Let’s Talk About It with Janie Lacy

Everyone ... and I mean ... EVERYONE, has ignored red flags. You've ignored that gut feeling and silenced your inner voice telling you to end that friendship, don't marry that person, love that family member from a distance, move away, stay home, etc. And it's okay ... You're not weak or stupid... only human. While walking out your healing journey there will be trial and error; you won't get everything right. But you can learn from past mistakes and make better future decisions.

A Couple's Guide To Conquering Betrayal

Barbara shares her captivating real life stories to give you hope . Her intrinsic drive that was born from a humble childhood and a teenage vow that she made to her brother with special needs. Her grit, humor and sense of purpose will inspire you to reframe the story of your own life and seek to find your own ”secret sauce” for living your best life.

In this episode, Let's Talk About It with Janie Lacy's guest Cathleen Elle discusses her journey from grief to belief. Cathleen has made it her life mission to help people who have experience sudden loss. She discusses her book Shattered Together which is the remarkable tale of how Elle chose to become whole by learning to heal through the pain of her son's death. From finding meaning in life to finding forgiveness, Elle opens up about the hard-won lessons she's learned on her more-than-10-year odyssey and reveals the practices and tools she's used to release her pain and experience love and joy once more. Cathleen discusses with Dr. Janie that there is life on the other side of grief. There is love and hope, joy and meaning to still be experienced, and in this episode Elle discusses how to get there.

We all have the desire to belong, to connect. And in the age of social media, making personal connections has been more challenging than ever. Millennials and Zoomers tend to have high anxiety at the thought of meeting new people and often fumble during in-person relationships. They struggle to connect, don't know how to make friends, and subsequently flounder in workplace relationships. Sound familiar? But relationship expert and media personality Rachel DeAlto knows that it doesn't have to be that way. Everyone can be likable. Everyone can be confident. And anyone can achieve this authentically. In this episode, with a fresh, fun, and humorous tone, Rachel takes you from socially awkward to awesome. You will finally feel more comfortable in social and professional settings so you can let your true character shine as you form lasting, authentic, and meaningful connections with everyone in the room.

Let's Be Honest, Breakups Suck. If doesn't matter if you were the one to end the relationship or if you were on the receiving end of the breakup, breakups often leave us feeling lost, alone, and confused. This episode will help you identify if you need or want to leave a relationship, how to navigate the breakup process, how to grieve and heal, and how to take what you learned in this relationship into this next stage of your life. Grief isn't linear and this is probably going to hurt worse before it gets better, but you'll be grateful you did the hard work.

You can choose anger. You have the power to express anger in healthy or unhealthy ways. Anger can help you grow or make you miserable. When you choose a healthy response to anger – you will discover how to put your anger to work for good!”

Intimacy in a relationship is a feeling of being close, and emotionally connected and supported. It means being able to share a whole range of thoughts, feelings and experiences that we have as human beings. It involves being open and talking through your thoughts and emotions, letting your guard down (being vulnerable), and showing someone else how you feel and what your hopes and dreams are. Dr. Janie Lacy shares tips on what you can do to start building the relationship of your dreams through developing the skills of healthy intimacy!

Sadly, family problems tend to repeat themselves down through the generations. But the good news is that you can stop a hurtful cycle and be the one to help bring healing to your family. In this episode your host Dr. Janie Lacy discusses healing from dysfunctional family patterns.

Our special guest, Ashley Jameson shares her expertise and personal story of triumph and restoration. She has overcome betrayal and her own love and sex addiction. Ashley knows firsthand the power of walking with others through recovery. Ashley wants women who feel alone and stuck in their struggles to know they are not alone and there is hope. As the International Women's Group Coordinator for Pure Desire, Ashley provides leadership and training to churches throughout the world.

Being in a relationship with a narcissist is not a pleasant experience. The negative impact ripples out to all areas of your life – from your ability to focus at work all the way through to affecting your emotional and physical health. The difficult part is knowing whether your partner really is a narcissist (or are they just overly confident); and the even trickier part – if you know they are a narcissist, what can you do about it? We go through the signs (also known as red flags) to indicate you are more than likely in a relationship with a narcissist, and what you can do if you are in this situation.

During this time, many are back in school or preparing to go back to school during a very different time in our history…besides the questions, do you like your teacher, what friends have you sat with at lunch, an important conversation many parents are also having is around bullying. When we consider whether a celebrity, an athlete, or the parent at the PTA meeting…many have had their own experiences with bullying. Today our special guest Sean James who is former two-sport college athlete and professional football player for the Minnesota Vikings who has developed a successful career in business and finance and in philanthropy. Sean founded Be In The Know About Bullying to provide education and mentorship to students in order to help them be leaders in their communities, and combat the bullying epidemic faced by our nation. He is helping us understand how we can all make a difference in bullying prevention.

Did you know that the one thing all successful people have in common is failure? They made films no one wanted to see. Wrote blogs no one wanted to read. Created music no one wanted to hear. But they kept going…all the way to success. Because only when we face defeat do we know what we can overcome. Only when we put aside excuses are we ready to try again. In Chasing Failure, our special guest Ryan Leak takes us on a journey to show how chasing failure may be your quickest way to success.

In life, the question is not if you will have problems, but how you are going to deal with your problems. If the possibility of failure were erased, what would you attempt to achieve? The essence of being human is imperfection. Know that you're going to make mistakes. The person who never makes a mistake takes their orders from one who does. Wake up and realize this: Failure is simply a price we pay to achieve success. Today our guest, Nikou Lohse who is Holistic Health Coach, Gut Health Specialist, Master Pilates, Yoga & Barre Teacher, Believer, Podcast Host, MLB wife and Mama of three to name a few of her many roles is going to help you take back your health so you can feel fill of gratitude, trust your intuition and be authentically confident.

Most of us have something in our past that's a painful memory—a traumatic event, a heartbreak, years of bullying or rejection that still gets triggered. We hear how important it is to move on, forgive, let go, live in the present, but those words can often seem like cliches. If you've been hurt deeply enough, therapy and self-help practices alone may not completely free you from the tyranny of an old wound. True freedom requires the courage to embrace what happened to you and use it to change the world.

Do you find yourself bragging about how stressed you are? I can't tell you how many times I hear “I'm so stressed!” in my personal and professional life. I hear it from the stay-at-home mom, the student, the doctor, and the administrator. We are literally obsessed with talking about how stressed we are. So obsessed, that these conversations have become almost competitive in nature. I discuss ways you can start taking care of yourself today.

Daily life in today's world can be hectic. Overwhelm and exhaustion are on the rise as endless to-do lists pile higher and higher. Responsibilities in your career and family can cause you to spin out of control and lose sight of the things that keep you grounded, focused, and balanced. Even though you're holding things together by a thread, you may continue to keep going until that doesn't work anymore and eventually you breakdown. Today our guest Lauren Lavender is going to help you turn a breakdown to breakthrough.

Have you ever considered that changing the way you start your day…. could transform your life? Well today's guest Glenn Lundy believes how you choose to start your mornings can be life changing.

I'm so sick of that same old love, feels like I've blown apart — I'm so sick of that same old love, the kind that breaks your heart,” are the words from the popular Selena Gomez song titled, “Same Old Love.” Have you ever considered your pattern in love relationships? Have your relationships left you feeling empty, angry and lonely over and over again? The painful reality is that many people find it difficult to stop to observe what they accept, tolerate and come into agreement with in their love relationships.

Have you ever wondered why some businesses thrive while others take a nosedive, or why some entrepreneurs are successful when so many are not? Why do some businesses sell for maximum value, some sell for pennies on the dollar, and some don't sell at all? Today our special guest, Sharon Lechter is here to answer these questions.

Imagine you can't sleep, you look at the clock and it reads 2 AM, you start to search the Internet and you come across a skydiving video and you think simply wow….. you flashback to just a few weeks prior to when you found out one of the most life changing events that happened when you were forced out of the Marine Corps. Confusion and sadness sets in as you think what next…you think how am I going to provide for my family…you think what is my purpose and what am I supposed to do next…this moment feels like you can't get any lower…this is rock bottom. Today our guest Ira Davis who is a former Marine Corps drill instructor, the founder and CEO of DreamDiver. Ira works to help people discover their stories and inspire others. His companies are designed to help aspiring pioneers, visionaries, and world-changers discover their purpose and dive into their dreams to impact the world. Today he is going to do just that, he is going to help you dive into your dreams…

It all boils down to your mindset, our willingness to act and your ability to accept risk in pursuit of opportunity. Rather than labeling your next move as “getting back on track,' think of it as a reset on your life. An opportunity to wipe the slate clean and start anew. It sounds magical, doesn't it? I want to encourage you that it's within your power to do so to own your reset. Those are the words of our esteemed guest, Dhomonique Murphy who is a 3x Emmy Award Winning Journalist and Mrs. Virginia American 2020. She is a leading industry expert in the field of positive personal development. She is credited for securing some of the toughest interviews to crack. She is going to take you on a journey to learn how to truly RESET no matter where you are in life.

I realized I had to stop pushing away what was happening around me in order to get ahead and get through. I had to get comfortable having a lack of control to change what I couldn't change and do my best to transfer the good inside of me to others in whatever way I could. As you begin your Humble Alpha journey, I realized that as much as we say “your control your situation” (and you do!), there may be circumstances outside of your control that you cannot change. Remember, leaders rise in impossible situations. They change what's in front of them through moment-by-moment transfers to others of what they carry inside. They end up changing the world by first changing their worlds. These are the words of our esteem guest Steven Kuhn, who is decorated United States army combat veteran, speaker, author, and consultant who helps individuals dramatically improve their quality of life through the consistent, conscious application of Honesty, Integrity and Transparency. He is here to help you Unleash Your Humble Alpha.

Seems like all I can see was the struggle, Haunted by ghosts that lived in my past, Bound up in shackles of all my failures, Wondering how long is this gonna last, Then You look at this prisoner and say to me daughter Stop fighting a fight that's already been won I am redeemed – one of my favorite songs by Big Daddy Weave. Our guest, Tamra Andress who is the CEO & founder of CORE Creatives Women's Business Membership & Host of the Fit in Faith Podcast. She is a joy-filled Christian women's business coach serving to illuminate, create & activate God-centered businesses for Kingdom Impact is here to help you turn your pain into purpose and what it means to walk out being a Woman Redeemed.

Did you know that 'vaccinated' is the hottest detail you can add to your dating app bio today? Over the past year, many single people have patiently waited through what might have seemed like the long, slow death of their romantic lives. Social distancing has meant fewer dates, while strict physical distancing designed to limit the spread of COVID-19 were quickly branded a “dating ban” when they came into force. Our special guest, who goes by Coach Cass is a Certified Dating & Relationship Coach, also trained under and certified by John Gottman's Seven Principles Program to Making Marriage Work, Certified Life Coach, Matchmaker, TEDX Speaker and more! She has worked with thousands of women and she is here to break down the dating game in 2021.

You feel devastated, empty, and ashamed. You are yet again alone and destroyed by another bad relationship with a toxic person. Why is it that you only see the signs of a toxic relationship after it has ended? Why were you so blind to your partner's controlling behavior and frequent mental abuse? Today's guest Kelly Kristin who is a life and love coach and founder of the Worshipped Woman answers these questions for you. She focuses on helping women heal from toxic relationships, love themselves and create the healthy and happy love they deserve.

What Is a Single Parent By Choice? A single parent by choice is an adult who chooses to have a kid by in vitro fertilization (IVF), adoption, or artificial insemination, without a partner. Many adults are deciding that pursuing a long term relationship is too uncertain or time-consuming--or simply that they can't wait any longer to start a family. Stephen McCall, our guest tells his journey to becoming a single black father through adoption.

Do you remember what it felt like to be in a teenager in love? I remember being a teen and listening to the words of Slick Rick's song that goes “A serious situation we all go through, It deals with your feelings, so hear what I say, It's like a day where nothing seems to go your way, Bust this, two people, they really like each other, He says there's no one else and she claims there is no other, The feelings are same, and you receive a notion, To reveal your inner thoughts and deeply hid emotions - A teenage love, a teenage love. Some of us also think about that devastating heartbreak that forever change us. When you're 18 years old, breaking up with someone really, really hurts. What if the hurt feels so hopeless, that the only way out is death? Today our guest, Dr. Rolanda Schmidt who is an author, motivation speaker, professor but most of all she is the mother of four including her beloved son Giovanni who received his wings and two bonus children.

Toxic thoughts, depression, anxiety – our mental mess is frequently aggravated by a chaotic world and sustained by an inability to manage our thought life. Our guest today, Dr. Caroline Leaf says that we shouldn't settle into this mental mess as if it's a new normal. She is here today to let you know that there's hope and help available to us – and the road to healthier thoughts and peak happiness may actually be shorter than you think. It is my distinct pleasure to welcome to the show, Dr. Caroline Leaf, who is here to help you to begin to start CLEANING UP YOUR MENTAL MESS may be the key to unlocking a more peaceful life.

NBA Holistic Mental Performance Coach Laura Mitchell Wilde joins us to discuss her experience and methods in helping elite athletes perform with a heart centered attitude and being in the ZONE!

Lucinda Cross helps you discover strategies to break through your brick wall of limitation and turn it into a window. So that you open yourself up to receive more, share more, and live a life of abundance. She helps you realize it might never be the right time, but you always have the right question. All you have to do is embrace the freedom of the ASK.

Dreaming is the way we define what matters to us and what we wish to accomplish and do in the world with this one life. There comes a day when each of us has to decide that today is the day, we are going to put our fears and excuses aside, follow our heart's desire and pursue our dreams. Let today be that day for you. Our guest, Forbes Riley is one of today's most accomplished Entrepreneurs, a highly sought-after spokesperson, motivational keynote speaker and CEO of SpinGym. She's hosted 180+ infomercials, launched the original ESPN X-Games, had 2 National talk shows and 25+ years marketing products on home shopping channels worldwide. Crowned as the $2.5 Billion-Dollar TV Host, she was determined to reach her goals — through dedication, never-ending passion and hard work, she has. Her mantra: Dream It, Believe It. Achieve It.

No one wants to feel powerless, and yet we are destined to feel vulnerable and powerless particularly when we are in intimate relationships. The fact that power differentials exist in relationships is not in question; how couples learn to navigate them is. In unhealthy or abusive relationships sex and money are weapons of power for ultimate control and exploitation, and power struggles about sex and money can occur even in the healthiest of relationships—it's the human condition. So how do individuals and couples learn to balance power in their relationship? The answer is different for each relationship, but all healthy relationships are built on empowered partners. Our guest, Debra Kaplan helps you understand how to successfully harness authentic power, identifying exploitation and how to engage healthy boundaries, learn the underlying attachment styles in relationships that contribute to over-valuation and under-valuation of self and creating healthy sexual and financial boundaries in relationship.

Have you ever felt stuck…waking up day after day doing the same thing over and over again…. Just like in the movie Ground Hog Day, Phil keeps starting and finding himself back in the same place when all he wants is to get out of town. Can you relate, you wake up each morning desiring a different script? Our guest Tim Storey is going to help you understand the states of our life that keep us trapped…. Tim is an acclaimed author, speaker, and life coach, known for inspiring and motivating people of all walks of life, from entertainment executives, celebrities, and athletes to adults and children in the most deprived neighborhoods in the country. Tim has traveled to seventy-five countries and spoken to millions of people. He is well known for working with high profile individuals such as Quincy Jones, Kanye West, Robert Downey, Jr. ... to name a few.

Just as basketball players visualize the ball swishing through the hoop, and bodybuilders visualize the muscles contracting in a bicep curl, mental fitness is training for the brain ... in return helps your body too. Mental fitness doesn't just mean sitting in a corner on a carpet, crossing your legs, and meditating with candles around. It can be as simple as taking 30 seconds a day to relax your mind thinking about what you have ahead of you ... and planning accordingly as you approach your day with clarity. From “The Big Apple” - New York to “Down Under” - Australia, host Tony Anderson is one of the nation's leading voices on culture, entertainment and sports. He is here to dissect, educate, and inform us about why our Mental Fitness Matters.Tony is a host for Amazon LIVE and a former NBC correspondent. His television and media experiences have taken him across the globe to report on important and historical issues. Between covering the Stolen Generation, in Sydney, Australia ... all the way to the Oscars in Los Angeles, California, Tony has interviewed countless notable figures in entertainment as well as in the worlds of sports and politics, including: Bono, Beyonce, Valerie Jarrett, Garth Brooks and Lebron James. It is my distinct pleasure to welcome to the show, Tony Anderson ... who is here to provide the key ingredients to add to your toolbox. He will help you perform at a higher level and encourage you to build the life that you want to live.

Guest Monique Jackson is going to help you “stop playing small and walk into your greatness.” She is a celebrity publicist, brand marketing strategist, TV producer and ... so much more. In her 20 years of experience in the business, she has helped celebrity and corporate clients such as: Jay-Z, Brandy, Niecy Nash, BET and many more to improve their businesses, their brands and ... drum roll ... their bank accounts…!!!!

Cardi B's divorce is the current headliner in entertainment news...whether you are a celebrity or Joe around the block. Break ups are painful, and many couples are taking this path after quarantine and discovering it is time to move on... ...but moving on from a relationship you weren't ready to release takes time and a mind shift. We bond in relationships so the separation “come down” can feel akin to coming down from drugs. This, while painful, is on the spectrum of normal when it comes to ... breaking up. Your feelings of despair and hopelessness are in fact temporary, and they are a normal part of grieving over a relationship. In fact, only by grappling with the feeling that the relationship is over can you cleanse your deepest wounds from the past and present losses and build anew. Today our relationship expert, Mollie Eliasof, is going to help you thrive after a breakup.

Our expert guest helps us identify and break free from the impostor who takes over our mind.

Accept the things to which Fate binds you and love the people with whom fate brings you together but do so with all your heart. ~Marcus Aurelius, Emperor and Philosopher of Rome is the opening quote to our featured guest's book “All The Way, A Story of Love, Loss and Repurpose.” Tom Kidd, Founded the Joan L. Kidd MD Fight for Life Continuum---a project designed to deliver quality control oversight on plan of care ... and inform the patient/caregiver(s) of all options on health care for the sole purpose of extending the lives of terminal cancer patients, with maintaining the quality of life acceptable to the patient. The founding of the Continuum was inspired by his love of his life ... and ... apple of his eye wife, Dr. Joan Kidd and their journey to fight for her life. He gives us a glimpse into their love story and how he continues to love her by building her legacy.

Have you wondered how your past relational sexual experiences affect how you do or don't build connection? Whether it's mental, physical, or just plain NO chemistry AT ALL ... because I'm just not feeling you. Our guest today, says so many men have been exposed to traumatic events and experiences that dictate the way they think, feel and operate, such as premature exposure to sex, sexual contact, and/or sexual content. During this time of the pandemic, many families are seeking professional mental health services after discovering an affair, compulsive watching of pornography or realizing as things got quiet in the house ... once busyness and rushing to work has been removed ... that there is no emotional connection. Who is this person in my house I'm married to or living with? Paul Beshea Williams, Licensed Psychotherapist, father, husband, Author of “Dear Future Wife,” and most recently in partnership with HBO's new documentary “Storm Over Brooklyn” breaks it down for us.

Human brains are hardwired for empathy, because we associate those near to us – friends, partners, family members – so closely with our own selves, say psychologists at the University of Virginia. It stands to reason, then, that being kind to cheer someone up makes us feel good too. Yet, it is very common especially during Mental Health Awareness week, that you are encouraged to be especially kind or to reflect on the last time you gave or experienced kindness. Kindness strengthens relationships, develops community, deepens unity and “moral elevation” ... affectionately known as the lexicon contagious. It is the cornerstone of our individual and collective mental health. Today our guest is going to help us understand and explore this Hidden Superpower, and how kindness makes you win at work and connects you with anyone, Adrienne Bankert is an Emmy-award winning journalist, author and speaker.

It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that the coronavirus crisis is rife with stressors and challenges that would shake up even the healthiest of relationships. Maybe the pandemic is acting as a pressure cooker for relationship problems you already had or maybe it's serving as a playing field for new, unexpected discoveries. Hell, maybe the pandemic has even been good for your relationship and it's kind of throwing you for a loop. Today our guest is going to help us understand lessons we can apply from his hit TV show on WE TV's “Marriage Bootcamp” ... in order to enjoy healthy and happy relationships.

People use affirmations for a variety of purposes. Generally speaking, affirmations are used to reprogram/shift the paradigm of the subconscious mind, to encourage us to believe certain things about ourselves or about the world and our place within it. They are also used to help us envision and create the reality we want—often in terms of making (or attracting) wealth, love, beauty, and happiness. There is value in affirmations of this nature, because our subconscious mind plays a major role in the actualization of our lives and the manifestation of our desires. What we believe about ourselves at a subconscious level can have a significant influence and impact on the outcome of events. Today our guest is going to help us understand the power of affirmations and why we need to speak them over our life everyday.... she is a nationally acclaimed best-selling author, transformational speaker, and success coach Cheryl Polote-Williamson.

A wise sage named Ke$ha once infamously crooned that love itself can be a drug, capable of igniting addiction and a “sick obsession.” Scientists believe the same. In a recent review of studies on the neurochemical elements of love and addiction, University of Oxford researchers concluded that love can be diagnosed as an actual addiction. And one day, they wrote, it will be treated with science, just like every other substance humans crave when they get addicted like sugar, drugs or alcohol. Like the lyrics from one of Rihanna's popular songs “and I run for miles just to get a taste…must be love on the brain” So sit back, relax and open up your heart, soul and brain — as my guest today will help you unpack what exactly is the true essence of the meaning of love.

Everyone ... and I mean ... EVERYONE, has ignored red flags. You've ignored that gut feeling and silenced your inner voice telling you to end that friendship, don't marry that person, love that family member from a distance, move away, stay home, etc. And it's okay ... You're not weak or stupid... only human. While walking out your healing journey there will be trial and error; you won't get everything right. But you can learn from past mistakes and make better future decisions.

The love of your life. Your soulmate. Your ying to your yang. Your life partner. That special someone. Whether most admit it or not, many are seeking to find that perfect companion. We crave having someone by our side who will love us through our moments of imperfection and journey of life. We've seen enough romantic movies and fantasized about it in our minds so it must be possible, right? Today, we are being graced by one of the top experts! She is an internationally acclaimed matchmaker for high achieving men and the quality women they're searching for. She's also a renowned TV personality with decades of experience and a tireless enthusiasm for online dating and high-end matchmaking, Carmelia Ray. Carmelia is the “go-to” attraction expert when elite singles are ready to find, attract, and connect with Mr. or Ms. Right.

Sometimes it seems as if the world is full of selfish people who have no thought for others except how to use them for their own purposes. Their needs are more important than anyone else's, and they expect to be accommodated in all things. We all know people like this. We sense that something is wrong but can't quite put our finger on what it is. We are most affected in our intimate relationships with friendships, lovers and family that give life it's richness and meaning. By its very nature, this sickness isolates us from one another and from reality, and it stands between us and all that we can hope to have and be. Its name is narcissism. Relationship Expert, Stefanos Sifandos breaks down this personality type so that listeners are armed with information if currently in a relationship with a narcissistic personality.

In the world where movies, music and many forms of entertainment highlight toxic and sometimes glorify dysfunctional relationships. It is a breath of fresh air to witness such a powerful couple who demonstrate such togetherness, strong partnership grounded in faith and where a strong masculine husband, Chief of Orlando Police Department consistently credits his beautiful wife with the person and professional he is today. Police Chief Orlando Rolon and his beautiful wife Giorgina Pinedo-Rolón share their love story and how they built their marriage to withstand their high profile positions to inspire those in relationship, marriage or in their pursuit to find love.

A Couple's Guide To Conquering Betrayal