It's All Me

For this week's podcast, I brought along a friend… high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist, Katarina Polonska! In this episode, we discuss how to make the difficult decision of whether to stay or leave a relationship, how to navigate messy power struggles, and how to move from individualism to collaboration to build stronger, more connected relationships. Yep, we cover it all! Watch this episode now to discover: The #1 way to get clarity on whether you should stay or leave a relationship (hint: the result is win-win: you either transform the relationship or you leave and find someone who is more aligned) The 6-month strategy to "clean up your side of the street" and find undeniable clarity The blame game that often happens in the power struggle phase of a relationship when our wounds (aka: sneaky unaddressed demons) like to come out The responsibility we have to try and understand our partner's needs and to hold them AND ours with equal importance How we've moved away from being collaborative in relationships to being individualistic and believing our needs matter more than our partners A mindset shift that can help you have a better relationship with your in-laws and extended family (even if you couldn't be more yin and yang!) About Katarina Polonska: Katarina is a high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist who specializes in helping people make clear relationship decisions. Her expertise in attachment theory, behavioral science of attraction, and the cultural influences on relationships provides a unique framework for understanding and transforming relationship patterns. Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram to get her best scroll-stopping insights www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos And for even more wisdom (and juicy discounts), sign up to her newsletter so you never miss out https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

Does every task on your to-do list feel as equally urgent and like a threat to your survival? In this week's episode, Gervase dives deep into the pattern of over-functioning that keeps so many women stuck in perpetual stress. You'll learn why your nervous system gets locked in high alert and overdrive, even for unimportant tasks such as the laundry. And how this cycle of perpetual doing and achieving causes burnout and a never-ending sense of “psychotic urgency.” And to help you rewire these patterns, Gervase shares practical steps such as how to reconnect to your body, slow down and create moments of calm even in the chaos of modern life.   Watch this episode now to discover:   The biggest indicator that you're an over-functioner and how this “psychotic urgency” prevents you from being, enjoying and living life Why your brain can't relax when it's stuck in overfunctioning without signals from your body first (and how this creates a chicken-and-egg problem for over-functioners) The real cost of constantly operating like a computer instead of honoring your HUMAN need for rhythm, rest and pleasure A simple 4-step practice to interrupt the overfunctioning pattern when you feel yourself spiraling The narcissistic-like belief many of us have that unknowingly depletes your energy (and how to contribute without sacrificing yourself) How to create 30-second intervals throughout your day to tune into your body's wisdom and gradually rewire your nervous system Follow Gervase   -   Connect with Gervase on Instagram to get her best scroll-stopping insights      http://www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos   -   And for even more wisdom (and her juiciest discounts and invites), sign up to her newsletter https://www.gervasekolmos.com

Tired of contorting yourself into a pretzel so you're liked? Or so you don't make others feel uncomfortable by being YOU? In this week's episode (which is our first ever video podcast!), Gervase dives deep into why women have been conditioned to “perform” and prioritize being liked over being authentic. You'll learn practical tools and a few hard-hitting truth bombs to help you break free from this hypervigilance so you can come home to yourself. Watch this episode to discover: Why you're taught that likeability is the gold standard for women (while men aren't held to the same expectation)  What this hypervigilance on everybody else's comfort level is doing to your nervous system The real cost of abandoning yourself to please others (hint: no amount of external validation can make up for the 3 things that you're losing)  Why other people's triggers about you are actually reflections of their OWN discomfort, and have nothing to do with you  How to stop making yourself responsible for others' emotions and reclaim your power and agency A practical exercise to transform your relationship with triggers so you can use them as data for self-discovery The intoxicating freedom that comes when you focus on liking yourself rather than being liked by everyone else Want Gervase's personal guidance? If you'd like to become who you're really meant to be (instead of who they told you to be), you're invited to join Gervase's upcoming Inner Knowing Mastermind. During these 8 group calls, you'll get an embodied sense of who you are, what's right for you, and how to choose it. But hurry: the first call starts April 30th - and to keep them intimate, there's only a limited number of seats left! Visit GervaseKolmos.com/inner-knowing-mastermind to reserve yours now. Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram to get her best scroll-stopping insights www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos And for even more wisdom (and juicy discounts), sign up to her newsletter so you never miss out https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ 

The pressure to be more, do more, have more is exhausting, but what if the real problem isn't you… but the unrealistic expectations you've internalized? In this week's episode, G unpacks the invisible forces keeping women stuck in a cycle of never enough, and reveals why Inner Knowing is the path to authentic happiness and fulfillment. She'll show you how to tune into your own body and soul wisdom, how to identify when you are being led by external pressures, and how to trust your inner compass to make empowered, aligned choices. You'll learn: What Inner Knowing is and why it's so important for modern women How to start listening to the body and soul's signals for easier, more aligned decision making How to break free from external expectations and step into your true essence Practical tips on how to trust intuition in everyday life The power of making decisions based on what feels right, not what looks right   Our souls are literally begging us to pay attention to our inner truth- and how we feel - instead of who we “should” be, how we are “supposed” to act and who they told us we are.  If you'd like to learn how to access your inner knowing - anytime and anywhere - join G in her Inner Knowing Mastermind. This powerful 8 week experience will unlock the wisdom of your body and soul, and help you create a life aligned with your deepest truth.  Sessions begin April 30th, and spots are limited. Act now and learn how to free yourself from the pressure, perfectionism and “pushing through” of modern life.  It's time you live a life that lights you up from the inside out.  Go here to enroll and get more details: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/inner-knowing-mastermind    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/themodernphoenix Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ 

Have you ever found yourself completely overwhelmed, frustrated, or stuck in a cycle you can't seem to break? You may feel your body tense up, your mind race, or  feel paralyzed by indecision. You know you're triggered, but you're not so sure what to do next. In this episode of The Modern Phoenix, Gervase dives into what it actually takes to move through a trigger, not just from a logical, intellectual place, but through a somatic and soul strategy that allows you to shift your nervous system and return to a state of clarity, empowerment, and ease. This is not your basic “identifying triggers” surface-level episode. This is about integration - learning to recognize, resource, and regulate yourself in real-time so you stop spinning in mental loops and start embodying a new way of being. Listen in as Gervase shares how to move from an activated state into a place of true self-knowing and safety, so that the next time a trigger hits, you'll know exactly how to navigate it. If you're tired of being hijacked by your triggers and ready to move through them with ease, grace, and actual solutions, hit play now. And if you're feeling called to go deeper, Gervase's Inner Knowing Mastermind is now open! Check out the links below for more info. What you'll learn: Why knowing about triggers isn't enough (and what actually shifts them) The biggest mistake we make when trying to "fix" a triggered state How to recognize and work with your body's activation responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) A simple question to ask yourself when you're overwhelmed and don't know what to do How resourcing yourself properly can completely shift how you experience triggers in the future Why emotional intelligence isn't just a mental game, but a Mind-Body-Soul strategy *NEW* The Inner Knowing Mastermind. A sacred space to develop unshakable self-trust and body and soul-led intuition   This 8 week group coaching/ live training experience is designed to give you access to your deepest, most profound truth, and help create a life that makes YOU most happy (instead of all the pushing, pretending and people-pleasing that creates so much stress and incongruence now).   If you are a woman who has “it all” but still feels something is wrong despite all you've “done right,” this mastermind is for you.    G will help you unlearn the conditioning that keeps you trapped, and tap into your soul-voice and body wisdom to live a life of authenticity, freedom and feeling fucking good.    It's time you get to be who you REALLY are, not who *they* told you to be.  Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/themodernphoenix Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/   

Have you ever felt like something in your life, career, or relationships isn't working, and instead of questioning the system, you immediately assume you must be the problem? That there's something wrong with you, that you're not trying hard enough, that if you were just different, everything would fall into place? This episode of The Modern Phoenix is a wake-up call. Gervase shares a raw and powerful riff from the vault - straight from a live coaching session. She dives into the deep-rooted conditioning that convinces women to gaslight themselves, unpacks how the systems we exist in, like patriarchy, capitalism, and generational conditioning, keep us in a cycle of self-doubt and self-abandonment. Most importantly, she offers a different perspective: what if your emotions, your overwhelm, your desire for change aren't personal failures, but signals that the ecosystem around you needs to shift? If you're ready to reframe your inner dialogue, reclaim your discernment, and trust yourself enough to create the ripple effect that leads to real, systemic change, listen in now. What you'll learn: Why so many high-achieving women believe they are the problem (and why that's a lie) How to recognize when burnout and dissatisfaction are signals and not personal failings The power of the shift; trusting your emotions instead of suppressing them How to have your own back through the inevitable cycles of transformation What it really means to be a culture-changer in your own ecosystem   Are you ready to stop gaslighting yourself? To stop thinking that you're ALWAYS the problem, and start accessing your inner wisdom? Be a woman that has her own back. Start with a Soul Shift: The Soul Shift Intensive was created for the woman who is ready to leave behind the stories society has conditioned her to believe, and instead embrace the calm and clarity that comes with being connected to soul wisdom. Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/themodernphoenix Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/   

How often do you hold back, soften your words, or twist yourself into knots just to make sure no one gets upset? Whether it's navigating a tough conversation with your partner, setting boundaries with your kids, or simply taking time for yourself without guilt, many of us have been conditioned to prioritize other people's comfort over our own truth. In this episode of The Modern Phoenix, Gervase is sharing a behind-the-scenes look at a live coaching call from The Phoenix Revolution, where she explored the deeply ingrained belief that your peace depends on everyone else being okay. If you've ever found yourself walking on eggshells, silencing your needs, or measuring success by how well you "land the plane" in a tough conversation, this episode is for you. You'll hear real coaching, real breakthroughs, and a powerful shift in how we approach boundaries, self-trust, and standing in our truth, even when it's uncomfortable.   What you'll learn: Why so many of us feel unsafe when someone is upset with us (and how to shift this pattern) How placing your power outside yourself keeps you stuck in people-pleasing patterns The sneaky ways perfectionism and control show up in relationships What it really looks like to stand firm in your truth, even when it's uncomfortable A new way to approach difficult conversations that centers your needs, not just theirs Tired of bending over backwards to keep the peace?  Are you curious what it would feel like to burn people-pleasing patterns away and stand in your own truth, powerful and calm in the face of chaos, or other people's expectations?    It starts with a Soul Shift: The Soul Shift Intensive was created for the woman who is ready to leave behind the stories society has conditioned her to believe, and instead embrace the calm and clarity that comes with being connected to soul wisdom. Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive Did someone mention Pleasure? Summer may be over but the Summer of Pleasure free Masterclass is timeless: Read more here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/summer-of-pleasure   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/themodernphoenix Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/    Resources: IG Reel: It's Not Your Job To Make Them Happy Book: The Science of Getting Rich

Have you ever been told that you're too emotional? Or do you avoid crying at all costs because you don't want to look weak? In this week's episode, Gervase flips this narrative upside down, offering a powerful reframe that reveals why crying is actually a profound act of healing, as well as an opportunity for connection and growth. Listen in as she breaks down the societal indoctrinations and personal barriers that make us resistant to feeling our emotions, as well as the physiological and intuitive benefits of crying, making a case for why embracing your tears is a radical and necessary practice. What you'll learn: Why the fear of being "too emotional" is costing us authenticity How patriarchy, capitalism, and even feminism condition us to suppress emotions. How allowing emotions to flow can deepen our relationships and create a bridge to our intuition The physiological benefits of crying, including access to soul-wisdom Why creating safe, intentional spaces to feel is key to emotional health How women's circles, somatic healing, and working with a trained facilitator can help you access your intuition, soul wisdom, and deeper clarity   Are you ready to stop suppressing your emotions and start accessing your inner wisdom?  Start with a Soul Shift: The Soul Shift Intensive was created for the woman who is ready to leave behind the stories society has conditioned her to believe, and instead embrace the calm and clarity that comes with being connected to soul wisdom. Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ 

When it's deeper than talk therapy, it needs a mind-body-soul approach. This week on the Modern Phoenix, Gervase shares insights from her mental health journey turned full-blown personal evolution. Listen in as she opens up about how transitioning from mind-based therapy to soul and body-centered practices like focalizing, somatic healing, and nervous system regulation opened new paths to healing and inner transformation. As she recounts pivotal moments that shaped her understanding of herself, she shares the profound power of trauma responses, intuition, inner child healing, and more, inviting you to look beyond conventional therapy practices and consider your own unique path to healing. What you'll learn: The strengths and limitations of talk therapy that led Gervase to explore mind-body-soul healing The role of somatic practices and nervous system regulation in mental health What it means to understand and address trauma responses through body awareness Why shifting from self-fixing to self-tending is crucial for healing The importance of integrating mind, body, and soul in any healing journey How to embrace the complexity of healing and look beyond conventional therapy practices. New to the idea of Mind-Body-Soul integration? Start by dropping into your body wisdom with a Somatic Soul Session: For the first time ever, current, past and new clients can enjoy a 60 minute session with Gervase to set intentions for the New Year, get clear and focused when you feel stuck and overwhelmed, or address any persistent problems that keep recurring. Get unstuck and tap into your body wisdom. On sale through January. Buy it now, use it any time this year:  https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/f1c7c21a-5772-4222-bf65-7bac78672c33/buy Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

The transition into motherhood reshapes not just our roles, but our very beings. In this episode, Gervase Kolmos sits down with Jessi Harold, author of Mothershift, to explore the transformative journey known as matrescence. Jessi shares her insights on how becoming a mother can be both a radical shift and a rite of passage filled with growth, challenges, and deep self-discovery. Together, they discuss the complexities of identity shifts, societal expectations, and the importance of holding space for both the beauty and the struggle of parenting.    Keep listening as Gervase and Jessie cover the balance between rejecting and emulating our own upbringing, explore how motherhood pushes us to hold paradoxes and embrace nuance, and discuss how it transforms not only how we parent but also how we grow as individuals.   What you'll learn: The meaning and transformative power of matrescense The importance of holding complexity and paradox in motherhood The need for and challenges of finding community and support in modern motherhood How your upbringing can leave you swinging between breaking cycles and repeating them  Why self-compassion is a must in the matrescence journey The value of finding balance and what's right for you in motherhood versus societal norms Connect with Jessi Harrold Instagram | @jessie.es.harrold: Website | https://www.jessieharrold.com/   New! Special Rate: Drop into your body wisdom with a Somatic Soul Session: For the first time ever, current, past and new clients can enjoy a 60 minute session with Gervase to set intentions for the New Year, get clear and focused when you feel stuck and overwhelmed, or address any persistent problems that keep recurring. Get unstuck and tap into your body wisdom. On sale through January. Buy it now, use it any time this year:  https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/f1c7c21a-5772-4222-bf65-7bac78672c33/buy Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/    Resources: Mothershift Book - Jessie Harrold  

Navigate the demands of the new year with greater ease, intention, and authenticity. In this week's grounding episode, Gervase invites you to reflect, reset, and reconnect with the cycles of nature around (and within) you. She explores the effect of the Winter Solstice, our changing assignments for this season, and discusses how aligning with nature's rhythm can help us navigate the demands of modern life with ease. Gervase shares her insights on living as a “modern woman on an ancient Earth,” and how tapping into the wisdom of your body and soul can unlock a new sense of clarity and coherence. Listen in as she guides you through a grounding exercise, sharing tools to help you slow down, refuel, and return to your life feeling aligned, resourced, and ready to create magic. What You'll Learn in This Episode: The power of seasonal awareness and its impact on your body and mind. Why slowing down and resourcing as you go is essential for sustainable energy. How to reset your nervous system in the midst of life's chaos with a simple grounding exercise. The role of natural intelligence in guiding your decisions and aligning your inner and outer worlds. Why your worthiness is never tied to productivity or societal expectations. New! Special Rate: drop into your body wisdom with a Somatic Soul Session: For the first time ever, current, past and new clients can enjoy a 60 minute session with Gervase to set intentions for the New Year, get clear and focused when you feel stuck and overwhelmed, or address any persistent problems that keep recurring.  Get unstuck and tap into your body wisdom. On sale through January. Buy it now, use it any time this year:  https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/f1c7c21a-5772-4222-bf65-7bac78672c33/buy    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ 

What if the key to breaking through relationship conflicts isn't in the talking but in the listening… to your body? In this episode, Gervase reveals how shifting from mind-based strategies to somatic and soul approaches (read: dropping out of the mind and into the body) transformed a weeks-long rupture in her marriage into a moment of deep connection and repair. Listen in as she shares her struggles with “circling the drain” with repetitive arguments, how the mind can get in the way of reconciliation, and the power of the body in moving through relationship stalemates. Keep listening for questions you can ask yourself to explore the practice of dropping into your body wisdom, and for a powerful reminder that healing doesn't always come from trying harder but from thinking differently.   Drop into your own unique body wisdom with a Somatic Soul Session: 60 minute, 1:1 coaching sessions to get you unstuck and ready to work with your body wisdom. On sale through January. Check it out here: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/f1c7c21a-5772-4222-bf65-7bac78672c33/buy    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

From threats and punishments to connection - this one goes out to the parents of strong-willed children. In today's episode, Gervase welcomes Wendy Snyder, certified parenting educator and family life coach, to discuss the power of positive, connection-based parenting. Together, they explore the challenges, myths, and opportunities of this parenting style, particularly with strong-willed children. They discuss the impact of healing generational trauma cycles, the role of self-awareness in parenting, and the importance of letting go of shame and perfectionism. Packed with personal stories and valuable insights, this episode is a must-listen for any parent seeking to nurture meaningful relationships with their kids.   Connect with Wendy:  Fresh Start Wendy | Instagram Power Struggles FREE Online Workshop - Fresh Start Family   Ready to work with Gervase? Start your rebirth with a Soul Shift: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/   

In this episode, Gervase shines a light on the pervasive belief: “I have to say or do the right thing, or they'll be mad.” Gervase explores how this belief can not only trap you in cycles of self-doubt, stress, and rumination but also leads to self-abandonment. Join her as she shares insights into how the mind can mask trauma with obsession, frustration, and the relentless need to “get it right.” Keep listening to hear how you find the unique somatic soul strategy you need to bring yourself out of overwhelming obsession and into clarity, self-honoring, and groundedness. Ready to work with Gervase? Start your rebirth with a Soul Shift: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

This week, Gervase takes on a limiting belief that surfaces in the lives of many modern women: it's not okay to be wrong. Learn why this belief leads to fear, power struggles and a lack of authenticity in your life. You'll discover why ruminating and gaslighting are trauma-based activation responses, and how leaning into body wisdom and the practice of resourcing can give you exactly what you need - the permission to be human, which will power a sense of ease, flow and creativity in your life.   Ready to work with Gervase? Start your rebirth with a Soul Shift: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

Welcome to The Modern Phoenix Podcast! Born from the ashes of the “It's All Me” podcast, The Modern Phoenix is here to guide, inspire, and empower you to rise into the truest, most powerful version of yourself. In this episode, Gervase shares the heart behind the podcast rebrand, what it means to be a “modern woman,” and how the Phoenix archetype offers a powerful guide for personal evolution. Keep listening to hear how knowing and choosing yourself despite our social conditioning, trusting your inner wisdom, and making bold choices are key to becoming who you were meant to be. Get your free Season of Pleasure masterclass here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/season-of-pleasure   Ready to work with Gervase? Start your rebirth with a Soul Shift: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

On this week's solo episode of the IAM podcast, Gervases seizes inspiration from a recent client interaction, discussing how patterns of disempowerment have left many women with the sneaky survival strategy of hyper-vigilance around the needs of others, and how permission, resource, and pleasure can allow us to bring more regulated versions of ourselves forward to meet life's initiations. Listen in for questions that will help you begin to uncover what gives you life, what's blocking you from your pleasure, and how you can accept permission to wake up and reclaim who you are instead of who you think everyone needs you to be.   Get your free Season of Pleasure masterclass here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/season-of-pleasure   Ready to work with Gervase? Start your rebirth with a Soul Shift: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ 

This week on the IAM podcast, after a full year of navigating her daughter's PANDAS diagnosis,Gervase shares her lived experience of integrating relationship, resource, pleasure, and advocacy into her approach to life and her daughter's health. Listen in as Gervase discusses the importance of finding your “lighthouse” relationship in stressful times, how to choose your truth even when it goes against what everyone else is doing, the cyclical nature of life, and her personal journey with food and her family's health. Get your free Season of Pleasure masterclass here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/season-of-pleasure   Ready to work with Gervase? Start your rebirth with a Soul Shift: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/    Resources: 105: My Light After the Dark Night of the Soul {Personal Story} - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify   109: A Peek Inside Our Family's New (Food) Normal - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify

Join Gervase this week on the It's All Me podcast as she shares how important the practice of resourcing has become in her life, especially in times of stress, like her recent bout with Covid during “Back to School' season. Listen in as she shares why resourcing moment to moment is actually a regenerative practice that calms the nervous system, and how it differs from the typical American way of resourcing that leads to resentment and frustration. Keep listening to hear how this widely underestimated way of womaning allows you to be more efficient with your time and energy, so that you can feel better as you live, rather than collapsing in burnout and despair on your way to “better things.” Get your free Season of Pleasure masterclass here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/season-of-pleasure   Ready to work with Gervase? Start your rebirth with a Soul Shift: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ 

Welcome back to a new season of the It's All Me podcast! In this solo episode, Gervase shares her personal experiences of integrating a mindset that changed the trajectory of her life, and continues to help her along life's more recent rejections. Listen in as G redefines rejection as an opportunity for redirection, discusses how we can keep the energy flowing in the face of failure or disappointment, and the power that lies in letting what is misaligned burn in the fire.   Ready to work with Gervase? Start your rebirth with a Soul Shift: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/   

This week on the It's All Me podcast, Gervase addresses the impact of going beyond the mind when it comes to healing. Listen in as she discusses the patterns that have led to a wave of traumatized nervous systems in modern society, and the risks we take when we focus on the problem rather than resourcing, regulation, and repair. Keep listening as G shares the power of somatic and subconscious healing when it comes to addressing trauma and breaking generational patterns, and the importance of approaching our healing journeys with compassion and curiosity. Ready to work with Gervase? Start your rebirth with a Soul Shift: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/    Resources: Jeannine's Instagram post  

This week on the It's All Me podcast, we are bringing back a much-loved episode with Jeannine Yoder (Kochuba). In this episode, Gervase invites us to sit down with fellow AMDA graduate and New York Times Featured Feminine Leadership & Business Coach Jeannine Kochuba. Gervase and Jeannine share their journeys of becoming the women they are today by embracing and healing trauma, letting go of patriarchal and societal beliefs, and awakening to their power and purpose as women and mothers. Listen in and be part of a playful and deep conversation about how you are the woman you've been waiting for. That's right - It's All You. Guest Info Connect with Jeannine Yoder on Instagram: @jeannine.yoder   Ready to rise from the ashes? Start your rebirth with a Phoenix Coaching package: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/phoenix-coaching   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/    Resources: Jeannine's Instagram post

This week on the IAM podcast, Gervase is dropping in with a solo episode on the difference between experiencing life's challenges and allowing ourselves to sit in a state of suffering. Sharing her thoughts on the internalized systems that make suffering and martyrdom mindsets normal, Gervase also shares her own personal experience of addressing the blueprint of suffering within her own body and nervous system. Listen in as she shares how her training in Focalizing has helped her approach suffering in a more trauma-informed way, how we can make the shift to acknowledge challenges while not overidentifying with them, and the role that pleasure plays in the face of challenging times. Keep listening for an invitation to join G in her upcoming free masterclass on July 17th (link below!) NEW! Upcoming Masterclass July 17th - Summer of Pleasure: This Summer's assignment? Stop and smell the F*ing roses. Less thinking. More feeling. Read more here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/summer-of-pleasure   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com

On this week's solo episode of the I AM podcast, Gervase reminds high performing women - like you - of the transformative power of taking time to smell the metaphorical roses, and how it could actually be the most productive move you make in your entire life. Listen in as she shares what healing looks like when we pause and pendulate between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system, discusses the challenges of slowing down in our speed-incentivized modern world, and how the practice of prioritizing your wellbeing and accessing pleasure can help you feel safe in your body, leading to a more resourced and productive life. If you're ready to start embracing pleasure and self-discovery, while learning to regulate and resource your nervous system, listen in now! (and check out the upcoming masterclass below!) NEW! Upcoming Masterclass July 17th - Summer of Pleasure: This Summer's assignment? Stop and smell the F*ing roses. Less thinking. More feeling. Read more here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/summer-of-pleasure   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources:  142: The Path to Secure Attachment (Even If You're Anxious) with Carly Turner - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify  

On this solo episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase shares her personal insights on partnership, co-creating safety and trust within your relationship to ask for what you need, and the importance of resourcing and living a life you love as individuals as well as a couple. She shares her personal journey of navigating a 14 year marriage through smooth sailing and rough waters, how she and her husband practice recognizing and letting go of victim-mentality behavior and taking radical self-responsibility, and how these practices cultivate more passion and pleasure in their relationship. If you're feeling like you need support in your own relationship journey, keep listening for an invitation to walk the Phoenix path with Gervase, creating resource and safety within your own nervous system and within your relationships.     NEW! Upcoming Masterclass July 17th - Summer of Pleasure: This Summer's assignment? Stop and smell the F*ing roses. Less thinking. More feeling. Read more here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/summer-of-pleasure   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Work with Gervase Book a Soul Shift Intensive: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive Resources: 133: How to Ask For What You Want (at Work) Pt 1 - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify 135: How to Ask For What You Want (at Home) Pt 2 - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify 134: Understanding Childhood Trauma that Doesn't Feel Like Trauma with Chelsea Green (replay) - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify  

This week on the IAM podcast, Gervase sits down with Carly Turner, certified CBT & Somatic Attachment Therapist, as they discuss anxious attachment, how it impacts all areas of life, and Carly's personal path toward secure attachment. They dive into the possible roots of anxious attachment, and the importance of self-reflection, curiosity, and compassion along the journey to secure attachment. If you're ready to stop being hijacked by your emotions and lost in the chaotic behavior that follows, listen for practices you can implement outside of triggered moments to cultivate more peace and trust within your system and relationships, as well as ways to ground and resource yourself in moments of triggering uncertainty.   Connect with Carly Turner: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym   NEW! Upcoming Masterclass July 17th - Summer of Pleasure: This Summer's assignment? Stop and smell the F*ing roses. Less thinking. More feeling. Read more here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/summer-of-pleasure   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com

What is your relationship to joy? For a lot of modern women wearing multiple hats and feeling responsible for all sorts of projects and people, joy is the first thing they take off their list when life starts to feel too chaotic. On this episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase talks about reconnecting to joy without the ‘shoulds' and shame, why doing the work to get to joy is worth having tough conversations, and how joy can be a great motivator to lead the lives we desire. After all, joy is a really good reason to create and live a life we love.   In this episode Gervase dives into:   [01:24] Addressing the root causes of our discomfort and dissatisfaction to find peace and joy in our hot mess moments    [08:56] How joy can be our source of fuel for the things we want to do in life (aka Why cleaning your house isn't bringing you the calm you're looking for)    [11:30] How we've been conditioned to believe our joy is inconvenient and what we can do to claim it for ourselves    Free Bonus Resources: Get instant access to the Joyful AF Masterclass + custom hypnosis track: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/joyful-af   Connect with G on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos  Work with G: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/phoenix-coaching

This week on the IAM podcast, Gervase reintroduces relationship and sex therapist Dr. Viviana, who shares how she uses her 20 years of experience to help couples cultivate an underlying current of sensuality in their relationships. Gervase and Dr. Viviana discuss ways to create a sexy environment outside of the bedroom, why some of us struggle with activating our sexuality, and how the right dance of sensuality and sexuality can create a long lasting sex life with our partners. Listen in to discover what is lurking behind the typical quantity and quality arguments between couples, Dr. Viviana's secret to keeping the spark alive, and to hear a permission slip so liberating that it could change your ability to tap into your own current of sensuality. Don't miss Dr. Viviana's free masterclass happening TODAY (6/10)! Click the link below to register.   Connect with Dr. Viviana: Free Pillow Talk Masterclass TODAY (6/10/24): https://doctorviviana.com/register/ Dr. Viviana Coles- The Intimacy Expert (@doctorviviana) • Instagram   Save 10% on coaching packages til June 6th: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/phoenix-coaching   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources: I AM connected to my partner and sexually satisfied with Dr. Viviana Coles - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify  

This week on the podcast, Gervase introduces us to her mentor Nick Werber from the Focalizing Institute, as they discuss generational trauma patterns and how they can shape our childhood, adulthood, and even influence parenting practices. Nick shares specifically how family dynamics create outsider roles like the scapegoat and black sheep of the family and why we need these nonconformists. Listen in as Gervase and Nick share their personal experiences with these outsider roles, and how they and others who have been handed these (at times) trauma-fueled titles can utilize the practice of Focalizing to begin move the needle forward, redefine themselves from an internal place without needing external validation, and even make cycle-breaking a bit easier for the next generation.    Connect with Nick: Nick Werber - nicknwerber.comNick Werber | Integrative Coach (@nickwerber_) • Instagram Join Nick's 'Other' workshop series   Save 10% on coaching packages til June 6th: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/phoenix-coaching   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources: G | Integrative Coach (@gervasekolmos) • Instagram photos and videos  

Join G and her guests Destini and Kiva this week on the IAM podcast as they have an in-depth discussion about peaceful parenting and the work necessary to make it a reality. Listen in as they discuss how the trending 'doormat' version of peaceful parenting being highlighted on social media can actually be harmful to your child, why it's vital to start with your own behavior and beliefs as a parent, and how you can create a bank of trust and openness with your child by avoiding overparenting. If you're ready to carve a new path of parenting that creates safety, trust, and opens you and your child up for more resource, love, and true collaboration, listen in now! Connect with Destini and Kiva: The Jai Institute for ParentingDestini Davis | Instagram NEW Phoenix Coaching: BRAND new, straight out of the fire programming. Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/phoenix-coaching   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources: G | Integrative Coach (@gervasekolmos) • Instagram photos and videos

In this week's solo episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase walks us through her lived experience of resourcing and holding space for the duality of being okay in the midst of chaos or stress without shame or blame. Listen in as she talks about acknowledging the range of your experience by feeling your feelings fully without judgment, why you don't need to skip to the silver lining, and how to notice when you are gaslighting yourself. Keep listening to hear how to create safety within yourself, to resource and heal in community without putting the obligation on someone else, and how her trauma-informed practice of focalizing helps her and her clients heal themselves, their lineages, and honor all felt emotions - even when life is not okay.  Join the Phoenix Revolution (10% off until 6/6/24!) BRAND new, straight out of the fire programming. Check it out here before the one and only discount I'll ever offer expires: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/phoenix-coaching   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive  *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources: G | Integrative Coach (@gervasekolmos) • Instagram photos and videos  

On this week's solo episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase discusses how she reverse-engineered bad parenting advice and used it as inspiration for her family's practice of self-regulation. Listen in as she shares how we can navigate the challenges and lies that we've been sold by modern Mother Culture, why it's vital that you honor your own nervous system, and some tangible, practical ways she resources herself all day long (and how you can too!). If you're ready to step out of reactionary, fight or flight parenting and start feeling resourced when the waves of life try to drag you under, to be the rock that your child can coregulate to, listen to this episode now.    Join the Phoenix Revolution (10% off until 6/6/24!) BRAND new, straight out of the fire programming. Check it out here before the one and only discount I'll ever offer expires: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/phoenix-coaching   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive  *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources: G | Integrative Coach (@gervasekolmos) • Instagram photos and videos  

In this second half of a two-part series, Gervase shines a light on how to get what you want at home. Using two highly common archetypes of women who aren't currently getting their wants or needs met in the home, Gervase shares why this isn't “just the way it is” and how you can take back your agency and embrace your power to evolve your life into a reflection of who you are on the inside. Listen in for the sneaky beliefs that are keeping you small, how accepting a life of not getting what you want can manifest into other symptoms in your life, why being needless and wantless is actually hurting your family, and so many more valuable insights (Seriously grab a pen). Keep listening for real-time practices of having grace for your current self and the shifts you can make to start getting what you want out of your home life. Join the Phoenix Revolution BRAND new, straight out of the fire programming. Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/phoenix-coaching   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive  *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources: 133: How to Ask For What You Want (at Work) Pt 1 - It's All Me  Mary Magdalene Revealed: Amazon.com: Books  

In this replay from 2021, Gervase is getting publicly therapized with soulmate and licensed professional counselor Chelsea Green. Chelsea speaks such wisdom about how the systems that we are surrounded by as children, translate into our adult life. The conversation is sprinkled with mic drop moment after mic drop moment from the choices that we face everyday to how we can calibrate our roles in the patriarchal society.    Chelsea is a Licensed Professional Counselor providing integrative mental health therapy in Charleston, SC. Her therapy practice specializes in working with adults, couples, and families in the midst of life transitions, relationship stress, trauma recovery, family systems, anxiety, depression, and stress. She is also a family constellation group facilitator and a visual artist who merges her many talents to curate transformative experiences.   BIG NEWS is on the way!  Stay in the loop by signing up for the newsletter: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/newsletter Guest Info Follow Chelsea on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chelseagreencreates/    Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive  *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com

In a masterclass-style solo episode this week, Gervase dives into how to ask for what you want at your place of work. Listen in as she discusses the three main beliefs of a high-performing woman who isn't getting what she wants, the role of our sympathetic nervous system, the impact of the company you keep, what could be keeping you in a martyr mindset, and how to decipher if these beliefs are stemming from the culture of a toxic workplace or your own belief system. Keep listening for the action steps you can take to make the shift and start getting or creating what you want at work. Catch part 2 in two weeks: How to get what you want at home Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive  *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com

This week on the It's All Me podcast, Gervase shares a client-inspired discussion about selflessness and the lies we've been fed that have led us into martyrdom, victimhood, and insecurity. Listen in as she sifts through where the feelings of guilt, shame, and the “I don't get to have that” mentality come from, the work she and her clients are doing to hold the internal line of authenticity, and how believing in yourself doesn't take away from anyone, but actually gives so much more to your relationships. Keep listening to hear how you get to be the one to reject the lies you've been sold, rework your beliefs, show up as the boldest version of yourself. and how you can be supported through the process. Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive  *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources:   On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good: Loehnen, Elise: 9780593243039: Amazon.com: Books  

This week on the IAM podcast, Gervase drops in with her thoughts on the transformative opportunity that lies within the Spring Equinox and the practice of aligning your life and body with nature, as she shares her personal experience of tuning into nature and the changes it made in her life. Listen in as she breaks down why the metaphor of nature is relevant to our lives, how seeing your life as parallel with nature can strengthen your mindset and your resilience to live through the hard experiences (or seasons) in your life, and why Spring's New Year may be her favorite day of the year. Check out the BONUS POD EPISODE that just dropped with Sarah Jenks! Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive    Join Holy Woman using my affiliate link: https://sarahjenks.com/holywoman/?oprid=27019&ref=139277 *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com

In this bonus replay from 2022, G brings one of her teachers to the pod—a fellow mom of 3 who also happens to be a Priestess, Sarah Jenks. In this conversation, G excitedly quizzes Sarah on the definitions of and historical context of layer upon layer of the internalized patriarchy of the modern woman.  If you've wanted a deeper understanding of the Sacred Feminine, the patriarchy, the stories of Mary Magdalene or what it means to be in “ceremony,” this episode will go beyond informative and activate resonance. Listen in to learn what happens when women remember the untold stories of the empowered, magical and wealthy female archetypes that lived during Jesus' time and re-integrate their souls as modern day holy women. In this episode Gervase and Sarah discuss: The various definitions and types of “ceremony” available today How all the sacred feminine lineages are “remembered” because they were all deliberately erased #boom How she uses her priestess training (and physics) to create a coherent energetic field Sarah's definition of the ‘Sacred Feminine”  The full body, emotional reaction G experienced after learning about the Sacred Feminine The way the patriarchy removed women from their power and convinced them their natural magic was “evil” Why we can't fight for abortion rights or better gun laws until we are internally free #itsallmemindset The radical notion that Jesus' mother AND wife were not who the Bible says they were   Sarah Jenks is a Priestess and Founder of a Global Sacred Feminine Temple. Her sacred practice and teachings weave together the mysteries of Ancient Avalon, Earth-based practices of her Celtic and Germanic ancestry, the Feminine Path of Mary Magdalene, and the Ancient Egyptian practices of Anointing. Sarah offers live experiences, courses and community that are grounded in unveiling your true power and mission so that you can create the life you're meant to live. Guest Info Connect with Sarah Jenks on Instagram: @sarahjenks Or check out sarahjenks.com  Join Holy Woman using my affiliate link: https://sarahjenks.ontraport.net/t?orid=139277&opid=38 Try Sarah's free resource – Sacred Start: https://sarahjenks.com/sacred-start/   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/   

Back from her trip to Puerto Rico, Gervase shares the impact of our cultural conditioning around motherhood, the stories its led us to tell ourselves, and why leaving martyrdom motherhood in the past will help you not only keep your sanity but leave a legacy for your children that you'll be proud of. Join the discussion as she dives deeper than the “take care of yourself” platitudes, addressing the symptoms of internalized patriarchy, why there's no shame in taking a break, and how accepting our multi-dimensionality as women and mothers can leave a lasting imprint on our children. Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive  *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com  

Peek behind the curtain into Gervase's private coaching spaces this week as Gervase shares an anonymous client story about a woman learning to integrate her body wisdom while simultaneously unlearning default patterns in her nervous system. Listen in as Gervase somatically guides her client into a space where she feels resourced and safe enough to not only acknowledge her negative emotions but to allow herself to feel them without shame or judgement. Keep listening to hear how this opens the door to creation of new neural pathways that build trust between herself and her body. Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive  *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com  

Sharing an anonymous client story, Gervase discusses how her client was able to move from a place of overwhelming emotions from secondary grief and feeling deep disappointment in her partner, to a place of healing. Listen in as Gervase talks about why one of the most important things we can do in these moments is to tend to our system first, asking how we can be there for ourselves. Keep listening to hear how applying the It's All Me Framework helped her client onto a path of healing and into a softer space where she was able to meet her partner in an honest, authentic conversation that allowed them to move forward together. Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive  *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com    

This week on the It's All Me podcast, Gervase drops in with a personal, real-life example of what embodiment means and how she is teaching it to her children. Listen in as she shares how she turned the boring, dreaded milestone of swallowing pills into a fun practice of embodiment for her daughters and how life can change if we can learn to anchor into safety, community, love, and self-trust instead of into experiences of fear and shame,   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive  *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com

Gervase invites friend and client Sophia Prater on the podcast this week to discuss Sophia's journey from an overwhelmed, ambitious entrepreneur trying to be palatable for everyone to a woman who embraces and feels safe to to be her full self. Join the conversation as they share their personal experiences with redefining hyper-independence, how Sophia practices playing within the range of her polarizing traits instead of labeling them ‘wrong' or ‘right,' and how the work they've done together inside of the Higher Mastermind is really every woman's work. Sophia is an entrepreneur, business owner, career coach, and public speaker in the world uf User Experience (UX) design, making technology a little more humane for the rest of the world. Sophia has brought her framework to companies such as Facebook, Google, Uber, HelloFresh, Delta Airlines, Microsoft, Adobe and many more.      Connect with Sophia Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sophiavux/  Linked in: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sophiav/    Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Free Masterclass REPLAY (Expires 3.1.24) “Just Right” - If  you're ready to try a new way of woman-ing that is not too hot and not too cold, but is just right, and you missed the masterclass on 2.22, you can catch the replay here   Enrollment Now Open for the next cohort of The Higher Mastermind (startsMarch 1st):  Find more info on this 3 month program for you to meet yourself and other women like you: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/higher Includes access to everything in the Gateway and deep discount on quarterly Charleston retreats VIP upgrade for 1:1 coaching with G available Grab your spot for this month's price of $1550   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive  *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com

Dropping in this week with a solo episode, Gervase shares the impact of embracing life's uncertainty without shaming the choices or plans you've made based on previous conditioning. Listen in to hear how shaming can block you from accessing your feminine energy, as well as how bringing compassion and curiosity into the mix can release you from conditioning, into the practice of bringing your whole humanity online. Keep listening for an invitation to Gervase's newest FREE masterclass, Just Right, an opportunity to find your somatic sweet spot and make choices that serve your growth.     Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Free Masterclass 2.22.24  “Just Right”—If  you're ready to try a new way of woman-ing that is not too hot and not too cold, but is just right, then join me for this free masterclass. Where I'll guide you through a felt experience of your very own “just right” sweet spot.   Free Masterclass Registration: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/justright   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive  *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com    

Join Gervase and her guest Josh Trent as they discuss the impact of spiritual growth, the balancing of masculine and feminine energies, and the power of commitment to co-regulation within our intimate partner relationships. Listen in for insights on how to create safety within relationships, the difference between real and pseudo safety, and for a rally cry to both men and women to address our wounds and continue forward with both respect and ownership with our partners. Dedicated to supporting humanity in coming together as one, Josh has spent the past 19+ years as a trainer, researcher, and facilitator discovering the physical and emotional intelligence for humans to thrive in our modern world. He is the Founder of Wellness Force Media, which exists to help humans heal mental, emotional and physical health through podcasts, programs, and a global community that believes in optimizing our potential to live life well. TOPICS DISCUSSED: Childbirth   Connect with Josh Trent:   BREATHE | Breath & Wellness (wellnessforce.com) (Use code ME20 for 20% off) Josh Trent (REAL) (@joshtrentofficial) • Instagram   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Free Masterclass 2.22.24  “Just Right”—If  you're ready to try a new way of woman-ing that is not too hot and not too cold, but is just right, then join me for this free masterclass. Where I'll guide you through a felt experience of your very own “just right” sweet spot. Masterclass Registration: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/justright   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive    Join the next cohort of The Higher Mastermind (starts Feb 16th):  https://www.gervasekolmos.com/higher   *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com  

  Gervase shares an inside look at how she creates space for dimension and transformation within her in-person retreats and walks us through the most recent retreat experience in Charleston. Keep listening for two examples of how she is creating intentional wellness in her life right now and the different ways you can heal and grow with a community of other women seeking depth in their lives and relationships.     Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Missed the Charleston Retreat? Get on the waitlist! Pssst! Mastermind members get 35% off

Brandon Triola is a teacher, actor and creator who loves to stir the pot in the schools where he's taught. This episode, he and G navigate the inconvenient truths and conversations we've been conditioned to sidestep, like pseudo-liberalism, the real impact of institutionalized racism, and the white savior complex. Keep listening to hear Brandon's story of being a Brooklyn school teacher and how Brooklyn Start is his hope to build up the communities of Brooklyn while shedding light on some dark truths.   Brandon Triola is a veteran actor, writer, and director of 20 years. A proud member of the Screen Actors Guild and the Actor's Equity Association, he is the creator of the TikTok short format show sensation, BrooklynStart  "a show about a conversation that no one wants to have".   How to Connect with Brandon and Support Brooklyn Start:   Fundraiser by Brandon Triola : BrooklynStart Series Pilot Trailer (gofundme.com) TV Show | Brooklyn Start (brooklyn-start.com) Brandon Triola (@brandontriola) | TikTok   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive    Enrollment Now Open for the next cohort of The Higher Mastermind (starts Feb 16th):  Find more info on this 3-month program here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/higher Includes access to everything in the Gateway and deep discount for in-person events VIP upgrade for 1:1 coaching with G available   *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources: Nice White Parents on Apple Podcasts  

In a world where we've been brainwashed to believe that the next beauty product, job, or partner will make us the person we long to be, Gervase reminds us of the power of choosing from the inside-out.    Listen to this week's episode as she lays out how to begin living life from the inside out, the consequences of bypassing the dark feminine, tips for women who struggle with connection and depth in relationships, and why blaming how we feel on the inside on external things is a lie turned self-fulfilling prophecy. (Oh, and the weird sh*t coming up for her about turning 40.)   Keep listening for an invitation to take a small step toward living your life from the inside out.     Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   A Resource from G / Be in the Moment Hypnosis Track Start your year by giving yourself the gift of presence for as little as $1 (pay-what-you-can): https://www.gervasekolmos.com/beinthemoment   THIS WEEKEND! Grab Your Spot for two-day Charleston Retreat January 27th, 2024 in Sullivan's Island, SC—experience a 2-day, intimate journey designed to connect you to your body and soul wisdom with a small circle of women https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-phoenix-sessions-retreat Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive    Enrollment Now Open for the next cohort of The Higher Mastermind (starts Feb 16th):  Find more info on this intimate, 3 month season of becoming here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/higher Includes access to everything in the Gateway and deep discount for in-person events VIP upgrade for 1:1 coaching with G available Grab your spot for this month's price of $1550 *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources:   The Power of Now: Eckhart Tolle, Eckhart Tolle We Can Do Hard Things: 256. How to Host a Magical Gathering with Priya Parker

We're talking to Jenna Donohue, ex-corporate ladder climber and current Inner Guidance podcast host. Listen in as Jenna and G share their experiences with parts and shadow work, inner child healing, the masculine and feminine sides of safety, and their journeys with depression and antidepressants. Keep listening to hear how to start building your own tool set to resource yourself in your moments of darkness.   Jenna is a coach, consultant, and guide, with a background in sales, leadership and culture in the corporate world. Jenna works with individuals called to deepen their purpose and inner work, and companies looking to transform their culture to align with more purpose and connection. Connect with Jenna: Jenna Donohue | Instagram Free Chakra Guide Jenna Donohue | Website A Holiday Resource from G / Be in the Moment Hypnosis Track Give yourself the gift of presence this season for as little as $1 (pay-what-you-can): https://www.gervasekolmos.com/beinthemoment   It's Almost Here! Grab Your Spot for two-day Charleston Retreat January 27th, 2024 in Sullivan's Island, SC—experience a 2-day, intimate journey designed to connect you to your body and soul wisdom with a small circle of women https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-phoenix-sessions-retreat   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive    The next cohort of The Higher Mastermind begins in February:  Find more info on this intimate, 3 month season of becoming here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/higher Includes access to everything in the Gateway and deep discount for in-person events VIP upgrade for 1:1 coaching with G available *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources: Inner Guidance: Empowering Intuition Through Authenticity w/ Gervase Kolmos | Episode 13 on Apple Podcasts Meet Our Sponsor: Green Compass x Nan Fox   Click link https://nanfox.greencompassglobal.com/share/558913 for $10 off your first order. The Green Compass community is family owned and operated, founded by visionaries, community thought leaders, and wellness shifters looking to empower, heal, and cultivate opportunity. Their mission is to share the hope they have found in hemp by harnessing the healing properties of this ancient plant the healthiest way possible – clean and organic. Broad and Full Spectrum products available for you and your family of all ages that include jellies, tinctures, collagens, topical creams, pet products, and much more!      

What is the point of healing? On this solo episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase reflects on the highs and lows of her healing journey through 2023. Listen in as she shares the experiences that prepared her for her own life initiations, get an inside look at the questions and transformations taking place in her coaching communities, and hear why - even though we've been brainwashed to bypass our feelings - the best way out is through.    Keep listening for a quick journaling exercise designed to help you start 2024 off on a soul-attuned healing path. Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   A Holiday Resource from G / Be in the Moment Hypnosis Track Give yourself the gift of presence this season for as little as $1 (pay-what-you-can): https://www.gervasekolmos.com/beinthemoment   Spots Still Avail for two-day Charleston Retreat January 27th, 2024 in Sullivan's Island, SC—experience a 2-day, intimate journey designed to connect you to your body and soul wisdom with a small circle of women https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-phoenix-sessions-retreat   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive    The next cohort of The Higher Mastermind begins in February:  Find more info on this intimate, 3 month season of becoming here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/higher Includes access to everything in the Gateway and deep discount for in-person events VIP upgrade for 1:1 coaching with G available *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources:   WTF is Up With My Sober Curiosity? - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify 116: An Introduction to CBD and How It's Supporting My Family's Needs - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify 109: A Peek Inside Our Family's New (Food) Normal - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify 105: My Light After the Dark Night of the Soul {Personal Story} - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify   Meet Our Sponsor: Green Compass x Nan Fox   Click link https://nanfox.greencompassglobal.com/share/558913 for $10 off your first order. The Green Compass community is family owned and operated, founded by visionaries, community thought leaders, and wellness shifters looking to empower, heal, and cultivate opportunity. Their mission is to share the hope they have found in hemp by harnessing the healing properties of this ancient plant the healthiest way possible – clean and organic. Broad and Full Spectrum products available for you and your family of all ages that include jellies, tinctures, collagens, topical creams, pet products, and much more!   

On this episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase introduces Angie Mizzell, former television news anchor and recently published author of “Girl in the Spotlight”. Join Gervase and Angie as they discuss the inspirations and growth that led to the release of Angie's memoir, how nurturing our inner child can help us move forward in life and parenthood, and the power of sharing your story. If you're a woman who wants to break generational cycles and stop the perpetuation of trauma, this is an episode you don't want to miss. Connect with Angie: Angie Mizzell | Website Girl in the Spotlight, A Memoir — Angie Mizzell   A Holiday Resource from G / Be in the Moment Hypnosis Track Give yourself the gift of presence this season for as little as $1 (pay-what-you-can): https://www.gervasekolmos.com/beinthemoment   Spots Still Avail for two-day Charleston Retreat January 27th, 2024 in Sullivan's Island, SC—experience a 2-day, intimate journey designed to connect you to your body and soul wisdom with a small circle of women https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-phoenix-sessions-retreat   Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework   Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive    *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com   Resources:   93: This Generation of Moms is Parenting Consciously - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify   Meet Our Sponsor: Green Compass x Nan Fox   Click link https://nanfox.greencompassglobal.com/share/558913 for $10 off your first order. The Green Compass community is family owned and operated, founded by visionaries, community thought leaders, and wellness shifters looking to empower, heal, and cultivate opportunity. Their mission is to share the hope they have found in hemp by harnessing the healing properties of this ancient plant the healthiest way possible – clean and organic. Broad and Full Spectrum products available for you and your family of all ages that include jellies, tinctures, collagens, topical creams, pet products, and much more!