Insideout Conversations

Whenever women get together, we have an opportunity to share our stories. While the cadence of each narrative may differ wildly from our own, we recognize something familiar in the storyteller's experience. That's the rhythm of sisterhood. It calls us to bear witness to each other's herstory and preserve these sacred accounts. When I learned of this year's theme for National Women's Month, “Celebrating Women Who Tell Our Stories,” I knew I had to invite Dr. Reverend Irene Taylor. She's a retired pastor who has served her professional calling for almost 40 years, including as a United States Army Reserve chaplain. To say that she has impacted the lives of many women is an understatement. Although our time in conversation falls short of capturing Reverend Irene's full brilliance, it honors and celebrates her contribution to our ever-expanding treasury of women's truths. *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa Get connected! lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @insideoutconversations LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Mothers and daughters. As I grow older––moving through years that I previously only ever associated with my mother, casting off ages that will belong to my daughter soon enough––I think about the passage of time and return to the interconnectedness of this matrilineal relationship. Whether the kinship is affectionate, strained, or lost altogether, there are mysteries bound up in our mother-daughter connections, an amniotic “knowing” that extends back to our first mother. It's a reminder that when we were in our mother's womb, we shared that space with her. And when she was still forming within her mother, the seeds of our existence were also present there. All down the line. We transmit a rhythm from one generation to the next. Familiar, yet mysterious. *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa Get connected! lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @insideoutconversations LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/    

When this conversation closes, you'll remember the name Mishara D. Winston. What's more, you'll remember––or learn for the first time––how to make and keep promises to yourself. That's all a boundary is, a commitment we hold sacred because we are sacred. We are worthy of promises kept. Even when we aren't doing it for someone else. Even when we're not striving for greatness. Even when we aren't struggling. These are potent reminders for Black women, the group first and most often pressured to break promises we've authored for ourselves.   Although I've only known Mishara for a few short months, I feel like we've known each other for a lifetime. As young as she is, Mishara's already retired from the role of traditional mental health therapist. She now operates from a zone more aligned with her spirit as a Black healer, working within her community to heal trauma and address the generational impact of trauma. Mishara leans into the holistic principles of Black community (self-awareness, accountability, compassion) and incorporates these gifts into her myriad regenerative spaces, including Tribe, Thrive, and Crave. "I think of boundaries not as something we set, not as something we put up, and not as something that can be crossed, but as kept promises to ourselves," Mishara says, adding, "It's a contract between me and me––, and there's no way for another person to keep my promise to me." When we sit with that explanation for a bit, we understand that boundaries are not inherently selfish or exclusionary (although the person trying to cross yours might beg to differ; let them). Instead, boundaries provide a map of our hearts to anyone willing to honor the terms under which they are created. That includes ourselves.  This colonial culture under which we're groomed is all too happy to help us break the promises we've made to ourselves, and the trickle-down effect of that severing is evident. But when we set our boundaries and keep that sacred pact, the juiciness can't help but flow outward. This is what Mishara describes as being in reciprocal alignment with community. And no one can stem that tide! CONNECT WITH MISHARA D. WINSTON Website Patreon Instagram *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa Get connected! lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @insideoutconversations LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Let's get real. Those socks on the floor that you and your partner continually argue over? Those socks aren't the issue. So what's underneath the resentment, the irritation, the emotion? My guest says if we want to strengthen our relationships, we must go inward before shifting our attention outward.  Dr. Katherine Helm, Ph.D., has dedicated much of her career (25 years and counting) to helping folks confront their relationship struggles with honesty and empathy. In addition to her experience in multiple clinical settings, Dr. Helm is a professor, author of numerous books, and, most recently, a TEDx Talk speaker. In Revolutionize Your Relationship: A Little Goes A Long Way, Katherine brings relationship realness to the TEDx stage with her trademark practical, collaborative, and sensitive approach. Her wisdom is compelling and easily applicable to all of our significant relationships, not just the romantic ones. “The little positive things you do in your relationship matter so much,” Katherine says, adding, “the little negative things you do can also really erode your relationship.” To restore balance and deepen true intimacy (think: liking your partner in addition to loving them), she recommends that couples articulate their individual needs, first to themselves, then to each other. “Being self-aware––who are you, what you value, how you express your emotions––you have to acknowledge that you do have needs. It's also recognizing that our needs (and those of our partner) change over the relationship's lifespan.” Easier said than done for many of us, Katherine included. “Black women and Black people, in general, often don't allow themselves to be vulnerable cuz we see it as a sign of weakness.” Katherine reminds every “strong Black woman” that our feelings matter! “They help us have healthy, satisfying relationships.” She returns again to the exercise of self-assessment. Black women are often taught to emotionally disconnect from ourselves, to favor perfection over progress. “That's one of the things that makes it so hard to heal.” We owe ourselves and our partners honest emotional interaction. We owe future generations the powerful healing influence of relationships that are respectful, present, and, yes, vulnerable. CONNECT WITH DR. KATHERINE HELM Website Twitter Instagram LinkedIn MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Lovely Space via Mighty Networks *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa Get connected! lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @insideoutconversations LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

At first glance, the phrase “raising your parents” might provocate some folks — on both sides of that intergenerational exchange. My guest Morgan Russell Williams views it as a playful invitation to build more respectful, rewarding relationships throughout every stage of our lives.  Morgan, the self-described serial entrepreneur behind Mo-Lit Candles, is a 30-something daughter confronting challenges that arise as the physical and emotional care dynamic between adult child and aging parent evolves. “As I keep asking myself this question, ‘how do I make sure they're okay?' I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm parenting my parents! I'm raising my parents, and I don't mean that offensively at all.” Consider the truths of life. With youth generally comes greater physical stamina and a predisposition toward the latest technology or innovation. Age provides financial stability and the wisdom of experience. When any of these positive attributes are mishandled, even the best parent-child relationships might suffer from hurt feelings, silent resentments, or hasty decisions. We've all been there! Take comfort in knowing that it's never too late to reverse course.  Morgan and her parents are learning as they go. Her advice? Name stressors, embrace each other's differences, and respect life's changes. She knows from experience, however, that the urge to micro-manage the relationship dynamic is strong. Maintaining autonomy on both sides is easier when children and parents commit to a thoughtful, communicative aging process. “Without that communication though, without that respect, without that empathy, without that alignment on what they want and need and what I want and need, it could be a rocky road.”  There's so much intentionality to Morgan's approach. Unsurprisingly, she brings that same high level of awareness to her professional endeavors. The Mo-Lit collection of handmade candles is inspired by the ancient practice of using scent to support purposeful reflection. “It began with me having a candle habit,” she jokes about her serious quest to create a healthier candle. Mo-Lit vessels feature better ingredients and labels designed to cultivate intuition and deeper self-awareness. “You have all the answers you need; you just need the right questions to surface that.” The same can be said of the parent-child relationship.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Lovely Space via Mighty Networks *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa Get connected! lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @insideoutconversations LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

The act of personal review is more thorough and rewarding when conducted in the company of other women. Our villages are our advocates, helping us uncover riches buried within our experiences. They shine a light on life moments that we may have forgotten––or willfully ignored. My guest TiShaunda McPherson is senior vice president and first-ever chief diversity officer at the National Opinion Research Center (NORC) at the University of Chicago. For more than 20 years, TiShaunda has addressed institutional, regional, and systemic discrimination in employment and educational settings. She's a member of my village and someone who embodies the practice of review without the peril of regression. When I think about “review”, I envision the Sankofa, the mythical bird with its feet and body facing forward, its head turned back. Sankofa is committed to progress, propelled by wisdom from the past. As Black women, those lessons are embedded in the “strength” that we're required to develop (not by choice) to endure the expectations often heaped on us.  “As a Black woman in predominantly white spaces, It's been instilled in me this notion that I have to work twice as hard and be twice as good,” says TiShaunda, “and, so, asking for help is counter to that.” The act of review can help us unlearn generations of harmful survival training. Shaunda agrees. “I think this goes right back to the Sankofa, looking back and letting the past guide your future. Now I'm trying to pick that back up as I go into these new roles and how I show up for church, community, and family.” We can move forward while looking back. With the help of our sisters, we can fetch lessons that are at risk of getting left behind. Review - Here's How: Gather your village. From blood relatives to chosen sisters, community can help us uncover what's hidden in our past. Commit to the question. Are there experiences you've left behind that keep you from moving forward?  Embrace the Sankofa. Don't go turning your whole body to the past. Keep your feet planted forward as you look back. If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa Get connected! lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @insideoutconversations LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Go get it, girl! Four little words can cause so much anxiety if you're unsure how to get started, where to go, and what "it" is. But before you get caught up in the questions, I invite you to take a moment and breathe in lessons from our circles of strength.  I've witnessed that, as Black women, we move through these circles throughout our lives, days, and relationships. I guide participants through four circles of strength in my workshops. Some of the steps are interconnected and dependent upon each other. All require a commitment to regular check-ins so that we can stay in touch with who we are, where we are, and how we are.  Review. Release. Receive. Return. These four circles of strength inspire and encourage your progress while upholding your promise. Maybe even informing your complete pivot. But let's not get ahead of ourselves. At this moment, we're breathing in the first lesson: review.   To review means to look again. Go look, go review your life and see what you left behind. What you may have thought was lost. What you may have thought was forgotten, stolen, destroyed. To be clear, we're not hustling backwards. Your review is a thorough corner-clearing, a life check-in that fuels forward movement.  Why review? We learn many lessons, more than we can consciously remember. Even if you can't consciously recall those teachings, your body and brain remember everything. If you allow your body and your mind and your spirit to guide you to where in your life you need a review, you'll find all kinds of affirming, empowering answers. Go get it, girl! Review - Here's How: Inquire. What am I missing? What is it today that I'm looking for or that I think needs replacing? A lost passion? A forgotten plan? An old friendship? Get into the habit. Review is not a one-and-done assignment; it's a practice. Identify. Who are in my circles of strength? Where can I participate in community? How can I support other Black women in their healing? If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa Get connected! lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @insideoutconversations LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

This week, let's revisit a conversation I had back in 2021 with Mary-Frances Winters about Black fatigue. Particularly for Black women. This conversation is just as relevant now in 2022, as it was last year and Mary-Frances delivers a message of self-care and systemic change that I want you to take to heart. Even if you heard it when our conversation was first released, I invite you to listen again with fresh ears. When I ran across the book, Black Fatigue: How Racism Erodes the Mind, Body, and Spirit, by Mary-Frances Winters, I had already gone through various renditions of COVID, the racism that has always been there... I was really, really, really tired, not so much in a sleepy way, but my soul was tired. This book helped me to understand more about what I'm looking at in my own life and in the work that I do with women. Our guest, Mary-Frances Winters is the CEO of The Winters Group, a global organization with a focus on diversity and inclusion consulting. Mary-Frances is truly working in her passion and her calling. About Mary-Frances: Ms. Winters is President and CEO of The Winters Group, Inc., a 36-year-old diversity and inclusion consulting firm, and the author of six books, including her best seller, We Can't Talk about That at Work!: How to Talk about Race, Religion, Politics, and Other Polarizing Topics; and her two latest books, Inclusive Conversations: Fostering Equity, Empathy and Belonging across Differences and Black Fatigue: How Racism Erodes the Mind, Body, and Spirit. If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa Get connected! lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @insideoutconversations LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

As time passes, the initial coronavirus lockdown sinks further and further into the past. It's tempting to try to forget about it and start fresh. But we all have individual and collective traumas to continue processing as well as things we've learned about ourselves that we can integrate into our new lives moving forward. Those who do this healing work will have better skills for self-care when new challenges come along, and we'll feel a deeper sense of peace. This episode includes some reflections on what I've personally learned about myself and what I'm trying to do differently now, and it ends with an inspirational poem that illustrates this kind of self-discovery and personal growth.  Highlights Introduction and reflection :41 - 5:41 Reflect with me on two years of lockdown and isolation  5:45 - 6:40 Think about it: what did you learn about yourself? Insights from my pandemic experience 6:40 My anxiety drives controlling behaviors and puts others on edge 7:17 My pet peeves about others often reflect my own unwanted behaviors 7:45 Busy-ness is addictive 8:24 Accommodating others is exhausting, but being creative makes me feel present and alive 9:48 Setting boundaries is hard, but the freedom is so worth it I may be a loner, but I still need my sister friends Moving forward Making smaller changes is more sustainable and makes for better results My new perspective on setting boundaries Inspirational poem on learning and growing after bad experiences: “There's a Hole in My Sidewalk” Poem reflection and takeaways: our expectations for personal growth versus the actual healing process If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa Get connected! lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @insideoutconversations LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Mark Sanders is someone whose work and contribution to the mental health field I have admired from afar for many, many, many years.  Mark is an international speaker, trainer and consultant in the behavioral health field. He's authored five books and has been a  champion in the addiction field, speaking out and normalizing the needs that we have as people, period, and specifically in the Black community to de-stigmatize mental health. One thing I hope that you will look at it is an Online Museum of African-American Addictions, Treatment, and Recovery. This helps us to see that there are other people that have recovered and are doing the kind of work to move their lives forward. And one of the most unexpected directions our conversation took was talking about the healing power of music -- including rap and hip-hop. Visit Mark's website to learn more: http://www.onthemarkconsulting25.com/ About Mark Sanders: Mark Sanders, LCSW, CADC, is an international speaker, trainer, and consultant in the behavioral health field whose work has reached thousands throughout the United States, Europe, Canada, Caribbean and British Islands.    Mark is the author of five books, which focus on behavioral health. Recent writings include Slipping through the Cracks: Intervention Strategies for Clients Multiple Addictions and Disorders, Recovery Management: and Relationship Detox: Helping Clients Develop Healthy Relationships in Recovery. He has had two stories published in the New York Times best-selling books series, Chicken Soup for the Soul. Mark has been a certified addictions counselor for 34 years. He has received numerous awards including a Life Time Achievement Award from the Illinois Addiction Counselor Certification Board and the Barbara Bacon Award for outstanding contributions to the Social Work profession as a Loyola University of Chicago Alumni.    Mark is co-founder of Serenity Academy of Chicago, the only recovery high school in Illinois. He is past president of the board of the Illinois Chapter of NAADAC. He has had a 30 year career as a university educator having taught at the University of Chicago, Illinois State University, Illinois School of Professional Psychology, and Loyola University of Chicago, School of Social Work. *** You're Invited... Circles of Strength Online Retreat May 15, June 12, 2021 *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @the_insideoutlife Twitter: @insideoutheal LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Black fatigue. Particularly for Black women. When I ran across the book, Black Fatigue: How Racism Erodes the Mind, Body, and Spirit, by Mary-Frances Winters, I had already gone through various renditions of COVID, the racism that has always been there... I was really, really, really tired, not so much in a sleepy way, but my soul was tired. This book helped me to understand more about what I'm looking at in my own life and in the work that I do with women. Our guest, Mary-Frances Winters is the CEO of The Winters Group, a global organization with a focus on diversity and inclusion consulting. Mary is truly working in her passion and her calling. About Mary-Frances: Ms. Winters is President and CEO of The Winters Group, Inc., a 36-year-old diversity and inclusion consulting firm, and the author of six books, including her best seller, We Can’t Talk about That at Work!: How to Talk about Race, Religion, Politics, and Other Polarizing Topics; and her two latest books, Inclusive Conversations: Fostering Equity, Empathy and Belonging across Differences and Black Fatigue: How Racism Erodes the Mind, Body, and Spirit. *** You're Invited... Circles of Strength Online Retreat May 15, June 12, 2021 *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @the_insideoutlife Twitter: @insideoutheal LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Lavelle Smith Hall is on a mission to save, transform, and to be able to create a space for 1 billion moms on this planet. Her organization, which is really more like a full, living, fluid organism is called MOMLogics and it's a safe space for redefining Black motherhood. The process begins by first taking care of yourself. Hear how Lavelle was inspired by her own experiences growing up, the challenges of parenting, and tragedy in her circle of friends. Learn more about MOMLogics: https://momlogics.com/ Facebook Private Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/momlogics LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lavellesh/   About Lavelle: I am "The Mom Shifter", a Personal Growth Consultant who trains businesses, organizations, and individuals on the enormous benefits of parenting through the lens of emotional intelligence. I'm a mompreneur, author, coach, founder and Chief Mom of MOMLogics, an online startup which exists to empower Black moms with the best strategies to enjoy better relationships with their children, spouses, and families. I have two children -- son Alec (20), a junior at Cornell University, and daughter Braelyn (14), a freshman at Marian Catholic High School. With my guidance, moms will apply lifestyle changes to help them effectively manage and enjoy motherhood. *** You're Invited... Circles of Strength Online Retreat April 17, May 15, June 12, 2021 *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @the_insideoutlife Twitter: @insideoutheal LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

We're talking trauma, embodiment, attachment theory -- how we become separated from ourselves and others and how to reintegrate safely. Three years ago, I went to this workshop in a suburb outside of Chicago. And I already knew what the deal was going to be. I was going to be, probably, the only Black person there, or one of two, because that's just how it is my field. And it was true. As I was walking up the steps to go to this room, my body started to defend. And by that, I mean, my shoulders became tight. My hips became tight. I had my serious face on because I needed to prepare as usual. I walked into this room and, you know, everybody was kinda milling around and the presenter was at the front and she was talking to some people. And as I was getting ready to sit down, I looked up and she was in the front of the room and she smiled from her heart through her eyes with her energy. It couldn't have been more than a second. And my body began to relax because I knew that I was safe just by that transaction. And so this woman that I am speaking of is Deirdre Fay. Deirdre Fay, MSW has decades of experience exploring the intersection of trauma, attachment, yoga, and meditation. She teaches “a radically positive approach to healing trauma”. Deirdre founded the Becoming Safely Embodied skills groups, the basis for this book, and is the author of Attachment-Based Yoga & Meditation for Trauma Recovery and co-author of Attachment Disturbances for Adults, as well as the co-author of chapters in Neurobiological Treatments of Traumatic Dissociation. To learn more about Deirdre visit https://dfay.com and to order her book Becoming Safely Embodied, https://dfay.com/book. You're Invited... Circles of Strength Online Retreat April 17, May 15, June 12, 2021 *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com and let me know. Take care, Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @the_insideoutlife Twitter: @insideoutheal LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Ava Thompson Greenwell has taught broadcast writing, reporting and producing classes at Medill/Northwestern University since 1993.  In addition to her teaching duties, she has held several administrative posts including associate dean for curriculum, director of the Teaching Television Program, co-curator for the nationally recognized Ida B. Wells award and director of the McCormick Tribune Fellows Program.  Currently, she serves as co-director of the South Africa Journalism Residency Program. We talk about “Mandela in Chicago,” the documentary film Ava produced and directed about the city’s anti-apartheid movement; her new book Ladies Leading: The Black Women Who Control Television News; and the story of an experience her son had with the police in the town where they live, that traumatized the whole family -- and what they decided to do about it. To learn more about any of Ava's projects and her academic life coaching sessions, reach out a-greenwell@northwestern.edu, visit MandelainChicago.com or LadiesLeading.net.   You're Invited... Circles of Strength Online Retreat March 27, April 17, May 15, June 12, 2021   *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com with the subject line "Black Woman Burnout." Take care, Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @the_insideoutlife Twitter: @insideoutheal LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Happy International Women's Month! Of course, we are in the practice of celebrating women all the time, every month, every day. We have to start with the woman in the mirror, and that means celebrating us. In this episode we talk about our experience of loss over the past year, while we've been in survival mode. This takes us on a journey visiting trauma, overwhelm, connection, spiritual practice, and healing. You're Invited... Circles of Strength Online Retreat March 27, April 17, May 15, June 12, 2021   *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com with the subject line "Black Woman Burnout." Take care, Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Facebook: @insideoutliving Instagram: @the_insideoutlife Twitter: @insideoutheal LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

This is absolutely the most exciting podcast that I've ever done. And I have a very, very special guest for our fourth and final episode of the Black Woman Burnout series. We're going to be talking about burnout as it relates to how Black women suppress things.  I want to introduce you to my mother, Rita Jean Robinson Braxton Braxton Turner. Now those names will mean something to you as she and I continue to talk. She says that each one of those names represents a different level of suppression, resilience, and restoration in her life. "I'm in the room. And I want you to respect that." *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com with the subject line "Black Woman Burnout." Take care, Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Lovely Space Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2331858480409324 Lisa on Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Our third episode in a series I have affectionately come to know as "BWB" -- Black Woman Burnout. And what we are going to be talking about today is just how much we, as Black women, repress our emotional selves -- how we repress those things that we feel afraid to express or don't have time to express or don't give ourselves permission to express. And so the title of this particular episode is "Sometimes you just want to holla!" Today, I have my sister with me and her name is Ramona Outlaw. Ramona first of all, is a retired high school principal in the Chicago Public School system. Even as late as today, even though she's retired, they're still calling her and she's still answering. She's been an educator for over 25 years and one of her greatest loves in life is traveling.  What she says about education and teaching is that she did not choose teaching -- teaching chose her and kept choosing her for over 26 years.  *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com with the subject line "Black Woman Burnout." Take care, Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Lovely Space Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2331858480409324 Lisa on Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Many of us, as Black women, sometimes aren't even aware that we're burned out because we're so used to keeping a pace. This is the second episode in a series highlighting Black Woman Burnout during Black History Month.   Gail Hutchison is a wellness leader, educator, and professional development trainer. She's a yogi and an inventor. And her personal mission is to inspire people to reach their full potential by providing encouragement tools and education that are required to succeed. Gail has been practicing yoga for two decades and has been teaching yoga for 15 years. She's also my long-time friend. As Black women, particularly during this time, we often feel vulnerable wanting these kinds of services and wanting them from someone that looks like us. And so I invited Gail today to focus on fatigue and how we can find deep rest and peace in our lives. Listen through to the end as Gail guides us through a meditative practice of savasana, which traditionally comes at the end of yoga class. Then check out her services at https://thejoyyoga.com. *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com with the subject line "Black Woman Burnout." Take care, Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Lovely Space Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2331858480409324 Lisa on Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

The conversations that I love to have are bold, messy, and real. And I've been thinking a lot about burnout and women -- reading different studies and different books related to burnout. While a lot of it has been very helpful, most of what I've found doesn't necessarily touch on the areas that are particular to black women. So that's where we are going and I invite you to come along with me into your imagination for this episode... *** If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com with the subject line "Black Woman Burnout." Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Lovely Space Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2331858480409324 Lisa on Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Today we're going to be talking about the holidays and grief. Grief. Yes, I know. Please don't skip this one. Don't skip this one because if you turn it off, you will not be able to either hear for the first time or be reminded of the benefits that come as a result of grieving. When I am talking about grief, I'm talking about the pain of loss and that could be, the obvious loss of someone through physical death, and it's so many other things as well. It could be loss of hope, loss of dream, loss of relationship, loss of esteem, loss of yourself, because you've been busy having to do a lot of different things and you've left yourself behind and you don't even know when or where or how. You just know that you feel empty. So if you've ever experienced loss, and that's all of us, grief is painful. However, if we treat ourselves well in the grieving process, (no matter what that looks like and yours doesn't have to look like anybody else's), but if we treat ourselves well in the grieving process, we're able to come through that grief to a different place. *** I invite you to come on in and join the conversation. If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com with the subject "Holiday Mini." Take care be well. And remember, it's YOUR time off, too! Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Lovely Space Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2331858480409324 Lisa on Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

I've been thinking about something that I can give that would be of service and healing and support during these holiday seasons that we are in, as well as being in the season in ways that we never have been in the seasons before. It's been a long time and we have all, I'm sure, done our very best to try to stay sane and focused and positive... at least sometimes. And it's still been hard. And so what my gift to you during this holiday season is a "Holiday Mini" pod series -- all about little ways that you can stay in touch with you, that you can gift yourself with self-care. In this episode, I'm sharing a personal story and the following holiday treat: Take care of yourself. Ask for what you need. Notice if what you're angry about is something that you are participating in yourself. Become curious -- Is there something that I can do to decrease the stress and increase the self care, and the love, and the quality of engagement with those that I'm spending the holidays with? *** I invite you to come on in and join the conversation. If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a sense of relief, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com with the subject "Holiday Mini." Take care be well. And remember, it's YOUR time off, too! Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Lovely Space Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2331858480409324 Lisa on Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Continuing our series on black women, racism, and trauma, I want to talk about tears. For some reason, years and years ago, I became interested in tears -- not just what they were chemically made of, but also the conceptions and misconceptions and what causes them, what silences them, what dries them up, what allows them to flow. And so I thought about the tears of black women and how much those tears were measured over the years. By measured, I mean, where they were stopped before they were completed -- simply because there was no time, simply because the next thing was calling, simply because there was another impact of trauma that called for a different response. I wonder how many tears are locked up in our eyes and in our bodies, in the very soul of who we are. I wonder how many leftover tears we have from our mothers, our grandmothers, our great grandmothers, our great, great grandmothers, and ancestors as far back as time. I wonder if the tears that we haven’t cried could fill every body of water that we know of throughout the world. Probably more, probably more... *** I invite you to come on in and join the conversation. If this conversation has brought you to an insight, a story, a suggestion, please email me at lisa@insideoutrecovery.com In your subject put “tears” so that I know to give special attention to that email. Happy Thanksgiving! Enjoy it with your family. Be safe. Don’t take unnecessary risks. Be creative so that we can do our part in coming together again. Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Lovely Space Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2331858480409324 Lisa on Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

We are living in this time where we are at a crossroads. We can decide to be lukewarm or take a stand, but in-between is no longer an option. So as I think about racism and black women, I can't help but think about how we view our bodies, both historically and currently, as it relates to what information has tried to be downloaded into our self-esteem for years and years and years and years and years. Our physical bodies and our spiritual bodies have been impacted by trauma. The assumption is that black women are strong and so therefore "she can take it." The nicknames that are given to our body parts, the objectification of our curvy figures and the cruel jokes about our butts that stick out are all "just in fun" because certainly black women can't be hurt. "She can take it" because she's strong -- strong, beyond human strength. We have to ask is it an assumption, or is it an excuse or outlandish treatment? In this episode, I’m starting a story of a black woman, a queen, Sarah 'Saartjie’ Baartman, born in 1789, who was trafficked, brutally abused, and whose remains were put on display in a museum for decades to come. It is not easy to hear. I share this with you because I want us to help Sarah Baartman to rest in peace by returning to ourselves without apology, and to carry ourselves as the phenomenal women we are. I invite you to come on in and join the conversation. If this story resonates with you, email me lisa@insideoutrecovery.com. I want to hear from those who are struggling and living outside of their identity and into the names that have been given that are not true. I want to hear how you are coming back to YOUR identity, or maybe you already have and can share what that path has been. In the subject line, I want you to put 'Warrior Queen." And then if you're able to put the little crown symbol in that subject line. I look forward to continuing the conversation with you. Peace and Blessings, Lisa *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: lisa@insideoutrecovery.com Lovely Space Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2331858480409324 Lisa on Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

There are traumas that everyone recognizes. If you're in a house fire, you are aware of all that it took to escape that house fire. If there were major damages, or losses of people or animals, you know that that was a traumatic event. Another traumatic event is feeling different, feeling like your difference isn't seen, heard, respected or understood -- and in that difference feeling as though you don't fit in and experiencing, for example, an internalized loneliness. So many of my experiences as a black woman and as a black child -- there was always either a spotlight on me or no light at all. And that left me not feeling that in public, my difference was a good thing.  What I also found out is that even if I had the care and love of family, once I went beyond those doors and further and further into life, often, those good and true and solid messages got drowned out by the louder voices of some message that my blackness was less than not important, as not necessarily taken seriously, or the opposite -- seen as different, meaning “not like the other black people” that they've met. As a teacher, I know the impact of trauma on our opportunity to live the life we have on our vision board or in our minds. And I know that trauma can be healed. In this episode, I’m starting a conversation with you about black women, racism and trauma to remind us of things that we’ve forgotten and to create space to share our experiences, strength and hope. I invite you to come on in and join the conversation. *** Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: Insideoutconvo@insideoutconversations.com  Lovely Space Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2331858480409324 Lisa on Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Today I'm talking with producer and director Laurice Bell. We go way back to our roots in Evanston, IL. We begin this conversation with the word "Sawubana", a Zulu greeting for "we see you" to talk about being in community at these times.  Laurice's podcast is Evanston Rules. Find it at https://www.evanstonrules.com *** Watch for our online course Teaching White People Empathy Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: Insideoutconvo@insideoutconversations.com  Lovely Space Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2331858480409324 Lisa on Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

I catch up with my dear friend, Dr. Julie Ann Gray, about what it's like to be a clinician during these times of shelter-in-place and the amplification of racism in our country. Julie's book Diva Five Alive: Letters to My Sisters is available now. *** Watch for our online course Teaching White People Empathy Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: Insideoutconvo@insideoutconversations.com  Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

I had the honor to join trauma expert, author and clinician, Dierdre Fay on her YouTube channel where she invited me to talk about the traumatic impact of racism. In this episode, you will hear some of my own experiences, some of the experiences of family members, some history, some hopes, and some challenges. While I agree 100% that policies, procedures, legislation -- all kinds of renewing needs to happen in our systems and around our systems, that we need to dismantle systems and to grow new systems, I believe that that is almost secondary. And what is primary is reaching the heart of people who have continued to turn a blind eye consciously and unconsciously. We need a soul revival, a place where hearts are renewed and transformed. That I believe is the greater work and the hardest work. However, I am extremely hopeful.  So take a listen, I hope you'll resonate. *** Watch for our online course Teaching White People Empathy Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: Insideoutconvo@insideoutconversations.com  Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

I must look. “To avoid pain is to avoid growth and challenge and to avoid looking is to lose an opportunity for empathy and to avoid looking is also to avoid being authentic in my emotional responses to racism.” ~Lisa Lackey  A teachable moment... “While my intentions were good & my heart was in the right place. I unfortunately made a thousand errors in facilitating that conversation. And I'm very grateful to my students because it opened up a real, really uncomfortable conversation that continued with two classes. I was confronted with my own white privilege, white superiority, white fragility.” ~Joyce Marter Consider the motivation driving your work in becoming anti racist “I think when you talk about white feminists or white people in general, particularly women, I think we could be channeling our outrage about everything going on, maybe into racial justice. I do think there is, even an energy, that is about the energy of being part of this big movement.” ~Laura Tanner Honestly, this is just a tiny, tiny tip of the iceberg of black people and white people having a conversation about racism. Insideout Conversations is committed to the messiness of healing & to the repair. We can deeply sabotage healing if we don’t trust the process of transformation. We hope you will continue this conversation with your friends, with courage and honesty. *** Watch for our online course Teaching White People Empathy Subscribe here for courses, events, webinars & more here ➡️https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist Connect with us: Insideoutconvo@insideoutconversations.com  Facebook: @lisalackeyconversations  Instagram: @lisalackey60 LinkedIn: Lisa Lackey *** If you are a white person, I want to leave you with this question: How would you respond differently if George Floyd was your family member and he was just one of many that were murdered by the police ?been my son, my husband, my brother ? *** Insideout Conversations is edited by The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Insideout Conversations has a renewed purpose! My husband and business partner Steve Lackey and I want to really focus the conversations around healing and healing through empathy. And for right now, we're really looking at empathy as it relates to racism and all the things that are going on around it. So we're hoping to invite you into our conversation. Conversations can be a place of learning and growing and stretching. Conversations can be uncomfortable and messy. But what we know is that if we don't have them, then we'll remain stuck with all the things that make up our assumptions. And what brought us here has kept us here in so many ways. White people have asked over & over, "How do we support the movement?" Our response has been formatted into a 5 module course that addresses this question. The answer: be willing to learn EMPATHY. Yes, empathy can be taught to hearts willing to be broken open by the felt experience of black people.  Racism is multi-layered. Unless there is a willingness to really see African American people, the system will live in hearts even if laws are changed.  Subscribe here to join the waitlist for the course: https://mailchi.mp/insideoutrecovery/waitlist You'll get access to registration, resources, and events. Returning to "normal" is delusional. That path is quickly evaporating. Who will you be? How will you live? What needs to change in you? What is your hope? TOGETHER IN EMPATHY WE HEAL. *** http://www.insideoutconversations.com Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Special thanks to our sponsor and editors The Creative Impostor Studios. Andrea is offering a special Launch Your Podcast class online via Zoom July 9, 2020 -- perfect if you have something passionate to say and are feeling stuck, or don't know where to begin. Register by July 2nd to get your ticket for FREE at http://www.thecreativeimpostor.com/insideoutlaunch *** Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Have you been noticing the different shifts that you have been experiencing since COVID-19 ? It’s been pretty interesting living & observing my highs, lows & in betweens. There’s so much to learn about myself, my relationships, habits and patterns that pop up in the midst of profound uncertainty. My hope for me and you, is that we remember we are living in global trauma, & processing that is impossible, while in the midst of trauma. I hope we remember to be gentle with ourselves & others, recognizing trauma brings on many different responses & often feels like those responses are all happening at the same time. I hope we remember to acknowledge the pain of trauma and the blessings that surface. Please listen & reflect on what it’s like to be you as you are living in and through this trauma called the pandemic. So far, this is a summary of what it's been like sheltering in place with myself. Behind the scenes. You are the beloved. And I will talk with you soon.    *** Connect with Lisa: Women who long to be reminded of our magnificence, realigned with purpose and challenged to imprint the world, as only we can -- who are ready to learn, practice and share RADICAL SELF LOVE as a revolutionary act of healing self and others, request to join us in Lovely Space on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2331858480409324/   http://www.insideoutconversations.com Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Have you ever met people and their energy just makes you feel better, even if you already feel good? My guests today are Dr. Martha Linn and D Anthony Evans, they are two that have that life giving energy. Their lives are full and their own medical crisis led them down a path of healing that they now share with others as they pursue health.  In this show you will be encouraged, experience hope, you will get some great information about positivity, food as medicine and the connection of emotional and physical health. Dr. Linn says, even though she was eating healthy and exercising regularly her thought patterns were negative and incongruent with the lifestyle she was working toward. She said “ I was really kind to everybody on the outerworld, and very hard on me, on the inner world. My pattern of thought is based on my belief that I'mnot good enough. My internal thoughts were like a yelling Drill Sergeant.” At this point Dr. Linn began addressing these negative thoughts, by replacing them with meditation and affirmations.  You can check out Dr. Linn’s practice here: https://inradianthealth.com/ D Anthony Evans refused to accept this rare form of cancer would only allow him six months to live. Health issues were not new for D, from the time he was 6 years old he dealt with a rare condition and was constantly in pain. With the cancer diagnosis, came information regarding all of the options for living for 6 months. D Anthony Evans chose another option, based on his determination to live. That option is what he continues to practice every single day. That option is what he calls Train To Live. To this day D lives by his commitment to himself and the agreement he has with God. He shares his gratitude for life by speaking to people all over the world, as a motivational speaker, he represents the American Cancer Society, and trains adults and children to live! You can learn more from D Anthony Evans: https://www.facebook.com/danthonytrains/ https://www.wholefoodplantbaseddiet.com/tag/d-anthony-evans/ https://www.instagram.com/danthonytrains/?hl=en   *** Connect with Lisa: http://www.insideoutconversations.com Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

No one's ever had an experience in a pandemic. And so we are learning lots of new things and it's causing us to really have to pivot and change our views and, really consider each  other in ways that may be different from pre Covid-19. This episode goes behind the scenes of this pandemic, exploring the impact of sheltering in place as a couple. Hello? There are challenges and benefits. My husband and I answer the following questions based on our experience. Does the confinement of quarantine highlight relational challenges?  Are you having trouble navigating internal and external stress?  Could you use guidance and support during this unprecedented stressful time? If you are sheltering in place with a partner, consider answering the question for yourself. Let's make a connection right now! Reach out and let me know how this episode resonates with you. Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com *** http://www.insideoutconversations.com Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

When you experience being betrayed it is devastating. When that betrayal comes from an intimate partner, your life is changed forever. These changes impact emotional, psychological, spiritual, existential, physical and relational stability. In fact, intimate betrayal is traumatic. It  makes you feel like you are losing your mind. It robs you of your sense of security and puts you in a state of turbulence. Suddenly, everything you thought you knew, is now questioned, reality is altered. Your brain begins to be on constant alert. This traumatic disruption, causes extreme hyper-vigilance, restlessness, anxiety, and a sense of being on guard. This alters your ability to regulate your mood, to calm yourself, to think, to reason, and to make intelligent decisions. Your brain is hijacked with fear and daily tasks become almost impossible.  Research has shown that with the help of a trained professional the healing process usually takes between 18 months to 3 years. The healing period increases, with multiple betrayals and in long term relationships. This is an incredibly lonely and isolating experience. For this reason, it is my privilege to provide professional insight, encouragement and resources, so that you don’t have to feel as alone. Let's make a connection right now! Reach out and let me know how this episode resonates with you. Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com *** http://www.insideoutconversations.com Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/    

Autobiography In Five Short Chapters,  is one of my favorite “short stories” to re-visit. In different seasons these 5 chapters have helped me to locate myself. In other seasons, these chapters have given me a wake up calls. At other times humility, clarity, grace, and reminded me of my progress, even if I wasn’t where I thought I “should” be. As you consider sharing a part of your story, further understanding where you are in the story, re-writing parts of your story or you  just want to consider if you want to consider, read these 5 chapters. As you read each chapter, what do you connect with? What is/was your Chapter 1? What are some of your Chapter 1 lessons? Autobiography In Five Short Chapters –  Portia Nelson   Chapter I I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost... I am hopeless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.   Chapter II I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in this same place.
But it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.   Chapter III I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it there.
I still fall in... it's a habit... but,
my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.   Chapter IV I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.   Chapter V I walk down another street.   Let's make a connection right now! Reach out an let me know how this episode resonates with you. Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com *** http://www.insideoutconversations.com Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.   Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/  

Let's make a connection right now! Reach out an let me know how this episode resonates with you. Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com   We want the same thing Most of us are seeking happiness, love, peace, joy… and let’s not forget freedom from the internal turmoil that so often plagues us.    When we can’t get what we need our hearts hurt  The heart, both physical and figurative, bears the burden of our emotional traumas and everyday stressors.  What occurs in our emotional world most certainly affects and often manifests itself in our physical body.   The painful cost of disconnection Many of us are suffering the pain of disconnection from our hearts. This disconnection often maintains emotional pain, eating disorders and other addictive processes.    The benefit of reconnecting  Reconnecting with the heart, with our authentic inner nature and capacity for love, may be the doorway to what we are truly seeking. The heart is relationship-centered and attention to it opens space for healing- with yourself and others.   Connection is a journey Let’s take a little journey to discover more about the heart and what reconnection with it means in our daily lives.  Reconnecting with the heart at a deeper level assumes that there has been a disconnection somewhere along the way. It is my bias that most of us go through life struggling to both BE connected and STAY connected to our hearts, to what we love, to our vulnerability, and to what moves us. We experience pressure from outside to be something we aren’t. We live fast paced lifestyles and function from our heads, neglecting the language of the heart. We overuse our minds and underuse our hearts. We want instant change and we don’t want to deal with discomfort.   Symptoms of disconnection Feeling disconnected from life or like you can’t connect with others. Feeling a lack of wholeness or that some part of you is missing or inaccessible. Feeling low self-worth or insecurity. Feeling stuck, unable to make changes or not knowing what changes to make. Feeling a sense of numbness or disconnection from your own body. Feeling drawn to a relationship that has been unhealthy for you. Feeling urges to engage in non-life sustaining behaviors.   4 Options to begin a re-connecting process   Connect back to your body with physical activity.   Dance, walk, yoga, exercise, ride a bike,    swing your legs, just move.   Go outside and soak up the beauty of nature.   Look around very slowly from one side to the other and find 6 things that you see.   Be mindful and present to the moment.   If you’re taking a shower, notice the feeling of the water on your skin, the smell of the soap, the texture of your wash cloth, your feet on the ground.   Feel what you feel.   If you’re feeling the discomfort of anxiety, gently place your hand on the part of your body that feels the anxiety. If that feeling could speak, what would it say? Let's make a connection right now! Reach out an let me know how this episode resonates with you. Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com *** http://www.insideoutconversations.com Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.   Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/      

Travel, family, and internal shifts. Healing is the culmination of love and life. Let me hear about your healing, your darkness, and how it cued YOU to turn on the light! Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com *** http://www.insideoutconversations.com Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

This is Part 2 of 2: What your mama didn't tell you! (If you haven't listened to episode 021 already, go back to that one so you can get part 1!) At various stages in our lives we find ourselves changing in ways that seem unexplainable! From about 45 years old until 50, I was taken captive by an invasion of body snatchers. It was strange, I couldn’t figure out where I was, where did I go? Would I ever return? There are times in life when we need to pause, because the cycles of life require us to do so. In those pauses, what will you listen for? Who will you become? What lessons will you learn & share? For this week: Get my recommended book list here: http://bit.ly/ioc022books AND the free introduction to The Re-Birthing of Her: http://bit.ly/ioc022download Both are completely free as my gift to you for a limited time -- don't delay!   Stay in touch… Email me: insideoutconvo@gmail.com   http://www.insideoutconversations.com Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

At various stages in our lives we find ourselves changing in ways that seem unexplainable! From about 45 years old until 50, I was taken captive by an invasion of body snatchers. It was strange, I couldn’t figure out where I was, where did I go? Would I ever return? There are times in life when we need to pause, because the cycles of life require us to do so. In those pauses, what will you listen for? Who will you become? What lessons will you learn & share? This is Part 1 of 2: What your mama didn't tell you!   For this week: Can you relate? Email me and share your personal experience or story with "the change."   Stay in touch… Email insideoutconvo@gmail.com.   http://www.insideoutconversations.com Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

All I could see was darkness all around me. In fact my eyes were adjusting to the darkness, so much so, I forgot it was dark. But, this sliver of light was just noticeable enough to spark curiosity.  Where was it coming from? I looked all around. I couldn’t locate the source. And then… I realized that the sliver of light was coming from within me. Today I share how to navigate the dark places in your life. Inevitably, we will face change in our lives and often change is painful, especially when we do not know the outcome of change.  In this episode, I discuss: How to hold onto hope, while in darkness. The signs of light in dark places. The only way to exit darkness. For this week: Share an experience with someone about a time when you were able to see the signs of light while you were in a dark place.   Stay in touch… Email insideoutconvo@gmail.com.   http://www.insideoutconversations.com Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

We all need a special place in our lives. A place where we can take off all the pretense, and just be ourselves on good days and not so good days. In this episode, you’ll be encouraged to clarify what it means for you to feel safe to be who you are, where you are. A special place can be a physical space, relationships, a real or imagined place. More significant, is when we can create safety from within. A Special Place, shares practical insight and practices to increase safety from the inside out. http://www.insideoutconversations.com Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.  

In this episode, you are invited to look around and inside of you to notice where you might be withholding.  Withholding is knowingly holding back in areas of your life that you are being challenged to move forward. You will recognize the excuses that surface when you want to defend withholding, and then you are further stretched to move past the chatter in your head and become more clear about your hesitations. We will discuss some of the tell tell signs that indicate withholding. The tell tale signs are categorized by a few “issue” groups: SELF-ESTEEM ESTEEM ISSUES BOUNDARIES ISSUES REALITY ISSUES NEEDS & WANTS ISSUES http://www.insideoutconversations.com *** Podcast edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. ***  Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60

This first episode of 2019, kicks off celebrating who we are as women, and making room for ourselves and our dreams. LET US BEGIN OCCUPYING OUR SPACE AS QUEENS is the first in a series specifically designed to remind ourselves and each other of our royal status as queens. Have the conversation and action plan to clear the trails of distraction, lies and shadows that have frustrated you and your dreams. So many of us have spent years, even decades helping others move their dreams forward, while putting ourselves and our great purpose on the back burner. Women will bring forth their great purpose and in the process heal and bring healing to the world. Our great purpose will be unleashed sometimes in a fury, sometimes through gentle winds, and no matter how, the impact will continue to spark healing, the likes we have not seen. You will be introduced to 5 life lessons by Dr. Seuss and I that will help in clearing the path for you! http://www.insideoutconversations.com *** Podcast edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. ***  Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60  

Oftentimes when we hear about Imposter Syndrome, we hear of those, that despite their evidence of success there is a feeling of being phony and fraudulent. In this podcast we will look at how our hesitancy and playing small, is actually another side of Imposter Syndrome. 7 symptoms that might indicate you are a giant in a grasshopper suit are shared for you to come to your own conclusion.   Get all the free downloads for 2018 and catch up on any episodes you may have missed. Episode 15: Yes to Yes worksheet Episode 14: Spiritual Boundaries Worksheet Episode 13: Boundaries Tip Sheet  Episode 12: Drama Triangle Worksheet Episode 11: Squatter Assessment   *** Podcast edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. ***  Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60  

After spending so many years refining my “no”, and even getting to the place of not feeling guilty about saying no, I was interrupted by this three letter word; yes.   I was trying to figure something out related to one of our adult children, to the point of overwhelm and not any closer to an answer.  When out of left field came the nudge to say YES to all that was and was not happening. This seemed crazy, and after much push back, I found myself saying Yes, yes to yes, the more I spoke these words, the lighter I felt.  At some point, probably after my resistance melted more and more, I realized that I was saying yes to something greater than the something I was trying to figure out. I was saying yes to the best for me, the best of me, and the best outcome for all concerned. You will be asked to look at some of the places your definitive no, may need to consider an exuberant yes. We’ll look at the defensive posture of no, and how it can block us from who we desire to be. We will look at the stagnancy that is, at times the response to our “no”.   Does any of this mean “no” is not that best response at times, no, not at all. It means that if our “no” is in any way born out of self imposed limitations, it is time to practice YES, in its place. Click this link to get the Yes to Yes free worksheet -- My gift to you!   *** Podcast edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons. ***  Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60    

We hear a lot about boundaries today. “Girl, I’m setting my boundaries.” Boundaries, boundaries.”   When handled this way, there more like death threats, rather than exercising self compassion, and keeping yourself safe. As discussed in previous podcasts, boundaries are about taking care of yourself. Boundaries are not about manipulating outcomes, punishing or controlling. There is a realization, that experiencing similar patterns that don’t work, hurt AND we have choices. In this episode, we will talk about boundaries 2.0 = spiritual boundaries. This is self care/compassion that begins with an internal awareness; I deserve to be treated well, by myself and others AND I have to model to myself and others by setting boundaries. These boundaries help us to hold sacred our space as a precious child of God.   Click this link to get the Spiritual Boundaries Worksheet for this episode. And if you haven’t gotten it already, find the Boundaries Tip Sheet here from episode 013. Both downloads are totally free - my gift to you! ***   Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

Too often difficult conversations never end, because we avoid, strategize and are often trying to protect our stance. In some ways, it feels like the same conversation over and over. Even when that pattern is recognized, it’s difficult to interrupt the pattern and even more difficult to see what part we play in this frustrating communication. As you listen you’ll hear about: What you require of other people when you’re in the role of Victim, Rescuer or Persecutor. Once you see what you’re unconsciously requiring of others, you’ll know why the same patterns emerge when in difficult conversations. Awareness, acknowledgement and accountability are game changers. These 3 A’s give you options, which include stepping outside the drama. Click this link to take the "drama triangle" assessment from episode 12 to show your areas of strength and the stuff to work on to get to resolving conflicts more quickly. Then download the Boundaries tip sheet here. Both downloads are totally free - my gift to you!   *** Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.    

Do you find that when you’re in conflict, that your main objective is to get your point across? Do you walk around on eggshells to avoid the conflict, because it’s awkward? Maybe, when trying to work it out, you find your volume, tone and intensity increases and you’re yelling? Or, do you use the double punch of wit and insult? I don’t know, you may be masterful at conflict resolution, if you are great! If resolving conflict, is difficult and you keep having the outcomes with no solution, you want to listen to this! You’ll hear about 4 communication patterns that block resolving conflicts. Not only that, you will get a close up of the roles and characteristics that get amplified in conflicts and other areas of our lives. Finally, click this link to take the "drama triangle" assessment to show your areas of strength and the stuff to work on to get to resolving conflicts more quickly.   Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.   

When we leave ourselves by being enamored or preoccupied with distractions, we gradually leave ourselves. Before we know it, we just don’t feel like ourselves and we start to look externally to feel better. We may even find “temporary solutions” only to find out that we are treating symptoms, rather than cause. An example may be being frustrated about something you haven’t dealt with, so you put it on a “shelf”, as if that’s the “solution” to the frustration. Putting it on the shelf, may temporarily bring relief. However, if the cause, perhaps procrastination due to fear, is not dealt with, the “squatter of procrastination” will not leave.   Have you ever had a squatter in your house? Get a FREE squatter assessment as gift from Lisa: http://bit.ly/ioc11squatters   Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living:https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

We are living at a point in history, where we as women are being called to bring it. IT is our very own curated mojo. Our secret sauce, are little somethin, somethin, that thing that makes us who we are, that glam, that has nothing to do with hair, makeup and wardrobe and all to do with our bad a.. authentic, real self. In this episode, you and I will answer the question, whose life am I living? If we aren’t open to gaining more insight about being open to truthfully answering the question, it’s difficult to impossible to bring it, to unleash our mojo. It is our responsibility to make the essential impact, the footprint that your life is meant to make, so that our lives are enhanced and encouraged to live more of the real life. Your mojo can hardly wait for you to bring it at a whole “nother” level. #digdeep #levelup #mojomoves   Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

"Dear Sistah Girl" is a series of episodes that get to the heart of our relations with women as women. We’ll look at the complexities and the absolutely soulful journeys inward and with each other that bring us into Sistah Girl relationship. In Episode 9 we will learn more about the difference between talking dirty and why the “F” word when used in certain ways, for various reasons is sacred and carries within its vibe, a healing balm.   Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Insideout Conversations is edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Our theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.

"Dear Sistah Girl" is a series of episodes that get to the heart of our relations with women as women. We’ll look at the complexities and the absolutely soulful journeys inward and with each other that bring us into Sistah Girl relationship. In Episode 8, you’ll relate to our ability to speak a language that is spoken, unspoken and accurately interpreted between Sistahs. Learn more about Lisa and her clinical practice, Insideout Living: https://www.insideoutrecovery.com/     Connect on: Facebook @lisalackeyconversations Instagram @lisalackey60   Insideout Conversations is edited by Andrea Klunder and Edwin Ruiz at The Creative Impostor Studios. Our theme music is by Nicholas77 at freesound.org and is licensed under the Creative Commons.