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Want to grow personally? Do marriage with intention? Learn how to live mutually empowered, purposeful lives? Brave Marriage Podcast is committed to helping couples in their first few years of marriage do exactly that. Each week on the Brave Marriage Podcast, you’ll hear a short teaching from Kensi o…

Kensi Duszynski, LMFT, CPC


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    The Brave Marriage Podcast has been an absolute game-changer for my marriage. Working with Kensi through marriage therapy has radically transformed our relationship, and her podcast serves as a valuable maintenance tool to continue growing and staying accountable to the concepts we've learned in our sessions. This podcast is an amazing resource that I am incredibly grateful for!

    One of the best aspects of The Brave Marriage Podcast is how practical and relatable it is. Kensi tackles real-life struggles that couples face, offering practical advice and wisdom for navigating those challenges. The episodes are short but packed with valuable insights, making it easy to fit them into a busy schedule. I especially appreciate the family of origin section, which has helped my husband and me learn about ourselves and each other on a deeper level.

    Perhaps the only downside to this podcast is that once I catch up on all the episodes, I'll have to wait for new ones to come out on Mondays. It's addicting to listen to Kensi's words of wisdom and encouragement, so having to wait for new content might be a bit disappointing. However, considering the wealth of information already available, this is only a minor inconvenience.

    In conclusion, The Brave Marriage Podcast is an incredible resource for anyone looking to improve their marriage or strengthen their relationship. Kensi's expertise shines through in every episode, providing valuable insights and actionable steps for growth. Whether you're in a great place in your marriage or struggling, this podcast can be eye-opening and encouraging. I highly recommend it to all my friends and family members who want to invest in their relationships. Thank you, Kensi, for creating such meaningful, practical, and enjoyable advice in a podcast format!



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    Knowing and Being Known w/ Rev. Dr. Erin Moniz - Ep. 144

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2025


    Today, I'm talking with Rev. Dr. Erin Moniz about her new book, Knowing and Being Known: Hope For All Our Intimate Relationships. We discuss the relational problems she was seeing in her work with emerging adults, the better questions those problems led her to, a rich theology of intimacy, and its implications for our marriages, families, and faith communities. The book releases May 6, 2025 and is available for pre-order now!Buy on AmazonBuy from the PublisherSave on Bookshop!Mutuality Matters w/ Blake Dean and Rev. Erin Moniz

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    The Marriage You Want w/ Dr. Keith & Sheila Wray Gregoire - Ep. 143

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2025 35:30


    Happy spring (2025), Brave Marriage listeners! Dropping into your podcast feed for a timely interview with Dr. Keith & Sheila Wray Gregoire on their new book, The Marriage You Want. Their matched pair survey revealed: -healthy habits for married couples-the importance of sharing mental load -the effect of entitlement on mindset and marriage Pre-order their book on Amazon or order through Baker Books for a 30% discount!

    She Deserves Better - Ep. 142

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2023 33:43


    Hey Brave Marriage Podcast listeners! Dropping in an episode with friend of the show and former podcast guest, Sheila Wray Gregoire. Sheila and her team at Bare Marriage have written a new book for millennial mothers and daughters called She Deserves Better. Their latest book builds upon a lot of the research outcomes they published in The Great Sex Rescue, and answers the question that many are asking the evangelical church which is: “Where do we go from here?”If you're not familiar with her work, Sheila Wray Gregoire is the face behind the largest single-blogger marriage blog, which was rebranded a few years ago to Bare Marriage. With her witty, no-nonsense approach, Sheila and her team are passionate about changing the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage to line up with kingdom principles. Sheila is based in Ontario, Canada, where she lives with her husband and has two adult daughters and two grandchildren. Resource Links:Ep. 142 - A Couple's Guide to Great SexShe Deserves BetterThe Great Sex RescueBare Marriage BlogSelf of the Therapist (Kensi's Substack)Podcast Editing by: Kensi & Evan DuszynskiMusic by: John Tibbs

    A Couple's Guide to Great Sex w/ Dr. Keith & Sheila Wray Gregoire - Ep. 141

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2022 0:34


    Dr. Keith and Sheila Wray Gregoire join us for a healthy conversation about married sex that combines Scripture AND research. If you want to resolve to have better sex this spring, go pre-order their new books (releasing March 15th)! RESOURCE LINKS:The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexThe Good Girl's Guide to Great SexThe Great Sex RescueOrgasm & Libido Online Courses Bare Marriage PodcastSheila's Sex and Marriage BlogPodcast Editing by: Evan DuszynskiMusic by: John Tibbs

    The Blessed Alliance w/ Carolyn Custis James - Ep. 140

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2022 65:57


    Carolyn Custis James talks to us about The Blessed Alliance; the real purpose of the marriage between men and women in light of the mission of God; and the Bible as a foreign text set in the context of patriarchy. It's a conversation you don't want to miss!RESOURCE LINKS:carolyncustisjames.comMalestrom: Manhood Swept into the Currents of a Changing WorldHalf the Church: Recapturing God's Global Vision for WomenWhen Life and Beliefs Collide: How Knowing God Makes a DifferenceThe Gospel of Ruth: Loving God Enough to Break the RulesPodcast Editing by: Evan DuszynskiMusic by: John TibbsRESOURCE LINKS:carolyncustisjames.comMalestrom: Manhood Swept into the Currents of a Changing WorldHalf the Church: Recapturing God's Global Vision for WomenWhen Life and Beliefs Collide: How Knowing God Makes a DifferenceThe Gospel of Ruth: Loving God Enough to Break the RulesPodcast Editing by: Evan DuszynskiMusic by: John Tibbs

    Mutuality Matters w/ Blake Dean & Reverend Erin Moniz

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2021 54:25


    Reverend Erin Moniz and Blake Dean talk to us about why mutuality matters for Christian couples, for the church at large, and how it's impacted their marriages in different stages. If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to tune in to the Mutuality Matters Podcast, part of the CBE International media network!RESOURCE LINKS:CBE InternationalMutuality Matters PodcastPodcast Editing by: Evan Duszynski, MAMusic by: John Tibbs

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    Another Look at Ephesians 5 - Ep. 138

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2021 32:14


    When read in light of Aristotle's household codes, Ephesians 5 means something completely different than what we've made it mean today. If Christ is the head and collectively, we are the body and bride of Christ, what does this mean for the way we live out our faith, our family relationships, and our fellowship with the family of God? If you've learned something new here and are enjoying this series on “Marriage, Mutuality, and Gender Roles,” please leave a rating & review!Podcasting by: Kensi Duszynski, MA, LMFT, CPCEditing by: Evan Duszynski, MAMusic by: John Tibbs

    Equality in Marriage & Ministry w/ Brandon & Haley Weaver - Ep. 137

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2021 49:23


    Relationships...In the Beginning - Ep. 136

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2021 36:37


    In the beginning, God was good. He created us for intimacy, co-dominion, and co-stewardship of His creation. Male-female relationships and marriage may have gotten distorted after the Fall, but in the beginning, it was not so. Listen in to hear what Genesis 1-3 has to say about God Himself; God's original design for humanity; and God's plan for salvation following the consequences of sin. You might be surprised to learn what's actually in the creation narratives…and what's not. If you've learned something new here and are enjoying this series on “Marriage, Mutuality, and Gender Roles,” please leave a rating & review!Podcasting by: Kensi Duszynski, MA, LMFT, CPCEditing by: Evan Duszynski, MAMusic by: John TibbsFULL TRANSCRIPT:Welcome back to the Brave Marriage Podcast! Thank you so much for your earnest desire to grow as individuals, do marriage with intention, and live a mutually empowered, purposeful life in Christ. I'm really glad to be working my way through this series with you and really encouraged by some of the conversations I've been having lately. In upcoming weeks, we will get into a few interviews where we'll dive more deeply into marriage and mutuality, but today, we're covering marriage in the Creation account and after the Fall. I believe last episode, I said I'd cover Ephesians 5 as well, but that was a little ambitious, I found, and so that episode will drop on Monday, November 29th. And the reason I wanted to include these biblical teachings in a series on marriage, mutuality, and gender roles, is because I think for many of us, we've heard these passages so much that we often don't even hear them for what they actually say, or we hear these verses so piece-milled to prove a point, that we don't even understand their context. So what I'm hoping is that the questions posed in the last episode encouraged you toward your own reading of Scripture, because today, we'll be diving into it together with fresh eyes and ears. Let's start by taking a look at the Creation accounts in Genesis 1 and 2: Genesis 1:26-31 says:“Then God said, ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.' [So notice, when God says, ‘let us make man in our image, and after our likeness,' He's referring to the relationality between Father, Son, and Holy Spirit—whom we know as the Triune God. The word man used there is adam in Hebrew, and the them is ha'adam in Hebrew. It's plural for humanity or mankind. And Scripture says that God made humans to have dominion over the earth and other created creatures—not dominion over each other.]So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. [In other words, from the Hebrew, God created mankind, in the image of God he created mankind; male and female he created mankind.]And God blessed them. And God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.' And God said, ‘Behold, I have given you every plant yielding seed that is on the face of all the earth, and every tree with seed in its fruit. You shall have them for food. And to every beast of the earth and to every bird of the heavens and to everything that creeps on the earth, everything that has the breath of life, I have given every green plant for food.' And God saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good.”So in the first creation narrative, here in chapter 1, we have the Creator God, who in the Hebrew in chapter one, is referred to as Elohim. Elohim, God, we're told, created the earth and humanity in His image. And compared to other creation accounts at the time, this God was described quite differently. For one, He was one—3-in-1; secondly, He was a good God; and third, He was a relational God, completely unified within Himself. In chapter 1, we're zoomed out a bit, seeing how this all-powerful, relational-within-and-between-Himself God created the entire universe. If you can, imagine a movie that begins with a look at earth from outer space. From this aerial vantage point, we see that this God completed His work with the creation of humanity, instructing them to be fruitful, to multiply, to create, to rule, to subdue, and take care of the earth He created. And only after God created male and female—humans in His image—and instructed them to steward the earth for His glory, did this Creator God proclaim His creation “very good.”Here's how I read that: In contrast to other renderings of the text I've heard, woman isn't the epitome or the icing on the cake of creation, nor is man the “cake” itself, or instructed to bear the weight of the world alone. It wasn't the man or woman whom God called very good; rather, it was the fullness of His image and His instructions to man and woman to be like Him (relational beings who were to be procreative and co-creative and stewards of His creation) that God called very good. But even more important than that, in my view, is the point of chapter one, the reason why males and females have meaning and purpose and see themselves in this story at all, and it's this: in contrast to other beliefs about creation and different deities, the Hebrew people believed in a relational, monotheistic, Triune God who wasn't afraid or threatened to create humanity in His own image, as other gods are portrayed, who valued human life so as not to engage in human sacrifice, as other religions did, and who created both man and woman with free will, whereas other creation narratives cite the creation of woman as a necessary evil, the gods' punishment to men for their arrogance. Instead, the God of the Bible is loving toward His creation, values human life, gives humans free will, and instructs both men and women to rule, fill, and subdue the earth. This is a story about an all-powerful deity who created man and woman to be in relationship, to bear the fullness of His image, including, in how we act upon the created earth together. Now, as we take a look at the second creation account in Genesis 2:15-25, I want you to imagine we're zooming in, moving from a distant view of the earth or an aerial view of the earth, to a zoomed-in, up-close, and personal look at the creation of man and woman. So imagine, revisiting the creation of humanity on the sixth day, and this time, we'll get to know God not just as Creator and relational-within-Himself, but as the personal God of Israel, who is also very much relational-with-us. Starting with verse 15: “The LORD God [that is, Yahweh Elohim] took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it. And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, ‘You may surely eat of every tree of the garden, but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.' Then the LORD God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.' [Why? Because as we saw in chapter 1, God is a relational God and we are created in His image. Verse 19…] “Now out of the ground the LORD God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them [right, here we get this picture of a personal God who meets the man, who brings things to Adam to see what he will name them. It's like God is delighting to watch Adam create as God had instructed him to.] And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him.”Meaning, he was creating and ruling and stewarding the earth alone, outside of a relationship with someone like him. But remember, in Genesis 1:26-31, God did not call creation completed until male and female were both created and both co-creating.Now in Hebrew, a ‘helper fit' or a ‘helper suitable' is translated as ezer kenegdo, meaning “a strength, an aid, or an ally who is like”, not a help who is subpar or who does a husband's bidding. I was in a book club a few years ago where a woman, a pastor's wife, shared that back when her husband was pastoring, they attended a marriage conference for pastors and pastors' wives, where the speaker likened the husband-wife relationship to the relationship between a CEO and his executive assistant. But if the speaker had taken a look at the Hebrew, rather than just putting his own capitalistic cultural spin on the text, he would have discovered that the word helper, or ezer in Hebrew, is used 21 different times in the Old Testament to describe God's strength and aid to Israel! So I can hardly imagine that what God had in mind when He said, ‘I will make an ezer who is suitable to, and like Adam,' is a female secretary for Adam. Furthermore, if God Himself is an ezer, and if the Trinity is 3-in-1, equal in power and glory, this has significant implications for the way men and women are to partner to bear the fullness of His image. Let's keep going, verse 21…“So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, ‘This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman [ishah in Hebrew], because she was taken out of Man [ish in Hebrew].' Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.”As I read this, God delights to see the man respond to the woman He places in front of him. The animals got named; the woman got a poem in verse 23, which is what that indentation represents in your Bible as you read it. And the man essentially says, “at last, I have a help who is like, yet somehow, different from me, so that now, I am fully created in the image of God because now, I am in relationship, not just with God, but also with someone like me—a help who is like me.” And jumping back to Genesis 1:28, this is where God blesses mankind. This is where God gives His instructions to humanity to be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth and subdue it, while ruling over the earth and its creatures. So in the garden, in God's perfect plan for creation and for humanity, there is intimacy—between God and humanity, between man and woman, between husband and wife. There is love, there is relationship, and there is procreativity, co-creativity, and co-dominion over other created creatures, but not over each other.This is Eden. This is the picture of male-female relationality, of co-leadership in respect to the earth, and of co-servanthood in respect to God. Right? God did not create us for hubris, dictatorship, or human oppression on the one hand, nor did He create us for self-degradation, powerlessness, or purposelessness on the other; he created us for intimacy, relationship, and mutual empowerment as we co-labor with Him and with each other. But then, we get to chapter 3 and everything goes awry. The serpent enters the picture, man and woman sin, the woman is deceived, the man says nothing and blames Eve, and the consequences of the Fall enter in. Let's take a look at Genesis 3 from the New American Standard Version.“Now the serpent was more cunning than any animal of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said to the woman, “Has God really said, ‘You shall not eat from any tree of the garden'?”Notice here, the contrast between the writer of Genesis, who cites the personal name of God, Yahweh, or LORD God, and the serpent, who refers to God as Elohim, God rather than LORD God. Right, the serpent, representative of Satan, is even deceptive in his language, distancing the woman from God in the way that he's framing Him, even before casting doubt as to what God said. So she then picks up his language. “The woman said to the serpent, ‘From the fruit of the trees of the garden we may eat; but from the fruit of the tree which is in the middle of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat from it or touch it, or you will die.'”The serpent said to the woman, “You certainly will not die! For God knows that on the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will become like God, knowing good and evil.”When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took some of its fruit and ate; and she also gave some to her husband with her, and he ate.”Now, we have the gift of hindsight and more importantly, Jesus, to help us see where Eve went wrong here, and what led man and woman to sin. As John recounted in 1 John 2:16, it was “the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the boastful pride of life” that led Eve, and Adam, to sin—these things, we're told as not coming from the Father but rather, from the world.So the strategy I see in the serpent here is: 1) Create discomfort and discontentment. 2) Create distance between God and His people by twisting the Word of God. 3) Lure them in with worldly things (the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the boastful pride of life) and lead them to doubt God's good plan, nature, words, and intentions toward them. 4) Wait for them to choose disconnection and disobedience to the LORD God, their personal connection to the Father. And what's wild is that we see this same old strategy that satan used with the woman, used with Jesus, in Mark chapter 4. Before Jesus began his earthly ministry, he was led into the wilderness and tempted by the devil himself. And after 40 days and nights of fasting and growing weak in the flesh, the devil starts into Jesus. First, he tempted Jesus by questioning His relationship and sonship to the Father, saying in Mark 4:3: “If You are the Son of God, command that these stones become bread”—the lust of the flesh. But amazingly, in His hunger (at least to me, because I am good for nothing when I'm hungry, just ask my husband) Jesus said to his tempter: “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes out of the mouth of God.'” Second, the devil tempted Jesus by asking him to stand on the pinnacle of the temple in the holy city, saying:“If You are the Son of God, throw Yourself down; for after all, You know it is written that ‘God will give His angels orders concerning You…On their hands they will lift You up, so that You don't even strike Your foot against a stone”—the boastful pride of life. But not pulling one past Jesus, Jesus replied: “On the other hand, it is written: ‘You shall not put the LORD your God to the test.” And third, Mark 4:8 says that: “Again, the devil took Him along to a very high mountain and showed Him all the kingdoms of the world and their glory; and he said to Jesus, ‘All these things I will give You, if You fall down and worship me'—the lust of the eyes. But thankfully, Jesus said to him, ‘Go away, Satan! For it is written: ‘You shall worship the Lord your God, and serve Him only.'”So Jesus shows us what could've been said here, by the man or the woman in the garden, seeing as how they were both right there when the serpent made his case. They could have said: “Serpent, we have everything we need, every green plant and tree for food, not to mention a perfect, loving relationship with God.” They could have said, “on the other hand,” like Jesus did, “God told us to be fruitful and have dominion over the earth, not to be ruled by it.” They could have said, “Go away, Satan! For God has created us, blessed us, instructed us to be like Him!” But they didn't. And so, jumping back into Genesis 3:7…“Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves waist coverings.Now they heard the sound of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God among the trees of the garden.So there they were, having been emotionally, spiritually, relationally, and volitionally disobedient to God, after first being distanced and distracted from Him…and here comes God in His personal, present nature (noting the shift in language back to the use of LORD God, Yahweh Elohim) desiring to talk with them and be in relationship with them both. Verse 3:9:“Then the LORD God called to the man, and said to him, “Where are you?”Okay, God knew where the man was, but because He's a personal God, He wanted the man to show himself.He said, “I heard the sound of You in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid myself.”Now, someone recently told me that what they've primarily been taught about these few verses goes something like this, “Who does God come to after Adam and Eve sin? Does God come to the woman? No, He comes to the man to take ownership for his family. So men, God is going to come to you and expect you to take responsibility for your wife and kids. That is your job.” But a few things to note about this widespread spin on Scripture: 1) This is a wild extrapolation out from the text and what it actually says. 2) Telling men to be men of God and to lead their families toward kingdom-living is one thing. But it's really easy to move from a posture of, “Men, let's be intentional about making disciples of the next generation” to “Men, you should be ashamed of yourselves and better for your wife and kids.” The message of the Gospel is that the Son of God died and was resurrected for us all, to free us up to co-lead, as God originally intended, and to free us up from the weight of our sin and guilt to shame so that we might live more fully and freely in Christ, with that translating into our families, not a message of guilt and shame. And listen, this is a spiritual formation issue for those spreading this message. So whoever is spreading these messages without really thinking about what's being communicated to men, can we please stop teaching men (and women) that this is the Gospel? Christ did not die for good Christian men to give themselves a hard time and try to man up as if, on the other side of redemption, they still need to earn God's respect, love, or approval of their worth (because God has already given it)! Christ also died that men and women, husbands and wives, might have a chance at healthy, intimate relationship again, as before the Fall, through Him—not to be stoic and distant or overly-responsible or placating and pacifying of their wives! That is not biblical, that is cultural. It's an unhealthy teaching that doesn't reflect Christ so much as it reflects the Pharisees, and it's messing otherwise healthy families up. So back to Genesis 3: God calls out to the man, and the man replies not with stoicism or self-degradation, saying, “God, I know I'm worthless, I know I need to be a better man and just, man up and measure up.” The man first responds to God here with vulnerability, saying, “I heard you, God, I knew you were present, and honestly, I was afraid. I was embarrassed and ashamed of my nakedness, and so I hid from Your presence.”And again, based on lots of teachings in the church, we would now expect God to deliver His wrath. But God doesn't. God moves in, and treats the man like a Father would. He asks questions, He's about to discipline, yet, but He engages the man and woman in a personal, relational way. “And He said, ‘Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree from which I commanded you not to eat?'”Now he's being confronted for his actions. And this is where the guilt, shame, and blame come in. Because it can be hard to look at ourselves in light of a good, gracious, perfect, holy, powerful, loving Father. But it's hard to look at ourselves not because our Father is pointing a finger or has unrealistic expectations of us (He merely asked a question). It's because we feel the weight of our sin, and when we do, we turn inward on ourselves (shame) or we turn outward on others (blame). “The man said, ‘The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me some of the fruit of the tree, and I ate.'Then the LORD God said to the woman, ‘What is this that you have done?'”Again, this is the God of the universe who is treating the woman, now, like a Father, and engaging her directly to get the full story (even though He already knows, can any parents relate?) “And the woman said, ‘The serpent deceived me, and I ate.'”Imagine this. Imagine you have a son and daughter. Adam is your firstborn and Eve is your second-born. And you conceived (because you're human) and created little Adam and Eve in love, and so they bear your resemblance, and you've given every good thing you have to them. You've raised them on acres and acres of property, apple orchards and vineyards and orange groves that you are delighted for them to roam in and play in and eat from to their little hearts' content. Now these fruit groves are a result of your own work, the benefit of your labor, but just by being born into your family, they're heirs of what you created. And they're your kids, so you're pleased to have them delight in all that you've provided for them. The only thing you've instructed them not to do—for the sake of their lives and relationship with you—is eat the fruit from one single tree among thousands on your property. But in striking up a conversation with a snake on your property, what do they go and do? They eat from it. They disobey you. They question your judgment, your reasoning, they mistrust your heart for them, and they deny a thousand good gifts you've given them in exchange for something you know they can't handle. Okay, so if this were you, how would you be feeling? Maybe you've been here before with your own children. Does that scenario evoke feelings of frustration, disappointment, hurt? A desire to protect them from that stupid snake? Let's jump back into the story: “Then the LORD God said to the serpent, “Because you have done this, cursed are you more than all the livestock, and more than any animal of the field; on your belly you shall go, and dust you shall eat all the days of your life; and I will make enemies of you and the woman, and of your offspring and her Descendant (that is, Jesus); He shall bruise you on the head, and you shall bruise Him on the heel.”So before turning His attention to punish or curse or incur His wrath upon the man and woman, God curses the serpent. He deals with him first, letting him know that spiritually, there will come a day when Jesus is born and deals directly with the serpent and his demons, as well as make a way for the children of God to be redeemed and righted in their relationship with the Father. God so loved the world that the first three things He did after Adam and Eve sinned was talk to Adam and Eve about it, deal with the one who hurt and deceived His children, and promise to make a way through Jesus for His children to be reconciled to Him. Verse 16…“To the woman He said, “I will greatly multiply your pain in childbirth, in pain you shall deliver children; yet your desire will be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.”Then to Adam, in verse 17:He said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree about which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat from it'; cursed is the ground because of you; with hard labor you shall eat from it all the days of your life. Both thorns and thistles it shall grow for you; yet you shall eat the plants of the field; by the sweat of your face you shall eat bread, until you return to the ground, because from it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return.”So, as a result of sin and the curses God gives, we immediately see the consequences for both women and men: for the woman, the hardship of her labor; for the man, the hardship of his labor; and for both, the challenge of oneness and intimacy. Remember, God told the couple back in Genesis 1:26, “Be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the other creatures I created!” But the consequence of sin was that the woman would play her part in the creation mandates with difficulty—with pain in bearing children, with a heart that would tend to desire her husband's approval and lordship over God's. Likewise, the husband would play his part in the creation mandates with difficulty—with pain, sweat, and toil in his work, and with a heart that would tend to desire to rule over his wife instead of co-ruling over creation with her. Read the text. There's no hint of headship before the Fall; it's only introduced after the fall along with everything else we are still struggling with today as Christians in a fallen state and fallen world. Now, this is a marriage podcast, so I want to focus on the interpersonal couple dynamic for a second. In my practice, this is what I address: the sever in relational intimacy, issues of power imbalance, and desires that tend to move couples in unhealthy, dysfunctional directions—rather than to God first, and toward each other, second. This is another part that's interesting to me, and I first heard this come from Bruce C.E. Fleming, author of Made in Eden. God doesn't directly curse Adam, nor does He directly curse Eve. What He does is, He curses the serpent in response to Eve's confession and blaming of the serpent. And He curses the ground, in response to Adam's confession and blame of both God and Eve! So even though from the point of the Fall on, the man and woman lived under the curse, God still treated the actual man and woman with love, with protection, and with discipline, as a Father would his own children. This is consistent with the good, loving, just nature of God. Back to verse 20: “Now the man named his wife Eve, because she was the mother of all the living.And the LORD God made garments of skin for Adam and his wife, and clothed them.Then the LORD God said, “Behold, the man has become like one of Us, knowing good and evil; and now, he might reach out with his hand, and take fruit also from the tree of life, and eat, and live forever”—therefore the LORD God sent him out of the Garden of Eden, to cultivate the ground from which he was taken.So He drove the man out; and at the east of the Garden of Eden He stationed the cherubim and the flaming sword which turned every direction to guard the way to the tree of life.”So even after all this, God is still gracious, just as a loving parent would be. He clothes Adam and Eve. He provides for them. He delivers consequences, yes, but He makes a way for them to live. So here, we have the beginning of civilization as we know it, with Adam being instructed to cultivate the ground from which he was taken, and Adam and Eve co-partnering and co-parenting within the consequences of the Fall and their sin. And the rest of Genesis is a collection of stories about how good and gracious and unlike other gods, Yahweh is, and how dysfunctional families are as a result of sin, until in the midst of our broken and fallen state, God's grace and goodness intervenes. Now, I want to take you from Genesis…all the way to the last chapter of Revelation to see if you observe any parallels between the two depictions of the garden city. In chapter 22:1-3, John writes:“Then the Angel showed me the river of the water of life, as clear as crystal, flowing from the throne of God and of the Lamb down the middle of the great street of the city. On each side of the river stood the tree of life, bearing twelve crops of fruit, yielding its fruit every month. And the leaves of the tree are for the healing of the nations. No longer will there be any curse. The throne of God and of the Lamb will be in the city, and His servants will serve Him.” So, remember that tree of life that God protected after creation? Well, here we see it again at the end of time, except this time, without any curse, with trees that consistently bear good fruit for healing, and with God's servants serving not themselves or their own agendas—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, or their boastful pride for life—but serving Him, as the throne of God and the Lamb dwell among God's servants in the garden city of God. So, if all 66 books of the Bible comprise this meta-narrative, the story of God and His desire to save us, to give us eternal life, and to be in relationship with us—not because He has needs like us, but just because He's a good Father—then where are we currently in that story, and what does that mean for our lives and relationships? Well, Jesus, the Son of God is the climax of this story. As we talked about last episode, the Son of God willingly took on flesh, dwelt among us, taught us how to live and how to die, becoming the substitutionary atonement for our sins, replacing the required animal sacrifices from the OT with Himself, the once and for all, redeeming Lamb of God. Jesus came not to nullify the Old Testament law, but to fulfill the Scriptures and show us the Spirit of the law. He taught us that the greatest commandment is to love the Lord our God with all of our heart, soul, mind, strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves. Then, He died, was resurrected, and ascended into heaven, leaving us with the Holy Spirit to empower us to live faithfully as His bride, the church. So as His Church, His body, His bride, we now live in this in-between state where Christ has come to redeem us, forgive us, and make a way for us to live in Him, as servants of Him, now, before He returns….but the end has not yet come. We still live in a world impacted by the curse and the consequences of sin, even as we live as believers with the Holy Spirit to empower us to live as Jesus showed us how to live, and as Jesus taught us to live. Which begs the question…how then shall we live? I had a really great conversation with Evan last night after giving a talk to college students on partnership in marriage, and Evan was saying, “you know, the picture God gave us for relationship before the Fall was loving Him and loving each other. Then the Fall happened. But what does God tell Moses, and what does Moses tell Israel? To love God and to love each other. And what does Jesus tell His disciples and followers to do? To love God and love each other. So the picture of Adam and Eve in the garden is what we, as Christ followers today, and as married couples in particular, should be aiming for in our relationships with one another.” And I wanted to share his thoughts with you because I couldn't have said it better myself. The whole story of Scripture illustrates our journey as humans toward the kingdom of God, and in a sense, back to the original state.In upcoming weeks, you'll hear from authors, pastors, and podcasters regarding their thoughts on Scripture, gender equality, and mutuality in marriage. All coming from different places and stages of life and marriage, and I can't wait for you to hear from them. So tune in next time, where I'll talk to a couple in ministry together, who will share some of their thoughts on what Scripture has to show us and on what God has to offer us through his designing us for co-leadership and mutual submission in marriage. Thanks, friends, for joining me today. You all know I'm passionate about teaching mutuality in marriage, and so if you've learned something new in this series, please, please hit the share link and text this to a friend. It would also mean a lot to me if you would take a quick second to rate and review the podcast. I spend hours on it each and every time and I'd be grateful for your feedback and letting others know if you enjoyed it. This has been episode 136 of the Brave Marriage Podcast. I'm your host, Kensi Duszynski. Podcast editing is by Evan Duszynski. And music is by John Tibbs. Have a great week, everyone, and I'll talk to you again soon.

    Egalitarianism - Ep. 135

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2021 29:03


    What is egalitarianism? How is it different from complementarianism? On this episode, we explore what true equality in Christ means for us all, and how it should lead us to mutuality—in the home, in the church, and in the world. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review the podcast! To work with Kensi Duszynski, MA, LMFT, CPC, visit bravemarriage.com.

    Complementarianism - Ep. 134

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2021 39:39


    What is complementarianism? Where did it begin? What are the practical effects of its teachings on real life couples and Christian communities? And how do we, as Christian couples and communities, do the most good and the least harm when it comes to how and what we teach? Tune in and stay tuned to engage in this conversation.

    For Better or Worse: Christian Teachings on Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2021 30:49


    What have some of the most popular authors and speakers on Christian marriage had to say over the past 5 decades? We'll talk what's good, what's bad, and what we've believed to be true—before questioning our assumptions about what we've been taught God wants for our marriage relationships.

    Doing Marriage with Intention w/ Steve & Twyla Lee - Ep. 132

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2021 70:42


    Join me in conversation with Steve and Twyla Lee as we talk about their 47 years of marriage experience, plus 30 years of professional experience as Christians who work in the social sciences. As my first marriage and family studies professors, I had the privilege of learning from them personally and professionally as well. Today, they work with premarital couples all over the US at intentionalrelationships.org. 0 Likes

    The Emergence of Complementarity and the Love-Based Marriage - Ep. 130

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2021 18:47


    SHOW NOTES:Did you know that the concept of marrying for love is only 200-300 years old? In this episode, we trace the love-based marriage back to its roots in the Enlightenment. Here, we'll discover the emergence of complementarity as a way for society to promote social order and marriage cohesion in this brave new world, which rocked the five millennia -long foundation of the patriarchal structuring of marriage, family, and society. We'll also explore the idea that while secular culture abandoned complementarity within gender hierarchy after the 1950s, certain parts of the evangelical church locked it in instead of envisioning a better way forward for Christian couples and families in the 20th-21st centuries. Book list and resource links can be found in the full transcript at bravemarriage.com/podcast.

    How the 1950s Defined Marriage as We Know It - Ep. 130

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 9, 2021 14:53


    I decided to start this conversation with a little understanding of history; specifically, how the 1950s defined marriage and split-sphere gender roles as we know them today. Together, we'll consider this question: If Paul tells us in Romans 12:2 not to conform to the patterns of this world, then why does so much of what we're taught today in the church reflect the culture of marriage in 1950s America rather than mirroring Christ?Book list and resource links can be found in the full transcript at bravemarriage.com/podcast.

    Welcome Back to Season 2 - Ep. 129

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 2, 2021 11:12


    BMP is back for a second season! Join Kensi Duszynski this fall as she facilitates a conversation around marital health, relational dynamics, and the proper place of gender roles in Christian marriage. Conversations will take place biweekly.To learn more, visit bravemarriage.com.

    Pressing Pause on the Podcast - Ep. 128

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 4, 2021 8:09


    That’s right, folks. I’m pressing pause on the podcast for the moment. Thank you for sharing a small part of your week with me, and thanks for your understanding after listening to this episode! I’d love to leave you with a gift though…because if last year taught us anything, it’s that life is precious, people are not to be taken for granted, and despite the circumstances that are out of our control, there’s still so much we desire out of life. As such, I’ve created a “Reflection & Life Inventory” guide to help you take stock of last year, the one the lies ahead, and the life you intend to live and look back on with peace, love, and joy. To access that free guide, visit bravemarriage.com/2021To stay in touch while the podcast is on pause, visit bravemarriage.com/quiz

    The Practice of Being Present - Ep. 127 (Stress Management Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 21, 2020 13:47


    New! Stress Management Series to help you (and me) through the end of the year. Based on a talk given earlier this year, Kensi gives practical tools to practice presence and connect with God and others in the process. To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week, Evan Duszynski for podcast editing, & you listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Breathing Techniques - Ep. 126 (Stress Management Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 14, 2020 12:01


    New! Stress Management Series to help you (and me) through the end of the year. Based on a talk given earlier this year, Kensi gives practical tools and breathing techniques to manage stress and connect with God in the process. To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week, Evan Duszynski for podcast editing, & you listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    4 Ways to Take a Break (Stress Management Series) - Ep. 125

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 7, 2020 11:32


    New! Stress Management Series to help all of us through the end of the year. Based on a talk given earlier this year, Kensi gives practical tools to manage stress and connect with God in the process. Sabbath Resources:Breathe, Priscilla ShirerSacred Rhythms, Haley Ruth BartonGarden City, Jon Mark ComerSabbath as Resistance, Walter BruegemannTo work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week, Evan Duszynski for podcast editing, & you listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Boundaries Around Disrespect - Ep. 124 (Boundaries Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2020 19:50


    If your spouse is disrespectful, and/or you find yourself treating your spouse the same way, then it’s time to set some real relational boundaries for the protection of your mental and emotional health. Below are some questions to ask and next steps to take as you think through setting unilateral boundaries:Identity: Am I relying on others’ praise to fill me up or give me a sense of self? Am I caving in any way to the criticism of others and believing what they say over what God says of me? In what ways do I need to place more of my worth and value in who God says I am? With whom do I need to set a boundary?Disrespect: Where do you need to set a boundary for yourself around defensiveness, criticism, contempt, or stonewalling? Which ones do you engage in and how can you catch yourself earlier on when you start to feel flooded, to stay in control of your reactions? Likewise, where do you need to set a boundary with your spouse? In what ways have you found yourself undermining your spouse? In what ways have you experienced your spouse undermining you? Move forward with setting your boundaries. Example: “I understand that you’re upset, but I can’t hear what you’re saying when you phrase it like that. The way you’re saying it is too hurtful to sink in. Now, I’d like to better understand where you’re coming from, but for me, we need to put this conversation on hold until both of us are calm, things are expressed differently, and I can better hear what you’re trying to say.” And then, follow through on your boundary! If your spouse won’t let it alone, reinforce your earlier statement. “I told you, I am not capable of having a conversation like this, so I’m walking away or taking some time until we can come back together and talk productively.”Bad Behavior: Here are a few linked resources with phone numbers to help:Domestic Violence Hotline + Support: 1-800-799-7233Substance Abuse Hotline + Support: 1-800-662-4357Mental Health Helpline + Resources: 1-800-950-6264To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week, Evan Duszynski for podcast editing, & you listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Boundaries Within Your Relationship - Ep. 123 (Boundaries Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 9, 2020 16:29


    Have you ever created or expressed boundaries in your marriage? If not, learning how to create and set boundaries within your relationship may be the key to keeping it healthy. On today’s episode, we discuss setting boundaries around time, space, and decision-making. Here are the questions posed throughout the episode to discuss within your relationship:Time: How do you each prefer to spend your time? Are you and your spouse making it a priority to get the time and space you need to recharge and refuel so that you can be your best for those around you? If not, how can you work together to create some boundaries around your time that lead to mutual happiness in your marriage? Space: How much space do you desire to have in the morning? After work? After a full day with the kids? During conflict? What’s a reasonable boundary you two could set in each of these areas, given your current stage and season of life? Decision-Making: To what degree do you listen to and consider your spouse in the decision-making process? To what degree do you assert your needs, wants, and desires in the decision-making process? What is your partner’s perspective? How can you each set a boundary that better includes the both of you in the decision-making process?To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week, Evan Duszynski for podcast editing, & you listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Boundaries Around Your Relationship - Ep. 122 (Boundaries Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2020 17:34


    Three boundaries to consider setting around your relationship toward the end of the year are external circumstances, extended family, and extramarital interests.Action Step: Make this your mantra this week: “My marriage is non-negotiable.” Make a list of any boundary that needs to be set, or that you anticipate having to set through the end of the year.Write down your boundary in black and white, and then read it or communicate it to whoever needs to be told, that your marriage may not only survive 2020, but thrive in all the ways you most desire it to in years to come.To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week; my husband, Evan, for podcast editing; & YOU, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better! May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Personal Boundaries Pt. II - Ep. 121 (Boundaries Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 26, 2020 13:17


    Do you ever feel like you give and give to others, while your time, energy, and desires are taken for granted? If so, then perhaps some boundaries are in order. Listen in this month to learn what boundaries are in the first place, and how to set boundaries personally and relationally.Boundaries around your Energy:Boundaries with your Self-Worth:To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week; my husband, Evan, for podcast editing; & YOU, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better! May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Personal Boundaries Pt. I - Ep. 120 (Boundaries Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2020 14:22


    Do you ever feel like you give and give to others, while your time, energy, and desires are taken for granted? If so, then perhaps some boundaries are in order. Listen in this month to learn what boundaries are in the first place, and how to set boundaries personally and relationally.Boundaries on your Time: How do you desire to spend your time? When, and with whom? What pockets of time do you have that you’re unhappy with, or have mixed feelings about, where setting a different boundary may free you up from negative emotions and allow you to connect in more genuinely enjoyable ways? And what’s one small boundary that you could create and communicate in one area of your life in order to spend your time how you want to in another area of your life?Boundaries around your Attention: How are you spending your attention? Who in your life deserves your attention but currently feels unworthy of it? What do you desire to pay better and more attention to? And what’s one small personal boundary that you could create for yourself to help you give attention to the things and people you desire to?To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week; my husband, Evan, for podcast editing; & YOU, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better! May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Boundary Setting - Ep. 119 (Boundaries Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 12, 2020 17:57


    Do you ever feel like you give and give to others, while your time, energy, and desires are taken for granted? If so, then perhaps some boundaries are in order. Listen in this month to learn what boundaries are in the first place, and how to set boundaries personally and relationally.Questions to Ask Yourself:Are My Boundaries…Clear:Communicated:Enforced:A Good Fit:To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week; my husband, Evan, for podcast editing; & YOU, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better! May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Have a Great Week!

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2020 0:22


    BMP Community, thank you for showing up so faithfully! I will be resuming episodes next week with a new boundaries series (who doesn’t need that in preparation for the holidays?!). I hope you have a great week, a happy start to October, and I’ll look forward to talking with you next Monday, October 12th!

    Supporting versus Enabling - Ep. 118 (Responsibility Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2020 15:44


    Do you know the difference between supporting and enabling? Or what it means to take responsibility for carrying your own load while sharing in each other’s burdens? Listen in to find out - your action step is below:Questions to Ask Yourself:In what ways am I encouraging and empowering the growth and development of my spouse? My kids?What do I find myself doing for my spouse (and my kids) what they can and should do for themselves?How can I take personal responsibility this week to live out of my integrity and to share in my family’s burdens…but while carrying only what’s mine to carry?To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week; my husband, Evan, for podcast editing; & YOU, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better! May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Acting Out of Integrity versus Deception - Ep. 117 (Responsibility Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2020 18:14


    Lasting change requires more than behavior modification. Are you taking responsibility for yourself and the inner work required to make lasting change in your marriage? Listen in to find out.3 Ways to Know When You’re Acting Out of Deception:You feel like you’re “playing the part,” but you haven’t taken on the new identity for yourself.You’ve modified your behavior, but you haven’t addressed your thoughts or feelings.You feel proud or satisfied when something you say or do elicits YOUR desired response from your spouse (rather than their truest response).3 Ways to Know When You’re Acting Out of Integrity:Your behaviors, thoughts, and feelings are all aligned.You think of others…not in terms of how they’ll respond to you, but out of genuine care, concern, and compassion for them REGARDLESS of how they respond to you.You experience inner freedom and peace.Questions to Ask Yourself:Where are you noticing a tendency to act out of deception instead of integrity?Is it a matter of not quite being where you want to be and needing the perseverance to keep going, to move from first order, surface-level change to second order, lasting change? Or is it a matter of beginning to notice where you might be deceiving yourself and taking responsibility for that?In order to take greater responsibility to act out of your integrity, what’s the next right thing for you? Individual counseling? Journaling and prayer? Perseverance when marriage feels hard? Courage to show up more fully in your own life?To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.Thanks to:John Tibbs for the amazing music each week.Evan Duszynski for podcast editing.You, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage better.

    You're Responsible To (Not For) Your Spouse - Ep. 116 (Responsibility Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2020 17:19


    You’re responsible to your spouse, not for your spouse. So what does that look like in marriage? How do you do life as a team without taking on too much (or not enough) responsibility? Listen in to learn more.To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.Thanks to:John Tibbs for the amazing music each week.Evan Duszynski for podcast editing.You, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage better.May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    You're Responsible for You - Ep. 115 (Responsibility Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 7, 2020 20:10


    What exactly are you responsible for in your marriage? For starters, yourself…not your spouse. Listen in this month to learn how to take responsibility between you in healthy, appropriate ways (less for your spouse and more for yourself).To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.Thanks to:John Tibbs for the amazing music each week.Evan Duszynski for podcast editing.You, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage better.May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Leadership, Assertiveness, and Marriage Roles - Ep. 114 (Q+A Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 31, 2020 0:14


    As Leslie Vernick says: You are responsible TO your spouse, but not FOR your spouse. Listen in to learn more through this Q+A.To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.Thanks to:John Tibbs for the amazing music each week.Evan Duszynski for producing and editing.You, the listener, for tuning each week in service of making your marriage better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Honest Expression & Self-Regulation in Conflict - Ep. 113 (Q+A Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 24, 2020 13:02


    Changing yourself is a great place to start, but sometimes making behavioral changes isn’t enough to address your relational dynamic. In this Q+A, Kensi approaches an issue that’s not quite as straight forward as it may seem.To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.Thanks to:John Tibbs for the amazing music each week.Evan Duszynski for producing and editing.You, the listener, for tuning each week in service of making your marriage better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    How to Mitigate Misunderstandings - Ep. 112 (Q+A Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2020 11:47


    How do we mitigate misunderstandings? Listen in for a few tips, and thanks to you, listener for posing the question!To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.Thanks to:John Tibbs for the amazing music each week.Evan Duszynski for producing and editing.You, the listener, for tuning each week in service of making your marriage better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Staying Close through Career Change and Transition - Ep. 111 (Q+A Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 10, 2020 14:06


    Today’s question comes from a listener who, with her husband, has decided to go to work for herself instead of someone else. The listener wonders how to stay close and connected through all the change, transition, and uncertainty that a mutually-agreed upon decision like this can bring.To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.Thanks to:John Tibbs for the amazing music each week.Evan Duszynski for producing and editing.You, the listener, for tuning each week in service of making your marriage better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Coping with Infertility as a Couple - Ep. 110 (Q+A Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 3, 2020 12:40


    Today’s question comes from a listener who’s walking through infertility. Listen in to learn how to cope with infertility as a couple.To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.Thanks to:John Tibbs for the amazing music each week.Evan Duszynski for producing and editing.You, the listener, for tuning each week in service of making your marriage better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    Fighting Pandemic Fatigue - Ep. 109

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2020 14:06


    If you’d like a coaching session or two during this stressful time to manage your mind, emotions, and relationships at home, please email kensi@bravemarriage.com.Thanks to:John Tibbs for the amazing music each week.Evan Duszynski for producing and editing.You, the listener, for tuning each week in service of making your marriage better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    A Quick Tip for Couples with Little Ones - Ep. 108 (Learn with Adrienne Interview)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2020 6:40


    In a conversation with Adrienne of learnwithadrienne.com, Kensi joins Adrienne in a short discussion about the blessing of “gifting” your spouse alone time, especially the parenting years!Original episode referred to is #020: From Couplehood to ParenthoodThanks to:John Tibbs Music for our intro and outro each week.Evan Duszynski for weekly podcast editing.You, the listener, for continuing to listen in and being a part of the BMP community.To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.

    Communication and Couples Counseling - Ep. 107 (Interview with Tanner Hobbs)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 13, 2020 51:52


    In a conversation with Tanner Hobbs of The Chasing Freedom Show, Kensi joins Tanner in a discussion about:The importance of proactively working on your marriage.What intimacy is and isn’t.Courageous Conversations (a Brave Marriage Workshop) and the impact it’s making on marriages.What spouses can do to communicate better, practice self-care, and seek professional Christian coaching/counseling along the way.Thanks to:John Tibbs Music for our intro and outro each week.Evan Duszynski for weekly podcast editing.You, the listener, for continuing to listen in and being a part of the BMP community.To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.

    Couples and COVID - Ep. 106 (Interview with Marshall Wilmhoff)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 6, 2020 26:27


    In a conversation with Marshall Wilmhoff of Hope Presbyterian Church, Kensi joins Marshall in a discussion about:Opportunities the quarantine has provided for couples to work on their marriages.Threats to marriages that Kensi has seen in her practice since the start of the pandemic.Practical things that couples can do to stay holistically healthy through COVID-19.Thanks to:John Tibbs Music for our intro and outro each week.Evan Duszynski for weekly podcast editing.You, the listener, for continuing to listen in and being a part of the BMP community.To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.

    The Best of BMP #1 - Ep. 105 (Sex as a Second Language)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 29, 2020 14:32


    This month, we’re counting down to the top 5 most listened-to episodes of the Brave Marriage Podcast. Coming in at #1 is Sex as a Second Language. The link to download the free resource list can be found at bravemarriage.com/sex.Thanks to:John Tibbs Music for our intro and outro each week!Evan Duszynski for weekly podcast editing!You, the listener, for continuing to listen in and being a part of the BMP community!

    The Best of BMP #4 - Ep. 104 (Learning About Each Other Through the Enneagram)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 21, 2020 21:54


    The Best of BMP #3 - Ep. 103 (The Gift of Sex)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 14, 2020 15:22


    Congratulations to our giveaway winners: Shelby T., Maria R., & Mandie H.!This month, we’re counting down to the top 5 most listened-to episodes of the Brave Marriage Podcast. Coming in at #3 is The Gift of Sex. Hope you enjoy!Thanks to:John Tibbs Music for our intro and outro each week!Evan Duszynski for weekly podcast editing!You, the listener, for continuing to listen in and being a part of the BMP community!

    The Best of BMP #4 - Ep. 102 (How Our Childhood Roles Impact Our Marriages)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2020 20:31


    Thank you for listening each and every week. This month, we’re counting down the top 5 most listened-to episodes of the Brave Marriage Podcast from our first 100 episodes! And hey, don’t forget about the giveaway!HOW TO ENTER:Rate + Review the show on iTunes/Apple Podcasts (2 entries)Scroll down to ratings + reviews.Click the star rating you’d like to leave.Create a username + submit your review.Ask Up to 3 Relationship Questions for a future Q+A Series (3 entries)Q+A Form: https://forms.gle/Meu1LVs8V6UgtBFP8PRIZES:$50 & $100 Amazon Gift Cards!

    The Best of BMP #5 - Ep. 101 (All or Nothing Thinking)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 31, 2020 19:52


    During the month of June, we’re counting down the top 5 most listened-to episodes of the Brave Marriage Podcast from our first 100 episodes! Thank you for listening each and every week. YOU make the effort that goes into the show totally worth it. And hey, don’t forget about the 100 Episodes Giveaway!!HOW TO ENTER:Rate + Review the show on iTunes/Apple Podcasts (2 entries)Scroll down to ratings + reviews.Click the star rating you’d like to leave.Create a username + submit your review.Ask Up to 3 Relationship Questions for a future Q+A Series (3 entries)Q+A Form: https://forms.gle/Meu1LVs8V6UgtBFP8PRIZES:$50 & $100 Amazon Gift Cards!

    Don't Worry, You're Normal - Ep. 100 (Themes that Come Up in my Private Practice)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 24, 2020 18:44


    Your questions about your relationship and therapy, answered. It’s our 100th episode and we’re celebrating with a GIVEAWAY!! (1) $100 Amazon Gift Card + (2) $50 Amazon Gift CardsHOW TO ENTER:1. Rate + Review the Show // Earn up to 2 entries!2. Submit your Relationship Questions Here // https://forms.gle/JMavzXDkZow1DGB17 // Earn up to 3 entries!HELPING PROFESSIONAL REFERRALS:Individual + Couples TherapistsPsychology TodayMarriage Friendly TherapistsSubstance Use Support GroupsAlcoholics AnonymousCelebrate RecoveryAl-AnonCrisis Hotlines:https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/https://www.thehotline.org/BRAVE MARRIAGE COACHING & THERAPY:Premarital CoachingRelationship CoachingMarriage Therapy (KY residents only)THANK YOU FOR 100 EPISODES:John Tibbs Music - Intro & Outro Evan Duszynski - Podcasting EditingListener Support - You All Are the Best!

    Your Spouse Is Not Responsible for Your Happiness (Part II) - Ep. 099 (Relational Health Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 17, 2020 16:14


    Our spouse is not a one-stop shop to meet all of our needs, nor is our spouse equipped to carry the weight of our extensive expectations for happiness. Listen in as we discuss a better model for marriage than that of holding our spouse hostage for our emotional state (it includes looking to Jesus for our happiness and taking responsibility for ourselves)!Feel free to share this episode with friends and family, and leave a rating and review if you’ve found this episode helpful! Thanks to John Tibbs for the music each week, to Evan Duszynski for editing, and to YOU for listening in.

    Your Spouse Is Not Responsible for Your Happiness (Part I) - Ep. 098 (Relational Health Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2020 17:18


    Our spouse is not a one-stop shop to meet all of our needs, nor is our spouse equipped to carry the weight of our extensive expectations for happiness. Listen in to learn more about how we arrived at such unrealistic expectations in the first place, and the effect it’s having on Christian marriages. And be sure to stay tuned for Part II next week, where we’ll discuss a better model for marriage than that of holding our spouse hostage for our emotional state (come on, it will be fun)!Feel free to share this episode with friends and family, and leave a rating and review if you’ve found this information helpful! Thanks to John Tibbs for the music each week, to Evan Duszynski for editing, and to YOU for listening in.Mentioned in this Episode:-Esther Perel’s State of Affairs-Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

    If You Don't Have Anything Nice to Say - Ep. 097 (Relational Health Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2020 16:18


    This month, we’re covering 4 concepts that I often address in my practice. Today’s episode is all about eliminating criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and negativity from your marriage relationship and home environment by practicing self-control.If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and share this podcast! To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.Scripture Verses:“Do all things without grumbling or disputing…” -Philippians 2:14“For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out.” -Romans 7:15-18“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.” -Colossians 3:12-14“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.” -Colossians 4:6Thanks to:John Tibbs for the amazing music each week.Evan Duszynski for producing and editing.You, the listener, for tuning each week in to make your marriage better.

    Aiming Toward a Better Normal - Ep. 096 (COVID-19 Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2020 22:13


    In our sixth and final episode of this series, we discuss how to make decisions, establish healthy routines, and form better habits as we aim toward a better normal - while addressing 3 of our core existential desires as we do.Mentioned in this Episode:4 Existential Fears Impacting Us During COVID-19Seth Godin’s “Acknowledgements 2020”Free Coaching Session ApplicationThanks to:John Tibbs for the amazing music each week.Evan Duszynski for producing and editing.You, the listener, for tuning each week in service of making your marriage better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

    How to Deal With Wedding Worries - Ep. 095 (COVID-19 Series)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2020 17:55


    Today’s question comes from a listener in Indiana who wonders about how to help her small group of engaged women walk through the uncertainty they’re facing as their wedding days approach.If you’d like to sign up for WedWell and do premarital coaching online with Kensi, just visit bravemarriage.com/wedwell or email kensi@bravemarriage.com.Thanks to:John Tibbs for the amazing music each week.Evan Duszynski for producing and editing.You, the listener, for tuning each week in service of making your marriage better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

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