The Visible Man Podcast

In this special episode of the Visible Man podcast, VM Admin and veteran Bob Jurgensen sits down with fellow vets Roderick Castle, a crisis intervention specialist with the Veterans Outreach Center, and Matthew Murray, a veterans service officer with the Monroe County Veterans Service Agency to discuss veteran mental health, what's being done about it, and what we can do to help. If you're a veteran in crisis or concerned about one, please call the Veterans Crisis Line at 1-800-273-8255 and press 1 Notes What are we seeing and hearing from veterans regarding their mental health? How COVID affected veterans' mental health How can we help break the barriers and end the stigma regarding veterans' mental health? How do the various veterans' agencies work together to help veterans? PTSD in the military What's out there to help veterans convert back to civilian life? Opening up the dialogue about veteran suicide How can civilians help veterans? Links Veterans Affairs: https://www.va.gov/ Veterans Outreach Center: https://veteransoutreachcenter.org/ Monroe County Veterans Service Agency: https://www.monroecounty.gov/vsa Subscribe to Beck's Kid's YouTube Account: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHKpj0_F_zTScHPAoBwNwZQ Support VM: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

The gang chats with Chris Martoche who shares how his mental health struggles lead him to abuse alcohol, almost attempt suicide, and spend time in an inpatient mental health facility. This is one powerful story. Notes: White people food Getting Admin Bob on Tinder next week Chris tells his story of alcoholism, a suicide attempt, going to an inpatient medical facility, and his constant battle with his mental health Great news about the PHP Program in Buffalo Links Grants Awarded to ECMC to Expand Innovative Outpatient Behavioral Health Programs: https://www.ecmc.edu/grants-awarded-ecmc-expand-innovative-outpatient-behavioral-health-programs/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Jeff chats with Mark Winston, the director of the US Men's Shed Association, an international phenomenon that aims to help men and their mental health through “men's innate need for activity.” The key to their popularity is best expressed in their motto: “Men don't talk face to face, we talk shoulder to shoulder. Just a quick reminder, this talk is for educational purposes only and is not to be taken as medical or professional advice. If you need medical or professional advice, please seek out the appropriate person in your local area. Notes: What are Men's Sheds? How Men's Sheds help men stand shoulder to shoulder Starting a Men's shed What do Men's Sheds do? How Men's Sheds Help What do the members of a men's shed look like? How Mark got involved with Men's Shed The Benefits of Men's Sheds Men suicide - the silent killer Audience Q&A Links: US Men's Shed Association: https://usmenssheds.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/usmenssheds/ Mark's Email: mark@usmenssheds.org Subscribe to Beck's Kid's YouTube Account: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHKpj0_F_zTScHPAoBwNwZQ Support VM: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Getting out of a toxic relationship is important, but what happens next? How do we climb the mountain of healing to find peace in ourselves and healthy relationships in the future? In today's episode, Jeffrey Hoffman sits down with Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Jaime Mahler to discuss not only how to heal from toxic relationships, but how to break the cycle to assure that we won't find ourselves stuck in similar ones, again. Just a quick reminder, this talk is for educational purposes only and is not to be taken as medical or professional advice. If you need medical or professional advice, please seek out the appropriate person in your local area. Notes: Defining toxicity and toxic relationships What is triangulation? Uncovering triangulation How toxic people view relationships as a currency How to break our own toxic patterns How toxic recovery and authenticity go hand in hand How do we recover from toxic relationships? How do we heal from toxicity within a relationship? Showing up authentically Audience Q&A Links: GET YOUR TICKETS TO THE VM COMEDY NIGHT FUNDRAISER: https://ci.ovationtix.com/35843/production/1121480?performanceId=11068573 Jaime's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/?hl=en Jaime's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself?lang=en Jaime's Website: https://recollectedself.com/ The Unlearned Podcast: https://anchor.fm/theunlearnedpodcast Subscribe to Beck's Kid's YouTube Account: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHKpj0_F_zTScHPAoBwNwZQ Support VM: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Jeff and Jack cover a range of topics like gun control, dad jokes, the Australian election, and more in this freewheeling, open, and honest conversation. Notes: Dad Jokes and the official uniform of fatherhood The importance of modular wardrobes Sick kids and new medicine technology Are you “that” kind of American? Dealing with American Stereotypes Jack's first Australian Election Day Being Embarrassed to be An American Should Jeffrey Move to Australia? Jeffrey and Jack discuss gun control Texas is Pro-Life (except for the death penalty or if it interferes with their guns) VM In-person updates Finding a balance between work and home Dealing with challenges as a father figure Links: GET YOUR TICKETS TO THE VM COMEDY NIGHT FUNDRAISER: https://ci.ovationtix.com/35843/production/1121480?performanceId=11068573 Subscribe to Beck's Kid's YouTube Account: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHKpj0_F_zTScHPAoBwNwZQ Support VM: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

This “best of” episode comes from Jeff Hoffman's chat with Lisa Nolan, the Director of Prevention Education for the Willow Domestic Violence Center in Rochester New York. Prior to her role at Willow, she spent over 14 years in higher education working with college students primarily in the field of student behavior and conduct. During this time, she gained many years of experience working with survivors, understanding trauma, and understanding the impact of dating and domestic violence on individuals and the impact on the broader community. This conversation may be triggering to some and as a reminder, it is for educational purposes only and not medical or legal advice. If you need medical or legal advice, please seek help from the appropriate medical or legal professional. Links Willow Domestic Violence Center: http://willowcenterny.org/ The National Domestic Violence Hotline: http://thehotline.org/ Rape Abuse & Incest National Network: http://rainn.org/ The CDC Fast Facts about DV: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/index.html Information on Adverse Childhood Experiences: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces The Power and Control Wheel: https://www.nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/2019-08/Gender%20Neutral%20Power%20Control%20Wheel.pdf Brene Brown's RSA Short: Empathy: https://brenebrown.com/videos/rsa-short-empathy/ GET YOUR TICKETS TO THE VM COMEDY NIGHT FUNDRAISER: https://visibleman.org/comedyshow/ Subscribe to Beck's Kid's YouTube Account: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHKpj0_F_zTScHPAoBwNwZQ Support VM: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Jeff and Jack have a freewheeling conversation that covers Australia's obsession with Hawaiian BBQ, sparking joy, upcoming live events, burnout, and more. This is one of the most open, honest, and free-flowing conversations we've had on VM Live. Notes: Australia's obsession with BBQ Hawaiian food, shortening words unnecessarily, and why there are no Burger King's down under. If you could draw your week as a roller coaster, what would it look like? - A callback to our live talk with Weston Karnes who created the card game for men's mental health, “Let's Get Real, Bro.” - https://youtu.be/7c01qwyZgEE Should you use the word should? (and other philosophical questions) What up with Jeff and busses? Adult coloring and the zen of cabinet making Duct tape and cable management Being lucky enough to love what you do for work Why entrepreneurs suck Sparking Joy Jeff's first talk will be at the Lilac Festival: https://rochesterevents.com/lilac-festival/ How men are hurting the men's mental health cause Jack now sleeps like a normal person The official VM Comedy Night Fundraiser announcement: https://www.carlsoncomedy.com/ How burnout has affected Visible Man The real meaning of brotherhood Links GET YOUR TICKETS TO THE VM COMEDY NIGHT FUNDRAISER: https://ci.ovationtix.com/35843/production/1121480?performanceId=11068573 Subscribe to Beck's Kid's YouTube Account: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHKpj0_F_zTScHPAoBwNwZQ Support VM: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Dating can be a lot of fun, but once you get to a certain place in life, it becomes less about having fun and more about discovering and then finding what you want in a partner. How do we do this while still enjoying the process? In this episode, Jeff speaks with husband, father, YouTuber, podcast, author, and PRE engagement coach, Shon Hyneman of Its Scary to Remarry about how to date intentionally. Notes About It's Scary to Remarry and Shon Hyneman How to date intentionally How being upfront about what you want in a relationship is beneficial for you and your partner The importance of finding out what you want in a partner and relationship The five questions that will help you find out what you want with relationships Audience Q&A Links Shon's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ShonHyneman Dating Intentionally: 5 Ways To Know They Are The One: https://5waystoknow.podia.com/ Subscribe to Beck's Kid's YouTube Account: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHKpj0_F_zTScHPAoBwNwZQ Support VM: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Jeff sits down for a chat with Weston Karnes, the creator of “Let's Get Real Bro,” a card game for guys to connect, dig deep, and get real. Notes: Where the idea for a mental health card game for men came from Creating the actual game Where did the questions come from? How does Weston see the game being used? Jeff answers a few questions from the game Links: Let's Get Real Bro's website: https://www.letsgetrealbro.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lgrbro Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lgrbro/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lgrbro Subscribe to Beck's Kid's YouTube Account: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHKpj0_F_zTScHPAoBwNwZQ Support VM: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

The boys continue their “Audience Q&A” series with this episode answering questions about men's mental health in and out of the VM Discord Server. They also discuss ghosting and how harmful it can be to everyone involved. Notes: Is ghosting ok? Has anyone made fun of you for talking about your feelings? How do you cope when people invalidate your depression? Do you talk about mental health outside of the server? What do you guys do to make yourself feel sexy or attractive? Links: Subscribe to Beck's Kid's YouTube Account: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHKpj0_F_zTScHPAoBwNwZQ Support VM: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

"I definitely have body issues, but everybody does. When you come to the realization that everybody does — even the people that I consider flawless — then you can start to live with the way you are." - Taylor Swift Whether it's because of Hollywood or because of our own friends and family, it feels like almost everyone has some issue with their own body. The boys get together to discuss their various insecurities in an open and honest conversation about body image, body image issues, and the male body itself. Links: Support VM: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

We will be releasing the full episode of VM Live titled, "Is There Room in the Body Positivity Movement for Men," in a few days, but wanted to get this part out ahead of time. Eternal Hope Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family. We all know that. The boys discuss whether or not the family, which you can't choose, can affect your mental health and if so, how. They also continue their discussions on the Ukraine situation, Jack's trip to Australia, and more. Notes: Jack's run-ins with the bugs of Australia The Ukraine Situation Invalidating people's problems and experiences because someone else always has it worse Turning human suffering into a political thing Being informed of current events without harming your mental health Being embarrassed to be an American while overseas Can family mess with your mental health? - The short answer Understanding your family members from a mental health perspective When siblings interfere with family matters Jack gets jealous about his partner's kid's YouTube Channel Learning to set up boundaries with family members Balancing family responsibilities with personal freedom Links Subscribe to Beck's Kid's YouTube Account: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHKpj0_F_zTScHPAoBwNwZQ Support VM: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

In today's episode, Jeff chats with Dr. Rob Whitley, associate professor in the Department of Psychiatry at McGill University and research scientist at the Douglas Research Centre about the cultural differences in men's mental health. Just a heads up, there were some technical issues with Dr. Rob's audio, but we feel that the message was important enough to warrant airing this in spite of said issues. Finally, as always, this show is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to replace medical or professional help. If you need medical or professional help, please seek out the appropriate person in your area. Notes: How Dr. Whitley got interested in men's mental health How the field of men's mental health has grown? How influential is culture when it comes to mental health? Dealing with the bad aspects of the manosphere The insights Dr. Whitley gained while studying the pick-up artist community What are some of the ways we can reach out and help men? How shoulder-to-shoulder interventions can be a great way to reach men Why don't men open up about their mental health? Links: Dr. Rob's Bio: https://www.mcgill.ca/tcpsych/faculty/robertwhitley “Men's Issues and Men's Mental Health: An Introductory Primer:” https://www.amazon.com/Men%E2%80%99s-Issues-and-Men%E2%80%99s-Mental-Health_-An-Introductory-Primer/dp/3030863190 Dr. Rob's Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-about-men National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On this special episode of the Visible Man podcast, VM in collaboration with Victory Mindset presents speaker, author, entrepreneur, and coach Anthony Faiano who gives his talk, “A Man's Relationship with Himself.” In this talk, Anthony gives men a step-by-step process that will help them better their relationship with themselves internally, which will then help them in all areas of their lives externally. We were incredibly happy to have Anthony join us and even luckier to have him as an active member of our organization. Notes: Know Thyself Self Respect vs Self Esteem Make Yourself Uncomfortable Learn to communicate Authenticity Audience Q&A Links: Anthony's Website: https://www.victorymindset.net Support the Mission: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

All relationships start with one thing - two people meeting. Join the boys as they discuss their very nonprofessional insights on how they've met and dated people. Notes: Football Dating apps Is it easier to approach a man or a woman? Getting over fears of approaching people Start a conversation by asking for advice Are men intimidating to approach? Being authentic Links: Support the Mission: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

The boys get real and discuss what breakups are like for men. They also discuss myspace, recording ringtones with your tv, and other things people over 30 will appreciate. Notes: We're streaming… We think The hardest part of breaking up is getting back your stuff Divorces versus breakups Dealing with the guilt and shame that follows a divorce Patreon ideas Voicemails and ringtones in the 90s/2000s Jeff opens up about his worst breakup Jack opens up about his worst breakup Upcoming events Adro opens up about his worst breakup Do men end up having to leave/get kicked out more often than women Why memes of men crying are incredibly harmful When a man cheats versus when a woman cheats Why guys can't find emotional help online What breakups are like for men Links: Support the Mission: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

The boys talk about being Visible Men a lot, but how does one actually do that? Join them as they discuss how to be there for someone and be a safe person. Notes Jack's healthy shake Remember that time Jeff got mad at the boys? Jeff's big news! SMASH THAT LIKE BUTTON Why do men have trouble opening up? The best way to be there for someone who needs to talk Examples of being an unsafe person emotionally Being there versus giving advice Knowing the difference between a discussion and a vent How knowing your own boundaries can help you be a safe person How joking around can make someone feel unsafe How to drink wine and water - the right way Accidentally taking jokes too far What the boys look for in a safe person Links Support the Mission: https://www.patreon.com/visibleman National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Our listeners and viewers have spoken and we have finally listened. Join the boys as they answer questions submitted by the VM Live audience. They cover manscaping, what men talk about when women aren't around, how to turn down your partner when you don't want sex, and so much more. Notes R.I.P. Meatloaf Fight Club and toxic masculinity Catching up with the boys Jack pays up on the bet he made with Adro on the episode, "Feeling Open and Opening Up." The boys cover the NFL playoffs and the VM Fantasy Football League Do guys use the same razor or trimmer to shave their balls as they do to shave their face? What is being an Admin on Visible Man's Discord Server Like? What do men like to receive as gifts? What do men talk about when women aren't around? Is Jack Rollins the best lover in Ohio Can you really be "too big" for condoms? My boyfriend always wants to have sex. How do I tell him no without hurting his feelings? Why are all guys obsessed with anal sex? My husband doesn't do his fair share of things around the house. How do I get him to do things? Links VM Live! 12-17-21 – Feeling Open and Opening Up: https://visibleman.org/feeling-open-and-opening-up/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On today's episode, the boys discuss their New Year's Resolutions. They also help Jeff deal with his plants, discuss Walmart parking lots, COVID parties, and more. Notes Jack's LDR Date night How people who live in warm climates can't understand the concept of real winter weather Jeff, his aphids, and the weirdness of actually being in a good mood The dangers of ornamental cacti Walmart parking lots and the worst of the worst Bob readjusting to an empty house again and adjusting to an empty office due to COVID Evan's 2022 has been all over the place already COVID parties Novak Djokovic and the Australian border Jack's New Year's Resolutions Weight loss Social awareness Huel should sponsor us Jeff's New Year's Resolutions Making choices for himself Boundaries VM Live will Livestream in 2022 Bob's New Year's Resolutions A different view on resolutions Writing out yearly goals Evan's New Year's Resolutions He doesn't call them resolutions either Focusing more on spending time doing things for himself and less time doing unnecessary things Jack's predictions for 2022 We're on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/user?u=15385375 Links National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On the premiere of Season 2, the boys discuss their holidays; specifically dealing with long-distance relationships, difficult families, breakups, and more. They also find out where Tim has been for the last six months! Notes Where in the heck has Tim been? News from Iowa Why Ohio is the Kevin Bacon of states Tim's nickname is finally revealed VM Live's goals for Season 2 Jack talks about not being able to get to Australia as planned How difficult it is to give bad news to kids Compartmentalizing stuff during tough times Bob's Holidays and freaking with difficult family members How abuse can affect children Let's talk about kayaking How Tim and his wife bonded via their divorce boat while also doing the whole thing backward Dealing with the ex during the holidays Handling your child's first break-up When is the best time to break up with someone? Going back to your childhood home to say goodbye Jeff's refreshing holiday season except for that part where he wanted until Christmas Eve to do his shopping Why Jeff hesitates and why everything is much easier said than done Keeping the peace versus paying the price Jeff's gratitude for a calm holiday season How we spoil our family as a way to make up for things The boys solve the problem of how to lose weight Huel should sponsor us How little adjustments can create big change More kayak talk Links National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Today's episode comes from a live talk founder Jeff Hoffman had with Erin Thurston from the Heal Collaborative, which as a part of the University of Rochester Medical Center, provides support for everyone who experiences, violence and trauma, including men and members of the LGBTQIA community. There were some technical issues with the audio, but we believe that the information contained in this episode is important enough to share it even in its imperfect state. The content of this episode has to do with abuse and domestic violence. Because of that, it may be triggering to some individuals and we also advise that you keep it away from younger ears. Notes: What does the Heal Collaborative ( Strong memorial hospital) do? What got Erin into this kind of work? What do abuse and trauma look like? How do you know if you are being abused? Do men get abused? If so, what does it look like? What barriers do male domestic violence survivors have in regards to getting help? What does healing from domestic violence look like for men? How has the COVID-19 pandemic affected people in domestically violent relationships? Audience Q&A Links: Healing through Health, Education, Advocacy, and Law (HEAL) Collaborative (contains a quick exit button for safety): https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/mental-health-wellness/adult-services/outpatient/heal.aspx Men and Domestic Violence: https://visibleman.org/men-and-domestic-violence/ Willow Domestic Violence Center: http://willowcenterny.org/ The National Domestic Violence Hotline: http://thehotline.org/ Rape Abuse & Incest National Network: http://rainn.org/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On VM Live's last episode of 2021, the guys reflect on Season 1 of the show, Jack picks a bone with himself about not being open which leads to a discussion on how difficult it is for men to be open, Adro shares some big news, and more. Notes: Jack picks a bone with himself Why it's hard for guys to open up about their feelings Guys not being afforded the same grace to be open about their feelings Supporting men versus telling them to suck it up Feeling bad about feeling relieved when you have some time away from the kids Adro taking making his health a priority What it's like to be diagnosed with depression Jeff's experience with Zoloft Jeff makes Adro cry How creating stability helps your children Admin Bob makes Adro cry Reviewing our best moments from Season 1 Why it's important for men to open up to other men Jack and Adro make a bet Connected Episodes: Adro's Addiction: https://visibleman.org/vm-live-08-26-21-adros-addiction/ Bob's Tinder Saga: https://visibleman.org/tag/bobs-tinder-saga/ A Visible Woman on Visible Man:https://visibleman.org/a-visible-woman-on-visible-man/ Links: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On this episode of VM Live, the boys discuss whether or not they have turned down sex, they get an update on Evan's surgery, they try to find the meaning of Christmas through others, and Jeff talks about plants, again (probably). Notes: Do guys ever turn down sex? Can men get sexually assaulted? Going regimental with your kilt around women of a certain age Consent has no gender Evan's top surgery update Christmas decorations Holiday plans and living vicariously through others and their Christmas spirit Links: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text “VM” to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Catch up on past episodes here: https://visibleman.org/the-visible-man-podcast/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On today's episode taken from a live talk hosted on the VM Discord Server, Jeff chats with divorce attorney, speaker, blogger, radio personality, and host of the Divorcing Well Podcast, Leanne Townsend who gives divorced parents some advice on how to survive the holidays. You'll hear Jeff interview Leanne for a while and then he will open up the conversation to our live Discord audience for a Q&A. Just a quick reminder, this episode is educational in nature and not legal advice. If you need legal advice, please seek out the appropriate legal professional. Notes: Leanne's perspective on how to handle the holidays as a divorced parent What got Leanne into being a divorced attorney Leanne's personal experience as a divorced parent Why you should create new traditions Remembering to put the children first How to coordinate visitation during the holiday season How to coordinate visitation during the holiday season as a high conflict couple How to handle the gift situation with split families The most important thing to focus on during the holiday season (and it's not what gifts you get the kids) What if a child doesn't want to go to the other parent's house for Christmas? How to take care of yourself as a single parent during the holiday season The difference between the support systems of men and women regarding divorce and mental health Tips on dealing with your mental health during the holidays How to deal with the ex's family (meddling in-laws) How to support your divorced friend or family member Audience Q&A Links: Leanne Townsend | Family Lawyer & Divorce Strategist: https://leannetownsend.ca/ Divorcing Well Podcast: https://leannetownsend.ca/divorcing-well/ The Dish on Divorce: https://leannetownsend.ca/the-dish-on-divorce/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSPFY2_fDLiw0WLcxZErasg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

The guys take a look at misogyny and how it affects the VM Community. Also, Jeff had a thing with his boat... Links National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someoneAFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On the first VIDEO episode of VM Live, the Boys recap their Thanksgivings both recent and from days past. Notes: Movember updates Oakland/Dallas game, Bob pays up for his losing Cowboys Quiet gatherings this year Worst Thanksgiving memories Rich people food Comedians in serious movie roles Links: DONATE TO AND/OR JOIN THE OFFICIAL VM MOVEMBER TEAM: https://us.movember.com/team/2398989 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

The boys get real and talk about how the holidays affect them. Links: DONATE TO AND/OR JOIN THE OFFICIAL VM MOVEMBER TEAM: https://us.movember.com/team/2398989 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On this bonus episode, Jeff sits down with Movember's Corporate Manager, Rich Loesing to discuss all the great work being done by the Movember Foundation. DONATE to or JOIN the VM Movember Team: https://movember.com/t/visible-man?mc=1 MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH: https://us.movember.com/mens-health/mental-health PROSTATE CANCER: https://us.movember.com/mens-health/prostate-cancer TESTICLES - NOW THAT WE HAVE YOUR ATTENTION, HOW'S YOUR PAIR HANGIN'?: https://us.movember.com/mens-health/testicular-cancer MEN'S HEALTH: https://us.movember.com/mens-health/general SPOT A BRO WHO'S FEELING LOW: https://us.movember.com/mens-health/spot-the-signs BE A MAN OF MORE WORDS: https://us.movember.com/mens-health/suicide-prevention NEED SUPPORT?: https://us.movember.com/mens-health/get-support NO MORE DEAD END CONVERSATIONS: https://conversations.movember.com/en-us/ FAMILY MAN: https://familyman.movember.com/?_ga=2.82100694.1180391347.1636242975-484582211.1634003818 TRUE NORTH: https://truenorth.movember.com/en-usOn this bonus episode, Jeff sits down with Movember's Corporate Manager, to discuss all the great work being done by the Movember Foundation. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

The boys share some of their experiences on fatherhood both before and after their divorces. Links: DONATE TO AND/OR JOIN THE OFFICIAL VM MOVEMBER TEAM: https://us.movember.com/team/2398989 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On this special extended-length episode, the boys dig deep and discuss their greatest fears. Links: DONATE TO AND/OR JOIN THE OFFICIAL VM MOVEMBER TEAM: https://us.movember.com/team/2398989 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On this episode of VM Live, the guys discuss what they wish they had known about life, love, and everything in between. DONATE TO AND/OR JOIN THE OFFICIAL VM MOVEMBER TEAM: https://us.movember.com/team/2398989 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Jeff chats with Lisa Nolan the Director of Prevention Education for the Willow Domestic Violence Center in Rochester New York. This conversation may be triggering to some and as a reminder, it is for educational purposes only and not medical or legal advice. If you need medical or legal advice, please seek help from the appropriate medical or legal professional. Notes What is the language we should be using when discussing domestic violence? The different perspectives on men and domestic violence How do we stop domestic violence? What is domestic violence and what does it look like? The signs of domestic violence Does domestic violence happen outside of sexual relationships? How the Britney Spears situation shows us what domestic violence in the family can look like What are the outward signs of domestic violence? What is gaslighting? Are abusers aware that they are abusing? Abuse versus anger management issues Why do people abuse? Where does it come from? How Lisa's experience as a campus judge for a college opened her eyes to the reality of domestic violence Men's versus women's experiences with domestic violence What hurdles do male sexual abuse survivors face? Domestic Violence in the LGBTQIA community How do people end up in abusive relationships? Why are abusive relationships hard to leave? Audience Q&A What we can do to help Links Willow Domestic Violence Center: http://willowcenterny.org/ The National Domestic Violence Hotline: http://thehotline.org/ Rape Abuse & Incest National Network: http://rainn.org/ The CDC Fast Facts about DV: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/index.html Information on Adverse Childhood Experiences: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces The Power and Control Wheel: https://www.nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/2019-08/Gender%20Neutral%20Power%20Control%20Wheel.pdf Brene Brown's RSA Short: Empathy: https://brenebrown.com/videos/rsa-short-empathy/ DONATE TO AND/OR JOIN THE OFFICIAL VM MOVEMBER TEAM: https://us.movember.com/team/2398989 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

The boys reflect on what brought them to Visible Man, what's kept them there, and what they hope to see it become in the future. Experience with VM and how it impacts you personally Importance of connection when going through life stuff Easier to open up online with people you don't know, less judgment Open, honest, real vulnerability Ability to discuss personal issues from a man's perspective Looking forward, what would you like to see VM become? Local, regional, worldwide focus Grow large enough to need VM chapters in different cities Help save lives Several hundred members active in chats Planning in person VM meetups Bridge the gap in the conversation between going through stuff and going to therapy Spread the word, spread the mission Increase content creation and distribution (incorporate video, social media, etc) Identify specific traits - what is a Visible Man? Skills training to acquire specific traits of a Visible Man Links Visible Man - Movember Team 2021- Join the team or donate The Positive Effects of Running on Mental Health - PubMed Seasonal Depression (SAD): Symptoms and Causes National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ Topics Highs and lows of the week Season change and less daylight sucks Separation and divorce Drinking Suicidal ideation Job loss and family stress Vulnerability Be visible Create connection Looking for validation in different places --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On this episode of the Visible Man podcast, Jeff sits down with suicide-loss survivor, speaker, author, founder of No Stigmas, and creator of the 5 Bridges to wellness Jacob Moore to discuss mental health, relationships, wellness, and everything in between. This episode contains discussions about suicide and losing people to suicide so it may be triggering to some individuals. Just a quick reminder, This episode is educational in nature and not medical advice. If you need medical advice, please seek out the appropriate medical professional. Notes: How you see yourself versus how the world sees you How 5 Bridges to Wellness came to be How a good relationship can really help you grow Making it safe for other people to open up while not forgetting our own boundaries, needs, etc Why every couple should go to couple's therapy. How Jacob divorced a girl before having their first date and then ended up marrying her Why peer support networks matter The first bridge - bond and why we need to diversify your bonds How do you figure out what you need? Figuring out the difference between want and need Masculine and feminine energy and how those energies affect our mental health The importance of giving within your own capacity Audience Q&A Links: NoStigmas https://www.nostigmas.org/ 5 Bridges Wellness https://www.the5bridges.com/| https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-with-drs-john-and-julie-gottman-on-what-makes-love-last/ https://lewishowes.com/podcast/devon-franklin-relationships-love-and-lust/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Intern and Visible Woman, Steph Ketty takes the reins and discusses some of the topics brought up on past episodes of VM Live with regular hosts Jeff and Jack. Notes: How Steph found VM Childhood foods: city chicken, warm tuna, bologna tacos Parents aren't out to do a bad job raising kids You're an adult when you're able to see your parents as humans When is your first memory feeling unsafe? How was sex talked about at home How are you raising your kids Religious upbringing Sexual assault Having to figure out sex and consent on your own Feeling unsafe around men Therapy Sexual identity Marriage Infidelity Changing truths Links: I Never Called It Rape: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting, and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape by Robin Warshaw: https://www.amazon.com/Never-Called-Rape-Recognizing-Acquaintance/dp/0060925728 Adios Barbie: https://www.adiosbarbie.com/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

When most people think about protective orders, they assume the orders are being placed on a man, but that's not always the case. In this episode of VM Live, Adro discusses why he had to get protective orders, how difficult it was to do so, and why even though he did nothing wrong, his life went under the microscope. Links: VM Live! 08-26-21 - Adro's Addiction: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/episodes/VM-Live--08-26-21---Adros-Addiction-e16hpu0 Therapy Is... Magic: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/episodes/Therapy-Is----Magic-e181jij National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ News Theme by Kevin MacLeod is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Artist: http://incompetech.com/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Have you been to therapy recently? A goal we have at VM is to make men's mental health a dinner table topic and one of the ways we can do that is by demystifying and destigmatizing the practice of going to therapy. We, men, are notorious for our ability to avoid seeking help and almost equally notorious for our ability to come up with excuses for not doing so. When it comes to therapy, most of it is based on fear. Fear of looking (or actually being) weak, fear of looking (or actually being) broken, fear of the process itself. The reasons for our fears are almost as numerous as our excuses. Fellas, it's time we make a change. In her debut book, ‘Therapy is…Magic: An essential guide to the ups, downs and life-changing experiences of talking therapy' trainee psychotherapist, award-winning mental health advocate, artist and author, Jo Love reveals everything you've wanted to know but been too scared to ask about the world of therapy. This is a passionate and unflinchingly honest account of Jo's own mental health journey and an essential read for those curious about or considering entering therapy. Written from the unique perspective of a person in therapy, the book provides a rarely heard voice in the mental wellness space. With the help of experts including her own therapist, Jo opens a rare window into the secretive world of therapy, unpicking the magical powers that enabled her to find her voice, grow her resilience and ultimately save herself from her own mind. Jeff sat down with Jo and discussed how therapy is indeed, magic. This podcast is educational in nature and not medical advice. If you need medical advice, please seek out the appropriate medical professional. Links: Order Jo's Book: https://www.bookdepository.com/Therapy-is-Magic-Jo-Love/9781529348439 Jo's Website: https://www.jolove.co.uk/ Jo's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jo__love__/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

The gang gets welcomes intern/dating expert Steph back onto the show for the long-awaited results of Admin Bob's Tinder Experiment. Notes: Bob's Tinder results Why didn't Bob get the results he hoped for? Do pictures or bio matter more on a dating profile? Tinder for women versus tinder for men Tinder versus hitting on people in person Tinder versus more mature dating sites Are party lines still a thing? Double standards and why they probably aren't always that bad The new plan to get Bob a date How to be a proper wingman Links: VM Live! 08-19-21 - Admin Bob Gets on Tinder: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/episodes/VM-Live--08-19-21---Admin-Bob-Gets-on-Tinder-e167v3l National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Are men taught to hide their emotions or are they just born that way? Is humor helpful or a disguise? When men do express emotions, do they do it right? On this episode of VM Live the boys explore all of this and more as they open up about opening up. Notes: Hipster suspenders Jeff is dressing outside his comfort zone Emotional safety Growing up learning “boys don't cry” Crying in kids sports Hats Does society actually allow men to be vulnerable Humor and sarcasm as defense mechanisms Chandler without the laugh track “My friends that I cry with” and people we cannot be open with Stable safe spaces Suppressed emotions Modeling behavior for our kids The three movies men are allowed to cry at Learning we must be strong for others at a young age Vulnerability in the transmasculine experience Nature vs nurture Jeff's lifehack Asking: how do you want me to respond? Links: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Sex is a messy topic. We all know that. It's complicated, confusing, and can be damaging to our mental health. Conversations about it are fraught with misconceptions and at times flat-out incorrect information. That's why discussions like today's are so important. They give us the opportunity to talk about sex in a safe, clinical, and nonjudgemental place. In this episode, Jeff has a chat with licensed master of social work and psychotherapist, Tyler Buchiero from Rochester Center for Sexual Wellness. Tyler has a particular interest in working with individuals struggling with sexual functioning problems, as well as intimacy issues and LGBTQIA-related concerns. He works through the lens that the understanding and intervention in these complex life experiences is driven by the strength of the therapeutic relationship. To that end, safety is foundational to all treatment, as is the pursuit of the emotional truth of the situation. Due to the nature of this episode, we advise that you keep it away from sensitive ears. And just a reminder, this podcast is educational in nature and not medical advice. If you need medical advice, please seek out the appropriate medical professional. Notes: Why would someone seek out a sex therapist over a traditional therapist? What issues are addressed in sex therapy? What do people talk about when they come in? Why Tyler decided to specialize in sex and why sex therapy is even a thing How people think guys talk about sex versus how they actually talk about sex Stigmas, perceptions, and the truth about what men and women think regarding sex Sex versus intimacy and how they work together (or not) What men need to feel connected to another individual in a romantic and sexual way The common concerns men have regarding sex and the expectations of society Besides medical issues, the number 1 cause of erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and other sexual performance issues How the conversation with a sex therapist starts Fixing a dead bedroom Consent and how asking for it, but also how it can be incredibly sexy to do so How treatment has changed for members of the trans community in recent years Audience Q&A Links: Yes, No, Maybe Lists: https://selfservetoys.com/resourcecenter/favorite-yesnomaybe-lists-available-online/ “She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman” by Ian Kerner: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000FC1PRK/ The Rochester Center for Sexual Wellness: https://rochestercenterforsexualwellness.com/ Pornhub's Sexual Wellness Site: https://www.pornhub.com/sex/ Sex and Relationships - A Conversation with Pornhub's Dr. Laurie Betito: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/episodes/Sex-and-Relationships---A-Conversation-with-Pornhubs-Dr--Laurie-Betito-e160p5v National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC Visible Man: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On this episode of VM Live the boys get real and talk about some of the difficulties they've had when it comes to sex. This podcast is educational in nature and not medical advice. If you need medical advice, please seek out the appropriate medical professional. Notes: Continuing the theme of sex The guys share times they felt emotionally unsafe Religious upbringing Having “the talk” Porn stars as professional athletes Sex playlists How much do guys really talk about it Body image Links: “She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman” by Ian Kerner: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000FC1PRK/ The Rochester Center for Sexual Wellness: https://rochestercenterforsexualwellness.com/ Pornhub's Sexual Wellness Site: https://www.pornhub.com/sex/ Sex and Relationships - A Conversation with Pornhub's Dr. Laurie Betito: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/episodes/Sex-and-Relationships---A-Conversation-with-Pornhubs-Dr--Laurie-Betito-e160p5v National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Today's episode came from a Live Talk VM founder Jeff Hoffman had with Licensed Clinical Psychologist with a specialty in Sex Therapy, Dr. Laurie Betito. Dr. Laurie tapped into her experience in the field and as the Sexual Wellness Director of Pornhub to cover topics from penis size, to the incel movement, women's pubic hair trends, and much more. Due to the nature of the content in this episode, we advise you to keep it away from little ears. There also may be some content that may be triggering to some of our listeners. Just a quick reminder, This podcast is educational in nature and not medical advice. If you need medical advice, please seek out the appropriate medical professional. Links: Dr. Laurie's Website: https://www.drlaurie.com/ Passion with Dr. Laurie Betito (podcast): https://open.spotify.com/show/02WehPlKf88CtvStyUMLv1?si=7s-ew0r8TayZf9tgccFJSg&dl_branch=1 Pornhub's Sexual Wellness Center: https://www.pornhub.com/sex/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

According to the Addiction Center Almost 21 million Americans have at least one addiction, yet only 10% of them receive treatment. Drug overdose deaths have more than tripled since 1990. From 1999 to 2017, more than 700,000 Americans died from overdosing on a drug. Alcohol and drug addiction cost the U.S. economy over $600 billion every year. In 2017, 34.2 million Americans committed DUI, 21.4 million under the influence of alcohol and 12.8 million under the influence of drugs. About 20% of Americans who have depression or an anxiety disorder also have a substance use disorder. More than 90% of people who have an addiction started to drink alcohol or use drugs before they were 18 years old. Americans between the ages of 18 and 25 are most likely to use addictive drugs. Our friend, castmate, and fellow Visible Man, Adro Martinez opens up and gets real while he tells us about his battle with addiction. This is one incredibly special and powerful episode. Links: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

In this episode, Jeff sits down and chats with Nancy Shawki to discuss her insights on male mental health. This perspective is especially interesting as Nancy who founded Vanguard Therapy is a licensed clinical social worker with over a decade's worth of experience working with men in a therapy setting. Notes How losing a friend to suicide drew Nancy into the mental health field Observations on men and mental health How the concept of toxic masculinity has made it difficult for men to reach out for help and support When should you start going to therapy? Approaching therapy with men vs women Is having a female therapist different? How culture and society negatively view men's mental health Is it ok for men to cry? Why “manning up” is not a good idea The signs of anxiety and depression in men What makes a man a man? How we can fix the problem CBT vs DBT vs Eclectic Therapy Audience Q&A Links Vanguard Therapy: http://www.vanguardtherapy.com/ The Messy Problem of Race and Mental Health: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/episodes/The-Messy-Problem-of-Race-and-Mental-Health-esvg8d National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Admin Bob is a good-looking, kind, adventurous single father who has been having a bit of trouble finding love. So, the logical thing to do would be to send our intern/romance expert Steph out to do a ton of research on online dating and what works vs what doesn't so we could come up with the perfect Tinder profile for Bob. So, that's what we did. Notes: Intros Bob dry spell backstory Tinder, online dating experience Bob - been on dates, no relationships since his divorce He's a good guy, what's he doing wrong? Tinder wrong place? Segment 2 Steph's study results Segment 3 Writing the profile Links: Tinder Data: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1GcCUNcru7wPAo2wlh_7eNKZwnoRHj2ob?usp=sharing National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

On this episode, Jeff chats with the Essential Stepmom, Tracy Poizner about how to be an amazing stepmom without driving you, your partner, or your partner's kids absolutely nuts. How discord is beneficial to helping men open up about their mental health Helping girlfriends and partners learn to understand the pain, problems, and baggage a divorced father can carry with him How partners can help their partner be a good father without trying to be a parent themselves How Tracy helps the women help their men and how she actually gets the men involved themselves Why single fathers can get overwhelmed and what partners can do to help How a toxic ex can make parenting difficult The new parenting tools men need to be a single father, especially when being undermined by their ex Why the stepmom needs to remember to take a step back and not try to be a mom to his kids Why stepchildren are less likely to want to please stepparents How to be a smarter parent How to reach out to the men in your life and help them with their struggles Why you should learn to step away, let him be the parent, and only help when asked and how to do it Live Audience Q&A Links: Essential Stepmom: https://essentialstepmom.com/ The Essential Mom Podcast: https://essentialstepmom.com/episodes/ Stepmom Magazine: https://www.stepmommag.com/ Team Superdad: https://www.teamsuperdad.com/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

The gang chats with Chris Martoche who shares how his mental health struggles lead him to abuse alcohol, almost attempt suicide, and spend time in an inpatient mental health facility. This is one powerful story. Notes: White people food Getting Admin Bob on Tinder next week Chris tells his story of alcoholism, a suicide attempt, going to an inpatient medical facility, and his constant battle with his mental health Great news about the PHP Program in Buffalo Links Grants Awarded to ECMC to Expand Innovative Outpatient Behavioral Health Programs: https://www.ecmc.edu/grants-awarded-ecmc-expand-innovative-outpatient-behavioral-health-programs/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Jeff chats with Garra Lloyd-lester, the Associate Director of the Suicide Prevention Center of NYS about the problem of men's suicide and what can do to help. How to speak to suicide loss survivors Suicide rates in the United States and what those numbers mean How can we help men specifically But really, how can we help our male loved ones Safety plans and why we all should have one How virtual discussions can lead to real vulnerability Mental health and the COVID-19 pandemic Mental health vs mental illness Sharing experiences and making connections Audience Q&A Links: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741 Gara's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/garra-lloyd-lester-43053838/ Suicide Prevention Center of New York State: https://www.preventsuicideny.org/ American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers NAMI: https://www.nami.org/home Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Jack, Jeff, and the gang discuss their past issues with alcohol. Alcoholics Anonymous: https://www.aa.org/ Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support

Just another conversation where men complain about child support - only this time, you are invited to listen in! Join Us: https://discord.gg/YbQDWqUC VisibleMan: https://www.visibleman.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visibleman.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VisiblemanO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visibleman_org/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/support