Things You Learn in Therapy

Send us a textWhat if the best way to serve clients starts with taking care of the therapist's body in the room? We sit down with Destiny Davis and Dr. Victoria Rodriguez to challenge one of the field's quiet myths: that clinician comfort is a distraction. Through lived experience and clinical expertise, they lay out a clearer path where water breaks, seating, pacing, and boundaries aren't extras—they're the foundation for sharper attunement, cleaner thinking, and more ethical care.We dig into the messy middle of practice: how to self-disclose without shifting focus, what to do when a client shares your diagnosis, and why “failed” disclosures can still be gold for treatment. You'll hear practical strategies for building resilience into your schedule—telehealth setups, three-hour intensives with breaks, tapering from weekly to biweekly to monthly, and batching medical appointments. We also examine continuity of care with fresh eyes: if a client cannot stabilize without weekly sessions, is private outpatient the right level? It's a tough question that protects both safety and sustainability.Community is the throughline. High-quality consultation groups, especially with other chronically ill providers, turn isolation into problem-solving. Cross-disciplinary collaboration—bringing PTs, OTs, and RDs into the conversation—helps you navigate the loop between symptoms, function, and mood. Along the way, we surface hidden biases about disability, replace them with a disability justice lens, and offer a humane template for therapists to model self-care that clients can actually use. If you've ever powered through pain, ignored a full bladder, or felt guilty canceling for a flare, this conversation hands you language, tools, and permission to practice differently.Subscribe for more grounded, clinician-centered conversations, share this episode with a colleague who needs it, and leave a review to help others find the show. Your body matters here—and so does your work.To register for the conference, sign up here: https://www.chronicillnesstherapists.com/This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textIn case you missed it, I'm reposting this episode because it seems to come up over and over and over. Even if you've listened before, maybe hearing it again will bring fresh light. Ever say the “right thing” and watch it land the wrong way? We unpack three phrases that sound supportive but often sting—calm down, everything happens for a reason, and let me know if you need anything—and trade them for language that actually regulates, validates, and helps. Drawing on real-world therapy experience, we explain why timing and purpose matter more than perfect wording, and how to align what you say with what the moment needs.We start by exploring how high emotions change what people can hear. Instead of commanding feelings, we focus on co-regulation and presence: I'm here with you, I hear you, let's take a breath together. You'll learn simple de-escalation scripts for anger and anxiety, how to avoid accidentally shaming someone for not being “in control,” and when to keep words minimal and concrete if safety is a concern.Then we tackle platitudes. Meaning-making has a place, but not at the peak of pain. We share alternatives that invite story and honor timing: that sounds really hard, what else happened, where does it hurt most today. Finally, we replace vague offers with specific, doable help that people can accept without planning energy: I can bring dinner Thursday or Saturday; I'll text Friday to check in; I can watch the kids for two hours this weekend. These small changes turn good intentions into real support.If you're ready to make your words matter for good, press play for clear phrases, practical tools, and a kinder way to show up. Subscribe, share with a friend who's a natural fixer, and leave a quick review telling us which phrase you're swapping out this week.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textReposting again in case you missed it! These things are common in my practice and everyday clinical encounters. Hoping they resonate for you also. :)Ever wish a single sentence could lower the volume, keep your boundary, and actually teach a skill? We dig into three phrases nearly every adult has used with kids—“Because I said so,” identity-laced labels, and “There's no reason to cry”—and offer practical swaps that reduce power struggles while strengthening connection. As a licensed psychologist and professor, I unpack how a child's brain hears our words, why timing matters more than perfectly crafted lectures, and how short scripts can turn conflict into coaching.We start by reframing authority with clarity. Instead of relying on blunt power, I show how a brief reason satisfies a child's need for predictability and how a simple code word agreement creates a shared signal to pause, listen, and follow through. From there, we tackle labels that stick. You'll learn to replace “You're acting like a jerk” with I-statements that name your feeling and the impact of the behavior, keeping dignity intact while inviting accountability and empathy.We also face the tears. Rather than dismissing feelings, we practice validation paired with firm limits: acknowledging emotion without rewarding misbehavior. I share quick language to build emotional vocabulary—sad, embarrassed, hurt—and a calm-down-then-coach rhythm that moves the conversation from meltdown to meaningful repair. Throughout, the focus is on language that teaches, protects the relationship, and makes daily life smoother at home and in the classroom.If these scripts help, share the episode with a friend who needs a reset, subscribe for more practical psychology, and leave a review with the phrase you plan to swap first. Your words matter—let's make them work for you.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textThe ground under therapy keeps moving, and we're digging into why. We sit down with returning guest Marie Sloane, LPC, to trace how telehealth became the default, why insurance cuts and clawbacks are reshaping private practice, and what it really costs to keep care accessible without burning clinicians to ash. Marie shares the realities of leaving agency life, navigating panels directly versus using intermediaries, and the surprising leverage you can gain by simply asking for a rate increase. We get candid about the trade-offs of platforms like Alma and Headway, the tension between sustainability and access, and the quiet math behind student loans, healthcare, and the hours a therapist can truly carry.Then we turn to the culture shift powered by TikTok and social media. Openness is rising and stigma is falling, which can jumpstart meaningful therapy. But there's a catch: self-diagnosis trends and algorithm-friendly “advice” blur traits with disorders and can worsen compulsions. We talk about how licensed voices can step into the feed with clear, compassionate education—translating buzzwords into grounded care and helping people move from scrolls to sessions.The heart of this conversation is moral injury. Beyond burnout, it's the pain of acting against your values—or watching systems do it—because the rules demand it. Teachers triaging classrooms without aides, clinicians pushed to see nine or ten clients a day, frontline staff who lived the pandemic up close while hearing it denied. We name the guilt, shame, and betrayal that follow, and why “do more self-care” falls flat when the workload itself is inhumane. If you've felt that strain and wondered what to call it, you're not alone—and naming it is a step toward changing it.If this episode resonates, share it with a colleague, subscribe for more real talk on the future of care, and leave a review with the one shift you'd make to improve access and sustainability. Your voice helps shape the system we all rely on.For more about Marie, check out her website: Marie Sloane: counseling and consulting services – Online Therapy for People in Arizona, Texas and MinnesotaThis podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textWhat if your teen can name every mental health term on TikTok but still freezes when big feelings hit? We dig into that gap between awareness and coping, sharing how parents can move from fear or frustration to calm, right‑sized responses that keep communication open. You'll hear practical language for starting hard conversations about anxiety, depression, and suicide without causing panic, plus a simple framework for spotting when your reaction comes from your child's behavior versus your own history or comparison.We also shift to the preschool years to rethink timeouts. Yes, they can stop behavior in the moment, but interruption isn't education. We break down how regulation comes first—ours and theirs—and why teaching works best after the storm has passed. Expect concrete alternatives you can try today: time‑in for co‑regulation, choices with limits that preserve safety and autonomy, and do‑overs that build replacement skills like asking, pausing, and repairing. These tools help little kids feel seen and capable while reducing the daily tug‑of‑war.Along the way, we preview new episodes featuring conversations on chronic illness, the concept of overfunctioning, and the shifts reshaping the therapy field. If you want the full workshop audio, email Beth@ MakeWordsMatterforgood.com with “audio for teen session number one,” and check the site's upcoming events for the next free sessions on screens, motivation, school, and big feelings. If this conversation helps, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs support today, and leave a quick review to help others find us.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textTwo parenting seasons, one throughline: regulation before strategy. We dive into the real-world challenges parents face with young kids and teens, unpacking why tantrums are developmentally normal, how to coach emotions without fueling the fire, and the science-backed way to get better listening without repeating yourself a hundred times. If you've ever wondered what to say when a child shouts “I hate you” or how to stop a power struggle before it begins, you'll find practical language you can use today.We start with early childhood: how to keep your cool during meltdowns, use effective instruction delivery to boost cooperation, and teach sharing, turn-taking, and conflict repair without over-coaching. You'll learn why “calm down” backfires, how to match expectations to developmental level, and when stepping back actually speeds social learning among peers. The goal isn't to eliminate big feelings; it's to build a calm nervous system in you and a growing skill set in your child.Then we shift to adolescence, where emotions run hot and connection can feel distant. We talk about granting space in the moment, returning to tough topics when everyone's regulated, and setting clear boundaries that support independence. You'll hear concrete ways to explain curfews and consequences, avoid win-lose standoffs, and open ongoing conversations about anxiety, depression, and stress. Worried about self-harm? We model how to ask directly and why that question can be life-giving. Throughout, we keep the focus on relationship, clarity, and timing—three levers that quietly transform daily conflict into teachable moments.If this episode hits home, share it with a friend, subscribe for more conversations like this, and leave a review with the tip you're trying first. Your feedback helps other parents find the tools they need.To register for January's preschool session:  Why ‘Time-Outs' Don't Work (and What to Do Instead) complete this form: https://forms.gle/G4fRAJhQksZzD5CB6 To register for January's teen session:   Supporting Mental Health Without Overreacting or Underreacting complete this form: https://forms.gle/DLntY1V1XvvkxCC19Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textThis is a throwback episode that I will probably always post around this time because I always need this reminder!! Hope you enjoy this conversation around New Year's resolutions!Want to transform the way you view New Year's resolutions? Join us for an enlightening conversation with Dr. Michael Alcée, who returns to share his captivating insights into the tradition of setting annual goals. Dr. Alcée helps us navigate the emotional rollercoaster of resolutions, from the excitement of self-improvement to the weight of societal expectations. Get ready to rethink your approach with fresh perspectives on blending self-acceptance and growth. We'll explore how the rigidity of conventional resolutions might stifle creativity and discover ways to harmonize the enthusiasts and skeptics among us. Amidst discussions on SMART goals and the cultural phenomenon of "Quitter's Day," Dr. Alcée invites us to embrace a mindset filled with playfulness and curiosity. Imagine resolutions as an ever-evolving journey rather than a strict deadline. Together, we reevaluate the traditional calendar-bound mindset, celebrating the essence of continuous personal development. By the end, you'll learn how high achievers find fulfillment in the process itself, leading to sustained innovation and success. Prepare to leave this episode with renewed motivation and a fresh perspective on how to craft resolutions that truly resonate with your unique rhythm and needs.Michael Alcée, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Tarrytown, NY and Mental Health Educator at Manhattan School of Music. He specializes in the psychology of artists and everyday creativity and the professional development of therapists. His contributions have appeared in The Chicago Tribune, The New York Times, The New York Post, NPR, Salon.com, and on the TEDx stage. His book from Norton entitled Therapeutic Improvisation: How to Stop Winging It and Own It as a Therapist is available wherever books are sold.  Book LinkTherapeutic Improvisation Websitehttps://michaelalcee.com/ This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast  Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comIf you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6 Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textNew year hype can feel loud, heavy, and strangely hollow. But what if we went a different way: rather than chasing a brand-new identity, we explored how to uncover the version of you that's already here—and make choices that protect it. That shift—from “I must become better” to “Better is already here; I will clear space for it”—changes how resolutions feel and how long they last.We break down the hidden math of decisions: every yes contains a no. When you say yes to scrolling, you may be saying no to meal prep, connection, or sleep. Naming these quiet tradeoffs turns autopilot into intention, without shame. We also tackle the comparison trap that thrives on social media, the pressure to make goals “Instagrammable,” and why true change often looks boring from the outside. The conversation moves toward boundaries and aligned commitments: fewer automatic obligations, more deliberate yeses that return you to yourself.If you're ready to trade pressure for presence and craft habits that survive past January, this one's for you. Listen, reflect, and then tell us what you'll say yes to this week. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs a gentler reset, and leave a quick review to help more people find the show.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textToday is about rest. Presence. Enjoyment. Love.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

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Send us a textTHE MOST IMPORTANT ONE! If you have listened to NO OTHER day but this one, THIS IS THE ONE TO HEAR!Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

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Send us a textDay 9 - The holidays promise warmth and wonder, yet so many of us carry quiet tension into Christmas morning. We want connection, rest, and meaning—then collide with crowded calendars, early wake-ups, and vague plans that no one has actually agreed to. This episode offers a practical, five-minute way to close that gap: write your hopes for the season, write your expectations, compare them, and share what matters with the people around you.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textHoliday cheer is always the best. Find a creative way this year!Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

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Send us a textDay 4 - The quiet leap from “wish” to “promise” can turn a cheerful list into a Christmas morning flashpoint. We explore how kids interpret lists as expectations, why that creates friction, and the simple language you can use to keep the joy high and the drama low. Drawing from real family moments, we break down a short pre-holiday conversation that validates hope, sets loving boundaries, and gives you room to surprise. You'll hear how to introduce clear limits without sounding harsh, and how to use the top-three method so your child feels heard while you stay realistic about budget and values.By the end, you'll have a simple toolkit for expectation-setting, prioritizing, and designing an unwrapping sequence that feels fair and fun. If you're ready to swap uncertainty for clarity and keep the magic intact, press play and try the script with your kids tonight. If this helped, follow the show, share it with a friend who's staring at a mile-long list, and leave a quick review to tell us your favorite expectation hack.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textDay 3 includes a bit of crafting. Again - pick this one up if it feels right. And don't if it makes you feel like you wanna pull your hair out. :)Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textDay 2 is all about counting down. And even though we are just a few days away, your kids might still need this one!Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textHey there friend. I am re-posting this year for a few tips - but rather than one at a time, I am posting 5 today and then 5 each day between now and Christmas Eve. Take what feels right. Leave what doesn't. It's all about what matters most for you and your family this season. :)Enjoy Day 1.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textHey friends. This holiday season, I am grateful to share a story that is quite vulnerable for me. My hope in sharing is that someone needs this encouragement today - like I have needed in so many moments over the last decade. Thank you for loving me well and following along the podcast!The story starts with a single itchy spot and unfolds into a decade-long battle that touched every part of life—body, mind, and spirit. I share what it felt like to spiral each evening, why secrecy fed my shame, and how a simple, brave choice to let people in began to change the experience. As a psychologist, I understood the importance of support, yet I still fought the very human urge to hide. That tension, and the relief that followed, set the stage for a turning point I never saw coming.We walk through the medical odyssey—clean blood work, reassuring biopsies, and the maddening feeling of being told I was “healthy” while my skin told a louder truth. I talk about the resilience it takes to keep calling specialists, the discouragement of repeated insurance denials, and the quiet faith that carried me through nights when hope felt thin. Then the plot twists: a nudge to check for a cancellation, a dermatologist who immediately recognized the pattern, and a new biologic that promised help with minimal side effects. The approvals didn't come easy, but when the phone finally rang on my birthday, everything shifted.You'll hear about the first injection and the immediate relief, the joy of taking a hot bath without fear for the first time in years, and the gratitude that comes when daily suffering finally loosens its grip. This is a conversation about chronic itching and dermatology, yes—but more than that, it's about persistence, self-compassion, and faith in the face of setbacks. If you're navigating a chronic condition, fighting shame, or searching for answers, I hope this encourages you to keep going and to let someone walk with you. If the story resonates, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review to help others find their way here.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textSharing another one of my favorite episodes from Kids These Days...Depression in kids doesn't always look like sadness. Often it shows up as irritability, anger, “I don't care,” and a slow fade from hobbies, friends, and motivation. In this candid, practical conversation, Dr. Beth Tremell walks through the clearest signs of youth depression, how they differ from adult patterns, and the simple phrases parents can use to open a safe, direct conversation—without making things worse.We unpack real-world red flags like drastic sleep shifts, appetite changes, chronic fatigue, harsh self-talk, and school or friendship struggles. You'll hear calm, evidence-aligned ways to ask about suicidal thoughts—questions like “Do you want to die or stop hurting?”—and why bringing this up reduces isolation rather than creating risk. Dr. Beth shares how to respond when a child says “maybe I should just die,” how to stay steady in the moment, and what details matter for getting the right level of help.Support is both emotional and practical: being physically present to counter the “island” of depression, setting gentle routines, and connecting with professionals. We outline when to call the pediatrician, how to find a therapist, and why school-based services—counselors, social workers, school psychologists—can be vital when community waitlists are long. Throughout, you'll get clear, compassionate guidance for gauging severity by impact on grades, friendships, and daily life, plus small steps that build momentum back.If you're a parent, caregiver, or educator trying to tell the difference between a rough week and something deeper, this conversation gives you language, structure, and next steps. Listen, share with someone who needs it, and subscribe for more practical mental health guidance. If there's a topic you want us to cover next, reach out and let us know.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textSharing some of my favorite throwback episodes from Kids These Days...What if the first second of your response could change how your teen handles anxiety? We unpack a practical, compassionate approach to big feelings that begins with a steady face and ends with stronger connection. No jargon, no lectures—just a clear framework you can use tonight.We start with the counterintuitive move that lowers the temperature fast: fix your face. Learn why a neutral, grounded expression and tone signal safety to a nervous system on high alert—and how to repair quickly if your surprise or frustration slips out. Then we pivot to co-regulation, using short prompts and shared breathing to slow runaway thoughts. Instead of shutting worries down, we draw them out with simple questions that shrink vague fears into specific, manageable pieces.With calm restored, we shift to consent. You'll hear scripts that honor autonomy: “Do you want my take?” and “What should we do together?” When teens say yes, we offer concise, doable steps instead of lectures. When they say no, we respect the boundary—and keep the door open. We also map out the follow-up rhythm that builds trust over time: a light touch the next day, a check-in later in the week, and a watchful eye for changes in mood, sleep, school, and friendships. Finally, we cover how and when to seek professional support, frame it as teamwork, and navigate waitlists while keeping momentum at home.If you've ever wondered how to help without hovering, how to listen without minimizing, or how to advise without taking over, this guide to teen anxiety gives you the tools. Expect practical language you can borrow, evidence-informed reasoning for each step, and a steady reminder that presence beats perfection. If this helped, share it with a friend who's supporting a worried teen, subscribe for more science-backed parenting strategies, and leave a review to tell us which step made the biggest difference.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textSharing some of my favorite episodes from Kids These Days... Ever find yourself locked in a standoff with a kid and wondering why your go‑to lines aren't working? We dig into three everyday phrases that seem efficient but quietly sabotage trust and cooperation, then share simple replacements that calm the room and still get things done. As a licensed psychologist and educator, I unpack why “Because I said so,” identity‑tinged labels, and “There's no reason to cry” can escalate conflict and seed shame—and what to say instead.We start by reframing authority with short, honest reasons and shared routines that reduce pushback. You'll hear how a family code word creates a clean pause, how first‑time listening agreements take shape, and why the brain shifts from fight to think when expectations are clear. From there, we replace character attacks with crisp I‑statements that name impact without wounding identity, then build a habit of de‑escalation: state the feeling, give space, return to problem solving when everyone's calm.Finally, we tackle emotional validation. Tears are data, not defiance. Learn how to meet big feelings with simple noticing, offer language like sad, embarrassed, or hurt, and guide kids toward faster recovery and stronger self‑awareness. Along the way, we point you to blog resources with more phrases and scripts you can use right away. If you're a parent, teacher, or caregiver who wants fewer power struggles and more connection—without giving up boundaries—this conversation is your field guide.If these ideas help, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a quick review so others can find it. Tell me the most unhelpful phrase you're retiring and what you're replacing it with—I'd love to feature your ideas next time.Check out THREE MORE UNHELPFUL things we say to kids at:www.bethtrammell.com/blogBlog — Beth TrammellThis podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textJoined by my friend from Core Essential Values, Leslie Bolser, we dig in to TRUST!! Trust doesn't arrive with a grand gesture; it's built in the tiny moments we repeat. We dive into what makes a parent truly dependable and why predictability—not perfection—is the foundation kids need to feel safe, open up, and keep coming back to us when it matters most. If you've ever wondered how to start building trust today, we break it down into moves you can use before the next pickup line ends.We begin by reframing trust for families as dependable confidence and explain why predictability beats the myth of always-on consistency. Life shifts, energy dips, and answers vary, but our kids can still know how we'll respond. That steady pattern creates safety, and safety is the gateway to trust. We share a simple language tool—the “circle of trust”—that sets clear boundaries for private conversations and empowers kids to ask for confidentiality with respect. You'll hear how this phrase travels with children as they grow, helping them make wiser choices about what to share and with whom.From there, we move into everyday practices. Think presence over performance: put down the phone, make eye contact, and let their agenda lead during re-entry moments after school or practice. Learn to attune to the emotion beneath the story—loneliness, embarrassment, pride—before you offer perspective. And when you miss it, repair out loud. Owning your missteps models accountability and actually deepens trust over time. Along the way, we connect these ideas to school, sports, and family dynamics, showing how steady responses help kids navigate relationships, set expectations, and feel grounded even when life is busy.If you're ready to trade perfection for reliability, this conversation gives you clear steps and warm encouragement. Subscribe for more practical episodes on parenting, communication, and emotional health, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review to help others find the show.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textThrowback episode!Costumes and candy get all the attention, but the real magic of Halloween starts with a short conversation before you hit the sidewalk. We dive into the simple, practical steps that turn a sugar‑charged night into a calm, safe, and joyful memory: clear candy rules, repeatable safety cues, and manners that make neighbors smile. As a licensed psychologist and parent, I share how to set expectations that stick, reduce meltdowns, and help kids focus on fun without constant negotiations.We start with the candy plan—how many pieces, when to eat them, and how to handle the post‑walk check—so kids feel in control within clear boundaries. From there, we refresh street safety for dark routes and busy sidewalks, including crossing routines, visibility tips, and what to do if the group gets separated. We also rehearse polite trick‑or‑treating: saying trick‑or‑treat and thank you, respecting paths and yards, and navigating the infamous “take one” bowl. These small scripts give kids confidence and reduce the need for on‑the‑spot corrections.Finally, we center joy. A quick breath, a gentle tone, and a simple family tradition—like pizza after the route or a cozy cocoa and candy sort—shift the night from candy chaos to connection. With a handful of clear expectations and a focus on fun, Halloween becomes easier for parents and more memorable for kids. If this guide helps your night run smoother, follow the show, share it with a friend who's mapping their route, and leave a review to tell us your favorite family tradition.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textThink focus is just willpower? We challenge that idea with a clear, evidence-based guide to ADHD that bridges home, school, and the doctor's office. I walk through what changed from ADD to ADHD, why girls and adults are often missed, and how interest-driven attention can make games feel easy while homework feels impossible. You'll hear why that pattern is normal for an ADHD brain and how to design tasks that are more engaging, structured, and doable.We also get honest about treatment. I share when medication can help a child become available for learning, how behavioral strategies build lasting habits, and why the best outcomes often come from combining both. From visual schedules and movement breaks to daily report cards and short feedback loops, we map practical steps that teachers and parents can put in place without turning home into a battleground. Along the way, we address a tough truth: untreated ADHD can lead to peer rejection and a damaging story of being the “bad kid.” Early intervention can change that trajectory and protect a child's confidence.If you've wondered why a bright child melts down over simple routines, or if you're an adult realizing these patterns sound familiar, this conversation offers a starting point you can trust. We highlight resources from Florida International University's ADHD programs, discuss how to talk with your physician or pediatrician, and lay out what to track as you try supports or a careful medication trial. Join us, share this with someone who needs it, and help replace shame with understanding and action. If this helped, follow the show, leave a quick review, and tell us the biggest ADHD myth you want debunked next.Here is the link to the TEDx Talk I referenced by Dr. Katie Hart - https://youtu.be/G5zQULkVuiQThis podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.Support the showSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textWhat if your most explosive moments as a mother aren't failures, but crucial messages your mind and body are sending? Licensed Professional Counselor Nicole McNelis returns to unpack the powerful truth behind maternal rage - that overwhelming anger isn't a character flaw but a rational response to impossible expectations and unmet needs."Mom rage is not a meltdown, it's a message," McNelis explains, offering a refreshing perspective that removes shame from these difficult experiences. Drawing from her clinical practice and research, she identifies the two primary triggers behind maternal rage: compromised needs and violated expectations. When mothers consistently sacrifice sleep, personal boundaries, and self-care while facing unrealistic standards of maternal perfection, rage becomes an inevitable warning signal that something must change.The conversation explores how social media complicates motherhood by presenting idealized versions of parenting alongside oversimplified advice. Parenting trends like "gentle parenting" often get misinterpreted as requiring mothers to constantly prioritize children's needs while suppressing their own emotions - creating a perfect storm for resentment and eventual emotional explosion. McNellis advocates approaching these trends with "a lens that is both compassionate and critical," evaluating strategies based on what actually works for your unique family rather than forcing approaches that consistently fail.Most powerfully, McNelis suggests that maternal rage can become "a catalyst for positive change" when properly understood. By listening to these emotional signals with self-compassion instead of judgment, mothers can identify necessary adjustments in family systems and personal boundaries. Just as McNelis describes embracing the possibility of rejection in her professional growth, mothers can approach parenting with a willingness to experiment, fail, learn, and grow - replacing the pursuit of perfection with the more sustainable practice of authentic presence.Ready to transform how you understand your most difficult emotional moments? Listen now and discover how your anger might actually be your wisdom speaking.Here are additional resources from Nicole:https://postpartum.net/mom-rage-causes-ways-to-cope-and-reasons-for-hope/https://www.instagram.com/therapist.mom.collective/Research Study for Maternal Health Professionals on Maternal Rage: We are interested in learning more about attitudes and experiences working with maternal rage as a presenting concern. If you are a maternal health professional, please consider taking our survey to share your experiences so we can develop better training and interventions to address this common issue. Survey link: https://redcap.pcom.edu/surveys/?s=R8KEE48KCXFFLW9R. If you have any questions, please contact Dr. Alexa Bonacquisti at alexabo@pcom.edu. Thank you!This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textThe silence around menopause and sexuality in midlife is finally breaking. Sex therapist Brooke Bralove returns to the podcast for a candid, informative conversation about what women really experience during perimenopause and menopause—and why suffering should never be the default option.Brooke reveals that even as medical understanding evolves, many healthcare providers remain woefully undereducated about treating menopausal symptoms. Most OBGYNs receive just hours of training on menopause management throughout their entire medical education. This knowledge gap leaves countless women struggling with hot flashes, painful sex, mood swings, joint pain, and fatigue without proper support or treatment.The conversation dives deep into how hormone replacement therapy (HRT) has been misunderstood and unfairly maligned. Contrary to outdated beliefs, many forms of HRT are safe and effective for managing symptoms that significantly impact quality of life. Brooke encourages listeners to seek out menopause-educated providers who understand current research rather than accepting outdated "it's just part of aging" dismissals.Beyond the physical aspects, we explore how menopause affects relationships and sexual satisfaction. Many couples who've been together for decades have never had honest conversations about their sexual needs. Brooke offers practical strategies for breaking through shame and initiating these difficult discussions, including "walk and talk" conversations and sexual activity lists that help partners express preferences without direct confrontation.For women experiencing painful intercourse—a common menopausal symptom—the message is clear: stop. Expanding our definition of sex beyond penetration becomes increasingly important as bodies change. As Brooke puts it, "Women in their 40s and 50s are very empowered and want more pleasure. They know they can have it."Want to learn more about navigating menopause and enhancing intimacy in midlife? Visit About Brooke Bralove | Bethesda, MD or follow @brookebralove_psychotherapy on social media for resources that can help you reclaim pleasure and well-being during this transformative life stage. This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textWhat if the most powerful therapy happens not in "safe spaces," but in "brave spaces"? This game-changing conversation with Barbara Sheehan-Zeidler, a licensed professional counselor from Colorado, challenges our fundamental understanding of the therapeutic relationship.Barbara introduces us to the profound concept of brave space through Micky ScottBey Jones's poem, which begins: "Together we will create brave space, because there is no such thing as a safe space." This perspective shift transforms how therapists approach their work—moving from attempting to create perfect safety to fostering courage and resilience alongside their clients.Using the powerful metaphor of a lighthouse, Barbara explains how therapists can maintain their steady presence while clients navigate the rocky waters of their emotional experiences. Rather than rushing to rescue clients from their struggles, therapists can provide a constant beacon that helps clients find their own way back to regulation. This approach honors clients' innate capacity for healing while preventing therapist burnout.The distinction between heroism and courage emerges as a central theme. "Heroism is when I go slay your dragon," Barbara explains, "while courage and being brave is watching you slay your own dragon." This perspective empowers clients to develop true self-agency rather than dependency on the therapist. Similarly, the simple addition of the word "enough" when asking "Are you okay enough now?" acknowledges that healing happens incrementally and gives clients permission to be works in progress.For therapists and anyone in helping roles, this conversation offers a sustainable approach to supporting others without sacrificing your own well-being. Learn why authentic presence matters more than perfect technique, and how creating brave spaces allows both therapists and clients to show up more fully in the healing journey.For more about Barbara's incredible work, check out her website: Meet Barbara - Creative & Caring CounselingThis podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textHave you ever watched a TikTok about ADHD symptoms and thought, "That's totally me!" or found yourself wondering if your social discomfort might actually be diagnosable anxiety? You're not alone.In this thought-provoking conversation with returning guest Dr. Tim Hess, we dive into the increasingly common phenomenon of mental health self-diagnosis. We explore how our success in destigmatizing mental health conversations has led to an unexpected consequence: the transformation of clinical diagnoses into personal identities and social labels.The easy access of mental health information through social media has created a world where anyone can share "facts" about psychological conditions, leading many to adopt diagnostic labels without professional assessment. We discuss the powerful appeal of having a name for your experiences—how a diagnosis can bring validation, community, and in some contexts, accommodations or relief from expectations. But we also wrestle with the critical question of "clinically significant impairment" and what happens when normative human experiences become pathologized.Dr. Hess shares insightful observations from his work in college mental health, where he frequently encounters students who arrive with firmly-held self-diagnoses. We examine the paradoxical position mental health professionals now face: historically emphasizing respect for clients' self-knowledge while also maintaining diagnostic expertise. This tension raises profound questions about gatekeeping, accessibility, and how we respond to human distress in institutional settings.Whether you've found yourself researching symptoms online or you're a professional navigating these waters with clients, this conversation offers nuanced perspectives on finding balance between validation and accuracy, between personal experience and professional assessment. Listen in as we explore one of the most complex challenges facing mental health work today.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textWhat happens when traditional masculinity meets modern mental health needs? Dr. Tim Hess, licensed psychologist and Associate Director for Clinical Services at Ball State University's Counseling Center, joins Dr. Beth Trammell to unpack the complex world of men's mental health in this thought-provoking conversation.From the moment Dr. Hess introduces his metaphor of "deciding when to stop yelling at the tsunami and start surfing," listeners are drawn into a nuanced exploration of how masculinity scripts shape men's emotional lives. Drawing from his extensive experience working with college-age men, Tim reveals how traditional Western masculinity ideologies—focused on achievement, emotional control, and independence—continue to influence how men perceive themselves and their emotional needs, even as these scripts evolve across generations.One of the most powerful insights emerges when discussing romantic relationships: many young men place all their emotional eggs in one relationship basket, leaving them devastated and without support when that relationship ends. This leads to the profound observation that "the moment you need a friend is not the moment to build friendship"—a universal truth that resonates far beyond the realm of men's mental health.Throughout the episode, Dr. Trammell and Dr. Hess navigate the delicate balance of recognizing patterns in masculine socialization while honoring individual differences. They explore how therapy provides a safe space for vulnerability, the challenges men face in building meaningful friendships, and the often-undiscussed impact of body image and sexual performance concerns on men's self-perception.Whether you're a mental health professional, someone who identifies as male, or simply interested in understanding how gender expectations shape emotional wellbeing, this conversation offers valuable insights into creating more supportive environments where vulnerability is welcomed rather than stigmatized. Join us for this engaging discussion and tune in next week when Dr. Hess returns to tackle the increasingly relevant topic of self-diagnosis.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textThe secret to effective child therapy isn't just what happens in the therapist's office – it's who's in the room. Kim Feeney, an Adlerian play therapist, makes a compelling case for why parental involvement isn't optional when healing children's emotional wounds."Parents are the experts on their child," Kim emphasizes, explaining how Adlerian therapy recognizes that all behavior serves a purpose within family systems. Without understanding a child's family atmosphere, therapists miss crucial context for meaningful intervention. Think about it this way: parents have 365 days of influence annually, teachers have 180 school days, while therapists might have just 45 sessions – who are the real change-makers in this equation?The conversation explores common obstacles to family involvement in therapy and practical strategies for overcoming them. From scheduling challenges to parental discomfort with play, Kim offers straightforward approaches that honor both parent and child needs. Parents often arrive feeling defeated and overwhelmed, making the therapist's ability to validate their expertise while guiding new skills particularly crucial.Beyond family dynamics, we dive into the concerning decline of play skills across childhood. Kim provides age-specific recommendations for meaningful play: non-directive approaches for preschoolers, collaborative projects for elementary children, and – perhaps surprisingly – continued playful connection with teenagers. "Teenagers need play too," Kim insists, suggesting parents allow teens to become the experts who teach them about their interests. Sometimes being "cringe" is exactly what creates breakthrough moments!For fellow therapists, Kim offers wisdom about the patience required in child therapy. The process often involves several sessions before addressing presenting concerns directly. Through metaphorical play – puppet shows about fighting animals or games of "monkey in the middle" – children communicate their struggles in ways words cannot capture. "We're just planting seeds," she reminds us, with results that might not blossom until years later.Ready to transform your approach to understanding and connecting with the children in your life? Discover more about Kim's work at butterflybeginningscounseling.com.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textTHROWBACK episode! As I re-listened to this episode from my other podcast, I knew I needed to share it again here! As we approach the new school year, there are some really great reminders in this episode. Enjoy!What do teachers and school administrators really want students to know? In this revealing conversation, Dr. Beth Trammell sits down with Katie Preston, a veteran school counselor with more than 14 years of experience and a background in social work. Together, they unpack three critical messages that can transform a student's educational experience."Asking for help is a strength, not a weakness" stands as the cornerstone of their discussion. Preston highlights how students often avoid questions fearing they'll appear unintelligent, when in reality, teachers eagerly welcome questions as signs of engagement and intellectual curiosity. This insight proves particularly valuable for parents who might inadvertently discourage question-asking at home while attempting to foster independence in their teens.The conversation shifts to a profound reminder that "your education is about you, not about your friends." While social connections remain vital to school life, Preston emphasizes how students frequently make educational decisions based primarily on peer influence rather than personal fit. From course selections to extracurricular activities, following your unique path requires courage but ultimately leads to greater fulfillment and success.Perhaps most powerfully, Preston challenges the notion that college represents the only valid post-secondary path. "College is not for everyone, but being educated is," she explains, validating multiple routes to meaningful careers and fulfilling lives. The essential element isn't a specific degree but rather continued growth, development, and learning appropriate to one's chosen field.The episode concludes with a preview of a future discussion about parenting multiple children and honoring their different approaches to education and life planning. How can parents shift their expectations and communication styles to support each child's unique journey?Join this insightful conversation that offers practical wisdom for students, parents, and educators alike. Subscribe to hear more conversations that help make your words matter in supporting young people's growth and development.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textHave you been putting off "the talk" with your child or teenager? You're not alone—and the consequences of that avoidance might be more significant than you realize. This eye-opening conversation between Dr. Beth Trammell and therapist Sierra Dator tackles the challenging but crucial topic of discussing sex, intimacy, and consent with teenagers.The wisdom shared throughout this episode comes from a place of genuine understanding—both of adolescent development and parental hesitation. As Sierra poignantly notes, "If we're not talking to them about it, they're getting information from someone or somewhere, and probably likely on a device." This observation frames the entire conversation: parents must become trusted sources of information or risk having their teens learn from potentially problematic online content.What makes this episode particularly valuable is its practical approach. Rather than suggesting a single "birds and bees" discussion, the experts advocate for ongoing conversations that evolve as children mature. They offer concrete strategies for initiating these discussions, including "working backward" by determining what values and information you want your teen to possess before leaving home, using media as conversation starters, and normalizing the awkwardness that often accompanies these talks.The discussion on enthusiastic consent should be required listening for all parents of teenagers. Sierra explains the critical difference between reluctant agreement and genuine enthusiasm, noting that "if you can't talk about sex with your partner, it's probably a red flag that you're not ready." This framework gives parents language to help their teens navigate intimate relationships safely and respectfully.Whether you're a parent feeling unsure about how to broach these topics or a clinician seeking to better support families, this episode provides the tools you need to have these essential conversations. Take the first step in becoming that askable adult your teenager needs by listening, reflecting, and then starting the conversation—even if it feels awkward at first.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textEver caught yourself saying, "I should start a podcast"? You're not alone. But between technical hurdles and fears of speaking into the void, many never take that first step. That's why we've brought in podcast editor extraordinaire Phil Quinn to demystify the entire process.Phil peels back the curtain on what truly matters when launching a podcast—and it's not expensive microphones or technical wizardry. "If you've got a laptop with a camera on it and a pair of AirPods, you can podcast," he reveals. The real challenge? Understanding the time commitment and knowing exactly who you want to reach. With over 4 million podcasts competing for attention, having clear direction makes all the difference between creating another forgotten show and building something meaningful.We dive deep into practical strategies that won't overwhelm beginners, from utilizing "power advocates" to grow your audience organically to leveraging AI tools for content creation. Phil shares his experience working with local businesses for starter sponsorships ($25 per episode) while I offer perspective on how podcasting can indirectly generate income through workshops and consulting opportunities. We also explore the nuts and bolts—recording equipment, hosting platforms like Buzzsprout and SoundCloud, and the importance of owning your content through a dedicated website.Throughout our conversation, one theme emerges repeatedly: authenticity trumps perfection. The moments that resonate most with listeners are rarely the polished sound bites but rather the genuine, unguarded exchanges that make podcasting such a powerful medium. If you've been sitting on an idea, waiting for the "perfect time" to launch your podcast, this episode might just be the gentle nudge you need. Subscribe, share with that friend who's been talking about starting a podcast for years, and let us know what ideas this conversation sparks for you!Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textWhat if you could love your children deeply while admitting you don't always love the phase of parenting you're currently experiencing? This refreshingly honest conversation between Dr. Beth Trammell and maternal mental health specialist Megan MacCutcheon dismantles one of the most pervasive myths of motherhood: that we must cherish and enjoy every moment.The episode begins with Megan sharing a revealing Mother's Day experience where she found herself struggling with her elementary school-aged children's behavior, only to later visit her sister and feel nostalgic for the toddler phase she once navigated. This moment of recognition sparked an important realization—different seasons of motherhood naturally resonate differently with us, and that's perfectly normal.Throughout their discussion, both experts share personal struggles with specific parenting phases while offering practical strategies for managing the more challenging seasons. From the importance of nervous system regulation through simple breathing exercises to creating intentional transitions between work and home life, they provide accessible tools that don't feel like "one more thing" on an already overwhelming to-do list.Perhaps most valuable is their exploration of the harmful impact of common phrases like "you're going to miss this" or "enjoy every moment," which, while well-intentioned, often intensify feelings of guilt and inadequacy. Instead, they advocate for a more nuanced perspective that allows for the complexity of parenting emotions—the ability to deeply love your children while simultaneously finding certain phases genuinely difficult.Whether you're currently in a parenting season that feels overwhelming or simply need permission to acknowledge the full spectrum of your motherhood experience, this episode offers both validation and practical wisdom. Subscribe to hear more conversations that honor the real, unfiltered journey of parenting, and visit https://www.meganmaccutcheon.com/ to access additional resources for navigating motherhood's challenging seasons.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

Send us a textPlayback episode!! I've shared this episode on Kids These Days, but it seems like so perfect to include it again this week! The perfect family vacation often exists only in our minds. As one friend wisely told me, "Vacation with kids isn't really a vacation—it's just life somewhere else." This distinction forms the foundation of our exploration into making family gatherings genuinely enjoyable rather than merely survivable.Success begins with clarity about your true priorities. Are you seeking relaxation, memory-making, quality time, new experiences, or simple fun? Each goal demands different planning approaches. If relaxation tops your list, avoid overscheduling every moment. For memorable experiences, create special moments distinct from everyday life—whether through matching family shirts, unique dining experiences, or photo journals capturing your adventures. When prioritizing quality time, consider technology boundaries that allow genuine connection. And if exposing your children to new experiences drives your planning, recognize that their enthusiasm might not match yours—and that's perfectly okay. The magic happens when you align your expectations with reality while communicating openly with everyone involved.Summer gatherings present their own challenges—disrupted routines, heat that reduces everyone's tolerance levels, unfamiliar foods, and complex social dynamics. Children thrive on predictability, so parties naturally create stress when normal patterns disappear. Prepare by ensuring kids are well-fed before events, pack backup options for picky eaters, and remember that both you and your children become less patient in hot weather. Perhaps most importantly, balance your "visit mode" (adult conversation) with attentiveness to your children's needs. Often, they require just a few minutes of connection before happily returning to independent play. By approaching these moments with curiosity rather than frustration, you transform potential conflicts into opportunities for teaching and bonding. Ready to make your next family experience truly meaningful? Start by defining what matters most, then build your plans around that vision.Support the showwww.bethtrammell.com