Podcasts about Disengage

Why do morally good people often hesitate to change other people's minds, viewing persuasion as presumptuous, obnoxious, or downright creepy? The University of Washington's professor of philosophy, Dr. Colin Marshall, joins host PJ Wehry to discuss how to successfully bridge deep divides in our highly polarized climate.Dr. Marshall explores the ethics and psychology of civil persuasion in his book, Just Hear Me Out: How to Change Minds Without Lies, Bullshit, or Moral Compromise. They examine how genuine persuasion isn't about manipulation or aggressive takedowns , but rather requires a delicate balance of respect, compassion, and the right environment.In this conversation they explore: Why the fallout of the 2016 US presidential election pushed Dr. Marshall from pure theoretical philosophy into finding practical tools for civil engagement. The crucial difference between manipulative persuasion—where people are treated as obstacles to maneuver—and civil persuasion that honors a person's complete humanity. How combining Immanuel Kant's emphasis on rational respect with Arthur Schopenhauer's focus on deep compassion creates a coherent framework for changing minds. Why attempting to persuade someone at the Thanksgiving table almost always fails, and the importance of establishing an "attention-friendly context" like grabbing a coffee or a beer. Incredible real-world examples of successful persuasion, including Daryl Davis persuading extremists to leave the KKK and Megan Phelps-Roper leaving the Westboro Baptist Church after patient, charitable interactions on Twitter. The concept of "moral myopia"—the deeply human tendency to become so hyper-focused on one moral issue or our own self-respect that we lose sight of the other person's bandwidth and feelings. The psychology of building trust, and why establishing warmth and shared humanity must always come before proving your intellectual competence. This is a conversation for anyone interested in philosophy, psychology, and healthy communication who wants to understand how to sincerely navigate our modern disagreements without sacrificing their own moral integrity.Make sure to check out Dr. Marshall's book: Just Hear Me Out: How to Change Minds without Lies, Bullshit, or Moral Compromise

Send us Fan MailWhy are so many students disengaged in school? Why are employees doing the bare minimum at work? Why do organizations struggle to build initiative, innovation, and genuine commitment?In this episode of Thinking 2 Think, Executive Director, leadership advisor, and former NYPD officer M.A. Aponte explores what he calls The Compliance Trap—the hidden system that rewards obedience, discourages intellectual risk-taking, and produces disengaged students, quiet quitting employees, and stagnant workplace cultures.Drawing from research on intrinsic motivation, employee engagement, psychological safety, organizational culture, and modern education systems, this episode examines how schools and workplaces often reward compliance instead of critical thinking, initiative, creativity, and ownership.You'll learn:✅ Why rewards can undermine intrinsic motivation✅ The unintended consequences of PBIS and behavior-based systems✅ The real causes behind quiet quitting and workplace disengagement✅ How compliance culture affects schools, businesses, and families✅ The connection between student behavior and employee behavior✅ Why psychological safety is essential for innovation and performance✅ How CEOs, managers, principals, teachers, and parents can build cultures that encourage thinking instead of obedience✅ Practical strategies for developing proactive students and engaged employeesWhether you're a parent, teacher, school administrator, CEO, entrepreneur, manager, or simply someone interested in leadership, psychology, education, and organizational culture, this episode will challenge how you think about motivation, performance, and human development.Think Clearly. Lead Boldly. Stay Logical.Support the showAbout the host: M.A. Aponte is a former JPMorgan banker, former Merrill Lynch wealth manager, former NYPD officer, Army Officer, and Executive Director of a Charter School in Florida. He is the author of The Logical Mind and host of Thinking 2 Think. Join My Substack for more content: maaponte.substack.comConsulting/Advisory Services: MAAponte.comProfessional LinkedIn Page: www.linkedin.com/in/maaponteFinancial Budget/Wealth Management app (FREE): https://centsora.com/CHECK OUT OUR NEW CRITICAL THINKING GAME APP! Currently in BETA: Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.base692af669b00f0dc8d8ad6653.appWeb: https://play.google.com/apps/testing/com.base692af669b00f0dc8d8ad6653.app*Coming soon to Apple Store

During Nurses Week, we celebrate strength. But here's the question I ask in almost every resilience training: Can you disengage without guilt? Not quit. Not collapse. Not abandon responsibility. Just disengage. In this episode of the Intentional Queen Podcast, I'm unpacking what happens when your identity becomes fused to usefulness — especially in nursing and high-achieving women. When rest feels irresponsible. When saying no feels selfish. When guilt disguises itself as maturity. Over-functioning gets rewarded in healthcare. Endurance gets praised. Self-neglect gets normalized. But resilience is not about pushing harder. It's about structured disengagement without shame. This is a conversation I bring into healthcare spaces often — because the strongest nurses are usually the least likely to be checked on. You'll learn: • Why guilt is often a nervous system signal — not a moral one • How over-functioning becomes normalized in nursing culture • The difference between selfishness and sustainability • Why regulated leadership requires boundaries • How choosing yourself without guilt protects your long-term capacity Celebrating nurses means more than appreciation. It means protecting capacity. It means recognizing that strength without recovery leads to erosion. It means honoring sustainability over silent sacrifice. Choosing yourself without guilt isn't rebellion. It's regulated leadership. Reflection Question If you removed guilt from the equation, what would you disengage from this week? Resources Mentioned I Choose Me: The Intentional Guide to Never Losing Yourself Again buyichoosemebook.com or Amazon.com Free resources and updates at intentionalqueenjourney.com If This Episode Resonated • Share it with a nurse who carries more than she says • Leave a review • Subscribe so you never miss an episode Because resilience isn't something you prove. It's something you structure. Also, Happy Mother's Day to my fellow moms!

Your team is not disengaged. They are responding. And there is a difference that changes everything about where you look.   Tami names the myth that keeps senior leaders investing in the wrong solutions — and reframes what is actually happening when the energy in the room goes flat, requests pile back up, and the people who started the year strong seem to have quietly shifted gears.   This is not a conversation about employee motivation. It is a conversation about signal. And once you understand the difference, you cannot unsee it.   What You'll Hear The experience most senior leaders are living but haven't been able to name What the Gallup State of the Global Workplace data actually reveals about why 80 percent of the workforce is not fully engaged A real story from client work — and the moment that proved this was never a disengagement problem Five things employees actually need, and why none of them are motivation What becomes possible when the signal changes   Leadership Pattern to Notice The leaders who feel this most are the ones who have already tried the team-side solutions. They ran the surveys. They brought in the speaker. They launched the culture initiative. And the energy still did not shift the way they expected. That is not failure. That is data. It means the starting point was off, not the effort.   Key Takeaways 80 percent of the global workforce is not engaged. That is not a motivation problem. That is a signal problem. Engagement measures connection, not motivation. Connection to the work, the team, and how they are being led. People do not stop caring. They stop investing energy in environments where what they need is not present. What looks like disengagement is actually withheld energy. There is a difference. When the signal changes, the team does not need a new initiative. They respond. Automatically.   Concepts Introduced Tami draws a distinction between disengagement and withheld energy — two things that look identical on the surface but point in completely different directions in terms of where a leader needs to look. She also introduces the idea of signal as a leadership variable: not what you say, not what you intend, but what your team is actually receiving and responding to. These are not frameworks. They are diagnostic lenses that shift how a leader reads the room.   Sit With This Where is the energy in your team telling you something you have not fully stopped to hear?   Resources Mentioned Gallup State of the Global Workplace Report   Links The Invisible Weight — Private Audio Series:  Aligned Leadership Audit:    Connect with Tami Imlay Tami Imlay is an Executive Leadership Strategist and Advisor and the founder of Daily Choosing Joy LLC. She works with senior leaders who are performing at the highest level and want to understand the system running underneath their leadership.   Website: tamimariecoaching.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamiimlay Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I'd love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader's Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you!

Send us your feedback — we're listeningJohn 14:27 — Jesus, Disengage Me From Every Burden and Re-centre My Heart in Your Peace Live from London, England São Paulo • Toronto • Bogotá • Manila • Seville evening peace • emotional release • stress after work • letting go of the day • calming prayer John 14:27 (NIV): “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” Psalm 46:10 (NIV): “Be still, and know that I am God.” Jesus, as the day settles into the evening, I come before You carrying everything that this day has held. The responsibilities, the pressures, the conversations, and the weight I have carried—I bring it all into Your presence. I release the weight I have carried through this day. I let go of what I cannot change. I lay down what I cannot control. I refuse to carry forward what You are asking me to surrender. Your peace is not shallow or temporary. It reaches deep into the heart and quiets what is unsettled within me. You call me to be still, to stop striving, and to rest in who You are. Jesus, disengage me from every burden. Re-centre my heart. Quiet my thoughts. Let every internal tension dissolve under Your peace. Replace pressure with stillness and heaviness with rest. Jesús, quita toda carga y lléname con Tu paz. Jesus, tira todo o peso e enche-me com a Tua paz. From São Paulo to Manila, from Toronto to Seville, across every city moving into the evening hours, You are present. You see the full weight of this day, and You invite me to release it fully. So I choose stillness. I choose peace. I rest in Your presence and let this day go completely. In Your name, Jesus, I receive Your peace tonight. Amen. evening prayer, peace prayer, John 14:27 prayer, Psalm 46:10 prayer, emotional healing prayer, stress relief prayer, Christian evening devotion, calming prayer, let go of stress prayer, Jesus peace prayer prayer for peace in the evening, how to release stress after work, Bible verses for emotional peace, Christian prayer for calming the mind, Jesus give me peace tonight, be still prayerSupport the showDaily Prayer with Reverend Ben Cooper now reaches 185 countries and 3,012 cities worldwide through the Global Blend Radio network.This is a listener-funded global ministry. If these daily prayers strengthen your faith or help you through difficult seasons, would you consider becoming a monthly prayer partner for just £3 per month?Your support enables us to continue recording, hosting, and broadcasting daily biblical encouragement across the nations — keeping this ministry free and accessible to everyone who needs it.You can support today at GlobalBlendRadio.comTogether, we can keep prayer moving across the world.To submit a prayer request or connect with our global prayer community, visit DailyPrayer.ukBuy me a Coffee 

Most leaders and caregivers are unknowingly operating in survival mode... risking burnout, compassion fatigue, and unintentional disconnection. So, what if the key to resilience isn't pushing harder, rather... creating space? In this eye-opening episode, internationally certified addiction counsellor Jeanne Foot reveals the overlooked secret to transforming stress into strength through nervous system regulation, simple daily practices, and clear, compassionate boundaries.You'll learn how to:

This episode explores the growing question many Black communities are asking: Is political engagement still serving us—or is it time to step back? We unpack frustration with broken promises, voter fatigue, and systemic barriers, while also examining the risks and consequences of disengagement. Through honest dialogue, historical context, and real community perspectives, this conversation challenges listeners to rethink power, participation, and what political engagement should truly look like moving forward.This is not about telling people what to do—it's about asking the hard questions and reclaiming agency.Support the show

In this powerful episode, Brook Olsen is joined by attorney and author Kerrie Droban Zhivago to unpack the terrifying yet often hidden reality of dealing with a partner who exhibits psychopathic traits. Drawing from her book Surviving a Psychopath, Kerrie shares hard-earned insights on how to recognize psychological abuse, protect yourself in court, and begin the long road to emotional recovery. They discuss the difference between narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths, how these individuals manipulate the legal system, and why disengagement—both emotionally and legally—is the key to reclaiming your life. If you've ever felt gaslit, emotionally trapped, or unsure how to co-parent with someone deeply harmful, this episode offers validation, strategy, and a way forward. Learn more about Kerrie Droban Zhivago at her website: https://kerriedroban.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook Olsen welcomes Dr. Donald Gordon, founder of the Center for Divorce Education and creator of Children in Between, to discuss how parents can reduce conflict and protect their kids during and after divorce. With decades of research and real-world experience, Dr. Gordon shares how even small shifts in communication, emotional regulation, and mindfulness can make a lasting impact on children's well-being. You'll learn how chronic conflict affects kids' brain development, how to model emotional stability, and why co-parents don't need to be perfect—just intentional. If you're navigating high-conflict parenting or want to break generational cycles of stress and disconnection, this episode is packed with tools and hope. Learn more about Dr. Donald Gordon at his website: https://divorce-education.com/classes/children-in-between-class/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

This episode covers topics from listener-submitted questions regarding menopause and raising teens. We hope you enjoyed the episode and make sure to follow for more! Biolae: https://www.biolae.com.au/ CultivaTeen Roots helps parents of tweens and teens navigate adolescence with confidence and connection. Through courses, resources, and community support, we give parents practical tools to understand their child's development, set healthy boundaries, and strengthen relationships during these transformative years. Check out our website for more information, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠cultivateenroots.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@cultivateenroots⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/cultivateenroots⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow YourTeen Mag online: Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://yourteenmag.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.facebook.com/YourTeen⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/yourteenmag⁠

In this episode, Brook Olsen sits down with attorney, mediator, and DivorceWave founder Tamara Rowles to explore divorce as a spiritual journey and an opportunity for self-reinvention. Together, they dive into how high-conflict separations—while painful—can also become a gateway to growth, self-awareness, and long-term peace. Tamara shares how mindfulness, nervous system regulation, and intentional disengagement can shift the entire divorce dynamic, protect your kids, and help you reclaim your power. Whether you're just entering the process or stuck in cycles of reactivity, this episode offers practical tools, insight, and a powerful reminder: healing starts from within. Learn more about AnnMarie Chereso at her website: https://www.divorcewave.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

Episode 197: Star Trek Picard Season 3 (Part 1 of 3).  Eric and I are joined by guest Mike Aguirre to discuss Picard Season 3 episodes 1-4 The Next Generation, Disengage, Seventeen Seconds, and No Win Scenario. We talk easter eggs, what worked for us, what didn't and some ins and outs of how Terry Matalas turned Picard into a love letter for TNG fans. Bob, Eric and Mike "Rating" so far - Thumbs Up. Find Mike on X: @mikeinredlands.

I'm back with another Q+A. You'll hear my thoughts on how to know if your boundaries with the ex have gone too far, feeling confident around the ex, disengaging without disconnecting, and navigating discipline, personality differences, and house rules with your stepkids.  Get The Disengaging Without Disconnecting Masterclass www.jamiescrimgeour.com/disengaging  Work With Me. www.jamiescrimgeour.com/coaching  Get My Ebook -  120 Ways To Be A KICK-ASS Stepmom www.jamiescrimgeour.com/ebook  Episode Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Go to www.cozyearth.com and use the code COZYJAMIE for 20% off of your order Metabolic Reset Program | Get $350 off with the code JAMIE350 at https://www.jentherhn.com

We all have questions we can't quite shake. Some come from curiosity, others from skepticism. In this message, we explore why doubt isn't something to hide but something to engage. In the book of Acts, we see how one group of people didn't just accept what they heard—they questioned it. Real faith isn't blind belief. It's tested, explored, and proven over time.Key takeaway:God is not afraid of your microscope. The closer you look, the more impressive he is.Try this:Don't bury your doubts—investigate them. Pick one question and go after it. Open Scripture, watch a teaching on RightNow Media, or try living out one principle that feels hard to believe. See what happens when you engage instead of avoid.

Hey assistant professors that are just starting out. I just wanna remind you to live with as much joy as you possibly can. It is very easy to focus on what you need to get to and be very strategic in terms of who you are going to work with, but the key thing to always focus on is joy. Make sure that you are smiling every day. Make sure you have some laughter every single day. Look for those moments that make you feel warm inside. This is what I call the Spidey sense — the warmness you feel once you start engaging and you start doing things in life.Take a step back from the things that make you feel uptight. Engage with the moments that give you the warm fuzzies. It is not about being impractical and it is not about living life with rose-colored glasses. It is about figuring out how to survive in a world that often pushes all of that joy away. The more you focus on feeling warm inside, being light on your feet, and living your life with joy, the better off you are going to be.You might be listening to this and saying that joy will not make you productive. You have already lost as soon as you start thinking about productivity. That is a dead-end journey. As soon as I say the word productivity, I get uptight in my belly. But if I focus on how I can feel warm, how I can live my life with joy, how I can be a more joyful researcher where every moment I am laughing and every moment I have a sense of lightness, I feel better.For me, joy comes from people who want to laugh, who smile, who shrug off the seriousness of life. It comes from going for walks, hearing the birds, talking to you, and getting to engage in these moments where I feel good. None of this has the word productivity in it. None of this is about accomplishing things. Push that language away.If you think this will not help you get tenure, you have already lost. Your life will be dominated by trying to get tenure, and by the time you get there you will ask why you were so focused on it. Live with joy. Live with an open heart. See people smiling. Laugh. It is OK to get a cup of coffee or grab a lunch. It is not about productivity.My life used to be dominated by the logic of productivity, and every time I heard about working all the time, I felt awful because I could never compare. So I disengaged with that and focused on what makes me excited and joyful. When I could not get things done, when I was grocery shopping or spending time with my kids, I disengaged from the pressure. The joy comes from these moments, and it will change who you are inside.It may not always work out for you, but at least you lived a life worth living. You will take more risks. You will engage more. People will want to be around you. There will be a fundamental shift in who you are. Ironically, by not focusing on productivity — by focusing on joy — you actually become more productive. The less you care, the better off you are.You might not listen to this now, but one day, 20 years from now, you will hear this again and say: now I get it. Learn how to engage in the warmth and the joy of the process of discovery. Disengage from everything that pushes you toward “getting things done.” In the end, what matters is that you lived a good, healthy, lovely life where you laughed, had fun, and every moment was a joy.If you have small kids, I know it is difficult. I live that life. But remember they are a blessing. They are not taking away from your work. They are adding to it. Live a life of inspiration for others. Do not live a life about productivity. Live a life where you want to be joyful at any given moment — where you laugh and you smile. Something changes when you do that.All right, take care and have a wonderful day.

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In this episode, Brook Olsen is joined once again by Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, to explore the lesser-known counterpart to narcissism: echoism. Through the lens of Greek mythology and modern psychology, they unpack how those who fear being “too much” often find themselves entangled in toxic dynamics with narcissistic partners. Dr. Malkin explains how echoism—marked by self-silencing, people-pleasing, and a fear of taking up space—is a survival response rooted in early family systems. Together, they discuss how cultivating healthy anger, reclaiming agency, and practicing mindful disengagement can break the cycle of negative intimacy and lead to lasting change. A must-listen for anyone navigating high-conflict relationships or healing from emotionally abusive dynamics. Learn more about Dr. Craig Malkin at his website: https://www.drcraigmalkin.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

We discuss why we should beware of the impulse to disengage when we feel lonely, purposeless, or overwhelmed by bad news. We also share listener responses about creative themed-retreat ideas, such as a heal-the-heartache getaway. Plus we discuss an interesting know-yourself-better question. Resources & links related to this episode: Listen to episode 110 here If you want to see how you’ll look on video, go to Zoom.us/test Shop the Muse Machine, Know Yourself Better Journal, and Don't Break the Chain Tracker here Get 50% Off Monarch Money, the all-in-one financial tool at www.monarchmoney.com/HAPPY Elizabeth is reading: Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: Ongoingness: The End of a Diary by Sarah Manguso (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ferengi expert Kregg Castillo, who is enjoying this season of Picard more than most, is back to help us figure out SNEEEEEEED, the first (speaking) Ferengi we've seen in live-action since that silly old Enterprise episode back in the day.  Does he pass muster?  Does WORF pass muster?  Can Picard EVER get its fill of literal heads rolling?  But we're also talking about a much stranger configuration of G-Unit than the one you know, really homing in on whether Jack Crusher is supposed to be annoying or not, reiterating that birds are evil, wondering what Star Trek episode is coming out when you're hearing this, and just having some fun.  Things are always better when there's a Ferengi around. 

Dr. Beth Mullen-Houser explores how Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help therapists recognize and repair ruptures caused by disconnection. This episode examines the ethical responsibility of staying present and attuned, even when our own internal systems get activated. Interview with Elizabeth Irias, LMFT. Earn CE credit for listening to this episode by joining our low-cost membership for unlimited podcast CE credits for an entire year, with some of the strongest CE approvals in the country (APA, NBCC, ASWB, and more). Learn, grow, and shine with Clearly Clinical Continuing Ed by visiting https://ClearlyClinical.com.

In this episode, Brook talks with conscious relationship coach Annmarie Chereso about how to break free from unconscious patterns that fuel conflict—especially in co-parenting. Annmarie shares her personal journey through divorce and how parts work and nervous system regulation helped her reclaim her power. They explore the role of self-awareness, compassion, and learning to respond from presence rather than fear. A powerful conversation for anyone looking to heal and build healthier relationships with their children—and themselves. Learn more about AnnMarie Chereso at her website: https://annmariechereso.me/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode we sat down with our local guys, City of Pines from our hometown of Camano Island and Stanwood, Washington! We had so much fun chatting with Nick, Tyler, Justin and Andrew about their plans for the year and their current mini tour, The Runaway Summer Series! We cannot wait to see these guys grow! So much talent! As always, a huge thank you to Nail Bite for providing the intro and outro song (Disengage) and to Levi for screaming our name!!Thank you all for listening!

In this episode of the High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast, Brook Olsen sits down with therapist and author Christian Van Norberg to explore the power of radical listening—a practice that goes beyond active listening to foster deep connection and emotional regulation. They discuss how presence, curiosity, and internal awareness can help you disengage from conflict, stay grounded, and support your children without getting pulled into drama. Whether you're navigating court stress or everyday parenting challenges, this conversation offers practical insight into staying calm and connected. Listen now and discover how radical listening can transform the way you relate to yourself, your co-parent, and your children. For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode we sat down with the Noise/Post Punk band from Seattle - Faith in Strangers! We absolutely loved meeting these talented guys from the PNW…we cannot brag enough about the talent in this state! Love it so much!!  Thank you guys, for joining us and letting us play “Strobe”…such a banger!!As always, a huge thank you to Nail Bite for providing the intro and outro song (Disengage) and to Levi for screaming our name!!Thank you all for listening!

In this episode, Brook sits down with family law attorney Kelli Avallone to unpack the tricky dynamics of covert narcissism in custody battles and high-conflict divorces. They explore why labeling a co-parent as a narcissist can backfire, how courts really view psychological evaluations, and why focusing on evidence-based behavior is more effective than diagnosis. Kelli shares what covert narcissistic traits can look like in family court and how parents can respond strategically while keeping children out of the conflict. Learn more about Kelli Avallone at her website: https://atty-avallone.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

Ep. 155 – Mathew HoodrackMathew “Hoodrack” is the frontman of War Hungry and Stick Together, bass man in Disengage, roadie veteran, and currently a family man.We talk about growing up in the woods, collecting Hot Wheels with his father, influences and formation of War Hungry, Posi Numbers Fest, and becoming a father.Hoodrack is a genuine and stand-up guy. I asked him during the interview:“how did having a close relationship with your father impact you?”His response was:“It's not hard to be a good guy if you have that example.”Featured Ad: Extinction Burst Label

In this episode, Brook sits down with divorce coach Kate Anthony to unpack the mindsets that truly help during divorce, especially in high-conflict co-parenting situations. They discuss why emotional reactions can backfire, how to shift from wanting “fairness” to focusing on what's legal and strategic, and the importance of boundaries and radical acceptance. With practical tips and compassionate advice, this episode is a valuable guide for anyone facing the challenges of separation. Learn more about Kate Anthony at her website: https://www.selfloverecovery.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

On the audio version of the latest ep of Chin Stroker VS Punter we look at Electric State, A Simple Plan, Star Trek Picard (3x02: "Disengage") Episode timings: 00:00 - Intro and YouTube copyright DISCUSSION 27:05 - The Electric State REVIEW 36:00 - A Simple Plan REVIEW 42:55 - Star Trek Picard: Season 2 Episode 2 - "Disengage" REVIEW   Subscribe (and review us) at Apple Podcasts Check out Mike's other show  The Rewatch Project Check out Mike's new video series covering 80's action TV shows Rolling Thunder Feedback appreciated at chinstrokervspunter@gmail.com and hang with us on facebook Video version of the podcast available on the Chin Stroker VS Punter YouTube Channel

On this week's episode on our show, Captain Ingle and I set a course for the end of the 24th century and the misadventures of the USS Titan-A. In this particular outing, Admiral Picard and Captain Riker attempt to rescue Beverly Crusher as a mysterious vessel called the Shrike emerges hunting for young Jack Crusher. Against his wishes, Captain Liam Shaw of the Titan gets drawn in to the conflict, and things quickly spiral out of control. Join us as we go boldly!

COMMON TROLLING TACTICS: Ad Hominem attacks, Whataboutism, Just Asking Questions, Devil's advocate, Sockpuppets, Astroturfers, Do Your Own Researchers, Strawman, Tribalism, Tone policing, Hate mongering, Concern trolling, Moving the Goalposts, Red herring, False dilemma, Circular reasoning, DARVO, Thought terminating cliches, Outrage baiting, Derailing, Dogpiling, Virtue Signaling. HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM: Name the tactic: ("This is a classic strawman.")Refocus on facts: ("Here is what we're actually discussing.")Set boundaries: ("If you keep [tactic], I'm done.")Disengage if needed: Don't feed the damn trolls.Samantha North on Internet Trolling Tactics https://samanthanorth.com/internet-trolling-tacticsSamantha North on Astroturfing: https://samanthanorth.com/astroturfing-on-social-mediaLogical Fallacy List: https://opexsociety.org/body-of-knowledge/effective-arguing-beware-of-logical-red-herrings/Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

COMMON TROLLING TACTICS: Ad Hominem attacks, Whataboutism, Just Asking Questions, Devil's advocate, Sockpuppets, Astroturfers, Do Your Own Researchers, Strawman, Tribalism, Tone policing, Hate mongering, Concern trolling, Moving the Goalposts, Red herring, False dilemma, Circular reasoning, DARVO, Thought terminating cliches, Outrage baiting, Derailing, Dogpiling, Virtue Signaling. HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM: Name the tactic: ("This is a classic strawman.")Refocus on facts: ("Here is what we're actually discussing.")Set boundaries: ("If you keep [tactic], I'm done.")Disengage if needed: Don't feed the damn trolls.Samantha North on Internet Trolling Tactics https://samanthanorth.com/internet-trolling-tacticsSamantha North on Astroturfing: https://samanthanorth.com/astroturfing-on-social-mediaLogical Fallacy List: https://opexsociety.org/body-of-knowledge/effective-arguing-beware-of-logical-red-herrings/Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As someone who gets flustered and frustrated during confrontations, I tend to use humor as my first line of defense, which can be a powerful tool to disarm without escalating. But when people double down, I get flustered, especially when dealing with bad-faith arguments or deeply entrenched beliefs. I am focused on learning when to escalate, confront, engage, or disengage, and it has completely changed my perspective on what makes a "successful conflict". Not every battle needs fighting. Ask: Is this person open to dialogue, or just looking to provoke? Will bystanders benefit from your response, even if the bigot won't? Is your energy better spent elsewhere? If they're just trolling, sometimes the best response is disengagement. Read the room and react accordingly. Further Reading: https://www.beyondintractability.org/essay/escalationDonate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Neuroscientist, medical doctor, and neuroscience and psychological advisor for To Be Magnetic, Dr. Tara Swart, joins “Almost 30” to discuss the scientific roots behind manifestation.Everyone loves to drop words like “dopamine,” “oxytocin,” “serotonin,” and “endorphins” when talking about career, relationships, and our everyday device-dependent lives. But who really gets to grips with the nitty-gritty details behind such big terminology or what Dr. Swart refers to as the DOSE hormones?Morning Microdose is a podcast curated by Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, the hosts and founders of Almost 30, a global community, brand, and top rated podcast.With curated clips from the Almost 30 podcast, Morning Mircodose will set the tone for your day, so you can feel inspired through thought provoking conversations…all in digestible episodes that are less than 10 minutes.Wake up with Krista and Lindsey, both literally and spiritually, Monday-Friday.If you enjoyed this conversation, listen to the full episode on Spotify here and on Apple here.

Interview with Matthew Hudak aka Hoodrack of War Hungry, Stick Together, and Disengage.Support the show

In this episode, Brook welcomes back Ross Rosenberg, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome and The Codependency Revolution, to dive deeper into the concept of Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD)—a groundbreaking reframing of codependency. Together, they unpack how early attachment trauma shapes relationship dynamics, leading many into repeated cycles of caretaking, emotional depletion, and entanglement with narcissistic partners. Brook and Ross explore the toxic push-pull that arises in high-conflict co-parenting and divorce, where unresolved SLDD patterns often collide with personality disorders. Through the lens of disengagement and strategic self-awareness, they offer insight on how to stop "wrestling with pigs" and begin creating clarity, calm, and lasting change. Learn more about Ross Rosenberg at his website: https://www.selfloverecovery.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook speaks with John Riley from Gentle Response about the impact of body language in high-conflict co-parenting. They explore the ACE method—Appearance, Communication, and Engagement—and how small adjustments in posture, tone, and presence can de-escalate tense situations, whether in court, mediation, or daily interactions. Brook and John also discuss the power of self-awareness and emotional regulation in reducing conflict. By staying composed and intentional, parents can shift dynamics, model healthy behavior for their children, and create a more stable environment. Tune in for practical strategies to navigate conflict with confidence. Learn more about John Riley at his website: https://gentle-response.com/   For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook Olsen welcomes conflict engagement specialist and bestselling author Dana Caspersen to discuss how conflict can be an opportunity for growth rather than a problem to avoid. Dana shares insights from her book Conflict Is an Opportunity and explores how our mindset and belief systems shape the way we handle difficult situations. They dive into the power of shifting attention, practical tools for breaking old conflict habits, and an exercise designed to help reframe conflict dynamics. Whether you're navigating co-parenting challenges or everyday disagreements, this episode offers valuable strategies to engage with curiosity and create positive change. Learn more about Dana Caspersen at his website: https://www.danacaspersen.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook welcomes Karen McEnany, The Good Divorce Coach, to discuss how setting the right foundation in divorce can significantly impact long-term outcomes. Divorce inherently carries conflict, but the way we navigate the early stages—our initial conditions—can determine whether the process will be calm, moderately contentious, or high-conflict. Brook and Karen explore how parents can approach divorce not as a battle, but as a transformation—one that prioritizes family over finances, mitigates unnecessary pain, and fosters healthier co-parenting relationships. They discuss the importance of intention, emotional regulation, and recognizing the difference between what truly matters and what is simply ego or control. If you're looking for a new framework to approach divorce—one that fosters cooperation, minimizes conflict, and protects your children's well-being—this episode is for you. Enjoy! Learn more about Karen McNenny at his  website http://www.karenmcnenny.com/   For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

Are you tired of daily arguments with your teen? Do you feel like no matter what approach you take—being firm or being gentle—nothing seems to work? In this episode of Power Your Parenting – Moms with Teens, Colleen O'Grady welcomes Dr. Paul Sunseri a seasoned family therapist and author of Gentle Parenting Reimagined: How to Make It Work with Oppositional and Defiant Kids. Together, they dive into the challenges of parenting strong-willed teens and explore why traditional parenting strategies often fall short with oppositional kids. Dr. Sunseri shares his journey of working with high-conflict families, uncovering what truly works when it comes to setting limits, reducing arguments, and fostering better communication. Paul Sunseri, Psy.D., is a clinical psychologist and father of four who treats children and adolescents with serious mental health conditions. He is the developer of Intensive Family-Focused Therapy (myIFFT.org), a highly effective form of family-based mental health care. One of the key insights from this conversation is the importance of clarity, consistency, and disengagement in parenting. Dr. Sinceri explains that parents often get trapped in unnecessary arguments because teens use red herrings—distractions and emotional outbursts—to steer the conversation away from responsibilities. He emphasizes that arguing with a teen is never productive and that parents should focus on setting clear expectations without engaging in power struggles. Instead of negotiating endlessly, parents should hold firm boundaries and use practical consequences, such as limiting screen time, until responsibilities are met. Disengagement is another crucial strategy—when a teen escalates, staying calm and walking away removes the emotional fuel that drives the conflict, ultimately leading to fewer power struggles. Three Key Takeaways: Stop engaging in arguments: The moment a conversation turns into a debate or escalates into yelling, step back. Arguments require two participants—when you refuse to engage, the conflict loses its power. Use structured consequences effectively: Screens and privileges should be earned, not given freely. By tying them to responsibilities like homework and chores, teens learn accountability without constant battles. Disengage from emotional explosions: Instead of reacting to tantrums or verbal outbursts, remain calm, state your boundary, and walk away. Over time, this teaches teens self-regulation and reduces dramatic confrontations. By shifting their approach, parents can create a more peaceful home environment, helping their teens develop responsibility while maintaining a loving connection. Follow at https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-sunseri-psy-d-54033b7/ Learn more about Dr. Sunseri and his services, Go to his website at https://www.myiift.org/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The episode where we talk  A LOT about IVF, blood clots and weird skin. Plus, hollywood drownings and comfy sweaters. It was...a wild one.  Follow #NotYourDemoPod! Website Patreon Instagram  Substack Discord

In this episode Brook and his guests Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry from the podcast Been There Got Out discuss the notion of High Conflict Detox. This is where a person/parent is stuck deeply in the habitual cycle of conflict and the nervous system maintains a high level of chronic activation. In order to break the cycle one must endure the discomfort of disengagement, develop a self awareness of the cycle in order to break free of the strong impulse to engage in and continue the conflict. This conflict pattern is very much physiological and can be mastered. Enjoy!!! Want to hear the full episode? Join our membership today and take advantage of our exclusive offer: your first month is completely free!  Coupon code: 30DAYSFREEACCESS You can contact Lisa through their website beentheregotout.com or follow them on instagram, Youtube and Facebook. Download our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails 

In this episode Brook has guest Rich Carr author of Surprised: The Science and Art of Engagement. Rich brings a bright and engaging look at how we as humans respond or react to an outside stimulus and in understanding the workings of the various part of the brain dictate how you will engage in or disengage with that stimulus. In high conflict or for that matter any relational interaction, getting to the solution with the least amount of conflict and the optimal exploration is the goal. Rich goes into how you can install intention and preprogram action to reduce the reactivity in your system and access the parts of the brain that problem solve. Enjoy!!! Rich Carr can be reached at through his website. https://braincentricdesign.com/ Want to hear the full episode? Join our membership today and take advantage of our exclusive offer: your first month is completely free!  Coupon code: 30DAYSFREEACCESS For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails 

In this episode Brook and his guests Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry from the podcast Been There Got Out discuss the notion of High Conflict Detox. This is where a person/parent is stuck deeply in the habitual cycle of conflict and the nervous system maintains a high level of chronic activation. In order to break the cycle one must endure the discomfort of disengagement, develop a self awareness of the cycle in order to break free of the strong impulse to engage in and continue the conflict. This conflict pattern is very much physiological and can be mastered. Enjoy!!! You can contact Lisa through their website beentheregotout.com or follow them on instagram, Youtube and Facebook. Download our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails And join our membership site at Disengage.highconflict.net   

In this episode Brook has guest Elaine Taylor-Klaus, Author and Co-Founder of Impact Parents. Brook and Elaine have a robust conversation about parenting a child that is  neurodivergent and the challenges that go with the behaviors with being ADHD or on the spectrum of Autism. Deep in the discussion the conversation move in the direction of generational repetition and as adults having similar diagnoses as a window into the stigma and judgment of the labels. This is a great conversation regardless of whether or not you are dealing with this issue. You may truly be surprised. Enjoy !!! Elaine can be contacted through her website at https://impactparents.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode Brook has esteemed guest, researcher, professor and author of the Polyvagal Theory, Dr. Steven Porges. Brook and Dr. Porges have a robust and educational conversation about how the vagus nerve influences the fear response, social connections and emotional regulations. It is important to understand the functional brain response in order to cognitively intervene for self regulation. This is an amazing conversation for anyone caught in high conflict or navigating life in general. Listen, Learn and Enjoy!!! Learn more about Dr. Porges at his  website https://www.polyvagalinstitute.org/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode Brook and his guest  Derrick Chevalier discuss in depth the interconnection between negotiation in divorce and custody and first understanding what is on the playing field and who the players are first, before setting sail in the process. Getting yourself settled and using your unique knowledge of the situation in order to knit together the solution and the proper delivery system ie: Attorney, Mediator and such. By doing so getting to the center of the issues, such as finances and custody can be a much easier path and resulting in better outcomes become more available and ultimately less costly both emotionally and financially. This is a great conversation. Enjoy!! Derrick can be contacted though his website at https://ddtpr.com/ Want to hear the full episode? Join our membership today and take advantage of our exclusive offer: your first month is completely free!  Coupon code: 30DAYSFREEACCESS For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails 

Anger isn't the enemy—it's how we respond to it that matters. In this episode, Ryan Michler dives deep into understanding and managing anger, exploring why it arises and how it can be transformed into a productive force. He shares six powerful strategies to help you regulate emotions, bridge the integrity gap, and align your actions with your values. Whether it's dealing with family, work, or personal challenges, learn how to turn anger into a tool for growth, leadership, and lasting impact. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: 00:00 - Episode Introduction 00:48 - The Nature of Anger 02:36 - Responding Positively to Anger 04:45 - Courage to Disengage 06:57 - Bridging the Integrity Gap 12:00 - Eliminating Agitators 16:44 - Lowering Expectations, Not Standards 19:49 - Focusing on Internal Locus of Control 25:15 - Keeping Your Eye on the Prize 35:12 - Conclusion and Upcoming Episode Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this solo episode, I'm diving into the journey of letting go and reclaiming your power during the divorce process, especially if you're healing from abuse. I know firsthand the mental conditioning and hypervigilance one endures during an abusive relationship, which is why it's so crucial to establish firm boundaries, even when fear tries to hold you back. I share a personal story of setting boundaries in the face of a controlling relationship and offer practical tips for stepping away from manipulative people, like muting their messages and using support tools such as Aimee Says. Remember, you deserve happiness, and I'm here to help you find it. Featured topics: How to reclaim your power and protect your peace Strategies to stay grounded and maintain boundaries Discover how self-worth fuels your healing journey A reminder that healing is not linear Resources & Links: Drop the Rope - 20 Phrases to Disengage from Conflict Free Download Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate  Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Aimee Says  =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-296-drop-the-rope-embracing-your-power-during-divorce/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this solo episode, I'm diving into the journey of letting go and reclaiming your power during the divorce process, especially if you're healing from abuse. I know firsthand the mental conditioning and hypervigilance one endures during an abusive relationship, which is why it's so crucial to establish firm boundaries, even when fear tries to hold you back. I share a personal story of setting boundaries in the face of a controlling relationship and offer practical tips for stepping away from manipulative people, like muting their messages and using support tools such as Aimee Says. Remember, you deserve happiness, and I'm here to help you find it. Featured topics: How to reclaim your power and protect your peace Strategies to stay grounded and maintain boundaries Discover how self-worth fuels your healing journey A reminder that healing is not linear Resources & Links: Drop the Rope - 20 Phrases to Disengage from Conflict Free Download Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate  Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Aimee Says  =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-296-drop-the-rope-embracing-your-power-during-divorce/

Are you in need of more self-care? Listen in as Gretchen talks about her self-care routines, tips, and tricks that might be able to help with just that. Quotables "Don't wait (to use self-care tactics) until you're facing burnout." "It's okay to take a break and fill your time with something unrelated to your role." "No matter how you decide to engage in self-care, it's an activity that disengages us from the stress of the job." Previous Work-Life Balance Series Episodes 324: Reality of Work-Life Balance 326: Supportive School Culture Join the Always A Lesson Newsletter Join here and grab a freebie! Connect with Gretchen Email: gretchen@alwaysalesson.com Blog: Always A Lesson Facebook: Always A Lesson Twitter: @gschultek Instagram: Always.A.Lesson Linkedin: Gretchen Schultek Bridgers Book: Elementary EDUC 101: What They Didn't Teach You in College Gretchen's latest book, Always a Lesson: Teacher Essentials for Classroom and Career Success, is now available on Amazon. Leave a Rating and Review: This helps my show remain active in order to continue to help other educators remain empowered in a career that has a long-lasting effect on our future. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/always-lessons-empowering/id1006433135?mt=2 Search for my show on iTunes or Stitcher. Click on ‘Ratings and Reviews.' Under ‘Customer Reviews,' click on “Write a Review.” Sign in with your iTunes or Stitcher log-in info Leave a Rating: Tap the greyed out stars (5 being the best) Leave a Review: Type in a Title and Description of your thoughts on my podcast Click ‘Send'