4 Free Special Time e-guide: the #1 Strategy for Transforming Behavior: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/621850e5a41d78f73c5012d8 XO Kaili
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