For over 25 years, LDS Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Maurice W. Harker, has been working to provide practical therapeutic interventions based on a synergy Eternal Principles with accurate psychology science. Clients and students of psychology thrive on the hope and happiness that come from what he teaches. This podcast is a series of samplings of his therapeutic training sessions. If you have a specific topic you would like him to address, email him directly at mwharkertherapy@gmail.com.
Why do we keep having the same arguments even when we try to "meet each other's needs"?Why does it feel like my wife wants more from me than I have to give—and I'm the one being blamed?In Part 5 of this powerful series, we expose one of the most destructive myths in modern relationships: the “needs-fulfillment” mindset. When both partners are cold, empty, and emotionally drained, handing each other lists of unmet needs only leads to conflict, disappointment, and emotional burnout.Instead, Maurice introduces a radical shift: The Marriage Investment Model—a consecration-based approach inspired by early pioneers. This episode walks you through how to become a contracted contributor in your marriage—someone who gives even when their own tank is low, and builds a foundation that creates long-term healing and trust.Learn:Why emotional coldness is often a two-way famine, not a one-way failureHow to stop relying on your spouse to "fix" your emotional depletionWhat to do when both of you are exhausted and feel like giving upThe secret to building emotional wealth in your marriage—one deposit at a timeIf you're tired of fighting over who's hurting more and are ready to build something that lasts, this episode is your blueprint.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/shouldnt-you-be-able-to-rely-on-people-what-if-others-are-not-meeting-your-needs/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THUGXxLBwN4Check out Life Changing Services: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/
Why does my wife say I'm hiding something—when I'm not?Why does she feel left out or betrayed when I simply change plans in my head and move on?In Part 4 of this transformative series, we expose a hidden but common problem in many marriages: a lack of transparent communication around everyday plans, emotions, and intentions. Maurice breaks down the difference between being “secretive” and simply not narrating your thought process—and how this disconnect leaves your wife feeling shut out, unimportant, or unsafe.You'll learn:Why last-minute changes without communication feel like betrayal (even when they're innocent)What “psychological intimacy” really means—and how it stops repeated argumentsHow intelligent wives are wired to contribute—and why dismissing their input destroys trustWhy avoiding control can accidentally create emotional abandonmentHow to lead with clarity, connection, and confidence—without giving up your independenceThis episode is your roadmap for building strategic, intellectual partnership in your marriage—so she feels like a teammate instead of an outsider, and you stop stepping on emotional landmines.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/rebuilding-trust-in-a-traumatized-relationship-a-spiritual-and-psychological-approach/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sfO4yyDwbrwCheck out Life Changing Services: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/
Why does my wife say I'm not being vulnerable—even when I'm doing my best to be honest?Why does it feel like every time I open up, it backfires?In Part 3 of this deeply practical series, we break down the misunderstood idea of vulnerability—but in man talk. Using the metaphor of building a bridge, Maurice reveals how to create emotional safety by treating communication like an engineering project: sharing accurate, useful information to strengthen trust—not just confessing weakness or oversharing emotion.You'll learn:The male definition of vulnerability (and why women still say it's not enough)Why sharing emotionally charged details isn't always real transparencyThe difference between gaslighting and engineering-level communicationWhy emotional safety requires independent stability—not constant reactionHow to know if your wife is still too unstable for certain conversations (and how to proceed without making things worse)If you feel like you can't say anything without upsetting her—or if she's accusing you of being unsafe when you're just trying to function—this episode is your blueprint for navigating the chaos.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/your-brain-works-like-a-presidential-cabinet/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ot_wqKwviwk&t=1sCheck out Life Changing Services: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/
Why does my wife say I'm not vulnerable—when I feel like I've told her everything?Why does she still say I'm unsafe, even when I try to be honest?In Part 2 of this breakthrough series, Maurice walks husbands through the emotionally exhausting challenge of showing up in conversations that never seem to go right. You'll learn why “vulnerability” often means something totally different to your wife than it does to you—and how to create the kind of emotional safety that actually opens the door to rebuilding connection.You'll also learn:What real vulnerability is (and what it isn't)Why most men react rather than respond—and how to reverse thatHow to become your best self before trying to repair the relationshipWhat the “four seasons of intimacy” actually look like in real lifeWhy building safety has to come before solving problemsThis episode is for any man who's ever thought:“I was trying to be honest… so why did it blow up in my face?”If you feel like your marriage is stuck in emotional landmines, this episode gives you a real path out.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/seeds-and-weeds-attending-to-our-psychological-garden/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybqzJ039vw4&t=3sCheck out Life Changing Services: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/
She says you're abusive.You say you're just trying to talk.She wants emotional safety.You want clarity and connection.So why does every conversation end in disaster?In Part 1 of this new series, we dive into one of the most exhausting and confusing struggles men face in broken or strained marriages—how to communicate with your wife when every word seems to make things worse. Maurice introduces a strategy rooted in film review, proactive empathy, and slow-motion emotional intelligence, empowering you to stop reacting and start learning the real meaning behind her words.Inside this episode:Why your wife's words often don't match what she's actually trying to sayHow recording conversations (yes, really) can change everythingWhat it means to “translate” your wife's emotions like a foreign languageWhy not living together doesn't mean you stop learning how to show upThe role of baseball and slow practice in rebuilding emotional intimacyHow to introduce vulnerability as a strength in communicationThis episode is for every man who's thought:“No matter what I say… it's never the right thing.”Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/taking-responsibility-for-our-thoughts-navigating-satanic-attacks/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z19MHfqpEsA&t=7sCheck out Life Changing Services: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/
You're telling the truth. You're trying to stay calm. You're even using logic.So why is she still upset—and why do you keep ending up in the same exhausting argument?In Part 5 of this vital series, we explore what happens when your honest efforts to be transparent and reasonable don't bring your wife the peace she needs. You'll learn how even the “right answer” can come across as cold, how to stop fueling her fear without abandoning your integrity, and how to finally break the cycle of defensive reactions and relational disconnection.Key insights:Why logic doesn't help when your wife's heart is in survival modeHow to stop trying to “win” the conversation and start making her feel safeWhy emotional disconnection is the real issue—not whether you remember every detailHow judging her emotional responses can destroy trust (even when she's being “unfair”)The myth that “time alone will fix it”—and what to do insteadIf you're tired of walking away from painful conversations asking, “What am I doing wrong when I'm trying so hard?” — this episode is for you.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/rebuilding-trust-in-a-traumatized-relationship-a-spiritual-and-psychological-approach/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SvGqOiziaYsCheck out Life Changing Services: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/
“Why would you lie about something like this?”“Of course you remember—you're just trying to protect yourself again.”If your wife has ever pressed you with hard questions about your past behaviors—especially around sexual thoughts or past fantasies—and your honest answer is, “I don't remember,” this episode is for you.In Part 4 of this breakthrough series, we unpack one of the most painful points of tension in many marriages: when your wife's deep need for security crashes into your fractured memory and emotional compartmentalization.In this episode:Why men often genuinely forget what they've fantasized about—and why that feels like betrayal to herHow to stop being caught off guard by emotional landmines you didn't see comingWhat she really needs when she asks tough questionsWhy her emotional outbursts are rooted in logic—not manipulationHow to prepare emotionally and spiritually for the “truth” conversations without freezing upA new way to approach hard questions with clarity, calm, and integrityThis isn't about rehearsing answers—it's about becoming a man she can trust even when the answers are hard. If you're tired of being accused of lying when you're doing your best to be honest, you'll find a lifeline in this episode.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/deals-a-formula-for-happiness/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIGKTWRqqvQ&t=4sCheck out Life Changing Services: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/
“She says I connect better with strangers than I do with her.”“I'm not cheating. I'm just being nice. Why is that such a big deal?”If you've ever felt caught off guard by your wife's reactions to your everyday interactions with coworkers, friends, or even casual compliments—this episode is your wake-up call.In Part 3 of this powerful series, we explore how seemingly innocent connections and conversations can quietly undermine emotional trust and intimacy in marriage. Whether it's locker room banter at work or praise from someone outside the home, these unexamined behaviors can trigger insecurity and fear in your wife—even if you don't mean them to.You'll learn:Why “harmless” relationships can still sabotage trustWhat real emotional safety looks like to your wifeHow craving validation from others keeps you from true recoveryWhy recovery isn't just about stopping bad behavior—but building emotional disciplineThe difference between sobriety and connection—and how to finally rebuild bothHow empathy for your wife's radar can deactivate the cycle of repeated argumentsThis episode is especially for men who are tired of hearing “You just don't get it”—and are finally ready to understand what she sees that you don't.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/french-fry-machine-metaphor/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=97Dhfk3DhRkCheck out Life Changing Services: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/
“She says I'm not connecting—but I don't even know what that means.”“I do all the things. Why does she still feel unloved?”If your marriage feels like a loop of frustration—especially around connection, sex, and emotional intimacy—this episode gets to the root of it.In Part 2 of this honest series, we dismantle some of the biggest myths that keep couples stuck in unproductive arguments and unmet needs. From porn addiction recovery to misunderstandings about what emotional connection actually looks like, this episode is a roadmap for men trying to reconnect with their wives without losing their sanity.You'll learn:Why “more sex” (or total celibacy) won't fix porn addictionHow many men confuse service with intimacy—and why it isn't enoughWhy your wife may still feel unloved even if you're doing everything “right”What real connection looks like and why it usually starts with giving, not receivingThe silent sabotage of seemingly harmless outside “connections” (yes, even friendly ones)How to break the myth that it's your wife's job to validate your progressThis episode is about rebuilding from the inside—so you can finally start understanding why you keep having the same arguments and how to move forward.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/improving-intimacy-in-your-marriage/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybqzJ039vw4&t=3sCheck out Life Changing Services: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/
Why do we keep fighting about the same things—even when we both say we're trying?Why does she say I'm not supportive… when I know I am?In Part 1 of this powerful new series, we break down one of the most frustrating patterns in marriage: recurring arguments over misunderstood definitions. Whether it's about love, support, connection, or emotional safety—too many couples use the same words but mean totally different things.This episode reveals:Why your wife feels unsupported even when you're doing your bestHow conflicting definitions of “love,” “support,” and “respect” cause emotional gridlockWhat men can learn from measuring systems like inches and centimetersHow to lead the rebuilding process by standardizing communicationWhat real emotional recovery looks like (hint: it's not just more sex or total celibacy)Why confusion, not laziness, causes most husbands to shut downIf you're ready to stop spinning in circles and start actually connecting, this is the conversation that unlocks the door.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/supportingresponding-to-spouse-husband/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iefBWa0iybo&t=1sCheck out Life Changing Services: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/
Why does she keep saying I'm not working on myself—even when I feel like I'm trying?Why does every conversation feel like another reminder that I'm “not enough” yet?In this brutally honest and empowering episode, we break down the hidden meaning behind your wife's pain—and the real reason she keeps asking for your “feelings” instead of your progress reports. It's not about crying or poetry. It's about making her feel safe enough to stop worrying about your growth.In Part 4 of our intimacy series, we explore:What emotional intimacy actually looks like for a manHow to talk about your growth in a way she understands and trustsWhy her “boundaries” might feel like cinder blocks (and how to respond with courage)The powerful difference between sharing emotion and sharing progressWhy your wife isn't asking for perfection—but for a predictable processWhat to do when you're overwhelmed by the pressure to "fix yourself fast"This is about learning to lead—not just the house, but your own growth—so your wife doesn't have to beg for reassurance anymore.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-piess-of-self-care/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iefBWa0iybo&t=1sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
“Why does she keep saying I'm emotionally unavailable?”“Why can't she just accept that I am trying—even if I don't cry or say all the right words?”In Part 3 of this powerful series on rebuilding emotional and verbal intimacy, we dive into the real reasons why connection keeps falling short—even when you're putting in the effort. This episode tackles the confusing gap between what you do and how she feels about what you're doing—and why your silence (even if unintentional) can still sound loud.We'll explore:Why emotional intimacy always starts with the man—even when it feels unfairWhat to do when your wife's “boundaries” feel more like cinder blocksThe difference between talking about something and sharing how you feel about itHow to answer, “What are you feeling?” when your brain goes blankWhy she needs more than your notes, your podcast summaries, and your intentionsHow to develop emotional vocabulary when you've never had oneWhat it means to show effort, not just to be a good man, but to feel like oneThis is the episode for men who are done avoiding emotional conversations—but still need the tools to survive them.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-battle-of-perspectives-laman-nephi-and-the-power-of-faith/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EfBZj-uCiGI&t=6sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
“Why does every conversation with my wife feel like a trap?”“Why can't my husband say what I need to hear without shutting down or sounding robotic?”This episode dives deeper into the real work of rebuilding intimacy—the kind that actually leads to connection instead of frustration. Verbal intimacy isn't about having a conversation. It's about creating a space where both partners feel safe enough to be real—and where the relationship can grow again.We'll unpack:Why your wife's emotional state can completely block intimacy—and how to tell if she's readyHow to stop “fixing” and start “warming” the space between youWhat cognitive intimacy is, and why it matters more than being “good at talking”Why faking depth won't work—and why five months of quiet prep makes all the differenceWhat it actually means to show up with a real marital mission and identity statementHow the DAR cycle (Discover, Act, Reflect) builds authentic emotional connectionIf you're tired of feeling like every attempt to connect is met with distance, silence, or shutdowns, this episode is for you.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-advanced-reflective-listening-tool/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EPfx3YFV2nICheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
“Why does my wife keep pointing out what's wrong with me—can't she see I'm trying?”“Why is it so hard to talk to my husband without feeling dismissed, frustrated, or shut down?”In this vulnerable and foundational episode, we open the door to the most difficult—yet vital—season of marriage repair: rebuilding emotional and verbal intimacy. Not with shallow tricks or surface-level “communication hacks,” but by learning what it really takes to create and protect emotional safety in your relationship.We explore:Why her emotional “check engine light” isn't an attack—it's a request for safetyHow to know if you're emotionally and spiritually ready for verbal intimacyWhy “just getting it over with” never works and often causes more harmThe difference between humiliation and humility for men in marriage growthWhy being “goal-oriented” might be sabotaging your ability to connectThe power of pre-checklists before you “take off” into hard conversationsThis is the episode for the man who's trying—but keeps hearing it's not enough. And for the woman wondering why he keeps retreating when all she wants is connection.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/deals-a-formula-for-happiness/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xv-xlD0Z0s4Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
“Why does my wife keep asking me to ‘work on myself' when I already feel buried?”“How am I supposed to grow spiritually when life is already overwhelming?”In Part 5, we break through a painful and often misunderstood tension in marriage and personal growth: when one partner feels like they're drowning in responsibility, and the other just wants them to “get better.”This episode brings clarity to:Why your current life may already be your God-given passion projectHow to know if you're chasing unrealistic goals while missing your divine assignmentsThe lie that says “you're not doing enough” just because you're not doing moreWhy passion projects don't require extra time, but they do require extra intentionHow to invite God's power into the chaos of parenting, partnership, and pressureIf you've ever thought, “My life is too full to add anything else,” this is the conversation you didn't know you needed.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/sons-of-helaman-the-faith-based-self-mastery-program-transforming-lives/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BdCVMyrcd7cCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
“Why doesn't she believe I've changed?”“Why does it feel like every step forward is met with more doubt, more questions, and more pain?”In Part 4 of How Can I Apply Spiritual and Personal Development Principles to Real Life?, we take a deep dive into the moment every husband dreads: when his efforts don't seem to matter—and his wife still sees a man she doesn't feel safe trusting.This episode uncovers:Why your “good intentions” aren't enough to rebuild credibilityHow to stop hiding behind shallow improvements and start leading real changeThe surprising reason you must involve a team in your personal developmentWhy isolation feeds shame, and collaboration creates momentumThe role of divine intervention in building something bigger than your broken pastYou'll also learn what real miracles look like—not just in theory, but in your life—and how the lie “you're too messed up to be part of something great” is Satan's favorite sabotage.It's time to stop trying to earn your wife's trust… and start building something she can believe in.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/rebuilding-trust-in-a-traumatized-relationship-a-spiritual-and-psychological-approach/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5wPvF8YD0w&t=2sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
"Why is she still upset after all the things I've tried to change?""And if I'm trying to fix myself, why does it feel like nothing is ever good enough?"In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we uncover a painful truth: most husbands are working hard—but working on the wrong things. If your wife keeps bringing up issues no matter how much you improve, it's likely because you're setting goals… when you need a Passion Project.We'll break down:Why surface-level improvements never restore emotional trustThe critical difference between a "goal" and a God-powered Passion ProjectWhat miracles actually look like in personal development—and how to expect themHow Satan quietly convinces men they're incapable of deep changeWhy your wife's endless concerns might be valid… and how to organize them into a blueprint for transformationYou'll also hear the miraculous origin story of a brotherhood that helped thousands of young men find purpose, purity, and power—not by talking about problems, but by fighting for passion-driven change.This isn't self-help. It's soul-help.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/reacting-to-toxic-people/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zIV8zMKmT5sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
“Why does my wife keep pointing out what I still haven't fixed?”“Why do I feel stuck—even when I'm trying to change?”“And what's the point of setting goals if I keep falling short anyway?”In this deeply honest episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we cut through the frustration of stalled self-improvement and the emotional exhaustion of “being the problem” in your marriage. If you've ever felt like your wife's list of concerns is endless—and your progress invisible—this episode reframes everything.You'll discover:Why goals don't inspire lasting change—but Passion Projects doWhy your transformation must require miracles or it isn't real growthHow to partner with God in your personal development (for real)The reason "fixing yourself" is exhausting—and how to finally feel energized insteadHow to identify satanic attacks that sabotage your confidence mid-processWhy you've been disqualifying yourself from success without knowing itIf you've been trying harder but feeling more hopeless, this episode might be your turning point. You're not broken. You've just been missing the divine upgrade system that actually works.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/working-on-emotional-intimacy-discussing-the-past/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8N8_vssS_iw&t=1sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
“Why do I feel like I'm trying so hard, but still stuck?”“Why does my wife keep pointing out everything I haven't fixed yet?”“And if I am growing, why doesn't it seem like enough—for her or for me?”Welcome to Part 1 of a bold new series from Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher that bridges the gap between spiritual principles and real-life change—where we stop just learning about personal development and start applying it to what matters most: your mind, your marriage, and your mission.In this episode, we'll uncover:Why men get spiritually overloaded but emotionally paralyzedHow to handle the real reason your wife keeps pointing out what's not fixedThe secret cost of setting small goals—and how it kills hopeHow Satan gradually convinces good men to expect less of themselvesWhy having “too much passion energy” with nowhere to aim it leads to relapseThe scientific and spiritual framework that lets you say, “Well done, my good and faithful servant”—dailyYou weren't meant to live in disappointment. You were built for miracles.Let's stop settling for survival—and start structuring a system that works.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/early-intervention/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCgUB5AclmECheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
"Why does she keep bringing it up?""Why can't we just move on already?""If I've changed, why does she act like nothing's changed at all?"In Part 5 of How Do I Rebuild Emotional Intimacy with My Wife, we tackle one of the most painful and confusing moments for men trying to lead their marriage back from the edge: her persistent need to revisit the past—even when you feel like you're doing better.This episode is a roadmap for men ready to lead with strength instead of shame. You'll learn:What an emotional "walkthrough" looks like—and why most men fail itHow to perform a "black box review" of your past without getting swallowed by guiltWhy hiding your personal development plan is destroying her trustHow to build a visible, manly blueprint for emotional safety—and how to show her the workWhat makes her stop asking the same questions over and over againIf you're tired of being caught off guard every time she brings up “that thing from 3 years ago,” this episode will finally give you tools, not just talk—so you can prove change without performing.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/working-on-emotional-intimacy-discussing-the-past/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vmuR0h6NXGYCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You've repented. You've changed. You've said the right things. So why does your wife still act like she's waiting for the other shoe to drop?In Part 4 of How Do I Rebuild Emotional Intimacy with My Wife?, we unpack one of the most frustrating disconnects in marriage recovery: why your internal transformation doesn't seem to land emotionally with your wife—and what to do about it.Inside this episode:Why silence looks like emotional abandonment (even if you're thinking about her)How to express real emotion without crying or acting dramaticWhat she actually means when she says “you don't show emotion”Why saying what you're afraid to feel might be the most intimate thing you've ever doneHow a 5-minute timer can reveal what (and who) really occupies your mindThis is the real work—learning how to verbalize your thoughts, face your fears, and take your internal care and make it visible. If your wife still feels emotionally alone in the marriage, this episode will change everything.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/and-she-did-stand-in-her-truth-2/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oSa5D_LIO4s&t=1sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You work hard. You show up. You've stopped doing the wrong things and started doing the right ones. But somehow, your wife still says she doesn't feel loved.She says you're robotic. Emotionless. That you only care about work or money.So why doesn't all your effort seem to count?In Part 3 of this powerful series, we break down one of the biggest misunderstandings in rebuilding emotional intimacy: how men think they're showing love vs. how their wives experience it.Inside this episode:Why doing the “right” things isn't enough if you're not narrating your thoughtsHow a man's silence can make him look careless—even when he's deeply investedA masculine way to show emotional investment without forcing tearsWhy unspoken effort often feels invisible to your wifeHow setting a 5-minute timer can completely shift how connected she feels to youRebuilding intimacy doesn't require emotional theatrics. It requires visible, verbal care. Learn how to speak what you're already thinking—and finally let her feel what you've always meant.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/circus-mirrors-and-feedback-sessions/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wiWm9KuATGMCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You're saying the right things. You're apologizing. You've changed your behavior.So why does your wife still say she “doesn't feel anything from you”? Why does she say you seem like a robot, even when you're doing everything right?In Part 2 of this emotional intimacy series, we unpack the difference between words and presence, between logic and emotional safety. You'll learn:Why emotional intimacy isn't about crying—it's about proving you careThe hidden emotional gaps you might not realize you're still leavingWhy your wife keeps bringing up “old stuff” (and why that's not the problem)How to map out and preempt her concerns like an engineer rebuilding trustWhy your ability to predict and own the emotional impact of your past builds more trust than “fixing” anythingThis isn't just a conversation about feelings—it's a guide for rebuilding emotional safety with precision, clarity, and masculine strength.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-warrior-code/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ZNpCyQ1ISYCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You want emotional intimacy. You want your wife to trust you again. But every time you try to rebuild connection, it falls apart.Why?Because most men try to skip Season Four—the hard, private work of rebuilding their identity, refining their values, and proving consistency before emotional closeness can return.In this episode, we walk through:What “Season Four” really is—and why jumping ahead destroys trustWhy your wife still pulls away, even when you “feel ready”How your emotional clumsiness may be coming off as spiritual dangerThe difference between verbal, cognitive, and emotional intimacy—and why each one builds on the lastWhat it really takes to become a trustworthy, emotionally safe husband againIf you've been “working on yourself” but your wife isn't responding, it may be because you're still skipping the most important prep work. This episode breaks it down in practical, direct steps—no fluff, no pretending.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-4-seasons-of-a-healthy-and-happy-marriage/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CD4VvBPz5foCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
Why does your progress feel like a betrayal to your wife… even when you're doing the right thing?In Part 4 of this series, we unpack one of the most painful (and hidden) myths sabotaging emotional intimacy: the belief that “my addiction only hurt me” and “she doesn't get to share the story.”This episode confronts:The emotional whiplash your wife feels when your private healing becomes a public painWhy “you can't tell anyone” is often a cover for shame, not privacyThe difference between protecting her trust vs. controlling the narrativeHow authentic wives live one story—and why husbands living a “dual life” creates chaosWhat it really means to support her growth, even when it's painful for youHow to know if you're secure enough to empathize with her pain more than your ownIf your wife keeps hurting—and you don't know why—this episode might give you answers no one else has dared to say out loud.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-story-of-my-deliverance-from-the-shackles-of-satan/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O3iDRvMIqmsCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
Why does your wife still feel distant—even when you're finally getting it right?In this episode, we dive into one of the most frustrating (and overlooked) moments in recovery and reconciliation: the emotional whiplash your wife experiences when you grow in silence and then suddenly announce your progress.In Part 3 of this powerful series, we explore:Why simply “sharing your growth” can still feel painful to your wifeThe secret to communicating progress in a way that actually builds trustA step-by-step phrase to lower her anxiety at the start of any hard conversationHow to share your journey without making her feel left behind or judgedWhy “beginning with the end in mind” and “seeking miracles” changes everythingThe myth that “she's not allowed to talk about my mistakes” — and how that belief damages emotional intimacyIf you've ever thought, “I'm improving… so why does she still feel unsafe?” — this episode is for you.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/letter-to-my-returned-missionary-self/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ks65eS6bJIs&t=1sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You've made a breakthrough. You've figured out what went wrong and you're finally on the right path. So why does your wife still seem disconnected… or even upset?In Part 2 of this powerful conversation, we unpack the often-missed truth behind emotional whiplash: when men share the destination of their growth without taking their wife along for the journey.We discuss:Why your wife may not trust your progress unless she sees how you got thereThe iceberg analogy: why she can't see your internal workHow to bring her into your reflection without being dragged into shameWhy slowing the process down might save the relationship, not sabotage itHow your excitement can unintentionally leave her behindThe power of starting with “I was reflecting…”What it really means to “walk her through” your progress instead of dumping it on herThis episode is for husbands who are trying, but keep hearing:“You still don't get it.”Even when you thought you did.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-warrior-code/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lw-KuldXksICheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You've been grinding. You've made real progress. You're excited to share the breakthroughs you've had—only to watch your wife shut down, get emotional, or pull away. Why does it feel like every time you move forward, it throws her off balance?In this episode, we explore the unexpected emotional whiplash that can happen when men start improving, but don't realize they've left their wives out of the journey.You'll learn:Why your growth can feel like abandonment to your wifeThe mistake of “arriving home” in task-mode instead of connection-modeWhy she interprets your excitement as disconnectionHow to signal the difference between accomplishment and emotional engagementThe “locomotive mode” mistake—and how to slow it down before causing harmHow to approach shared experiences without knocking her off the trackThis episode is for the man who's trying hard, but keeps hearing:“You're still not really here with me.”Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-advanced-reflective-listening-tool/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5wPvF8YD0w&t=1sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You've been quietly working on yourself. You're reviewing the past, building stronger habits, and doing the deep work—but the moment your wife senses progress, she wants emotional intimacy now.And you're not ready.This episode dives into one of the most overlooked struggles in marriage repair: how to lead the relationship forward when you're still in the middle of your personal growth—and she's already asking for more than you can give.Learn:Why emotional intimacy requires a tested, not rushed, structureHow to communicate “I'm not ready yet” in a way that builds trustThe biggest mistake wives often make in rebuilding, and how to respond with graceWhat it means to build an “invisible airplane”—and why she won't believe it's real until she sees it flyHow to show your inner work when she can't see the results (yet)Why paper practice (like D-PARs) prepares your mouth for real conversationsIf you've ever felt like your wife is asking for connection before your internal system is stable enough to support it—this episode is for you.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/french-fry-machine-metaphor/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H4xkLIW4zM4&t=1sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
“I've changed. I've worked hard. So why doesn't she trust me yet?”In Part 4 of this essential series, we unpack the real reason why your wife may still carry pain—even after you've put in months of work. Emotional intimacy isn't about looking strong. It's about being reliable when tested. Just like a bridge under pressure, trust is built not by appearance but by how much it holds up when life hits hard.In this episode, you'll learn:Why your wife's pain doesn't vanish just because you've improvedHow real trust is built by sledgehammer-tested systems, not pretty wordsThe purpose of emotional intimacy and what not to expect in returnHow to walk her through your growth without needing her approvalThe crucial difference between a “full disclosure” and real emotional rebuildingWhat it looks like to lead without shortcuts—even when you're tiredIf you're a man trying to rebuild trust with a woman who's been hurt, this is your roadmap.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-battle-of-perspectives-laman-nephi-and-the-power-of-faith/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L9kqP6p5Qw0Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You've put in six months of work. You've grown. You've changed. But it still feels like she looks at you like the same guy who messed up. Why?In Part 3 of this powerful series, we confront the painful disconnect that happens when you're doing deep inner work—but your spouse doesn't acknowledge it. You want trust, connection, and a fresh start... but you're stuck in the shadows of who you used to be.This episode covers:Why emotional intimacy feels like hitting the Rocky Mountains of marriage repairHow to handle it when she doesn't believe you've changed—even if you haveWhat it really means to “go first” in rebuilding trustWhy you must treat her like she's grown, too—even when you can't see itThe hidden weight of connection that most couples overlookAnd how to stop waiting for validation and start standing confidently in your growthThis is not about waiting to be rewarded. It's about becoming the kind of man who leads with patience, strength, and emotional skill—even when it feels thankless.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/adhd-blog-comorbidities/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5S67HKpKUaA&t=3sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You're showing up. You're doing the work. You're learning emotional skills she never saw you try before. So why does it still feel like she thinks you're the whole problem?In Part 2 of this raw and insightful series, we explore the honest struggle of men trying to grow emotionally while still being treated like the villain. This episode unpacks the quiet frustration of hearing, “You're the one who needs to fix yourself,” even when you know both sides need work.Inside, we cover:Why taking the lead first (even if she's not ready) is still the only way forwardThe real reason it works better when men initiate emotional conversationsHow to keep moving forward when it feels like you're carrying the whole marriage on your backWhat to do when your wife is trying too—but it doesn't look like progressWhy practicing verbal and emotional intimacy as a skill set unlocks lasting connectionHow to stop waiting for fairness and start winning the long gameThis isn't about pretending she's perfect. It's about stepping into your role with clarity and conviction—even if she never acknowledges it.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/rebuilding-trust-a-husbands-guide-to-understanding-and-healing-betrayal-trauma/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46NgumKJi4ECheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
Are you trying to grow, be more self-aware, and build emotional trust—only to feel like the conversations still spiral into conflict?This episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher is for husbands who are genuinely trying… but keep hitting a wall. It's also for wives who long to feel emotionally safe but aren't sure if their husband can hold space for hard conversations without getting defensive.In Part 1 of this powerful new series, we cover:Why preparing for emotional intimacy is like packing for the Rocky MountainsHow owning your own triggers—without blaming hers—builds trust fastWhy your wife may struggle to believe you're “ready” (and how to prove it through actions)The miracle of you starting the hard conversations instead of waiting for herThe power of pre-planning responses to predictable emotional landminesHow to stop expecting her to make things easier—and rise as a skill-based responderThis isn't about blaming you for everything. It's about stepping into your power by doing what only you can do—and watching what happens when emotional safety finally enters the room.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/embracing-the-role-of-an-effective-presider/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xBPs-VsmZToCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
Is your wife overwhelmed, overstimulated, or emotionally drained—and even when you do try to help, it feels like you're still falling short?In Part 5 of this raw and practical series, we dive into the hidden weight men often carry: the belief that needing support means you're not strong enough. That you should already have it figured out. That if your wife is struggling, it must be your fault—or your job to fix it.In this episode, you'll hear:Why trying to “fix her feelings” often backfiresHow shared vulnerability can create spiritual intimacyWhy your wife's struggles don't mean you're failingThe difference between offering support and hijacking her growthHow true partnership means honoring her revelation—not replacing itYou'll also hear real experiences of women learning how to ask for support without handing over the steering wheel—and how their husbands showed up with empathy, not solutions.This episode is for men feeling the pressure to be everything… and for couples learning that true intimacy comes through mutual discovery—not control.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-battle-of-perspectives-laman-nephi-and-the-power-of-faith/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AfNQYddKqtMCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
Is your wife overwhelmed, frustrated, and constantly emotionally charged—and you're left wondering, “How is this all my fault again?”In Part 4 of this vulnerable and vital series, we explore the weight men feel when their wives are drowning in pain… and expect them to fix it.This episode pulls back the curtain on:Why her distress doesn't mean you've failedHow to support someone without losing yourselfWhat makes a real emotional team (hint: it's not being her spiritual crutch)Why curiosity and creativity beat judgment every timeHow your willingness to listen without “fixing” can be the greatest act of loveYou'll also hear a powerful personal story of a woman who finally broke down about her overstimulation and daily guilt as a mom—and how her husband didn't solve it… but showed up the way she actually needed.This episode is for men who are done with shame, but still want to grow. It's for wives who just need someone to hear them. And it's for couples who are learning to walk side by side—through fire, fatigue, and faith.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/gingerbread-man-parable-anger-pain-management/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0DSJOxHm1h0Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
Ever tried to open up, only to feel judged the moment you do?In Part 3 of this heartfelt series, we dive into one of the most uncomfortable truths for many men (and their wives): vulnerability often feels like weakness—and the minute you expose even a little of your inner self, you feel like someone's critiquing your very soul.This episode uncovers the emotional landmines of trying to grow while being watched, and how even well-meaning feedback can crush progress.We explore:Why most men fear support—even when they crave itHow “feedback” can backfire and damage trustWhat real teamwork looks like between spouses, parents and teensHow to model emotional safety before expecting itWhat it means to “invite” your wife or child into growth without superiorityWhy reflecting aloud—without correction—can build trust faster than lecturesIf you've ever tried to be open… only to get met with “why'd you pick that?”—this one's for you.You're not weak for needing support. You're wise for seeking it—when it's built with trust, not judgment.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/sons-of-helaman-the-faith-based-self-mastery-program-transforming-lives/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ohQCiqAEzM&t=3sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
Let's be honest—most of us were never taught how to ask for support without feeling like we're broken.From early on, we've been conditioned to believe that if we need help, we're failing. That if we can't “handle it all,” we're just not strong enough. So when someone mentions an accountability partner, our defenses go up—because it feels like a label for the weak.In Part 2 of this powerful Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher series, we deconstruct that entire mindset. We explore how the right kind of support isn't about hierarchy or shame—it's about building edifying, equal partnerships where both people grow.In this episode, you'll learn:Why “accountability” often feels insulting—and what to use insteadHow to use the Power D-PAR system to track growth and stay spiritually alignedWhat true team-based connection looks like in a marriage or mentorshipWhy feedback can backfire—and what to do insteadHow to invite your spouse or a teammate into mutual, uplifting developmentThis isn't about weakness—it's about wisdom. Real growth doesn't happen alone. It happens in teams. And in this episode, we show you exactly how to build one.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/taming-your-dangerous-emotions-and-reclaiming-your-power/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RNc4vXsN9VU&t=1sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
“Real men do it alone.”“If I need help, I must be weak.”“I'm supposed to be strong enough to carry it all—without breaking.”Sound familiar?In this powerful episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we dismantle one of the most dangerous lies ever told to men: that needing support makes you weak.You'll discover:Why so many men feel shame for needing accountability—and why that shame is Satan's trapHow our culture subtly reinforces the myth of self-sufficiency, and what it costs emotionally and spirituallyThe truth about what real spiritual resilience looks like—and how it's built with support, not isolationHow to start replacing false guilt with strategic connection and intelligent preparationWhat it means to fight one battle at a time, and why that's more effective than solving everything at onceIf you've ever felt broken because you “couldn't do it alone,” this episode will change how you see yourself—and give you a battle plan grounded in truth, faith, and growth.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/sons-of-helaman-the-faith-based-self-mastery-program-transforming-lives/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RH4C8SiqGGoCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You stayed calm. You tried to step away with grace.But somehow, she still says, “You're just running away again.”How does a man stay composed when even his best efforts get twisted?How do you prepare for conversations that go sideways—even when you come in with love and intention?In this powerful continuation of our deep-dive into verbal intimacy breakdowns, we explore the real reason spirals keep happening—even when you're doing everything “right.” You'll discover:Why your most respectful exit still gets interpreted as weaknessHow to see past the immediate pain and recognize who the real enemy isWhat it means to emotionally “spar” like a trained fighter—with precision, grace, and preparationHow to blueprint your responses to her most difficult patterns (without trying to control her)Why success in marriage repair isn't about changing her—but about being prepared for anythingWhether she's accusing you of giving up, or you're wondering how to even stay in the ring without getting crushed—this episode gives you a new model for staying emotionally grounded and spiritually focused.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/our-support-system/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WKG5Tpv7aPECheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You kept your cool. You stayed patient. You even had a great moment together.So why did it still fall apart?Why does it feel like something invisible hijacks the whole conversation—and suddenly you're the villain in a story you don't even recognize?In this powerful episode, we unpack one of the most overlooked forces in marriage repair: the third presence in the room—and how uninvited spiritual attacks twist even our best efforts into chaos.Discover:Why verbal intimacy can disintegrate even after a perfect startWhat happens neurologically and spiritually when emotions hit level oneHow to recognize satanic narratives whispering lies about your wife—and yourselfWhat it looks like to build a pre-scripted plan for spiritual and emotional resilienceAnd how to reflect without falling into shame traps or walking away from growthIf your wife is constantly asking, “Why do you always run away from these conversations?” and you're asking yourself, “Why do I always end up being the problem—no matter how hard I try?” —this episode is your lifeline.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/letter-to-my-returned-missionary-self/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dCo1tcBpyBc&t=4sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You finally get some momentum. Conversations go smoother. She's smiling again. You're doing your part—and it seems like you're headed in the right direction.Then out of nowhere… everything blows up again.What happened? Where did it go wrong?In Part 1 of this new series, Maurice introduces one of the most emotionally relatable breakdowns men experience in marriage repair: when progress falls apart suddenly, and you're left feeling confused, attacked, and defeated.Using a brilliantly reimagined story from ancient scripture (with a humorous twist), we explore how distorted messages, assumptions, and emotional exhaustion can sabotage both husband and wife—even when both are trying to do the right thing.If you've ever felt blindsided by a sudden spiral in your relationship, this episode helps you identify:What caused the misunderstandingWhy things escalate when you're depletedHow assumptions corrode even the best effortsAnd what it takes to end the cycle before it starts againIt's not just a story. It's the spiritual, emotional, and practical playbook for those asking:"Why does it always fall apart right when things start to feel okay?"Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/thought-sequencing-a-step-towards-self-mastery/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ohQCiqAEzM&t=3sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You're giving your all.You're showing up, staying patient, checking off the list…But she's still frustrated, still doesn't feel filled, and you're left wondering:“What more could I possibly give?”In Part 5, we go deep into the painful cycle where both spouses feel empty, where needs aren't being met, and where resentment starts to grow on both sides.Maurice walks us through a powerful metaphor—the Bishop's Storehouse in week one of the pioneer era—to explain how marriages survive when both partners are depleted. This episode reveals how emotional scarcity leads to desperate demands, and how to stop measuring your value by the needs you can't meet.We explore:Why your efforts still feel unseenHow her desperation isn't manipulation—it's survivalWhy not having what she needs doesn't mean you're failingAnd how to build a relationship that thrives on consecration, not consumptionIf you've ever asked, "Why does it feel like no matter what I do, it's never enough?"—this is the episode that reframes the whole question.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/what-is-betrayal-trauma-how-does-it-impact-me/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UjixUFwtWRMCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You try.You listen.You take notes.You meet every request you can.But somehow... it's still not enough.In Part 4 of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we unravel the real reason her fear sounds like frustration—and why your efforts, even the sincere ones, might not be landing the way you hoped.This episode explores the psychological survival mode behind urgent or emotional "needs" conversations, and how both partners can feel like they're failing—even when they're trying their best. Using vivid metaphors like pioneers crossing frozen plains, Maurice shares how to replace "resource panic" with something more powerful: consecration, compassion, and shared emotional resilience.If you're wondering:
You've been given the advice:“Just figure out her needs—and meet them.”So you did.You asked. You tried. You even made a list.But somehow, instead of bringing you closer… it only made things worse.In Part 3 of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we challenge one of the most widespread (and dangerous) misconceptions in modern marriage repair: that "needs-fulfillment conversations" are the answer to everything.Maurice breaks down why this popular approach may actually sabotage connection—and why your efforts to meet her needs might be making her feel more disconnected, not less. You'll learn why checking boxes isn't the same as building trust, and how consecration, not compliance, is the path to healing.For the man who's asking:
You've followed the steps.You've rebuilt your identity.You've even invited her back to the construction site of your relationship.But she still doesn't trust it.She still doesn't join.And deep down you're wondering… “What's the point of all this work if she's not coming with me?”In Part 2 of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we unpack why rebuilding trust and connection doesn't happen just because you're trying.Maurice breaks down the "seasons of marriage" model and reveals the painful truth: you might be progressing—but that doesn't mean she's healed.Learn why Season Four work is more than duct tape repair. It's a complete meltdown and remolding of who you are. Discover the hidden dangers of diagnosing her recovery for her, and how inviting her without pressuring her is one of the most respectful (and difficult) steps a man can take.This episode is for the man who's trying—really trying—but feels like the finish line keeps moving.Because sometimes, progress doesn't feel like repair… but it still matters.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/overriding-fear-in-marriage-repair/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uzYLCyHmq_sCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You wrote the mission statement.You regulated your emotions.You started listening more and reacting less.You're doing everything she asked for…So why does it still feel like it's never enough?In this powerful and personal episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, Maurice sits down with a husband whose year-long journey of self-mastery, emotional refinement, and identity building is finally bearing fruit—but not without a painful, messy process.We explore the hidden reasons why your efforts might still be met with skepticism, why polishing your Marital Mission Statement and Identity Statement matters more than she realizes, and why internal change must come before external validation.If you're exhausted, confused, and questioning whether all this “work on yourself” is really worth it…This episode will show you why it is—and how to keep going when no one seems to notice.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/using-the-pattern-for-growth-to-fine-tune-the-agile-checklist-for-becoming-better-husbands/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0AG2dwUUtToCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You're doing your best. You're keeping her updated. You're setting reminders. You're trying to “zipper” your communication so it's thoughtful, loving, and timed right.But somehow… she still ends up hurt.She still feels disconnected.And you're left wondering:“What more can I do? I'm not trying to hurt her—I'm trying to protect our relationship.”In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we explore the impossible tightrope many husbands walk: loving your wife without accidentally wounding her, communicating with care without triggering her fear, and trying to show effort without sounding like you're checking boxes.Maurice dives into the advanced (and often painful) principle of zippering—how two people can take turns sharing in emotionally intense moments without blowing up the engine of connection. Learn why even small emotional misfires destroy intimacy, and how to stop the spirals before they start.This one's deep. It's raw. It's real. And if you've ever wondered why love still feels like war, this episode might just be your turning point.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/our-support-system/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ks65eS6bJIsCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You're using tools. You're setting reminders. You're writing things down.Not because you don't love her—but because you do.But somehow, she still feels hurt… unseen… disconnected.And now, the more tools you use, the more it feels like she thinks you're just checking boxes.In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we dive into the frustrating paradox so many husbands face: “I'm doing everything I can to love her better—but she still doesn't feel loved.”We explore how tools like reminders, writing, and even AI aren't signs of failure—but signs of growth. We uncover why a wife's pain is real even when it doesn't make logical sense, and how to communicate effort in a way she can finally trust.Because connection isn't built by being perfect—it's built by owning your process, inviting her into it, and being humble enough to grow in plain sight.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/sons-of-helaman-empowering-young-men-through-faith-based-self-mastery/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBAVPy0qBvMCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You're trying. You really are. You're learning, studying, setting reminders to show her you care.But somehow… it still doesn't land.She says things like:“If you loved me, you'd remember on your own.”And you're left wondering:“Why does it feel like every tool I use to love her… backfires?”In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, Maurice dives into a husband's often-unspoken pain: “She wants me to change, but she doesn't see the effort behind it.”We explore how to approach emotional connection with transparency, how to explain your mortal limitations with kindness (not defensiveness), and why the delivery of your effort matters as much as the effort itself.You'll learn how to take responsibility without shame, communicate progress without sounding like a checklist, and love her in a way she can finally feel—even if you're not “there yet.”Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/how-did-you-win-your-most-difficult-recent-battle/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xmrhVhxsk8UCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
You're finally doing the work. You're reflecting more. You're studying intimacy. You're even trying to lead.But she still doesn't feel safe, seen, or satisfied.And she's not joining you on the journey. Why?In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we dig into a truth few men realize: Your effort doesn't count if she can't see it.Maurice explores why emotional transparency, seasonal awareness, and pre-flight relationship check-ins are essential—not just for you, but for her ability to join you in rebuilding connection.If you're tired of hearing “I don't feel connected” even after you've changed, this episode will give you tools, clarity, and hope for how to bridge that gap.This isn't about blame. It's about learning how to show her the progress you're making—before your marriage becomes another case of “too little, too late.”Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-battle-of-perspectives-laman-nephi-and-the-power-of-faith/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bCj3dGyRmsMCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
If you're wondering why your wife still doesn't feel emotionally close or satisfied in your marriage—even after you've tried to be more present, more supportive, or more spiritual—this episode is for you. And if you're a man feeling stuck, thinking, "Why does she have so many complaints when I'm doing everything I can?", you're not alone.In this honest and eye-opening workshop episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, Maurice dives deep into the Intimacy Pyramid—a vital framework for understanding why connection often falls apart even when you think you're doing things right. With relatable humor, raw honesty, and practical steps, you'll learn how to stop checking boxes and start building something real.This is part 1 of a crucial conversation. Bring your humility, leave your ego at the door, and come ready to build—brick by brick.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-fourth-watch/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJrppGcazZQCheck out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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