Things You Learn in Therapy

Send us a textWhat if there's no such thing as a bad kid? What if challenging behaviors are simply messages children send when they lack the emotional vocabulary to express themselves? Licensed Professional Counselor Jillian takes us behind the scenes of a  behavior modification camp founded in the 1960s that continues to transform lives today. Drawing from five summers working at this unique program and her family background of psychologists, Jillian breaks down the evidence-based techniques that help children thrive through connection rather than control.We explore the power of token economies where children earn points for positively-framed behavioral goals—points that, crucially, can never be taken away. Learn why traditional punishments like timeouts and taking away privileges often backfire, while strategic ignoring paired with enthusiastic positive reinforcement builds intrinsic motivation. Jillian shares practical examples from both camp and home settings, including a touching story about decoding her three-year-old's resistance to school after a frightening fire drill.The conversation reveals how shifting our language from "don't do this" to "here's what you can do" fundamentally changes our relationships with children. We discuss how teachers and parents can implement these techniques to create environments where kids feel understood, validated, and set up for success. Most importantly, we discover that sustainable behavior change happens when children feel seen, heard, and loved—even during their most challenging moments.Ready to see behavior as communication and transform your approach to the children in your life? This episode offers practical wisdom for anyone who believes in a child's inherent goodness and wants to build connections that last a lifetime.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

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Send us a textWhat if the life you've carefully constructed is slowly burning you out? Dr. Beth Trammell sits down with licensed therapist Laurel Roberts-Meese for an eye-opening conversation about the reality of burnout – and why that tropical vacation you've been dreaming about won't fix it."Burnout comes from a pathological pattern of not choosing yourself," explains Roberts-Meese, delivering one of many powerful insights throughout this deeply resonant episode. As someone who specializes in working with high-achievers and executives, she's seen firsthand how the relentless pursuit of productivity can hollow out even the most passionate professionals.Roberts-Meese presents a revolutionary framework for understanding burnout prevention and recovery, visualized as concentric spheres beginning with physical health, then behavioral choices, relationships, and finally, meaning and purpose. This holistic approach challenges listeners to examine not just their schedules, but the fundamental ways they prioritize (or fail to prioritize) their own wellbeing.The conversation takes a particularly compelling turn when discussing how the people around us often resist when we begin setting boundaries. "You burning yourself out for them was kind of working for them," Roberts-Meese observes, explaining why reclaiming your time and energy can trigger unexpected pushback from loved ones.For those already experiencing burnout, Roberts-Meese offers a practical daily practice: do just one thing in each of the four spheres every day. These small, consistent choices create a foundation for recovery that no two-week getaway could hope to match.Whether you're on the brink of burnout or simply feeling the weight of chronic stress, this conversation provides both validation and actionable strategies to help you choose yourself without sacrificing what matters most. Visit laureltherapy.net to access Roberts-Meese's Burnout Recovery Kit and learn more about her approach to sustainable wellbeing.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textThe world feels increasingly chaotic and unpredictable. Global events, endless news cycles, and persistent uncertainty have left many of us stuck in a state of nervous system dysregulation that doesn't seem to subside. Marie Sloane returns to the podcast to share practical wisdom about finding stability when everything around us feels unstable.Marie introduces us to a transformative "bottom-up" approach to managing anxiety. She explains why our typical cognitive strategies often fall short when our bodies are in fight-or-flight mode, using the vivid metaphor of a kindergarten classroom during a fire drill. Just as kindergartners can't hear the teacher's reassurances while alarms are blaring, our rational brain can't effectively process information when our nervous system is activated.Through her three-part regulation pyramid, Marie offers concrete techniques that address our physiology first, emotions second, and thoughts third. From surprising somatic tools like popping sour candy (which forces salivation and signals safety to your body) to bilateral stimulation that helps process emotions, each strategy is designed to meet you exactly where you are in moments of distress.What makes this conversation particularly valuable is its practicality. These aren't abstract concepts but immediate, accessible tools you can use anywhere—during a stressful meeting, after reading troubling headlines, or when feeling overwhelmed by world events. The beauty of Marie's approach is its flexibility; different situations call for different strategies, and you're encouraged to discover what works uniquely for you.Perhaps most reassuringly, Marie reminds us that regulation doesn't have to be complicated or time-consuming. Sometimes the simplest techniques—singing loudly in your car, taking three deep breaths, or simply shaking out your hands—are exactly what your nervous system needs. In a world where so much feels out of control, these tools offer a path back to feeling grounded in your own body and present in your own life.Visit mariesloancounseling.com to access the full regulation pyramid resource mentioned in this episode and discover which techniques might work best for you.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textEver been caught in that awkward moment when someone recognizes you but you can't place them? For therapists living and working in the same community, these encounters create what I call "introverted therapist nightmares"—those uncomfortable moments when professional boundaries and social niceties collide.In today's conversation, I share how these encounters unfold and why I often tell therapy clients I'll pretend not to know them in public. It's not about being cold or dismissive—it's about protecting confidentiality when they're out with friends or family who might not know they're in therapy. But what happens when roles blur, especially as I've transitioned to more community workshops and training? That moment of panic when someone approaches with a friendly "Hey Beth!" and I'm frantically searching my memory banks trying to determine if they were a client, a workshop participant, or someone else entirely.The solution came in a beautiful moment of clarity during a recent encounter when someone approached me saying, "Hey Beth, it's me, Jessie. I used to work for the Y." That simple self-identification immediately dissolved any potential awkwardness. Consider this your invitation to adopt this practice—when approaching someone you haven't seen in a while, especially professionals who interact with many people, a quick reminder of how you know each other can be an act of genuine kindness that eases social anxiety on both sides.Also in this episode, I'm excited to announce that Marie Sloane returns this Friday to share practical techniques for staying regulated when the world around us feels increasingly chaotic. Plus, registration remains open for my virtual Kindergarten Boot Camp starting June 1st—a comprehensive program designed to build social-emotional readiness skills in soon-to-be kindergartners while giving parents concrete tools to support this important transition. Visit bethtrammell.com for more details and to secure your spot! Have you experienced similar social navigation challenges? I'd love to hear your stories and solutions.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textWhat happens to your identity when you return to a place that once felt like home but now feels foreign? In this profound conversation, therapist Kindall Tyson opens up about her journey of repatriation after spending six years building a life and career in Beijing, China.Kindall shares raw, vulnerable insights into the unexpected challenges of coming home—from the financial shock of American healthcare and housing costs to deeper questions about identity and belonging. "Success is equated with education. I have that. Money? I'm doing that financially. But I'm still single. I don't have children. I don't have a home," she reflects, highlighting how cultural expectations around success can feel suffocating after experiencing freedom abroad.The conversation evolves beyond personal experience into a deeper exploration on cultural responsiveness in therapy. Both clinicians explore how our cultural backgrounds permeate everything we do and how we perceive others unless we consciously examine our biases. "I can't extrapolate race and gender from my experience as a Black woman," Kindall explains. "That informs literally every interaction that I have with people, intended or unintended."This episode offers wisdom for anyone navigating cultural transitions, identity shifts, or seeking to deepen their cultural responsiveness as clinicians. Kindall reminds us that cultural awareness isn't a destination but "an ongoing decision" requiring continuous curiosity and compassion—for others and ourselves. Whether you're an expatriate, a therapist working with diverse populations, or simply someone navigating life's transitions, this conversation offers validation and a roadmap for finding yourself when everything feels foreign.Check out Kindall's work at aspirecounselingwell.com and follow her on Instagram at @aspire_counselingwell to learn about her upcoming support groups for educators and affirmation cards for travelers.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textAre you worried your child isn't ready for kindergarten? You're not alone. While many parents focus on teaching academic skills, I've discovered through years of consulting with teachers and families that five-year-olds often struggle with something more fundamental: the social and emotional skills needed to thrive in a classroom environment.This episode introduces my Kindergarten Boot Camp, an innovative eight-week virtual program designed to help children develop these crucial skills before school begins. Through two live Zoom sessions and weekly content delivered straight to your inbox, you'll learn practical strategies to help your child develop emotional regulation, social skills, and classroom adaptability. We'll tackle the real challenges kindergartners face – sitting still during story time, taking turns with peers, managing frustration, and following classroom routines.Why does this matter? Because children with strong social-emotional foundations transition more smoothly into kindergarten, build better relationships with teachers and peers, and position themselves for academic success. At just $27 for the full program (with scholarships available for families in need), this boot camp represents an investment in your child's confidence and classroom readiness. Whether you're a parent, grandparent, or caregiver of an incoming kindergartner, this program provides the structure and support you need to make this summer count. Join our community of families preparing their little ones for this important milestone – registration is now open for our June 1st kickoff session! Have questions? Reach out directly to Beth@MakeWordsMatterForGood.com.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textWhat happens when one person in a relationship is ready to throw in the towel while their partner wants to keep trying? This emotional standoff creates a relationship limbo that can last for months or even years, preventing healing and growth for both individuals.Therapist Lianna Purjes joins us to explore the powerful tool of discernment counseling - a specialized, short-term intervention created specifically for couples with mixed agendas about their future together. Unlike traditional couples therapy that assumes both partners want to improve the relationship, discernment counseling helps couples gain clarity and confidence about which direction to take: working on the relationship, moving toward separation, or maintaining the status quo temporarily.The process is remarkably focused - just 1-5 sessions that primarily involve individual conversations with the therapist. This allows each partner to explore their contributions to relationship problems without the defensiveness that often emerges in joint sessions. Through this work, each person develops a "personal agenda for change" that benefits them regardless of the relationship's outcome.While this process can feel frightening - especially for the partner who wants to preserve the relationship - it ultimately offers a faster path to healing than indefinite relationship limbo. Having clarity, even painful clarity, allows for movement rather than stagnation in recurring negative cycles.Whether you're a therapist looking to expand your toolkit or someone navigating a difficult relationship crossroads, this episode offers insights into finding your way forward when the path seems unclear.Learn more about Lianna at fuzzysockstherapy.comThis podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textWhat separates those who merely notice problems from those who actually solve them? In this enlightening conversation, Leslie Bolser and Dr. Beth Trammell tackle the powerful concept of initiative—defined as "seeing what needs to be done and doing it"—and why this two-part skill proves challenging for people of all ages.The discussion moves through developmental stages, offering practical advice for nurturing initiative from preschool through adolescence. For the youngest children, initiative begins with explicit instruction and modeling, teaching them to notice when someone's crying or playing alone and giving them the words to respond. Elementary-aged children benefit from increased accountability and conversations that highlight the hundreds of small initiatives we take daily that often go unnoticed.While adolescents often have brilliant solutions to problems, they may wait for permission or struggle with anxiety about taking action. The hosts share strategies for empowering teens to overcome "analysis paralysis" and act on their insights, while acknowledging that even as adults, they're still working on modeling initiative consistently in their own families.This episode emphasizes initiative beyond household chores. While picking up after yourself matters, we explore the deeper relational aspects of initiative—noticing someone in need, including others who feel left out, and addressing community concerns. This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textHave you ever been in a perfect rhythm only to let a tiny distraction derail your entire momentum? That's exactly what crossed my mind during a recent swim session that turned unexpectedly profound.While gliding through the water in a perfect cadence of stroke-stroke-breathe, a single drop of water leaked into my goggles. That tiny irritation threatened to break my rhythm completely. My first instinct was to stop and fix it—but something made me push through instead. Two hundred meters later, I realized how often we abandon our positive habits, routines, and progress because of minor inconveniences that, with a bit of persistence, we could easily overcome.This brief, reflective episode serves as both a personal check-in and a gentle nudge for anyone who might be letting small distractions pull them away from their goals. Whether you're working on fitness habits, creative pursuits, relationship building, or personal growth, the principle remains the same: sometimes the most important skill is simply continuing despite discomfort.I'm also excited to share what's coming up on the podcast! We have fascinating conversations about burnout, culturally responsive practices within the biopsychosocial model, and practical strategies for managing anxiety in today's challenging social and political climate. Plus, don't miss this Friday's crossover episode with the Core Essential Values podcast where we explore parenting with initiative. Listen in, stay in your groove, and remember that your momentum matters more than momentary distractions.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Cooperation sounds simple – working together to accomplish more than we could alone – but as parents and educators, we often struggle to maintain this focus as children grow. This candid conversation between Leslie Bolser and Dr. Beth Trammell explores how our emphasis on cooperation naturally diminishes as we begin prioritizing independence in our children.For preschoolers, cooperation begins with sharing toys and parallel play, creating the foundation for teamwork. Surprisingly, allowing young children autonomy in tasks like tying shoes actually develops their capacity for future cooperation. The elementary years present a critical juncture where parents typically shift toward encouraging individual achievement rather than collaborative skills. Beth suggests intentionally highlighting moments when teamwork creates something "bigger, cooler, more amazing" than solo efforts.The conversation takes an unexpectedly vulnerable turn when discussing the common mindset many parents inherited: "If you want something done right, do it yourself." This efficiency-driven approach – whether tackling children's school projects or household management – models isolation rather than cooperation. The hosts admit their own struggles with this mentality while offering practical alternatives: family projects with genuine collaboration, asking teenagers for specific help when overwhelmed, and openly discussing strategies for working with difficult people.Perhaps most valuable is their emphasis on repair when cooperation breaks down. Showing children how to restart collaboration after conflict or isolation provides equally important lessons. Whether you're raising toddlers learning to share or teenagers preparing for their first job, this episode offers refreshingly honest perspectives on nurturing this essential life skill.Subscribe and join us next month as we continue exploring character values that build stronger families, schools, and communities.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Resilience gets a fresh take in this heartfelt conversation between Leslie Bolser and Dr. Beth Trammell, who strip away the buzzword status and reframe this essential life skill as something we practice every single day. Moving beyond the trendy "grit" narrative, they explore what resilience actually looks like from toddlerhood through the teenage years—and why some moments of bouncing back are naturally easier than others.The discussion shines particularly bright when examining how differently resilience manifests across age groups. For our youngest children, it might be the remarkable ability to move from throwing blocks to giving hugs in mere seconds. Elementary students benefit from learning to identify their emotions and their intensity—recognizing when they're at "anger level 10" when the situation only calls for a "level 4." And for teenagers? That missing white hoodie might represent something far deeper than parents initially recognize.What makes this episode especially valuable is the compassionate acknowledgment that resilience isn't equally accessible to everyone. Children facing ongoing challenges like depression, anxiety, bullying, or systemic barriers genuinely find emotional elasticity more difficult. Parents will find tremendous comfort in the reminder that they themselves demonstrate resilience constantly in ways they rarely celebrate or even notice. The permission to start small, celebrate tiny victories, and recognize resilience as an ongoing practice rather than an achievement makes this a must-listen for anyone raising or working with children today.Ready to rethink how you recognize and nurture resilience in yourself and the children in your life? Listen now and discover how bouncing back happens in the most ordinary moments of your day.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Discovering what makes us each wonderfully unique stands at the heart of this month's exploration. We're diving into the powerful idea that by learning about others, we actually uncover more about ourselves – a concept that creates ripples through every stage of childhood development.For the littlest ones, uniqueness blossoms when parents simply notice and name those special qualities: "I love how curious you are" or "Your excitement when we play together makes my day." These seemingly small acknowledgments plant powerful seeds of self-awareness that continue growing throughout life.Elementary years bring fascinating challenges as black-and-white thinking meets the complexity of human difference. Children naturally compare themselves to peers, often concluding "she's good at math and I'm not" without understanding both can be true in different ways. We explore practical strategies for helping children ask questions about others, building social skills while fostering appreciation rather than jealousy.The conversation extends to those critical teenage years when social comparison intensifies. How do we guide adolescents to celebrate others' achievements without feeling diminished? What does healthy vulnerability look like in friendships? These questions matter deeply as young people navigate increasingly complex social worlds.Throughout our discussion, we return to a fundamental truth: appreciating uniqueness – both in ourselves and others – requires vulnerability and trust, qualities that develop gradually through thoughtful conversation and modeling. Join us as we explore how parents can nurture these essential skills, creating space for children to embrace what makes them wonderfully, authentically themselves.What unique qualities do you celebrate in your child? Share your thoughts with us on social media or visit our website for more resources on fostering genuine self-discovery and appreciation.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Hope isn't just wishful thinking – it's believing good things can happen even amid challenges. In this thought-provoking conversation, Dr. Beth Trammell and Leslie Bolser unpack how to nurture this essential quality in children at every developmental stage.For parents of younger children, we discuss the importance of mindful language, highlighting how casually using "hope" in disciplinary contexts ("I hope I don't have to come in there...") might undermine the positive meaning we want kids to embrace. Instead, we offer practical examples for modeling hope as positive anticipation in everyday conversations with little ones.As children grow into the elementary and middle school years, the conversation shifts to more explicit teaching strategies. We share age-appropriate ways to engage children in deeper reflections about hope beyond superficial wishes, helping them expand their understanding of this powerful concept. For teenagers facing bigger disappointments and uncertain futures, we explore the delicate balance between acknowledging hardships while nurturing realistic optimism.Most crucially, we address when parents should be concerned about hopelessness in their children. Dr. Trammell provides clear guidance on recognizing behavioral changes that might signal a need for professional support, along with a comprehensive overview of resources available – from school counselors to mental health professionals. We tackle the myth that discussing difficult topics like self-harm might "plant ideas," emphasizing that open, caring conversations are actually protective.Whether you're parenting toddlers, tweens, or teenagers, this episode offers valuable insights to help you foster hope as a foundational strength in your children's lives. Listen now and discover how small shifts in your approach can make a significant difference in how your child views life's possibilities.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

The upcoming Week of the Young Child celebration provides a fascinating framework for understanding developmental priorities. From Movement Monday to Family Friday, these themed days don't just guide our approach to supporting children—they offer surprising lessons for adults too. Dr. Beth explores this reciprocal relationship, suggesting that young children might be teaching us as much as we're teaching them. As she reflects on early social skill development, from learning to share to simply tolerating others in their space, she reveals how these fundamental capabilities form the building blocks of all future relationships.Looking ahead, Dr. Beth announces upcoming episodes exploring resilience, uniqueness, cooperation, and hope—concepts that resonate whether you're raising young children, working with them professionally, or simply applying these principles to adult relationships. Share your thoughts on what you'd like to hear in future episodes, and join us for these enlightening conversations about the profound lessons from our earliest developmental stages.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Join us for a compelling discussion on the growing concerns of mom rage and how community care among mothers can transform individual struggles into collective strength. In this episode, I sit down with two incredible therapists, Megan and Nicole, who share their insights and experiences working in the field of maternal mental health. As we dive deep into the subject of mom rage, we explore how societal pressures can contribute to feelings of anger, isolation, and frustration among mothers. Our conversation emphasizes the pivotal role of support networks—connecting with other moms who can relate to our experiences—and how these connections can provide emotional relief during overwhelming times. Humor emerges as a key theme, showcasing how sharing laughs through shared struggles can create bonds that ease the weight of parenting's demands. Our guests share relatable moments from their practice and personal lives, demonstrating how community care is vital to fostering resilience and well-being. We also touch on the importance of vulnerability, recognizing that reaching out for help is not a sign of weakness but an integral aspect of nurturing connections. Discover strategies to expand your support network and enhance your community engagement. Through this episode, we celebrate the journey of motherhood and encourage you to build connections that uplift and sustain you, reminding us that we are not alone in this experience. Tune in for an array of insights that might just change your perspective on how to cope with mom rage and underscore the power of community support. Your thoughts and questions can help guide our future discussions, so don't hesitate to reach out!Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Unlock the secrets to fostering a supportive environment for children grappling with weight and body image concerns. Join us as we engage with Christy Tunnell, a seasoned registered dietitian, who shares her professional insights and personal experiences, including those with her own daughter. Together, they unravel how societal pressures and nutritional challenges complicate conversations for parents and emphasize the importance of involving healthcare professionals in nurturing a positive body image and healthy lifestyle among children.Discover practical strategies for cultivating healthier eating habits within families, where convenience and preparation take center stage. From preparing snacks like celery with peanut butter to discussing the impact of social media on our dietary perceptions, we explore how consistent healthy eating habits can elevate energy levels and overall well-being. The discussion extends to understanding the difference between hunger and appetite, advocating for intuitive eating, and making sustainable dietary changes rather than jumping onto restrictive diets.As our conversation unfolds, we redefine our relationship with food, moving away from stress and societal pressures to embrace a healthier view of body image. With Christy's personal anecdotes and expert advice, we encourage parents to be approachable and non-judgmental, opening channels for honest dialogue with their children. We address food misinformation and the importance of professional guidance amidst the noise of social media diet trends, aiming to help listeners develop a positive, lasting relationship with food and body image.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Join us for an enlightening conversation with special guest Desiree Argentina, a licensed independent clinical social worker, who shares her insightful journey of transitioning to Washington State and the hurdles of obtaining a new professional license. We take a deep dive into the shifting landscape of middle and high schools, especially in the aftermath of COVID-19. With rising violence and behavioral issues among students, the stress on educators has reached unprecedented levels. Together, we unpack the critical need for appreciating and supporting teachers and why their well-being should be a priority for us all, including educators, parents, and mental health professionals.Ever wondered if your coping mechanisms are genuinely helping you or if they're a crutch leading to burnout? We explore the fine line between healthy and unhealthy coping skills, using busyness as a prime example. Understanding what drives our need to be constantly busy—a productive tool or avoidance tactic—can be the key to better mental and emotional health. This discussion equips you with the knowledge to distinguish between adaptive coping strategies that build resilience and maladaptive ones that may only offer temporary relief.Relationships are complex, and the misconception that avoiding conflict preserves them is something we tackle head-on. We believe in addressing issues rather than sweeping them under the rug, as avoidance often leaves unresolved tension. By introducing acceptance and commitment therapy, we highlight the significance of aligning our actions with personal values. Self-awareness and open communication, especially among adolescents, are crucial in recognizing unhealthy dynamics and fostering healthier relationships. Listen in to gain valuable insights into creating a more balanced and fulfilling life.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Discover the complexities of religious trauma with Dr. Essence Rivers, a licensed clinical psychologist known for her work with marginalized and intersectional groups. Dr. Rivers brings her wealth of knowledge to our discussion, shedding light on how religious trauma can reshape an individual's worldview and sense of self. We promise you'll gain a deeper understanding of how to identify and support those who may be suffering from these often-overlooked experiences, enhancing both personal and communal well-being.We navigate through the labyrinth of spiritual abuse, uncovering the fine line between individual actions and the systems they operate within. Dr. Rivers helps us identify the red flags of manipulative religious practices and their potential impact on relationships and parenting. Reflecting on the teachings of Jesus, our conversation reveals how religion should inspire connection and compassion, not isolation or shame. This episode carefully distinguishes between spiritual abuse and religious trauma, offering insights into how they may differ yet interconnect over time.As the conversation unfolds, we explore the often unspoken misalignment between professed values and actual practices within faith communities. Dr. Rivers shares personal stories of navigating these complex environments, illustrating the struggle for inclusivity and authenticity in religious spaces. We conclude with practical advice on finding safe and welcoming faith communities, emphasizing the importance of transparency, inclusivity, and personal well-being. Whether you're seeking understanding or solutions, this episode is a thoughtful guide through the challenges of religious trauma and spiritual growth.Here are some of the resources Dr. Rivers shared after the episode.https://www.livingout.org/storage/files/shares/Audit_Online.pdfhttps://www.churchclarity.org/https://www.thereap.org/https://www.christiansagainstchristiannationalism.org/church-community-resourceshttps://www.notinourchurch.com/https://www.snapnetwork.org/https://projects.propublica.org/credibly-accused/https://floodlit.org/https://www.houstonchronicle.com/news/investigations/abuse-of-faith/database/https://baptistaccountability.org/https://watchkeep.org/Dr. Rivers' favorites:Dan Minor and Harvest SarasotaCarlos Rodriguez and The Happy GiversDavid Hayward and Naked PastorUnconventional Pastor PaulTim Whittaker and the New EvangelicalsThis podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastFeel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comIf you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Unlock the secrets of effective clinical supervision with insights from Dr. Beth Trammell and her esteemed guest, Michele Mani, a seasoned clinical supervisor and psychotherapist. Michele shares her journey from clinical practice to private practice, and how it has elevated her role in supervision. Together, we explore the art of balancing professional duties with personal wellness, as exemplified through our mutual love for sports—Michele with pickleball and me with tennis. This episode promises to offer listeners valuable lessons on maintaining harmony between work and self-care.We dive into the essential qualities that define a great supervisor, underscoring the importance of presence, punctuality, and attentiveness. Drawing from personal anecdotes and feedback, we address the realities and challenges of managing both administrative and clinical responsibilities. We discuss how cultivating a culture of feedback and engagement fosters an environment ripe for growth and respect. Through our conversation, we aim to inspire supervisors to become the mentors they aspire to be, creating supportive spaces that encourage development and reflection.Through practical strategies, we offer guidance on nurturing independence while providing necessary support to supervisees. We focus on establishing clear communication expectations, emphasizing the value of supervision journals and personalized attention. Navigating the complexities of supervising early-career therapists, we highlight the importance of a supportive team environment and regular consultation with peers. This episode serves as a comprehensive guide for supervisors seeking to enrich their practice, helping them understand the best practices to overcome challenges and build a nurturing supervisory relationship.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastFeel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comIf you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Listen in as we debrief the episode from Kaya Spicer!We're also excited to welcome back Kaya, who brings a refreshing approach to discussing sexual health. With her candidness, Kaya transforms what is often a hushed topic into an easy, dinner-table conversation. For many of us who grew up in environments where such discussions were sparse, Kaya's openness is both enlightening and comforting. This episode promises a thoughtful exploration of how openly discussing sexual health can foster understanding and ease, paving the way for a more informed approach to the topic.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

What happens when therapists seek therapy themselves? That's the pressing question we tackled with Dr. Beth Trammell and our special guest, Marie Sloane, a licensed professional counselor. Despite being equipped with theoretical knowledge, therapists like Marie often face the stigma and imposter syndrome when they turn the lens inward. We delved into this fascinating topic, underscoring the importance of vulnerability and normalizing mental health support for those who provide it to others.Creating a sanctuary of comfort in therapy sessions is a cornerstone of effective practice. We share insights on how adopting a non-judgmental attitude and establishing clear boundaries fosters an environment where clients feel safe and open. From telehealth to embracing casual language, our conversation reveals how these elements contribute to an authentic therapeutic relationship. By being transparent about our habits and accommodating our clients' needs, as Marie shared, therapists can reinforce a trusting and supportive atmosphere.Balancing personal well-being with the demands of therapy work is a tightrope walk many therapists know well. Our discussion ventures into the complexities of setting boundaries and finding self-care routines that genuinely work, recognizing that rest is deeply personal. Whether you're a parent navigating postpartum challenges or simply trying to recharge, understanding what truly rejuvenates you is crucial. We conclude with a celebration of the creative process, expressing gratitude for our engaging discussion and the anticipations of future explorations. Join us on this journey, and let's continue to stay safe and well together.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.To learn more about Marie or contact her, visit: http://mariesloanecounseling.com/If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

This is a throwback episode that I will probably always post around this time because I always need this reminder!! Hope you enjoy this conversation around New Year's resolutions!Want to transform the way you view New Year's resolutions? Join us for an enlightening conversation with Dr. Michael Alcée, who returns to share his captivating insights into the tradition of setting annual goals. Dr. Alcée helps us navigate the emotional rollercoaster of resolutions, from the excitement of self-improvement to the weight of societal expectations. Get ready to rethink your approach with fresh perspectives on blending self-acceptance and growth. We'll explore how the rigidity of conventional resolutions might stifle creativity and discover ways to harmonize the enthusiasts and skeptics among us. Amidst discussions on SMART goals and the cultural phenomenon of "Quitter's Day," Dr. Alcée invites us to embrace a mindset filled with playfulness and curiosity. Imagine resolutions as an ever-evolving journey rather than a strict deadline. Together, we reevaluate the traditional calendar-bound mindset, celebrating the essence of continuous personal development. By the end, you'll learn how high achievers find fulfillment in the process itself, leading to sustained innovation and success. Prepare to leave this episode with renewed motivation and a fresh perspective on how to craft resolutions that truly resonate with your unique rhythm and needs.Michael Alcée, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Tarrytown, NY and Mental Health Educator at Manhattan School of Music. He specializes in the psychology of artists and everyday creativity and the professional development of therapists. His contributions have appeared in The Chicago Tribune, The New York Times, The New York Post, NPR, Salon.com, and on the TEDx stage. His book from Norton entitled Therapeutic Improvisation: How to Stop Winging It and Own It as a Therapist is available wherever books are sold.  Book LinkTherapeutic Improvisation Websitehttps://michaelalcee.com/ This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast  Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comIf you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6 Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

It's Christmas EVE!!!! WHATTTT?!?!?   I am so proud of you. Of us. For making it 25 days to a better Christmas morning. Today is about rest. Presence. Enjoyment. Love. Stay safe, stay well, friends. Merry, merry Christmas and I will be back here after the new year!#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

We do this for a lot of random occasions. All of the kids and all of the grown-ups always laugh, laugh, laugh. It's just so fun and there are no materials needed! #25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

If you have listened to NO OTHER day but this one, THIS IS THE ONE TO HEAR!  It's also the one to SHARE with others! Of all of the tips, this is the ONE that I believe is the most important to intentionally implement so you have a better Christmas morning. Consider your expectations. And be really clear. And trust me, your kids will thank you! :)#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

I am really excited to see what folks do with this one!  I already have my idea planned out. I would love to see what y'all come up with!! Post a picture and let us see your fancy! #25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

I have been waiting for this one. Since the beginning of our challenge. And I think you'll like this one too. :)Enjoy!#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

One of my favorite parts of decorating for Christmas is finding the kids' ornaments they made from past years. Seeing how their little hands have grown. How their penmanship has improved (sorta!). And just a reflection of how they have grown. This Christmas, even if your kids are older...make an ornament just for them this year. #25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

One. More. Time. It's purging time, one last time before the excitement comes next week. Post a before and after picture !  It will make you feel even more accomplished. :)#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

This episode may challenge you to think deeply. (Or maybe not! Maybe it is right there in the front of your mind!) Either way, take a moment to reflect, ponder, journal, and share!#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

I love traditions. Kids love traditions. It's the thing they remember when they are a grown up. (No pressure!) :) This episode I challenge us to have a new (or more special) Christmas Eve tradition. #25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Some of you will hate me for today's episode. :)  I know lots of folks who love doing crafts. Looking on Pinterest. Finding the cutest things!  And then some of you aren't as much. That's okay. This episode is STILL FOR YOU! Crafting doesn't have to be complicated. It just needs to be YOU and your child together. :) Have fun! Post a picture!#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Does your family have a special food? Maybe that is always on the table for the holidays? Or just something your child LOVES?  Listen in as we explore how we can use food to create a special treat today (and then again on Christmas!). Thanks for listening!#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

I just love when we can celebrate small things. This episode is all about getting ready for that last day of school before break!  Get the anticipation of excitement started now! :) Enjoy the episode y'all and THANKS for listening and joining!!#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

I have been waiting to share this tip for the longest! I can't wait to hear what y'all think of this one!!  It just makes my heart literally SO HAPPY.  Have fun!#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

This episode is all about the purge. Again. :) And yes... we probably could use an additional time or two to get rid of just a few things around the house. This time, consider it less about de-cluttering and more about gifting to someone else!#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Dance, dance, dance! Who doesn't love a good dance party?!  Today's tip is about having a great time with your kids and music. I haven't met a kid who doesn't get excited when music is on. And don't let your teens fool you...they love to dance too! #25days25waystoabetterchristmas #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

This episode we explore another fun way to spend a little time together this evening. Anyone can join the fun and I bet you will hear at least a few people laughing tonight with this one. Have fun!#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

The first day, we explored what your Christmas HOPES were. If you haven't had a chance to catch that episode - head back there before you listen to this one! :)This episode expands on that first episode to challenge you to consider what your expectations are. Although they may seem like the same question, my hope is that you can see how they are different and how to make them more aligned. Enjoy!#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

I love getting friends' Christmas cards in the mail. I love reading the yearly updates from friends near and far. But honestly, I can't ever seem to get my life together to be able to do them for other people! (#sorryfriends)  Today's episode explores a quick way to spread some holiday cheer this week.#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

I am a terrible singer. But I LOVE to sing. And my kids both love and hate when I sing. But when we are doing it together...it's always fun. Join in the fun today with a family, holiday SING-OFF. :)  Make it a tik-tok if you need to get your teens involved.#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Who doesn't love cookies?!? And SPRINKLES?!?  Take a breath. Skip the scale. And make a SPRINKLED MESS today with your kiddos.  Have fun and take lots of photos! Post to social media with the hashtags#25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

We can't expect to bring new things into the house without making space for them. Today's tip creates a family lens around realizing this fundamental truth. :) #25days25waystoabetterchristmas #kidsthesedayspodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

This episode we will explore the good and the bad about Christmas lists. We might have our kids make them or we might not. Either way...you will want to hear this episode about our kids' expectations when they have a list. :) #25days25waystoabetterchristmas #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

This episode reminds me of some of my favorite memories growing up in the Midwest. Christmas. Snow. Wintertime. It all brings me back to this nostalgic craft. Bonus if you take a picture and share on Facebook with the tag #25days25waystoabetterchristmas :)#thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

This one is going to SAVE ME from so many questions in the next 24 days. :) Listen for this quick tip to save yourself the trouble of continually answering... "how many more sleeps?"Thanks for listening!#thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

This episode is the first of 25 episodes, all built around the idea of daily tips for a better Christmas morning. I shared these a couple of years ago on my other podcast and thought it might be good to bring them back!Today starts with a simple idea of considering what you HOPE for this coming holiday. Grab a notebook, or a journal, and begin your journey with me to a daily interaction that will maximize our joy on Christmas morning with our kids.#thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast#makewordsmatter#parentingSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Every expecting parent should hear what Tatiana Rojas, a dedicated marriage and family therapist, has to say about navigating the emotions and challenges of entering parenthood. Gain crucial insights into the often-overlooked aspect of perinatal mental health, as Tatiana sheds light on the significant disparities in healthcare attention before and after childbirth. With her passion for supporting new parents, she passionately discusses the need for more robust postpartum support that focuses on the well-being of both the birthing individual and their partners.Uncover the secrets to establishing a strong postpartum support network that can be a lifeline for new mothers. We explore the role of postpartum doulas, healthcare providers, and mental health services in easing the overwhelming feelings that accompany this life transition. Tatiana emphasizes the importance of having a prepared network at your fingertips, offering a comforting safety net through a challenging time. As postpartum care continues to evolve, the availability of resources and ongoing conversations around mental health provide hope and vital support for mothers and families.Our conversation doesn't shy away from the unique challenges couples face during this transformative period. From open communication to understanding the role of upbringing in parenting styles, Tatiana shares her expertise on maintaining strong partnerships amidst the chaos of newborn care. Prepare to be inspired by her practical advice, such as creating a structured chores list to facilitate support from friends and family, and explore the resources available, including a postpartum planner and access to Tatiana's specialized therapy services. This episode is a heartfelt guide for anyone embarking on the profound journey of parenthood.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Unlock the secrets to creating environments where authenticity thrives, as licensed psychotherapist Kendall Tyson joins us to dissect the concept of psychological safety. Learn why fostering trust is essential across relationships, schools, and workplaces, and how our internal biases and psychological flexibility can significantly influence these spaces. Kendall candidly shares her personal journey, including her return to the U.S. from Beijing, shedding light on the internal work necessary to create safety for oneself and others.We then navigate the intricacies of establishing psychological safety within teams and organizations. Explore the vital components of support, empathy, and honest communication that Kendall and I discuss, as we confront the challenges of maintaining respect while being truthful. Discover the power of cultural competence and intentionality in enhancing human connections, and understand why continuous efforts are needed to nurture inclusive and curious environments that welcome diverse perspectives.Our conversation delves into balancing career ambitions with personal wellness, particularly for those who struggle with perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies. Gain insights into strategies like diffusion and the RAIN technique to approach mistakes compassionately, and consider the role of past experiences in shaping workplace trust. Kendall also offers her expertise on developing culturally responsive courses, urging listeners to seek fulfillment beyond professional settings and to engage in introspective dialogues to identify what truly matters in their lives.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Unlock the transformative power of open dialogues about sexual health with our special guest, Kaya Spicer, a licensed clinical social worker and board-certified sex therapist. Explore how normalizing conversations about sex in therapy can empower clients with self-awareness and knowledge, crucial for overall wellness. Kaya brings a unique perspective, not only as a therapist but also as a passionate dog sitter, illustrating the role of joy and play in leading a fulfilling life. Together, we break down the barriers that prevent honest discussions around sexual health, providing insights into how therapists can create a safe space for these conversations.Journey with us into the realms of intimacy and self-communication, where we dissect the impact of miscommunication and reliance on inaccurate sources like pornography on relationships. Kaya illuminates the path to understanding one's sexual identity throughout life's stages, stressing the significance of distinguishing sex from various forms of intimacy, such as financial and social. We discuss the challenges faced by those with a history of trauma in expressing their needs and recognizing their self-worth, and the importance of building intimate relationships grounded in communication and consent. Prepare to expand your understanding of intimacy beyond material gestures, and embrace a more holistic view of personal connections.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com