BenTheLifeCoach Show

I'm a Certified Professional Coach and an advocate for good living. Join me as we discuss topics that allow us to transform and elevate our lives to the best experience we can have on this Earth. You can download the audio or watch the video of the SHOW HERE! My Grandmother and my Mother have both transitioned to a higher level of living and Mother's Day sometimes create some discomfort. I lost them both fairly young and I feel like a motherless child sometimes and experience a range of emotions; pain, greif, anger, depression and jealousy. I envy those who have their parents and grandparents and the lives that get to lead but I want to take an opportunity to remember my loved ones with great joy. On this show we will discuss what you can do to support honoring Mom's memory and living life optimally with her Love and Spirit still surrounding your life.

All shows are On-Demand - you can download the audio right from this page or watch the video here! Let's have a conversation about graduating to the next level of your life. All too often we go through life repeating the same patterns and subconsciously refusing to break cycles that keep us from learning life's lessons. Let's reflect and assess our relationships, our finances and our careers to identify what values and beliefs we've been applying to them. Have we been able to progress in our careers and build upon our skills or have we settled in our sense of entitlement?  Click HERE to get the tool to help support this conversation Invite some friends to discuss whether or not "WE" need to graduate in our lives and move us into purpose and destiny!

Download above or watch HERE! “From commonly uttered and popularized policing of masculinity (POM) phrases, such as “Big boys don’t cry” and “Suck it up,” boys receive messages from an early age that the expression of vulnerable emotions can be a tenuous undertaking. Over the past few decades, masculinity researchers have documented this gendered reality through the identification of dominant masculine norms, such as restrictive emotionality and emotional control (e.g., Conformity to Masculinity Norms Inventory (CMNI) and Male Role Norms Inventory-Adolescent-revised (MRNI-A-r). These norms can place significant pressure on boys and men to repress vulnerable emotions while embodying power and invincibility.” - Dr. Christopher Reigeluth In this show I want to address how men manage their emotions and what it’s like to have fears, stressors, triggers and traumas and how we cope we those things. For so long we’ve been programmed to think that any expression of our emotions is a weakness or somehow effeminate but I’ve come to realize how inhumane that is. It is inhumane, insensitive and inconsiderate to ask a man to not be in healthy alignment with his emotions. I am not looking to define manhood but give little boys, young men and mature men to evaluate and re-assess their own definition of manhood. This is an opportunity to reflect on what tools we’ve used to manifest our manhood and if they’ve worked for or against us. Boys don’t cryMan upBe toughDon’t be weak

"As life always does, it taught me a lesson. What I’ve learned is that some people cannot be coached first, they have to be taught first, yes, taught. Some of us need to be taught how to live life before we are coached into the purpose of our lives." From the eBook "Conquering Survival and Leaping into Victory" Get it here! Some of us have mastered the "struggle" so much so, that all of our choices come from a broken, impoverished mindset that produces lack and acts of desperation.  We've mistaken aide, assistance and help for being saved, rescued and bailed out by everyone and every thing other than ourselves. If you have the capacity to repeat patterns. You have the ability to break them.  Forbes magazine says "Supremely happy people have honed habits that maintain their happiness day in, day out. Permanently adopting new habits is hard, but breaking the habits that make you unhappy is much easier. There are numerous bad habits that tend to make us unhappy. Eradicating the following bad habits can improve your happiness" You may not like the sound of that but the hard truth is, you've contributed to YOUR LIFE based on your choices and your actions. Join me on the show as we discuss how to make Victory a lifestyle! L  E  A  P      I  N  T  O    V  I  C  T  O  R  Y      E  V  E  R  Y  D  A  Y  

Join me Download my eBooks here Watch the show HERE Have you ever sat down with a Life Coach? Have you been able to benefit from that experience? It's something beyond just giving advice but actually collecting tools that you can use beyond that encounter to sustain you mentally, spiritually and professionally.Use this show as an opportunity to get coached around love, sex, religion and everything in between. I'm a Life Transformation Coach and I've had real life experience directly and in-directly with mental illness, substance abuse, domestic violence, lgbt related issues, religious and faith based issues, chronic illnesses and professional/personal road-blocks, successes and failures. While I don't know it all, I do know what I've experienced and how I've used life coaching tools to help me transform, elevate, graduate and WIN!What areas of your life are you looking to transform? Where do you need to win? *Professional *Personal *Emotional  

Join me on BenTheLifeCoach Radio Show! Download my eBooks here  Please watch the show HERE Raychel T. Walker is a health and wellness enthusiast and she will share her perspective and personal story, which I am sure you will be able to relate to. This show is about embracing what makes us great instead of trying to be perfect. All too often we're taught that we shouldn't reveal "who we are" to the world "ESPECIALLY WOMEN" until we are perfect but we've seen how the trap of chasing perfection has enslaved us to the fakeness of "keeping it real", the insincerity of INAUTHENTIC living and for some of us, never showing up to life at all. At some point we have to stop focusing on the falsehood of perfection and listening to people tell us who we should be, what we should look like, what school we have to attend, car we should drive, people to date and embrace what individually makes us GREAT! Raychel was born prematurely and throughout most of her life dealt with health issues related to being born early and in her 20's decided to investigate her psychological, emotional and physical dimensions in an effort to identify what she wanted to do with her life. I believe you’re going to like what she has to say about her self-discovery and how accepting where and who you are in life, can end up saving your life.  

I AM a professionally trained Life Coach, a Corporate Instructor and a Motivational Speaker whose life assignment is to LOVE everyone into their divine destiny. Join me on BenTheLifeCoach Radio Show! Download my eBooks here WATCH THE SHOW! Romantic relationships seem to be one of the most important achievements in our society and I believe it is because we are wired for connection and companionship. Everyone has a bottomless reserve of love stored within them and even when the relationships run out, the love doesn’t. We spend our lives trying to find someone to give it to. Then there are the cheaters who freely SPREAD THE LOVE and they have that right! So the question is, have you been cheated on and/or are you the cheater? If so – what did you do? I find that there are two types of cheaters; CHEATER: Those who’ve done it once for very specific reasons and never do it again Question: Is that you? Has it happened to you? CHEATING: The others who do it habitually despite being caught and/or exposed. Question: Is this you? Why are you doing it?   Either way, it is my opinion that there is a relax of values or maybe none at all. Truth be told, it doesn’t matter because we all get to do what we want with our bodies right!? Right!?!? Maybe… When do you move on? Should you stay/go?When is the right time to leave?How do you make sure it never happens again? Let’s talk about it!

You can watch the show by clicking HERE! If you’re not a client, you should become one. Go see what people are saying about L.I.V.E LLC Coaching and Speaking! Heartbreak is inevitable because life is a collective of heartbreaks, highs and lows. Living a good life is not about never experiencing anything bad but figuring out how to live well in the wake of calamity. Life is a constant turn of events that promote us to the highest of highs and also responsible for excruciating traumatic lows and NO ONE is exempt. It doesn’t matter your status or socio-economic make-up, at some point life is going to beat your ass, so as Deanie used to say to me “You’re gonna have to learn how to take a good ass whooping and give a few good ones…” My question to you is, when life comes with a heartbreak, how do you deal with them? Primarily your romantic and professional relationships? There are some heartbreaks that can be avoided but sometimes we’re the reason for the dramatic down-turn when we could have avoided it by taking a right turn. I have some super basic and simple steps to help you eliminate unnecessary heartbreak. Tune in to hear how we can alleviate some of the bullisht and bask in the bliss!

Click here to WATCH THIS SHOW! DOWNLOAD "Conquering Survival and Leaping Into Victory" There are times in life when we feel like quitting and giving up! During those times we don’t really define what giving up means though, we just want whatever “it-is” to be over and done with. Giving up can be dangerous and life threatening; Quitting the job out of anger can adversely affect your livelihood and your financial stabilityGiving up on your relationships because they’ve become too difficult to manage can damage you emotionallyGiving up on yourself can create the foundation for self-pity, apathy and depression to set in So what exactly are we “giving up” on because there is a huge difference between unhealthily giving up and letting go? Giving up might be the gateway to a slow painful death but letting go might be the vulnerable embrace of Victory This week we are going to dissect exactly what it means to GIVE UP and follow THREE STEPS that allow you to keep your P.E.P (Physical – Emotional – Psychological)!!

WATCH THE SHOW ON VIMEO HERE>>>  https://vimeo.com/195709722 I am a Life Transformation Coach and I have been called and commissioned to help support your leap into Victory. I am also a Motivational Speaker and a writer who focuses solely on getting the BEST results in life. Download my latest eBook for free, right here “Conquering Survival and Leaping Into Victory” This is the MUSIC SHOW, so beware of the bass! I decided to just do something completely different and dig out songs from my vinyl collection and play songs that I thought would help support your healing, motivate you to pursue your purpose and inspire you to just DANCE and be happy. This year has been so traumatic and filled with despair, I just wanted to have fun and play records. Join me for 60 minutes of pure bliss. This show includes music from Donny Hathaway, KING, Teena Marie, Kindred the Family Soul, Mama Cass, The Jungle Brothers, The Clark Sisters AND MORE!

Click the link to watch "The Video" I am a Life Transformation Coach and I have been called and commissioned to help support your leap into Victory. I am also a Motivational Speaker and a writer who focuses solely on getting the BEST results in life. Download my latest eBook for free, right here “Conquering Survival and Leaping Into Victory” WHAT THE HELL just happened to our country!? We live in the United States but are we living in “A state of unity?” The presidential election has just taken the world by storm. People are shocked and even experiencing feelings of “mourning.” There is out-rage and dissension but as some protest and demand change, others are celebrating because they believe change is exactly what we needed it and we have it. Despite your beliefs about who should have won. One thing we can all agree on is that the candidates for both parties represented the brokenness in politics and in our society. "I" believe that the Universe held its mirror to our faces to reveal just how we really think, feel, behave and show up in the world. For those of us who consciously want to see a change in the world without division and who are not willing to relax our standards, we can L.I.V.E integral lives that reflect a commonality for ALL MAN KIND and stretch beyond the limitation of our segregated thoughts, minds and opinions.

Click the link to WATCH BenTheLifeCoach Show HERE! I am a Life Transformation Coach and my responsibility is to support your leap into Victory by holding you accountable. We use your life purpose to solve the problems in your life. Sometimes that includes a broken heart and the “breakup.” On this show we will dispel a few myths around coping mechanisms. Well take a look at how to implement four practical tips to manage your emotions without killing your ex LOL. Take a few deep breaths, get your pen and paper because we’re going to take some notes and have a good time too. For extra support, download a copy of my new eBook “Conquering Survival and Leaping Into Victory.”

WATCH THE SHOW>>>https://vimeo.com/183690606 I AM a professionally trained Life Coach, a Corporate Instructor and a Motivational Speaker whose life assignment is to LOVE everyone into their divine destiny. Join me on BenTheLifeCoach Radio Show! We have to address the root issue in America! We’ve seen police brutality throughout the history of our country and today it has become police murder; from Eric Garner to Sandra Bland who “mysteriously” died in police custody to the brutal slayings of Terrence Crutcher and Keith Lamont Scott. We are plagued by our own lies, our fears and our isms. Racism is a legacy we’ve created that has given us the permission to hate other human beings because of their ethnic make-up. I believe the real sickness here is hate. There is a systemic structure of hate that has infiltrated our country. We hate because of religion, creed and color. Until we treat the real illness we will keep on dying at the hands of the symptoms. Be human first! Be compassionate. Diminish your hate!

WATCH THIS SHOW'S EPISODE HERE>>> https://vimeo.com/181704040 I AM a professionally trained Life Coach, a Corporate Instructor and a Motivational Speaker whose life assignment is to LOVE everyone into their divine destiny. Join me on BenTheLifeCoach Radio Show! It may sound weird but a lot of us are more afraid of getting our hearts broken than we are of catching a sexually transmitted disease. Sex “feels good” (most of the time lol) and can be a great stress reliever and an exciting contact sport for consenting adults, however it is not always so easy to “hit it and forget it” when dealing with the chemical exchange or even deeper, the "soul ties." No one has the right to judge anyone else for their sexual practices but we must exhibit personal responsibility and practice proper judgement for ourselves. If we’re not emotionally developed and/or mentally capable of managing our psychological selves, how careless might we end up being with our sexuality? Let’s ask ourselves, “We are we sexually promiscuous but emotionally celibate?” “The World Health Organization defines sexual health as a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality (http://www.cdc.gov/sexualhealth/default.html)” We’ve socially accepted all kinds of sexual behavior but the question stands, have we attempted to disassociate the physical practice of sex from our emotional and mental state?    

I AM a professionally trained Life Coach, a Corporate Instructor and a Motivational Speaker whose life assignment is to LOVE everyone into their divine destiny. Join me on BenTheLifeCoach Radio Show! SHUT OUT: Closing the emotional and mental door to my heart, mind and soul to a specific person, thing and/or event with the fear that there will be a break. SHUT DOWN: Completely closed off emotionally and mentally to everyone and everything, meeting and fulfilling “status quo.” On this show I am going to discuss what happens when we shut down and shut out emotionally. I am going to do my best to be vulnerable and ignore the shame attached to having emotional range. Being vulnerable and still maintaining manhoodDefining our individual ideas of manhoodDispelling the myth that emotions are feminineEmbracing the whole-self and eliminating mental health & mental stress This will also provide an opportunity to peek into the mind and heart of a man, especially when we’re in relationships. Ladies AND GENTS, sometimes we are NOT shut down but we are in fact “shutting you out” and I am going to talk about that, why we don’t feel safe to expose and express and how we don’t even feel safe, saying we don’t feel safe. Society has always given men mixed messages (be strong, take care of your family, don’t show any emotions but be sensitive and communicate) and this could be why “we” give mixed messages at work, at home and with each other! So if society can’t make up its mind, we’ll make up our own. TUNE IN!

I AM a professionally trained Life Coach, a Corporate Instructor and a Motivational Speaker whose life assignment is to LOVE everyone into their divine destiny. Join me on BenTheLifeCoach Radio Show! This week I will personally honor the women that bore the brunt, wore the scars and birthed the legends. WE WILL no longer take from the aesthetics of the black woman and toss aside her true beauty. ALL women are beautiful in their own right and ALL human beings deserved to be recognized. I must recognize my first home: the womb that covered and kept me. I owe it to myself. About a year or so ago, a song came through my speaker entitled “Masterpiece” the lyrics read… Every part of me is a vision of a portrait Of Mona, of Mona Lisa Every part of me is beautiful And I finally see I'm a work of art A masterpiece Listening to the song and driving immediately made me weep. I mean I cried like a baby, for some strange reason it reminded me of my mom and it made me take notice of how I may have treated her when she was here on Earth. I don’t ever remember just stopping her and telling her how beautiful she was or how much I appreciated her inside and out. Then I thought about what she had gone through, what she thought about herself and what others thought of her and I wept some more, feeling the guilt of not being the best son because I was too busy blaming her for not being the best mom.  Brown girls you are: Wives Kingdom Builders Foundation Nurturers Teachers Queens Navigators Protectors

As a teen-ager growing up in the fire and brimstone Pentecostal church I listened to many-a-sermons that literally instilled the fear of hell in me (lol)! Despite that there would be some that found a home in my spirit and one Sunday evening the subject came from John 5 and it stuck with me. It resonated and gave me hope, permission to believe, trust and expect miracles. Even if you have a different belief, it is an encouraging story about "believing." John 5 6. When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?”  7. “Sir,” the invalid replied, “I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.” The next verse gets me! It pushes me into a realm that eliminates the limitations of what the world says I am, “we” are capable of. 8. Then Jesus said to him, “Get up! Pick up your sick bed and walk.”  9. At once the man was cured; he picked up his mat and walked. This just so happens to be one of my most popular messages. Everyone has a message, a quote, and a one liner that motivates them, keep them going, reaching, pursuing and flying into the limitless skies despite the pressures of life. “L.I.V.E beyond limitation” does that for me. I whisper this to myself as a mantra, I meditate on it and I pray it in my prayers. No more limitations!Take the caps off!Resurgence of your career, your marriage, your business and your prosperityLeap into Victory every day beyond your limitations and into your destiny!

Deal with your self-inflicted complexities of life from romance to politics to professional conflicts. Celebrate the differences, touch on those topics and combat the disenfranchised, disgruntled, dismissive acts of being human with embracing, embodying and expressing acts of LOVE. And if you find that makes you uncomfortable, then this show is REALLY for you! STOP being religious and just BE LOVESTOP being political and just BE LOVESTOP being your agenda, your race, your social class, your financial status, your professional positions and JUST BE a LOVING human being! In my coaching sessions I ask my clients, “If you could go back and undo your most painful experience, what would you do?” Most of them answer “I wish someone would have loved me enough to protect me or not hurt me” and they ALL say that in some form, even the toughest, most macho men. They want to be respected as men and validated with unconditional love but for some reason we refuse to get that, we refuse to live that! Instead of waiting on others to lead us into a progressive shift of economic reprieve, protection against international threat and televised/social media revolution we have to start with ourselves! I am talking about getting down to the nitty gritty. Let's focus on “being” human and I believe a part of that “being” is to be love, be respect and be compassionate. and focusing on ourselves, our behavior and BEING the world we expect to live in. If you want to be accepted STOP being judgmental!If you want to be loved STOP being hateful!If you want to be understood STOP being closed-minded!If you want loyalty, fidelity and commitment STOP being dishonest, two-faced and flighty 

Our children are really uncomfortable with their greatness and way too “at home” with things that diminish, degrade and dismiss their definition of success & fun. Our young bro & sis of color have not accepted their greatness. They behave as if they believe the lies and the hype; gang bangers, thugs, n*gg*z, thots, b*tches and hoes This show will speak to the hearts of everyone and guide us through lessons that promote:  -PURPOSE -GREATNESS -HONOR OUR HISTORY -ASSERT OUR VALUES. Be inspired. Be encouraged. Be transformed. Get comfortable Purpose-Our kids don't know their worth and they resist, reject and abandon it. Objectivity-Making great decisions can produce a great life and the ability to step outside of the situation to see the best result is a necessary skillWill-Mirrors faith and affirms positivity. “I AM” and “I WILL” principles create a positive mindset.Energy-We believe teens have bad attitudes but they can learn to shift their energy and force them into higher thinking to produce better results.Ready-Kill procrastination and stop thinking that you have to wait to become responsible, wise and accountable after 25. Contrary to popular opinion being young doesn’t make it ok to be DUMB! Every minute of every day is you’re either growing your life or blowing your life. What are you ready for? What have we prepared our kids for?

 “I would have been an atheist.” Meaning, I would have believed that I don’t believe in a GOD but experience and love and life revealed something much greater. “For me” my disbelief was a dismissal of myself and a dismissal that I could be anything more than the bad things I’d experienced in life.    We are all somehow mirror images of one another, maybe you will see yourself in me and maybe we can heal together, grow, live, laugh and LOVE each other into our best-greatest selves. Don’t worry, I am not trying to sale religion or convince you that “JESUS SAVES” or that “ALLAH” is the one true GOD. That is not my mission or my ministry. What I am sharing and I do mean SHARING is how I went from hopelessness, near death and depression into a life of hope, faith and peace. I didn’t find GOD. I chose to see GOD in myself but before that I was on a different road and a different path, I call it atheism but that is really not the case because Atheist have hope. I was on a road to darkness, afraid and blinded by my own miserable outlook on life. It would be pointless for me to quote scripture or read passages from history books to prove a point. I know because it happened to me. When you come into the awareness of a larger life source, a deeper love power and a greater intellectual being-you don’t waste time trying to prove a point or spew facts, you share…excuse me, “I share” the love and the light because it’s not about my right or your wrong. It’s about the even exchange of love #period Join me as I tell you how I moved out of- DepressionSuicideBitternessJealousy Into a life of- PeaceJoyAbundanceHappiness

GRADE YOUR LIFE HERE! I carry the lessons that my Granny taught me every day. I use them to dig me out of death traps set for me by others and myself. There are moments when her voice is faint and I need to STOP, tune in and catch my breath. You are invited to take 60 minutes to catch your breath to identify if we’ve been fools or if we’ve taken every opposition and turned them into jewels? I was prompted me to stop and gather all of the nuggets I’ve learned over the past year. I learned a few things about myself, some that I loved and some I hated. I realized that I was doing a lot but not really getting a lot done. I wasn’t producing the best results and for me results mean a lot of things (MONEY-FUN-SEX-ROCKnSOUL) As I recalibrated myself, I learned that I didn’t need to try so hard to be the business, the brand; coach/speaker/teacher. I AM spiritually all of those things and that trying to be them meant I didn’t actually believe that. TIP:You don’t have to try to be anything that GOD has called you to be. Just show up and put on your anointing. It’s not one size fits all. It was made just for you! When I surrendered, I got RESULTS: BREAKTHROUGH-VISION-CONNECTION-ELEVATION Ask yourself: What has life really taught me?What lessons have I really learned?How have I applied those learned lessons?Am I living a remedial life, constantly repeating the same destructive patterns?    

Take a 7 day walk with me and come out on the other side of gratitude and VICTORY. Click here>>> DOWNLOAD A COPY of "7 Days of Victory"  Gratitude will... Restore your faithBuild your integrityCreate unlimited opportunities Being “thankful” and/or “grateful” should not be relegated to just the last few months of the year. Embodying the spirit of gratitude should be a part of our daily lives because “IT IS” our daily lives. If we’re not grateful for the opportunity for life, the breath that we take in and release-than what else is worth being grateful for? What else is greater than that? We understand that our physical heart is a main organ in our body; it is a major life source. The heart is also the symbol for life’s light radiating through us. Gratitude helps us stay connected to our light. I believe that gratitude is the song that the human body sings to the soul. So on this show I claim to “teach” you about gratitude but what I really going to do is share my story of gratitude. I will of course rip pages from my own journal. I was admittedly not the most grateful man walking around but I had to get T.U.F.F with myself and allow grace to come in. Listen to this show and hear how I went from dealing with lost love, debt and emotional rage to a life of peace, grace and gratitude.

It’s about to go down NOW! The last two tools for part two of “5 Steps to a New Career & a New YOU!” are the most critical. In the first part we discussed how detrimental it is for you to accept where you are in your life. Did you know that “Acceptance” is one of the primary universal and spiritual laws? Now is the time to sit down and begin figuring out how you’re going to get into action. You can talk until you’re blue in the face BUT if you do not start “PLANNING” and then apply your faith and get into action, nothing will ever happen. We are less than two weeks away from a new year so instead of setting traditional resolutions and traditionally failing every year, let’s make NEW YOU COMMITMENTS! This is about YOU having your very own personal evolution. This is your opportunity to expand your brand, finish your degree, earn more money and just be a better person to yourself and for yourself. Assess your life here>>> http://media.wix.com/ugd/80cde5_c7726c46c19b48f3823d3b091eb5f6d6.pdf What have you accepted about yourself that you are ready to change?What do you know to be true about yourself; your gifts, skills and talents?How authentically are you living your life everyday? Re-assess your life, re-evaluate your goals and hop into action. You’re one incredible decision away from transforming your life! AcceptanceTruthIdentityPlanningFaction (FAITH + ACTION)

December is the last month of the year and this is your opportunity to identify where you want to go in 2016. I am not talking about New Year’s Resolutions; this is about YOU having your very own personal evolution. This is your opportunity to expand your brand, finish your degree, earn more money and just be a better person to yourself and for yourself. Assess your life here>>> Use the "Grade Your Life" tool to help you, create a new you! What steps are you willing to take?What doors are you willing to knock down?What opportunities are you willing to create for yourself? The 5 Steps to a New Career and a NEW YOU is an intense look at yourself; the career you’ve worked for or “just the job” that continues to work you. I took these 5 Steps to help stabilize a career for myself and create multiple streams of revenue. I’ve re-assessed my life using the same tools and they’ve helped push me into a new dimension, realizing new career goals as a writer, a speaker and a host. Explore these tools with me! AcceptanceTruthIdentityPlanningFaction (FAITH + ACTION)

If you’re looking to get your happy back THIS SHOW IS FOR YOU!  I have six tips that I KNOW can promote your internal happiness so that you can produce positive external results. What I’d like to offer you is another way of thinking. It is not something that I paid for or something that has made me a million dollars (yet) :-) Happiness is something that I had to learn just by living a conscious life. There were no quick fixes, no external antidotes and I couldn’t purchase happy from Amazon. I couldn’t get it in a drink, a pill or “stuff.” Last year I did the “100 Day Happiness Challenge” and it changed my life. Not only did it give me permission to find something to be happy about every day, it also forced me to realize this about happiness: It is often circumstantialHappiness is a choiceHappiness is a habit  It is a mantra that you recite to yourself everyday “I will be in Victory today!” What it all comes down to is this, you get to decide if the challenge can become a celebration and if the tragedy can somehow be turned into a triumph. We have to make a conscious choice to take back what was already ours to begin with, “OUR HAPPINESS” and decide that we are going to hold on to it no matter the circumstance or the situation. The truth is we are in our feelings all of the time and it is ultimately up to us to decide which feelings are going to take precedence. The default feeling will become the feeling that we base our lives on and make decisions from (VICTIM-BULLY-EQUALIZER). On a scale of 1-to-10, how happy are you?

I intend to shed LIGHT on those dark areas and put together life tools that will HOLD US UP & ACCOUNTABLE. Ask yourself what tools are you using to get you through this life because what you use, will use you!! Lie CheatStealTear downDisregard the people, place and things you encounter...? You are lying to yourself, cheating yourself from the opportunity to be GREAT, stealing your purpose, tearing yourself down and disregarding the spirit that wishes to guide you into something magnificent. We often use things like anger, hate and judgment incorrectly and they become toxic, ultimately exploding, ripping apart neighborhoods in riot, terrorizing nations and taking lives. As a planet we hate each other for things like race, sex and social status and that hate has in turned use us to segregate, humiliate and kill one another. Can you see that? We’re so dead-set against using “good judgment” that the judgment we do use, ends up uses us to bully, belittle and breakdown.Our anger should rise up when we see the injustice of life but it is the misdirected anger that actually causes us to be instruments of injustice. We have got to use another tool to create balance and harmony. BUT we FIRST must identify if we even want harmony or if we want to be synchronized one with the other? We’ve lived out of alignment for so long that we aren’t sure what’s right, what’s offensive, what’s appropriate, what’s effective…what’s love!? Are you ready to use LOVE!?

Join me this week as we discuss ways to help us ALL make the best decisions for ourselves. I don’t think that we’ve really figured out the power of our own choices and the effect that the choices we make, have on others. We’ve all heard it before, “one wrong decision can change your life.” The one thing that we’re going to do is identify if we’re to blame. We must be held accountable for the choices that we’ve made in life. If you made the choice and didn’t like the outcome, why did you do it? How are you processing information and how is it affecting your behavior? Is there something deeper going on with you… Low self-esteem (yada yada yada-NO ONE wants to admit it but is it true?)Bitterness (everything that you do is done from your angry, wounded and painful place?)Adventurous (you don’t think anything out; you just dive in and ask for the life jacket later?)You chose to focus on the negative aspects of life and ended up with a miserable life…You chose to opt out of post-education that led to endless DEAD-END jobs…You chose to get into a relationship with someone who was your type but didn’t compliment your life…You chose to withhold your love & affection believing that what you withheld you would eventually get  :-/You really are a victim of someone else’s bad choice but now you don’t know how to make decisions beyond their mistakes…? Why and how did you make those choices? What was the influencer, the benefit and advantage? We’re going to figure it out together! Bring your pen, your paper and get ready to learn!

This time I am not taking NO for an answer! YOU WILL tap into your greatness!YOU WILL identify why the creator created you!YOU WILL accept your purpose and your obligation and not your option! I am NOT playing with you this week. You are going to have to accept that life will present incredibly painful pitfalls and incredibly powerful peaks. I am not claiming to have discovered “the secret” or the answer to every one’s problem but I have witnessed in my life the effects of Victory by way of “Purpose.” I know you don’t want to hear it. I know you don’t want to accept it because at face value there are no benefits to purpose. It’s over used, self-help word, saturating the air-waves and social media by every Life Coach, Minister, Holistic Spiritual Guru there is. As far as you’re concerned, its new-age garbage but the real trash just might be your perception. You’re asking… “What can purpose do for me? Can it pay my bills?” It just might but you have to be willing to trust yourself enough to find out AND that is the problem with most of us, we’ll trust other people’s purpose but we will not trust our own. Through the loss of loved ones, financial disaster, foreclosures, car repossessions, ME and my clients have all discovered that once we embrace Victory and tap into our purpose, we’re able to eliminate “some” of those painful experiences and deal with the heartbreak of what is out of our control by creating a system of success. Let’s create a system of success and leap into Victory together.

Join me this week as we work through the steps to tap into your inner GOLDmine (mind) Accept that there is GREATNESS in you!Believe that you are an OVERCOMER of all obstacle and trouble.Embrace that at your core you are LOVE.Then leap into Victory with DETERMINATION with a made up MIND that you will WIN! Accept that life is NOT perfect and that there will be setbacks, disappointments and pitfalls but you have what it takes to survive the heartbreaks. We spend so much time digging into everything and everyone else except for ourselves. It’s time that you invest in YOU! Start chipping away the stone and discover that “YOU ARE THE GOLDMINE!” Everything that you need is already inside of you. You may have gone through the fire but you’re going to come out as pure gold! Do you believe me? I promise that if you set your sights above the mountain that the mountain will become your footstool and you will be able to look down at your problems from the mountain top. Close your eyes to look inside yourself to find, that… “YOU ARE THE GOLDMINE!”

***SHARE THIS SHOW and tell a friend to tell a friend*** Take this opportunity to assess the way you've been giving love and receiving love with every one in your life. Get your pen, paper, notepads or whatever you use to take notes! This week we want to identify and assess if we’ve loved the people in our lives with “healthy boundaries” or “unhealthy conditions” I will cover 5 steps/points that allow us to really build stronger, bigger and better relationships; platonic and romantic. Learn to seperate circumstantial happiness from joy and peace. Setting healthy boundaries allow us to love “NO MATTER WHAT!” Loving with unhealthy conditions will set limitations in everyone’s lives and could possibly push us into unforgiveness and bitterness. I think we are all love starved and we are meant to feed each other with our inner light and our love. LOVE is a MUST and if we set conditions that limit our love than we might end up being the bomb instead of the healing balm. Ask yourself and the people you are in relationship with(mother/father/sibling/family/lover/partner): Are you trying to bring out the best or are you just releasing some stress?Are you picking apart the flaws in me or are you looking to see the God in me?Are we co-dependent or supporting individual purpose, passion and joy? This is a show you will not want to miss!

"Mirror, Mirror: Who Am I?" (Click the link to download the eBook). Your behavior may be the reason why your life has stalled Marriage gon’ dryJob turned into a dead endPassion, zest and zeal is nonexistent? It may also be why you’ve been able to get ahead; Constant promotionsBank account steadily growing…BUT people don’t really like you-they tolerate you, may even fear you (which you feed off of)You’re way too aggressive, pushy and you secretly kinda “don’t like yourself?” Most bullies don’t… “CHECK YOUR DEFAULTS!”  Victim mentality & bully behaviors; fear, dishonesty, pity, anger, resentment, passive/aggressive, panicky, loud, pushy…It’s what you use when you’re passed for the promotion, when someone steals your parking space or speaks over you in a meeting; THAT feeling, THAT emotion that comes over you in those moments are your defaults. Check them! Victim=Things happen “to me.” I don’t have “ANY OTHER CHOICE.”Bully=I have to win and “You have to lose in order to justify my win!”Equalizer=I don’t have to accept that things just happen nor do I have to see you fail to validate my win. There has to be a rational way to balance the situation, “ANY SITUATION!

It would appear that EVERYBODY and their dog has become a Life Coach. So I was shocked, bewildered and befuddled when I heard life call me out into this profession. I thought the purpose for my life was to have a great job, a good relationship and try to make a million dollars before I died. It wasn't until my mom transitioned physically that I was left with a heavy spiritual assignment and when I called out to GOD and asked, "What do I do with all of THIS (THIS=life experiences, pain, insights, lessons learned, mourning, etc.) What I heard and felt on the right side of my body was "Life Coach." On my inaugural show instead of trying to tell you how to live your best purposed driven life. I am going to open up my heart and read from it the journal entries and the very blueprint that rescued me from a life of redundancy to a life of abundance. I didn't accept who I was until January 6th, 2012, the day my mom flew into her new home but she always said "You have always been who you are." I digested that message spiritually, emotionally and intellectually. Once I tell my story it is my hope that you too will accept that you have always been who you are; enough, gifted, purposed, made in the image of greatness...a majestic soul, dancing in your human body. Join me on this journey. Love ya' much!