Men Speaking Out

We would love to hear your feedback on any episode.Episode 84Men seek peace and desire to be loved, appreciated, and respected. As men, it is important to ensure that our associations contribute positively to our value, happiness, focus, and emotional well-being.Join Bazz, Rekardi and Shawn discuss this sensitive topic and hopefully listeners you'll take note or two (smile).Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

We would love to hear your feedback on any episode."Family needs to be at the center of our culture" Quoted by Dr. George C. FraserThink about that statement for a second? Is family the center of your life. We (black marriages / families) are in a state of crisis. African American relationships have experienced various challenges and triumphs over time, with only one-third of African American couples being married. Why is that?Listen in as my guest (Foxy) and I speak on this subject and maybe you'll get a nugget or two of information. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

We would love to hear your feedback on any episode.Communication is huge, we all know that. Or I would think most of us do. Nevertheless, are we effective when we communicate? Especially if we are creating dating profiles online. Are we showing our authentic self? Are we talking "to" or "with" each other? Are we presenting ourselves in true form?Well join me (Bazz) with dating profile expert and author James Newberry of https://datingprofilesecrets.com/ as we tap into the world of virtually communicating with our dating profiles.Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

We would love to hear your feedback on any episode.One out of Four men are concerned with the size of their manhood. That means at least 25% of men were dissatisfied with their penis. Why? Well listen In to this podcast as I (Bazz) speak with DR. JUDSON BRANDEIS is an award-winning urologist and sexual medicine expert, clinical researcher, physician educator, and a caring clinician and surgeon, he also specializes in the emerging field of sexual health and medicine. Additionally he is the inventor of the P-Long Study Protocol (https://p-long.com).And lets see if size really matters.Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Who's a better fit to lead our country in 2025. There is alot of political rhetoric going on, and I decided to have a podcast getting the thoughts of my guests on everything being shared on these two candidates as well as expressing their own thoughts and opinions.Join MSO's group of panelist and myself as we talk through "Who's the better fit to run our country".Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

WARNING THIS PODCAST MAY NOT BE SUITABLE FOR SOME VIEWERS. Anxiety is real! Sometimes we as men may have an issue performing, but why? We all know that as we get older certain functions of our body don't act or respond the same, so lets have a conversation on what we can do to be proactive as well as put some preventive measures in place to satisfy our partners. In addition, maybe we should try something different...what is that you say? Well tune in with this show as I (Bazz) am joined with Elliot Justin, MD. founder of Firm Tech - (https://myfirmtech.com) the first sex tech company dedicated to improving men's erectile fitness.Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

This was a "on the fly" podcast. I was surrounded by family and friends and just wanted to get their input about the 4th of July holiday and it's impact to African-Americans.It's a very short podcast (10 minutes), but interesting to hear the thoughts of my guests on this.BazzMen Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

What is Toxic Masculinity? How is it being looked upon in our society? How does religion, culture and finances play a role with it?Well we talk all about it in this podcast...Listen in as I am joined by my grad school daughter (Kyla)  and colleague (Kelly) to discuss in detail the subject of Toxic Masculinity! This is also on Youtube here.Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Most of us have been in love at some point in time in our lives, but did we really know what love was at that time. Also, did we appreciate it? Well maybe some of us have to experience HURT in order to appreciate LOVE. Yea, I know it sounds crazy, but yet so real...I speak from experience.So listen in with Bazz, Ricardi and Shawn as they talk through how to appreciate love when experience is the best teacher. Another great show! Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Well once again the fellas and I fellowshipped for the 2024 SuperBowl Weekend (as we do every year). This is a time when come together and work on our "Men Self Care".  We've done a few podcast from this location in the past and now we kick this Super Bowl Weekend with the subject "The Value of Friendship".I decided to create this topic to share with the listeners some of the history with me and the guys. I've know some of these gentelmen for over 35+ years and friendships like that don't come to often. So join us (Eric, BJ, Joe Dilla and myself - Bazz) as we talk about the value of friendship. Another great podcast!Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

This is a special edition of Men Speaking Out...why? Because we have seven people on this podcast in two different segments. In the first segment we discuss "Is it Easier to Blame than Claim" that includes our guests (SpringTime, Mr. D and Rick). Our second half of this podcast talks about "Second Chances" which inclues (Mat, BJ and Brad), and of course I (Bazz) am on both segments. These are a great group of guys and listen in as they give their perspectives on both topics as we connect and have fun in the process. Another dope podcast!Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Listen while we discuss the conversation of "What Am I Becoming".  What exactly does that mean. Well...in life we deal with hills and valleys. Everyone experiences challenges, but how do we come out of them? Also, what do we learn while going through to get through. I am joined with my brother (DBazz) and my nephew (Nasan) as we - the Shabazz men discuss how we can be better for our family, friends and loved ones while being in the valley.Another great podcast.Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

The great Vince Lombardi - one of the most inspirational american football coaches to ever live coined the phrase "Practice Makes Permanent Not Perfect".  As I was researching the history of that phrase, I decided to share my thoughts around it and how it has an impact in our daily lives. I am joined with the Twins Brothers Network (Shawn and Ricardi) on this podcast (Episode 72) and we discuss the meaning behind this phrase and dealing with the committment it brings. This is a great podcast - check it out!Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Happy New Year! We kickoff 2024 with the podcast title "What Does Worse Look Like?" When we get married the common vow is "For richer or poorer, in sickness and health and for better or worse". Most of us run out on worse. So what does it really look like? Well first of all it's very subjective and we talk about it on this podcast with my two of my dear friends and guests (Mika and BJ). Also in this podcast Bazz reveals his current relationship situation for the first time on the MSO platform. Check it out, another great show! Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Well we cap off 2023 with our 70th episode and it is a milestone for Men Speakiing Out!Joined by Drake, JaVon, Ricardi and Shawn - we discuss "Are We Sprinters". Meaning, do we run away from our challenges or should we take them head on and be ready for the road blocks, failures or even negative effects from them. Nevertheless, we have to keep trying and new stop - because if we do stop, that's a failure in itself. Another dope show! Listen in.BazzMen Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

This is a very special podcast - we recorded this onsite at "The Shopp" a local barbershop in Indianapolis, IN located at 6206 LasPas Trail. One of the best barbershops in Indy. I go there myself! Nevertheless,  I am joined by The Twin Brothers Network Podcast - (Shawn and Ricardi), Amir and Jaylen (two 15 year olds with tons of wisdom), DeAndre and Aaron (both dropping nuggets). This is a very good podcast that talks about how we as black families aren't the same anymore and how some of us have lost the foundation and meaning of family - so the question is...How do we get it back? Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

I am joined with more of my Information Technology Senior Management Forum (ITSMF) Management Academy Colleagues - Emmanuel Farrugia, James LeGrand and Delano Robinson.We had a great discussion on...How you find your inner greatness.Finding value in yourself and what does that really mean?Which is more important Time vs Money.And much more.This was another great podcast - check it out also on YouTube.Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

How many times have we acted on impulse instead of letting thoughts "simmer" so we could use reasoning, patience, or logic. What has that type of behavior cost us in the long run? Join us as we discuss this type of behavior that we "ALL" are guilty of.Join my guests and ITSMF Power54 Leadership Academy Family (Carla Forte, Ethan Bingham and Jared Palmer) any myself (Bazz) as we discuss how letting thoughts simmer always taste better for the human spirit.By the way you can learn more about ITSMF here.Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

What does the word "enough" mean to you? For some of us, its the end or completion of something (i.e., You've done enough.) But is it really? Do you have enough? Does "enough" change as you get older? Is the life you live "enough" for you? Also consider some of the following:Are you good enough?Do you weigh enough?Are you strong enough?Are you loved enough?Are you smart enough?Are you compassionate enough?Are you just plain and simple enough?Are you satisfied with yourself enough as who you are - think about that one!Join us (Tanish and myself - Bazz) as we go deep in the rabbit hole on is enough a moving target!Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

We all deal with conflict in some manner. Whether its conflict within our relationships, family, friends and even loved ones. The question is how should we deal with conflict and how do we get joy out of it? Well, on this episode I am joined by two young positive brothers, Rekardi and Sean D from the Twin Brothers Network podcast. We discuss some of the challenges involving conflict and listen in as they share some of their experiences and solutions. I guess an old man like myself can still learn something. BazzMen Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

It's 2023 and SuperBowl Sunday. So just like in previous years the fellas and I got together to on SuperBowl Weekend to fellowship and hang out. In addition, we recorded another podcast. This one is about being "man enough". The interesting thing here is we as men ask ourselves this question all the time. Are we really man enough to handle life around us, most importantly are we man enough to handle ourselves.Listen in as my guest (JD, Eric, Cory and BJ) and myself (Bazz) just share thoughts on this subject and try to connect as friends. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Every ask yourself "Why did I get married?" well I am sure we all have asked ourselves that question in our "marriage journey". It is a valid question and sometimes we need a reminder to understand the importance of a union. Its not about a piece of paper, its about love, respect, committment, friendship, compromise and especially understanding. Nevertheless, listen in on this topic of "What's The Value of Marriage" with my special guest and fellow podcaster "Angel" from Too Real, Too Funny. Check out her Link. I really enjoyed having a woman's perspective on this one.Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Bazz (the host) takes some time out to speak to his audience on the past direction of MSO and apologizes for some of the subject matter shared. He also mentions that was NEVER the intent of the podcast and to look forward to more heartfelt topics in 2023. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

What does childhood trauma look like in adults? Childhood trauma in adults can impact experiences and relationships with others due to experienced feelings of shame, and guilt. Childhood trauma also results in feeling disconnected, and being unable to relate to others.In this episode we continue the discussion on Childhood Trauma and Today's Impact. I am joined by my guests (E-Dub, JD, Tracy, and Parris). Each one of my guests share a traumatic experience while at the same time we recorded this on Thanksgiving 2022, as we all shared some of the blessings we are thankful for. This podcast is also viewable online at YouTube.Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Childhood trauma has been strongly linked to depression, substance use disorder, anxiety, eating disorders, and other mental health disorders that are present in adulthood. We carry these traumas all our lives and they get never addressed.Tune in as we (Ashraf Obaji and myself - Bazz) discuss at a high-level how many of adults today are stil dealing childhood trauma and don't even know it. This has impacted our relationships with our families, our friends and even our loved ones.Also we want to make sure we give a shout out to Ashraf's Personal Health Coach business -  https://www.techcercise.net/Tune In...  Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

I am joined with one of my daughters (Brittany Payne) to discuss some of the challenges and experiences that she has had over the years. She talks about her life, our family and even sleeping in her car and being homeless at somepoint. She also shares how she overcame these adverse items and now she is on the road to success. This is a excellent podcast and its only the beginning. I have many more daughters to  interviews in the future. If you noticed this is only Part one! Threre is no video on this one but it was a great podcast!Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Ask yourself these three questions?1. What is the inherent value that women have that men don't?2. What makes a man valuable to a woman?3. What makes a woman valuable to a man?Well Join Bazz and Ash on this podcast as they discuss their different views and give some enlightment on what some men think and how it impacts today's relationships.Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Believe it or not, there is a cost associated with being in a relationship. Not a financial cost, but a submission cost. What sort of price does it take to be submissive to your mate? We all have one, what's yours?Listen in...Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Sometimes we find ourselves giving so much to everyone else (i.e our family, friends, and loved ones), but we have to ask ourselves the question..."Who's there for me?" Do we really have the kind of relationships with people that we can count on when the going gets rough? Or do we have individuals in our lives that speak a good game, but their back is turned when you need them to assist you?Who is the one making sure I am ok? Think about it!Join MSO as we (Tory, BJ, Melissa and myself - Bazz) discuss it.

Listen in on Part 2 of the Afforable Housing Crisis podcast. On this show we talk about the challenges we face when selling our homes with:Depersonalizing your home - removing photos, cultural items, etc. to make the sale. Why do we have to do that and does that leave an impact to the seller having to change up?Low appraisal for people of color compared to the majority.Owning your home vs Renting? Which one makes sense?And an assortment of additional topics.So listen in as we (Bazz, and my mortgage and real estate professional - Petrita, Robert, Steven, David and Tasha) talk on the above subjects. This is also very educational and can be see on YouTube as well.

Is there a housing crisis? Is the major part of this issue is the supply is rapidly shrinking? Are real estate agents experiencing the market to be “unhealthy and very challenging”?Home Prices Increases - Since the price of homes have increased – are most homebuyers struggling to obtain financing?Interest Rate increases - What's considered a good rate?Financing / applications - How challenging can financing be in this market today?Gentrification - Gentrification has the power to displace low-income families or, more often, prevent low-income families from moving into previously affordable neighborhoods.This impacts Minority communities at all levels which lead to negative impacts (poorer moving to poorer neighborhood).Well listen in as I host a group of real estate professionals (Eric, Lisa, Stacey, David and Doug) along with myself - Bazz to go through the above mentioned and then some! This podcast is also on YouTube.

Just recently (May 7th 2022)  we lost YouTube personality "Kevin Samuels".  He was 57 years old. He was unique in his own right, because he was an advocate for the black family and was very blunt on giving lifestyle advice to women.  Now of course some of his subject matter appeared to be controversial to some of his viewers but nevertheless he spoke the truth.  In this podcast we (DBazz, Matt and myself - Bazz) share some of his thoughts around relationships and the impact it made to the social media community.   Basically put - Kevin Samels gave us the hard truth instead of settling for the easy lie. Listen In!This episode is also on YouTube.

In March 2022 at the 94th annual academy awards, Will Smith got upset with Chris Rock by when he (Chris) made a "GI Jane 2" joke about his (Will) wife Jada. Will Smith was laughing at first until he saw the facial expression of his wife who was not pleased with all about the joke. At that time Will went on stage and assaulted/smacked Chris Rock in front of the entire world.Questions to ask are:Was Will Smith Wrong?Did this leave a blemish on Will Smiths' Career on one of the most important nights of his career?Did he embarrass himself (Will) and his family?What negative backlash does it leave on Chris and Will (i.e. Jokes, Videos, MEMEs, ticktock, etc.)?Did this take away from all the other award winners, especially Will Parker who is the first black man to produce the Academy Awards?Well, at least we know one thing that came out of this...Will Smith could not take a joke but Chris Rock could take a punch.Listen in as we (DBazz, JD, Meach, Bazz, and Iman Saahir) speak on this crazy event.You can also see it on youtube - here.

Superbowl 2022 weekend the fellas and I just doing our normal annual Orlando trip as we have done in the past. It's a great opportunity for us to fellowship, hang out, laugh, smoke cigars, drink and little and just practice "Men Self Care".  Think about the term "Men Self Care" for a second...as a man are you getting that? WE ALL NEED IT! Life is stressful enough with the day-to-day challenges we face. It's always nice to be able to get away from time to time and reconnect with your dear friends in an environment that is conducive to your mental well-being. Well, I won't spoil the podcast anymore notes here - just listen to Eric, JD, Cory, and myself (Bazz) as we tap into the importance of Men Self Care.Another great podcast!

What is an Audible?  An audible is when a change is made from the original plan. In life, we should have the ability to adapt or change a plan on the fly if needed.For you football fans out there – when a QB comes to the line of scrimmage to run a play, he looks at the defensive and may or may not call an audible if he needs to change the play. This gives the QB a chance to be successful and either set his team up for another series of downs or a touchdown.Audibles can be called with family, friends, careers, and even relationships. Nevertheless, we do this all the time  with life…but the questions are:When and how often?So listen in with BJ, Big E, John, JD and myself (Bazz) as we talk through some of the audibles we've made in our lifetime and their impacts.  Watch it on YouTube here.

In this podcast, I am joined with my dear friend Tanisha Harris as we discuss the subject "Iceberg Success".Well simply put...the “Iceberg Theory of Success” helps us to realize that every famous or extraordinary successful person had to invest a lot of effort and work until this person achieved his/her goals.We only see the top layer or the final result. But it takes much more than just showing up or using your words in order to be successful. In order to be successful, it takes hard work, sacrifice, good habits, failure, persistence, being goal-oriented, focus, and risk. And even if this formula doesn't pan out as perfectly planned, it is your job to get up and keep trying.The original quote that sums it up by Jeffrey Fry is “Success is like an iceberg. Nobody sees the work that comprises it.”  Another great discussion -  I even learned a few things. Also, you can watch it on YouTube.Bazz

Let's Talk about Relationships. This has a significant impact on American culture. Relationships drive a billion-dollar retail industry (holidays, birthdays – and the big one Valentine's Day).But are relationships a necessity or a Luxury? Well, listen as JD, VirgoBlu, Big E, and myself (Bazz) discuss the differences between each two.We talk about the necessities in a relationship such as:IntimacyRomanceFriendship – The MOST importantTransparencyBeing Fully Present We also discuss luxuries which include:TimeMoneyResourcesRest / Peace of MindLastly, we cover "the fine print" of relationships...something we never look for when we get involved with someone.Check it out! This podcast is also on YouTube. Click here to view!

Listen in as Joe Dilla (JD) and myself (Bazz) - speak on the subject of "Marry Before You Carry"The data doesn't lie...Over the last few decades, marriage has been a declining institution among all Americans and this decline is even more evident in the Black community. In 2019 only 30% of African Americans were married compared to 48% of all Americans. Half or 50% of African Americans have never been married compared to 34% of all Americans.https://blackdemographics.com/households/marriage-in-black-america/ Currently, 74% of black women are having babies out of wedlock. https://singlemotherguide.com/single-mother-statistics/ In 2020, there were about 4.25 million Black families in the United States with a single mother. This is an increase from 1990 levels when there were about 3.4 million Black families with a single mother.https://www.statista.com/statistics/252847/number-of-children-living-with-a-single-mother-or-single-father/WE REALLY NEED TO FIGURE THIS OUT!Bazz

Shortly after my mom passed on Oct 30, 2019, I lost my dad almost exactly 8 months later on July 29, 2020.  He is missed and loved by many! My father was an honorable man of principle and he created a legacy for our family by changing our last name from Wallace to Shabazz. He was a husband, father, brother, son, cousin, uncle, and friend. He also was a minister with the Nation of Islam and a proud army veteran.  I invite you to listen in on this podcast as we capture some of the memorable times growing up with him and some of the life lessons we still carry today. Lastly, we recorded this podcast on this birthday (September 23, 2021). He would have been 85 years old at this time. So in closing We love and miss you dad - please listen from heaven as your sons (Dawud, Nasir, and myself) give you honor with this podcast.Al Salamu Alaykum Brother John 59X.

The Real Truth Behind Your SMV (Sexual Market Place Value).When you go to an auto dealer to purchase a car – what are some of the features you look for when researching?  Most people look for the Year, make, model, mileage, performance, comfort, features, maintenance frequency, etc. You have the sales price, then you have the bluebook value.Well...we do the same thing when it comes to people. We all have an SMV, but most of us don't understand what that really is. So I employ you to listen in on this podcast with Mika and Bazz and learn something. Maybe your value isn't what you think it is.SMV Questions for the listeners:How do women view attraction to a man? Youth/Status/Resources/Stability How do men view attraction on a woman? Looks/Youth/WombNow that's real! Lastly, we reference an SMV chart on this podcast which is located here.

In this world we live in everyone has a value. Some people place value on their career, items, experiences but not the same value on family. In this podcast, I ask my guests the million-dollar question "Is Your Price Tag Too High?" The responses are very interesting.So listen in as my guests (Eric, Mika, Boz, Kim, and LaTonia) share their views on relationships, a value of a person, and do modern women know how the value of a traditional man?Bazz

What is it? – Critical Race Theory is an academic concept that's more than 40 years old.  The core idea is that race is a social construct and that racism is not just a product of individual bias or prejudice, but is also systemic and embedded in our legal, political, economic, and sociological society that states patterns of racism are ingrained in all of these modern institutions. In other words, It is a framework Listen as we (Abdul, Kyla, James, BJ, Tory, and Bazz) answer the following questions about CRT:Why is it necessary to understand what CRT really is?Is it real?Should it be taught in schools (K-12)?How has this impacted the black community?Great conversation! This was also streamed live on YouTube, you can watch it here!Stay tuned for Part II.

First Corinthians 13:4-7Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.In a study done by – psychcentral.com in 2019 on 36 children on the effects of parental rejection (lack of love) on their child. All 36 studies reported the same conclusion. Children who felt rejected/unloved by their parents were more anxious, insecure, hostile, and aggressive towards others in comparison to those who weren't. Listen in as we (Bazz, Boz, and Streeter) discuss the following below:Defining love?What happens when a child is unloved?Is love the same as getting attention?What are the consequences of lack of affection?Why is this so important for Childhood development?Lastly – we discuss solutions on getting away from the enslaved feeling of inadequacy then you step into a realm of ways to learn to feel, give and receive real authentic love. This episode was also streamed live on YouTube.

Legally just because you marry someone does not mean you have any legal rights to the child immediately upon that marriage…You can provide for them.Feed them.Clothe them.Love them as your own.Provide Health and Dental Coverage, even life insurance.But even with all that said - you do not have the same rights as the biological parent. You're a second-class parent, but providing first-class benefits. Is that fair? Parents deal with:Behavioral problemsConflictsAttitudesChallenges with prioritiesDealing with the triggers of emotions when it came to their custodial parent.And Much MoreListen with Bazz, Breeze, and Isiah as we speak on this topic from a child and parent point of view, and check out this same podcast streamed on youtube - https://youtu.be/_bt_1XKqfRY.

Children are a blessing. They bring joy, love, value, and even education to our lives. We want to give them the best, we want them to not make the same mistakes we did growing up. So, we try to help them navigate life – helping them learn along the way. In some cases, they make us much better parents and people in general.Now on the other hand some children – not most but some can be disrespectful, ungrateful, entitled, and even narcissistic. They exemplify behaviors such as:Talking back / attitudeUn-appreciative of what they haveMaking demands (entitlement)Lack of ownership and knowing their role (i.e. chores, school)Not being responsible for their actionsDon't communicate (only call when they need something) / do not say “Thank you”.Join us as we (Eric, Breeze, Joe, Steve, and Bazz) talk about how we handle these family challenges and give recommendations on how to handle them.

This is the final episode of the Men of Fire Series - Part 3: What's Your Motivation To Keep Us Happy?This episode is also in video format on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/4YA836lNepcIn the beginning, we focus so much of our attention on the person we are dating/married to that we can sometimes make you lose focus of ourselves. Then, on the other hand, certain life events take place that can make you lose sight of your other half as well. Hey, I get it – life happens, but when we get off course, but why do we stay off?I call that “Getting attention but not maintaining retention”.So that’s basically what this podcast topic is about – how do we work on retaining each other in the relationship?  It sums up all the challenges we face in relationships with this issue. Now don't get me wrong we got tons of more to discuss but for now, check out this podcast and hear what we (Joe, Eric, John, Tory, and Bazz) have to share. You might find it a bit interesting.This episode is also in video format on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/4YA836lNepc

This is Part 2 of 3 of our Men of Fire Series titled: Defining a High-Value Man Most women want a good quality man, but does that include the traits of an HVM? Everyone's opinion is different and could be quite subjective. Nevertheless, we (Latonia, Big Boz, and Bazz) discuss in this podcast just that.  So check out some of the traits we researched online (www.lovequestcoaching.com ) and see if any of those apply to you.  MSO figured to be considered an HVM, they should have at least 9 out of the 12 listed below. These traits consist of:He communicates clearly.He’s clear on his intentions.He commits to himself and others.He makes over $120K a year for at least 3-5 years (not all high-earning men are high-value men) – can’t be High-Value and homeless.He loves putting forth effort for a woman.He makes plans and follows through.He CALLS and does not rely on TEXT.He is well knowledgeable in today’s current events (politics, news, etc.)He is a positive goal-driven individual.He doesn’t chase, he attracts.His car and home are clean.He’s fun and unique.Also, this podcast is streamed on YouTube. You can check out the video at: https://youtu.be/ZNBIvvq89_A Stay tuned for part 3.

Welcome to part one of a three-part series titled - Men on Fire: What Am I Asking A Man To do? This episode is also on YouTube - https://youtu.be/UUdICdnI_PILadies think about that for a second. Men are considered to be the priest, protectors, and providers of the home. If he is doing all of this, what more do you want out of him?So my questions for the men are:Are you being asked to go above and beyond for your family? Do they even appreciate what you do? Do you sometimes go without, so your family can have?How does it make you feel in the long run?How do you know if you are being appreciated in your home?For the women:How do you make your man feel appreciated? Does he even know? What are you doing to show him?Do you put your children before him? What's the proper "order of family"?Do you treat him as the Alpha male in your household?Well, join us in part one of this series as we (Eric, Big O, Izzy, Tamika, Fatty, Corey, and Bazz) discuss some of the bullet points above. Also, this is our very first streaming episode. You can see it here https://youtu.be/UUdICdnI_PI. We want to apologize in advance - you can't hear Bazz that well...first-time mic mistakes. MSO promises the next one will be on point.

This is Part III which will conclude our “cheating podcast series". Make sure you check out the previous two episodes (34 - Why Do People Cheat In Relationships & 35 - Sex, Sandwiches, and Silence).So what does "Shining In The Background” mean – simply put it's main chick vs side chick. The main chick is more visible to the public, official, and has priority in the relationship, but the side chick is always "shining in the background". Most men don't, and some men do have side chicks, why? What is the benefit of having a woman on the side? Is it greed? Is it conquering the challenge? Or is it because the side chick fills a void that's missing from the relationship? Well, listen in as I have a conversation with my guests (Tonia, Joe, and Tamika) on this topic. Also, on this episode, I have my first co-host (Tamika from the Hustle Goddess Blog Site) and she leads the discussion on the current controversy around Derrick Jaxn and the negative impact he's made on himself, and the disappointment of his fan base with the current actions of his cheating behavior.

Chris Rock Said it best “Feed me, F*ck me and then Shut the f*ck up”Men are simple creatures – our “wants are very simple” once we get them, we’re happy...or at least so we think. So let's explore some of the "wants" that can put a smile on a man's face and give me some solace he can look forward to in his relationship.They consist of:Food - It's always been said the way to a man's heart is his stomach - we'll test that theory.Sex - Although it's very important, and if you are in a serious relationship with your partner - there should be no limits and if so communicating them should be in order.Silence - Men fight enough battles outside the home, we don't need to fight them inside our comfort zone. Sometimes we just need silence to add to our internal "male care".So listen in on this discussion, as we (Eric, Tamika, Big O, Tessa, Fatty, Tonia, Joe, and myself - Bazz) talk about all three points above. You never know you may get a nugget or two out of the conversation. I will admit this podcast does get kind of explicit at some points, (so listen at your discretion). Nevertheless, this is Men Speaking Out - where we really talk to reveal not to conceal.

Why do people cheat in relationships?A study from May 2020 states that 20% of married couples and 70% of unmarried couples experience infidelity (basically CHEATING)! https://comparecamp.com/cheating-statistics/ WHY? Well, that's the subject of discussion on this episode. This age-old question is still a mystery to some people, especially to individuals in relationships who "feel" they are giving their partner 100% of them. Is it...frustration, neglect, lack of sex or interest, finances, no communication, etc. I employ you to listen in as we (Eric, Fatty, Corey, Tessa, Mika, and myself - Bazz) talk about some of the reasons why this happens, some of our very own experiences around this, and lastly a recommended solution on how to talk through these situations and continue to move forward with your relationship. A very good podcast!